July 2, 2025 • 52 mins
Entitlement can ruin even the strongest relationships. In this episode of Our 2 Cents, we talk about real-life scenarios where people cross the line with unreasonable demands—from the mother who won’t allow her ex’s new wife to homeschool her kids, to the guest who sleeps all day but expects custom breakfasts.
We unpack why boundaries matter, how to spot when kindness is being exploited, and why sometimes saying "no" is the most loving choice you can make.
Don’t miss this conversation about respect, boundaries, and standing firm against entitled behavior.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Daddy said this bullshit to me.
Now, all of a sudden, you needsome help medically.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Now you want no sweetheart, I wouldn't want to
try to buy my way into your life.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
I don't want you to feel like you owe me anything.
We know you don't like me.
I don't want you to feel likeyou owe me.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
If you don't like me, you don't like my money.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
So you know, it is what it is, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
I for you.
I'll pray for you.
Wish you the best.
My bishop does great prayers.
Hey, everybody, and welcomeback to another episode of Life
After I Do Podcast.
Thanks for joining us foranother week of Shanannigans.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Cause you let a Shanann once you're going to
Shanann again we're going toShanann again.
And again and again.
I love me a good Shanann.
We're doing Shanann again, andagain and again.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
I love me a good Shanann.
Wait a minute, it wasn't hername, sorry, my brain just went
somewhere else, to one of mytrue crimes.
Oh, wow, and I believe it was apretty popular case.
I think her name was Shanann.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Okay, we're not going to do that.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Hey, booskies, hi, how are you doing?
Speaker 1 (01:22):
I'm great.
How are you?
You look good, thank you.
You look great yourself.
Let's just say you look good.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
You look good, you look good, thank you.
You look great too, you lookgood.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Thank you, honey.
Everybody think you taller thanme.
Why?
Because you said higher than mein the videos.
Oh, because sometimesDefinitely not taller than him.
She sitting on all that ass,definitely she sitting on all
that ass.
I mean I do way more than you,so I guess you sitting on all
that ass, yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Sure.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Junk in the trunk Ass thighs.
Smother me, hammies, smother me, sprinkle me baby.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Hey, oh is that the Twisted song in old school.
That is E-40.
Is that the Twisted song?
Speaker 1 (02:01):
in old school.
That is E-40.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
E-40 yes.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Who, by the way, is like not aging, just like
Pharrell Williams.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
He's a vampire.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
I was like me and my sister was talking about that
yesterday.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
That's that slurring cane.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Something I said.
Listen, I'm not hating, theylook great, look great, they
look fantastic.
I was like, okay, I want to belike y'all when I grow up.
40 water, I want to be likethem when I grow up Big
time-a-time-a 40 water Sprinkleme baby, sprinkle me man.
(02:36):
That should be vibe check nextweek.
Oh it might be.
Yeah, that might be the vibecheck.
You going to do a whole verse,no.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Because you don't know all the words.
I don't.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I can try to learn them.
My hands hurt, wow, I can tryto learn them.
But how was your week, booskies?
My week was good, that's good.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Yeah, cause he, good Cause he good Cause he good.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yes, it was a good week.
You're knee deep into summerbreak knee deep in the summer
break this, this child, and herstomach.
She trying, she trying to comeat me with the summer stomach
and I was like I said, we're notdoing it.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Say it again I told her.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
I said listen, snacks close at 8 pm, my kitchen
closes at 9 pm and I thinkthat's pretty darn generous
considering that your normalbedtime is 7 30 and she'd be up
to 4 am and so since she's onsummer break and she does not
have a bedtime, dad has told hershe doesn't have to have a
bedtime.
That child is up 4 am.
Like she came in vampire hourslike my sister has.
(03:37):
My sister's been here for theweek and this morning when she
got up she was like what is itthat your daughter be doing?
She was like she was up allnight.
She was like I went upstairsshe had magic tricks in the
hallway.
She didn't most signs.
I say yeah, because she set upher show.
Like when I got up this morningand I walked out of our bedroom
she had made uh, she makessigns Like when she puts on a
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show or something she'll makelike a headliner sign and it'll
have the time that the showstarts, the time that the show
ends, the name of the show, andthen she puts like arrows, like
directions to which bedroom togo to to see the show.
It's actually really cute.
And so when I walked out of thebedroom this morning and I saw
all the the signs and stuff inthe hallway, I said oh, she must
have she put on a show.
(04:19):
And then I looked down thehallway and her magic box was on
the floor and I said this babydidn't put on a whole magic show
because her and I stayed up to.
I stayed up with her until 11and we were playing barbie shop
to 11.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
So I still think it's that ball y'all play barbie
shop.
Y'all literally go shopping asbarbies at the barbie store.
Yes, women gonna shop, nomatter what they were.
Women going to shop, no matterwhat.
Listen.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
I had four clients who had to get ready for a
swimming pool ball.
Oh, okay, okay, they had to getready for a swimming pool ball,
okay, so my first client whocame in her name was Christy.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
And her request was she wanted a dress that she
could dance in but also get intothe water.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
I didn't know they could make those yes, and so I
had the perfect thing for her.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
So, you know, all my customers left happy, satisfied.
Two of them were matching withwatches, you know.
So it was great.
I mean, you know.
Girl mom that's girl mom stuff.
See, he won't stay up for twohours and play.
Uh, barbie shop no and that'swhat I'd be trying to tell him.
I'd be like you you tired, Ihad to do a whole day.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
I'm gonna tell her, if barbie up past 10, she doing
something she's gonna be doing,she's fast she's not hot in the
crotch bye.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
And then.
Then she wanted to break outthe Barbie camper and I said
listen, wait, hold on.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Did you wear blue?
Because I wore blue.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
No, I had blue on first.
No, you didn't Cop.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Anyway, stop the cat.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Then she wanted to break out the Barbie camper and
I was like boo, it's 11 o'clock,I'm yawning, left eye keeps
going to sleep.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
We got the way your melatonin, the way your natural
melatonin set up.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I said.
I said, babe, can we, can weresume tomorrow please?
I said, but I had a great time.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
My quarter's on way too high.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
I need to cut it I was like girl, I got the gym in
the morning, I'm not going to beno good, it's a leg day.
I have to get sleep before legfour leg day, because it's not
gonna work and I'm still sore.
So I was like I gotta go to bedand she was like okay, mom,
she's like thanks for playingwith me.
I was like thank you.
I'm happy that all of ourclients loved their outfits
today, okay, so yeah, prettymuch mommed all week.
(06:36):
All right, trying to, you know,keep at bay, trying to manage
the, the household, the snacksin particular.
So you know.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I was going to tell you this houseguest was about to
get evicted.
Goodbye.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
But yeah, other than that, everything was good,
that's good.
How was your week?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
I'm happy you had a good week.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Yeah, I had a decent week.
I can't complain.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
My week was full of responsibility, oh look at that,
look at you.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Were you lifing hard, too hard?
And then you know as cute asthis dog is, she's starting to
stress me out.
The dog that you wanted, thedog that yeah, I got to go out.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
You know I have a long weekend of sprinkler repair
ahead of me, mm-hmm, mm-hmmahead of me, mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
I just want to.
I just want to put it on therecord that we lost both of our
dogs like over the span of twoyears.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
It was like two years ago.
Two years ago, yeah, so it'sthe last one past.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
We lost both of our dogs and he's been trying to get
another dog in here and for thelongest time I have said I'm
not ready for another dog, Idon't want to bear the risk.
That's exactly what I said.
I wasn't ready for another dog.
I also just wanted to like havethe house be like, not have the
responsibilities of having apet, because you know those who
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have pets, you know there's aresponsibility to pets, and
especially for me, since I'm theone that's primarily home most
of the time, that would have tobe here with said pet.
But anywho, we ended up gettinga dog and her name is Macy and
she's beautiful and she isactually a great dog.
She's just in her puppy stagesright now and, let's be real, we
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haven't had a puppy in like 16years.
Really, really.
And so this is the energy I wastrying to explain to him that I
was not necessarily in the moodto deal with, but he was like,
no, we need a dog.
I was like, okay, we'll get adog.
And now she didn't chew up allthe damn sprinkler wires in the
backyard and killed half of mygrass on the favorite side of my
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yard.
So now he's got to deal withthat.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
We're going to get it back and, like always, she
always interrupts my week.
I never interrupt hers.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Always she interrupts my week.
Don't do that, don't start.
Don't start with that voice,don't start with that voice.
Don't, do it, don't do it, I'mjust trying to have her.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Don't do it.
But my overall no, it was good,it was cool.
Nothing, it was a bounce backweek for me mentally, so it was
good.
Yeah, had another good therapysession today.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Got some things in perspective for you.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
You know?
Yeah, you know, and it's nicewhen you can talk about.
That can relate to what you say.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Yes, you know it's comforting.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
When they know that you alright.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
When they know what.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
That you alright, that you just you trying to work
through it the best way you can.
Today she was like so we're not, oh, so we're using Coping
skills this week.
We wasn't dealing with it, wejust coping in distraction.
I said look here.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
I don't need you to come for me.
Don't come for me, cause Ididn't sit for you.
Don't come for me.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Yes, I've been coping and distracting, but it's been
working.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
It's got me through.
It's got me through Until itcomes up unexpectedly over
something small.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
I said I have not been triggered.
Yeah, that's what she's tryingto say Until something triggers
it and then you go, don't pileeverything, don't trigger me
today Because I have not beentriggered.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
I think that's the point she was making.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
My only issue?
Uh-oh, my only issue, and it'snot even when you know my
therapy is great.
My only issue, okay, is thesedamn teenagers and these summer
people in the gym.
Oh gosh, they got to work.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
Workout too, babe.
What are they supposed to do?
Speaker 1 (10:27):
But they're not working out it's social club.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Okay, well, they're getting some workout in while
they socialize.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
Get your ass out my way.
I told my trainer today.
I said look here, man.
I almost walked out the gym andwalked over to another gym to
sign up.
Bye, Goodbye, I'm sick of it.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Well, as soon as the renovations are done at the gym
that I want to go to, we can beover there.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
I'm so tired of these people on these machines, on
their phone.
Then they got the lighters, butthen they doing sets of 50.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Bye, Marie.
Who's doing sets of 50?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
The people, the people 50?
.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
You're so dramatic.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
The people on ABBA Agductor and Leg Extension
machines.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
But those are really popular machines.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Babe Doing 10 pounds Look here.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
You know, those machines are always going to be.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
I am a gym regular People know me.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
I know they know us.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
I'm not standing for this.
I expect luxury treatment Okay.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Now you sound like my friend, but she was like this
is my gym it is no, babe, thisis the gym you attend, it's not
your gym.
Look here.
She was like highly offendedthat they were like busy.
She was like this is my gym,like half the staff talked to me
okay, that means nothing atthis point.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
They might as well give me a shirt so I can tell me
that, oh, this machine isactually down for maintenance,
and then do my sets and walkaway.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Well, if you get there early enough, maybe you
could take the signs and theones that say and just tag the
things you want to use and then,when it's time for you to use,
just be that asshole to take thesign off and then sit down and
use it and then put the signback right, because you know, I
gave him when I finally got amachine that's I'm gonna get.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
I'll say you know what?
Um, she came over.
Oh, did you?
I just got here, I was threesets in, I lied, she walked away
I just got here, it don'tmatter, it don't matter I just
got Like I was on the squat rack.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
What was it On?
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Thursday here we go people and the guy was like, and
the guy was like.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
He was like, are you almost done?
And I was like I was sittingthere.
I was like I'm not.
He was like looking at me likeare you sure, because you're
just kind of sitting there, I'mon a break.
It's like I'm on a break okay,yeah, it's like.
I'm on a break.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
It's like that video.
I said to you um, uh, what wasit?
It was like it's oh, it'ssummertime.
I said don't, don't, nobodywaste.
They said something no onewastes more time or space in the
gym than somebody in there whoain't really about working out
in a power lifter what?
Speaker 2 (13:02):
oh, because of the brakes.
Yes, she's.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
He was like I gotta deal with all the women on here
doing five pounds for 50 reps.
And then here go the powerlifter, but on the same bench
for an hour and a half becausehe gotta take his seven minute
breaks, sir, I said.
He said, sir, I have a job toget to.
I'm trying to get this overwith there is.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
if you need to bench, you can always use the floor.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Oh, wow.
There is always you wouldn'thave you wouldn't have, you,
wouldn't have improvised.
I can't be mad, though, Causeuh, it was.
I forgot what day it was.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
It was squat rack and she wanted that squat rack and
she just stood out to a pub andshe said I said get on my nerves
and you're gonna wait becauseI'm not done.
Well, like, okay.
So today I was.
I couldn't find um any of likethe free benches, you know, the
ones that you move around, andall the benches at the dumbbells
were, like were full, exceptfor the one bench it's like that
big, wide one, I think, whereyou can do the decline.
One is it that where you can dothe crutches and stuff too, and
so decline preps yeah, and so Iwas like I don't want to be that
person to use it for somethingno, I don't care no more, but I
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had to do what I had to do.
I set up my camera.
Homeboy was there doing hisbench and he was looking like
are you gonna have enough room?
I was like we're gonna make itwork as you go up, I'm gonna go
down and then, when you go down,I'm gonna go up.
Because he was looking at melike she finna be all in my way.
I was like I don't know whatyou want me to do I'm gonna try
to every time you press.
(14:37):
When you press, I'm gonna godown to do my squat and then
we're gonna switch you know what?
Speaker 1 (14:42):
and the thing is is that, like, I really am one of
those guys where I don't want tomake women feel uncomfortable,
right so I try not to women.
Don't care about making y'allfeel uncomfortable at all, and
that's the point I was gettingto.
I try to be polite.
I try to be like excuse me,excuse me how many steps you
have.
And it's like I get it.
I get it.
(15:02):
You don't want, you don't wantto be approached yeah but when
I'm not, and I understand youdon't know that what I'm yeah,
what you're coming over here foryeah but, ma'am, I guarantee
you I don't care, I just needyou to get the hell off the
goddamn machine.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
I mean in in a scenario I don't really think
you're about to come up to me totalk to me.
You're coming up to me to askme a question, babe babe, let me
tell you, this is when I textyou.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
she was literally watching Netflix.
She wasn't even working out,she had Netflix on her phone.
She had to finish that part ofthe movie before she could move
on, and then she'll look around,see a smile, look at her, and
then you know, and she didn't.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
And she went right back to watching her movie and
then, when she made eye contactwith me, she did.
She did, Ma'am, you and yourfive pounds take it, and then
she just got it, and that'sanother thing.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Oh yeah, they don't wipe.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
They ain't wiping down nothing wait a minute, you,
you mentioned that and theyjust marie, they about nothing,
they don't wipe down, they leavethe weights on what the weights
are and then don't wipe shitdown like nothing.
I said how you just go?
You literally just got up andwalked away and left 1900 pounds
on there and you want me tounload it, wipe it down, reset
it, just rude just a bunch ofuntrained heathens, or the ones
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who go to the squat racks andtake all them damn dumbbells
over there.
I know it was a woman I know itwas a woman I know it was you
know I know it was especiallybecause it's only a single
dumbbell.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Yeah, it's a woman and she's struggling to get it
over there so she couldn't takeit back she struggled.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
She couldn't take it back.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
Yeah, but what we got today?
Blue Cheese.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
It's an R2-Sense episode.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
R2-Sense, r2.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Reactions seems to be you all's favorite, so we make
sure to give y'all one episodededicated to just reactions a
month.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
I know the real that I really am the favorite they.
They come from my hot tape hey,coming to see you, otis first
of all, I'm david, you're otis,let's get this.
I might get.
You might be blue, you might beblue, but you damn you ain't,
I'm not.
You know, I'm not David, I'mmore, I'm more a cornbread, a
(17:12):
Paul, yeah, are you?
I damn sure ain't, otis.
Oh, otis, okay, you know whatpeople this has been.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
I was just looking at you and I was like I remember
when you used to have your earpierced and I could see the
little hole.
I think you should do thatagain.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
I thought about getting my ears pierced again.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
No, not ears.
I didn't say ears.
Yeah, I thought I said ear.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
I thought about it.
You know I'm older now I thinkI can handle the responsibility
of an ear.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
When I was I think I can handle the responsibility of
an earring now, what You'refucking 40.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
I'm not 40, ma'am, ma'am.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
If you're closer to 40 than you are at 39.
You think you can handle theresponsibility of cleaning it
and like not hitting it.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
I can do it.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
You can do it now.
Speaker 1 (18:08):
What I can't handle is my daughter, dad, dad, what
Touching it?
I don do it.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
You can do it now.
What I can't handle is mydaughter dead Dead.
What touching it?
I don't think she would.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
I thought about it, but I'm cheap.
I'm going to go to Claire's.
I can't afford it.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
I can do it, babe.
Oh no, Babe, you know I'vepierced ears before, yeah and
they didn't come out great.
So go ahead.
Who pierced it?
I pier peers and they didn'tcome out great.
No, I want to know.
I don't know.
Babe, I just said that.
Stop saying things out of yourass.
You sound silly.
Okay, both of my piercing jobsare very successful.
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I think he's like in his late60s now and he still has that
earring.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
Okay, look here.
It's time for us to get back towhat we ought to be doing.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
Being kind to one another?
Shut up.
So what we ought to be doingbeing kind to one another, shut
up so silly.
All right, guys, let's go aheadand hop into our two streets,
okay.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Thanks, you and me.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Let's start here.
Let's see the internet in thehouse has been terrible lately.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Oh wow, let's get a party.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
All right, ready?
Am I the asshole for refusingto let my ex-husband's wife
homeschool my children?
Okay, okay, I'm a 31-year-oldfemale and I share two children
a nine-year-old boy and aneight-year-old girl with my
ex-husband Aaron.
Aaron's cheating is what endedour marriage, and before long he
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had moved in with Nicole, who's34, and her children, who are
11, 10, 8, and 6.
Aaron and Nicole have atwo-year-old together and
they're expecting another child.
Even before Aaron and Nicolemet, she homeschooled all of her
children while my kids attendpublic school.
This was mentioned as a problembefore they were even married,
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but I ignored them both.
Now this has come up again andthey are being a thorn in my
side about it.
Nicole said that it's unfairfor her children to see my
children go to school while hersdo not.
She told me her kids havebecome jealous and it's causing
issues for her parenting and forher and Aaron's family.
I told her this was not myproblem and she needed to figure
(20:13):
out how to manage that on herown, as this is the life of
blended families.
Not everything will be the sameor equal for the kids from
different marriages.
Facts Aaron asked me tohomeschool a few times and I
told him that I would not evenentertain the idea.
He even asked the kids who wereworried when they came to me
about it.
They didn't want to leave theirschool, their friends or their
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teachers, and they didn't wantto stay home all day with
Nicole's kids.
I reassured them that I wouldnot be saying yes to any type of
homeschooling for them.
Now Nicole and Aaron are on amission to make me agree to
Nicole's homeschooling my kidsalongside hers Apparently.
They have the two-year-oldstarting into some form of pre-K
homeschooling and they feelthat it's only fair for my kids
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to join in on that too.
I said absolutely not.
I even had my lawyer send theirlawyer a letter officially
stating my position on this.
My lawyer has also documentedeverything.
They asked their lawyer to takethis back to court and get a
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judge to overrule me.
But their lawyer told them thisThank you, and to keep Nicole
from playing a bigger role inthe lives of our children and to
prevent sibling bonding betweenNicole's kids and mine, thank
you.
I told them that I have manyreasons to say no and that they
just needed to accept it, and Istopped replying altogether.
But since school ended for thesummer, I've been inundated with
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pressure from them over this.
They are worried that I'll sendthe kids to school in September
as planned, which will happen.
I feel like the kids wanting togo to school should also count,
and I told Aaron this before.
But am I the asshole for notbeing willing to try?
Is it really so hard to believethat I want my kids to attend
school normally.
Am I the asshole?
Speaker 1 (22:04):
No, Absolutely not.
Fuck Aaron and Nicole.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Why is that always your go-to Fuck Aaron and Nicole
?
Why is that always your go tofuck Aaron and Nicole really?
Speaker 1 (22:15):
really look here.
What it is is that Nicole don'twant to have to keep answering
these questions and letting herown kids down well, because the
kids.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Well, because her kids are seeing that they get to
leave every day.
Her kids are talking to Aaron'skids.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
Well, because her kids are seeing that they get to
leave every day, her kids aretalking to aaron's kids, and
aaron's kids are telling her howmuch fun school is and that you
and that I actually get a.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
You get a chance to get away from your mama or or
that they have friends and stuffat school and since they're
homeschooled, you know we don'tknow what the dynamic is, but
like her kids said, we don'twant to be at home all day, so
the kids are probably beinghomeschooled and then they're
home all day and they're like wedon't want to be cooped up in
the house with you and nicoleand my dad they don't want to be
with yeah, we don't.
We don't want to be up in herewith y'all like that.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
That's a big family dynamic he had before.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Before.
You guys had a family dynamic.
We, we were a whole family.
Speaker 1 (23:09):
It's diabolical for the homewrecker to complain
about something.
How do you know she's?
Speaker 2 (23:14):
a homewrecker Because Aaron cheated on.
Oh, you're right, I forgotabout that part.
Speaker 1 (23:17):
It's diabolical for the homewrecker to complain
about interrupting familydynamics.
You are.
She needed a father for herchildren and now she has one,
and the other kids have to go toschool because they don't trust
you right, and he's so happenedto be tethered.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
So I mean, what can?
Speaker 1 (23:36):
you do, but you're not.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
But you're not.
You're not an asshole, becauseyou still have to do what's in
the best interest for yourchildren.
And aaron then was your kidbefore y'all.
You and nicole came together tobe his one.
You and your ex-wife weretogether as one and y'all agree.
Obviously, you agreed that yourchildren going to school was
perfectly fine.
But now you married to Nicoleand Nicole is planting things
different in your head Now, allof a sudden it's like, oh no, I
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don't want my kids going toschool.
Well too bad, so sad.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
Now we've got a problem.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Yeah, we.
We've already disrupted them byyou leaving.
We're not going to take theirschooling away too.
Look here, no, look here, I'mnot doing it, I'm not doing it.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
I wish nothing but the best for the children and
nothing but agony and pain.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
For Aaron and Nicole.
Bye, and they cheating asses.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
Bye.
Well, we don't know.
Nicole was cheating.
Well you're right.
Aaron is the one that messed up.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
But Aaron's a homewrecker.
Okay, all right, I wouldn't saysomething, but I was told she
gave me a list of things I can'tsay.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
I did not give him a list of things I cannot say I
did not.
Do not sit up here and lie.
I don't know why you like tolie.
I think it's like cookingbreakfast for my niece and
nephew.
I'm 36.
My sister's 34.
She's recently moved into myhouse about two months ago with
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her two kids, a seven year oldboy and a four year old little
girl After she ended a reallybad relationship.
I've always been an early ishriser and like to get up and
make myself some breakfastaround seven or eight am.
Nothing spectacular, justwhatever I'm feeling for the day
.
When my sister moved in, Irealized quickly that she liked
to sleep.
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In Some days she was up as lateas 1 pm.
I gave her the benefit of thedoubt, since I knew how hard it
was for her breakup and whatshe's going through.
Since my sister slept so latedaily she wouldn't get up and
take care of her kids.
I got into a routine with myniece and nephew that basically
whatever I cooked for myself forbreakfast, I'd make enough for
them as well.
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Until the other morning I wokeup and had an urge to make
huevos rancheros.
The kids immediately startedcomplaining that they did not
want to eat that and that's notsomething they want.
And they wanted somethingdifferent.
I was nice and ended up makingthem pancakes, since it's not
their fault that their mom isreally struggling.
The next morning I was makingbreakfast potatoes and eggs but
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all I heard was we don't wantthat, we want something else.
So again I obliged, so again Iobliged.
Finally, after three morningsof unwanted food critics getting
a separate meal, I finally toldthem I'm no longer cooking two
different meals for breakfast.
If you don't like what I'mmaking, go ask your mom to get
up and make you something else.
So they went upstairs to wakeher, but she still didn't come
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downstairs until after 1 pm.
The kids immediately startedcomplaining that I quote unquote
refused to feed them, and mysister was pissed.
She started in about how theyneed to be fed by a certain time
and a bunch of other thingsthat she said to try to
intentionally hurt me.
I snapped and I told her look,I know you're depressed, but
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wake up and take care of yourfucking kids instead of
expecting me to do it.
She got quiet after that.
Look, I know you're depressed,but wake up and take care of
your fucking kids Instead ofexpecting me to do it.
She got quiet after that and isstill giving me the cold
shoulder, but I know she'sexpecting me to apologize.
Am I the asshole Hell?
No, absolutely not.
Fuck her.
Here you go.
Speaker 1 (27:05):
Not the kids.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Those are your nieces and your nephews, not your
children, and responsibilities.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Right say it again they are your niece and your
nephew.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
I'm already doing you a solid by letting you be in my
house said again you coming tomy house is already disrupting
my routine.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Wait a minute.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
I just don't think I don't think people be really
understanding that like even,even if it's family.
Yes, I've opened my, my, myhome to you.
I've opened my resources to you.
That's fine.
whatever, I'm trying to help you, but just like if I came to
your residence and you've openedup your residence to me, just
my presence there has alteredyour routine in some way, shape
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or form.
Now, if you bring kids into it,okay, come on, come on.
I'm trying to be courteous andI'm trying to be empathetic and
understanding, because I knowyou're having a hard time and
you are clearly depressed PreachBishop, but you still have
children to attend to PreachBishop, I'm not these children's
parent.
Speaker 1 (27:58):
That's a word they need to hear.
Bye, DeMille.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
I'm not these children's parent.
I was doing you a solid byfeeding the kids, so at least 1
pm going on an intermittentfasting that they didn't ask for
.
Okay, come on now.
I can't with you.
You're doing way too much, butno, you're not the asshole.
And then for you to turn aroundand get upset and then tell me
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they need to be fed by a certaintime.
Well, what time was you feedingthem prior to you being
depressed?
You know what I'm finna say.
That's what I want to know.
I know I would have been likeso what time did you feed them
prior to your depression?
You know what I'm finna say.
That's what I wanna know.
I would've been like so.
What time did you feed himPrior to your depression?
You know what I'm gonna say.
What are you at yet what?
That's probably who she left.
That's probably who she left.
I'm uncle.
Speaker 1 (28:42):
AKA Funkle.
I'm the fun uncle, I'm Funkle,I don't do breakfast.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
What if I didn't cook at all?
What if I didn't make anythingat all?
The babies wouldn't eat untilafter 1pm.
Speaker 1 (28:56):
What if I wanted a bear club choice from Black Bear
this morning?
Speaker 2 (28:59):
I would absolutely leave my house and go get one,
because I don't have anything.
I'm leaving my house and I'mgoing to go sit there and eat it
peacefully, because I don'thave any responsibility that
calls me this early in themorning, except for myself, yeah
.
So not only am I allowing you tostay here, I've also allowed
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you to take time and bedepressed yeah, because I'm
trying to, because I understandwhat you're going yeah, I
understand what you're goingthrough, but don't like, instead
of being upset and saying like,oh, they need to be fed a
certain time, a simple you knowwhat I do?
Apologize.
I'm so grateful for how youknow, you've been helping me.
I'm, I'm, I'm trying my best.
I'm gonna just try to like getup and make like you know, let
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me, is that, is that a womanthing?
Speaker 1 (29:44):
what?
What she did, that's a womanthing.
What?
Because I feel like menunderstand that what needs to be
done still has to be done Idon't think.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
I don't think that's a woman thing I think men go
through depressive uh stages too, where it makes them unable to
do things okay, like even thoughyou know that I think any
anybody, man or woman and you.
You should understand thatthere there was things that
needed to be done when you weregoing through your depressive
stage.
That didn't always get done,but you knew it needed to get
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done.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
But it wasn't to this extent.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
It wasn't to this extent, but I'm just saying,
based off of what you said, isthis like a woman thing?
It's not a woman, it's a humanthing.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
But I'm saying, even when I was depressed, the
important things that needed tobe done got done.
Speaker 2 (30:25):
Well, that's also because you liked shelter and
you liked to eat.
So she don't like her kids.
She do like her kids, but shealready got shelter and she
knows there's food there.
So I guess, those are the twothings that she knows her kids
Are in a safe environment.
If you, if she didn't havethose things, she would probably
have no choice.
But to try to like Managethrough her depression.
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You know Better than what she'sdoing, but the kids are In a
safe environment.
Everybody has a roof Over theirhead.
I'm in a trusted person's, youknow, space, space.
So yes, if I can have my mymoment, I'm going to take my
moment.
I think that's a human thing.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
Let me just say this Like I said at the top of the
episode, this week I've beencoping and distracting.
She needs to cope and distract.
Okay, get that shit done.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
Yeah, I mean.
Well, she is now because herbrother said, because her
brother said I'm not going to beand he's not the asshole, I'm
not going to be making a specialrequest.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
And I wouldn't apologize.
Speaker 2 (31:23):
Especially because it sounds like he doesn't have
children.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
The thing is it seemed like he sat there.
He sat there and he was lettingher get it off her chest and he
was like I ain't going to saynothing or whatever, whatever.
And then she pushed the up.
What you're not gonna do is bedisrespectful to me in my home
right, you're in my home.
And when he reached his limitand told her the truth, then her
feelings got hurt and now she'sbeing silent because she want
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to apologize.
I wouldn't apologize, I'm notgonna apologize.
Dwell in it, bath in it,breathe it in.
I can't enjoy it.
Goodbye, enjoy it.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
Um, okay, here we go.
Oh, I pressed a little buttonthere.
My friend said that I owe herhalf my inheritance because her
family quote unquote didn't havethat.
Speaker 1 (32:08):
Oh wow, okay.
Speaker 2 (32:09):
So my great aunt passed away and left me a decent
inheritance Nothing wild, butenough to pay off my student
loans and set aside for a littlebit of savings.
I told my friend we'll call herRachel.
Over lunch.
She got quiet and then said wow, must be nice.
I bet you help out your friendswho weren't so lucky growing up
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.
I laughed and I said somethinglike I mean, I'll probably treat
my friends to dinner more often.
She stared at me serious, deadserious, and said no, like
actually help.
We've known each other forever.
I think it'd be fair for you tosplit it with me.
I thought she was joking.
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She wasn't.
She then brought up all thetimes that she covered my coffee
in college and said this isjust the universe's way of
evening out the score in college.
And said this is just theuniverse's way of evening out
the score.
Needless to say, I didn't sharea dime.
She blocked me on Instagram andtold all of our friends that I
ghosted her after I got rich.
Sorry, rachel, the only thingI'm splitting is the check with
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people who actually support me.
Am I an asshole?
Not at all.
This is hilarious.
I think that.
I think it's hilarious thatpeople would think that they're
entitled to something that'sreally not theirs.
And just because we friends youwon't have.
She didn't say that's like.
She didn't say can you help mewith my car note?
She didn't say can you help mewith a bill?
She said I think it's only fairthat you split it with me, girl
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.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
That that's like, okay, that's like, put it this
way, that's like my brother,right?
My brother and I, the beautifulLisa, we have different fathers
, right?
Let's just say, his father lefthim with a lot of money, right?
Hey bro, we got the same mama.
You got to give me half that.
That sounds ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (33:54):
We have the same mama .
Her aunt left her something.
Speaker 1 (33:58):
Right, her blood-related relative left her
something that had nothing to dowith you, mm-hmm.
And so now you got mad becauseshe won't help you.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
And then you're going to block and ghost her out like
she ghosted you and told alltheir friends, oh, like she
basically acting brand new nowthat she got money.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
So she got money and now she People love to play
victim, and Audacity is beingbought in bulk.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
Because it's on sale.
I told you it's like 99% off.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
At this point I don't even think they want to Costco,
no more.
I think they going to workCostco if they survive.
For them they done moved up.
Speaker 2 (34:31):
They cut out the middleman in Audacity and they
went straight to the stores.
Speaker 1 (34:36):
They going straight to the stores to buy their
audacity, because this is wild.
Speaker 2 (34:39):
And you know what's wild is that?
Speaker 1 (34:42):
people are serious.
I can see.
If you got something I'll belike go ahead and get my half
who me yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
That's my half.
I mean we live in California.
As long as the assets are goingdirectly to my side of the
account, it's not consideredmarital.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
Okay, that's not how that works at all it is.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
I looked it up.
It's only like that in Texas.
Speaker 1 (34:59):
That's not how it works at all.
That's wild.
No, you're not that hoe.
Speaker 2 (35:04):
No, you're not the asshole.
Speaker 1 (35:05):
Honestly, she did you a favor because it seemed like
maybe she just kept you aroundbecause she was waiting for when
she'd be able to benefit off ofyou.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
See, and here's the thing, it's like, yes, okay, if
you guys have been best friends,if she knows that you're in a
tight spot or something, shewould probably, on her own, be
like you know what?
I do have a little bit ofsomething, let me help you with
that.
She would probably do that onher own Right.
But the fact that you coming toher and saying you should split
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it with me and it's theuniverse's way of evening it out
when you covered coffees for mein college Girl, covering
coffees and covering house billsare completely that's
completely different.
Speaker 1 (35:46):
And then you and you making yourself entitled to
something that was left for mefrom my family is wild and my
thing is in my eyes, she was afake friend from the beginning,
because if you're only taggingalong for the ride for the
chance you might be able to getsomething.
Yeah, I mean I.
I mean maybe it's just me.
Speaker 2 (36:06):
I don't, I don't expect nothing but friendship,
right, and if a friend wants tohelp me, like, okay, I
appreciate that, but I expectnothing, I'm not gonna ask you
for it I'm not gonna demand thatyou give me, if my, if my best
friend won the lottery right nowand she hit Bye, she's giving
us half.
If my best friend hit thelottery for a hundred mil right
(36:29):
now yeah, and I know that shehas a hundred million dollars
I'm not going to ask her foranything.
I'm not going to ask her foranything.
Now.
Are you going to expectsomething?
Speaker 1 (36:40):
That's different that's different.
Speaker 2 (36:42):
That's different, that's a lot different.
But I would never be like, okay, like, but you guys have a
hundred million dollars.
It's like the one from lastweek when he was telling his
brother yeah, but you have nokids, so you can at least give
me three hundred dollars a monthfor mine but I would not go to
my best friend and be like okay,so you can't spare 50 000, but
you just want like, okay, so youcan't spare 50,000, but you
just want 100 million, you can'tspare 50,000.
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I would never do that, but Ihonestly believe our friends if
they want enough oh, they wouldI think they would, because we
would be that way like if I, ifI want 100 million dollars, I
would.
I would call my friend and belike look, I don't know.
I don't know what y'allsituation is right now, but I
knowall are responsible adults,so it can't be that bad.
However, I'm going to sendy'all a check because you're my
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bestie and I love you.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
You're doing it wrong .
I won't send no check.
Speaker 2 (37:31):
Why.
Speaker 1 (37:32):
You got to pay it off yourself.
If you send them a check, thenthey got to pay taxes on it.
Speaker 2 (37:36):
Oh yeah, that's right , you're right, I would just pay
their house off.
Speaker 1 (37:39):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (37:39):
Yeah, pay their house off.
Cause if, like, I'll pay the,I'll pay your house off and like
, whatever your, that's probablylike your biggest, your biggest
debt is your house, right, andthat frees up everything else.
Cause imagine, imagine havingyour home and you don't have to
pay your mortgage.
Speaker 1 (37:57):
Oh, 15 more years, my goodness, 15 more years, great
I Mortgage.
Oh, 15 more years.
Speaker 2 (38:02):
My goodness, 15 more years, great I'm going to try to
get it down to 10.
Okay, here we go.
Am I the asshole for droppingout of my friend's wedding after
she sent me a 47 itembridesmaids requirements list?
Women is wild.
Speaker 1 (38:17):
Women be tripping.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
So my friend Sarah is getting married in a few months
and she asked me to be abridesmaid back in October.
I was honored and I said yes,of course, fast forward to last
week.
She sends the entire bridalparty a google doc titled
bridesmaid expectations andrequirements.
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I thought it would be like wearthis color.
Here's the dresses I like.
Maybe some basic timeline stuff.
Nope 47 numbered items 47.
Here are some highlights Onemandatory spray tans.
She's booking appointments foreveryone $400.
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Hair and makeup non-negotiable.
Can't post any photos from theevent without her approval.
And, my personal favorite,we're expected to contribute
$200 each toward herbachelorette party, on top of
planning and paying for theentire thing.
Item number 47 was literallyremember.
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This is my day and your job isto make me shine.
I texted her saying that thiswas beyond what I could commit
to and I needed to step down.
She called me crying, sayingthat real friends would do
anything, even if it takes somesacrifice.
Now more than half of ourfriend group is asking if they
can see the list, because theyjust don't believe that it's
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real.
Am I the asshole for backingout?
Not at all.
No, not at all.
Uh-uh, I can't do it, not atall.
Speaker 1 (39:51):
I can't do it.
Real friends will understandthat they happiness ain't your
responsibility.
Can't do it.
I'm sorry that your happinessain't their responsibility.
That's why I did a wedding.
If you send me an itemized listof what you expect and you
expect me to come out of mypocket for for everything, so I
did a wedding.
Speaker 2 (40:12):
When did I do that wedding?
Was that January?
Speaker 1 (40:16):
I think I forgot.
Speaker 2 (40:18):
I did a wedding up in the mountains when it was like
snowing, like snow wing, Okay,Like snow in snowing Um, and the
bride the the sister-in-law,cause it was her brother who was
getting married.
So the sister, um, his sisterwas the wedding planner and so
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she was telling me about thelists and the wants and stuff
that the bride wanted.
Mind you, they got married inthe mountains when it was
snowing.
She wanted everyone inopen-toed shoes with no
stockings Outside.
Speaker 1 (40:56):
In the snow.
Speaker 2 (40:57):
In the snow.
Speaker 1 (40:58):
I know.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
Where it was snowing.
I got all that and she was notbudging and all the women in the
room were like is there any waywe can talk to her, like the
videographer?
And I almost got stuck likejust coming down the aisle we
couldn't even get like all ofour equipment up because it was
snowing and then it was underall the trees.
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So when the sun started to comeout, it was melting and it
basically was raining and theground was slippery.
They had the venue.
There was a venue that was onsite where everything could be
transferred inside.
She was hell bent on.
We are still getting marriedoutside.
The planner was like it's almostlike raining outside because
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we're under all the trees.
The chairs were getting wet.
She said you guys have to goout there and wipe down the
chairs before it starts.
She was telling her.
But the chairs are sittingunder the trees, which are still
, like you know, raining fromthe snow.
And then the chairs we had toshovel to even put there because
the snow.
She did not budge, not one bit.
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She was like it's my day and Iwant to be buried outside.
You guys can deal with the snow.
I said, well, I'm going tofinish my job and.
I'm going to leave because if Islip and break my ass on this
ground, I feel like the brideshould be allowed to make any
reasonable requests.
Yeah, yeah, because that was, Imean, like the wedding thing.
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There was a whole building.
We could have moved everythinginto the building and it still
would have been beautiful.
They decorated the building,everything.
She was like I'm not having it,it's my wedding day and things
are going to go the way that Iwant it, just like here.
When she said, remember, thisis my day and it's your job to
make me shine, did she talk toGod about the snow Shut up, babe
(42:51):
.
Did she talk to God about thesnow, maybe he didn't, maybe
that's what it is.
Maybe he didn't get the list.
She just sent him the list.
Speaker 1 (42:57):
He didn't get the list.
Speaker 2 (43:02):
Shut up, baby.
He didn't get the list.
Jesus didn't know.
You didn't send him his GoogleDoc.
How was he supposed to know?
That's wild.
Speaker 1 (43:14):
That's crazy.
It's JC33.
Speaker 2 (43:20):
JC33?
.
Hey y'all.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
At gmailcom.
Speaker 2 (43:25):
You're so ridiculous.
No, you're not the asshole,Because, okay, yes, there's
responsibilities thatbridesmaids have right.
But you can't be takingadvantage of people.
Oh, most people do.
Oh, of course.
There are some women who reallythink like it's my wedding day,
so, like here I am in themiddle and everything else is
going to revolve around me.
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It's no different from howy'all act on y'all birthday.
No.
Speaker 1 (43:49):
It's just greater.
Speaker 2 (43:50):
It's just greater, that's different, because with
your wedding day, it's not justyou, it's you in a whole, it's
not Not just you.
Your birthday, your birthdaywas the day you were birthed.
Speaker 1 (44:02):
You came into the world on your own, so you can be
about yourself as a bride.
Speaker 2 (44:06):
Oh, I wasn't even about that life Like I literally
canceled our wedding, likemonths before.
Speaker 1 (44:11):
Because your mama got in your skin.
Speaker 2 (44:13):
No Well, because I was just over the whole thing,
let me talk to you.
Speaker 1 (44:17):
As a bride, uh-huh, when you were planning the big
thing, yes, were you taking meinto account absolutely?
Speaker 2 (44:23):
he wasn't.
Oh my gosh, maurice, you aresuch a favorite teller stop the
cat I ran everything by you.
What was your?
What was your response?
What did you tell me?
Speaker 1 (44:33):
whatever, you want babe.
Speaker 2 (44:34):
No, you told me, just tell.
Just tell me the time and placeand I'll show up that's it
because I, so I tried to involve, I tried to involve you because
I didn't believe it was gonnahappen I tried to involve you
and you said just tell me thetime and place and I'll show up.
And then that just was pissingme off too.
Oh well, you, you know youshould I was like wow, maybe I
shouldn't go through this withthis marriage, if this is how
he's gonna act before you shouldtell me I should have looked at
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that as a red flag really you.
Speaker 1 (44:57):
You should have told me Stay strong.
Bye.
Speaker 2 (44:59):
Stay strong.
Goodbye, yeah, but anyway,you're not.
You're not the asshole.
Speaker 1 (45:05):
Is she not?
No, no, I would have left too.
Speaker 2 (45:07):
Yeah, ain't nobody got time for that Girl, please
Goodbye.
Speaker 1 (45:15):
Be like just like Nicole and sleep with her
husband.
Speaker 2 (45:18):
What, nicole from the story?
Bye maurice, you got one moreuh yeah, we can do one more.
Speaker 1 (45:25):
We think we got time for one more.
Let's see the archive.
Speaker 2 (45:26):
I'm trying to see which one we can do for the last
one.
Let's do, we'll do this one.
Okay, ready, I'm waiting on you, let Okay.
Am I the asshole for how Iresponded when my husband asked
me to pay for our stepson, mystepson's surgery?
Oh, wow, okay.
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I've been with my husband forabout five years.
He has a son from his previousmarriage.
Let's call him Ethan.
Ethan moved in with us when hewas 16.
From the start, things werevery difficult.
Ethan was hostile toward me.
He never liked me and had keptme at an arm's length and
consistently hurt my feelingswith his mean-spirited,
offensive comments about my ageor living situation.
He made it clear that he didnot want me in his life.
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While his dad was strugglingfinancially, I offered to help
pay for college.
I did this because I wanted tohelp, but my husband's response
was you can't buy your way intobeing his mom.
Oh shit, I'm out.
That hurt me a lot, but OK, Irespected their choice and I
didn't push the matter.
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Ethan recently got sick and nowneeds surgery.
He's been sick for four monthsand was using medication until
now.
He needs surgery.
He reached out to his dadasking for financial help.
My husband came to me and askedif I'd be willing to contribute
, hoping this might be a chanceto rebuild a relationship.
I said no.
He said this could be theperfect opportunity to make
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things right between Ethan and I.
I said I wouldn't want to buymy way into being his mom.
I said I wouldn't want to buymy way into being his mom.
He didn't take it well.
He said I was being cruel andpetty, and now he's even saying
that he's consideringreconsidering our marriage
because he thinks that I shouldput the pettiness aside and help
Ethan regardless.
But I'm still refusing.
(47:15):
Am I the asshole?
Speaker 1 (47:16):
No, no, no, not at all.
Look here as as, as a boardmember, a sitting chair.
Board members of the pettycommittee.
Speaker 2 (47:34):
But he's sick.
I don't give a damn that he'ssick.
Speaker 1 (47:40):
I've tried to help.
You've been nothing but alittle shit to me since your
mama was replaced.
I ain't the reason your daddyand your mama fell out, but
you've been giving me that shitthis whole time.
I tried to help you withcollege and your daddy said this
bullshit to me.
Now, all of a sudden, you needsome help medically.
Speaker 2 (47:59):
Now you want no sweetheart, I wouldn't want to
try to buy my wife into yourlife.
Speaker 1 (48:04):
I don't want you to feel like you owe me anything.
We know you don't like me.
I don't want you to feel likeyou owe me.
Speaker 2 (48:09):
I don't want you.
If you don't like me, you don'tlike my money.
Speaker 1 (48:11):
So you know it is what it is.
I'm sorry.
I can pray, for my bishop doesgreat prayers.
I'll give you his number.
Maybe your dad can do a bakedrive.
A bake drive, maurice, yeah, atoy drive, or something you know
.
Bake sale, gofundme are popularnowadays.
These things are popular amongthe youth, you know.
Speaker 2 (48:34):
I can't with you.
You're so terrible.
Speaker 1 (48:37):
I mean, come on all this time, Probably since he was
16.
I can understand being mad atyour parents for that and all
that, but you're and I tried.
Speaker 2 (48:49):
Yeah, it's not like she didn't try.
And the way the dad respondedwith you can't buy.
I wasn't trying to buy my wayinto his life.
I was literally just trying tobe helpful because, as a parent.
Speaker 1 (48:59):
That's what I would want to do.
And the thing about the collegething it's not even so much
that she was trying to help theboy, she was trying to help her
husband, right, right, when hefelt like he was actually
fulfilling whatever duties hefelt.
So don't turn my money down forthis.
Speaker 2 (49:18):
Yeah, and then try to turn my money up because?
But the way the dad is thinkingit's like college,
life-threatening, possiblesurgery or whatever.
Well, you know what people?
Speaker 1 (49:29):
life comes at you fast bye marie stupid and so you
, life comes at you fast, so youhave to learn how to treat
people correctly, because younever know when you're going to
need someone.
Now I bet you if 16-year-oldEthan knew that when Ethan was
older he would need whatever hername is her money to be for a
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surgery, he probably would havebehaved a little differently.
But since hindsight is 20-20and you can't get it back.
Speaker 2 (49:57):
Well, he can't imagine that when he was 16.
Yeah, he was 16.
Like he can't imagine that whenhe was 16.
Yeah, he was he's 16.
Speaker 1 (50:02):
Like he was going through it.
See, the thing is people isthat apparently, not only does
audacity come for free, beingnice is free as well.
Yeah, being a good person don'tcost you nothing.
Speaker 2 (50:17):
Being a good person does not cost you anything.
Speaker 1 (50:19):
So, since you want to be a little shit, stay strong,
stay strong.
Stay strong, stay strong.
I'm going to pray for you.
I can't you in my prayers, Ican't you in my prayers.
Speaker 2 (50:32):
I can't All.
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Speaker 1 (51:39):
y'all also, through connection, support our daughter
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We appreciate that.
Speaker 2 (51:45):
Goodbye.
Yes, so yeah, thanks again,guys, and we will see you all
next Wednesday and we'll staystrong.
Until then, Peace booskies,Peace booskies.
Daddy said this bullshit to me.
Now, all of a sudden, you needsome help medically.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Now you want no sweetheart, I wouldn't want to
try to buy my way into your life.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
I don't want you to feel like you owe me anything.
We know you don't like me.
I don't want you to feel likeyou owe me.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
If you don't like me, you don't like my money.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
So you know, it is what it is, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
I for you.
I'll pray for you.
Wish you the best.
My bishop does great prayers.
Hey, everybody, and welcomeback to another episode of Life
After I Do Podcast.
Thanks for joining us foranother week of Shanannigans.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Cause you let a Shanann once you're going to
Shanann again we're going toShanann again.
And again and again.
I love me a good Shanann.
We're doing Shanann again, andagain and again.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
I love me a good Shanann.
Wait a minute, it wasn't hername, sorry, my brain just went
somewhere else, to one of mytrue crimes.
Oh, wow, and I believe it was apretty popular case.
I think her name was Shanann.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Okay, we're not going to do that.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Hey, booskies, hi, how are you doing?
Speaker 1 (01:22):
I'm great.
How are you?
You look good, thank you.
You look great yourself.
Let's just say you look good.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
You look good, you look good, thank you.
You look great too, you lookgood.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Thank you, honey.
Everybody think you taller thanme.
Why?
Because you said higher than mein the videos.
Oh, because sometimesDefinitely not taller than him.
She sitting on all that ass,definitely she sitting on all
that ass.
I mean I do way more than you,so I guess you sitting on all
that ass, yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Sure.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Junk in the trunk Ass thighs.
Smother me, hammies, smother me, sprinkle me baby.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Hey, oh is that the Twisted song in old school.
That is E-40.
Is that the Twisted song?
Speaker 1 (02:01):
in old school.
That is E-40.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
E-40 yes.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Who, by the way, is like not aging, just like
Pharrell Williams.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
He's a vampire.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
I was like me and my sister was talking about that
yesterday.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
That's that slurring cane.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Something I said.
Listen, I'm not hating, theylook great, look great, they
look fantastic.
I was like, okay, I want to belike y'all when I grow up.
40 water, I want to be likethem when I grow up Big
time-a-time-a 40 water Sprinkleme baby, sprinkle me man.
(02:36):
That should be vibe check nextweek.
Oh it might be.
Yeah, that might be the vibecheck.
You going to do a whole verse,no.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Because you don't know all the words.
I don't.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I can try to learn them.
My hands hurt, wow, I can tryto learn them.
But how was your week, booskies?
My week was good, that's good.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Yeah, cause he, good Cause he good Cause he good.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yes, it was a good week.
You're knee deep into summerbreak knee deep in the summer
break this, this child, and herstomach.
She trying, she trying to comeat me with the summer stomach
and I was like I said, we're notdoing it.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Say it again I told her.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
I said listen, snacks close at 8 pm, my kitchen
closes at 9 pm and I thinkthat's pretty darn generous
considering that your normalbedtime is 7 30 and she'd be up
to 4 am and so since she's onsummer break and she does not
have a bedtime, dad has told hershe doesn't have to have a
bedtime.
That child is up 4 am.
Like she came in vampire hourslike my sister has.
(03:37):
My sister's been here for theweek and this morning when she
got up she was like what is itthat your daughter be doing?
She was like she was up allnight.
She was like I went upstairsshe had magic tricks in the
hallway.
She didn't most signs.
I say yeah, because she set upher show.
Like when I got up this morningand I walked out of our bedroom
she had made uh, she makessigns Like when she puts on a
(03:58):
show or something she'll makelike a headliner sign and it'll
have the time that the showstarts, the time that the show
ends, the name of the show, andthen she puts like arrows, like
directions to which bedroom togo to to see the show.
It's actually really cute.
And so when I walked out of thebedroom this morning and I saw
all the the signs and stuff inthe hallway, I said oh, she must
have she put on a show.
(04:19):
And then I looked down thehallway and her magic box was on
the floor and I said this babydidn't put on a whole magic show
because her and I stayed up to.
I stayed up with her until 11and we were playing barbie shop
to 11.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
So I still think it's that ball y'all play barbie
shop.
Y'all literally go shopping asbarbies at the barbie store.
Yes, women gonna shop, nomatter what they were.
Women going to shop, no matterwhat.
Listen.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
I had four clients who had to get ready for a
swimming pool ball.
Oh, okay, okay, they had to getready for a swimming pool ball,
okay, so my first client whocame in her name was Christy.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
And her request was she wanted a dress that she
could dance in but also get intothe water.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
I didn't know they could make those yes, and so I
had the perfect thing for her.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
So, you know, all my customers left happy, satisfied.
Two of them were matching withwatches, you know.
So it was great.
I mean, you know.
Girl mom that's girl mom stuff.
See, he won't stay up for twohours and play.
Uh, barbie shop no and that'swhat I'd be trying to tell him.
I'd be like you you tired, Ihad to do a whole day.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
I'm gonna tell her, if barbie up past 10, she doing
something she's gonna be doing,she's fast she's not hot in the
crotch bye.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
And then.
Then she wanted to break outthe Barbie camper and I said
listen, wait, hold on.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Did you wear blue?
Because I wore blue.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
No, I had blue on first.
No, you didn't Cop.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Anyway, stop the cat.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Then she wanted to break out the Barbie camper and
I was like boo, it's 11 o'clock,I'm yawning, left eye keeps
going to sleep.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
We got the way your melatonin, the way your natural
melatonin set up.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I said.
I said, babe, can we, can weresume tomorrow please?
I said, but I had a great time.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
My quarter's on way too high.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
I need to cut it I was like girl, I got the gym in
the morning, I'm not going to beno good, it's a leg day.
I have to get sleep before legfour leg day, because it's not
gonna work and I'm still sore.
So I was like I gotta go to bedand she was like okay, mom,
she's like thanks for playingwith me.
I was like thank you.
I'm happy that all of ourclients loved their outfits
today, okay, so yeah, prettymuch mommed all week.
(06:36):
All right, trying to, you know,keep at bay, trying to manage
the, the household, the snacksin particular.
So you know.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I was going to tell you this houseguest was about to
get evicted.
Goodbye.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
But yeah, other than that, everything was good,
that's good.
How was your week?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
I'm happy you had a good week.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Yeah, I had a decent week.
I can't complain.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
My week was full of responsibility, oh look at that,
look at you.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Were you lifing hard, too hard?
And then you know as cute asthis dog is, she's starting to
stress me out.
The dog that you wanted, thedog that yeah, I got to go out.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
You know I have a long weekend of sprinkler repair
ahead of me, mm-hmm, mm-hmmahead of me, mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
I just want to.
I just want to put it on therecord that we lost both of our
dogs like over the span of twoyears.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
It was like two years ago.
Two years ago, yeah, so it'sthe last one past.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
We lost both of our dogs and he's been trying to get
another dog in here and for thelongest time I have said I'm
not ready for another dog, Idon't want to bear the risk.
That's exactly what I said.
I wasn't ready for another dog.
I also just wanted to like havethe house be like, not have the
responsibilities of having apet, because you know those who
(07:55):
have pets, you know there's aresponsibility to pets, and
especially for me, since I'm theone that's primarily home most
of the time, that would have tobe here with said pet.
But anywho, we ended up gettinga dog and her name is Macy and
she's beautiful and she isactually a great dog.
She's just in her puppy stagesright now and, let's be real, we
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haven't had a puppy in like 16years.
Really, really.
And so this is the energy I wastrying to explain to him that I
was not necessarily in the moodto deal with, but he was like,
no, we need a dog.
I was like, okay, we'll get adog.
And now she didn't chew up allthe damn sprinkler wires in the
backyard and killed half of mygrass on the favorite side of my
(08:41):
yard.
So now he's got to deal withthat.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
We're going to get it back and, like always, she
always interrupts my week.
I never interrupt hers.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Always she interrupts my week.
Don't do that, don't start.
Don't start with that voice,don't start with that voice.
Don't, do it, don't do it, I'mjust trying to have her.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Don't do it.
But my overall no, it was good,it was cool.
Nothing, it was a bounce backweek for me mentally, so it was
good.
Yeah, had another good therapysession today.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Got some things in perspective for you.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
You know?
Yeah, you know, and it's nicewhen you can talk about.
That can relate to what you say.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Yes, you know it's comforting.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
When they know that you alright.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
When they know what.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
That you alright, that you just you trying to work
through it the best way you can.
Today she was like so we're not, oh, so we're using Coping
skills this week.
We wasn't dealing with it, wejust coping in distraction.
I said look here.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
I don't need you to come for me.
Don't come for me, cause Ididn't sit for you.
Don't come for me.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Yes, I've been coping and distracting, but it's been
working.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
It's got me through.
It's got me through Until itcomes up unexpectedly over
something small.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
I said I have not been triggered.
Yeah, that's what she's tryingto say Until something triggers
it and then you go, don't pileeverything, don't trigger me
today Because I have not beentriggered.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
I think that's the point she was making.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
My only issue?
Uh-oh, my only issue, and it'snot even when you know my
therapy is great.
My only issue, okay, is thesedamn teenagers and these summer
people in the gym.
Oh gosh, they got to work.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
Workout too, babe.
What are they supposed to do?
Speaker 1 (10:27):
But they're not working out it's social club.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Okay, well, they're getting some workout in while
they socialize.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
Get your ass out my way.
I told my trainer today.
I said look here, man.
I almost walked out the gym andwalked over to another gym to
sign up.
Bye, Goodbye, I'm sick of it.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Well, as soon as the renovations are done at the gym
that I want to go to, we can beover there.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
I'm so tired of these people on these machines, on
their phone.
Then they got the lighters, butthen they doing sets of 50.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Bye, Marie.
Who's doing sets of 50?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
The people, the people 50?
.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
You're so dramatic.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
The people on ABBA Agductor and Leg Extension
machines.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
But those are really popular machines.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Babe Doing 10 pounds Look here.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
You know, those machines are always going to be.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
I am a gym regular People know me.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
I know they know us.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
I'm not standing for this.
I expect luxury treatment Okay.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Now you sound like my friend, but she was like this
is my gym it is no, babe, thisis the gym you attend, it's not
your gym.
Look here.
She was like highly offendedthat they were like busy.
She was like this is my gym,like half the staff talked to me
okay, that means nothing atthis point.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
They might as well give me a shirt so I can tell me
that, oh, this machine isactually down for maintenance,
and then do my sets and walkaway.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Well, if you get there early enough, maybe you
could take the signs and theones that say and just tag the
things you want to use and then,when it's time for you to use,
just be that asshole to take thesign off and then sit down and
use it and then put the signback right, because you know, I
gave him when I finally got amachine that's I'm gonna get.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
I'll say you know what?
Um, she came over.
Oh, did you?
I just got here, I was threesets in, I lied, she walked away
I just got here, it don'tmatter, it don't matter I just
got Like I was on the squat rack.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
What was it On?
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Thursday here we go people and the guy was like, and
the guy was like.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
He was like, are you almost done?
And I was like I was sittingthere.
I was like I'm not.
He was like looking at me likeare you sure, because you're
just kind of sitting there, I'mon a break.
It's like I'm on a break okay,yeah, it's like.
I'm on a break.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
It's like that video.
I said to you um, uh, what wasit?
It was like it's oh, it'ssummertime.
I said don't, don't, nobodywaste.
They said something no onewastes more time or space in the
gym than somebody in there whoain't really about working out
in a power lifter what?
Speaker 2 (13:02):
oh, because of the brakes.
Yes, she's.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
He was like I gotta deal with all the women on here
doing five pounds for 50 reps.
And then here go the powerlifter, but on the same bench
for an hour and a half becausehe gotta take his seven minute
breaks, sir, I said.
He said, sir, I have a job toget to.
I'm trying to get this overwith there is.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
if you need to bench, you can always use the floor.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Oh, wow.
There is always you wouldn'thave you wouldn't have, you,
wouldn't have improvised.
I can't be mad, though, Causeuh, it was.
I forgot what day it was.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
It was squat rack and she wanted that squat rack and
she just stood out to a pub andshe said I said get on my nerves
and you're gonna wait becauseI'm not done.
Well, like, okay.
So today I was.
I couldn't find um any of likethe free benches, you know, the
ones that you move around, andall the benches at the dumbbells
were, like were full, exceptfor the one bench it's like that
big, wide one, I think, whereyou can do the decline.
One is it that where you can dothe crutches and stuff too, and
so decline preps yeah, and so Iwas like I don't want to be that
person to use it for somethingno, I don't care no more, but I
(14:17):
had to do what I had to do.
I set up my camera.
Homeboy was there doing hisbench and he was looking like
are you gonna have enough room?
I was like we're gonna make itwork as you go up, I'm gonna go
down and then, when you go down,I'm gonna go up.
Because he was looking at melike she finna be all in my way.
I was like I don't know whatyou want me to do I'm gonna try
to every time you press.
(14:37):
When you press, I'm gonna godown to do my squat and then
we're gonna switch you know what?
Speaker 1 (14:42):
and the thing is is that, like, I really am one of
those guys where I don't want tomake women feel uncomfortable,
right so I try not to women.
Don't care about making y'allfeel uncomfortable at all, and
that's the point I was gettingto.
I try to be polite.
I try to be like excuse me,excuse me how many steps you
have.
And it's like I get it.
I get it.
(15:02):
You don't want, you don't wantto be approached yeah but when
I'm not, and I understand youdon't know that what I'm yeah,
what you're coming over here foryeah but, ma'am, I guarantee
you I don't care, I just needyou to get the hell off the
goddamn machine.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
I mean in in a scenario I don't really think
you're about to come up to me totalk to me.
You're coming up to me to askme a question, babe babe, let me
tell you, this is when I textyou.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
she was literally watching Netflix.
She wasn't even working out,she had Netflix on her phone.
She had to finish that part ofthe movie before she could move
on, and then she'll look around,see a smile, look at her, and
then you know, and she didn't.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
And she went right back to watching her movie and
then, when she made eye contactwith me, she did.
She did, Ma'am, you and yourfive pounds take it, and then
she just got it, and that'sanother thing.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Oh yeah, they don't wipe.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
They ain't wiping down nothing wait a minute, you,
you mentioned that and theyjust marie, they about nothing,
they don't wipe down, they leavethe weights on what the weights
are and then don't wipe shitdown like nothing.
I said how you just go?
You literally just got up andwalked away and left 1900 pounds
on there and you want me tounload it, wipe it down, reset
it, just rude just a bunch ofuntrained heathens, or the ones
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who go to the squat racks andtake all them damn dumbbells
over there.
I know it was a woman I know itwas a woman I know it was you
know I know it was especiallybecause it's only a single
dumbbell.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Yeah, it's a woman and she's struggling to get it
over there so she couldn't takeit back she struggled.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
She couldn't take it back.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
Yeah, but what we got today?
Blue Cheese.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
It's an R2-Sense episode.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
R2-Sense, r2.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Reactions seems to be you all's favorite, so we make
sure to give y'all one episodededicated to just reactions a
month.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
I know the real that I really am the favorite they.
They come from my hot tape hey,coming to see you, otis first
of all, I'm david, you're otis,let's get this.
I might get.
You might be blue, you might beblue, but you damn you ain't,
I'm not.
You know, I'm not David, I'mmore, I'm more a cornbread, a
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Paul, yeah, are you?
I damn sure ain't, otis.
Oh, otis, okay, you know whatpeople this has been.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
I was just looking at you and I was like I remember
when you used to have your earpierced and I could see the
little hole.
I think you should do thatagain.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
I thought about getting my ears pierced again.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
No, not ears.
I didn't say ears.
Yeah, I thought I said ear.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
I thought about it.
You know I'm older now I thinkI can handle the responsibility
of an ear.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
When I was I think I can handle the responsibility of
an earring now, what You'refucking 40.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
I'm not 40, ma'am, ma'am.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
If you're closer to 40 than you are at 39.
You think you can handle theresponsibility of cleaning it
and like not hitting it.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
I can do it.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
You can do it now.
Speaker 1 (18:08):
What I can't handle is my daughter, dad, dad, what
Touching it?
I don do it.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
You can do it now.
What I can't handle is mydaughter dead Dead.
What touching it?
I don't think she would.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
I thought about it, but I'm cheap.
I'm going to go to Claire's.
I can't afford it.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
I can do it, babe.
Oh no, Babe, you know I'vepierced ears before, yeah and
they didn't come out great.
So go ahead.
Who pierced it?
I pier peers and they didn'tcome out great.
No, I want to know.
I don't know.
Babe, I just said that.
Stop saying things out of yourass.
You sound silly.
Okay, both of my piercing jobsare very successful.
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I think he's like in his late60s now and he still has that
earring.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
Okay, look here.
It's time for us to get back towhat we ought to be doing.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
Being kind to one another?
Shut up.
So what we ought to be doingbeing kind to one another, shut
up so silly.
All right, guys, let's go aheadand hop into our two streets,
okay.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Thanks, you and me.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Let's start here.
Let's see the internet in thehouse has been terrible lately.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Oh wow, let's get a party.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
All right, ready?
Am I the asshole for refusingto let my ex-husband's wife
homeschool my children?
Okay, okay, I'm a 31-year-oldfemale and I share two children
a nine-year-old boy and aneight-year-old girl with my
ex-husband Aaron.
Aaron's cheating is what endedour marriage, and before long he
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had moved in with Nicole, who's34, and her children, who are
11, 10, 8, and 6.
Aaron and Nicole have atwo-year-old together and
they're expecting another child.
Even before Aaron and Nicolemet, she homeschooled all of her
children while my kids attendpublic school.
This was mentioned as a problembefore they were even married,
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but I ignored them both.
Now this has come up again andthey are being a thorn in my
side about it.
Nicole said that it's unfairfor her children to see my
children go to school while hersdo not.
She told me her kids havebecome jealous and it's causing
issues for her parenting and forher and Aaron's family.
I told her this was not myproblem and she needed to figure
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out how to manage that on herown, as this is the life of
blended families.
Not everything will be the sameor equal for the kids from
different marriages.
Facts Aaron asked me tohomeschool a few times and I
told him that I would not evenentertain the idea.
He even asked the kids who wereworried when they came to me
about it.
They didn't want to leave theirschool, their friends or their
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teachers, and they didn't wantto stay home all day with
Nicole's kids.
I reassured them that I wouldnot be saying yes to any type of
homeschooling for them.
Now Nicole and Aaron are on amission to make me agree to
Nicole's homeschooling my kidsalongside hers Apparently.
They have the two-year-oldstarting into some form of pre-K
homeschooling and they feelthat it's only fair for my kids
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to join in on that too.
I said absolutely not.
I even had my lawyer send theirlawyer a letter officially
stating my position on this.
My lawyer has also documentedeverything.
They asked their lawyer to takethis back to court and get a
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judge to overrule me.
But their lawyer told them thisThank you, and to keep Nicole
from playing a bigger role inthe lives of our children and to
prevent sibling bonding betweenNicole's kids and mine, thank
you.
I told them that I have manyreasons to say no and that they
just needed to accept it, and Istopped replying altogether.
But since school ended for thesummer, I've been inundated with
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pressure from them over this.
They are worried that I'll sendthe kids to school in September
as planned, which will happen.
I feel like the kids wanting togo to school should also count,
and I told Aaron this before.
But am I the asshole for notbeing willing to try?
Is it really so hard to believethat I want my kids to attend
school normally.
Am I the asshole?
Speaker 1 (22:04):
No, Absolutely not.
Fuck Aaron and Nicole.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Why is that always your go-to Fuck Aaron and Nicole
?
Why is that always your go tofuck Aaron and Nicole really?
Speaker 1 (22:15):
really look here.
What it is is that Nicole don'twant to have to keep answering
these questions and letting herown kids down well, because the
kids.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Well, because her kids are seeing that they get to
leave every day.
Her kids are talking to Aaron'skids.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
Well, because her kids are seeing that they get to
leave every day, her kids aretalking to aaron's kids, and
aaron's kids are telling her howmuch fun school is and that you
and that I actually get a.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
You get a chance to get away from your mama or or
that they have friends and stuffat school and since they're
homeschooled, you know we don'tknow what the dynamic is, but
like her kids said, we don'twant to be at home all day, so
the kids are probably beinghomeschooled and then they're
home all day and they're like wedon't want to be cooped up in
the house with you and nicoleand my dad they don't want to be
with yeah, we don't.
We don't want to be up in herewith y'all like that.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
That's a big family dynamic he had before.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Before.
You guys had a family dynamic.
We, we were a whole family.
Speaker 1 (23:09):
It's diabolical for the homewrecker to complain
about something.
How do you know she's?
Speaker 2 (23:14):
a homewrecker Because Aaron cheated on.
Oh, you're right, I forgotabout that part.
Speaker 1 (23:17):
It's diabolical for the homewrecker to complain
about interrupting familydynamics.
You are.
She needed a father for herchildren and now she has one,
and the other kids have to go toschool because they don't trust
you right, and he's so happenedto be tethered.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
So I mean, what can?
Speaker 1 (23:36):
you do, but you're not.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
But you're not.
You're not an asshole, becauseyou still have to do what's in
the best interest for yourchildren.
And aaron then was your kidbefore y'all.
You and nicole came together tobe his one.
You and your ex-wife weretogether as one and y'all agree.
Obviously, you agreed that yourchildren going to school was
perfectly fine.
But now you married to Nicoleand Nicole is planting things
different in your head Now, allof a sudden it's like, oh no, I
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don't want my kids going toschool.
Well too bad, so sad.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
Now we've got a problem.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Yeah, we.
We've already disrupted them byyou leaving.
We're not going to take theirschooling away too.
Look here, no, look here, I'mnot doing it, I'm not doing it.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
I wish nothing but the best for the children and
nothing but agony and pain.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
For Aaron and Nicole.
Bye, and they cheating asses.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
Bye.
Well, we don't know.
Nicole was cheating.
Well you're right.
Aaron is the one that messed up.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
But Aaron's a homewrecker.
Okay, all right, I wouldn't saysomething, but I was told she
gave me a list of things I can'tsay.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
I did not give him a list of things I cannot say I
did not.
Do not sit up here and lie.
I don't know why you like tolie.
I think it's like cookingbreakfast for my niece and
nephew.
I'm 36.
My sister's 34.
She's recently moved into myhouse about two months ago with
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her two kids, a seven year oldboy and a four year old little
girl After she ended a reallybad relationship.
I've always been an early ishriser and like to get up and
make myself some breakfastaround seven or eight am.
Nothing spectacular, justwhatever I'm feeling for the day
.
When my sister moved in, Irealized quickly that she liked
to sleep.
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In Some days she was up as lateas 1 pm.
I gave her the benefit of thedoubt, since I knew how hard it
was for her breakup and whatshe's going through.
Since my sister slept so latedaily she wouldn't get up and
take care of her kids.
I got into a routine with myniece and nephew that basically
whatever I cooked for myself forbreakfast, I'd make enough for
them as well.
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Until the other morning I wokeup and had an urge to make
huevos rancheros.
The kids immediately startedcomplaining that they did not
want to eat that and that's notsomething they want.
And they wanted somethingdifferent.
I was nice and ended up makingthem pancakes, since it's not
their fault that their mom isreally struggling.
The next morning I was makingbreakfast potatoes and eggs but
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all I heard was we don't wantthat, we want something else.
So again I obliged, so again Iobliged.
Finally, after three morningsof unwanted food critics getting
a separate meal, I finally toldthem I'm no longer cooking two
different meals for breakfast.
If you don't like what I'mmaking, go ask your mom to get
up and make you something else.
So they went upstairs to wakeher, but she still didn't come
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downstairs until after 1 pm.
The kids immediately startedcomplaining that I quote unquote
refused to feed them, and mysister was pissed.
She started in about how theyneed to be fed by a certain time
and a bunch of other thingsthat she said to try to
intentionally hurt me.
I snapped and I told her look,I know you're depressed, but
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wake up and take care of yourfucking kids instead of
expecting me to do it.
She got quiet after that.
Look, I know you're depressed,but wake up and take care of
your fucking kids Instead ofexpecting me to do it.
She got quiet after that and isstill giving me the cold
shoulder, but I know she'sexpecting me to apologize.
Am I the asshole Hell?
No, absolutely not.
Fuck her.
Here you go.
Speaker 1 (27:05):
Not the kids.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Those are your nieces and your nephews, not your
children, and responsibilities.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Right say it again they are your niece and your
nephew.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
I'm already doing you a solid by letting you be in my
house said again you coming tomy house is already disrupting
my routine.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Wait a minute.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
I just don't think I don't think people be really
understanding that like even,even if it's family.
Yes, I've opened my, my, myhome to you.
I've opened my resources to you.
That's fine.
whatever, I'm trying to help you, but just like if I came to
your residence and you've openedup your residence to me, just
my presence there has alteredyour routine in some way, shape
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or form.
Now, if you bring kids into it,okay, come on, come on.
I'm trying to be courteous andI'm trying to be empathetic and
understanding, because I knowyou're having a hard time and
you are clearly depressed PreachBishop, but you still have
children to attend to PreachBishop, I'm not these children's
parent.
Speaker 1 (27:58):
That's a word they need to hear.
Bye, DeMille.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
I'm not these children's parent.
I was doing you a solid byfeeding the kids, so at least 1
pm going on an intermittentfasting that they didn't ask for
.
Okay, come on now.
I can't with you.
You're doing way too much, butno, you're not the asshole.
And then for you to turn aroundand get upset and then tell me
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they need to be fed by a certaintime.
Well, what time was you feedingthem prior to you being
depressed?
You know what I'm finna say.
That's what I want to know.
I know I would have been likeso what time did you feed them
prior to your depression?
You know what I'm finna say.
That's what I wanna know.
I would've been like so.
What time did you feed himPrior to your depression?
You know what I'm gonna say.
What are you at yet what?
That's probably who she left.
That's probably who she left.
I'm uncle.
Speaker 1 (28:42):
AKA Funkle.
I'm the fun uncle, I'm Funkle,I don't do breakfast.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
What if I didn't cook at all?
What if I didn't make anythingat all?
The babies wouldn't eat untilafter 1pm.
Speaker 1 (28:56):
What if I wanted a bear club choice from Black Bear
this morning?
Speaker 2 (28:59):
I would absolutely leave my house and go get one,
because I don't have anything.
I'm leaving my house and I'mgoing to go sit there and eat it
peacefully, because I don'thave any responsibility that
calls me this early in themorning, except for myself, yeah
.
So not only am I allowing you tostay here, I've also allowed
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you to take time and bedepressed yeah, because I'm
trying to, because I understandwhat you're going yeah, I
understand what you're goingthrough, but don't like, instead
of being upset and saying like,oh, they need to be fed a
certain time, a simple you knowwhat I do?
Apologize.
I'm so grateful for how youknow, you've been helping me.
I'm, I'm, I'm trying my best.
I'm gonna just try to like getup and make like you know, let
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me, is that, is that a womanthing?
Speaker 1 (29:44):
what?
What she did, that's a womanthing.
What?
Because I feel like menunderstand that what needs to be
done still has to be done Idon't think.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
I don't think that's a woman thing I think men go
through depressive uh stages too, where it makes them unable to
do things okay, like even thoughyou know that I think any
anybody, man or woman and you.
You should understand thatthere there was things that
needed to be done when you weregoing through your depressive
stage.
That didn't always get done,but you knew it needed to get
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done.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
But it wasn't to this extent.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
It wasn't to this extent, but I'm just saying,
based off of what you said, isthis like a woman thing?
It's not a woman, it's a humanthing.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
But I'm saying, even when I was depressed, the
important things that needed tobe done got done.
Speaker 2 (30:25):
Well, that's also because you liked shelter and
you liked to eat.
So she don't like her kids.
She do like her kids, but shealready got shelter and she
knows there's food there.
So I guess, those are the twothings that she knows her kids
Are in a safe environment.
If you, if she didn't havethose things, she would probably
have no choice.
But to try to like Managethrough her depression.
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You know Better than what she'sdoing, but the kids are In a
safe environment.
Everybody has a roof Over theirhead.
I'm in a trusted person's, youknow, space, space.
So yes, if I can have my mymoment, I'm going to take my
moment.
I think that's a human thing.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
Let me just say this Like I said at the top of the
episode, this week I've beencoping and distracting.
She needs to cope and distract.
Okay, get that shit done.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
Yeah, I mean.
Well, she is now because herbrother said, because her
brother said I'm not going to beand he's not the asshole, I'm
not going to be making a specialrequest.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
And I wouldn't apologize.
Speaker 2 (31:23):
Especially because it sounds like he doesn't have
children.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
The thing is it seemed like he sat there.
He sat there and he was lettingher get it off her chest and he
was like I ain't going to saynothing or whatever, whatever.
And then she pushed the up.
What you're not gonna do is bedisrespectful to me in my home
right, you're in my home.
And when he reached his limitand told her the truth, then her
feelings got hurt and now she'sbeing silent because she want
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to apologize.
I wouldn't apologize, I'm notgonna apologize.
Dwell in it, bath in it,breathe it in.
I can't enjoy it.
Goodbye, enjoy it.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
Um, okay, here we go.
Oh, I pressed a little buttonthere.
My friend said that I owe herhalf my inheritance because her
family quote unquote didn't havethat.
Speaker 1 (32:08):
Oh wow, okay.
Speaker 2 (32:09):
So my great aunt passed away and left me a decent
inheritance Nothing wild, butenough to pay off my student
loans and set aside for a littlebit of savings.
I told my friend we'll call herRachel.
Over lunch.
She got quiet and then said wow, must be nice.
I bet you help out your friendswho weren't so lucky growing up
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.
I laughed and I said somethinglike I mean, I'll probably treat
my friends to dinner more often.
She stared at me serious, deadserious, and said no, like
actually help.
We've known each other forever.
I think it'd be fair for you tosplit it with me.
I thought she was joking.
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She wasn't.
She then brought up all thetimes that she covered my coffee
in college and said this isjust the universe's way of
evening out the score in college.
And said this is just theuniverse's way of evening out
the score.
Needless to say, I didn't sharea dime.
She blocked me on Instagram andtold all of our friends that I
ghosted her after I got rich.
Sorry, rachel, the only thingI'm splitting is the check with
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people who actually support me.
Am I an asshole?
Not at all.
This is hilarious.
I think that.
I think it's hilarious thatpeople would think that they're
entitled to something that'sreally not theirs.
And just because we friends youwon't have.
She didn't say that's like.
She didn't say can you help mewith my car note?
She didn't say can you help mewith a bill?
She said I think it's only fairthat you split it with me, girl
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.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
That that's like, okay, that's like, put it this
way, that's like my brother,right?
My brother and I, the beautifulLisa, we have different fathers
, right?
Let's just say, his father lefthim with a lot of money, right?
Hey bro, we got the same mama.
You got to give me half that.
That sounds ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (33:54):
We have the same mama .
Her aunt left her something.
Speaker 1 (33:58):
Right, her blood-related relative left her
something that had nothing to dowith you, mm-hmm.
And so now you got mad becauseshe won't help you.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
And then you're going to block and ghost her out like
she ghosted you and told alltheir friends, oh, like she
basically acting brand new nowthat she got money.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
So she got money and now she People love to play
victim, and Audacity is beingbought in bulk.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
Because it's on sale.
I told you it's like 99% off.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
At this point I don't even think they want to Costco,
no more.
I think they going to workCostco if they survive.
For them they done moved up.
Speaker 2 (34:31):
They cut out the middleman in Audacity and they
went straight to the stores.
Speaker 1 (34:36):
They going straight to the stores to buy their
audacity, because this is wild.
Speaker 2 (34:39):
And you know what's wild is that?
Speaker 1 (34:42):
people are serious.
I can see.
If you got something I'll belike go ahead and get my half
who me yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
That's my half.
I mean we live in California.
As long as the assets are goingdirectly to my side of the
account, it's not consideredmarital.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
Okay, that's not how that works at all it is.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
I looked it up.
It's only like that in Texas.
Speaker 1 (34:59):
That's not how it works at all.
That's wild.
No, you're not that hoe.
Speaker 2 (35:04):
No, you're not the asshole.
Speaker 1 (35:05):
Honestly, she did you a favor because it seemed like
maybe she just kept you aroundbecause she was waiting for when
she'd be able to benefit off ofyou.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
See, and here's the thing, it's like, yes, okay, if
you guys have been best friends,if she knows that you're in a
tight spot or something, shewould probably, on her own, be
like you know what?
I do have a little bit ofsomething, let me help you with
that.
She would probably do that onher own Right.
But the fact that you coming toher and saying you should split
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it with me and it's theuniverse's way of evening it out
when you covered coffees for mein college Girl, covering
coffees and covering house billsare completely that's
completely different.
Speaker 1 (35:46):
And then you and you making yourself entitled to
something that was left for mefrom my family is wild and my
thing is in my eyes, she was afake friend from the beginning,
because if you're only taggingalong for the ride for the
chance you might be able to getsomething.
Yeah, I mean I.
I mean maybe it's just me.
Speaker 2 (36:06):
I don't, I don't expect nothing but friendship,
right, and if a friend wants tohelp me, like, okay, I
appreciate that, but I expectnothing, I'm not gonna ask you
for it I'm not gonna demand thatyou give me, if my, if my best
friend won the lottery right nowand she hit Bye, she's giving
us half.
If my best friend hit thelottery for a hundred mil right
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now yeah, and I know that shehas a hundred million dollars
I'm not going to ask her foranything.
I'm not going to ask her foranything.
Now.
Are you going to expectsomething?
Speaker 1 (36:40):
That's different that's different.
Speaker 2 (36:42):
That's different, that's a lot different.
But I would never be like, okay, like, but you guys have a
hundred million dollars.
It's like the one from lastweek when he was telling his
brother yeah, but you have nokids, so you can at least give
me three hundred dollars a monthfor mine but I would not go to
my best friend and be like okay,so you can't spare 50 000, but
you just want like, okay, so youcan't spare 50,000, but you
just want 100 million, you can'tspare 50,000.
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I would never do that, but Ihonestly believe our friends if
they want enough oh, they wouldI think they would, because we
would be that way like if I, ifI want 100 million dollars, I
would.
I would call my friend and belike look, I don't know.
I don't know what y'allsituation is right now, but I
knowall are responsible adults,so it can't be that bad.
However, I'm going to sendy'all a check because you're my
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bestie and I love you.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
You're doing it wrong .
I won't send no check.
Speaker 2 (37:31):
Why.
Speaker 1 (37:32):
You got to pay it off yourself.
If you send them a check, thenthey got to pay taxes on it.
Speaker 2 (37:36):
Oh yeah, that's right , you're right, I would just pay
their house off.
Speaker 1 (37:39):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (37:39):
Yeah, pay their house off.
Cause if, like, I'll pay the,I'll pay your house off and like
, whatever your, that's probablylike your biggest, your biggest
debt is your house, right, andthat frees up everything else.
Cause imagine, imagine havingyour home and you don't have to
pay your mortgage.
Speaker 1 (37:57):
Oh, 15 more years, my goodness, 15 more years, great
I Mortgage.
Oh, 15 more years.
Speaker 2 (38:02):
My goodness, 15 more years, great I'm going to try to
get it down to 10.
Okay, here we go.
Am I the asshole for droppingout of my friend's wedding after
she sent me a 47 itembridesmaids requirements list?
Women is wild.
Speaker 1 (38:17):
Women be tripping.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
So my friend Sarah is getting married in a few months
and she asked me to be abridesmaid back in October.
I was honored and I said yes,of course, fast forward to last
week.
She sends the entire bridalparty a google doc titled
bridesmaid expectations andrequirements.
(38:40):
I thought it would be like wearthis color.
Here's the dresses I like.
Maybe some basic timeline stuff.
Nope 47 numbered items 47.
Here are some highlights Onemandatory spray tans.
She's booking appointments foreveryone $400.
(39:00):
Hair and makeup non-negotiable.
Can't post any photos from theevent without her approval.
And, my personal favorite,we're expected to contribute
$200 each toward herbachelorette party, on top of
planning and paying for theentire thing.
Item number 47 was literallyremember.
(39:23):
This is my day and your job isto make me shine.
I texted her saying that thiswas beyond what I could commit
to and I needed to step down.
She called me crying, sayingthat real friends would do
anything, even if it takes somesacrifice.
Now more than half of ourfriend group is asking if they
can see the list, because theyjust don't believe that it's
(39:45):
real.
Am I the asshole for backingout?
Not at all.
No, not at all.
Uh-uh, I can't do it, not atall.
Speaker 1 (39:51):
I can't do it.
Real friends will understandthat they happiness ain't your
responsibility.
Can't do it.
I'm sorry that your happinessain't their responsibility.
That's why I did a wedding.
If you send me an itemized listof what you expect and you
expect me to come out of mypocket for for everything, so I
did a wedding.
Speaker 2 (40:12):
When did I do that wedding?
Was that January?
Speaker 1 (40:16):
I think I forgot.
Speaker 2 (40:18):
I did a wedding up in the mountains when it was like
snowing, like snow wing, Okay,Like snow in snowing Um, and the
bride the the sister-in-law,cause it was her brother who was
getting married.
So the sister, um, his sisterwas the wedding planner and so
(40:38):
she was telling me about thelists and the wants and stuff
that the bride wanted.
Mind you, they got married inthe mountains when it was
snowing.
She wanted everyone inopen-toed shoes with no
stockings Outside.
Speaker 1 (40:56):
In the snow.
Speaker 2 (40:57):
In the snow.
Speaker 1 (40:58):
I know.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
Where it was snowing.
I got all that and she was notbudging and all the women in the
room were like is there any waywe can talk to her, like the
videographer?
And I almost got stuck likejust coming down the aisle we
couldn't even get like all ofour equipment up because it was
snowing and then it was underall the trees.
(41:20):
So when the sun started to comeout, it was melting and it
basically was raining and theground was slippery.
They had the venue.
There was a venue that was onsite where everything could be
transferred inside.
She was hell bent on.
We are still getting marriedoutside.
The planner was like it's almostlike raining outside because
(41:41):
we're under all the trees.
The chairs were getting wet.
She said you guys have to goout there and wipe down the
chairs before it starts.
She was telling her.
But the chairs are sittingunder the trees, which are still
, like you know, raining fromthe snow.
And then the chairs we had toshovel to even put there because
the snow.
She did not budge, not one bit.
(42:03):
She was like it's my day and Iwant to be buried outside.
You guys can deal with the snow.
I said, well, I'm going tofinish my job and.
I'm going to leave because if Islip and break my ass on this
ground, I feel like the brideshould be allowed to make any
reasonable requests.
Yeah, yeah, because that was, Imean, like the wedding thing.
(42:27):
There was a whole building.
We could have moved everythinginto the building and it still
would have been beautiful.
They decorated the building,everything.
She was like I'm not having it,it's my wedding day and things
are going to go the way that Iwant it, just like here.
When she said, remember, thisis my day and it's your job to
make me shine, did she talk toGod about the snow Shut up, babe
(42:51):
.
Did she talk to God about thesnow, maybe he didn't, maybe
that's what it is.
Maybe he didn't get the list.
She just sent him the list.
Speaker 1 (42:57):
He didn't get the list.
Speaker 2 (43:02):
Shut up, baby.
He didn't get the list.
Jesus didn't know.
You didn't send him his GoogleDoc.
How was he supposed to know?
That's wild.
Speaker 1 (43:14):
That's crazy.
It's JC33.
Speaker 2 (43:20):
JC33?
.
Hey y'all.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
At gmailcom.
Speaker 2 (43:25):
You're so ridiculous.
No, you're not the asshole,Because, okay, yes, there's
responsibilities thatbridesmaids have right.
But you can't be takingadvantage of people.
Oh, most people do.
Oh, of course.
There are some women who reallythink like it's my wedding day,
so, like here I am in themiddle and everything else is
going to revolve around me.
(43:45):
It's no different from howy'all act on y'all birthday.
No.
Speaker 1 (43:49):
It's just greater.
Speaker 2 (43:50):
It's just greater, that's different, because with
your wedding day, it's not justyou, it's you in a whole, it's
not Not just you.
Your birthday, your birthdaywas the day you were birthed.
Speaker 1 (44:02):
You came into the world on your own, so you can be
about yourself as a bride.
Speaker 2 (44:06):
Oh, I wasn't even about that life Like I literally
canceled our wedding, likemonths before.
Speaker 1 (44:11):
Because your mama got in your skin.
Speaker 2 (44:13):
No Well, because I was just over the whole thing,
let me talk to you.
Speaker 1 (44:17):
As a bride, uh-huh, when you were planning the big
thing, yes, were you taking meinto account absolutely?
Speaker 2 (44:23):
he wasn't.
Oh my gosh, maurice, you aresuch a favorite teller stop the
cat I ran everything by you.
What was your?
What was your response?
What did you tell me?
Speaker 1 (44:33):
whatever, you want babe.
Speaker 2 (44:34):
No, you told me, just tell.
Just tell me the time and placeand I'll show up that's it
because I, so I tried to involve, I tried to involve you because
I didn't believe it was gonnahappen I tried to involve you
and you said just tell me thetime and place and I'll show up.
And then that just was pissingme off too.
Oh well, you, you know youshould I was like wow, maybe I
shouldn't go through this withthis marriage, if this is how
he's gonna act before you shouldtell me I should have looked at
(44:56):
that as a red flag really you.
Speaker 1 (44:57):
You should have told me Stay strong.
Bye.
Speaker 2 (44:59):
Stay strong.
Goodbye, yeah, but anyway,you're not.
You're not the asshole.
Speaker 1 (45:05):
Is she not?
No, no, I would have left too.
Speaker 2 (45:07):
Yeah, ain't nobody got time for that Girl, please
Goodbye.
Speaker 1 (45:15):
Be like just like Nicole and sleep with her
husband.
Speaker 2 (45:18):
What, nicole from the story?
Bye maurice, you got one moreuh yeah, we can do one more.
Speaker 1 (45:25):
We think we got time for one more.
Let's see the archive.
Speaker 2 (45:26):
I'm trying to see which one we can do for the last
one.
Let's do, we'll do this one.
Okay, ready, I'm waiting on you, let Okay.
Am I the asshole for how Iresponded when my husband asked
me to pay for our stepson, mystepson's surgery?
Oh, wow, okay.
(45:47):
I've been with my husband forabout five years.
He has a son from his previousmarriage.
Let's call him Ethan.
Ethan moved in with us when hewas 16.
From the start, things werevery difficult.
Ethan was hostile toward me.
He never liked me and had keptme at an arm's length and
consistently hurt my feelingswith his mean-spirited,
offensive comments about my ageor living situation.
He made it clear that he didnot want me in his life.
(46:09):
While his dad was strugglingfinancially, I offered to help
pay for college.
I did this because I wanted tohelp, but my husband's response
was you can't buy your way intobeing his mom.
Oh shit, I'm out.
That hurt me a lot, but OK, Irespected their choice and I
didn't push the matter.
(46:30):
Ethan recently got sick and nowneeds surgery.
He's been sick for four monthsand was using medication until
now.
He needs surgery.
He reached out to his dadasking for financial help.
My husband came to me and askedif I'd be willing to contribute
, hoping this might be a chanceto rebuild a relationship.
I said no.
He said this could be theperfect opportunity to make
(46:54):
things right between Ethan and I.
I said I wouldn't want to buymy way into being his mom.
I said I wouldn't want to buymy way into being his mom.
He didn't take it well.
He said I was being cruel andpetty, and now he's even saying
that he's consideringreconsidering our marriage
because he thinks that I shouldput the pettiness aside and help
Ethan regardless.
But I'm still refusing.
(47:15):
Am I the asshole?
Speaker 1 (47:16):
No, no, no, not at all.
Look here as as, as a boardmember, a sitting chair.
Board members of the pettycommittee.
Speaker 2 (47:34):
But he's sick.
I don't give a damn that he'ssick.
Speaker 1 (47:40):
I've tried to help.
You've been nothing but alittle shit to me since your
mama was replaced.
I ain't the reason your daddyand your mama fell out, but
you've been giving me that shitthis whole time.
I tried to help you withcollege and your daddy said this
bullshit to me.
Now, all of a sudden, you needsome help medically.
Speaker 2 (47:59):
Now you want no sweetheart, I wouldn't want to
try to buy my wife into yourlife.
Speaker 1 (48:04):
I don't want you to feel like you owe me anything.
We know you don't like me.
I don't want you to feel likeyou owe me.
Speaker 2 (48:09):
I don't want you.
If you don't like me, you don'tlike my money.
Speaker 1 (48:11):
So you know it is what it is.
I'm sorry.
I can pray, for my bishop doesgreat prayers.
I'll give you his number.
Maybe your dad can do a bakedrive.
A bake drive, maurice, yeah, atoy drive, or something you know
.
Bake sale, gofundme are popularnowadays.
These things are popular amongthe youth, you know.
Speaker 2 (48:34):
I can't with you.
You're so terrible.
Speaker 1 (48:37):
I mean, come on all this time, Probably since he was
16.
I can understand being mad atyour parents for that and all
that, but you're and I tried.
Speaker 2 (48:49):
Yeah, it's not like she didn't try.
And the way the dad respondedwith you can't buy.
I wasn't trying to buy my wayinto his life.
I was literally just trying tobe helpful because, as a parent.
Speaker 1 (48:59):
That's what I would want to do.
And the thing about the collegething it's not even so much
that she was trying to help theboy, she was trying to help her
husband, right, right, when hefelt like he was actually
fulfilling whatever duties hefelt.
So don't turn my money down forthis.
Speaker 2 (49:18):
Yeah, and then try to turn my money up because?
But the way the dad is thinkingit's like college,
life-threatening, possiblesurgery or whatever.
Well, you know what people?
Speaker 1 (49:29):
life comes at you fast bye marie stupid and so you
, life comes at you fast, so youhave to learn how to treat
people correctly, because younever know when you're going to
need someone.
Now I bet you if 16-year-oldEthan knew that when Ethan was
older he would need whatever hername is her money to be for a
(49:51):
surgery, he probably would havebehaved a little differently.
But since hindsight is 20-20and you can't get it back.
Speaker 2 (49:57):
Well, he can't imagine that when he was 16.
Yeah, he was 16.
Like he can't imagine that whenhe was 16.
Yeah, he was he's 16.
Speaker 1 (50:02):
Like he was going through it.
See, the thing is people isthat apparently, not only does
audacity come for free, beingnice is free as well.
Yeah, being a good person don'tcost you nothing.
Speaker 2 (50:17):
Being a good person does not cost you anything.
Speaker 1 (50:19):
So, since you want to be a little shit, stay strong,
stay strong.
Stay strong, stay strong.
I'm going to pray for you.
I can't you in my prayers, Ican't you in my prayers.
Speaker 2 (50:32):
I can't All.
Right, guys.
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Speaker 2 (50:57):
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Okay, I forgot.
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Speaker 1 (51:05):
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Speaker 2 (51:05):
YouTube and Facebook Only Pants.
And Only Pants and Flip andthen also shout out to us we
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We appreciate y'all.
We really appreciate it.
We got our first 1,000followers on YouTube Very
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Speaker 1 (51:39):
y'all also, through connection, support our daughter
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We appreciate that.
Speaker 2 (51:45):
Goodbye.
Yes, so yeah, thanks again,guys, and we will see you all
next Wednesday and we'll staystrong.
Until then, Peace booskies,Peace booskies.
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