Recovering People Pleaser: Healing the Need to Be Liked with Brittney Moses

In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Brittney Moses — a women’s coach and mental health content creator — to talk about something most of us struggle with but rarely name out loud: people-pleasing and self-abandonment.

We went deep into how women, especially Black women, are taught to carry everyone else’s load and call it strength — even when it’s slowly breaking us down. Brittney opened my eyes to the “fawn response,” a trauma reaction where we make ourselves small to feel safe. That hit home for me because I’ve been there — walking on eggshells, avoiding conflict, thinking silence kept the peace when it really just kept me stuck.

We talked about the guilt that comes with saying no, how to rebuild self-trust after years of ignoring your intuition, and what it means to live beyond society’s checkboxes — those invisible rules about when to marry, have kids, or “be successful.” Brittney's story of becoming a teen mom, going back to UCLA, remarrying later in life, and defining success on her own terms reminded me that God’s timeline is never off — it’s divine.

And we didn’t stop there. We unpacked identity, masking, and the constant pressure to perform — in faith, in work, even online. I had to be real about my own journey of shifting from me-centered hustle to God-centered purpose. This episode reminded me — and I hope it reminds you — that you’ve already done enough. Everything after this is just the overflow of your purpose.

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