September 16, 2025 • 20 mins
Have you ever felt like success at work means sacrificing your personal life?
In this episode, I share why work-life integration is more sustainable than balance and how to use your values, non-negotiables, and boundaries to protect what matters most. You’ll discover practical ways to navigate life’s seasons without losing yourself and how to thrive as both a leader and a person.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Let's be honest, leadership can truly feel like
an endless tug of war.
On one side, you've got yourdeadlines and meetings, the
needs of the team and then alsothe needs of your senior
leadership, and on the otherhand, you've got family,
personal goals and your ownwell-being, family personal
(00:24):
goals and your own well-being,and too often it feels like the
only way to win at work is tolose at life.
But here's what I believe.
I believe, through trial anderror and trying different
methods, I truly believe thatour lives are made up of seasons
(00:45):
.
Some seasons demand more atwork, while others demand more
at home.
The key is not about balance.
It's 50-50.
It's about integration.
The goal is to lead wellwithout sacrificing yourself in
the process.
When we sacrifice ourself inthe process, that's when we burn
(01:08):
out and that's when we feellike we're losing.
On today's episode, we're goingto dig into how you can
integrate your work and life ina way that protects what matters
most.
We'll talk about how to groundyourself in your values, set
non-negotiables that act asanchors, establish boundaries as
(01:30):
a leadership skill, and usepractical integration practices
to lead with clarity andconfidence.
So let's get into it.
How do you lead without losingyourself it?
(01:51):
How do you lead without losingyourself?
Now, I mentioned that I don'tbelieve in work-life balance.
I don't believe in the 50-50.
It could be just because I'venever experienced it in my life,
but balance suggests it's 50-50, like an equal distribution,
and I don't see that as beingrealistic.
Now some people may say youknow, my balance is not 50-50,
(02:14):
it's 60-40,.
Whatever that looks like, Ijust choose to call it more of
an integration, because I feellike integration acknowledges
shifting seasons.
For example, when I'm talkingabout seasons, you may have a
busy quarter at work.
It doesn't mean that yourfamily disappears.
(02:36):
It means that you getintentional about how you show
up.
But for the most part, you maybe showing up more at work.
I have it in my business.
I have seasons where work picksup, you know, to a point where
I have to.
I get to, I'm changing the wayI speak, I get to spend time
(03:03):
doing what I like doing at work,which means that I have to be
more intentional about how Ishow up in my personal life,
with my family, with my friendsand definitely with my faith.
So one of the first things youwant to do to get to this
integration, this place ofintegration.
(03:27):
Get clear on your values, andthis you want to do, no matter
what.
Get crystal clear on yourvalues, because your values are
the foundation.
This is what is going to guideyou and direct you.
This is what is going to helpyou determine if you should be
saying yes or if you should besaying no.
(03:47):
Get crystal clear, and anexample could be I mentioned
faith.
My faith is important to me.
My family is important to me.
My health is important to me.
I would encourage you to writedown your top three values.
Write them down.
I would encourage you to writedown your top three values.
Write them down, like if I saidmine was you know, faith,
(04:10):
family, health, right?
If that's true, I have to askmyself am I leading in alignment
with these Meaning?
Am I holding space for thesethings in my life?
That's time and energy.
Am I leading in alignment?
(04:32):
And I can tell you.
It's easy to say, oh yeah, youknow, but when you really go
back and look at it, you mayfind that the answer is no,
because what happens is is you?
You start to skip If I say thatI'm going to dedicate the first
30 minutes of the day toreading scripture or my
(04:55):
spiritual time and you skip aday, and you skip a day, and you
skip a day and before you knowit, you've literally skipped a
week.
So you have to be reallyintentional about holding space
for the things that you say areyour values.
They are your foundations, andhere's a couple of ways that you
(05:16):
do this, because just saying itand writing them down isn't
enough.
You have to have things inplace that's going to help you
to make sure you are protectingwhat's important.
After you write down yourvalues, you're going to define
your non-negotiables.
Your non-negotiables are kindof like guardrails that protect
(05:38):
your values.
We're going to keep gettingmore, deeper and deeper, right.
So originally I said faith,family health, let's say, for
instance, with my familyspecifically, family dinner may
be a non-negotiable.
(05:59):
I am going to have a sit downdinner with my family three
times a week, and the reason whyI use three times a week that's
something that I've used before, when my kids were in high
school and they play sports.
We couldn't sit and have a mealevery day because we had a lot
going on between practice andgames and you know and things
(06:22):
like that, but at least threetimes a week I said that we
needed to sit down together as afamily and eat.
That's a non-negotiable.
And be descriptive, not justfamily dinner.
How many times a week are yougoing to sit down for a family
dinner?
If it's exercise, how manytimes a week are you going to
(06:44):
exercise?
If it's spiritual time, howmany times a week and how long
are you going to do spiritualtime If it's daily, 30 minutes a
day when you first wake up?
That's what you need to writedown.
You have to be descriptive andspecific about what it is that
is your non-negotiable.
If you sit in a gray area whenit comes to your non-negotiables
(07:06):
, then you're not going toachieve them.
If you say family dinner andyou're not saying how many days
a week you want family dinner,then it may not happen.
Be really specific about whatit is with your non-negotiable
After you create yournon-negotiable, because your
non-negotiables are the thingsthat's going to anchor you in
(07:29):
busy seasons.
Let me just say this In thoseseasons where you have to do
extra work, take on moreprojects, or it could be a
matter of you're in a season ofgrowth, you're at a certain
level in leadership and you aretrying to grow to the next level
, and then it may require you totake a class.
(07:51):
Take on additional projects,whatever that looks like.
Take a class, take onadditional projects, whatever
that looks like In that season.
You need something that isgoing to anchor you so that you
don't go too far to one side orthe other, and that is going to
be your non-negotiables.
Once you have yournon-negotiables so we've
established our values top threevalues Now we have our
(08:13):
non-negotiables that are ourguardrails, that are protecting
our values.
The next thing you want to do isset boundaries, and boundaries
is a leadership skill.
This is sometimes, when we talkabout boundaries, some people
look at it as a bad thing, but Iactually think it's a great
thing.
This is the thing that helpsprotect our priorities, and not
(08:33):
only that, it helps everybodyknow where you are.
This is a great way to keepeveryone in alignment.
And, just as another side note,you wanna make sure that you
are modeling these behaviors,because we want our team to
model these behaviors andanybody else that looks up to us
(08:56):
.
So it could be your kids, itcould be people that you're
mentoring.
You want to make sure thatyou're demonstrating these.
So, for instance, for me, I'mgoing to give you some real ones
.
Family was and still is a value,one of my top three values and
for family dinners, when I usedto do the family dinners, where
(09:19):
it was three times a week, oneof the things that I set in
place as a boundary was noemails after a set time, because
that is dinner time.
Another thing that I set inplace that we had a device-free
zone.
So you know, one of those zoneswas no phones at the dinner
table.
We were not allowed to have ourphone because that defeated the
(09:45):
purpose for me.
So this was a time that I wasable to sit down with my kids
and have dinner and have realconversations.
Make sure that you haveboundaries.
Another thing is protecting yourprayer time.
For me, protecting my prayertime, my prayer time is first
(10:06):
thing in the morning.
That's what I do first thingwhen I wake up.
I set aside that time.
I wake up at a certain time sothat I know I have enough time
set aside to do what it is thatI want to do first thing in the
morning and making sure that Ihave things in place.
(10:28):
So I have listen.
You have to do it worse.
I have things set up on myphone where I can't access
certain apps before a certaintime, because part of my time is
in the Bible and part of it ison a daily Bible app that I have
(10:50):
, bible app that I have.
So I have to make sure that I'mnot going off into Instagram,
linkedin, having those things inplace where, if I click on it,
it tells me, you know, it's nottime for me to access the app.
It has been really helpful.
Think about the things that youneed to put in place in terms of
(11:11):
boundaries.
That is going to help you toprotect those non-negotiables,
because those are yourpriorities.
Think about what it is that youwant to do.
Think about what that lookslike for you, because this is
extremely important.
We talked about identifyingwhat those values are, setting
(11:33):
those non-negotiables to protectthose values, and then the
other thing is having boundariesin place that are going to help
you stay in alignment orprotect your non-negotiables.
Okay, the last thing I want tomention is some integration
practices and tips that you maywant to lean into.
The first thing is seasonalawareness understanding what
(11:57):
season you're in.
Ask yourself, what season am Iin?
Because if you already have anidea of what season you're in,
you know that you're going tohave to be more intentional and
more diligent than maybe inother seasons.
If I know that the beginning ofthe year is an extremely busy
time of year for me, then I knowthat I have to be on top of
(12:22):
things.
I need to make sure I amdiligent about making sure that
I'm protecting the things that Ineed to protect in my life.
The other thing is use yourcalendar like calendar alignment
.
I've gotten so much better andI'm pretty good at setting aside
a time on my calendar my faithtime.
(12:43):
I don't have to do that.
That's first thing in themorning, but I've identified
what days of the week that Iwant to do my walking, because I
don't walk every single day.
So the days of the week that Ido my walking, I have my
calendar set up where I don'ttake calls before a certain time
, just making sure that you dowhatever it is that you could do
(13:06):
in order to stay in alignment.
And if you don't have a lot offlexibility with your calendar,
you have a lot of flexibilitywith the time that you wake up.
Flexibility with your calendaryou have a lot of flexibility
with the time that you wake up.
If I know I have an earlymeeting that I cannot move.
Then I just wake up earlier andI push everything up.
(13:26):
The other thing is energymanagement.
This is really beneficial.
When you understand the timesof the day, the times of the
month, like that your energy ishigh, like for me, I know my
energy is high in the morning.
That helps me determine how Ischedule my day.
(13:47):
There are certain tasks that Ischedule in the morning because
I'm more alert.
You know what I mean.
But there's also certain thingsthat drain my energy and I know
after I do those things I'mgoing to experience is a lot of
calls.
Then I know by the end of theday I need something that
(14:20):
doesn't take a lot of energy,because I just don't have it.
I have to be really mindfulabout what I schedule after
those calls and I like to bundlemy calls because, like I said,
I get drained, so I like to getthem all done and then at the
end of the day I schedulesomething that doesn't require
(14:41):
as much, or something that givesme energy.
That I find gives me energy indoing.
Another tip delegation andsupport, and this is not just
from a leadership perspective atwork.
This is period, period, right?
(15:01):
So making sure that, first ofall, you're not trying to carry
everything yourself.
If it's something that yourteam should be doing, then make
sure that you are delegating itas appropriate.
But the same applies at home.
If you are at home and you havekids and other people living
(15:21):
with you, are there things thatcan be delegated?
Are there things that they canpick up, especially in those
seasons where you have a lotgoing on, those seasons where
you have a lot going on?
The last thing I want to say andthis is extremely important and
I've mentioned this before ismicro moments of presence,
(15:46):
making sure that you are present.
Even 15 minutes of fullpresence can shift everything.
I remember when I reallystarted doing this with my kids,
because I felt bad in thoseseasons where I wasn't able to
spend a lot of time.
But the reality of it is isthat I realized there were
sometimes that me and my kidswould spend an hour together but
(16:09):
I wasn't really present andsometimes they weren't really
present.
But making sure that you havethose micro moments of presence
and this could be sitting downand having a 15 minute
conversation where you both arepresent and this has done
wonders for my relationships.
(16:30):
I have family members that Icall and we can talk 10, 15
minutes and catch up and we'regood to go, but it's the biggest
thing is that I was present.
They were present.
We were fully present in thatmoment, making sure that you
have those micro moments ofpresence.
There's a book and it's calledthe one minute manager, and I
(16:55):
kind of think about that from awork perspective because it
talks about how you go throughand you do these, these touch
points and these praises withyour, with your team.
It doesn't require two hours ofmeeting, it doesn't require as
much time as we think itrequires, but it does require
(17:18):
that you take the initiative andthat you are fully present in
that moment when you're having aconversation with whoever it is
that you're having aconversation with.
So those are the integrationpractices and tips that I wanted
to share with you.
But just keep in mind, you don'tnecessarily have to achieve
balance.
It's okay if you don't achievebalance.
(17:40):
Make sure that you have definedyour values, you have set your
non-negotiables and you haveyour boundaries in place to
protect everything, and you haveyour boundaries in place to
protect everything.
Once you do that, I feel likeyou're going to feel so much
better because you know that youhave spent time with the people
(18:03):
that are important in your lifeand you've done the important
things at work.
And just understanding thatsometimes there's going to be
times where you're going todedicate more time to work and
there's going to be some timeswhere you have to lean more to
(18:23):
personal, to yourself, and don'tfeel guilty about that either.
Just understand that there'sgoing to be some seasons where
it'll go back and forth andit'll balance itself out in the
end.
But make sure that along the way, you are dedicating time to the
(18:43):
things that you need to bededicating time to and making
sure that you do not loseyourself, regardless of what
season you are in.
So, once you set those values,choose your top three
non-negotiables and share onewith either a team or a family
member either with your team ora family member and just keep in
(19:06):
mind that work-life integrationisn't about perfection.
Isn't about perfection.
It's about clarity.
It's about accomplishing whatyou need to accomplish in the
season that you need toaccomplish it in, and leading
without sacrificing yourpersonal life means knowing your
(19:27):
values, protecting them withnon-negotiables and honoring the
season that you're in.
All right, that is it, and ifyou need any help or you want
some one-on-one coaching, Iencourage you to check out the
Leadership Shift that issignalpartnerscom.
Slash the Leadership Shift.
(19:49):
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where you are and we meet forsix weeks.
I provide you with the toolsthat I have, but also with
strategies and techniques tohelp to get you where it is that
you want to go as a leader.
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(20:10):
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Talk to you soon.
Let's be honest, leadership can truly feel like
an endless tug of war.
On one side, you've got yourdeadlines and meetings, the
needs of the team and then alsothe needs of your senior
leadership, and on the otherhand, you've got family,
personal goals and your ownwell-being, family personal
(00:24):
goals and your own well-being,and too often it feels like the
only way to win at work is tolose at life.
But here's what I believe.
I believe, through trial anderror and trying different
methods, I truly believe thatour lives are made up of seasons
(00:45):
.
Some seasons demand more atwork, while others demand more
at home.
The key is not about balance.
It's 50-50.
It's about integration.
The goal is to lead wellwithout sacrificing yourself in
the process.
When we sacrifice ourself inthe process, that's when we burn
(01:08):
out and that's when we feellike we're losing.
On today's episode, we're goingto dig into how you can
integrate your work and life ina way that protects what matters
most.
We'll talk about how to groundyourself in your values, set
non-negotiables that act asanchors, establish boundaries as
(01:30):
a leadership skill, and usepractical integration practices
to lead with clarity andconfidence.
So let's get into it.
How do you lead without losingyourself it?
(01:51):
How do you lead without losingyourself?
Now, I mentioned that I don'tbelieve in work-life balance.
I don't believe in the 50-50.
It could be just because I'venever experienced it in my life,
but balance suggests it's 50-50, like an equal distribution,
and I don't see that as beingrealistic.
Now some people may say youknow, my balance is not 50-50,
(02:14):
it's 60-40,.
Whatever that looks like, Ijust choose to call it more of
an integration, because I feellike integration acknowledges
shifting seasons.
For example, when I'm talkingabout seasons, you may have a
busy quarter at work.
It doesn't mean that yourfamily disappears.
(02:36):
It means that you getintentional about how you show
up.
But for the most part, you maybe showing up more at work.
I have it in my business.
I have seasons where work picksup, you know, to a point where
I have to.
I get to, I'm changing the wayI speak, I get to spend time
(03:03):
doing what I like doing at work,which means that I have to be
more intentional about how Ishow up in my personal life,
with my family, with my friendsand definitely with my faith.
So one of the first things youwant to do to get to this
integration, this place ofintegration.
(03:27):
Get clear on your values, andthis you want to do, no matter
what.
Get crystal clear on yourvalues, because your values are
the foundation.
This is what is going to guideyou and direct you.
This is what is going to helpyou determine if you should be
saying yes or if you should besaying no.
(03:47):
Get crystal clear, and anexample could be I mentioned
faith.
My faith is important to me.
My family is important to me.
My health is important to me.
I would encourage you to writedown your top three values.
Write them down.
I would encourage you to writedown your top three values.
Write them down, like if I saidmine was you know, faith,
(04:10):
family, health, right?
If that's true, I have to askmyself am I leading in alignment
with these Meaning?
Am I holding space for thesethings in my life?
That's time and energy.
Am I leading in alignment?
(04:32):
And I can tell you.
It's easy to say, oh yeah, youknow, but when you really go
back and look at it, you mayfind that the answer is no,
because what happens is is you?
You start to skip If I say thatI'm going to dedicate the first
30 minutes of the day toreading scripture or my
(04:55):
spiritual time and you skip aday, and you skip a day, and you
skip a day and before you knowit, you've literally skipped a
week.
So you have to be reallyintentional about holding space
for the things that you say areyour values.
They are your foundations, andhere's a couple of ways that you
(05:16):
do this, because just saying itand writing them down isn't
enough.
You have to have things inplace that's going to help you
to make sure you are protectingwhat's important.
After you write down yourvalues, you're going to define
your non-negotiables.
Your non-negotiables are kindof like guardrails that protect
(05:38):
your values.
We're going to keep gettingmore, deeper and deeper, right.
So originally I said faith,family health, let's say, for
instance, with my familyspecifically, family dinner may
be a non-negotiable.
(05:59):
I am going to have a sit downdinner with my family three
times a week, and the reason whyI use three times a week that's
something that I've used before, when my kids were in high
school and they play sports.
We couldn't sit and have a mealevery day because we had a lot
going on between practice andgames and you know and things
(06:22):
like that, but at least threetimes a week I said that we
needed to sit down together as afamily and eat.
That's a non-negotiable.
And be descriptive, not justfamily dinner.
How many times a week are yougoing to sit down for a family
dinner?
If it's exercise, how manytimes a week are you going to
(06:44):
exercise?
If it's spiritual time, howmany times a week and how long
are you going to do spiritualtime If it's daily, 30 minutes a
day when you first wake up?
That's what you need to writedown.
You have to be descriptive andspecific about what it is that
is your non-negotiable.
If you sit in a gray area whenit comes to your non-negotiables
(07:06):
, then you're not going toachieve them.
If you say family dinner andyou're not saying how many days
a week you want family dinner,then it may not happen.
Be really specific about whatit is with your non-negotiable
After you create yournon-negotiable, because your
non-negotiables are the thingsthat's going to anchor you in
(07:29):
busy seasons.
Let me just say this In thoseseasons where you have to do
extra work, take on moreprojects, or it could be a
matter of you're in a season ofgrowth, you're at a certain
level in leadership and you aretrying to grow to the next level
, and then it may require you totake a class.
(07:51):
Take on additional projects,whatever that looks like.
Take a class, take onadditional projects, whatever
that looks like In that season.
You need something that isgoing to anchor you so that you
don't go too far to one side orthe other, and that is going to
be your non-negotiables.
Once you have yournon-negotiables so we've
established our values top threevalues Now we have our
(08:13):
non-negotiables that are ourguardrails, that are protecting
our values.
The next thing you want to do isset boundaries, and boundaries
is a leadership skill.
This is sometimes, when we talkabout boundaries, some people
look at it as a bad thing, but Iactually think it's a great
thing.
This is the thing that helpsprotect our priorities, and not
(08:33):
only that, it helps everybodyknow where you are.
This is a great way to keepeveryone in alignment.
And, just as another side note,you wanna make sure that you
are modeling these behaviors,because we want our team to
model these behaviors andanybody else that looks up to us
(08:56):
.
So it could be your kids, itcould be people that you're
mentoring.
You want to make sure thatyou're demonstrating these.
So, for instance, for me, I'mgoing to give you some real ones
.
Family was and still is a value,one of my top three values and
for family dinners, when I usedto do the family dinners, where
(09:19):
it was three times a week, oneof the things that I set in
place as a boundary was noemails after a set time, because
that is dinner time.
Another thing that I set inplace that we had a device-free
zone.
So you know, one of those zoneswas no phones at the dinner
table.
We were not allowed to have ourphone because that defeated the
(09:45):
purpose for me.
So this was a time that I wasable to sit down with my kids
and have dinner and have realconversations.
Make sure that you haveboundaries.
Another thing is protecting yourprayer time.
For me, protecting my prayertime, my prayer time is first
(10:06):
thing in the morning.
That's what I do first thingwhen I wake up.
I set aside that time.
I wake up at a certain time sothat I know I have enough time
set aside to do what it is thatI want to do first thing in the
morning and making sure that Ihave things in place.
(10:28):
So I have listen.
You have to do it worse.
I have things set up on myphone where I can't access
certain apps before a certaintime, because part of my time is
in the Bible and part of it ison a daily Bible app that I have
(10:50):
, bible app that I have.
So I have to make sure that I'mnot going off into Instagram,
linkedin, having those things inplace where, if I click on it,
it tells me, you know, it's nottime for me to access the app.
It has been really helpful.
Think about the things that youneed to put in place in terms of
(11:11):
boundaries.
That is going to help you toprotect those non-negotiables,
because those are yourpriorities.
Think about what it is that youwant to do.
Think about what that lookslike for you, because this is
extremely important.
We talked about identifyingwhat those values are, setting
(11:33):
those non-negotiables to protectthose values, and then the
other thing is having boundariesin place that are going to help
you stay in alignment orprotect your non-negotiables.
Okay, the last thing I want tomention is some integration
practices and tips that you maywant to lean into.
The first thing is seasonalawareness understanding what
(11:57):
season you're in.
Ask yourself, what season am Iin?
Because if you already have anidea of what season you're in,
you know that you're going tohave to be more intentional and
more diligent than maybe inother seasons.
If I know that the beginning ofthe year is an extremely busy
time of year for me, then I knowthat I have to be on top of
(12:22):
things.
I need to make sure I amdiligent about making sure that
I'm protecting the things that Ineed to protect in my life.
The other thing is use yourcalendar like calendar alignment
.
I've gotten so much better andI'm pretty good at setting aside
a time on my calendar my faithtime.
(12:43):
I don't have to do that.
That's first thing in themorning, but I've identified
what days of the week that Iwant to do my walking, because I
don't walk every single day.
So the days of the week that Ido my walking, I have my
calendar set up where I don'ttake calls before a certain time
, just making sure that you dowhatever it is that you could do
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in order to stay in alignment.
And if you don't have a lot offlexibility with your calendar,
you have a lot of flexibilitywith the time that you wake up.
Flexibility with your calendaryou have a lot of flexibility
with the time that you wake up.
If I know I have an earlymeeting that I cannot move.
Then I just wake up earlier andI push everything up.
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The other thing is energymanagement.
This is really beneficial.
When you understand the timesof the day, the times of the
month, like that your energy ishigh, like for me, I know my
energy is high in the morning.
That helps me determine how Ischedule my day.
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There are certain tasks that Ischedule in the morning because
I'm more alert.
You know what I mean.
But there's also certain thingsthat drain my energy and I know
after I do those things I'mgoing to experience is a lot of
calls.
Then I know by the end of theday I need something that
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doesn't take a lot of energy,because I just don't have it.
I have to be really mindfulabout what I schedule after
those calls and I like to bundlemy calls because, like I said,
I get drained, so I like to getthem all done and then at the
end of the day I schedulesomething that doesn't require
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as much, or something that givesme energy.
That I find gives me energy indoing.
Another tip delegation andsupport, and this is not just
from a leadership perspective atwork.
This is period, period, right?
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So making sure that, first ofall, you're not trying to carry
everything yourself.
If it's something that yourteam should be doing, then make
sure that you are delegating itas appropriate.
But the same applies at home.
If you are at home and you havekids and other people living
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with you, are there things thatcan be delegated?
Are there things that they canpick up, especially in those
seasons where you have a lotgoing on, those seasons where
you have a lot going on?
The last thing I want to say andthis is extremely important and
I've mentioned this before ismicro moments of presence,
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making sure that you are present.
Even 15 minutes of fullpresence can shift everything.
I remember when I reallystarted doing this with my kids,
because I felt bad in thoseseasons where I wasn't able to
spend a lot of time.
But the reality of it is isthat I realized there were
sometimes that me and my kidswould spend an hour together but
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I wasn't really present andsometimes they weren't really
present.
But making sure that you havethose micro moments of presence
and this could be sitting downand having a 15 minute
conversation where you both arepresent and this has done
wonders for my relationships.
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I have family members that Icall and we can talk 10, 15
minutes and catch up and we'regood to go, but it's the biggest
thing is that I was present.
They were present.
We were fully present in thatmoment, making sure that you
have those micro moments ofpresence.
There's a book and it's calledthe one minute manager, and I
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kind of think about that from awork perspective because it
talks about how you go throughand you do these, these touch
points and these praises withyour, with your team.
It doesn't require two hours ofmeeting, it doesn't require as
much time as we think itrequires, but it does require
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that you take the initiative andthat you are fully present in
that moment when you're having aconversation with whoever it is
that you're having aconversation with.
So those are the integrationpractices and tips that I wanted
to share with you.
But just keep in mind, you don'tnecessarily have to achieve
balance.
It's okay if you don't achievebalance.
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Make sure that you have definedyour values, you have set your
non-negotiables and you haveyour boundaries in place to
protect everything, and you haveyour boundaries in place to
protect everything.
Once you do that, I feel likeyou're going to feel so much
better because you know that youhave spent time with the people
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that are important in your lifeand you've done the important
things at work.
And just understanding thatsometimes there's going to be
times where you're going todedicate more time to work and
there's going to be some timeswhere you have to lean more to
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personal, to yourself, and don'tfeel guilty about that either.
Just understand that there'sgoing to be some seasons where
it'll go back and forth andit'll balance itself out in the
end.
But make sure that along the way, you are dedicating time to the
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things that you need to bededicating time to and making
sure that you do not loseyourself, regardless of what
season you are in.
So, once you set those values,choose your top three
non-negotiables and share onewith either a team or a family
member either with your team ora family member and just keep in
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mind that work-life integrationisn't about perfection.
Isn't about perfection.
It's about clarity.
It's about accomplishing whatyou need to accomplish in the
season that you need toaccomplish it in, and leading
without sacrificing yourpersonal life means knowing your
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values, protecting them withnon-negotiables and honoring the
season that you're in.
All right, that is it, and ifyou need any help or you want
some one-on-one coaching, Iencourage you to check out the
Leadership Shift that issignalpartnerscom.
Slash the Leadership Shift.
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This is a one-on-one coachingexperience where I meet you
where you are and we meet forsix weeks.
I provide you with the toolsthat I have, but also with
strategies and techniques tohelp to get you where it is that
you want to go as a leader.
I thank you for joining me,because I know that there are
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many podcasts out there, and ifyou got any value from this
podcast, please remember to giveus a five-star rating and share
it with another leader and thenalso send me a message.
You can send me a text messageif there's something that you
want me to talk about that Ihave not shared yet, and also I
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have the Ask Me Anything episodenot shared yet, and also I have
the ask me anything episode, soif you have a leadership
question, you can shoot thatover and I may answer it on a
future podcast.
Talk to you soon.
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