April 2, 2025 • 58 mins
đź’Ť Nine years of marriage, milestones, and mayhem! In this special anniversary episode of Life After I Do, Kynesha and Morice celebrate nearly a decade together with a mix of personal wins, family moments, and wild relationship drama.
💪 Kynesha kicks things off by reflecting on her powerlifting journey—hitting a 275lb deadlift and closing in on 300lbs. But this moment of self-reflection isn’t just about fitness—it’s about learning to be proud of personal growth, no matter what stage you’re in.
👧 Then, their daughter Phoenix makes her podcast debut and absolutely steals the show! From her future plans to be a veterinarian to her very specific dream home requirements (five bedrooms, four bathrooms, and a pool!), she gives listeners a charming peek into family life.
🔥 But it wouldn’t be an anniversary episode without some relationship chaos! In their fan-favorite Our 2 Cents segment, Kynesha and Morice break down some of the wildest relationship dilemmas from around the internet.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The childish nature of not responding to the text
message.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Because she didn't respond?
Because she knew she waswaiting for that.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
She was avoiding accountability, of course,
because she felt so right in heractions.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
She felt absolutely right in her actions.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
The more I think about this, the more I'd be like
the fiance of the mom I have acase and it wouldn't be.
No, he innocent of the judge.
And like him, no, he did thatshit.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
No, he did it.
He did it.
No, judge, I did it.
No, yeah, I did.
Judge, I did it, but you don'tunderstand what happened before
that.
But I did do it, but you don'tunderstand what happened to
cause me to do it.
Hey, everybody, and welcomeback to another episode of the
(01:04):
Life After I Do podcast.
I am your host, kynesha, andI'm here with the man of my
dreams, my superstar.
My rock star, my rock, my homie,my lover, my best friend Of
nine years married today Stop.
(01:25):
Best friend of nine yearsmarried today.
Stop the cap.
Nine years married today.
23 years in the game.
My day one, mr Maurice.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Gill, thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you for that nice warmwelcome, even though I know you
really didn't mean it and it wasprobably a lot of bs.
Happy anniversary booskies.
Happy anniversary booskies.
We made it to nine years highfive to us.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
High five one more year to our first decade in the
state of california.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
I have to file for divorce by september this year.
I don't want to have to giveyou half everything so we may be
temporarily may be temporarilydivorced and then remarry again.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
No, that's not how that works, because I just found
out from a friend that,apparently, if the wife is what
they consider to be educated,they do not automatically give
you 50%, because, even thoughshe was a stay-at-home mom for
all those decades and years, thejudge said she's also an
educated woman, therefore shecan make a way for herself.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
So you know what?
So you can pay for the cars,you know what?
So when I die, buddy, you knowwhat's going to keep you warm,
buddy?
Those degrees, see, that's thedifference.
See, I got certificates.
Oh, you got degrees, I gotdegrees degrees.
I got degrees.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
It's not the same, not the same.
The level of warmth is not,it's not it's not.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
You might be a little warmer than me, I'm not gonna
lie.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
I gotta, you gotta yeah because mine is like on the
mantle collecting dust.
They're just there for kind ofshow right now I don't know but.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
But the judge says you can dust them off the just
take your feet back up and tryagain try again, so you'll be
fine okay, I guess I'll be allright, you'll be fine, you'll be
alright.
Yeah, it's fine, you'll be fine.
It's a good day.
It's our anniversary.
It's our favorite type ofepisode.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
It's a hour two since , and you it's your favorite,
it's your guys' favorite episodetoo it's, it's the messy one.
You guys, you guys really likethe reactions so how was your
week, Booski?
My week was actually reallygood.
That's good.
I'm not going to lie.
Tell us about it, okay, because?
Speaker 1 (03:27):
you already know, I know where it's going, I know
that it's killing you and I knowyou want to say it.
Go ahead and say it.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
So for those who have been listening for a while,
y'all know we've been on likeour little fitness journey or
whatever.
We not fat, no more bye,goodbye.
I mean, I'm still a little huskybut, um, anywho right areas
anywho, um, I have recentlystarted a I guess I can I never
(03:55):
really said it, but I haverecently started a power lifting
program under a coach andeverything and so I've been
really working on getting mythree, my big three ups, so
that's the bench press, thedeadlift and the squat, and so I
hit a new PR today and it wasreally great.
(04:17):
I've been hitting I hit whatthree, actually four overall new
PRs, and one of my biggestaccomplishments is that I'm at
the 275 mark for my deadlift.
And that's special to me becausethe deadlift was something that
I was I don't want to sayintimidated by, but it was
something that I was, like,really cautious by.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I don't know why you were scared, but you've been
lifting the dead weight aroundhere for a long time.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
But I'm not.
It's not that I was scared,it's just like I didn't want to.
I didn't want to mess that,like I really wanted to learn
some, some technique before Ireally went ahead with that,
because you hear what I said,though what you've been lifting
a dead weight running for a longtime, you know what shut up?
um, but I really wanted to likeget some technique under my belt
, get a little bit of weightunder my belt, before I went
ahead, started, you know,working towards that.
(05:03):
But, um, yeah, so I'm 25 poundsaway from that 300 mark and I
am just trying like I'm itchingto get to that 300 mark because
I'm 30 pounds away on the 300mark on my squat and I'm 25
pounds away that you squat anddeadlift the same it.
no, it's diabolical that well,technically, until next week
(05:23):
when I go into my squat training, I'm technically now
deadlifting more than I squat,which is diabolical because I
have always depended on my squat.
Like my squat is like my breadand butter, but now that I got a
little bit of like energy undermy belt, because energy under
my belt because I hit that 275and I hit the 275 for three reps
(05:47):
, so I might even be at that 315mark when.
I go for my calm down when I hitmy one rep, matt, because I
only need to do one rep guys,it's only one rep okay, let's
calm down.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
It's only one rep 315 , that's wild, that's crazy,
that's wild, let's win.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
You so fake, that's good, you so fake, oh my.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
God, yeah, that's good, yeah, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
He's so fake y'all oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Yeah, he's so fake yeah that's good so yeah.
That's really good.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
I'm on the up and up on the squat, the deadlift.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
And my bench is if y'all can't tell by judgment,
I'll be good on my bitch.
Y'all can't tell by now she'sway stronger than me.
Now you're stronger but like,nah see, because you're lifting
for strength, I'm lifting for,uh, physique, weight loss and
physique and physique.
Yeah, I'm lifting, for it's twodifferent it's our programs are
way.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I was doing his program before which I asked I
loved, I loved doing yourprogram okay your program was
great because he was like on alike a beginner course
bodybuilder, because he's goingfor more physique and cutting
and all that good stuff and thenit's like I loved it.
But that's not what I wasreally trying to work towards
how you do you.
So I was fortunate enough tohave an amazing trainer.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
You want to walk around like you're like, like
Olga who's's olga?
Like you know, the old germanladies.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
No, but I did.
Uh, I did get like the thestares a little bit today you
know haters, hey, there's gonnahey but homeboy gave me a nod,
he was like okay, all right,that's you, you want to up and
up?
Okay, you know.
And then the other guy next tome, he just like raw dog 315,
like real quick.
He was like but keep it's likehe was telling me what I'll tell
(07:31):
him.
But keep working at it, keepworking at it.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Do you know who's sacred?
A secret leaf strong.
Who you know?
The guy that does our inbodies?
Uh-huh, you say how much he belifting.
What does he do?
So Because I might have to bein my new goal Like he squats
like three and a half weights,like casually no spot.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
So like 315, 325?
Speaker 1 (07:51):
No like 350.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Like for sets for reps.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
And I've seen him and then, like I've seen what he
benched to and I'm like, lookhere, man, calm down, wait till
I leave.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Bye, that's what I'm saying.
The guy next to me when hedeadlifted the 315, it was like
you're doing like to me, Ithought in waves.
He was like telepathicallytelling me you know, but you
keep going at it.
You're 275.
That's cute, but you keepworking at it.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
I just always say like whenever I do challenge you
to a strength competition, it'sgoing to be on the week of your
period.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Oh, wow.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
That's crazy work.
I might as well stack the chipsin my favor.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
That's crazy work.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
In my favor.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
That's crazy work you know what I'm saying.
But if it's a challenge I willfind the strength.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
I will make sure I get my 700 calories in before
the gym For those seven daysthat you are in the gym I'm
going to have my two steaks andmy three eggs in the morning,
those seven days that you are inthe gym, nope.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
I'm going to get my two steaks, my three eggs, in
the morning.
I'm going to make sure I'mgoing to hit my 700 before the
gym.
That's what I was telling myfriend today.
I was like, imagine if I hadgot my 600 in before the gym
today, I probably would havestarted with the three.
I'm going to be honest with you, but the fact that I hit that
and all I had was a granola barand a bunch of liquid vitamins
(09:08):
and creatine and green juicecrazy work, I'll be.
I'll be like I really do be inthe gym, raw dog yeah it's not
great, and you know, but I'vebeen there hopes and dreams the
night before but you know what,last week it really took a toll
when um, like my trainer, cameout to work with work with me on
Friday and because I had myscan my body scan the same day.
(09:29):
I don't eat or drink before abody scan, so all I had was my
liquid vitamins, my creatine andmy green juice to drink after
my body scan.
So after I did my body scan, gotmy body scan, got all my
numbers, I was like, ok, cool,but it was a leg day.
So I went into a leg day, avery heavy leg day, because my
trainer was there and he waslike super pushing me and I did
(09:52):
the what was it?
The 270 on the squat, includingtwo warmups.
I technically did like fivesets, which was crazy.
Then he had me.
I did 210 on extensions and legcurls for 13 and 11 reps in
three sets.
So I was cooked.
And then how did I feel afterthat workout?
You felt good.
You ran a mile and then afterthat, you ran another mile.
(10:16):
But what was I like after?
And then you slept on the couch.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
And then I was dead.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
I was gone, there was nothing left and I have never
felt so exhausted and fatiguedafter a workout and I know part
of that was because I didn't getmy calories in before.
Yeah, I didn't eat because Ihad my my scan, but I know that
the times where I had a reallyheavy leg day and I got my my,
(10:42):
like, my beef, my um, eggs andeverything before we worked out,
remember that last time we hadworked out and I felt, uh, maze
balls and I was like because Ifed my muscles when you get that
I wasn't feeding my musclesthat meal in 30 minutes for you.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Like you have a different level of strength oh,
it's a different level ofstrength.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
That's why I was like , when I came home I looked at
my steaks in the fridge and Iwas like, oh, oh, yeah, baby, we
are hitting the steaks Thursdaymorning.
I got to get back to it.
We are hitting the beef firstthing Thursday morning.
In the beef ma, we can hit ittwice, but yeah, so my week was
pretty good.
I'm riding a little bit of ahigh, I'm very proud of myself
(11:19):
and, just like a little personalnote, I haven't felt like proud
of myself in a really long time, like genuinely proud, where I
looked at myself in the mirrorand was like, like bitch, you
should be proud of what you'redoing.
I looked at myself in themirror and I was like I'm I'm
proud of you, like I'm proud ofyou, and I genuinely felt it and
(11:41):
it like it.
It it touched me, like I was.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
I'm genuinely proud of you.
I know I'm proud of you, yourdaughter's proud of you thank
you babe, some people hating onyou bye I got this.
You gave me this cough oh, yeah, probably and I don't know why.
You know you I'll be out heretrying to bye-bye from my family
and like not get sick, and allthey do is get me sick.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
But you didn't get sick, though, and I wasn't sick
either.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
I just have a little restiness.
I think it adds character.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
Okay, all right.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Watch.
People are going to be like ohmy gosh, you sound good like
that and I'm going to be like Iknow Dial.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Oh hi, oh, I thought you took up all the time okay,
there is no take up all the timeI thought because you were it's
an anniversary episode.
I have as much time as I wantyou were cooking let it cook
with grease no grease olive oil.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
My week was cool really my week was cool it was
cool.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Nothing major to report.
It's still in my healingprocess.
I'm in my healing era.
It was cool, cool.
I don't not the major to report, okay, just just.
It's still in my healingprocess, I'm in my healing,
healing era.
Okay, I like it.
You know, that's it.
That's it.
None special.
Apparently, you know our, ourmutual friend, des, likes it too
, cause she says I'm easy tocommunicate with.
Now I'll be fighting my urge tocuss your ass out.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Bye.
Shots out to Des, the Diva atthe Heavyweight Podcast.
Love you, girl.
I'll be fighting my urge.
I know what it's like to dealwith this guy To hush your ass
out.
Hush your ass out.
Hush Bye your ass, goodbye Out,goodbye.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
So that's your week?
Yeah, I think this week I'veobtained another level of inner
peace.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Because obviously I've learned that my family is
not going to give me peace.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
So I have to you know how I feel about peace.
Peace is subjective.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
So I have to really Peace is something that's
individual to every person.
I have to really dig inside ofme and find my serene place.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Okay, find it.
Have you found it?
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Yes, I have.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
Now imagine me effing it all up, you're there.
Am I there?
You just walked in.
I just walked in wearing abright green shirt.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
No, but you're naked, so it's my place, so I dictate
the parameters.
Nope, it's my place and you'renaked.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
Yeah, it works my place and you're naked.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Yeah, it works for me .
I'm smiling.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Goodbye.
Well, in honor of ouranniversary, Go ahead.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
In honor of our anniversary, we have a little
treat for you guys.
As someone who has been beggingto be on a camera since we
started recording, Since westarted this podcast.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
She is a very special guest that we're going to.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
And she had to put on makeup on because mommy had on
makeup.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
So we're going to let her come here.
So, without further ado, we'regoing to let her be here for a
quick hot second.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Without further ado, introducing the one, the only
the gymnast herself Miss PhoenixRangel Woo Yay.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
You got to talk into mommy's mic, say hi to the
people Hi say, hi hey.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Hey, hey, hey, how y'all doing, how y'all doing
Good.
How's it going, fi?
It's going great, it's goinggreat.
Mm-hmm, how you been Good.
Yeah, how it's going great.
How you been Good.
Yeah, how was your week?
It was awesome.
Take the mic.
Oh yeah, she's going to takethe mic.
My baby is not ashamed orafraid.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
It was awesome.
It was awesome what was awesomeabout it.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
I really had fun with my toys.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
And all that stuff.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
Okay, yeah.
What about playing with yourcousin?
You got to see your Roro thisweek.
Was that really exciting?
Speaker 1 (15:32):
you gotta talk to Mike was that?
Speaker 2 (15:34):
was that really exciting?
Um kinda kinda it was kinda itlooked like you were having a
great time, but more.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
I like my cousin.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
Rowan, you love your cousin Rowan.
Yeah, he's my craziest cousin.
We're having a great time, butmore I like my cousin Rowan.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
You love your cousin Rowan.
Yeah, he's my craziest cousin.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
Is that why you like him?
Because he's your craziestcousin, yeah.
Does he have the best ideaswhen you guys play?
Oh, yes, and I saw you guysbuilding like forts and stuff in
the back.
Is that why you love when youguys play?
Speaker 3 (16:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Yeah, do you know what he said?
He wants to be when he grows up?
What he wants to be anarchitect.
That's why he likes to buildthings for you and stuff in the
backyard, because that's what hewants to do.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
I need to work on them.
Foundations, boy.
Bye, it's a little shaky.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
That's what he wants to do.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
I want to be a vet when I'm grown girl.
You want to be a vet.
I want to be a vet when I growup.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
That's diabolical, you eating day-old food.
Bye.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Why do you want to be a vet?
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Because I like to help animals, okay, oh, even
wild ones.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Even what.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Wild ones.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Even wild ones.
Yeah, that's really cool.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
That's not what I heard.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Bye, Maurice.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
That Bye, Maurice.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
That's really cool.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Fee, okay, well, say something to the people.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
What do you want the people to know?
Speaker 1 (16:52):
So me and mommy can start the episode officially.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
What do you want the people to know about Phoenix?
Tell them three things aboutyou that you want them to know.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
So after I graduate from college uh-huh I'll.
I'll find a boyfriend that'sgood for me, or a husband okay,
okay.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
And who said they will help you?
Speaker 1 (17:13):
do that you guys, uh-huh nobody's good for you
with me excuse me yeah, mommysays she'll help you.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Look for a husband one day right and what else?
Speaker 3 (17:25):
So that's one thing.
So when I get my husbandalready, I want to marry him.
That will make for your husbandI want a beautiful wedding
dress Okay, on our wedding dayUh-huh and some pretty wedding
day shoes, and some prettywedding day shoes.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
And some pretty wedding, okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (17:49):
And I want, and I want kids.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
You want kids oh.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
How many?
I want?
Like Four kids, like four, four.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Oh, wow.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
I think that's the only child speaking.
That's why so like.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
I can have one son and three sisters, and Three
daughters yeah, I'm can have oneson and three sisters.
Three daughters yeah, I'm goingto have one son and three.
Where are these kids going tolive?
Because they can't stay with me.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
They're going to live with us.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
Okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
They're going to live with me.
Speaker 1 (18:16):
Okay, okay, okay.
Where are you living at?
Speaker 3 (18:19):
I'm going to live.
We can live at a hotel orsomething.
Let's not live at a hotel.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Let's not live at a hotel Unless you guys own the
hotel.
I don't think we should aspireto live in a hotel.
So we got to make sure you geta stable home for you and your
family, right?
Speaker 3 (18:37):
So I'm going to find a home that has one parent
bedroom.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
One parent bedroom Like four bathrooms.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
Okay, okay, I like the way you think okay, and then
I want like four bedrooms.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
So so you got a parent room and four bedrooms,
yeah, so a five bedroom, fourbath house.
Speaker 3 (18:56):
Yeah, so you want a big house yes yes with a pool
right yes, okay, so we don'thave to buy pool each year.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
Wow, I feel like that's a personal shot at me.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
She's taking a shot at you.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
I'm trying to make sure you have a good summer
every year.
That was a personal shot, okay.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
And that's it.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Yeah, that's it.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
So say bye to the people, bye.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Thanks, babe, for joining us, you're welcome.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
You happy now?
Yeah, alright, love you.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
Bye High five.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
Till next time.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
Till next time.
Till next time, bye.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Hold on, come here, come here.
Look into the mic and sayWelcome back to Life After I Do.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
And welcome back to another episode of Life After I
Do.
I'm your host, phoenix G, andwe're here with my lovely father
Maulito.
I call him father.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Love you, babe.
Love you, babe, head upstairs,love you.
Okay, and that was Phoenix Gand that was Phoenix G.
Can we talk about how my kid islike?
Okay, you know how they talkabout, where little girls always
fantasize about their weddingday, like since they were little
.
Yeah she, quite literally, isthat little girl?
Speaker 1 (20:13):
yeah, she is quite literally that little girl
bother me, but now I justrealized, sooner but rather than
later, she's not gonna be myproblem.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Bye no, like I don't.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
I wouldn't say it necessarily bothered me, only
because when she first likestarted having this conversation
about like, oh, I want ahusband, I want kids, it's
because she would tell me I wantto be like you and daddy I know
, so it's like that's her thatshould let you know how lucky
you are to have me, because theexample of how high I set the
bar I set the bar so high thatyour own daughter recognized
(20:44):
what I give you.
Wow.
But people, this was an R2Sense episode.
Say it for me babe R2.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
Sense.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
R2 Sense.
It's R2 Sense.
It's going to be a lot ofshenanigans.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
You know, if you let them shenan once they're going
to shenan again They'll shenanagain.
That's my favorite saying.
That's my favorite saying well,I don't even what was her name,
she was on tiktok, right?
If you let them shenan once,they'll shenan again she, she
miss okay I'm trying to see.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
Should we start off like light or messy, because I
know you like, let's get into it, let's get in.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
Let's get in I think we're gonna start off a little
bit, a little messy for you okay, now people look here.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
I have um discovered the source of most of these
stories and they are again fromthe internet, and I yet do not
fully believe that they are allreal.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
But these could be other people's real experiences.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
They might be be real .
They might be fake.
Either way, they're wild.
Yeah Well, we're going to writeabout these and we're going to
react to it and you can make upfor yourself whether or not you
believe it's real.
I just know that I'm here forthe mess Because I like my life
clean, so I'll look at the messfrom the inside.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
I can't.
Are you ready?
I can't.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
Are you ready?
Speaker 2 (22:01):
Y'all don't know how this is going to go with my
voice, but I'm going to do thebest I can, guys.
Speaker 3 (22:06):
Come on, Tony.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Come on, tony, here we go.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
You didn't get that.
Yes, braxton.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Yes, you got it.
So I was having problems with mycar today, so my boyfriend let
me use his car While I was out.
My baby daddy called and askedif I could pick him up from work
and I said cool, I've beendriving since 6 am, so at this
point I'm tired.
When I get to my baby daddy, Itold him to drive.
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While I'm in the car with mybaby daddy, my boyfriend
FaceTimed me and noticed that Iwas in the passenger seat, so he
started questioning me.
And first of all, I ain'tmarried, so an MFA can't
question me about nothing.
Anyways, I told him that mybaby daddy was driving because I
was tired.
This dude proceeds to get realdisrespectful and goes off on me
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because I allowed my baby daddyto drive his car.
I hung up on him because I havea good baby daddy and ain't no
MFA going to trip on me forlooking out for my baby daddy.
Was I wrong?
Speaker 1 (23:09):
You were so wrong, I can't even count the ways, I
can't even count the ways youwere wrong Again.
I'm going to just start mystart off by saying I don't
believe this is real, but I amgoing to react to it.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
He has that much faith in humanity that no one is
this absurd and has this muchaudacity which is out of my mind
.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
First of all, you're right, You're not married and
with that attitude you'll neverbe married.
Let's start there.
You'll never be married.
You seem like the very selfishtype.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
I mean, she might marry her baby daddy and they
might make a full circle.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
No, apparently, type.
I mean, she might marry herbaby daddy and they might make a
full circle.
No, apparently.
No, he's good.
She's not good for him, oh, butshe's dumb enough to be there
for him.
Yeah, well, and so this is allthis.
I, I agree with your.
I'm gonna say your ex-boyfriend, right, because this is, how
dare you let another man drivemy car?
Speaker 2 (24:00):
I think it's highly disrespectful, wasn't there?
Speaker 1 (24:03):
a song about that.
What the uh?
She let somebody crash.
The uh was it wasn't a drewhill song what?
I bust the windows out your carno, it was a song about the,
and the girl let somebody elsedrive her man's car let another
man drive her man's car.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
Yeah, oh, I don't remember that one.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
It'll come to me later, no matter, um again, um,
yeah, uh, she's wrong in thissituation.
Everything about this is wrong.
I don't remember that one.
It'll come to me later, itdon't matter Again.
Yeah, she's wrong in thissituation.
Everything about this is wrong.
I don't care how tired you are,because at the end of the day
it was very disrespectful and hewas doing you a service by
letting you use his car.
And then now you go go pick upanother man and let that man
drive my car, not just anotherman, your baby daddy, yeah, your
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baby daddy, yeah, your babydaddy.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
So not only are you clearly telling me that your
baby daddy is a priority over me, over what we got going on, you
basically saying F me becauseI'm a beater for my baby daddy,
because I got to get a babydaddy Good baby daddy.
What makes him a good babydaddy?
Because if he was that damngood, he wouldn't just be a baby
daddy.
I guess he's good because hegot a job.
Okay, how did he get to work?
He could have got home fromwork the way he got to work.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
If she picked him up from home?
Speaker 2 (25:10):
From work.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
She picked him up from work when the kids at.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
Not only that who got the kids?
Not only that how did he get towork?
The same way you got to workshould be the same way you get
home from work.
That's good, that's good.
It's crazy Because that's crazywork, but it's the level of
audacity.
Speaker 1 (25:31):
For me, audacity is at an all-time high.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
It's at an all-time high.
And then for you to hang up onyour boyfriend because you got a
good baby daddy.
Well, guess what?
When you bring me my car back,since your baby daddy's so good
See?
Speaker 1 (25:47):
you wouldn't have a chance to bring my car back
because I reported stolen.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
Facts.
I like the way you think.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
It's now stolen.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
I like the way you think.
Speaker 1 (25:54):
And when they pick you up.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
I don't know who she is.
I have no idea.
We dated, look, we dated for ashort period.
When did you guys break up?
32 minutes ago, before youpicked the car up.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
I didn't know.
She took my car.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Yeah, Now listen.
She stole my keys when you guyspulled over the car, who was
driving?
Yeah, was there a man drivingor a woman driving?
Huh, because if there, was aman driving my car was taken.
Yeah, yeah, let's talk about it, my car was taken.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
Because I loaned my car out to a person.
I knew A person.
I knew A person I don't knowwas driving.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
I would say I fell asleep when she took the keys.
Hey, however you want to spinit.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
However you want to spin it, they both do it.
So, yes, you were out of pocket.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
You were wrong and he deserves to break up with you.
I hope the grandparents aregood because they're going to
watch some kids.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
However, should have thought about that.
Okay, ready?
No, I'm not, but correct adviceneeded.
So I just found out that I'mpregnant and I don't know what
to do.
I was laid off in november andafter I couldn't pay for the
month uh, my mother kicked meand my kids out.
This girl I've been friends withopened her home to me.
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She works overnights and I havea regular morning shift job as
a server.
Her man is a hustler, so he'salways home.
All I know is one thing led toanother, and now it's been three
and a half months and we'vebeen sleeping together and I
just found out that I'm twomonths pregnant.
I was only with them oncebecause I tried it, but that D
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was too good to go find anyoneelse and he cleaned too, wow.
But now I feel even worse thanI've ever felt since we started.
I know y'all judging me, butplease, I need some advice on
how I can have this conversationwith her.
I know that I'm going to end uphomeless, but he says that he's
not going to let anythinghappen to me, so maybe he won't
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let her kick me out.
Advice.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
This is foul.
First of all, I don't believethis is real.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
We understand that you don't believe any of them
are real.
Babe, you don't have to prefaceyour reaction with that anymore
.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
And how selfish and low can you be to bite the hand
that fed you and then to say itonly happened one time, but it
was too good, so it didn'thappen just one time.
She then to say it onlyhappened one time, but it was
too good, so it didn't happenjust one time.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
She wanted to try it.
She liked it, realized it wastoo good to stop and kept going.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
But see, that's the problem.
You wanted to try it, so youhad no loyalty to the so-called
friend and to the friend.
This is just proof that youdon't let other people in your
house.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Absolutely not, especially where your man is.
And not especially where yourman is, and she said that he's a
hustler, so you know how hegetting his money right you know
how he getting his money.
Yeah, he's already likepractically a dishonest person
as it is and so you go, she, Imean maybe she meant a hustler,
as in like entrepreneur and hasmultiple streams of income.
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It could go any way yeah,fentanyl vibrl that's not all
what that means.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Like I'm a hustler you are his cars okay, he boosts
his cars he got a little, got alittle scam in them either way
it goes, he has uh time to be athome and I'm gonna tell you,
I'm gonna tell her straight up,this ain't no easy conversation
to have if this is real.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
No, this ain't no easy conversation to have, but
the fact that she might hit youoff in your face.
But here's the point, this isthe point that you're missing,
and you and him might behomeless.
This is the point that you'remissing.
You're missing the point whereshe's already relying on the
comfort of what he's explainedto her.
Yeah, you're already missingthat.
He says that he's not going tolet anything happen to her.
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So when the conversation is had, if I'm left to my own
imagination, it's going to gosomething like listen, she got
my baby.
Now what happened Happened.
So all we can do from here nowis either move forward or, like
you can go, or whatever you cando what you want to do, but
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she's going to have my baby andyou're not going to kick her out
, so what you going to do?
But she finna have my baby andyou not finna kick her out, so
what you gonna do?
Speaker 1 (29:51):
and then if I'm her, I'm saying you and that bitch
can leave and her two funky asskids, or three, the one in her
belly but what if you don't wantto leave?
911.
How may I help you?
Speaker 2 (30:05):
911 operator.
How can I help you?
Speaker 3 (30:08):
he hit me.
No, you can't do that no,listen, don't do that.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
But they all get thrown out and again.
I don't believe these are reallike this.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
Come on yeah, but this happens in real life.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
I need some water same.
Speaker 2 (30:27):
I usually have my water, but but yeah, these
things happen in real life.
I need some water.
Speaker 1 (30:29):
Same.
I usually have my water, but Idon't have it.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
But yeah, these things happen in real life, okay
.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
If you say so.
Speaker 2 (30:35):
It's not the experience that you have, that's
not the lifestyle you live.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
Not in my friend circles.
Speaker 2 (30:40):
Not in your friend circles.
No, but that's not the, that'snot the type of people you
associate with, not at all so,but to say that it like you,
don't, you have to look beyondyour circle, because there's
circles of people like this Ijust told you earlier, I go to
my place of serenity.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
That's where I go.
I don't look beyond anymore.
I look within for peace bye,babe.
Speaker 2 (31:05):
I look, I look within .
Okay, here we go.
Am I the asshole for refusingto bring my son to my mom after
she mocked his name?
I'm a 24-year-old male and I'mblack mixed with Mexican.
My girlfriend is Japanese.
We currently welcomed our firstchild, a baby boy, and he's
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absolutely perfect.
We decided to name him Nobu,which means trust or prolong in
Japanese.
The name honors my girlfriend'sheritage and we both love its
meaning and its significance.
The problem is my mom.
From the moment we announcedhis name, she started making
unnecessary and hurtful comments.
At first it was subtle thingslike oh that's unique, or are
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you sure that's a good choice?
But as time went on, herremarks became more direct and
more disrespectful.
She called the name too foreignand even joked why didn't you
just name him something normallike Michael?
He's going to get bullied aboutthis.
The final straw came when shevisited me Nobu for the first
time.
The final straw came when shevisited me Nobu for the first
time.
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Instead of being excited tomeet her grandson, she laughed
and said poor kid is going tohave to explain his name his
whole life.
My girlfriend who was there,looked so hurt by the comment I
told my mom to stopdisrespecting his name, but she
dismissed me, saying that I wasbeing too sensitive about it and
that it was, quote unquote,just a joke.
After that visit, I made thedecision to stop bringing Nobu
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to see her.
I refuse to have my son exposedto that kind of negativity,
especially from someone whoshould be supportive and loving.
Until my mom can show respectfor the choices my girlfriend
and I have made, she will not beseeing her grandson.
Am I the asshole for putting myfoot down and refusing to let
my mom disrespect and affect myson and girlfriend?
Speaker 1 (32:51):
not, at all not at all not at all not at all.
Speaker 2 (32:55):
No, that is his name, whether she doesn't like it or
not.
You, okay, like we understandthat you don't like his name,
but that's still your grandsonand you shouldn't try to make
him feel any type of way abouthis name either, because if
you're doing it now, you'regonna be doing it the rest of
his life but his mom must be theblack one, probably because
that's some black people shitwhy you name that baby that,
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yeah.
Why you do that to that babyyeah, no, I don't you're.
I don't think you're wrong atall.
I think it's actually prettyshitty that, as a grandparent,
you will sit there andcontinuously harp on something
like your grandkids name.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
Plus, you know my stance.
What my stance is?
You, I am not going to allowyou to come into my space and
disrespect my, my girlfriendslash wife and my child.
So either you get with theprogram or you you lose access.
Yeah, because it ain't gonnahurt me.
Yeah, you don't want to becalling me or talking about
where my grandbaby, because itain't going to hurt me.
You, the one going to becalling me or talking about
where's?
Speaker 2 (33:48):
my grandbaby, right, because now you've lost access
to your child and yourgrandchild because I have now,
like I'm one with somebody else.
So now I have to protect my sonand I have to protect his
mother and if you coming aroundmaking smart comments and being
disrespectful hurts her, guess,where you don't get to come
Around here, boo-boo Around here, boo-boo Me and Nobu, right,
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nobu doesn't like the way youbehave.
Speaker 1 (34:18):
Right, and he might grow up to love his name.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
Right, but not only that.
I think about it in terms of heprobably would be perfectly
fine with his name.
Speaker 1 (34:28):
But his grandmother, his nickname will probably be no
bullshit too.
That's no bullshit.
He don't play around.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
But his grandmother constantly making comments about
that could plant a little seedof him not liking Insecurity.
Yeah, of him not liking hisname, and that's not cool, but
people don't understand that.
Speaker 1 (34:44):
All these little doubts are these little seeds of
insecurity or doubt that kidshave.
They were implanted by someoneelse.
Speaker 2 (34:52):
And it becomes their foundation.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
Because kids are naturally fearless.
Yeah, okay, fearless, notcaught A lot of cautious.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
They lack caution.
Speaker 1 (35:03):
Some do, others don't , but naturally they're fearless
and in situations like that,that's when you start to
implement these seeds of doubt,or these seeds, or you start
growing insecurity, and thenthat alters their growth paths
or their development, becausenow they're being triggered,
their growth's being triggeredby something else.
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So, yeah, yeah, you're not theasshole, sir, your mama's the
asshole asshole grandmama.
And you probably should tellyour daddy to say something to
her.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
He didn't even mention his daddy, so maybe he's
not.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
With an attitude like that, I can see why she's
single, like the one before.
You're too much.
I'm just saying.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
I can see why she's single.
Am I the asshole for going nocontact with my mother?
Speaker 1 (35:53):
because she can't accept that her fiance is not
allowed around my children.
Okay, hold on.
Okay, is she going?
Speaker 2 (35:57):
to say why yeah?
This is going to be a littlelong, but I wanted to make sure
to add as many important detailsas possible.
My mother started dating thisguy right before my daughter was
even born, about three and ahalf years ago, when my daughter
was even born, about three anda half years ago, when my
daughter was about eight or somonths old, my mom let me know
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that her fiance was going tojail for assaulting a woman.
Oh my god, up until this point Ihad no idea he was even on
trial for this and that they hadbeen taking my daughter
overnight about once a monthsince she was born.
I was pissed, to say the least,because I would have not sent
her to be with him had I knownthis was going on.
She told me that she didn'twant to tell me because she knew
that I wouldn't be okay with itand that I would judge him
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before giving him a chance.
She is absolutely correct.
I told her right away that oncehe got out that he was not
allowed to be around my child.
I said to my mother.
I said my, I said my mothercould still see her as much as
she had liked, but he was notallowed to be around my child
and if he is at any family event, we will not be there.
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We fight about this on and offfor over the entire time he was
locked up, which was about twoand a half years, because she
believes him that he didn't dothis and that he is the victim
and her father hates my mom.
Oh wait, I'm sorry he didn't dothis and that the victim and
her father hate my mom's fiance,so they're falsely accusing him
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.
He just got out of jail.
Right before the holidays thispast year, I made it clear that
my family and I will not beattending.
I've had another baby at thispoint, so that includes my
daughter, my son and my husband.
My mother and the entire familybelieves that he didn't do this
, so they're mad at me for notgiving him a chance and not
sitting down to have aconversation about it.
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I believe that if he wasconvicted, then he's guilty, and
my family has given me no proofthat he did it.
But these are the reasons theythink he did it.
His lawyer sucked.
The judge was surprised that hewas found guilty.
The victim has since unalivedherself, so that obviously
wasn't the right move.
Before she died, she waslaughing about it and telling
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others that she lied.
The victim and her dad hatedhim, and the one thing that
sends me into an absolute rageshe was epileptic and that they
claimed that it was happening toher during her seizures.
So she would have beencompletely rigid.
So how could he have done itwhen she was rigid in a seizure.
Mind you, I have seen no proofthat any of these things are
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actually true.
No court transcripts to showthat the judge was surprised.
Not the evidence that theyclaim his lawyer didn't use that
would have shown his innocence.
No proof that the victim waseven going around admitting that
she was lying.
They've basically been wantingme to take everyone's word for
it.
They also say that I need toset aside my personal opinions
and show up for the family,despite our differences.
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Not once in the past threeyears have I wavered on the fact
that he is not allowed to bearound my children.
It all came to a head when Isaid we were not attending
Christmas or Thanksgiving.
My mom started an argument withme over it and again I
basically told her that I wasdone fighting about this.
I will continue to keep mychildren safe and away from this
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potentially dangerous personand since my mother is not
seeing where I'm coming from andkeeps pushing the issue, I've
decided to go no contact.
My entire family is mad at mefor this because they believe
that he didn't do it.
So am I the asshole for nowallowing him around my children
and now going no contact with mymother?
Speaker 1 (39:25):
Not at all.
Nope, not at all.
No, ma'am, you're not it is ourresponsibility as parents to
protect our children against anythreat, regardless of who
perceives it as a threat or not.
So, if you perceive this man asa threat, you removing yourself
and your family from thatsituation.
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I applaud you, yourself andyour family from that situation.
I applaud you.
And regardless of the outcome,regardless of the feelings of
other people, what's importanthere and what matters here is
the safety of you and yourchildren, and if your husband
isn't giving you any pushback, Isee nothing wrong with the
situation.
I don't care.
Like you said, he did the timeand they haven't provided any
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evidence to the contrary.
Like, as you said, you've donenothing wrong.
You've done everything a propermother would do in your shoes
and I commend you for yourefforts and your mother.
They'll get over it.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
Basically, I don't disagree with nothing you just
said, because it is absolutelyyour job to protect your
children and my kid is not goingaround.
Anybody that gives me an ounceof angst, it doesn't, it doesn't
even matter, like not giving mean ounce of angst.
You are not going to be andknow that my kid was going
overnight with you for like ayear straight and and for you,
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as my mother, to physically tellme the reason I didn't tell you
is because I know that youwouldn't allow my grandchild to
come and because I know that youwouldn't have agreed to it
already already.
Further, lets me know that youyou were being sneaky.
Speaker 1 (41:04):
And my thing to that point is, mom didn't really
believe him herself, right?
Because?
Speaker 2 (41:10):
if really believe him herself.
Speaker 1 (41:12):
Right, because if she believed him herself, she would
have been up front from thebeginning, yep, and she was
probably holding out for hopethat he beat the case.
Speaker 2 (41:20):
And then she wouldn't have to say anything, Because
if he beat the case, I promiseyou she wouldn't have to say
nothing.
But because he had to go tojail, then she was like okay,
this is what's going on.
Ooh, that's scandalous.
Speaker 1 (41:35):
That's real scandalous.
You are not the asshole.
Protect your children at allcosts.
Speaker 2 (41:39):
Because what would happen, like God forbid, what
would happen if he really is themonster and the mother-in-law
has been so blind this wholetime?
Yeah, and God forbid he didsomething to them kids?
You would feel real dumb as agrandparent, real dumb as a
grandparent that you allowedyour own personal feels to get
in the way of protecting yourgrandchildren.
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That's crazy work.
Crazy work, all right, guys.
Last one, let's see, my wifewill no longer let me pursue my
hobbies oh my, I feel them byemarise.
It's exactly as the titleimplies.
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She says I'm not allowed topursue my own hobbies anymore as
they are, quote-unquote,unhealthy.
Before our marriage sevenmonths ago, I was interested in
all sorts of things playingvideo games for at least a few
hours a week, collecting StarWars figures Some may say that
was a bit childish, anyways, butI enjoyed it nonetheless.
Painting war, hammers, 40k, etcetera.
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These are things that I havedone since my early teens.
My wife wanted us to makehealthy lifestyle changes after
our marriage, which at first Itook as just eating healthier,
exercising, etc.
I was totally on board for it.
Everything was fine until I wentdown to the basement one day
and noticed that all of my StarWars figures had been gone from
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the display shelf.
All that remained were somelimbs from a few of the
figurines.
My wife was at work, so I senther a text asking what happened
to them.
In the meantime, I rummagedthrough all of the garbage and I
finally found the figures in abigger garbage next to our
regular garbage.
Most of the cards were torn upand the figures were completely
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dismembered, while others werecompletely burned or melted.
Oh wow.
It turned into a huge argumentabout how my hobbies are
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immature and that she wasrepulsed by them, even
threatening to not have sex withme until I gave them all up.
In the heat of the moment Iagreed with her, if only to get
her to stop yelling at me.
We haven't talked about itsince, and I've unfortunately
been abiding by her quoteunquote rules.
For the past seven months,though, I've been secretly
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playing video games and buyingfigurines again.
She only found out about onetime and she destroyed it
immediately.
I can't keep this up any longerand I want to have my own
hobbies without her gettingupset.
What is the best way to bringthe subject up again, and how
can I let her know how much myhobbies mean to me?
That that's crazy work.
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You got to you just silent onthat one, huh.
Speaker 1 (44:38):
I'm leaving, I'm leaving, I don't.
I don't know, I'm not.
Speaker 2 (44:42):
Imagine if I went upstairs, to your bedroom and to
your office, look here.
And I took all of your comicbooks, all your boxes of of
comic books, and I just threwthem in the trash can.
And then when you came home andyou're like where's my comic?
You know how much money I haveup there and then I said you
know what that stuff is worth?
And then I took all your funkopops.
What if I went up there and Itook all your funko pops off the
wall and then I went and threwthem all in a trash along with
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the boxes of comic books youhave?
And then when you came home andI said those are immature
hobbies, maurice, and I don'tlike it.
I also got rid of thePlayStation, because what you're
doing is ridiculous.
You're a 40-year-old man whohas figurines on the wall and
boxes and pawn boxes of comicbooks.
Get over it.
It's unhealthy.
Speaker 1 (45:22):
Find a new hobby.
My signed copy of theAnniversary of Spawn is worth so
much money.
Well, I just do it in the trash, so it's not worth anything now
, I would leave you because Iwould not be able to control my
rage.
I would have to leave, Sir.
This is not.
(45:43):
This can only go.
Speaker 2 (45:44):
It's unhealthy.
It's unhealthy.
Speaker 1 (45:47):
This can only go two ways Either.
Speaker 2 (45:50):
I like how serious you got for this one.
It's unhealthy.
It's unhealthy.
This can only go two ways.
Speaker 1 (45:53):
Either I like how serious you got for this one
Like this one really hit homefor you.
Yeah, it did this really.
I'm fighting.
Withhold sex.
I don't want that stink asspussy.
Speaker 2 (46:00):
I want my figurines.
Speaker 1 (46:03):
I can get more pussy.
Speaker 2 (46:05):
I can get these limited edition.
Speaker 1 (46:08):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (46:09):
Exactly.
I can find ass anywhere ma'am,that's when you start saying the
marriage is just a piece ofpaper.
Speaker 1 (46:18):
I'm about to burn that too.
It can only go two ways.
Either you're going toacquiesce to her and be
miserable because you're notgoing to be able to be who you
are.
You have to change yourpersonality drastically to fit
her needs and you're going to bein a.
You're going to be in a.
You're going to be a Stepfordhusband pretty much Right or
you're going to either have toyou're going to have to leave
(46:38):
because she because that'sdramatic it is dramatic, that's
really dramatic.
It is because she, she, sheliterally said that his hobbies
repulse her Like literally saidthat his hobbies repulse her
Like she's.
It makes her sick to her corethat he collects figurines and
does, sir you know what.
Here's the thing.
Speaker 2 (46:57):
Wow, he's really turned up about this one.
Speaker 1 (46:58):
guys, here's the thing I'm about to get fucking
petty.
Speaker 2 (47:01):
Fine, I'm not gonna mess with his figurines.
Speaker 1 (47:04):
Play by her rules, sir.
So, instead of doing, startcollecting bitches, because she
can't throw those in the wayCollect the bitches Start
collecting bitches.
Start collecting bitches.
Speaker 2 (47:17):
And see if she likes that.
Speaker 1 (47:18):
Start hanging out late, start going to the bar
with friends every night.
Hey, you can go to the arcadebar.
They got drinks there.
Just go out, spend time and doall the things that you would do
at home elsewhere.
And then, when you're no longerhome and she doesn't see you
when she clocks out, say, well,hey, I have to go somewhere
where I feel welcome or hear meout, you can find your you can
(47:41):
find your tribe, which I'm surethere's women who collect star
wars figurines.
Speaker 2 (47:45):
Oh, there is, I'm sure.
Yeah, like I know, I've seen,like you've opened my eyes, and
that there are plenty of womenwho are into the exact same
hobbies you are.
Find out where everyone meets,not just the women, the men too,
because there is, there's asection of the world where it's
people who are just like you andbe like.
I'm no longer collecting thefigurines, but the only time
that I can see the figurines iswhen I hang out with my friends
(48:08):
who still collect.
So I'm not collecting thefigurines, but every Friday at 3
pm or 9 pm, we all get togetherand I get to live vicariously
through them.
Speaker 1 (48:17):
No, that's not enough for me.
Speaker 2 (48:19):
I bet you, she'll feel some type of way that
you're hanging out withbeautiful women who collect
figurines.
Don't hang out with them.
Collect them Like Pokemon andbe like we, just we only text,
because she's telling me aboutthe new Star Wars figurine
that's coming out.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
Look here I don't condone there are.
There are a couple of thingsthat I will never stop doing.
I will never stop watchinganime.
I will never stop playing videogames, okay, and I will never
stop rubbing my wife's ass.
I'm not getting rid of my comicbooks.
I'm not getting rid of myfigurines Now, I haven't bought
(48:56):
it in a long time but there's acouple I got my eye on, but I am
in the process.
I am going to get a whole NinjaTurtle tattoo for my birthday.
Yes, I am just a kid with moneythat takes care of his
responsibilities, but you knowwhat?
But again, I have a wife thatallows me to be me, so I guess
(49:18):
that's.
Speaker 2 (49:19):
I love that.
I love that.
That's what I'm thinking Like.
Ok, I do.
Speaker 3 (49:24):
I'm devil's advocate, I can see how some women no,
listen, listen, you don't knowwhere I'm going with this, I can
see how some women have ascrewed Listen.
Speaker 2 (49:34):
I can see how some women have a screwedd idea about
men who play video games andcollect figurines and comic
books and stuff like that, right, mm-hmm, I can see where that
thought process comes at,because you're like, you're a
man and I want you to be a manand in my eyes and my idea of
(49:54):
man, he's not playing videogames, he doesn't collect
freaking Barbie dolls.
It's like the male version ofBarbie dolls.
Speaker 1 (50:00):
Hold video games.
He doesn't collect freakingbaby.
Uh, barbie dolls it's like themale version of barbie.
Hold on, it's not wait, hold up.
Speaker 2 (50:03):
No, I didn't say that , I'm saying some women might be
thinking listen, I'm notspeaking about me, it's, I mean,
it's the male version of barbiedolls.
Um, the male version of barbiedolls and for and for them.
They're probably thinking I wantlike a man's man's their idea
listen, their idea of what theythink a man is and what he
should listen I'm not done andwhat he should be doing with his
(50:25):
free time.
And in her mind she's probablythinking you can have there's so
many other hobbies that youcould enjoy.
Why does your hobbies includeme?
Include you looking like, in myeyes, a 14 year old?
Speaker 1 (50:39):
boy.
My response to that would bethey're my hobbies, exactly my
hobbies offend you, offend youexactly, and I agree.
Speaker 2 (50:46):
I'm not asking you to partake in my listen and I
agree with that.
But what I'm saying is I'm justtrying to see it from both views
look here but I will say, as awife who has a husband who
watches anime on a regular basis, who has a figurine collection
the male version of Barbies, whohas I just threw that in there
(51:08):
who has box I mean boxes uponboxes upon boxes of comic books
and plays video games veryregularly, those are the aspects
about him that I actuallygenuinely love.
Those are the aspects about youthat I have come to join in on
(51:28):
on some level.
Like I enjoy watching anepisode of anime with him, I
don't mind reading subtitles, sothat was easy for me to fall
into.
Thank God I like to read thecaptions.
That was easy for me to fallinto.
Speaker 1 (51:39):
First of all, if you're watching anime in English
, you not a real yeah, hedoesn't watch it in English.
Speaker 2 (51:42):
He's like very adamant about not watching anime
in English.
So we, we sit there and readthe screen, which I'm fine with,
because that's how I watch TVin general.
I read the screen, um, but Ienjoy those aspects of you and I
think I think it's greatbecause, at the core, that's who
you, you are and, like I alwayssay, I feel like as adults, we
lose connection with that kidwithin us.
(52:03):
I didn't you know what I'msaying and I think that's really
important.
So, as his wife, instead ofhaving such a negative
perspective about what hishobbies are, change your
perspective about how you thinkabout his hobbies.
Now, if he is prioritizinghobbies over his
responsibilities, that's a wholedifferent conversation.
(52:24):
But if that's just what he doeson his spare time, if that's
just what he enjoys doing as hispersonal hobbies, that should
not make you feel bad in anytype of way, because he could be
doing something different.
He could be going to the barafter work.
He could be getting high anddrinking all the time.
He could be going to the barafter work okay.
He could be getting high anddrinking all the time.
He could be addicted to pornokay, he.
You know what I'm saying like hecould.
(52:45):
He could be doing a lot ofother things.
He could be sending random dickpics to people on facebook.
He could be doing a lot ofother things and not to say that
he probably doesn't, but hecould be doing a lot of other
things.
So if you really want a tripabout him having a hobby of
collecting figurines and comicbooks and all that, like that's
crazy work I never.
And then not only that, you washella disrespectful, going down
(53:07):
there and touching his stuffand burning it.
Speaker 1 (53:10):
Burning it and literally destroying it.
Speaker 2 (53:13):
That's where I think like you were dead ass wrong,
because obviously you have noidea how much these things can
be worth Now.
How about now?
What?
How?
How stupid would you have feltif it was something that he was
holding on to, that wasappreciating and appreciating,
and his goal was to sell that,to pay your house off, or to
(53:35):
sell it and set your life up?
You feel real stupid because Iwould feel real dumb if you came
to me and be like, just so youknow three of those figurines
that you tossed I would havebeen able to get $500,000 from.
I would have felt sick to mystomach, dumb, real dumb.
I'm leaving, real dumb.
Speaker 1 (53:52):
So no, no, kudos to you, wife, that was terrible the
childish nature of notresponding to the text message.
Speaker 2 (54:00):
Because she didn't respond?
Because she knew she waswaiting for that.
Speaker 1 (54:05):
She was avoiding accountability, of course,
because she felt so right in heractions.
Speaker 2 (54:12):
She felt absolutely right in her actions.
Speaker 1 (54:14):
The more I think about this, the more I'd be like
the fiance of the mom.
I have a case and I it wouldn't.
It wouldn't be.
No, he innocent the judge, andlike him, no, he did that shit
no, he did it, he did it.
Speaker 2 (54:30):
No, judge, I did it.
No, yeah, I did, judge, I didit.
But you don't understand whathappened before that.
But I did do it, but you don'tunderstand what happened to
cause me to do it when she go towork.
Speaker 1 (54:41):
I want you to go upstairs.
Speaker 2 (54:43):
Like what does she collect?
Handbags?
No, listen to me.
Speaker 1 (54:46):
When she go to work.
I want you to go upstairs and Iwant you to pour milk in all
her creams.
I want you to pee in herfoundations.
Speaker 2 (54:54):
Bye, Maurice.
Speaker 1 (54:55):
That's crazy work.
I want you to take all hermakeup brushes and put them in
toilet water and I want you tobreak every mirror except for
the smallest one she has.
And when she breaks out fromsevere rash and she don't know
(55:15):
what's going on, just saythere's a cure for that in Star
Wars.
Speaker 2 (55:26):
There's a cure for that in Star Wars.
Take all her lipsticks and rubthem at the bottom of your feet.
After you took a one-mile jogwith no shoes on, no, Rub them
across your balls.
Speaker 1 (55:37):
Oh, that's diabolical .
Matter of fact, let them rubthem across your gooch, don't
doical.
No matter fact, let them run.
Run them across your goochdon't do that.
Speaker 2 (55:44):
That's too much payback.
That's like no, no, you don'tmess with anyone's health.
Baby.
Speaker 1 (55:48):
Here's the worst thing don't mess with anyone's
health right.
She melted your figurines.
Go, melt all them lipsticks.
I would be livid.
Melt all them lipsticks andpencils but if she's, if she's
not like a real makeup girly andshe only has like one or three
lipsticks, that's not gonnacause she can by this attitude
she is like, like if you were totouch my lipsticks that'd do we
(56:08):
would.
Speaker 2 (56:08):
We would, we would have some serious problems cut
holes in all her pads.
Speaker 1 (56:13):
What little small ones.
That's crazy.
You gotta be petty.
I know she has a favorite cupbreak it she's not gonna care
about a cup babe.
Speaker 2 (56:25):
Oh, she is her favorite cup her favorite cup
and be like I don't know well,like once a week, something that
she really likes shoulddisappear or break, and then
every time when she starts tonotice, oh my gosh, I can't find
this, I can't find that you belike it hurt, don't it I?
Speaker 1 (56:38):
would drag her toothbrush through the crack of
my ass once a day.
Speaker 2 (56:46):
That's disgusting.
That's disgusting.
Don't mess with anyone's healthHer actions are disgusting.
Her actions were I don'tdisagree with you Her actions
were repulsive.
Speaker 1 (56:57):
I'm dragging that toothbrush through the crack of
my ass once a day, and I'mtalking about you.
Better hope I didn't shit,because it ain't gonna stop me.
That's crazy, that's wild babe,she pissed me off.
Speaker 2 (57:12):
I can see that's the one that now, that's the one he
believes and that's the onethat's getting to him the most,
because that just hit home forhim I wish the motherfucker
would mess with my shit.
Speaker 1 (57:21):
I'm fighting everybody in that, motherfucker
all right, guys.
Speaker 2 (57:28):
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The childish nature of not responding to the text
message.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Because she didn't respond?
Because she knew she waswaiting for that.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
She was avoiding accountability, of course,
because she felt so right in heractions.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
She felt absolutely right in her actions.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
The more I think about this, the more I'd be like
the fiance of the mom I have acase and it wouldn't be.
No, he innocent of the judge.
And like him, no, he did thatshit.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
No, he did it.
He did it.
No, judge, I did it.
No, yeah, I did.
Judge, I did it, but you don'tunderstand what happened before
that.
But I did do it, but you don'tunderstand what happened to
cause me to do it.
Hey, everybody, and welcomeback to another episode of the
(01:04):
Life After I Do podcast.
I am your host, kynesha, andI'm here with the man of my
dreams, my superstar.
My rock star, my rock, my homie,my lover, my best friend Of
nine years married today Stop.
(01:25):
Best friend of nine yearsmarried today.
Stop the cap.
Nine years married today.
23 years in the game.
My day one, mr Maurice.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Gill, thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you for that nice warmwelcome, even though I know you
really didn't mean it and it wasprobably a lot of bs.
Happy anniversary booskies.
Happy anniversary booskies.
We made it to nine years highfive to us.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
High five one more year to our first decade in the
state of california.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
I have to file for divorce by september this year.
I don't want to have to giveyou half everything so we may be
temporarily may be temporarilydivorced and then remarry again.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
No, that's not how that works, because I just found
out from a friend that,apparently, if the wife is what
they consider to be educated,they do not automatically give
you 50%, because, even thoughshe was a stay-at-home mom for
all those decades and years, thejudge said she's also an
educated woman, therefore shecan make a way for herself.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
So you know what?
So you can pay for the cars,you know what?
So when I die, buddy, you knowwhat's going to keep you warm,
buddy?
Those degrees, see, that's thedifference.
See, I got certificates.
Oh, you got degrees, I gotdegrees degrees.
I got degrees.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
It's not the same, not the same.
The level of warmth is not,it's not it's not.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
You might be a little warmer than me, I'm not gonna
lie.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
I gotta, you gotta yeah because mine is like on the
mantle collecting dust.
They're just there for kind ofshow right now I don't know but.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
But the judge says you can dust them off the just
take your feet back up and tryagain try again, so you'll be
fine okay, I guess I'll be allright, you'll be fine, you'll be
alright.
Yeah, it's fine, you'll be fine.
It's a good day.
It's our anniversary.
It's our favorite type ofepisode.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
It's a hour two since , and you it's your favorite,
it's your guys' favorite episodetoo it's, it's the messy one.
You guys, you guys really likethe reactions so how was your
week, Booski?
My week was actually reallygood.
That's good.
I'm not going to lie.
Tell us about it, okay, because?
Speaker 1 (03:27):
you already know, I know where it's going, I know
that it's killing you and I knowyou want to say it.
Go ahead and say it.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
So for those who have been listening for a while,
y'all know we've been on likeour little fitness journey or
whatever.
We not fat, no more bye,goodbye.
I mean, I'm still a little huskybut, um, anywho right areas
anywho, um, I have recentlystarted a I guess I can I never
(03:55):
really said it, but I haverecently started a power lifting
program under a coach andeverything and so I've been
really working on getting mythree, my big three ups, so
that's the bench press, thedeadlift and the squat, and so I
hit a new PR today and it wasreally great.
(04:17):
I've been hitting I hit whatthree, actually four overall new
PRs, and one of my biggestaccomplishments is that I'm at
the 275 mark for my deadlift.
And that's special to me becausethe deadlift was something that
I was I don't want to sayintimidated by, but it was
something that I was, like,really cautious by.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I don't know why you were scared, but you've been
lifting the dead weight aroundhere for a long time.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
But I'm not.
It's not that I was scared,it's just like I didn't want to.
I didn't want to mess that,like I really wanted to learn
some, some technique before Ireally went ahead with that,
because you hear what I said,though what you've been lifting
a dead weight running for a longtime, you know what shut up?
um, but I really wanted to likeget some technique under my belt
, get a little bit of weightunder my belt, before I went
ahead, started, you know,working towards that.
(05:03):
But, um, yeah, so I'm 25 poundsaway from that 300 mark and I
am just trying like I'm itchingto get to that 300 mark because
I'm 30 pounds away on the 300mark on my squat and I'm 25
pounds away that you squat anddeadlift the same it.
no, it's diabolical that well,technically, until next week
(05:23):
when I go into my squat training, I'm technically now
deadlifting more than I squat,which is diabolical because I
have always depended on my squat.
Like my squat is like my breadand butter, but now that I got a
little bit of like energy undermy belt, because energy under
my belt because I hit that 275and I hit the 275 for three reps
(05:47):
, so I might even be at that 315mark when.
I go for my calm down when I hitmy one rep, matt, because I
only need to do one rep guys,it's only one rep okay, let's
calm down.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
It's only one rep 315 , that's wild, that's crazy,
that's wild, let's win.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
You so fake, that's good, you so fake, oh my.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
God, yeah, that's good, yeah, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
He's so fake y'all oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Yeah, he's so fake yeah that's good so yeah.
That's really good.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
I'm on the up and up on the squat, the deadlift.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
And my bench is if y'all can't tell by judgment,
I'll be good on my bitch.
Y'all can't tell by now she'sway stronger than me.
Now you're stronger but like,nah see, because you're lifting
for strength, I'm lifting for,uh, physique, weight loss and
physique and physique.
Yeah, I'm lifting, for it's twodifferent it's our programs are
way.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I was doing his program before which I asked I
loved, I loved doing yourprogram okay your program was
great because he was like on alike a beginner course
bodybuilder, because he's goingfor more physique and cutting
and all that good stuff and thenit's like I loved it.
But that's not what I wasreally trying to work towards
how you do you.
So I was fortunate enough tohave an amazing trainer.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
You want to walk around like you're like, like
Olga who's's olga?
Like you know, the old germanladies.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
No, but I did.
Uh, I did get like the thestares a little bit today you
know haters, hey, there's gonnahey but homeboy gave me a nod,
he was like okay, all right,that's you, you want to up and
up?
Okay, you know.
And then the other guy next tome, he just like raw dog 315,
like real quick.
He was like but keep it's likehe was telling me what I'll tell
(07:31):
him.
But keep working at it, keepworking at it.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Do you know who's sacred?
A secret leaf strong.
Who you know?
The guy that does our inbodies?
Uh-huh, you say how much he belifting.
What does he do?
So Because I might have to bein my new goal Like he squats
like three and a half weights,like casually no spot.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
So like 315, 325?
Speaker 1 (07:51):
No like 350.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Like for sets for reps.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
And I've seen him and then, like I've seen what he
benched to and I'm like, lookhere, man, calm down, wait till
I leave.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Bye, that's what I'm saying.
The guy next to me when hedeadlifted the 315, it was like
you're doing like to me, Ithought in waves.
He was like telepathicallytelling me you know, but you
keep going at it.
You're 275.
That's cute, but you keepworking at it.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
I just always say like whenever I do challenge you
to a strength competition, it'sgoing to be on the week of your
period.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Oh, wow.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
That's crazy work.
I might as well stack the chipsin my favor.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
That's crazy work.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
In my favor.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
That's crazy work you know what I'm saying.
But if it's a challenge I willfind the strength.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
I will make sure I get my 700 calories in before
the gym For those seven daysthat you are in the gym I'm
going to have my two steaks andmy three eggs in the morning,
those seven days that you are inthe gym, nope.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
I'm going to get my two steaks, my three eggs, in
the morning.
I'm going to make sure I'mgoing to hit my 700 before the
gym.
That's what I was telling myfriend today.
I was like, imagine if I hadgot my 600 in before the gym
today, I probably would havestarted with the three.
I'm going to be honest with you, but the fact that I hit that
and all I had was a granola barand a bunch of liquid vitamins
(09:08):
and creatine and green juicecrazy work, I'll be.
I'll be like I really do be inthe gym, raw dog yeah it's not
great, and you know, but I'vebeen there hopes and dreams the
night before but you know what,last week it really took a toll
when um, like my trainer, cameout to work with work with me on
Friday and because I had myscan my body scan the same day.
(09:29):
I don't eat or drink before abody scan, so all I had was my
liquid vitamins, my creatine andmy green juice to drink after
my body scan.
So after I did my body scan, gotmy body scan, got all my
numbers, I was like, ok, cool,but it was a leg day.
So I went into a leg day, avery heavy leg day, because my
trainer was there and he waslike super pushing me and I did
(09:52):
the what was it?
The 270 on the squat, includingtwo warmups.
I technically did like fivesets, which was crazy.
Then he had me.
I did 210 on extensions and legcurls for 13 and 11 reps in
three sets.
So I was cooked.
And then how did I feel afterthat workout?
You felt good.
You ran a mile and then afterthat, you ran another mile.
(10:16):
But what was I like after?
And then you slept on the couch.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
And then I was dead.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
I was gone, there was nothing left and I have never
felt so exhausted and fatiguedafter a workout and I know part
of that was because I didn't getmy calories in before.
Yeah, I didn't eat because Ihad my my scan, but I know that
the times where I had a reallyheavy leg day and I got my my,
(10:42):
like, my beef, my um, eggs andeverything before we worked out,
remember that last time we hadworked out and I felt, uh, maze
balls and I was like because Ifed my muscles when you get that
I wasn't feeding my musclesthat meal in 30 minutes for you.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Like you have a different level of strength oh,
it's a different level ofstrength.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
That's why I was like , when I came home I looked at
my steaks in the fridge and Iwas like, oh, oh, yeah, baby, we
are hitting the steaks Thursdaymorning.
I got to get back to it.
We are hitting the beef firstthing Thursday morning.
In the beef ma, we can hit ittwice, but yeah, so my week was
pretty good.
I'm riding a little bit of ahigh, I'm very proud of myself
(11:19):
and, just like a little personalnote, I haven't felt like proud
of myself in a really long time, like genuinely proud, where I
looked at myself in the mirrorand was like, like bitch, you
should be proud of what you'redoing.
I looked at myself in themirror and I was like I'm I'm
proud of you, like I'm proud ofyou, and I genuinely felt it and
(11:41):
it like it.
It it touched me, like I was.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
I'm genuinely proud of you.
I know I'm proud of you, yourdaughter's proud of you thank
you babe, some people hating onyou bye I got this.
You gave me this cough oh, yeah, probably and I don't know why.
You know you I'll be out heretrying to bye-bye from my family
and like not get sick, and allthey do is get me sick.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
But you didn't get sick, though, and I wasn't sick
either.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
I just have a little restiness.
I think it adds character.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
Okay, all right.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Watch.
People are going to be like ohmy gosh, you sound good like
that and I'm going to be like Iknow Dial.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Oh hi, oh, I thought you took up all the time okay,
there is no take up all the timeI thought because you were it's
an anniversary episode.
I have as much time as I wantyou were cooking let it cook
with grease no grease olive oil.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
My week was cool really my week was cool it was
cool.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Nothing major to report.
It's still in my healingprocess.
I'm in my healing era.
It was cool, cool.
I don't not the major to report, okay, just just.
It's still in my healingprocess, I'm in my healing,
healing era.
Okay, I like it.
You know, that's it.
That's it.
None special.
Apparently, you know our, ourmutual friend, des, likes it too
, cause she says I'm easy tocommunicate with.
Now I'll be fighting my urge tocuss your ass out.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Bye.
Shots out to Des, the Diva atthe Heavyweight Podcast.
Love you, girl.
I'll be fighting my urge.
I know what it's like to dealwith this guy To hush your ass
out.
Hush your ass out.
Hush Bye your ass, goodbye Out,goodbye.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
So that's your week?
Yeah, I think this week I'veobtained another level of inner
peace.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Because obviously I've learned that my family is
not going to give me peace.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
So I have to you know how I feel about peace.
Peace is subjective.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
So I have to really Peace is something that's
individual to every person.
I have to really dig inside ofme and find my serene place.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Okay, find it.
Have you found it?
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Yes, I have.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
Now imagine me effing it all up, you're there.
Am I there?
You just walked in.
I just walked in wearing abright green shirt.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
No, but you're naked, so it's my place, so I dictate
the parameters.
Nope, it's my place and you'renaked.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
Yeah, it works my place and you're naked.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Yeah, it works for me .
I'm smiling.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Goodbye.
Well, in honor of ouranniversary, Go ahead.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
In honor of our anniversary, we have a little
treat for you guys.
As someone who has been beggingto be on a camera since we
started recording, Since westarted this podcast.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
She is a very special guest that we're going to.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
And she had to put on makeup on because mommy had on
makeup.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
So we're going to let her come here.
So, without further ado, we'regoing to let her be here for a
quick hot second.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Without further ado, introducing the one, the only
the gymnast herself Miss PhoenixRangel Woo Yay.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
You got to talk into mommy's mic, say hi to the
people Hi say, hi hey.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Hey, hey, hey, how y'all doing, how y'all doing
Good.
How's it going, fi?
It's going great, it's goinggreat.
Mm-hmm, how you been Good.
Yeah, how it's going great.
How you been Good.
Yeah, how was your week?
It was awesome.
Take the mic.
Oh yeah, she's going to takethe mic.
My baby is not ashamed orafraid.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
It was awesome.
It was awesome what was awesomeabout it.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
I really had fun with my toys.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
And all that stuff.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
Okay, yeah.
What about playing with yourcousin?
You got to see your Roro thisweek.
Was that really exciting?
Speaker 1 (15:32):
you gotta talk to Mike was that?
Speaker 2 (15:34):
was that really exciting?
Um kinda kinda it was kinda itlooked like you were having a
great time, but more.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
I like my cousin.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
Rowan, you love your cousin Rowan.
Yeah, he's my craziest cousin.
We're having a great time, butmore I like my cousin Rowan.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
You love your cousin Rowan.
Yeah, he's my craziest cousin.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
Is that why you like him?
Because he's your craziestcousin, yeah.
Does he have the best ideaswhen you guys play?
Oh, yes, and I saw you guysbuilding like forts and stuff in
the back.
Is that why you love when youguys play?
Speaker 3 (16:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Yeah, do you know what he said?
He wants to be when he grows up?
What he wants to be anarchitect.
That's why he likes to buildthings for you and stuff in the
backyard, because that's what hewants to do.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
I need to work on them.
Foundations, boy.
Bye, it's a little shaky.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
That's what he wants to do.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
I want to be a vet when I'm grown girl.
You want to be a vet.
I want to be a vet when I growup.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
That's diabolical, you eating day-old food.
Bye.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Why do you want to be a vet?
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Because I like to help animals, okay, oh, even
wild ones.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Even what.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Wild ones.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Even wild ones.
Yeah, that's really cool.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
That's not what I heard.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Bye, Maurice.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
That Bye, Maurice.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
That's really cool.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Fee, okay, well, say something to the people.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
What do you want the people to know?
Speaker 1 (16:52):
So me and mommy can start the episode officially.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
What do you want the people to know about Phoenix?
Tell them three things aboutyou that you want them to know.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
So after I graduate from college uh-huh I'll.
I'll find a boyfriend that'sgood for me, or a husband okay,
okay.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
And who said they will help you?
Speaker 1 (17:13):
do that you guys, uh-huh nobody's good for you
with me excuse me yeah, mommysays she'll help you.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Look for a husband one day right and what else?
Speaker 3 (17:25):
So that's one thing.
So when I get my husbandalready, I want to marry him.
That will make for your husbandI want a beautiful wedding
dress Okay, on our wedding dayUh-huh and some pretty wedding
day shoes, and some prettywedding day shoes.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
And some pretty wedding, okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (17:49):
And I want, and I want kids.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
You want kids oh.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
How many?
I want?
Like Four kids, like four, four.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Oh, wow.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
I think that's the only child speaking.
That's why so like.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
I can have one son and three sisters, and Three
daughters yeah, I'm can have oneson and three sisters.
Three daughters yeah, I'm goingto have one son and three.
Where are these kids going tolive?
Because they can't stay with me.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
They're going to live with us.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
Okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
They're going to live with me.
Speaker 1 (18:16):
Okay, okay, okay.
Where are you living at?
Speaker 3 (18:19):
I'm going to live.
We can live at a hotel orsomething.
Let's not live at a hotel.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Let's not live at a hotel Unless you guys own the
hotel.
I don't think we should aspireto live in a hotel.
So we got to make sure you geta stable home for you and your
family, right?
Speaker 3 (18:37):
So I'm going to find a home that has one parent
bedroom.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
One parent bedroom Like four bathrooms.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
Okay, okay, I like the way you think okay, and then
I want like four bedrooms.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
So so you got a parent room and four bedrooms,
yeah, so a five bedroom, fourbath house.
Speaker 3 (18:56):
Yeah, so you want a big house yes yes with a pool
right yes, okay, so we don'thave to buy pool each year.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
Wow, I feel like that's a personal shot at me.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
She's taking a shot at you.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
I'm trying to make sure you have a good summer
every year.
That was a personal shot, okay.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
And that's it.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Yeah, that's it.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
So say bye to the people, bye.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Thanks, babe, for joining us, you're welcome.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
You happy now?
Yeah, alright, love you.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
Bye High five.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
Till next time.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
Till next time.
Till next time, bye.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Hold on, come here, come here.
Look into the mic and sayWelcome back to Life After I Do.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
And welcome back to another episode of Life After I
Do.
I'm your host, phoenix G, andwe're here with my lovely father
Maulito.
I call him father.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Love you, babe.
Love you, babe, head upstairs,love you.
Okay, and that was Phoenix Gand that was Phoenix G.
Can we talk about how my kid islike?
Okay, you know how they talkabout, where little girls always
fantasize about their weddingday, like since they were little
.
Yeah she, quite literally, isthat little girl?
Speaker 1 (20:13):
yeah, she is quite literally that little girl
bother me, but now I justrealized, sooner but rather than
later, she's not gonna be myproblem.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Bye no, like I don't.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
I wouldn't say it necessarily bothered me, only
because when she first likestarted having this conversation
about like, oh, I want ahusband, I want kids, it's
because she would tell me I wantto be like you and daddy I know
, so it's like that's her thatshould let you know how lucky
you are to have me, because theexample of how high I set the
bar I set the bar so high thatyour own daughter recognized
(20:44):
what I give you.
Wow.
But people, this was an R2Sense episode.
Say it for me babe R2.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
Sense.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
R2 Sense.
It's R2 Sense.
It's going to be a lot ofshenanigans.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
You know, if you let them shenan once they're going
to shenan again They'll shenanagain.
That's my favorite saying.
That's my favorite saying well,I don't even what was her name,
she was on tiktok, right?
If you let them shenan once,they'll shenan again she, she
miss okay I'm trying to see.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
Should we start off like light or messy, because I
know you like, let's get into it, let's get in.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
Let's get in I think we're gonna start off a little
bit, a little messy for you okay, now people look here.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
I have um discovered the source of most of these
stories and they are again fromthe internet, and I yet do not
fully believe that they are allreal.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
But these could be other people's real experiences.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
They might be be real .
They might be fake.
Either way, they're wild.
Yeah Well, we're going to writeabout these and we're going to
react to it and you can make upfor yourself whether or not you
believe it's real.
I just know that I'm here forthe mess Because I like my life
clean, so I'll look at the messfrom the inside.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
I can't.
Are you ready?
I can't.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
Are you ready?
Speaker 2 (22:01):
Y'all don't know how this is going to go with my
voice, but I'm going to do thebest I can, guys.
Speaker 3 (22:06):
Come on, Tony.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Come on, tony, here we go.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
You didn't get that.
Yes, braxton.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Yes, you got it.
So I was having problems with mycar today, so my boyfriend let
me use his car While I was out.
My baby daddy called and askedif I could pick him up from work
and I said cool, I've beendriving since 6 am, so at this
point I'm tired.
When I get to my baby daddy, Itold him to drive.
(22:33):
While I'm in the car with mybaby daddy, my boyfriend
FaceTimed me and noticed that Iwas in the passenger seat, so he
started questioning me.
And first of all, I ain'tmarried, so an MFA can't
question me about nothing.
Anyways, I told him that mybaby daddy was driving because I
was tired.
This dude proceeds to get realdisrespectful and goes off on me
(22:55):
because I allowed my baby daddyto drive his car.
I hung up on him because I havea good baby daddy and ain't no
MFA going to trip on me forlooking out for my baby daddy.
Was I wrong?
Speaker 1 (23:09):
You were so wrong, I can't even count the ways, I
can't even count the ways youwere wrong Again.
I'm going to just start mystart off by saying I don't
believe this is real, but I amgoing to react to it.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
He has that much faith in humanity that no one is
this absurd and has this muchaudacity which is out of my mind
.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
First of all, you're right, You're not married and
with that attitude you'll neverbe married.
Let's start there.
You'll never be married.
You seem like the very selfishtype.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
I mean, she might marry her baby daddy and they
might make a full circle.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
No, apparently, type.
I mean, she might marry herbaby daddy and they might make a
full circle.
No, apparently.
No, he's good.
She's not good for him, oh, butshe's dumb enough to be there
for him.
Yeah, well, and so this is allthis.
I, I agree with your.
I'm gonna say your ex-boyfriend, right, because this is, how
dare you let another man drivemy car?
Speaker 2 (24:00):
I think it's highly disrespectful, wasn't there?
Speaker 1 (24:03):
a song about that.
What the uh?
She let somebody crash.
The uh was it wasn't a drewhill song what?
I bust the windows out your carno, it was a song about the,
and the girl let somebody elsedrive her man's car let another
man drive her man's car.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
Yeah, oh, I don't remember that one.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
It'll come to me later, no matter, um again, um,
yeah, uh, she's wrong in thissituation.
Everything about this is wrong.
I don't remember that one.
It'll come to me later, itdon't matter Again.
Yeah, she's wrong in thissituation.
Everything about this is wrong.
I don't care how tired you are,because at the end of the day
it was very disrespectful and hewas doing you a service by
letting you use his car.
And then now you go go pick upanother man and let that man
drive my car, not just anotherman, your baby daddy, yeah, your
(24:50):
baby daddy, yeah, your babydaddy.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
So not only are you clearly telling me that your
baby daddy is a priority over me, over what we got going on, you
basically saying F me becauseI'm a beater for my baby daddy,
because I got to get a babydaddy Good baby daddy.
What makes him a good babydaddy?
Because if he was that damngood, he wouldn't just be a baby
daddy.
I guess he's good because hegot a job.
Okay, how did he get to work?
He could have got home fromwork the way he got to work.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
If she picked him up from home?
Speaker 2 (25:10):
From work.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
She picked him up from work when the kids at.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
Not only that who got the kids?
Not only that how did he get towork?
The same way you got to workshould be the same way you get
home from work.
That's good, that's good.
It's crazy Because that's crazywork, but it's the level of
audacity.
Speaker 1 (25:31):
For me, audacity is at an all-time high.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
It's at an all-time high.
And then for you to hang up onyour boyfriend because you got a
good baby daddy.
Well, guess what?
When you bring me my car back,since your baby daddy's so good
See?
Speaker 1 (25:47):
you wouldn't have a chance to bring my car back
because I reported stolen.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
Facts.
I like the way you think.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
It's now stolen.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
I like the way you think.
Speaker 1 (25:54):
And when they pick you up.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
I don't know who she is.
I have no idea.
We dated, look, we dated for ashort period.
When did you guys break up?
32 minutes ago, before youpicked the car up.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
I didn't know.
She took my car.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Yeah, Now listen.
She stole my keys when you guyspulled over the car, who was
driving?
Yeah, was there a man drivingor a woman driving?
Huh, because if there, was aman driving my car was taken.
Yeah, yeah, let's talk about it, my car was taken.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
Because I loaned my car out to a person.
I knew A person.
I knew A person I don't knowwas driving.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
I would say I fell asleep when she took the keys.
Hey, however you want to spinit.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
However you want to spin it, they both do it.
So, yes, you were out of pocket.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
You were wrong and he deserves to break up with you.
I hope the grandparents aregood because they're going to
watch some kids.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
However, should have thought about that.
Okay, ready?
No, I'm not, but correct adviceneeded.
So I just found out that I'mpregnant and I don't know what
to do.
I was laid off in november andafter I couldn't pay for the
month uh, my mother kicked meand my kids out.
This girl I've been friends withopened her home to me.
(27:04):
She works overnights and I havea regular morning shift job as
a server.
Her man is a hustler, so he'salways home.
All I know is one thing led toanother, and now it's been three
and a half months and we'vebeen sleeping together and I
just found out that I'm twomonths pregnant.
I was only with them oncebecause I tried it, but that D
(27:24):
was too good to go find anyoneelse and he cleaned too, wow.
But now I feel even worse thanI've ever felt since we started.
I know y'all judging me, butplease, I need some advice on
how I can have this conversationwith her.
I know that I'm going to end uphomeless, but he says that he's
not going to let anythinghappen to me, so maybe he won't
(27:45):
let her kick me out.
Advice.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
This is foul.
First of all, I don't believethis is real.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
We understand that you don't believe any of them
are real.
Babe, you don't have to prefaceyour reaction with that anymore
.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
And how selfish and low can you be to bite the hand
that fed you and then to say itonly happened one time, but it
was too good, so it didn'thappen just one time.
She then to say it onlyhappened one time, but it was
too good, so it didn't happenjust one time.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
She wanted to try it.
She liked it, realized it wastoo good to stop and kept going.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
But see, that's the problem.
You wanted to try it, so youhad no loyalty to the so-called
friend and to the friend.
This is just proof that youdon't let other people in your
house.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Absolutely not, especially where your man is.
And not especially where yourman is, and she said that he's a
hustler, so you know how hegetting his money right you know
how he getting his money.
Yeah, he's already likepractically a dishonest person
as it is and so you go, she, Imean maybe she meant a hustler,
as in like entrepreneur and hasmultiple streams of income.
(28:44):
It could go any way yeah,fentanyl vibrl that's not all
what that means.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Like I'm a hustler you are his cars okay, he boosts
his cars he got a little, got alittle scam in them either way
it goes, he has uh time to be athome and I'm gonna tell you,
I'm gonna tell her straight up,this ain't no easy conversation
to have if this is real.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
No, this ain't no easy conversation to have, but
the fact that she might hit youoff in your face.
But here's the point, this isthe point that you're missing,
and you and him might behomeless.
This is the point that you'remissing.
You're missing the point whereshe's already relying on the
comfort of what he's explainedto her.
Yeah, you're already missingthat.
He says that he's not going tolet anything happen to her.
(29:26):
So when the conversation is had, if I'm left to my own
imagination, it's going to gosomething like listen, she got
my baby.
Now what happened Happened.
So all we can do from here nowis either move forward or, like
you can go, or whatever you cando what you want to do, but
(29:46):
she's going to have my baby andyou're not going to kick her out
, so what you going to do?
But she finna have my baby andyou not finna kick her out, so
what you gonna do?
Speaker 1 (29:51):
and then if I'm her, I'm saying you and that bitch
can leave and her two funky asskids, or three, the one in her
belly but what if you don't wantto leave?
911.
How may I help you?
Speaker 2 (30:05):
911 operator.
How can I help you?
Speaker 3 (30:08):
he hit me.
No, you can't do that no,listen, don't do that.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
But they all get thrown out and again.
I don't believe these are reallike this.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
Come on yeah, but this happens in real life.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
I need some water same.
Speaker 2 (30:27):
I usually have my water, but but yeah, these
things happen in real life.
I need some water.
Speaker 1 (30:29):
Same.
I usually have my water, but Idon't have it.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
But yeah, these things happen in real life, okay
.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
If you say so.
Speaker 2 (30:35):
It's not the experience that you have, that's
not the lifestyle you live.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
Not in my friend circles.
Speaker 2 (30:40):
Not in your friend circles.
No, but that's not the, that'snot the type of people you
associate with, not at all so,but to say that it like you,
don't, you have to look beyondyour circle, because there's
circles of people like this Ijust told you earlier, I go to
my place of serenity.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
That's where I go.
I don't look beyond anymore.
I look within for peace bye,babe.
Speaker 2 (31:05):
I look, I look within .
Okay, here we go.
Am I the asshole for refusingto bring my son to my mom after
she mocked his name?
I'm a 24-year-old male and I'mblack mixed with Mexican.
My girlfriend is Japanese.
We currently welcomed our firstchild, a baby boy, and he's
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absolutely perfect.
We decided to name him Nobu,which means trust or prolong in
Japanese.
The name honors my girlfriend'sheritage and we both love its
meaning and its significance.
The problem is my mom.
From the moment we announcedhis name, she started making
unnecessary and hurtful comments.
At first it was subtle thingslike oh that's unique, or are
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you sure that's a good choice?
But as time went on, herremarks became more direct and
more disrespectful.
She called the name too foreignand even joked why didn't you
just name him something normallike Michael?
He's going to get bullied aboutthis.
The final straw came when shevisited me Nobu for the first
time.
The final straw came when shevisited me Nobu for the first
time.
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Instead of being excited tomeet her grandson, she laughed
and said poor kid is going tohave to explain his name his
whole life.
My girlfriend who was there,looked so hurt by the comment I
told my mom to stopdisrespecting his name, but she
dismissed me, saying that I wasbeing too sensitive about it and
that it was, quote unquote,just a joke.
After that visit, I made thedecision to stop bringing Nobu
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to see her.
I refuse to have my son exposedto that kind of negativity,
especially from someone whoshould be supportive and loving.
Until my mom can show respectfor the choices my girlfriend
and I have made, she will not beseeing her grandson.
Am I the asshole for putting myfoot down and refusing to let
my mom disrespect and affect myson and girlfriend?
Speaker 1 (32:51):
not, at all not at all not at all not at all.
Speaker 2 (32:55):
No, that is his name, whether she doesn't like it or
not.
You, okay, like we understandthat you don't like his name,
but that's still your grandsonand you shouldn't try to make
him feel any type of way abouthis name either, because if
you're doing it now, you'regonna be doing it the rest of
his life but his mom must be theblack one, probably because
that's some black people shitwhy you name that baby that,
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yeah.
Why you do that to that babyyeah, no, I don't you're.
I don't think you're wrong atall.
I think it's actually prettyshitty that, as a grandparent,
you will sit there andcontinuously harp on something
like your grandkids name.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
Plus, you know my stance.
What my stance is?
You, I am not going to allowyou to come into my space and
disrespect my, my girlfriendslash wife and my child.
So either you get with theprogram or you you lose access.
Yeah, because it ain't gonnahurt me.
Yeah, you don't want to becalling me or talking about
where my grandbaby, because itain't going to hurt me.
You, the one going to becalling me or talking about
where's?
Speaker 2 (33:48):
my grandbaby, right, because now you've lost access
to your child and yourgrandchild because I have now,
like I'm one with somebody else.
So now I have to protect my sonand I have to protect his
mother and if you coming aroundmaking smart comments and being
disrespectful hurts her, guess,where you don't get to come
Around here, boo-boo Around here, boo-boo Me and Nobu, right,
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nobu doesn't like the way youbehave.
Speaker 1 (34:18):
Right, and he might grow up to love his name.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
Right, but not only that.
I think about it in terms of heprobably would be perfectly
fine with his name.
Speaker 1 (34:28):
But his grandmother, his nickname will probably be no
bullshit too.
That's no bullshit.
He don't play around.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
But his grandmother constantly making comments about
that could plant a little seedof him not liking Insecurity.
Yeah, of him not liking hisname, and that's not cool, but
people don't understand that.
Speaker 1 (34:44):
All these little doubts are these little seeds of
insecurity or doubt that kidshave.
They were implanted by someoneelse.
Speaker 2 (34:52):
And it becomes their foundation.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
Because kids are naturally fearless.
Yeah, okay, fearless, notcaught A lot of cautious.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
They lack caution.
Speaker 1 (35:03):
Some do, others don't , but naturally they're fearless
and in situations like that,that's when you start to
implement these seeds of doubt,or these seeds, or you start
growing insecurity, and thenthat alters their growth paths
or their development, becausenow they're being triggered,
their growth's being triggeredby something else.
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So, yeah, yeah, you're not theasshole, sir, your mama's the
asshole asshole grandmama.
And you probably should tellyour daddy to say something to
her.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
He didn't even mention his daddy, so maybe he's
not.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
With an attitude like that, I can see why she's
single, like the one before.
You're too much.
I'm just saying.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
I can see why she's single.
Am I the asshole for going nocontact with my mother?
Speaker 1 (35:53):
because she can't accept that her fiance is not
allowed around my children.
Okay, hold on.
Okay, is she going?
Speaker 2 (35:57):
to say why yeah?
This is going to be a littlelong, but I wanted to make sure
to add as many important detailsas possible.
My mother started dating thisguy right before my daughter was
even born, about three and ahalf years ago, when my daughter
was even born, about three anda half years ago, when my
daughter was about eight or somonths old, my mom let me know
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that her fiance was going tojail for assaulting a woman.
Oh my god, up until this point Ihad no idea he was even on
trial for this and that they hadbeen taking my daughter
overnight about once a monthsince she was born.
I was pissed, to say the least,because I would have not sent
her to be with him had I knownthis was going on.
She told me that she didn'twant to tell me because she knew
that I wouldn't be okay with itand that I would judge him
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before giving him a chance.
She is absolutely correct.
I told her right away that oncehe got out that he was not
allowed to be around my child.
I said to my mother.
I said my, I said my mothercould still see her as much as
she had liked, but he was notallowed to be around my child
and if he is at any family event, we will not be there.
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We fight about this on and offfor over the entire time he was
locked up, which was about twoand a half years, because she
believes him that he didn't dothis and that he is the victim
and her father hates my mom.
Oh wait, I'm sorry he didn't dothis and that the victim and
her father hate my mom's fiance,so they're falsely accusing him
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.
He just got out of jail.
Right before the holidays thispast year, I made it clear that
my family and I will not beattending.
I've had another baby at thispoint, so that includes my
daughter, my son and my husband.
My mother and the entire familybelieves that he didn't do this
, so they're mad at me for notgiving him a chance and not
sitting down to have aconversation about it.
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I believe that if he wasconvicted, then he's guilty, and
my family has given me no proofthat he did it.
But these are the reasons theythink he did it.
His lawyer sucked.
The judge was surprised that hewas found guilty.
The victim has since unalivedherself, so that obviously
wasn't the right move.
Before she died, she waslaughing about it and telling
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others that she lied.
The victim and her dad hatedhim, and the one thing that
sends me into an absolute rageshe was epileptic and that they
claimed that it was happening toher during her seizures.
So she would have beencompletely rigid.
So how could he have done itwhen she was rigid in a seizure.
Mind you, I have seen no proofthat any of these things are
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actually true.
No court transcripts to showthat the judge was surprised.
Not the evidence that theyclaim his lawyer didn't use that
would have shown his innocence.
No proof that the victim waseven going around admitting that
she was lying.
They've basically been wantingme to take everyone's word for
it.
They also say that I need toset aside my personal opinions
and show up for the family,despite our differences.
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Not once in the past threeyears have I wavered on the fact
that he is not allowed to bearound my children.
It all came to a head when Isaid we were not attending
Christmas or Thanksgiving.
My mom started an argument withme over it and again I
basically told her that I wasdone fighting about this.
I will continue to keep mychildren safe and away from this
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potentially dangerous personand since my mother is not
seeing where I'm coming from andkeeps pushing the issue, I've
decided to go no contact.
My entire family is mad at mefor this because they believe
that he didn't do it.
So am I the asshole for nowallowing him around my children
and now going no contact with mymother?
Speaker 1 (39:25):
Not at all.
Nope, not at all.
No, ma'am, you're not it is ourresponsibility as parents to
protect our children against anythreat, regardless of who
perceives it as a threat or not.
So, if you perceive this man asa threat, you removing yourself
and your family from thatsituation.
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I applaud you, yourself andyour family from that situation.
I applaud you.
And regardless of the outcome,regardless of the feelings of
other people, what's importanthere and what matters here is
the safety of you and yourchildren, and if your husband
isn't giving you any pushback, Isee nothing wrong with the
situation.
I don't care.
Like you said, he did the timeand they haven't provided any
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evidence to the contrary.
Like, as you said, you've donenothing wrong.
You've done everything a propermother would do in your shoes
and I commend you for yourefforts and your mother.
They'll get over it.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
Basically, I don't disagree with nothing you just
said, because it is absolutelyyour job to protect your
children and my kid is not goingaround.
Anybody that gives me an ounceof angst, it doesn't, it doesn't
even matter, like not giving mean ounce of angst.
You are not going to be andknow that my kid was going
overnight with you for like ayear straight and and for you,
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as my mother, to physically tellme the reason I didn't tell you
is because I know that youwouldn't allow my grandchild to
come and because I know that youwouldn't have agreed to it
already already.
Further, lets me know that youyou were being sneaky.
Speaker 1 (41:04):
And my thing to that point is, mom didn't really
believe him herself, right?
Because?
Speaker 2 (41:10):
if really believe him herself.
Speaker 1 (41:12):
Right, because if she believed him herself, she would
have been up front from thebeginning, yep, and she was
probably holding out for hopethat he beat the case.
Speaker 2 (41:20):
And then she wouldn't have to say anything, Because
if he beat the case, I promiseyou she wouldn't have to say
nothing.
But because he had to go tojail, then she was like okay,
this is what's going on.
Ooh, that's scandalous.
Speaker 1 (41:35):
That's real scandalous.
You are not the asshole.
Protect your children at allcosts.
Speaker 2 (41:39):
Because what would happen, like God forbid, what
would happen if he really is themonster and the mother-in-law
has been so blind this wholetime?
Yeah, and God forbid he didsomething to them kids?
You would feel real dumb as agrandparent, real dumb as a
grandparent that you allowedyour own personal feels to get
in the way of protecting yourgrandchildren.
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That's crazy work.
Crazy work, all right, guys.
Last one, let's see, my wifewill no longer let me pursue my
hobbies oh my, I feel them byemarise.
It's exactly as the titleimplies.
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She says I'm not allowed topursue my own hobbies anymore as
they are, quote-unquote,unhealthy.
Before our marriage sevenmonths ago, I was interested in
all sorts of things playingvideo games for at least a few
hours a week, collecting StarWars figures Some may say that
was a bit childish, anyways, butI enjoyed it nonetheless.
Painting war, hammers, 40k, etcetera.
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These are things that I havedone since my early teens.
My wife wanted us to makehealthy lifestyle changes after
our marriage, which at first Itook as just eating healthier,
exercising, etc.
I was totally on board for it.
Everything was fine until I wentdown to the basement one day
and noticed that all of my StarWars figures had been gone from
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the display shelf.
All that remained were somelimbs from a few of the
figurines.
My wife was at work, so I senther a text asking what happened
to them.
In the meantime, I rummagedthrough all of the garbage and I
finally found the figures in abigger garbage next to our
regular garbage.
Most of the cards were torn upand the figures were completely
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dismembered, while others werecompletely burned or melted.
Oh wow.
It turned into a huge argumentabout how my hobbies are
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immature and that she wasrepulsed by them, even
threatening to not have sex withme until I gave them all up.
In the heat of the moment Iagreed with her, if only to get
her to stop yelling at me.
We haven't talked about itsince, and I've unfortunately
been abiding by her quoteunquote rules.
For the past seven months,though, I've been secretly
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playing video games and buyingfigurines again.
She only found out about onetime and she destroyed it
immediately.
I can't keep this up any longerand I want to have my own
hobbies without her gettingupset.
What is the best way to bringthe subject up again, and how
can I let her know how much myhobbies mean to me?
That that's crazy work.
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You got to you just silent onthat one, huh.
Speaker 1 (44:38):
I'm leaving, I'm leaving, I don't.
I don't know, I'm not.
Speaker 2 (44:42):
Imagine if I went upstairs, to your bedroom and to
your office, look here.
And I took all of your comicbooks, all your boxes of of
comic books, and I just threwthem in the trash can.
And then when you came home andyou're like where's my comic?
You know how much money I haveup there and then I said you
know what that stuff is worth?
And then I took all your funkopops.
What if I went up there and Itook all your funko pops off the
wall and then I went and threwthem all in a trash along with
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the boxes of comic books youhave?
And then when you came home andI said those are immature
hobbies, maurice, and I don'tlike it.
I also got rid of thePlayStation, because what you're
doing is ridiculous.
You're a 40-year-old man whohas figurines on the wall and
boxes and pawn boxes of comicbooks.
Get over it.
It's unhealthy.
Speaker 1 (45:22):
Find a new hobby.
My signed copy of theAnniversary of Spawn is worth so
much money.
Well, I just do it in the trash, so it's not worth anything now
, I would leave you because Iwould not be able to control my
rage.
I would have to leave, Sir.
This is not.
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This can only go.
Speaker 2 (45:44):
It's unhealthy.
It's unhealthy.
Speaker 1 (45:47):
This can only go two ways Either.
Speaker 2 (45:50):
I like how serious you got for this one.
It's unhealthy.
It's unhealthy.
This can only go two ways.
Speaker 1 (45:53):
Either I like how serious you got for this one
Like this one really hit homefor you.
Yeah, it did this really.
I'm fighting.
Withhold sex.
I don't want that stink asspussy.
Speaker 2 (46:00):
I want my figurines.
Speaker 1 (46:03):
I can get more pussy.
Speaker 2 (46:05):
I can get these limited edition.
Speaker 1 (46:08):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (46:09):
Exactly.
I can find ass anywhere ma'am,that's when you start saying the
marriage is just a piece ofpaper.
Speaker 1 (46:18):
I'm about to burn that too.
It can only go two ways.
Either you're going toacquiesce to her and be
miserable because you're notgoing to be able to be who you
are.
You have to change yourpersonality drastically to fit
her needs and you're going to bein a.
You're going to be in a.
You're going to be a Stepfordhusband pretty much Right or
you're going to either have toyou're going to have to leave
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because she because that'sdramatic it is dramatic, that's
really dramatic.
It is because she, she, sheliterally said that his hobbies
repulse her Like literally saidthat his hobbies repulse her
Like she's.
It makes her sick to her corethat he collects figurines and
does, sir you know what.
Here's the thing.
Speaker 2 (46:57):
Wow, he's really turned up about this one.
Speaker 1 (46:58):
guys, here's the thing I'm about to get fucking
petty.
Speaker 2 (47:01):
Fine, I'm not gonna mess with his figurines.
Speaker 1 (47:04):
Play by her rules, sir.
So, instead of doing, startcollecting bitches, because she
can't throw those in the wayCollect the bitches Start
collecting bitches.
Start collecting bitches.
Speaker 2 (47:17):
And see if she likes that.
Speaker 1 (47:18):
Start hanging out late, start going to the bar
with friends every night.
Hey, you can go to the arcadebar.
They got drinks there.
Just go out, spend time and doall the things that you would do
at home elsewhere.
And then, when you're no longerhome and she doesn't see you
when she clocks out, say, well,hey, I have to go somewhere
where I feel welcome or hear meout, you can find your you can
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find your tribe, which I'm surethere's women who collect star
wars figurines.
Speaker 2 (47:45):
Oh, there is, I'm sure.
Yeah, like I know, I've seen,like you've opened my eyes, and
that there are plenty of womenwho are into the exact same
hobbies you are.
Find out where everyone meets,not just the women, the men too,
because there is, there's asection of the world where it's
people who are just like you andbe like.
I'm no longer collecting thefigurines, but the only time
that I can see the figurines iswhen I hang out with my friends
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who still collect.
So I'm not collecting thefigurines, but every Friday at 3
pm or 9 pm, we all get togetherand I get to live vicariously
through them.
Speaker 1 (48:17):
No, that's not enough for me.
Speaker 2 (48:19):
I bet you, she'll feel some type of way that
you're hanging out withbeautiful women who collect
figurines.
Don't hang out with them.
Collect them Like Pokemon andbe like we, just we only text,
because she's telling me aboutthe new Star Wars figurine
that's coming out.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
Look here I don't condone there are.
There are a couple of thingsthat I will never stop doing.
I will never stop watchinganime.
I will never stop playing videogames, okay, and I will never
stop rubbing my wife's ass.
I'm not getting rid of my comicbooks.
I'm not getting rid of myfigurines Now, I haven't bought
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it in a long time but there's acouple I got my eye on, but I am
in the process.
I am going to get a whole NinjaTurtle tattoo for my birthday.
Yes, I am just a kid with moneythat takes care of his
responsibilities, but you knowwhat?
But again, I have a wife thatallows me to be me, so I guess
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that's.
Speaker 2 (49:19):
I love that.
I love that.
That's what I'm thinking Like.
Ok, I do.
Speaker 3 (49:24):
I'm devil's advocate, I can see how some women no,
listen, listen, you don't knowwhere I'm going with this, I can
see how some women have ascrewed Listen.
Speaker 2 (49:34):
I can see how some women have a screwedd idea about
men who play video games andcollect figurines and comic
books and stuff like that, right, mm-hmm, I can see where that
thought process comes at,because you're like, you're a
man and I want you to be a manand in my eyes and my idea of
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man, he's not playing videogames, he doesn't collect
freaking Barbie dolls.
It's like the male version ofBarbie dolls.
Speaker 1 (50:00):
Hold video games.
He doesn't collect freakingbaby.
Uh, barbie dolls it's like themale version of barbie.
Hold on, it's not wait, hold up.
Speaker 2 (50:03):
No, I didn't say that , I'm saying some women might be
thinking listen, I'm notspeaking about me, it's, I mean,
it's the male version of barbiedolls.
Um, the male version of barbiedolls and for and for them.
They're probably thinking I wantlike a man's man's their idea
listen, their idea of what theythink a man is and what he
should listen I'm not done andwhat he should be doing with his
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free time.
And in her mind she's probablythinking you can have there's so
many other hobbies that youcould enjoy.
Why does your hobbies includeme?
Include you looking like, in myeyes, a 14 year old?
Speaker 1 (50:39):
boy.
My response to that would bethey're my hobbies, exactly my
hobbies offend you, offend youexactly, and I agree.
Speaker 2 (50:46):
I'm not asking you to partake in my listen and I
agree with that.
But what I'm saying is I'm justtrying to see it from both views
look here but I will say, as awife who has a husband who
watches anime on a regular basis, who has a figurine collection
the male version of Barbies, whohas I just threw that in there
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who has box I mean boxes uponboxes upon boxes of comic books
and plays video games veryregularly, those are the aspects
about him that I actuallygenuinely love.
Those are the aspects about youthat I have come to join in on
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on some level.
Like I enjoy watching anepisode of anime with him, I
don't mind reading subtitles, sothat was easy for me to fall
into.
Thank God I like to read thecaptions.
That was easy for me to fallinto.
Speaker 1 (51:39):
First of all, if you're watching anime in English
, you not a real yeah, hedoesn't watch it in English.
Speaker 2 (51:42):
He's like very adamant about not watching anime
in English.
So we, we sit there and readthe screen, which I'm fine with,
because that's how I watch TVin general.
I read the screen, um, but Ienjoy those aspects of you and I
think I think it's greatbecause, at the core, that's who
you, you are and, like I alwayssay, I feel like as adults, we
lose connection with that kidwithin us.
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I didn't you know what I'msaying and I think that's really
important.
So, as his wife, instead ofhaving such a negative
perspective about what hishobbies are, change your
perspective about how you thinkabout his hobbies.
Now, if he is prioritizinghobbies over his
responsibilities, that's a wholedifferent conversation.
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But if that's just what he doeson his spare time, if that's
just what he enjoys doing as hispersonal hobbies, that should
not make you feel bad in anytype of way, because he could be
doing something different.
He could be going to the barafter work.
He could be getting high anddrinking all the time.
He could be going to the barafter work okay.
He could be getting high anddrinking all the time.
He could be addicted to pornokay, he.
You know what I'm saying like hecould.
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He could be doing a lot ofother things.
He could be sending random dickpics to people on facebook.
He could be doing a lot ofother things and not to say that
he probably doesn't, but hecould be doing a lot of other
things.
So if you really want a tripabout him having a hobby of
collecting figurines and comicbooks and all that, like that's
crazy work I never.
And then not only that, you washella disrespectful, going down
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there and touching his stuffand burning it.
Speaker 1 (53:10):
Burning it and literally destroying it.
Speaker 2 (53:13):
That's where I think like you were dead ass wrong,
because obviously you have noidea how much these things can
be worth Now.
How about now?
What?
How?
How stupid would you have feltif it was something that he was
holding on to, that wasappreciating and appreciating,
and his goal was to sell that,to pay your house off, or to
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sell it and set your life up?
You feel real stupid because Iwould feel real dumb if you came
to me and be like, just so youknow three of those figurines
that you tossed I would havebeen able to get $500,000 from.
I would have felt sick to mystomach, dumb, real dumb.
I'm leaving, real dumb.
Speaker 1 (53:52):
So no, no, kudos to you, wife, that was terrible the
childish nature of notresponding to the text message.
Speaker 2 (54:00):
Because she didn't respond?
Because she knew she waswaiting for that.
Speaker 1 (54:05):
She was avoiding accountability, of course,
because she felt so right in heractions.
Speaker 2 (54:12):
She felt absolutely right in her actions.
Speaker 1 (54:14):
The more I think about this, the more I'd be like
the fiance of the mom.
I have a case and I it wouldn't.
It wouldn't be.
No, he innocent the judge, andlike him, no, he did that shit
no, he did it, he did it.
Speaker 2 (54:30):
No, judge, I did it.
No, yeah, I did, judge, I didit.
But you don't understand whathappened before that.
But I did do it, but you don'tunderstand what happened to
cause me to do it when she go towork.
Speaker 1 (54:41):
I want you to go upstairs.
Speaker 2 (54:43):
Like what does she collect?
Handbags?
No, listen to me.
Speaker 1 (54:46):
When she go to work.
I want you to go upstairs and Iwant you to pour milk in all
her creams.
I want you to pee in herfoundations.
Speaker 2 (54:54):
Bye, Maurice.
Speaker 1 (54:55):
That's crazy work.
I want you to take all hermakeup brushes and put them in
toilet water and I want you tobreak every mirror except for
the smallest one she has.
And when she breaks out fromsevere rash and she don't know
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what's going on, just saythere's a cure for that in Star
Wars.
Speaker 2 (55:26):
There's a cure for that in Star Wars.
Take all her lipsticks and rubthem at the bottom of your feet.
After you took a one-mile jogwith no shoes on, no, Rub them
across your balls.
Speaker 1 (55:37):
Oh, that's diabolical .
Matter of fact, let them rubthem across your gooch, don't
doical.
No matter fact, let them run.
Run them across your goochdon't do that.
Speaker 2 (55:44):
That's too much payback.
That's like no, no, you don'tmess with anyone's health.
Baby.
Speaker 1 (55:48):
Here's the worst thing don't mess with anyone's
health right.
She melted your figurines.
Go, melt all them lipsticks.
I would be livid.
Melt all them lipsticks andpencils but if she's, if she's
not like a real makeup girly andshe only has like one or three
lipsticks, that's not gonnacause she can by this attitude
she is like, like if you were totouch my lipsticks that'd do we
(56:08):
would.
Speaker 2 (56:08):
We would, we would have some serious problems cut
holes in all her pads.
Speaker 1 (56:13):
What little small ones.
That's crazy.
You gotta be petty.
I know she has a favorite cupbreak it she's not gonna care
about a cup babe.
Speaker 2 (56:25):
Oh, she is her favorite cup her favorite cup
and be like I don't know well,like once a week, something that
she really likes shoulddisappear or break, and then
every time when she starts tonotice, oh my gosh, I can't find
this, I can't find that you belike it hurt, don't it I?
Speaker 1 (56:38):
would drag her toothbrush through the crack of
my ass once a day.
Speaker 2 (56:46):
That's disgusting.
That's disgusting.
Don't mess with anyone's healthHer actions are disgusting.
Her actions were I don'tdisagree with you Her actions
were repulsive.
Speaker 1 (56:57):
I'm dragging that toothbrush through the crack of
my ass once a day, and I'mtalking about you.
Better hope I didn't shit,because it ain't gonna stop me.
That's crazy, that's wild babe,she pissed me off.
Speaker 2 (57:12):
I can see that's the one that now, that's the one he
believes and that's the onethat's getting to him the most,
because that just hit home forhim I wish the motherfucker
would mess with my shit.
Speaker 1 (57:21):
I'm fighting everybody in that, motherfucker
all right, guys.
Speaker 2 (57:28):
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podcast.
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Speaker 1 (57:43):
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Speaker 2 (57:43):
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know.
Speaker 1 (57:48):
Only.
Speaker 2 (57:48):
Pans, only Pans.
Speaker 1 (57:51):
Yeah, it's a cooking one.
Speaker 2 (57:53):
Okay, yeah.
Speaker 1 (57:54):
Only Pans.
You show your different dishes.
Speaker 2 (57:56):
Yeah, you can also write into the podcast at
lifeafteradopodcast at gmailcom.
Don't forget, we are on alldigital streaming platforms, so
wherever you listen to yourpodcast, that's where you will
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us on TikTok.
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We love y'all too, thank you.
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