April 30, 2025 • 50 mins
Marriage is like peanut butter and jelly—different flavors, better together—and choosing the right partner might be the most important decision you'll ever make. This week on Life After I Do, Nesha G and Moelethal serve up another unfiltered Our 2 Cents episode packed with major wins, tough debates, and undeniable relationship truths.
💥 First-Ever Listener Update:
Remember the guy pressured into paying off his girlfriend’s sister’s student loans? Plot twist—he got his $35,000 back! We break down how he reclaimed his peace (and his wallet) and why recognizing manipulation early is crucial. City Boys up!
👶 Doctors, Gaslighting, and Newborn Fears:
A new mom shares her nightmare experience of being gaslit by a doctor over her newborn’s conjunctivitis diagnosis. We unpack the importance of advocating for yourself and your children in vulnerable moments.
👨👩👧 Family Boundaries Get Tested:
What happens when a sister ditches her kids for days with no word? We debate how much aunts and uncles should be expected to step in—and where emotional boundaries need to be drawn.
💼 Business Trips vs. Marriage Trust:
Would you be okay with your partner taking a work trip with a flirty CEO? Our hosts don't see eye-to-eye on this one, and it leads to one of the most heated debates yet about loyalty, trust, and ambition.
🍼 The Exhaustion of Parenthood:
When both parents are worn out, who steps up? We dig into the realities of splitting childcare duties and why teamwork isn't optional—it’s survival.
🚩 Phone Secrecy = Big Red Flag:
Sudden password changes, hiding screens, sketchy behavior? We all agree: when someone starts hiding their phone activity, something is off.
🎧 Tune in for:
➡️ Real relationship wins and lessons
➡️ Tough conversations about family obligations
➡️ Unfiltered advice on boundaries, trust, and teamwork in love and life
Like what you’re hearing? Follow us on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, and Facebook @LifeAfterIDoPodcast! Got a relationship question or situation you want us to weigh in on? Email us at lifeafteridopodcast@gmail.com — we love hearing from you!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Choose wisely.
You know, you're just not we'renot built the same.
And it's okay.
Because we all have ourstrengths and we all have our
weaknesses.
That's why we go together likePB and J, you know.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Who's PB and who's the J?
Speaker 1 (00:12):
I'm just saying, like they compliment each other.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
I'm just saying, like men and women compliment each
other, with me, with us, yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I think I'm peanut butter.
Yeah, because you goodbye.
(00:55):
What are you?
Hey, everybody, and welcomeback to another episode of the
Life After I Do podcast.
I'm your host, nisha G AKA Well, actually it's Kynesha AKA
Nisha G.
And then you know who this guyis.
To my right when he's doneserenading us they call me mo no
, they don't, no, they don't,they don't you have an unhealthy
(01:17):
attachment to him.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
It's your boy.
Go ahead and ask the questionso I can give it to you.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Here we go, let me prepare myself.
You know I'm always writing ahigh of positivity.
Okay, how was your week, babe?
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Uplifting.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Okay, really.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Stupendous hey Booskies, hey Booskies, hey
Booskaronis.
Hi, how you feeling?
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I'm good.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Ass is fat.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
From your purview apparently.
Like Doja said, if you can seeit from the front, wait till you
see it from the back.
I don't like that.
Now she cool, she look crazy,she cool, though that's how you
know it's fire.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
How was your week, my love?
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Stupendous Uplifting.
What was the?
Speaker 1 (02:14):
highlight of your week.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Therapy.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Always therapy.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Nice.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Always good when I talk to old Dr Will Eames.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Okay Will Eames, okay Will Eames, yeah, okay, what
was the bullshitness of yourweek?
Speaker 2 (02:31):
I was, you know, working through my stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Working through your stuff, my stuff, Okay, you know,
getting better.
Trying to get all the weeds outof there.
Yeah, you know I'm reallytrying to be better.
I know you are, I see it.
I feel like you're moving in agreat direction.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
The problem with trying to be better is that my
wife is constantly testing me.
You know what?
In?
Speaker 1 (02:54):
order to become better, you must go through
obstacles.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Right, and I'm happy you said that, because when I
was listening to Pastor Mike hesaid you got to learn to tell
the difference betweenopposition and obstacles.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Exactly, god puts obstacles in front of you.
To build you up, to make youbetter, yes, and opposition,
that's where you got to fight.
So I'm trying to figure out ifyou are my opposition, you're my
ops or my obstacle.
Okay, because, like Dr Mikesaid, at an obstacle course
there's a way out.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
I'm just trying to.
Maybe I need to take a way out.
Okay, so are you my ops, or areyou just my obstacle?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Kind of your building block, but okay.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
You want to be somebody's foundation so bad?
Speaker 1 (03:44):
I don't want to be.
I was just so happy to beplaced in such a position.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
You just so happy, just so am I.
Your obstacle too.
Look at God work.
Look at him work.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Look at him, go Show it out, look at him.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Look here.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Show it out.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Also, let me say I'm actually.
I had a good week.
That's good.
I'm having a great day.
My day has been reallyproductive and my timeline has
been giving.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
My timeline has really been giving today.
I had sent a couple reels toanother podcast friend of mine
Shout out Des the Diva, and Iwas like my podcast, my other
was given today.
I said you need to hear thesemessages because because these
messages are literally speakingto my therapy session friday,
and it's like I don't know howdr williams will be doing it,
(04:35):
but like every time she tells mesomething, instagram confirms
her oh okay, because it might be, because they're listening,
maybe that might be it.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
no it, I'm going to go out on a limb and say it is.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
But Pastor Mike, and what's the other pastor's name?
I forget his name.
I look like I, I mean they, Ilook here Now.
Look, I'm not religious, butI'm spiritual.
I was raised religious and boy,I'm telling you.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
What are you telling me?
I want to know.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
You know I'm telling you.
What are you telling me?
I want to know.
You know I haven't really toldyou this, but like over the last
couple of months I've beenliving, I've been sugar around
here, sugar, yeah, god's tryingto tell me something I ain't
trying to hear it though.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Well, that's dumb.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
I know I'm listening, but you know, that just you
just sounded real, real.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
I'm just I'm just saying Let me clarify what I
mean.
I'm just going to say you soundlike a real gum right now.
Let me clarify, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Let me clarify what I mean.
What I mean is that there'sbeen a lot of things placed on
my heart that I have notdiscussed with you because I'm
not ready to.
But he's been, he's working onme ready to but um he's been,
he's working on me.
Okay, I'm listening, but youjust said that you're not trying
to look.
I'm listening okay, well, I, Isaid that, what you said I said
that as a as a bratty kid forsmiling like you know you can't
(05:54):
hear something they don't wantto listen, but they, they do.
They do what you say, but theydon't want.
Yeah, it's kind of like thatmentality.
Okay, how was your week?
Was that's enough?
Speaker 1 (06:01):
my week was great.
My week was stupendous.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Really Tell us why.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
No particular reason, it was just a good week.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Hold on, guys.
This is a side note, Tangent.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Oh gosh, the first of many today, because today is an
R2Cents episode.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
This is the first of many.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Oh goodness.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
I have been discussing every year in my job
we pick schedules and I havebeen discussing with my wife of
possibly taking a later scheduleso I could have more time with
her in the morning.
But now I have been shown thatmy wife's morning time is very
important to her.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
It always has been.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
And I'm not part of that.
That's not because you're notnormally here.
She has a gym community thatshe needs a lot more than she
needs her husband, but she wantsher husband's support and I'm
going to support her in that.
I support her.
So while I go to the gym to getgains and become, you know,
lose my weight and get stronger,my wife goes.
(07:02):
What do?
Speaker 1 (07:03):
I go to the gym, for I was going to say my girl, my
wife goes.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
What do I go to the gym for?
I was going to say my girl, mywife goes to the gym for social
hour.
That is my tangent Wife.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Okay, like I don't think, because you talk to
people and people like talk toyou.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
It's like it's a difference between talking to
people and passing and havingyou.
You had a whole conversation.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Okay, that was with one of my other gym buddies, but
all my other gym buddies, yousee how they like.
They give me dabs, they give mehigh fives and we keep pushing,
Babe.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
I got through 60% of my workout while you were
talking.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Okay, and like half of that time we were talking
about my squat and like talkingabout hey, that's fine, long
story short.
Long story short.
My husband thinks that it'sridiculous that I, I guess, talk
to people at the gym or havefriends at the gym.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
It's not ridiculous at all.
You know, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
I don't think it's ridiculous.
He has people that he talks toat the gym.
It's not ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
I'm happy for you.
I'm just saying get to work infirst talk, get the games, then
talk.
I got both you definitely gottaask.
But back to your week.
What made it so great?
Speaker 1 (08:17):
it was just a good week.
It was productive, like I hadno what did you, what did you
produce?
What, like I had?
No, what did you produce?
What I was productive with mytime?
Oh, with taking care of all thethings I used to take care of.
What did you take care of?
My family, myself, all of theabove, my home, my car, hmm,
(08:42):
okay, you know All right, whatelse you do.
That was that, was that, was it?
That was it home, my car, hmm,you know All right, what else
you do?
That was, that was that was it,that was it.
Yeah, oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Nothing newsworthy to tell.
No, you got a.
You had a visitor this week.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
I had a who A visitor ?
A visitor from who you saw yournephew.
Oh yeah, I had my nephew forEaster.
Yeah, hopefully everybody.
Yeah, I had my nephew forEaster.
Yeah, hopefully everybody had agreat Easter, by the way, yeah,
I hope.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
I mean they didn't have a better Easter than Jesus,
because he got up.
He said y'all thought I had melook at you.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
You played yourself really now you're trying to
imagine Jesus saying you playedyourself.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
Goodbye, you're so lame.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
This is so inappropriate but to imagine
Jesus saying you played yourselfGoodbye, you're so lame.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
This is so inappropriate.
But I imagine Jesus sayingDon't imagine him saying it.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
Just keep it to yourself.
Not everything that comes toyour mind Should be said out
loud.
Just keep it to yourself.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
I imagine when they saw Jesus Outside the grave he
said Surprise, motherfucker.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
He did not say that outside the grave he said,
surprise motherfucker, he didnot say that Get off me, get off
me, they can't hold me down.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
No, they didn't say that Can't nobody hold me down.
Oh, we can't do that, that'spuffy.
Sorry, too late.
Cancel.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Too late.
Cancel it Too late.
What?
Why are you looking at me?
Why are you making it so?
Speaker 2 (10:12):
awkward Because I'm thinking about all the
inappropriate things I can say.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
Okay, but you shouldn't.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
And associate it to you.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
You shouldn't, though , because that's how my brain
works.
Okay, he pulled up.
Yeah, he did.
He told them to watch out now.
Right, he said you thought youhad me, huh.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Right, you know what the disciples said when they saw
him.
What?
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Dynamite.
Okay, they did not, but now Iwant to watch Good Time.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
It's kid.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Dynamite, that's.
Phoenix's One of her favoriteshows, aside from golden girls I
love.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
I love that my seven year old like it's because it's
because we watched the sameshows Our granny watched.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Cause?
First of all because they hit,they don't miss and I can
constantly watch the reruns.
Like what did she ask me?
That is, she was like mom, arewe going to start golden girls
again reruns?
What did she ask me the otherday?
She was like Mom, are we goingto start Golden Girls again?
I was like girl.
But then I told her I said youhaven't watched the Golden
Palace, so now I got to get herto watch the Golden Palace and I
can't believe that they only.
I think there's only like twoseasons of the Golden Palace.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
We got to get her to watch Gilligan's Island.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Oh, I used to love Gilligan's Island too.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Oh, and just so y'all know Marianne was the baddest
chick on the island.
She wasn't.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
She was hyped up to be, but she really wasn't,
though.
No, no, she really wasn'tMarianne was.
She really wasn't, though.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
No, I'm not talking about the model.
The other one, marianne, wasn'tthe model.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
I'm trying to think Ginger was the model.
I'm trying to think how thesong went.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
I don't know, oh, I hear the melody, but I can't
hear the words what we got today, bucky, I kind of already told
them yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Today is an hour and two cents Hour and two cents.
Hour and two cents episode.
The reaction episodes that youguys love so much, shouts out to
all of the new followers.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Yes, you guys, we appreciate y'all.
Again, like I say, we lovey'all real bad, we love y'all
like real bad because we feel,because we still feel, like we
in the trenches and y'all in thetrenches with us.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
I mean, right, like we still in the trenches, but
now we can, like we've beenscratching dirt and so now it's
like you starting to see likelight that's peeking through
right it's like, it's like, it'slike we Jedediah.
Okay, okay, never mind, juststop right there.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
It's like we Jedediah before he struck that oil, and
when we hit oil we're not goingto forget about y'all.
We're going to be doing thesame shit we do now.
We're going to be the BeverlyHillbillies.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
The Beverly Hillbillies and.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Beverly Hills still eating roadkill and eating
possum soup.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Okay, rabbit stew.
No one's eating possum soup orrabbit stew, possum soup would
probably fire.
Okay, you wouldn't try it.
No, I would try it.
No, first of all, it's a possum.
Okay, where you get it from,there's possums outside.
Exactly, that's my point.
Thank you for proving it.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
The rabbits are outside, the cows are outside
and who's eating?
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Who's eating?
Speaker 2 (13:07):
This is coming from a person who ate alligator bites
and loved them.
First of all, that's different.
Outside that's different.
The alligator was outside.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
That was different.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
I'm not going to.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Oh, I didn't tell you this, I'm not going to explain
to you how different it is, butjust know that it is.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
So when I walked the dog today she was hilarious
because she was determined tocatch a crow and I said baby.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Did you tell her that wasn't going to happen?
Speaker 2 (13:29):
That's not going to happen.
That crow.
Not going to happen.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Tell her that her efforts are feeble.
I said you are not a cat.
Cat, she might think she is she.
Well, she, she thinks she's twopounds.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
That's how bailey was .
She thought she was as small asthe chihuahua.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Yeah, but it's our two cents episode, all right,
guys, so let's just jump righton into it.
We have an update first right um, it's our first ever update
yeah, did you send me the updateI did, I texted you, okay, well
let's go into the update first.
Then, before we head into thehour, two cents.
She never, never listens.
Okay, so we have an update fromthe.
Am I the asshole for breakingup with my girlfriend after she
insisted I pay for her sister'sstudent loans?
(14:08):
First of all, let me just shoutout our comment section on
TikTok and Instagram andInstagram.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Because it was giving .
Speaker 1 (14:15):
Y'all are hilarious, hilarious hilarious, hilarious.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
And to old girl that was body shaming me I thought it
was hilarious.
I got thick skin.
It don't bother me okay, let'ssee and yes, she's still a hoe
the um.
The update proves that she wasa hoe okay, y'all ready.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
So here's the update.
So a couple of weeks ago, I Iposted about how I was 28 and I
broke up with my girlfriend, whowas 26, after she demanded that
I pay off her sister's $42,000loan after already paying off
her $35,000 loan.
Y'all overwhelmingly said I amnot an asshole and suggested
that I reverse the payment.
(14:57):
Well, I did exactly that.
I called the loan servicer,explained the situation and was
able to get the $35,000 paymentreversed.
My ex absolutely lost it whenshe found out, blowing up my
phone with 50 plus text messagesand calling me every name in
the book.
She's telling everyone that Istole from her and her family
(15:20):
and that they are threateninglegal action, laughing out loud
Good luck.
Her sister even showed up at myapartment screaming about how I
quote unquote ruined theirplans, whatever that means.
My friends are split Half thinkthat it was savage but
justified, and the other thinksthat I should have just walked
away without taking the moneyback.
But honestly, the fact thatimmediately started planning how
(15:44):
to spend my money on her sisterconfirms I made the right call.
So am I the asshole for takingback the money?
That was clearly part of amanipulation scheme.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
No, no, no no, no, and you didn't read the part in
there where where he said thatshe gave him the ultimatum
because she was already seeingsomebody else and she was just
waiting to end the relationship.
Okay, that's, that's what?
Speaker 1 (16:10):
okay.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
So yeah, that's, and that's why I had agreed that he
wasn't savage like when he saidthat and that's what made him
call and get his money back,because she had already so she
had already showed her truecolors she had already showed
her true colors.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
She had already showed her true colors.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
As a proud member of the Petty Gang and the Petty
Society Bye, maurice.
And one who deems himself Petty, murphy.
Bye.
I am very proud of your actions, of getting your money back.
These hoes don't deservenothing but the inches, like I
said before.
Bye, nothing but the inches.
Like I said before, nothing butthe inches.
And to the lady on Instagramthat said I shouldn't call her a
(16:45):
hoe because she's still a hoe.
Why?
Because she was plotting onleaving him.
Yeah, and then the fact thatshe left you, but then she
didn't lose your number becausewhen that money, when that
account changed, she wanted'tknow what happened.
So I'm proud of you.
I'm proud of you, sir.
City Boys is up.
(17:06):
It's gonna be a long summer,did you say City Boys?
Speaker 1 (17:09):
City Boys is up okay, let's go on to the next one,
because I'm not doing this withyou.
City Boys is up.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
City.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Boys is up.
Okay, here we go, hold on.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
You're not finna, discount my what's wrong with
the city boy.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Nothing we up.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
Okay, you're not a city boy, I'm not Okay, the men
are up.
We'll say the men are up.
Okay, you doing too much.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Would I be the asshole for reporting a doctor
for indicating that I wascheating?
Well, I mean A little contextbefore we get into it.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
I'm a 27 year old female, my partner is 26 year
old male and we've been togetherfor three years.
We have a great relationshipand from the day we met we never
saw or dated anybody else.
I had a more quote unquote funpast than my partner, but always
got checked just to be safe.
I got myself checked rightbefore I met my partner and I
was all clear.
Fast forward to October justgone.
(17:58):
I had just given birth viaemergency C-section to our
beautiful baby boy.
This was after a failedinduction, three sweeps back
births, 48 hours in labor and ahormone drip.
I was in the depths ofpostpartum depression.
Not only the PPD, but mysurgery went wrong, causing
nerve damage in my arm and notbeing able to use it for eight
(18:18):
weeks.
After surgery, myself and ourson were in the hospital for six
days after his birth.
We went home and we were scaredbut excited.
On the 10th day of his life, Inoticed his eyes were getting
puffy and a little gloopy anddecided to call on a doctor.
As it was Sunday late evening,he asked us to come down, which
we did, and there it was when itwent all wrong.
(18:39):
The doctor asked how old my sonwas.
I replied 10 days.
He said yes, I already knowwhat this is.
Without even looking at him, hegave me this really long
terminology that sounded likethe furniture would move if you
said it out loud.
He told me to look it up when Igot home alone I live with my
partner and our son I looked itup in the doctor's office and
(19:01):
nearly died there, and then itbasically said conjunctivitis
due to chlamydia.
When I tell you, I looked athim like he had 17 heads.
This is actually common, assome forms of the clap don't
show up in women.
I started bawling.
I said then that I don't havethat and that I was tested
before my partner and that Ihave been with nobody else since
(19:23):
then.
He looked at me and said areyou sure, damn, if I wasn't
crying so hard, I genuinelywould have slapped him.
He looked at my partner withsympathy.
I then said I did not have avaginal birth, so how could that
have happened?
This is a specific conditionthat is common, bearing in mind
if you have a vaginal birth.
So how could that have happened?
This is a specific conditionthat is common, bearing in mind
if you have a vaginal birth.
He brushed off what I said andhe basically blamed and shamed
(19:47):
me for absolutely nothing.
We left there and I got home.
I got a test kit for home andfrom the hospital and,
ironically, would you believe,it was clean and clear and so
was my partner.
Then we went to my child'sactual pediatrician and he
explained that was impossible asbecause I gave a birth via
C-section, but that he did haveconjunctivitis, but bacterial.
(20:10):
I wanted to bring back, bringhim back and give give the
doctor peace of my mind, callinghim ignorant and inconsiderate
to people and new mothers whoalready have a lot going on.
My partner said that it wouldbe.
I would be a bit of an assholeif I rang back to give him a lot
, to stick it to him when Icould just move on, whereas I
think he needs to realize thathe has to listen and not shame
(20:31):
people.
Even if this does happen, butnever mind that it did it Would
I be the asshole for reportinghim to the board?
Speaker 2 (20:39):
I mean no, but there's nothing you can do.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
Even if you reported him to the board, they wouldn't
do anything.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Yeah, because that's his opinion.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Yeah, I think they call that bedside manner.
It's just a doctor who has likereally bad bedside manner.
But yeah, no, I mean mepersonally, because I'd be petty
sometimes.
I would probably.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
You would have called , sent three emails.
Yeah, you would have sent aletter to his mother.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
I would have found other patients who were
disgruntled, other patients whoreally didn't care for him much.
Yeah, you would have.
Yeah, I would have went.
Yeah, you would have went.
I would have went like balls tothe wall Is that what they say?
Speaker 2 (21:17):
Balls to the wall, yeah, whatever they say yeah, uh
well, I mean congratulations onthe baby and um you're, I guess
you don't have chlamydia butthe baby has conjunctivitis.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
He got it from somewhere.
Bacteria is it?
She said bacteria or somethinglike that, but it honestly the
point of the story is no I wouldsay you wouldn't be the asshole
for reporting him, because healso didn't make you feel
welcomed or comfortable, but toindicate, and especially in
front of my partner, that I'vebasically been cheating or you
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know what I mean Like I thinkthat's kind of effed up.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
I mean, here's the thing.
I do think the doctor was anasshole, because what if the
scenario would mean she got thechlamydia from?
Her from her partner and he wascheating that part.
You can just assume that partof women.
Now we know that, you know, sexis a lot more relative over
women than men.
So I mean it's a fairassumption, but wow, it
shouldn't be made.
Wow, shouldn't be made likethat right now.
Speaker 1 (22:14):
Okay, moving on because I can't with you.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
That was a long one.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Am I the?
Am I the asshole for refusingto babysit again after my sister
didn't pick her kids up on time?
Hell, no, no, before I evenread it, no Before.
I even read it.
No, we even got to go into thisone.
No, because people be realdisrespectful when you doing
them a favor in a solid bywatching your kids.
Speaker 2 (22:36):
We even got to read this one.
Speaker 1 (22:37):
Okay, so it says.
At the beginning of this week Ibabysat my sister's two kids,
one of which is a newborn.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Oh hell no.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
She's a single mother and went out to meet with
friends to have lunch.
She promised me to be backafter a few hours.
I didn't want to babysit, sinceit would cost me precious time
for my exam prep, but I wasanxious because there was a
newborn and I have zeroexperience.
But she begged and she cried,so I did.
She didn't show up untilyesterday in the evening and I
wasn't able to reach her duringthe four days she was gone.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
Damn.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
And even called hospitals to see if they had
found a female body or what,because I was seriously
concerned and I thoughtsomething major had happened.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
Damn.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
How the hell you disappear for four days.
Damn, I can't.
Turns out she was partying andlost track of time and I should
just stay calm and don't causeso much drama, because
everything is good and nothingbad had happened to the kids.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
Yeah because they weren't in my care.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Right, she didn't see the fact that I was shaking and
had panic attacks.
Right, she didn't see the factthat I was shaking and had panic
attacks.
After she told me to shut the Fup because she tried to sleep,
I just packed my stuff and nowI'm on the train going back to
yes, going back to my place.
When I left, she called me andsaid how dare I leave?
Because I had promised to takecare of the two year old when
she goes to the hospital for herappointment on Saturday morning
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with the newborn, and that Ipromised that before she partied
.
So, no matter what had happened, I need to keep my word.
I feel a little guilty, but I'malso afraid she'll continue to.
She'll continue that and let meset that over.
I feel a little guilty, but alsoI'm afraid she will continue
like that and I felt a need toprotect myself.
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My mom and her think that I'man asshole.
My mom partly understands, butsaid that I have should have
been patient one more day untilthe appointment.
Am I the asshole?
No, absolutely not.
Look here.
Absolutely.
She thought just because youwere her sister, she could take
advantage.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
Look here, this just effing triggered me.
Okay, I can't, I can't.
Do you remember when we agreedto watch your nephews for like a
night so your sister didn't goout and then she left the whole
weekend?
No, you remember that?
Uh-uh, I remember that and itpissed me off so much.
Like she literally like this iswhen we lived across the street
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from her, Okay, and she hadwent out with her friends and
they were in LA and they werepartying and she just decided
that you know, I got time outand she took the whole weekend.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
Oh, I don't remember that I remember that because I
was pissed, Obviously because itstuck with you.
It triggered me.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
No, you're not an asshole.
I I'm going to say this asnicely as I can Fuck her and her
kids.
Speaker 1 (25:22):
Yeah, I don't think you're the asshole.
I think what's rude anddisrespectful is she asked you
to watch her two children, onebeing a newborn.
First of all, I'm not fit todrop my newborn off.
Let's start there.
But that's neither here northere.
She was being rude anddisrespectful by asking you to
watch them for a few hours andthen went mia for four days, not
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pick up her phone and you notbe able to get in contact with
her.
I just feel like that justshows her level of maturity,
because how you gonna drop yournewborn off and then go mia for
four days, you don't even callto check in on your newborn.
I'm gonna ask.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
It's a newborn.
I'm gonna just go ahead to askthe question.
It's a newborn.
I'm going to just go ahead andask the question.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
Everybody in the comments is going to ask when
would daddy at Babe?
She disappears for four daysand drops off a newborn.
We probably don't even know whohe is.
Let's be for real.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
So the doctor was right to assume.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
I guess some situation is.
I guess it is.
I guess it is in somesituations.
Oh okay, am I the asshole forasking my husband not to go on a
trip with a woman who openlyflirts with him and feeling
betrayed when he did it anyway?
Okay, let's see.
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Hi everyone, I'm 32 and I'vebeen married to my husband let's
call him Joe for eight years,and they've been together for 10
.
In all that time, we havealways prioritized each other's
emotional well-being.
If something hurt one of us, wedidn't do it again, no matter
what.
We valued having a happy spousemore than being right.
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Because of this, my love forhim grew immensely.
I was certain he'd never doanything that would break my
heart, but here I am heartbrokenand disappointed.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
I'm trying to read his head.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Here she is.
Joe owns a company and we worktogether.
Financially, we're in a greatplace.
Recently, though Joe's fatherwe got the chance to bid for
through Joe's father, we got achance to bid for a major
government contract a massiveopportunity Due to its scale
involved without whom the dealwon't happen is led by a very
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attractive, flirty woman.
She's the CEO and has openlyflirted with Joe in front of me.
We both noticed her behaviorand, in order to avoid
misunderstandings or conflicts,we decided to work on the bid
together.
Things were OK until one meetingwhere, during a break, she
touched Joe's arm and saidsomething like quote, if I had a
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husband like you, I'd neverleave your side.
You're someone every womanwants, but sometimes even that's
not enough.
Someone else might steal yourmind.
End quote.
I snapped.
I responded quote, I'm notfollowing him.
He just never leaves my side.
End quote.
She brushed it off as a joke,but I knew that it wasn't.
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I saw the look in her eyes andI know women.
Later I talked to Joe about it.
He admitted that she wascrossing a line and that he was
in fact uncomfortable, butdidn't react strongly to avoid
jeopardizing the deal.
I wasn't thrilled, but I triedto understand.
Then one day I found out that Iwas excluded from a three-day
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trip, site visit for the bid, atrip requested by the woman.
Only five people are going, andJoe is one of them.
When I heard, I told him that Iwas extremely uncomfortable
with this and asked him not togo.
I even begged him.
I said that the deal wasn'tworth it and that financially
we're stable and that we don'tneed the contract.
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But he went anyway.
Even after everything I said, heleft without me.
Something broke in me.
I trusted him with my wholeheart.
I truly believed he'd neverchoose anything over my peace of
mind.
Now I feel like he did.
He left me behind and it hurtsso deeply that part of me
doesn't even want to careanymore.
If he comes back, if he ends upwith that woman, I just feel
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numb.
A part of me doesn't even wantto care anymore.
If he comes back, if he ends upwith that woman, I just feel
numb.
A part of me says come on, 10amazing years, don't throw it
all away.
Another part wants to take offmy wedding ring and send him a
photo and file for divorce.
So am I the asshole for askinghim not to go.
And how do I even begin to dealwith these emotions?
Go ahead, well, I gotta gofirst.
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No, no, tell me what yourthoughts are.
Um, all right, she, she said amI the asshole for asking him
not to go?
no I don't think you're anasshole for asking not to go.
Did you want me to?
Speaker 2 (29:56):
go or not.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Oh yeah, I thought you wanted me to say that
because apparently, you don'twant me to go, or not?
Oh yeah, I thought you wantedme to say that, because
apparently you don't want me togo to either.
Go, bye, bye.
I see what you did there.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Okay, no, you're not an asshole for asking him not to
go, mm-hmm.
But at the same time, I feellike your husband sees the
potential in the deal and he'ssecure enough in himself and his
relationship that he can takethis trip to try to make the
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deal go through.
And I feel like the real issuehere is that either you don't
trust Joe or you're dealing withyour own insecurities.
Or you're dealing with your owninsecurities, because if Joe has
never shown you any signs ofinfidelity or being
untrustworthy, then you areallowing your insecurities to be
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portrayed onto him and that'swhy you're trying to control it
and that's why you feel the wayyou do about this movement.
But if you believe your husbandcan be faithful to you, I don't
see the issue with him going totry to make this deal go
through, because it will, likeyou said in the beginning, it
will benefit you guys greatly.
Even though you guys are stablenow, you'll be even better off
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after the deal.
So I believe Joe is thinkingabout future stability.
So I don't think he and if healready acknowledged that the
woman is inappropriate and he'sgiving you, you know, no signs
or no indication that he wantsthis woman or wants to pursue
this woman?
I don't.
I don't see an issue with himtaking the trip, and I think
that you're me personally I feellike you're overreacting, but
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I'm pretty sure my wife feelsdifferently.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
OK, so I can, I can, I can understand all of that.
But OK, a couple of things.
For one, they don't need themoney, it's.
It just seems like it's areally great opportunity We've
established that Right For two.
She has said that the premiseand foundation of their
relationship is that they havealways prioritized each other's
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emotional well-being and peace,no matter what and no matter who
is right Right.
They prioritize our emotionalwell-being for each other over
who is right Right.
They prioritize our emotionalwell-being for each other over
who is right.
So, even though this is a greatopportunity if she listen okay,
but listen, if she sheunderstands that this is a great
opportunity, they both havealready experienced the
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inappropriateness of this woman,right?
And if he has always prioritizedthe way his wife feels, has
always taken into considerationher emotions or whatever, and
he's always said you know what,if this causes you any angst,
it's not worth it.
But then we get to a situationlike this where we clearly know
you're about to be around awoman who clearly wants you,
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who's made it known and has goneas far as disrespecting me in
front of you, and then the onetime you want to stick to your
guns and think you have a greatexcuse to not prioritize how I'm
telling you, I'm feeling, iswhen you're going to go on a
three day trip away from me withanother woman who has already
disrespected me in front of youListen, for the sake of more
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money, which we don't need, okay, okay.
So from her perspective, Icompletely understand that,
because if that has been myrelationship for the past 10
years and I have known and Ihave settled in and have been
secure in the fact that anytimeI have come to you and I've said
, this makes me uncomfortable,this gives me angst or whatever
you can call it insecurity, youcan call it whatever, but you
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have always reassured me in thatway, no matter what the
situation was, was.
You have always said I'mprioritizing how you feel and
your feelings matter to keep ourmarriage on steady ground.
And I have been secure in thatand I have leaned on that for 10
years.
And then the one, the one time,the one time you're not going
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to prioritize what I'm tellingyou, I'm feeling, is going to be
you away from home for 72 hourswith another woman who has
basically made you her target,and I'm supposed to be okay with
that.
So no, that's going to be a no,cause it's.
That's going to be a no, justpull up.
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It's going to be a no becausenow we don't know the ins and
outs.
But my thing is did you, did you, did you fight for why I should
be there?
Because she said that they'reworking on the project together,
because that's also somethinghe agreed to to make her
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comfortable.
So if we're going to go see abid site, right, and you and she
knows that you and I are notjust husband and wife but we're
also business partners, whywasn't my wife included on this
job?
So, him as a man, him and himas a man, that's all on him.
Because if he didn't say, youknow, me and my wife are also
business partners.
So therefore all the businesspartners need to be here on this
bid site.
And you didn't make a stancefor saying my business partner,
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aka my wife, needs to come in onthis bid site, and you allowed
her because she's the CEO andwithout her this isn't going to
happen.
So basically, now you'retelling me you're pleasing
another woman over me for money.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
That's wild because we don't even need money.
Is he pleasing the woman or ishe trying to make the deal
happen?
Speaker 1 (35:02):
He's pleasing the woman because listen the deal.
Speaker 2 (35:05):
The deal is only an opportunity.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
It's not anything that's going to be like.
It's going to be detrimental tous if we don't have it.
So you mean that's okay, solisten.
So so here.
So this is what you're saying.
You're telling me that youhaving a bigger opportunity to
generate more income that'sgonna be associated with a woman
who clearly is attracted to you, who clearly flirts with you,
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who's done it in front of me,right?
You didn't correct her the firsttime when she disrespected me
in front of you.
You didn't correct it the firsttime.
You didn't stand up for me whenshe said okay, we're, all the
business partners are going on athree-day work site bid and
everyone needs to be there.
You didn't stand up for me andsay my business partner, AKA my
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wife, needs to be there.
You're doing everything to keepher happy until this goes
through.
And then, the back of your mind, what you're thinking is you're
going to fix everything with meonce.
Once the deal's complete andyou've got the check and we got
the money, you think that let mekeep her happy, Let me keep
this woman happy, and then, onceI get what I want this big
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opportunity, then I can go backand fix things with my wife.
But it's business, yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
Okay, she's mixing.
She's mixing, her mixing theirpersonal relationship with the
business.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
No no, no, reese, that's always going to happen
because they're married andthey're in business together.
I'm saying that's why you don'tgo into business with your
spouse, if that's going to be anissue and what I'm saying is
he's seeing it as business andshe's seeing it as a personal
attack on her marriage.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
Okay, they're not seeing it the same Okay.
Speaker 1 (36:38):
They as a personal attack on her marriage.
Okay, they're not seeing it thesame, okay they're not seeing
it the same.
Speaker 2 (36:41):
Can I speak, woman, go ahead Now.
I agree with you on the fact ofhe should take measures to make
sure his wife feels heard andprotected and make sure that her
emotional well-being is intact.
I do agree with that.
What I'm saying is I see from aman's perspective.
I can see why he chose to go.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Exactly that's what I'm saying and I'm telling you.
Because he's thinking, at theend of the day, this deal is
going to benefit all of us it'sgoing to be, but he's
prioritizing that and making thewoman who he's doing the deal
with.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
But he don't see it that way.
Speaker 1 (37:17):
Maurice, listen, it doesn't matter how you try to
slice it up.
You can keep slapping businesson it all you want to, but if
you, if you, if it came down toyour marriage listen if it came,
maurice.
She made it romantic when sheopenly flirted with him in front
of his wife and disrespectedhis wife and he didn't stand up
and say that that she.
Speaker 2 (37:35):
She made it one sided , he's not.
Speaker 1 (37:37):
Maurice, it does, it does, it doesn't.
It doesn't matter how you tryto like dress it up, ok, it
doesn't matter how you're tryingto.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
So we're going to not get the bag because, because
she want me.
Speaker 1 (37:50):
But see, the bag is something that we want.
The bag is something that weneed.
So when you start prioritizingthe bag over us and you start
prioritizing the bag over howI'm telling you this is
affecting me, then that thenthen we need to reconsider
things, because now what you'retelling me is is that your
priorities, your priorities forme, are not in order.
Okay, that's what you'retelling me, and you can, like I
said, you can keep slappingbusiness on it.
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You can keep saying that's theway he's not thinking.
Okay, then don't think that wayand be rich and divorced,
because guess what Guess be richand divorced?
Because guess what, guess what,if we're already business
partners.
When I leave your ass becausenow I know that you're not going
to prioritize me over anopportunity, guess what?
I still, I'm still going tomake money.
I'm going to make the moneythat we made together.
I'm going to get probably halfof everything we got together.
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I'm getting half of the damnopportunity when you finish it,
and then you can go give it toher flirting, and I hope you
guys will be happy, so eitherway it goes, sounds like I win.
Speaker 2 (38:44):
Yeah, it sounds like if she leaves, they both win
because she's going to go.
Both of them win.
Speaker 1 (38:48):
Yeah, so you know like, so keep slapping business
on it Every time you slap everytime you slap business on it,
you get hyped about this yeah,because the fact that you're
trying not to like understandthe issue.
It's crazy.
It's crazy work, but you'regonna keep because you want to
hold it down for the guys youwant to hold it down for the
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guys.
As a man, he's not thinkingabout it like that.
Speaker 2 (39:11):
What I'm saying is I'm a man.
What I'm saying is I understandeverything how she feels of
what she's saying.
It's just that it'd be hard forme to allow her insecurities to
stop the deal from happening tostop you from making more money
that you don't even need anyway.
You can always that's becausethat's the price and that's
greedy, and then that's greed.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
So now, now I can just keep piling it up because
that's greed, I'm done, that'sjust greed like a great
opportunity.
Speaker 2 (39:38):
Yes, this has been a great opportunity.
Yes, this has been a greatopportunity.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
Yes, nobody wants to turn on a great opportunity.
But all all that glitter isain't gold, Don't you?
If you hit it, I swear I'mgoing to pinch the crap out of
you.
I'm a pinch.
You Press it, Press it.
Speaker 2 (39:51):
Are you done?
Speaker 1 (39:53):
I'm blinking, somebody say no, gonna save you.
Yeah, prioritize the bag, areyou done?
I can't.
I'm not doing this with you,okay?
Am I the asshole for telling myfiance that he's not allowed to
be tired?
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Okay, okay.
I'm a 28 year old female and myfiance is 32.
We have an eight-month-olddaughter.
Since I lost my job threemonths ago, I've been a
stay-at-home mom while lookingfor work.
However, his income isn'tenough to cover our bills, so
I've been using my savings topay half of our bills.
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For the past few weeks, the babyhas been sleeping less and less
, being fussy with feedings andnaps and genuinely upset because
she's teething.
Most of the day is spentcomforting and entertaining her
and cleaning the house.
Because he gets home late, sheusually is asleep, but has been
waking up between 2 and 3 am andstaying awake for a couple of
hours.
Averaging wake up time isbetween 6 and 7 am.
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Needless to say, I'm notgetting a lot of sleep.
Well, today he had the day offand went to the doctor for two
hours for a physical, then camehome.
Baby had been fussy and finallytook a nap in the car on the
way home and slept a bit at home.
Within 20 minutes she was upagain and it was close to
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another feeding.
So I asked if he could feed herand he said no, because he was
tired from the doctor.
I snapped.
I told him that I had been upsince 630 and I was exhausted
from lack of sleep for the pastthree days.
He told me that he wasexhausted from working eight
hour shifts and that that twohours at the doctor's office was
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also exhausting and that hedidn't feel good.
I snapped again and I told himthat he wasn't allowed to be
tired, because at least hedoesn't have to get up in the
middle of the night and takecare of a baby or clean an
entire house or do all of thecooking.
He snapped back at me and saidthat I was being insensitive and
that he was working hard toadvance in his job since I had
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lost mine.
So am I the asshole for tellinghim that he's not allowed to be
tired?
Speaker 2 (42:05):
Sadly yes.
Speaker 1 (42:08):
I mean, you could be an asshole for telling them that
he's not like for saying thewords.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
Okay, good yeah.
Go ahead and put it on for theladies.
Speaker 1 (42:16):
Okay, good yeah go ahead and put it on for the
ladies.
He can be tired.
I mean, yeah, you could be anasshole for saying that, because
here's the thing when there's anew baby involved, it's tiring
for both parties.
Having a baby in the house istiring for both parties.
Okay, both parties.
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Parties, okay, both parties.
But we all know, whether youworking or not working, who's
primarily getting up in themiddle of the night, who's
primarily doing feedings?
We already know.
Go, go ahead and go ahead andbe um and be passive, aggressive
, like you, like you, like youlike to do, like you like to do.
Speaker 2 (42:58):
Go, I'm not passing the guess at all.
Like you like to do, go ahead,I'm not passing the guess at all
.
My response is this I believeyou are an asshole for saying
that.
Speaker 1 (43:09):
For saying the words yes.
Speaker 2 (43:11):
I also believe he was an asshole for saying he was
tired on Saturday.
Speaker 1 (43:14):
Now From his two-hour doctor's appointment.
Speaker 2 (43:16):
Okay, that's a long time to be a doctor.
Speaker 1 (43:18):
It was a physical I hour doctor's appointment.
Okay, that's a long time to bea doctor.
Speaker 2 (43:22):
It was a physical.
I don't know what he does.
He must have been over a coupletimes Something, but he only
works eight hours a day.
Speaker 1 (43:24):
Yeah, that's like.
Speaker 2 (43:24):
Okay, calm down.
You're working eight hours aday.
Let me get into it.
Speaker 1 (43:27):
Because I was going to say can you?
I'm not trying to discreditanybody, but I'm saying there's
a difference between an eighthour shift and a I mean we can.
Speaker 2 (43:36):
We can relate to this because you know when you were
home with her.
When you're still on, I don'tleave and I was working now,
mind you, I was working, but Iwas working 10 hours a day.
I was working 10 and a half, 11hours a day and then coming
home and I was still spendingabout an hour to two hours every
afternoon or evening with thebaby, so that she would at least
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get a break.
She could at least lay down fora little bit shower watch a
show.
I was doing something and thenon the weekends I was taking the
baby, so like she had a break,I do think that it is like he.
I think he is an assholebecause, regardless of whether
it was two hours or three hours,whatever it was at the doctor,
he should prioritize helping youout on the weekends, because I
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understand, as someone who hasbeen on both sides of this
meaning the person who's beenwith the child all day and the
person who's coming home withthe child all day is that
whoever's been with the childall day, they haven't had a
break.
Speaker 1 (44:32):
They haven't.
They haven't, nope.
Speaker 2 (44:35):
And especially if you have a baby that don't like
taking naps.
Speaker 1 (44:38):
Or a baby that's being breastfed Right.
That's a whole different.
Speaker 2 (44:43):
I think you are an asshole, because people get
tired.
Working eight hours a day Imean, lord, when was the last
time I did that?
That sounds great.
That's not enough to be tired.
I feel like if he's onlyworking eight hours a day, he
can help.
He can definitely help duringthe week after work.
Have to be tired.
I feel like if he's onlyworking eight hours a day, he
can help.
He can definitely help duringthe week after work and if he's
going to work late he can get upand do them two and three am
(45:05):
feedings, because if he'sworking eight hours a day and
he's getting home at like eightor nine at night, he ain't going
to work till noon.
He can take a nap before work.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
But you know how some men are.
Be careful who you choose.
Choose wisely.
We're not built the same andit's okay.
Because we all have ourstrengths and we all have our
weaknesses.
That's why we go together likePB and J.
Speaker 2 (45:27):
Who's PB and who's the J?
Speaker 1 (45:29):
No, I'm just saying like they compliment each other.
Speaker 2 (45:31):
I'm just saying, like men and women compliment each
other, what with me, with us?
Speaker 1 (45:35):
I think I'm peanut butter.
Speaker 2 (45:37):
Yeah, because you thick.
Yeah, you got that right,because you thick.
Goodbye Demel, what are youThick?
Speaker 1 (45:49):
So silly?
Is it a red flag if mygirlfriend hides her phone
around me?
What do you think Possible?
Me and my girlfriend have beentogether for about 10 months.
Lately I've started noticingthat she's really weird about
her phone.
She keeps it face down all thetime.
Oh she turns off the oh, she'scheating, she's cheating.
(46:16):
She keeps it face down all thetime, turns off notifications
when I'm around and takes itwith her, even if she's just
stepping out for a minute.
Speaker 2 (46:26):
She putting on silent , she cheating.
Speaker 1 (46:29):
She used to be more open, like showing me memes and
stuff from her chats, but nowit's like the phone is some top
secret device.
I'm not the kind of guy whogoes snooping and I haven't gone
through it, but I can't lie.
It's starting to bother me.
I asked her if something is upand she just said I like my
privacy, that's all.
She gives no other explanation.
(46:49):
Is it a red flag?
I want to trust her, but it'shard not to feel like she's
hiding something.
It's a red flag oh no, she'scheating.
I like how you said oh no,she's cheating, like if he was
asking you Face to face.
Oh no, no, no, she's cheating.
She's cheating, it's a red flag.
Like what more do you want?
It's a red flag.
Speaker 2 (47:08):
Uh, huh, um.
And if you wanna know, matchthe energy and see if she likes
it.
And see if she likes it,because if If that energy don't
sit well with her cause, sheknow what she doing with it.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (47:23):
Easy fix you could and see if she likes it, or she
might be so distracted by what'son that phone that she wouldn't
even care.
Okay, so I mean, either way youshould get to, you should get
your answer.
Two can play that game.
Yeah, cause you know, if youjust put a little Petty patty
hat on, Become Petty Murphy.
(47:43):
If you become, if you put alittle Petty patty hat on,
you'll get a lot done.
Right, you'll get a lot done.
What's with the?
Speaker 2 (47:50):
gang sign.
Speaker 1 (47:50):
That wasn't a gang sign.
Speaker 2 (47:52):
You gonna throw it up again.
That's peace, that's wild.
Speaker 1 (47:58):
That's peace with thumbs, that's wild Peace with
thumbs wow, is that a piece withthumbs?
Speaker 2 (48:06):
no, okay I'm sure whatever you say, oh, that's
wild, that's all we got.
Yeah, it was kind of dry, youknow juicy ones no, no, you just
like ratchetness.
Speaker 1 (48:22):
You talk about me, but you, you like.
You like ratchetness, you likestuff like from the gutter.
I'm here for the drama.
No, babe, what are you talkingabout?
That was drama.
Speaker 2 (48:33):
Okay, it wasn't enough drama for you well, this
has been another episode of theLife After I Do podcast.
We appreciate you watching andlistening.
You can follow us on all socialmedia platforms.
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Speaker 1 (48:53):
This isn't normally his speech Instagram.
Speaker 2 (48:55):
We're also on Facebook and YouTube.
Shouts out to all the newfollowers.
We appreciate your support welove y'all um.
You are really helping us withthese gymnastics fees.
We appreciate y'all bye greatly, um.
Keep up the good work.
Keep up the good work, um.
You can write in to us atlifeoutofjewpodcast at gmailcom
um, we look forward to seeingyou every Wednesday why you
(49:18):
sound like you giving a jobinterview and until next time no
why you sound like you giving ajob interview.
Speaker 1 (49:24):
I'm trying to be more verbose, you know.
Speaker 2 (49:26):
We appreciate you for coming in today.
Speaker 1 (49:28):
Let me start over this has been another episode of
the life after I do podcastthis has been another episode of
the life after I do podcast.
Speaker 2 (49:36):
It's one of the best podcasts hands down no, we're
not doing that.
Hands down.
We're not doing that.
Speaker 1 (49:42):
You won't no we're not on this podcast.
Speaker 2 (49:45):
You won't find a better podcast these two.
Speaker 1 (49:49):
Everything is great.
Speaker 2 (49:50):
These two, nisha G, I mean, they know their stuff.
You want to talk about informedpeople.
You want to talk about informedpeople, they know their stuff.
And let me tell you R2Cent, Ilove it.
Self-cheats Love it.
You can follow them everywhere.
They're on TikTok, they're noton Truth.
Speaker 1 (50:06):
I don't even know what Truth is.
Speaker 2 (50:07):
Hopefully soon they'll be on Truth, okay, truth
Social.
Speaker 1 (50:11):
What's the other one?
Speaker 2 (50:11):
That's my platform Truth Social.
You can follow us everywhere.
You can follow them everywhereTikTok, instagram, facebook.
Speaker 1 (50:18):
It's wonderful, everything is wonderful.
Speaker 2 (50:20):
Everywhere you can find fake news, you can follow
them, you can write it to them.
I think they have a Gmailaccount Whack.
Speaker 1 (50:27):
So silly, so silly.
All right, guys, until nextweek.
Thanks for hanging with us.
Peace booskies, peace booskies.
Choose wisely.
You know, you're just not we'renot built the same.
And it's okay.
Because we all have ourstrengths and we all have our
weaknesses.
That's why we go together likePB and J, you know.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Who's PB and who's the J?
Speaker 1 (00:12):
I'm just saying, like they compliment each other.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
I'm just saying, like men and women compliment each
other, with me, with us, yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I think I'm peanut butter.
Yeah, because you goodbye.
(00:55):
What are you?
Hey, everybody, and welcomeback to another episode of the
Life After I Do podcast.
I'm your host, nisha G AKA Well, actually it's Kynesha AKA
Nisha G.
And then you know who this guyis.
To my right when he's doneserenading us they call me mo no
, they don't, no, they don't,they don't you have an unhealthy
(01:17):
attachment to him.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
It's your boy.
Go ahead and ask the questionso I can give it to you.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Here we go, let me prepare myself.
You know I'm always writing ahigh of positivity.
Okay, how was your week, babe?
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Uplifting.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Okay, really.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Stupendous hey Booskies, hey Booskies, hey
Booskaronis.
Hi, how you feeling?
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I'm good.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Ass is fat.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
From your purview apparently.
Like Doja said, if you can seeit from the front, wait till you
see it from the back.
I don't like that.
Now she cool, she look crazy,she cool, though that's how you
know it's fire.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
How was your week, my love?
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Stupendous Uplifting.
What was the?
Speaker 1 (02:14):
highlight of your week.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Therapy.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Always therapy.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Nice.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Always good when I talk to old Dr Will Eames.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Okay Will Eames, okay Will Eames, yeah, okay, what
was the bullshitness of yourweek?
Speaker 2 (02:31):
I was, you know, working through my stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Working through your stuff, my stuff, Okay, you know,
getting better.
Trying to get all the weeds outof there.
Yeah, you know I'm reallytrying to be better.
I know you are, I see it.
I feel like you're moving in agreat direction.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
The problem with trying to be better is that my
wife is constantly testing me.
You know what?
In?
Speaker 1 (02:54):
order to become better, you must go through
obstacles.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Right, and I'm happy you said that, because when I
was listening to Pastor Mike hesaid you got to learn to tell
the difference betweenopposition and obstacles.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Exactly, god puts obstacles in front of you.
To build you up, to make youbetter, yes, and opposition,
that's where you got to fight.
So I'm trying to figure out ifyou are my opposition, you're my
ops or my obstacle.
Okay, because, like Dr Mikesaid, at an obstacle course
there's a way out.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
I'm just trying to.
Maybe I need to take a way out.
Okay, so are you my ops, or areyou just my obstacle?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Kind of your building block, but okay.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
You want to be somebody's foundation so bad?
Speaker 1 (03:44):
I don't want to be.
I was just so happy to beplaced in such a position.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
You just so happy, just so am I.
Your obstacle too.
Look at God work.
Look at him work.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Look at him, go Show it out, look at him.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Look here.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Show it out.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Also, let me say I'm actually.
I had a good week.
That's good.
I'm having a great day.
My day has been reallyproductive and my timeline has
been giving.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
My timeline has really been giving today.
I had sent a couple reels toanother podcast friend of mine
Shout out Des the Diva, and Iwas like my podcast, my other
was given today.
I said you need to hear thesemessages because because these
messages are literally speakingto my therapy session friday,
and it's like I don't know howdr williams will be doing it,
(04:35):
but like every time she tells mesomething, instagram confirms
her oh okay, because it might be, because they're listening,
maybe that might be it.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
no it, I'm going to go out on a limb and say it is.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
But Pastor Mike, and what's the other pastor's name?
I forget his name.
I look like I, I mean they, Ilook here Now.
Look, I'm not religious, butI'm spiritual.
I was raised religious and boy,I'm telling you.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
What are you telling me?
I want to know.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
You know I'm telling you.
What are you telling me?
I want to know.
You know I haven't really toldyou this, but like over the last
couple of months I've beenliving, I've been sugar around
here, sugar, yeah, god's tryingto tell me something I ain't
trying to hear it though.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Well, that's dumb.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
I know I'm listening, but you know, that just you
just sounded real, real.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
I'm just I'm just saying Let me clarify what I
mean.
I'm just going to say you soundlike a real gum right now.
Let me clarify, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Let me clarify what I mean.
What I mean is that there'sbeen a lot of things placed on
my heart that I have notdiscussed with you because I'm
not ready to.
But he's been, he's working onme ready to but um he's been,
he's working on me.
Okay, I'm listening, but youjust said that you're not trying
to look.
I'm listening okay, well, I, Isaid that, what you said I said
that as a as a bratty kid forsmiling like you know you can't
(05:54):
hear something they don't wantto listen, but they, they do.
They do what you say, but theydon't want.
Yeah, it's kind of like thatmentality.
Okay, how was your week?
Was that's enough?
Speaker 1 (06:01):
my week was great.
My week was stupendous.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Really Tell us why.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
No particular reason, it was just a good week.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Hold on, guys.
This is a side note, Tangent.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Oh gosh, the first of many today, because today is an
R2Cents episode.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
This is the first of many.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Oh goodness.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
I have been discussing every year in my job
we pick schedules and I havebeen discussing with my wife of
possibly taking a later scheduleso I could have more time with
her in the morning.
But now I have been shown thatmy wife's morning time is very
important to her.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
It always has been.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
And I'm not part of that.
That's not because you're notnormally here.
She has a gym community thatshe needs a lot more than she
needs her husband, but she wantsher husband's support and I'm
going to support her in that.
I support her.
So while I go to the gym to getgains and become, you know,
lose my weight and get stronger,my wife goes.
(07:02):
What do?
Speaker 1 (07:03):
I go to the gym, for I was going to say my girl, my
wife goes.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
What do I go to the gym for?
I was going to say my girl, mywife goes to the gym for social
hour.
That is my tangent Wife.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Okay, like I don't think, because you talk to
people and people like talk toyou.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
It's like it's a difference between talking to
people and passing and havingyou.
You had a whole conversation.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Okay, that was with one of my other gym buddies, but
all my other gym buddies, yousee how they like.
They give me dabs, they give mehigh fives and we keep pushing,
Babe.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
I got through 60% of my workout while you were
talking.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Okay, and like half of that time we were talking
about my squat and like talkingabout hey, that's fine, long
story short.
Long story short.
My husband thinks that it'sridiculous that I, I guess, talk
to people at the gym or havefriends at the gym.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
It's not ridiculous at all.
You know, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
I don't think it's ridiculous.
He has people that he talks toat the gym.
It's not ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
I'm happy for you.
I'm just saying get to work infirst talk, get the games, then
talk.
I got both you definitely gottaask.
But back to your week.
What made it so great?
Speaker 1 (08:17):
it was just a good week.
It was productive, like I hadno what did you, what did you
produce?
What, like I had?
No, what did you produce?
What I was productive with mytime?
Oh, with taking care of all thethings I used to take care of.
What did you take care of?
My family, myself, all of theabove, my home, my car, hmm,
(08:42):
okay, you know All right, whatelse you do.
That was that, was that, was it?
That was it home, my car, hmm,you know All right, what else
you do?
That was, that was that was it,that was it.
Yeah, oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Nothing newsworthy to tell.
No, you got a.
You had a visitor this week.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
I had a who A visitor ?
A visitor from who you saw yournephew.
Oh yeah, I had my nephew forEaster.
Yeah, hopefully everybody.
Yeah, I had my nephew forEaster.
Yeah, hopefully everybody had agreat Easter, by the way, yeah,
I hope.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
I mean they didn't have a better Easter than Jesus,
because he got up.
He said y'all thought I had melook at you.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
You played yourself really now you're trying to
imagine Jesus saying you playedyourself.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
Goodbye, you're so lame.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
This is so inappropriate but to imagine
Jesus saying you played yourselfGoodbye, you're so lame.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
This is so inappropriate.
But I imagine Jesus sayingDon't imagine him saying it.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
Just keep it to yourself.
Not everything that comes toyour mind Should be said out
loud.
Just keep it to yourself.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
I imagine when they saw Jesus Outside the grave he
said Surprise, motherfucker.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
He did not say that outside the grave he said,
surprise motherfucker, he didnot say that Get off me, get off
me, they can't hold me down.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
No, they didn't say that Can't nobody hold me down.
Oh, we can't do that, that'spuffy.
Sorry, too late.
Cancel.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Too late.
Cancel it Too late.
What?
Why are you looking at me?
Why are you making it so?
Speaker 2 (10:12):
awkward Because I'm thinking about all the
inappropriate things I can say.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
Okay, but you shouldn't.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
And associate it to you.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
You shouldn't, though , because that's how my brain
works.
Okay, he pulled up.
Yeah, he did.
He told them to watch out now.
Right, he said you thought youhad me, huh.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Right, you know what the disciples said when they saw
him.
What?
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Dynamite.
Okay, they did not, but now Iwant to watch Good Time.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
It's kid.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Dynamite, that's.
Phoenix's One of her favoriteshows, aside from golden girls I
love.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
I love that my seven year old like it's because it's
because we watched the sameshows Our granny watched.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Cause?
First of all because they hit,they don't miss and I can
constantly watch the reruns.
Like what did she ask me?
That is, she was like mom, arewe going to start golden girls
again reruns?
What did she ask me the otherday?
She was like Mom, are we goingto start Golden Girls again?
I was like girl.
But then I told her I said youhaven't watched the Golden
Palace, so now I got to get herto watch the Golden Palace and I
can't believe that they only.
I think there's only like twoseasons of the Golden Palace.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
We got to get her to watch Gilligan's Island.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Oh, I used to love Gilligan's Island too.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Oh, and just so y'all know Marianne was the baddest
chick on the island.
She wasn't.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
She was hyped up to be, but she really wasn't,
though.
No, no, she really wasn'tMarianne was.
She really wasn't, though.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
No, I'm not talking about the model.
The other one, marianne, wasn'tthe model.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
I'm trying to think Ginger was the model.
I'm trying to think how thesong went.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
I don't know, oh, I hear the melody, but I can't
hear the words what we got today, bucky, I kind of already told
them yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Today is an hour and two cents Hour and two cents.
Hour and two cents episode.
The reaction episodes that youguys love so much, shouts out to
all of the new followers.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Yes, you guys, we appreciate y'all.
Again, like I say, we lovey'all real bad, we love y'all
like real bad because we feel,because we still feel, like we
in the trenches and y'all in thetrenches with us.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
I mean, right, like we still in the trenches, but
now we can, like we've beenscratching dirt and so now it's
like you starting to see likelight that's peeking through
right it's like, it's like, it'slike we Jedediah.
Okay, okay, never mind, juststop right there.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
It's like we Jedediah before he struck that oil, and
when we hit oil we're not goingto forget about y'all.
We're going to be doing thesame shit we do now.
We're going to be the BeverlyHillbillies.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
The Beverly Hillbillies and.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Beverly Hills still eating roadkill and eating
possum soup.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Okay, rabbit stew.
No one's eating possum soup orrabbit stew, possum soup would
probably fire.
Okay, you wouldn't try it.
No, I would try it.
No, first of all, it's a possum.
Okay, where you get it from,there's possums outside.
Exactly, that's my point.
Thank you for proving it.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
The rabbits are outside, the cows are outside
and who's eating?
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Who's eating?
Speaker 2 (13:07):
This is coming from a person who ate alligator bites
and loved them.
First of all, that's different.
Outside that's different.
The alligator was outside.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
That was different.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
I'm not going to.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Oh, I didn't tell you this, I'm not going to explain
to you how different it is, butjust know that it is.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
So when I walked the dog today she was hilarious
because she was determined tocatch a crow and I said baby.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Did you tell her that wasn't going to happen?
Speaker 2 (13:29):
That's not going to happen.
That crow.
Not going to happen.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Tell her that her efforts are feeble.
I said you are not a cat.
Cat, she might think she is she.
Well, she, she thinks she's twopounds.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
That's how bailey was .
She thought she was as small asthe chihuahua.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Yeah, but it's our two cents episode, all right,
guys, so let's just jump righton into it.
We have an update first right um, it's our first ever update
yeah, did you send me the updateI did, I texted you, okay, well
let's go into the update first.
Then, before we head into thehour, two cents.
She never, never listens.
Okay, so we have an update fromthe.
Am I the asshole for breakingup with my girlfriend after she
insisted I pay for her sister'sstudent loans?
(14:08):
First of all, let me just shoutout our comment section on
TikTok and Instagram andInstagram.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Because it was giving .
Speaker 1 (14:15):
Y'all are hilarious, hilarious hilarious, hilarious.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
And to old girl that was body shaming me I thought it
was hilarious.
I got thick skin.
It don't bother me okay, let'ssee and yes, she's still a hoe
the um.
The update proves that she wasa hoe okay, y'all ready.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
So here's the update.
So a couple of weeks ago, I Iposted about how I was 28 and I
broke up with my girlfriend, whowas 26, after she demanded that
I pay off her sister's $42,000loan after already paying off
her $35,000 loan.
Y'all overwhelmingly said I amnot an asshole and suggested
that I reverse the payment.
(14:57):
Well, I did exactly that.
I called the loan servicer,explained the situation and was
able to get the $35,000 paymentreversed.
My ex absolutely lost it whenshe found out, blowing up my
phone with 50 plus text messagesand calling me every name in
the book.
She's telling everyone that Istole from her and her family
(15:20):
and that they are threateninglegal action, laughing out loud
Good luck.
Her sister even showed up at myapartment screaming about how I
quote unquote ruined theirplans, whatever that means.
My friends are split Half thinkthat it was savage but
justified, and the other thinksthat I should have just walked
away without taking the moneyback.
But honestly, the fact thatimmediately started planning how
(15:44):
to spend my money on her sisterconfirms I made the right call.
So am I the asshole for takingback the money?
That was clearly part of amanipulation scheme.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
No, no, no no, no, and you didn't read the part in
there where where he said thatshe gave him the ultimatum
because she was already seeingsomebody else and she was just
waiting to end the relationship.
Okay, that's, that's what?
Speaker 1 (16:10):
okay.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
So yeah, that's, and that's why I had agreed that he
wasn't savage like when he saidthat and that's what made him
call and get his money back,because she had already so she
had already showed her truecolors she had already showed
her true colors.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
She had already showed her true colors.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
As a proud member of the Petty Gang and the Petty
Society Bye, maurice.
And one who deems himself Petty, murphy.
Bye.
I am very proud of your actions, of getting your money back.
These hoes don't deservenothing but the inches, like I
said before.
Bye, nothing but the inches.
Like I said before, nothing butthe inches.
And to the lady on Instagramthat said I shouldn't call her a
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hoe because she's still a hoe.
Why?
Because she was plotting onleaving him.
Yeah, and then the fact thatshe left you, but then she
didn't lose your number becausewhen that money, when that
account changed, she wanted'tknow what happened.
So I'm proud of you.
I'm proud of you, sir.
City Boys is up.
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It's gonna be a long summer,did you say City Boys?
Speaker 1 (17:09):
City Boys is up okay, let's go on to the next one,
because I'm not doing this withyou.
City Boys is up.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
City.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Boys is up.
Okay, here we go, hold on.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
You're not finna, discount my what's wrong with
the city boy.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Nothing we up.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
Okay, you're not a city boy, I'm not Okay, the men
are up.
We'll say the men are up.
Okay, you doing too much.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Would I be the asshole for reporting a doctor
for indicating that I wascheating?
Well, I mean A little contextbefore we get into it.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
I'm a 27 year old female, my partner is 26 year
old male and we've been togetherfor three years.
We have a great relationshipand from the day we met we never
saw or dated anybody else.
I had a more quote unquote funpast than my partner, but always
got checked just to be safe.
I got myself checked rightbefore I met my partner and I
was all clear.
Fast forward to October justgone.
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I had just given birth viaemergency C-section to our
beautiful baby boy.
This was after a failedinduction, three sweeps back
births, 48 hours in labor and ahormone drip.
I was in the depths ofpostpartum depression.
Not only the PPD, but mysurgery went wrong, causing
nerve damage in my arm and notbeing able to use it for eight
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weeks.
After surgery, myself and ourson were in the hospital for six
days after his birth.
We went home and we were scaredbut excited.
On the 10th day of his life, Inoticed his eyes were getting
puffy and a little gloopy anddecided to call on a doctor.
As it was Sunday late evening,he asked us to come down, which
we did, and there it was when itwent all wrong.
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The doctor asked how old my sonwas.
I replied 10 days.
He said yes, I already knowwhat this is.
Without even looking at him, hegave me this really long
terminology that sounded likethe furniture would move if you
said it out loud.
He told me to look it up when Igot home alone I live with my
partner and our son I looked itup in the doctor's office and
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nearly died there, and then itbasically said conjunctivitis
due to chlamydia.
When I tell you, I looked athim like he had 17 heads.
This is actually common, assome forms of the clap don't
show up in women.
I started bawling.
I said then that I don't havethat and that I was tested
before my partner and that Ihave been with nobody else since
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then.
He looked at me and said areyou sure, damn, if I wasn't
crying so hard, I genuinelywould have slapped him.
He looked at my partner withsympathy.
I then said I did not have avaginal birth, so how could that
have happened?
This is a specific conditionthat is common, bearing in mind
if you have a vaginal birth.
So how could that have happened?
This is a specific conditionthat is common, bearing in mind
if you have a vaginal birth.
He brushed off what I said andhe basically blamed and shamed
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me for absolutely nothing.
We left there and I got home.
I got a test kit for home andfrom the hospital and,
ironically, would you believe,it was clean and clear and so
was my partner.
Then we went to my child'sactual pediatrician and he
explained that was impossible asbecause I gave a birth via
C-section, but that he did haveconjunctivitis, but bacterial.
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I wanted to bring back, bringhim back and give give the
doctor peace of my mind, callinghim ignorant and inconsiderate
to people and new mothers whoalready have a lot going on.
My partner said that it wouldbe.
I would be a bit of an assholeif I rang back to give him a lot
, to stick it to him when Icould just move on, whereas I
think he needs to realize thathe has to listen and not shame
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people.
Even if this does happen, butnever mind that it did it Would
I be the asshole for reportinghim to the board?
Speaker 2 (20:39):
I mean no, but there's nothing you can do.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
Even if you reported him to the board, they wouldn't
do anything.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Yeah, because that's his opinion.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Yeah, I think they call that bedside manner.
It's just a doctor who has likereally bad bedside manner.
But yeah, no, I mean mepersonally, because I'd be petty
sometimes.
I would probably.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
You would have called , sent three emails.
Yeah, you would have sent aletter to his mother.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
I would have found other patients who were
disgruntled, other patients whoreally didn't care for him much.
Yeah, you would have.
Yeah, I would have went.
Yeah, you would have went.
I would have went like balls tothe wall Is that what they say?
Speaker 2 (21:17):
Balls to the wall, yeah, whatever they say yeah, uh
well, I mean congratulations onthe baby and um you're, I guess
you don't have chlamydia butthe baby has conjunctivitis.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
He got it from somewhere.
Bacteria is it?
She said bacteria or somethinglike that, but it honestly the
point of the story is no I wouldsay you wouldn't be the asshole
for reporting him, because healso didn't make you feel
welcomed or comfortable, but toindicate, and especially in
front of my partner, that I'vebasically been cheating or you
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know what I mean Like I thinkthat's kind of effed up.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
I mean, here's the thing.
I do think the doctor was anasshole, because what if the
scenario would mean she got thechlamydia from?
Her from her partner and he wascheating that part.
You can just assume that partof women.
Now we know that, you know, sexis a lot more relative over
women than men.
So I mean it's a fairassumption, but wow, it
shouldn't be made.
Wow, shouldn't be made likethat right now.
Speaker 1 (22:14):
Okay, moving on because I can't with you.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
That was a long one.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Am I the?
Am I the asshole for refusingto babysit again after my sister
didn't pick her kids up on time?
Hell, no, no, before I evenread it, no Before.
I even read it.
No, we even got to go into thisone.
No, because people be realdisrespectful when you doing
them a favor in a solid bywatching your kids.
Speaker 2 (22:36):
We even got to read this one.
Speaker 1 (22:37):
Okay, so it says.
At the beginning of this week Ibabysat my sister's two kids,
one of which is a newborn.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Oh hell no.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
She's a single mother and went out to meet with
friends to have lunch.
She promised me to be backafter a few hours.
I didn't want to babysit, sinceit would cost me precious time
for my exam prep, but I wasanxious because there was a
newborn and I have zeroexperience.
But she begged and she cried,so I did.
She didn't show up untilyesterday in the evening and I
wasn't able to reach her duringthe four days she was gone.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
Damn.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
And even called hospitals to see if they had
found a female body or what,because I was seriously
concerned and I thoughtsomething major had happened.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
Damn.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
How the hell you disappear for four days.
Damn, I can't.
Turns out she was partying andlost track of time and I should
just stay calm and don't causeso much drama, because
everything is good and nothingbad had happened to the kids.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
Yeah because they weren't in my care.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Right, she didn't see the fact that I was shaking and
had panic attacks.
Right, she didn't see the factthat I was shaking and had panic
attacks.
After she told me to shut the Fup because she tried to sleep,
I just packed my stuff and nowI'm on the train going back to
yes, going back to my place.
When I left, she called me andsaid how dare I leave?
Because I had promised to takecare of the two year old when
she goes to the hospital for herappointment on Saturday morning
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with the newborn, and that Ipromised that before she partied
.
So, no matter what had happened, I need to keep my word.
I feel a little guilty, but I'malso afraid she'll continue to.
She'll continue that and let meset that over.
I feel a little guilty, but alsoI'm afraid she will continue
like that and I felt a need toprotect myself.
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My mom and her think that I'man asshole.
My mom partly understands, butsaid that I have should have
been patient one more day untilthe appointment.
Am I the asshole?
No, absolutely not.
Look here.
Absolutely.
She thought just because youwere her sister, she could take
advantage.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
Look here, this just effing triggered me.
Okay, I can't, I can't.
Do you remember when we agreedto watch your nephews for like a
night so your sister didn't goout and then she left the whole
weekend?
No, you remember that?
Uh-uh, I remember that and itpissed me off so much.
Like she literally like this iswhen we lived across the street
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from her, Okay, and she hadwent out with her friends and
they were in LA and they werepartying and she just decided
that you know, I got time outand she took the whole weekend.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
Oh, I don't remember that I remember that because I
was pissed, Obviously because itstuck with you.
It triggered me.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
No, you're not an asshole.
I I'm going to say this asnicely as I can Fuck her and her
kids.
Speaker 1 (25:22):
Yeah, I don't think you're the asshole.
I think what's rude anddisrespectful is she asked you
to watch her two children, onebeing a newborn.
First of all, I'm not fit todrop my newborn off.
Let's start there.
But that's neither here northere.
She was being rude anddisrespectful by asking you to
watch them for a few hours andthen went mia for four days, not
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pick up her phone and you notbe able to get in contact with
her.
I just feel like that justshows her level of maturity,
because how you gonna drop yournewborn off and then go mia for
four days, you don't even callto check in on your newborn.
I'm gonna ask.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
It's a newborn.
I'm gonna just go ahead to askthe question.
It's a newborn.
I'm going to just go ahead andask the question.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
Everybody in the comments is going to ask when
would daddy at Babe?
She disappears for four daysand drops off a newborn.
We probably don't even know whohe is.
Let's be for real.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
So the doctor was right to assume.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
I guess some situation is.
I guess it is.
I guess it is in somesituations.
Oh okay, am I the asshole forasking my husband not to go on a
trip with a woman who openlyflirts with him and feeling
betrayed when he did it anyway?
Okay, let's see.
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Hi everyone, I'm 32 and I'vebeen married to my husband let's
call him Joe for eight years,and they've been together for 10
.
In all that time, we havealways prioritized each other's
emotional well-being.
If something hurt one of us, wedidn't do it again, no matter
what.
We valued having a happy spousemore than being right.
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Because of this, my love forhim grew immensely.
I was certain he'd never doanything that would break my
heart, but here I am heartbrokenand disappointed.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
I'm trying to read his head.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Here she is.
Joe owns a company and we worktogether.
Financially, we're in a greatplace.
Recently, though Joe's fatherwe got the chance to bid for
through Joe's father, we got achance to bid for a major
government contract a massiveopportunity Due to its scale
involved without whom the dealwon't happen is led by a very
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attractive, flirty woman.
She's the CEO and has openlyflirted with Joe in front of me.
We both noticed her behaviorand, in order to avoid
misunderstandings or conflicts,we decided to work on the bid
together.
Things were OK until one meetingwhere, during a break, she
touched Joe's arm and saidsomething like quote, if I had a
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husband like you, I'd neverleave your side.
You're someone every womanwants, but sometimes even that's
not enough.
Someone else might steal yourmind.
End quote.
I snapped.
I responded quote, I'm notfollowing him.
He just never leaves my side.
End quote.
She brushed it off as a joke,but I knew that it wasn't.
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I saw the look in her eyes andI know women.
Later I talked to Joe about it.
He admitted that she wascrossing a line and that he was
in fact uncomfortable, butdidn't react strongly to avoid
jeopardizing the deal.
I wasn't thrilled, but I triedto understand.
Then one day I found out that Iwas excluded from a three-day
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trip, site visit for the bid, atrip requested by the woman.
Only five people are going, andJoe is one of them.
When I heard, I told him that Iwas extremely uncomfortable
with this and asked him not togo.
I even begged him.
I said that the deal wasn'tworth it and that financially
we're stable and that we don'tneed the contract.
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But he went anyway.
Even after everything I said, heleft without me.
Something broke in me.
I trusted him with my wholeheart.
I truly believed he'd neverchoose anything over my peace of
mind.
Now I feel like he did.
He left me behind and it hurtsso deeply that part of me
doesn't even want to careanymore.
If he comes back, if he ends upwith that woman, I just feel
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numb.
A part of me doesn't even wantto care anymore.
If he comes back, if he ends upwith that woman, I just feel
numb.
A part of me says come on, 10amazing years, don't throw it
all away.
Another part wants to take offmy wedding ring and send him a
photo and file for divorce.
So am I the asshole for askinghim not to go.
And how do I even begin to dealwith these emotions?
Go ahead, well, I gotta gofirst.
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No, no, tell me what yourthoughts are.
Um, all right, she, she said amI the asshole for asking him
not to go?
no I don't think you're anasshole for asking not to go.
Did you want me to?
Speaker 2 (29:56):
go or not.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Oh yeah, I thought you wanted me to say that
because apparently, you don'twant me to go, or not?
Oh yeah, I thought you wantedme to say that, because
apparently you don't want me togo to either.
Go, bye, bye.
I see what you did there.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Okay, no, you're not an asshole for asking him not to
go, mm-hmm.
But at the same time, I feellike your husband sees the
potential in the deal and he'ssecure enough in himself and his
relationship that he can takethis trip to try to make the
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deal go through.
And I feel like the real issuehere is that either you don't
trust Joe or you're dealing withyour own insecurities.
Or you're dealing with your owninsecurities, because if Joe has
never shown you any signs ofinfidelity or being
untrustworthy, then you areallowing your insecurities to be
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portrayed onto him and that'swhy you're trying to control it
and that's why you feel the wayyou do about this movement.
But if you believe your husbandcan be faithful to you, I don't
see the issue with him going totry to make this deal go
through, because it will, likeyou said in the beginning, it
will benefit you guys greatly.
Even though you guys are stablenow, you'll be even better off
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after the deal.
So I believe Joe is thinkingabout future stability.
So I don't think he and if healready acknowledged that the
woman is inappropriate and he'sgiving you, you know, no signs
or no indication that he wantsthis woman or wants to pursue
this woman?
I don't.
I don't see an issue with himtaking the trip, and I think
that you're me personally I feellike you're overreacting, but
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I'm pretty sure my wife feelsdifferently.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
OK, so I can, I can, I can understand all of that.
But OK, a couple of things.
For one, they don't need themoney, it's.
It just seems like it's areally great opportunity We've
established that Right For two.
She has said that the premiseand foundation of their
relationship is that they havealways prioritized each other's
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emotional well-being and peace,no matter what and no matter who
is right Right.
They prioritize our emotionalwell-being for each other over
who is right Right.
They prioritize our emotionalwell-being for each other over
who is right.
So, even though this is a greatopportunity if she listen okay,
but listen, if she sheunderstands that this is a great
opportunity, they both havealready experienced the
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inappropriateness of this woman,right?
And if he has always prioritizedthe way his wife feels, has
always taken into considerationher emotions or whatever, and
he's always said you know what,if this causes you any angst,
it's not worth it.
But then we get to a situationlike this where we clearly know
you're about to be around awoman who clearly wants you,
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who's made it known and has goneas far as disrespecting me in
front of you, and then the onetime you want to stick to your
guns and think you have a greatexcuse to not prioritize how I'm
telling you, I'm feeling, iswhen you're going to go on a
three day trip away from me withanother woman who has already
disrespected me in front of youListen, for the sake of more
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money, which we don't need, okay, okay.
So from her perspective, Icompletely understand that,
because if that has been myrelationship for the past 10
years and I have known and Ihave settled in and have been
secure in the fact that anytimeI have come to you and I've said
, this makes me uncomfortable,this gives me angst or whatever
you can call it insecurity, youcan call it whatever, but you
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have always reassured me in thatway, no matter what the
situation was, was.
You have always said I'mprioritizing how you feel and
your feelings matter to keep ourmarriage on steady ground.
And I have been secure in thatand I have leaned on that for 10
years.
And then the one, the one time,the one time you're not going
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to prioritize what I'm tellingyou, I'm feeling, is going to be
you away from home for 72 hourswith another woman who has
basically made you her target,and I'm supposed to be okay with
that.
So no, that's going to be a no,cause it's.
That's going to be a no, justpull up.
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It's going to be a no becausenow we don't know the ins and
outs.
But my thing is did you, did you, did you fight for why I should
be there?
Because she said that they'reworking on the project together,
because that's also somethinghe agreed to to make her
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comfortable.
So if we're going to go see abid site, right, and you and she
knows that you and I are notjust husband and wife but we're
also business partners, whywasn't my wife included on this
job?
So, him as a man, him and himas a man, that's all on him.
Because if he didn't say, youknow, me and my wife are also
business partners.
So therefore all the businesspartners need to be here on this
bid site.
And you didn't make a stancefor saying my business partner,
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aka my wife, needs to come in onthis bid site, and you allowed
her because she's the CEO andwithout her this isn't going to
happen.
So basically, now you'retelling me you're pleasing
another woman over me for money.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
That's wild because we don't even need money.
Is he pleasing the woman or ishe trying to make the deal
happen?
Speaker 1 (35:02):
He's pleasing the woman because listen the deal.
Speaker 2 (35:05):
The deal is only an opportunity.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
It's not anything that's going to be like.
It's going to be detrimental tous if we don't have it.
So you mean that's okay, solisten.
So so here.
So this is what you're saying.
You're telling me that youhaving a bigger opportunity to
generate more income that'sgonna be associated with a woman
who clearly is attracted to you, who clearly flirts with you,
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who's done it in front of me,right?
You didn't correct her the firsttime when she disrespected me
in front of you.
You didn't correct it the firsttime.
You didn't stand up for me whenshe said okay, we're, all the
business partners are going on athree-day work site bid and
everyone needs to be there.
You didn't stand up for me andsay my business partner, AKA my
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wife, needs to be there.
You're doing everything to keepher happy until this goes
through.
And then, the back of your mind, what you're thinking is you're
going to fix everything with meonce.
Once the deal's complete andyou've got the check and we got
the money, you think that let mekeep her happy, Let me keep
this woman happy, and then, onceI get what I want this big
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opportunity, then I can go backand fix things with my wife.
But it's business, yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
Okay, she's mixing.
She's mixing, her mixing theirpersonal relationship with the
business.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
No no, no, reese, that's always going to happen
because they're married andthey're in business together.
I'm saying that's why you don'tgo into business with your
spouse, if that's going to be anissue and what I'm saying is
he's seeing it as business andshe's seeing it as a personal
attack on her marriage.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
Okay, they're not seeing it the same Okay.
Speaker 1 (36:38):
They as a personal attack on her marriage.
Okay, they're not seeing it thesame, okay they're not seeing
it the same.
Speaker 2 (36:41):
Can I speak, woman, go ahead Now.
I agree with you on the fact ofhe should take measures to make
sure his wife feels heard andprotected and make sure that her
emotional well-being is intact.
I do agree with that.
What I'm saying is I see from aman's perspective.
I can see why he chose to go.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Exactly that's what I'm saying and I'm telling you.
Because he's thinking, at theend of the day, this deal is
going to benefit all of us it'sgoing to be, but he's
prioritizing that and making thewoman who he's doing the deal
with.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
But he don't see it that way.
Speaker 1 (37:17):
Maurice, listen, it doesn't matter how you try to
slice it up.
You can keep slapping businesson it all you want to, but if
you, if you, if it came down toyour marriage listen if it came,
maurice.
She made it romantic when sheopenly flirted with him in front
of his wife and disrespectedhis wife and he didn't stand up
and say that that she.
Speaker 2 (37:35):
She made it one sided , he's not.
Speaker 1 (37:37):
Maurice, it does, it does, it doesn't.
It doesn't matter how you tryto like dress it up, ok, it
doesn't matter how you're tryingto.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
So we're going to not get the bag because, because
she want me.
Speaker 1 (37:50):
But see, the bag is something that we want.
The bag is something that weneed.
So when you start prioritizingthe bag over us and you start
prioritizing the bag over howI'm telling you this is
affecting me, then that thenthen we need to reconsider
things, because now what you'retelling me is is that your
priorities, your priorities forme, are not in order.
Okay, that's what you'retelling me, and you can, like I
said, you can keep slappingbusiness on it.
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You can keep saying that's theway he's not thinking.
Okay, then don't think that wayand be rich and divorced,
because guess what Guess be richand divorced?
Because guess what, guess what,if we're already business
partners.
When I leave your ass becausenow I know that you're not going
to prioritize me over anopportunity, guess what?
I still, I'm still going tomake money.
I'm going to make the moneythat we made together.
I'm going to get probably halfof everything we got together.
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I'm getting half of the damnopportunity when you finish it,
and then you can go give it toher flirting, and I hope you
guys will be happy, so eitherway it goes, sounds like I win.
Speaker 2 (38:44):
Yeah, it sounds like if she leaves, they both win
because she's going to go.
Both of them win.
Speaker 1 (38:48):
Yeah, so you know like, so keep slapping business
on it Every time you slap everytime you slap business on it,
you get hyped about this yeah,because the fact that you're
trying not to like understandthe issue.
It's crazy.
It's crazy work, but you'regonna keep because you want to
hold it down for the guys youwant to hold it down for the
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guys.
As a man, he's not thinkingabout it like that.
Speaker 2 (39:11):
What I'm saying is I'm a man.
What I'm saying is I understandeverything how she feels of
what she's saying.
It's just that it'd be hard forme to allow her insecurities to
stop the deal from happening tostop you from making more money
that you don't even need anyway.
You can always that's becausethat's the price and that's
greedy, and then that's greed.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
So now, now I can just keep piling it up because
that's greed, I'm done, that'sjust greed like a great
opportunity.
Speaker 2 (39:38):
Yes, this has been a great opportunity.
Yes, this has been a greatopportunity.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
Yes, nobody wants to turn on a great opportunity.
But all all that glitter isain't gold, Don't you?
If you hit it, I swear I'mgoing to pinch the crap out of
you.
I'm a pinch.
You Press it, Press it.
Speaker 2 (39:51):
Are you done?
Speaker 1 (39:53):
I'm blinking, somebody say no, gonna save you.
Yeah, prioritize the bag, areyou done?
I can't.
I'm not doing this with you,okay?
Am I the asshole for telling myfiance that he's not allowed to
be tired?
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Okay, okay.
I'm a 28 year old female and myfiance is 32.
We have an eight-month-olddaughter.
Since I lost my job threemonths ago, I've been a
stay-at-home mom while lookingfor work.
However, his income isn'tenough to cover our bills, so
I've been using my savings topay half of our bills.
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For the past few weeks, the babyhas been sleeping less and less
, being fussy with feedings andnaps and genuinely upset because
she's teething.
Most of the day is spentcomforting and entertaining her
and cleaning the house.
Because he gets home late, sheusually is asleep, but has been
waking up between 2 and 3 am andstaying awake for a couple of
hours.
Averaging wake up time isbetween 6 and 7 am.
(40:58):
Needless to say, I'm notgetting a lot of sleep.
Well, today he had the day offand went to the doctor for two
hours for a physical, then camehome.
Baby had been fussy and finallytook a nap in the car on the
way home and slept a bit at home.
Within 20 minutes she was upagain and it was close to
(41:19):
another feeding.
So I asked if he could feed herand he said no, because he was
tired from the doctor.
I snapped.
I told him that I had been upsince 630 and I was exhausted
from lack of sleep for the pastthree days.
He told me that he wasexhausted from working eight
hour shifts and that that twohours at the doctor's office was
(41:40):
also exhausting and that hedidn't feel good.
I snapped again and I told himthat he wasn't allowed to be
tired, because at least hedoesn't have to get up in the
middle of the night and takecare of a baby or clean an
entire house or do all of thecooking.
He snapped back at me and saidthat I was being insensitive and
that he was working hard toadvance in his job since I had
(42:01):
lost mine.
So am I the asshole for tellinghim that he's not allowed to be
tired?
Speaker 2 (42:05):
Sadly yes.
Speaker 1 (42:08):
I mean, you could be an asshole for telling them that
he's not like for saying thewords.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
Okay, good yeah.
Go ahead and put it on for theladies.
Speaker 1 (42:16):
Okay, good yeah go ahead and put it on for the
ladies.
He can be tired.
I mean, yeah, you could be anasshole for saying that, because
here's the thing when there's anew baby involved, it's tiring
for both parties.
Having a baby in the house istiring for both parties.
Okay, both parties.
(42:38):
Parties, okay, both parties.
But we all know, whether youworking or not working, who's
primarily getting up in themiddle of the night, who's
primarily doing feedings?
We already know.
Go, go ahead and go ahead andbe um and be passive, aggressive
, like you, like you, like youlike to do, like you like to do.
Speaker 2 (42:58):
Go, I'm not passing the guess at all.
Like you like to do, go ahead,I'm not passing the guess at all
.
My response is this I believeyou are an asshole for saying
that.
Speaker 1 (43:09):
For saying the words yes.
Speaker 2 (43:11):
I also believe he was an asshole for saying he was
tired on Saturday.
Speaker 1 (43:14):
Now From his two-hour doctor's appointment.
Speaker 2 (43:16):
Okay, that's a long time to be a doctor.
Speaker 1 (43:18):
It was a physical I hour doctor's appointment.
Okay, that's a long time to bea doctor.
Speaker 2 (43:22):
It was a physical.
I don't know what he does.
He must have been over a coupletimes Something, but he only
works eight hours a day.
Speaker 1 (43:24):
Yeah, that's like.
Speaker 2 (43:24):
Okay, calm down.
You're working eight hours aday.
Let me get into it.
Speaker 1 (43:27):
Because I was going to say can you?
I'm not trying to discreditanybody, but I'm saying there's
a difference between an eighthour shift and a I mean we can.
Speaker 2 (43:36):
We can relate to this because you know when you were
home with her.
When you're still on, I don'tleave and I was working now,
mind you, I was working, but Iwas working 10 hours a day.
I was working 10 and a half, 11hours a day and then coming
home and I was still spendingabout an hour to two hours every
afternoon or evening with thebaby, so that she would at least
(43:58):
get a break.
She could at least lay down fora little bit shower watch a
show.
I was doing something and thenon the weekends I was taking the
baby, so like she had a break,I do think that it is like he.
I think he is an assholebecause, regardless of whether
it was two hours or three hours,whatever it was at the doctor,
he should prioritize helping youout on the weekends, because I
(44:20):
understand, as someone who hasbeen on both sides of this
meaning the person who's beenwith the child all day and the
person who's coming home withthe child all day is that
whoever's been with the childall day, they haven't had a
break.
Speaker 1 (44:32):
They haven't.
They haven't, nope.
Speaker 2 (44:35):
And especially if you have a baby that don't like
taking naps.
Speaker 1 (44:38):
Or a baby that's being breastfed Right.
That's a whole different.
Speaker 2 (44:43):
I think you are an asshole, because people get
tired.
Working eight hours a day Imean, lord, when was the last
time I did that?
That sounds great.
That's not enough to be tired.
I feel like if he's onlyworking eight hours a day, he
can help.
He can definitely help duringthe week after work.
Have to be tired.
I feel like if he's onlyworking eight hours a day, he
can help.
He can definitely help duringthe week after work and if he's
going to work late he can get upand do them two and three am
(45:05):
feedings, because if he'sworking eight hours a day and
he's getting home at like eightor nine at night, he ain't going
to work till noon.
He can take a nap before work.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
But you know how some men are.
Be careful who you choose.
Choose wisely.
We're not built the same andit's okay.
Because we all have ourstrengths and we all have our
weaknesses.
That's why we go together likePB and J.
Speaker 2 (45:27):
Who's PB and who's the J?
Speaker 1 (45:29):
No, I'm just saying like they compliment each other.
Speaker 2 (45:31):
I'm just saying, like men and women compliment each
other, what with me, with us?
Speaker 1 (45:35):
I think I'm peanut butter.
Speaker 2 (45:37):
Yeah, because you thick.
Yeah, you got that right,because you thick.
Goodbye Demel, what are youThick?
Speaker 1 (45:49):
So silly?
Is it a red flag if mygirlfriend hides her phone
around me?
What do you think Possible?
Me and my girlfriend have beentogether for about 10 months.
Lately I've started noticingthat she's really weird about
her phone.
She keeps it face down all thetime.
Oh she turns off the oh, she'scheating, she's cheating.
(46:16):
She keeps it face down all thetime, turns off notifications
when I'm around and takes itwith her, even if she's just
stepping out for a minute.
Speaker 2 (46:26):
She putting on silent , she cheating.
Speaker 1 (46:29):
She used to be more open, like showing me memes and
stuff from her chats, but nowit's like the phone is some top
secret device.
I'm not the kind of guy whogoes snooping and I haven't gone
through it, but I can't lie.
It's starting to bother me.
I asked her if something is upand she just said I like my
privacy, that's all.
She gives no other explanation.
(46:49):
Is it a red flag?
I want to trust her, but it'shard not to feel like she's
hiding something.
It's a red flag oh no, she'scheating.
I like how you said oh no,she's cheating, like if he was
asking you Face to face.
Oh no, no, no, she's cheating.
She's cheating, it's a red flag.
Like what more do you want?
It's a red flag.
Speaker 2 (47:08):
Uh, huh, um.
And if you wanna know, matchthe energy and see if she likes
it.
And see if she likes it,because if If that energy don't
sit well with her cause, sheknow what she doing with it.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (47:23):
Easy fix you could and see if she likes it, or she
might be so distracted by what'son that phone that she wouldn't
even care.
Okay, so I mean, either way youshould get to, you should get
your answer.
Two can play that game.
Yeah, cause you know, if youjust put a little Petty patty
hat on, Become Petty Murphy.
(47:43):
If you become, if you put alittle Petty patty hat on,
you'll get a lot done.
Right, you'll get a lot done.
What's with the?
Speaker 2 (47:50):
gang sign.
Speaker 1 (47:50):
That wasn't a gang sign.
Speaker 2 (47:52):
You gonna throw it up again.
That's peace, that's wild.
Speaker 1 (47:58):
That's peace with thumbs, that's wild Peace with
thumbs wow, is that a piece withthumbs?
Speaker 2 (48:06):
no, okay I'm sure whatever you say, oh, that's
wild, that's all we got.
Yeah, it was kind of dry, youknow juicy ones no, no, you just
like ratchetness.
Speaker 1 (48:22):
You talk about me, but you, you like.
You like ratchetness, you likestuff like from the gutter.
I'm here for the drama.
No, babe, what are you talkingabout?
That was drama.
Speaker 2 (48:33):
Okay, it wasn't enough drama for you well, this
has been another episode of theLife After I Do podcast.
We appreciate you watching andlistening.
You can follow us on all socialmedia platforms.
At TikTok At TikTok.
On TikTok.
Speaker 1 (48:53):
This isn't normally his speech Instagram.
Speaker 2 (48:55):
We're also on Facebook and YouTube.
Shouts out to all the newfollowers.
We appreciate your support welove y'all um.
You are really helping us withthese gymnastics fees.
We appreciate y'all bye greatly, um.
Keep up the good work.
Keep up the good work, um.
You can write in to us atlifeoutofjewpodcast at gmailcom
um, we look forward to seeingyou every Wednesday why you
(49:18):
sound like you giving a jobinterview and until next time no
why you sound like you giving ajob interview.
Speaker 1 (49:24):
I'm trying to be more verbose, you know.
Speaker 2 (49:26):
We appreciate you for coming in today.
Speaker 1 (49:28):
Let me start over this has been another episode of
the life after I do podcastthis has been another episode of
the life after I do podcast.
Speaker 2 (49:36):
It's one of the best podcasts hands down no, we're
not doing that.
Hands down.
We're not doing that.
Speaker 1 (49:42):
You won't no we're not on this podcast.
Speaker 2 (49:45):
You won't find a better podcast these two.
Speaker 1 (49:49):
Everything is great.
Speaker 2 (49:50):
These two, nisha G, I mean, they know their stuff.
You want to talk about informedpeople.
You want to talk about informedpeople, they know their stuff.
And let me tell you R2Cent, Ilove it.
Self-cheats Love it.
You can follow them everywhere.
They're on TikTok, they're noton Truth.
Speaker 1 (50:06):
I don't even know what Truth is.
Speaker 2 (50:07):
Hopefully soon they'll be on Truth, okay, truth
Social.
Speaker 1 (50:11):
What's the other one?
Speaker 2 (50:11):
That's my platform Truth Social.
You can follow us everywhere.
You can follow them everywhereTikTok, instagram, facebook.
Speaker 1 (50:18):
It's wonderful, everything is wonderful.
Speaker 2 (50:20):
Everywhere you can find fake news, you can follow
them, you can write it to them.
I think they have a Gmailaccount Whack.
Speaker 1 (50:27):
So silly, so silly.
All right, guys, until nextweek.
Thanks for hanging with us.
Peace booskies, peace booskies.
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