December 17, 2025 • 59 mins
We walk through the core skills that turn dating from chaos into character: hearing “no” without rewriting it as “maybe,” recognizing when persistence crosses into stalking, and separating workplace warmth from real-world interest. We talk cultural nuance, too—the weight of family expectations, visas, and study or work priorities—without using any of that as a shortcut past someone’s boundaries. Consent is simple. Respect is non-negotiable.
From there we get practical. How to make a respectful ask, once. How to rebuild after rejection with therapy, social skill reps, and a life that stands on its own. How to use dating apps as opt-in spaces and avoid fixating on anyone who hasn’t clearly chosen you back. And we share hard-earned lessons about growing up, apologizing for past mistakes, and choosing behaviors that keep everyone safe.
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Hopefully everybody's doing goodout there today.
Everybody doing all right.
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Oh, I hope everybody's having agood week, good weekend, good
day, or whatever.
I know I am.
Been a long, long, long week.
Work.
Jesus, work is like kind ofslowed down.
Not sure why that trap is inthere twice, but whatever, we'll
let it ride.
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Any event, I want to welcome youout to the show.
I am the icon.
The show is called Let's TalkAbout It.
Where I take where I have peoplesend me letters just for advice.
Sometimes advice is good,sometimes hey, you can love or
hate it.
Or accept it or don't.
Just do this shit for fun.
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But you know, I've been told Igive out good advice, so I just
try to keep doing what I do, youknow.
Um we got a letter from a uhfrom a gentleman who's uh
concerned about his girlfriend,or so he says, but whatever, it
is what it is.
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But before we get started, we'regonna have some changes coming.
I'm gonna be joined by a co-hosthopefully next week.
Um I think I found a co-host, orif anybody ever wants to co-host
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want to talk about, please feelfree to drop that line.
D6Mpire357 at gmail.com.
So it's a little bit late today.
I had a lot of running around todo, hence why I'm getting to
this now.
But if you're here tomorrow,I'll have a letter for you
tomorrow as well, too.
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So I went and bought somefurniture today, you know,
feeling pretty good about that.
I haven't bought furniture inyears.
That shit was heavy as hell.
Lord, I'm getting old, I'm notas young as I used to be, but
whatever.
That's what I got kids for.
So, in any event, withoutfurther ado, let's go ahead and
get into this letter from um hisname is uh Jimmy.
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He's 23 years old, he's fromMoses Lake, Washington.
So, it's kind of odd when I readthis letter.
Um, didn't know what to think ofit or how to approach it, but
I'm gonna try to approach thebest way I can.
So, hope you guys got your vape,your tea, or whatever.
Let's sit back and enjoy theride on this one.
Also, uh, you know what, I'llsay that to the end of the show.
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I don't want to give away tootoo much spoilers because I got
a lot of heat, well not a lot ofheat, but a lot of feedback,
good feedback on the last letterthat I did.
Um, which I believe was uh shoothell, I don't know without
looking at the title, but in anyevent, we'll get through that.
We'll get to that after we getthrough this letter.
But like I said, I'm going tohave a new co-host, she goes by
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Queen Gifts.
Um, you can follow her on thesocial medias.
I also drop those social mediasin my like in my description or
on my page as well.
Without further ado, let's getinto it, shall we?
Okay, so letter is entitled MyGirlfriend.
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Alright, here we go.
Icon, my guy, good day to you.
I hope you can help me with mygirl.
Okay, my name is Jimmy.
I'm 23 years old from MosesLake, Washington.
I work in a salvage yard.
I'm currently I currently livein the basement of my parents,
and I'm not trying to I'm tryingto get myself together as far as
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getting my own home.
Social circle is not that big,but I do okay.
I'm like you, I don't have manyfriends because I don't want
drama.
So here's my issue.
This girl that I'm currentlyseeing is having a hard time
falling in love with me.
Wait, what the hell?
Okay, this girl that I'mcurrently seeing is having a
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hard time falling in love withme because she said her father
wouldn't allow her to date mebecause I'm white and she's from
India.
Oh, got it.
Okay, now that makes sense now.
I forgot, you know, I read somany letters, so that's why I'm
like, what the hell?
So I was kind of baffled, soyeah, because I'm white, she's
Indian, she's here on a visa.
I don't know what type of visathat is, I don't know neither.
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But all I know is that she isthe wind beneath my wings, and
when we talk, my world is onfire with happiness.
She is definitely the my oneheart truly desires.
So I met her at a localStarbucks, and when she said hi
to me, I knew that she was onefor me.
Really?
You got all that out of hi?
Jesus.
Okay, whatever.
(10:27):
Uh you know, love, you knowlove, I guess.
Any event.
You see, since I've been goingto Starbucks, she's always been
she's always said hi to me.
And when she calls my name, Iknow she says it differently
than other people do.
Like, wait, when she does, I getso excited like a kid in a candy
store.
Okay, does she work atStarbucks?
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She's so beautiful.
I can't really see much of herface because she wears a hijab.
And that's okay as long as shelikes me and I and I like her.
I don't care what it is.
I've told my parents about her,my mom doesn't really say much
because she feels I'm not readyto date because of my last
breakup.
I have problems dating in thepast because I can't seem to
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keep a girlfriend longer thantwo weeks.
My parents think I need todevelop more maturely and focus
on myself because they said Ishould be in my own place, and
I'm like, really?
Make that make sense.
Okay, we're gonna make that makesense later on.
So the last girl I dated, Idecided I decided her and who I
was, and then I had issues, andI honestly don't know what
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issues they are.
I tell you about my lastrelationship, so I was dating a
girl at the same age as me, butI must admit I've told a lie or
two to get her, but I knew Iloved her and she loved me.
So when we met, I met her at acoffee shop called Dutch Bros.
You need coffee shops.
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I mean the conversation startedas good.
Always asked me how my day isand how she's going, and smiled
at me, and I knew that she wasthe one for me.
Okay, this is we're talkingabout a different girl here, so
I think we're talking about apast relationship, so let's not
get confused.
So I asked her out for coffee.
We went out, had a great time,even though I thought it was I
thought she was the one.
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I thought, wait, we had a greattime, even though it was at the
one that she works at.
But again, we chatted about theday and her work and how she
said that she worked two jobsfor school, and I said, Wow,
that's awesome.
So this went on for a week, andthough I had a good time, I was
told I couldn't return to astatus because her manager said
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it was some form of harassment.
So I got angry, went home,talked to my parents.
My mom said, as usual, she saidI was stalking this girl, and
then I needed to stay, and thenI needed to stay, or I could get
wait, that I was stalking thisgirl, and that I needed to stay
away, or I could get intotrouble.
Okay, I got it.
But I was pissed that she wouldsay something like that because
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this is my girlfriend, and Iloved her, and I knew that we
were gonna be togethereventually.
So I didn't listen to her.
I returned to the coffee shopwhere I was confronted again by
management, and I told her thatI was that there was for my
girlfriend, I called her byname.
Okay, hold on.
There for my girlfriend, Icalled her name or screamed the
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name in the parking lot where Ibroke down with anger, and I
caused a scene so bad the policewas called and I was told never
to return to the coffee shop orI would go to jail.
And they would charge me withtrespass, so I stopped and I
didn't see her again.
So back to the girl at Starbucksicon.
Okay, so let's gonna make thismake sense.
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So the the the second part thatI was explaining was that he was
talking about a pastrelationship that a girl that he
met at a coffee shop calledDutch Brothers.
Now we're going back toStarbucks, where he currently
met this other girl, who JesusChrist, this letter does not
sound anywhere near as the shitthat I would do, but whatever,
we'll get through it.
So back to my girl at Starbucksicon.
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I need your help in trying toget her to fall in love with me.
Or do you have any advice onwhat I should do to fall for her
to fall in love with me?
I feel that if I just continueto go there eventually, it will
happen, right?
Uh hell no.
Jesus.
What would you do if a girl saysyour name like the way she says
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mine?
What I mean, I know I wouldmostly definitely try to stand
out stand on business with herand try everything to be with
her, but I truly think thatshe's the one for me.
Oh, sign Jimmy.
Okay, so this letter was adifferent one for me.
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Um, I don't really deal withshit like this, Jimmy.
Um, I would say you definitelyhave some issues because you're
calling this girl yourgirlfriend, and this girl works
at a Starbucks where they haveto say your damn name for
because your damn coffee, latte,ice latte, whatever the hell is
ready.
I don't do coffee, I don't doice lattes, I don't even do
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Starbucks.
It's a racket, it's this it'sannoying.
Um, the fact that you keepcalling this girl your
girlfriend is ridiculous, and Idon't know if there was some
part down the line where youguys actually dated, which if
she's from India, I don't knowhow Indian relationships are,
um, because India relationshipsare different than traditional.
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Um, well, well, hold on.
I don't know if she's here on awork visa, which is what I'm
which I think is what it is,then clearly um her family is
traditionally I don't I don'tknow.
I didn't really do enoughresearch on this letter to
understand the Indian culture umand how they date and how they
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keep everything in the family,like some races overseas do.
When I say they keep everythingin the family, they keep every
damn single thing in the family.
So, Jimmy, um, of course I hadquestions for you, and the
questions that I had for him wasthat when you say that they're
your girlfriends, are theyphysically your girlfriends, or
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are you just saying that becauseyou talked to them?
He says, Well, I don't know,because I don't know how to talk
to women, so I assumed that itwas that way.
And I was like, How's that?
I don't know, I just thought ifI showed up enough times they
would like me.
I asked Jimmy, Did yourrelationship, did your last
relationship or whatever youcall the encounter, did it
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result in restraining order?
He said, Not yet, but it wasvery close.
I also asked Jimmy, so youreally haven't dated a woman
since when?
He said high school.
I said, Is this a joke?
He said, No, but seriously, Ineed your help.
I don't understand what the bigdeal is.
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I need help in trying to get awoman so I can leave my parents
out so I can be productive inlife.
Okay, so those are the questionsI asked Jimmy.
Um Troopy told Jimmy, I thinkyou have issues.
I think you have a form of Idon't even know what the hell to
call it.
You're clearly stalking thesefemales because clearly you
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think that they are your theyare your girlfriends, but
they're clearly they're not.
You don't you you you just talkthey say hi to you, they say
your damn name because they haveto call your damn name for
coffee.
I don't know how Dutch Brothersworks, but I know how Starbucks
works.
I only know that because my damnkids go there all the time.
And I do a pickup for DoorDashesone time, it was just horrible.
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But let's get back on subjectbecause it's not about me, it's
about Jimmy.
Jimmy, you clearly have issues.
I can in no form, shape, form,or fashion endorse Um something
like this because I'm not tryingto be an accessory uh to
anything that I would say on mydamn podcast because you told me
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or I told you something um inreference to because I told you
something in reference to myshow, so let's not get it
twisted.
No, hold on, my damn cat.
No, get down.
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Hang on, y'all, my cats here.
Here, say hi.
Look, see, say hi.
Oh, okay.
You guys gonna say something?
Yeah, alright.
Okay, my cat.
Get on, Bella.
Yeah, there you go.
Okay, so Jimmy, I I don't knowwhat I can tell you.
The only thing I can tell you todo is that I think your your
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mother's right.
I think you need to grow up.
I think you need to um mature alittle more because you what's
clear to me looks like youalmost had a restraining word
put on you from the girl thatyou I don't want to say stalked,
but I'm gonna say stalked.
You stalked a girl, and clearlyshe was not your girl.
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It doesn't matter how many timesyou go to a place.
If a female wants to engage withyou, she will interact with you.
It's okay for you to say hi,it's okay for you to maybe ask
her out, and if she says no, shesays no.
I get the feeling that you donot know how to take rejection
really well.
I really do.
I get the feeling that sincehigh school, I'm not sure what
kind of person you were in highschool.
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I don't know if you were famous,not famous, nerd, geek to cheek,
I don't know.
But clearly, Jimmy, you havesome serious issues that need to
be dealt with.
My friend, I would encourage youto get into counseling and get
into therapy because the wayyou're going and trying to force
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somebody to love you, I don'tknow how the hell you'll even do
that.
I mean, I would say something,but then I'm not gonna say it
because I don't want Uh the lawlooking at me like I encourage
this kind of behavior becauseclearly I don't encourage this
kind of behavior.
I think that it's kind of oddthat I got this letter, but then
again, I do tell you guys youguys can rhyme about anything.
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And I just pray to God that Idon't get a knock on the door
from the PD saying that you knowwent full rage mode or you
crashed out and you decided toput my name in this shit because
clearly I'm not in it.
I'm just a podcaster who's goingto give you advice on advice to
say, well, maybe you should getinto counseling, maybe you
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should listen to what yourparents says or what your mom
says and learn to understandthat just because you speak to
somebody doesn't mean they likeyou.
People speak to people on adaily basis, they say hi.
Hell, if I say hi to you, doesthat make me like you?
No, it doesn't.
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So, I don't know what I can dofor you, Mr.
Jimmy.
I think that you had I don'tknow where you got the the
notion from that talking to awoman, you assume that it
happens this way.
Clearly, you are 23 years oldand you clearly understand that
it does not happen this way.
You clearly understand that inlife, if you've had a girlfriend
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in high school, then in life,this is clearly not.
I'm trying to figure out how yougot the girl in high school, but
then again, that's not for me toknow.
I'm just trying to figure outhow to get you through this
ladder.
I think that if you're gettingto a point where you are trying
to take possession of a femalewho how do you know she didn't
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have an interest in you?
I mean, I'm really curious aboutthe girl at Starbucks.
You said that she's from India,she's here on a work visa.
Um you're white, and she saidI'm currently seeing hang on,
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let me read this girl that I'mcurrently seeing is having a
hard time falling in love withme.
Because she said her fatherwouldn't allow her to date me.
Okay, so clearly you've talkedto this girl.
Clearly, you've had some kind ofinteraction with her.
That's fine, that's all good.
Again, I don't know how Indianculture is when it comes to
dating.
Matter of fact, let's see if wecan look this up right quick.
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Okay.
Maybe this will give you someinsight.
So I don't know, I didn't reallysay much that I'm I'm trying to
find here.
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Okay, so apparently, yes, someIndian individuals date white
men.
So such relationships cansometimes involve into
navigating cultural differencesand family expectations.
But if she's traditional, theneverything kind of stays um in
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the family, sort of speak.
Um, and I have a feeling that ifher people, if her parent
doesn't want to want you to dateher, I don't know.
They she might just be here justI don't I don't even know.
You said she's here for a workvisa, right?
So, I mean, I'm not even surewhat kind of quality
relationship she would have withthis young lady, knowing that
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her family probably doesn't wantshe's if she's there for school,
she's clearly studying forsomething, something bigger,
something better, and she'sthere to make her life a little
bit better.
So I think dating is not even inher category right now.
While it may be okay to you knowengage her and say, Hey, how you
doing, and how's life going?
But I think that's probably whatit's only gonna get right from
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right there.
I don't think it's gonna beanything that's gonna transpire
into that because some of theseforeigners that come here and
work, they are content on onething only, and that is
increasing their knowledge, andthat is helping their family
succeed to a better life.
And I'm not saying that she'snot looking for anybody, but I
don't really think that she islooking for anybody.
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Listen, I work with a young ladyum who wears a hijab, I don't
see anything wrong with them.
Um, she's a very beautiful younglady, um, but not once do I
think that I'm gonna say, well,you know, I think she should be
with me, you know.
I I think she's cute, you know.
No, no, it is a strictlyprofessional relationship
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because you can't really forceyourself, you can't force
anybody to love you, you can'tforce anybody to like you.
The only thing you can do is beyourself.
Now, if your mom says you're tooimmature to date and you're 23
years old and you're stillliving in her d in the bottom of
her damn basement, yeah, I thinkit's time for you to make some
life choices and try to do somethings differently.
And what I mean by doing thingsdifferently, stay focused on
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you, you know, because in life,um when you're ready and when
it's gonna happen, it willhappen.
It's definitely going to happenfor you.
But you sitting, you kind oflike throwing yourself out there
and trying to say that this girlis yours when clearly she's not
yours, is just absolutelystalking behavior.
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I mean, let's be honest.
I can't endorse that and I won'tendorse that.
You need to understand, Mr.
Jimmy, that life has realconsequences.
Again, I would urge you, myfriend, to either seek some kind
of counseling, some kind oftherapy, some kind of something.
Because clearly I think you'rehaving issues.
I think it's only gonna get badbefore it gets worse.
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I'm not saying that you're a badperson, because I don't really
know you.
I only go by what I hear fromthese letters.
But if you're clearly seriousabout trying to meet somebody,
well, there's ways of doingthat.
There's ways of doing that.
Um, you have a job, you live inthe basement, and I get that
your social circle is not thatbig because my social circle is
not that big, and my socialcircle is not that big because I
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just don't do friends because Idon't like the drama.
And I'm not saying all thefriends that I have have drama,
but I just I'm kind of a loner.
I like to keep to myself, I liketo take care of my kids, like to
go to work, and I like to dothis podcast.
So I think that the way I livenow versus what I lived in the
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past is still somewhat similarbecause I don't keep a full
circle of friends.
I was not the popular person inhigh school.
That was all my sisters, everylast one of my sisters, they
were popular, me not popular, Iwas only popular because of
them, and I was the only boy atthe time.
Like I said, my little brotherdidn't get it until 93.
So by that time I was gettingready to graduate.
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I graduated in 97.
I was not a popular person, andI don't really care that I
wasn't a popular person.
I just it's not me.
So and I know some of you guysmight think and say, well, you
gotta have some friends.
That's true, you may have tohave some friends.
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And then I don't I reallyconsider the people that I work
with, I consider them friends,but I work with them.
Would I want to hang out withthem?
Not really.
I don't really I'm sorry, I'mI'm it's just the way that I am.
I mean, I don't know if some ofyou guys online in chat can
relate to this, but I just liketo be me.
You know, in this day and age,there's a lot that goes into
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dating.
There's a lot of there's a lotof like oh my gosh, there's so
much you gotta look for becauseyou have social medias back in
our day, dating was just sosimple.
You write a note, you tell agirl you liked her, will you go
out with me, yes or no?
And then that was it.
Now you got so many goddamn appsthat tell you what the hell to
do.
You got so many apps to tell youwho you can screw, who you're
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not gonna screw, does she likeyou, does she does she doesn't
like you?
I mean, what the hell?
I mean, what happened totraditionally just going to say,
Well, hey, you know, my name isso-and-so, you want to go out
sometime?
What happened to that?
We can't even do that shitanymore.
I don't even know why the hellwe can't do that.
We gotta do everything that'sbased on an app.
So I think it's harder for theup-and-coming generation to date
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versus what we did back in thepast, because back in the past,
again, we can approach a girl,tell her who we was, and then
and then just leave it at that.
She could say yes or no.
But now you have so muchbullshit, so many freaking apps
to tell you what to do.
And Jimmy, you didn't say if youwere getting on any of these
apps, which I I mean if you do,you do, you don't, you don't.
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I mean, they have so many appsout there that's just so
ridiculous.
That to me, I'm old school, I'vealways been old school.
Now, just because I'm old schooldoesn't mean I can't get with
the new school because I gotkids.
I got kids, especially I gotkids.
So I have kids, and even thoughI'm aware that they're dating,
and I see what they're goingthrough, and it's like really
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weird because a lot of the shitthat they do now, we wouldn't
know near put it with this shitback in the day, like real talk.
But the only thing I could offeryou, Jimmy, would be just some
advice, some advice to say,well, if you really want to get
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to know this girl, I would sayhave a sit-down conversation
with her, but you probably can'tdo that because you're seems
like you're on your way to arestraining order.
And let me tell you, my friend,getting a restraining order is
not fun.
No, I have not had one, Ihaven't, even though I should
have had one in the past becauseI did a girl really dirty, I did
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it really wrong.
I think when she broke up withme, I kind of caused well, not
too much drama, but I think Iwas too in love with her just to
let her go.
And that was my own fault, youknow, because I think once we
find somebody that who we reallylove and that who we invest our
time in, I think we weretogether for maybe maybe about
six months.
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And I know that you guys saythis in a long time, but for us,
well, for me it was a long damntime.
But I think after she broke upwith me, I kind of went to a
darker place and I started doinglike stupid shit.
You know, I would like go fuckwith her car or um put sugar in
her tank, or I would go to herjob and like stalker on her job,
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and and it was wrong of me.
And I have since apologizingthat young lady for that.
I mean, it's been when you'reyoung, you do a lot of stupid
shit, and I don't like doingstupid shit like that because
I'm trying to get my kids tounderstand that they need to be
respectful, no matter whathappens or the way it happens,
you should always be respectfulof each other's face.
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If you get if you if someonebreaks up with you, just walk
away.
Now I know that we put so muchtime and effort into these
relationships that we just don'tknow how to walk away because
we're worried about who thatother person is and we're
worried about how we're going tomake it.
But I got news for you (31:22):
you can make it, you can make it, and
you can do bigger and betterthings when you're by yourself
because that's the time toreflect, it's a time to heal,
it's a time to do some soulsearching.
And right now, Mr.
Jimmy, I think you need to do alot of soul searching, a lot of
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that, and I'm only saying thatbecause what you're leaning
towards is some kind of stalkishbehavior that's gonna eventually
get you landed in jail, it'sgonna get you in jail time, and
you don't understand whenstalking somebody that puts that
does something to a female, itdoes, you know, because females
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shouldn't have to go throughthat, they shouldn't have to be
stalked or try to make you fallto try to make them fall in love
with you.
If it's not there, it's notthere.
Let it go, let it go, doyourself a favor and get on to
the next one.
Oh, this cat is getting on mynerves.
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But no woman should be subjectedto any man's like selfish
behavior because you feel theneed that you should be with
this woman.
You can't make anybody love you,you can't make anybody fall in
love with you.
Loving people is hard work in arelationship, it's very hard
work.
So while I would challenge youto oh man, I still think you
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should kind of seek some kind ofcounseling, maybe some kind of
therapy.
Um, I don't know really whereyou go from here.
If you talk to your mom or yourparents, it sounds like they're
trying to guide you in the rightdirection.
Let them guide you in the rightdirection.
Don't be selfish and dosomething stupid.
Because guess who's gonnaultimately pay the price?
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You're gonna pay the price, butthe person's gonna pay the even
harder price is that female thatyou stalked.
Because why?
She's gonna have PTSD, she'sgonna have trauma from this.
Because that's what's scary,because women are I think women
are just the best thing ever inthis world.
And I just think the shit thatthey go through they shouldn't
have to go through becausesomebody decides that they feel
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the need that they should bewith them instead of just you
doing them the most rationalthing and trying to approach
this young lady.
Now, I hope and pray that thisdoesn't come back on me because
if it does, I don't really knowyou because there's no picture,
thank God.
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But I'm not gonna say it is, andI'm not gonna say it isn't.
I'm gonna say it isn't becauseI've never had this kind of
letter before.
But I think what you need tounderstand, Mr.
Jimmy, is that the chips fallwhere the chips fall, and if
this young lady is just notfeeling you, she's just not
feeling you.
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It's time for you to move on,it's time for you to.
I mean, you said you work, youwork.
I mean, I can't really man.
I would say to get on a datingsite, but you already know what
I'm gonna say, so I don't wantanybody thinking like, oh, he
always gotta go to the Filipinoshit.
No, I'm sorry.
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I love Filipino women.
I'm sorry, I love exotic women.
That's just my flavor, that's mytaste, that's my pleasure.
Real talk.
So, but I'm pretty sure there'sa lot of good women in the US.
There is a ton of women, goodwomen in the US.
The only hard thing is it's justfinding them because it's like
finding a needle in a haystack,so it's gonna take some time,
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and yes, it did take me sometime to find me a young Filipino
lady, so but that's that's justme.
In any event, I think that youshould maybe try to figure this
out with your parents.
I think you should continue totalk to them because it seems
like they're trying to supportyou the best way they possibly
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can.
And if they're saying you'reimmature, well, you still are
immature because you're freshout, you're only 23 years old,
you're fresh out, so you haven'teven probably been in a high
school for like maybe uh when doyou graduate?
I don't know when graduated.
Well, if you're fresh out, yougraduated high school, you're in
a work world, so you're stilltrying to navigate how this
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world is supposed to be or howthis world is gonna be for you.
Don't start this world off onthe wrong foot, start off on the
right foot.
Because if you start off on thewrong foot, then it's only gonna
get worse, it's only gonna godownhill from here.
If you like this Indian girl,well, how do you know that
there's not another Indian girlout there that you could
probably possibly try to date?
Maybe try to find an Indiandating site.
I don't know.
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I'm just saying split ballinghere.
I'm just saying, you guys.
I'm just saying that she can'tbe the only girl, and I and I
get it, you know.
I think that when a man meets ayoung female and he probably
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starts fantasizing about how shecould possibly be the one for
him, and she probably could be,she probably could be, but how
do you even know that it's gonnawork?
Because if you said that herfather said she's not gonna
date, I got news for you.
I don't think it's so much ofher father, it could be it could
be 50% of her father, and thenother 50% could be her because
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she's here studying.
If she's going to school, whichis what it sounds like, she has
a work visa, she's probablytrying to make a better life for
herself.
You didn't really tell you howold this girl was, and you
didn't really give me any namesor any specifics, but and she's
from India.
Hey, they're all geared around,they're all about coming here to
work and try to provide betterfor themselves and their family.
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There's nothing wrong with that,but they don't want to be
sidetracked by a relationship.
Uh, that's the thing about womenhere or in other cultures.
When they come here to do thejob, they come here to do a job,
they stay focused on doing ajob, they don't get sidetracked
by a relationship because, in arelationship, there's a lot of
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hard work, and they gotta worryabout you know, this, that,
family, boyfriend, and ifthere's gonna be a kid involved,
who knows?
But she seems like she's fairlyfocused on trying to get herself
together, which is what youshould be focused on.
It is okay to have a socialcircle, it is okay to maybe say,
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Hey, can we be friends?
Can we go off for coffeesometime?
Maybe we can talk, but leave itat that.
Don't force yourself on thisyoung lady because if you're
gonna force yourself on thisyoung lady, that's a good way on
how women will always oh lord,that's a good way of how women
will just always be you'll getpushed away by women, and then
what makes it bad for yourgeneration or the newer age of
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dating is that they can tag you,they can tag you and post.
I mean, freaking TikTok is thefreaking worst.
I mean, they can put you outthere like that.
You don't want to be known assomebody like that.
You want to be known as somebodythat is caring and compassionate
of women.
I respect women, I love women.
I mean, I love women so much, Ijust I enjoy what they do and I
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respect what they do becausethey have the most hardest job
in the world.
I mean, they they put up with alot of shit from any and
everybody, especially us males.
And yes, I have given plenty ofwomen back in my day plenty of
shit, and I have sinceapologized to most of those
women because I wasn't right inmy right frame of mind, but I
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didn't disrespect them.
I may have done some stalkingtype shit or some bullying type
shit, and when I say bullying,I'm talking about like, well, I
don't really want to saybullying because I don't really
bully anybody, but like, I guessyou know what I did, I've been
where you at.
Okay, I've done the shit thatyou've done, but the only by the
good grace of God is I didn'tget thrown in jail for because I
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had sisters that would go upsidemy damn head, even though I was
the oldest, that they would tellme, this ain't the way you're
gonna go, bro.
It's not.
And I listened to that.
You know, since being out ofhigh school, and trust me, I'm a
lot older than you, Jimmy, a lotolder.
Since being out of high school,I have evolved.
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You know, there was a girl thatI dated back in the day.
Um, I apologized to her, and shekind of apologized to me.
I'm not even sure how it evenwent down or what had happened.
I think it's because I wasdating uh my late wife and her
at the same time, and then sheapologized to me, and I
apologized to her.
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But we were young.
That's what happens.
You know, when you're younger,you're allowed to make mistakes
because you're going to learnfrom those mistakes and you're
going to evolve into a betterperson.
And when you evolve into abetter person, then you know
things, good things starthappening.
You know, better things starthappening.
But if you keep going down thisroad of trying to make somebody
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fall in love with you, well,that's never going to happen.
You're going to get blacklisted.
You're going to get tagged.
You're going to get you're goingto be put on social media.
And like I said, TikTok is thefreaking worst.
I love TikTok, but damn, if theydon't know how to ruin a life,
because you ruined your ownlife, because they will surely
put it out there for you.
I mean, you don't really wantthat.
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So the only advice I can offeryou would to just be smart about
this, would just be to listen toyour parents to continue to
evolve into the young man thatyou are going to be, that you're
going to aspire to be.
Don't take every interactionwith a female as an invitation
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of she's going to be mine or shewants to be with me.
I'm trying to figure out in mymind, since I've been doing this
whole podcast, how in the helldoes she say your name?
Did she say coffee for Jimmy?
Jimmy Coffee.
Or was she like, Jimmy, coffeeis ready.
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I'm just saying.
I mean, because usually whenyou're in Starbucks, they say
coffee for Jimmy, coffee forJimmy.
That's it.
That's all you get.
It's no really no special way.
I mean, I know the accentprobably threw you off and you
was like, oh my god.
Yeah, I like the way she saidthat.
Yeah.
Yeah, I could see myself withher.
But that's all it is.
It's an accent.
It's the way she talks.
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I mean, this is why I loveexotic women because they say my
name like, ooh, Lord, yes.
Yes.
At a moment.
But you gotta understand.
If she's saying, I don't thinkshe's saying your name to be
like sexual about it.
She's just saying coffee for Mr.
Jimmy.
I don't even know how any peopletalk, so I can't really do
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imitate their.
I'm not gonna even try.
But in any event.
I appreciate the letter, Jimmy.
I do.
But I can't in good consciencetell you how you should try to
get this girl to fall in lovewith you.
You want somebody to fall inlove with you, you need to
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continue to be yourself.
You need to be honest withyourself, you need to just put
it all out there.
When you go approach a woman,say hi, how you doing?
I'm Jimmy.
Would you like to go outsometime?
Now, that's the way I wouldapproach it.
I mean, y'all have apps foreverything to tell you how to
approach women, because I don'tknow.
I mean, I can say thank god I'molder, but since I had to start
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this whole cycle all over again,but then again, you know, over
there it's a lot different toapproach a woman than a woman
over here.
But there are still some reallygood women out here in the
states that still admire a manthat can approach her with the
utmost respect, confidence, andthe utmost just being yourself.
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You know, you don't have tochange who you are, you don't
have to, and if you go into aplace where you see the same
girl every day, well, hello,duh.
She works there.
You go to the same place forcoffee every damn day.
Hello.
I mean, I don't think she meansanything by that.
So stop taking it as aninvitation of that she likes me,
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she likes she wants to be withme because that's not the way it
is, it's clearly not the way itis.
So you got to understand, Jimmy,that when you talk to a female,
and let me tell you something,Jimmy.
I've been where you at in thatsituation because I used to
think that every girl I talkedto um like wanted me, and I
think my problem was that I hada lot of sisters, so most of my
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friends were females, and Ididn't really have a lot of male
friends because I can relate somuch to the female.
But with that being said, when Ihad these um when I had these
females that were friends, wewere just cool.
I mean, there's some that endedin relationships and some that
didn't end so well, not so goodrelationships, but at the end of
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the day, um, I did mywrongdoing.
Um like I said, I'm not totallyblameless in none of this
because I'm not putting all thison the women.
I would probably say it's moreof a uh more of a 60-40 split
with 60 being me because I hadsisters, and even though I
didn't have a good socialcircle, well, when you're the
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only male around and you knowyou have get-togethers or your
mother had a basketball girls'basketball team or drill team,
then hey, you tend to have funwith these females, and I'm not
talking about nothing sexual, solet's not get it twisted.
No, we didn't do none of that,you know, it's not that it
wasn't as far advanced back inthe day as it is today.
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So back then you can actuallyhang out with the female and
have a good time, versus nowy'all's idea is hanging out, is
getting to is going to the roomfive minutes and meeting each
other.
That ain't me.
No, hell no.
Hold on, I gotta get some of mytea that red diamond.
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That's good tea.
Yeah, it's good, yeah, it's goodright there.
But I've been where you at.
I've done the things somewhatsimilar, but maybe yeah, like I
said before, but continue to doyou, continue to stay focused on
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you, continue to make yourimprove yourself, be better for
yourself.
You never know.
You could meet somebody maybethe next day, tomorrow, today,
tomorrow, somewhere down theroad, and y'all can click
instantly.
And she can also be of Indiandescent.
I mean, I'm not sure if that'syour thing or not, but it
doesn't matter to me.
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Any woman that you meet that youmight come across, I think if
you're just yourself and youjust be yourself, then I think
you're gonna be good.
Now, you say you don't know howto talk to women, I didn't know
how to talk to women either.
My sister did all that shit forme, but as time went through, I
still don't know how to talk towomen.
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So all I know how to do is justbe respectful to them, talk to
them, and tell them that um ifyou there's something you want
to talk about, and nine timesout of ten, that's what I was.
I was a good listener, you know,because a lot of the women that
I came across had issues withtheir boyfriends or just had
issues in general.
Now I didn't take advantage ofthat because that's not who I am
as a person.
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Because when if you takeadvantage of the situation, then
ultimately that situation willdefinitely come back on you.
And I was not the one to say Iwould like to break up a happy
home, or if this girl was datingthis guy, I was trying to figure
out a way how I can get with herso she couldn't be with him.
Yes, I have done that before,but that never worked out good
for me.
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Never because it doesn't,because if you're scheming
trying to get with somebodywho's already emotional damaged
because of what she's goingthrough with her boyfriend,
well, how do you know it's gonnabe better for you?
It's not clearly it's not, it'sit's not.
God, I love vape, but only thingI can tell you is that be
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respectful.
If you go to the Starbucks andyou see this young lady again,
just say, hey, how you doing?
You ain't gotta give her thecold shoulder, you ain't gotta
sit there and say what I said.
If it's meant to be, it will be.
But as I'm telling you, as I'mthinking in my in my mind, I
think she's there to focus onher studies, her work, and her
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family.
Maybe in the reverse order,family, studies, then work, or
whatever order it is.
I think that's what she'sclearly there for.
Now, if her father says that shedoesn't think she's good enough
for you, well, I got daughters.
I don't think there's anybodywho's gonna be good enough for
my daughters, but that's justthe way I am because I'm a
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father.
But that's not gonna stop mefrom hearing the person out.
If this young lady, if she trulydesires your heart, or if you
want to try to win her heart, berespectful.
Be respectful.
Maybe if you want to ask herout, that's just dinner, lunch,
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maybe lunch.
I wouldn't say dinner.
Well, I'd probably go up tolunch.
Maybe you guys can talk and tryto figure things out.
Because clearly, I don't thinkshe's your girlfriend.
I think this is just somebodywho you are infatuated with, I
think this is somebody that youlike.
And if she says no, Jimmy, thenyou got to leave it at that.
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There's no getting there's nogetting even, there's no getting
back at her, there's no saying,well, what you're gonna do,
this, that, and the other,because it's not gonna be good.
It's not, it's really not, andyou don't want no stalking
charge in your damn backgroundbecause that makes it so much
harder for you.
I mean, that's the thing youyoung people gotta understand
today.
You young people in dating, itjust really makes me so sick.
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It really does.
And there are some couples,there are some young couples
that are good about dating, butfor the most part, this new
generation of dating, thesefreaking apps.
I mean, y'all have an app forevery single damn thing.
I'm gonna keep saying it again,every single damn thing.
Again, back in my day, we didn'thave this.
We passed a note.
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Sarah, do you like me?
Yes or no?
Yes.
Do you want to go out with me?
Yes.
That's that's that's all we did.
We weren't all about the flashor the drip or the or the crash
out or none of that.
We just been ourselves.
That's all you gotta do.
Now, if this advice is not goodfor you and you don't like my
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advice, dang, I'm just givingyou what I know.
So I am not one shape, or formor fashion a love doctor.
I'm not hitch.
So I can't tell you how you'regonna get this girl.
And if you want to spend thatkind of money on somebody to
tell you what you should do totry to get a girl, then hey,
that's your business, not mine.
I don't know if anybody doesthat today, but I think I'm on
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the same page as your parents.
I think that your parents wantthe best for you.
I surely want the best for youbecause I don't want you to end
up in a place that's gonna takeyou down a rabbit hole.
Because once you sprout to thatrabbit hole, it's just something
that you can't control.
And again, if this girl says no,then you move on to the next
one.
Or maybe just continue, like Isaid before, get yourself
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together.
So, Mr.
Jimmy, as we wrap this, we wrapthis podcast up.
I really hope this letter findsyou in a good way.
Um, if you want to update me onyour progress, feel free to
email me d6mpire357gmail.com.
Now, for my listeners, as I saidbefore, so the last letter I
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did, hold on here.
Let me see if I can get thispulled up.
Uh okay, so excuse me.
The last letter on the lastletter I did, the last podcast I
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did, which is called FamilyTree, more like a family traffic
jam, was about a young lady whowas dating her mom's ex.
And we have a follow-up letteron that, and that's gonna be
read um soon.
That's gonna be the nextepisode.
So now I got a lot of downloadsfrom that one.
I got a lot of a lot ofpositive, a lot of positive came
(52:14):
out of that podcast, and therewas maybe maybe 25% that was
negative, you know.
The 25% that was negative wasjust people's like saying, Well,
she can date whoever she wantsto date because clearly the
mother and the boyfriend's nottogether, and you had a lot of
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people, well, like I said, maybethat that small 25% that was on
this young lady's side sayingthat what she's doing is right.
Now, I beg to differ because Idon't see how anybody could date
your mom's ex, especially sincehe knows he's known you or you
knew of him, or she didn'treally know of him, but and then
he had a foul on her.
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So, that episode is coming up,and I want to say to my
listeners, I appreciate you guysum listening, I appreciate the
feedback.
Um, I love it all, and again, ifyou don't like what I have to
say, that's fine, it's not a bigdeal.
I'm not gonna go ham on you.
(53:17):
If you feel free, you want toemail me, say anything that's
that you that I disagree with.
I'm I'm good with that.
I'm so good with that.
As I said, I have a a co-hostcoming on, she goes by Queen,
and I'm gonna drop her links inmy description on my I'm gonna
(53:39):
drop the links in my descriptionso you guys be sure to follow
her.
But I hope to have her here nextweek as I read.
Um, well, I have another lettertoo, but this one we're gonna do
because this is gonna be muchmore anticipated than the other
one.
Because I think a lot of peoplethat have been emailing me about
this saying, oh my god, I can'tbelieve that this has happened
because there are some peoplethat are going through the same
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similar situation, you know.
I mean, is it disgusting?
I mean, could anybody you guysdo that?
Could you date your mom's ex?
And I guess I'm talking aboutthe females.
So the mother had a daughter,long story short.
The mother had a daughter, thedaughter went out and hired this
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PI.
The PI used to date the mother.
Now, she fell in love with thePI, she poured her heart out
with the PI, but things didn'tstop there because the PI had a
litter of kids.
You know, I don't want to saylitter, that doesn't sound
right.
Let's just say he had a lot ofkids, and he's got one on the
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way, and he has one on the way.
This episode, this podcast is sofreaking long that I think it's
um, as I went through the email,I think it came out to be about
six pages, so it's gonna takesome time to get to that.
So if you guys want to join metomorrow, and I'm going to read
that, and we're gonna go fromthere, and I welcome all the
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criticism.
I want it all because there wasa lot of there's a lot of people
that were kind of disturbedabout the letter, and then most
of the people, most of peoplewere on like my side, they're
saying, like, well, I don'tthink she should have done that,
I think that's disgusting.
I think she should have justcalled it off immediately
because you know, how could youdate somebody that was screwing
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your mother and now you'rescrewing, and now he's screwing
the daughter?
That's disgusting.
And she was young, so when themother was dating him, he
actually knew the daughter whenshe was in high school, and I
thought that was kind of sick.
I thought that was kind ofdisgusting because I don't see
how anybody could not thinkthat's disgusting.
I mean, what the hell?
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But apparently he's a ladies'man, he's a Casanova, so I'm so
tempted to read this lettertonight, but I'm not gonna do it
tonight.
I'm gonna do it tomorrow becauseit's just gonna be much
anticipated.
This download, I mean, I gotlike maybe 35 downloads off this
thing, and then I got like a lotof listeners, and a lot of
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people are saying, like, oh mygod, this is just really effing
disgusting.
And I don't know, maybe we don'thear enough about this stuff.
You know, we used to see thisstuff, I don't know if any of my
listeners can relate, you seethis stuff on Jerry Springer,
you know, but it's just crazy,you know, because I don't think
I could ever do that.
I mean, that's like my son and Idating, I'm dating a girl, and
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then I'm not dating no more, sohe's gonna date her.
I don't think I could do that.
I I really couldn't, I couldn't,because that's just kind of
disgusting to me.
That's like saying that maybethis person has like something
like they want to stay in yourlife, so they gotta go to your
child to do that, or I don'tknow, that's just sick to me.
That's just disgusting.
(57:02):
But as we get ready to closethis podcast out, I want to say
thank you to my listeners.
Thank you for the ones that'swriting the letters, and again,
you guys can feel free to followme on all my social media links.
I'm on Instagram, I'm onFacebook, I am on TikTok.
I'm still trying to work out thelive thing with TikTok because
(57:22):
I'm getting a lot of peoplesaying, Oh, you when you're
gonna go live on TikTok.
I don't know because I can'treally stream multi-platforms.
I mean I can, but I have to beon a subscription towards the
site, which I'm currentlylooking at, currently looking
at, but I try to do buzzcastsand twitch, but Twitch didn't
(57:44):
really work out so well.
So I'm trying to find a platformthat can stream everything on my
podcast if I just go to one siteand I can just stream it on all.
So, yes, I'm looking for thoseright now, but yes, I'm going to
try to find that, and I'mworking on that.
So, if you're a listener ofTikTok, I'm coming, okay?
(58:05):
I'm coming.
Just give me time.
Still trying to work this shitout.
In any event, I want to saythank you to my listeners.
Thank you for you guys that arejoined me here on Buzzcast
today.
And um, we're gonna get ready toclose the show out.
And I just want to say thatthank you again.
So, I am the icon.
The show is called Let's TalkAbout It.
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Until the next time, tomorrow,hopefully, y'all take care now.
Right now, just wanna let y'allfinish off this trap.
I'm a trap.
This track is called Hook ShotMy Paul Point.
Oh, it's all good.
Any event, y'all take care,y'all have a good one.
We'll do this all againtomorrow.
It's the name of the child.
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We don't get started here in a minute, y'all.
Let y'all groove with this one alittle bit.
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Y'all doing all right?
Everybody good out there onBuzzCast.
Yes, yes, yes.
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No, I gotta get my vape on.
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All right.
Hopefully everybody's doing goodout there today.
Everybody doing all right.
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Oh, I hope everybody's having agood week, good weekend, good
day, or whatever.
I know I am.
Been a long, long, long week.
Work.
Jesus, work is like kind ofslowed down.
Not sure why that trap is inthere twice, but whatever, we'll
let it ride.
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Any event, I want to welcome youout to the show.
I am the icon.
The show is called Let's TalkAbout It.
Where I take where I have peoplesend me letters just for advice.
Sometimes advice is good,sometimes hey, you can love or
hate it.
Or accept it or don't.
Just do this shit for fun.
(06:23):
But you know, I've been told Igive out good advice, so I just
try to keep doing what I do, youknow.
Um we got a letter from a uhfrom a gentleman who's uh
concerned about his girlfriend,or so he says, but whatever, it
is what it is.
(06:46):
But before we get started, we'regonna have some changes coming.
I'm gonna be joined by a co-hosthopefully next week.
Um I think I found a co-host, orif anybody ever wants to co-host
with me, feel free to drop aline.
My links are on all my socials,even on bus uh bus routes.
(07:07):
You guys can hit me up, and ifthere's any and everything you
want to talk about, please feelfree to drop that line.
D6Mpire357 at gmail.com.
So it's a little bit late today.
I had a lot of running around todo, hence why I'm getting to
this now.
But if you're here tomorrow,I'll have a letter for you
tomorrow as well, too.
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So I went and bought somefurniture today, you know,
feeling pretty good about that.
I haven't bought furniture inyears.
That shit was heavy as hell.
Lord, I'm getting old, I'm notas young as I used to be, but
whatever.
That's what I got kids for.
So, in any event, withoutfurther ado, let's go ahead and
get into this letter from um hisname is uh Jimmy.
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He's 23 years old, he's fromMoses Lake, Washington.
So, it's kind of odd when I readthis letter.
Um, didn't know what to think ofit or how to approach it, but
I'm gonna try to approach thebest way I can.
So, hope you guys got your vape,your tea, or whatever.
Let's sit back and enjoy theride on this one.
Also, uh, you know what, I'llsay that to the end of the show.
(08:16):
I don't want to give away tootoo much spoilers because I got
a lot of heat, well not a lot ofheat, but a lot of feedback,
good feedback on the last letterthat I did.
Um, which I believe was uh shoothell, I don't know without
looking at the title, but in anyevent, we'll get through that.
We'll get to that after we getthrough this letter.
But like I said, I'm going tohave a new co-host, she goes by
(08:38):
Queen Gifts.
Um, you can follow her on thesocial medias.
I also drop those social mediasin my like in my description or
on my page as well.
Without further ado, let's getinto it, shall we?
Okay, so letter is entitled MyGirlfriend.
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Alright, here we go.
Icon, my guy, good day to you.
I hope you can help me with mygirl.
Okay, my name is Jimmy.
I'm 23 years old from MosesLake, Washington.
I work in a salvage yard.
I'm currently I currently livein the basement of my parents,
and I'm not trying to I'm tryingto get myself together as far as
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getting my own home.
Social circle is not that big,but I do okay.
I'm like you, I don't have manyfriends because I don't want
drama.
So here's my issue.
This girl that I'm currentlyseeing is having a hard time
falling in love with me.
Wait, what the hell?
Okay, this girl that I'mcurrently seeing is having a
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hard time falling in love withme because she said her father
wouldn't allow her to date mebecause I'm white and she's from
India.
Oh, got it.
Okay, now that makes sense now.
I forgot, you know, I read somany letters, so that's why I'm
like, what the hell?
So I was kind of baffled, soyeah, because I'm white, she's
Indian, she's here on a visa.
I don't know what type of visathat is, I don't know neither.
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But all I know is that she isthe wind beneath my wings, and
when we talk, my world is onfire with happiness.
She is definitely the my oneheart truly desires.
So I met her at a localStarbucks, and when she said hi
to me, I knew that she was onefor me.
Really?
You got all that out of hi?
Jesus.
Okay, whatever.
(10:27):
Uh you know, love, you knowlove, I guess.
Any event.
You see, since I've been goingto Starbucks, she's always been
she's always said hi to me.
And when she calls my name, Iknow she says it differently
than other people do.
Like, wait, when she does, I getso excited like a kid in a candy
store.
Okay, does she work atStarbucks?
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She's so beautiful.
I can't really see much of herface because she wears a hijab.
And that's okay as long as shelikes me and I and I like her.
I don't care what it is.
I've told my parents about her,my mom doesn't really say much
because she feels I'm not readyto date because of my last
breakup.
I have problems dating in thepast because I can't seem to
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keep a girlfriend longer thantwo weeks.
My parents think I need todevelop more maturely and focus
on myself because they said Ishould be in my own place, and
I'm like, really?
Make that make sense.
Okay, we're gonna make that makesense later on.
So the last girl I dated, Idecided I decided her and who I
was, and then I had issues, andI honestly don't know what
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issues they are.
I tell you about my lastrelationship, so I was dating a
girl at the same age as me, butI must admit I've told a lie or
two to get her, but I knew Iloved her and she loved me.
So when we met, I met her at acoffee shop called Dutch Bros.
You need coffee shops.
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I mean the conversation startedas good.
Always asked me how my day isand how she's going, and smiled
at me, and I knew that she wasthe one for me.
Okay, this is we're talkingabout a different girl here, so
I think we're talking about apast relationship, so let's not
get confused.
So I asked her out for coffee.
We went out, had a great time,even though I thought it was I
thought she was the one.
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I thought, wait, we had a greattime, even though it was at the
one that she works at.
But again, we chatted about theday and her work and how she
said that she worked two jobsfor school, and I said, Wow,
that's awesome.
So this went on for a week, andthough I had a good time, I was
told I couldn't return to astatus because her manager said
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it was some form of harassment.
So I got angry, went home,talked to my parents.
My mom said, as usual, she saidI was stalking this girl, and
then I needed to stay, and thenI needed to stay, or I could get
wait, that I was stalking thisgirl, and that I needed to stay
away, or I could get intotrouble.
Okay, I got it.
But I was pissed that she wouldsay something like that because
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this is my girlfriend, and Iloved her, and I knew that we
were gonna be togethereventually.
So I didn't listen to her.
I returned to the coffee shopwhere I was confronted again by
management, and I told her thatI was that there was for my
girlfriend, I called her byname.
Okay, hold on.
There for my girlfriend, Icalled her name or screamed the
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name in the parking lot where Ibroke down with anger, and I
caused a scene so bad the policewas called and I was told never
to return to the coffee shop orI would go to jail.
And they would charge me withtrespass, so I stopped and I
didn't see her again.
So back to the girl at Starbucksicon.
Okay, so let's gonna make thismake sense.
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So the the the second part thatI was explaining was that he was
talking about a pastrelationship that a girl that he
met at a coffee shop calledDutch Brothers.
Now we're going back toStarbucks, where he currently
met this other girl, who JesusChrist, this letter does not
sound anywhere near as the shitthat I would do, but whatever,
we'll get through it.
So back to my girl at Starbucksicon.
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I need your help in trying toget her to fall in love with me.
Or do you have any advice onwhat I should do to fall for her
to fall in love with me?
I feel that if I just continueto go there eventually, it will
happen, right?
Uh hell no.
Jesus.
What would you do if a girl saysyour name like the way she says
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mine?
What I mean, I know I wouldmostly definitely try to stand
out stand on business with herand try everything to be with
her, but I truly think thatshe's the one for me.
Oh, sign Jimmy.
Okay, so this letter was adifferent one for me.
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Um, I don't really deal withshit like this, Jimmy.
Um, I would say you definitelyhave some issues because you're
calling this girl yourgirlfriend, and this girl works
at a Starbucks where they haveto say your damn name for
because your damn coffee, latte,ice latte, whatever the hell is
ready.
I don't do coffee, I don't doice lattes, I don't even do
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Starbucks.
It's a racket, it's this it'sannoying.
Um, the fact that you keepcalling this girl your
girlfriend is ridiculous, and Idon't know if there was some
part down the line where youguys actually dated, which if
she's from India, I don't knowhow Indian relationships are,
um, because India relationshipsare different than traditional.
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Um, well, well, hold on.
I don't know if she's here on awork visa, which is what I'm
which I think is what it is,then clearly um her family is
traditionally I don't I don'tknow.
I didn't really do enoughresearch on this letter to
understand the Indian culture umand how they date and how they
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keep everything in the family,like some races overseas do.
When I say they keep everythingin the family, they keep every
damn single thing in the family.
So, Jimmy, um, of course I hadquestions for you, and the
questions that I had for him wasthat when you say that they're
your girlfriends, are theyphysically your girlfriends, or
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are you just saying that becauseyou talked to them?
He says, Well, I don't know,because I don't know how to talk
to women, so I assumed that itwas that way.
And I was like, How's that?
I don't know, I just thought ifI showed up enough times they
would like me.
I asked Jimmy, Did yourrelationship, did your last
relationship or whatever youcall the encounter, did it
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result in restraining order?
He said, Not yet, but it wasvery close.
I also asked Jimmy, so youreally haven't dated a woman
since when?
He said high school.
I said, Is this a joke?
He said, No, but seriously, Ineed your help.
I don't understand what the bigdeal is.
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I need help in trying to get awoman so I can leave my parents
out so I can be productive inlife.
Okay, so those are the questionsI asked Jimmy.
Um Troopy told Jimmy, I thinkyou have issues.
I think you have a form of Idon't even know what the hell to
call it.
You're clearly stalking thesefemales because clearly you
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think that they are your theyare your girlfriends, but
they're clearly they're not.
You don't you you you just talkthey say hi to you, they say
your damn name because they haveto call your damn name for
coffee.
I don't know how Dutch Brothersworks, but I know how Starbucks
works.
I only know that because my damnkids go there all the time.
And I do a pickup for DoorDashesone time, it was just horrible.
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But let's get back on subjectbecause it's not about me, it's
about Jimmy.
Jimmy, you clearly have issues.
I can in no form, shape, form,or fashion endorse Um something
like this because I'm not tryingto be an accessory uh to
anything that I would say on mydamn podcast because you told me
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or I told you something um inreference to because I told you
something in reference to myshow, so let's not get it
twisted.
No, hold on, my damn cat.
No, get down.
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Hang on, y'all, my cats here.
Here, say hi.
Look, see, say hi.
Oh, okay.
You guys gonna say something?
Yeah, alright.
Okay, my cat.
Get on, Bella.
Yeah, there you go.
Okay, so Jimmy, I I don't knowwhat I can tell you.
The only thing I can tell you todo is that I think your your
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mother's right.
I think you need to grow up.
I think you need to um mature alittle more because you what's
clear to me looks like youalmost had a restraining word
put on you from the girl thatyou I don't want to say stalked,
but I'm gonna say stalked.
You stalked a girl, and clearlyshe was not your girl.
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It doesn't matter how many timesyou go to a place.
If a female wants to engage withyou, she will interact with you.
It's okay for you to say hi,it's okay for you to maybe ask
her out, and if she says no, shesays no.
I get the feeling that you donot know how to take rejection
really well.
I really do.
I get the feeling that sincehigh school, I'm not sure what
kind of person you were in highschool.
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I don't know if you were famous,not famous, nerd, geek to cheek,
I don't know.
But clearly, Jimmy, you havesome serious issues that need to
be dealt with.
My friend, I would encourage youto get into counseling and get
into therapy because the wayyou're going and trying to force
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somebody to love you, I don'tknow how the hell you'll even do
that.
I mean, I would say something,but then I'm not gonna say it
because I don't want Uh the lawlooking at me like I encourage
this kind of behavior becauseclearly I don't encourage this
kind of behavior.
I think that it's kind of oddthat I got this letter, but then
again, I do tell you guys youguys can rhyme about anything.
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And I just pray to God that Idon't get a knock on the door
from the PD saying that you knowwent full rage mode or you
crashed out and you decided toput my name in this shit because
clearly I'm not in it.
I'm just a podcaster who's goingto give you advice on advice to
say, well, maybe you should getinto counseling, maybe you
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should listen to what yourparents says or what your mom
says and learn to understandthat just because you speak to
somebody doesn't mean they likeyou.
People speak to people on adaily basis, they say hi.
Hell, if I say hi to you, doesthat make me like you?
No, it doesn't.
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So, I don't know what I can dofor you, Mr.
Jimmy.
I think that you had I don'tknow where you got the the
notion from that talking to awoman, you assume that it
happens this way.
Clearly, you are 23 years oldand you clearly understand that
it does not happen this way.
You clearly understand that inlife, if you've had a girlfriend
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in high school, then in life,this is clearly not.
I'm trying to figure out how yougot the girl in high school, but
then again, that's not for me toknow.
I'm just trying to figure outhow to get you through this
ladder.
I think that if you're gettingto a point where you are trying
to take possession of a femalewho how do you know she didn't
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have an interest in you?
I mean, I'm really curious aboutthe girl at Starbucks.
You said that she's from India,she's here on a work visa.
Um you're white, and she saidI'm currently seeing hang on,
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let me read this girl that I'mcurrently seeing is having a
hard time falling in love withme.
Because she said her fatherwouldn't allow her to date me.
Okay, so clearly you've talkedto this girl.
Clearly, you've had some kind ofinteraction with her.
That's fine, that's all good.
Again, I don't know how Indianculture is when it comes to
dating.
Matter of fact, let's see if wecan look this up right quick.
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Okay.
Maybe this will give you someinsight.
So I don't know, I didn't reallysay much that I'm I'm trying to
find here.
(22:58):
Okay, so apparently, yes, someIndian individuals date white
men.
So such relationships cansometimes involve into
navigating cultural differencesand family expectations.
But if she's traditional, theneverything kind of stays um in
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the family, sort of speak.
Um, and I have a feeling that ifher people, if her parent
doesn't want to want you to dateher, I don't know.
They she might just be here justI don't I don't even know.
You said she's here for a workvisa, right?
So, I mean, I'm not even surewhat kind of quality
relationship she would have withthis young lady, knowing that
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her family probably doesn't wantshe's if she's there for school,
she's clearly studying forsomething, something bigger,
something better, and she'sthere to make her life a little
bit better.
So I think dating is not even inher category right now.
While it may be okay to you knowengage her and say, Hey, how you
doing, and how's life going?
But I think that's probably whatit's only gonna get right from
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right there.
I don't think it's gonna beanything that's gonna transpire
into that because some of theseforeigners that come here and
work, they are content on onething only, and that is
increasing their knowledge, andthat is helping their family
succeed to a better life.
And I'm not saying that she'snot looking for anybody, but I
don't really think that she islooking for anybody.
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Listen, I work with a young ladyum who wears a hijab, I don't
see anything wrong with them.
Um, she's a very beautiful younglady, um, but not once do I
think that I'm gonna say, well,you know, I think she should be
with me, you know.
I I think she's cute, you know.
No, no, it is a strictlyprofessional relationship
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because you can't really forceyourself, you can't force
anybody to love you, you can'tforce anybody to like you.
The only thing you can do is beyourself.
Now, if your mom says you're tooimmature to date and you're 23
years old and you're stillliving in her d in the bottom of
her damn basement, yeah, I thinkit's time for you to make some
life choices and try to do somethings differently.
And what I mean by doing thingsdifferently, stay focused on
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you, you know, because in life,um when you're ready and when
it's gonna happen, it willhappen.
It's definitely going to happenfor you.
But you sitting, you kind oflike throwing yourself out there
and trying to say that this girlis yours when clearly she's not
yours, is just absolutelystalking behavior.
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I mean, let's be honest.
I can't endorse that and I won'tendorse that.
You need to understand, Mr.
Jimmy, that life has realconsequences.
Again, I would urge you, myfriend, to either seek some kind
of counseling, some kind oftherapy, some kind of something.
Because clearly I think you'rehaving issues.
I think it's only gonna get badbefore it gets worse.
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I'm not saying that you're a badperson, because I don't really
know you.
I only go by what I hear fromthese letters.
But if you're clearly seriousabout trying to meet somebody,
well, there's ways of doingthat.
There's ways of doing that.
Um, you have a job, you live inthe basement, and I get that
your social circle is not thatbig because my social circle is
not that big, and my socialcircle is not that big because I
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just don't do friends because Idon't like the drama.
And I'm not saying all thefriends that I have have drama,
but I just I'm kind of a loner.
I like to keep to myself, I liketo take care of my kids, like to
go to work, and I like to dothis podcast.
So I think that the way I livenow versus what I lived in the
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past is still somewhat similarbecause I don't keep a full
circle of friends.
I was not the popular person inhigh school.
That was all my sisters, everylast one of my sisters, they
were popular, me not popular, Iwas only popular because of
them, and I was the only boy atthe time.
Like I said, my little brotherdidn't get it until 93.
So by that time I was gettingready to graduate.
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I graduated in 97.
I was not a popular person, andI don't really care that I
wasn't a popular person.
I just it's not me.
So and I know some of you guysmight think and say, well, you
gotta have some friends.
That's true, you may have tohave some friends.
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And then I don't I reallyconsider the people that I work
with, I consider them friends,but I work with them.
Would I want to hang out withthem?
Not really.
I don't really I'm sorry, I'mI'm it's just the way that I am.
I mean, I don't know if some ofyou guys online in chat can
relate to this, but I just liketo be me.
You know, in this day and age,there's a lot that goes into
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dating.
There's a lot of there's a lotof like oh my gosh, there's so
much you gotta look for becauseyou have social medias back in
our day, dating was just sosimple.
You write a note, you tell agirl you liked her, will you go
out with me, yes or no?
And then that was it.
Now you got so many goddamn appsthat tell you what the hell to
do.
You got so many apps to tell youwho you can screw, who you're
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not gonna screw, does she likeyou, does she does she doesn't
like you?
I mean, what the hell?
I mean, what happened totraditionally just going to say,
Well, hey, you know, my name isso-and-so, you want to go out
sometime?
What happened to that?
We can't even do that shitanymore.
I don't even know why the hellwe can't do that.
We gotta do everything that'sbased on an app.
So I think it's harder for theup-and-coming generation to date
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versus what we did back in thepast, because back in the past,
again, we can approach a girl,tell her who we was, and then
and then just leave it at that.
She could say yes or no.
But now you have so muchbullshit, so many freaking apps
to tell you what to do.
And Jimmy, you didn't say if youwere getting on any of these
apps, which I I mean if you do,you do, you don't, you don't.
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I mean, they have so many appsout there that's just so
ridiculous.
That to me, I'm old school, I'vealways been old school.
Now, just because I'm old schooldoesn't mean I can't get with
the new school because I gotkids.
I got kids, especially I gotkids.
So I have kids, and even thoughI'm aware that they're dating,
and I see what they're goingthrough, and it's like really
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weird because a lot of the shitthat they do now, we wouldn't
know near put it with this shitback in the day, like real talk.
But the only thing I could offeryou, Jimmy, would be just some
advice, some advice to say,well, if you really want to get
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to know this girl, I would sayhave a sit-down conversation
with her, but you probably can'tdo that because you're seems
like you're on your way to arestraining order.
And let me tell you, my friend,getting a restraining order is
not fun.
No, I have not had one, Ihaven't, even though I should
have had one in the past becauseI did a girl really dirty, I did
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it really wrong.
I think when she broke up withme, I kind of caused well, not
too much drama, but I think Iwas too in love with her just to
let her go.
And that was my own fault, youknow, because I think once we
find somebody that who we reallylove and that who we invest our
time in, I think we weretogether for maybe maybe about
six months.
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And I know that you guys saythis in a long time, but for us,
well, for me it was a long damntime.
But I think after she broke upwith me, I kind of went to a
darker place and I started doinglike stupid shit.
You know, I would like go fuckwith her car or um put sugar in
her tank, or I would go to herjob and like stalker on her job,
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and and it was wrong of me.
And I have since apologizingthat young lady for that.
I mean, it's been when you'reyoung, you do a lot of stupid
shit, and I don't like doingstupid shit like that because
I'm trying to get my kids tounderstand that they need to be
respectful, no matter whathappens or the way it happens,
you should always be respectfulof each other's face.
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If you get if you if someonebreaks up with you, just walk
away.
Now I know that we put so muchtime and effort into these
relationships that we just don'tknow how to walk away because
we're worried about who thatother person is and we're
worried about how we're going tomake it.
But I got news for you (31:22):
you can make it, you can make it, and
you can do bigger and betterthings when you're by yourself
because that's the time toreflect, it's a time to heal,
it's a time to do some soulsearching.
And right now, Mr.
Jimmy, I think you need to do alot of soul searching, a lot of
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that, and I'm only saying thatbecause what you're leaning
towards is some kind of stalkishbehavior that's gonna eventually
get you landed in jail, it'sgonna get you in jail time, and
you don't understand whenstalking somebody that puts that
does something to a female, itdoes, you know, because females
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shouldn't have to go throughthat, they shouldn't have to be
stalked or try to make you fallto try to make them fall in love
with you.
If it's not there, it's notthere.
Let it go, let it go, doyourself a favor and get on to
the next one.
Oh, this cat is getting on mynerves.
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But no woman should be subjectedto any man's like selfish
behavior because you feel theneed that you should be with
this woman.
You can't make anybody love you,you can't make anybody fall in
love with you.
Loving people is hard work in arelationship, it's very hard
work.
So while I would challenge youto oh man, I still think you
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should kind of seek some kind ofcounseling, maybe some kind of
therapy.
Um, I don't know really whereyou go from here.
If you talk to your mom or yourparents, it sounds like they're
trying to guide you in the rightdirection.
Let them guide you in the rightdirection.
Don't be selfish and dosomething stupid.
Because guess who's gonnaultimately pay the price?
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You're gonna pay the price, butthe person's gonna pay the even
harder price is that female thatyou stalked.
Because why?
She's gonna have PTSD, she'sgonna have trauma from this.
Because that's what's scary,because women are I think women
are just the best thing ever inthis world.
And I just think the shit thatthey go through they shouldn't
have to go through becausesomebody decides that they feel
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the need that they should bewith them instead of just you
doing them the most rationalthing and trying to approach
this young lady.
Now, I hope and pray that thisdoesn't come back on me because
if it does, I don't really knowyou because there's no picture,
thank God.
(33:54):
But I'm not gonna say it is, andI'm not gonna say it isn't.
I'm gonna say it isn't becauseI've never had this kind of
letter before.
But I think what you need tounderstand, Mr.
Jimmy, is that the chips fallwhere the chips fall, and if
this young lady is just notfeeling you, she's just not
feeling you.
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It's time for you to move on,it's time for you to.
I mean, you said you work, youwork.
I mean, I can't really man.
I would say to get on a datingsite, but you already know what
I'm gonna say, so I don't wantanybody thinking like, oh, he
always gotta go to the Filipinoshit.
No, I'm sorry.
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I love Filipino women.
I'm sorry, I love exotic women.
That's just my flavor, that's mytaste, that's my pleasure.
Real talk.
So, but I'm pretty sure there'sa lot of good women in the US.
There is a ton of women, goodwomen in the US.
The only hard thing is it's justfinding them because it's like
finding a needle in a haystack,so it's gonna take some time,
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and yes, it did take me sometime to find me a young Filipino
lady, so but that's that's justme.
In any event, I think that youshould maybe try to figure this
out with your parents.
I think you should continue totalk to them because it seems
like they're trying to supportyou the best way they possibly
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can.
And if they're saying you'reimmature, well, you still are
immature because you're freshout, you're only 23 years old,
you're fresh out, so you haven'teven probably been in a high
school for like maybe uh when doyou graduate?
I don't know when graduated.
Well, if you're fresh out, yougraduated high school, you're in
a work world, so you're stilltrying to navigate how this
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world is supposed to be or howthis world is gonna be for you.
Don't start this world off onthe wrong foot, start off on the
right foot.
Because if you start off on thewrong foot, then it's only gonna
get worse, it's only gonna godownhill from here.
If you like this Indian girl,well, how do you know that
there's not another Indian girlout there that you could
probably possibly try to date?
Maybe try to find an Indiandating site.
I don't know.
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I'm just saying split ballinghere.
I'm just saying, you guys.
I'm just saying that she can'tbe the only girl, and I and I
get it, you know.
I think that when a man meets ayoung female and he probably
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starts fantasizing about how shecould possibly be the one for
him, and she probably could be,she probably could be, but how
do you even know that it's gonnawork?
Because if you said that herfather said she's not gonna
date, I got news for you.
I don't think it's so much ofher father, it could be it could
be 50% of her father, and thenother 50% could be her because
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she's here studying.
If she's going to school, whichis what it sounds like, she has
a work visa, she's probablytrying to make a better life for
herself.
You didn't really tell you howold this girl was, and you
didn't really give me any namesor any specifics, but and she's
from India.
Hey, they're all geared around,they're all about coming here to
work and try to provide betterfor themselves and their family.
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There's nothing wrong with that,but they don't want to be
sidetracked by a relationship.
Uh, that's the thing about womenhere or in other cultures.
When they come here to do thejob, they come here to do a job,
they stay focused on doing ajob, they don't get sidetracked
by a relationship because, in arelationship, there's a lot of
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hard work, and they gotta worryabout you know, this, that,
family, boyfriend, and ifthere's gonna be a kid involved,
who knows?
But she seems like she's fairlyfocused on trying to get herself
together, which is what youshould be focused on.
It is okay to have a socialcircle, it is okay to maybe say,
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Hey, can we be friends?
Can we go off for coffeesometime?
Maybe we can talk, but leave itat that.
Don't force yourself on thisyoung lady because if you're
gonna force yourself on thisyoung lady, that's a good way on
how women will always oh lord,that's a good way of how women
will just always be you'll getpushed away by women, and then
what makes it bad for yourgeneration or the newer age of
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dating is that they can tag you,they can tag you and post.
I mean, freaking TikTok is thefreaking worst.
I mean, they can put you outthere like that.
You don't want to be known assomebody like that.
You want to be known as somebodythat is caring and compassionate
of women.
I respect women, I love women.
I mean, I love women so much, Ijust I enjoy what they do and I
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respect what they do becausethey have the most hardest job
in the world.
I mean, they they put up with alot of shit from any and
everybody, especially us males.
And yes, I have given plenty ofwomen back in my day plenty of
shit, and I have sinceapologized to most of those
women because I wasn't right inmy right frame of mind, but I
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didn't disrespect them.
I may have done some stalkingtype shit or some bullying type
shit, and when I say bullying,I'm talking about like, well, I
don't really want to saybullying because I don't really
bully anybody, but like, I guessyou know what I did, I've been
where you at.
Okay, I've done the shit thatyou've done, but the only by the
good grace of God is I didn'tget thrown in jail for because I
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had sisters that would go upsidemy damn head, even though I was
the oldest, that they would tellme, this ain't the way you're
gonna go, bro.
It's not.
And I listened to that.
You know, since being out ofhigh school, and trust me, I'm a
lot older than you, Jimmy, a lotolder.
Since being out of high school,I have evolved.
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You know, there was a girl thatI dated back in the day.
Um, I apologized to her, and shekind of apologized to me.
I'm not even sure how it evenwent down or what had happened.
I think it's because I wasdating uh my late wife and her
at the same time, and then sheapologized to me, and I
apologized to her.
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But we were young.
That's what happens.
You know, when you're younger,you're allowed to make mistakes
because you're going to learnfrom those mistakes and you're
going to evolve into a betterperson.
And when you evolve into abetter person, then you know
things, good things starthappening.
You know, better things starthappening.
But if you keep going down thisroad of trying to make somebody
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fall in love with you, well,that's never going to happen.
You're going to get blacklisted.
You're going to get tagged.
You're going to get you're goingto be put on social media.
And like I said, TikTok is thefreaking worst.
I love TikTok, but damn, if theydon't know how to ruin a life,
because you ruined your ownlife, because they will surely
put it out there for you.
I mean, you don't really wantthat.
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So the only advice I can offeryou would to just be smart about
this, would just be to listen toyour parents to continue to
evolve into the young man thatyou are going to be, that you're
going to aspire to be.
Don't take every interactionwith a female as an invitation
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of she's going to be mine or shewants to be with me.
I'm trying to figure out in mymind, since I've been doing this
whole podcast, how in the helldoes she say your name?
Did she say coffee for Jimmy?
Jimmy Coffee.
Or was she like, Jimmy, coffeeis ready.
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I'm just saying.
I mean, because usually whenyou're in Starbucks, they say
coffee for Jimmy, coffee forJimmy.
That's it.
That's all you get.
It's no really no special way.
I mean, I know the accentprobably threw you off and you
was like, oh my god.
Yeah, I like the way she saidthat.
Yeah.
Yeah, I could see myself withher.
But that's all it is.
It's an accent.
It's the way she talks.
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I mean, this is why I loveexotic women because they say my
name like, ooh, Lord, yes.
Yes.
At a moment.
But you gotta understand.
If she's saying, I don't thinkshe's saying your name to be
like sexual about it.
She's just saying coffee for Mr.
Jimmy.
I don't even know how any peopletalk, so I can't really do
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imitate their.
I'm not gonna even try.
But in any event.
I appreciate the letter, Jimmy.
I do.
But I can't in good consciencetell you how you should try to
get this girl to fall in lovewith you.
You want somebody to fall inlove with you, you need to
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continue to be yourself.
You need to be honest withyourself, you need to just put
it all out there.
When you go approach a woman,say hi, how you doing?
I'm Jimmy.
Would you like to go outsometime?
Now, that's the way I wouldapproach it.
I mean, y'all have apps foreverything to tell you how to
approach women, because I don'tknow.
I mean, I can say thank god I'molder, but since I had to start
(42:57):
this whole cycle all over again,but then again, you know, over
there it's a lot different toapproach a woman than a woman
over here.
But there are still some reallygood women out here in the
states that still admire a manthat can approach her with the
utmost respect, confidence, andthe utmost just being yourself.
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You know, you don't have tochange who you are, you don't
have to, and if you go into aplace where you see the same
girl every day, well, hello,duh.
She works there.
You go to the same place forcoffee every damn day.
Hello.
I mean, I don't think she meansanything by that.
So stop taking it as aninvitation of that she likes me,
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she likes she wants to be withme because that's not the way it
is, it's clearly not the way itis.
So you got to understand, Jimmy,that when you talk to a female,
and let me tell you something,Jimmy.
I've been where you at in thatsituation because I used to
think that every girl I talkedto um like wanted me, and I
think my problem was that I hada lot of sisters, so most of my
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friends were females, and Ididn't really have a lot of male
friends because I can relate somuch to the female.
But with that being said, when Ihad these um when I had these
females that were friends, wewere just cool.
I mean, there's some that endedin relationships and some that
didn't end so well, not so goodrelationships, but at the end of
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the day, um, I did mywrongdoing.
Um like I said, I'm not totallyblameless in none of this
because I'm not putting all thison the women.
I would probably say it's moreof a uh more of a 60-40 split
with 60 being me because I hadsisters, and even though I
didn't have a good socialcircle, well, when you're the
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only male around and you knowyou have get-togethers or your
mother had a basketball girls'basketball team or drill team,
then hey, you tend to have funwith these females, and I'm not
talking about nothing sexual, solet's not get it twisted.
No, we didn't do none of that,you know, it's not that it
wasn't as far advanced back inthe day as it is today.
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So back then you can actuallyhang out with the female and
have a good time, versus nowy'all's idea is hanging out, is
getting to is going to the roomfive minutes and meeting each
other.
That ain't me.
No, hell no.
Hold on, I gotta get some of mytea that red diamond.
(45:34):
That's good tea.
Yeah, it's good, yeah, it's goodright there.
But I've been where you at.
I've done the things somewhatsimilar, but maybe yeah, like I
said before, but continue to doyou, continue to stay focused on
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you, continue to make yourimprove yourself, be better for
yourself.
You never know.
You could meet somebody maybethe next day, tomorrow, today,
tomorrow, somewhere down theroad, and y'all can click
instantly.
And she can also be of Indiandescent.
I mean, I'm not sure if that'syour thing or not, but it
doesn't matter to me.
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Any woman that you meet that youmight come across, I think if
you're just yourself and youjust be yourself, then I think
you're gonna be good.
Now, you say you don't know howto talk to women, I didn't know
how to talk to women either.
My sister did all that shit forme, but as time went through, I
still don't know how to talk towomen.
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So all I know how to do is justbe respectful to them, talk to
them, and tell them that um ifyou there's something you want
to talk about, and nine timesout of ten, that's what I was.
I was a good listener, you know,because a lot of the women that
I came across had issues withtheir boyfriends or just had
issues in general.
Now I didn't take advantage ofthat because that's not who I am
as a person.
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Because when if you takeadvantage of the situation, then
ultimately that situation willdefinitely come back on you.
And I was not the one to say Iwould like to break up a happy
home, or if this girl was datingthis guy, I was trying to figure
out a way how I can get with herso she couldn't be with him.
Yes, I have done that before,but that never worked out good
for me.
(47:17):
Never because it doesn't,because if you're scheming
trying to get with somebodywho's already emotional damaged
because of what she's goingthrough with her boyfriend,
well, how do you know it's gonnabe better for you?
It's not clearly it's not, it'sit's not.
God, I love vape, but only thingI can tell you is that be
(47:46):
respectful.
If you go to the Starbucks andyou see this young lady again,
just say, hey, how you doing?
You ain't gotta give her thecold shoulder, you ain't gotta
sit there and say what I said.
If it's meant to be, it will be.
But as I'm telling you, as I'mthinking in my in my mind, I
think she's there to focus onher studies, her work, and her
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family.
Maybe in the reverse order,family, studies, then work, or
whatever order it is.
I think that's what she'sclearly there for.
Now, if her father says that shedoesn't think she's good enough
for you, well, I got daughters.
I don't think there's anybodywho's gonna be good enough for
my daughters, but that's justthe way I am because I'm a
(48:30):
father.
But that's not gonna stop mefrom hearing the person out.
If this young lady, if she trulydesires your heart, or if you
want to try to win her heart, berespectful.
Be respectful.
Maybe if you want to ask herout, that's just dinner, lunch,
(48:51):
maybe lunch.
I wouldn't say dinner.
Well, I'd probably go up tolunch.
Maybe you guys can talk and tryto figure things out.
Because clearly, I don't thinkshe's your girlfriend.
I think this is just somebodywho you are infatuated with, I
think this is somebody that youlike.
And if she says no, Jimmy, thenyou got to leave it at that.
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There's no getting there's nogetting even, there's no getting
back at her, there's no saying,well, what you're gonna do,
this, that, and the other,because it's not gonna be good.
It's not, it's really not, andyou don't want no stalking
charge in your damn backgroundbecause that makes it so much
harder for you.
I mean, that's the thing youyoung people gotta understand
today.
You young people in dating, itjust really makes me so sick.
(49:35):
It really does.
And there are some couples,there are some young couples
that are good about dating, butfor the most part, this new
generation of dating, thesefreaking apps.
I mean, y'all have an app forevery single damn thing.
I'm gonna keep saying it again,every single damn thing.
Again, back in my day, we didn'thave this.
We passed a note.
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Sarah, do you like me?
Yes or no?
Yes.
Do you want to go out with me?
Yes.
That's that's that's all we did.
We weren't all about the flashor the drip or the or the crash
out or none of that.
We just been ourselves.
That's all you gotta do.
Now, if this advice is not goodfor you and you don't like my
(50:17):
advice, dang, I'm just givingyou what I know.
So I am not one shape, or formor fashion a love doctor.
I'm not hitch.
So I can't tell you how you'regonna get this girl.
And if you want to spend thatkind of money on somebody to
tell you what you should do totry to get a girl, then hey,
that's your business, not mine.
I don't know if anybody doesthat today, but I think I'm on
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the same page as your parents.
I think that your parents wantthe best for you.
I surely want the best for youbecause I don't want you to end
up in a place that's gonna takeyou down a rabbit hole.
Because once you sprout to thatrabbit hole, it's just something
that you can't control.
And again, if this girl says no,then you move on to the next
one.
Or maybe just continue, like Isaid before, get yourself
(51:02):
together.
So, Mr.
Jimmy, as we wrap this, we wrapthis podcast up.
I really hope this letter findsyou in a good way.
Um, if you want to update me onyour progress, feel free to
email me d6mpire357gmail.com.
Now, for my listeners, as I saidbefore, so the last letter I
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did, hold on here.
Let me see if I can get thispulled up.
Uh okay, so excuse me.
The last letter on the lastletter I did, the last podcast I
(51:50):
did, which is called FamilyTree, more like a family traffic
jam, was about a young lady whowas dating her mom's ex.
And we have a follow-up letteron that, and that's gonna be
read um soon.
That's gonna be the nextepisode.
So now I got a lot of downloadsfrom that one.
I got a lot of a lot ofpositive, a lot of positive came
(52:14):
out of that podcast, and therewas maybe maybe 25% that was
negative, you know.
The 25% that was negative wasjust people's like saying, Well,
she can date whoever she wantsto date because clearly the
mother and the boyfriend's nottogether, and you had a lot of
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people, well, like I said, maybethat that small 25% that was on
this young lady's side sayingthat what she's doing is right.
Now, I beg to differ because Idon't see how anybody could date
your mom's ex, especially sincehe knows he's known you or you
knew of him, or she didn'treally know of him, but and then
he had a foul on her.
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So, that episode is coming up,and I want to say to my
listeners, I appreciate you guysum listening, I appreciate the
feedback.
Um, I love it all, and again, ifyou don't like what I have to
say, that's fine, it's not a bigdeal.
I'm not gonna go ham on you.
(53:17):
If you feel free, you want toemail me, say anything that's
that you that I disagree with.
I'm I'm good with that.
I'm so good with that.
As I said, I have a a co-hostcoming on, she goes by Queen,
and I'm gonna drop her links inmy description on my I'm gonna
(53:39):
drop the links in my descriptionso you guys be sure to follow
her.
But I hope to have her here nextweek as I read.
Um, well, I have another lettertoo, but this one we're gonna do
because this is gonna be muchmore anticipated than the other
one.
Because I think a lot of peoplethat have been emailing me about
this saying, oh my god, I can'tbelieve that this has happened
because there are some peoplethat are going through the same
(54:01):
similar situation, you know.
I mean, is it disgusting?
I mean, could anybody you guysdo that?
Could you date your mom's ex?
And I guess I'm talking aboutthe females.
So the mother had a daughter,long story short.
The mother had a daughter, thedaughter went out and hired this
(54:24):
PI.
The PI used to date the mother.
Now, she fell in love with thePI, she poured her heart out
with the PI, but things didn'tstop there because the PI had a
litter of kids.
You know, I don't want to saylitter, that doesn't sound
right.
Let's just say he had a lot ofkids, and he's got one on the
(54:47):
way, and he has one on the way.
This episode, this podcast is sofreaking long that I think it's
um, as I went through the email,I think it came out to be about
six pages, so it's gonna takesome time to get to that.
So if you guys want to join metomorrow, and I'm going to read
that, and we're gonna go fromthere, and I welcome all the
(55:08):
criticism.
I want it all because there wasa lot of there's a lot of people
that were kind of disturbedabout the letter, and then most
of the people, most of peoplewere on like my side, they're
saying, like, well, I don'tthink she should have done that,
I think that's disgusting.
I think she should have justcalled it off immediately
because you know, how could youdate somebody that was screwing
(55:31):
your mother and now you'rescrewing, and now he's screwing
the daughter?
That's disgusting.
And she was young, so when themother was dating him, he
actually knew the daughter whenshe was in high school, and I
thought that was kind of sick.
I thought that was kind ofdisgusting because I don't see
how anybody could not thinkthat's disgusting.
I mean, what the hell?
(55:52):
But apparently he's a ladies'man, he's a Casanova, so I'm so
tempted to read this lettertonight, but I'm not gonna do it
tonight.
I'm gonna do it tomorrow becauseit's just gonna be much
anticipated.
This download, I mean, I gotlike maybe 35 downloads off this
thing, and then I got like a lotof listeners, and a lot of
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people are saying, like, oh mygod, this is just really effing
disgusting.
And I don't know, maybe we don'thear enough about this stuff.
You know, we used to see thisstuff, I don't know if any of my
listeners can relate, you seethis stuff on Jerry Springer,
you know, but it's just crazy,you know, because I don't think
I could ever do that.
I mean, that's like my son and Idating, I'm dating a girl, and
(56:39):
then I'm not dating no more, sohe's gonna date her.
I don't think I could do that.
I I really couldn't, I couldn't,because that's just kind of
disgusting to me.
That's like saying that maybethis person has like something
like they want to stay in yourlife, so they gotta go to your
child to do that, or I don'tknow, that's just sick to me.
That's just disgusting.
(57:02):
But as we get ready to closethis podcast out, I want to say
thank you to my listeners.
Thank you for the ones that'swriting the letters, and again,
you guys can feel free to followme on all my social media links.
I'm on Instagram, I'm onFacebook, I am on TikTok.
I'm still trying to work out thelive thing with TikTok because
(57:22):
I'm getting a lot of peoplesaying, Oh, you when you're
gonna go live on TikTok.
I don't know because I can'treally stream multi-platforms.
I mean I can, but I have to beon a subscription towards the
site, which I'm currentlylooking at, currently looking
at, but I try to do buzzcastsand twitch, but Twitch didn't
(57:44):
really work out so well.
So I'm trying to find a platformthat can stream everything on my
podcast if I just go to one siteand I can just stream it on all.
So, yes, I'm looking for thoseright now, but yes, I'm going to
try to find that, and I'mworking on that.
So, if you're a listener ofTikTok, I'm coming, okay?
(58:05):
I'm coming.
Just give me time.
Still trying to work this shitout.
In any event, I want to saythank you to my listeners.
Thank you for you guys that arejoined me here on Buzzcast
today.
And um, we're gonna get ready toclose the show out.
And I just want to say thatthank you again.
So, I am the icon.
The show is called Let's TalkAbout It.
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Until the next time, tomorrow,hopefully, y'all take care now.
Right now, just wanna let y'allfinish off this trap.
I'm a trap.
This track is called Hook ShotMy Paul Point.
Oh, it's all good.
Any event, y'all take care,y'all have a good one.
We'll do this all againtomorrow.
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