March 26, 2025 ⢠55 mins
đ¤ Whereâs the line between harmless fantasy and emotional infidelity? This question leads us into one of our most provocative conversations yetâsparked by Shaquille OâNealâs claim that emotional cheating is something âwomen made up.â đł
We break it all down with a simple but revealing scenario: If your partner gets a text from a mutual friend saying, âYou're doing a good job, baby, I love you,â should that raise red flags? While the message alone isnât technically cheating, we explore why secret emotional exchanges can signal the early stages of something inappropriate.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
because they don't think cheating is cheating until
the physical aspect.
Okay, because here's the thing,because it's the mentality of
it's all.
Just a fantasy until it'sreality, right, right, right.
And so as long as it's just afantasy, I've done nothing wrong
, because I should be allowed tofantasize.
Right, yes, you're fine, butonce it's a reality.
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Now I've crossed that barrier.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
But I think the problem for women comes in at.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
The fantasy is close to reality.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
The fantasy gets too close to the reality.
And that's what it is, becausethe more you, especially men,
when it comes to women.
We know that for most men,women are like candy and it's
like you see them and you'relike, oh my gosh, I just want to
taste that flavor.
Hey, everybody, and welcomeback to another episode of the
(01:05):
Life.
After I Do podcast how y'alldoing, am I Dr Now voice how
y'all doing how y'all doing, howy'all doing, how you doing.
I'm trying Dr Now.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
I'm trying.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Damn it, shut up.
I'm trying.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
You're not trying.
You're not.
Is that what he sounds like?
You're not going to starve.
You ate enough for the rest ofthe year.
Dr Now's a savage.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
When he talked I was like I was starving.
He was like it's not possibleand that's crazy work.
That's crazy work.
How are you going to tellsomebody that they not?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
starving when she said.
When she said I'm a picky eater, he said you're not a picky
eater.
He said you wouldn't be sittingin the house if you were picky.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Dr Now has no chill.
She said I don't like carrots.
He said you wouldn't be 600pounds if you were a pinky.
Doctor now has no.
She said I don't like carrots,oh vegetables.
He's like Well, you better getused to it Cause.
Hey everybody, welcome back toanother episode Of Life After I
Do Podcast.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
How y'all doing.
How y'all doing.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
How y'all doing.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Now we know he was tired last week.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
It's the same thing this week.
No, like we.
Good, he got a nap, so he saidthat he's good.
I've been on my feet all day.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
Well, I mean, you wanted to be a working woman all
of a sudden.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
So I've been working.
Look here I.
Have provided my wife feet allday.
Well, I mean, you wanted to bea working woman all of a sudden.
So I've been working.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Look here I have provided my wife for a life
where she works when she choosesto.
So when she chooses to work, Idon't got no slack.
She's still got to come homeand do what she's got to do.
She's still got to be a wife.
Once she clock out Good, dangon by, because I'm a husband
every day.
Don't buy.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Because I'm a husband every day, you sure about that
Every day?
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Are you sure about that Every day?
Okay?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Because you didn't get those clothes out the dryer.
I did, you got them out thedryer yes I did.
Oh wait, that was after I did.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
That was after I said and I started that was after I
said you're going to keeppassing by them, damn clothes in
Talk about it, laundry is notall my things to do, not all my
responsibility.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
That's neither here nor there.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
It's not here nor there for you, but for me it is,
but the fact that I still helpout from time to time.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Help out.
Yes, roach, you live here.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Roach.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
You live here.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Roach, you live here, huh.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Yeah, okay, because that's how you treated me when
you didn't want to get thoseclothes out the dryer a roach,
so I'm doing it back to you Ididn't stomp on you at all you,
you, quite literally did you'relike, how was?
No, no no, they need thebackstory.
Okay, go ahead.
So you know, I did laundry,right?
Speaker 1 (03:59):
no, you did our daughter's laundry.
Is it laundry?
It ain't my laundry, okay, butit was laundry.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Okay, so I did laundry.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Are you?
Speaker 2 (04:08):
done?
No, I'm not, are you, are you Idid?
Speaker 1 (04:13):
laundry.
Let's not talk about me.
Y'all don't understand.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Y'all don't understand what I go through.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
All right.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Anywho, long story short, he was like, hey, you
don't get that load of laundrythat's been in the dryer for the
past week.
And then my response was haveyou seen the laundry?
And he was like, yeah, I see itevery morning when I get up to
take the dog out.
And I said, oh, that'sdiabolical because you stare at
it every day, but not once didyou think to take it out of the
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damn dryer and put it over whereI can fold him.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
That's diabolical.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
He wasn't expecting that response.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
And this is how I know women only hear the part of
the story they want to hear.
I said I saw it every day inthe morning, as I'm taking the
dog out, which is part of myroutine in the morning, getting
ready to go.
All you have to do is open thedoor the hamper wasn't there.
The clothes were just in thedryer.
The the hamper wasn't there.
The clothes were just in thedryer.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
The hamper was in the house upstairs.
Do you have one arm or two?
Have you never taken clothesout of the dryer without?
Speaker 1 (05:09):
a hamper.
How was your week?
Oh my God, see what we're doinghere.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
We're not doing this.
It's diabolical.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
How was your week?
Speaker 2 (05:15):
My week was great love.
I love you.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
That's good.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Oh, you're going.
You gonna act like you don'tlove me now.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
You gonna act like you don't love me now cause two
can play that game.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
The world knows and you don't like it when I play
that game.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
The world knows I love you.
A lot of people's oohing andaahing at the fact that I told
you that I decided it when youwere in 6th grade, that you were
my wife, so you know I'ma stickby him.
I talked to Savannah today.
Okay, we're.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
I'm going to stick by them.
I talked to Savannah today.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Okay, we're not doing this again.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
You almost fell for it.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
I saw it in your eye, so you had a good week.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
I had a great week, yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Anything noteworthy.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Not that you would care to hear.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
as you've already said before, Anything noteworthy
that you want the people toknow about your week, anything
that you feel like oh my God,the masses have to know.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
The masses have to know.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
What do they have to know?
Speaker 2 (06:12):
That I'm still.
I'm still here.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
That's it, that's it.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
I'm still here.
I'm still here Another day.
I'm grateful that I'm stillhere, I'm still here.
Another day, okay, okay, I'mgrateful that I'm still here.
Missed one.
Tell me how you feel.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I won't be able to do that.
I had a, I had a, I had a.
I'm going to say I had a veryrevealing week.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Oh what was revealing about it.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
You know I just the way I moved decisions decisions
I make, trying to you know,trying to turn over a new leaf,
trying to implement some of this, more of the therapy, and
trying to, like, do thingsthat's beneficial for me and my
family.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
And trying to keep myself in a proper mental state
and not fly off.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
What does that mean?
Speaker 1 (07:09):
I'm not flying off the handles.
Cuss people out, understandthat there is a greater mission
involved, but don't let thelittle battles get to me.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
That's it.
So I put some things in motion.
I'm most likely going tocontinue them and we'll see how
it goes.
I'll report next week on howit's going, but I'll tell you
being back at work is ghetto.
I'm about to be a bootleg queen.
Bye.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Bye, wait a minute, so Trying to get it for the free
99.
So you're like you're talkingabout ghetto, right, so I took
your car get it for the free 99.
So you're like you talk aboutghetto, right, so I took your
car on my job today.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Oh my God.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Go ahead and tell people.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Now let me tell you.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I have backup camera, assist and stuff in my car,
right, so obviously I have beenconditioned to drive.
You know, with my cameras andmy alerts and my beep, beeps,
you know, I don't really have tobe too mindful of a lot of
things.
My car pretty much tells meeverything.
So I'm on the phone with mysister and I went to put the car
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in reverse and I was like, um,I was telling her, I was like
yeah, I drove marisa's car to myjob today, and so I went to put
the car in reverse and thefirst thing I did was look down
at my screen, the, and I said,oh, shoot.
I said you don't have a backupcam.
And she was like, oh, you gotto use your mirrors.
I said, girl, I don't know howto use these mirrors.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Look here, I tell my wife all the time.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
You should have seen me.
I said wait a minute.
Ok, I went like this.
I was like OK, I said I can'tsee anything, and then you've
got that your little mirrors onthe side.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
You've got your what like.
It's a convex mirror a convexmirror.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Okay, well, it's got the mirror.
Then it's got the baby mirror inthe baby mirror is a convex
mirror and I was like looking,and then he got the big mirror
and the baby mirror.
She was like, not the babymirror, there's a baby mirror on
here.
She she was like that's so thatyou could see closer.
And I was like I can't do this.
And then I knew it was aproblem because I had stopped by
the flower shop before I wentto my client's house and I'm
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just so used to just likebacking out because my car again
the car does these things forme.
No, you get somebody in my car.
No, I didn't.
But it was really close becausethen I had remembered that I
wasn't in my car and I didn'thear no ding-dings and no
beep-beeps.
And so I was like, oh, shoot,where's the ding-dings and
beep-beeps?
And so I looked into therearview mirror and when I tell
(09:38):
you I was about eight inchesaway from that van's bumper, I
said I was just.
I said I just pulled, I justpulled out like and there could
have been anybody walking behindme With such confidence.
I just pulled out with straightconfidence.
I pulled out with straightconfidence and then, when I had
to put that car in reverse, Isaid and then there was a car
that was already parked next tothe parking space that I was
trying to park into.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
You had to pay attention when you backed up.
Oh my goodness, I have neverturned my neck so much.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
I don't have to turn my neck, I just have the mirrors
.
Look at the mirrors.
We just established that Ididn't use the mirrors.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
that much I tell my wife that my life is not as
luxurious as hers my life isn'tluxurious.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Most cars have backup cams.
I don't have bells and whistles.
No, you don't.
You barely have a bell and awhistle.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
I have the bare minimum to get me to and from
work.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Yeah, and then he gonna tell me he was like I only
drive my car 14 miles a day, 14miles a day.
He was like what more do I needfrom my car?
I drive it 14 miles a day.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
I said, sir, on the weekends, when I have to go
somewhere else and you need yourcar, it does the job.
It's very economical.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
It does the job, I'm grateful for it.
That's what I said.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
I was grateful.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Super grateful.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
There once was a time where my car was the preferred
car.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
It was.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Because my car was a manual.
Because she bought a manualmanual.
Uh, mind you, I told her not tobuy a manual I know, but I
really liked the car.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
So what was I supposed to do?
Speaker 1 (11:12):
and I said, look here I know I taught you how to
drive a manual, but you don't.
You not really bought thatmanual life.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
I said but I did it yeah yeah, for like four years,
three or four years and thesecond I bought my car.
I was in it.
You said wait that became thefamily car Wait, I ain't got it.
But we didn't have a family.
We're a family, we will alwaysbe a family, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
So then it became babe, can I drive your car that
you drive, yeah?
No, I don't want to shifteither look people, my first car
was a manual and I had that carfor like 12 years see, and had
you not got that car, I wouldn'thave bought my manual, because
I would have never learned howto drive it.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Because you taught me how to drive it, I mean you
taught me how to drive.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
feel like there's nothing on this planet I can't
drive, oh.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
I feel, like what.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
You can't drive a spaceship, it's okay.
No, you can't Most of it'scomputer.
That don't mean you can driveit.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
You've never been in one, I feel like I can drive
anything.
An airplane, I can do it, youcan't.
I've been in a simulator.
The mail, I can at least takeoff, I'm confident you're
confident, you can at least takeoff.
Well then, I'm confident I cantake off too.
I don't care.
I mean, it could have one wheel, two wheels, three, four, 18, I
could drive it okay and back itup you can back up an airplane.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Yes, okay I mean I wouldn't advise it, but if I
needed to, I could if youabsolutely had to like, if
everyone's life depended on itand you're the only one that was
confident enough.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
I whipped that bitch like I stole it.
See, that's the key.
I've been trying to tell peoplethe key to drive is confidence.
You have to drive it like youstole it.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Okay, I don't think that's it.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
You just got to drive it like you know what you're
doing, Look everybody know Iwhip stuff like I stole it.
That's why I would get inaccidents, because I'd be out
there, because when you stealshit you'd be careful, you push
it, but you don't really push it.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Oh, you don't take that same care with my car,
because you'd be driving my carrough.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Okay, first of all, I'm the only person that drive
your car like it's supposed tobe driven.
So what we got today booskies,because I'm not gonna go back
and forth with you about yourbad driving I don't have.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
I'm not a misled foot , I'm not a bad driver.
Listen, that was not my fault.
Your daughter had to use thebathroom.
He's referring to the fact thatI got a ticket.
I got a ticket in november.
Okay, listen, I got a ticket innovember for a speeding ticket.
Okay, I'm driving on the freeway, my kid is in the back seat.
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She wakes up out of a dead coma, sleep and yells I have to pee.
I have to pee.
And I'm like okay, like there'snowhere I can go to right now
to let you go pee.
And she's like panicking in theback Cause she's like I'm going
to pee in my car and my boosterseat, I'm going to pee in my
car and my booster seat, I'mgoing to pee.
So I started panicking.
So I'm seeing the exit comingup, so I sped up a little bit.
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I sped up, I wasn't speedingpreviously.
I sped up so that I could getto the exit quicker.
And it just so happens that as Isped up, there was a freaking
police officer right there, andso he pulls me over.
And he's like freaking policeofficer right there.
And so he pulls me over andhe's like do you know how fast
you were going and I was like Iwasn't going that fast and so I
told him.
(14:30):
I said my daughter has to usethe bathroom.
I was just trying to hurry upand get to the exit.
Like I gave him my license,registration, proof of insurance
.
I was like I don't have, uh,you know, tickets on my record
or anything like that.
I was like, officer, I'm reallyjust trying to get her to the
bathroom, like I promise youit's not a lie.
And he was like, oh no, no, Iunderstand.
I understand he took thelicense.
I'm thinking he's gonna comeback and be like go ahead and
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get her to the bathroom, slowdown that mother went back and
wrote me a damn ticket.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
Did you expect anything less?
Speaker 2 (14:59):
I expected him to come back with a warning and to
be sympathetic that my kid hadto use the bathroom he wouldn't
have walked away with yourlicense and id with a warning
for a warning.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
What we got today, booskies, now that you done,
told the people the lie.
You didn't tell everybody elsewhy was it a lie?
Speaker 2 (15:12):
you weren't even there.
You weren't even there I'm I'mgonna have to install cameras in
your car go ahead if that's so,to prove my point, because I'm
a safe driver, um.
So anyway, I was doing what Ibe doing late nights.
Sometimes, I said late night.
Nothing, scrolling is something.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Okay, so numbing activity.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Listen, I was scrolling and I came across this
video.
Now it's with my man, shaq, inthere.
I love Shaq, I love me someShaq the big cactus, I really do
.
But he really lost me on thisone.
So I was like oh, let me, letme see what Husby gotta say
about this one don't call meHusby, why I?
(15:57):
Made you a whole sweater thatsays Husby, and you love it it's
because it's purple okay anyway, so I'm gonna play the video
and then um yeah then we'll see,we will see, then we'll react
to it.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
Yeah, okay, let's get you ready.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Let's hear it all right, here we go a lot of men
are afraid of marriage.
Speaker 4 (16:14):
These days because y'all, because y'all got rules
and y'all don't tell us whatdoes that mean?
Y'all be making up rules whatrules rules Shaq?
All right, let me put youthrough a scenario.
Okay, what's your name?
Speaker 3 (16:29):
Anissa.
Speaker 4 (16:30):
All right, we're talking.
Yeah, I'll leave my phone righthere.
Speaker 3 (16:33):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (16:34):
And Anissa says you're doing a good job, baby, I
love you.
Is that cheating, yes or no?
Don't think about it.
You check on my phone.
You check on my phone andAnissa, your friend, says you're
doing a good job, baby, we'refriends too.
Oh, if you're friends, hold on.
You didn't know that she has mynumber, or we're texting, and
you see her and it just pop up.
She's sitting right there andit pop up my God, baby, you're
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doing a good job, I love you.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Is that cheating or not?
It depends on.
Speaker 4 (17:03):
you Answer the question.
We're dating and you text me,but she don't know that me and
you have been texting.
Speaker 3 (17:09):
I don't think that that's cheating, no, and the
reason why.
But let me tell you why.
Thank you, because you can'tcontrol another person.
Speaker 4 (17:15):
Nope, that ain't got nothing to do with it.
And also Nope, no.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
But the boundaries aspect of it.
Why is she calling you baby,baby?
That's what's throwing me off.
If she was just like you'redoing a great job.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
I love you.
That's fine, Okay, you're doinga good job, I love you.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
Oh, that's fine, I'm not pressed by that at all.
Speaker 4 (17:32):
But do you see her answer?
Speaker 3 (17:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:34):
And that's how most of them think.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
But I also think that a lot of them, and then that's
a word.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
y'all made up emotional cheating.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
That's a.
Thing.
Speaker 4 (17:42):
How do you know my emotions?
How do you know I'm just notplaying with the other side when
I say I love you, I miss you,then you're emotionally playing
with her.
Okay, but what does that matterto you?
You think I'm emotionalcheating, which doesn't exist,
by the way.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
It does exist.
Speaker 4 (17:57):
It does not.
If you are emotionallyconnected with another person
and I don't know about it, howdo you know I'm emotionally
connected with another person?
How do you know?
Just because you read something.
Speaker 3 (18:05):
Well, you wouldn't know, and that's the whole thing
about cheating because there'sno conversation about it, but if
there's a woman or a man andthey are with each other having
intimate conversations orintimate experiences that's
Experiences, is a differentthing, because in law
enforcement right, what's yourname, my guy Kenny, I can say
right here on camera yeah.
Speaker 4 (18:26):
As soon as I fucking leave this, I'm going to break
Kenny's jaw and throw him downthe steps.
Speaker 3 (18:30):
Yes, hold on.
Speaker 4 (18:31):
Hold on Right.
Speaker 3 (18:32):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (18:34):
But I can't be charged.
Y'all got me saying it oncamera.
But until I make the overt actI cannot be charged.
So it doesn't matter what I sayright now.
So you're saying, because itcan't be proved, no, I ain't
gonna know what I'm gonna proveIn order for me to be charged
for it.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
Alright, but you get the gist of it, right?
Yeah, I get the gist.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
There's a lot of shit in there.
You get the gist of it.
I get the gist of it, you goahead.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
I want to hear what your thoughts about.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
About what.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
He talked about another.
Okay, there's a lot of pointsin there.
Right that he attempted to makeokay.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
So in the first part, when he for when he talks?
About.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Let's play the scenario you and I are together,
right?
Obviously, the text message forthe text message.
So you and I are together and Ihave a female friend we have.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
We have a mutual female friend.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
We have a mutual female friend.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
We have a mutual female friend.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
Okay, and our mutual.
I didn't know that you and ourmutual female friend have each
other's phone numbers and youguys text back and forth.
His scenario was I pick up yourphone because we're dating and
our mutual female friend sends atext message or whatever that
pops up while I'm holding yourphone that says, while you're
(19:47):
doing a great job uh, doing agreat job, baby, I love you.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
And his question is is that cheating?
So if we isolate, if we're, ifwe're yeah, go ahead, go ahead,
Because I was.
I was.
Let me just finish this.
So if from his what he's tryingto say cause that's why he was
like no, just answer thequestion.
Don't think about it.
If we're looking at that as anisolation and there's a text
message that pops up, I'm goingto, just for my.
(20:13):
If my best friend texted youand said wow, you're doing a
good job, baby.
I love you diabolical um off ofthat isolated, like situation, I
can't say that that is cheating.
So if that's that's why he'slike, nope, don't, don't just.
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Is it cheating, yes or no?
That isolated situation is not.
It is not cheating.
However, it's not reallyquestionable.
It is inappropriate and it issafe to make assumptions that
something more could be going on, that is true.
But you're also in arelationship.
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But if you're, especially ifyou're married, I'm going to
need to know why anybody otherthan me and your mother and
grandmother are referring to youas baby.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
First of all because I got game.
Let's just get the obvious outthere, Okay.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
But okay, so I'll give it to him.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
So let me answer the question.
Okay, go ahead, go ahead, okay.
So the first question you askedis it cheating?
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Is receiving that message, Because I think that's
what he's trying to get to likereceiving the message.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
The receiving message is not cheating?
Speaker 2 (21:30):
It's not, and I agree .
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Now I do agree that it is highly inappropriate,
Extremely and low key, verydisrespectful from the friend.
Because now I'm questioning isthis a friend or is this just a
person lying in wait to jump in?
They may never know.
That's my, that's my question,Cause he's entertaining it.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
So we may never know.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
We don't know if he's entertaining.
He never said that.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
He's accepting the messages.
He said he said.
Speaker 1 (22:00):
He said you guys, they've been texting Right, it's
cheating.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
I right um it's cheating.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
I don't necessarily think it's cheating.
Messaging the messaging okay, Ican get, I can get behind that.
Um, depending on the intentionin the context of the message
but you don't know what eachparty's intention.
I don't know right, okay,depending on the context of the
message.
Okay, right, because I can't.
I can't because, like, let'ssay, like your friend say your
friend's texting me, I can't, Idon't know what her intentions
are.
Right, you know like,especially if they're just like
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general messages.
Yeah, you know like, and it'sjust normal everyday
conversation.
Right, I can't, you're right.
So that part I can say no, it'snot cheating.
Now, I've said before and I'llsay it again again I limit my
communication with all otherwomen in general, and unless I'm
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related to you right, right, um, and I'm talking about blood
related to you you can't be likemarried in cousin.
You get treated like you're astranger.
That's ridiculous that's not.
The rules are the rules okay,the rules are the rules.
Okay, I could show you a textmessage through.
Well, I've never responded, butthey text all the time.
I know so, and it's not me notwanting to respond, it's just
that's how I show respect to you.
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Yeah, I don't engage inconversation like that unless
I'm doing some type of businessor type of planning event where
I have to then communicate.
So I don't necessarily see thetext as cheating.
It is questionable because whyis she referring to you as baby?
And then, on top of that, whyis she telling you that you're
killing it?
I need the context of this.
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What am I killing?
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Well, it probably like he was a basketball player.
So let's just say, like youknow, oh, you killed it in that
game.
Baby, I love you.
Okay, okay, because I didn'teven agree.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
I didn't even agree, okay Because that I'm cool with,
with what it's, the baby part.
That's what they said.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
And then he said, okay, take the baby part out.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
And she just said oh you killing it, I love you.
That's fine, Depending on whoit's from, If it's a close
friend and y'all know each othera while the I love you part,
that's fine, especially if I'maware that you guys have each
other's numbers and that shetakes back and forth.
But I didn't know that y'allbeen in communication Now like
if someone we've met likerecently in the last couple
years texts that to me like whydoes bitch tell you saying she
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love you?
Speaker 2 (24:24):
I'm going to have to go have a conversation with her.
Speaker 1 (24:25):
Right, so that's different.
But if it's someone that we'vehad, how'd she get your number?
You Text Maurice, he knows no,but yeah.
So in that answer I don'tnecessarily think it's cheating,
but it is.
It goes back to a while agowhere I said the notion of part
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of being a good husband is agood and a good spouse, and part
of being a protector is alsoprotecting your emotional
stability.
Right, so I see this as a thingto where, if you read that,
that can lead you to believesomething's going on.
Right, so now, if I've led youto believe something's going on,
there's a part of me that hasfailed to assure you in some way
(25:09):
.
Right, so I feel like that partof it is wrong Cause.
Why, again, why would she betexting you this unless there
were something else going on?
And the fact that, like he saidin his example, that you didn't
even know she, we were texting.
Right, so why is now?
So?
Now I'm questioning why is theconversation a secret?
Speaker 2 (25:28):
Correct.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
Right.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
If we're all friends why can't?
We be in a group chat.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
I don't know personally.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
I know, but that's what I'm saying.
Why couldn't we be in a groupchat or something?
Speaker 1 (25:41):
So it's like that part I don't necessarily see the
.
I agree with you.
I don't see the text message ascheating, but I do see it as
questionable.
And it's the baby part.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
And I think the part that what is kind of was getting
for me, where I think he waslosing it or not really
understanding, is, even thoughthat message may not have
technically been cheating, whywould you want to create any
type of situation or scenariowhere your partner would even
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have the thought, based onsomething like that, that there
could be something going on?
And then let's just call itwhat it is.
He's a high high profile male,right?
Um?
if we're, if, if, if we'rereferring to you know like a lot
of people like to refer to highvalue men as they're dealing
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with their financials.
You know like I have a wholeidea on that either way.
But we'll just say for societalstatus, that he's considered a
high value man.
He's well known, he's highvalued.
You know that you have womenwho throw themselves at him
anyway just because of who he is.
So if we are in relationtogether, why would you then
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think that it would be evenappropriate that you receive
text messages like that, or thatyou would, or that you would
even not address the woman who'snot your woman to text you
something like that, justbecause you guys are friends,
because, like, like, I, like howyou said.
I think that I would find thatyou being disrespectful to me.
(27:22):
I hold you more accountable thanI hold her accountable but both
of you, but both of you aregoing to be on the same bullshit
of we're just friends, and thenyou're gonna sit up here and
say, yeah, but we're justfriends too.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
That should not be your response, but my thing is
like my question would be whathas happened to get her to a
point to where she's comfortable?
Speaker 2 (27:45):
he's because he's made her comfortable to do it.
It all still falls back withthe guy.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
So here's the thing If you've now made her
comfortable enough to call youbaby, now I have to say you are
cheating, because now you haveemotionally made yourself
available to somebody.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
Which goes into the next phrase.
Yeah, emotional cheating it's athing, but he says it's not a
thing, because how?
Speaker 1 (28:11):
do we know how?
Speaker 2 (28:12):
do we know that you're?
Speaker 1 (28:13):
how do you know?
My emotions it's a thing forwomen.
Um, I don't think men accept itas a thing like something that
you guys practice.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
You mean mean Right, or something that happens to you
guys.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
No, it happens.
Oh, it definitely happens.
We just see it as we don't.
Just a lot of men are on thelevel of cheating.
Emotional cheating is somethingthat I do believe is real,
right in the context that youbelieve it is and because,
basically, at that point, onceyou're emotionally cheating,
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you're now removing emotionalaccess, or you know, or access
from your spouse to an outsideparty.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
Yeah, because now you're entertaining You're going
to start entertaining the idea.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
And now you're building a connection outside of
friendship with someone who'snot your partner.
Yeah, so that's the cheatingpart.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
And that's the fun aspect of it.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
So, like a lot of men will say that, oh no, it's not
cheating until the physicalaspect has happened.
Right the way the majority ofwomen operate.
You know that the emotionalaspect has to be there first in
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order for the physical aspect tohappen.
So if you're planting, even ifbecause I do think there's
situations where there's guysjust being friendly, yeah, and
she's seeing it the wrong way,right?
Speaker 2 (29:45):
So she knows that he doesn't have enough assurance
about himself to tell her tolike back off or you're being
inappropriate.
So he's just like I'm going tobe a gentleman because I don't
want to hurt her feelings.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
So, and so there are cases like that to where, like
he's in like she's seeing it oneway, he's being friendly, and
then like that, can you know?
Then she kind of getsaggressive and he kind of tells
her to back off, whatever, andhe's not seeing it as he's
cheating, because he's just like, hey, I'm just being there for
a friend or whatever the casemay be, right.
Um, because I do feel like alot of this.
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A lot of times in situationslike this, it goes both ways,
like it's almost like I don'twant to say dirty macking, it's
almost like Dirty macking.
Yeah, don't worry about that,dirty macking it's a guy thing,
the guys understand.
It's almost like what guys do,right, what some guys do.
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It's almost like what guys do,right, what some guys do.
Speaker 2 (30:49):
It's like what do guys do, baby?
Speaker 1 (30:52):
Like it may be a single guy who's interested in
this woman, right, okay, and sothey'll play the friendship role
, right, with the hopes of.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
Getting closer.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
Eventually getting closer and preserving the the
position right.
So they kind of like, have herin their back pocket and they go
out right, and you know, theseare the girls, they guys,
they'll go and they'll ask thegirls for like, oh, I want to do
this for my girl.
What do you think about this?
This?
Speaker 2 (31:16):
this.
Oh okay, you know what I'msaying.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
They like right and so like the whole time you know
playing her.
They're playing the girl thatthey want to be with, because
now she's telling him you knowher playbook, right, and so now
he's there, he's supportive, heshows up and he's really just,
he's really building a somewhatof a connection to get in there,
(31:40):
right, and it's it's kind oflike the same thing.
It's like women do the samething.
Okay, well, I can see that whenI do this, this, this, he likes
this type of attention, so hemust not be getting this.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
So if I just it's like trying to find a like, so
they they find like their littlein, and then at that point it's
like, okay, well, if I justplay this position long enough
might get tired of her yeah, youknow, and I can be the one like
every time he's upset, I can belike yeah, and I can be like oh
, I know that little thing shedo when she get mad, and you
know how my girl is, and yeah, Iknow and then you should be
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having conversations like that.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
I would never treat you like that baby boy, please,
baby, I never like that.
Bye baby, baby, never treat youlike that.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
Bye, baby, baby, I would never cheat you like that
baby.
Speaker 1 (32:27):
You know.
So I mean emotional cheating isa thing.
It is a thing and it's um.
I mean I don't think I've everexperienced it or done it.
Speaker 2 (32:39):
I mean because I tell people hey, you don't, you
don't think, I don't think.
I mean, I feel like that wouldbe like something you would know
definitively, yes or no thenit's a no.
I've never done it, I thinkthat would be something
definitive, that that, becausethat's like the same as I don't
think I cheated, I've never,I've never cultivated a
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relationship where that made youemotionally available to
anybody that's good to knowsometimes I'm not even
emotionally available to anybody.
Speaker 1 (33:10):
That's good to know.
Sometimes I'm not evenemotionally available to myself.
Preach Bishop.
Okay, you know what LaJules?
I kind of miss LaJules.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
I miss LaJules too.
I didn't see her this week.
She's sick right now.
She's hilarious um, yeah, sothe whole thing about men being
afraid to marry because womenmake up rules, we're not making
up that's not, it's not, it'snot made up like it's for me I
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know common sense isn't common,but but see, I was with him on
that part.
What that women make up rules.
What rules do we make up?
Speaker 1 (33:52):
you got women out here that play the game.
Speaker 2 (33:54):
Okay.
You have men who play the game,okay, so I guess we all just
out here playing the game.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
But you know a lot of women play the game a lot
better than men and the thing isfor a lot of it ain't to for a
woman to get okay the thing is alot of women.
I've seen women play the roleto get the ring and then switch
once they get the ring.
So that part of the statement Iagree with you should have
(34:22):
edited better.
I agree with what you just saidas well, that that's good.
But that's why I tell men, youcan't be so simple-minded.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
Because I didn't ask you to marry me, boo, you came
to me.
Speaker 1 (34:34):
Yeah, but sometimes you know you got some women that
hit you with the ultimatum.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
Okay, Well then you shouldn't be pressured.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
Oh, I wasn't.
Oh, I know you weren't.
I wasn't Because in sixth grade, when I was in seventh grade
and I saw you all cross thatquad and you was wearing blue
jeans and a white shirt.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
That was my favorite.
My favorite type of outfit Acrisp white shirt and some blue
jeans.
Speaker 1 (34:56):
And you was looking good, that ass was out there.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
I was like 11.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
That ass was out there.
Speaker 2 (35:03):
I remember, and he was looking at my ass.
Speaker 1 (35:05):
I was a little boy Diabolical.
It was Crazy work.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
It was Crazy work.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
You had the biggest titties in the sixth grade.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (35:19):
I said that's a woman right there.
Speaker 2 (35:21):
No, sir, no sir, I was not.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
I mean to me you was.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
Your hormones were just like you were on that cusp.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
And a sea full of sticks.
You was a bush.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
What?
Where did the conversation gojust now?
I don't even know what'shappening right now.
Tell him Bishop Preach, bishop,he's so silly.
Okay, get back to the clip,okay, okay.
So then he talks about theother half.
Speaker 1 (36:03):
Okay, are we going to play the other half?
Speaker 2 (36:07):
Well, he was kind of going into the.
Basically he can say like hisscenario, I can say that I'm
going to knock him out, breakhis jaw, but it doesn't count
until I actually do it.
Speaker 1 (36:19):
That's what I was speaking to a part about, like
men don't see.
That's why a lot of men don'tbelieve in emotional cheating,
because they don't thinkcheating is cheating until the
physical aspect.
Because here's the thing,because it's the mentality of
it's all just a fantasy untilit's reality, right, right,
(36:41):
right.
And so as long as it's just afantasy, I've done nothing wrong
, because I should be allowed tofantasize, right, yes, you're
fine.
But once it's a a fantasy, I'vedone nothing wrong, because I
should be allowed to fantasize.
Speaker 2 (36:46):
Right.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
But once it's a reality.
Now I've crossed that barrier.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
But I think the problem for women comes in at.
Speaker 1 (36:55):
The fantasy is close to reality.
Speaker 2 (36:57):
The fantasy gets too close to the reality.
And that's what it is, becausethe more you, especially men,
when it comes to women.
We know that for most men,women are like candy and it's
like you see them and you'relike, oh my gosh, I just want to
taste that flavor.
So it's like shut up bye.
So it's like yes, you can, youcan have your fantasy, you can
(37:19):
play around with it, but howlong is that fantasy gonna be
gonna satiate you before you'regonna be like you know what damn
, I just I gotta, I gotta do itlike.
I just gotta see what it'sabout and because?
Speaker 1 (37:30):
see, my response to that would be if, if the woman
is taking care of home, that'snot no that's not, that's not a
thing.
Speaker 2 (37:36):
Oftentimes, okay, no, it's not even.
Oftentimes, no, no, that's nota thing.
You can have that like, and youknow that's like a hot topic
for me because you can have, ifyou want to play, play it that
way the man and the woman.
You can have a woman who isavailable to her husband 24, 7,
7 days a week and he will stillgo out there and sleep with
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Susie Q from work or go to thestrip club and get and fly too
close to the sun.
Or it was just a hand job.
Or it was just a hand job or itwas just a blowjob hold on hand
jobs are not cheating maurice,I will throw that.
I will throw this microphone atyour head.
I promise you.
I will throw it at you.
I will throw it at you.
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Getting a hand job isabsolutely cheating.
If I'm, if I never Getting ahandjob is absolutely cheating.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
Getting a.
Speaker 2 (38:29):
BJ is absolutely cheating.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
If I never interview her.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
Maurice, that is no that is no, it is no, it is a no
, it's not cheating.
It is a no, it's not cheating.
It is a no, it's not cheating.
Yes, it is it's not cheating it, absolutely Okay.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
She's working hard, okay, as a massage therapist.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
Listen, I'm going to tell you like I told you last
episode.
I'm going to tell you like Itold you last episode, okay, I'm
going to say, like I said itwas a few episodes ago Okay, if
the rules apply to you, therules are going to apply.
(39:11):
No, it's not the same no.
So if you're saying, if you'retelling me, a handjob and a bj
is not cheating, baby, guess whoelse for the get happy endings
at their massage appointment?
Because, because, because Iwant a happy ending at my
massage appointment because yourhand jobs require insertion,
mine don't.
No, no, no, it is still cheating.
Okay, I'm just playing with you, I don't know.
(39:36):
No, sir, you just saw your face.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
When I said that I gotta say something, I say
something wrong.
Speaker 2 (39:43):
I didn't think you would turn up Because you be
playing way too much.
Because then you know what mynext question was going to be
who the hell you let give you ahair job, don't worry about it.
Okay.
Okay, I wasn't cheating, really.
Okay.
(40:03):
Okay, go ahead.
Go ahead, I'll just reinstatemy friday appointments too much
fun, I'll reinstate I'llreinstate my friday appointments
.
I'll make me some new fridayappointments, yeah, see, and
then if women do it, whoreyou're just a whore I have to
(40:25):
tell you the master lock and themaster key again, maurice?
no, damn, no, masterore, you'rejust a whore.
Do I have to tell you about theMaster Lock and the Master Key
again, maurice?
No, damn, no.
Master Lock and Master Key,just a shitty lock.
Okay, okay, shitty lock my ass.
Shitty lock my ass.
Whatever I'm trying to tell you, take me when I'm trying to
tell you Shitty, lock your assis shitty locked.
(40:45):
I can't stand you.
Anywho, like I was sayingbefore, my husband tried to.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
I'm sorry y'all.
Speaker 2 (40:56):
I can't.
I love you so much.
Speaker 1 (41:00):
I love you too, this ain't got nothing to do with
that episode.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
Anywho, he was trying to make the point that if the
act has not happened, then itdoesn't count.
Speaker 1 (41:12):
I could be in her house, in her bed.
That's cheating as long as Idon't.
Speaker 2 (41:19):
That's cheating If you in her house, in her bed,
whether y'all screwed or not,it's cheating.
Speaker 1 (41:24):
I go ah, can't do it, like, uh, just like, how on
baby boy.
What if I go?
Ah, can't do it.
Just like, how on On Baby Boy?
No, I think I love my wife whenhe went to take his shirt off
and he got here and he thoughtabout his kids and he didn't do
it, he didn't cheat, he neverslept with her.
Speaker 3 (41:39):
They didn't cheat.
Speaker 1 (41:39):
He was there.
It was right there in front ofhim.
Speaker 2 (41:50):
He didn't do it and gee he realized in the end he
did love his wife.
I'm just going to breathe.
Speaker 1 (41:55):
I just want to tell you okay, let me start being
serious.
Now I will say this, going backto what I said earlier about it
is a woman's job, right.
And to your point, what yousaid was about it is a woman's
job, right.
And to your ask, to your point,what you said was also true how
she can be available all thetime.
Right, yes, here's the thingbeing available doesn't
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necessarily, uh, mean thatyou're satisfying I know where
you're going with this, that'sone thing, right but.
But being available, that isn'timportant.
Right Again, that's aconversation need to be had,
right.
But at the same time, what I'msaying is I think that is a
requirement to to not want forhim not to want to cheat, right
(42:41):
Diminish the fact that there arejust some people out here with
low frequencies, low morals andjust clearly don't give a F
about anybody but themselves.
So they just see about.
You know it's the people whothey're going to go out there
and cheat.
I believe that you have peoplethat are going to go out there
and cheat, no matter what Right,no matter how happy or unhappy
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they are.
Speaker 2 (43:04):
Right and you have men who think that it's their,
it's like their right to do so.
I mean, some men do, Some menlegitimately believe that Like
it's my right to do that.
Speaker 1 (43:16):
I more so, align with the fact that you have no
self-control.
Speaker 2 (43:20):
Well, and we've had that conversation before right,
so I know I can't remember theshow that I had watched it on,
but it was basically, um, a manreferring to himself as a high
value man and uh, I think it was, and he was uh discussing about
how, um, you know, men were notintended to practice monogamy.
(43:43):
and he will not be held to anegative standard for standing
up for his biological right tobe able to sleep with multiple
women or whatever you know.
Because, also, as a high valueman, he, um, he has a lot of
availability of women that areavailable to him, he has a
(44:03):
certain level of women that areavailable to him, and so on and
so forth.
Right, so, yes, but he, he, hestated that as well.
But my thing is is, if you cansit up here and say that you are
a high value man and you, youknow, you work out, you make
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money, you have businesses andyou're a disciplined businessman
and all this, that and thethird, why can't you be
disciplined enough to practicemonogamy?
Speaker 1 (44:37):
My only answer to that is that if that's how you
want to live your life and thewomen know about it and they
agree to it, that's fine.
That's fine.
I have no issue with that.
Do you boo-boo, right, I?
But I also believe that youcannot love more than one woman
intently enough, to your fullability they're not trying to
(45:00):
because you're not, you're notgoing to be able to can meet all
the needs of more than onewoman.
You can't meet all the needs ofone woman when you try to be
able to meet all the needs ofmore than one woman.
You can't meet all the needs ofone woman when you try to be
intentional.
Speaker 2 (45:11):
But these women that he's referring to, like when you
see these women he's referringto, he is meeting their need.
Their need is green.
Speaker 1 (45:19):
Yeah, okay, exactly.
It's not that difficult, butagain, that is not that
difficult, but that's okay.
I guess I'm just builtdifferent.
That difficult, but that's okayI guess I'm just built
different.
Speaker 2 (45:27):
No, but that's.
That's an understanding of anarrangement on both parties yeah
, but that means nothing.
Speaker 1 (45:31):
Yeah, so, but that means that that, that to me
that's not a relationship,that's a transaction.
I should be, a form of arelationship.
She'll be there as long as thecheck clears, and when the check
clears, just like yes, this iswhere um, and she's gonna be
what he needs her to be she'sgonna look good as long as the
check clears as long as thecheck clears, because he hasn't.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
He knows that without him providing the mean green
that he don't get that level ofwoman.
And she understands that youonly get to spend time with me
and you have access to mebecause of what you can provide
for me.
So we have an understanding.
That is a relationship, I guess.
I mean, when you think about it, aren't most relationships some
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form of transactional?
Speaker 1 (46:17):
What transaction am I getting?
Speaker 2 (46:22):
Because I'm getting the short end of the transaction
, please tell me you really wantme to check this microphone at
your head?
At your head.
Please tell me you want me tocheck this microphone at your
head.
Speaker 3 (46:28):
At your head, please tell me.
Speaker 2 (46:28):
You want me to check this microphone at your head,
don't you?
Feed me three day old chickenthree day old chicken, really
the male.
I'm not doing this with you.
Speaker 1 (46:41):
I'm not doing this with you I know last week we
promised y'all that we'd have agood episode, but next week's
episode will be great byebecause next week's episode, why
you gonna get more rest?
No, we're gonna get more restand it's our anniversary episode
oh, okay and it's gonna be anR2Cent episode.
Oh so we gonna, we gonna comefor y'all.
We gonna, we gonna, we gonna doit.
Speaker 2 (47:05):
I just I feel like when I'm like sleepy, I just
laugh a lot, like everything isjust like more funny to me when
I'm a little tired more tiredtoo anywho you wanna go into the
?
Speaker 1 (47:22):
let's just go into R2-D2 that's it you give your
final thoughts.
I'll give my final thoughts.
I'll give my final thoughts.
Please give me your finalthoughts.
Speaker 2 (47:29):
I'll give my final thoughts?
Speaker 1 (47:30):
Okay, my final thoughts is that I don't I see
his points.
I don't necessarily, I don'tnecessarily agree with his
points.
I do believe emotional damageemotional damage emotional
cheating is a thing especiallyfor women.
I personal cheating is a thingespecially for women.
Speaker 2 (47:47):
I like how you keep throwing that in there
especially for women.
Speaker 1 (47:49):
It's a woman thing.
Speaker 2 (47:50):
We're going to acknowledge it's just a woman.
You're basically halfwayagreeing with him, because
that's the whole purpose.
He's saying that women make uprules and you're saying it is a
thing for women.
Speaker 1 (48:02):
I say it's for women because I understand what you
mean and I understand how youconnect the dots and I see how
that plays a role, because womenare emotional creatures.
Speaker 2 (48:12):
Now, I don't like the way you said that.
Speaker 1 (48:14):
Men are emotional creatures as well.
We just function.
On different emotions, we seethings differently.
So that's why I say in the eyesof a woman, emotional cheating
is a thing and I can understandthat.
I'm going to acknowledge howyou feel about something and
accept it for what it is.
Me personally, I think it'sbullshit.
I I see how it could be goeither way, depending on the
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case.
Now, as far as the text message, I don't think the text
messages were cheating textmessage is highly questionable.
Yes, but it's not cheating yes,I agree.
Speaker 2 (48:48):
I agree.
I agree that the text messageitself was not cheating, but it
is a segue, right.
I believe that it is okay,tommy got them draws dog okay,
rest peace, tommy.
Oh, he did die huh.
Speaker 1 (49:08):
Go ahead and read.
Oh man let's jump into R2 Sense.
Speaker 2 (49:11):
All right.
Speaker 1 (49:12):
This is crazy.
Y'all R2 Sense.
Speaker 2 (49:14):
She sent me this bullshit.
Speaker 1 (49:16):
R2 Sense.
She sent me this bullshit and Iread it.
Speaker 2 (49:19):
I said this is die-bomb.
Listen here this is why I betrying to stay and stay off of
social media.
Sometimes by social media Imean facebook, because people be
out here wilding.
Okay, this shit is real listen,you don't think any of them are
real I don't, you don't thinkhe doesn't think any of them are
real.
But I was scrolling on facebookand came across this and I was
(49:41):
like babe, you really need tolike, just just listen.
Speaker 1 (49:46):
I don't, I don't believe it's real.
Speaker 2 (49:47):
Just listen, go ahead and read.
My husband came home last weekin a worrying state.
He asked to talk.
This is when he explains to meI have a mistress and she's
pregnant.
She's threatening to tell youeverything if I don't send her
to Europe.
I'd rather you learn it from methan her Baby.
(50:10):
Please forgive me.
My problem is is that I don'tknow how to tell my husband that
his mistress is a liar.
I know 100% that she's lyingbecause my husband is infertile,
but he doesn't even know thathimself.
If I tell him the truth abouthis mistress, he will also know
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the same occasion that our twochildren are also not his.
Speaker 1 (50:40):
I don't believe this is real.
It's diabolical and it'shilarious, but I don't think
it's real.
And first of all, how does henot know he's infertile?
Speaker 2 (50:52):
he probably.
He probably doesn't, he justprobably doesn't know that he's
infertile how would he not knowif he's never been?
Speaker 1 (50:57):
how does she know if he's never been texted?
Speaker 2 (50:58):
I don't know she she might have taken a sample and
got it tested.
Speaker 1 (51:02):
No, that's not that work that is how that someone
has who has been uh tested.
Speaker 2 (51:07):
That's not how that works all they do is take a
sample and then they put it likedon't they die?
Speaker 1 (51:11):
off.
After a while you have, it hasto be a fresh sample okay, so
how you know she didn't get afresh sample?
Speaker 2 (51:15):
she probably been doing this for years, babe all
right, it's not how I can get asample from you tonight and get
it study okay, look here.
Speaker 1 (51:23):
All I'm gonna say is this if this is real, uh-huh,
all y'all going to hell.
How?
Speaker 2 (51:31):
you gonna say somebody going to hell?
You know you're not thedetermining factor.
If someone's going to hell, allI gotta say is if this is real.
Speaker 1 (51:44):
The only innocence in this story post, whatever you
want to call it, are thechildren and the unborn child.
Speaker 2 (51:53):
But listen here.
You find that part to bediabolical.
I find the part of the mistressthreatening that she going to
tell the wife if he don't sendher to Europe.
That is the oddest thing I haveever heard.
That's like saying if you don'tbuy my handbag, that is the
oddest thing I have ever heard.
That's like saying if you don'tbuy my handbag, I'm going to
tell your wife.
Speaker 1 (52:12):
Tell her.
Speaker 2 (52:13):
That we fucking.
Speaker 1 (52:15):
Okay, this is how we know you're sleeping.
Y'all know she's sleeping.
When she starts cussing thatway you know she's sleeping.
Y'all been fucking.
You got to get you some rest.
I don't know what to say tothis.
Speaker 2 (52:36):
What's your advice about it?
Should she tell him?
Because if she tell him, thenshe also gonna have to tell him.
Here's the.
Speaker 1 (52:43):
Thing.
Speaker 2 (52:43):
Or maybe, maybe, but here's the thing, since you
pointed out that there's no wayhe wouldn't want.
Or maybe, maybe, but here's thething, since you pointed out
that there's no way he wouldn'tknow that he's infertile.
Maybe, when she tells him thatthe mistress is lying because he
couldn't get her pregnant,maybe he's so slow that he
wouldn't even think twice aboutquestioning the kids first of
all, I'm not gonna help her.
Speaker 1 (53:02):
If this is real, I'm not going to help her.
If this is real, I'm not goingto help her get over her own boy
why?
I'm always on the man's side.
Speaker 2 (53:08):
That's wild, because you weren't just on Shaq's side.
Speaker 1 (53:11):
No, I see what you mean.
What are you wrong?
Yeah, but you said you'realways on the man's side.
Speaker 2 (53:15):
I gave him a little grace though.
Speaker 3 (53:16):
Oh, okay, oh, that's right.
Speaker 1 (53:28):
Because you don't believe in emotional and a bj is
not cheating either.
I never said that you said it'snot cheating.
Speaker 2 (53:31):
No, a bj is cheating because I, I I insert it just
like, just like me kissing myco-worker.
It's not.
No, you said it wasn't cheating.
Speaker 1 (53:37):
You said until we use tongue, then it's cheating, so
at least I know I can make outwith somebody without tongue
okay, this has been anotherepisode.
Speaker 2 (53:45):
Your words not mine, You're the one who said that I
can make out with my co-worker,Okay, but if I use tongue it's
cheating.
So I'll just tell him like hey,my husband has rules.
My husband does not want yourtongue in my mouth.
So as long as we can leave ourtongues out of it, let's.
Speaker 1 (54:02):
Oh, my God, that's after you have worked your 60
hours at the meal.
Speaker 2 (54:08):
I mean All of that is inappropriate.
Speaker 1 (54:09):
Okay, ma'am.
Speaker 2 (54:11):
Inappropriate but not cheating.
Speaker 1 (54:13):
Okay, what I would tell you to do if I had to
answer this is you know, youjust tell him hey, how about you
get a DNA test?
Make sure it's yours.
Speaker 2 (54:22):
No, you should just tell him why don't you, yeah,
get a DNA test.
Or why don't you just get yoursperm checked, because she might
be lying babe.
Speaker 1 (54:31):
No, because that's going to go back on her.
Just do the DNA test.
Speaker 2 (54:34):
That's what I said.
He might be slow enough that hewon't this has been another
episode of Life After I Did.
Speaker 1 (54:42):
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facebook, tiktok and YouTube,you can listen to us on all of
your DPSs.
Speaker 2 (54:56):
What if they don't know it?
Listen, you can't just bethrowing out acronyms.
Digital Streaming platforms.
Speaker 1 (55:02):
I'm sorry, DSPs.
Speaker 2 (55:04):
Look at you.
Speaker 1 (55:05):
And then you gave the wrong acronym.
I'm tired too um digitalstreaming platforms.
You, uh, so you, you streamerson youtube now, and youtube
you're gonna say yahoo.
They have podcast youtubepodcast um, apple podcast,
spotify, amazon squirt.
I heart all that that stuff.
(55:26):
You get a new episode everyWednesday.
My wife is extremely tired.
That's why I have to do this,and until next time, peace
Booskies.
because they don't think cheating is cheating until
the physical aspect.
Okay, because here's the thing,because it's the mentality of
it's all.
Just a fantasy until it'sreality, right, right, right.
And so as long as it's just afantasy, I've done nothing wrong
, because I should be allowed tofantasize.
Right, yes, you're fine, butonce it's a reality.
(00:21):
Now I've crossed that barrier.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
But I think the problem for women comes in at.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
The fantasy is close to reality.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
The fantasy gets too close to the reality.
And that's what it is, becausethe more you, especially men,
when it comes to women.
We know that for most men,women are like candy and it's
like you see them and you'relike, oh my gosh, I just want to
taste that flavor.
Hey, everybody, and welcomeback to another episode of the
(01:05):
Life.
After I Do podcast how y'alldoing, am I Dr Now voice how
y'all doing how y'all doing, howy'all doing, how you doing.
I'm trying Dr Now.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
I'm trying.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Damn it, shut up.
I'm trying.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
You're not trying.
You're not.
Is that what he sounds like?
You're not going to starve.
You ate enough for the rest ofthe year.
Dr Now's a savage.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
When he talked I was like I was starving.
He was like it's not possibleand that's crazy work.
That's crazy work.
How are you going to tellsomebody that they not?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
starving when she said.
When she said I'm a picky eater, he said you're not a picky
eater.
He said you wouldn't be sittingin the house if you were picky.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Dr Now has no chill.
She said I don't like carrots.
He said you wouldn't be 600pounds if you were a pinky.
Doctor now has no.
She said I don't like carrots,oh vegetables.
He's like Well, you better getused to it Cause.
Hey everybody, welcome back toanother episode Of Life After I
Do Podcast.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
How y'all doing.
How y'all doing.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
How y'all doing.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Now we know he was tired last week.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
It's the same thing this week.
No, like we.
Good, he got a nap, so he saidthat he's good.
I've been on my feet all day.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
Well, I mean, you wanted to be a working woman all
of a sudden.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
So I've been working.
Look here I.
Have provided my wife feet allday.
Well, I mean, you wanted to bea working woman all of a sudden.
So I've been working.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Look here I have provided my wife for a life
where she works when she choosesto.
So when she chooses to work, Idon't got no slack.
She's still got to come homeand do what she's got to do.
She's still got to be a wife.
Once she clock out Good, dangon by, because I'm a husband
every day.
Don't buy.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Because I'm a husband every day, you sure about that
Every day?
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Are you sure about that Every day?
Okay?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Because you didn't get those clothes out the dryer.
I did, you got them out thedryer yes I did.
Oh wait, that was after I did.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
That was after I said and I started that was after I
said you're going to keeppassing by them, damn clothes in
Talk about it, laundry is notall my things to do, not all my
responsibility.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
That's neither here nor there.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
It's not here nor there for you, but for me it is,
but the fact that I still helpout from time to time.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Help out.
Yes, roach, you live here.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Roach.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
You live here.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Roach, you live here, huh.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Yeah, okay, because that's how you treated me when
you didn't want to get thoseclothes out the dryer a roach,
so I'm doing it back to you Ididn't stomp on you at all you,
you, quite literally did you'relike, how was?
No, no no, they need thebackstory.
Okay, go ahead.
So you know, I did laundry,right?
Speaker 1 (03:59):
no, you did our daughter's laundry.
Is it laundry?
It ain't my laundry, okay, butit was laundry.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Okay, so I did laundry.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Are you?
Speaker 2 (04:08):
done?
No, I'm not, are you, are you Idid?
Speaker 1 (04:13):
laundry.
Let's not talk about me.
Y'all don't understand.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Y'all don't understand what I go through.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
All right.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Anywho, long story short, he was like, hey, you
don't get that load of laundrythat's been in the dryer for the
past week.
And then my response was haveyou seen the laundry?
And he was like, yeah, I see itevery morning when I get up to
take the dog out.
And I said, oh, that'sdiabolical because you stare at
it every day, but not once didyou think to take it out of the
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damn dryer and put it over whereI can fold him.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
That's diabolical.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
He wasn't expecting that response.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
And this is how I know women only hear the part of
the story they want to hear.
I said I saw it every day inthe morning, as I'm taking the
dog out, which is part of myroutine in the morning, getting
ready to go.
All you have to do is open thedoor the hamper wasn't there.
The clothes were just in thedryer.
The the hamper wasn't there.
The clothes were just in thedryer.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
The hamper was in the house upstairs.
Do you have one arm or two?
Have you never taken clothesout of the dryer without?
Speaker 1 (05:09):
a hamper.
How was your week?
Oh my God, see what we're doinghere.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
We're not doing this.
It's diabolical.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
How was your week?
Speaker 2 (05:15):
My week was great love.
I love you.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
That's good.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Oh, you're going.
You gonna act like you don'tlove me now.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
You gonna act like you don't love me now cause two
can play that game.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
The world knows and you don't like it when I play
that game.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
The world knows I love you.
A lot of people's oohing andaahing at the fact that I told
you that I decided it when youwere in 6th grade, that you were
my wife, so you know I'ma stickby him.
I talked to Savannah today.
Okay, we're.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
I'm going to stick by them.
I talked to Savannah today.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Okay, we're not doing this again.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
You almost fell for it.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
I saw it in your eye, so you had a good week.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
I had a great week, yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Anything noteworthy.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Not that you would care to hear.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
as you've already said before, Anything noteworthy
that you want the people toknow about your week, anything
that you feel like oh my God,the masses have to know.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
The masses have to know.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
What do they have to know?
Speaker 2 (06:12):
That I'm still.
I'm still here.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
That's it, that's it.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
I'm still here.
I'm still here Another day.
I'm grateful that I'm stillhere, I'm still here.
Another day, okay, okay, I'mgrateful that I'm still here.
Missed one.
Tell me how you feel.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I won't be able to do that.
I had a, I had a, I had a.
I'm going to say I had a veryrevealing week.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Oh what was revealing about it.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
You know I just the way I moved decisions decisions
I make, trying to you know,trying to turn over a new leaf,
trying to implement some of this, more of the therapy, and
trying to, like, do thingsthat's beneficial for me and my
family.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
And trying to keep myself in a proper mental state
and not fly off.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
What does that mean?
Speaker 1 (07:09):
I'm not flying off the handles.
Cuss people out, understandthat there is a greater mission
involved, but don't let thelittle battles get to me.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
That's it.
So I put some things in motion.
I'm most likely going tocontinue them and we'll see how
it goes.
I'll report next week on howit's going, but I'll tell you
being back at work is ghetto.
I'm about to be a bootleg queen.
Bye.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Bye, wait a minute, so Trying to get it for the free
99.
So you're like you're talkingabout ghetto, right, so I took
your car get it for the free 99.
So you're like you talk aboutghetto, right, so I took your
car on my job today.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Oh my God.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Go ahead and tell people.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Now let me tell you.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I have backup camera, assist and stuff in my car,
right, so obviously I have beenconditioned to drive.
You know, with my cameras andmy alerts and my beep, beeps,
you know, I don't really have tobe too mindful of a lot of
things.
My car pretty much tells meeverything.
So I'm on the phone with mysister and I went to put the car
(08:13):
in reverse and I was like, um,I was telling her, I was like
yeah, I drove marisa's car to myjob today, and so I went to put
the car in reverse and thefirst thing I did was look down
at my screen, the, and I said,oh, shoot.
I said you don't have a backupcam.
And she was like, oh, you gotto use your mirrors.
I said, girl, I don't know howto use these mirrors.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Look here, I tell my wife all the time.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
You should have seen me.
I said wait a minute.
Ok, I went like this.
I was like OK, I said I can'tsee anything, and then you've
got that your little mirrors onthe side.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
You've got your what like.
It's a convex mirror a convexmirror.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Okay, well, it's got the mirror.
Then it's got the baby mirror inthe baby mirror is a convex
mirror and I was like looking,and then he got the big mirror
and the baby mirror.
She was like, not the babymirror, there's a baby mirror on
here.
She she was like that's so thatyou could see closer.
And I was like I can't do this.
And then I knew it was aproblem because I had stopped by
the flower shop before I wentto my client's house and I'm
(09:16):
just so used to just likebacking out because my car again
the car does these things forme.
No, you get somebody in my car.
No, I didn't.
But it was really close becausethen I had remembered that I
wasn't in my car and I didn'thear no ding-dings and no
beep-beeps.
And so I was like, oh, shoot,where's the ding-dings and
beep-beeps?
And so I looked into therearview mirror and when I tell
(09:38):
you I was about eight inchesaway from that van's bumper, I
said I was just.
I said I just pulled, I justpulled out like and there could
have been anybody walking behindme With such confidence.
I just pulled out with straightconfidence.
I pulled out with straightconfidence and then, when I had
to put that car in reverse, Isaid and then there was a car
that was already parked next tothe parking space that I was
trying to park into.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
You had to pay attention when you backed up.
Oh my goodness, I have neverturned my neck so much.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
I don't have to turn my neck, I just have the mirrors
.
Look at the mirrors.
We just established that Ididn't use the mirrors.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
that much I tell my wife that my life is not as
luxurious as hers my life isn'tluxurious.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Most cars have backup cams.
I don't have bells and whistles.
No, you don't.
You barely have a bell and awhistle.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
I have the bare minimum to get me to and from
work.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Yeah, and then he gonna tell me he was like I only
drive my car 14 miles a day, 14miles a day.
He was like what more do I needfrom my car?
I drive it 14 miles a day.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
I said, sir, on the weekends, when I have to go
somewhere else and you need yourcar, it does the job.
It's very economical.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
It does the job, I'm grateful for it.
That's what I said.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
I was grateful.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Super grateful.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
There once was a time where my car was the preferred
car.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
It was.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Because my car was a manual.
Because she bought a manualmanual.
Uh, mind you, I told her not tobuy a manual I know, but I
really liked the car.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
So what was I supposed to do?
Speaker 1 (11:12):
and I said, look here I know I taught you how to
drive a manual, but you don't.
You not really bought thatmanual life.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
I said but I did it yeah yeah, for like four years,
three or four years and thesecond I bought my car.
I was in it.
You said wait that became thefamily car Wait, I ain't got it.
But we didn't have a family.
We're a family, we will alwaysbe a family, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
So then it became babe, can I drive your car that
you drive, yeah?
No, I don't want to shifteither look people, my first car
was a manual and I had that carfor like 12 years see, and had
you not got that car, I wouldn'thave bought my manual, because
I would have never learned howto drive it.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Because you taught me how to drive it, I mean you
taught me how to drive.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
feel like there's nothing on this planet I can't
drive, oh.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
I feel, like what.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
You can't drive a spaceship, it's okay.
No, you can't Most of it'scomputer.
That don't mean you can driveit.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
You've never been in one, I feel like I can drive
anything.
An airplane, I can do it, youcan't.
I've been in a simulator.
The mail, I can at least takeoff, I'm confident you're
confident, you can at least takeoff.
Well then, I'm confident I cantake off too.
I don't care.
I mean, it could have one wheel, two wheels, three, four, 18, I
could drive it okay and back itup you can back up an airplane.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Yes, okay I mean I wouldn't advise it, but if I
needed to, I could if youabsolutely had to like, if
everyone's life depended on itand you're the only one that was
confident enough.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
I whipped that bitch like I stole it.
See, that's the key.
I've been trying to tell peoplethe key to drive is confidence.
You have to drive it like youstole it.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Okay, I don't think that's it.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
You just got to drive it like you know what you're
doing, Look everybody know Iwhip stuff like I stole it.
That's why I would get inaccidents, because I'd be out
there, because when you stealshit you'd be careful, you push
it, but you don't really push it.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Oh, you don't take that same care with my car,
because you'd be driving my carrough.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Okay, first of all, I'm the only person that drive
your car like it's supposed tobe driven.
So what we got today booskies,because I'm not gonna go back
and forth with you about yourbad driving I don't have.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
I'm not a misled foot , I'm not a bad driver.
Listen, that was not my fault.
Your daughter had to use thebathroom.
He's referring to the fact thatI got a ticket.
I got a ticket in november.
Okay, listen, I got a ticket innovember for a speeding ticket.
Okay, I'm driving on the freeway, my kid is in the back seat.
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She wakes up out of a dead coma, sleep and yells I have to pee.
I have to pee.
And I'm like okay, like there'snowhere I can go to right now
to let you go pee.
And she's like panicking in theback Cause she's like I'm going
to pee in my car and my boosterseat, I'm going to pee in my
car and my booster seat, I'mgoing to pee.
So I started panicking.
So I'm seeing the exit comingup, so I sped up a little bit.
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I sped up, I wasn't speedingpreviously.
I sped up so that I could getto the exit quicker.
And it just so happens that as Isped up, there was a freaking
police officer right there, andso he pulls me over.
And he's like freaking policeofficer right there.
And so he pulls me over andhe's like do you know how fast
you were going and I was like Iwasn't going that fast and so I
told him.
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I said my daughter has to usethe bathroom.
I was just trying to hurry upand get to the exit.
Like I gave him my license,registration, proof of insurance
.
I was like I don't have, uh,you know, tickets on my record
or anything like that.
I was like, officer, I'm reallyjust trying to get her to the
bathroom, like I promise youit's not a lie.
And he was like, oh no, no, Iunderstand.
I understand he took thelicense.
I'm thinking he's gonna comeback and be like go ahead and
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get her to the bathroom, slowdown that mother went back and
wrote me a damn ticket.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
Did you expect anything less?
Speaker 2 (14:59):
I expected him to come back with a warning and to
be sympathetic that my kid hadto use the bathroom he wouldn't
have walked away with yourlicense and id with a warning
for a warning.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
What we got today, booskies, now that you done,
told the people the lie.
You didn't tell everybody elsewhy was it a lie?
Speaker 2 (15:12):
you weren't even there.
You weren't even there I'm I'mgonna have to install cameras in
your car go ahead if that's so,to prove my point, because I'm
a safe driver, um.
So anyway, I was doing what Ibe doing late nights.
Sometimes, I said late night.
Nothing, scrolling is something.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Okay, so numbing activity.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Listen, I was scrolling and I came across this
video.
Now it's with my man, shaq, inthere.
I love Shaq, I love me someShaq the big cactus, I really do
.
But he really lost me on thisone.
So I was like oh, let me, letme see what Husby gotta say
about this one don't call meHusby, why I?
(15:57):
Made you a whole sweater thatsays Husby, and you love it it's
because it's purple okay anyway, so I'm gonna play the video
and then um yeah then we'll see,we will see, then we'll react
to it.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
Yeah, okay, let's get you ready.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Let's hear it all right, here we go a lot of men
are afraid of marriage.
Speaker 4 (16:14):
These days because y'all, because y'all got rules
and y'all don't tell us whatdoes that mean?
Y'all be making up rules whatrules rules Shaq?
All right, let me put youthrough a scenario.
Okay, what's your name?
Speaker 3 (16:29):
Anissa.
Speaker 4 (16:30):
All right, we're talking.
Yeah, I'll leave my phone righthere.
Speaker 3 (16:33):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (16:34):
And Anissa says you're doing a good job, baby, I
love you.
Is that cheating, yes or no?
Don't think about it.
You check on my phone.
You check on my phone andAnissa, your friend, says you're
doing a good job, baby, we'refriends too.
Oh, if you're friends, hold on.
You didn't know that she has mynumber, or we're texting, and
you see her and it just pop up.
She's sitting right there andit pop up my God, baby, you're
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doing a good job, I love you.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Is that cheating or not?
It depends on.
Speaker 4 (17:03):
you Answer the question.
We're dating and you text me,but she don't know that me and
you have been texting.
Speaker 3 (17:09):
I don't think that that's cheating, no, and the
reason why.
But let me tell you why.
Thank you, because you can'tcontrol another person.
Speaker 4 (17:15):
Nope, that ain't got nothing to do with it.
And also Nope, no.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
But the boundaries aspect of it.
Why is she calling you baby,baby?
That's what's throwing me off.
If she was just like you'redoing a great job.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
I love you.
That's fine, Okay, you're doinga good job, I love you.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
Oh, that's fine, I'm not pressed by that at all.
Speaker 4 (17:32):
But do you see her answer?
Speaker 3 (17:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:34):
And that's how most of them think.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
But I also think that a lot of them, and then that's
a word.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
y'all made up emotional cheating.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
That's a.
Thing.
Speaker 4 (17:42):
How do you know my emotions?
How do you know I'm just notplaying with the other side when
I say I love you, I miss you,then you're emotionally playing
with her.
Okay, but what does that matterto you?
You think I'm emotionalcheating, which doesn't exist,
by the way.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
It does exist.
Speaker 4 (17:57):
It does not.
If you are emotionallyconnected with another person
and I don't know about it, howdo you know I'm emotionally
connected with another person?
How do you know?
Just because you read something.
Speaker 3 (18:05):
Well, you wouldn't know, and that's the whole thing
about cheating because there'sno conversation about it, but if
there's a woman or a man andthey are with each other having
intimate conversations orintimate experiences that's
Experiences, is a differentthing, because in law
enforcement right, what's yourname, my guy Kenny, I can say
right here on camera yeah.
Speaker 4 (18:26):
As soon as I fucking leave this, I'm going to break
Kenny's jaw and throw him downthe steps.
Speaker 3 (18:30):
Yes, hold on.
Speaker 4 (18:31):
Hold on Right.
Speaker 3 (18:32):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (18:34):
But I can't be charged.
Y'all got me saying it oncamera.
But until I make the overt actI cannot be charged.
So it doesn't matter what I sayright now.
So you're saying, because itcan't be proved, no, I ain't
gonna know what I'm gonna proveIn order for me to be charged
for it.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
Alright, but you get the gist of it, right?
Yeah, I get the gist.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
There's a lot of shit in there.
You get the gist of it.
I get the gist of it, you goahead.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
I want to hear what your thoughts about.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
About what.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
He talked about another.
Okay, there's a lot of pointsin there.
Right that he attempted to makeokay.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
So in the first part, when he for when he talks?
About.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Let's play the scenario you and I are together,
right?
Obviously, the text message forthe text message.
So you and I are together and Ihave a female friend we have.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
We have a mutual female friend.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
We have a mutual female friend.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
We have a mutual female friend.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
Okay, and our mutual.
I didn't know that you and ourmutual female friend have each
other's phone numbers and youguys text back and forth.
His scenario was I pick up yourphone because we're dating and
our mutual female friend sends atext message or whatever that
pops up while I'm holding yourphone that says, while you're
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doing a great job uh, doing agreat job, baby, I love you.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
And his question is is that cheating?
So if we isolate, if we're, ifwe're yeah, go ahead, go ahead,
Because I was.
I was.
Let me just finish this.
So if from his what he's tryingto say cause that's why he was
like no, just answer thequestion.
Don't think about it.
If we're looking at that as anisolation and there's a text
message that pops up, I'm goingto, just for my.
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If my best friend texted youand said wow, you're doing a
good job, baby.
I love you diabolical um off ofthat isolated, like situation, I
can't say that that is cheating.
So if that's that's why he'slike, nope, don't, don't just.
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Is it cheating, yes or no?
That isolated situation is not.
It is not cheating.
However, it's not reallyquestionable.
It is inappropriate and it issafe to make assumptions that
something more could be going on, that is true.
But you're also in arelationship.
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But if you're, especially ifyou're married, I'm going to
need to know why anybody otherthan me and your mother and
grandmother are referring to youas baby.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
First of all because I got game.
Let's just get the obvious outthere, Okay.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
But okay, so I'll give it to him.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
So let me answer the question.
Okay, go ahead, go ahead, okay.
So the first question you askedis it cheating?
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Is receiving that message, Because I think that's
what he's trying to get to likereceiving the message.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
The receiving message is not cheating?
Speaker 2 (21:30):
It's not, and I agree .
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Now I do agree that it is highly inappropriate,
Extremely and low key, verydisrespectful from the friend.
Because now I'm questioning isthis a friend or is this just a
person lying in wait to jump in?
They may never know.
That's my, that's my question,Cause he's entertaining it.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
So we may never know.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
We don't know if he's entertaining.
He never said that.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
He's accepting the messages.
He said he said.
Speaker 1 (22:00):
He said you guys, they've been texting Right, it's
cheating.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
I right um it's cheating.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
I don't necessarily think it's cheating.
Messaging the messaging okay, Ican get, I can get behind that.
Um, depending on the intentionin the context of the message
but you don't know what eachparty's intention.
I don't know right, okay,depending on the context of the
message.
Okay, right, because I can't.
I can't because, like, let'ssay, like your friend say your
friend's texting me, I can't, Idon't know what her intentions
are.
Right, you know like,especially if they're just like
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general messages.
Yeah, you know like, and it'sjust normal everyday
conversation.
Right, I can't, you're right.
So that part I can say no, it'snot cheating.
Now, I've said before and I'llsay it again again I limit my
communication with all otherwomen in general, and unless I'm
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related to you right, right, um, and I'm talking about blood
related to you you can't be likemarried in cousin.
You get treated like you're astranger.
That's ridiculous that's not.
The rules are the rules okay,the rules are the rules.
Okay, I could show you a textmessage through.
Well, I've never responded, butthey text all the time.
I know so, and it's not me notwanting to respond, it's just
that's how I show respect to you.
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Yeah, I don't engage inconversation like that unless
I'm doing some type of businessor type of planning event where
I have to then communicate.
So I don't necessarily see thetext as cheating.
It is questionable because whyis she referring to you as baby?
And then, on top of that, whyis she telling you that you're
killing it?
I need the context of this.
(23:34):
What am I killing?
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Well, it probably like he was a basketball player.
So let's just say, like youknow, oh, you killed it in that
game.
Baby, I love you.
Okay, okay, because I didn'teven agree.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
I didn't even agree, okay Because that I'm cool with,
with what it's, the baby part.
That's what they said.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
And then he said, okay, take the baby part out.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
And she just said oh you killing it, I love you.
That's fine, Depending on whoit's from, If it's a close
friend and y'all know each othera while the I love you part,
that's fine, especially if I'maware that you guys have each
other's numbers and that shetakes back and forth.
But I didn't know that y'allbeen in communication Now like
if someone we've met likerecently in the last couple
years texts that to me like whydoes bitch tell you saying she
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love you?
Speaker 2 (24:24):
I'm going to have to go have a conversation with her.
Speaker 1 (24:25):
Right, so that's different.
But if it's someone that we'vehad, how'd she get your number?
You Text Maurice, he knows no,but yeah.
So in that answer I don'tnecessarily think it's cheating,
but it is.
It goes back to a while agowhere I said the notion of part
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of being a good husband is agood and a good spouse, and part
of being a protector is alsoprotecting your emotional
stability.
Right, so I see this as a thingto where, if you read that,
that can lead you to believesomething's going on.
Right, so now, if I've led youto believe something's going on,
there's a part of me that hasfailed to assure you in some way
(25:09):
.
Right, so I feel like that partof it is wrong Cause.
Why, again, why would she betexting you this unless there
were something else going on?
And the fact that, like he saidin his example, that you didn't
even know she, we were texting.
Right, so why is now?
So?
Now I'm questioning why is theconversation a secret?
Speaker 2 (25:28):
Correct.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
Right.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
If we're all friends why can't?
We be in a group chat.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
I don't know personally.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
I know, but that's what I'm saying.
Why couldn't we be in a groupchat or something?
Speaker 1 (25:41):
So it's like that part I don't necessarily see the
.
I agree with you.
I don't see the text message ascheating, but I do see it as
questionable.
And it's the baby part.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
And I think the part that what is kind of was getting
for me, where I think he waslosing it or not really
understanding, is, even thoughthat message may not have
technically been cheating, whywould you want to create any
type of situation or scenariowhere your partner would even
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have the thought, based onsomething like that, that there
could be something going on?
And then let's just call itwhat it is.
He's a high high profile male,right?
Um?
if we're, if, if, if we'rereferring to you know like a lot
of people like to refer to highvalue men as they're dealing
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with their financials.
You know like I have a wholeidea on that either way.
But we'll just say for societalstatus, that he's considered a
high value man.
He's well known, he's highvalued.
You know that you have womenwho throw themselves at him
anyway just because of who he is.
So if we are in relationtogether, why would you then
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think that it would be evenappropriate that you receive
text messages like that, or thatyou would, or that you would
even not address the woman who'snot your woman to text you
something like that, justbecause you guys are friends,
because, like, like, I, like howyou said.
I think that I would find thatyou being disrespectful to me.
(27:22):
I hold you more accountable thanI hold her accountable but both
of you, but both of you aregoing to be on the same bullshit
of we're just friends, and thenyou're gonna sit up here and
say, yeah, but we're justfriends too.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
That should not be your response, but my thing is
like my question would be whathas happened to get her to a
point to where she's comfortable?
Speaker 2 (27:45):
he's because he's made her comfortable to do it.
It all still falls back withthe guy.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
So here's the thing If you've now made her
comfortable enough to call youbaby, now I have to say you are
cheating, because now you haveemotionally made yourself
available to somebody.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
Which goes into the next phrase.
Yeah, emotional cheating it's athing, but he says it's not a
thing, because how?
Speaker 1 (28:11):
do we know how?
Speaker 2 (28:12):
do we know that you're?
Speaker 1 (28:13):
how do you know?
My emotions it's a thing forwomen.
Um, I don't think men accept itas a thing like something that
you guys practice.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
You mean mean Right, or something that happens to you
guys.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
No, it happens.
Oh, it definitely happens.
We just see it as we don't.
Just a lot of men are on thelevel of cheating.
Emotional cheating is somethingthat I do believe is real,
right in the context that youbelieve it is and because,
basically, at that point, onceyou're emotionally cheating,
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you're now removing emotionalaccess, or you know, or access
from your spouse to an outsideparty.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
Yeah, because now you're entertaining You're going
to start entertaining the idea.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
And now you're building a connection outside of
friendship with someone who'snot your partner.
Yeah, so that's the cheatingpart.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
And that's the fun aspect of it.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
So, like a lot of men will say that, oh no, it's not
cheating until the physicalaspect has happened.
Right the way the majority ofwomen operate.
You know that the emotionalaspect has to be there first in
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order for the physical aspect tohappen.
So if you're planting, even ifbecause I do think there's
situations where there's guysjust being friendly, yeah, and
she's seeing it the wrong way,right?
Speaker 2 (29:45):
So she knows that he doesn't have enough assurance
about himself to tell her tolike back off or you're being
inappropriate.
So he's just like I'm going tobe a gentleman because I don't
want to hurt her feelings.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
So, and so there are cases like that to where, like
he's in like she's seeing it oneway, he's being friendly, and
then like that, can you know?
Then she kind of getsaggressive and he kind of tells
her to back off, whatever, andhe's not seeing it as he's
cheating, because he's just like, hey, I'm just being there for
a friend or whatever the casemay be, right.
Um, because I do feel like alot of this.
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A lot of times in situationslike this, it goes both ways,
like it's almost like I don'twant to say dirty macking, it's
almost like Dirty macking.
Yeah, don't worry about that,dirty macking it's a guy thing,
the guys understand.
It's almost like what guys do,right, what some guys do.
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It's almost like what guys do,right, what some guys do.
Speaker 2 (30:49):
It's like what do guys do, baby?
Speaker 1 (30:52):
Like it may be a single guy who's interested in
this woman, right, okay, and sothey'll play the friendship role
, right, with the hopes of.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
Getting closer.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
Eventually getting closer and preserving the the
position right.
So they kind of like, have herin their back pocket and they go
out right, and you know, theseare the girls, they guys,
they'll go and they'll ask thegirls for like, oh, I want to do
this for my girl.
What do you think about this?
This?
Speaker 2 (31:16):
this.
Oh okay, you know what I'msaying.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
They like right and so like the whole time you know
playing her.
They're playing the girl thatthey want to be with, because
now she's telling him you knowher playbook, right, and so now
he's there, he's supportive, heshows up and he's really just,
he's really building a somewhatof a connection to get in there,
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right, and it's it's kind oflike the same thing.
It's like women do the samething.
Okay, well, I can see that whenI do this, this, this, he likes
this type of attention, so hemust not be getting this.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
So if I just it's like trying to find a like, so
they they find like their littlein, and then at that point it's
like, okay, well, if I justplay this position long enough
might get tired of her yeah, youknow, and I can be the one like
every time he's upset, I can belike yeah, and I can be like oh
, I know that little thing shedo when she get mad, and you
know how my girl is, and yeah, Iknow and then you should be
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having conversations like that.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
I would never treat you like that baby boy, please,
baby, I never like that.
Bye baby, baby, never treat youlike that.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
Bye, baby, baby, I would never cheat you like that
baby.
Speaker 1 (32:27):
You know.
So I mean emotional cheating isa thing.
It is a thing and it's um.
I mean I don't think I've everexperienced it or done it.
Speaker 2 (32:39):
I mean because I tell people hey, you don't, you
don't think, I don't think.
I mean, I feel like that wouldbe like something you would know
definitively, yes or no thenit's a no.
I've never done it, I thinkthat would be something
definitive, that that, becausethat's like the same as I don't
think I cheated, I've never,I've never cultivated a
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relationship where that made youemotionally available to
anybody that's good to knowsometimes I'm not even
emotionally available to anybody.
Speaker 1 (33:10):
That's good to know.
Sometimes I'm not evenemotionally available to myself.
Preach Bishop.
Okay, you know what LaJules?
I kind of miss LaJules.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
I miss LaJules too.
I didn't see her this week.
She's sick right now.
She's hilarious um, yeah, sothe whole thing about men being
afraid to marry because womenmake up rules, we're not making
up that's not, it's not, it'snot made up like it's for me I
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know common sense isn't common,but but see, I was with him on
that part.
What that women make up rules.
What rules do we make up?
Speaker 1 (33:52):
you got women out here that play the game.
Speaker 2 (33:54):
Okay.
You have men who play the game,okay, so I guess we all just
out here playing the game.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
But you know a lot of women play the game a lot
better than men and the thing isfor a lot of it ain't to for a
woman to get okay the thing is alot of women.
I've seen women play the roleto get the ring and then switch
once they get the ring.
So that part of the statement Iagree with you should have
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edited better.
I agree with what you just saidas well, that that's good.
But that's why I tell men, youcan't be so simple-minded.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
Because I didn't ask you to marry me, boo, you came
to me.
Speaker 1 (34:34):
Yeah, but sometimes you know you got some women that
hit you with the ultimatum.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
Okay, Well then you shouldn't be pressured.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
Oh, I wasn't.
Oh, I know you weren't.
I wasn't Because in sixth grade, when I was in seventh grade
and I saw you all cross thatquad and you was wearing blue
jeans and a white shirt.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
That was my favorite.
My favorite type of outfit Acrisp white shirt and some blue
jeans.
Speaker 1 (34:56):
And you was looking good, that ass was out there.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
I was like 11.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
That ass was out there.
Speaker 2 (35:03):
I remember, and he was looking at my ass.
Speaker 1 (35:05):
I was a little boy Diabolical.
It was Crazy work.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
It was Crazy work.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
You had the biggest titties in the sixth grade.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (35:19):
I said that's a woman right there.
Speaker 2 (35:21):
No, sir, no sir, I was not.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
I mean to me you was.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
Your hormones were just like you were on that cusp.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
And a sea full of sticks.
You was a bush.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
What?
Where did the conversation gojust now?
I don't even know what'shappening right now.
Tell him Bishop Preach, bishop,he's so silly.
Okay, get back to the clip,okay, okay.
So then he talks about theother half.
Speaker 1 (36:03):
Okay, are we going to play the other half?
Speaker 2 (36:07):
Well, he was kind of going into the.
Basically he can say like hisscenario, I can say that I'm
going to knock him out, breakhis jaw, but it doesn't count
until I actually do it.
Speaker 1 (36:19):
That's what I was speaking to a part about, like
men don't see.
That's why a lot of men don'tbelieve in emotional cheating,
because they don't thinkcheating is cheating until the
physical aspect.
Because here's the thing,because it's the mentality of
it's all just a fantasy untilit's reality, right, right,
(36:41):
right.
And so as long as it's just afantasy, I've done nothing wrong
, because I should be allowed tofantasize, right, yes, you're
fine.
But once it's a a fantasy, I'vedone nothing wrong, because I
should be allowed to fantasize.
Speaker 2 (36:46):
Right.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
But once it's a reality.
Now I've crossed that barrier.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
But I think the problem for women comes in at.
Speaker 1 (36:55):
The fantasy is close to reality.
Speaker 2 (36:57):
The fantasy gets too close to the reality.
And that's what it is, becausethe more you, especially men,
when it comes to women.
We know that for most men,women are like candy and it's
like you see them and you'relike, oh my gosh, I just want to
taste that flavor.
So it's like shut up bye.
So it's like yes, you can, youcan have your fantasy, you can
(37:19):
play around with it, but howlong is that fantasy gonna be
gonna satiate you before you'regonna be like you know what damn
, I just I gotta, I gotta do itlike.
I just gotta see what it'sabout and because?
Speaker 1 (37:30):
see, my response to that would be if, if the woman
is taking care of home, that'snot no that's not, that's not a
thing.
Speaker 2 (37:36):
Oftentimes, okay, no, it's not even.
Oftentimes, no, no, that's nota thing.
You can have that like, and youknow that's like a hot topic
for me because you can have, ifyou want to play, play it that
way the man and the woman.
You can have a woman who isavailable to her husband 24, 7,
7 days a week and he will stillgo out there and sleep with
(38:01):
Susie Q from work or go to thestrip club and get and fly too
close to the sun.
Or it was just a hand job.
Or it was just a hand job or itwas just a blowjob hold on hand
jobs are not cheating maurice,I will throw that.
I will throw this microphone atyour head.
I promise you.
I will throw it at you.
I will throw it at you.
(38:23):
Getting a hand job isabsolutely cheating.
If I'm, if I never Getting ahandjob is absolutely cheating.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
Getting a.
Speaker 2 (38:29):
BJ is absolutely cheating.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
If I never interview her.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
Maurice, that is no that is no, it is no, it is a no
, it's not cheating.
It is a no, it's not cheating.
It is a no, it's not cheating.
Yes, it is it's not cheating it, absolutely Okay.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
She's working hard, okay, as a massage therapist.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
Listen, I'm going to tell you like I told you last
episode.
I'm going to tell you like Itold you last episode, okay, I'm
going to say, like I said itwas a few episodes ago Okay, if
the rules apply to you, therules are going to apply.
(39:11):
No, it's not the same no.
So if you're saying, if you'retelling me, a handjob and a bj
is not cheating, baby, guess whoelse for the get happy endings
at their massage appointment?
Because, because, because Iwant a happy ending at my
massage appointment because yourhand jobs require insertion,
mine don't.
No, no, no, it is still cheating.
Okay, I'm just playing with you, I don't know.
(39:36):
No, sir, you just saw your face.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
When I said that I gotta say something, I say
something wrong.
Speaker 2 (39:43):
I didn't think you would turn up Because you be
playing way too much.
Because then you know what mynext question was going to be
who the hell you let give you ahair job, don't worry about it.
Okay.
Okay, I wasn't cheating, really.
Okay.
(40:03):
Okay, go ahead.
Go ahead, I'll just reinstatemy friday appointments too much
fun, I'll reinstate I'llreinstate my friday appointments
.
I'll make me some new fridayappointments, yeah, see, and
then if women do it, whoreyou're just a whore I have to
(40:25):
tell you the master lock and themaster key again, maurice?
no, damn, no, masterore, you'rejust a whore.
Do I have to tell you about theMaster Lock and the Master Key
again, maurice?
No, damn, no.
Master Lock and Master Key,just a shitty lock.
Okay, okay, shitty lock my ass.
Shitty lock my ass.
Whatever I'm trying to tell you, take me when I'm trying to
tell you Shitty, lock your assis shitty locked.
(40:45):
I can't stand you.
Anywho, like I was sayingbefore, my husband tried to.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
I'm sorry y'all.
Speaker 2 (40:56):
I can't.
I love you so much.
Speaker 1 (41:00):
I love you too, this ain't got nothing to do with
that episode.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
Anywho, he was trying to make the point that if the
act has not happened, then itdoesn't count.
Speaker 1 (41:12):
I could be in her house, in her bed.
That's cheating as long as Idon't.
Speaker 2 (41:19):
That's cheating If you in her house, in her bed,
whether y'all screwed or not,it's cheating.
Speaker 1 (41:24):
I go ah, can't do it, like, uh, just like, how on
baby boy.
What if I go?
Ah, can't do it.
Just like, how on On Baby Boy?
No, I think I love my wife whenhe went to take his shirt off
and he got here and he thoughtabout his kids and he didn't do
it, he didn't cheat, he neverslept with her.
Speaker 3 (41:39):
They didn't cheat.
Speaker 1 (41:39):
He was there.
It was right there in front ofhim.
Speaker 2 (41:50):
He didn't do it and gee he realized in the end he
did love his wife.
I'm just going to breathe.
Speaker 1 (41:55):
I just want to tell you okay, let me start being
serious.
Now I will say this, going backto what I said earlier about it
is a woman's job, right.
And to your point, what yousaid was about it is a woman's
job, right.
And to your ask, to your point,what you said was also true how
she can be available all thetime.
Right, yes, here's the thingbeing available doesn't
(42:16):
necessarily, uh, mean thatyou're satisfying I know where
you're going with this, that'sone thing, right but.
But being available, that isn'timportant.
Right Again, that's aconversation need to be had,
right.
But at the same time, what I'msaying is I think that is a
requirement to to not want forhim not to want to cheat, right
(42:41):
Diminish the fact that there arejust some people out here with
low frequencies, low morals andjust clearly don't give a F
about anybody but themselves.
So they just see about.
You know it's the people whothey're going to go out there
and cheat.
I believe that you have peoplethat are going to go out there
and cheat, no matter what Right,no matter how happy or unhappy
(43:04):
they are.
Speaker 2 (43:04):
Right and you have men who think that it's their,
it's like their right to do so.
I mean, some men do, Some menlegitimately believe that Like
it's my right to do that.
Speaker 1 (43:16):
I more so, align with the fact that you have no
self-control.
Speaker 2 (43:20):
Well, and we've had that conversation before right,
so I know I can't remember theshow that I had watched it on,
but it was basically, um, a manreferring to himself as a high
value man and uh, I think it was, and he was uh discussing about
how, um, you know, men were notintended to practice monogamy.
(43:43):
and he will not be held to anegative standard for standing
up for his biological right tobe able to sleep with multiple
women or whatever you know.
Because, also, as a high valueman, he, um, he has a lot of
availability of women that areavailable to him, he has a
(44:03):
certain level of women that areavailable to him, and so on and
so forth.
Right, so, yes, but he, he, hestated that as well.
But my thing is is, if you cansit up here and say that you are
a high value man and you, youknow, you work out, you make
(44:24):
money, you have businesses andyou're a disciplined businessman
and all this, that and thethird, why can't you be
disciplined enough to practicemonogamy?
Speaker 1 (44:37):
My only answer to that is that if that's how you
want to live your life and thewomen know about it and they
agree to it, that's fine.
That's fine.
I have no issue with that.
Do you boo-boo, right, I?
But I also believe that youcannot love more than one woman
intently enough, to your fullability they're not trying to
(45:00):
because you're not, you're notgoing to be able to can meet all
the needs of more than onewoman.
You can't meet all the needs ofone woman when you try to be
able to meet all the needs ofmore than one woman.
You can't meet all the needs ofone woman when you try to be
intentional.
Speaker 2 (45:11):
But these women that he's referring to, like when you
see these women he's referringto, he is meeting their need.
Their need is green.
Speaker 1 (45:19):
Yeah, okay, exactly.
It's not that difficult, butagain, that is not that
difficult, but that's okay.
I guess I'm just builtdifferent.
That difficult, but that's okayI guess I'm just built
different.
Speaker 2 (45:27):
No, but that's.
That's an understanding of anarrangement on both parties yeah
, but that means nothing.
Speaker 1 (45:31):
Yeah, so, but that means that that, that to me
that's not a relationship,that's a transaction.
I should be, a form of arelationship.
She'll be there as long as thecheck clears, and when the check
clears, just like yes, this iswhere um, and she's gonna be
what he needs her to be she'sgonna look good as long as the
check clears as long as thecheck clears, because he hasn't.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
He knows that without him providing the mean green
that he don't get that level ofwoman.
And she understands that youonly get to spend time with me
and you have access to mebecause of what you can provide
for me.
So we have an understanding.
That is a relationship, I guess.
I mean, when you think about it, aren't most relationships some
(46:14):
form of transactional?
Speaker 1 (46:17):
What transaction am I getting?
Speaker 2 (46:22):
Because I'm getting the short end of the transaction
, please tell me you really wantme to check this microphone at
your head?
At your head.
Please tell me you want me tocheck this microphone at your
head.
Speaker 3 (46:28):
At your head, please tell me.
Speaker 2 (46:28):
You want me to check this microphone at your head,
don't you?
Feed me three day old chickenthree day old chicken, really
the male.
I'm not doing this with you.
Speaker 1 (46:41):
I'm not doing this with you I know last week we
promised y'all that we'd have agood episode, but next week's
episode will be great byebecause next week's episode, why
you gonna get more rest?
No, we're gonna get more restand it's our anniversary episode
oh, okay and it's gonna be anR2Cent episode.
Oh so we gonna, we gonna comefor y'all.
We gonna, we gonna, we gonna doit.
Speaker 2 (47:05):
I just I feel like when I'm like sleepy, I just
laugh a lot, like everything isjust like more funny to me when
I'm a little tired more tiredtoo anywho you wanna go into the
?
Speaker 1 (47:22):
let's just go into R2-D2 that's it you give your
final thoughts.
I'll give my final thoughts.
I'll give my final thoughts.
Please give me your finalthoughts.
Speaker 2 (47:29):
I'll give my final thoughts?
Speaker 1 (47:30):
Okay, my final thoughts is that I don't I see
his points.
I don't necessarily, I don'tnecessarily agree with his
points.
I do believe emotional damageemotional damage emotional
cheating is a thing especiallyfor women.
I personal cheating is a thingespecially for women.
Speaker 2 (47:47):
I like how you keep throwing that in there
especially for women.
Speaker 1 (47:49):
It's a woman thing.
Speaker 2 (47:50):
We're going to acknowledge it's just a woman.
You're basically halfwayagreeing with him, because
that's the whole purpose.
He's saying that women make uprules and you're saying it is a
thing for women.
Speaker 1 (48:02):
I say it's for women because I understand what you
mean and I understand how youconnect the dots and I see how
that plays a role, because womenare emotional creatures.
Speaker 2 (48:12):
Now, I don't like the way you said that.
Speaker 1 (48:14):
Men are emotional creatures as well.
We just function.
On different emotions, we seethings differently.
So that's why I say in the eyesof a woman, emotional cheating
is a thing and I can understandthat.
I'm going to acknowledge howyou feel about something and
accept it for what it is.
Me personally, I think it'sbullshit.
I I see how it could be goeither way, depending on the
(48:35):
case.
Now, as far as the text message, I don't think the text
messages were cheating textmessage is highly questionable.
Yes, but it's not cheating yes,I agree.
Speaker 2 (48:48):
I agree.
I agree that the text messageitself was not cheating, but it
is a segue, right.
I believe that it is okay,tommy got them draws dog okay,
rest peace, tommy.
Oh, he did die huh.
Speaker 1 (49:08):
Go ahead and read.
Oh man let's jump into R2 Sense.
Speaker 2 (49:11):
All right.
Speaker 1 (49:12):
This is crazy.
Y'all R2 Sense.
Speaker 2 (49:14):
She sent me this bullshit.
Speaker 1 (49:16):
R2 Sense.
She sent me this bullshit and Iread it.
Speaker 2 (49:19):
I said this is die-bomb.
Listen here this is why I betrying to stay and stay off of
social media.
Sometimes by social media Imean facebook, because people be
out here wilding.
Okay, this shit is real listen,you don't think any of them are
real I don't, you don't thinkhe doesn't think any of them are
real.
But I was scrolling on facebookand came across this and I was
(49:41):
like babe, you really need tolike, just just listen.
Speaker 1 (49:46):
I don't, I don't believe it's real.
Speaker 2 (49:47):
Just listen, go ahead and read.
My husband came home last weekin a worrying state.
He asked to talk.
This is when he explains to meI have a mistress and she's
pregnant.
She's threatening to tell youeverything if I don't send her
to Europe.
I'd rather you learn it from methan her Baby.
(50:10):
Please forgive me.
My problem is is that I don'tknow how to tell my husband that
his mistress is a liar.
I know 100% that she's lyingbecause my husband is infertile,
but he doesn't even know thathimself.
If I tell him the truth abouthis mistress, he will also know
(50:33):
the same occasion that our twochildren are also not his.
Speaker 1 (50:40):
I don't believe this is real.
It's diabolical and it'shilarious, but I don't think
it's real.
And first of all, how does henot know he's infertile?
Speaker 2 (50:52):
he probably.
He probably doesn't, he justprobably doesn't know that he's
infertile how would he not knowif he's never been?
Speaker 1 (50:57):
how does she know if he's never been texted?
Speaker 2 (50:58):
I don't know she she might have taken a sample and
got it tested.
Speaker 1 (51:02):
No, that's not that work that is how that someone
has who has been uh tested.
Speaker 2 (51:07):
That's not how that works all they do is take a
sample and then they put it likedon't they die?
Speaker 1 (51:11):
off.
After a while you have, it hasto be a fresh sample okay, so
how you know she didn't get afresh sample?
Speaker 2 (51:15):
she probably been doing this for years, babe all
right, it's not how I can get asample from you tonight and get
it study okay, look here.
Speaker 1 (51:23):
All I'm gonna say is this if this is real, uh-huh,
all y'all going to hell.
How?
Speaker 2 (51:31):
you gonna say somebody going to hell?
You know you're not thedetermining factor.
If someone's going to hell, allI gotta say is if this is real.
Speaker 1 (51:44):
The only innocence in this story post, whatever you
want to call it, are thechildren and the unborn child.
Speaker 2 (51:53):
But listen here.
You find that part to bediabolical.
I find the part of the mistressthreatening that she going to
tell the wife if he don't sendher to Europe.
That is the oddest thing I haveever heard.
That's like saying if you don'tbuy my handbag, that is the
oddest thing I have ever heard.
That's like saying if you don'tbuy my handbag, I'm going to
tell your wife.
Speaker 1 (52:12):
Tell her.
Speaker 2 (52:13):
That we fucking.
Speaker 1 (52:15):
Okay, this is how we know you're sleeping.
Y'all know she's sleeping.
When she starts cussing thatway you know she's sleeping.
Y'all been fucking.
You got to get you some rest.
I don't know what to say tothis.
Speaker 2 (52:36):
What's your advice about it?
Should she tell him?
Because if she tell him, thenshe also gonna have to tell him.
Here's the.
Speaker 1 (52:43):
Thing.
Speaker 2 (52:43):
Or maybe, maybe, but here's the thing, since you
pointed out that there's no wayhe wouldn't want.
Or maybe, maybe, but here's thething, since you pointed out
that there's no way he wouldn'tknow that he's infertile.
Maybe, when she tells him thatthe mistress is lying because he
couldn't get her pregnant,maybe he's so slow that he
wouldn't even think twice aboutquestioning the kids first of
all, I'm not gonna help her.
Speaker 1 (53:02):
If this is real, I'm not going to help her.
If this is real, I'm not goingto help her get over her own boy
why?
I'm always on the man's side.
Speaker 2 (53:08):
That's wild, because you weren't just on Shaq's side.
Speaker 1 (53:11):
No, I see what you mean.
What are you wrong?
Yeah, but you said you'realways on the man's side.
Speaker 2 (53:15):
I gave him a little grace though.
Speaker 3 (53:16):
Oh, okay, oh, that's right.
Speaker 1 (53:28):
Because you don't believe in emotional and a bj is
not cheating either.
I never said that you said it'snot cheating.
Speaker 2 (53:31):
No, a bj is cheating because I, I I insert it just
like, just like me kissing myco-worker.
It's not.
No, you said it wasn't cheating.
Speaker 1 (53:37):
You said until we use tongue, then it's cheating, so
at least I know I can make outwith somebody without tongue
okay, this has been anotherepisode.
Speaker 2 (53:45):
Your words not mine, You're the one who said that I
can make out with my co-worker,Okay, but if I use tongue it's
cheating.
So I'll just tell him like hey,my husband has rules.
My husband does not want yourtongue in my mouth.
So as long as we can leave ourtongues out of it, let's.
Speaker 1 (54:02):
Oh, my God, that's after you have worked your 60
hours at the meal.
Speaker 2 (54:08):
I mean All of that is inappropriate.
Speaker 1 (54:09):
Okay, ma'am.
Speaker 2 (54:11):
Inappropriate but not cheating.
Speaker 1 (54:13):
Okay, what I would tell you to do if I had to
answer this is you know, youjust tell him hey, how about you
get a DNA test?
Make sure it's yours.
Speaker 2 (54:22):
No, you should just tell him why don't you, yeah,
get a DNA test.
Or why don't you just get yoursperm checked, because she might
be lying babe.
Speaker 1 (54:31):
No, because that's going to go back on her.
Just do the DNA test.
Speaker 2 (54:34):
That's what I said.
He might be slow enough that hewon't this has been another
episode of Life After I Did.
Speaker 1 (54:42):
If you have not already follow us on Instagram,
facebook, tiktok and YouTube,you can listen to us on all of
your DPSs.
Speaker 2 (54:56):
What if they don't know it?
Listen, you can't just bethrowing out acronyms.
Digital Streaming platforms.
Speaker 1 (55:02):
I'm sorry, DSPs.
Speaker 2 (55:04):
Look at you.
Speaker 1 (55:05):
And then you gave the wrong acronym.
I'm tired too um digitalstreaming platforms.
You, uh, so you, you streamerson youtube now, and youtube
you're gonna say yahoo.
They have podcast youtubepodcast um, apple podcast,
spotify, amazon squirt.
I heart all that that stuff.
(55:26):
You get a new episode everyWednesday.
My wife is extremely tired.
That's why I have to do this,and until next time, peace
Booskies.
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