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Does your pet in spirit miss you as much as you miss them? In this episode, we talk about what your pet wants you to know. 

In this must-listen episode, you will learn:

  • The real reason why pet grief is so devastating
  • Where that "missing you" feeling really comes from 
  • What your pet wants you to know about what they remember and how they feel about you and your life together
  • A scientific study that verifies our continued connection across time and space
  • How to help your nervous system through the pet grief process
  • Tips you can use starting right now to keep your bond with your pet in spirit alive after physical death
  • And so much more

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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Welcome back to let's Talk to Animals, the podcast
all species can enjoy together.
My name is Shannon Cutts.
I am an animal sensitive andintuitive, a Reiki master
practitioner and an animalcommunication teacher with
animallovelanguagescom and forour purposes here today, I am
also your friendly neighborhoodhostess and guide through the

(00:25):
wild, wise and wonderful worldof interspecies communication.
Call me crazy, but I trulybelieve that animal
communication has the power tosave, heal and restore our
planet for all species to enjoyand share.
When we learn to communicatewith one another, we begin to
realize we are so much morealike than different.

(00:46):
We care about each other.
We become friends.
On this podcast we talk aboutwhat the animals have to say and
share and why our pets trulyare our partners, empathic
friends and teachers.
I am so glad you have joined ushere for this fresh new episode
of let's Talk to Animals, solet's dive in.

(01:08):
Hi Shannon here.
Welcome back to let's Talk toAnimals, and in this episode I
am going to be unpacking whathas become one of the most
frequently asked questions thatyou want to ask your pet after
they've transitioned out oftheir body and into what we

(01:31):
might call the spirit space orthe etheric realm or the light
realm, however you like to thinkabout it, or relate to what
happens when we leave ourphysical body to return to our
light body or our soul body.
And in this episode which I'mcalling, does your pet in spirit

(01:54):
miss you as much as you missthem?
What the animals have told meabout how they feel about you
we're going to be taking a lookat, where does that I miss you
so much feeling actuallyoriginate from?
Where does it come from?
Why is it so persistent?

(02:15):
And does your pet in spiritfeel it too?
What do your animals want youto know about?
What they remember about youand your life together, and how
they feel about needing to afteryour animal's physical body has
ceased to become a safe orcomfortable home for them.

(02:54):
And before we dive in today, Ialso want to just give you the
blanket disclaimer that what Iam about to share with you,
first of all, I have not been insome think tank of one,
somewhere, dreaming all of thisstuff up by myself.
Everything that I'm about toshare with you today is
something that the animals havetaught me, either when I'm

(03:18):
talking with your pets inone-to-one sessions, when I'm
talking with my own animals hereand in spirit, and also when I
am working with my studentpractitioners in the weekly live
practice circle that Ifacilitate over Zoom for my
animal communication students.
So this is a work in progress.

(03:39):
Many episodes over the past sixseasons I have continued to
revisit, to update as theanimals teach me new things, and
this is no different.
So if you've had a differentexperience or you've had
experiences that maybe I couldlearn from, I always love to
hear from you, and I just wantyou to know that there is more

(04:03):
to learn about our transitionprocess, the life between lives,
experience, the afterlifeexperience, and probably our
human brains could even everhold.
And so this is just a snapshotin time of what I have learned
to date in my day-to-day life asa professional animal

(04:24):
communicator and animalcommunication teacher, talking
with pets from around the world.
Now where I want to start fortoday's episode is to answer the
big pink elephant in the roomquestion, as I like to call
these does your pet miss youwhen they've transitioned to
spirit?
The simple answer is yes.

(04:46):
Now, of course, there's a morecomplicated answer as well.
What happens and this again hascome from the animals that have
taught me.
What happens when we enter ourphysical bodies is we come in
with two big agenda items, and Ifeel like I say this over and
over again, but that's justbecause I feel like it's so

(05:06):
essential for us to rememberthat life here in these physical
bodies feels complicated, butit's actually really simple.
Our first agenda item is wecome here with something to
learn.
The animals have reiteratedover and over again nobody
enters into what they call thesebig physical body spacesuits
without needing or wanting tolearn a lesson or a series of

(05:31):
lessons.
When we're wanting to learn alesson, what we're really
wanting to do is to grow and toevolve our soul level
consciousness.
Even when we're in thesephysical spacesuits or these
physical bodies and the animalshave reiterated over and over
again nobody comes to what theycall earth school without having
something on the agenda, on thelife path agenda, the soul path

(05:53):
agenda of something to learn.
The other reason is we havesomething to teach, something to
share, something to give oroffer and because of that there
is what I like to call anecessary amnesia that takes
place, so we don't remembereverything.
That's another reason why Ifeel like there's more to be

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learned and experienced aboutthe transition to spirit or soul
space, the experience of thelife between physical
incarnations or life betweenlives, experience and the
experience of being in our lifebody than we could ever hold
with these human physical brainsof ours.
And there's also a necessaryamnesia that occurs so that we

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can actually learn.
If we remembered everythingthat we've ever known about
everyone and everything, weprobably wouldn't be very
teachable.
So we can come in with so wecan come in with fears, we can
come in with insecurities, wecan come in with preconceived
ideas where we're born, whatkind of body we're born into,
our gender, all kinds ofdifferent things can feed into

(06:56):
this necessary amnesia so thatwe have our best and brightest
opportunity to learn.
And that also includes whetheror not there is really a
separation in our relationshipswith one another when one of us
is in a physical body or aspacesuit and the other one of
us isn't.
And that also includes a deeperunderstanding of what missing,

(07:22):
or that longing for reunion orthat feeling of separation, what
that really is.
And is it really a missing, isit really a denial of
relationship?
Is it really something preciousthat I feel like I can't live
without has been taken from meby force?
Or is it a lack of rememberingwhat relationship really is, and

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I realize we're going deep veryquickly.
In my world, and especially ifyou are a let's Talk to Animals
podcast frequent listener, youknow that one of my mottos is go
deep or go home, so we alwayslike to jump right off the deep
end.
There is no conversation aboutthe spirit, space or transition
or pet death or reincarnation.

(08:10):
That is not deep and that doesnot sound a little woo-woo, if
you will, on certain levels.
But I feel like this experienceof dying, what we call dying
and what we call being born,these are the two experiences in
life that are quite literallycommon to all of us, and so
sometimes I actually wonder whythere isn't more curiosity about

(08:31):
it, or maybe a better way tophrase that would be why we so
often let our fearfulness of theunknown or the not remembered
to get in the way of ourcuriosity.
And if you're an animalcommunication student of mine,
you know that we always startwith noticing, wondering and
getting curious, the buildingblocks of everything and

(08:51):
anything that leads anywhere andeverywhere.
So that is the spirit withwhich we approach today's
podcast episode topic as wellNoticing, wondering, getting
curious, and one of the areas ofanimal communication that I am
the most enduringly curiousabout.
Is this what I call this missingyou, feeling this, I can't live

(09:14):
my life without you, evenfeeling.
I spent years, in fact all 24years of my soul birds, 24 years
with me saying to him over andover where you go.
I go to the point where itappalled my former partner and
my parents and people who knewme and loved me during those
years, because our soul bond wasthat of the twin flame soul

(09:37):
agreement.
And if you've worked with me,either one-on-one or in practice
circle, or you've listened tothe episode about the eight most
common types of soul agreementsthat we share with our animals
which one do you have, which wasalso earlier this season,
season six you understand thatthe twin flame soul agreement,
at least as it has been sharedwith and presented to me by the

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animals, is the most intense.
It's the kind that can createwhat we call heartbreak syndrome
, which is a very real medicalphenomenon that mimics a heart
attack.
It has sent some of my petparent clients to the hospital
or even the ER when they've losttheir animals because the
heartbreak is so intensive andall-consuming.
So just understand that thissensation of missing you is

(10:23):
worth exploring on multiplelevels, because it can even put
us in harm's way if we don'tfully grasp the nature of what's
unfolding in the relationshipbetween ourselves and the animal
whom we so love.
So this missing you, feelingthe animals tell me this is a
very unique feeling to being inthe embodied life experience.

(10:44):
So when we're in these physicalbodies and we have this kind of
temporary hold on our memoriesthat we're calling amnesia, I
just don't remember everything.
I don't have access necessarilyto the full consciousness
that's available to me and theinterconnectivity that is my
real existence, my realexperience of life.

(11:04):
Then if I'm suddenly denied thecompany of the one that I love
the most, whom I feel the mostdependent on, most reliant on,
the most dedicated to, well, Imight go a little bit nuts, I
might misunderstand and assumethat suddenly that relationship,
which has felt like mylifeblood, has been removed or

(11:26):
cut off from me and I no longerhave access to it, and that
could very well precipitate somekind of crisis.
So this is very serious and Iwant you to understand this,
that this is another reason whatmakes this so worth exploring,
so you can keep yourself safeand sane, especially if you're
walking your beloved soul petthrough their transition right

(11:47):
now.
It can give you a little bit ofa safety buffer for your
emotional life and your bondwith your pet and give them a
little bit more comfort ofknowing that when they do need
to leave their physical body forreal, for good, that you'll be
okay.
So they're saying this missingyou, feeling that we feel so
strongly is a part of thisnecessary amnesia, so that we

(12:11):
can learn and grow.
And one of the big lessons inthis necessary amnesia is to
transcend this feeling of beingso limited, isolated and cut off
from the ones that we love whodo not have physical bodies at
the moment.
So what the animals are reallysaying is it doesn't matter if I
have a physical body or not, weare still connected.

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And for this reason, thismissing you, experience this
tremendous, what I call thegrief firestorm, where we have
this biochemical physicalreaction where our body, our
sympathetic nervous system, isfull on fight, flight, freeze
mode and we are pumping outadrenaline and cortisol like

(12:56):
nobody's business for days andthen weeks at a time, because
our primitive survival systemdoesn't understand the
difference between the loss ofour pet's body and a
saber-toothed tiger attack.
So it's like we're under attackLike a saber-toothed tiger, has
been stalking us for days andthen weeks and sometimes months,
and I've even seen it last intoyears, and we cannot shut off

(13:19):
that sympathetic nervous systemresponse that is the grief
firestorm.
We've got to detox our physicalorganism from all of those
stress hormones before we caneven approach creating a new
foundation and a new sense ofself.
And some of this does belong ina different episode and I have
addressed it before in pet griefand the episodes on what it's

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really like to live with yourreincarnated pet while you're
going through grief.
And there's another episode onfive tips for moving through the
grief experience faster.
And those are really designedto address this biochemical
reaction that is unique to thoseof us who are inhabiting a
physical body.
Our body does something when welose quote, unquote someone.

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Really what we're losing istheir physical body.
But in our pet's case, thosephysical bodies are especially
cute and cuddly and soft andwarm and furry or feathered or
shelled or finned or scaled, andwe just have physical reaction
to not having access to them.

(14:27):
When my soul bird Pearl died, Ishared an episode about what
that was like and I carried hislittle feathery body around in
my hands for hours, hours.
I didn't want to let his bodygo, even though he came and he
broke through within an hour ofme finding his body and
realizing he had passed.
Suddenly he broke through mygrief and talked to me.

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I still carried his body aroundfor hours.
I would still have it.
If my mom hadn't helped methrough the process of burying
him.
I would probably still have itin my hands right now.
So there is a very realbiochemical connection that we
create one body to another andour body goes into sudden,

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dramatic withdrawal.
No matter how extended yourpet's end-of-life transition and
or hospice process has been,when we suddenly lose access to
their physical body, we go intosudden withdrawal and a portion
of the oxytocin that has kept usfeeling so deeply bonded it is
cut off.

(15:30):
And we have to understand.
Our brain pumps out chemicalsall day long and when we are
suddenly denied access to them,that is like being denied access
to a drug that we are nowdependent on.
So just understanding thismissing you feeling in as much
depth and respect as we can,realizing that we are going

(15:50):
through something life altering,and this missing you feeling it
has a biochemical, physicalcomponent.
It has an emotional, chemicalcomponent and it has a soul
level component.
And the lesson lies here.
We can't do a whole heck of alot about the biochemical or
even the emotional firestormlevel, other than to drink lots

(16:13):
of water, to breathe and extendour exhale and to move our body.
That is what keeps ourlymphatic system moving and
detoxing our body, detoxing ourbody and detoxing our body.
And the other thing that we canand must do if we ever want to
move through the grief firestormis we must address the soul
level lesson that we're here tolearn, which is that the body

(16:34):
may die.
The body may die over and overand over again.
My petal pearl, who is thereincarnation of my soul, bird
pearl and I have a whole otherepisode on that as well, if you
want to reference that and takea listen to what that process
was like but my bird, my love,has had four bodies.
She's on her fourth body withme in this lifetime.
So bodies will come and bodieswill go.

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The relationship remains andthat is the lesson.
That is why we feel thismissing you, feeling so strongly
, and no amount of time or detoxcan fully ever take it away,
because there's this portion ofour brain that says you, the one
that I love, I no longer haveaccess to and it feels so unfair

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and it feels so powerless.
Somebody took you away from meand I can't live without you.
And I've had many pet parentclients say I have had animals
all my life, but this one, thisrelationship, this bond, is
different.
This one I don't know if I'mgoing to survive it.
I cannot live without thisanimal.
Trust me, I understand as muchas one soul can ever understand

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the experiences of another.
I identify with what you aredescribing and there's an aspect
of me in this necessary amnesiathat still feels that way about
every bird I've ever lost, evenunderstanding that my Perky and
my Jacob and my Pearl are nowback as Miss Petal.

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Because we have relationships,we have memories of ourselves
learning and growing throughthose time periods with those
other bodies that don't lookexactly like this one and don't
sound or act exactly like thisone.
And if you want moreinformation on that, this
episode very nicely dovetailswith the one about the

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similarities and differences inour reincarnated pets and why
those exist.
So that's another episode youmight want to take a listen to,
but for our purposes here, ourmissing you experience is fueled
by these three levels thisbiochemical, physical reaction,
the emotional reaction and alsothe mental understanding.

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Of course, my animalcommunication students all come
in with the understanding thatwe have two brain hemispheres,
not just one.
We have our right brain, whichis highly intuitive and very
connective, and we have our leftbrain hemisphere, which is not
intuitive at all and veryindividualistic.
And since we are educated andtrained to live primarily from
the left brain mind our wholelives, we seldom even question

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why do I even have a right brainhemisphere and what is it there
for?
And part of the reason it'sthere, why these experiences are
so challenging for us, isbecause we're being invited into
our right brain hemisphere,because that's the only place
that's linked in with our heartand our sensory system and our
gut and that's where we can feelthe continuation of the

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relationship that we have withour soul pet, even though their
body is gone.
So, those of you who welcome tosoul pet back I've worked with
many of you and you welcomed oneof your soul pets back.
Through pet reincarnation youcan feel the continuation of
what I call the energeticsignature of your animal.
This is how you know.
This is your animal returned toyou reincarnated to you versus

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some other animal.
It's the energetic signature.
That's a huge part of thelesson when we, as pet parents
or animal guardians, we say Ichoose pet reincarnation rather
than I choose to adopt a new.
I want to wake up, I want toremember, I want to relearn how

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to use my right brain hemisphere.
I want to shake off thisamnesia and reconnect to all
that is in the universalconsciousness and the fact that
our relationships never, neversever, but our bodies wear out
when our pet transitions out oftheir body.
What they have told me again andagain, as I've talked with your
animals, is I leave my bodywhen my perception is it is no

(20:42):
longer a safe, comfortable orreliable home for me to dwell in
.
And they're making a very cleardistinction between my home, my
temporary physical home thatallows me to exist in earth
school as a physical organismalongside you.
That's my body, and me.
I'm living in my body.
So that's why they often callthem the space suits.

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Of course, I was born here inHouston, texas, and grew up here
, and this is space city Houston, so of course they would use a
space suits analogy with NASA,just around the corner from me.
But just know that that's thereference and they're letting me
know that, from the physicalside you still being in your
physical body, with thisnecessary amnesia and this

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over-reliance on the veryindividualistic, non-intuitive
left brain hemisphere, you aregoing to most likely experience
this as a loss.
You're missing someone who washere yesterday and isn't here
today, and the data that you'reusing to support your experience
and or prove your belief thatyou have lost a relationship is

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the absence of their physicalbody.
Now, from their side, from theanimal's side, the missing you
experience also exists, but itis quite different.
They do not have truly havenever had the level and the
extent of necessary amnesia thatwe do.
This is why, when I asked theanimals what does the word pet

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mean?
Why do we use this to describeyou?
They said we are your partner,empathic friend and teacher.
And empathy means to feel as if, or to suffer with, and it
implies and requires living fromour right brain hemisphere and
our heart and gut.
So we feel, rather than think,our way through life, and our
animals are exceptional at this.
So, unlike us, they neverreally lose their sense of

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interconnectivity, and thatincludes in between different
states of consciousness.
So if I'm in my physical bodyversus I'm in my light body and
the etheric or the soul space.
I still remain connected.
I don't forget that theconnection has nothing really to
do with the physical body.
That's functional for thepurpose of allowing us to share

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a set of lessons here on EarthSchool, where we learn from each
other and we teach each other,but it's not necessary for the
relationship.
It's actually an optionaladd-on that we can have but
don't need to be connected.
But we humans especially feellike we need it in order to.
We think rather that we need itin order to be connected.
And a big part of our animals'feelings when they transition to

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spirit, a big part of theirexperience of the missing you, I
miss you.
There's really two main facetsto it.
Number one is sure they missbeing in a physical body because
it offers some perks that youdon't get in the light body.
You can't slurp peanut butteror dive into a plate of pasta
when you don't get in the lightbody.
You can't slurp peanut butteror dive into a plate of pasta

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when you don't have a physicalbody.
You can't snuggle together whenonly one of you has a physical
body anymore.
You can't go on long walks andsniff.
You can't perch on their headwhen you don't have a body to
perch with.
So there are tangible physicalexperiences that are beautiful
and wonderful to have that can'tbe experienced in the same way

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when you're in your light body.
It's more like the essence orthe outline of the experience.
If you've ever looked at thesun and then closed your eyes
and you could still see theshadow of the sun around the
edges of your inner vision,that's what it's like.
It's the impression, athumbprint, or see the shadow of
the sun around the edges ofyour inner vision, that's what
it's like.
It's the impression, athumbprint or a paw print of the
experience, not the fullcontact sport that it is to be

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here in a physical body.
So that's one aspect Manyanimals do miss, that it's the
icing on the cake, if you will,or the carrot at the end of the
stick, depending on howdifficult the lessons are that
you have chosen to tackle fromone lifetime, one embodied
lifetime, to the next.
But the other element is genuineconcern for us and frustration

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because our animals, when theytransition to spirit, their big
objective is to make thatreconnection as quickly as
possible, to let us know thatthey're still with us and that
the relationship continues, andso that's where we see so many
signs and symbolism that tugs atthe edge of our intuitive

(25:07):
awareness.
That's why I'm so passionateabout doing my free webinar
series Intuitive Development forPet Parents and if you haven't
been a part of that yet, be sureyou're on my weekly love
letters email list so you canget notified the next time I do
it.
You can just head over toanimallovelanguagescom and click
on the little pink bar at thetop to get added.

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I am so passionate abouthelping pet parents wake up to
your inbuilt intuitive operatingsystem, what I call your iOS,
because the moment your pettransition, their number one
priority doesn't change.
It's still a focus on you asyour partner, empathic friend

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and teacher.
They are desperate to let youknow that they're okay.
They are desperate to feel thatreconnection and the relief
that comes from knowing you'regoing to survive this and you're
not just going to be an emptyshell walking around unwilling
and unable to love again becauseyou're so distraught and you,
they can never open up again,they could never love again and

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they just haven't recovered.
And your pet doesn't want thatfor you.
They want you to know thatyou're still together.
Body optional.
It's always been optional.
That's why you recognized oneanother the first time you met,
because you already had arelationship.
This is one of the things thatI teach inside Animal
Communication Adventure toMastery.
My signature student learningprogram is the presence of

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energetic signatures how youknow it's your animal and not
somebody else and how they knowit's you and not somebody else.
If you didn't have thatpreexisting relationship, you
wouldn't recognize one anotherin bodies you've never seen
before.
So the relationship existedbefore you met one another, body
to body, and it continues toexist after one or both of the
bodies are no longer available,and this is the missing you

(27:04):
sensation.
This is also why I get a lot ofquestions every week from pet
parents who've lost an animaland they say is there a waiting
period before I can talk with myanimal?
And my answer is no.
If we're talking about awaiting period for the animal,
there can sometimes be a waitingperiod if you are in so much
grief and distress that you arenot in a place where your

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nervous system is even willingto entertain the continuation of
the relationship, and that's avery individualistic experience.
So no two humans are alike thatway.
But for your pet the momentthey enter the spirit dimension.
Their number one concern isthat, making sure they do
everything that they can toreconnect and continue their

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relationship.
That's how much they're devotedto us and to our well-being and
our growth and our continuationof our life lessons and our
life path.
I've had pet parents send meimages.
One last week sent me an imageof their pet's face as an
outline in the TV screen.
I had another pet parent a fewmonths ago who told me that

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every time she sat down on thecouch at night at the same time
that she and her dog and spiritused to cuddle together, that
the lights would flicker and theTV would go on and off.
So electricity is one of theeasiest ways for our animals,
who are in their energetic orlight body state, to manipulate
frequency and get our attention.

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For me, the little kind ofshadowy picture behind us right
now, if you're watching thevideo version, an outline of my
soul, bird Pearl, appeared onthat painting that I've had for
years the day he passed and hasbeen there ever since.
So there are all kinds of waysthat our animals will let us
know.
I've had pet parents tell me Iwas out walking and I saw an

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animal who was the exactspitting image of my animal who
just passed.
And I've walked this way allthe time.
I've never seen an animal thatlooked like that before.
So there are all kinds of waysthey can send animal messengers.
They can temporarily appear ina physical body manifestation.
There are all kinds of mysteriesas to how exactly's strong

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enough to override yoursympathetic nervous system
saying relationship is gone, Ihave no access to it.

(29:38):
I have to wonder and wait.
If I go to some place after mybody dies, I might see them
again.
Someplace after my body dies, Imight see them again.
And so your grief and agony isbeing suddenly cut off from this
relationship that is part ofyour lifeblood, and their grief
and agony is I'm trying to getthrough.
I'm trying to place a call, I'mtrying to send a text, I'm

(30:01):
trying to reconnect in some way,and I'm not getting through.
So the missing you experience isthe same, and what I want to
emphasize here is that theintensity that you feel, it's
only part biochemical.
Definitely, there's thebiochemical part, because when
we're in a physical body, ourphysical body does certain
things in order to help ussurvive experiences that are

(30:22):
catastrophic to us that areextremely dangerous to us, that
are potentially life ending tous, and one of those things is
to pump out a certain series ofchemical messengers that we call
hormones.
And we've got a detox from that, and we've already talked about
how primitive our survivalsystem really is and how it
hasn't evolved with our times.

(30:42):
It doesn't understand the firstworld dangers we live with
today.
It only understandsSabertooth's tiger.
So there is that level, butthere's also the level of
understanding that, since therelationship itself continues,
whether your pet has a physicalbody or not, only half of that
intensity of missing you isyours, the other half is your
pets.
And this is actually sciencesupported and it's pretty

(31:06):
amazing.
And I'll put a link in the shownotes to the study that I'm
about to reference.
And I'm doing that for tworeasons One, because it would
take too long to explain thefull study on a podcast episode,
and two, because I don't knowall the science-y terms that
they use in that article and I'drather you read it directly.
But just understand, there'ssomething called non-locality
theory or quantum entanglementtheory and what scientists have

(31:29):
been able to prove down to thelevel of atoms and protons tiny,
tiny, tiny, infinitesimallittle building block particles.
Once there is a directenergetic connection what we're
calling a relationship, in thiscase between two separate
particles forever after anythingone does affects the other,

(31:50):
they can share energy back andforth, they can borrow and give
energy to each other.
So this is the very microcosmiclevel of the theory of when the
butterfly flaps its wings onone side of the world, a tsunami
may happen on the other.
Now we're talking at the quantumlevel, where in the spirit
space, in the etheric space, allthe way up to the highest

(32:14):
vibrational frequency, there isa reverberation when one
physical body shuts down andessentially dies, becomes
non-habitable, and therelationship that you share with
that other light source, thatother energetic being who once
inhabited that body, thatcontinues and it can follow you.

(32:34):
It does follow you both,regardless of what vibrational
frequency you are existing on.
So obviously we access a higher, lighter vibrational frequency
when we are not lugging aroundone of these heavy spacesuits.
These spacesuits are like whatthe astronauts have to wear on
the moon in order to keep themfrom floating away.
And when your animal shedstheir spacesuit, that's in

(32:57):
essence what they do they floatinto a higher, lighter vibration
frequency.
So it's a temporary mismatch wehave to recalibrate in order to
be able to sense theirenergetic signature when there's
no body present.
So, given the quantumentanglement theory and the fact
that scientists have been ableto replicate and duplicate these

(33:20):
experiments in their bigscience-y space labs with these
tiny little microparticles, wecan understand how intense that
missing you experience can be,even at a quantum level, and how
we can continue to exchangeenergy with one another and
share experiences emotional,mental, physical, soul level,

(33:44):
relational experiences acrossspace and time and in multiple
dimensions simultaneously.
We can also work with this.
I don't want you to be listeningto today's episode and think,
well then I shouldn't begrieving.
No, you should.
That's what your body isdesigned to do.
After the emergency passes, youwill have to detox.
And because for most of us, wehave zero training on how this

(34:09):
super groovy, super complicatedspacesuit works, what it's
designed to do, all itsdifferent parts, how to work
with it, we don't know how itresponds to different situations
.
We don't understand what thedifferent hemispheres of our
brain do.
We don't understand that wehave brains all throughout our
body.
We have a brain in our heart,we have a brain in our heart, we
have a brain in our gut and wedon't understand the timetable

(34:32):
for different experiences thatour body will go through with us
.
And because we don't understandany of that, grief often takes
a lot longer than it should,which means we're dealing with
much larger quantities ofadrenaline and cortisol in our
body.
Because we don't understand howto start shutting our
sympathetic nervous system down.
We don't know how to tell oursympathetic nervous system hey,

(34:55):
that was my pet passing out oftheir physical body, not a
saber-toothed tiger attack.
The way that you start shuttingdown your sympathetic nervous
system response is what Imentioned earlier.
You drink a lot of water.
You take that deep,parasympathetic breathing,
extending your exhale beyondyour inhale.
I like to joke that nobody everstopped to extend their

(35:17):
exhalation as they were runningaway from a saber-toothed tiger.
So this is your easiest hack.
If you could just remember toextend your exhale past the
length of time you inhale.
This is the easiest, fastestway to start shutting your
sympathetic nervous systemresponse down, telling your body
it may not be pleasant rightnow, but it is safe.

(35:39):
Nobody's coming to eat me today.
And then you're drinking thewater and moving your body
because your lymphatic systemdoes not have a pump of its own.
It's a shadow, a mirror to yourcardiovascular system, which is
pumped by your heart, but yourlymphatic system is pumped by
physical movement.
So when you drink the water andyou move your body, that's what

(36:00):
activates your lymphatic systemto excrete all that excess
adrenaline and cortisol that'sproduced by the sympathetic
nervous system response.
So that side, we just need towalk through it day by day.
And if you're doing all of this, and you're doing it
consistently, you can stillexpect a grief firestorm period

(36:21):
of three to four weeks minimum,and a lot longer than that on
higher level, like emotional,mental, relational levels,
because you become a stranger toyourself and you have to get to
know yourself all over again asthis new being who has a
different set of daily routinesand experiences than you did
when your pet was in theirphysical body, alongside you,

(36:43):
and that's normal and natural.
So I'm not at all saying you'renot going to grieve, you are
going to grieve.
This is part of what we do.
This is part of what we comehere to do and experience and to
learn how to move through.
But with that recognition inmind and that tacit acceptance
that, yes, grief is going to bea part of life, we're here for

(37:03):
all of it, even if we onlyremember signing up for the good
stuff.
But there are some things thatyou can do to make your pet's
job easier from the etheric orthe light realm and facilitate
that reconnection.
One thing you can do and Irecommend this for all of my pet
parent clients is keepsomething of your animals,
something that they were incontact with daily, if that is a

(37:26):
lead or a collar or a tack or ablanket or a toy.
Or I kept my pearl bird's oldfeeding dish and that little
battered up spoon that I used todish out his seed.
That was very meaningful to mebecause I wanted to replace it
for years and he liked it anddidn't want me to get rid of it.
So I kept that and it holds atremendous amount of his energy.

(37:49):
I also have some of hisfeathers, thank goodness.
Those definitely hold hisenergy.
So a little snippet of fur ormane or just a little tidbit,
something, a scale, a feather,something that reminds you of
them, that holds their energy.
This makes it easier for yourpet to bridge that energetic gap

(38:09):
from the light's realm to thephysical earth realm and start
to reconnect.
Another thing you can do iscontinue to include them in your
life.
I call this taking truth serum.
Talk to them just as you wouldif you would have had a bad day
and they were in their bodywaiting for you at home and you
would just talk to them and say,gosh, I had such a crappy day,

(38:30):
I'm so glad that you're here.
You love me unconditionally,I'm so grateful for you.
Anything you would have saidand you can tell them it sucks
without you.
I used to take my dark glassesand a big jug of water and go
walk a three-mile loop around apark near where I lived when I
was in a different place than Iam now, and I would just talk to

(38:51):
Pearl and I would tell himexactly how I felt lonely and
abandoned and not sure I wantedto be here anymore.
And just the physical act oftalking to him and sometimes I
would do it out loud releasedsomething in me.
It gave me an acknowledgementand it helped me feel peace
because I could feel thebeginnings of that energetic

(39:12):
reconnection.
We behave as if the relationshipitself has ended.
We become very stern and veryharsh with ourselves and we try
to cut ourselves off and saywell, you can't talk to your pet
anymore, they're not hereanymore.
They're in spirit.
That is the biggest disservicethat we do to the love that we
share, because as long as thelove is still there, the

(39:33):
relationship is still there.
It doesn't matter if they havea body or not.
So talk to them.
If you would go on walks everyday in a certain park or a
certain street, continue, go onthose walks and talk to your pet
in spirit.
They are desperate to hear fromyou.
They want to reconnect.
You can also create a specialarea in your home.

(39:54):
Find a favorite photograph andput that item in that area and
make it private.
You don't have to put it in apublic area.
We're not talking over themantelpiece here.
We're talking about an areaclose to you, on your bedside
table, in your closet, a privatearea.
That is emblematic of theprivate depth of connection that

(40:16):
you and your soul, pet andspirit shared and understand
that when you visit that area,their energy is very
concentrated there because theyknow exactly what you're doing,
concentrated there because theyknow exactly what you're doing
and they feel your intention toreopen the line of communication
.
Something else you can do, ifyou're open to it, is to explore

(40:38):
the question of petreincarnation.
It's not always appropriate todo it up front.
I was lucky when my soul bird,pearl, passed.
I was already a professionalanimal communicator.
Even then it was difficult forPearl to break through, but he
was always very, very strong andvery determined and being
little in size had nothing to dowith his mighty power and he

(40:58):
managed to break through thesame day and let me know that he
was coming, he said I'm rushingright back and he gave me the
clues.
So when and if you feel movedto explore your curiosity about
pet reincarnation, that isanother incredible way and I
will put a link in the shownotes as well to my free pet
reincarnation guide and my petparent grief support guide,

(41:22):
which puts into kind of asummary form some of what we've
touched on today, as well assome other elements from
different episodes that cansupport you through this entire
process.
The other thing that you can dothat is so powerful that can
really help to keep theconnection, the sense of being
connected, alive, is you canfind ways to honor them.

(41:45):
I have had pet parent clientswho've sent me pictures of
beautiful altars they've createdwith crystals and flowers and
essential oils.
I have seen pictures that petparent clients of mine have sent
me where they have made adonation in honor of their
animal or they've planted aflower garden for their animal.

(42:07):
I've had emails from petparents telling me they have
started volunteering withanimals.
I volunteer at a local catsanctuary every week in honor of
my rescue kitten, momo, whodidn't transition into spirit
but definitely transitioned outof my life, and I share more
about that story in a previousepisode.
But I now volunteer every weekwith cats in honor of Momo's

(42:31):
impact on me, and that keeps ourrelationship alive, even though
he is with a different family,living his best life in a way he
could never have lived with myfamily.
So there are all kinds of waysto keep the energetics of the
relationship alive.
One thing that my mom chose todo to honor her soul dog, jp
Morgan, when he passed was togather up all of his things and

(42:57):
donate them to a local dogcharity that she supported.
That was personally verymeaningful to her and my dad and
that was one of the things thatwe did, and so when we do
something, take a physicalaction to honor our pet in
spirit, we open up a little partof that channel of

(43:17):
communication again andrecognize that their energy and
impact in our lives continuesand anything we can do to
recognize that the energy andimpact that they have on us is
continuing is, at its core, arecognition that the
relationship itself continues.
When we get there in our owntime, at our own pace, we can't

(43:41):
push through our soul awakeningand evolution process the way
that we often see in movies,where it happens in 10 minutes,
a sped up version of a lifebeing lived.
We get there safely on our owntime, but every little
recognition really helps.
Talk with your animal and askthem to send you signs,

(44:01):
especially when you're fallingasleep at night.
Ask them to visit you and beopen, become aware If something
crosses just your peripheralvision or you feel a temperature
shift, or you wake up in themiddle of the night and it's
warm in a place on your bed thatwas only warm when your pet was
with you.

(44:21):
Accept those, welcome your owncuriosity and your own noticing
and validate them and thank yourpet.
Even if your left brain mindscreaming that's just a
coincidence, your right brainmind knows something that your
left brain mind will never knowbecause of how different their
functions are, and the more youacknowledge your pet's efforts

(44:43):
to reconnect with you, thestronger those signs, symbolism
and synchronicities will become.
So, to summarize today'sepisode does your pet and spirit
miss you and if yes, do theymiss you as much as you miss
them?
The answer is yes, and it cantake some time for our human

(45:04):
brains, with their necessaryamnesia, to wrap themselves
around this quantum levelinformation.
So I encourage you to give thispodcast episode a re-listen in
a week or two and just allowthese new neural connections to
begin to form, where you beginto interact with and experience

(45:26):
your relationship with your soulpet, as if the body is optional
, because that's really whatthey're asking us to do and that
is also what's required to keepthe relationship itself alive.
Whether you're open to petreincarnation or not, whether
they're planning on petreincarnation or not, whether
that's something that's even ofinterest or possible for you at
this time in your life, justunderstand that their primary

(45:49):
message to you through thisepisode is my body was always
optional.
We knew each other before weever incarnated into these
spacesuits that we call bodies,and we continue to know one
another now and we will alwaysbe in love, and I hope that,
wherever you are in your processwith your soul pet, if they're

(46:11):
transitioning right now, if theyhave transitioned to spirit, if
they've been in the spiritspace for a while, I hope that
this episode meets you with amessage of comfort,
encouragement and rekindling ofthe deeper, ongoing,
ever-present, unbreakablerelationship and connection of

(46:32):
unconditional love that alwaysis and that is proven through
the presence of your continuedlove for them and theirs for you
.
So again, thank you so much forjoining me for this episode of
let's Talk to Animals.
It's always such a privilegeand honor to pass along every
new tidbit of information andevery new learning that the

(46:53):
animals offer to me, and it'salways meant to be shared.
So thank you for sharing itwith me.
I look forward to any questionsthat you have about this
episode, any experiences youwould like to share with me, if
you'd like to drop a review, itsure does help as well, and it
encourages me that I'm on theright track in terms of what the
animals are asking me to shareand what you'd like to hear

(47:13):
about.
So thank you again for joiningme today and just know that I'm
sending you and your animalfamily, here and in spirit, all
my love.
Okay, bye for now.
I have so enjoyed sharing thisepisode with you.
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enjoyed this episode, please doleave us a review on your

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