July 23, 2025 • 23 mins
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Episode Title: Sculpting with Time
You are a masterpiece in the making. But the truth is—you're also the sculptor.
In this second episode of the Self-Sculpting series, we explore how your time choices shape your future. Whether it’s spiritual growth, health, healing, discipline, or leadership—you don’t drift into greatness. You decide, then you carve.
If you’ve been wondering how to take your next step, this episode will confront the excuses, stir your vision, and give you the truth:
You’re sculpting a version of yourself right now—whether you mean to or not.
Change Your World...Start Today
– Nick Chybrzynski
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You are listening to the Life, Hope and Leadership Podcast with
Nick Shabrinsky. A transparent, honest and
encouraging podcast to equip youthrough real life experiences.
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Yo-yo, yo, what up everybody? Welcome to the life Hope and
leadership podcast with me. Nick Sabrinsky.
I hope you are like and subscribe and follow in pushing
these things out to your circle or definitely taking notes
leaning in. I created this podcast with one
goal. It was I wanted to share my
life. I wanted to share leadership.
I wanted to share hope, but I wanted to help you get further
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and yours and all of those areas.
And so anyway, it's been a journey so far.
I wanna tell everybody thank you.
I know I do this pretty much weekly, but thank you to
everybody who is supporting the podcast, sharing, commenting,
giving feedback. I appreciate it.
I don't want to do it in vain. And your, your continual
feedback has encouraged me to just keep on going.
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So we're going to keep on, keep on, keep on, keep on dancing all
through the night. So once again, I am streaming
these on TikTok and YouTube as well as available on all podcast
platforms. So make sure you lean over
subscribe on YouTube, subscribe,like follow all that stuff.
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Last week I started hitting on ajust a thought.
I was at the gym. I was watching people working
different areas of their of their body.
Really, honestly, when you watchpeople at the gym, you realize
that people have different intentions.
You see one person who stays on cardio the whole time, see other
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people who are throwing heavyweight around.
You see other people who are doing a lot of stretching and
things like that. So what you realize that that
not everybody's goals are the same.
And I think that that's really something to consider when you
are looking into like what does a life of success look like?
What does your future look like?What is it that if somebody was
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to put you in a room of 1000 people, what would make you
unique? What what is the aspirations,
the hopes, the desires that you have hiding in your heart?
And then I think it'd be very fair to sit back and go, how
many of the things that I'm doing right now are because of
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the unique part of me that I want to be versus just trying to
get people to like you, trying to go viral.
I saw a friend of mine today, she was talking about, I don't
want to force content. And it really sucks that like
the algorithm makes you force content and you have to decide,
man, do I want to be influentialin life or do I want and, and
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validate that based on the fruitful experiences and
relationships that are going on around me?
Or do I want to feel influentialin life just simply by a social
media platform that tells me I'mimportant?
And the, the, the hidden answer,it's not a pop quiz, but the
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hidden answer is you're more important than you're following
on social media. You have a real world and you
have real engagements and you have real dreams and real
purposes. And while all of the platforms
that are out there might be great for you to make a
difference, the most important person you need to focus on in
your life is you. Who are you becoming?
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Now? That is fair to say only if you
understand my number one agenda,which is I want to please God.
And so everything about my life is honoring God and loving
people. And so I wanted to share with
you a Part 2 of self sculpting or sculpting your life,
sculpting your dreams, sculptingwho you're becoming.
Last week I talked about you have to set time.
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You have to make time and then you have to manage it.
And, and realistically what happened was I was, I had set
time. Something happened, I got
interrupted. And so then I had to go, well,
crap. If I lost that time that I set,
now I have to make time. And if you're going to make
time, you have to manage time. Otherwise you will keep losing
time. And I would ask you, is it fair
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to say when you search your heart in your calendar, are you
managing your time? Today?
I wanted to make an episode 2. And the idea really behind all
of it is you don't become yourself the best version of
yourself without a workout. It's going to take a stretch.
It's going to take discomfort. I can't stand when I'm trying to
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challenge people to a deeper wayof living and thinking.
And I'll say, hey, man, like, what's do you, would you read
this book if I gave you this book?
And they're like, I don't read. And it's frustrating because I
think the statistic is like 80% of people never read a book
outside of high school. I was talking to my wife the
other day on a post that I saw and it was a guy and he was
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mentioning that on a scale of 1 to 10, he felt like he was a
four in the knowledge of a specific area.
The guy that was interviewing him did not know that the area
he was asking him to rate himself in was actually his area
of expertise. And all these comments were
hating on him going, how can this guy lead and do what he
does if he only needs a four on a scale of 10?
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And one of the comments were really profound and very true.
It said, you know, when you knowa lot about something and you're
wise and mature, you understand that you really don't know as
much as there is to know. But when you're ignorant and
arrogant, you assume that you are much more profound and that
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you know much more. And so I've I've the humility
factor brought this guy to a four anyway.
He ended up knowing more than most.
What do you know? How do you know that?
How, how, how are you expoundingon that?
How are you growing your knowledge?
How are you growing your, your, your strength and your faith and
your wisdom and your knowledge? And I'm not just talking about
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book smarts, but practicalities.The Bible says something very
clear. It says love the Lord your God
with all your heart, your soul, your mind and your strength.
All your heart, all your mind, all your soul, your strength.
So it's really encouraging us that a lot of people go, hey,
man, how you doing? They're like all love Jesus,
man. I love Jesus and and it's very
simple and it's very elementary and that's great.
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Praise God. I'm glad you love Jesus.
What? Where do you love him?
Do you love him with? Yeah, I love him with all my
heart. OK, great.
So your feelings are aligned around your marriage with the
Lord the same way that I would say, hey, how do you love your
spouse? OK, I'm married to me and my
wife have been married 15 years.It's a miracle God has done
something great through tragedy,through struggles, and here we
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are. But if you were to say, hey,
dude, how are you loving your wife?
I would say, well, you know, I love her with all my, my heart.
I really do. I really want to love her with
all my heart. I want to think about her.
I want to be concerned about her.
I want to take care of her. I love her with all my mind.
I think about her all day. Everything I do revolves around
honoring God, making a difference for the Kingdom of
God and taking care of my wife. I want to love her with all my
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body, all my strength, you know,I want to be healthy so I can
save her in a fire, so I can carry her.
I did a podcast on it. I want to love her with my
strength and, and my energy and my efforts.
I want to love her with my thoughts.
So the same is true when you're sculpting.
You got to go. Where is my mind?
Out of order. What, what does that look like?
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People talk about mental health all the time, but why don't we?
We don't spend enough time aboutmental working out.
You don't have health without working out.
You don't, you will never have real health without actually
working out something. Even by the Bible says God was
talking to the prophet and he said in Isaiah he says, hey, let
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us reason together, let's work this out.
We have to, we have to cut some things off and put some things
in. That's how you work out.
You stretch, you flex you you put additional weight on.
So if you really want to grow inan area, you have to have
practical steps or workout rhythms to grow in that area.
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So you don't become the best self with just one workout.
You become it through daily disciplines.
Write it in the comments, put itin your notebook.
Daily disciplines. What are your daily disciplines?
Now you may go, I don't have anydaily disciplines.
Well, if you watch a lot of TV, that's a daily discipline, not a
good one. I was just sitting with somebody
I love dearly today and they're like, I shouldn't be eating
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these chips and I'm like, then don't eat them.
That's a discipline. That's the Bible says one of the
gifts of the Spirit is self-control, the fruit of the
Spirit, a mature man, a wise man, a wise woman, self-control.
That's a discipline you practicea discipline is something that
you put in your life that you you, you.
I mean realistically if if you want to get hardcore about it,
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First Corinthians Chapter 9 verse 27 is Scripture has
resonated in my life since I was1516 years old.
The apostle Paul was saying I'm not like a shadow boxer who just
swings at the air, but rather I beat my body into submission.
Now he said I buffet my body andhe wasn't talking about self
abuse. He's saying I tell my body to do
what I tell it to do so that when I, when I preach to others,
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I want to be disqualified. So when I'm getting up to go to
the gym, I just telling you straight up, I'm not a morning
person. I don't like it.
It's not I'm not a fan, It's notmy #1 the item on my agenda list
is to wake up and go to the gym at 5:00 or 6:00 in the morning.
But my discipline is something that I said I was going to do,
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and discipline is doing what yousaid you were going to do.
So I, I create daily disciplines.
Consistency is the compound interest of your discipline.
So if you really want to see something grow, consistency is
how you do it. Discipline is doing something,
consistency is doing it continually, and character is
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having the right mindset behind it.
So I want you to be strong. I I'm looking to be on social
media for one specific reason. I want people to catch this and
go, if that freaking dude can doit, I can do it.
I want you to be encouraged. I want you to get off your phone
and have something to run with. I don't want you to be defeated.
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I don't want you to be discouraged.
And the reality is as we look atpeople and their platforms and
we see how great they are and wesee their success, but what what
we often don't see is what it took for them to get there.
And so discipline is what alignsyour today with who you said you
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wanted to be tomorrow. Discipline is is doing today
what you want to be tomorrow. And it tells your your body,
your mind, your spirit. We're going to do this and we're
going to do it with purpose and we're going to do it on purpose.
So when my wife and I were goingto the gym the other day and I
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think it was like three times inthe first half hour, she, she,
you know, the first time she's like, Oh my God, this is going
to be so hard today. And, and I was feeling exactly
what she was saying. And then and then she said it
again. And I said, you, I said, I think
the third time was strike three.I said you don't get to say it
anymore because I'm already thinking it, but I'm not I'm not
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going to say it because I don't even want to give it fruit in my
life. I don't want that thought.
The thoughts of seed. OK, what you do with that is up
to you. So I don't want I'd look, I know
I'm we're going to do this todaywith purpose.
We're going to do it on purpose.I'm going to beat my body into
submission. Proverbs 13 four says a lazy man
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craves food when there is none but the diligent crave and are
satisfied. And what its meaning is the the
the lazy person talks about everything they want, but they
never go get it. You got to go get it.
Put it in your notes. People get all these tattoos.
Get a tattoo that says go get it.
What are you? OK?
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Well, what is it? You have to define what it is.
What is it and what are you going to do with it?
So discipline is the bridge between goals.
This is a quote I've read before.
Discipline is the bridge betweenyour goals and accomplishment.
Goals without discipline are just dreams.
And so you know it's it's so important.
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In 2005, there was a study foundover 40% of our daily actions
and habits. 40% of our daily actions are habits, 40%, So 40,
if I gave you $1.40 cents of that is stuff that you do
everyday unintentionally withoutpurpose, it's just your habits.
Now you might have created your habits originally on purpose,
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but you have to maintain them with purpose.
So 40% of everything you do, it is just habit.
It's not decision. Your heart beats.
You don't even think about it. You pull out your phone, you
start scrolling, you don't even think about it.
You put on the TV, you start watching.
You don't even think about it. The more disciplined your
routines get, the less decision fatigue you're going to face.
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You ever you ever been like, Oh my God, what am I going to do?
And you start getting frustratedwith all the opportunities or
decisions you have to make. The more discipline you create,
the less decisions you have to make.
Imagine forty, 5060% of your day.
It's just a healthy routine. That's what I do with my money.
This is what I do with my energy.
This is how I eat. I love people who food prep.
I don't do it. My wife and I don't do it.
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We need to kind of get better atthat.
We've, we've gotten a lot betterover the last year of eating at
home and cooking at home becauseit was part of the disciplines
we want to create. But the reality is, is sometimes
we're running behind and we're running late and next thing you
know, we're eating trash food. We're, we're not, we're not
eating healthy. We're not going to the gym
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because we stayed up late. So we're like, Hey, you know
what? We need to be home earlier.
We need to go to bed earlier. We need to wake up earlier.
We need to stop eating XY and Z.And these things are the things
I hate today that I and, and canI just be straight up the things
you hate today that are part of your disciplines, you will
eventually love. And then if you really
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discipline yourself, you really mature yourself, you really grow
yourself, you're actually going to hate doing the things that
you're doing today. The undisciplined version of
you. There's things you drink, things
you eat things you smoke things,you think things, you read
things you watch that the more discipline you get, you're going
to go, I, I don't ever want to watch that again.
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I don't ever want to do that again.
So I want you to write this down.
Think about this. Do not rely on motivation.
Motivation is great when you have it, but it's a killer when
you don't. Motivation is your best friend
when when it wants to show up, and it is your worst enemy when
it doesn't. So don't rely on motivation.
Build real systems. Pick a time.
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Pick a time every day to read, to pray, to work out, to go on a
date, to spend time with your kids.
Like be very, very intentional and then you want to, you want
to have just regular habits. OK #2 write this down.
Consistency nurtures identity. Have you ever felt like, oh man,
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I'm killing it And all of a sudden you, you feel like
1,000,000 bucks. You ever felt that way?
You feel like I'm, you did something, you won, you
succeeded. You're like, I feel like
1,000,000 bucks. But then the very next week, you
guys suck. I'm a failure, I'm a loser, I'm
an idiot. If you look at the difference
between that week, what was it? Probably consistency.
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You worked hard to accomplish something and then you went back
into your habit mode. Consistency nurtures identity.
It's like when you when you say you know I'm going to be
healthy. I want to, I want to live long.
I want to be, I want to be strong.
I want to be limber. I don't want to be in pain.
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So then you know I'm going to goto the gym.
Every single time you push that weight is a reminder of what
you're becoming. It doesn't create your worth.
It nurtures your worth. You, you, you don't you have a
car in the garage that's a classic muscle car.
It's worth money, but the consistency of care for it, it
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doesn't give it the consistency of care, doesn't give it the
make and the model it is. The consistency in the care
doesn't change what's what's under the hood, but what it does
is nurtures its value. You know what's in that garage,
so you take care of it. How dare you take care of your
dogs more than you take care of your own body?
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How dare you take care of your children more than you take care
of yourself? Well, I need to love my kid,
right? If you want you to really love
your kids, have consistency because a healthy you is a
healthy mom, a healthy you is a healthy dad, a healthy you is a
healthy brother, a healthy sister.
So the consistency is nurturing your identity.
The more consistent you are, theneuroplasticity, your brain
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literally starts recreating pathways and says, this is who I
am, this is who I'm becoming, this is who I am, this is who
I'm becoming. My wife and I said we're not
going to go to the gym with a goal in place of losing weight.
We're going to go to the gym to say we there are disciplined
people who work out at least three days a week and it's going
to grow from there. And I'm really excited about
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that. Galatians 69.
Somebody just said it at our church this week.
And I love this scripture because it really reminds me
often not to give up. The Bible says that we, we, we
continually do. Do not grow weary in doing the
right thing for in due time you will reap your just reward if
you do not give up. If you do not give up.
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Type it in the comments, put it in the comments, put it in your
notes, put it in your journal. If you don't give up, don't give
up. Don't give up.
Don't quit. Who you quitting for?
You're quitting because somebodymade fun of you.
You know how many people make fun of my podcasts and my videos
and leave terrible comments about me and say terrible
things? Whatever, Who cares?
They're never going to like me no matter what I did.
And if I change my content to please them, now I'm not even
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being me, I'm just doing it. The police people, Nope, don't
care. Don't give up.
Don't give up, Jesus said in Luke 1610.
Whoever's faithful with little things will eventually be
faithful with big things. And I want to be faithful with
big things, but you don't get faithful and big things if
you're not faithful with little.What we repeatedly do, what we
repeatedly do, what we what we repeatedly do defines us.
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In fact, I wrote this quote down.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act
but a habit. So at our church, we say we're
going to pursue excellence. So pursuing excellence doesn't
mean we put the stuff away once.No, pursuing pursuing excellence
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means we have a place for that thing and we have a habit of
putting it away. This is important.
So we got to create habits. Trying to do that with my
office. Got so much crap in here.
Like, man, I got to have a placefor everything so I can have an
excellent office. It'll go away.
It'll go where it needs to go. I mean, when I'm putting it
away. So I'd encourage you there's
Carolyn Leaf is a great author, podcaster.
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She has a lot of great content. But she did a whole study on
neuroplasticity and how how our behavior literally rewires our
brains. Small consistent actions
actually create new alleyways, new pathways, reshaping how you
think and how you act. So you really want to apply that
stuff. What are you doing daily so that
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you can become it permanently? What are you doing to learn how
to be a better husband? Just going home and doing the
same thing. What are you doing to be a
better wife? What are you doing to be a
better student? What are you been doing to be a
better athlete? I love, I always reference Tiger
Woods wins the US Open, goes andget a coach says, hey, man, I
want to be better. Like you just won the best you
can possibly win. He said, I don't care.
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I didn't win enough. I want to win faster.
I want to win better. What are you doing?
Daily to be strong. What are you doing daily to
think different? What are you doing daily to be
healthy? What are you doing daily?
Track it, write it down 40%. What's going on?
40% of your days of habit. So what are you doing with 100%
of your day? What's your goals?
What is a successful day look like?
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That's how you do it. You know, I always think about
what was his name? Bob Ross.
The paint. Happy little trees.
Happy, happy little trees. Happy little trees.
We had this guy. I remember watching him as a kid
and man, he would be brushed every little brush stroke.
And when you were watching, you had no clue what he was making,
but he did. He knew where he was going with
it. And I love that.
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Every little brush stroke all the sudden became a masterpiece.
That's your days. And I love when he would mess
up. He'd be like, oh, there's no
such thing as a mess up in art. And he would take something that
was messed up and he would put it into the image of what he was
creating. I want to remind you, even when
you mess up, even when you fail in your marriage, in your
finances, in your business, in your walk with Jesus, the Bible
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says a righteous man falls 7 times but gets back up again.
Man, it's about getting up and showing up.
Success isn't always about beinggreat to everybody else.
It's about being consistent and looking in the mirror and being
proud of who you are. So you're self sculpting, you're
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creating habits, you're creatingdreams, you're getting bigger,
you're getting stronger. That's what I want for you.
Stop beating yourself up. Start pushing yourself now.
There's a difference between beating yourself up and what the
apostle Paul said. First Corinthians 927.
I beat my body into submission. I beat myself into discipline.
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I beat myself into maturity and into habits, not self abuse.
Beating yourself up is self abuse, but beating your body
into submission is growth. You're sculpting yourself.
I want to see you become the best you can possibly be.
Listen, get on the in the comments on Spotify.
Message me. I would love to hear it and you
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got I'm on TikTok Utah YouTube. I would love to hear or read in
the comments. What are some things that you're
going you know what I need to doit 90.
I think it was what did I say? 92% of people do not fulfill
their their New Year's resolutions.
Don't be a statistic, don't follow the crowd down the path
of nowhere. Be great, do great.
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You got this. So anyway, want to encourage you
that I hope it helps you. Hope it blesses you.
I hope you think about it, Mull it over.
That being said, like subscribe,follow, share this to someone,
give some feedback, some comments.
I would love to hear from you and let's change your world this
week. See you guys.
You are listening to the Life, Hope and Leadership Podcast with
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Nick Shabrinsky. A transparent, honest and
encouraging podcast to equip youthrough real life experiences.
You are listening to the Life, Hope and Leadership Podcast with
Nick Shabrinsky. A transparent, honest and
encouraging podcast to equip youthrough real life experiences.
(00:26):
Yo-yo, yo, what up everybody? Welcome to the life Hope and
leadership podcast with me. Nick Sabrinsky.
I hope you are like and subscribe and follow in pushing
these things out to your circle or definitely taking notes
leaning in. I created this podcast with one
goal. It was I wanted to share my
life. I wanted to share leadership.
I wanted to share hope, but I wanted to help you get further
(00:49):
and yours and all of those areas.
And so anyway, it's been a journey so far.
I wanna tell everybody thank you.
I know I do this pretty much weekly, but thank you to
everybody who is supporting the podcast, sharing, commenting,
giving feedback. I appreciate it.
I don't want to do it in vain. And your, your continual
feedback has encouraged me to just keep on going.
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So we're going to keep on, keep on, keep on, keep on dancing all
through the night. So once again, I am streaming
these on TikTok and YouTube as well as available on all podcast
platforms. So make sure you lean over
subscribe on YouTube, subscribe,like follow all that stuff.
(01:32):
Last week I started hitting on ajust a thought.
I was at the gym. I was watching people working
different areas of their of their body.
Really, honestly, when you watchpeople at the gym, you realize
that people have different intentions.
You see one person who stays on cardio the whole time, see other
(01:53):
people who are throwing heavyweight around.
You see other people who are doing a lot of stretching and
things like that. So what you realize that that
not everybody's goals are the same.
And I think that that's really something to consider when you
are looking into like what does a life of success look like?
What does your future look like?What is it that if somebody was
(02:15):
to put you in a room of 1000 people, what would make you
unique? What what is the aspirations,
the hopes, the desires that you have hiding in your heart?
And then I think it'd be very fair to sit back and go, how
many of the things that I'm doing right now are because of
(02:37):
the unique part of me that I want to be versus just trying to
get people to like you, trying to go viral.
I saw a friend of mine today, she was talking about, I don't
want to force content. And it really sucks that like
the algorithm makes you force content and you have to decide,
man, do I want to be influentialin life or do I want and, and
(03:02):
validate that based on the fruitful experiences and
relationships that are going on around me?
Or do I want to feel influentialin life just simply by a social
media platform that tells me I'mimportant?
And the, the, the hidden answer,it's not a pop quiz, but the
(03:22):
hidden answer is you're more important than you're following
on social media. You have a real world and you
have real engagements and you have real dreams and real
purposes. And while all of the platforms
that are out there might be great for you to make a
difference, the most important person you need to focus on in
your life is you. Who are you becoming?
(03:45):
Now? That is fair to say only if you
understand my number one agenda,which is I want to please God.
And so everything about my life is honoring God and loving
people. And so I wanted to share with
you a Part 2 of self sculpting or sculpting your life,
sculpting your dreams, sculptingwho you're becoming.
Last week I talked about you have to set time.
(04:06):
You have to make time and then you have to manage it.
And, and realistically what happened was I was, I had set
time. Something happened, I got
interrupted. And so then I had to go, well,
crap. If I lost that time that I set,
now I have to make time. And if you're going to make
time, you have to manage time. Otherwise you will keep losing
time. And I would ask you, is it fair
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to say when you search your heart in your calendar, are you
managing your time? Today?
I wanted to make an episode 2. And the idea really behind all
of it is you don't become yourself the best version of
yourself without a workout. It's going to take a stretch.
It's going to take discomfort. I can't stand when I'm trying to
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challenge people to a deeper wayof living and thinking.
And I'll say, hey, man, like, what's do you, would you read
this book if I gave you this book?
And they're like, I don't read. And it's frustrating because I
think the statistic is like 80% of people never read a book
outside of high school. I was talking to my wife the
other day on a post that I saw and it was a guy and he was
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mentioning that on a scale of 1 to 10, he felt like he was a
four in the knowledge of a specific area.
The guy that was interviewing him did not know that the area
he was asking him to rate himself in was actually his area
of expertise. And all these comments were
hating on him going, how can this guy lead and do what he
does if he only needs a four on a scale of 10?
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And one of the comments were really profound and very true.
It said, you know, when you knowa lot about something and you're
wise and mature, you understand that you really don't know as
much as there is to know. But when you're ignorant and
arrogant, you assume that you are much more profound and that
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you know much more. And so I've I've the humility
factor brought this guy to a four anyway.
He ended up knowing more than most.
What do you know? How do you know that?
How, how, how are you expoundingon that?
How are you growing your knowledge?
How are you growing your, your, your strength and your faith and
your wisdom and your knowledge? And I'm not just talking about
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book smarts, but practicalities.The Bible says something very
clear. It says love the Lord your God
with all your heart, your soul, your mind and your strength.
All your heart, all your mind, all your soul, your strength.
So it's really encouraging us that a lot of people go, hey,
man, how you doing? They're like all love Jesus,
man. I love Jesus and and it's very
simple and it's very elementary and that's great.
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Praise God. I'm glad you love Jesus.
What? Where do you love him?
Do you love him with? Yeah, I love him with all my
heart. OK, great.
So your feelings are aligned around your marriage with the
Lord the same way that I would say, hey, how do you love your
spouse? OK, I'm married to me and my
wife have been married 15 years.It's a miracle God has done
something great through tragedy,through struggles, and here we
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are. But if you were to say, hey,
dude, how are you loving your wife?
I would say, well, you know, I love her with all my, my heart.
I really do. I really want to love her with
all my heart. I want to think about her.
I want to be concerned about her.
I want to take care of her. I love her with all my mind.
I think about her all day. Everything I do revolves around
honoring God, making a difference for the Kingdom of
God and taking care of my wife. I want to love her with all my
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body, all my strength, you know,I want to be healthy so I can
save her in a fire, so I can carry her.
I did a podcast on it. I want to love her with my
strength and, and my energy and my efforts.
I want to love her with my thoughts.
So the same is true when you're sculpting.
You got to go. Where is my mind?
Out of order. What, what does that look like?
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People talk about mental health all the time, but why don't we?
We don't spend enough time aboutmental working out.
You don't have health without working out.
You don't, you will never have real health without actually
working out something. Even by the Bible says God was
talking to the prophet and he said in Isaiah he says, hey, let
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us reason together, let's work this out.
We have to, we have to cut some things off and put some things
in. That's how you work out.
You stretch, you flex you you put additional weight on.
So if you really want to grow inan area, you have to have
practical steps or workout rhythms to grow in that area.
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So you don't become the best self with just one workout.
You become it through daily disciplines.
Write it in the comments, put itin your notebook.
Daily disciplines. What are your daily disciplines?
Now you may go, I don't have anydaily disciplines.
Well, if you watch a lot of TV, that's a daily discipline, not a
good one. I was just sitting with somebody
I love dearly today and they're like, I shouldn't be eating
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these chips and I'm like, then don't eat them.
That's a discipline. That's the Bible says one of the
gifts of the Spirit is self-control, the fruit of the
Spirit, a mature man, a wise man, a wise woman, self-control.
That's a discipline you practicea discipline is something that
you put in your life that you you, you.
I mean realistically if if you want to get hardcore about it,
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First Corinthians Chapter 9 verse 27 is Scripture has
resonated in my life since I was1516 years old.
The apostle Paul was saying I'm not like a shadow boxer who just
swings at the air, but rather I beat my body into submission.
Now he said I buffet my body andhe wasn't talking about self
abuse. He's saying I tell my body to do
what I tell it to do so that when I, when I preach to others,
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I want to be disqualified. So when I'm getting up to go to
the gym, I just telling you straight up, I'm not a morning
person. I don't like it.
It's not I'm not a fan, It's notmy #1 the item on my agenda list
is to wake up and go to the gym at 5:00 or 6:00 in the morning.
But my discipline is something that I said I was going to do,
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and discipline is doing what yousaid you were going to do.
So I, I create daily disciplines.
Consistency is the compound interest of your discipline.
So if you really want to see something grow, consistency is
how you do it. Discipline is doing something,
consistency is doing it continually, and character is
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having the right mindset behind it.
So I want you to be strong. I I'm looking to be on social
media for one specific reason. I want people to catch this and
go, if that freaking dude can doit, I can do it.
I want you to be encouraged. I want you to get off your phone
and have something to run with. I don't want you to be defeated.
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I don't want you to be discouraged.
And the reality is as we look atpeople and their platforms and
we see how great they are and wesee their success, but what what
we often don't see is what it took for them to get there.
And so discipline is what alignsyour today with who you said you
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wanted to be tomorrow. Discipline is is doing today
what you want to be tomorrow. And it tells your your body,
your mind, your spirit. We're going to do this and we're
going to do it with purpose and we're going to do it on purpose.
So when my wife and I were goingto the gym the other day and I
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think it was like three times inthe first half hour, she, she,
you know, the first time she's like, Oh my God, this is going
to be so hard today. And, and I was feeling exactly
what she was saying. And then and then she said it
again. And I said, you, I said, I think
the third time was strike three.I said you don't get to say it
anymore because I'm already thinking it, but I'm not I'm not
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going to say it because I don't even want to give it fruit in my
life. I don't want that thought.
The thoughts of seed. OK, what you do with that is up
to you. So I don't want I'd look, I know
I'm we're going to do this todaywith purpose.
We're going to do it on purpose.I'm going to beat my body into
submission. Proverbs 13 four says a lazy man
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craves food when there is none but the diligent crave and are
satisfied. And what its meaning is the the
the lazy person talks about everything they want, but they
never go get it. You got to go get it.
Put it in your notes. People get all these tattoos.
Get a tattoo that says go get it.
What are you? OK?
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Well, what is it? You have to define what it is.
What is it and what are you going to do with it?
So discipline is the bridge between goals.
This is a quote I've read before.
Discipline is the bridge betweenyour goals and accomplishment.
Goals without discipline are just dreams.
And so you know it's it's so important.
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In 2005, there was a study foundover 40% of our daily actions
and habits. 40% of our daily actions are habits, 40%, So 40,
if I gave you $1.40 cents of that is stuff that you do
everyday unintentionally withoutpurpose, it's just your habits.
Now you might have created your habits originally on purpose,
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but you have to maintain them with purpose.
So 40% of everything you do, it is just habit.
It's not decision. Your heart beats.
You don't even think about it. You pull out your phone, you
start scrolling, you don't even think about it.
You put on the TV, you start watching.
You don't even think about it. The more disciplined your
routines get, the less decision fatigue you're going to face.
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You ever you ever been like, Oh my God, what am I going to do?
And you start getting frustratedwith all the opportunities or
decisions you have to make. The more discipline you create,
the less decisions you have to make.
Imagine forty, 5060% of your day.
It's just a healthy routine. That's what I do with my money.
This is what I do with my energy.
This is how I eat. I love people who food prep.
I don't do it. My wife and I don't do it.
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We need to kind of get better atthat.
We've, we've gotten a lot betterover the last year of eating at
home and cooking at home becauseit was part of the disciplines
we want to create. But the reality is, is sometimes
we're running behind and we're running late and next thing you
know, we're eating trash food. We're, we're not, we're not
eating healthy. We're not going to the gym
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because we stayed up late. So we're like, Hey, you know
what? We need to be home earlier.
We need to go to bed earlier. We need to wake up earlier.
We need to stop eating XY and Z.And these things are the things
I hate today that I and, and canI just be straight up the things
you hate today that are part of your disciplines, you will
eventually love. And then if you really
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discipline yourself, you really mature yourself, you really grow
yourself, you're actually going to hate doing the things that
you're doing today. The undisciplined version of
you. There's things you drink, things
you eat things you smoke things,you think things, you read
things you watch that the more discipline you get, you're going
to go, I, I don't ever want to watch that again.
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I don't ever want to do that again.
So I want you to write this down.
Think about this. Do not rely on motivation.
Motivation is great when you have it, but it's a killer when
you don't. Motivation is your best friend
when when it wants to show up, and it is your worst enemy when
it doesn't. So don't rely on motivation.
Build real systems. Pick a time.
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Pick a time every day to read, to pray, to work out, to go on a
date, to spend time with your kids.
Like be very, very intentional and then you want to, you want
to have just regular habits. OK #2 write this down.
Consistency nurtures identity. Have you ever felt like, oh man,
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I'm killing it And all of a sudden you, you feel like
1,000,000 bucks. You ever felt that way?
You feel like I'm, you did something, you won, you
succeeded. You're like, I feel like
1,000,000 bucks. But then the very next week, you
guys suck. I'm a failure, I'm a loser, I'm
an idiot. If you look at the difference
between that week, what was it? Probably consistency.
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You worked hard to accomplish something and then you went back
into your habit mode. Consistency nurtures identity.
It's like when you when you say you know I'm going to be
healthy. I want to, I want to live long.
I want to be, I want to be strong.
I want to be limber. I don't want to be in pain.
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So then you know I'm going to goto the gym.
Every single time you push that weight is a reminder of what
you're becoming. It doesn't create your worth.
It nurtures your worth. You, you, you don't you have a
car in the garage that's a classic muscle car.
It's worth money, but the consistency of care for it, it
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doesn't give it the consistency of care, doesn't give it the
make and the model it is. The consistency in the care
doesn't change what's what's under the hood, but what it does
is nurtures its value. You know what's in that garage,
so you take care of it. How dare you take care of your
dogs more than you take care of your own body?
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How dare you take care of your children more than you take care
of yourself? Well, I need to love my kid,
right? If you want you to really love
your kids, have consistency because a healthy you is a
healthy mom, a healthy you is a healthy dad, a healthy you is a
healthy brother, a healthy sister.
So the consistency is nurturing your identity.
The more consistent you are, theneuroplasticity, your brain
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literally starts recreating pathways and says, this is who I
am, this is who I'm becoming, this is who I am, this is who
I'm becoming. My wife and I said we're not
going to go to the gym with a goal in place of losing weight.
We're going to go to the gym to say we there are disciplined
people who work out at least three days a week and it's going
to grow from there. And I'm really excited about
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that. Galatians 69.
Somebody just said it at our church this week.
And I love this scripture because it really reminds me
often not to give up. The Bible says that we, we, we
continually do. Do not grow weary in doing the
right thing for in due time you will reap your just reward if
you do not give up. If you do not give up.
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Type it in the comments, put it in the comments, put it in your
notes, put it in your journal. If you don't give up, don't give
up. Don't give up.
Don't quit. Who you quitting for?
You're quitting because somebodymade fun of you.
You know how many people make fun of my podcasts and my videos
and leave terrible comments about me and say terrible
things? Whatever, Who cares?
They're never going to like me no matter what I did.
And if I change my content to please them, now I'm not even
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being me, I'm just doing it. The police people, Nope, don't
care. Don't give up.
Don't give up, Jesus said in Luke 1610.
Whoever's faithful with little things will eventually be
faithful with big things. And I want to be faithful with
big things, but you don't get faithful and big things if
you're not faithful with little.What we repeatedly do, what we
repeatedly do, what we what we repeatedly do defines us.
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In fact, I wrote this quote down.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act
but a habit. So at our church, we say we're
going to pursue excellence. So pursuing excellence doesn't
mean we put the stuff away once.No, pursuing pursuing excellence
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means we have a place for that thing and we have a habit of
putting it away. This is important.
So we got to create habits. Trying to do that with my
office. Got so much crap in here.
Like, man, I got to have a placefor everything so I can have an
excellent office. It'll go away.
It'll go where it needs to go. I mean, when I'm putting it
away. So I'd encourage you there's
Carolyn Leaf is a great author, podcaster.
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She has a lot of great content. But she did a whole study on
neuroplasticity and how how our behavior literally rewires our
brains. Small consistent actions
actually create new alleyways, new pathways, reshaping how you
think and how you act. So you really want to apply that
stuff. What are you doing daily so that
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you can become it permanently? What are you doing to learn how
to be a better husband? Just going home and doing the
same thing. What are you doing to be a
better wife? What are you doing to be a
better student? What are you been doing to be a
better athlete? I love, I always reference Tiger
Woods wins the US Open, goes andget a coach says, hey, man, I
want to be better. Like you just won the best you
can possibly win. He said, I don't care.
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I didn't win enough. I want to win faster.
I want to win better. What are you doing?
Daily to be strong. What are you doing daily to
think different? What are you doing daily to be
healthy? What are you doing daily?
Track it, write it down 40%. What's going on?
40% of your days of habit. So what are you doing with 100%
of your day? What's your goals?
What is a successful day look like?
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That's how you do it. You know, I always think about
what was his name? Bob Ross.
The paint. Happy little trees.
Happy, happy little trees. Happy little trees.
We had this guy. I remember watching him as a kid
and man, he would be brushed every little brush stroke.
And when you were watching, you had no clue what he was making,
but he did. He knew where he was going with
it. And I love that.
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Every little brush stroke all the sudden became a masterpiece.
That's your days. And I love when he would mess
up. He'd be like, oh, there's no
such thing as a mess up in art. And he would take something that
was messed up and he would put it into the image of what he was
creating. I want to remind you, even when
you mess up, even when you fail in your marriage, in your
finances, in your business, in your walk with Jesus, the Bible
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says a righteous man falls 7 times but gets back up again.
Man, it's about getting up and showing up.
Success isn't always about beinggreat to everybody else.
It's about being consistent and looking in the mirror and being
proud of who you are. So you're self sculpting, you're
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creating habits, you're creatingdreams, you're getting bigger,
you're getting stronger. That's what I want for you.
Stop beating yourself up. Start pushing yourself now.
There's a difference between beating yourself up and what the
apostle Paul said. First Corinthians 927.
I beat my body into submission. I beat myself into discipline.
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I beat myself into maturity and into habits, not self abuse.
Beating yourself up is self abuse, but beating your body
into submission is growth. You're sculpting yourself.
I want to see you become the best you can possibly be.
Listen, get on the in the comments on Spotify.
Message me. I would love to hear it and you
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got I'm on TikTok Utah YouTube. I would love to hear or read in
the comments. What are some things that you're
going you know what I need to doit 90.
I think it was what did I say? 92% of people do not fulfill
their their New Year's resolutions.
Don't be a statistic, don't follow the crowd down the path
of nowhere. Be great, do great.
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You got this. So anyway, want to encourage you
that I hope it helps you. Hope it blesses you.
I hope you think about it, Mull it over.
That being said, like subscribe,follow, share this to someone,
give some feedback, some comments.
I would love to hear from you and let's change your world this
week. See you guys.
You are listening to the Life, Hope and Leadership Podcast with
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