July 23, 2025 • 55 mins
We’re talking about what separates basic relationship stuff from true effort. It all kicks off with a story about football tickets gone wrong, and turns into a deeper convo about expectations, emotional support, and everyday relationship habits.
We play a quick game where we call out the difference between “bare minimum” and what we’d call king or queen treatment—and let’s just say we don’t always agree.
Plus, we weigh in on two stories that had us shook. One’s about setting boundaries with family, and the other takes a wild turn at a swingers club.
It’s one of those episodes that’s honest, funny, and probably a little too relatable.
Thanks for rocking with us! Don’t forget to follow Life After I Do so you never miss an episode. Got a relationship situation you want us to weigh in on? Hit us at https://linktr.ee/lifeafteridopodcast — we just might talk about it in a future episode.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I was so excited to do something nice for him, had
this whole thing planned outtickets to see his favorite
football game and he completelyand utterly ruined it because
he's like I don't want to seethem play the Raiders, I don't
want to go to.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Oakland.
I didn't want to go to Oaklandand I was like it was a freaking
gift.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
It was supposed to be a surprise it was a weekend
away together and all you didwas shit on my surprise.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
And I've never done it again.
Here's the thing I didn't shareyour surprise.
You absolutely shit it on mysurprise.
Going back to my last question,I was protecting you okay, no,
we're not doing what it's likeyou're not gonna do that.
You don't know what it's liketo be at a football game in
oakland.
We were not I know.
That's why I wanted to go toexperience it no, you experience
a football, football game inOakland if you're cheering for
(00:46):
the Oakland team, not if you'reon the opposing team.
No, you don't do that.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Hey everyone and welcome back to another episode
of the Life After I Do podcast.
You're going to be hanging outwith Bois, okay, when he's done,
not you trying to like put alittle woo woo on there?
Ooh, yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Ooh, yeah, okay, jojo , had me saying.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Okay, anyway, you're gonna be kicking it with Mo
Lethal and Nisha G.
For the next hour or so On theLife After I Do podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I really want to meet you girl.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Your favorite place to be on a.
Wednesday I really want to knowyour name.
Oh gosh, when he's done, Iguess, come and talk to me.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I really want to meet you girl.
I really want to know your name.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Okay, sorry, are you done?
Where's the button?
I'm done.
Where's the button?
I'm not hitting it.
No, hit the button.
Are you done?
I'm not?
Are you done?
I'm not?
Speaker 2 (02:12):
You know why I'm not done?
Why?
Because you look so sexy.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
You really turn me on Blows my mind every time I see
your face, my mind every time Isee your face, break it down.
You look so sexy.
You really turn me up.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Okay, that's enough.
Are you done?
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Really, and then you wrote me into the mess.
Hey, booskies, hi.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
How you doing.
I'm good how you feeling.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
You look good.
Thank you, thought I'd dosomething a little different.
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
This is why I said being married to a black woman
is like being married to 12different women, because you
never know who's going to stepout the room.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
You don't know who you might get.
You know, thought, I'd give youa little curl action today.
Spice it up, spice up your life.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Oh, no, no, we're not doing Spice Girls.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Oh, I'm happy that you realized that's what I was
about to say.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
You started with spice up your life.
Oh, it started off very scary.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Did it there yeah it did Well.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Hey, Boosie, how was your week?
Did you call me Boosie?
I said Boosie.
You said hey, Boosie, how wasyour week?
He said hey, Boosie, my weekwas good.
My week was good Did you wipeyourself down.
I always do.
It's on my playlist.
I wipe me down.
Yeah, it's on my playlist.
Yeah, I mean it was.
Yes, it was a good week.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Are you sure?
I did not realize that I had ahater in my corner.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Who's a hater?
I'm not going to point elbows.
Oh, okay, so I'm the hater.
I didn't know.
I didn't know I had somebodywho was plotting on my downfall.
So, aside from finding out thatmy husband has been plotting
against, against me, plottingfor my downfall, you know it was
a great week.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Go ahead, Go ahead and it was a good go ahead and
tell the people your lies.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
It wasn't lies.
I'm just trying to figure outif you're supposed to spot me to
help prevent me from hurtingmyself.
I'm not sure how I hurt myself.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
And you were standing right there.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
And your only response to me was oh well, it
looked like you had it.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Okay, you hurt yourself because I didn't want
to stop your rep, because onearm was locked out.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
The rep was done.
No, it was not, and it wasalready racking.
No, it was not, and you weresupposed to grab the bar and
continue racking.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
And see, the thing is , had you known, had you been an
experienced lifter, you wouldhave just slowly set it on your
chest, instead of trying to.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Why would I do that?
First of all, I finished therep.
Okay, you were supposed to.
You're supposed to be therealso to help me.
When I look back at the footage, how is it that you helped to
unrack and re-rack other othersets, but that one particular
one?
You looked at me like nah, Ithink I'll let you hang.
I didn't feel like you lockedit out.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
I was like I'm not giving a great for you.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
It's crazy work because it's on film, but okay,
it's fine.
Um, I couldn't lift my rightarm today and doing my upper
body, but I managed to pullthrough and my my mental
strength helped me to pushthrough.
Um, you know, but I mean otherthan that, I'm good.
I was still able to crank outmy workout today, so it was good
(05:26):
.
How was your week Really?
How was your week?
Speaker 2 (05:31):
I guess I had a week of plotting against my wife.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
So how did that start ?
Like, were you making notes ofit, like how you were going to
plan on doing it.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
I think it must have just hit me in the moment.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
You thought of something and it was like I know
how to get that bitch back.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
I said today's the day.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Today's the day.
And you said in your headgotcha bitch.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
I would never call you that in my head.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Well, it's the only place you can call me it.
You sure I'm positive.
Wait until we stop recording.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
You sure?
Speaker 1 (06:01):
I'm positive.
Okay, wait till we startrecording.
Okay, bye.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I don't want to hear that.
They hear me say it.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Okay, goodbye, demel, how was your week?
Speaker 2 (06:11):
It was cool, I guess.
Okay, dog stressing me outOutside of that.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
The dog keeps tearing up All the damn water
sprinklers.
Outside of that, I'm doingpretty good, okay, this is what
I don't understand, though.
You went to Lowe's right andyou bought the replacements.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
I bought the solenoid Right, okay, and I did fix
everything, whatever, I don'tknow what the hell a solenoid is
.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
You bought the replacement piece that you
needed.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
I bought three of them.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Okay, you bought three of them because she
destroyed three of them andshe's killed she's killed half
of my grass in the backyard.
So you, you bought them andyou're what you told me was.
I'm gonna buy these, I'm gonnareplace these and I'm gonna
build something around it sothat she can't hold on.
I wasn't dead so she can't getto them.
(06:58):
My response was you probablyshouldn't change them until you
build said fence that you'rethinking about building to
prevent her from doing the samething, if you're not gonna
segregate her to a section ofthe backyard so that she can't
get to them.
But that would have beenlogical and we all know how that
goes are you?
done?
No, I'm not, he replaced them.
Okay, if you push the number,pinch you.
(07:20):
He replaced the solenoids orwhatever.
I don't know.
That's not my outside of the,it's not my job.
He replaced them and thenproceeds to put the dog back in
the backyard, not separated Ihad them covered what'd you
cover them with?
I come with the tart, mauricegill she pulled the tarp out
(07:41):
Maurice Gill.
She's already like damn near 60pounds.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Yeah, and she's a puppy and she's very hyper
energy Did you really think atarp, okay, that's fine, that's
what we got today.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
No, I want to finish here in your week.
I'm just saying my week is done.
I'm just saying Done.
I just wanted to put that outthere.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
The dog is stressing me out.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Now I'm stressing you out.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
My wife is stressing me out.
She refused to cook me dinnertoday.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Really.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Refused After I worked all day.
Oh my gosh.
Refused.
She said I can't, I can't, Iain't got to do my hair.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Wow, damel, that is really not what happened.
So tell me what happened.
You called home and said I'm inthe mood for burgers.
I said okay, that's great.
You proceeded to say I thinkI'm going to stop and pick up
some beef patties.
I said Ooh, those sound good.
You said we still have ketobuns.
I said okay.
(08:36):
Then you thought about it andsaid oh dang, I don't think I
have calories for beef patties.
What about turkey patties?
And I was like, okay, but themeat is frozen.
Mind you, this conversationtook place at like a quarter to
seven.
Okay, yeah, a quarter to seven.
The meat is in the freezer,frozen, sir, uh-huh.
(08:56):
And then you're like what aboutthe turkey patties?
I said I can, I can take outthe meat right now.
You're gonna have your pattiesabout 9, 9, 30, but I can take
it out right now, yeah, becausethat sound good and then, after
that, you proceeded to say howyou wanted a mcflurry and then
after that you wanted oreos.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
And then after that, you all right, you're right, I'm
wrong.
But you said you make me aburger.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
I didn't get a burger that's all the meat just thawed
out so I didn't get a burgeryou didn't get a burger because
you asked for a turkey burger aquarter to 7 pm before he was
due to be home.
Before he was due to be home.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
What we got today, we're done Now we're done when I
speak logic we're done.
I have been working nonstoparound the clock for this family
.
You really should stop.
You really.
I get you really should stop.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
What do I get in return?
You really should stop.
You really should stop.
What do I get in return?
What do you get in return, babe, nothing.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Nothing but more expectations.
Oh, my dad's going to do thisfor me.
Oh, my husband's going to takecare of this, but daddy's going
to take me here and no one takescare of dad.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
No one takes care of dad.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Wow, the fact that she called me with a whole
itinerary of what she expects meto do for her tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Well, that's because you wrote on the family calendar
Family Fun Day.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Who said we got to go somewhere for Family Fun Day?
Speaker 1 (10:19):
We got to have fun at home.
She knows that she eats at herfavorite restaurant once a week.
That's already a given.
She's just letting you knowwhat she would prefer to do on
Family Fun Day.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
We're not doing nothing because I don't feel
appreciated around here today.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
All this could have been avoided if I would have
just got my goddamn hamburger.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Okay, I mean, you can still get the hamburger.
I can make the burger.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
It's too late now.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
No one ever does anything for dad.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
I had to eat some cold cuts.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
I guess I'll have to just take what I had on the menu
for later off too, because noone ever does anything for you.
Don't take that off, that mightsave the day.
No, no, no, because now you'veput me in a sour you played
yourself, played myself Look atyou.
Played yourself.
Let me rub your leg and get youback in the mood.
(11:06):
No, no, no Girl, don't betrying to rub on me.
No, you got a new foundation.
No, no.
Is that new blush?
Really Get the hell out of here.
Is that new blush?
What's the difference with youreyeshadow?
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Mm-hmm, oh yeah, oh, your lip is popping.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Uh-huh, stop rubbing on me, goodbye.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
I got to get back in your good graces.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Mm-hmm, yeah, good try, though Good try.
So so what?
You're so cute?
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Oh cool.
First of all, monkeys are cute.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
And you're cute, so Wow.
Darn I do Damn, my statementstill stands.
Damn, my statement still stands.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Damn still stands.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Damn, my statement still stands anyway.
Uh, babe, king treatment orbare minimum?
That is the question for youtoday.
Okay, so I'm gonna ask you somethings and I want you to let me
know if that is me giving youking treatment or don't ask me
stuff you ain't never did is itthe bare minimum?
(12:04):
Okay, let's get to it.
Okay, and then you can ask meone princess treatment, nah
let's just focus on me.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
I like that.
Let me feel appreciated.
Let's focus on me.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Let's just focus on me, so is this gonna be an
opportunity for you to give menotes and feedback?
Okay?
Speaker 2 (12:20):
take your time.
What's the rush?
Okay, baby, I Take your time.
What's the rush?
Okay, baby, I'm a dog.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
I'm a mutt, maurice.
What?
Stop Take care, okay, mecooking your favorite meal
without asking Is that kingtreatment or bare minimum?
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Bare minimum.
Think about it Bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Bare minimum why?
Speaker 2 (12:39):
I'm going to have to ask you why?
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Because I still have to ask you all this and you
should be like you know what?
I didn't do nothing special forhim.
Let me cook something.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
I know he going to like.
You want to know what I have onthe menu for you.
That's coming up.
What's that?
Is it red beans and rice?
Red beans and rice, because Ireally want some red beans and
rice.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
I don't know why you said it today over the phone.
He mentioned and I immediatelyput a note in my phone and I was
like I am making my husband redbeans and rice because that's
what he wants.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
You can't make it how I want it though.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Okay, see and see, then he does shit like this.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
But you can't make it how I want it.
Let me tell you why.
Now it's off the table.
Let me tell you why I say thatbefore you cut me off Because
the way I want it is the way Iwas going to make it.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
I want it with the ham bone.
That's the way I was going tomake it.
Either we make it the right wayor we don't make it at all.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
I want to eat it with cornbread.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
I was going to make it with blueberry cornbread,
though.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
See, here we go.
I like it you take stuff thatwork and always got to throw
something in there.
I like blueberry cornbread so,and this is why people say what?
Speaker 1 (13:49):
you got a little caucasian in you, okay, okay,
stop it stop you've beenwatching josh's mama too much
okay, absolutely, absolutely notabsolutely, not, absolutely.
Not, by the way, I love theircontent, but josh's mama, ok,
side note.
So he had recorded a video whenthey went to the beach, a day
at the beach, and all the snacksthat mama packed.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Oh Lord.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Maurice, hot dogs like from the pack, and then she
put ketchup in there, sothey've been marinating in
ketchup, ok.
Then she ate raviolis from thecan.
Just crack the can open, atethe raviolis from the can.
Just cracked the can open, atethe raviolis.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Then she ate potted meat from the can with some Ritz
crackers.
I don't want to hear no more.
This is bad.
I said how is she eating?
The sodium content on all ofthat, let me ask you a question.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
I thought we was focusing on you, no you know
I'll do that.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
You know that's not the type of man I am A good bot,
except never mind Except for inthe bedroom.
Yeah, I'll be tired, oh.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Wow, I just want you guys.
You just got a glimpse into mylife.
You hear what he said I'll betired.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Don't act like I don't reciprocate.
We're not going to do thatBecause I will get played by
place.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
I'm just saying.
I mean, you know, there's asuch thing as three play.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
Okay, you know what.
This has been another episode.
Okay so is this bare minimum?
Or princess treatment?
Queen treatment you a queen.
Thank you when I put gas inyour car.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Oh, that's bare minimum, that is bare.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
I'm sorry, that's bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
Because you don't feel safe at the gas station.
Statistics show no, I feel likethat's bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Oh, that is bare minimum, it is.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
I feel like pumping, getting my gas falls in line
with opening the car door for me.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Because you feel like you know what, I'm going to
agree with that, because youshouldn't be pumping anything.
I should be the one doing thepumping High five.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
I agree with you, high five.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
I'm talking about sexual.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
I know, high five, I'm not high fiving.
Yes, that's bare minimum Okay.
Yeah Is it.
It is Damn.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
I better stop doing it then.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
Goodbye, let me see Waking up early to pack your
lunch.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Bare minimum or king true, bare minimum, because you
don't do it.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
I feel like.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
I'm.
You don't wake up early to packmy lunch.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
You wake up when you want to get up and pack my lunch
.
Oh, I mean no, your lunch ispacked by the time you're ready
to go though, yeah, but there'sno reason for me to get up extra
early.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
Look not to pack your lunch, but I get up early to
make you breakfast Before Ichanged my shift, when I was
going in earlier, you wouldliterally pack my lunch the
night before oh, absolutely.
And you would tell me don'twake me up.
You would make me overnightoats.
You said here's your breakfast,don't wake when.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I knew I did not want to get up the next morning.
I prepared everything at night.
But what's important Is thatyou did it.
No, what's important is that youhad breakfast and lunch.
Okay, he don't eat dinnerbecause when he works late he
don't like eat late.
So when we eat dinner it's justleftovers and then I'll pack
him some for, like, the next day.
But what's important is that Imake sure that he leaves this
(17:02):
house in the morning withsomething on his belly and that
he has something to put in hisbelly while he is at work.
Okay, that's what's important.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Okay, you just.
That's what's important.
This is the episode.
You just want to try to beatyourself up Is it?
Speaker 1 (17:15):
is it true or not true?
It's true, Okay.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
That's all I want to know.
It's my turn right um.
Is it bare minimum?
Speaker 1 (17:30):
or is it queen treatment when I run errands
while complaining bare?
minimum, that's bare minimum Iknow some people might be like
no, that's queen.
No, that is bare minimum.
Why do you need to complainabout running errands?
The question is why am Irunning errands is bare minimum.
Why do you need to complainabout running errands?
The question is, why am Irunning errands?
Because sometimes you mighthave to run errands and when you
do them I kind of expect themto be done without you
(17:51):
complaining.
Like, why complain?
Especially if you're doingsomething for the house?
Why?
Speaker 2 (17:55):
complain about it.
I work for the house.
I do too.
I go to work.
Good damn bye I make sure thehouse is in good financial
standing.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
And that also includes having to run errands.
Sometimes it also includesdoing dishes on the weekend.
Let me tell you right now.
We appreciate all of yourdouble duties.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
sometimes I only consume of things I want to do
working because I have to, andsleeping.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
If only it were that simple.
That sounds good, right, thatsounds really good.
I would love that for you.
I'm working hard for that foryou.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Really.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Yeah, giving you uninterrupted gaming time.
You bet not say it, because Iknow what you're going to say.
Giving you uninterrupted gamingtime, is that king treatment,
or?
Speaker 2 (18:43):
bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
I knew you were going to say it.
I knew you were going to say it.
I knew you were going to saythat.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Because I'm a gamer.
When I game, which is not oftenanymore, I game often.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
I just no, I'm just saying I don't game often.
So, since you don't game, oftenthe time that you do game, you
expect it to be uninterrupted,abso-freaking-lutely.
Why do I feel like most ofthese are going to be bare
minimum?
Speaker 2 (19:06):
for the both of us, bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
I kind of feel like we put the fresh on each other.
Now you gotta tell me, is itbare minimum?
Speaker 2 (19:11):
or is it queen treatment, mm-hmm, when I
protect your peace by handlingconflict, scheduling or just any
drama in your life?
Speaker 1 (19:28):
That's bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Okay, I want to say yes, that's bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Okay, and the reason I'm going to say that is because
I feel like that is somethingthat a form of protection a form
of protection, and it'ssomething that we, like, can
offer each other but you don't,let me protect you though I do.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
Let you protect me, because my see, part of this is
like the, the, the, the conflictand the drama.
I come to you personally first.
Hey, you might want to tellthem this, especially when it
concerns your family.
I try not to say nothingdirectly to your family because
you know how, when I say it,it's gonna be it just comes off
a little bit more.
Speaker 1 (19:59):
It's a little abrasive, yeah a little rough.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
It's a little rough when I say it because, it's a
little rough, you know, becauseyou, when you're gonna say, when
you're gonna get your familyback news, you package it.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Well, oh, you know, we, we love you, we try, we, we
really this is just isn'tworking what's funny is how
you're saying that is that I hadco-workers who would tell me
that it's just like when youwrite me up, it's just right it
doesn't feel like you know yourwhat your action is just doesn't
work with our dynamic no,that's not how you do it.
You oreo them wow, whereas I'llbe like, look here, pimp, this
(20:33):
ain't working, you gotta go okaybut see, and that's that's
where the balance comes in atthere, I feel like you know,
life needs a little bit of both.
That's why okay um, let's seelittle bit of both.
That's why, okay, um, let's seebooking your doctor's
appointments and your dentistappointments.
Is that king treatment, orthink about it, think about
(20:55):
think about it, that's it's whatthat's funny, because I don't
do that you don't know so Iwould think that would be
treatment for you slipping.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
No, first of all, you don't do it because you know
you don't know where I want togo that's true too.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
I'm very I'm very particular about when I go like,
and also it's like because Idon't yeah, you're particular
when you go and sometimes Idon't know what your schedule is
going to look like, especiallypast thursday, just like today,
with the whole dog and I'm like,okay, if I don't get this right
, I could potentially end uptaking her by myself and I would
prefer to have you there.
I was like, let me talk to myhusband and then that dog's the
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only, I'm the only person thatdog will listen to no, you're
not the only person that shelistens to, but I would just
prefer for you to like pick herup and put her in the car.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
I like that dog in the depth of her soul and say if
you don't sit your.
I treat her like a black child.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
That's the problem.
She has a dog's brain.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
She acts like a child when she's around me.
I tell her to sit her ass down.
She sits her ass down.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
Okay, go ahead.
So you think that's bareminimum?
Yeah, bare minimum.
So you want me?
To start scheduling yourdoctor's appointments.
No, you don't have to, okay,but you just said it's bare
minimum.
So that kind of insinuates.
That's something you want me todo.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
No I really don't.
I don't like going to thedoctor, so okay, so then is that
king treatment?
Speaker 1 (22:07):
no, oh my gosh I don't think you understand how
this works, but okay, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
is it bare minimum or queen treatment when I make you
feel safe, soft and have youtake the lead?
Speaker 1 (22:26):
Wait what.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
Is it when I make you feel safe, soft and not have
you take the lead all the time?
Oh, and not make me take thelead, so like when I take
initiative.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
Oh, I think that's.
I feel like Go ahead and say it.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Go ahead and say it Go ahead and say it.
I feel as though that should bethat should go manager here, go
to manager, y'all go to managerhere, go to manager, come on I
feel as though that should beuh-huh, bare minimum, okay.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
Okay, because I'm thinking in the dynamics of
relationship okay, okay, butwe're not.
We're talking about you,however, oh for oh, for me
personally, yeah, for mepersonally, that's bare minimum,
okay, yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
And that's where we have an impasse, because my wife
doesn't care if I work 20 hoursor 70.
That's not true.
I have to take initiative.
Yeah, even when I'm walking inoff a 13-hour shift.
Well, you didn't make no moves.
I thought you was.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
I do not expect the world of you after working 13
hours.
Stop, not the world, just halfof Saturn.
Okay, me surprising you withtickets to your favorite event.
Is that King Treatment?
Speaker 2 (23:42):
or Bearment.
That's King Treatment.
Yeah, I said yeah because,first of all, my first question
was like where do you get thismoney from?
Speaker 1 (23:47):
Yeah, see, and that's why, after the first time I did
that, I never did it again,because I was so excited to do
something nice for him, had thiswhole thing planned out tickets
to see his favorite footballgame and he completely and
utterly ruined it because he'slike I don't want to see them
play the Raiders, I don't wantto go to Oakland, I don't want
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to go to Oakland.
And I was like it was afreaking gift, it was supposed
to be a surprise.
It was a weekend away togetherand all you did was shit on my
surprise.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
And.
Speaker 1 (24:18):
I've never done it again.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
Here's the thing I didn't shit on your surprise.
You absolutely shitted on mysurprise.
Going back to my last question,I was protecting you.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
Okay, no, we're not doing.
You don't know what it's like.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
We are not gonna do that you don't know what it's
like To be at a football game inOakland.
We were not.
I know that's why.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
I wanted to go To experience it.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
No, no, you experience a football game in
Oakland If you're cheering forthe Oakland team, not if you're
on the opposing team.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
No, you don't do that .
No, no, no he was like there'sno way in hell.
We're going to Oakland.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
No, now you just said San Fran, shit Arizona.
Yeah, we could have wentOakland.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Nah, he was like, yeah, you can go ahead and get
rid of the tickets.
He was like I'm not going toOakland.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
I Not going to do that again.
I'm really invested in thisquestion.
Okay, okay, now is it bareminimum or queen treatment when
I handle all the heavy lifting,both literally?
Speaker 1 (25:16):
and emotionally.
Literally and emotionally.
Let's start with literallyfirst.
Okay, is that?
Speaker 2 (25:24):
princess or queen treatment or bare minimum.
It's bare minimum, but youdeadlift four and a pound.
It does not matter, but you candeadlift four and a pound.
Speaker 1 (25:31):
That does not.
Why am I lifting?
Speaker 2 (25:32):
everything.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
That does not matter, because, for one, my muscles
are sore too.
For one, like I continuouslytell you, gym strength does not
translate to real world strength.
Okay, when he continuously asksme why I cannot bring up my
laundry basket upstairs, it'sbecause it's heavy.
Okay, household lifting isheavy.
(25:53):
It's a different mindset.
When I'm in the gym and I'mdead lifting weight, it's a
completely different mindset.
When I have to get groceriesand get groceries from Sam's
Club and take the things out ofthe car, it's a completely
different mindset.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Therefore, the weight feels different and it feels
heavier.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
It doesn't translate, so therefore I need you.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
You're stronger.
What about emotionally?
Speaker 1 (26:13):
It don't matter.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Ask your question.
Speaker 1 (26:19):
Okay, I'm just asking my question.
No, ask the question.
What was the question again?
Speaker 2 (26:25):
Is it bare minimum or queen treatment when I handle
all the heavy liftingemotionally?
Speaker 1 (26:33):
I feel like that's probably queen treatment.
I was going to ask you when doI do it?
That's why I said it's probablyqueen treatment.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
I do it from time to time.
When I look at her I'm likedamn, my baby, she down bad,
fuck you.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
Maurice, she down bad .
What did you say when we wereon the way to the gym last time
and we both didn't realize wewere like down bad.
And you're like babe, I'm notdoing good mentally today.
And I was like that's funnybecause I literally just had the
same thought.
He said, damn damn, we playedourselves.
(27:12):
He said, fuck, we down bad,damn bad, we both down real bad
I said how how are we gonna, howare we gonna support each other
if we both down here?
That's why we were going to thegym.
That helped.
It helps um.
Let's see uhering you a backrub after work.
King treatment or bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
It should be bare minimum, bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
I don't think I've gotten a king treatment yet.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
It should be bare minimum, because I have to ask,
I have to lay next to you andtoot my back next close Babe.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
Are you the wife in this situation?
You got to toot next to me ifyou massage me first.
He puts his butt, his butt, hiship, right up against me and
he's like so like, can you rubmy hip?
Speaker 2 (27:54):
so if y'all don't know like I had, I had the
motorcycle accident yeah, butwhat's like two years?
Ago, but I had this spot fromwhere I made contact with the
ground.
That is really always sore andI was like I need her to rub
this spot to ease some of thetension.
Oh my gosh, and she'd be asking, like you know what I want.
Bye.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
You know what it is.
I do know what you want, is it?
It's my turn?
Oh sorry, oh see.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
Bare minimum she can't even always trying to take
.
Now is it?
Is it clean treatment or is itbare?
Speaker 1 (28:30):
minimum when I notice your emotional state and adjust
how I approach you, that shouldbe bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
Okay, yeah, that should be bare minimum, I guess
it should.
Speaker 1 (28:38):
It should be bare minimum.
You don't always do that, whichis quite frustrating, okay,
look here, because I and theylike it hold on, let's sit here
for a second dwell in it.
Let's sit here for a second,because we've had this
conversation before.
Okay, like when I'm and whenI'm in one of my moods, and I
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know, you know, I'm in one of mymoods because you kind of like,
like you do you know?
you the opposite.
We've had this conversationbefore where, if he knows that
I'm in like some type of moodwhere I'm really not in a
playful mood, instead of nottrying to be as playful where
it's going to come off asextremely annoying to me or I'm
just going to be like I'm justgoing to be just annoyed or
(29:20):
upset, he he, he piles it onLike he thinks that's the time
for him to like tickle me and hethinks that's the time to like
to love on you.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
Yeah, I'm loving on you, yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
But when I tell you I'm giving you my good vibes, no
, we've had this conversationbut when I tell you how you can
love on me, that will help calmme.
That will you know that I canreceive.
I'm not receiving you beinggoofy, you hitting me, you
smacking me on the butt, youtickling me.
That shit is just going toirritate me because I'm already
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in a heightened, anxious,annoying state.
But when you come to me and belike, oh dang, like my babe, my
babe down bad, and you give me ahug and you give me a kiss, and
then you'd be like I bought youa pack of red vines.
You was down bad.
I took care of you.
Bye, Maurice.
I said what you need the maledeal.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
You didn't even, you didn't even, and I was the fact
that I asked you how you feltevery day.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
When, when?
Really what Since Monday?
Speaker 2 (30:24):
No what since?
Since monday?
No, since monday.
And then, look, you went backand say yes since monday, when
you, when you had your littleinjury on monday, monday.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
On monday, your little injury oh, oh see, and
now you just you see how you,you see how he do me.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
That's because he was plotting, that's because he was
plotting, and when you, uh, uhhow do I say it without you
being mad?
When you went through your timeof the month, I checked on you
what I checked on you, baby,what you need.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
Yeah, you always be like okay, yeah, baby, you good,
you good what you need.
You need some extra time, Okay.
But we're not talking aboutthat.
We're talking about theemotional aspect.
That's emotional, you gobecause you, you all over the
place.
And you know this right.
This has been going on for howlong?
How long we been together?
Speaker 2 (31:09):
And how many?
Speaker 1 (31:09):
decades have you experienced how long we been
locked in?
How many decades have youexperienced this and you still
don't know how to catch the wave.
Speaker 2 (31:19):
Cause I am the wave, I can't catch me.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
I need you to go say some dumb shit.
I need you to go say some dumbshit.
I need you to go say some dumbshit.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
I am the wave.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
Bye, maurice, okay.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
I'm going to catch the wave.
Is it your turn or my turn?
It's your turn.
Okay, catch the wave.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
Let's see Catch the wave.
No, you're going to say bareminimum on that.
I know that.
Let's see, okay, me handlingsomething that you hate doing
Without complaining Bare minimum.
So it's kind of like theerrands thing, huh, yeah bare
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minimum.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
Yeah, we ain't got to talk about that, how about?
How about when I, when I postyou on social media?
Speaker 1 (32:05):
That's bare minimum.
That's bare minimum bareminimum.
Speaker 2 (32:07):
Yeah, of course I don't post it often okay, but
you want to post you more no,you do post me.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Yeah, not a lot, though I don't need you to post
me every day.
Speaker 2 (32:17):
I post you, like I post you like on big, like big
events, anniversaries, birthdays.
Okay, that's it.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
I don't really do all that's, and they know, I'm
married and I hardly ever likethe post, so damn damn.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
You don't like the post about you.
That's paul barton it doesn'tlike I'm not seeking for you to
post me, if you, if you post me,you post me, let's dive into
this.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
It's not if you didn't post me at all.
That would be kind of likedifferent but you do post me so
let's dive into this.
Speaker 2 (32:48):
So what is it about you seeing yourself on my post
that you don't like?
Why do you hate yourself?
Speaker 1 (32:53):
first of all, I don't hate myself.
It's just that sometimes if Icome across it like I'll see,
there has been times where I'llcome across and I'll just like
see it, but then I'll scroll andthen I'll go back and then I'll
like it, but I don't likealways like it initially.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
Why are you delaying your gratification to yourself?
Speaker 1 (33:09):
What are you talking about?
That's not.
What are you talking about?
I'm not.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
Why are you not?
Speaker 1 (33:14):
It's not gratifying for me to see you post me like
that doesn't do, so I'm going tostop posting then I mean you do
what you want your newsfeed.
That's not even okay.
I'm not gonna go ahead andanswer.
I don't know what to tell you.
Like I, I listen.
Like I said, I'm not stressingyou to post me, I do.
I like it when you post me.
Sure would I have a problem ifyou didn't post me at all?
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Probably.
But you post me enough to whereI'm like.
How would you know?
Speaker 2 (33:43):
how would you know?
How would you know?
Speaker 1 (33:46):
I do follow you but you don't like acting, I do.
I like your stuff.
Every time I see your videos, Ilike them okay and I share them
sure whatever.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
Oh yeah, um, let me see, um, yeah, you are gonna say
bare minimum if I say that, notcriticizing you after a failure
bare minimum, because you, youare one of the, you, you have
one of the slickest tongues ofthe west and you think you, and
(34:21):
that's what I'm talking about,that's the problem why are you
trying to make it seem like Ijust be dogging you out?
Speaker 1 (34:27):
I don't like that.
I got one of the slickest tonsin the west.
What does that mean?
Speaker 2 (34:32):
and that's why I gotta be quick with it, because
I gotta, I gotta be ready,because sometimes I don't know.
I keep telling y'all, beingmarried to a black woman, you
don't know who you're gonna get,I don't know what version of
kinesha I'm going to get.
You do.
Sometimes I get the soft,loving and caring most of the
time.
All the time I get the she'sslick with it.
So now I gotta be slick with it.
So now, instead of so now,instead of supporting one
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another, we sitting going.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
We're going back for a dog and one another yeah, but
the only person that walks awaywith their feelings hurt okay
because you try to get slickwith me all, all right, here we
go and then if I feel attackedwe've discussed this in previous
episodes?
Speaker 2 (35:09):
Is it bare minimum or clean treatment when I
prioritize your needs duringintimacy?
Speaker 1 (35:16):
No, it's a bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (35:18):
See, it's a bare minimum.
That's why I gotta get mine,because she gonna get hers.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
I always tell you to get yours, just don't let it
take forever.
I still don't understand that.
What do you mean?
What?
Why don't you understand it?
What do you mean?
So you want?
You want it over quickly.
I mean, now, I don't want itover like super quick, but it
don't need to be like like a 30minute session, why I mean it
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can be if it, if it's like thatnight where we were playing
that's in the background.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
That's that.
Speaker 1 (35:50):
That's something that's something but if we but
yeah, but if we are like, yes,okay, but if we if it's if,
unless it's one of those kind ofnights then yes, like but if
it's one of those kind of nights, then yeah, like let's drag it
out.
But if it's something like we,we need to get to bed's.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
Something like we, we need to get to bed.
You want to leave your life allalone.
You see, if we need to get tobed, can we, can we?
Speaker 1 (36:10):
can we do this, Can we get this done?
Smile and then go to sleep.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
Sometimes sometimes that'd be my intention, and then
I get in there.
Speaker 1 (36:20):
I've been trying to give you the look like.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
I want this to stop.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
You got about 60 more seconds.
Speaker 2 (36:27):
I want this to stop, so I'm going to be like.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
so it's 11 and I'm ready to pull down my eye mask
and, as y'all know from the lastepisode, once my eye mask comes
down, that means I'm out ofservice.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
I've been like this I'm out of service.
Speaker 1 (36:47):
It's a different experience being married to me.
What can I say?
Speaker 2 (36:49):
A lot of times I'm like I wish I could be done this
picture Cause she I say how youdone, you done already.
Speaker 1 (36:55):
We just started when we need, when we got, when
there's business To attend to.
But how you get that, what doyou?
What are you thinking about?
I'm not going to give you mysecrets.
I'm not going to give you mysecrets.
What?
What's the problem?
Speaker 2 (37:15):
Go ahead and ask your question.
Speaker 1 (37:17):
What's the problem?
Go ahead and ask your question.
Let me see Me supporting yourhobbies, even if I don't care.
Speaker 2 (37:24):
Bare minimum.
Really, I support yours.
I don't care Bare minimum.
Really, I support yours.
I don't care about them, I'llstill I'll buy you cups.
I think they're all a waste ofgoddamn money, but I'll still
buy you cups.
I supported you when you wereon your nail color kick and we
had 7,000 nail polishes in thehouse.
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I wouldn't have bought you awhole goddamn nail rack.
You had your own little uh madeup nail salon.
Yeah, I built you a goddamncover to keep your cuffs.
I support your habits.
Look how many goddamn printersyou have how many cutters I feel
.
Speaker 1 (37:59):
I feel attacked right now.
But did you see that video?
I had sent you where she waslike.
Speaker 2 (38:04):
I called my husband and told him I think I'm in the
mood for a new hobby, and hewent around the house.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
Don't forget about this one, this one and this one
Right.
Remember when you were intoplants, right, and then you were
into sewing.
Speaker 2 (38:15):
And then you were into the part of that video that
got me was the crocheting.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
I said because I was buying $20 and $40 worth of yarn
every other day.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
I still crochet, I don't crochet nearly as much as.
I used to.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
No, you weren't crocheting all the time I was
crocheting like you would turnon some charms or some golden
girls.
I would be sitting on the couch, just I literally would crochet
like all day, like no joke.
Speaker 2 (38:37):
I would polish my nails.
Speaker 1 (38:39):
I would polish my nails.
After my nails finished drying,I would sit down down, I would
get a snack, I would turn on mygolden girls are charmed.
And then I would be crocheting.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
Now that I say that out loud, it sounds very old.
Speaker 1 (38:52):
Yeah, because that was, and that was in my 20s too
but I supported you.
Speaker 2 (38:56):
You did when you went through your whole and you even
wore the beanies I made youright and it then, when you went
through, when you went through,your oh, I need every makeup
collection that comes out.
I supported.
Speaker 1 (39:05):
Well, that was different, though, because, like
I was in in it but I supportedyou.
Yeah, I supported I don't dothat now, because I have to pay
retail for it and that's justridiculous.
But when you getting shit likefor dirt cheap and at a discount
and for free, you know it's adifferent story.
Speaker 2 (39:21):
Oh it's my turn yeah, go ahead, let's do like let's
do what I mean.
I won't, because I'm the kingright here.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
You are.
Speaker 2 (39:29):
I'm not going to debate that Is it bare minimum
or clean treatment, when I speakrespectfully about you even
when you're not around.
Speaker 1 (39:36):
Bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (39:37):
Are you kidding me?
That's clean treatment.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
Absolutely not.
That is bare minimum, becauseif I talk bad, about you.
Speaker 2 (39:42):
I want you in the room so you can hear it, okay,
because sometimes I want tostart the fight.
Speaker 1 (39:47):
No, you don't, Because you always end up
getting your feelings hurt.
I want to fight for the makeupwhy I'm only gonna give you 60
seconds.
What you want to make up foryou need to work on your
finishing game in 60 secondsfirst I can't even enjoy it I'm
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teasing guys, oh gosh.
Now everyone's going to be likeoh my gosh, I only have sex for
60 seconds.
It's crazy work.
Let's see Me dressing up foryou when we go out.
Speaker 2 (40:24):
That's bare metal.
Speaker 1 (40:25):
You think so?
Speaker 2 (40:26):
Yeah, you could do it more often, because when you
came home today, what I thoughtyou looked like- that's not fair
.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
It's because I just went to like really quickly run
one errand and come home tellthe people what I told you.
You look like I was at thebottom of the staircase and he
looks at me.
He goes why do you lookhomeless?
He was like you look sohomeless right now and I was
like why I said you look like Idon't pay.
Provide you no type of lifewell, because I was like I had
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to run a quick Erin Minimumeffort.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
I said this is how you got out in the streets like
this.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
It wasn't that bad.
Speaker 2 (41:02):
It was bad, I wouldn't have said nothing.
I was fully covered, but youweren't put together.
Speaker 1 (41:08):
No, I was not put together.
Speaker 2 (41:09):
At all.
Speaker 1 (41:10):
No, I wasn't.
You're right, let me see.
Letting you rest while I handlehouse chores, is that?
Speaker 2 (41:20):
key Bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
You know what?
Pull your beard.
That is king.
Speaker 2 (41:24):
treatment Bare minimum, because you know I need
my rest.
Speaker 1 (41:28):
No, and what's one thing I don't like to do?
Speaker 2 (41:31):
Do what?
Speaker 1 (41:33):
When you home Clean.
When you home Clean Especiallyif he's not like I don't know
what it is, but sometimes whenhe's in his office and he's just
like enjoying his time, and I'mlooking at the house and I'm
like, okay, like sometimes I'llbe like let me just handle it,
I'll do it myself, becausecleaning also relaxes me.
Sometimes if I put myheadphones on, I have my podcast
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going and I listen to otherpodcasts and everything, and
then some days, depending on themood I'm in, he's sitting in
there, he playing video games,he got a snack, he well, air
conditioned ventilation, and I'mover here on my knees scrubbing
the back of a toilet.
Yeah, getting high off bleachin the comment.
I do have to open a window andI do it every time and I don't
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understand.
I said I've been cleaningtoilets for years and I still
don't know my ratio for bleachI'm definitely I'm gonna find
you on the floor one day no, youwon't, because I always make
sure to open the window.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
Oh okay yeah because it gets really strong in there
sure okay, go ahead just acouple more is it bare minimum
or queen treatment when I listento you vent without jumping in,
that's all the problem I meango ahead, answer it.
Speaker 1 (42:44):
I want to say bare minimum, but yeah, that's what I
want to say say what you'regonna say, that's what I said
okay um, let me see asking youropinion before making a
household decision.
That's a requirement.
What are you talking about?
That's a requirement.
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That's a requirement.
Speaker 2 (43:08):
What are you talking about?
Speaker 1 (43:09):
That's a requirement, so that's king treatment.
You have to run that by me, pam, so that's king treatment.
Look Like I always ask Lookhere, yes or no.
That would be considered a kingtreatment you have to run that
by me, pam.
Speaker 2 (43:15):
So that's king treatment.
Speaker 1 (43:16):
Look like I always ask Right, look here, yes or no?
Speaker 2 (43:18):
That would be considered a king treatment,
then no, no, no, that's bareminimum, that's a requirement.
It's like I tell all my friendsRegardless, when you are in the
role of leadership, regardlessof whether you made the decision
or she made the decision, youare responsible for the outcome
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of that decision.
So, in this dynamic, you gonnarun them decisions by me,
because if I'm not like, if INah, I can't, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (43:52):
Really, really.
Speaker 2 (43:55):
I don't know.
That seemed like Tisha beentalking to you.
Speaker 1 (43:57):
Bye, goodbye, goodbye .
Let me talk about my mom.
I can't do that one, okay,anyways.
I can't do that one, I'm gonnado one more, but it's my turn.
Oh, go ahead, sorry.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
You see, sorry, y'all see how she treat me.
Speaker 1 (44:11):
Go ahead.
Speaker 2 (44:12):
Is it bare minimum?
What happened there?
I don't know.
I'm tired.
Is it bare minimum?
Or clean treatment when I maketime for your love language,
Even when it's not mine.
Speaker 1 (44:26):
Go ahead.
For me personally that is thebare minimum.
Speaker 2 (44:30):
Okay, so it sounds like we both right here Just
doing bare minimum.
That's what it sounds like.
It sounds right here, justdoing bare minimum.
That's what it sounds like.
It sounds like we're doing bareminimum right now.
Speaker 1 (44:40):
Yeah, it could be.
Okay, it could be.
Yeah, that's what it kind ofsounds like.
That's why I was like, afterlike the fifth one, I was like I
feel like he's going to saybare minimum to a lot of them,
because I know how you are.
All right, guys, let's hopright on into our new deeds.
(45:01):
All right, am I the asshole forkicking my wife's family out
after they kept extending theirstay?
Okay, we just bought a housetwo weeks ago.
We're not even fully unpacked.
When my wife's parents said, hey, next month can we come stay
three nights over the weekend?
It would be her mom, her dadand two youngest siblings.
(45:24):
Hell, no, the week they asked,they changed their mind, packed
the car and they just drove here.
They got here on a Sunday andsaid we're only staying three
nights.
Then, two nights into it, saidwe want to stay one more night.
Now here her sister wants tocome up here and spend the
weekend.
This whole week there's a fewpeople staying over.
(45:45):
I want everyone gone.
Me too.
I'm working late to not comehome.
My routine is gone.
I need to mow and do otherhouse chores.
They keep our toddler up allnight and just sit at the table
drinking beer.
Yeah sure, they brought us somegreat house gifts and I feel
twisted about it.
I do care about them and I wantmy wife's family and I want to
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see them happy.
Am I the asshole for telling mywife never to do this again and
asking them to leave early?
Also, never allow people tostay here during the week when I
have to go to work.
You are not the asshole sir, youare not the asshole you have
triggered me.
Speaker 2 (46:24):
This is a pet peeve of mine.
Speaker 1 (46:28):
The part that I really agree with him about is
like his working schedule.
If it's impeding on his workingschedule, it is a pet peeve of
mine.
Speaker 2 (46:35):
I will tolerate the weekend yeah, when I have to
working.
Schedule.
If it's impeding on his workingschedule, it is a pet peeve of
mine.
Yeah.
If I will tolerate the weekendyeah, when I have to work, yeah,
and I need schedule and I needshit to be quiet, yeah you gotta
go yeah, I agree, I agree, Iagree staying up all night
throwing the toddler off, like Iagree, and as in our dynamic,
in our history, here, here inour residence, as we have had
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numerous extended stay houseguests.
Speaker 1 (47:06):
But never been like loud.
Speaker 2 (47:08):
Look here it don't matter.
Speaker 1 (47:10):
No, I understand what you're saying.
At a certain point.
Speaker 2 (47:12):
I was like I love you , but don't let the door hit you
where the good Lord's pushing.
Speaker 1 (47:20):
No, I do understand and I have done the work.
Speaker 2 (47:22):
You know I'm going to just work later.
Yeah, so I ain't got to comehome.
Yeah, because there used to betimes I'd get the phone.
I would be irritated.
I'd have a good day at work,get off work and be irritated
about what I'm about to drive to.
Yeah, I would get home, sit inthe driveway like I don't want
to go to the goddamn house.
So, no, sir, you are not theasshole.
(47:43):
And four people.
Now her sister want to come too.
Yeah, Shit, get out of my house.
Speaker 1 (47:47):
I think the biggest thing, though, too.
Like.
So not only are you throwingthe kid off, everybody's off,
because it's not like they'rejust there and they're sticking
to a schedule too, like they'regoing to bed on time, they're
you know he's talking about.
They're staying up late at thekitchen table, and if they're
drinking beer, you know they'rebeing loud, they're talking loud
so of course the baby can't goto sleep.
(48:08):
You know what pissed me off?
Speaker 2 (48:09):
the fact that I'm working every day to pay for
something that you enjoying.
Bye, damel, that'sille.
That would piss me off.
Bye, bye.
Speaker 1 (48:17):
Call me petty, you're petty.
I already know that.
Speaker 2 (48:20):
Yeah, I'm a board member.
I've already said that, right,okay.
Speaker 1 (48:23):
I'm a board member.
I say this proudly.
Speaker 2 (48:27):
I go to work and I bust my ass so that my family,
the people with my last name,the people that I have either
held birth or swore vows to, canenjoy the future of my labor.
Not you extended motherfuckers.
Y'all got to go.
Speaker 1 (48:45):
Yeah, but that's not, that's not how that's not.
That's not how that works whenyou marry.
It works for me, it doesn't.
It hasn't actually, so that'snot true.
That's not true.
Speaker 2 (48:56):
Well, you, you know, we've got, we've had some
arguments about that.
Yeah, we're not gonna.
Speaker 1 (49:00):
We're not gonna uh but that's not true, because
that's not, because that's nothow family works.
So it that you know that's nothow family works.
But yeah, I totally agree withhim about like impeding on his
schedule and especially mybiggest thing is the baby,
because you're throwing the babyschedule off.
So yeah, but I don't thinkyou're the asshole, sir.
Speaker 2 (49:19):
Because if you love your grandchild, I'm going to
take him back home with you.
Bye.
Speaker 1 (49:24):
Okay, here we go.
Now this one, brace yourself,okay.
Last night my man and I were onone of our spontaneous
adventures.
We had talked about going to aswingers club before and last
night he came to me and said getdressed, we're going to the XXX
club.
We discussed our boundaries onthe way there and agreed that if
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we liked a girl it would be agreen light for some fun.
People kept approaching us butI wasn't interested.
Then a girl came over and weinstantly vibed and flirted a
bit.
I asked my man his thoughts andhe said let's pass on her.
We went to the next room andanother girl sat in between us.
She introduced herself and weall talked and we vibed.
(50:09):
My man tapped me on theshoulder and said I like her,
let's play with her.
We went to a private room, hadsome fun and had a really good
time.
When we finished, she came overto my man, called him by his
real name hugged him and thankedhim for coming.
I said hold up, do you guys knoweach other?
(50:31):
She said, yes, that's my ex andI invited, invited him here
tonight.
I had no idea she invited himor that she was his
ex-girlfriend and I feel played.
He thinks I'm tripping, but Ithink he was out of line.
Am I wrong or is he wrong?
He's wrong.
He's very much.
He's very.
He's very much he is very muchwrong.
(50:54):
I can't, I can't't.
You didn't even have to finishthe story, I knew where this was
going.
I can't.
Okay, hold on.
Of course he liked her.
He had been in there, so sheposted the text messages between
her and her boyfriend.
So she texted him.
I really feel played.
He said did you not have funthat night?
I'm not about to keep talkingabout this.
(51:15):
Last night was perfect.
She said you don't think takingme somewhere.
Your ex invited you to thensetting it up in a way.
That way was out of line.
I had no idea she was your exand I would have never agreed to
no BS like that.
He said, babe, you'reoverthinking this.
She's just my ex and I don'tmess with that girl.
(51:36):
I could have told you, but Iknow you would have said no, I
just wanted you to have a goodtime and you did.
I love you.
She said it's just the factthat I vibed with that other
girl more and you said youdidn't like her.
You really played it off andhad the girl come over like
y'all didn't even know eachother.
You played right in my face,she played right in my face.
(51:58):
But my issue is with you.
It's like you passed the girl.
I liked to go be with your exbecause you wanted to have fun
with your ex.
Speaker 2 (52:05):
He said answer the phone please so he started
calling her look here.
Speaker 1 (52:12):
He knew what he was doing he knew exactly what he
was doing.
Speaker 2 (52:14):
He knew exactly what he was doing.
Speaker 1 (52:14):
He thought he found a loophole to still have a good
time with his ex-girlfriend andthen still enjoy his current
girlfriend and play out thefantasy of having them both.
He played her and in my eyes,you cheated with your
(52:35):
ex-girlfriend, and now we'redone, now we, I mean, and now
we're done, but she now we're itnow.
Speaker 2 (52:39):
We're done now we're done.
It's not like she had a goodtime too yeah, I did.
Speaker 1 (52:43):
Yeah, I would tell me you know what I did.
I sure did I bet and now I'mgonna find another man who can
show me a good time, just likethat.
Who's not gonna?
Speaker 2 (52:51):
you think that was 60 seconds.
Speaker 1 (52:54):
You're funny.
You're really funny Probably,but you're really funny, you're
really.
A lot can be done in 60 seconds.
Okay, 60 seconds is quite along time, okay, depending on
what the end goal is, okay, 60seconds can be a long time.
I'm just saying I'm not goingto argue with you, I'm just
(53:14):
saying but yeah, he totallyplayed in your face, played you.
Speaker 2 (53:20):
Played yourself.
Speaker 1 (53:21):
Played yourself.
You heard me, you heard me.
Speaker 2 (53:26):
And in the morning I'm making waffles.
Speaker 1 (53:28):
Goodbye.
Yeah, no, absolutely not.
I think I would have to be likeI'm sorry, babe, but you just
ended our relationship.
If you think you're lonely now,Now that I know that you guys
still have a good vibe, go backto her.
Speaker 2 (53:44):
Why'd you leave her?
Speaker 1 (53:45):
Why'd you leave her?
Because the way you guys werevibing in the private room it
seemed like you had somethinggood going.
Speaker 2 (53:51):
She was crazy, but she did that one little thing I
liked.
Speaker 1 (53:55):
He just wanted to get it one more time.
Speaker 2 (53:56):
Just one more time Make sure I made the right
decision.
Speaker 1 (54:00):
No, he wanted to make sure that the ex-girlfriend
could teach the new girlfriendthe thing he liked, so the new
girlfriend can keep doing it.
Are you free Saturday?
Goodbye, good damn bye.
I can't with you.
Guys, this has been anotherepisode of the life after I do
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If you're not doing so already,don't forget to like, follow,
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(54:44):
Uh, we're right at that pointat 20k on tiktok and we are on
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Speaker 2 (54:50):
So we appreciate all the love, all you guys following
me, but I don't want theseproblems because now my
followers are like 80% women.
I said I follow my wife.
Speaker 1 (55:02):
Goodbye, goodbye.
We appreciate all the love youguys.
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So until then, guys, peaceBooskies, peace Booskies.
I was so excited to do something nice for him, had
this whole thing planned outtickets to see his favorite
football game and he completelyand utterly ruined it because
he's like I don't want to seethem play the Raiders, I don't
want to go to.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Oakland.
I didn't want to go to Oaklandand I was like it was a freaking
gift.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
It was supposed to be a surprise it was a weekend
away together and all you didwas shit on my surprise.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
And I've never done it again.
Here's the thing I didn't shareyour surprise.
You absolutely shit it on mysurprise.
Going back to my last question,I was protecting you okay, no,
we're not doing what it's likeyou're not gonna do that.
You don't know what it's liketo be at a football game in
oakland.
We were not I know.
That's why I wanted to go toexperience it no, you experience
a football, football game inOakland if you're cheering for
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the Oakland team, not if you'reon the opposing team.
No, you don't do that.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Hey everyone and welcome back to another episode
of the Life After I Do podcast.
You're going to be hanging outwith Bois, okay, when he's done,
not you trying to like put alittle woo woo on there?
Ooh, yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Ooh, yeah, okay, jojo , had me saying.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Okay, anyway, you're gonna be kicking it with Mo
Lethal and Nisha G.
For the next hour or so On theLife After I Do podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I really want to meet you girl.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Your favorite place to be on a.
Wednesday I really want to knowyour name.
Oh gosh, when he's done, Iguess, come and talk to me.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I really want to meet you girl.
I really want to know your name.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Okay, sorry, are you done?
Where's the button?
I'm done.
Where's the button?
I'm not hitting it.
No, hit the button.
Are you done?
I'm not?
Are you done?
I'm not?
Speaker 2 (02:12):
You know why I'm not done?
Why?
Because you look so sexy.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
You really turn me on Blows my mind every time I see
your face, my mind every time Isee your face, break it down.
You look so sexy.
You really turn me up.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Okay, that's enough.
Are you done?
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Really, and then you wrote me into the mess.
Hey, booskies, hi.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
How you doing.
I'm good how you feeling.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
You look good.
Thank you, thought I'd dosomething a little different.
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
This is why I said being married to a black woman
is like being married to 12different women, because you
never know who's going to stepout the room.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
You don't know who you might get.
You know, thought, I'd give youa little curl action today.
Spice it up, spice up your life.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Oh, no, no, we're not doing Spice Girls.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Oh, I'm happy that you realized that's what I was
about to say.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
You started with spice up your life.
Oh, it started off very scary.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Did it there yeah it did Well.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Hey, Boosie, how was your week?
Did you call me Boosie?
I said Boosie.
You said hey, Boosie, how wasyour week?
He said hey, Boosie, my weekwas good.
My week was good Did you wipeyourself down.
I always do.
It's on my playlist.
I wipe me down.
Yeah, it's on my playlist.
Yeah, I mean it was.
Yes, it was a good week.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Are you sure?
I did not realize that I had ahater in my corner.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Who's a hater?
I'm not going to point elbows.
Oh, okay, so I'm the hater.
I didn't know.
I didn't know I had somebodywho was plotting on my downfall.
So, aside from finding out thatmy husband has been plotting
against, against me, plottingfor my downfall, you know it was
a great week.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Go ahead, Go ahead and it was a good go ahead and
tell the people your lies.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
It wasn't lies.
I'm just trying to figure outif you're supposed to spot me to
help prevent me from hurtingmyself.
I'm not sure how I hurt myself.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
And you were standing right there.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
And your only response to me was oh well, it
looked like you had it.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Okay, you hurt yourself because I didn't want
to stop your rep, because onearm was locked out.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
The rep was done.
No, it was not, and it wasalready racking.
No, it was not, and you weresupposed to grab the bar and
continue racking.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
And see, the thing is , had you known, had you been an
experienced lifter, you wouldhave just slowly set it on your
chest, instead of trying to.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Why would I do that?
First of all, I finished therep.
Okay, you were supposed to.
You're supposed to be therealso to help me.
When I look back at the footage, how is it that you helped to
unrack and re-rack other othersets, but that one particular
one?
You looked at me like nah, Ithink I'll let you hang.
I didn't feel like you lockedit out.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
I was like I'm not giving a great for you.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
It's crazy work because it's on film, but okay,
it's fine.
Um, I couldn't lift my rightarm today and doing my upper
body, but I managed to pullthrough and my my mental
strength helped me to pushthrough.
Um, you know, but I mean otherthan that, I'm good.
I was still able to crank outmy workout today, so it was good
(05:26):
.
How was your week Really?
How was your week?
Speaker 2 (05:31):
I guess I had a week of plotting against my wife.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
So how did that start ?
Like, were you making notes ofit, like how you were going to
plan on doing it.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
I think it must have just hit me in the moment.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
You thought of something and it was like I know
how to get that bitch back.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
I said today's the day.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Today's the day.
And you said in your headgotcha bitch.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
I would never call you that in my head.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Well, it's the only place you can call me it.
You sure I'm positive.
Wait until we stop recording.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
You sure?
Speaker 1 (06:01):
I'm positive.
Okay, wait till we startrecording.
Okay, bye.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I don't want to hear that.
They hear me say it.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Okay, goodbye, demel, how was your week?
Speaker 2 (06:11):
It was cool, I guess.
Okay, dog stressing me outOutside of that.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
The dog keeps tearing up All the damn water
sprinklers.
Outside of that, I'm doingpretty good, okay, this is what
I don't understand, though.
You went to Lowe's right andyou bought the replacements.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
I bought the solenoid Right, okay, and I did fix
everything, whatever, I don'tknow what the hell a solenoid is
.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
You bought the replacement piece that you
needed.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
I bought three of them.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Okay, you bought three of them because she
destroyed three of them andshe's killed she's killed half
of my grass in the backyard.
So you, you bought them andyou're what you told me was.
I'm gonna buy these, I'm gonnareplace these and I'm gonna
build something around it sothat she can't hold on.
I wasn't dead so she can't getto them.
(06:58):
My response was you probablyshouldn't change them until you
build said fence that you'rethinking about building to
prevent her from doing the samething, if you're not gonna
segregate her to a section ofthe backyard so that she can't
get to them.
But that would have beenlogical and we all know how that
goes are you?
done?
No, I'm not, he replaced them.
Okay, if you push the number,pinch you.
(07:20):
He replaced the solenoids orwhatever.
I don't know.
That's not my outside of the,it's not my job.
He replaced them and thenproceeds to put the dog back in
the backyard, not separated Ihad them covered what'd you
cover them with?
I come with the tart, mauricegill she pulled the tarp out
(07:41):
Maurice Gill.
She's already like damn near 60pounds.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Yeah, and she's a puppy and she's very hyper
energy Did you really think atarp, okay, that's fine, that's
what we got today.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
No, I want to finish here in your week.
I'm just saying my week is done.
I'm just saying Done.
I just wanted to put that outthere.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
The dog is stressing me out.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Now I'm stressing you out.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
My wife is stressing me out.
She refused to cook me dinnertoday.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Really.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Refused After I worked all day.
Oh my gosh.
Refused.
She said I can't, I can't, Iain't got to do my hair.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Wow, damel, that is really not what happened.
So tell me what happened.
You called home and said I'm inthe mood for burgers.
I said okay, that's great.
You proceeded to say I thinkI'm going to stop and pick up
some beef patties.
I said Ooh, those sound good.
You said we still have ketobuns.
I said okay.
(08:36):
Then you thought about it andsaid oh dang, I don't think I
have calories for beef patties.
What about turkey patties?
And I was like, okay, but themeat is frozen.
Mind you, this conversationtook place at like a quarter to
seven.
Okay, yeah, a quarter to seven.
The meat is in the freezer,frozen, sir, uh-huh.
(08:56):
And then you're like what aboutthe turkey patties?
I said I can, I can take outthe meat right now.
You're gonna have your pattiesabout 9, 9, 30, but I can take
it out right now, yeah, becausethat sound good and then, after
that, you proceeded to say howyou wanted a mcflurry and then
after that you wanted oreos.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
And then after that, you all right, you're right, I'm
wrong.
But you said you make me aburger.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
I didn't get a burger that's all the meat just thawed
out so I didn't get a burgeryou didn't get a burger because
you asked for a turkey burger aquarter to 7 pm before he was
due to be home.
Before he was due to be home.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
What we got today, we're done Now we're done when I
speak logic we're done.
I have been working nonstoparound the clock for this family
.
You really should stop.
You really.
I get you really should stop.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
What do I get in return?
You really should stop.
You really should stop.
What do I get in return?
What do you get in return, babe, nothing.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Nothing but more expectations.
Oh, my dad's going to do thisfor me.
Oh, my husband's going to takecare of this, but daddy's going
to take me here and no one takescare of dad.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
No one takes care of dad.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Wow, the fact that she called me with a whole
itinerary of what she expects meto do for her tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Well, that's because you wrote on the family calendar
Family Fun Day.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Who said we got to go somewhere for Family Fun Day?
Speaker 1 (10:19):
We got to have fun at home.
She knows that she eats at herfavorite restaurant once a week.
That's already a given.
She's just letting you knowwhat she would prefer to do on
Family Fun Day.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
We're not doing nothing because I don't feel
appreciated around here today.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
All this could have been avoided if I would have
just got my goddamn hamburger.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Okay, I mean, you can still get the hamburger.
I can make the burger.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
It's too late now.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
No one ever does anything for dad.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
I had to eat some cold cuts.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
I guess I'll have to just take what I had on the menu
for later off too, because noone ever does anything for you.
Don't take that off, that mightsave the day.
No, no, no, because now you'veput me in a sour you played
yourself, played myself Look atyou.
Played yourself.
Let me rub your leg and get youback in the mood.
(11:06):
No, no, no Girl, don't betrying to rub on me.
No, you got a new foundation.
No, no.
Is that new blush?
Really Get the hell out of here.
Is that new blush?
What's the difference with youreyeshadow?
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Mm-hmm, oh yeah, oh, your lip is popping.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Uh-huh, stop rubbing on me, goodbye.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
I got to get back in your good graces.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Mm-hmm, yeah, good try, though Good try.
So so what?
You're so cute?
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Oh cool.
First of all, monkeys are cute.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
And you're cute, so Wow.
Darn I do Damn, my statementstill stands.
Damn, my statement still stands.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Damn still stands.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Damn, my statement still stands anyway.
Uh, babe, king treatment orbare minimum?
That is the question for youtoday.
Okay, so I'm gonna ask you somethings and I want you to let me
know if that is me giving youking treatment or don't ask me
stuff you ain't never did is itthe bare minimum?
(12:04):
Okay, let's get to it.
Okay, and then you can ask meone princess treatment, nah
let's just focus on me.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
I like that.
Let me feel appreciated.
Let's focus on me.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Let's just focus on me, so is this gonna be an
opportunity for you to give menotes and feedback?
Okay?
Speaker 2 (12:20):
take your time.
What's the rush?
Okay, baby, I Take your time.
What's the rush?
Okay, baby, I'm a dog.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
I'm a mutt, maurice.
What?
Stop Take care, okay, mecooking your favorite meal
without asking Is that kingtreatment or bare minimum?
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Bare minimum.
Think about it Bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Bare minimum why?
Speaker 2 (12:39):
I'm going to have to ask you why?
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Because I still have to ask you all this and you
should be like you know what?
I didn't do nothing special forhim.
Let me cook something.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
I know he going to like.
You want to know what I have onthe menu for you.
That's coming up.
What's that?
Is it red beans and rice?
Red beans and rice, because Ireally want some red beans and
rice.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
I don't know why you said it today over the phone.
He mentioned and I immediatelyput a note in my phone and I was
like I am making my husband redbeans and rice because that's
what he wants.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
You can't make it how I want it though.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Okay, see and see, then he does shit like this.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
But you can't make it how I want it.
Let me tell you why.
Now it's off the table.
Let me tell you why I say thatbefore you cut me off Because
the way I want it is the way Iwas going to make it.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
I want it with the ham bone.
That's the way I was going tomake it.
Either we make it the right wayor we don't make it at all.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
I want to eat it with cornbread.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
I was going to make it with blueberry cornbread,
though.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
See, here we go.
I like it you take stuff thatwork and always got to throw
something in there.
I like blueberry cornbread so,and this is why people say what?
Speaker 1 (13:49):
you got a little caucasian in you, okay, okay,
stop it stop you've beenwatching josh's mama too much
okay, absolutely, absolutely notabsolutely, not, absolutely.
Not, by the way, I love theircontent, but josh's mama, ok,
side note.
So he had recorded a video whenthey went to the beach, a day
at the beach, and all the snacksthat mama packed.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Oh Lord.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Maurice, hot dogs like from the pack, and then she
put ketchup in there, sothey've been marinating in
ketchup, ok.
Then she ate raviolis from thecan.
Just crack the can open, atethe raviolis from the can.
Just cracked the can open, atethe raviolis.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Then she ate potted meat from the can with some Ritz
crackers.
I don't want to hear no more.
This is bad.
I said how is she eating?
The sodium content on all ofthat, let me ask you a question.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
I thought we was focusing on you, no you know
I'll do that.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
You know that's not the type of man I am A good bot,
except never mind Except for inthe bedroom.
Yeah, I'll be tired, oh.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Wow, I just want you guys.
You just got a glimpse into mylife.
You hear what he said I'll betired.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Don't act like I don't reciprocate.
We're not going to do thatBecause I will get played by
place.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
I'm just saying.
I mean, you know, there's asuch thing as three play.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
Okay, you know what.
This has been another episode.
Okay so is this bare minimum?
Or princess treatment?
Queen treatment you a queen.
Thank you when I put gas inyour car.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Oh, that's bare minimum, that is bare.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
I'm sorry, that's bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
Because you don't feel safe at the gas station.
Statistics show no, I feel likethat's bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Oh, that is bare minimum, it is.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
I feel like pumping, getting my gas falls in line
with opening the car door for me.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Because you feel like you know what, I'm going to
agree with that, because youshouldn't be pumping anything.
I should be the one doing thepumping High five.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
I agree with you, high five.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
I'm talking about sexual.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
I know, high five, I'm not high fiving.
Yes, that's bare minimum Okay.
Yeah Is it.
It is Damn.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
I better stop doing it then.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
Goodbye, let me see Waking up early to pack your
lunch.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Bare minimum or king true, bare minimum, because you
don't do it.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
I feel like.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
I'm.
You don't wake up early to packmy lunch.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
You wake up when you want to get up and pack my lunch
.
Oh, I mean no, your lunch ispacked by the time you're ready
to go though, yeah, but there'sno reason for me to get up extra
early.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
Look not to pack your lunch, but I get up early to
make you breakfast Before Ichanged my shift, when I was
going in earlier, you wouldliterally pack my lunch the
night before oh, absolutely.
And you would tell me don'twake me up.
You would make me overnightoats.
You said here's your breakfast,don't wake when.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I knew I did not want to get up the next morning.
I prepared everything at night.
But what's important Is thatyou did it.
No, what's important is that youhad breakfast and lunch.
Okay, he don't eat dinnerbecause when he works late he
don't like eat late.
So when we eat dinner it's justleftovers and then I'll pack
him some for, like, the next day.
But what's important is that Imake sure that he leaves this
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house in the morning withsomething on his belly and that
he has something to put in hisbelly while he is at work.
Okay, that's what's important.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Okay, you just.
That's what's important.
This is the episode.
You just want to try to beatyourself up Is it?
Speaker 1 (17:15):
is it true or not true?
It's true, Okay.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
That's all I want to know.
It's my turn right um.
Is it bare minimum?
Speaker 1 (17:30):
or is it queen treatment when I run errands
while complaining bare?
minimum, that's bare minimum Iknow some people might be like
no, that's queen.
No, that is bare minimum.
Why do you need to complainabout running errands?
The question is why am Irunning errands is bare minimum.
Why do you need to complainabout running errands?
The question is, why am Irunning errands?
Because sometimes you mighthave to run errands and when you
do them I kind of expect themto be done without you
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complaining.
Like, why complain?
Especially if you're doingsomething for the house?
Why?
Speaker 2 (17:55):
complain about it.
I work for the house.
I do too.
I go to work.
Good damn bye I make sure thehouse is in good financial
standing.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
And that also includes having to run errands.
Sometimes it also includesdoing dishes on the weekend.
Let me tell you right now.
We appreciate all of yourdouble duties.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
sometimes I only consume of things I want to do
working because I have to, andsleeping.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
If only it were that simple.
That sounds good, right, thatsounds really good.
I would love that for you.
I'm working hard for that foryou.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Really.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Yeah, giving you uninterrupted gaming time.
You bet not say it, because Iknow what you're going to say.
Giving you uninterrupted gamingtime, is that king treatment,
or?
Speaker 2 (18:43):
bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
I knew you were going to say it.
I knew you were going to say it.
I knew you were going to saythat.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Because I'm a gamer.
When I game, which is not oftenanymore, I game often.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
I just no, I'm just saying I don't game often.
So, since you don't game, oftenthe time that you do game, you
expect it to be uninterrupted,abso-freaking-lutely.
Why do I feel like most ofthese are going to be bare
minimum?
Speaker 2 (19:06):
for the both of us, bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
I kind of feel like we put the fresh on each other.
Now you gotta tell me, is itbare minimum?
Speaker 2 (19:11):
or is it queen treatment, mm-hmm, when I
protect your peace by handlingconflict, scheduling or just any
drama in your life?
Speaker 1 (19:28):
That's bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Okay, I want to say yes, that's bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Okay, and the reason I'm going to say that is because
I feel like that is somethingthat a form of protection a form
of protection, and it'ssomething that we, like, can
offer each other but you don't,let me protect you though I do.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
Let you protect me, because my see, part of this is
like the, the, the, the conflictand the drama.
I come to you personally first.
Hey, you might want to tellthem this, especially when it
concerns your family.
I try not to say nothingdirectly to your family because
you know how, when I say it,it's gonna be it just comes off
a little bit more.
Speaker 1 (19:59):
It's a little abrasive, yeah a little rough.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
It's a little rough when I say it because, it's a
little rough, you know, becauseyou, when you're gonna say, when
you're gonna get your familyback news, you package it.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Well, oh, you know, we, we love you, we try, we, we
really this is just isn'tworking what's funny is how
you're saying that is that I hadco-workers who would tell me
that it's just like when youwrite me up, it's just right it
doesn't feel like you know yourwhat your action is just doesn't
work with our dynamic no,that's not how you do it.
You oreo them wow, whereas I'llbe like, look here, pimp, this
(20:33):
ain't working, you gotta go okaybut see, and that's that's
where the balance comes in atthere, I feel like you know,
life needs a little bit of both.
That's why okay um, let's seelittle bit of both.
That's why, okay, um, let's seebooking your doctor's
appointments and your dentistappointments.
Is that king treatment, orthink about it, think about
(20:55):
think about it, that's it's whatthat's funny, because I don't
do that you don't know so Iwould think that would be
treatment for you slipping.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
No, first of all, you don't do it because you know
you don't know where I want togo that's true too.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
I'm very I'm very particular about when I go like,
and also it's like because Idon't yeah, you're particular
when you go and sometimes Idon't know what your schedule is
going to look like, especiallypast thursday, just like today,
with the whole dog and I'm like,okay, if I don't get this right
, I could potentially end uptaking her by myself and I would
prefer to have you there.
I was like, let me talk to myhusband and then that dog's the
(21:29):
only, I'm the only person thatdog will listen to no, you're
not the only person that shelistens to, but I would just
prefer for you to like pick herup and put her in the car.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
I like that dog in the depth of her soul and say if
you don't sit your.
I treat her like a black child.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
That's the problem.
She has a dog's brain.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
She acts like a child when she's around me.
I tell her to sit her ass down.
She sits her ass down.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
Okay, go ahead.
So you think that's bareminimum?
Yeah, bare minimum.
So you want me?
To start scheduling yourdoctor's appointments.
No, you don't have to, okay,but you just said it's bare
minimum.
So that kind of insinuates.
That's something you want me todo.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
No I really don't.
I don't like going to thedoctor, so okay, so then is that
king treatment?
Speaker 1 (22:07):
no, oh my gosh I don't think you understand how
this works, but okay, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
is it bare minimum or queen treatment when I make you
feel safe, soft and have youtake the lead?
Speaker 1 (22:26):
Wait what.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
Is it when I make you feel safe, soft and not have
you take the lead all the time?
Oh, and not make me take thelead, so like when I take
initiative.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
Oh, I think that's.
I feel like Go ahead and say it.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Go ahead and say it Go ahead and say it.
I feel as though that should bethat should go manager here, go
to manager, y'all go to managerhere, go to manager, come on I
feel as though that should beuh-huh, bare minimum, okay.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
Okay, because I'm thinking in the dynamics of
relationship okay, okay, butwe're not.
We're talking about you,however, oh for oh, for me
personally, yeah, for mepersonally, that's bare minimum,
okay, yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
And that's where we have an impasse, because my wife
doesn't care if I work 20 hoursor 70.
That's not true.
I have to take initiative.
Yeah, even when I'm walking inoff a 13-hour shift.
Well, you didn't make no moves.
I thought you was.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
I do not expect the world of you after working 13
hours.
Stop, not the world, just halfof Saturn.
Okay, me surprising you withtickets to your favorite event.
Is that King Treatment?
Speaker 2 (23:42):
or Bearment.
That's King Treatment.
Yeah, I said yeah because,first of all, my first question
was like where do you get thismoney from?
Speaker 1 (23:47):
Yeah, see, and that's why, after the first time I did
that, I never did it again,because I was so excited to do
something nice for him, had thiswhole thing planned out tickets
to see his favorite footballgame and he completely and
utterly ruined it because he'slike I don't want to see them
play the Raiders, I don't wantto go to Oakland, I don't want
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to go to Oakland.
And I was like it was afreaking gift, it was supposed
to be a surprise.
It was a weekend away togetherand all you did was shit on my
surprise.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
And.
Speaker 1 (24:18):
I've never done it again.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
Here's the thing I didn't shit on your surprise.
You absolutely shitted on mysurprise.
Going back to my last question,I was protecting you.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
Okay, no, we're not doing.
You don't know what it's like.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
We are not gonna do that you don't know what it's
like To be at a football game inOakland.
We were not.
I know that's why.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
I wanted to go To experience it.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
No, no, you experience a football game in
Oakland If you're cheering forthe Oakland team, not if you're
on the opposing team.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
No, you don't do that .
No, no, no he was like there'sno way in hell.
We're going to Oakland.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
No, now you just said San Fran, shit Arizona.
Yeah, we could have wentOakland.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Nah, he was like, yeah, you can go ahead and get
rid of the tickets.
He was like I'm not going toOakland.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
I Not going to do that again.
I'm really invested in thisquestion.
Okay, okay, now is it bareminimum or queen treatment when
I handle all the heavy lifting,both literally?
Speaker 1 (25:16):
and emotionally.
Literally and emotionally.
Let's start with literallyfirst.
Okay, is that?
Speaker 2 (25:24):
princess or queen treatment or bare minimum.
It's bare minimum, but youdeadlift four and a pound.
It does not matter, but you candeadlift four and a pound.
Speaker 1 (25:31):
That does not.
Why am I lifting?
Speaker 2 (25:32):
everything.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
That does not matter, because, for one, my muscles
are sore too.
For one, like I continuouslytell you, gym strength does not
translate to real world strength.
Okay, when he continuously asksme why I cannot bring up my
laundry basket upstairs, it'sbecause it's heavy.
Okay, household lifting isheavy.
(25:53):
It's a different mindset.
When I'm in the gym and I'mdead lifting weight, it's a
completely different mindset.
When I have to get groceriesand get groceries from Sam's
Club and take the things out ofthe car, it's a completely
different mindset.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Therefore, the weight feels different and it feels
heavier.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
It doesn't translate, so therefore I need you.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
You're stronger.
What about emotionally?
Speaker 1 (26:13):
It don't matter.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Ask your question.
Speaker 1 (26:19):
Okay, I'm just asking my question.
No, ask the question.
What was the question again?
Speaker 2 (26:25):
Is it bare minimum or queen treatment when I handle
all the heavy liftingemotionally?
Speaker 1 (26:33):
I feel like that's probably queen treatment.
I was going to ask you when doI do it?
That's why I said it's probablyqueen treatment.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
I do it from time to time.
When I look at her I'm likedamn, my baby, she down bad,
fuck you.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
Maurice, she down bad .
What did you say when we wereon the way to the gym last time
and we both didn't realize wewere like down bad.
And you're like babe, I'm notdoing good mentally today.
And I was like that's funnybecause I literally just had the
same thought.
He said, damn damn, we playedourselves.
(27:12):
He said, fuck, we down bad,damn bad, we both down real bad
I said how how are we gonna, howare we gonna support each other
if we both down here?
That's why we were going to thegym.
That helped.
It helps um.
Let's see uhering you a backrub after work.
King treatment or bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
It should be bare minimum, bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
I don't think I've gotten a king treatment yet.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
It should be bare minimum, because I have to ask,
I have to lay next to you andtoot my back next close Babe.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
Are you the wife in this situation?
You got to toot next to me ifyou massage me first.
He puts his butt, his butt, hiship, right up against me and
he's like so like, can you rubmy hip?
Speaker 2 (27:54):
so if y'all don't know like I had, I had the
motorcycle accident yeah, butwhat's like two years?
Ago, but I had this spot fromwhere I made contact with the
ground.
That is really always sore andI was like I need her to rub
this spot to ease some of thetension.
Oh my gosh, and she'd be asking, like you know what I want.
Bye.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
You know what it is.
I do know what you want, is it?
It's my turn?
Oh sorry, oh see.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
Bare minimum she can't even always trying to take
.
Now is it?
Is it clean treatment or is itbare?
Speaker 1 (28:30):
minimum when I notice your emotional state and adjust
how I approach you, that shouldbe bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
Okay, yeah, that should be bare minimum, I guess
it should.
Speaker 1 (28:38):
It should be bare minimum.
You don't always do that, whichis quite frustrating, okay,
look here, because I and theylike it hold on, let's sit here
for a second dwell in it.
Let's sit here for a second,because we've had this
conversation before.
Okay, like when I'm and whenI'm in one of my moods, and I
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know, you know, I'm in one of mymoods because you kind of like,
like you do you know?
you the opposite.
We've had this conversationbefore where, if he knows that
I'm in like some type of moodwhere I'm really not in a
playful mood, instead of nottrying to be as playful where
it's going to come off asextremely annoying to me or I'm
just going to be like I'm justgoing to be just annoyed or
(29:20):
upset, he he, he piles it onLike he thinks that's the time
for him to like tickle me and hethinks that's the time to like
to love on you.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
Yeah, I'm loving on you, yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
But when I tell you I'm giving you my good vibes, no
, we've had this conversationbut when I tell you how you can
love on me, that will help calmme.
That will you know that I canreceive.
I'm not receiving you beinggoofy, you hitting me, you
smacking me on the butt, youtickling me.
That shit is just going toirritate me because I'm already
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in a heightened, anxious,annoying state.
But when you come to me and belike, oh dang, like my babe, my
babe down bad, and you give me ahug and you give me a kiss, and
then you'd be like I bought youa pack of red vines.
You was down bad.
I took care of you.
Bye, Maurice.
I said what you need the maledeal.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
You didn't even, you didn't even, and I was the fact
that I asked you how you feltevery day.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
When, when?
Really what Since Monday?
Speaker 2 (30:24):
No what since?
Since monday?
No, since monday.
And then, look, you went backand say yes since monday, when
you, when you had your littleinjury on monday, monday.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
On monday, your little injury oh, oh see, and
now you just you see how you,you see how he do me.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
That's because he was plotting, that's because he was
plotting, and when you, uh, uhhow do I say it without you
being mad?
When you went through your timeof the month, I checked on you
what I checked on you, baby,what you need.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
Yeah, you always be like okay, yeah, baby, you good,
you good what you need.
You need some extra time, Okay.
But we're not talking aboutthat.
We're talking about theemotional aspect.
That's emotional, you gobecause you, you all over the
place.
And you know this right.
This has been going on for howlong?
How long we been together?
Speaker 2 (31:09):
And how many?
Speaker 1 (31:09):
decades have you experienced how long we been
locked in?
How many decades have youexperienced this and you still
don't know how to catch the wave.
Speaker 2 (31:19):
Cause I am the wave, I can't catch me.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
I need you to go say some dumb shit.
I need you to go say some dumbshit.
I need you to go say some dumbshit.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
I am the wave.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
Bye, maurice, okay.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
I'm going to catch the wave.
Is it your turn or my turn?
It's your turn.
Okay, catch the wave.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
Let's see Catch the wave.
No, you're going to say bareminimum on that.
I know that.
Let's see, okay, me handlingsomething that you hate doing
Without complaining Bare minimum.
So it's kind of like theerrands thing, huh, yeah bare
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minimum.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
Yeah, we ain't got to talk about that, how about?
How about when I, when I postyou on social media?
Speaker 1 (32:05):
That's bare minimum.
That's bare minimum bareminimum.
Speaker 2 (32:07):
Yeah, of course I don't post it often okay, but
you want to post you more no,you do post me.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Yeah, not a lot, though I don't need you to post
me every day.
Speaker 2 (32:17):
I post you, like I post you like on big, like big
events, anniversaries, birthdays.
Okay, that's it.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
I don't really do all that's, and they know, I'm
married and I hardly ever likethe post, so damn damn.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
You don't like the post about you.
That's paul barton it doesn'tlike I'm not seeking for you to
post me, if you, if you post me,you post me, let's dive into
this.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
It's not if you didn't post me at all.
That would be kind of likedifferent but you do post me so
let's dive into this.
Speaker 2 (32:48):
So what is it about you seeing yourself on my post
that you don't like?
Why do you hate yourself?
Speaker 1 (32:53):
first of all, I don't hate myself.
It's just that sometimes if Icome across it like I'll see,
there has been times where I'llcome across and I'll just like
see it, but then I'll scroll andthen I'll go back and then I'll
like it, but I don't likealways like it initially.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
Why are you delaying your gratification to yourself?
Speaker 1 (33:09):
What are you talking about?
That's not.
What are you talking about?
I'm not.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
Why are you not?
Speaker 1 (33:14):
It's not gratifying for me to see you post me like
that doesn't do, so I'm going tostop posting then I mean you do
what you want your newsfeed.
That's not even okay.
I'm not gonna go ahead andanswer.
I don't know what to tell you.
Like I, I listen.
Like I said, I'm not stressingyou to post me, I do.
I like it when you post me.
Sure would I have a problem ifyou didn't post me at all?
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Probably.
But you post me enough to whereI'm like.
How would you know?
Speaker 2 (33:43):
how would you know?
How would you know?
Speaker 1 (33:46):
I do follow you but you don't like acting, I do.
I like your stuff.
Every time I see your videos, Ilike them okay and I share them
sure whatever.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
Oh yeah, um, let me see, um, yeah, you are gonna say
bare minimum if I say that, notcriticizing you after a failure
bare minimum, because you, youare one of the, you, you have
one of the slickest tongues ofthe west and you think you, and
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that's what I'm talking about,that's the problem why are you
trying to make it seem like Ijust be dogging you out?
Speaker 1 (34:27):
I don't like that.
I got one of the slickest tonsin the west.
What does that mean?
Speaker 2 (34:32):
and that's why I gotta be quick with it, because
I gotta, I gotta be ready,because sometimes I don't know.
I keep telling y'all, beingmarried to a black woman, you
don't know who you're gonna get,I don't know what version of
kinesha I'm going to get.
You do.
Sometimes I get the soft,loving and caring most of the
time.
All the time I get the she'sslick with it.
So now I gotta be slick with it.
So now, instead of so now,instead of supporting one
(34:54):
another, we sitting going.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
We're going back for a dog and one another yeah, but
the only person that walks awaywith their feelings hurt okay
because you try to get slickwith me all, all right, here we
go and then if I feel attackedwe've discussed this in previous
episodes?
Speaker 2 (35:09):
Is it bare minimum or clean treatment when I
prioritize your needs duringintimacy?
Speaker 1 (35:16):
No, it's a bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (35:18):
See, it's a bare minimum.
That's why I gotta get mine,because she gonna get hers.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
I always tell you to get yours, just don't let it
take forever.
I still don't understand that.
What do you mean?
What?
Why don't you understand it?
What do you mean?
So you want?
You want it over quickly.
I mean, now, I don't want itover like super quick, but it
don't need to be like like a 30minute session, why I mean it
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can be if it, if it's like thatnight where we were playing
that's in the background.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
That's that.
Speaker 1 (35:50):
That's something that's something but if we but
yeah, but if we are like, yes,okay, but if we if it's if,
unless it's one of those kind ofnights then yes, like but if
it's one of those kind of nights, then yeah, like let's drag it
out.
But if it's something like we,we need to get to bed's.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
Something like we, we need to get to bed.
You want to leave your life allalone.
You see, if we need to get tobed, can we, can we?
Speaker 1 (36:10):
can we do this, Can we get this done?
Smile and then go to sleep.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
Sometimes sometimes that'd be my intention, and then
I get in there.
Speaker 1 (36:20):
I've been trying to give you the look like.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
I want this to stop.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
You got about 60 more seconds.
Speaker 2 (36:27):
I want this to stop, so I'm going to be like.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
so it's 11 and I'm ready to pull down my eye mask
and, as y'all know from the lastepisode, once my eye mask comes
down, that means I'm out ofservice.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
I've been like this I'm out of service.
Speaker 1 (36:47):
It's a different experience being married to me.
What can I say?
Speaker 2 (36:49):
A lot of times I'm like I wish I could be done this
picture Cause she I say how youdone, you done already.
Speaker 1 (36:55):
We just started when we need, when we got, when
there's business To attend to.
But how you get that, what doyou?
What are you thinking about?
I'm not going to give you mysecrets.
I'm not going to give you mysecrets.
What?
What's the problem?
Speaker 2 (37:15):
Go ahead and ask your question.
Speaker 1 (37:17):
What's the problem?
Go ahead and ask your question.
Let me see Me supporting yourhobbies, even if I don't care.
Speaker 2 (37:24):
Bare minimum.
Really, I support yours.
I don't care Bare minimum.
Really, I support yours.
I don't care about them, I'llstill I'll buy you cups.
I think they're all a waste ofgoddamn money, but I'll still
buy you cups.
I supported you when you wereon your nail color kick and we
had 7,000 nail polishes in thehouse.
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I wouldn't have bought you awhole goddamn nail rack.
You had your own little uh madeup nail salon.
Yeah, I built you a goddamncover to keep your cuffs.
I support your habits.
Look how many goddamn printersyou have how many cutters I feel
.
Speaker 1 (37:59):
I feel attacked right now.
But did you see that video?
I had sent you where she waslike.
Speaker 2 (38:04):
I called my husband and told him I think I'm in the
mood for a new hobby, and hewent around the house.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
Don't forget about this one, this one and this one
Right.
Remember when you were intoplants, right, and then you were
into sewing.
Speaker 2 (38:15):
And then you were into the part of that video that
got me was the crocheting.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
I said because I was buying $20 and $40 worth of yarn
every other day.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
I still crochet, I don't crochet nearly as much as.
I used to.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
No, you weren't crocheting all the time I was
crocheting like you would turnon some charms or some golden
girls.
I would be sitting on the couch, just I literally would crochet
like all day, like no joke.
Speaker 2 (38:37):
I would polish my nails.
Speaker 1 (38:39):
I would polish my nails.
After my nails finished drying,I would sit down down, I would
get a snack, I would turn on mygolden girls are charmed.
And then I would be crocheting.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
Now that I say that out loud, it sounds very old.
Speaker 1 (38:52):
Yeah, because that was, and that was in my 20s too
but I supported you.
Speaker 2 (38:56):
You did when you went through your whole and you even
wore the beanies I made youright and it then, when you went
through, when you went through,your oh, I need every makeup
collection that comes out.
I supported.
Speaker 1 (39:05):
Well, that was different, though, because, like
I was in in it but I supportedyou.
Yeah, I supported I don't dothat now, because I have to pay
retail for it and that's justridiculous.
But when you getting shit likefor dirt cheap and at a discount
and for free, you know it's adifferent story.
Speaker 2 (39:21):
Oh it's my turn yeah, go ahead, let's do like let's
do what I mean.
I won't, because I'm the kingright here.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
You are.
Speaker 2 (39:29):
I'm not going to debate that Is it bare minimum
or clean treatment, when I speakrespectfully about you even
when you're not around.
Speaker 1 (39:36):
Bare minimum.
Speaker 2 (39:37):
Are you kidding me?
That's clean treatment.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
Absolutely not.
That is bare minimum, becauseif I talk bad, about you.
Speaker 2 (39:42):
I want you in the room so you can hear it, okay,
because sometimes I want tostart the fight.
Speaker 1 (39:47):
No, you don't, Because you always end up
getting your feelings hurt.
I want to fight for the makeupwhy I'm only gonna give you 60
seconds.
What you want to make up foryou need to work on your
finishing game in 60 secondsfirst I can't even enjoy it I'm
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teasing guys, oh gosh.
Now everyone's going to be likeoh my gosh, I only have sex for
60 seconds.
It's crazy work.
Let's see Me dressing up foryou when we go out.
Speaker 2 (40:24):
That's bare metal.
Speaker 1 (40:25):
You think so?
Speaker 2 (40:26):
Yeah, you could do it more often, because when you
came home today, what I thoughtyou looked like- that's not fair
.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
It's because I just went to like really quickly run
one errand and come home tellthe people what I told you.
You look like I was at thebottom of the staircase and he
looks at me.
He goes why do you lookhomeless?
He was like you look sohomeless right now and I was
like why I said you look like Idon't pay.
Provide you no type of lifewell, because I was like I had
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to run a quick Erin Minimumeffort.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
I said this is how you got out in the streets like
this.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
It wasn't that bad.
Speaker 2 (41:02):
It was bad, I wouldn't have said nothing.
I was fully covered, but youweren't put together.
Speaker 1 (41:08):
No, I was not put together.
Speaker 2 (41:09):
At all.
Speaker 1 (41:10):
No, I wasn't.
You're right, let me see.
Letting you rest while I handlehouse chores, is that?
Speaker 2 (41:20):
key Bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
You know what?
Pull your beard.
That is king.
Speaker 2 (41:24):
treatment Bare minimum, because you know I need
my rest.
Speaker 1 (41:28):
No, and what's one thing I don't like to do?
Speaker 2 (41:31):
Do what?
Speaker 1 (41:33):
When you home Clean.
When you home Clean Especiallyif he's not like I don't know
what it is, but sometimes whenhe's in his office and he's just
like enjoying his time, and I'mlooking at the house and I'm
like, okay, like sometimes I'llbe like let me just handle it,
I'll do it myself, becausecleaning also relaxes me.
Sometimes if I put myheadphones on, I have my podcast
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going and I listen to otherpodcasts and everything, and
then some days, depending on themood I'm in, he's sitting in
there, he playing video games,he got a snack, he well, air
conditioned ventilation, and I'mover here on my knees scrubbing
the back of a toilet.
Yeah, getting high off bleachin the comment.
I do have to open a window andI do it every time and I don't
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understand.
I said I've been cleaningtoilets for years and I still
don't know my ratio for bleachI'm definitely I'm gonna find
you on the floor one day no, youwon't, because I always make
sure to open the window.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
Oh okay yeah because it gets really strong in there
sure okay, go ahead just acouple more is it bare minimum
or queen treatment when I listento you vent without jumping in,
that's all the problem I meango ahead, answer it.
Speaker 1 (42:44):
I want to say bare minimum, but yeah, that's what I
want to say say what you'regonna say, that's what I said
okay um, let me see asking youropinion before making a
household decision.
That's a requirement.
What are you talking about?
That's a requirement.
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That's a requirement.
Speaker 2 (43:08):
What are you talking about?
Speaker 1 (43:09):
That's a requirement, so that's king treatment.
You have to run that by me, pam, so that's king treatment.
Look Like I always ask Lookhere, yes or no.
That would be considered a kingtreatment you have to run that
by me, pam.
Speaker 2 (43:15):
So that's king treatment.
Speaker 1 (43:16):
Look like I always ask Right, look here, yes or no?
Speaker 2 (43:18):
That would be considered a king treatment,
then no, no, no, that's bareminimum, that's a requirement.
It's like I tell all my friendsRegardless, when you are in the
role of leadership, regardlessof whether you made the decision
or she made the decision, youare responsible for the outcome
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of that decision.
So, in this dynamic, you gonnarun them decisions by me,
because if I'm not like, if INah, I can't, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (43:52):
Really, really.
Speaker 2 (43:55):
I don't know.
That seemed like Tisha beentalking to you.
Speaker 1 (43:57):
Bye, goodbye, goodbye .
Let me talk about my mom.
I can't do that one, okay,anyways.
I can't do that one, I'm gonnado one more, but it's my turn.
Oh, go ahead, sorry.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
You see, sorry, y'all see how she treat me.
Speaker 1 (44:11):
Go ahead.
Speaker 2 (44:12):
Is it bare minimum?
What happened there?
I don't know.
I'm tired.
Is it bare minimum?
Or clean treatment when I maketime for your love language,
Even when it's not mine.
Speaker 1 (44:26):
Go ahead.
For me personally that is thebare minimum.
Speaker 2 (44:30):
Okay, so it sounds like we both right here Just
doing bare minimum.
That's what it sounds like.
It sounds right here, justdoing bare minimum.
That's what it sounds like.
It sounds like we're doing bareminimum right now.
Speaker 1 (44:40):
Yeah, it could be.
Okay, it could be.
Yeah, that's what it kind ofsounds like.
That's why I was like, afterlike the fifth one, I was like I
feel like he's going to saybare minimum to a lot of them,
because I know how you are.
All right, guys, let's hopright on into our new deeds.
(45:01):
All right, am I the asshole forkicking my wife's family out
after they kept extending theirstay?
Okay, we just bought a housetwo weeks ago.
We're not even fully unpacked.
When my wife's parents said, hey, next month can we come stay
three nights over the weekend?
It would be her mom, her dadand two youngest siblings.
(45:24):
Hell, no, the week they asked,they changed their mind, packed
the car and they just drove here.
They got here on a Sunday andsaid we're only staying three
nights.
Then, two nights into it, saidwe want to stay one more night.
Now here her sister wants tocome up here and spend the
weekend.
This whole week there's a fewpeople staying over.
(45:45):
I want everyone gone.
Me too.
I'm working late to not comehome.
My routine is gone.
I need to mow and do otherhouse chores.
They keep our toddler up allnight and just sit at the table
drinking beer.
Yeah sure, they brought us somegreat house gifts and I feel
twisted about it.
I do care about them and I wantmy wife's family and I want to
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see them happy.
Am I the asshole for telling mywife never to do this again and
asking them to leave early?
Also, never allow people tostay here during the week when I
have to go to work.
You are not the asshole sir, youare not the asshole you have
triggered me.
Speaker 2 (46:24):
This is a pet peeve of mine.
Speaker 1 (46:28):
The part that I really agree with him about is
like his working schedule.
If it's impeding on his workingschedule, it is a pet peeve of
mine.
Speaker 2 (46:35):
I will tolerate the weekend yeah, when I have to
working.
Schedule.
If it's impeding on his workingschedule, it is a pet peeve of
mine.
Yeah.
If I will tolerate the weekendyeah, when I have to work, yeah,
and I need schedule and I needshit to be quiet, yeah you gotta
go yeah, I agree, I agree, Iagree staying up all night
throwing the toddler off, like Iagree, and as in our dynamic,
in our history, here, here inour residence, as we have had
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numerous extended stay houseguests.
Speaker 1 (47:06):
But never been like loud.
Speaker 2 (47:08):
Look here it don't matter.
Speaker 1 (47:10):
No, I understand what you're saying.
At a certain point.
Speaker 2 (47:12):
I was like I love you , but don't let the door hit you
where the good Lord's pushing.
Speaker 1 (47:20):
No, I do understand and I have done the work.
Speaker 2 (47:22):
You know I'm going to just work later.
Yeah, so I ain't got to comehome.
Yeah, because there used to betimes I'd get the phone.
I would be irritated.
I'd have a good day at work,get off work and be irritated
about what I'm about to drive to.
Yeah, I would get home, sit inthe driveway like I don't want
to go to the goddamn house.
So, no, sir, you are not theasshole.
(47:43):
And four people.
Now her sister want to come too.
Yeah, Shit, get out of my house.
Speaker 1 (47:47):
I think the biggest thing, though, too.
Like.
So not only are you throwingthe kid off, everybody's off,
because it's not like they'rejust there and they're sticking
to a schedule too, like they'regoing to bed on time, they're
you know he's talking about.
They're staying up late at thekitchen table, and if they're
drinking beer, you know they'rebeing loud, they're talking loud
so of course the baby can't goto sleep.
(48:08):
You know what pissed me off?
Speaker 2 (48:09):
the fact that I'm working every day to pay for
something that you enjoying.
Bye, damel, that'sille.
That would piss me off.
Bye, bye.
Speaker 1 (48:17):
Call me petty, you're petty.
I already know that.
Speaker 2 (48:20):
Yeah, I'm a board member.
I've already said that, right,okay.
Speaker 1 (48:23):
I'm a board member.
I say this proudly.
Speaker 2 (48:27):
I go to work and I bust my ass so that my family,
the people with my last name,the people that I have either
held birth or swore vows to, canenjoy the future of my labor.
Not you extended motherfuckers.
Y'all got to go.
Speaker 1 (48:45):
Yeah, but that's not, that's not how that's not.
That's not how that works whenyou marry.
It works for me, it doesn't.
It hasn't actually, so that'snot true.
That's not true.
Speaker 2 (48:56):
Well, you, you know, we've got, we've had some
arguments about that.
Yeah, we're not gonna.
Speaker 1 (49:00):
We're not gonna uh but that's not true, because
that's not, because that's nothow family works.
So it that you know that's nothow family works.
But yeah, I totally agree withhim about like impeding on his
schedule and especially mybiggest thing is the baby,
because you're throwing the babyschedule off.
So yeah, but I don't thinkyou're the asshole, sir.
Speaker 2 (49:19):
Because if you love your grandchild, I'm going to
take him back home with you.
Bye.
Speaker 1 (49:24):
Okay, here we go.
Now this one, brace yourself,okay.
Last night my man and I were onone of our spontaneous
adventures.
We had talked about going to aswingers club before and last
night he came to me and said getdressed, we're going to the XXX
club.
We discussed our boundaries onthe way there and agreed that if
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we liked a girl it would be agreen light for some fun.
People kept approaching us butI wasn't interested.
Then a girl came over and weinstantly vibed and flirted a
bit.
I asked my man his thoughts andhe said let's pass on her.
We went to the next room andanother girl sat in between us.
She introduced herself and weall talked and we vibed.
(50:09):
My man tapped me on theshoulder and said I like her,
let's play with her.
We went to a private room, hadsome fun and had a really good
time.
When we finished, she came overto my man, called him by his
real name hugged him and thankedhim for coming.
I said hold up, do you guys knoweach other?
(50:31):
She said, yes, that's my ex andI invited, invited him here
tonight.
I had no idea she invited himor that she was his
ex-girlfriend and I feel played.
He thinks I'm tripping, but Ithink he was out of line.
Am I wrong or is he wrong?
He's wrong.
He's very much.
He's very.
He's very much he is very muchwrong.
(50:54):
I can't, I can't't.
You didn't even have to finishthe story, I knew where this was
going.
I can't.
Okay, hold on.
Of course he liked her.
He had been in there, so sheposted the text messages between
her and her boyfriend.
So she texted him.
I really feel played.
He said did you not have funthat night?
I'm not about to keep talkingabout this.
(51:15):
Last night was perfect.
She said you don't think takingme somewhere.
Your ex invited you to thensetting it up in a way.
That way was out of line.
I had no idea she was your exand I would have never agreed to
no BS like that.
He said, babe, you'reoverthinking this.
She's just my ex and I don'tmess with that girl.
(51:36):
I could have told you, but Iknow you would have said no, I
just wanted you to have a goodtime and you did.
I love you.
She said it's just the factthat I vibed with that other
girl more and you said youdidn't like her.
You really played it off andhad the girl come over like
y'all didn't even know eachother.
You played right in my face,she played right in my face.
(51:58):
But my issue is with you.
It's like you passed the girl.
I liked to go be with your exbecause you wanted to have fun
with your ex.
Speaker 2 (52:05):
He said answer the phone please so he started
calling her look here.
Speaker 1 (52:12):
He knew what he was doing he knew exactly what he
was doing.
Speaker 2 (52:14):
He knew exactly what he was doing.
Speaker 1 (52:14):
He thought he found a loophole to still have a good
time with his ex-girlfriend andthen still enjoy his current
girlfriend and play out thefantasy of having them both.
He played her and in my eyes,you cheated with your
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ex-girlfriend, and now we'redone, now we, I mean, and now
we're done, but she now we're itnow.
Speaker 2 (52:39):
We're done now we're done.
It's not like she had a goodtime too yeah, I did.
Speaker 1 (52:43):
Yeah, I would tell me you know what I did.
I sure did I bet and now I'mgonna find another man who can
show me a good time, just likethat.
Who's not gonna?
Speaker 2 (52:51):
you think that was 60 seconds.
Speaker 1 (52:54):
You're funny.
You're really funny Probably,but you're really funny, you're
really.
A lot can be done in 60 seconds.
Okay, 60 seconds is quite along time, okay, depending on
what the end goal is, okay, 60seconds can be a long time.
I'm just saying I'm not goingto argue with you, I'm just
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saying but yeah, he totallyplayed in your face, played you.
Speaker 2 (53:20):
Played yourself.
Speaker 1 (53:21):
Played yourself.
You heard me, you heard me.
Speaker 2 (53:26):
And in the morning I'm making waffles.
Speaker 1 (53:28):
Goodbye.
Yeah, no, absolutely not.
I think I would have to be likeI'm sorry, babe, but you just
ended our relationship.
If you think you're lonely now,Now that I know that you guys
still have a good vibe, go backto her.
Speaker 2 (53:44):
Why'd you leave her?
Speaker 1 (53:45):
Why'd you leave her?
Because the way you guys werevibing in the private room it
seemed like you had somethinggood going.
Speaker 2 (53:51):
She was crazy, but she did that one little thing I
liked.
Speaker 1 (53:55):
He just wanted to get it one more time.
Speaker 2 (53:56):
Just one more time Make sure I made the right
decision.
Speaker 1 (54:00):
No, he wanted to make sure that the ex-girlfriend
could teach the new girlfriendthe thing he liked, so the new
girlfriend can keep doing it.
Are you free Saturday?
Goodbye, good damn bye.
I can't with you.
Guys, this has been anotherepisode of the life after I do
podcast.
If you're not doing so already,don't forget to like, follow,
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You can follow us on instagram,facebook only talk.
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Thank you guys so much for allthe support that you guys have
shown us these past few weeks.
We have just hit 10 over 10k oninstagram.
(54:44):
Uh, we're right at that pointat 20k on tiktok and we are on
our way on youtube.
Speaker 2 (54:50):
So we appreciate all the love, all you guys following
me, but I don't want theseproblems because now my
followers are like 80% women.
I said I follow my wife.
Speaker 1 (55:02):
Goodbye, goodbye.
We appreciate all the love youguys.
We really do enjoy doing thisand spending time with you guys
every week, so we love it.
We just want to say thank you,but don't forget you can also
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