November 5, 2025 • 49 mins
This installment of Our 2 Cents is a deep dive into what happens when boundaries, honesty, and consequences collide.
From open relationships to caregiver burnout, inheritance drama to cheating fallout—we unpack the emotional layers and offer real strategies for protecting your peace. We don’t sugarcoat, but we do bring both laughter and perspective.
If you’re navigating tough conversations in love, family, or money—this one’s got something for you.
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SPEAKER_03 (00:00):
First you convince me for you first you convince me
for us to work it out.
Right.
Then you convince me to go tocounseling.
Right.
And then when we get incounseling, you defend him and
fault me for you being caughtand for me for him getting a
divorce too when you both weremarried persons.
SPEAKER_04 (00:16):
Crazy work.
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_03 (00:18):
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_04 (00:19):
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_03 (00:38):
Hey everybody, and welcome back to another weekly
episode of the Life After I Dopodcast.
SPEAKER_05 (00:43):
Doo doo doo doo doo.
SPEAKER_03 (00:45):
Wow.
That was look laster.
You wanna try that again?
SPEAKER_05 (00:49):
I I'm trying to keep it short.
SPEAKER_03 (00:50):
I listen.
SPEAKER_05 (00:52):
What?
SPEAKER_03 (00:53):
I want it.
SPEAKER_05 (00:54):
Okay.
I'ma give it to you.
Oh my gosh.
SPEAKER_03 (01:00):
I'ma give it to you.
You know what I mean.
SPEAKER_05 (01:02):
I'ma give it to you.
Go ahead.
SPEAKER_03 (01:09):
Okay, that's it.
And then end scene.
That's what we talked about.
Keep it short and sweet.
That's it.
All right.
How's it going?
Hey Booskies.
Hi, Booskies.
How's it going?
SPEAKER_05 (01:20):
It's going, girl.
SPEAKER_03 (01:22):
Why you say it like that?
SPEAKER_05 (01:23):
Life and life and my leg are still sore from Sunday.
That's terrible.
Crazy.
It's because you it's becauseyou had me go on that damn
stairmaster yesterday.
Stairmaster is good for you.
Yeah, but I did a stairmaster onSunday.
SPEAKER_03 (01:34):
And you legit stayed on the stairmaster for 11
minutes.
SPEAKER_05 (01:37):
12 minutes.
Well, it's not my fault.
I had planned to be on there foras long as I'm not sure.
SPEAKER_03 (01:42):
You could have just gotten on the treadmill.
SPEAKER_05 (01:45):
I had planned to be on the stairmaster for as long
as you're gonna be on thestairmaster, but it was taken,
so I had to wait for her tofinish.
SPEAKER_03 (01:50):
And then there were two empty ones side by side, and
I asked if you wanted to go getthose.
SPEAKER_05 (01:54):
Mind you, it wasn't my cardio day, so I was just
there for emotional support.
I didn't need that.
unknown (01:59):
Okay.
SPEAKER_05 (01:59):
I was there for you, boo.
So I want you to know that I wasthere for you.
You know, thank you.
SPEAKER_03 (02:04):
I appreciate the my week has been a wee week.
SPEAKER_05 (02:07):
Life is life, but we're gonna remain positive and
hope for the best.
SPEAKER_03 (02:12):
We know the best is coming.
Now we're not hoping for thebest.
We know the best is on its way.
SPEAKER_05 (02:17):
You said yes to the dress, and I said yes to that
ass.
SPEAKER_03 (02:19):
Okay.
Anyway, the best is on its way.
The best is yet to come.
Okay.
Okay.
Remember, we gotta rephrase, yougotta put, you gotta put a new
scope on it.
You gotta put a loot, a new lenson it.
Stop touching me.
Put a new lens on it.
Wow.
Okay.
So what was the highlight ofyour week?
SPEAKER_05 (02:39):
Um probably when I hit that 215 for um for seven.
SPEAKER_03 (02:45):
That was good on bench.
SPEAKER_05 (02:46):
Yeah.
That was really nice.
SPEAKER_03 (02:48):
You were shook at the Yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (02:50):
Because I had, you know, I can hit the 225 for like
four.
So I've been trying to work onthat.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (02:54):
I've never seen it.
SPEAKER_05 (02:56):
You were there.
You were playing.
SPEAKER_02 (03:01):
I don't record.
SPEAKER_05 (03:03):
It's just a thing that like I get in my head.
So that's probably that was oneof the highlights.
But no, actually, I take thatback.
Okay.
You want to revise it?
SPEAKER_03 (03:10):
Okay, what?
SPEAKER_05 (03:11):
The highlight of my week is my uh the depth I get on
my hack squad now.
That's it.
SPEAKER_03 (03:16):
I haven't seen the video.
SPEAKER_05 (03:18):
And I'd record that.
SPEAKER_03 (03:20):
Oh, okay.
SPEAKER_05 (03:21):
And uh um, but I have we have all of our gym
friends confirmed.
So I'm gonna take her word.
Which one?
Uh I don't know her name.
What'd she look like?
Marlena's friend is reallystrong.
SPEAKER_03 (03:31):
Jen?
SPEAKER_05 (03:32):
Not Jen.
I haven't seen Jen.
I asked about Jen today.
I said, where's Jen?
Jin's my buddy.
SPEAKER_03 (03:37):
Okay.
I'll I'll talk.
I'll talk to her.
SPEAKER_05 (03:39):
Okay, anyway.
Not you trying to verify, mightme.
Um, yeah, I mean, so I mean,another how that I my my
daughter, my daughter has beenuber affectionate this week.
And I said, I don't know if it'sbecause you've been in trouble
and you're trying to get yourway back out.
SPEAKER_03 (03:54):
But ma'am, I'm just saying.
She's been turning it up on you.
I don't need you to be kissingon me like this.
She became me, she was like, Idismiss daddy so much.
That's what she told me.
I dismiss my dad so much.
SPEAKER_05 (04:05):
She misses you.
Like today, today when we um wegot her from school.
Dad, oh, I missed you so much.
Oh, I'm so happy you heard youdidn't go to work today.
Oh, dad.
I said, Phoenix, you you doingtoo much.
SPEAKER_03 (04:22):
You're doing all that, and you're still not gonna
get your screens back.
That's crazy.
Right.
SPEAKER_05 (04:26):
You still didn't get your screens back.
SPEAKER_03 (04:29):
That's crazy work.
SPEAKER_05 (04:30):
And then she was like, so I'm going to Kendall's
house Saturday, right?
SPEAKER_03 (04:35):
She always tries to like butter you up and then like
try to confirm some shit, eithershe planned or she wanted to do
it.
You know what she told me on thedrive to practice?
She was like, Oh, mom, I justwant you to know, me and Gabby
were talking about um a playdate, Gabby from school, and she
was like, and we were kind ofthinking, like, maybe we can do
like a Disney cruise.
(04:56):
I was on the phone with mysister.
My sister said, Did she say aDisney cruise for a play date?
I said, Yes, she did.
Yes, she did.
In my mind, I was like, girl,you don't see Joe.
SPEAKER_05 (05:07):
That's crazy.
Because today she was like,earlier, she was like, Dad, you
remember how like me and Mila,like we had a play date last
summer?
Like, can we have another playdate?
But like this time we gosomewhere like like Disneyland.
SPEAKER_03 (05:25):
Between Disneyland, what'd she tell you the other
day?
Disney World.
Disney World.
She said, no, I've been, she waslike, I've been to Disneyland
already a lot of times.
I want to go to Disney World.
SPEAKER_05 (05:35):
I said, I said, not not pinkies up.
But when she said up at eight isa wild.
SPEAKER_03 (05:41):
She said a play date and they were thinking on it.
Like, like they were just atschool kicking it, and like, you
know what'd be great?
We should do a play date on aDisney cruise.
SPEAKER_05 (05:50):
Hold up.
I messed up my week.
Why?
Because it's Wednesday, so it'sbeen a couple days now.
Mm-hmm.
Since go Dodgers.
Go blue.
SPEAKER_03 (05:59):
Bye.
unknown (06:00):
Ha ha!
SPEAKER_03 (06:01):
Congratulations to the Dodgers.
SPEAKER_05 (06:03):
Y'all know we've we from Southern California, and I
support everything SouthernCalifornia except for the except
for the football teams.
I am an Eagles fan, go Birds.
And to whoever that was in thein the comments somewhere, why
are you talking about mycowboys?
Because I don't like y'all.
Never have, never will.
Go birds.
Um, but shoutouts to my Dodgers.
SPEAKER_03 (06:22):
They had me stressed out.
I think you had everyonestressed out.
My friend posted a video of herhusband, and I mean he almost
burned a hole straight throughthe floor from the pacing.
I said, girl, y'all gonna needto replace your floors when he's
done.
SPEAKER_05 (06:37):
Between games five and seven, I aged 20 years.
Because Lord knows I can't, eventhough when we won Halloween
night, I I kept saying, like, Ikept saying, like, we just gotta
get through the seventh evening.
SPEAKER_03 (06:52):
We just we just need to get through.
SPEAKER_05 (06:54):
If we could just put that seven.
We will be okay.
For the longest time, six, sevenwas early.
It was on the dog, it was on theDodgers' ass.
Okay, because that sixth andseven inning was tearing our ass
up.
But we won.
(07:15):
You know, uh Kershaw won out ofchampions.
Yes, congratulations onretirement.
Um, shout out to you know what,hold up, side note.
What?
Shout outs to Mookie Betts.
SPEAKER_03 (07:25):
Okay, why would you?
SPEAKER_05 (07:26):
Or short stop?
Okay, it's not even about him.
I saw a picture of his wife.
I said, I see you.
Goodbye.
SPEAKER_03 (07:34):
Black Queens Forever?
Stop it.
Stop it.
SPEAKER_02 (07:39):
Stop it.
I said, Mrs.
Bet.
Okay, Mrs.
Mrs.
Mrs.
I said, cocaine.
SPEAKER_05 (07:46):
Okay.
And the other highlight of myweek is that I don't know if
it's true or not, but apparentlysomebody reported that Miss Iiko
is single now.
So if she comes calling, don'ttake it personal.
I won't at all.
Don't, don't, don't take itpersonal.
SPEAKER_03 (08:07):
Don't take it personal.
I'm gonna send home all the allthe support you need.
Baby, baby, baby, baby, baby.
SPEAKER_05 (08:13):
But that's it.
I was really, I was really,really happy that my Dodgers
won.
I even made a post that saidthat I'm so thankful to the
Dodgers because I know theseLakers are finna piss me off.
SPEAKER_03 (08:22):
I know I saw that.
The Lakers might surprise you.
SPEAKER_05 (08:27):
Okay.
They've been playing well.
SPEAKER_03 (08:29):
See?
SPEAKER_05 (08:30):
But and LeBron ain't there.
So it just proves my point thatwe can stop paying this man this
money.
SPEAKER_03 (08:35):
Goodbye.
What's your week, Booskies?
My week was okay.
I mean, it wasn't great becausethe Dodgers won?
Okay, it was great because theDodgers won.
SPEAKER_05 (08:44):
The Dodgers won.
The Cowboys lost.
The Giants lost.
The commander.
Oh my god.
I feel so sorry for JadenDaniels.
I don't know who that is.
That's the quarterback for thefor the commanders.
Oh, okay.
He's a SoCal nature.
SPEAKER_03 (08:56):
The commanders?
SPEAKER_05 (08:56):
Yes, he's a SoCal native.
SPEAKER_03 (08:58):
Commanders?
Yes.
What team is that?
SPEAKER_05 (09:00):
They used to be the Redskins.
SPEAKER_03 (09:01):
Oh, okay.
I know that.
But I don't know who a commanderis.
SPEAKER_05 (09:04):
He's a So-Cal native, I feel bad.
I was like, is this- I dosupport people for the area,
even though he's on that team.
Oh.
Um, it was a so sports-wise, itwas because even the Lakers won.
I said, yeah, I said, look atGod.
Bye, Maurice.
Look at God.
Goodbye.
And then they had ice cube atthe at the pair at the at the
parade.
I saw.
(09:25):
LA, we up, baby.
We up.
SPEAKER_03 (09:27):
Well, I'm happy you had a great sport uh field week,
and that was the highlight ofyour week.
Um, the highlight of my week wasI made it through the week.
Okay.
SPEAKER_05 (09:38):
Yeah.
You've been very cheeky aroundhere.
Huh?
Very cheeky.
SPEAKER_03 (09:42):
What do you mean?
SPEAKER_05 (09:43):
You've been letting your cheeks out.
Oh my gosh.
Walking around very cheeky.
SPEAKER_03 (09:47):
No, I haven't.
SPEAKER_05 (09:48):
And I said, I'm picking up when she's laying
down.
SPEAKER_03 (09:50):
No.
No.
SPEAKER_05 (09:51):
But then I don't know, because you've been
setting me up with your sleepytime tea.
SPEAKER_03 (09:56):
Okay, so I drink, I've I've gotten back on my tea
regimen before bed, and I drinklike a cup of tea before bed.
I do my reading and I do a cupof tea.
And I drink um, I think it'scalled celestial or something
like that, but it's sleepy timetea.
And it really does like relaxyou.
So last night I was making teaand I asked if he wanted a cup
(10:16):
of tea.
And he was like, um, I'll trythe sleepy time tea.
So I gave him the sleepy timetea and I and I drank stress
relief last night.
Were you stressed?
Because I was I was knocked out.
I know, I know.
And it only took like 15, it waslike 15 minutes.
And he looks over at me and hewas like, I think, I think that
tea is hitting because I'mreally tired all of a sudden.
(10:38):
I just feel really relaxed.
I was like, because of the herbsand the tea.
And so then I go to take her toher room.
And when I came back in, he wasknocked out.
Like REM sleep knocked out.
And you got up this morning andyou was like, that was some good
sleep.
SPEAKER_05 (10:55):
Oh, I don't even remember turning over in the
middle of the night.
SPEAKER_03 (10:59):
The sleepy time tea.
The sleepy time tea would dothat.
But see, I took like my thestress relief that I took, it
was it was just kind of likecalming.
But when I was doing my reading,I felt like I had more energy to
get through.
Because I read six chapters lastnight before bed.
Oh, I know.
You were you were in you were inanother dimension.
SPEAKER_00 (11:20):
Yep.
SPEAKER_03 (11:21):
Between you and your daughter, I was like, my sleep
is gonna hit any minute now.
Any minute now.
And then I kept going chapter tochapter to chapter to chapter,
and then I looked up and I waslike, damn, I done read six
chapters already.
I'm not gonna do that.
SPEAKER_05 (11:34):
I just remember opening my eyes and I looked at
my phone, which is my alarmclock, and I said, Oh, it's five
o'clock.
I said, but it's really six.
Six, uh-huh.
That's why I'm up.
SPEAKER_03 (11:46):
Yeah.
Because of the time change.
So that was a good night'ssleep.
You slept through the night.
You slept through the night.
SPEAKER_05 (11:54):
So now I figure if I can get some sleepy time and
some cut, woo!
SPEAKER_03 (11:59):
I might sleep to noon.
Bye.
I might sleep to noon.
No, but you you took the lastserving of sleepy time and it
took everything in me, but Ireally wanted you to experience
it because I was really lookingforward.
SPEAKER_05 (12:13):
When your child's a wheel here, I go get some.
SPEAKER_03 (12:15):
Thank you.
Thank you.
That's get two boxes.
Because between you and yourdaughter.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (12:22):
Oh, we were just mumbling.
SPEAKER_03 (12:24):
Anyways, yeah, I had me, I had a good week.
SPEAKER_05 (12:26):
That's good.
Because I'm your all your weeksare good because I'm your
husband, right?
SPEAKER_03 (12:30):
I had a decent week.
SPEAKER_05 (12:32):
That's crazy.
SPEAKER_03 (12:32):
It was it was good.
Um, nothing too eventful.
I did hit a new PB.
SPEAKER_00 (12:37):
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (12:38):
In um personal best.
A new personal best.
SPEAKER_00 (12:41):
Of what?
SPEAKER_03 (12:42):
Um, it was 335 for four on deads.
SPEAKER_00 (12:49):
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (12:49):
Um, because I'm working, I'm trying to work my
way up to uh like a six preprange.
Um so I got to four.
And honestly, I probably, Ihonestly probably could have
done five.
It's just that I started losingmy bracing.
And when it comes to deadlifts,like I try not, that's like one
lift.
I try not to push it, push it.
Like when I feel like I'mgetting lazy in the form, um
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push it real good.
Yeah, bye.
I try not to get, I try not topush it.
Um, so that was really good.
And uh yeah, that was prettymuch the highlight your week.
And just and then my baby, ofcourse.
And her magnificent planning.
SPEAKER_05 (13:29):
Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (13:30):
Yeah, and trying to navigate.
SPEAKER_05 (13:31):
She had a great Halloween.
SPEAKER_03 (13:32):
Her magnificent planning.
Yeah, she had a really goodHalloween.
She's been trying to eat candyevery day since.
Because now she's a little bitmore aware.
So she knows, like, listen, weain't gonna keep playing these
games where y'all let me gotrick-or-treating and not let me
have the damn candy.
Okay.
Cause every day, every daysince, can I can I please get
some of my candy?
SPEAKER_05 (13:54):
No, sit your down.
SPEAKER_03 (13:56):
What's she gonna get this morning?
The cotton candy.
Right.
SPEAKER_05 (13:58):
Come on, I'm gonna take this card.
SPEAKER_03 (13:59):
Girl, I said if you don't go put that shit back,
don't I was like, girl, don'tdon't don't piss me off.
Um, but today we have an hourtwo cents episode.
Okay.
You guys are in for a treatbecause you're getting a
back-to-back hour two centepisode.
Um, and and be on the lookout.
I mean, I guess we'll talk aboutthat at the end of the pod, but
(14:20):
we have some other things thatare gonna be happening um that
you can join us in with for, Ibelieve it's this week or next
week, but we'll try to get intothat later, if I can remember.
Um, but we're gonna go ahead andhop on right into our two cents.
Okay, so let's see.
This one says, um, sorry, I hadto turn my ringer up just in
(14:41):
case.
This one says, am I the jerk forputting my sister's husband on
speakerphone to expose his lies?
Okay.
My sister Brie, who's a29-year-old female, has been
complaining for months that herhusband Kyle, who's 31, never
helps with the baby because he'stoo quote-unquote exhausted from
(15:02):
work.
Oh, I understand that.
He claims he's working lateconstantly.
Yesterday he called me asking ifI could pick up his package from
a gaming store so his wife, mysister, wouldn't find out.
Red flag.
I asked him what he was doingafter work.
He said it was he was still atthe office, but I could hear a
(15:25):
crowd, music, and what soundedlike bowling pins.
So I put him on speaker and Isaid, It's weird office sounds.
Do you guys normally bowl duringthe quarterly reports now?
He went silent.
Then he hung up.
Two hours later, Brie called,crying because Kyle accused me
of trying to ruin their marriageand plant distrust within their
(15:49):
relationship.
I told her the truth.
He was clearly lying, and shedeserves better, honestly.
Now my mom says that I shouldhave stayed out of married
people's issues.
Am I the jerk?
Yeah.
You think so?
Yeah.
I mean, even though he waslying.
Stay out of his business.
He was lying.
He no, okay, here's the thing.
It could have been an officeretreat.
(16:10):
He he invited you into thebusiness when No, he asked you
to pick up a package.
SPEAKER_05 (16:15):
He didn't ask her nothing else.
Stay out of grown foe'sbusiness.
Stay out of grown foe'sbusiness.
SPEAKER_03 (16:20):
But that's her sister.
SPEAKER_05 (16:21):
Okay, and I don't care.
You think I care?
If I call your sister, which I'mnot.
I think I would.
I call my I would call myfavorite sister.
SPEAKER_03 (16:30):
Oh my gosh.
Don't start with that.
I wouldn't call it.
Don't start with that.
SPEAKER_05 (16:33):
If I call her, I don't but see, she wouldn't put
me on blast.
SPEAKER_03 (16:36):
Who?
My favorite one.
Both of my sisters would put youon blast.
Are you kidding me?
But both of my sisters wouldn'tcouldn't wait.
If there was any minor slip-upor any type of like
second-guessing, I don't believethat was my favorite one.
SPEAKER_05 (16:51):
Now, with the other one, yes.
SPEAKER_03 (16:54):
You don't think my sister would be the first to
call me and be like, hey, Icould be wrong.
SPEAKER_05 (16:59):
We can ask her.
She follows us.
Maybe she'll comment on it andsay, I don't think she would.
I think she would like wrong onwhat's going on.
And I tell her the truth.
I'm doing some shit she don'twant me to do.
She not she don't support mygaming habits.
SPEAKER_03 (17:13):
Okay, it's not about the gaming though, but if you
were doing something that's likedishonest or something, I'm
dishonest.
SPEAKER_05 (17:19):
I'm tell I'm lying about gaming.
SPEAKER_03 (17:21):
Okay.
All right, here we go.
My boyfriend's hold on, noresponse.
What?
About of what?
For me?
Yeah.
I mean, it's her sister.
I mean, I don't disagree withwhat she did.
It's not a Mariffe's business.
Yeah, I guess so.
My boyfriend's mad at me becausehe opened up the relationship
(17:42):
and got no dates.
So am I the asshole for how Iresponded?
Me and my boyfriend, both 37,have been dating for just over
three years.
Prior to this, I was single foreight years.
Overall, it's been a healthyrelationship.
We're both independent with ourjobs, living situation, etc.
I do love spending time withhim.
(18:02):
I don't really have anycomplaints.
However, something that startledme was back about six months
ago, him saying that he wantedto open the relationship up,
meaning going on dates andsleeping with other women.
I've never been in a dynamiclike this before, so I naturally
had a lot of questions.
He told me that I could also goout on dates with other men and
(18:22):
sleep with them.
I honestly was a littleskeptical at first, but after
doing some research and havingtime to think, I agreed.
He had told me that if at anypoint I wasn't comfortable, we
could stop and close therelationship up again.
One of the rules was we don'tdiscuss with each other what the
other is doing or who they'redoing it with, like the dates
(18:43):
and stuff.
I signed up to a dating app andwithin a few days I had over 500
plus likes.
And it's been a pretty steadysince then.
So I started matching withpeople, texting, and arranging
dates.
On average, I go on about one totwo dates a month.
There are also some people insimilar dynamics of open
relationships that I'm going ondates with and also sleeping
(19:04):
with regularly.
I quite like the fact thateverything is so non-committal.
So even though I was skepticalat first, I am enjoying the open
relationship.
As decided from before, I hadn'ttold my boyfriend about any of
this.
I was at my boyfriend's housethe other day and my phone was
on the kitchen counter.
He saw my notifications and thenproceeded to go through my phone
(19:26):
and read messages, includinggoing through the dating app and
whatnot.
To say he was angry was anunderstatement.
Turns out he opened therelationship up to take out on a
date a younger colleague at hisworkplace who misread his idea
of a date as just work lunch.
He then openly told me that hewanted to see if it would work
(19:48):
out with her so he couldultimately leave me for her.
However, she didn't want, butshe didn't want him, and it
seems like no one else doeseither.
In the last six months, he's hada few rough dates, but no one
additional to sleep with.
I feel somewhat embarrassed forhim.
Uh he demanded we instantlyclose the relationship, and I
(20:11):
told him that maybe we shouldjust end things or at least take
a break.
He was outraged and called meall kinds of names.
But he was the one who wantedthis dynamic.
So what's the problem?
I left, and as I walked home, Icontemplated fully breaking it
off with him.
He's been blowing my phone up,and I'm not quite sure what to
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say.
But am I being the asshole?
SPEAKER_05 (20:33):
Hell no.
SPEAKER_03 (20:34):
No.
Look here.
I feel like we've had a storysimilar to this before.
SPEAKER_05 (20:37):
We probably have, it don't matter.
Yeah.
People play stupid games.
SPEAKER_03 (20:41):
Win stupid prizes.
Look here.
And it's always the man whowants to open the relationship,
but for some frivolous shit ofbecause he's seen another woman
and he wants it to be okay forhim to go sleep with her.
And then when it doesn't workout the way he thinks it's gonna
work out, now he's like, oh no,but it's working out for you.
It wasn't supposed to work outfor you.
SPEAKER_05 (20:57):
This won't always work out for her.
SPEAKER_03 (21:01):
She has a vagina.
It's always gonna work out forher.
SPEAKER_05 (21:03):
She could throw a vagina in a room full of sharks
and ten of things.
Really?
Goodbye.
They're gonna respond.
Goodbye.
Look here.
To me, I would just say leavethem.
Because obviously now his ego ishurt.
I think this is hilarious.
Why?
Because as men, look here, asmen, we we have an understanding
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of what our odds are when you'reout there in that marketplace.
SPEAKER_03 (21:26):
In the marketplace.
In the marketplace.
Right.
Okay.
SPEAKER_05 (21:31):
And if he wouldn't have seen the phone, she would
have just kept doing it anyway.
And it seems like she's enjoyingherself.
She said she is.
SPEAKER_03 (21:39):
So live your life.
She said that she didn't thinkthat she would really like be
comfortable with the dynamic.
But after doing research and nowactually being in it, the first
thing she said is, I like howit's non-committal.
We both get to do our ownthings, but the problem is that
you're not doing the thing thatyou thought you were going to
get to do.
SPEAKER_05 (21:58):
And it's not her, it's not her issue.
SPEAKER_03 (22:01):
He he brought But him saying that I was hoping him
admitting that she was aplaceholder.
That's why I would leave.
SPEAKER_05 (22:12):
And that's why I would leave because he literally
uh he literally set you to theside just in case to see if he
has something with her.
So why did you feel bad aboutleaving?
He was gonna leave you anyway.
SPEAKER_03 (22:24):
Oh wow.
Now that's the part that got me.
He said I wanted to see ifthings would work out with her,
then that way I could leave youfor her.
So you have me as a placeholder.
You could have just said that wecould have been friends with
benefits, and I probably wouldhave been okay with that, and we
wouldn't even have to go throughall this.
SPEAKER_05 (22:41):
Right now, no, she's the only benefit he got.
SPEAKER_03 (22:45):
Right, because she said, she said, I kind of felt
bad for him because nobody wantshim.
SPEAKER_05 (22:49):
He ain't got no sauce.
SPEAKER_03 (22:50):
She said, she said the girl didn't want him at
work, and quite frankly, nobodyelse does either.
He ain't got no sauce.
So that one further lets meknow, like, you don't even have
value out there on themarketplace.
SPEAKER_05 (23:01):
But why are you with him?
SPEAKER_03 (23:02):
So I don't need to be here.
Look, I don't need to be.
SPEAKER_05 (23:04):
If don't nobody else want him, why are you?
SPEAKER_03 (23:07):
I'm not into charity like that.
SPEAKER_05 (23:10):
Really?
That's crazy.
Calling him a charity is crazynow.
I don't want to go that way.
SPEAKER_03 (23:15):
Now that I now that I know what his stats are.
SPEAKER_05 (23:17):
Yeah, it's pretty bad.
SPEAKER_03 (23:18):
It's pretty bad.
SPEAKER_05 (23:20):
It's kind of like his record's almost like as bad
as the cowboys.
SPEAKER_03 (23:23):
Okay, I'm dead.
Um am I the jerk for not wantingto take care of my sick
mother-in-law when my husbandworks nights?
SPEAKER_05 (23:32):
Okay, let's get into it.
SPEAKER_03 (23:34):
My husband's 34 and I'm 31, and we've been married
for five years.
My mother-in-law, who's 67,recently had hip surgery and
needs someone around while sherecovers.
He works nights, so he suggesteduh she stay with us for a few
weeks so I could quote unquotehelp her during the day.
The thing is, I work from home.
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I'm in meetings constantly, andmy job is demanding.
I told him that I don't mindvisiting her on the weekends or
even bringing her food, but Icannot be her nurse.
He got frustrated and said,she's family and it'll just be
temporary.
But temporary has a way ofbecoming months in our family.
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And his mom already madecomments about how quote unquote
women should take care of thefamily.
When I said no, he accused me ofbeing cold-hearted.
Now his siblings think that I'mleaving her to suffer, even
though not one of them haveoffered to take her in.
So am I being the jerk forrefusing to be her caretaker?
SPEAKER_05 (24:36):
I'm gonna say 50-50.
Now, here's why.
I'm gonna say 50-50.
I don't think you gotta, youain't gotta bathe her.
SPEAKER_03 (24:44):
I mean, you never know.
You know how severe that hipsurgery is.
It's your hips.
Yeah, she can she can sit downand bathe herself.
I mean, I don't know.
With comments like that, shemight be the kind to be like, I
can't do much for myself.
SPEAKER_05 (24:56):
Well, here's the wild part.
I don't think if he hassiblings, hold up.
Wait a minute.
Because why are they not helpingout?
SPEAKER_03 (25:06):
They haven't even volunteered, but then they got
they want to leave a comment.
And and do these siblings havespouses?
It wouldn't matter.
I'm a spouse, so I don't give adamn if they do have spouses.
That's still your mother, too.
Well, because I'm gonna sayright now, there's two other
eyes.
SPEAKER_05 (25:19):
Well, here's the thing, here's the thing.
Right now, I knew your motherwouldn't want me taking care of
her, so ain't a problem.
And my mom wouldn't want metaking care of either, so we
safe.
SPEAKER_03 (25:27):
Bye.
We safe.
I think we're safe.
No, I took I took care of my momwhen she got hurt at work.
Remember?
We went and picked her up frommy auntie's house.
Yes, and she couldn't walk, andshe was here for like two months
because she couldn't be byherself.
SPEAKER_05 (25:43):
Was I working then?
SPEAKER_03 (25:45):
You you were always working.
SPEAKER_05 (25:47):
I probably started working a lot so I wouldn't be
around.
Bye.
SPEAKER_03 (25:50):
But I had to help her like walk upstairs.
I had to help her with herlittle walker.
Like, I mean, but that's my mom,you know?
So yes, good for you.
Goodbye.
SPEAKER_05 (26:00):
But I don't I don't think she's been a jerk at all.
No, I don't think I especiallybecause like she has a job.
SPEAKER_03 (26:04):
Like that's the thing.
She has a job.
But here's the thing (26:06):
this is what people get misconscrewed.
People who work from home, theythink because people work from
home that they can just likethey can just like put their
their job that's on the computeron hold and they can just walk
away and do now.
Granted, some people's work fromhome jobs might be that way.
Others, it's like you're in anoffice, but you're just at home.
(26:27):
And you can't just be like,okay, well, you work from home,
so you can be there to take careof her.
SPEAKER_05 (26:31):
She has meetings, like you said, she has meetings
and something like her job isdemanding, you know.
SPEAKER_03 (26:35):
Yes.
I mean, but on the other hand,on the other hand.
SPEAKER_05 (26:38):
Again, I say, I'm gonna go back to this.
He has siblings.
SPEAKER_03 (26:42):
He does.
SPEAKER_05 (26:42):
And if she has surgery, she got some type of
insurance.
I'm pretty sure they can workout something to get her a
little uh in-home care nurse forsome hours.
SPEAKER_03 (26:50):
I was gonna say that too, but also it's like how much
care.
I think I think her biggestconcern isn't so much of the
care, I think it's the amount oftime that she's gonna be there
because she said, because hesaid it's temporary.
She said, but in our family,temporary always equals months.
SPEAKER_05 (27:06):
Right.
You know?
And then and and then you knowhow old people are.
They put extras on everything.
SPEAKER_03 (27:10):
And they try to soak it up.
SPEAKER_05 (27:11):
Oh, they put extras on everything.
SPEAKER_03 (27:12):
And they try to soak it up.
Because I'm thinking, I'mthinking, okay, you just need
someone to be around you just incase.
So I can be in the office, youcan be downstairs, I can set you
up with lunch, you can sit thereand watch your shows.
Like, I shouldn't have to likebe right there, you know.
So if I'm working for the.
SPEAKER_05 (27:27):
The thing is, if you have hip surgery, you gotta move
somewhat.
Right.
And you gotta rehab somewhat.
Right.
So I shouldn't have to cater toyou hand and foot.
Right.
You still do some thingsyourself.
That's what I'm saying.
But I don't think she's wrong atall.
Shit.
Okay.
I know I wouldn't do it.
Bye.
Yes, you would.
No, I wouldn't.
Yes, you would.
SPEAKER_03 (27:43):
Okay.
Am I the asshole for refusing toshare my inheritance with my
siblings who are now threateningto sue me for undue influence?
Okay.
Um, my father passed away a fewmonths ago, and in his will, he
left his entire estate to me,explicitly disinheriting my
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brother Mark, who's 40, and mysister Jenna, who's 38.
The thing is, 10 years ago, myfather gave them both um$150,
$150,000 each as an advance ontheir inheritance to start
businesses because they beggedand begged.
He had a lot of money back then,so it wasn't much to him.
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Both of them blew it within twoyears vacations, cars, etc.
And he and they both had thenerve to come back for more.
When he refused, they got cruel.
They stopped visiting him,wouldn't let him see his
grandkids, and badmouthed him tothe entire family, claiming he
was a um a miser who washoarding his money.
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It's his money.
I don't understand that.
Um, I was the one who was therefor him.
I took him to his doctor'sappointments, helped him with
his finances without evertouching a dime for myself, um,
unlucky unlike my siblings,because I have a great job that
I've worked hard for, and waswith him in hospice when he
died.
It was just me and him at theend.
His will is ironclawed, writtenby his longtime lawyer, and
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includes a clause stating theyreceived their share during his
lifetime.
Mark and Jenna are furious.
They've been blowing up my phonesaying that I quote unquote
poisoned him against them.
They're um bad mouthing me tothe family, and I'm getting
phone calls from relatives thatI should help them out.
Now, now they've hired a lawyer,and today I was served papers.
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They're threatening to contestthe will, claiming I took
advantage of our father in hisold age and used undue influence
to get him to cut them out ofthe will.
They offered to drop the lawsuitif I just give them both$100,000
each.
I told them to get lost and thatI would never give them a single
cent of our father's money afterhow they treated him.
(29:56):
I am so angry that I can barelyspeak.
Am I the asshole for?
Telling them that I see them incourt and refusing to give them
anything.
I'm honestly worried thatfighting this in court will take
more in legal fees than justpaying them out.
But I'm also angry.
And uh that's why I need anoutside opinion because I've
lost all perspective.
SPEAKER_05 (30:16):
Hell no, you're not the asshole.
Take that ass to court.
Look here.
You uh apparently your fatherleft you the money to defend
yourself.
SPEAKER_03 (30:22):
That's hard.
SPEAKER_05 (30:23):
So while they come out of pocket.
SPEAKER_03 (30:24):
Honestly, I would have rather pay it to the lawyer
than to pay it to you.
SPEAKER_05 (30:26):
So why they come out of pocket, because I don't think
they're gonna win anyway.
If you said he had an ironcladwheel.
SPEAKER_03 (30:31):
Yeah, yeah.
So they can't.
And in the wheel, it says thathe gave them their inheritance
during our living chance.
SPEAKER_05 (30:36):
And then I'm pretty sure his lawyer will testify
that he was an influence tochange the wheel, and that you
can also testify, and they canprobably verify that they were
both given the 150 uh Kep priorto him passing.
Yep.
And then I'm pretty sure youhave family that will be
witnesses to say that no, theyhave not been around or in his
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life since that point.
Yeah man, fuck them.
SPEAKER_03 (31:00):
Well, I always find it funny that when there's money
involved and people die in thefamily.
SPEAKER_05 (31:05):
They chase, we switch up.
SPEAKER_03 (31:07):
People get crazy.
They switch up.
People get real crazy.
Money just make money makespeople do fine.
I did that firsthand.
I know.
That's what I'm saying.
We've experienced it.
And money just makes people,money makes people like some
people.
I'm not gonna say all people.
Money makes people just like Idon't know, lose a part of
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themselves, or just like theirtrue self comes out if they
think that they're due like somemoney that they didn't
necessarily, especially moneythat they didn't necessarily
earn.
SPEAKER_05 (31:37):
That ain't theirs.
SPEAKER_03 (31:38):
That ain't theirs.
Like that's crazy.
You do realize how do you know?
You do realize that even thoughyou're his children, you're not
like entitled to his money.
It's still his money.
SPEAKER_05 (31:49):
But they they were thinking that, oh, everything's
gonna be split three ways.
You know that's that's what theywere thinking.
Yeah, of course.
But Pop said, no, y'all hady'all.
SPEAKER_03 (31:56):
And you know what?
SPEAKER_05 (31:57):
And they probably also think like you don't even
need it, you have a good job.
You're doing well for yourself.
What do you need this money for?
What do you need the money for?
Watch, so you can blow it again?
SPEAKER_03 (32:04):
Yeah.
On a Yukon.
Bye.
But you always have, if there'smultiple kids and there's like
parents who have done wellfinancially, I feel like there
is always that one child whomakes it their life mission to
not have to depend on theirparents' money as they get
older.
And then you have the other kidswho are like who grow up knowing
(32:26):
like my parents are loaded, anduh, yeah, they're gonna always
be there.
SPEAKER_05 (32:30):
That's what we have messed up because Miss Phoenix
thinks we're loaded.
We're not.
I tried to tell her, but shethinks like I got it.
SPEAKER_03 (32:37):
I mean, it's not it's not her responsibility to
like know at all, you know, butI don't want her to have the
impression that we're like.
I do.
And no, she's like, I want herto think we broke.
SPEAKER_05 (32:50):
No, you don't want her to think we broke.
We don't have to be broke.
I just want her to think we'rebroke.
SPEAKER_03 (32:54):
Wait a minute.
Wait, this is just a side note.
We were driving one day, andfrom the backseat, she was in
the backseat and the car wasquiet.
We weren't even talking, themusic wasn't even playing.
And out of nowhere, she said,Mommy, I said, Yes, Phoenix.
Are we broke?
And I was like, What?
I was like, I said, Phoenix, doyou think we're broke?
(33:15):
No.
I said, Well then why would youask me that?
Well, because somebody atschool, uh, it was a little boy
or something at school, um, wastalking about like talking about
some kids and like, oh, yourmom, your mom and dad is broke,
and like, you know, so she waslike, Are we broke?
And I was like, No, Phoenix.
And she was like, but we're richin love, right?
SPEAKER_05 (33:32):
Yes, very much.
Rich in love.
SPEAKER_03 (33:34):
I said, Girl, we so rich in love.
SPEAKER_05 (33:36):
Right.
Right.
SPEAKER_03 (33:38):
We so rich in love.
She was she's hilarious.
Um, okay, here we go.
Am I the asshole for telling myhusband's kids who are 24 and 22
that my house isn't their quoteunquote family home, and it's
not my fault.
Their mother lost theirs.
SPEAKER_05 (33:56):
Damn.
Okay.
Come on.
Come on now.
SPEAKER_03 (33:59):
I married my husband two years ago, and he has two
kids, 24 and 22.
The 24-year-old is a female andthe 22 is a male.
He had a very nasty divorce fromhis wife, um, or a very nasty
divorce from their mom that wasfought over the course of years.
Part of the reason for themarriage ending was that she had
a drug problem and blew throughtheir savings and was running up
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credit cards that he didn't knowabout to pay for.
The divorce finalized when theyoungest was 16.
She wanted the house in thedivorce, which was a big part of
the fight, and she ended upgetting it.
She immediately moved in heraddict boyfriend and another
couple that they used with, andthe house ended up uh getting
destroyed and falling intoforeclosure, and then proceeded
(34:40):
and they proceeded to squat init and had to be forcibly
removed.
Because my husband and his exended up also having to file
bankruptcy, he had been livingin a friend's basement when I
met him due to his credit beingwrecked.
Fast forward, we are married.
He moves into my house.
I got a prenuptial agreement.
Um, he can't be on the mortgagebecause of his credit.
(35:01):
Um, his ex and kids are livingwith grandparents.
His kids and ex don't like me,and they refer to me as the, you
know, bad word.
The cunt.
Uh-huh.
But at this point, they're alladults.
So I'm not gonna force anythingon them.
Grandparents recently had tosell their home and they are now
living with their mom's friends.
(35:21):
They asked if they could come inand move in with us, and I said,
no.
Hell no.
Absolutely not.
Both of them got angry andstarted telling me that this was
their dad's home, and that makesthis their family home too.
And that it wasn't up to me ifthey could or could not live in
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our home.
Test me.
They started spouting off everyinsult you could think of.
I interrupted them and told themthat in fact, this was not their
family home.
And if they were looking fortheir family home, that they
needed to go talk to their mombecause she chopped it up and
put it up her nose, and that wasnot my problem.
unknown (36:03):
I love it.
SPEAKER_03 (36:04):
Not chopped it up and put it up her nose.
I love it.
That's crazy word.
I love it.
Uh, a huge part of the reason Idon't want them here is their
mom has since uh squattedmultiple places, forcing
roommates to have uh to threatenher with eviction to get them
out, and basically told the lastone that she would leave for a
(36:25):
certain amount of money.
The kids and her are very close,and I don't want that happening
in my house.
We also have reason to believethat her oldest is also now
using with her.
Am I the asshole?
Hell no.
Absolutely not.
As a board member of the pettycommunity, I'm father is not
even on this mortgage.
SPEAKER_05 (36:44):
Look here.
As the board member of the pettycommittee, I think we 100%
endorse your matches of your ofyour mother, chopped it up and
snorted it up her nose.
SPEAKER_03 (36:52):
She chopped it up.
She said, listen, don't comeover here with that BS.
If you're looking for yourfamily childhood home, go and
ask your mom who chopped it upand snorted it up her nose.
SPEAKER_05 (37:02):
Because in my mind, I'm thinking, hold on, I was
just the cunt.
SPEAKER_03 (37:06):
Now you're asking a couple of nuts.
SPEAKER_05 (37:07):
Now you're trying to stay with the cunt?
SPEAKER_03 (37:08):
You don't like cunt.
No, they're not trying to staywith the cunt.
They're trying to come live withtheir father.
SPEAKER_05 (37:11):
Oh, but he lives with the cunt.
SPEAKER_03 (37:13):
But you're 24 and 22.
Y'all can figure it out.
SPEAKER_05 (37:15):
This house is in my name.
SPEAKER_03 (37:16):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (37:16):
Your dad not.
SPEAKER_03 (37:17):
And we have a prenup.
Hold on, hold on.
So even if we walk away, yourdaddy ain't getting shit.
SPEAKER_05 (37:21):
Hold on, hold on.
I can put your daddy out becausehe's not on here either.
Your daddy's not on the D.
SPEAKER_03 (37:27):
Your daddy is here by the skin of his skinny skin
skin.
SPEAKER_05 (37:29):
Right.
Now don't fuck up with yourdaddy got going on.
SPEAKER_03 (37:33):
I can't.
SPEAKER_05 (37:33):
This is crazy.
SPEAKER_03 (37:34):
But not them saying, like, that's my father's house.
No, baby.
Your daddy moved in with me.
Your daddy moved in with mebecause he was living in the
basement because your mothersnorted y'all life away.
SPEAKER_05 (37:46):
Um, on a serious note, substance abuse is a
serious matter.
SPEAKER_03 (37:48):
It's a very serious matter.
SPEAKER_05 (37:50):
I hope that they're that the brother and the mother
get help if they're both using.
Absolutely.
Um on a petty note, bye.
You're not that.
SPEAKER_03 (37:59):
You're definitely not the asshole.
You have to protect, you'reprotecting you and your union
with your husband, and you alsoare protecting your space.
And I'm sure it's difficult forhim as a father because those
are still his children.
You know what I'm saying?
But they're also 24 and 22.
So at some point, we're gonnahave to start taking
responsibility for our ownselves.
SPEAKER_05 (38:18):
And I I hear what you're saying, babe, but it also
kind of feels like they madetheir decision.
unknown (38:23):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (38:24):
Like they chose the mother.
SPEAKER_03 (38:25):
Well, that's what that's but that's what she's
saying, that they're reallyclose to their mom.
SPEAKER_05 (38:28):
They they they chose because that's and they granted
that's their mother.
Yeah, they're probably reallyclose to their mother, and they
chose the mother in the divorce,and they probably felt like the
dad was at fault and and theyprobably feel guilty if they
leave her.
They probably felt like mom justneeded help and dad wasn't
willing to give her the help.
SPEAKER_03 (38:42):
Yeah.
I mean, speculation, it could bea lot of things, but you know.
But when I'm right, I'm right.
But no, you are not the ass.
But I love the petty.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (38:53):
I I I love the petty.
SPEAKER_03 (38:55):
Okay.
Let's see if we got time for onemore.
We'll do one more.
Let's see.
SPEAKER_05 (39:00):
Juicy.
SPEAKER_03 (39:01):
Here we go.
SPEAKER_05 (39:02):
Oh, did you do the one that the one that wrote in?
SPEAKER_03 (39:06):
We did it last week.
And then there's another one forlike next week.
SPEAKER_05 (39:09):
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (39:10):
Um, let's see.
Am I the asshole for robbing mywife's affair partner, which has
now led to his divorce?
SPEAKER_05 (39:20):
Wait, hold on.
What?
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (39:22):
You want me to read it again?
SPEAKER_05 (39:23):
No, let's get into it.
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (39:25):
I, 32, have been married to my soon-to-be ex-wife
who's 30, Madison, for fouryears.
Uh, we are currently incounseling, but it's not gonna
work.
About a year ago, I found outshe was having an affair by
coming home to their clothes inour living room and sounds
coming from our bedroom.
SPEAKER_05 (39:44):
It was a whole contagious video, Nam.
SPEAKER_03 (39:48):
I lost it.
I was getting my cricket bat outof the front closet when I
stopped to think aboutconsequences.
I didn't want to go to jail.
See, that's what see, he stoppedhimself.
Instead, I took all theirclothes and left quietly.
I went to a friend's house, butnot before throwing all the
clothes in a McDonald's garbagecan.
I turned off my phone and gotshitfaced with my buddy.
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His wife hosed us off in themorning.
After I turned my phone back on,I had dozens of calls and texts
from Madison.
First scared because she got myupdated flight information, then
upset that I hadn't called herto let her know that I was
coming home early, then freakedout that the house had been
broken into, then crazy becauseshe figured out it was me.
(40:36):
They just got more deranged.
The guy she was with is fiveinches shorter than me and about
60 pounds lighter.
I don't know.
Yeah, I don't know.
So if he had taken my clothes,it would be obvious.
He ended up calling his friendto get his spare keys from his
house.
Unfortunately for him, his wifesmelled a rat and followed his
(40:58):
friend back to my house whereshe saw him leaving in my
clothes, the oversized clothes.
Because remember, he took theirclothes.
So that was like his keys andstuff.
Long story short, she tookpictures and she had evidence of
his infidelity, which causedtheir prenup to be canceled.
Let's get into it, which costhim a lot of money.
(41:20):
Um, it is all one big giant shitshow.
SPEAKER_01 (41:23):
Let's watch it.
SPEAKER_03 (41:24):
Uh, it took a couple of months, but my wife convinced
me to try and forgive her.
We started going to counselingand we were working, working our
way through it until recently.
In a counseling session, shesaid that I was wrong to steal
his wallet, phone, and car keys.
She said that his divorce iscosting him a lot of money and
that I should have dealt with itin a more mature manner, and
(41:47):
that it was my fault.
I've never admitted to takinghis stuff.
To begin with, I was afraid hemight call the cops.
Then I didn't want to get herammunition in the case she
wanted a divorce.
Now I just don't care.
I told her that her cheating wasthe reason her boyfriend is
getting divorced, and that Ihope his ex takes him for
(42:08):
everything.
I'm still not living at home.
I have my own apartment and I'mfiling for a divorce.
Now that I know how she feels,it's kind of a slap in the face
that she is blaming me for thedivorce.
SPEAKER_05 (42:21):
Man, fuck her.
Look here.
I don't understand this.
Look here, people.
You cannot tell people how toreact to your shenanigans.
To your shit.
Yeah.
You can't throw shit at someoneand tell them it's chocolate.
SPEAKER_03 (42:39):
And tell them to relax, calm down.
It's a treat.
It ain't that bad.
SPEAKER_05 (42:44):
Look here, sir.
Uh take her for everything shegot.
I'm happy.
Look here.
SPEAKER_03 (42:49):
People act like karma ain't real.
Karma is real.
People act like there's noconsequences to their actions.
We tell our daughteraccountability apparently is
higher costs, so people ain'tbuying it.
SPEAKER_05 (43:00):
They take well they say you don't take
accountability on TikTok.
Um we tell our daughter all thetime, every action has a
consequence.
Now you have to think about thepossible consequences and
whether you're gonna like themor not.
So you while you two were havingfun, thought you guys had your
little sneaking link and yourshit got pulled up because he
came home early.
Yep.
SPEAKER_03 (43:20):
Now and then not you getting upset that he came home
early.
Right.
In the text message, talkingabout why you didn't let me know
you were coming home early.
SPEAKER_05 (43:28):
Why you let me know you were coming?
SPEAKER_03 (43:28):
So you could have him out of the house before I
got there?
I mean, I guess that would havebeen courteous.
SPEAKER_05 (43:33):
Why you didn't let me know you was fucking him?
We can play why why why didn'tyou all night?
SPEAKER_01 (43:40):
That's crazy work.
SPEAKER_05 (43:41):
That's crazy, that's crazy.
That's crazy work.
SPEAKER_03 (43:52):
Well, yeah, because now you're def you're first you
convince me for you first youconvince me for us to work it
out.
Right.
Then you convince me to go tocounseling.
Right.
And then when we get incounseling, you defend him and
fault me for you being caughtand for me for him getting a
divorce too when you both weremarried persons.
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_04 (44:11):
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_03 (44:12):
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_04 (44:13):
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_03 (44:14):
Crazy Madison.
Get your shit together.
SPEAKER_05 (44:18):
She's gonna take him for everything, and she deserves
it.
He's a lion's.
SPEAKER_03 (44:23):
Now he's not gonna be able to take me out to the
fancy hotels that we normallywould go to.
SPEAKER_05 (44:27):
It don't matter, Madison, because you ain't gonna
be there soon anyway.
And the fact, first of all, hemust be doing quite well for
himself.
The fact that he's paying for ahouse and an apartment at the
same time, sir.
Call me.
SPEAKER_03 (44:38):
We we can work something out.
SPEAKER_05 (44:39):
I need I need to know what you're doing that you
got a house in an apartment.
SPEAKER_03 (44:43):
We can work something out at the same time.
I can't.
SPEAKER_05 (44:46):
Because I mean, hey, you know.
SPEAKER_03 (44:49):
Times is tough.
I mean no.
Times are tough.
You know, these are challengingtimes.
Hey, sometimes you gotta dosomething strange for a little
change.
Do something strange for alittle change.
I'm not listening I'm not above,I'm not above a good hustle.
SPEAKER_05 (45:04):
Right.
Right.
SPEAKER_03 (45:06):
I can't.
Whatever it was, don't say it.
Let's just move into the commentof the week.
SPEAKER_05 (45:14):
Okay, the comment of the week.
SPEAKER_03 (45:15):
That's what I was gonna say.
SPEAKER_05 (45:16):
Comment of the week.
This is my part, okay?
This comment comes from the postabout um he was in a
long-distance relationship witha girl when she was sleeping in
the hotel room with her friendthat was.
SPEAKER_03 (45:27):
Well, her best, her best, her best friend is a male.
SPEAKER_05 (45:29):
Yeah, right.
SPEAKER_03 (45:30):
And she slept in the same bed nonsexually with him.
SPEAKER_05 (45:34):
And uh uh Mr.
Donnie do it all on Instagram.
He said, bro, don't even need tocall a psychic hotline.
And I was like, facts.
How does he not see what's goingon here?
SPEAKER_03 (45:45):
That's why you don't need to call a psychic hotline.
He don't even need to call apsych because she's even if you
don't think a man could youdon't think a man and a woman
could sleep in the same bed andnot have relations?
Relations.
You don't you don't think a manand a woman can sleep in the
same bed and not have relations.
SPEAKER_05 (46:06):
Only if that woman is mad and married, and she's
laying next to her husband,she's mad at him.
Then she don't have relations.
You don't you don't think youdon't think the second comment
of the week comes from TikTok?
It comes from James.
SPEAKER_03 (46:20):
Just James.
Uh just James James teetshumility.
SPEAKER_05 (46:25):
And this is regarding to the um the shit
show where she wanted to get arise out of her husband.
SPEAKER_03 (46:30):
Oh, she wanted a reaction out of her husband, so
she cheated to get a reactionout of her husband and got one.
He said, he said Did Tyler Perrywrite this?
SPEAKER_05 (46:38):
Did Tyler Perry write this?
And I said, I said all we all wemissing is the bad wig, and this
is a Tyler Perry movie.
SPEAKER_03 (46:47):
All we missing is the wig.
Bye, Namel.
Goodbye.
And right above his comment,Alonso said in quotation marks,
because she said this to herhusband, he just left me to
spiral.
He said 100 women versusaccountability.
You think that's funny?
(47:07):
That's hilarious.
You're trying to say women don'ttake accountability?
SPEAKER_05 (47:09):
You would see the look, the amount of comments in
there that I again.
I again I I see that that thewhole gender war that y'all be
doing is real.
I don't partake in it because Idon't care.
SPEAKER_03 (47:22):
It's like no matter what the topic is.
SPEAKER_05 (47:24):
The women will defend the women and the men
will defend the men.
SPEAKER_03 (47:27):
That's not that's not true.
Okay, logic, logic is logic.
SPEAKER_05 (47:32):
Sometimes.
Okay, all right, sure.
SPEAKER_03 (47:36):
Okay, guys.
This has been another episode ofthe Life After I Do podcast.
If you are not doing so already,don't forget to like and follow,
share, comment, engage, do allof the things.
All the stuff.
And we appreciate all of thethings.
SPEAKER_05 (47:50):
We appreciate all the new followers on YouTube.
SPEAKER_03 (47:52):
All the new Booskies that have joined the Facebook.
Um don't forget, follow us onall of our social media
platforms, um, Facebook,Instagram.
SPEAKER_05 (48:02):
And I'm gonna say it.
What?
To our to our local Booscaroni,Erica.
SPEAKER_03 (48:10):
You know who you are, Erica.
Our local Booscaroni.
Thank you for your support.
Thank you for your excitementwhen you ran up to us in Target
and was like, not me finding outy'all got a podcast.
Um, but yes, don't forget tofollow like Shimon.
SPEAKER_05 (48:27):
Yes, I did report that you wasn't working that
day.
SPEAKER_03 (48:29):
Goodbye.
Um Instagram, Facebook, TikTok,YouTube.
SPEAKER_05 (48:34):
All that.
SPEAKER_03 (48:35):
All of the above.
We appreciate all the new love,all the new support.
You guys are amazing.
And I was those made worth doingthis.
SPEAKER_05 (48:42):
Y'all see the picture?
She's not taller than me.
She's got a lot more ass, so shesits higher.
What are you talking about?
You you look taller on theepisode, you look taller.
SPEAKER_03 (48:50):
Oh, my legs are swinging right now.
SPEAKER_05 (48:52):
Yeah, but that that ass is holding you up.
That ass is fat.
SPEAKER_03 (48:56):
Okay.
SPEAKER_05 (48:56):
Anyways.
And it was cheeky this week.
SPEAKER_03 (49:00):
Okay.
Anywho.
Anyways, guys, thanks for tuningin to another episode.
Don't forget, you get a newepisode every Wednesday.
Every Wednesday.
And until then.
Peace, Booskies.
Peace, Booskies.
SPEAKER_05 (49:13):
Let's go, birds.
First you convince me for you first you convince me
for us to work it out.
Right.
Then you convince me to go tocounseling.
Right.
And then when we get incounseling, you defend him and
fault me for you being caughtand for me for him getting a
divorce too when you both weremarried persons.
SPEAKER_04 (00:16):
Crazy work.
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_03 (00:18):
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_04 (00:19):
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_03 (00:38):
Hey everybody, and welcome back to another weekly
episode of the Life After I Dopodcast.
SPEAKER_05 (00:43):
Doo doo doo doo doo.
SPEAKER_03 (00:45):
Wow.
That was look laster.
You wanna try that again?
SPEAKER_05 (00:49):
I I'm trying to keep it short.
SPEAKER_03 (00:50):
I listen.
SPEAKER_05 (00:52):
What?
SPEAKER_03 (00:53):
I want it.
SPEAKER_05 (00:54):
Okay.
I'ma give it to you.
Oh my gosh.
SPEAKER_03 (01:00):
I'ma give it to you.
You know what I mean.
SPEAKER_05 (01:02):
I'ma give it to you.
Go ahead.
SPEAKER_03 (01:09):
Okay, that's it.
And then end scene.
That's what we talked about.
Keep it short and sweet.
That's it.
All right.
How's it going?
Hey Booskies.
Hi, Booskies.
How's it going?
SPEAKER_05 (01:20):
It's going, girl.
SPEAKER_03 (01:22):
Why you say it like that?
SPEAKER_05 (01:23):
Life and life and my leg are still sore from Sunday.
That's terrible.
Crazy.
It's because you it's becauseyou had me go on that damn
stairmaster yesterday.
Stairmaster is good for you.
Yeah, but I did a stairmaster onSunday.
SPEAKER_03 (01:34):
And you legit stayed on the stairmaster for 11
minutes.
SPEAKER_05 (01:37):
12 minutes.
Well, it's not my fault.
I had planned to be on there foras long as I'm not sure.
SPEAKER_03 (01:42):
You could have just gotten on the treadmill.
SPEAKER_05 (01:45):
I had planned to be on the stairmaster for as long
as you're gonna be on thestairmaster, but it was taken,
so I had to wait for her tofinish.
SPEAKER_03 (01:50):
And then there were two empty ones side by side, and
I asked if you wanted to go getthose.
SPEAKER_05 (01:54):
Mind you, it wasn't my cardio day, so I was just
there for emotional support.
I didn't need that.
unknown (01:59):
Okay.
SPEAKER_05 (01:59):
I was there for you, boo.
So I want you to know that I wasthere for you.
You know, thank you.
SPEAKER_03 (02:04):
I appreciate the my week has been a wee week.
SPEAKER_05 (02:07):
Life is life, but we're gonna remain positive and
hope for the best.
SPEAKER_03 (02:12):
We know the best is coming.
Now we're not hoping for thebest.
We know the best is on its way.
SPEAKER_05 (02:17):
You said yes to the dress, and I said yes to that
ass.
SPEAKER_03 (02:19):
Okay.
Anyway, the best is on its way.
The best is yet to come.
Okay.
Okay.
Remember, we gotta rephrase, yougotta put, you gotta put a new
scope on it.
You gotta put a loot, a new lenson it.
Stop touching me.
Put a new lens on it.
Wow.
Okay.
So what was the highlight ofyour week?
SPEAKER_05 (02:39):
Um probably when I hit that 215 for um for seven.
SPEAKER_03 (02:45):
That was good on bench.
SPEAKER_05 (02:46):
Yeah.
That was really nice.
SPEAKER_03 (02:48):
You were shook at the Yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (02:50):
Because I had, you know, I can hit the 225 for like
four.
So I've been trying to work onthat.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (02:54):
I've never seen it.
SPEAKER_05 (02:56):
You were there.
You were playing.
SPEAKER_02 (03:01):
I don't record.
SPEAKER_05 (03:03):
It's just a thing that like I get in my head.
So that's probably that was oneof the highlights.
But no, actually, I take thatback.
Okay.
You want to revise it?
SPEAKER_03 (03:10):
Okay, what?
SPEAKER_05 (03:11):
The highlight of my week is my uh the depth I get on
my hack squad now.
That's it.
SPEAKER_03 (03:16):
I haven't seen the video.
SPEAKER_05 (03:18):
And I'd record that.
SPEAKER_03 (03:20):
Oh, okay.
SPEAKER_05 (03:21):
And uh um, but I have we have all of our gym
friends confirmed.
So I'm gonna take her word.
Which one?
Uh I don't know her name.
What'd she look like?
Marlena's friend is reallystrong.
SPEAKER_03 (03:31):
Jen?
SPEAKER_05 (03:32):
Not Jen.
I haven't seen Jen.
I asked about Jen today.
I said, where's Jen?
Jin's my buddy.
SPEAKER_03 (03:37):
Okay.
I'll I'll talk.
I'll talk to her.
SPEAKER_05 (03:39):
Okay, anyway.
Not you trying to verify, mightme.
Um, yeah, I mean, so I mean,another how that I my my
daughter, my daughter has beenuber affectionate this week.
And I said, I don't know if it'sbecause you've been in trouble
and you're trying to get yourway back out.
SPEAKER_03 (03:54):
But ma'am, I'm just saying.
She's been turning it up on you.
I don't need you to be kissingon me like this.
She became me, she was like, Idismiss daddy so much.
That's what she told me.
I dismiss my dad so much.
SPEAKER_05 (04:05):
She misses you.
Like today, today when we um wegot her from school.
Dad, oh, I missed you so much.
Oh, I'm so happy you heard youdidn't go to work today.
Oh, dad.
I said, Phoenix, you you doingtoo much.
SPEAKER_03 (04:22):
You're doing all that, and you're still not gonna
get your screens back.
That's crazy.
Right.
SPEAKER_05 (04:26):
You still didn't get your screens back.
SPEAKER_03 (04:29):
That's crazy work.
SPEAKER_05 (04:30):
And then she was like, so I'm going to Kendall's
house Saturday, right?
SPEAKER_03 (04:35):
She always tries to like butter you up and then like
try to confirm some shit, eithershe planned or she wanted to do
it.
You know what she told me on thedrive to practice?
She was like, Oh, mom, I justwant you to know, me and Gabby
were talking about um a playdate, Gabby from school, and she
was like, and we were kind ofthinking, like, maybe we can do
like a Disney cruise.
(04:56):
I was on the phone with mysister.
My sister said, Did she say aDisney cruise for a play date?
I said, Yes, she did.
Yes, she did.
In my mind, I was like, girl,you don't see Joe.
SPEAKER_05 (05:07):
That's crazy.
Because today she was like,earlier, she was like, Dad, you
remember how like me and Mila,like we had a play date last
summer?
Like, can we have another playdate?
But like this time we gosomewhere like like Disneyland.
SPEAKER_03 (05:25):
Between Disneyland, what'd she tell you the other
day?
Disney World.
Disney World.
She said, no, I've been, she waslike, I've been to Disneyland
already a lot of times.
I want to go to Disney World.
SPEAKER_05 (05:35):
I said, I said, not not pinkies up.
But when she said up at eight isa wild.
SPEAKER_03 (05:41):
She said a play date and they were thinking on it.
Like, like they were just atschool kicking it, and like, you
know what'd be great?
We should do a play date on aDisney cruise.
SPEAKER_05 (05:50):
Hold up.
I messed up my week.
Why?
Because it's Wednesday, so it'sbeen a couple days now.
Mm-hmm.
Since go Dodgers.
Go blue.
SPEAKER_03 (05:59):
Bye.
unknown (06:00):
Ha ha!
SPEAKER_03 (06:01):
Congratulations to the Dodgers.
SPEAKER_05 (06:03):
Y'all know we've we from Southern California, and I
support everything SouthernCalifornia except for the except
for the football teams.
I am an Eagles fan, go Birds.
And to whoever that was in thein the comments somewhere, why
are you talking about mycowboys?
Because I don't like y'all.
Never have, never will.
Go birds.
Um, but shoutouts to my Dodgers.
SPEAKER_03 (06:22):
They had me stressed out.
I think you had everyonestressed out.
My friend posted a video of herhusband, and I mean he almost
burned a hole straight throughthe floor from the pacing.
I said, girl, y'all gonna needto replace your floors when he's
done.
SPEAKER_05 (06:37):
Between games five and seven, I aged 20 years.
Because Lord knows I can't, eventhough when we won Halloween
night, I I kept saying, like, Ikept saying, like, we just gotta
get through the seventh evening.
SPEAKER_03 (06:52):
We just we just need to get through.
SPEAKER_05 (06:54):
If we could just put that seven.
We will be okay.
For the longest time, six, sevenwas early.
It was on the dog, it was on theDodgers' ass.
Okay, because that sixth andseven inning was tearing our ass
up.
But we won.
(07:15):
You know, uh Kershaw won out ofchampions.
Yes, congratulations onretirement.
Um, shout out to you know what,hold up, side note.
What?
Shout outs to Mookie Betts.
SPEAKER_03 (07:25):
Okay, why would you?
SPEAKER_05 (07:26):
Or short stop?
Okay, it's not even about him.
I saw a picture of his wife.
I said, I see you.
Goodbye.
SPEAKER_03 (07:34):
Black Queens Forever?
Stop it.
Stop it.
SPEAKER_02 (07:39):
Stop it.
I said, Mrs.
Bet.
Okay, Mrs.
Mrs.
Mrs.
I said, cocaine.
SPEAKER_05 (07:46):
Okay.
And the other highlight of myweek is that I don't know if
it's true or not, but apparentlysomebody reported that Miss Iiko
is single now.
So if she comes calling, don'ttake it personal.
I won't at all.
Don't, don't, don't take itpersonal.
SPEAKER_03 (08:07):
Don't take it personal.
I'm gonna send home all the allthe support you need.
Baby, baby, baby, baby, baby.
SPEAKER_05 (08:13):
But that's it.
I was really, I was really,really happy that my Dodgers
won.
I even made a post that saidthat I'm so thankful to the
Dodgers because I know theseLakers are finna piss me off.
SPEAKER_03 (08:22):
I know I saw that.
The Lakers might surprise you.
SPEAKER_05 (08:27):
Okay.
They've been playing well.
SPEAKER_03 (08:29):
See?
SPEAKER_05 (08:30):
But and LeBron ain't there.
So it just proves my point thatwe can stop paying this man this
money.
SPEAKER_03 (08:35):
Goodbye.
What's your week, Booskies?
My week was okay.
I mean, it wasn't great becausethe Dodgers won?
Okay, it was great because theDodgers won.
SPEAKER_05 (08:44):
The Dodgers won.
The Cowboys lost.
The Giants lost.
The commander.
Oh my god.
I feel so sorry for JadenDaniels.
I don't know who that is.
That's the quarterback for thefor the commanders.
Oh, okay.
He's a SoCal nature.
SPEAKER_03 (08:56):
The commanders?
SPEAKER_05 (08:56):
Yes, he's a SoCal native.
SPEAKER_03 (08:58):
Commanders?
Yes.
What team is that?
SPEAKER_05 (09:00):
They used to be the Redskins.
SPEAKER_03 (09:01):
Oh, okay.
I know that.
But I don't know who a commanderis.
SPEAKER_05 (09:04):
He's a So-Cal native, I feel bad.
I was like, is this- I dosupport people for the area,
even though he's on that team.
Oh.
Um, it was a so sports-wise, itwas because even the Lakers won.
I said, yeah, I said, look atGod.
Bye, Maurice.
Look at God.
Goodbye.
And then they had ice cube atthe at the pair at the at the
parade.
I saw.
(09:25):
LA, we up, baby.
We up.
SPEAKER_03 (09:27):
Well, I'm happy you had a great sport uh field week,
and that was the highlight ofyour week.
Um, the highlight of my week wasI made it through the week.
Okay.
SPEAKER_05 (09:38):
Yeah.
You've been very cheeky aroundhere.
Huh?
Very cheeky.
SPEAKER_03 (09:42):
What do you mean?
SPEAKER_05 (09:43):
You've been letting your cheeks out.
Oh my gosh.
Walking around very cheeky.
SPEAKER_03 (09:47):
No, I haven't.
SPEAKER_05 (09:48):
And I said, I'm picking up when she's laying
down.
SPEAKER_03 (09:50):
No.
No.
SPEAKER_05 (09:51):
But then I don't know, because you've been
setting me up with your sleepytime tea.
SPEAKER_03 (09:56):
Okay, so I drink, I've I've gotten back on my tea
regimen before bed, and I drinklike a cup of tea before bed.
I do my reading and I do a cupof tea.
And I drink um, I think it'scalled celestial or something
like that, but it's sleepy timetea.
And it really does like relaxyou.
So last night I was making teaand I asked if he wanted a cup
(10:16):
of tea.
And he was like, um, I'll trythe sleepy time tea.
So I gave him the sleepy timetea and I and I drank stress
relief last night.
Were you stressed?
Because I was I was knocked out.
I know, I know.
And it only took like 15, it waslike 15 minutes.
And he looks over at me and hewas like, I think, I think that
tea is hitting because I'mreally tired all of a sudden.
(10:38):
I just feel really relaxed.
I was like, because of the herbsand the tea.
And so then I go to take her toher room.
And when I came back in, he wasknocked out.
Like REM sleep knocked out.
And you got up this morning andyou was like, that was some good
sleep.
SPEAKER_05 (10:55):
Oh, I don't even remember turning over in the
middle of the night.
SPEAKER_03 (10:59):
The sleepy time tea.
The sleepy time tea would dothat.
But see, I took like my thestress relief that I took, it
was it was just kind of likecalming.
But when I was doing my reading,I felt like I had more energy to
get through.
Because I read six chapters lastnight before bed.
Oh, I know.
You were you were in you were inanother dimension.
SPEAKER_00 (11:20):
Yep.
SPEAKER_03 (11:21):
Between you and your daughter, I was like, my sleep
is gonna hit any minute now.
Any minute now.
And then I kept going chapter tochapter to chapter to chapter,
and then I looked up and I waslike, damn, I done read six
chapters already.
I'm not gonna do that.
SPEAKER_05 (11:34):
I just remember opening my eyes and I looked at
my phone, which is my alarmclock, and I said, Oh, it's five
o'clock.
I said, but it's really six.
Six, uh-huh.
That's why I'm up.
SPEAKER_03 (11:46):
Yeah.
Because of the time change.
So that was a good night'ssleep.
You slept through the night.
You slept through the night.
SPEAKER_05 (11:54):
So now I figure if I can get some sleepy time and
some cut, woo!
SPEAKER_03 (11:59):
I might sleep to noon.
Bye.
I might sleep to noon.
No, but you you took the lastserving of sleepy time and it
took everything in me, but Ireally wanted you to experience
it because I was really lookingforward.
SPEAKER_05 (12:13):
When your child's a wheel here, I go get some.
SPEAKER_03 (12:15):
Thank you.
Thank you.
That's get two boxes.
Because between you and yourdaughter.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (12:22):
Oh, we were just mumbling.
SPEAKER_03 (12:24):
Anyways, yeah, I had me, I had a good week.
SPEAKER_05 (12:26):
That's good.
Because I'm your all your weeksare good because I'm your
husband, right?
SPEAKER_03 (12:30):
I had a decent week.
SPEAKER_05 (12:32):
That's crazy.
SPEAKER_03 (12:32):
It was it was good.
Um, nothing too eventful.
I did hit a new PB.
SPEAKER_00 (12:37):
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (12:38):
In um personal best.
A new personal best.
SPEAKER_00 (12:41):
Of what?
SPEAKER_03 (12:42):
Um, it was 335 for four on deads.
SPEAKER_00 (12:49):
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (12:49):
Um, because I'm working, I'm trying to work my
way up to uh like a six preprange.
Um so I got to four.
And honestly, I probably, Ihonestly probably could have
done five.
It's just that I started losingmy bracing.
And when it comes to deadlifts,like I try not, that's like one
lift.
I try not to push it, push it.
Like when I feel like I'mgetting lazy in the form, um
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push it real good.
Yeah, bye.
I try not to get, I try not topush it.
Um, so that was really good.
And uh yeah, that was prettymuch the highlight your week.
And just and then my baby, ofcourse.
And her magnificent planning.
SPEAKER_05 (13:29):
Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (13:30):
Yeah, and trying to navigate.
SPEAKER_05 (13:31):
She had a great Halloween.
SPEAKER_03 (13:32):
Her magnificent planning.
Yeah, she had a really goodHalloween.
She's been trying to eat candyevery day since.
Because now she's a little bitmore aware.
So she knows, like, listen, weain't gonna keep playing these
games where y'all let me gotrick-or-treating and not let me
have the damn candy.
Okay.
Cause every day, every daysince, can I can I please get
some of my candy?
SPEAKER_05 (13:54):
No, sit your down.
SPEAKER_03 (13:56):
What's she gonna get this morning?
The cotton candy.
Right.
SPEAKER_05 (13:58):
Come on, I'm gonna take this card.
SPEAKER_03 (13:59):
Girl, I said if you don't go put that shit back,
don't I was like, girl, don'tdon't don't piss me off.
Um, but today we have an hourtwo cents episode.
Okay.
You guys are in for a treatbecause you're getting a
back-to-back hour two centepisode.
Um, and and be on the lookout.
I mean, I guess we'll talk aboutthat at the end of the pod, but
(14:20):
we have some other things thatare gonna be happening um that
you can join us in with for, Ibelieve it's this week or next
week, but we'll try to get intothat later, if I can remember.
Um, but we're gonna go ahead andhop on right into our two cents.
Okay, so let's see.
This one says, um, sorry, I hadto turn my ringer up just in
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case.
This one says, am I the jerk forputting my sister's husband on
speakerphone to expose his lies?
Okay.
My sister Brie, who's a29-year-old female, has been
complaining for months that herhusband Kyle, who's 31, never
helps with the baby because he'stoo quote-unquote exhausted from
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work.
Oh, I understand that.
He claims he's working lateconstantly.
Yesterday he called me asking ifI could pick up his package from
a gaming store so his wife, mysister, wouldn't find out.
Red flag.
I asked him what he was doingafter work.
He said it was he was still atthe office, but I could hear a
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crowd, music, and what soundedlike bowling pins.
So I put him on speaker and Isaid, It's weird office sounds.
Do you guys normally bowl duringthe quarterly reports now?
He went silent.
Then he hung up.
Two hours later, Brie called,crying because Kyle accused me
of trying to ruin their marriageand plant distrust within their
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relationship.
I told her the truth.
He was clearly lying, and shedeserves better, honestly.
Now my mom says that I shouldhave stayed out of married
people's issues.
Am I the jerk?
Yeah.
You think so?
Yeah.
I mean, even though he waslying.
Stay out of his business.
He was lying.
He no, okay, here's the thing.
It could have been an officeretreat.
(16:10):
He he invited you into thebusiness when No, he asked you
to pick up a package.
SPEAKER_05 (16:15):
He didn't ask her nothing else.
Stay out of grown foe'sbusiness.
Stay out of grown foe'sbusiness.
SPEAKER_03 (16:20):
But that's her sister.
SPEAKER_05 (16:21):
Okay, and I don't care.
You think I care?
If I call your sister, which I'mnot.
I think I would.
I call my I would call myfavorite sister.
SPEAKER_03 (16:30):
Oh my gosh.
Don't start with that.
I wouldn't call it.
Don't start with that.
SPEAKER_05 (16:33):
If I call her, I don't but see, she wouldn't put
me on blast.
SPEAKER_03 (16:36):
Who?
My favorite one.
Both of my sisters would put youon blast.
Are you kidding me?
But both of my sisters wouldn'tcouldn't wait.
If there was any minor slip-upor any type of like
second-guessing, I don't believethat was my favorite one.
SPEAKER_05 (16:51):
Now, with the other one, yes.
SPEAKER_03 (16:54):
You don't think my sister would be the first to
call me and be like, hey, Icould be wrong.
SPEAKER_05 (16:59):
We can ask her.
She follows us.
Maybe she'll comment on it andsay, I don't think she would.
I think she would like wrong onwhat's going on.
And I tell her the truth.
I'm doing some shit she don'twant me to do.
She not she don't support mygaming habits.
SPEAKER_03 (17:13):
Okay, it's not about the gaming though, but if you
were doing something that's likedishonest or something, I'm
dishonest.
SPEAKER_05 (17:19):
I'm tell I'm lying about gaming.
SPEAKER_03 (17:21):
Okay.
All right, here we go.
My boyfriend's hold on, noresponse.
What?
About of what?
For me?
Yeah.
I mean, it's her sister.
I mean, I don't disagree withwhat she did.
It's not a Mariffe's business.
Yeah, I guess so.
My boyfriend's mad at me becausehe opened up the relationship
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and got no dates.
So am I the asshole for how Iresponded?
Me and my boyfriend, both 37,have been dating for just over
three years.
Prior to this, I was single foreight years.
Overall, it's been a healthyrelationship.
We're both independent with ourjobs, living situation, etc.
I do love spending time withhim.
(18:02):
I don't really have anycomplaints.
However, something that startledme was back about six months
ago, him saying that he wantedto open the relationship up,
meaning going on dates andsleeping with other women.
I've never been in a dynamiclike this before, so I naturally
had a lot of questions.
He told me that I could also goout on dates with other men and
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sleep with them.
I honestly was a littleskeptical at first, but after
doing some research and havingtime to think, I agreed.
He had told me that if at anypoint I wasn't comfortable, we
could stop and close therelationship up again.
One of the rules was we don'tdiscuss with each other what the
other is doing or who they'redoing it with, like the dates
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and stuff.
I signed up to a dating app andwithin a few days I had over 500
plus likes.
And it's been a pretty steadysince then.
So I started matching withpeople, texting, and arranging
dates.
On average, I go on about one totwo dates a month.
There are also some people insimilar dynamics of open
relationships that I'm going ondates with and also sleeping
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with regularly.
I quite like the fact thateverything is so non-committal.
So even though I was skepticalat first, I am enjoying the open
relationship.
As decided from before, I hadn'ttold my boyfriend about any of
this.
I was at my boyfriend's housethe other day and my phone was
on the kitchen counter.
He saw my notifications and thenproceeded to go through my phone
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and read messages, includinggoing through the dating app and
whatnot.
To say he was angry was anunderstatement.
Turns out he opened therelationship up to take out on a
date a younger colleague at hisworkplace who misread his idea
of a date as just work lunch.
He then openly told me that hewanted to see if it would work
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out with her so he couldultimately leave me for her.
However, she didn't want, butshe didn't want him, and it
seems like no one else doeseither.
In the last six months, he's hada few rough dates, but no one
additional to sleep with.
I feel somewhat embarrassed forhim.
Uh he demanded we instantlyclose the relationship, and I
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told him that maybe we shouldjust end things or at least take
a break.
He was outraged and called meall kinds of names.
But he was the one who wantedthis dynamic.
So what's the problem?
I left, and as I walked home, Icontemplated fully breaking it
off with him.
He's been blowing my phone up,and I'm not quite sure what to
(20:31):
say.
But am I being the asshole?
SPEAKER_05 (20:33):
Hell no.
SPEAKER_03 (20:34):
No.
Look here.
I feel like we've had a storysimilar to this before.
SPEAKER_05 (20:37):
We probably have, it don't matter.
Yeah.
People play stupid games.
SPEAKER_03 (20:41):
Win stupid prizes.
Look here.
And it's always the man whowants to open the relationship,
but for some frivolous shit ofbecause he's seen another woman
and he wants it to be okay forhim to go sleep with her.
And then when it doesn't workout the way he thinks it's gonna
work out, now he's like, oh no,but it's working out for you.
It wasn't supposed to work outfor you.
SPEAKER_05 (20:57):
This won't always work out for her.
SPEAKER_03 (21:01):
She has a vagina.
It's always gonna work out forher.
SPEAKER_05 (21:03):
She could throw a vagina in a room full of sharks
and ten of things.
Really?
Goodbye.
They're gonna respond.
Goodbye.
Look here.
To me, I would just say leavethem.
Because obviously now his ego ishurt.
I think this is hilarious.
Why?
Because as men, look here, asmen, we we have an understanding
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of what our odds are when you'reout there in that marketplace.
SPEAKER_03 (21:26):
In the marketplace.
In the marketplace.
Right.
Okay.
SPEAKER_05 (21:31):
And if he wouldn't have seen the phone, she would
have just kept doing it anyway.
And it seems like she's enjoyingherself.
She said she is.
SPEAKER_03 (21:39):
So live your life.
She said that she didn't thinkthat she would really like be
comfortable with the dynamic.
But after doing research and nowactually being in it, the first
thing she said is, I like howit's non-committal.
We both get to do our ownthings, but the problem is that
you're not doing the thing thatyou thought you were going to
get to do.
SPEAKER_05 (21:58):
And it's not her, it's not her issue.
SPEAKER_03 (22:01):
He he brought But him saying that I was hoping him
admitting that she was aplaceholder.
That's why I would leave.
SPEAKER_05 (22:12):
And that's why I would leave because he literally
uh he literally set you to theside just in case to see if he
has something with her.
So why did you feel bad aboutleaving?
He was gonna leave you anyway.
SPEAKER_03 (22:24):
Oh wow.
Now that's the part that got me.
He said I wanted to see ifthings would work out with her,
then that way I could leave youfor her.
So you have me as a placeholder.
You could have just said that wecould have been friends with
benefits, and I probably wouldhave been okay with that, and we
wouldn't even have to go throughall this.
SPEAKER_05 (22:41):
Right now, no, she's the only benefit he got.
SPEAKER_03 (22:45):
Right, because she said, she said, I kind of felt
bad for him because nobody wantshim.
SPEAKER_05 (22:49):
He ain't got no sauce.
SPEAKER_03 (22:50):
She said, she said the girl didn't want him at
work, and quite frankly, nobodyelse does either.
He ain't got no sauce.
So that one further lets meknow, like, you don't even have
value out there on themarketplace.
SPEAKER_05 (23:01):
But why are you with him?
SPEAKER_03 (23:02):
So I don't need to be here.
Look, I don't need to be.
SPEAKER_05 (23:04):
If don't nobody else want him, why are you?
SPEAKER_03 (23:07):
I'm not into charity like that.
SPEAKER_05 (23:10):
Really?
That's crazy.
Calling him a charity is crazynow.
I don't want to go that way.
SPEAKER_03 (23:15):
Now that I now that I know what his stats are.
SPEAKER_05 (23:17):
Yeah, it's pretty bad.
SPEAKER_03 (23:18):
It's pretty bad.
SPEAKER_05 (23:20):
It's kind of like his record's almost like as bad
as the cowboys.
SPEAKER_03 (23:23):
Okay, I'm dead.
Um am I the jerk for not wantingto take care of my sick
mother-in-law when my husbandworks nights?
SPEAKER_05 (23:32):
Okay, let's get into it.
SPEAKER_03 (23:34):
My husband's 34 and I'm 31, and we've been married
for five years.
My mother-in-law, who's 67,recently had hip surgery and
needs someone around while sherecovers.
He works nights, so he suggesteduh she stay with us for a few
weeks so I could quote unquotehelp her during the day.
The thing is, I work from home.
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I'm in meetings constantly, andmy job is demanding.
I told him that I don't mindvisiting her on the weekends or
even bringing her food, but Icannot be her nurse.
He got frustrated and said,she's family and it'll just be
temporary.
But temporary has a way ofbecoming months in our family.
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And his mom already madecomments about how quote unquote
women should take care of thefamily.
When I said no, he accused me ofbeing cold-hearted.
Now his siblings think that I'mleaving her to suffer, even
though not one of them haveoffered to take her in.
So am I being the jerk forrefusing to be her caretaker?
SPEAKER_05 (24:36):
I'm gonna say 50-50.
Now, here's why.
I'm gonna say 50-50.
I don't think you gotta, youain't gotta bathe her.
SPEAKER_03 (24:44):
I mean, you never know.
You know how severe that hipsurgery is.
It's your hips.
Yeah, she can she can sit downand bathe herself.
I mean, I don't know.
With comments like that, shemight be the kind to be like, I
can't do much for myself.
SPEAKER_05 (24:56):
Well, here's the wild part.
I don't think if he hassiblings, hold up.
Wait a minute.
Because why are they not helpingout?
SPEAKER_03 (25:06):
They haven't even volunteered, but then they got
they want to leave a comment.
And and do these siblings havespouses?
It wouldn't matter.
I'm a spouse, so I don't give adamn if they do have spouses.
That's still your mother, too.
Well, because I'm gonna sayright now, there's two other
eyes.
SPEAKER_05 (25:19):
Well, here's the thing, here's the thing.
Right now, I knew your motherwouldn't want me taking care of
her, so ain't a problem.
And my mom wouldn't want metaking care of either, so we
safe.
SPEAKER_03 (25:27):
Bye.
We safe.
I think we're safe.
No, I took I took care of my momwhen she got hurt at work.
Remember?
We went and picked her up frommy auntie's house.
Yes, and she couldn't walk, andshe was here for like two months
because she couldn't be byherself.
SPEAKER_05 (25:43):
Was I working then?
SPEAKER_03 (25:45):
You you were always working.
SPEAKER_05 (25:47):
I probably started working a lot so I wouldn't be
around.
Bye.
SPEAKER_03 (25:50):
But I had to help her like walk upstairs.
I had to help her with herlittle walker.
Like, I mean, but that's my mom,you know?
So yes, good for you.
Goodbye.
SPEAKER_05 (26:00):
But I don't I don't think she's been a jerk at all.
No, I don't think I especiallybecause like she has a job.
SPEAKER_03 (26:04):
Like that's the thing.
She has a job.
But here's the thing (26:06):
this is what people get misconscrewed.
People who work from home, theythink because people work from
home that they can just likethey can just like put their
their job that's on the computeron hold and they can just walk
away and do now.
Granted, some people's work fromhome jobs might be that way.
Others, it's like you're in anoffice, but you're just at home.
(26:27):
And you can't just be like,okay, well, you work from home,
so you can be there to take careof her.
SPEAKER_05 (26:31):
She has meetings, like you said, she has meetings
and something like her job isdemanding, you know.
SPEAKER_03 (26:35):
Yes.
I mean, but on the other hand,on the other hand.
SPEAKER_05 (26:38):
Again, I say, I'm gonna go back to this.
He has siblings.
SPEAKER_03 (26:42):
He does.
SPEAKER_05 (26:42):
And if she has surgery, she got some type of
insurance.
I'm pretty sure they can workout something to get her a
little uh in-home care nurse forsome hours.
SPEAKER_03 (26:50):
I was gonna say that too, but also it's like how much
care.
I think I think her biggestconcern isn't so much of the
care, I think it's the amount oftime that she's gonna be there
because she said, because hesaid it's temporary.
She said, but in our family,temporary always equals months.
SPEAKER_05 (27:06):
Right.
You know?
And then and and then you knowhow old people are.
They put extras on everything.
SPEAKER_03 (27:10):
And they try to soak it up.
SPEAKER_05 (27:11):
Oh, they put extras on everything.
SPEAKER_03 (27:12):
And they try to soak it up.
Because I'm thinking, I'mthinking, okay, you just need
someone to be around you just incase.
So I can be in the office, youcan be downstairs, I can set you
up with lunch, you can sit thereand watch your shows.
Like, I shouldn't have to likebe right there, you know.
So if I'm working for the.
SPEAKER_05 (27:27):
The thing is, if you have hip surgery, you gotta move
somewhat.
Right.
And you gotta rehab somewhat.
Right.
So I shouldn't have to cater toyou hand and foot.
Right.
You still do some thingsyourself.
That's what I'm saying.
But I don't think she's wrong atall.
Shit.
Okay.
I know I wouldn't do it.
Bye.
Yes, you would.
No, I wouldn't.
Yes, you would.
SPEAKER_03 (27:43):
Okay.
Am I the asshole for refusing toshare my inheritance with my
siblings who are now threateningto sue me for undue influence?
Okay.
Um, my father passed away a fewmonths ago, and in his will, he
left his entire estate to me,explicitly disinheriting my
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brother Mark, who's 40, and mysister Jenna, who's 38.
The thing is, 10 years ago, myfather gave them both um$150,
$150,000 each as an advance ontheir inheritance to start
businesses because they beggedand begged.
He had a lot of money back then,so it wasn't much to him.
(28:24):
Both of them blew it within twoyears vacations, cars, etc.
And he and they both had thenerve to come back for more.
When he refused, they got cruel.
They stopped visiting him,wouldn't let him see his
grandkids, and badmouthed him tothe entire family, claiming he
was a um a miser who washoarding his money.
(28:46):
It's his money.
I don't understand that.
Um, I was the one who was therefor him.
I took him to his doctor'sappointments, helped him with
his finances without evertouching a dime for myself, um,
unlucky unlike my siblings,because I have a great job that
I've worked hard for, and waswith him in hospice when he
died.
It was just me and him at theend.
His will is ironclawed, writtenby his longtime lawyer, and
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includes a clause stating theyreceived their share during his
lifetime.
Mark and Jenna are furious.
They've been blowing up my phonesaying that I quote unquote
poisoned him against them.
They're um bad mouthing me tothe family, and I'm getting
phone calls from relatives thatI should help them out.
Now, now they've hired a lawyer,and today I was served papers.
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They're threatening to contestthe will, claiming I took
advantage of our father in hisold age and used undue influence
to get him to cut them out ofthe will.
They offered to drop the lawsuitif I just give them both$100,000
each.
I told them to get lost and thatI would never give them a single
cent of our father's money afterhow they treated him.
(29:56):
I am so angry that I can barelyspeak.
Am I the asshole for?
Telling them that I see them incourt and refusing to give them
anything.
I'm honestly worried thatfighting this in court will take
more in legal fees than justpaying them out.
But I'm also angry.
And uh that's why I need anoutside opinion because I've
lost all perspective.
SPEAKER_05 (30:16):
Hell no, you're not the asshole.
Take that ass to court.
Look here.
You uh apparently your fatherleft you the money to defend
yourself.
SPEAKER_03 (30:22):
That's hard.
SPEAKER_05 (30:23):
So while they come out of pocket.
SPEAKER_03 (30:24):
Honestly, I would have rather pay it to the lawyer
than to pay it to you.
SPEAKER_05 (30:26):
So why they come out of pocket, because I don't think
they're gonna win anyway.
If you said he had an ironcladwheel.
SPEAKER_03 (30:31):
Yeah, yeah.
So they can't.
And in the wheel, it says thathe gave them their inheritance
during our living chance.
SPEAKER_05 (30:36):
And then I'm pretty sure his lawyer will testify
that he was an influence tochange the wheel, and that you
can also testify, and they canprobably verify that they were
both given the 150 uh Kep priorto him passing.
Yep.
And then I'm pretty sure youhave family that will be
witnesses to say that no, theyhave not been around or in his
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life since that point.
Yeah man, fuck them.
SPEAKER_03 (31:00):
Well, I always find it funny that when there's money
involved and people die in thefamily.
SPEAKER_05 (31:05):
They chase, we switch up.
SPEAKER_03 (31:07):
People get crazy.
They switch up.
People get real crazy.
Money just make money makespeople do fine.
I did that firsthand.
I know.
That's what I'm saying.
We've experienced it.
And money just makes people,money makes people like some
people.
I'm not gonna say all people.
Money makes people just like Idon't know, lose a part of
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themselves, or just like theirtrue self comes out if they
think that they're due like somemoney that they didn't
necessarily, especially moneythat they didn't necessarily
earn.
SPEAKER_05 (31:37):
That ain't theirs.
SPEAKER_03 (31:38):
That ain't theirs.
Like that's crazy.
You do realize how do you know?
You do realize that even thoughyou're his children, you're not
like entitled to his money.
It's still his money.
SPEAKER_05 (31:49):
But they they were thinking that, oh, everything's
gonna be split three ways.
You know that's that's what theywere thinking.
Yeah, of course.
But Pop said, no, y'all hady'all.
SPEAKER_03 (31:56):
And you know what?
SPEAKER_05 (31:57):
And they probably also think like you don't even
need it, you have a good job.
You're doing well for yourself.
What do you need this money for?
What do you need the money for?
Watch, so you can blow it again?
SPEAKER_03 (32:04):
Yeah.
On a Yukon.
Bye.
But you always have, if there'smultiple kids and there's like
parents who have done wellfinancially, I feel like there
is always that one child whomakes it their life mission to
not have to depend on theirparents' money as they get
older.
And then you have the other kidswho are like who grow up knowing
(32:26):
like my parents are loaded, anduh, yeah, they're gonna always
be there.
SPEAKER_05 (32:30):
That's what we have messed up because Miss Phoenix
thinks we're loaded.
We're not.
I tried to tell her, but shethinks like I got it.
SPEAKER_03 (32:37):
I mean, it's not it's not her responsibility to
like know at all, you know, butI don't want her to have the
impression that we're like.
I do.
And no, she's like, I want herto think we broke.
SPEAKER_05 (32:50):
No, you don't want her to think we broke.
We don't have to be broke.
I just want her to think we'rebroke.
SPEAKER_03 (32:54):
Wait a minute.
Wait, this is just a side note.
We were driving one day, andfrom the backseat, she was in
the backseat and the car wasquiet.
We weren't even talking, themusic wasn't even playing.
And out of nowhere, she said,Mommy, I said, Yes, Phoenix.
Are we broke?
And I was like, What?
I was like, I said, Phoenix, doyou think we're broke?
(33:15):
No.
I said, Well then why would youask me that?
Well, because somebody atschool, uh, it was a little boy
or something at school, um, wastalking about like talking about
some kids and like, oh, yourmom, your mom and dad is broke,
and like, you know, so she waslike, Are we broke?
And I was like, No, Phoenix.
And she was like, but we're richin love, right?
SPEAKER_05 (33:32):
Yes, very much.
Rich in love.
SPEAKER_03 (33:34):
I said, Girl, we so rich in love.
SPEAKER_05 (33:36):
Right.
Right.
SPEAKER_03 (33:38):
We so rich in love.
She was she's hilarious.
Um, okay, here we go.
Am I the asshole for telling myhusband's kids who are 24 and 22
that my house isn't their quoteunquote family home, and it's
not my fault.
Their mother lost theirs.
SPEAKER_05 (33:56):
Damn.
Okay.
Come on.
Come on now.
SPEAKER_03 (33:59):
I married my husband two years ago, and he has two
kids, 24 and 22.
The 24-year-old is a female andthe 22 is a male.
He had a very nasty divorce fromhis wife, um, or a very nasty
divorce from their mom that wasfought over the course of years.
Part of the reason for themarriage ending was that she had
a drug problem and blew throughtheir savings and was running up
(34:19):
credit cards that he didn't knowabout to pay for.
The divorce finalized when theyoungest was 16.
She wanted the house in thedivorce, which was a big part of
the fight, and she ended upgetting it.
She immediately moved in heraddict boyfriend and another
couple that they used with, andthe house ended up uh getting
destroyed and falling intoforeclosure, and then proceeded
(34:40):
and they proceeded to squat init and had to be forcibly
removed.
Because my husband and his exended up also having to file
bankruptcy, he had been livingin a friend's basement when I
met him due to his credit beingwrecked.
Fast forward, we are married.
He moves into my house.
I got a prenuptial agreement.
Um, he can't be on the mortgagebecause of his credit.
(35:01):
Um, his ex and kids are livingwith grandparents.
His kids and ex don't like me,and they refer to me as the, you
know, bad word.
The cunt.
Uh-huh.
But at this point, they're alladults.
So I'm not gonna force anythingon them.
Grandparents recently had tosell their home and they are now
living with their mom's friends.
(35:21):
They asked if they could come inand move in with us, and I said,
no.
Hell no.
Absolutely not.
Both of them got angry andstarted telling me that this was
their dad's home, and that makesthis their family home too.
And that it wasn't up to me ifthey could or could not live in
(35:42):
our home.
Test me.
They started spouting off everyinsult you could think of.
I interrupted them and told themthat in fact, this was not their
family home.
And if they were looking fortheir family home, that they
needed to go talk to their mombecause she chopped it up and
put it up her nose, and that wasnot my problem.
unknown (36:03):
I love it.
SPEAKER_03 (36:04):
Not chopped it up and put it up her nose.
I love it.
That's crazy word.
I love it.
Uh, a huge part of the reason Idon't want them here is their
mom has since uh squattedmultiple places, forcing
roommates to have uh to threatenher with eviction to get them
out, and basically told the lastone that she would leave for a
(36:25):
certain amount of money.
The kids and her are very close,and I don't want that happening
in my house.
We also have reason to believethat her oldest is also now
using with her.
Am I the asshole?
Hell no.
Absolutely not.
As a board member of the pettycommunity, I'm father is not
even on this mortgage.
SPEAKER_05 (36:44):
Look here.
As the board member of the pettycommittee, I think we 100%
endorse your matches of your ofyour mother, chopped it up and
snorted it up her nose.
SPEAKER_03 (36:52):
She chopped it up.
She said, listen, don't comeover here with that BS.
If you're looking for yourfamily childhood home, go and
ask your mom who chopped it upand snorted it up her nose.
SPEAKER_05 (37:02):
Because in my mind, I'm thinking, hold on, I was
just the cunt.
SPEAKER_03 (37:06):
Now you're asking a couple of nuts.
SPEAKER_05 (37:07):
Now you're trying to stay with the cunt?
SPEAKER_03 (37:08):
You don't like cunt.
No, they're not trying to staywith the cunt.
They're trying to come live withtheir father.
SPEAKER_05 (37:11):
Oh, but he lives with the cunt.
SPEAKER_03 (37:13):
But you're 24 and 22.
Y'all can figure it out.
SPEAKER_05 (37:15):
This house is in my name.
SPEAKER_03 (37:16):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (37:16):
Your dad not.
SPEAKER_03 (37:17):
And we have a prenup.
Hold on, hold on.
So even if we walk away, yourdaddy ain't getting shit.
SPEAKER_05 (37:21):
Hold on, hold on.
I can put your daddy out becausehe's not on here either.
Your daddy's not on the D.
SPEAKER_03 (37:27):
Your daddy is here by the skin of his skinny skin
skin.
SPEAKER_05 (37:29):
Right.
Now don't fuck up with yourdaddy got going on.
SPEAKER_03 (37:33):
I can't.
SPEAKER_05 (37:33):
This is crazy.
SPEAKER_03 (37:34):
But not them saying, like, that's my father's house.
No, baby.
Your daddy moved in with me.
Your daddy moved in with mebecause he was living in the
basement because your mothersnorted y'all life away.
SPEAKER_05 (37:46):
Um, on a serious note, substance abuse is a
serious matter.
SPEAKER_03 (37:48):
It's a very serious matter.
SPEAKER_05 (37:50):
I hope that they're that the brother and the mother
get help if they're both using.
Absolutely.
Um on a petty note, bye.
You're not that.
SPEAKER_03 (37:59):
You're definitely not the asshole.
You have to protect, you'reprotecting you and your union
with your husband, and you alsoare protecting your space.
And I'm sure it's difficult forhim as a father because those
are still his children.
You know what I'm saying?
But they're also 24 and 22.
So at some point, we're gonnahave to start taking
responsibility for our ownselves.
SPEAKER_05 (38:18):
And I I hear what you're saying, babe, but it also
kind of feels like they madetheir decision.
unknown (38:23):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (38:24):
Like they chose the mother.
SPEAKER_03 (38:25):
Well, that's what that's but that's what she's
saying, that they're reallyclose to their mom.
SPEAKER_05 (38:28):
They they they chose because that's and they granted
that's their mother.
Yeah, they're probably reallyclose to their mother, and they
chose the mother in the divorce,and they probably felt like the
dad was at fault and and theyprobably feel guilty if they
leave her.
They probably felt like mom justneeded help and dad wasn't
willing to give her the help.
SPEAKER_03 (38:42):
Yeah.
I mean, speculation, it could bea lot of things, but you know.
But when I'm right, I'm right.
But no, you are not the ass.
But I love the petty.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (38:53):
I I I love the petty.
SPEAKER_03 (38:55):
Okay.
Let's see if we got time for onemore.
We'll do one more.
Let's see.
SPEAKER_05 (39:00):
Juicy.
SPEAKER_03 (39:01):
Here we go.
SPEAKER_05 (39:02):
Oh, did you do the one that the one that wrote in?
SPEAKER_03 (39:06):
We did it last week.
And then there's another one forlike next week.
SPEAKER_05 (39:09):
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (39:10):
Um, let's see.
Am I the asshole for robbing mywife's affair partner, which has
now led to his divorce?
SPEAKER_05 (39:20):
Wait, hold on.
What?
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (39:22):
You want me to read it again?
SPEAKER_05 (39:23):
No, let's get into it.
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (39:25):
I, 32, have been married to my soon-to-be ex-wife
who's 30, Madison, for fouryears.
Uh, we are currently incounseling, but it's not gonna
work.
About a year ago, I found outshe was having an affair by
coming home to their clothes inour living room and sounds
coming from our bedroom.
SPEAKER_05 (39:44):
It was a whole contagious video, Nam.
SPEAKER_03 (39:48):
I lost it.
I was getting my cricket bat outof the front closet when I
stopped to think aboutconsequences.
I didn't want to go to jail.
See, that's what see, he stoppedhimself.
Instead, I took all theirclothes and left quietly.
I went to a friend's house, butnot before throwing all the
clothes in a McDonald's garbagecan.
I turned off my phone and gotshitfaced with my buddy.
(40:12):
His wife hosed us off in themorning.
After I turned my phone back on,I had dozens of calls and texts
from Madison.
First scared because she got myupdated flight information, then
upset that I hadn't called herto let her know that I was
coming home early, then freakedout that the house had been
broken into, then crazy becauseshe figured out it was me.
(40:36):
They just got more deranged.
The guy she was with is fiveinches shorter than me and about
60 pounds lighter.
I don't know.
Yeah, I don't know.
So if he had taken my clothes,it would be obvious.
He ended up calling his friendto get his spare keys from his
house.
Unfortunately for him, his wifesmelled a rat and followed his
(40:58):
friend back to my house whereshe saw him leaving in my
clothes, the oversized clothes.
Because remember, he took theirclothes.
So that was like his keys andstuff.
Long story short, she tookpictures and she had evidence of
his infidelity, which causedtheir prenup to be canceled.
Let's get into it, which costhim a lot of money.
(41:20):
Um, it is all one big giant shitshow.
SPEAKER_01 (41:23):
Let's watch it.
SPEAKER_03 (41:24):
Uh, it took a couple of months, but my wife convinced
me to try and forgive her.
We started going to counselingand we were working, working our
way through it until recently.
In a counseling session, shesaid that I was wrong to steal
his wallet, phone, and car keys.
She said that his divorce iscosting him a lot of money and
that I should have dealt with itin a more mature manner, and
(41:47):
that it was my fault.
I've never admitted to takinghis stuff.
To begin with, I was afraid hemight call the cops.
Then I didn't want to get herammunition in the case she
wanted a divorce.
Now I just don't care.
I told her that her cheating wasthe reason her boyfriend is
getting divorced, and that Ihope his ex takes him for
(42:08):
everything.
I'm still not living at home.
I have my own apartment and I'mfiling for a divorce.
Now that I know how she feels,it's kind of a slap in the face
that she is blaming me for thedivorce.
SPEAKER_05 (42:21):
Man, fuck her.
Look here.
I don't understand this.
Look here, people.
You cannot tell people how toreact to your shenanigans.
To your shit.
Yeah.
You can't throw shit at someoneand tell them it's chocolate.
SPEAKER_03 (42:39):
And tell them to relax, calm down.
It's a treat.
It ain't that bad.
SPEAKER_05 (42:44):
Look here, sir.
Uh take her for everything shegot.
I'm happy.
Look here.
SPEAKER_03 (42:49):
People act like karma ain't real.
Karma is real.
People act like there's noconsequences to their actions.
We tell our daughteraccountability apparently is
higher costs, so people ain'tbuying it.
SPEAKER_05 (43:00):
They take well they say you don't take
accountability on TikTok.
Um we tell our daughter all thetime, every action has a
consequence.
Now you have to think about thepossible consequences and
whether you're gonna like themor not.
So you while you two were havingfun, thought you guys had your
little sneaking link and yourshit got pulled up because he
came home early.
Yep.
SPEAKER_03 (43:20):
Now and then not you getting upset that he came home
early.
Right.
In the text message, talkingabout why you didn't let me know
you were coming home early.
SPEAKER_05 (43:28):
Why you let me know you were coming?
SPEAKER_03 (43:28):
So you could have him out of the house before I
got there?
I mean, I guess that would havebeen courteous.
SPEAKER_05 (43:33):
Why you didn't let me know you was fucking him?
We can play why why why didn'tyou all night?
SPEAKER_01 (43:40):
That's crazy work.
SPEAKER_05 (43:41):
That's crazy, that's crazy.
That's crazy work.
SPEAKER_03 (43:52):
Well, yeah, because now you're def you're first you
convince me for you first youconvince me for us to work it
out.
Right.
Then you convince me to go tocounseling.
Right.
And then when we get incounseling, you defend him and
fault me for you being caughtand for me for him getting a
divorce too when you both weremarried persons.
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_04 (44:11):
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_03 (44:12):
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_04 (44:13):
Crazy work.
SPEAKER_03 (44:14):
Crazy Madison.
Get your shit together.
SPEAKER_05 (44:18):
She's gonna take him for everything, and she deserves
it.
He's a lion's.
SPEAKER_03 (44:23):
Now he's not gonna be able to take me out to the
fancy hotels that we normallywould go to.
SPEAKER_05 (44:27):
It don't matter, Madison, because you ain't gonna
be there soon anyway.
And the fact, first of all, hemust be doing quite well for
himself.
The fact that he's paying for ahouse and an apartment at the
same time, sir.
Call me.
SPEAKER_03 (44:38):
We we can work something out.
SPEAKER_05 (44:39):
I need I need to know what you're doing that you
got a house in an apartment.
SPEAKER_03 (44:43):
We can work something out at the same time.
I can't.
SPEAKER_05 (44:46):
Because I mean, hey, you know.
SPEAKER_03 (44:49):
Times is tough.
I mean no.
Times are tough.
You know, these are challengingtimes.
Hey, sometimes you gotta dosomething strange for a little
change.
Do something strange for alittle change.
I'm not listening I'm not above,I'm not above a good hustle.
SPEAKER_05 (45:04):
Right.
Right.
SPEAKER_03 (45:06):
I can't.
Whatever it was, don't say it.
Let's just move into the commentof the week.
SPEAKER_05 (45:14):
Okay, the comment of the week.
SPEAKER_03 (45:15):
That's what I was gonna say.
SPEAKER_05 (45:16):
Comment of the week.
This is my part, okay?
This comment comes from the postabout um he was in a
long-distance relationship witha girl when she was sleeping in
the hotel room with her friendthat was.
SPEAKER_03 (45:27):
Well, her best, her best, her best friend is a male.
SPEAKER_05 (45:29):
Yeah, right.
SPEAKER_03 (45:30):
And she slept in the same bed nonsexually with him.
SPEAKER_05 (45:34):
And uh uh Mr.
Donnie do it all on Instagram.
He said, bro, don't even need tocall a psychic hotline.
And I was like, facts.
How does he not see what's goingon here?
SPEAKER_03 (45:45):
That's why you don't need to call a psychic hotline.
He don't even need to call apsych because she's even if you
don't think a man could youdon't think a man and a woman
could sleep in the same bed andnot have relations?
Relations.
You don't you don't think a manand a woman can sleep in the
same bed and not have relations.
SPEAKER_05 (46:06):
Only if that woman is mad and married, and she's
laying next to her husband,she's mad at him.
Then she don't have relations.
You don't you don't think youdon't think the second comment
of the week comes from TikTok?
It comes from James.
SPEAKER_03 (46:20):
Just James.
Uh just James James teetshumility.
SPEAKER_05 (46:25):
And this is regarding to the um the shit
show where she wanted to get arise out of her husband.
SPEAKER_03 (46:30):
Oh, she wanted a reaction out of her husband, so
she cheated to get a reactionout of her husband and got one.
He said, he said Did Tyler Perrywrite this?
SPEAKER_05 (46:38):
Did Tyler Perry write this?
And I said, I said all we all wemissing is the bad wig, and this
is a Tyler Perry movie.
SPEAKER_03 (46:47):
All we missing is the wig.
Bye, Namel.
Goodbye.
And right above his comment,Alonso said in quotation marks,
because she said this to herhusband, he just left me to
spiral.
He said 100 women versusaccountability.
You think that's funny?
(47:07):
That's hilarious.
You're trying to say women don'ttake accountability?
SPEAKER_05 (47:09):
You would see the look, the amount of comments in
there that I again.
I again I I see that that thewhole gender war that y'all be
doing is real.
I don't partake in it because Idon't care.
SPEAKER_03 (47:22):
It's like no matter what the topic is.
SPEAKER_05 (47:24):
The women will defend the women and the men
will defend the men.
SPEAKER_03 (47:27):
That's not that's not true.
Okay, logic, logic is logic.
SPEAKER_05 (47:32):
Sometimes.
Okay, all right, sure.
SPEAKER_03 (47:36):
Okay, guys.
This has been another episode ofthe Life After I Do podcast.
If you are not doing so already,don't forget to like and follow,
share, comment, engage, do allof the things.
All the stuff.
And we appreciate all of thethings.
SPEAKER_05 (47:50):
We appreciate all the new followers on YouTube.
SPEAKER_03 (47:52):
All the new Booskies that have joined the Facebook.
Um don't forget, follow us onall of our social media
platforms, um, Facebook,Instagram.
SPEAKER_05 (48:02):
And I'm gonna say it.
What?
To our to our local Booscaroni,Erica.
SPEAKER_03 (48:10):
You know who you are, Erica.
Our local Booscaroni.
Thank you for your support.
Thank you for your excitementwhen you ran up to us in Target
and was like, not me finding outy'all got a podcast.
Um, but yes, don't forget tofollow like Shimon.
SPEAKER_05 (48:27):
Yes, I did report that you wasn't working that
day.
SPEAKER_03 (48:29):
Goodbye.
Um Instagram, Facebook, TikTok,YouTube.
SPEAKER_05 (48:34):
All that.
SPEAKER_03 (48:35):
All of the above.
We appreciate all the new love,all the new support.
You guys are amazing.
And I was those made worth doingthis.
SPEAKER_05 (48:42):
Y'all see the picture?
She's not taller than me.
She's got a lot more ass, so shesits higher.
What are you talking about?
You you look taller on theepisode, you look taller.
SPEAKER_03 (48:50):
Oh, my legs are swinging right now.
SPEAKER_05 (48:52):
Yeah, but that that ass is holding you up.
That ass is fat.
SPEAKER_03 (48:56):
Okay.
SPEAKER_05 (48:56):
Anyways.
And it was cheeky this week.
SPEAKER_03 (49:00):
Okay.
Anywho.
Anyways, guys, thanks for tuningin to another episode.
Don't forget, you get a newepisode every Wednesday.
Every Wednesday.
And until then.
Peace, Booskies.
Peace, Booskies.
SPEAKER_05 (49:13):
Let's go, birds.
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