May 14, 2025 • 22 mins
🎙️ New Episode: Why Don’t People Try?
With more access to knowledge, mentors, tools, and opportunities than ever before — why are so many people still stuck? Why do dreams die in the mind before they ever take a single step?
In this thought-provoking episode of Life, Hope, and Leadership, we unpack the psychological, spiritual, and practical reasons people don’t take action. From fear of failure and identity wounds to mental fatigue and decision paralysis — we’ll expose the real barriers that keep people from stepping into change and calling.
💡 You’ll learn:
The science behind why people freeze instead of move
The spiritual warfare that discourages faith-filled risk
The habits that quietly steal our drive and potential
🔥 Whether you’re an entrepreneur, pastor, parent, or everyday dreamer — this episode is a wake-up call: Stop waiting. Start walking. The world changes when you decide to.
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You are listening to the Life, Hope and Leadership Podcast with
Nick Shabrinsky. A transparent, honest and
encouraging podcast to equip youthrough real life experiences.
(00:22):
Yo-yo, yo, what up everybody? Thank you so much for taking
time to jump in on these life, hope and leadership podcast with
me. And I hope they are helping you,
encouraging you, challenging you.
I hope your world is getting rocked with the stuff you're
putting into practice. I'm sure not just from this
podcast, but if you are a a listener, you're probably a
(00:44):
learner and I will hope you are.And that means you're you're
listening to other great content, reading books and
pursuing wisdom, knowledge for the right reasons so you can
change your world. Love it.
Awesome, Thank you, you rock. If these are blessing you in any
way, please share them, rate them, follow them, subscribe.
I don't know, man, there's a bunch of stuff you can do.
(01:05):
But anyway, I was really excitedabout talking about today's
podcast because I just have constantly see, Oh man, I, I
just see all the time. You just see people who aren't
tapping into their, their potential.
And I, and I'm sure if you are someone who is, like I said,
(01:31):
leans into podcasts like this and other ones like that, I'm
sure that you are in some way looking and evaluating the world
around. I hope you are looking around
and evaluating the world around you. 360.
I love what the Bible says, walking circumspectly and seeing
things as they are. I think it's just so important.
(01:51):
And I was just, I drive and I'm and I'm seeing people that I see
walking the same streets or living the same life or I get on
social media and I see peers or,or people that I've I've known
in my past and, and you just wonder you, you just, I don't
get it. I don't understand this
question. Why do people not try?
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Why do people not try? And I'm, I'm just it, it makes
me frustrated, not for any otherreason, but what one of my
pastors told me before he said, you know, what one person is
doing right now, another person can do.
And I love that, that I, that concept and that idea.
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And I think it's true. I don't think it's like, I don't
think it's rhetoric. I think when you look around you
go, man, you know that person's doing it, dude.
Like that person came from my block.
That person lived my life. Now, granted, nobody has the
same exact life but there, but there's somebody in the same
exact scenario as you right now.They're not you.
They don't think like you, they don't feel like you, but they're
in the same exact scenario. They got the same amount of
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kids, they got the same amount of paycheck, they got the same
amount of bills. There's somebody somewhere who
is in the same or very, very similar and they're going to do
it. They're going to try and you
know, I, I guess, I guess this kind of stems from when I see
videos of, of us like obsessing over like the gala.
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You know, they went to the gala,they went to the gala.
They look what they wore. And we watch these just regular
people that entertain us in media.
They entertain us in, in, in movies written by other people
that they act out. Sometimes they write their own,
they direct their own. They're talented, you know,
incredibly gifted at their gift types of people, athletes that
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are talented in athletics. Great.
They're, you know, they're, they're, they're in their zone
and we watch them like they're like, they're gods.
And, and, and, and it makes thisimage that we, that we really
you, you wonder from this creator God image and this
creator God in the, in the, in heaven, just looking down and he
says, you should have no gods before me.
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And what's in what's incredible is he saying, first of all,
there are gods and you better not put them in front of me.
They're not my, they're not deities, but they're things you
worship. And I think, wow, I'm just
having a little sorry. I'm thinking I'm talking, I'm
saying this out loud and I'm andI'm realizing one of wow, Satan
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was cast out of heaven because in his heart, in his heart, he
thought I could be you and I could be like you.
And immediately Jesus says in the New Testament, I beheld
Satan as lightning from heaven cast out.
So I'm just thinking, wow, it, it, it's crazy because it's a
spiritual thing. We worship these people on
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stages. We worship these people with
their, with their cars and theirmansions.
We see, you know, the American Idol and and the America and the
Britain and this and everybody'sgot their voice and talent.
And, and then we, we nothing wrong with supporting them,
nothing wrong with believing in them.
Nothing, nothing wrong with buying their music and and
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singing their songs and watchingtheir movies.
But when they become gods, when all of a sudden we look at them
and we we worship them rather than going wow, like I could do
that. What a spiritual principality
that the very thing that Satan would get cast out of heaven.
He would, you know, give us thatsame thing to to keep us from
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ever getting great and and the systems of this world and the
gods of this world would try to keep us lower than them.
But but Jesus said something so great.
See this shows you God's real heart because Jesus says greater
things than this that I've done.You shall do them.
Now go and do these things. Jesus's response to us was, no,
I did make you to be great, but I did not make you to be greater
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than our than my than me and my Father and the spirit of the
Spirit of the Lord, but that that principality of this world
is worship. These people worship the media,
worship the stars, worship the football players and the
football. I was thinking soccer.
Sorry, I was thinking the soccerplayers, the football players,
baseball players, softball players, WNBANBA, this league,
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that league, give your life for it and be satisfied with with
the bread crumbs. Don't ever try, don't ever try
to be like just worship it. Don't ever believe you can
change it. There's so many things.
I, I, I, I drive around condemned buildings and
impoverished communities and people go, you know, if, if wish
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someone would do something aboutit.
Like you, you are that someone. You, you are that someone.
Like there's, there's something that you have believed you can
never do it because you just think it's somebody else.
It's crazy. There's a statistic.
There was actually a study in the 70s.
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It was like 2/3 of people are psychologically inclined to
continue to go back to bad places, dangerous decisions,
dangerous environments, because danger was at least safer than
the risk of failure that they would just go back to it.
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And that's why it's crazy because I've seen it.
How many? I mean, I grew up in an abusive
environment. I've seen it in my siblings and
loved ones and friends and family that they go back to
abusive lifestyles and abusive partners.
And it's like, how can you go back to that?
And in their heart and their mind, they're like, it's I,
where else am I going to go? Dude, just try the people you
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you, if you just try and I don'tknow what it is, I mean
honestly, at some point your fear and your faith are going to
have to have a conversation on the ledge of a jump and
someone's going to have to get pushed.
Fear of failure is literally oneof the top psychological
blockers of action. There was a study 2019 they had
in psychological science that when people perceive their
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identity as tied to their performance, they would rather
risk trying than avoid public shame.
That we would allow people and and and perspectives that are
around us right now to dictate decisions that we could step out
and try and attempt to even try and fail is better to never try
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at all, right? But we would let these temporary
voices influence decisions that could change not only our lives,
but when you get when you fulfill your greatness, you
leave a wake of greatness behindyou.
My, my greatest goal in in my life is not just to impact the
life of those who I'm immediately with.
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Yes, but I hope I do something so intrinsic in their heart and
in their life. That's why I do these broadcasts
that that somewhere in the wake of your future is, is something
that that you got from, from this moment or from a book I
wrote or from from a devotional or or a message that I taught or
a place that I was at. I don't know, but but God forbid
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that that the the death of us isthe depth of us.
I mean really, I hope that that our life, if we truly tap in and
try and be all that God has called us to be.
We leave awake and we we don't just when we die, we actually
are gone. And that's not a dialogue on my
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internal perspective of, of Christ and salvation, but
there's this, this concept that I would rather fail or, or, or
not even try then risk the, the thought of failure.
There's a story in the Bible andit was the prophet was talking
to the king and the king was like, I need to defeat this
enemy. And the prophet said, well, then
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you need to strike the ground. And so the king strikes the
ground three times and the prophet looks at him and says,
why did you only strike it threetimes?
Why did you only strike the ground three times?
If that's your enemy, if you truly need them out of the way,
if you need them removed, if youneed to protect your, your
country, your countrymen, your women, your children, if you
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need, if you really believe thisis an enemy, why are you
striking the ground three times?Why are you not smashing your
like just putting a hole in the ground?
Smash it 1000 times and show me that you really, really see this
as an enemy to your greatness and to the greatness of God
around you. And he says because you only
struck the ground three times, you will only defeat them three
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times. But eventually that came back to
nip them in the butt. And I think that the reason I
share that with you is because Ithink a a lot of reasons that
you and I gets and look, this isnot a a, a podcast to everybody
else. This is a podcast to us, 'cause
I'm in this too. There are things I, I look at
and I'm like, I'll try it, I'll try it.
And I, and I, and I say I'm going to do it.
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And then I get scared. Or I mean, honestly, there was
one thing I'm a short guy and I was, I was working on getting my
pilot license. I, I had to press the pause on
the pursuit of it because of 1000 other things on my plate,
but I wanted to get it. And I went on a test flight and
I could barely see over the dash.
And I was so embarrassed. I didn't tell my wife.
I didn't tell the pilot, you know, the main pilot that I was
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with. I mean, I landed the plane.
I could see, I could line up. And I told him I was like, I
can't really see. He's like, yeah, just put your
head to the side. But I'm like, I can't fly the
whole time with my head to the side.
And I was so embarrassed. And so like almost a year went
by and I didn't do another fly along.
And I didn't even look at the flight and the information.
I was so embarrassed and my wifeand I were talking one day and
she, you know, she's like, well,what happened to that?
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I said, can I be honest, man? I was like, I I just felt I was
so embarrassed. I couldn't see over the over the
dash man. I didn't you know, I was like, I
didn't even want to call and seeif there was a so I called like
I've my wife's like babe, I get it like that.
Great. Wow, you know, way to be honest
and took a long time for me to even share that with her.
Now I'm sharing it with the whole world, right.
But I called the the place the school and they were like, they
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just started laughing. They're like, dude, we got so
many short, you know, pilots flying around.
We got we just put little seats under, you know, like a little
boosters and I'm like, Oh, I'm down.
Shoot, I grew up watching my momdriving around and my aunt and
driving around on Yellow Pages. So you know why?
Why am I telling you that? Because there's things that you
just all of a sudden you feel it.
You heard it. You now you're so scared of it
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and you say you really hate it, but you're not really willing to
put the gas in there. You got to hate this stuff, man.
You got to hate the excuses. You got to stop talking about
what your Mama did and what yourdaddy did.
And you talk about it in a way that talks.
That is a catalyst, man. Losing what my family.
This is what everybody. This is what happened to me.
But I'm going to use that to be fire in my in my engine, you
know, and keep what is it? What's the goal out before you
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and what do you got to do? I mean, come on, dude, you, you
and I aren't even guaranteed tomorrow.
People afraid to take risks. There's greatness in you.
And so I think, I think you got to get over this self protection
thing, get, get great people around you so that if you know
and plan ahead like I had a, youknow, I had a, a brother in the
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faith who was like, man, I really want to start this
business. I said, well, if you're willing
to wait 12 months, I said, why don't you save up, save up all
year and try to set, do extra work, do everything you got to
do, Do your side hustle, the thing you're trying to start and
save up a year's worth of pay that you would normally make.
And then give it 12 full months and believe God and, and that
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way at least you have your, yourlast year's paycheck.
So just keep your level of living.
OK, so, so you have a pillow, you have a year long pillow to
even try. I mean, like that's that still
takes faith. But when you when you stop
protecting yourself so much, youmight start becoming something
you always dreamed you could be.You can lose weight, you can get
healthy. How do I know that?
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I have been going to the gym pretty much three to four days a
week for months now. Why am I telling you that?
Because I've been saying I was going to do that forever.
But do you know that only 8% of people statistically actually do
what their New Year's resolutions were?
8%. And so that like, if you may
think like this is what's weird about the world we live in.
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Everybody thinks they're right. Everybody thinks that, you know,
that the other person is dumb. Everybody thinks in our
subconscious, we argue our opinion and our ways, but yet
we're still part of 92% of people who more than likely have
not changed one Dang thing sincethe previous year or the year
before that, and possibly who knows how many years before
that. At some point, you got a risk
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letting go of yesterday, lettinggo of your, your, you know, your
Al Bundy High School trophy, letting go of the hurt, letting
go of the abuse. There's nothing we can do about
what it was, but there is something you can do about what
it can be. And sadly there, there's this,
this in reality that I think it was like 60.
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So 60 something percent or 50% of people that have experienced
trauma or stress have a hard time setting goals and, and
trying to make changes because they believe nothing will ever
change. Well, here's what sucks about
that. Who hasn't been through chronic
stress? Now we live in 2025, dude.
It's like chronic stress is a thing.
(15:25):
So I every freaking store is inundated with energy drinks and
energy and caffeine and double caffeine and triple shot mocha
because people are so burned out.
And so you're going to wait, wait, the 40% of people don't
believe it can't change? Now you got only 8% of people
actually fulfill their New Year's objectives. 2/3 of people
are going to go back to rotten behaviors. 40% of people don't
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even believe it can change because they've gone through
trauma. So I think if we would sit back
and stop thinking everybody elseis messed up and look in the
mirror and just go, holy crap, am IA part of the 8% that did
something different this year oram IA part of the 92% that
didn't. And I keep scrolling on the same
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stupid social media platforms. I'm still listening to the same
exact news, the same exact mumbojumbo, the same exact gossiper.
I'm still talking about the samestupid crap on the front porch.
Still gossiping about my neighbors or my church people or
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my family. Where's the fruit of your life?
And when we ask ourselves these questions, we have to step out
and go crap, I got to get better.
That's why I'm doing this podcast because I didn't believe
I could do. I was like, man, no one's going
to listen to this freaking podcast.
No one's going to read my books,No one's going to buy my
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journals. No one's going to no one's going
to like, no one's going to come to the church.
God calls me I I've like, this is the stuff I felt because
there's something called imposter syndrome and it's like,
I don't deserve to be here. Somebody else should be here and
we put someone else and then we just want to bow down and go.
You're the one. Think about that.
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If God wants to use somebody whowants to use you, now be careful
because there's the other side. If you get above the gods of
this world, you got to be careful that you don't start
thinking you're above the God who made the world.
And so we have all these idols and these stars.
And then problem is the higher up they go, they start going,
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man, I'm, I am a God. And it's like, no dude, you're
not. You're just operating at the
excellence of the gift that God wanted all of us to operate in.
The problem is, is we're all notacting the way we're called to
be. We should all be influencers.
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This is why the money shift is happening in our world because
people are realizing, wow, I, I could just do my like, people
don't understand it. You can be an entrepreneur.
Like if everyone who's listeningright now, I don't know how many
people are listening, but even if there were like 1000 people
listening to this podcast and you guys decided to support it
on Spotify for a buck a month like you would, you would, you
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would just change my life so that I could.
There's things that could happennow there's things that can
grow. And, and so you start following
these entertainers and you're just putting them up on
platforms and you're benefiting them and you're helping them.
And that's great. As long as they're great, I'm
good with it. But what we're real, but people
are starting to realize is that I can do something, but I would
just tell you, make sure you arepart of those people.
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There's a shift happening. But the point of it wasn't to
get rich and famous. The point of it was so that we
can operate in the fullness of God's plan for our life and that
he could look down as a great father and go, man, my kids do
realize what they're worth. Make sure you don't get up so
high that you think you're bigger than him.
The Bible says pride precedes a fall.
That's why these people get all big and they lose their
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humility. We got to wrap our arms around
that, but we don't get better. So we're better than people.
We get better so we can better people.
Does that make sense? People getting rich and and then
they like stack their cash and what did the Bible say?
Man? I'm I'm going to require of your
soul of you today. Now you got you could you're
done and you got nothing. People get all this, you know,
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they get out of the hood and they don't they don't come back
and try to help the hood people,people.
What do you mean? What do you know about the hood?
Don't don't get it twisted. It's not your job to help
everybody. It's your job to make you great.
So that what you leave behind helps everybody get, get
mentors, get tutors into your community, help your schools,
help your, your, your kids, yourchurches, help your friends, but
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have boundaries. Otherwise they'll, they'll take
advantage. So I'm telling you, it's a
constant. But problem is, as most of us
know, there has to be balance, but we never start.
So I, I just think it's important.
I don't know, man, I'm I'm, I'vebeen, I just drive around and I
get so sad when I see people broke and, and, and they they're
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hurting and. They I know what they like, I
know what they do with their money, but then they always need
help or I see people that are always like I'm hurting my back
hurts so bad and I'm like, dude,I can't keep complaining about
my body and not take care of it.So I finally after all these
years of being lazy on it, I'm I'm making change.
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But that sucks dude. Like why?
Why would I wait? Because I started falling into
that 92%. I can't change.
I can't change. I'm too busy full of excuses.
70% of people, they experience that other that what I was
telling you that imposter syndrome where it's like, man,
I'm just not good enough. So I, I want you to know you
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are, if you're listening to this, you're already halfway
there is send this to somebody else and now you're helping them
get halfway there. And I'll tell you if you really
want to, I really want if there's things you really, man,
I would love to see that. I would love to do this.
Just start writing it all down. Get it out of your freaking
head. Put it on paper.
The Bible says write down the vision, make it plain.
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So why do people not start? Well, 40% say starting when it
matter 98. Two percent say I will start,
but they never do. And then you got 2/3 who go back
to old behavior. But you have you have somebody,
and I hope it's you today because you know what?
I'm going to start because if I don't, there's a wake of people
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behind me who may never ever experience the fullness of what
God had for them. I hope that I hope that gets
your butt to push fear off the ledge and let faith dominate in
Jesus name. Change your world this week.
Start today. OK.
Thanks guys. We are listening to the Life,
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Hope and Leadership Podcast withNick Shabrinsky, A transparent,
honest and encouraging podcast to equip you through real life
experiences.
You are listening to the Life, Hope and Leadership Podcast with
Nick Shabrinsky. A transparent, honest and
encouraging podcast to equip youthrough real life experiences.
(00:22):
Yo-yo, yo, what up everybody? Thank you so much for taking
time to jump in on these life, hope and leadership podcast with
me. And I hope they are helping you,
encouraging you, challenging you.
I hope your world is getting rocked with the stuff you're
putting into practice. I'm sure not just from this
podcast, but if you are a a listener, you're probably a
(00:44):
learner and I will hope you are.And that means you're you're
listening to other great content, reading books and
pursuing wisdom, knowledge for the right reasons so you can
change your world. Love it.
Awesome, Thank you, you rock. If these are blessing you in any
way, please share them, rate them, follow them, subscribe.
I don't know, man, there's a bunch of stuff you can do.
(01:05):
But anyway, I was really excitedabout talking about today's
podcast because I just have constantly see, Oh man, I, I
just see all the time. You just see people who aren't
tapping into their, their potential.
And I, and I'm sure if you are someone who is, like I said,
(01:31):
leans into podcasts like this and other ones like that, I'm
sure that you are in some way looking and evaluating the world
around. I hope you are looking around
and evaluating the world around you. 360.
I love what the Bible says, walking circumspectly and seeing
things as they are. I think it's just so important.
(01:51):
And I was just, I drive and I'm and I'm seeing people that I see
walking the same streets or living the same life or I get on
social media and I see peers or,or people that I've I've known
in my past and, and you just wonder you, you just, I don't
get it. I don't understand this
question. Why do people not try?
(02:12):
Why do people not try? And I'm, I'm just it, it makes
me frustrated, not for any otherreason, but what one of my
pastors told me before he said, you know, what one person is
doing right now, another person can do.
And I love that, that I, that concept and that idea.
(02:33):
And I think it's true. I don't think it's like, I don't
think it's rhetoric. I think when you look around you
go, man, you know that person's doing it, dude.
Like that person came from my block.
That person lived my life. Now, granted, nobody has the
same exact life but there, but there's somebody in the same
exact scenario as you right now.They're not you.
They don't think like you, they don't feel like you, but they're
in the same exact scenario. They got the same amount of
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kids, they got the same amount of paycheck, they got the same
amount of bills. There's somebody somewhere who
is in the same or very, very similar and they're going to do
it. They're going to try and you
know, I, I guess, I guess this kind of stems from when I see
videos of, of us like obsessing over like the gala.
(03:16):
You know, they went to the gala,they went to the gala.
They look what they wore. And we watch these just regular
people that entertain us in media.
They entertain us in, in, in movies written by other people
that they act out. Sometimes they write their own,
they direct their own. They're talented, you know,
incredibly gifted at their gift types of people, athletes that
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are talented in athletics. Great.
They're, you know, they're, they're, they're in their zone
and we watch them like they're like, they're gods.
And, and, and, and it makes thisimage that we, that we really
you, you wonder from this creator God image and this
creator God in the, in the, in heaven, just looking down and he
says, you should have no gods before me.
(04:04):
And what's in what's incredible is he saying, first of all,
there are gods and you better not put them in front of me.
They're not my, they're not deities, but they're things you
worship. And I think, wow, I'm just
having a little sorry. I'm thinking I'm talking, I'm
saying this out loud and I'm andI'm realizing one of wow, Satan
(04:26):
was cast out of heaven because in his heart, in his heart, he
thought I could be you and I could be like you.
And immediately Jesus says in the New Testament, I beheld
Satan as lightning from heaven cast out.
So I'm just thinking, wow, it, it, it's crazy because it's a
spiritual thing. We worship these people on
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stages. We worship these people with
their, with their cars and theirmansions.
We see, you know, the American Idol and and the America and the
Britain and this and everybody'sgot their voice and talent.
And, and then we, we nothing wrong with supporting them,
nothing wrong with believing in them.
Nothing, nothing wrong with buying their music and and
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singing their songs and watchingtheir movies.
But when they become gods, when all of a sudden we look at them
and we we worship them rather than going wow, like I could do
that. What a spiritual principality
that the very thing that Satan would get cast out of heaven.
He would, you know, give us thatsame thing to to keep us from
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ever getting great and and the systems of this world and the
gods of this world would try to keep us lower than them.
But but Jesus said something so great.
See this shows you God's real heart because Jesus says greater
things than this that I've done.You shall do them.
Now go and do these things. Jesus's response to us was, no,
I did make you to be great, but I did not make you to be greater
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than our than my than me and my Father and the spirit of the
Spirit of the Lord, but that that principality of this world
is worship. These people worship the media,
worship the stars, worship the football players and the
football. I was thinking soccer.
Sorry, I was thinking the soccerplayers, the football players,
baseball players, softball players, WNBANBA, this league,
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that league, give your life for it and be satisfied with with
the bread crumbs. Don't ever try, don't ever try
to be like just worship it. Don't ever believe you can
change it. There's so many things.
I, I, I, I drive around condemned buildings and
impoverished communities and people go, you know, if, if wish
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someone would do something aboutit.
Like you, you are that someone. You, you are that someone.
Like there's, there's something that you have believed you can
never do it because you just think it's somebody else.
It's crazy. There's a statistic.
There was actually a study in the 70s.
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It was like 2/3 of people are psychologically inclined to
continue to go back to bad places, dangerous decisions,
dangerous environments, because danger was at least safer than
the risk of failure that they would just go back to it.
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And that's why it's crazy because I've seen it.
How many? I mean, I grew up in an abusive
environment. I've seen it in my siblings and
loved ones and friends and family that they go back to
abusive lifestyles and abusive partners.
And it's like, how can you go back to that?
And in their heart and their mind, they're like, it's I,
where else am I going to go? Dude, just try the people you
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you, if you just try and I don'tknow what it is, I mean
honestly, at some point your fear and your faith are going to
have to have a conversation on the ledge of a jump and
someone's going to have to get pushed.
Fear of failure is literally oneof the top psychological
blockers of action. There was a study 2019 they had
in psychological science that when people perceive their
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identity as tied to their performance, they would rather
risk trying than avoid public shame.
That we would allow people and and and perspectives that are
around us right now to dictate decisions that we could step out
and try and attempt to even try and fail is better to never try
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at all, right? But we would let these temporary
voices influence decisions that could change not only our lives,
but when you get when you fulfill your greatness, you
leave a wake of greatness behindyou.
My, my greatest goal in in my life is not just to impact the
life of those who I'm immediately with.
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Yes, but I hope I do something so intrinsic in their heart and
in their life. That's why I do these broadcasts
that that somewhere in the wake of your future is, is something
that that you got from, from this moment or from a book I
wrote or from from a devotional or or a message that I taught or
a place that I was at. I don't know, but but God forbid
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that that the the death of us isthe depth of us.
I mean really, I hope that that our life, if we truly tap in and
try and be all that God has called us to be.
We leave awake and we we don't just when we die, we actually
are gone. And that's not a dialogue on my
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internal perspective of, of Christ and salvation, but
there's this, this concept that I would rather fail or, or, or
not even try then risk the, the thought of failure.
There's a story in the Bible andit was the prophet was talking
to the king and the king was like, I need to defeat this
enemy. And the prophet said, well, then
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you need to strike the ground. And so the king strikes the
ground three times and the prophet looks at him and says,
why did you only strike it threetimes?
Why did you only strike the ground three times?
If that's your enemy, if you truly need them out of the way,
if you need them removed, if youneed to protect your, your
country, your countrymen, your women, your children, if you
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need, if you really believe thisis an enemy, why are you
striking the ground three times?Why are you not smashing your
like just putting a hole in the ground?
Smash it 1000 times and show me that you really, really see this
as an enemy to your greatness and to the greatness of God
around you. And he says because you only
struck the ground three times, you will only defeat them three
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times. But eventually that came back to
nip them in the butt. And I think that the reason I
share that with you is because Ithink a a lot of reasons that
you and I gets and look, this isnot a a, a podcast to everybody
else. This is a podcast to us, 'cause
I'm in this too. There are things I, I look at
and I'm like, I'll try it, I'll try it.
And I, and I, and I say I'm going to do it.
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And then I get scared. Or I mean, honestly, there was
one thing I'm a short guy and I was, I was working on getting my
pilot license. I, I had to press the pause on
the pursuit of it because of 1000 other things on my plate,
but I wanted to get it. And I went on a test flight and
I could barely see over the dash.
And I was so embarrassed. I didn't tell my wife.
I didn't tell the pilot, you know, the main pilot that I was
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with. I mean, I landed the plane.
I could see, I could line up. And I told him I was like, I
can't really see. He's like, yeah, just put your
head to the side. But I'm like, I can't fly the
whole time with my head to the side.
And I was so embarrassed. And so like almost a year went
by and I didn't do another fly along.
And I didn't even look at the flight and the information.
I was so embarrassed and my wifeand I were talking one day and
she, you know, she's like, well,what happened to that?
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I said, can I be honest, man? I was like, I I just felt I was
so embarrassed. I couldn't see over the over the
dash man. I didn't you know, I was like, I
didn't even want to call and seeif there was a so I called like
I've my wife's like babe, I get it like that.
Great. Wow, you know, way to be honest
and took a long time for me to even share that with her.
Now I'm sharing it with the whole world, right.
But I called the the place the school and they were like, they
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just started laughing. They're like, dude, we got so
many short, you know, pilots flying around.
We got we just put little seats under, you know, like a little
boosters and I'm like, Oh, I'm down.
Shoot, I grew up watching my momdriving around and my aunt and
driving around on Yellow Pages. So you know why?
Why am I telling you that? Because there's things that you
just all of a sudden you feel it.
You heard it. You now you're so scared of it
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and you say you really hate it, but you're not really willing to
put the gas in there. You got to hate this stuff, man.
You got to hate the excuses. You got to stop talking about
what your Mama did and what yourdaddy did.
And you talk about it in a way that talks.
That is a catalyst, man. Losing what my family.
This is what everybody. This is what happened to me.
But I'm going to use that to be fire in my in my engine, you
know, and keep what is it? What's the goal out before you
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and what do you got to do? I mean, come on, dude, you, you
and I aren't even guaranteed tomorrow.
People afraid to take risks. There's greatness in you.
And so I think, I think you got to get over this self protection
thing, get, get great people around you so that if you know
and plan ahead like I had a, youknow, I had a, a brother in the
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faith who was like, man, I really want to start this
business. I said, well, if you're willing
to wait 12 months, I said, why don't you save up, save up all
year and try to set, do extra work, do everything you got to
do, Do your side hustle, the thing you're trying to start and
save up a year's worth of pay that you would normally make.
And then give it 12 full months and believe God and, and that
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way at least you have your, yourlast year's paycheck.
So just keep your level of living.
OK, so, so you have a pillow, you have a year long pillow to
even try. I mean, like that's that still
takes faith. But when you when you stop
protecting yourself so much, youmight start becoming something
you always dreamed you could be.You can lose weight, you can get
healthy. How do I know that?
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I have been going to the gym pretty much three to four days a
week for months now. Why am I telling you that?
Because I've been saying I was going to do that forever.
But do you know that only 8% of people statistically actually do
what their New Year's resolutions were?
8%. And so that like, if you may
think like this is what's weird about the world we live in.
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Everybody thinks they're right. Everybody thinks that, you know,
that the other person is dumb. Everybody thinks in our
subconscious, we argue our opinion and our ways, but yet
we're still part of 92% of people who more than likely have
not changed one Dang thing sincethe previous year or the year
before that, and possibly who knows how many years before
that. At some point, you got a risk
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letting go of yesterday, lettinggo of your, your, you know, your
Al Bundy High School trophy, letting go of the hurt, letting
go of the abuse. There's nothing we can do about
what it was, but there is something you can do about what
it can be. And sadly there, there's this,
this in reality that I think it was like 60.
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So 60 something percent or 50% of people that have experienced
trauma or stress have a hard time setting goals and, and
trying to make changes because they believe nothing will ever
change. Well, here's what sucks about
that. Who hasn't been through chronic
stress? Now we live in 2025, dude.
It's like chronic stress is a thing.
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So I every freaking store is inundated with energy drinks and
energy and caffeine and double caffeine and triple shot mocha
because people are so burned out.
And so you're going to wait, wait, the 40% of people don't
believe it can't change? Now you got only 8% of people
actually fulfill their New Year's objectives. 2/3 of people
are going to go back to rotten behaviors. 40% of people don't
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even believe it can change because they've gone through
trauma. So I think if we would sit back
and stop thinking everybody elseis messed up and look in the
mirror and just go, holy crap, am IA part of the 8% that did
something different this year oram IA part of the 92% that
didn't. And I keep scrolling on the same
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stupid social media platforms. I'm still listening to the same
exact news, the same exact mumbojumbo, the same exact gossiper.
I'm still talking about the samestupid crap on the front porch.
Still gossiping about my neighbors or my church people or
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my family. Where's the fruit of your life?
And when we ask ourselves these questions, we have to step out
and go crap, I got to get better.
That's why I'm doing this podcast because I didn't believe
I could do. I was like, man, no one's going
to listen to this freaking podcast.
No one's going to read my books,No one's going to buy my
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journals. No one's going to no one's going
to like, no one's going to come to the church.
God calls me I I've like, this is the stuff I felt because
there's something called imposter syndrome and it's like,
I don't deserve to be here. Somebody else should be here and
we put someone else and then we just want to bow down and go.
You're the one. Think about that.
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If God wants to use somebody whowants to use you, now be careful
because there's the other side. If you get above the gods of
this world, you got to be careful that you don't start
thinking you're above the God who made the world.
And so we have all these idols and these stars.
And then problem is the higher up they go, they start going,
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man, I'm, I am a God. And it's like, no dude, you're
not. You're just operating at the
excellence of the gift that God wanted all of us to operate in.
The problem is, is we're all notacting the way we're called to
be. We should all be influencers.
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This is why the money shift is happening in our world because
people are realizing, wow, I, I could just do my like, people
don't understand it. You can be an entrepreneur.
Like if everyone who's listeningright now, I don't know how many
people are listening, but even if there were like 1000 people
listening to this podcast and you guys decided to support it
on Spotify for a buck a month like you would, you would, you
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would just change my life so that I could.
There's things that could happennow there's things that can
grow. And, and so you start following
these entertainers and you're just putting them up on
platforms and you're benefiting them and you're helping them.
And that's great. As long as they're great, I'm
good with it. But what we're real, but people
are starting to realize is that I can do something, but I would
just tell you, make sure you arepart of those people.
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There's a shift happening. But the point of it wasn't to
get rich and famous. The point of it was so that we
can operate in the fullness of God's plan for our life and that
he could look down as a great father and go, man, my kids do
realize what they're worth. Make sure you don't get up so
high that you think you're bigger than him.
The Bible says pride precedes a fall.
That's why these people get all big and they lose their
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humility. We got to wrap our arms around
that, but we don't get better. So we're better than people.
We get better so we can better people.
Does that make sense? People getting rich and and then
they like stack their cash and what did the Bible say?
Man? I'm I'm going to require of your
soul of you today. Now you got you could you're
done and you got nothing. People get all this, you know,
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they get out of the hood and they don't they don't come back
and try to help the hood people,people.
What do you mean? What do you know about the hood?
Don't don't get it twisted. It's not your job to help
everybody. It's your job to make you great.
So that what you leave behind helps everybody get, get
mentors, get tutors into your community, help your schools,
help your, your, your kids, yourchurches, help your friends, but
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have boundaries. Otherwise they'll, they'll take
advantage. So I'm telling you, it's a
constant. But problem is, as most of us
know, there has to be balance, but we never start.
So I, I just think it's important.
I don't know, man, I'm I'm, I'vebeen, I just drive around and I
get so sad when I see people broke and, and, and they they're
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hurting and. They I know what they like, I
know what they do with their money, but then they always need
help or I see people that are always like I'm hurting my back
hurts so bad and I'm like, dude,I can't keep complaining about
my body and not take care of it.So I finally after all these
years of being lazy on it, I'm I'm making change.
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But that sucks dude. Like why?
Why would I wait? Because I started falling into
that 92%. I can't change.
I can't change. I'm too busy full of excuses.
70% of people, they experience that other that what I was
telling you that imposter syndrome where it's like, man,
I'm just not good enough. So I, I want you to know you
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are, if you're listening to this, you're already halfway
there is send this to somebody else and now you're helping them
get halfway there. And I'll tell you if you really
want to, I really want if there's things you really, man,
I would love to see that. I would love to do this.
Just start writing it all down. Get it out of your freaking
head. Put it on paper.
The Bible says write down the vision, make it plain.
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So why do people not start? Well, 40% say starting when it
matter 98. Two percent say I will start,
but they never do. And then you got 2/3 who go back
to old behavior. But you have you have somebody,
and I hope it's you today because you know what?
I'm going to start because if I don't, there's a wake of people
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behind me who may never ever experience the fullness of what
God had for them. I hope that I hope that gets
your butt to push fear off the ledge and let faith dominate in
Jesus name. Change your world this week.
Start today. OK.
Thanks guys. We are listening to the Life,
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Hope and Leadership Podcast withNick Shabrinsky, A transparent,
honest and encouraging podcast to equip you through real life
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