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What if the greatest act of love isn’t grand gestures—but simply creating a safe space for your partner to be their true self? This week, we dive deep into this powerful insight, exploring how making room for each other's growth can strengthen your bond in unexpected ways.

"Your confidence level is trending up." What sounds like a simple observation is actually proof of what happens when couples truly support and uplift one another. From early morning gym sessions (where one reluctant partner becomes an unexpected cameraman and weight-spotter) to childhood memories (like recognizing the one in middle school!), we share personal stories that highlight the small, everyday ways we express love.

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
That's how you show me love, because you create a

(00:01):
space for me to feel like, safeand confident, to be able to be
like me.
You know, take care, take careof the things that I need to
take care of, without thepressures of outside things to
deal with, like you guard mefrom all that.
So I feel like that's a that'sa huge, that's a huge showcase

(00:23):
of love.

Speaker 2 (00:23):
these last two, three months your confidence level it
is, it is trending up, and andnow you're starting to see your
gains, and then your head istrending out?

Speaker 1 (00:36):
oh my gosh, it's not.
Hey, everybody, and welcomeback to another episode of life

(00:59):
after I do podcast.
Another week, new podcast,another week here with your host
, nisha G, and Okay.

Speaker 2 (01:12):
My breath control is getting bad.
First of all, hold up.

Speaker 1 (01:16):
Okay, johnny Gill Jr, hold up.
Okay, look, Holding a note,johnny Gill Jr, you're here.
You're joined today withKynesha and Johnny Gill Jr.
Look here you know, johnny, mycousin.
Johnny is not your cousin.
We got the same last name thatdoes not mean anything.

Speaker 2 (01:31):
Johnny is my cousin.
I don't even think that's hisreal name.
It don't matter.
Don't you ever disrespect me bycalling me Keith Sweat?
Okay, that was very, very Okay.
That was very, verydisrespectful.
I didn't appreciate it, okay,and now you just changed the
whole mood.
Oh my gosh, because now I wasreally interested in your week.

(01:53):
Now I don't care.

Speaker 1 (01:55):
You never care about my week.
What are you talking about?

Speaker 2 (01:58):
I do care.
I need to know that you'refunctioning so that you can do
what I need you to do Okay.

Speaker 1 (02:04):
Well, right now I'm not, I'm barely holding on by a
thread.
Right now I'm barely holding on.

Speaker 2 (02:12):
I'm a stand-by.

Speaker 1 (02:14):
Stand by me.
You might need to stand behindme because, no, I want you to
fall.

Speaker 2 (02:21):
I want you to fall, so you can treat me like how.

Speaker 1 (02:25):
So I can treat you like you treated me.
What are you talking about?
When I, when I passed out,can't you really?
That's not funny.
That's not funny.
I was genuinely concerned foryour life.
Wow, wow, damel, how long was Ipassed out?
For like 25 seconds, the bestsleep.
I got okay you didn't even know, so shut up.
That's the best sleep ever, 25seconds really rejuvenated me

(02:49):
okay let's okay, let's see howpanicked you'd feel if I pass
out then I'll be reallyconcerned because you got a
history of passing out.
I don't have a history ofpassing out your other medical
history how are you doingbooskies?
Um, in this very moment I'm uh,I'm sleepy.
Are you done?

(03:09):
No, I'm not done.
I mean I'm good, but I'm alittle.
I'm a little, I'm a littledizzy, I'm a little sleepy um, I
don't know what's into yourhusband.

Speaker 2 (03:22):
I don't know why I've been waking up three o'clock in
the morning.
Well, you woke up at 3 o'clockin the morning.

Speaker 1 (03:25):
Well, you woke up at 3 o'clock this morning because
you went to the gym, but I'vebeen waking up at 3 o'clock
without an alarm.
That's just your biologicalclock.

Speaker 2 (03:35):
I don't want it to be .

Speaker 1 (03:37):
Oh well, change it.
I don't know you can change it,you can try to change it.

Speaker 2 (03:43):
I've always been a morning person anyway.

Speaker 1 (03:45):
Yeah, I mean, but you know, I mean honestly.
I mean I feel okay, I think Ijust need to eat dinner, cause
we haven't had dinner yet either, so I probably just need to
like.

Speaker 2 (03:55):
I almost told you to order that rice and spice.

Speaker 1 (03:58):
Oh, rice and spice that.
But it's kind of too late toeat rice right now.
It's too late to eat wing stop.
I mean, I could always make anexception for some wings.
I feel like that's a bit moreacceptable.

Speaker 2 (04:14):
We should cut this short and try to make it the
smoking fire for the club.
No.

Speaker 1 (04:18):
I'm not driving all the way over there, even though
their wings are my favorite.
If you guys have not been toSmoking Fire in Rivers riverside
they have some of the bestparmesan wings if you can get
there before they run out.
Yeah, if you can get therebefore they run out oh my gosh,
are you yawning too?
They're gonna pass it to me.

Speaker 2 (04:38):
Listen, y'all listen we are listen, we are busy
parents right and it's, it'sbeen, it's been a busy week.

Speaker 1 (04:47):
It's been a busy weekend, but you know what we
are here.
What's important is that weshowed up for y'all, because
y'all have been showing up forus on social media for like the
past two weeks and we really,really, really appreciate the
love shout out to all the newfollowers on instagram, all the
new followers on instagram umall the new followers on
freaking tiktok new subscriberson youtube.

(05:09):
New subscribers on youtube likewe show, but we slow, we slow,
but we show y'all, but we reallyappreciate it.

Speaker 2 (05:15):
So, of course, the turd is in the hair yeah, we're
gonna win the race we gonna show.

Speaker 1 (05:21):
We gonna show up for y'all.
We really appreciate all thefeedback.
Y'all have been giving us suchgreat feedback on the podcast.
It's been really encouraging,really exciting.
It does kind of like give youthat boost to kind of keep going
.
I can show up for y'all, eventhough I need a chicken.

Speaker 2 (05:38):
She don't always show up for me, but she'll show up
for y'all.
Tell us about your week.
Here we go.

Speaker 1 (05:45):
I don't have a lot of capacity this evening, like as
far as storage.
Like if I was like storage, Iain't got a lot of space.
So you can't be soaking upgigabytes.

Speaker 2 (05:59):
You didn't get like the gigs left.

Speaker 1 (06:01):
I don't have a lot of gigs left, so you can't be
stoking up gigabytes like that.

Speaker 2 (06:04):
But you got that ass though, okay.

Speaker 1 (06:06):
So my week was.

Speaker 2 (06:07):
That ass was awesome.

Speaker 1 (06:09):
My week.

Speaker 2 (06:10):
That shelf was good, that shelf was good.

Speaker 1 (06:11):
My week was good.
Boy, they big enough Put a cupon that Okay, but goodbye I
think I've reached you know howyou said that you've reached a
Jim Bro status.

Speaker 2 (06:25):
Stop.
You're always trying to be likeme, bro.
What You're always trying, holdon my eyes watered.
I didn't tell you that todaythe girl that's normally in the
morning, which one?

Speaker 1 (06:39):
The employee yeah.

Speaker 2 (06:42):
She came and opened the door.
I said, oh, thank you.
I said it's kind of weird.

Speaker 1 (06:45):
She was probably going to clean it and you were
walking up, so she opened it,wow.

Speaker 2 (06:49):
Why are you always trying to alter my reality?
Wow, you know what?

Speaker 1 (06:52):
You ain't about shit.
He made it seem like she ranfrom behind the desk to open the
door for him you ain't aboutshit, you ain't about shit, shit
.

Speaker 2 (07:06):
And then my um, you know I got the nod of approval
for another from you knowanother, the other old black man
, like all right man, all right,young buck.
I said I appreciate you callingme young.
Well, you're not old, shut up,but you're not.
But I ain't young, I ain't, Iain't in my 20s no, you're not
in your 20s, but I'm approaching40 you know I was.

Speaker 1 (07:19):
I was doing the what was it called the grandfather
challenge thing.
It's like a mobility challenge.
I found today and I was doingthat and um, after, that I
couldn't pass it.

Speaker 2 (07:29):
No, you couldn't damn no, y'all see how she had no
faith.

Speaker 1 (07:35):
Listen if y'all had zero faith if y'all knew how
this man's right knee she hadfirst of all.
If y'all knew how his rightknee was set up, you would say
the same thing to him.

Speaker 2 (07:46):
First of all, forget you.
I don't know if you saw my post.
I posted a story and I was like, when you're questioning if
your trainer has snapped becausehe actually said something nice
about you.
I said are you okay?
I said are you going throughsomething?

Speaker 1 (08:04):
right now.

Speaker 2 (08:05):
Because I'm not used to this nice energy.

Speaker 1 (08:09):
Well, because he probably realized he needs to
throw a little bit ofencouragement in there every now
and then, Like sprinkle some inthere.

Speaker 2 (08:16):
I mean he said something along the lines of I
know you like when people tellit to you straight, and now
you're a lot better than whenyou started, so I can be a
little.

Speaker 1 (08:24):
I said oh, okay, oh, is that what it is?
That's what he said.

Speaker 2 (08:27):
I said oh no, something going on.
I said he about to snap.
Okay, I'm about to check in onthis girl.
Make sure she okay, goodbye,goodbye, cause she gonna tell me
the real no, he going throughthis shit, bye no, he's fine.

Speaker 1 (08:42):
I'm sure he's okay, shout out to Body, bob Patino.
Yeah, shout out to Body.

Speaker 2 (08:47):
Bob Patino.
That's not his name, that'sjust what we dubbed him.

Speaker 1 (08:49):
Oh is it.
Well, what's his handle?

Speaker 2 (08:53):
His handle is Patino and his name.
His name is Joseph Patino, butI call him Body Bob Patino.

Speaker 1 (08:58):
Okay, yeah, but shout out to Joseph Patino.
You guys follow him on.
He's on TikTok.
Is he on Instagram too?
I don't he's on TikTok?
Yes, he's on TikTok.
I follow him on Instagram.
Okay Well, instagram, tiktok,but yeah.

Speaker 2 (09:10):
I also follow him at work, because we work together.
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 1 (09:13):
Yes, but okay, maybe we should tell him to change his
handle Body by Patino.
I tell them to give me a call,I'll give them a good deal on
some merch.

Speaker 2 (09:25):
It got a nice ring to it, don't it yep?
Tell them I'm gonna need 10 ofthat because he came up with the
name you on that body, babatino, actually andy came up the ring
, but okay okay, five percent,just trying to take my week, I
had a good week.
Well damn, I didn't even finishbecause you bye, because you

(09:46):
doing the most.

Speaker 1 (09:47):
I was just I feel like, because we're tired, we're
like laughing so much, let mejust say I had a good week.

Speaker 2 (09:53):
What was good about it?
Um, honestly, the best thingabout it was my therapy session.
Okay, some hard truth was said,some realization.
I got some good copingmechanisms, um, and you know
hard truth was said.

Speaker 1 (10:04):
some realization, I got some good coping mechanisms.

Speaker 2 (10:05):
And you know, dr Williams, she hit me with the
blackness this week.
I said okay, sister.

Speaker 1 (10:11):
She had to be a little bit of your mama.
She referenced Kendrick.
Oh, I heard that one.
I said hold on.
I heard that one.
She made you count how manyhours are in a day, so you know,
so don't let look here, don'tget the game.
Don't get in the game bye.

Speaker 2 (10:27):
Because I had to pay for it.
Yeah, but like you know what, Iwas going to talk to her too,
because I was, like you know,once this is all over, like I
would.
Is there a way I can still seeher after?

Speaker 1 (10:37):
this fact Because I really do like her.
That's good.
It's rare, right, because Idon't like nobody.

Speaker 2 (10:47):
No, I mean especially for a therapist, and when she
told me she was 61, I said oh,is Kenneth your dad.

Speaker 1 (10:56):
Bye Talking about my daddy because my daddy's so tall
, which is diabolical becauseI'm not.
You just slides over my hamster.
It's like I got his bodystructure.
You just sized him in hamster.
I got his body like composition, but not his height.

Speaker 2 (11:14):
That's crazy work.

Speaker 1 (11:14):
Your daddy ain't got ass like you.
That's crazy work.
That's crazy work.

Speaker 2 (11:20):
Why do you got me doing this when I'm tired?
You know I'm going to say somestupid shit.
Well, please don't.

Speaker 1 (11:25):
I just said your daddy okay ass like you, but my
dad does have ass.
Oh whoa, he has more ass thanyou do hold on now I can tell
you who don't have ass, why yougot, why is, why are?

Speaker 2 (11:35):
you taking shots at me.
Look here, I like your butt,though my wife has been taking
shots at me all week.
I have it, and I know why itBecause you get like this during
this portion of your 30-daycycle what You're in this phase,
I'm not taking shots at you,you do.
You get in this stage where youjust it's like it just makes

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you you're so happy.

Speaker 1 (11:59):
It makes me feel better to like to crack down on
you.
Remind me to get the popcornout the mailbox that we?
There's popcorn in the mailbox.

Speaker 2 (12:09):
Luckily the weather has been terrible, I think, um
because you know it's from thephone, it's from the fundraisers
.

Speaker 1 (12:17):
I know and I remember there was one flavor that I
chose that I really want to try,and it's jalapeno pickle.
They've been out there forthree, four days.
Yeah, I want to try thatjalapeno pickle and they've been
out there for three, four days.
Yeah, I want to try thatjalapeno pickle.

Speaker 2 (12:26):
Okay, but my week was good.

Speaker 1 (12:27):
That's good.

Speaker 2 (12:27):
Shout out to Dr Williams.

Speaker 1 (12:28):
That's good.
We sorry y'all.
What else was good about yourweek, babe?
What?

Speaker 2 (12:32):
else was good about it.
Yeah, what was good about it?
That's because, see it's I, I,I knew what kind of week was
going to be when she pulled thatshit in target the other day.
What I pulled in target whenyou started, when you're doing
that joke, what joke?
I'm gonna stick by him see whatI said.

Speaker 1 (12:59):
I was talking to savannah, yeah, so we were
walking in target.
We were walking in target andwe were we were talking about
something.
Oh, I so we were walking atTarget.
We were walking at Target andwe were we were talking about
something.
Oh, I think we were talkingabout like you telling me like
using my card for like stuffthat I just want, and I was like
I'm not gonna do that, I'mgonna use the communal money
yeah and then you're oh andyou're like we're talking about

(13:20):
the headband.
It was the headband and you'relike you can buy that, like with
your money, and I was like Iknow, but I'm not going to.
And then you're like I'm goingto buy it.
And I was like I said you know,I was just talking to Savannah
the other day and he was likewho the hell is Savannah?
And I was like I was tellingSavannah the other day and he
was like again, who is Savannah?
And then I told him I was likeI was telling Savannah see, he

(13:48):
is a good man, Savannah,savannah, he is a good man, he
is a good man, savannah.
Okay, oh gosh, we are like.

Speaker 2 (13:59):
Some people will be mad when they realize we went to
Target.

Speaker 1 (14:03):
Well, no, okay, well, we should explain.
We're not listen.
We're not like shopping attarget.
Let's be clear.
We were not like shopping, likewe haven't been shopping at
target.
We go to the starbucks.
That's inside of target, becausethose are yeah, they're,
they're and it's not even we'renot even over exaggerating.

(14:25):
This is the only Starbucks thatdoesn't give us pushback for
how we make our drink.
And so we were.
We were getting like ourStarbucks coffee, but I also
needed a quick headband for thegym.
So I did buy a headband, but itwas.

Speaker 2 (14:41):
And she made me use my money to buy it.
It was our money, so I try tobe for the people, but she won't
let me Okay bye, anyway, yeah,so just you know.

Speaker 1 (14:49):
but I'm not like, I'm not like shopping at all Hold
on now.

Speaker 2 (14:52):
you just fucking triggered me.
Why I just remembered this.
My wife is so unappreciative ofme.

Speaker 1 (14:59):
Oh, wow.

Speaker 2 (15:00):
Let me tell y'all what happened.
Wow, let me tell y'all whathappened.

Speaker 1 (15:02):
Wait, is this an approved story?

Speaker 2 (15:04):
Yes, before you put all my business on the interwebs
, it is Because I'm approving it.
Because I'm approving it, I gotup hella early Friday morning.
Okay, to go work out.
Yeah, get all my workout inMm-hmm.
So that I what she said sheneeded.

(15:24):
She needed support that day.

Speaker 1 (15:25):
I didn't say I needed support.

Speaker 2 (15:27):
But what it turns out is she needed a cameraman and
someone to rack and unrack herweight.
She, I said you are in the gymwith your wrist broken.
I said who?
I said you're not getting menext Friday.
I will not be doing this why.

Speaker 1 (15:45):
I will not be doing this.
Why I will not be doing this?
But it was helpful.
I was listen.

Speaker 2 (15:46):
I was on a I'm not doing it.

Speaker 1 (15:47):
I had leg day on Friday, okay, and I was not at
10% like I wasn't at 100%, I wasnot like there, and so I was
just letting him know.
Your support is appreciatedbecause I'm not 100% here, but
I'm going because I have to getit done and it's a part of my

(16:07):
program and I have to get itdone.
It's also one of my favoritedays to do, which is working on
my squat and increasing my squatnumbers, and the fact that he
recorded, did all my recordingsfor me, for my trainer.
He put away my weights andracked them and that was huge
because I didn't feel like doingit.

Speaker 2 (16:26):
I found her a treadmill, I was like I'm in
here, I'm a fucking butler.
No, you're not.

Speaker 1 (16:32):
You were there for me .
You supported me when I thoughtthat I couldn't push 170 on my
extensions.
You were there to tell me thatyou could, and you put that in
there for me.
That's what Hit me again.
That's what You're solid.
Stop hitting my grandma.
You're solid, hold on.

Speaker 2 (16:54):
It just reminds me of something.
Today, I don't know, I saidsomething and Des was like aw.
I said get your head off mygrandma.

Speaker 1 (17:00):
Bye, maurice, he's so special.
Get your head off my grandma.
Bye, maurice, he's so special.
Get your hand off my grandma.

Speaker 2 (17:06):
She can't see she don't want to touch you.

Speaker 1 (17:08):
Really your shirt is covering her face, it don't
matter.

Speaker 2 (17:12):
She's here, I know she's here.
The world may not.

Speaker 1 (17:16):
Don't touch her.

Speaker 2 (17:17):
Like my dad was like oh, I didn't know, you guys, it
wasn't for you to know.
Really, just be lucky, you gotto see it once, because you
probably never see it again.
Oh, my God, that's a lie,because when I get fit y'all,
nothing but crop tops.
That's what he says.
Crop tops and tank tops, croptops.

Speaker 1 (17:32):
You don't wear crop tops with your belly button
hanging out.
No, that's not a crop top, babe, right here.

Speaker 2 (17:38):
Yeah, crop top, right here are you gonna make your
crop top?
I'm gonna make your crop top.

Speaker 1 (17:42):
I'm gonna make your your crop tops into like
slingshot crop tops, so it'sgonna be like you're only gonna
have like this much fabric.

Speaker 2 (17:49):
I was, I was.
I was joking about the crop.

Speaker 1 (17:51):
It's gonna be like this much fabric on the side and
then I'm gonna like cut itsuper low, like down here, so
it's gonna be like just a piece,a piece of fabric really let's
get into it, guys.

Speaker 2 (18:03):
This is a new segment called why did I marry my wife?
That hurt my feeling why did Imarry you?

Speaker 1 (18:11):
that's ass, did you what what?

Speaker 2 (18:15):
that hurt my?
What hurt your feelings, baby?
I apologize.
I didn't mean to hurt yourfeelings sucker.

Speaker 1 (18:21):
That didn't hurt my feelings.

Speaker 2 (18:23):
You toxic as hell.

Speaker 1 (18:29):
Toxic as hell.
I had to put on like a brightlip today too, to like spruce up
.
I like it.
I did purple because it's yourfavorite color, but I was also
like I need to put on somethinga little bit brighter what I
would wear purple every day.

Speaker 2 (18:42):
Okay, I'll buy you a bunch of purple shirts.

Speaker 1 (18:44):
You know what Say less your birthday's coming up.

Speaker 2 (18:47):
I wear purple every day, you're gonna notice a theme
yeah, if you wanna give me someof my birthday, there's a set
of shoes.

Speaker 1 (18:54):
I'm not buying you no more shoes.
I'm not buying you no moreshoes.
I got the two turtles.

Speaker 2 (18:58):
I'm not buying you any more shoes.

Speaker 1 (19:01):
I need the other two.
Okay, they're going to be, andthey're going to be right there
at the store for you to admire,cause I need, I need the
Donnie's.
I got to get the purple.
They're going to be at thestore for you to admire, or you
can always look it up online.

Speaker 2 (19:10):
Save a picture.
I'm going to get them myself.

Speaker 1 (19:13):
That's it.

Speaker 2 (19:14):
She's not going to camp.
I want your shoes.
We'll go watch me.
Yeah right, you ain't gonna dothat, guys.

Speaker 1 (19:30):
So, 30 minutes later, how well do we know each other?
Apparently not at all fulltransparency guys.

Speaker 2 (19:38):
She asked me some of these questions earlier and I
was like I said you got them allwrong because we changed so.

Speaker 1 (19:48):
So I would just rather take the approach like
what do you?
Obviously it's gonna have to bedifferent.
What do you think?
Right you know, all right,let's go okay.

Speaker 2 (19:57):
So it's gonna be a fun, lighthearted episode.
We're gonna just ask you knoweach other some questions and
just see who knows the mostabout the other person.

Speaker 1 (20:04):
Yeah, we'll see.

Speaker 2 (20:05):
And she's most likely going to win, because I don't
pay attention to shit.

Speaker 1 (20:08):
Wow, wow.
Which is it?

Speaker 2 (20:13):
You either pay attention or you don't.

Speaker 1 (20:14):
Okay, I pay attention to not pay attention.
Let's start off with somethingeasy.

Speaker 2 (20:17):
Why do you go first?

Speaker 1 (20:18):
Because I always go first Wow.
I'm the lady of the house, thelady of the house.
Always she ain't lying let'salways go first.

Speaker 2 (20:28):
Okay, this, this is an easy one.
You know this.
Hold on, hold on.
You said that and in my headlejules said see baby shut up,
I'm gonna call her lejules.

Speaker 1 (20:40):
Okay, what is my absolute favorite TV show or
movie?
You know this.

Speaker 2 (20:47):
Your favorite movie is.
What's Love Got to Do With it?
Exactly, your favorite TV showis either going to be Walker,
texas Ranger or Golden Girls.

Speaker 1 (20:54):
Okay, If it's between those two shows.
I'm going to say Golden Girls,but neither one are my absolute
favorite show.
What's my absolute favoriteshow?
Good time and that you hatewatching with me.
Oh, charmed, no, but that's areally.
But I will give you.
I will give you that.
I will give you that, but no,my absolute.

(21:15):
And you always say I cannotwatch this.
All you watch is crime andmurder Law and order.

Speaker 2 (21:20):
SVU.
Thank you.

Speaker 1 (21:21):
Same goddamn episode every week it is not, it's
literally based on like okay,they tried, they put it in there
that it's not based on likecurrent events, but it's always
based on current events.

Speaker 2 (21:32):
So let me ask you this what's my?
The funny thing is, I haven'tseen my favorite movie in a long
time because I cannot find it.

Speaker 1 (21:38):
See now, we've had debates about this.

Speaker 2 (21:47):
We've had debates this because I've you because
you have said that's my favoritemovie behind both of these
movies multiple times and soevery time I say either one of
them, you're like that's not it,but I'm gonna say two.

Speaker 1 (21:52):
I'm gonna say two.
What's my favorite?

Speaker 2 (21:53):
movie and what's my favorite tv show of all time I'm
gonna say two for the movie.
I'm gonna say along came paulieno, I said, that's my favorite
ben stiller movie see that's notmy favorite movie um and then I
do love a long name um, um, oh,oh.

Speaker 1 (22:06):
What's the name of it ?
Because I used to say playersclub, but it's not players club,
it's the um, oh, it's from the90s it has nothing to do with
trippers I know, and it's fromthe 90s and it's on the tip of
my tongue, oh my gosh, and all Isee is the actors in there who?

Speaker 2 (22:23):
Who plays in the movie.

Speaker 1 (22:24):
I don't know the names.

Speaker 2 (22:27):
One's a comedian.

Speaker 1 (22:28):
Yes, he's the dark-skinned one.
He has the curly top, thecomedian, and I can't remember
his name, but he was like theplayer, he was not a player, he
was a player.

Speaker 2 (22:41):
My favorite movie of all time is Foolish.

Speaker 1 (22:43):
Foolish.
Yes Is Jada.
Is Jada in there?
No, okay, who's the other?
Who's the other girl?
I know the.

Speaker 2 (22:49):
It's with Eddie Griffin, uh-huh and Master V.

Speaker 1 (22:53):
That's not who the comedian I was thinking.
I was thinking the other guywith the curly hair.

Speaker 2 (22:57):
I don't know who you were thinking the movie with
jada pickett where they werelike doing the dates, you need
my woo.
Maybe am I thinking about woo.
My favorite movie with jada init is lowdown dirty chain.

Speaker 1 (23:11):
See, you, don't know me okay, okay, let's keep this
going.
Okay, peach, what's my favoritetv show?
Uh oh, um, now you have acouple either Big Bang Theory or
how I Met your Mother well, no,how I Met your Mother is a good
show, it's not a good show, butBig Bang Theory is your yes,

(23:32):
that is your favorite show, bigBang Theory?
um, okay, I'm not gonna ask youthat one, because you got it
wrong earlier and then I toldyou the answer.
So then you're gonna try to.
Let's see, okay, if I could goon vacation anywhere in the
world.
And then I told you the answer.
So then you're going to try to.
Let's see, okay, if I could goon vacation anywhere in the
world right now, where do youthink I would go?

Speaker 2 (23:51):
Nova Scotia, because for some reason you obsessed
with Nova Scotia.
Is that right?

Speaker 1 (24:01):
that wasn't my top, but I will give it to you only
because I've been talking aboutNova Scotia since like the sixth
grade.
So, and then it's Nova Scotia,canada, by the way, and for
people who don't know so myanswer would be Nova Scotia.
I'll give you Nova Scotia.

Speaker 2 (24:17):
Japan or Thailand.
Okay, I'll give you.

Speaker 1 (24:18):
I'll give you those and that's only be Nova Scotia.
I'll give you Nova Scotia,japan or Thailand Okay, I'll
give you those, and that's onlybecause Nova Scotia, because
I've been talking about it sincethe sixth grade, like I said,
and then Japan and Thailand,because that's what I've been
trying to convince you forfamily vacation.
So, like see, I'm starting youoff easy.
What's my favorite dessertRight now?
Protein cheesecake Of all timeof all time.

Speaker 2 (24:44):
uh, that's a tough one, because every time your mom
comes, the only thing youalways I'm gonna say that it's
even it's even I'm gonna say Ihaven't had it in years.

Speaker 1 (24:55):
Is it the, the layer, the uh seven layer?

Speaker 2 (24:56):
I can make that.
It's something I don't make.

Speaker 1 (25:02):
You haven't had it in years.
I'm just thinking about whatyou always request when your mom
comes to visit.

Speaker 2 (25:06):
What I want my mama can make, that's why I don't
request it.
Oh, if she could, that's allshe would be making.

Speaker 1 (25:13):
Then that one I don't know, because you obviously
haven't eaten it enough for me.

Speaker 2 (25:17):
It's my grandfather's apple turnovers yeah, that one.
I don't think you ever told methat okay, this has been another
episode, because clearly shedon't listen to me at all I do,
I do um.

Speaker 1 (25:30):
Uh, let's see.
Okay, what's one thing I doevery morning without fail brush
your teeth or no, hold on.
I do it without fail everymorning.

(25:56):
Oh, go to the bathroom.
Yeah, that was an easy one too,because who?

Speaker 2 (26:00):
doesn't, because who?

Speaker 1 (26:01):
doesn't.
Everybody pees.
Well, I mean, I don't thinkeverybody, but you should be
peeing first thing in themorning.
But yeah, I'm going to say thesame for you.

Speaker 2 (26:09):
I'm not going to ask that question, I'm going to ask
this question.

Speaker 1 (26:16):
Oh gosh, he just wants to stump me.

Speaker 2 (26:18):
I'm giving him easy ones.
If I had to pick between thebeach, mountains or city for a
getaway which would I pickMountains.

Speaker 1 (26:27):
Okay, you do know me.
The mountains, that's an easyone.
Because you don't want to be atthe beach and you damn sure
don't want to be in the city,because I've been trying to
convince you to move to the city.
I I've been trying to convinceyou to move to the city I'm not
a city boy and he's like we'reabsolutely not going to move to
the city.
I go buy a farm before I buy ahouse in the city.
So yeah, mountains, that was aneasy one.
That was an easy one for sure,told you.

(26:49):
Let's see, do I prefer to planthings in advance or am I more
spontaneous?

Speaker 2 (26:58):
You prefer not to plan shit?
That's the answer to thatquestion.
You prefer to be told what'sgoing on?
That's the answer.

Speaker 1 (27:04):
Just make the decision.
What do I always say?
I always tell them, like, justtell me what we're doing.
But when I want to do something, I think it is pretty
spontaneous, because I don'tnormally plan for it.
I'll just be like, hey, soSunday.

Speaker 2 (27:21):
Right.

Speaker 1 (27:23):
This is where we're going on Sunday.

Speaker 2 (27:26):
When I'm stressed, what's the best way to calm me
down?

Speaker 1 (27:31):
Ass.

Speaker 2 (27:35):
You know it.

Speaker 1 (27:38):
It's not difficult.
What was I even worried about?
Shut up, what was I evenworried about?
It wasn't even that deep.
Nope, it was deep, but itwasn't that deep.
And then I get you something toeat, rub your head right and
you forget all about what youwere stressed out about.
Then I turn on Fifth Elementand fall asleep.

Speaker 2 (27:58):
It's diabolical.
Fifth Element is that moviethat I've seen so many times.
I can recite I know, I knowwhat's happening without looking
at the screen.
That's why you be like youdon't even watch this, but I
know what's happening heliterally turns on the Fifth
Element, like if he has atrouble falling asleep.

Speaker 1 (28:11):
He turns on the Fifth Element with um Bruce Willis
and he just like and it makeshim fall asleep.

Speaker 2 (28:17):
Another one of my favorites, that and Vampire in
Brooklyn.

Speaker 1 (28:20):
I can fall asleep to like this.
Oh my gosh and Vampire inBrooklyn.
Yes, we be watching thosemovies like they just came out
and it's diabolical becausewe've seen them so many times
and we still watch them likethey're like they just came out
on DVD or something.

Speaker 2 (28:33):
They're great movies.

Speaker 1 (28:35):
Um.
What did I wear on our firstdate?
This is easy for you too.

Speaker 2 (28:45):
You wore these light denim jeans that were low-rise.

Speaker 1 (28:52):
They were corduroy and they were whitewashed.
They were whitewashed and youhad this white crop top top
thingy on it was a sweaterwhatever, I don't know what shit
called and and you had a beanieon my white beanie because I
had just got um, I forget thename of those shoes, but they
were like the high tops and Ithought I was super cute.

Speaker 2 (29:13):
I think you had the iris on?

Speaker 1 (29:15):
no, wasn't the iris.
They were a high top somethingbecause we had all just got them
, but I was like obsessed withthem.

Speaker 2 (29:22):
Okay, your turn what was my first impression of you?

Speaker 1 (29:26):
listen per your words or your words.
The first time you saw me walkacross the quad at vista
campagna middle school in applevalley, cal.
California, when I was in thesixth grade so I was like 11
years old you said to yourselfthat's her, that's my wife.
Those were your words, hiswords, he said.

(29:50):
As soon as I saw you walkacross the quad for the first
time at school, I said to myselfthat's her, that's my wife,
right there.
That's a diabolical feeling tofeel at 12 and 13.
That's wild.

Speaker 2 (30:03):
Well, I mean I was 13 , but I had been through a lot.
Yeah, that's true.

Speaker 1 (30:08):
Me too.

Speaker 2 (30:09):
You know?
I mean, I had a full beard atthat time, oh my gosh, it was
the weirdest thing.

Speaker 1 (30:15):
It was the weirdest thing.
You had a full like mustache.
I was a man.
You wasn't a man.
I was.
I was a man.
You were not a man.
You were just a boy with areally full line of hair across
your top lip.

Speaker 2 (30:30):
Yeah, I wasted those years.
My testosterone was at all-timehigh.
Had I started my steroids then?

Speaker 1 (30:35):
Oh, at 12?
Had you started testosterone at12?
I'm just playing, what I'm justplaying.
That is crazy, are you sayingthat you're on testosterone
right now.

Speaker 2 (30:54):
No, oh, oh.
Is it my turn to ask questions?
It's mine.
No, you asked, but you no.
No, it is your turn.

Speaker 1 (30:58):
We're not going to record tired anymore.

Speaker 2 (31:02):
Go ahead, it is your turn.

Speaker 1 (31:03):
Okay, let me see if you remember this one.
What was my childhood dream job?
I know you ain't going toremember this.

Speaker 2 (31:14):
It was probably something weird.
So what was it?
Probably going to be a grocerybagger.

Speaker 1 (31:20):
Wow, Wow.
A grocery bagger Demel I didnot my earlier.

Speaker 2 (31:30):
I knew you wanted to be like in fashion.
I don't know what the job was,but I don't know what your child
job was.
That started in high school.

Speaker 1 (31:38):
Okay, but I always wanted to be.
I started what your child thatstarted in high school.
Okay, but I always wanted to besorry, being with you every day
.
In high school I wanted to be acomputer system analyst.
Three that's funny, because youcan't even log in I didn't even
know how to transfer my data toa, but I did.
I remember coming across thattitle and I, like, I researched

(32:00):
it and everything and I was likethat's it, I will.
I wanted to become a computersystem analyst.
Three, and I wanted to own myown cyber cafe.

Speaker 2 (32:09):
Okay.
That was it what, what is?
What is one of my favoritememories of us together?

Speaker 1 (32:14):
One of your favorite.
Oh gosh, there's so many Um areyou sure I'm positive, jerk
face.
I'm positive because you toldme and I was there.
Well, yeah, it's a memory of us, I would say the ones that come

(32:34):
to mind, I would say our firstweekend getaway, like when we
went to San Diego for our first,like weekend getaway, like when
we had went to san diego, likefor our first little weekend
getaway when we were younger.
You don't remember weekend yeah,the first time, not the, not
the I know, no, the very firsttime the very first time was
sunday.
We went for a week, not aweekend oh, I thought it was a

(32:56):
week we went for.
I mean a weekend we.

Speaker 2 (32:58):
We had city passes.

Speaker 1 (32:59):
We hit all the parks oh yeah, I thought that was the
weekend.

Speaker 2 (33:02):
Yeah see, I've been treating you to shit.
You don't realize okay soanywho that one.

Speaker 1 (33:07):
Your memory is short, that's not one of them okay,
well, I would say the ones thatyou have mentioned, that they're
memorable for you.
Um, when we had, when we gavebirth to, when I gave birth to
our daughter, that was a goodone, obviously our wedding day,
because you said you were makingfun of me, because I was drunk,
Drunk drunk and then that wecan get away to San Diego.

(33:31):
But what is it for you?

Speaker 2 (33:33):
Tell me, we're in the hallway in high school, uh-huh,
and you, we're in the hallwayin high school and you looked at
me and I said, damn, maybe yourlip gloss is popping.
And he was like, yeah, it'slike bling bling, oh my gosh.
Okay, we have two differentrecollections of that whole
scenario, cause you say we wereat school.

Speaker 1 (33:51):
I say we were in the car on our way to school and I
was putting my lip gloss on.

Speaker 2 (33:55):
It was not.
We were already in school.

Speaker 1 (33:58):
I.
I was putting my lip gloss on?

Speaker 2 (33:59):
No, it was not, we were already in school.

Speaker 1 (34:01):
I say we were in the car, you were doing a little
touch up.
Yeah, I had the gloss and I wasdoing my touch up right before
you parked, before we got toschool.

Speaker 2 (34:12):
No, that just made me think about like all the times
like you pick me up for schoolin the morning and we would go.
You just don't appreciate whatI've done for you, oh my gosh,
like I said at the top of theepisode, like I've really been
in your corner a long time.

Speaker 1 (34:22):
Goodness babe, I've stood on business.
You are seen, you are heard.

Speaker 2 (34:27):
Yeah, because I'm fat , you can't miss me I appreciate
you.

Speaker 1 (34:31):
You are loved, you are.
I have to give him hisaffirmations you are loved.
I'm teasing you, babe, I'm justteasing you.
I love you.
Let me ask you a question Do Ihave a favorite holiday, and why
?
I would say your favoriteholiday is Christmas, because

(34:55):
mine is.
Thanksgiving.
What's my favorite holiday babe?

Speaker 2 (34:58):
Your birthday.

Speaker 1 (34:58):
And you don't consider it to be a holiday.
Your birthday, yes, obviously,because it's not a holiday.
It is a holiday.
It's not, it is a holiday.

Speaker 2 (35:06):
It is not.

Speaker 1 (35:08):
Yes, it is Okay.

Speaker 2 (35:11):
It's my turn.
Okay, calm down, calm down.
What song reminds me of ourrelationship?

Speaker 1 (35:22):
Oh gosh, I don't know , because you listen to nothing
but love music.
Um, there is really, can I, can, I guess, an artist I mean,
there's not one particular songI know.
That's why I'm saying can Ijust?
Say an artist, so you can listoff like four or five songs.

Speaker 2 (35:37):
Don't say artist.

Speaker 1 (35:39):
I know it's gonna be Anthony Hamilton the big aunt.
You know what I mean, that'swhy, no matter what the people
say?

Speaker 2 (35:45):
that's not the name of the song.

Speaker 1 (35:46):
I know it's not, that's why, but you know what
song I'm talking about.
I don't know the titles ofsongs.
That's like asking me, liketraveling north, south, east,
west.
I don't know.
I can tell you the landmark.

Speaker 2 (35:57):
It's a lot of Anthony Hamilton songs.

Speaker 1 (35:58):
I know.
That's why I say, can I nameartists?
So I'm going to just go withAnthony Hamilton, anything.
Anthony Hamilton, anything.
Charlene.

Speaker 2 (36:06):
No Cornbread, fish and collards.
Yes, why?
Because you couldn't cook them.

Speaker 1 (36:12):
Really, really, really.
I can't cook cornbread, fishand collard greens now, but back
then, what couldn't I cook?
Cornbread, fish or collard?
Yes, I could cook all of them.
Okay, now we're talking regularcornbread.
Yes, hot water cornbread.
I had to work at it, but I gotbetter okay, go ahead and ask

(36:35):
your question um, what's onething on my bucket list that I
haven't done yet, and it's alsosomething that you said you
would never do with skydive.

Speaker 2 (36:46):
Yes, I'm not doing that shit I don't know why.

Speaker 1 (36:49):
It's diabolical that you wouldn't skydive, but you
drive without a seat belt.
That's crazy work.
That's crazy work calculator no, it's not a calculated risk.

Speaker 2 (36:59):
I have more control you don't and to my employer.

Speaker 1 (37:04):
I wear a seatbelt yeah, he wears a seatbelt at
work.

Speaker 2 (37:06):
I'm talking about in our own vehicle if I won the
lottery, what's the first thingI'm going to do?
Pay off your student loans no,it's not, they can still wait.

Speaker 1 (37:23):
Really?
No, it is not.
They can still wait.
They've waited this long.
They can keep waiting.

Speaker 2 (37:30):
It ain't gonna hurt them.
I promise you, I promise you,boo-boo, I promise you, it ain't
gonna hurt them, it ain't gonnahurt him at all what's the?

Speaker 1 (37:42):
so you're not gonna pay off your student loans?
Maybe a year later pay off,maybe a year later?
Wait, make them put you on apayment, yeah think about it.

Speaker 2 (37:51):
I have all this cash on hand.

Speaker 1 (37:53):
If you default me, I have cash on hand oh my gosh,
I'm still gonna live a good life.
Bye, I might.
I have cash on hand.
Oh my gosh, I'm still going tolive a good life.
Bye, I might not pay it at all.
I might just move to Dubai.
That's not a thing, babe, letme see.
I would say I mean, the firstthing, I feel like the first
thing you would do is just likepay the house off or something.

Speaker 2 (38:12):
The first thing I would do is tell you Is tell is
tell me yes, and I'm like youcan't tell nobody this, but I
can't hold it in, so I gottatell you cause, like I told the
people, we a tea set and I gotta, so I gotta come to you so we
can be excited together.
Okay, and I'm like, don't tellnobody, especially my mama or

(38:33):
your mama, don't let no grandiesknow what the situation is that
we're, that we're millionairesbecause the first thing they're
gonna do is start planning thefirst thing they're gonna do is
exhale finally retire?

Speaker 1 (38:46):
no, you can't I didn't see how it was gonna work
out, but but it did god camethrough for me after all we got
y'all.
Don't worry, we got y'all.

Speaker 2 (38:58):
We got y'all for two years.

Speaker 1 (38:59):
Bye, goodbye, goodbye .
What's my favorite way toreceive affection?

Speaker 2 (39:08):
You like for me to do things for you.
You like for me to do tasksthat I normally wouldn't do?

Speaker 1 (39:16):
I like you to like read my mind, basically yeah
which is crazy it's not, it'sreally not because you are, you
know what I like what's atradition from my family that I
love?
What's a tradition, uh playingphase 10 whenever y'all get
together look here that'sridiculous it's ridiculous and

(39:37):
it's a long, boring-ass game.

Speaker 2 (39:40):
For the people who don't know, Phase 10 is like
playing Rummy.
Phase 10 is terrible.

Speaker 1 (39:45):
Phase 10 is terrible.
You know what we said about it.

Speaker 2 (39:48):
We do have a long history of playing cards in my
family, Like we do love cardgames A good card game Like I
used to play Tunk Spades Speed,like you know.
It's just Don't break out theUno cards.
Oh gosh, my sister told me thatthey got Uno Allwilds.

Speaker 1 (40:12):
Oh, we gotta play that.
We gotta play that.
We got the one with the draw 10.
That's diabolical.
I would be so upset.

Speaker 2 (40:22):
I think she said I would quit.
I think she said shine, hit herwith two, draw 10s.

Speaker 1 (40:25):
And she said I'm, I would quit.
Who's gonna keep playing afterthat?
That's obnoxious.
That is obnoxious.
Why would they even create that?
I would, I would playing.
I would say my stomach hurtsand I'm leaving.
If I could start any businessor new career tomorrow, what
would it be?

Speaker 2 (40:45):
Belly dancer.
What the fuck.

Speaker 1 (40:53):
It would not be a belly dancer.

Speaker 2 (40:57):
I think you would go back to school and be a
therapist.

Speaker 1 (41:00):
Okay, I can give you that.

Speaker 2 (41:02):
And then belly dancer .
I think you would go back toschool and be a therapist Okay,
I can give you that and thenbelly dance, belly dance on the
side to pay for it.
Yeah, no.
Do I have a favorite holidayand why.
I just told you what myfavorite holiday is it's?
Christmas, it's not Christmas.

Speaker 1 (41:17):
It's.

Speaker 2 (41:17):
Thanksgiving, and why is that?

Speaker 1 (41:20):
For one you like to eat, and for two you like to be
with your family too.

Speaker 2 (41:25):
She just think I'm fat.
That's not why I likeThanksgiving.

Speaker 1 (41:29):
Why do you like Thanksgiving?

Speaker 2 (41:30):
Because Thanksgiving is the one holiday where it
doesn't require anything Outsideof just company and being
thankful for what you have.

Speaker 1 (41:37):
Exactly With your family.
That's why I said you likebeing with your family.

Speaker 2 (41:39):
There's no necessary monetary gain in celebrating
Thanksgiving Right.
It's just about being in thatsame space as the people you
love.

Speaker 1 (41:49):
That you're thankful for.

Speaker 2 (41:51):
And being thankful that they're still around in
your life, yep, and so when youstart having Thanksgivings
without people you love, theymean more.

Speaker 1 (41:58):
Yep, so true.

Speaker 2 (42:01):
But apparently I won't be thankful for nothing
this year.

Speaker 1 (42:04):
Oh my gosh, I can't.
Did I ever get in trouble as akid?
And if I did, what did I get introuble for?

Speaker 2 (42:13):
You did something.
Your mom beat your ass.
You always tell that story.
Your mom said I've never hither and you're like want me.

Speaker 1 (42:19):
yes, you did well, yeah, because she had.
I don't know why she lives inthis fantasy land like she never
whooped me.
You absolutely, you absolutelydid.
You absolutely did you.
You probably was sneaking out.
I have never snuck out okaywait, listen, I only snuck out
once my entire life and I wouldknow now I didn't.
I snuck in, I snuck into yourbedroom, so tell me about your

(42:41):
horror.
What Get to it?
We were 17.
I snuck into your bedroom.
You snuck me into your bedroomin the middle of the night.
And what'd you do?
We just laid there we cuddled.

Speaker 2 (42:59):
okay, go ahead and lie to the people what we did.

Speaker 1 (43:04):
We didn't do anything .
We cuddled.
Don't make some people thinkthat I was out here just like I
married her for a reason goodbye.
We cuddled, we did absolutelynothing.
I I risked my life for a cuddlesession.
Okay, oh my gosh, you're soobnoxious.

Speaker 2 (43:21):
If I could instantly master any skill.

Speaker 1 (43:23):
That's what you were about to say, masturbate.

Speaker 2 (43:27):
If I could instantly master any skill, what would I
choose?

Speaker 1 (43:33):
Woodworking.

Speaker 2 (43:35):
What would you choose ?
I would probably choose coding,okay.
Nah, what would you choose?

Speaker 1 (43:48):
I would, I would probably choose coding okay,
yeah, okay you don't know whatcoding is, I do know what cody
is computer coding.
Gosh, you think I'm so denseyou know who cody is I do know a
cody.
I do, okay, I know a cody.
All right, I do know a cody.
It's funny that you said that,um, what was my favorite
childhood toy or game?
You're my size barbie, shewasn't my favorite your teddy

(44:11):
rufus no wow, easy bake oven.

Speaker 2 (44:14):
No, did you have one?

Speaker 1 (44:16):
yes.

Speaker 2 (44:16):
Yes, oh, you still get baked, it was what?

Speaker 1 (44:20):
By easy bake oven you still can't bake?

Speaker 2 (44:22):
Bye, my favorite toy.

Speaker 1 (44:25):
My favorite toy was my Jenny gymnastics.

Speaker 2 (44:28):
Oh I don't know what that is.

Speaker 1 (44:30):
It was a doll and she did gymnastics and she was um
battery operated.

Speaker 2 (44:36):
And this is why I say you, you brainwashed my child.

Speaker 1 (44:40):
I did not do such a thing.
I did not do such a thing.

Speaker 2 (44:44):
I'm going to ask you what was my favorite toy as a
kid.

Speaker 1 (44:46):
No, I don't know.
I mean the way you describeyour childhood.
It'd be a wonder if you had anytoys.
The way you make it sound.
I never say that, the way youmake it sound.
You just said before you'relike you had a rough life.
When I asked you what was yourthoughts when you saw me and you
were like, oh, that she's theone.

(45:07):
And I was like that'sdiabolical to have feelings like
that at 12 and 13 and you'relike I had a rough life.

Speaker 2 (45:12):
I went through some rough experience.
I didn't mean I had no toys Idon't know how that translates,
so my favorite toy as a kid tothis day is the michael keaton
batmobile did you see michaelkeaton batmobile?

Speaker 1 (45:30):
the, the actual yes I know, I remember, wasn't it
like the long one?
Yes, yeah, I remember that thatwas my favorite.

Speaker 2 (45:37):
That was my favorite, and when that battery died, I
cried nobody replaced them foryou.

Speaker 1 (45:42):
We didn't know how to do that.
What do you mean?

Speaker 2 (45:44):
you just unscrewed the bottom I know, like the
battery died oh, it was a hotwheel, so you know that one.
Okay, yeah, her jeep was yeahso I I used to leave school and
go home and whip around theneighborhood in my hot wheel you
, you had a batmobile and I hadthe convertible with the white
interior.
But I was cooler because I had aBatmobile.

(46:04):
That and I remember well.
I think I was nine or ten andmy mom bought me a bike.
But she bought me a bike thathad the plastic motorcycle shell
, so it looked like I was ridinga motorcycle, yeah.

Speaker 1 (46:20):
I remember those too.

Speaker 2 (46:22):
I've always wanted a motorcycle, all right.

Speaker 1 (46:27):
Let's do like one more.

Speaker 2 (46:28):
Oh, we got to end on your question, what we're going
to end on one of my questions.

Speaker 1 (46:33):
Okay, If I could relive one moment in our
relationship, what would it be?

Speaker 2 (46:40):
Um, probably the moment you told me you were
pregnant maybe you do it better,maybe I do it better the first
time, that wasn't it what I'mpregnant.
I'm pregnant and walk away.
I was like, oh okay, but we'renot gonna talk about this.

Speaker 1 (47:03):
I was like we'll talk about it again in the morning
when I take another test.
And then the look of excitementon your face when you open the
door the next morning as I'msitting on the toilet peeing on
the stick.
What does it say?
What does it say can, can youlet the pee dry?
The pee's not dry.
I'll let you know when the peedries.
Then I'll tell you.
And you're just so excited.

(47:25):
What does it say?
What does it say and what doesit say.
And I was like we're pregnant,babe.
And you were like yeah, youwere pregnant.
You were pregnant.

Speaker 2 (47:34):
So do I prefer I don't know.
I'm going to tell you nowCuddling Uh-huh, kissing Uh-huh
or hand-holding the most?

Speaker 1 (47:44):
All of them.
But if I had to choose cuddling, kissing or hand holding,
probably kissing or hand holdinganother episode you like all of
them really.
Which one do you prefer, babe?

Speaker 2 (48:03):
I'm just gonna ask you a different question.
How do I show love to you themost?

Speaker 1 (48:08):
How do you show me love?
Yes.

Speaker 2 (48:17):
The most.
Hmm, See, now you're shackinglike I don't See.
This has been another episode.
Oh gosh, that made me dizzythis has been another episode I
am about done with her.

Speaker 1 (48:26):
I feel Okay, I only can answer this from like my
perspective because of how I'mperceiving it.
I would have to say forcreating space for me to just
like be me honestly.
Like being able to.
That's how I show you love Huh.

Speaker 2 (48:46):
That's how I show you love Huh.

Speaker 1 (48:46):
That's how I show you love.
That's how you show me love,because you create a space for
me to feel like, safe andconfident, to be able to be like
me.
You know, take care, take careof the things that I need to
take care of, without thepressures of outside things to
deal with.
Like you guard me from all that.
So I feel like that's a.
That's a huge.

(49:07):
Let me tell you, that's a hugeshowcase of love.

Speaker 2 (49:10):
These last two three months your confidence level it
is.
It is trending up, and and nowyou're starting to see your
gains, and then your head istrending out.

Speaker 1 (49:23):
Oh my gosh, it's not but, but I but.
That's why I say, like thewhole, the fact that I'm able to
have time to focus on myselfwithout having the distraction
of what of just like you know,just everything else, like I
mean, I have the distractions oflife is what I'm saying, but

(49:47):
you have given me time.
I guess that's important.
You've given me my time.
Okay, like you've given me mytime back.

Speaker 2 (49:55):
It sounds like I need to be more of an ancient nigga.

Speaker 1 (49:58):
Okay, Bye.
It sounds like I feel likethat's a huge that's a huge
showcase of love.

Speaker 2 (50:03):
First of all, I want to say thank you for those kind
words.

Speaker 1 (50:09):
I First of all, I want to say thank you for those
kind words.
I want to say that you havegiven me time.

Speaker 2 (50:11):
I want to say thank you for those kind words, but
it's also showing I'm startingto see the error of my ways.

Speaker 1 (50:16):
Too late.

Speaker 2 (50:17):
I feel like I've given you too much leeway.
Yeah, I feel like now I'mstarting to see that you feel
secure.

Speaker 1 (50:24):
Okay, goodbye, breeze , bye.

Speaker 2 (50:29):
There's no edge there .

Speaker 1 (50:30):
There's no edge.

Speaker 2 (50:32):
You're safe and you're comfortable and you're
cozy in your space and you'relike, wow, this Snuggie is nice
and I need to come and be likegive me that fucking Snuggie.

Speaker 1 (50:43):
Take this shit off, shut up.
It's cold outside.

Speaker 2 (50:47):
Feel it, take this shit off.

Speaker 1 (50:48):
Shut up.
It's cold outside, feel it.
Cut this heat off.
Cut this heat off.
Shut up.
You're so silly, cut this heatoff.

Speaker 2 (50:55):
That was really sweet .

Speaker 1 (50:56):
I mean, it's the truth.
I think about that, stop, stop.
I'm going to read my DMs, I do.
I think about that, stop who.
They can be there all they wantto.
I don't answer them anyway whatthey gonna do.

Speaker 2 (51:07):
I don't know.
They bless my cash app.
I might come through.

Speaker 1 (51:10):
Listen, if they bless your cash app, y'all please
bless this cash app.
Y'all can be in the DM.
Y'all can private email yougonna pimp me out.
I'm not pimping you out.
It's for the team we a team, wea teacup, we teacups For the

(51:32):
team, we together.
So whatever y'all cash at him Ihave access to, so it don't
matter I don't have cash up, nomore.
I don't have cash up anymoreeither.
I heard it was like a big scam.
Don't quote me, that's justwhat I heard.

Speaker 2 (51:46):
But like I said, all I heard in my head was now I,
you ain't heard that from mebecause I ain't the one, I ain't
the one to gossip wait, wheredid that come from?

Speaker 1 (51:57):
what show was that living?
Color yeah, it was because Iain't the one to gossip kim
wangs that was a good one.

Speaker 2 (52:04):
Don't quote me because I ain't the one to
gossip.
That was a good one the wholetime me, because I ain't the one
to gossip that was a good onethe whole time she been
gossiping, gossiping the wholetime.

Speaker 1 (52:11):
Oh, can we watch them in living color?
Hated it, hated it.
We should watch them in livingcolor.
Can we watch them in livingcolor tonight?

Speaker 2 (52:21):
you can do whatever you want to do.
I'm gonna be working on apodcast you suck anywho let's
head on into.

Speaker 1 (52:30):
You should have a button that says our two cents.

Speaker 2 (52:33):
Please stop at the table oh, just come on, cause
come on just just come on y'alllook here when she, when she
tired, she ain't good fornothing.

Speaker 1 (52:48):
Now I know where my kid gets it from.

Speaker 2 (52:50):
Yeah, because you acting like her, because I would
definitely send you out ofpractice right now.

Speaker 1 (52:53):
Okay, that was a low blow.
Okay, she was hungry, mm-hmm,oh, I'm hungry too, all right
Again I say Okay, ready, I'mhere.
Okay ready, I'm here um my myhusband and I got an offer, got

(53:14):
our offer accepted on a houseand our friends asked if they
could move in hell.
No, my husband and I receivedthe notice that our offer was
accepted.
We were super excited andstarted sharing the news with
our close friends and family.
One of our friends, who isgoing back to school, asked
since the timing just works outso perfectly, can he and his
wife come live with us duringthe time he is back in school?

(53:37):
No, my gut reaction was to sayno, because we haven't even
lived in the house and weimmediately have to share the
space with them.
They also have not yet sharedany specifics on plans of paying
rent, helping out withgroceries bills or et cetera.
I would feel like a hugeasshole telling them no and
having the uncomfortableconfrontation.

(53:57):
But something tells me, asfirst time homeowners, we'd be
frustrated if we immediately letthem move in when we haven't
even settled in ourselves.
I'm looking for advice.
I'm going to tell you?

Speaker 2 (54:12):
No, no, look here.
That's rude to even ask, assomeone who has opened his door
many times, sometimes againsthis will, to other people and
let them stay here Bye.

Speaker 1 (54:26):
No, but for you to not even be in your house yet
Like they want to move in withyou on moving day, Like yes,
like we're all moving in, youguys put in the work.
Y'all put up y'all money andthen they just going to be right
behind y'all talking about it'smoving day, like no, no,
because I'm pretty sure, had wenot been buying this house and

(54:47):
you already made the decision togo back to school, there should
have been a plan in place tosupport yourself and your wife
while you're in school.
So they probably were planningon going back home, like to his
parents or her parents, and theyfigure, our friends just bought
this, you know, big, beautifulnew house.

Speaker 2 (55:03):
Yeah, we did.
No, you can't, you can't, youcan't be here.

Speaker 1 (55:08):
You can't be.
You can't be here, you can't.
I mean you can come visit?
No, don't, they can visit.
Don't do that.
No, they can visit don't showup to my house at all no, I
wouldn't say that, because thereare friends, real friends would
do that.
There are friends like.
They can come over, we cancelebrate, we can do the

(55:30):
housewarming, but y'all can'tstay there like the house ain't
warm, no more.
I think it's crazy work that youwould even fix your mouth to
say, oh, the timing is so right,do you mind if me and my wife
came and like live with you guysfor a little bit?
And then like how she saidthere was no initial react.
He didn't even say like hey, doyou mind if we come and stay

(55:51):
with you guys for like sixmonths, we can go half on the
mortgage.
We would be willing to pay x, yand z.
He literally just said yo, Igotta go back to school.
Can we come live with y'all?

Speaker 2 (56:03):
like no and my thing is, you ain't even you.
They're robbing you of the ofthe chance to just enjoy your
home, because I mean, we hadthat conversation like we just
want to be able to enjoy ourhome yeah, again, like I just
want to be around here in myt-shirt.

Speaker 1 (56:25):
I can't do that with you here.
I would like to have an unmutedargument.
It's crazy work whispering whenyou're arguing Crazy work.

Speaker 2 (56:33):
Or trying to be quiet when you're trying to bring
your wife over.

Speaker 1 (56:35):
Okay, Although you do have a point.
It is crazy work.
It's crazy, it's crazy.
You don't have to be quiet, youdon't want to be quiet don't
want to be quiet.
I mean you can't get all thesegirls, okay, I gotta get some
rest and get something to eat.
This has been another episodeof life.
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(56:58):
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Speaker 2 (57:28):
And until next time, don't be like her.
And peace booskies, peacebooskies.