April 16, 2025 • 53 mins
✨ Marriage isn't always picture-perfect—and that's okay. In this hilarious and brutally honest episode of Life After I Do, Kynesha and Morice peel back the curtain on the real, messy, and surprisingly funny side of long-term love.
From sleeping in separate rooms for better rest to debating emotional cheating, this episode is packed with candid moments that prove no topic is off-limits.
🍬 It all starts with jelly beans. Morice’s desperate search for Starburst jelly beans kicks off a lighthearted reflection on the small, thoughtful moments that keep a marriage thriving—yes, even when it results in a 3-pound gain after a pupusa binge.
🔥 Main Segment: “Would We or Wouldn’t We?”
The couple answers spicy and sometimes uncomfortable relationship questions with unfiltered honesty:
💬 Would you forgive emotional cheating?
💬 What would you do if your partner was attracted to someone else?
💬 Is sleeping in separate rooms a dealbreaker or a relationship saver?
👀 Their perspectives on privacy, boundaries, and forgiveness show how every couple finds their own rhythm—and why that’s what truly matters.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I'm going to say, yeah, there was like what, like
maybe what was like six months,eight months a year or something
like that, where you slept inyour office.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Yeah and then.
But then you was like I'mgetting tired and I have my
husband in bed and I was like itwas great.
But then again I was like but Iwas like this is the only way
I'm actually getting qualitysleep, both of us.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
That was the only way we were both actually getting
quality sleep.
Hey, everybody, and welcomeback to another episode of Life
After I Do Podcast.
You're going to be hanging outwith me, kynesha, and my rock
star of a husband.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Stop trying to gas me up.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
I'm your biggest cheerleader.
What can I say?
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Gas pedal.
Hey, hey, gas pedal.
Hey, what happened to Sage?
Oh, I don't know, he was aGemini.
He switched up.
What was it?
This is what happens when youget a husband that had rest.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Oh my gosh, that family nap today.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Was everything.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
We took a family nap today.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
It was great.
So we told Phoenix Wait, we'regoing to sleep.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
I was, like I said, we had already planned on taking
a family nap, but I think wewere all like sugar induced as
well.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
I didn't have any sugar.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
He's a lie.
He's an applesauce lie,applesauce, okay.
He's an applesauce lie.
Okay, listen, I don't know whatit was, but I wanted some jelly
beans.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
You know exactly what it was.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
I wanted some Starburst jelly beans, and so my
husband, being the man that heis, while he was already like
laying down, enjoying hisSaturday evening resting, I
decided to come over to him withBS and I was like, hey, so you
know, I could really go for somejelly beans and red vines and
(02:14):
he was laying there and he waslike okay, and he was like so
when I asked you if you wantanything from Target when I was
there earlier, I said I didn'twant them earlier.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I want them now.
My wife knows that even when Idon't go to the gym, so
Saturdays, I don't work out onSaturdays but I start to get my
steps in.
So now, what I do now is I walkto get my coffee in the morning
.
So as a way to get my steps.
So it's about a good A coupleof miles.
(02:43):
It's about a good two mile walkto.
Target to the Starbucks insideTarget and back.
So that's what I do.
So I say, hey, I'll pick up thestuff for breakfast.
I'll get tossing the stuff.
Do you want anything else?
I don't want them then.
No, she waits.
I'm home, I've straightened upthe backyard, picked up the logs
(03:04):
that the dog has left.
I said you're not even afull-grown dog, you drop the
logs like this Diabolical,diabolical.
I spent some time, one-on-onetime, with the dog, trying to
get her to sit and stay, andstuff all that stuff.
She did good and then she gotstubborn.
Anyway, I did my laundry forthe third, third, fourth week in
(03:26):
a row.
My wife is slipping, um,because you've been, oh, all
right, and now I'm like, okay,now, like I know we have to
record later, so I want to relaxand rest so I can be refreshed
and then she hits me with theyeah, babe, you know, I don't
know, I don't know what it is,it's just like I just want some
red vines or some jelly beansand I'm looking at her like like
(03:52):
, do you understand that this?
It's warm today now, mind you,it wouldn't been as bad.
But the high school around thecorner, like I guess they're
hosting like events.
No, they're hosting like theall the.
No, they're hosting like the ohthe games and stuff, like the
track championship or something.
So there's like it's poppingaround.
It was popping around thecorner Because when I was
(04:12):
walking home I was like that isa.
It was like there are like 40school buses deep.
I said that's a lot of people.
Yeah, it's a lot of people,right.
And I said okay, well, whatever.
So I was like now she want meto go drive through this traffic
.
Mind you, we live in a veryactive neighborhood.
So on Saturdays, everybody out.
The walkers the joggers, thekids and then you got the soccer
(04:33):
games going, you got thesoftball games going, you got
the baseball games going, yougot the track meet going.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
I'm like and you want some jelly beans.
You were a superstar because hewent and got my jelly beans and
then, like, when he got there,I was like, okay, now these are
the ones you're looking for,because I wanted the Starburst
jelly beans and you know, theyhave the Easter candy out, so
now they have like the favoritereds.
So it's like the strawberry,the watermelon, it's like the
(05:01):
red you know reds and pinks.
So I was like, oh, you got toget these.
And he's like, oh, they don'thave them.
And I was like, yes, they do.
He was like I'm in the candyaisle Kynesha, they're not here.
And I was like it's part ofEaster collection.
So you're going to have to findthe Easter section of candy in
the store.
But there's plenty of employeesthere because it's Saturday, so
(05:23):
just go ahead and ask anemployee and they should be able
to direct you.
But I'm confident that youshould be able to come back home
with Starburst jelly beans redsto be more exact and he was
successful and I appreciate you,great man, he's a good man,
savannah.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
How was your week?
Speaker 1 (05:45):
My week was good.
How was your week?
Oh gosh Okay.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
You know what, never mind.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
I think, going forward, I'm either going to
just skip your week or maybe wejust don't start with each
other's weeks anymore, because Ifeel like, coming into
recording, I can be like at ahigh Like.
I'm like excited you know,because this is time that we get
together and I enjoy this time,you know.
And then when I go and I'm like, ok, well, how was your week,
(06:17):
babe?
And then it starts with the.
I was thinking, I was trying toreflect.
Then I'm just like you know what, Never mind.
I was trying to reflect.
Then I'm just like you knowwhat, Never mind I'm at a five
now.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I was trying to my week was See here here.
Okay, here.
My week was it was rockybecause I had some stomach
issues.
Okay, for a couple of days Ikind of threw my whole plan off.
Okay, that I wasn't expectingto do.
So that was.
You know, since Wednesday hasbeen pretty good, okay, shots
out to that papusa place.
Look here.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Oh yeah, that was good.
Look here, that was really good, I gained three pounds.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
I'm going to just say it.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
That's crazy work, because I lost a whole pound.
Yeah, I know it was crazy,which only lets me know that I
haven't been eating my calorieslike I should have, and so I
text my trainer the next morning.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
I said look man, I ate six pupusas yesterday and it
was worth it.
And I feel no shame.
It was worth it, it was worthevery bite.
And the fact is we doubled back.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Right, we went there.
We went there, we got some forlunch and we were like, ok,
we're going to get a couple oflike a few to try.
And then we're going to get,like our kid one right, they
barely survived getting to herwhen we went to pick her up from
school, like we were just aboutto ixnay the whole thing and
just eat them all and pretendlike it never happened and then
just bring her home and get hera sandwich or something.
She didn't appreciate good food.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
And they were just really good.
They were handmade, like theywere just really good, you know.
But anyway, we saved her one.
She ended up eating, eating it.
She liked it.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
We liked it so much that we went back later that
evening and got more and here'sthe cold part when we went back,
when we went back, grandma wasmaking them, so they were better
, they were back like the wayshe was doing, the way she was
(08:01):
doing with their hands oh,you're so good.
I said this is gonna be fire.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Yeah, her hands they were so good, I said this is
going to be fire, yeah, and theywere.
They were really good.
And she made them bigger thistime too, because, remember, the
ones we got earlier for lunchwere a little bit like, they
were like medium size, but shemade them like a little bit
bigger, and the way she stackedthem I was like, yes, they were
so good, so so, so good, I saidto myself I know I have fitness
goals and I've done really goodso far.
(08:27):
Yeah, you'll still achieve them.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
And I said but today it's a papusa day yeah, I had, I
had what Four?
I think I had.
I had six the whole day.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
I had four.
I had four papusas, I had aCoke Zero.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Had I known that I was going to love those pupusas
so much I would have skippedbreakfast.
Oh my gosh, I bet you there'sfire in the morning for
breakfast, right, just going toget just the cheese ones too.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
I actually would try the bean and cheese one for
breakfast.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Okay, tomorrow morning.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
That's what I was just thinking.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
I was like, oh my gosh, because then they're going
to be super, super fresh and ifwe get there like right when
they open Right when they open,and you know what it's going to
be an old lady cooking in themorning too, because of the
morning show.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Yeah, oh yeah, we're going to get the bean and cheese
the babusas was a highlight ofmy week.
The babusas are really reallygood.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
The papusas was so good I forgot I had a therapy
session.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Right, cause we were sitting there and I'm my doctor,
is my therapist?
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Text me she's like.
Hey I said my bad, I log inright now.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
I'm sorry, I'm trying to get to these papusas.
And then when they finally came, they and my silly self I was
like but I don't want to wait,because the way they smell, they
smell so good and I'm sittingthere burning my fingers.
I was like but if I dip it inthe sauce, the sauce is cool.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
So it'll cool my fingers off when I tell y'all
I'm sitting there watching hereat, talking to my therapist.
I'm like and I tell mytherapist, I'm trying to pay
attention to you, but the wayshe eating put this phone down
it's just digging.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
They were, oh my gosh , they were so good.
What's it's?
I don't know what was in it,it's just I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Hey, I don't know it's just they're not paying me
so I don't have to plug them.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Bye, I just know the food is good it's a small
business, so it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
I love it it off of Paris.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
No, no, no, no.
How was your week?
Speaker 1 (10:24):
They don't need to know all that.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
How was your week?
Speaker 1 (10:27):
My week was okay.
It was good.
It was good Only because I Ifeel like my workout.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Have been planned your life, my squat day.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I mean it didn't just go like as planned, you know I
feel like I wasn't.
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
Thank you.
Thank you, that was awesome.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
I just felt like I wasn't making the mind muscle
connection that I really wantedto, and I've been looking
forward to squat day since lastweek.
You know that was awesome.
Thank you, but I could also feelthat my energy level was not
where it normally is.
But I am proud of myself forlike pushing through, because
(11:06):
remember how I told you.
It was like when I told you,it's moments like this where
that's where the doubt kind ofcreeps in, because when I put
the 260 on my back, I was like Iwas the way I was moving 260
last week was just like like Ihad 135 on my back and then I
was moving the 260 and I waslike what, what is happening?
Speaker 2 (11:24):
like you what's happening right now.
You were literally living inthe meme, like when your warm-up
weight feels heavy.
Like what?
Speaker 1 (11:30):
right, and that's quite literally what it was.
I was like, wait, what ishappening right now?
I was like I'm not even at my275 yet, like I'm not even
through the whole warm.
What is happening?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
because, I because.
I because I told you aboutWednesday when I went in there
and I was in there, you know nocompression sleeves on my knee,
and I did my leg band and I saideverything feels heavy.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
Yeah, it's just.
It's so weird.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
I said how about relying on those sleeves that
much, because everything feelsheavy.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Well, I mean, I don't wear sleeves, but I mean that's
because you got knees likeMegan.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
I wouldn't necessarily say that, but I got
knees like Anthony Davis, anymoment they could break.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
Bye, maurice, mr Glass, Goodbye, goodbye.
No, but that kind of shook me alittle bit.
But I know that going into likenext week and the week after,
especially the week after nextweek, that's going to be like
I'm going to be.
Yeah, I'll probably hit mythree 15 the week after next,
I'll probably hit my three 15,but I was just so surprised
(12:34):
Cause I was like, why does, whyis the two 60 feeling like this?
Like I was repping out two 60.
Like it was, like it waslightweight, it was nuts, just
like nine days ago.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
What is happening?
Speaker 1 (12:47):
What is happening.
So, um, aside from that, it wasstill a good workout.
I pushed through um to helpbuild my confidence just a
little bit.
Uh, body by Patino, don't beupset.
But I added, I added likepressing there because I was
like I need to, I need to feellike also that was extra.
That was extra that leg pressin there because I was like I
need to, I need to feel like oh,so that was extra.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
That was extra.
That was not on my program, myprogram after my after my squat
was straight into leg extensionswhen I stopped by the leg press
machine, first I thought thatwas weird, but when we went to
the gym, then I went to the legpress.
When we went to the gym FridayI said why she being here seven
hours?
Speaker 1 (13:22):
What Well, no I don't always add.
No, I only added, I only added.
I only added on my squat daybecause I was just because I was
feeling on my squat.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Look here, look here, look here, look here, look here
.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
I like being there.
Look here.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Even when you don't rep something, you wait five
minutes to try again.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
No, I only do that.
My longest rest periods areonly on my big three lifts.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Babe, okay, anyway, she be in there taking her time.
When the workout says to restand recover for the next set, my
wife definitely rests andrecovers.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
On my big lifts.
Yes, my trainer said to take upto five minutes if I need to on
my big lifts, but my accessoryworkouts, my rest periods, are
only two minutes.
Okay, babe.
So I mean I take my two minutesif I need to.
All right, babe.
I mean you know, All right.
Well, when you're pushing 600to 700 pounds on a leg press,
(14:19):
you would want to take yourbreak too, to make sure that
you're getting up there.
Listen, I've already came foryou and I've already conquered
when I came for you.
Don't come for me, because youknow I can do 600.
You can do 600.
You barely pushed seven, butyou didn't do the eight.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Okay, here we go.
What we?
Speaker 1 (14:40):
got today.
If you want to get back into it.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
we can do that.
Okay, don't come for me,because I didn't send for you
what we got today.
I didn't send for you, and thisis why my week is miserable.
I'm just playing Ba-dum-bum.
Wow, just when you think youhave a friend Hold on Side note,
(15:02):
she probably a good man for metelling y'all this what I'm
saying anyway.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
Who me?
Yeah, oh my gosh, what is it?
Don't be telling people mybusiness.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
I don't know why you've been craving meat Like my
wife, like today.
She was like I want chickenwings.
Oh, I was like just chickenwings.
I was like just chicken wings.
I don't need nothing but thewings, I just want chicken wings
and then yesterday she was likeI want a steak.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
I think it might be my iron again.
I might need to check that out.
I didn't wait, I just wantedmeat.
You want it raw or honestly, ifyou put enough salt and sauce
on it, I probably would haveeaten it raw.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
I'm not gonna lie because we went to our friend's
house on Thursday.
Shout out to the Raw Rivals.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
She was like do you want me to make you a plate?
Do you want anything?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
They had barbecue, so they had grilled up some corny
assada or some steak and chicken.
The way my wife was eating thatsteak.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
I said this she was like you want me to make you a
plate?
And I was like um, I was likewhat do you have?
And she was like telling meeverything she has.
And I was like, oh, you canjust give me meat.
And she was like just the meat.
I was like just a plate full ofmeat, that's it.
I don't need anything else andwhen she said that, I said yeah,
I got some meat bye sure you'reright because I'm going to get
some chicken rings after this,right after, right after we
(16:14):
finish your, your appetitelately has been diabolical.
I I look here I honestly thinkit's the program that I'm on it
probably is.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
I think it's all the ways people think I'll be
playing, because when I say thatmy child eats like a full-grown
man, right when my child looknow, granted, my child is very,
very active, exactly very activeand I think that's what she
practices like 10 hours.
She does gymnastics like 10hours a week.
She has school, she, she haschoir.
Then she comes home andpractices at home.
(16:42):
Then she plays hard.
She's very, very active andwhen that child is hungry she
eats more than I do.
We order her full adult meals.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
She don't even get the kids menu.
No more, she ain't about thatlife.
She's not about that life, andthen don't let it be some meat
on a bone.
Oh yeah, she's not about thatlight, and then it don't.
Don't let it be some meat on abone.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Oh yeah, with the fat oh my god, with the fat, it
drives she, it drives me, itdrives me nuts.
And I don't know why it doeswhen she.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Because the way she eats the fat, when she eats
bacon, she eats the fat yeah, orif she's not in the mood for it
, she'll just eat the fat, andthen she starts uh, gazing over
other people's plates and she'slike looking at our plates like.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Are you going to?
Speaker 1 (17:22):
eat that.
So, like when we get pho, shegets the brisket with the fatty
brisket and she just goesthrough the pieces of meat and
she just picks off all the fatand then she puts the brisket
there.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
I'm like girl, but I'm not mad at her because
that's how they live.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
You remember, and I'm like girl, but I'm not mad at
her because that's how they live.
You remember that?
And then the way she cracksopen chicken bones yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
And tries to eat the marrow.
No, she eats the marrow and thegristle.
Yeah, I see when is she from.
She's from Alaska, Becausethat's life goes on.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
That's how they eat.
That's how they eat.
She's from Alaska.
That's how she eat.
When the first time I think shewas maybe like four, the first
time I seen her crack open thechicken bone like she ate the
gristle.
And then she cracked open thetop and she was like looking in
there and like her eyes was likeoh no, babe, that's meat.
And she started crunching.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
I said oh, absolutely , but they had the jaw strength
at 40 to eat gristle.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
I was like, girl, you are going to choke on a shard.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
Like please don't do that.
No, my baby is a meat eater andshe she'll eat gristle, but god
forbid she find a bone in apiece of salmon.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
You didn't take the bones out.
She's so finicky.
And then like she eats cheese,but she don't eat cheese no,
she'll eat cheese by herself sheeats cheese like melted into
stuff but she won't eat likesliced cheese.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
But that's like onion .
Yeah, she'll eat onion in pho,but she won't eat it in the
world.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Yeah, she'll eat it in pho, but she won't eat it
like if I put it on her burgeror something.
She'll be like oh, oh, no,what's this?
Speaker 2 (19:00):
And then if you put cheese on there and she'll be
like just don't eat slicedcheese, this child makes a meat
sandwich, what we got today.
She's so funny.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Oh, so I had found this really kind of fun Q game
and it's like would we orwouldn't we?
Speaker 2 (19:12):
I would.
That's my answer to everything.
I would.
You only live once.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Okay, so we're going to play, would we, or wouldn't
we?
Oh?
Speaker 2 (19:22):
I guess, a couple.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
Yeah, it's like couple's edition okay okay um,
okay, this is just a question.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
You said uh, you know I don't be reading stuff for
you I know you don't I just Idon't like I'd be putting time,
energy and effort into us.
I'd be raw dog these episodesand then he see, that's how
everything in my relationship israw.
Oh my gosh.
Okay, why would I approach thepodcast differently?
(19:49):
Okay, you're getting anauthentic experiential reaction.
Yeah, you are.
I'm never prepared.
I come up and just say whateverI feel in the moment.
I mean that's great.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
Good thing I'm securing myself.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
My feelings normally align with my morals and
ideology, so Okay, Firstquestion Would we ever do it
somewhere risky?
Speaker 1 (20:10):
just for the story I would I have, I think okay.
I think what we're going to dois I'm going to say like one,
two, three, and then we'llanswer like yes or no to see if
we're on the same page.
Okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
Yes, I'm on the same page with you Many times.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
Yes, I would Listen here.
Okay, so we have done it in aplace where it was super risky
More than once, like where youcould get arrested.
Risky and we would probablyhave charges.
You do know your mom, I do know, I do know Sorry.
We have done it in a placewhere it was extremely risky,
(20:49):
where we could have possiblygone to jail and possibly
accumulated charges.
And although it was kind oflike thrilling and exciting,
it's also like nerve-wrackingbecause if you get caught,
you're like it was good though.
(21:10):
Like how do you explain that?
Like, how do you have thatconversation?
Speaker 2 (21:13):
You look at them and say you and me, baby, ain't
nothing but mammals, okay asthey put your ass in handcuffs
hey, at least you'll go.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
Okay, as they put your ass in handcuffs, hey, at
least you'll go to sleep.
Good, when they put you in thecell, you'll sleep.
Good, you might go to sleep,I'm not.
I got to protect my booty.
I don't think that happens inholding.
I mean, I've never been to jailso honestly, I wouldn't know.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
Would we ever have a spicy bucket list On three One?
Speaker 1 (21:46):
two, three.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Yes, yeah, that was an easy one.
Of course, I got a couple ofthings.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
I was like you have a couple of things now I'm
thinking about right now, Inthis moment.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
You don't have to think about them right now.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
Should we tell people ?
Speaker 1 (22:01):
about them right now.
You should we tell people?
No, okay, I mean, you can tellthem if you like, but I'm not
gonna share that I'm not gonnashare that just yet.
Okay, um, would we ever sendeach other naughty pics or
videos while at work?
You already know how this isgonna go one, two, three, no, I
would.
No, you won't.
No, we.
We literally just had thisdiscussion with our group of
friends last night.
(22:22):
Literally, we just had thisdiscussion last night.
He is my husband and I love himto death and I am all for doing
whatever we need to do to keepthat portion of our relationship
nice and spicy.
But I draw the line at photos.
That's where I draw the line atphotos.
That's where I draw the line.
I'm not sending him anythingbelow like between my kneecaps
(22:47):
and my neck that's nude to hisphone.
Not going to happen.
Just crop your face off.
Not going to happen.
You don't have any tattoos.
They're not going to.
It's not going to happen.
I'm not making no videos, I'mnot taking no pictures.
That stuff is forever.
No, no, no.
Now, how do you feel about that?
Speaker 2 (23:07):
I do it, I don't care .
I mean I Facebook me.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
But you have tattoos, so you'll keep your tattoos out
of it.
I don't care.
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
Is this you doing?
Yes, that's me.
It was a good time.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
As someone who has witnessed someone who I know
that is currently still goingthrough, basically like a
revenge porn type thing.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
But that we don't.
Yeah, but it doesn't matter theway our relationship is set up.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
Oh, babe, but that's the point that I'm trying to
make too.
It's like you never think thatyou could dislike your person
that much that you would go thatfar.
But look how far he has takenthings.
Crazy word.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
Like no, Don't ever compare me.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
No, I'm not comparing you, I'm just saying it's
enough for me.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Here we go.
It's a no for me, here we go.
Would you ever forgive aemotional oh, would we ever
forgive emotional cheating?
Speaker 1 (24:07):
On three One, two, three, no, no.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
I would.
Oh See, I'm more forgiving withyou, why?
Speaker 1 (24:17):
not, why not yeah?
Speaker 2 (24:20):
What if we're, what if we were just going through a
really bad period and like wecouldn't, like we, what else?
On the same page, no matterwhat we tried to do, we couldn't
communicate.
And there was a lady that I,that I talked to.
Maybe I didn't talk to herabout us, but, like I, I started
to enjoy talking to her, but Inever crossed the line.
We just had a conversation,never, never, never met with her
(24:46):
in person or never along withher.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
You wouldn't forgive me for having a conversation.
I mean, having a conversationis not cheating oh, no, no, no.
That's not cheating.
It's an emotional affair,didn't you?
Yeah, emotional cheating.
Speaker 2 (24:57):
Oh, okay.
Well, I mean she's pleasant totalk to, so I'm becoming fond of
her because she's not giving meattitude and stink face and
whatever other voice she has.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
So you're becoming emotionally attached to her in
the same sense that you'vebecome emotionally attached to
me, because when I think ofemotional attachment.
I'm thinking of like the onlything that hasn't happened is
that we haven't had the physicalconnection, but everything else
is there, Like at any moment.
At any moment, like if I'm thisclose off the ledge and you do
(25:30):
or say something that pushes meover the ledge, I'm full force
in it.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
That's what I'm talking about Emotional
connection.
But I would forgive you.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
If I had that type of connection to another man, as
long as he doesn't insert you.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Anyway, or kiss you with tongue.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
As we determine that I can kiss other men.
No, you can't, as long as it'snot with tongue, because he only
considers it cheating if I usemy tongue.
No, but if I don't use mytongue it's not considered
cheating.
I don't know how y'all'srelationship is set up, but my
man said that I can kiss othermen.
I did not say that as long asGo ahead, I don't think.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
I think we should answer one at a time.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
Okay, that's fine.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
So go ahead.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
Let's see, would we ever hook up in a place?
Oh, we already got.
We already established that,we've done that.
Let's see, would we ever have asecret code word for let's go
home and get it on?
Yeah, of course we need one now, of course, I'm going to say
hey.
(26:31):
Like how you texted me while wewere all in the middle of a
conversation last night I said,let's go.
And you're, like you, ready togo Because he was sleepy to go
Because he was sleepy.
He was, like you, ready to goBecause I'm kind of tired.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
I'm sorry, steph, now if I say it, let's put the dog
up.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
Bye, bye.
We left at like one in themorning.
The dog should have been put up.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
Hey, they don't know that.
That's crazy.
A different dog.
Okay, go ahead 30 day.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
If I felt like it would be beneficial, I would be
down for it.
I would really have tounderstand, like, how it would
be beneficial to go 30 days.
Yeah, I wouldn't sign up forthat.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
I might get you.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
Yeah, I'm not signing up for that.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
I might get you two weeks If you can do two weeks,
you can do another two weeks.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
It's like the treadmill If you can do 40 weeks
.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
You can do another two weeks.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Nah, it's like the treadmill If you can do 40
minutes, you can do an hour.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
Because after two weeks I got different kind of
calluses on my hands.
I done visited a couple ofshops.
Been surfing on Amazon by themail Trying to find some safe
replacements.
Okay, Until you out of yourspell.
Speaker 1 (27:41):
Would we ever talk openly about what we don't like
during intimacy?
Speaker 2 (27:47):
Yes, yeah, we do it all the time we do it all the
time.
All the time.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
And side note if you and your partner are not having
conversations about what youlike and what you don't like in
the bedroom, I'm going to needy'all to grow up, grow up.
I'm going to need y'all to growup, grow up.
I'm going to need y'all to growup.
Ain't nobody got time to justbe protecting people's feelings
and be miserable?
(28:12):
Ain't nobody got time for that?
Okay, so have the conversation,be open, be receptive, try not
to be defensive.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Don't be trying to hurt each other's feelings, but
absolutely have conversationsabout your likes and your
dislikes my thing is you gottabe open and honest from the
start, because like, you don'twant to build, like especially,
you don't want to like have aman thinking like he putting in
work.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
Yeah, I know it's terrible he'd be like, hey, so
can we just have a conversationReal quick.
What's that comedian?
Speaker 2 (28:42):
I think it was.
He was like You've been doingthe same four moves For ten
years.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Haven't been moving Nothing, he said.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
He said If your girl ever Get into position Without
you asking her, you ain't doingnothing.
Speaker 1 (28:56):
No, we already, we already know how this story ends
, so let's just jump to the endso we can get it done.
Okay, you go, babe.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Uh, will we ever do a 24 hour truth or truth
challenge?
Truth or truth, yeah.
So I think like we have totruthfully answer any questions
we ask each other.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
Oh, sure I would be down for that.
I mean, I don't know if youwould be.
I was just going to say I don'tknow if you would be because
you know we talked about egolast week and yours can be a
little, you know, depends onwhat day of the week it is.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
We all know how he has how his weeks work out.
Speaker 1 (29:32):
Hold on.
Let me say this.
Speaker 2 (29:34):
Let me say this I think I would do it.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
I just wouldn't ask you a lot of questions.
Okay, you would be conscious ofthe type of questions you ask
because, out of fear of theresponses that you would get, I
got to protect me.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
Oh my gosh, I got to protect me.
That's the key, fellas.
No matter what, you still haveto protect you.
So only don't walk into thetrap if you can't handle it.
So I'm not going to ask youeverything.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
I want to know because you don't really want to
know the answer.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Sometimes I don't need the answer, sometimes being
oblivious to the truth is agood thing.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
After we just said, it's important to have open
conversations.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
I'm talking about in certain situations.
I'm talking about when you tellme about myself.
I don't need you to tell meabout myself, because my picture
that I painted, if it's alreadygood, I don't need you, you
don't want me distorting it foryou, I'll confirm it.
Okay, I don't need you to okay,alright, fair enough.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
Would we ever try a game that involves dares in the
bedroom?
Speaker 2 (30:38):
yeah, we would, absolutely we would.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
But you would cheat.
I don't cheat, I strategize.
There is a difference.
Okay, I'm not a cheater ingames, I am a strategizer.
Speaker 2 (30:53):
Would we ever be okay with separate vacations once a
year?
Absolutely, absolutely,absolutely.
That sounds amazing.
What Hold on?
Wait a minute.
We need to implement this.
Hold on Because this soundsamazing.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
Because I wouldn't even go far.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
I wouldn't even go far, you'd probably be like
overseas somewhere and I'd belike it's kind of dangerous, I
need to move.
Speaker 1 (31:13):
Because I can't get to you.
Yeah right, you'd be like Idon't know, whittier, really
whittier, who?
What the heck is in whittier?
Speaker 2 (31:27):
nothing.
Where are you going to whittier?
Just somewhere where, where I'mclose enough to get to you if
you need me, but you're notgonna.
But it's far enough whereyou're not gonna.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
Just pop up oh that's it I would go to like oregon,
nova scotia.
I honestly I can't.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
Washington, I know I Russia, washington, I know.
I see I probably would just doa yearly trip to San Diego by
yourself and I would just lay inbed, door dash and watch anime.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
Yes, that just sounds like that's it so good, like I
just want to be.
I just want to be somewherewhere it's a little gloomy.
Oh my God, On a balcony thatoverlooks water and that I can
have my blanket and a nice cupof tea and a good book, or I can
crochet listening to my podcast.
(32:11):
Oh my gosh, that just sounds sogood right now, like listening
to a podcast while I'mcrocheting outside with my
blanket on.
Okay, I know, sometimes I canprobably sound like that,
probably sounded like like howold is she, but these are the
things that I enjoy, guys I'm anold soul and she's old I like,
I like to crochet and liftweights.
(32:35):
I like to crochet and liftweights.
Um, let's see, um, would weever be okay with one of us
having a close friendship withan ex?
No no, no, no, what you need tobe close like friends, amicable
, yeah, that's fine, but likeclose friendship.
(32:57):
What are we talking?
Like going to the movies orsomething?
That just reminded me, that,just reminded me.
That just reminded me of thattime.
Remember when you went out withyour friend to go Valentine's
Day shopping for me.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
But then you guys like went to lunch.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
You went and saw a movie.
And then when you came home andhe's like telling me all this,
he was like, oh, we went to themovies today, and then we went
to have lunch at such and suchand the only thing I heard was
so you took her out on a date.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
I didn't pay for anything and he was like that's
what he said.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
He was like I didn't pay for anything.
He was like we just wenttogether and I was like, yeah,
but that's a date.
And he was like it's not, she'smy friend and I was like, yeah,
I'm not cool with that sat down, had a meal and then came home
with a gift both of which werefree.
Yeah, but I do understand whatyou're saying.
Speaker 2 (33:47):
Would we ever sleep in separate beds for a long term
for better sleep?
Speaker 1 (33:52):
yes, we have and I was gonna say, yeah, there was
like what, like maybe what waslike six months, eight months a
year or something like that,where you slept in your office.
Speaker 2 (34:01):
Yeah, and then Maybe it was like six months, eight
months a year or something likethat, where you slept in your
office, yeah, and then.
But then you was like I'mgetting tired and I have my
husband, yeah, and I was like itwas great.
Speaker 1 (34:07):
But then again I was like, uh, but I was like this is
the only way I'm actuallygetting quality sleep Both of us
.
That was the only way we wereboth actually getting quality
sleep.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
And that's because your daughter kept your daughter
.
I said look she, I cannot sleepwith her kicking me, beat me
all night and I have to go towork.
This is not working for me.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
I gotta go I gotta, I gotta.
I said so I'm gonna sleep inhere so I can get sleep now.
Speaker 2 (34:30):
On the weekends I would sleep in there, but during
the weekend I had to go to work, I would sleep in my office
yeah because I, I just couldn'tdo it.
Speaker 1 (34:36):
I couldn't do it um, let's see um, um, let's see Um.
Okay, would we ever admit whothe better kisser is?
Speaker 2 (34:52):
Yeah, I'm the better kisser Um it's facts, um, okay.
Speaker 1 (35:00):
Um All right, um Um Interesting that you think that.
Okay, okay.
It is my turn, but go ahead, goahead, no, go ahead, you go
ahead.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
Will we ever admit if one of us is not fully
satisfied sexually?
Speaker 1 (35:17):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Yeah, we have yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:23):
We have, I was like, but I'm willing to let you try
again okay, okay, I was like I'mwilling to let you try again
don't let my sister hide you up,I'm willing to let you try
again um, would we ever admit toour friends if we were going
through a rough patch?
Speaker 2 (35:39):
ain't nothing, got that business.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
Well, there ain't no horror.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
What if it's like an older couple friend, nah, Okay,
nah, because I feel like I havethe type of wife where people
they plotting on you.
Speaker 1 (35:54):
I doubt, very doubtful, yeah, they want you
Very doubtful, they want youVery doubtful.
Because I want you Rawr.
That does not mean, okay, Ican't, let's do it.
Let's do a couple more so I canget to my chicken wings.
It's my turn Go ahead?
Speaker 2 (36:13):
Will we ever stay together, even if one of us lost
romantic feelings?
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
Why was I just looking at that one?
Okay, now say that again.
Will we ever stay together,even if one of us lost romantic
feelings.
So I'm I feel like it's like a,a tour, but I would say talk to
me, bishop, for me, for shut upfor me.
I was for me.
I would say, yes, okay, onlybecause if I lost my view,
(36:36):
awesome like if I, if I lostromantic feelings you would stay
with me I would would stay withyou.
Oh, okay, as I processedthrough what was happening?
Speaker 2 (36:45):
Because am.
Speaker 1 (36:45):
I losing romantic feelings because of something
we're going through.
Speaker 2 (36:48):
Or is it you?
Speaker 1 (36:49):
Or is it like, or am I genuinely like?
Speaker 2 (36:52):
like I genuinely don't want you no more Disgusted
.
Speaker 1 (36:54):
Like I'm genuinely like oh, we can be friends for
the rest of our lives.
You know like I would have toprocess that.
Okay, friends for the rest ofour lives.
You know Like I would have toprocess that, but I would stay
until, like I could come up withdefinitively like this is
what's happening.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
You want my answer.
Sure, if we locked in, ain't noswitching up.
Speaker 1 (37:12):
So yeah, you would stay too.
Speaker 2 (37:14):
We would just be roommates.
Speaker 1 (37:16):
We just gonna have to work it out.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
We're gonna have to work it.
We have to hey.
Speaker 1 (37:18):
Hey, no, take backs.
Speaker 2 (37:19):
No, take backs.
Hey, I know that we're notreally feeling each other.
Speaker 1 (37:24):
But there's no take backs.
Speaker 2 (37:25):
But I have these sexual needs, let's just get it
done.
Let's just get it done and thenwe can go back to our rooms,
that's it.
Speaker 1 (37:33):
I don't know what you have planned tonight, but if
you could squeeze me in at 540.
Speaker 2 (37:37):
And, if you want, I'll feed you after we can go
out, see, and that's how yourebuild again.
Speaker 1 (37:43):
So then let's still be in it, see Processing.
Speaker 2 (37:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:47):
That's how you process.
Okay, let's see.
Would we ever reveal our truefirst impressions of each other?
Speaker 2 (37:56):
You don't mind, shea?
Look at that ass.
Speaker 1 (38:01):
I was like why does he have so much facial hair?
It's so unattractive cause.
Speaker 2 (38:05):
I was a man.
I was a man.
When you met me, you were like12 or 13.
Speaker 1 (38:08):
I was a man and it was so not my thing.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
I was a man.
Speaker 1 (38:12):
I was like, oh my gosh, he has so much facial hair
.
This is not.
Speaker 2 (38:16):
I was a man this is not attractive.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
And then I got to high school and I was like, okay
, okay, you know, would we evergo to bed angry?
Not attractive.
And then I got to high schooland I was like, okay.
Speaker 2 (38:24):
Okay, you know.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
Would we ever go to?
Bed angry we have, I don'trecommend it and we try not to,
but yes we have Not angry.
I wouldn't say angry, no.
Speaker 2 (38:35):
I would say, sometimes I've been angry.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
Okay Well, I wouldn't say I've been like angry, but
like disliking you angry.
Speaker 2 (38:44):
Okay Well, I wouldn't say I've been like angry but
like disliking you strongly.
Speaker 1 (38:47):
Okay, all right, I have gone to bed disliking you
very strongly.
Yes, I have, okay, but I alsochecked to see if he's still
breathing in the middle of thenight.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
You ain't got to check.
Okay, let's see One more Onemore.
Speaker 1 (39:02):
Uh check, okay, let's see.
One more, one more.
Let's see.
Would we ever sacrifice ourdream for the other person's
success?
I have, I have.
Speaker 2 (39:15):
D-May.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
I don't even think that's how you say it.
Maurice, go ahead and tell mewhat.
I don't even think that's howyou say it, maurice, go ahead
and tell me.
Speaker 2 (39:25):
What Tell me?
What have you sacrificed for mydream?
Speaker 1 (39:27):
I have sacrificed.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
What Tell me?
Speaker 1 (39:29):
I have sacrificed myself, I have sacrificed my
career, for yours Are youtalking about staying at home?
Speaker 2 (39:37):
Are you talking about being staying at home, mom?
Oh yeah, If you want to go backto the workforce, go Go.
Speaker 1 (39:49):
What have you sacrificed for my success?
Speaker 2 (39:51):
My sanity.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
Goodbye.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
My health.
Speaker 1 (39:54):
Okay, yeah, all the things that I, my peace, all the
things that I say I'vesacrificed To lift you up To be
your handle, you stay home foryour child.
I stay home for my family.
Speaker 2 (40:07):
You stay home for your child.
Speaker 1 (40:09):
And to stay in the gym for four hours a day Teasing
.
Speaker 2 (40:14):
Hold on what I go last.
Okay, go ahead.
You're not getting anotherquestion to me.
I'm sorry.
Would we ever admit if we feltattraction to someone else, even
if it was just once?
Yes, I'm gonna take itregardless.
(40:35):
Yeah, I got a list.
Yeah, you want names?
Sure how long?
How long we got the tape isrunning.
Okay, kiki.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
Parvin.
Okay, oh, we're talkingcelebrities and we're talking
about real people.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
I mean, those are real people.
How long we?
Speaker 1 (40:46):
got, the tape is running.
Okay, kiki Palmer.
Okay, oh, we're talkingcelebrities and we're talking
about real people.
I mean, those are real peoplebut I'm talking about like
day-to-day, in our real livespeople.
Oh, you're talking aboutcelebrities, oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (40:55):
Got a list.
I don't want to know your listbecause it's going to be dumb.
Speaker 1 (41:00):
I just wanted to know you said celebrities and like
people we could actually getaccess to, or two different
things.
Speaker 2 (41:07):
I feel like I could pull a Kiki ball.
Speaker 1 (41:10):
Okay, all right.
Speaker 2 (41:14):
My childhood crush is still fine, chiropractor Still
fine.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
My childhood crush is still fine too.
Who Herpes boy?
First of all, all, cut it out,cut it out.
That's why he was burning.
Okay, now we're gonna be movingon into.
Speaker 2 (41:37):
We're gonna be moving on I gotta ask you a question.
So is there someone you haveaccess to that you feel
attractive to?
Speaker 1 (41:46):
now yeah, besides hefty no listen, I'm not
attracted to hefty, just likehis body type okay, sure but
like his face card.
But I don't know how he cleansup though, because I only see
him at the gym.
Speaker 2 (41:59):
But like you see him often, don't you?
I don't yeah he's.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
He works out when you work out.
She sees him often, I don't.
He works out when you work out.
She sees him often I don't andI'm not like attracted attracted
to him Go ahead and lie.
I mean, it's the nine inch seamshorts.
Speaker 2 (42:19):
Oh, for me, oh, it's the shorts.
Speaker 1 (42:20):
Huh, it's the shorts, so you want someone to dress
like a whore.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
I tried to get my husband in seven inches and nine
inches Christian values, what?
Speaker 1 (42:34):
I tried to get him in seven inches and nine inches
and he's like not having it.
Pause, pause, pause.
What oh shorts?
Sorry, pause, sorry.
Nine inch seam shorts.
Speaker 2 (42:46):
No, ditty Pause.
Speaker 1 (42:50):
We're going to go ahead and move into our two
cents.
Speaker 2 (42:53):
Our two cents.
Speaker 1 (42:54):
Okay, ready.
No, am I the asshole forbreaking up with my girlfriend
after she insisted I pay for hersister's student loans?
Speaker 2 (43:04):
Wait, what Hold on?
Speaker 1 (43:06):
Okay, okay.
So I've been dating mygirlfriend for about two years.
A few months ago, I got reallylucky on a stake in one about
80K Not life-changing money, butdefinitely a nice chunk of
change, I'll take it.
My girlfriend has beenstruggling with her student
loans about 35K so I decided tohelp her out and I paid them off
completely.
Speaker 2 (43:27):
That was nice.
Speaker 1 (43:27):
She was super grateful at first, crying and
thanking me for weeks.
Fast forward to last week, hersister, who's also dealing with
student loans about $42,000worth.
My girlfriend started hintingthat since I helped her, that I
should also help her sister.
Speaker 2 (43:44):
Not at all.
Speaker 1 (43:45):
I laughed it off at first, thinking she was just
joking, but she wasn't.
She was serious.
She got increasingly pushyabout it, saying things like you
still have plenty left, andit's selfish to help me and not
help my sister, and my familyalso needs help.
I explained that while I careabout her family, I'm not
responsible for her sister'sloans.
(44:06):
I already did somethinggenerous that most boyfriends
wouldn't even do, and hersister's finances are not my
responsibility.
This turned into a massive fightwhere she called me selfish and
said that I was greedy.
She literally said what's thepoint of having money if you
don't help other people with it?
She then gave me an ultimatumeither pay her sister's loans or
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she would reconsider ourrelationship.
I broke up with her on the spot.
Now she's blowing up my phonesaying that I overreacted and
that her family thinks that I'man asshole.
So am I an asshole for refusingto pay her sister's student
loans and then ending therelationship over it?
No, no, absolutely not.
No, you know, audacity has beenat an all-time high recently,
(44:51):
and I don't know if it'ssomething in the air or what.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
This is why oh, let me talk to the man right now.
This is why, fellas, stopgiving these women husband
treatment.
I wouldn't have gave that dog10 cents.
Speaker 1 (45:03):
It's his girlfriend.
She is not a dog.
Relax, I didn't want to callher that, relax.
Speaker 2 (45:08):
That's why I said dog .
Speaker 1 (45:09):
Bye.
Speaker 2 (45:09):
Relax, I would have had her earn it Now.
Look here.
Speaker 1 (45:12):
Earn it yeah earn it.
Speaker 2 (45:13):
Yeah, transactional, life is transactional, just deal
with it.
It's the truth.
It's a hard truth Lifetransactional.
Our marriage is verytransactional.
Speaker 1 (45:23):
It is transactional.
I'm pretty sure she's beengiving him ass, so he paid off
her student loan.
Speaker 2 (45:28):
If the sister want her student loan, she gotta come
and drop that ass off.
Speaker 1 (45:32):
That's crazy work.
How you gonna say your sistergotta come over here and drop
some ass off if she want me todrop $42,000?
.
Speaker 2 (45:40):
Her sister said I'm gonna buy Nate.
He said well, you know what yougot to do.
I'll pay you when I'm done.
Huh, Not a thing.
I'll pay you when I'm done, nota thing.
Sorry, you're not that.
I would have left for two.
First of all, stop Look here.
Do not give ultimatums if younot bought that ultimatum life.
Speaker 1 (45:59):
Yeah, if you're really not going gonna be up to
it, because she really thoughtshe ate when she gave him the
ultimatum he was like okay, bye.
He was like all right, peace.
She was like, wait, that's it.
Speaker 2 (46:10):
So you literally just you literally lost someone who
showed you that they cared.
Speaker 1 (46:14):
They cared yeah so much that they got you out of
debt without even having a fullcommitment to you look here.
Speaker 2 (46:22):
That's why you don't get these holes nothing but the
inches.
Nothing but the inches.
Speaker 1 (46:27):
Bye yeah, you're definitely not the asshole, sir.
If anything you were like you'rebeing a good boyfriend I agree
um, okay, am I the asshole forexpecting my husband to be home
every night that we have hiskids, his stepkids, at at home?
My husband has two kids fromhis previous marriage, both boys
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, 12 and 14.
They're sweet kids, but they'reteenage boys.
They're wild and they tend toget into fights.
They're messy and listening isnot their best life skill at
this stage of brain development.
So there's that I don't havebiological children of my own.
I met these kids when westarted dating about four years
ago and we've all lived togetherfor about two and a half years.
(47:08):
Long story short, we moved lastsummer about 60 miles from our
old home.
The move was because the boy'sbiological mom got remarried to
a guy who lived in a differentpart of the state.
To avoid the kids bearing thebrunt of the commute, we agreed
to move.
My husband still commutes towork and I work from home full
time.
We have 50-50 custody of thekids During the school year.
(47:30):
We never have the kids onMonday or Tuesday nights.
My husband enjoys playing hislow stakes bar poker games, so
he generally does that on Mondayand Tuesdays.
It's a very long drive to thevenue where he plays so he stays
with friends near our old houseon those nights and doesn't
come home.
Okay, not my favoritearrangement, but I go out of my
way to ensure he feels like hehas his own autonomy to enjoy
(47:53):
his hobbies, something hedefinitely didn't have in his
first marriage.
We know about that one.
Yeah, we do.
The issue has come up withregards to our summer custody
schedule, which switches to oneweek on and one week off from
the normal school schedule.
It recently came out inconversation that he expected to
still pay play his poker gameon Tuesday nights during the
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summer and that he was fullyplanning on staying with friends
and not coming home thosenights.
It has always been ourunderstanding and agreement that
he would be home any night.
We have the boys here.
We brought this up.
When I brought this up, he toldme he didn't think it was a big
deal to would be home any night.
We have the boys here.
We brought this up.
When I brought this up, he toldme he didn't think it was a big
deal to not be home one night aweek and not to expect me to
handle everything on thosenights.
I'm super uncomfortable withbeing here with the boys alone.
(48:35):
They make me anxious.
I hate when they fight and Idon't think it's my place as a
stepmother to discipline them.
If they were just kids who readbooks and sat in silence all
night, I might feel differently,but there's an always greater
than 0% chance that someone isliterally throwing punches and I
have no interest in beingsolely in charge of that
situation.
I already am the default parentfor laundry, school pickup,
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scheduling meals and primarycaretaker anytime during the
school break.
Since I work from home, I haveclearly communicated this to my
husband how I feel about beinghere alone with them, so he is
aware Beyond how it impacts me.
I don't think it's a greatexample for the kids either.
It's not like my husband is ona work trip.
It's like, hey, dad, would yourather play poker than to be
(49:17):
here with me?
I just feel like part of beinga parent is you have to plan
your life around your kids.
My husband already has iteasier than most because of the
joint custody and the fact thatI am happy to sacrifice some of
the few days we have we wouldhave alone for the two of us so
that he can pursue his hobbiesTo serve it to me straight.
Am I the asshole here?
(49:38):
My husband is making me feellike I am, but I just feel like
this is making me a responsible.
This is making me responsibleand this is making me
responsible and asking me to seta very legitimate boundary.
Not at all.
I don't think you're theasshole, no, no.
Speaker 2 (49:53):
First of, all them, his kids.
Speaker 1 (49:55):
And he and, like she said, he does have it better
than most because you alreadyslid 50-50.
And then now you putting themoff onto me so you can enjoy
your hobbies.
Speaker 2 (50:03):
And then here's my question Don't you have friends
in your old town?
So why you just can't take theboys with you in the town with
you and they can just be at afriend's house while you play
poker?
Speaker 1 (50:13):
and then come back to Okay, but that's crazy too,
Like that's crazy too.
But here's my thing.
Speaker 2 (50:17):
If he still wants to play, yeah, make it.
Make it happen, make it happen,make it work, make it work.
Don't put all the burden onyour wife to take care of kids.
Speaker 1 (50:26):
That's not hers.
Speaker 2 (50:29):
And, like she said, she doesn't have biological
children.
Speaker 1 (50:30):
So I'm sure she loves them, I'm sure she loves them,
but it's it's.
It's a little different,because them is not her children
.
She didn't, she didn't likeraise them from birth all the
way up to where they are now and, like she said, they're teenage
boys, speak Bishop, so they'remessy.
Speak Bishop, they fighting allthe time.
They got a lot going on.
Speak Bishop so yeah, you arenot the asshole boo Speak Bishop
(50:52):
.
I would be like you, eithergoing to have to be home or
maybe they should just go back.
Speaker 2 (50:57):
You need to be with your daddy To their mom.
Speaker 1 (51:00):
I don't know what to tell you.
I mean that's what they do.
Ask the mom hey, I mean they'llbe driving soon.
Speaker 2 (51:05):
How about you ask the mom hey, instead of doing week
on, week off, how about you takethe boys from Friday to Tuesday
?
Speaker 1 (51:16):
But what if that doesn't work?
No, that don't work.
Speaker 2 (51:18):
Damn, I'm trying to figure it out.
Speaker 1 (51:21):
Damn.
The only way it works is if hisass is home.
Speaker 2 (51:24):
But my thing is like for two and a half three months
you can miss the poker games.
Speaker 1 (51:29):
Yeah, it's probably his thing, Like I get it.
Speaker 2 (51:32):
But Because she's already there with them all day,
exactly Because she works fromhome.
Speaker 1 (51:36):
Well, and like she says, she's the default parent,
so she's doing pickup, drop off,laundry, cleaning, cooking.
Oh, she does laundry, don'tcome from.
I did not send for you.
I didn't send for you.
I didn't send for you.
Speaker 2 (51:50):
I didn't say you don't do laundry.
Speaker 1 (51:51):
I just said she does laundry, Okay.
So when you end up in fetalposition and crying tonight like
Wouldn't be the first time.
But you do it to yourself, soDo it to me, do it you do it to
yourself, so do it to me.
Do it you do it to yourself.
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Peace booskies.
I'm going to say, yeah, there was like what, like
maybe what was like six months,eight months a year or something
like that, where you slept inyour office.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Yeah and then.
But then you was like I'mgetting tired and I have my
husband in bed and I was like itwas great.
But then again I was like but Iwas like this is the only way
I'm actually getting qualitysleep, both of us.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
That was the only way we were both actually getting
quality sleep.
Hey, everybody, and welcomeback to another episode of Life
After I Do Podcast.
You're going to be hanging outwith me, kynesha, and my rock
star of a husband.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Stop trying to gas me up.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
I'm your biggest cheerleader.
What can I say?
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Gas pedal.
Hey, hey, gas pedal.
Hey, what happened to Sage?
Oh, I don't know, he was aGemini.
He switched up.
What was it?
This is what happens when youget a husband that had rest.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Oh my gosh, that family nap today.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Was everything.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
We took a family nap today.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
It was great.
So we told Phoenix Wait, we'regoing to sleep.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
I was, like I said, we had already planned on taking
a family nap, but I think wewere all like sugar induced as
well.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
I didn't have any sugar.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
He's a lie.
He's an applesauce lie,applesauce, okay.
He's an applesauce lie.
Okay, listen, I don't know whatit was, but I wanted some jelly
beans.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
You know exactly what it was.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
I wanted some Starburst jelly beans, and so my
husband, being the man that heis, while he was already like
laying down, enjoying hisSaturday evening resting, I
decided to come over to him withBS and I was like, hey, so you
know, I could really go for somejelly beans and red vines and
(02:14):
he was laying there and he waslike okay, and he was like so
when I asked you if you wantanything from Target when I was
there earlier, I said I didn'twant them earlier.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I want them now.
My wife knows that even when Idon't go to the gym, so
Saturdays, I don't work out onSaturdays but I start to get my
steps in.
So now, what I do now is I walkto get my coffee in the morning
.
So as a way to get my steps.
So it's about a good A coupleof miles.
(02:43):
It's about a good two mile walkto.
Target to the Starbucks insideTarget and back.
So that's what I do.
So I say, hey, I'll pick up thestuff for breakfast.
I'll get tossing the stuff.
Do you want anything else?
I don't want them then.
No, she waits.
I'm home, I've straightened upthe backyard, picked up the logs
(03:04):
that the dog has left.
I said you're not even afull-grown dog, you drop the
logs like this Diabolical,diabolical.
I spent some time, one-on-onetime, with the dog, trying to
get her to sit and stay, andstuff all that stuff.
She did good and then she gotstubborn.
Anyway, I did my laundry forthe third, third, fourth week in
(03:26):
a row.
My wife is slipping, um,because you've been, oh, all
right, and now I'm like, okay,now, like I know we have to
record later, so I want to relaxand rest so I can be refreshed
and then she hits me with theyeah, babe, you know, I don't
know, I don't know what it is,it's just like I just want some
red vines or some jelly beansand I'm looking at her like like
(03:52):
, do you understand that this?
It's warm today now, mind you,it wouldn't been as bad.
But the high school around thecorner, like I guess they're
hosting like events.
No, they're hosting like theall the.
No, they're hosting like the ohthe games and stuff, like the
track championship or something.
So there's like it's poppingaround.
It was popping around thecorner Because when I was
(04:12):
walking home I was like that isa.
It was like there are like 40school buses deep.
I said that's a lot of people.
Yeah, it's a lot of people,right.
And I said okay, well, whatever.
So I was like now she want meto go drive through this traffic
.
Mind you, we live in a veryactive neighborhood.
So on Saturdays, everybody out.
The walkers the joggers, thekids and then you got the soccer
(04:33):
games going, you got thesoftball games going, you got
the baseball games going, yougot the track meet going.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
I'm like and you want some jelly beans.
You were a superstar because hewent and got my jelly beans and
then, like, when he got there,I was like, okay, now these are
the ones you're looking for,because I wanted the Starburst
jelly beans and you know, theyhave the Easter candy out, so
now they have like the favoritereds.
So it's like the strawberry,the watermelon, it's like the
(05:01):
red you know reds and pinks.
So I was like, oh, you got toget these.
And he's like, oh, they don'thave them.
And I was like, yes, they do.
He was like I'm in the candyaisle Kynesha, they're not here.
And I was like it's part ofEaster collection.
So you're going to have to findthe Easter section of candy in
the store.
But there's plenty of employeesthere because it's Saturday, so
(05:23):
just go ahead and ask anemployee and they should be able
to direct you.
But I'm confident that youshould be able to come back home
with Starburst jelly beans redsto be more exact and he was
successful and I appreciate you,great man, he's a good man,
savannah.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
How was your week?
Speaker 1 (05:45):
My week was good.
How was your week?
Oh gosh Okay.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
You know what, never mind.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
I think, going forward, I'm either going to
just skip your week or maybe wejust don't start with each
other's weeks anymore, because Ifeel like, coming into
recording, I can be like at ahigh Like.
I'm like excited you know,because this is time that we get
together and I enjoy this time,you know.
And then when I go and I'm like, ok, well, how was your week,
(06:17):
babe?
And then it starts with the.
I was thinking, I was trying toreflect.
Then I'm just like you know what, Never mind.
I was trying to reflect.
Then I'm just like you knowwhat, Never mind I'm at a five
now.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I was trying to my week was See here here.
Okay, here.
My week was it was rockybecause I had some stomach
issues.
Okay, for a couple of days Ikind of threw my whole plan off.
Okay, that I wasn't expectingto do.
So that was.
You know, since Wednesday hasbeen pretty good, okay, shots
out to that papusa place.
Look here.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Oh yeah, that was good.
Look here, that was really good, I gained three pounds.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
I'm going to just say it.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
That's crazy work, because I lost a whole pound.
Yeah, I know it was crazy,which only lets me know that I
haven't been eating my calorieslike I should have, and so I
text my trainer the next morning.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
I said look man, I ate six pupusas yesterday and it
was worth it.
And I feel no shame.
It was worth it, it was worthevery bite.
And the fact is we doubled back.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Right, we went there.
We went there, we got some forlunch and we were like, ok,
we're going to get a couple oflike a few to try.
And then we're going to get,like our kid one right, they
barely survived getting to herwhen we went to pick her up from
school, like we were just aboutto ixnay the whole thing and
just eat them all and pretendlike it never happened and then
just bring her home and get hera sandwich or something.
She didn't appreciate good food.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
And they were just really good.
They were handmade, like theywere just really good, you know.
But anyway, we saved her one.
She ended up eating, eating it.
She liked it.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
We liked it so much that we went back later that
evening and got more and here'sthe cold part when we went back,
when we went back, grandma wasmaking them, so they were better
, they were back like the wayshe was doing, the way she was
(08:01):
doing with their hands oh,you're so good.
I said this is gonna be fire.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Yeah, her hands they were so good, I said this is
going to be fire, yeah, and theywere.
They were really good.
And she made them bigger thistime too, because, remember, the
ones we got earlier for lunchwere a little bit like, they
were like medium size, but shemade them like a little bit
bigger, and the way she stackedthem I was like, yes, they were
so good, so so, so good, I saidto myself I know I have fitness
goals and I've done really goodso far.
(08:27):
Yeah, you'll still achieve them.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
And I said but today it's a papusa day yeah, I had, I
had what Four?
I think I had.
I had six the whole day.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
I had four.
I had four papusas, I had aCoke Zero.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Had I known that I was going to love those pupusas
so much I would have skippedbreakfast.
Oh my gosh, I bet you there'sfire in the morning for
breakfast, right, just going toget just the cheese ones too.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
I actually would try the bean and cheese one for
breakfast.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Okay, tomorrow morning.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
That's what I was just thinking.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
I was like, oh my gosh, because then they're going
to be super, super fresh and ifwe get there like right when
they open Right when they open,and you know what it's going to
be an old lady cooking in themorning too, because of the
morning show.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Yeah, oh yeah, we're going to get the bean and cheese
the babusas was a highlight ofmy week.
The babusas are really reallygood.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
The papusas was so good I forgot I had a therapy
session.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Right, cause we were sitting there and I'm my doctor,
is my therapist?
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Text me she's like.
Hey I said my bad, I log inright now.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
I'm sorry, I'm trying to get to these papusas.
And then when they finally came, they and my silly self I was
like but I don't want to wait,because the way they smell, they
smell so good and I'm sittingthere burning my fingers.
I was like but if I dip it inthe sauce, the sauce is cool.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
So it'll cool my fingers off when I tell y'all
I'm sitting there watching hereat, talking to my therapist.
I'm like and I tell mytherapist, I'm trying to pay
attention to you, but the wayshe eating put this phone down
it's just digging.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
They were, oh my gosh , they were so good.
What's it's?
I don't know what was in it,it's just I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Hey, I don't know it's just they're not paying me
so I don't have to plug them.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Bye, I just know the food is good it's a small
business, so it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
I love it it off of Paris.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
No, no, no, no.
How was your week?
Speaker 1 (10:24):
They don't need to know all that.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
How was your week?
Speaker 1 (10:27):
My week was okay.
It was good.
It was good Only because I Ifeel like my workout.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Have been planned your life, my squat day.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I mean it didn't just go like as planned, you know I
feel like I wasn't.
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
Thank you.
Thank you, that was awesome.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
I just felt like I wasn't making the mind muscle
connection that I really wantedto, and I've been looking
forward to squat day since lastweek.
You know that was awesome.
Thank you, but I could also feelthat my energy level was not
where it normally is.
But I am proud of myself forlike pushing through, because
(11:06):
remember how I told you.
It was like when I told you,it's moments like this where
that's where the doubt kind ofcreeps in, because when I put
the 260 on my back, I was like Iwas the way I was moving 260
last week was just like like Ihad 135 on my back and then I
was moving the 260 and I waslike what, what is happening?
Speaker 2 (11:24):
like you what's happening right now.
You were literally living inthe meme, like when your warm-up
weight feels heavy.
Like what?
Speaker 1 (11:30):
right, and that's quite literally what it was.
I was like, wait, what ishappening right now?
I was like I'm not even at my275 yet, like I'm not even
through the whole warm.
What is happening?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
because, I because.
I because I told you aboutWednesday when I went in there
and I was in there, you know nocompression sleeves on my knee,
and I did my leg band and I saideverything feels heavy.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
Yeah, it's just.
It's so weird.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
I said how about relying on those sleeves that
much, because everything feelsheavy.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Well, I mean, I don't wear sleeves, but I mean that's
because you got knees likeMegan.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
I wouldn't necessarily say that, but I got
knees like Anthony Davis, anymoment they could break.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
Bye, maurice, mr Glass, Goodbye, goodbye.
No, but that kind of shook me alittle bit.
But I know that going into likenext week and the week after,
especially the week after nextweek, that's going to be like
I'm going to be.
Yeah, I'll probably hit mythree 15 the week after next,
I'll probably hit my three 15,but I was just so surprised
(12:34):
Cause I was like, why does, whyis the two 60 feeling like this?
Like I was repping out two 60.
Like it was, like it waslightweight, it was nuts, just
like nine days ago.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
What is happening?
Speaker 1 (12:47):
What is happening.
So, um, aside from that, it wasstill a good workout.
I pushed through um to helpbuild my confidence just a
little bit.
Uh, body by Patino, don't beupset.
But I added, I added likepressing there because I was
like I need to, I need to feellike also that was extra.
That was extra that leg pressin there because I was like I
need to, I need to feel like oh,so that was extra.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
That was extra.
That was not on my program, myprogram after my after my squat
was straight into leg extensionswhen I stopped by the leg press
machine, first I thought thatwas weird, but when we went to
the gym, then I went to the legpress.
When we went to the gym FridayI said why she being here seven
hours?
Speaker 1 (13:22):
What Well, no I don't always add.
No, I only added, I only added.
I only added on my squat daybecause I was just because I was
feeling on my squat.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Look here, look here, look here, look here, look here
.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
I like being there.
Look here.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Even when you don't rep something, you wait five
minutes to try again.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
No, I only do that.
My longest rest periods areonly on my big three lifts.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Babe, okay, anyway, she be in there taking her time.
When the workout says to restand recover for the next set, my
wife definitely rests andrecovers.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
On my big lifts.
Yes, my trainer said to take upto five minutes if I need to on
my big lifts, but my accessoryworkouts, my rest periods, are
only two minutes.
Okay, babe.
So I mean I take my two minutesif I need to.
All right, babe.
I mean you know, All right.
Well, when you're pushing 600to 700 pounds on a leg press,
(14:19):
you would want to take yourbreak too, to make sure that
you're getting up there.
Listen, I've already came foryou and I've already conquered
when I came for you.
Don't come for me, because youknow I can do 600.
You can do 600.
You barely pushed seven, butyou didn't do the eight.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Okay, here we go.
What we?
Speaker 1 (14:40):
got today.
If you want to get back into it.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
we can do that.
Okay, don't come for me,because I didn't send for you
what we got today.
I didn't send for you, and thisis why my week is miserable.
I'm just playing Ba-dum-bum.
Wow, just when you think youhave a friend Hold on Side note,
(15:02):
she probably a good man for metelling y'all this what I'm
saying anyway.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
Who me?
Yeah, oh my gosh, what is it?
Don't be telling people mybusiness.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
I don't know why you've been craving meat Like my
wife, like today.
She was like I want chickenwings.
Oh, I was like just chickenwings.
I was like just chicken wings.
I don't need nothing but thewings, I just want chicken wings
and then yesterday she was likeI want a steak.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
I think it might be my iron again.
I might need to check that out.
I didn't wait, I just wantedmeat.
You want it raw or honestly, ifyou put enough salt and sauce
on it, I probably would haveeaten it raw.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
I'm not gonna lie because we went to our friend's
house on Thursday.
Shout out to the Raw Rivals.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
She was like do you want me to make you a plate?
Do you want anything?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
They had barbecue, so they had grilled up some corny
assada or some steak and chicken.
The way my wife was eating thatsteak.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
I said this she was like you want me to make you a
plate?
And I was like um, I was likewhat do you have?
And she was like telling meeverything she has.
And I was like, oh, you canjust give me meat.
And she was like just the meat.
I was like just a plate full ofmeat, that's it.
I don't need anything else andwhen she said that, I said yeah,
I got some meat bye sure you'reright because I'm going to get
some chicken rings after this,right after, right after we
(16:14):
finish your, your appetitelately has been diabolical.
I I look here I honestly thinkit's the program that I'm on it
probably is.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
I think it's all the ways people think I'll be
playing, because when I say thatmy child eats like a full-grown
man, right when my child looknow, granted, my child is very,
very active, exactly very activeand I think that's what she
practices like 10 hours.
She does gymnastics like 10hours a week.
She has school, she, she haschoir.
Then she comes home andpractices at home.
(16:42):
Then she plays hard.
She's very, very active andwhen that child is hungry she
eats more than I do.
We order her full adult meals.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
She don't even get the kids menu.
No more, she ain't about thatlife.
She's not about that life, andthen don't let it be some meat
on a bone.
Oh yeah, she's not about thatlight, and then it don't.
Don't let it be some meat on abone.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Oh yeah, with the fat oh my god, with the fat, it
drives she, it drives me, itdrives me nuts.
And I don't know why it doeswhen she.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Because the way she eats the fat, when she eats
bacon, she eats the fat yeah, orif she's not in the mood for it
, she'll just eat the fat, andthen she starts uh, gazing over
other people's plates and she'slike looking at our plates like.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Are you going to?
Speaker 1 (17:22):
eat that.
So, like when we get pho, shegets the brisket with the fatty
brisket and she just goesthrough the pieces of meat and
she just picks off all the fatand then she puts the brisket
there.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
I'm like girl, but I'm not mad at her because
that's how they live.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
You remember, and I'm like girl, but I'm not mad at
her because that's how they live.
You remember that?
And then the way she cracksopen chicken bones yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
And tries to eat the marrow.
No, she eats the marrow and thegristle.
Yeah, I see when is she from.
She's from Alaska, Becausethat's life goes on.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
That's how they eat.
That's how they eat.
She's from Alaska.
That's how she eat.
When the first time I think shewas maybe like four, the first
time I seen her crack open thechicken bone like she ate the
gristle.
And then she cracked open thetop and she was like looking in
there and like her eyes was likeoh no, babe, that's meat.
And she started crunching.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
I said oh, absolutely , but they had the jaw strength
at 40 to eat gristle.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
I was like, girl, you are going to choke on a shard.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
Like please don't do that.
No, my baby is a meat eater andshe she'll eat gristle, but god
forbid she find a bone in apiece of salmon.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
You didn't take the bones out.
She's so finicky.
And then like she eats cheese,but she don't eat cheese no,
she'll eat cheese by herself sheeats cheese like melted into
stuff but she won't eat likesliced cheese.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
But that's like onion .
Yeah, she'll eat onion in pho,but she won't eat it in the
world.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Yeah, she'll eat it in pho, but she won't eat it
like if I put it on her burgeror something.
She'll be like oh, oh, no,what's this?
Speaker 2 (19:00):
And then if you put cheese on there and she'll be
like just don't eat slicedcheese, this child makes a meat
sandwich, what we got today.
She's so funny.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Oh, so I had found this really kind of fun Q game
and it's like would we orwouldn't we?
Speaker 2 (19:12):
I would.
That's my answer to everything.
I would.
You only live once.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Okay, so we're going to play, would we, or wouldn't
we?
Oh?
Speaker 2 (19:22):
I guess, a couple.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
Yeah, it's like couple's edition okay okay um,
okay, this is just a question.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
You said uh, you know I don't be reading stuff for
you I know you don't I just Idon't like I'd be putting time,
energy and effort into us.
I'd be raw dog these episodesand then he see, that's how
everything in my relationship israw.
Oh my gosh.
Okay, why would I approach thepodcast differently?
(19:49):
Okay, you're getting anauthentic experiential reaction.
Yeah, you are.
I'm never prepared.
I come up and just say whateverI feel in the moment.
I mean that's great.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
Good thing I'm securing myself.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
My feelings normally align with my morals and
ideology, so Okay, Firstquestion Would we ever do it
somewhere risky?
Speaker 1 (20:10):
just for the story I would I have, I think okay.
I think what we're going to dois I'm going to say like one,
two, three, and then we'llanswer like yes or no to see if
we're on the same page.
Okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
Yes, I'm on the same page with you Many times.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
Yes, I would Listen here.
Okay, so we have done it in aplace where it was super risky
More than once, like where youcould get arrested.
Risky and we would probablyhave charges.
You do know your mom, I do know, I do know Sorry.
We have done it in a placewhere it was extremely risky,
(20:49):
where we could have possiblygone to jail and possibly
accumulated charges.
And although it was kind oflike thrilling and exciting,
it's also like nerve-wrackingbecause if you get caught,
you're like it was good though.
(21:10):
Like how do you explain that?
Like, how do you have thatconversation?
Speaker 2 (21:13):
You look at them and say you and me, baby, ain't
nothing but mammals, okay asthey put your ass in handcuffs
hey, at least you'll go.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
Okay, as they put your ass in handcuffs, hey, at
least you'll go to sleep.
Good, when they put you in thecell, you'll sleep.
Good, you might go to sleep,I'm not.
I got to protect my booty.
I don't think that happens inholding.
I mean, I've never been to jailso honestly, I wouldn't know.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
Would we ever have a spicy bucket list On three One?
Speaker 1 (21:46):
two, three.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Yes, yeah, that was an easy one.
Of course, I got a couple ofthings.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
I was like you have a couple of things now I'm
thinking about right now, Inthis moment.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
You don't have to think about them right now.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
Should we tell people ?
Speaker 1 (22:01):
about them right now.
You should we tell people?
No, okay, I mean, you can tellthem if you like, but I'm not
gonna share that I'm not gonnashare that just yet.
Okay, um, would we ever sendeach other naughty pics or
videos while at work?
You already know how this isgonna go one, two, three, no, I
would.
No, you won't.
No, we.
We literally just had thisdiscussion with our group of
friends last night.
(22:22):
Literally, we just had thisdiscussion last night.
He is my husband and I love himto death and I am all for doing
whatever we need to do to keepthat portion of our relationship
nice and spicy.
But I draw the line at photos.
That's where I draw the line atphotos.
That's where I draw the line.
I'm not sending him anythingbelow like between my kneecaps
(22:47):
and my neck that's nude to hisphone.
Not going to happen.
Just crop your face off.
Not going to happen.
You don't have any tattoos.
They're not going to.
It's not going to happen.
I'm not making no videos, I'mnot taking no pictures.
That stuff is forever.
No, no, no.
Now, how do you feel about that?
Speaker 2 (23:07):
I do it, I don't care .
I mean I Facebook me.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
But you have tattoos, so you'll keep your tattoos out
of it.
I don't care.
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
Is this you doing?
Yes, that's me.
It was a good time.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
As someone who has witnessed someone who I know
that is currently still goingthrough, basically like a
revenge porn type thing.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
But that we don't.
Yeah, but it doesn't matter theway our relationship is set up.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
Oh, babe, but that's the point that I'm trying to
make too.
It's like you never think thatyou could dislike your person
that much that you would go thatfar.
But look how far he has takenthings.
Crazy word.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
Like no, Don't ever compare me.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
No, I'm not comparing you, I'm just saying it's
enough for me.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Here we go.
It's a no for me, here we go.
Would you ever forgive aemotional oh, would we ever
forgive emotional cheating?
Speaker 1 (24:07):
On three One, two, three, no, no.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
I would.
Oh See, I'm more forgiving withyou, why?
Speaker 1 (24:17):
not, why not yeah?
Speaker 2 (24:20):
What if we're, what if we were just going through a
really bad period and like wecouldn't, like we, what else?
On the same page, no matterwhat we tried to do, we couldn't
communicate.
And there was a lady that I,that I talked to.
Maybe I didn't talk to herabout us, but, like I, I started
to enjoy talking to her, but Inever crossed the line.
We just had a conversation,never, never, never met with her
(24:46):
in person or never along withher.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
You wouldn't forgive me for having a conversation.
I mean, having a conversationis not cheating oh, no, no, no.
That's not cheating.
It's an emotional affair,didn't you?
Yeah, emotional cheating.
Speaker 2 (24:57):
Oh, okay.
Well, I mean she's pleasant totalk to, so I'm becoming fond of
her because she's not giving meattitude and stink face and
whatever other voice she has.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
So you're becoming emotionally attached to her in
the same sense that you'vebecome emotionally attached to
me, because when I think ofemotional attachment.
I'm thinking of like the onlything that hasn't happened is
that we haven't had the physicalconnection, but everything else
is there, Like at any moment.
At any moment, like if I'm thisclose off the ledge and you do
(25:30):
or say something that pushes meover the ledge, I'm full force
in it.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
That's what I'm talking about Emotional
connection.
But I would forgive you.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
If I had that type of connection to another man, as
long as he doesn't insert you.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Anyway, or kiss you with tongue.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
As we determine that I can kiss other men.
No, you can't, as long as it'snot with tongue, because he only
considers it cheating if I usemy tongue.
No, but if I don't use mytongue it's not considered
cheating.
I don't know how y'all'srelationship is set up, but my
man said that I can kiss othermen.
I did not say that as long asGo ahead, I don't think.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
I think we should answer one at a time.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
Okay, that's fine.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
So go ahead.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
Let's see, would we ever hook up in a place?
Oh, we already got.
We already established that,we've done that.
Let's see, would we ever have asecret code word for let's go
home and get it on?
Yeah, of course we need one now, of course, I'm going to say
hey.
(26:31):
Like how you texted me while wewere all in the middle of a
conversation last night I said,let's go.
And you're, like you, ready togo Because he was sleepy to go
Because he was sleepy.
He was, like you, ready to goBecause I'm kind of tired.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
I'm sorry, steph, now if I say it, let's put the dog
up.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
Bye, bye.
We left at like one in themorning.
The dog should have been put up.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
Hey, they don't know that.
That's crazy.
A different dog.
Okay, go ahead 30 day.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
If I felt like it would be beneficial, I would be
down for it.
I would really have tounderstand, like, how it would
be beneficial to go 30 days.
Yeah, I wouldn't sign up forthat.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
I might get you.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
Yeah, I'm not signing up for that.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
I might get you two weeks If you can do two weeks,
you can do another two weeks.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
It's like the treadmill If you can do 40 weeks
.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
You can do another two weeks.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Nah, it's like the treadmill If you can do 40
minutes, you can do an hour.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
Because after two weeks I got different kind of
calluses on my hands.
I done visited a couple ofshops.
Been surfing on Amazon by themail Trying to find some safe
replacements.
Okay, Until you out of yourspell.
Speaker 1 (27:41):
Would we ever talk openly about what we don't like
during intimacy?
Speaker 2 (27:47):
Yes, yeah, we do it all the time we do it all the
time.
All the time.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
And side note if you and your partner are not having
conversations about what youlike and what you don't like in
the bedroom, I'm going to needy'all to grow up, grow up.
I'm going to need y'all to growup, grow up.
I'm going to need y'all to growup.
Ain't nobody got time to justbe protecting people's feelings
and be miserable?
(28:12):
Ain't nobody got time for that?
Okay, so have the conversation,be open, be receptive, try not
to be defensive.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Don't be trying to hurt each other's feelings, but
absolutely have conversationsabout your likes and your
dislikes my thing is you gottabe open and honest from the
start, because like, you don'twant to build, like especially,
you don't want to like have aman thinking like he putting in
work.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
Yeah, I know it's terrible he'd be like, hey, so
can we just have a conversationReal quick.
What's that comedian?
Speaker 2 (28:42):
I think it was.
He was like You've been doingthe same four moves For ten
years.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Haven't been moving Nothing, he said.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
He said If your girl ever Get into position Without
you asking her, you ain't doingnothing.
Speaker 1 (28:56):
No, we already, we already know how this story ends
, so let's just jump to the endso we can get it done.
Okay, you go, babe.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Uh, will we ever do a 24 hour truth or truth
challenge?
Truth or truth, yeah.
So I think like we have totruthfully answer any questions
we ask each other.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
Oh, sure I would be down for that.
I mean, I don't know if youwould be.
I was just going to say I don'tknow if you would be because
you know we talked about egolast week and yours can be a
little, you know, depends onwhat day of the week it is.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
We all know how he has how his weeks work out.
Speaker 1 (29:32):
Hold on.
Let me say this.
Speaker 2 (29:34):
Let me say this I think I would do it.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
I just wouldn't ask you a lot of questions.
Okay, you would be conscious ofthe type of questions you ask
because, out of fear of theresponses that you would get, I
got to protect me.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
Oh my gosh, I got to protect me.
That's the key, fellas.
No matter what, you still haveto protect you.
So only don't walk into thetrap if you can't handle it.
So I'm not going to ask youeverything.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
I want to know because you don't really want to
know the answer.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Sometimes I don't need the answer, sometimes being
oblivious to the truth is agood thing.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
After we just said, it's important to have open
conversations.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
I'm talking about in certain situations.
I'm talking about when you tellme about myself.
I don't need you to tell meabout myself, because my picture
that I painted, if it's alreadygood, I don't need you, you
don't want me distorting it foryou, I'll confirm it.
Okay, I don't need you to okay,alright, fair enough.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
Would we ever try a game that involves dares in the
bedroom?
Speaker 2 (30:38):
yeah, we would, absolutely we would.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
But you would cheat.
I don't cheat, I strategize.
There is a difference.
Okay, I'm not a cheater ingames, I am a strategizer.
Speaker 2 (30:53):
Would we ever be okay with separate vacations once a
year?
Absolutely, absolutely,absolutely.
That sounds amazing.
What Hold on?
Wait a minute.
We need to implement this.
Hold on Because this soundsamazing.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
Because I wouldn't even go far.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
I wouldn't even go far, you'd probably be like
overseas somewhere and I'd belike it's kind of dangerous, I
need to move.
Speaker 1 (31:13):
Because I can't get to you.
Yeah right, you'd be like Idon't know, whittier, really
whittier, who?
What the heck is in whittier?
Speaker 2 (31:27):
nothing.
Where are you going to whittier?
Just somewhere where, where I'mclose enough to get to you if
you need me, but you're notgonna.
But it's far enough whereyou're not gonna.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
Just pop up oh that's it I would go to like oregon,
nova scotia.
I honestly I can't.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
Washington, I know I Russia, washington, I know.
I see I probably would just doa yearly trip to San Diego by
yourself and I would just lay inbed, door dash and watch anime.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
Yes, that just sounds like that's it so good, like I
just want to be.
I just want to be somewherewhere it's a little gloomy.
Oh my God, On a balcony thatoverlooks water and that I can
have my blanket and a nice cupof tea and a good book, or I can
crochet listening to my podcast.
(32:11):
Oh my gosh, that just sounds sogood right now, like listening
to a podcast while I'mcrocheting outside with my
blanket on.
Okay, I know, sometimes I canprobably sound like that,
probably sounded like like howold is she, but these are the
things that I enjoy, guys I'm anold soul and she's old I like,
I like to crochet and liftweights.
(32:35):
I like to crochet and liftweights.
Um, let's see, um, would weever be okay with one of us
having a close friendship withan ex?
No no, no, no, what you need tobe close like friends, amicable
, yeah, that's fine, but likeclose friendship.
(32:57):
What are we talking?
Like going to the movies orsomething?
That just reminded me, that,just reminded me.
That just reminded me of thattime.
Remember when you went out withyour friend to go Valentine's
Day shopping for me.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
But then you guys like went to lunch.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
You went and saw a movie.
And then when you came home andhe's like telling me all this,
he was like, oh, we went to themovies today, and then we went
to have lunch at such and suchand the only thing I heard was
so you took her out on a date.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
I didn't pay for anything and he was like that's
what he said.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
He was like I didn't pay for anything.
He was like we just wenttogether and I was like, yeah,
but that's a date.
And he was like it's not, she'smy friend and I was like, yeah,
I'm not cool with that sat down, had a meal and then came home
with a gift both of which werefree.
Yeah, but I do understand whatyou're saying.
Speaker 2 (33:47):
Would we ever sleep in separate beds for a long term
for better sleep?
Speaker 1 (33:52):
yes, we have and I was gonna say, yeah, there was
like what, like maybe what waslike six months, eight months a
year or something like that,where you slept in your office.
Speaker 2 (34:01):
Yeah, and then Maybe it was like six months, eight
months a year or something likethat, where you slept in your
office, yeah, and then.
But then you was like I'mgetting tired and I have my
husband, yeah, and I was like itwas great.
Speaker 1 (34:07):
But then again I was like, uh, but I was like this is
the only way I'm actuallygetting quality sleep Both of us
.
That was the only way we wereboth actually getting quality
sleep.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
And that's because your daughter kept your daughter
.
I said look she, I cannot sleepwith her kicking me, beat me
all night and I have to go towork.
This is not working for me.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
I gotta go I gotta, I gotta.
I said so I'm gonna sleep inhere so I can get sleep now.
Speaker 2 (34:30):
On the weekends I would sleep in there, but during
the weekend I had to go to work, I would sleep in my office
yeah because I, I just couldn'tdo it.
Speaker 1 (34:36):
I couldn't do it um, let's see um, um, let's see Um.
Okay, would we ever admit whothe better kisser is?
Speaker 2 (34:52):
Yeah, I'm the better kisser Um it's facts, um, okay.
Speaker 1 (35:00):
Um All right, um Um Interesting that you think that.
Okay, okay.
It is my turn, but go ahead, goahead, no, go ahead, you go
ahead.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
Will we ever admit if one of us is not fully
satisfied sexually?
Speaker 1 (35:17):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Yeah, we have yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:23):
We have, I was like, but I'm willing to let you try
again okay, okay, I was like I'mwilling to let you try again
don't let my sister hide you up,I'm willing to let you try
again um, would we ever admit toour friends if we were going
through a rough patch?
Speaker 2 (35:39):
ain't nothing, got that business.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
Well, there ain't no horror.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
What if it's like an older couple friend, nah, Okay,
nah, because I feel like I havethe type of wife where people
they plotting on you.
Speaker 1 (35:54):
I doubt, very doubtful, yeah, they want you
Very doubtful, they want youVery doubtful.
Because I want you Rawr.
That does not mean, okay, Ican't, let's do it.
Let's do a couple more so I canget to my chicken wings.
It's my turn Go ahead?
Speaker 2 (36:13):
Will we ever stay together, even if one of us lost
romantic feelings?
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
Why was I just looking at that one?
Okay, now say that again.
Will we ever stay together,even if one of us lost romantic
feelings.
So I'm I feel like it's like a,a tour, but I would say talk to
me, bishop, for me, for shut upfor me.
I was for me.
I would say, yes, okay, onlybecause if I lost my view,
(36:36):
awesome like if I, if I lostromantic feelings you would stay
with me I would would stay withyou.
Oh, okay, as I processedthrough what was happening?
Speaker 2 (36:45):
Because am.
Speaker 1 (36:45):
I losing romantic feelings because of something
we're going through.
Speaker 2 (36:48):
Or is it you?
Speaker 1 (36:49):
Or is it like, or am I genuinely like?
Speaker 2 (36:52):
like I genuinely don't want you no more Disgusted
.
Speaker 1 (36:54):
Like I'm genuinely like oh, we can be friends for
the rest of our lives.
You know like I would have toprocess that.
Okay, friends for the rest ofour lives.
You know Like I would have toprocess that, but I would stay
until, like I could come up withdefinitively like this is
what's happening.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
You want my answer.
Sure, if we locked in, ain't noswitching up.
Speaker 1 (37:12):
So yeah, you would stay too.
Speaker 2 (37:14):
We would just be roommates.
Speaker 1 (37:16):
We just gonna have to work it out.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
We're gonna have to work it.
We have to hey.
Speaker 1 (37:18):
Hey, no, take backs.
Speaker 2 (37:19):
No, take backs.
Hey, I know that we're notreally feeling each other.
Speaker 1 (37:24):
But there's no take backs.
Speaker 2 (37:25):
But I have these sexual needs, let's just get it
done.
Let's just get it done and thenwe can go back to our rooms,
that's it.
Speaker 1 (37:33):
I don't know what you have planned tonight, but if
you could squeeze me in at 540.
Speaker 2 (37:37):
And, if you want, I'll feed you after we can go
out, see, and that's how yourebuild again.
Speaker 1 (37:43):
So then let's still be in it, see Processing.
Speaker 2 (37:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:47):
That's how you process.
Okay, let's see.
Would we ever reveal our truefirst impressions of each other?
Speaker 2 (37:56):
You don't mind, shea?
Look at that ass.
Speaker 1 (38:01):
I was like why does he have so much facial hair?
It's so unattractive cause.
Speaker 2 (38:05):
I was a man.
I was a man.
When you met me, you were like12 or 13.
Speaker 1 (38:08):
I was a man and it was so not my thing.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
I was a man.
Speaker 1 (38:12):
I was like, oh my gosh, he has so much facial hair
.
This is not.
Speaker 2 (38:16):
I was a man this is not attractive.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
And then I got to high school and I was like, okay
, okay, you know, would we evergo to bed angry?
Not attractive.
And then I got to high schooland I was like, okay.
Speaker 2 (38:24):
Okay, you know.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
Would we ever go to?
Bed angry we have, I don'trecommend it and we try not to,
but yes we have Not angry.
I wouldn't say angry, no.
Speaker 2 (38:35):
I would say, sometimes I've been angry.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
Okay Well, I wouldn't say I've been like angry, but
like disliking you angry.
Speaker 2 (38:44):
Okay Well, I wouldn't say I've been like angry but
like disliking you strongly.
Speaker 1 (38:47):
Okay, all right, I have gone to bed disliking you
very strongly.
Yes, I have, okay, but I alsochecked to see if he's still
breathing in the middle of thenight.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
You ain't got to check.
Okay, let's see One more Onemore.
Speaker 1 (39:02):
Uh check, okay, let's see.
One more, one more.
Let's see.
Would we ever sacrifice ourdream for the other person's
success?
I have, I have.
Speaker 2 (39:15):
D-May.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
I don't even think that's how you say it.
Maurice, go ahead and tell mewhat.
I don't even think that's howyou say it, maurice, go ahead
and tell me.
Speaker 2 (39:25):
What Tell me?
What have you sacrificed for mydream?
Speaker 1 (39:27):
I have sacrificed.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
What Tell me?
Speaker 1 (39:29):
I have sacrificed myself, I have sacrificed my
career, for yours Are youtalking about staying at home?
Speaker 2 (39:37):
Are you talking about being staying at home, mom?
Oh yeah, If you want to go backto the workforce, go Go.
Speaker 1 (39:49):
What have you sacrificed for my success?
Speaker 2 (39:51):
My sanity.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
Goodbye.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
My health.
Speaker 1 (39:54):
Okay, yeah, all the things that I, my peace, all the
things that I say I'vesacrificed To lift you up To be
your handle, you stay home foryour child.
I stay home for my family.
Speaker 2 (40:07):
You stay home for your child.
Speaker 1 (40:09):
And to stay in the gym for four hours a day Teasing
.
Speaker 2 (40:14):
Hold on what I go last.
Okay, go ahead.
You're not getting anotherquestion to me.
I'm sorry.
Would we ever admit if we feltattraction to someone else, even
if it was just once?
Yes, I'm gonna take itregardless.
(40:35):
Yeah, I got a list.
Yeah, you want names?
Sure how long?
How long we got the tape isrunning.
Okay, kiki.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
Parvin.
Okay, oh, we're talkingcelebrities and we're talking
about real people.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
I mean, those are real people.
How long we?
Speaker 1 (40:46):
got, the tape is running.
Okay, kiki Palmer.
Okay, oh, we're talkingcelebrities and we're talking
about real people.
I mean, those are real peoplebut I'm talking about like
day-to-day, in our real livespeople.
Oh, you're talking aboutcelebrities, oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (40:55):
Got a list.
I don't want to know your listbecause it's going to be dumb.
Speaker 1 (41:00):
I just wanted to know you said celebrities and like
people we could actually getaccess to, or two different
things.
Speaker 2 (41:07):
I feel like I could pull a Kiki ball.
Speaker 1 (41:10):
Okay, all right.
Speaker 2 (41:14):
My childhood crush is still fine, chiropractor Still
fine.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
My childhood crush is still fine too.
Who Herpes boy?
First of all, all, cut it out,cut it out.
That's why he was burning.
Okay, now we're gonna be movingon into.
Speaker 2 (41:37):
We're gonna be moving on I gotta ask you a question.
So is there someone you haveaccess to that you feel
attractive to?
Speaker 1 (41:46):
now yeah, besides hefty no listen, I'm not
attracted to hefty, just likehis body type okay, sure but
like his face card.
But I don't know how he cleansup though, because I only see
him at the gym.
Speaker 2 (41:59):
But like you see him often, don't you?
I don't yeah he's.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
He works out when you work out.
She sees him often, I don't.
He works out when you work out.
She sees him often I don't andI'm not like attracted attracted
to him Go ahead and lie.
I mean, it's the nine inch seamshorts.
Speaker 2 (42:19):
Oh, for me, oh, it's the shorts.
Speaker 1 (42:20):
Huh, it's the shorts, so you want someone to dress
like a whore.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
I tried to get my husband in seven inches and nine
inches Christian values, what?
Speaker 1 (42:34):
I tried to get him in seven inches and nine inches
and he's like not having it.
Pause, pause, pause.
What oh shorts?
Sorry, pause, sorry.
Nine inch seam shorts.
Speaker 2 (42:46):
No, ditty Pause.
Speaker 1 (42:50):
We're going to go ahead and move into our two
cents.
Speaker 2 (42:53):
Our two cents.
Speaker 1 (42:54):
Okay, ready.
No, am I the asshole forbreaking up with my girlfriend
after she insisted I pay for hersister's student loans?
Speaker 2 (43:04):
Wait, what Hold on?
Speaker 1 (43:06):
Okay, okay.
So I've been dating mygirlfriend for about two years.
A few months ago, I got reallylucky on a stake in one about
80K Not life-changing money, butdefinitely a nice chunk of
change, I'll take it.
My girlfriend has beenstruggling with her student
loans about 35K so I decided tohelp her out and I paid them off
completely.
Speaker 2 (43:27):
That was nice.
Speaker 1 (43:27):
She was super grateful at first, crying and
thanking me for weeks.
Fast forward to last week, hersister, who's also dealing with
student loans about $42,000worth.
My girlfriend started hintingthat since I helped her, that I
should also help her sister.
Speaker 2 (43:44):
Not at all.
Speaker 1 (43:45):
I laughed it off at first, thinking she was just
joking, but she wasn't.
She was serious.
She got increasingly pushyabout it, saying things like you
still have plenty left, andit's selfish to help me and not
help my sister, and my familyalso needs help.
I explained that while I careabout her family, I'm not
responsible for her sister'sloans.
(44:06):
I already did somethinggenerous that most boyfriends
wouldn't even do, and hersister's finances are not my
responsibility.
This turned into a massive fightwhere she called me selfish and
said that I was greedy.
She literally said what's thepoint of having money if you
don't help other people with it?
She then gave me an ultimatumeither pay her sister's loans or
(44:28):
she would reconsider ourrelationship.
I broke up with her on the spot.
Now she's blowing up my phonesaying that I overreacted and
that her family thinks that I'man asshole.
So am I an asshole for refusingto pay her sister's student
loans and then ending therelationship over it?
No, no, absolutely not.
No, you know, audacity has beenat an all-time high recently,
(44:51):
and I don't know if it'ssomething in the air or what.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
This is why oh, let me talk to the man right now.
This is why, fellas, stopgiving these women husband
treatment.
I wouldn't have gave that dog10 cents.
Speaker 1 (45:03):
It's his girlfriend.
She is not a dog.
Relax, I didn't want to callher that, relax.
Speaker 2 (45:08):
That's why I said dog .
Speaker 1 (45:09):
Bye.
Speaker 2 (45:09):
Relax, I would have had her earn it Now.
Look here.
Speaker 1 (45:12):
Earn it yeah earn it.
Speaker 2 (45:13):
Yeah, transactional, life is transactional, just deal
with it.
It's the truth.
It's a hard truth Lifetransactional.
Our marriage is verytransactional.
Speaker 1 (45:23):
It is transactional.
I'm pretty sure she's beengiving him ass, so he paid off
her student loan.
Speaker 2 (45:28):
If the sister want her student loan, she gotta come
and drop that ass off.
Speaker 1 (45:32):
That's crazy work.
How you gonna say your sistergotta come over here and drop
some ass off if she want me todrop $42,000?
.
Speaker 2 (45:40):
Her sister said I'm gonna buy Nate.
He said well, you know what yougot to do.
I'll pay you when I'm done.
Huh, Not a thing.
I'll pay you when I'm done, nota thing.
Sorry, you're not that.
I would have left for two.
First of all, stop Look here.
Do not give ultimatums if younot bought that ultimatum life.
Speaker 1 (45:59):
Yeah, if you're really not going gonna be up to
it, because she really thoughtshe ate when she gave him the
ultimatum he was like okay, bye.
He was like all right, peace.
She was like, wait, that's it.
Speaker 2 (46:10):
So you literally just you literally lost someone who
showed you that they cared.
Speaker 1 (46:14):
They cared yeah so much that they got you out of
debt without even having a fullcommitment to you look here.
Speaker 2 (46:22):
That's why you don't get these holes nothing but the
inches.
Nothing but the inches.
Speaker 1 (46:27):
Bye yeah, you're definitely not the asshole, sir.
If anything you were like you'rebeing a good boyfriend I agree
um, okay, am I the asshole forexpecting my husband to be home
every night that we have hiskids, his stepkids, at at home?
My husband has two kids fromhis previous marriage, both boys
(46:48):
, 12 and 14.
They're sweet kids, but they'reteenage boys.
They're wild and they tend toget into fights.
They're messy and listening isnot their best life skill at
this stage of brain development.
So there's that I don't havebiological children of my own.
I met these kids when westarted dating about four years
ago and we've all lived togetherfor about two and a half years.
(47:08):
Long story short, we moved lastsummer about 60 miles from our
old home.
The move was because the boy'sbiological mom got remarried to
a guy who lived in a differentpart of the state.
To avoid the kids bearing thebrunt of the commute, we agreed
to move.
My husband still commutes towork and I work from home full
time.
We have 50-50 custody of thekids During the school year.
(47:30):
We never have the kids onMonday or Tuesday nights.
My husband enjoys playing hislow stakes bar poker games, so
he generally does that on Mondayand Tuesdays.
It's a very long drive to thevenue where he plays so he stays
with friends near our old houseon those nights and doesn't
come home.
Okay, not my favoritearrangement, but I go out of my
way to ensure he feels like hehas his own autonomy to enjoy
(47:53):
his hobbies, something hedefinitely didn't have in his
first marriage.
We know about that one.
Yeah, we do.
The issue has come up withregards to our summer custody
schedule, which switches to oneweek on and one week off from
the normal school schedule.
It recently came out inconversation that he expected to
still pay play his poker gameon Tuesday nights during the
(48:13):
summer and that he was fullyplanning on staying with friends
and not coming home thosenights.
It has always been ourunderstanding and agreement that
he would be home any night.
We have the boys here.
We brought this up.
When I brought this up, he toldme he didn't think it was a big
deal to would be home any night.
We have the boys here.
We brought this up.
When I brought this up, he toldme he didn't think it was a big
deal to not be home one night aweek and not to expect me to
handle everything on thosenights.
I'm super uncomfortable withbeing here with the boys alone.
(48:35):
They make me anxious.
I hate when they fight and Idon't think it's my place as a
stepmother to discipline them.
If they were just kids who readbooks and sat in silence all
night, I might feel differently,but there's an always greater
than 0% chance that someone isliterally throwing punches and I
have no interest in beingsolely in charge of that
situation.
I already am the default parentfor laundry, school pickup,
(48:57):
scheduling meals and primarycaretaker anytime during the
school break.
Since I work from home, I haveclearly communicated this to my
husband how I feel about beinghere alone with them, so he is
aware Beyond how it impacts me.
I don't think it's a greatexample for the kids either.
It's not like my husband is ona work trip.
It's like, hey, dad, would yourather play poker than to be
(49:17):
here with me?
I just feel like part of beinga parent is you have to plan
your life around your kids.
My husband already has iteasier than most because of the
joint custody and the fact thatI am happy to sacrifice some of
the few days we have we wouldhave alone for the two of us so
that he can pursue his hobbiesTo serve it to me straight.
Am I the asshole here?
(49:38):
My husband is making me feellike I am, but I just feel like
this is making me a responsible.
This is making me responsibleand this is making me
responsible and asking me to seta very legitimate boundary.
Not at all.
I don't think you're theasshole, no, no.
Speaker 2 (49:53):
First of, all them, his kids.
Speaker 1 (49:55):
And he and, like she said, he does have it better
than most because you alreadyslid 50-50.
And then now you putting themoff onto me so you can enjoy
your hobbies.
Speaker 2 (50:03):
And then here's my question Don't you have friends
in your old town?
So why you just can't take theboys with you in the town with
you and they can just be at afriend's house while you play
poker?
Speaker 1 (50:13):
and then come back to Okay, but that's crazy too,
Like that's crazy too.
But here's my thing.
Speaker 2 (50:17):
If he still wants to play, yeah, make it.
Make it happen, make it happen,make it work, make it work.
Don't put all the burden onyour wife to take care of kids.
Speaker 1 (50:26):
That's not hers.
Speaker 2 (50:29):
And, like she said, she doesn't have biological
children.
Speaker 1 (50:30):
So I'm sure she loves them, I'm sure she loves them,
but it's it's.
It's a little different,because them is not her children
.
She didn't, she didn't likeraise them from birth all the
way up to where they are now and, like she said, they're teenage
boys, speak Bishop, so they'remessy.
Speak Bishop, they fighting allthe time.
They got a lot going on.
Speak Bishop so yeah, you arenot the asshole boo Speak Bishop
(50:52):
.
I would be like you, eithergoing to have to be home or
maybe they should just go back.
Speaker 2 (50:57):
You need to be with your daddy To their mom.
Speaker 1 (51:00):
I don't know what to tell you.
I mean that's what they do.
Ask the mom hey, I mean they'llbe driving soon.
Speaker 2 (51:05):
How about you ask the mom hey, instead of doing week
on, week off, how about you takethe boys from Friday to Tuesday
?
Speaker 1 (51:16):
But what if that doesn't work?
No, that don't work.
Speaker 2 (51:18):
Damn, I'm trying to figure it out.
Speaker 1 (51:21):
Damn.
The only way it works is if hisass is home.
Speaker 2 (51:24):
But my thing is like for two and a half three months
you can miss the poker games.
Speaker 1 (51:29):
Yeah, it's probably his thing, Like I get it.
Speaker 2 (51:32):
But Because she's already there with them all day,
exactly Because she works fromhome.
Speaker 1 (51:36):
Well, and like she says, she's the default parent,
so she's doing pickup, drop off,laundry, cleaning, cooking.
Oh, she does laundry, don'tcome from.
I did not send for you.
I didn't send for you.
I didn't send for you.
Speaker 2 (51:50):
I didn't say you don't do laundry.
Speaker 1 (51:51):
I just said she does laundry, Okay.
So when you end up in fetalposition and crying tonight like
Wouldn't be the first time.
But you do it to yourself, soDo it to me, do it you do it to
yourself, so do it to me.
Do it you do it to yourself.
Anywho, this has been anotherepisode of the life after I do
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