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This podcast began because helping humans live their best life and become the best version of themselves is what Desireé’s life is all about. Join Desireé in Episode 4 of Season 2, as she uses her trips around the sun to throw encouragement around like confetti!
In Episode 4, Desireé continues the journey to living your best life by talking about what to do in the present moment. *Spoiler Alert* It’s not slay it! Small disclaimer, if you love nerding-out on words, you are going to LOVE this episode.
Topics include:
- Why we shouldn’t-really-ever slay anything (1:44)
- Mind. Blown. 🤯 (3:47)
- A statistic on loneliness that will change everything (5:26)
- When it all comes together (10:01)
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Desireé Melfi Bozzo (00:06):
Ciao and welcome to Life out loud. I am
your host Desiree Melfi Bozzo.
we are going to use this spaceto share experiences and help
you find lasting, unshakableunwavering unmessable-with joy
and gratitude. We're going to bethrowing around encouragement, a
little bit like confetti andgiving you support to live your
very best life.
(00:30):
Ciao friends, welcome to episodefour of season two of the life
out loud podcast. I am your hostDesiree Melfi Bozzo. Thank you
once again for joining me inthis space. For those of you who
are first time listeners Helloand welcome. I'm truly glad
you're here. For my returninglisteners. Thank you, thank you
(00:54):
for coming back. Thank you fortrusting, trusting me and
trusting the space. And I hopethat what we do today is
fruitful. We have been layingout a plan this season for
living a really greatunwavering, unshakable
(01:15):
unmessable-with life. We startedoff talking about leadership
preparing to lead and more thanmore than just preparing. But
preparing to lead well. wetalked about healing the past,
we talked about the power ofwords, because they matter.
We've laid the foundation, andmy friends, now it's time to
(01:37):
start the building.
Today we're learning how toabide in the present. Now, I
want to be completely open andcompletely probably too honest
for a moment. When I firstoutlined the season, I actually
called this episode, slay thepresent. It was a powerful
(02:02):
phrase in my head. And if I canbe really honest, it kind of
makes me sound way cooler than Iactually am. As I was doing my
research, it dawned on me that Idon't actually want to slay
anything, like ever. I mean,maybe besides like slay my sin,
and in that case, slay all day.
But if you listen to the lastepisode, I talked about the real
(02:24):
tangible power of our words, andwords have a lasting impact and
the words synonymous with slayare kill, slaughter and
massacre. And I don't know aboutyour proclivities, but I don't
want to do any of those thingsto the present moment. I
actually want to embrace it, andlive it to its fullest and
(02:47):
thrive. Anyone else out therewith me on this? Okay. So, being
intentional about living fullygot me thinking about what
successful and effective humansdo, and then how we achieve
that. For the most enrichedhuman experience, we must stay
present, we must remain in themoment, we must be where our
(03:09):
feet are, in words in thoughtsand actions. Friends, to be
successful and effective livingour very best life, we must in
every moment, abide in thepresent. And it's here that I
want to nerd out on words againfor a minute. To truly get to
the root of the word I usuallyhead back to the Hebrew meaning
(03:31):
because that's one of theoriginal languages in the Bible,
and it's just something I do. Sothe Hebrew word for abide is
yashab. While it's defined thesame as an English to remain to
stay to dwell. Here's where mymind really gets blown, right?
The Hebrew word for abide? Also,are you ready? Includes notions
(03:56):
of interpersonal relationships.
The Hebrew definition of abidingliterally refers to personal
connection. What is this alleven mean? Why am I nerding out
on words? Here's why. To besuccessful, and effective in the
(04:19):
present moment, to live our bestlife with the most enriched
human experience, we must staypresent and in relationship with
people, yashab. When I say it, Ikind of breathe out a little
peace and something in my souljust feels right. For a long
(04:45):
time, those of you who haveknown me way, way, way before
this podcast, I have lived bythe idea that we weren't meant
to do life alone. People needpeople. People so desperately
need peopleLife is hard sometimes, and
going through the hard stuffalone compounds the weight of
(05:05):
it. I know friends, because I'velived it. When we feel alone, we
begin to lose hope and purpose.
And when that happens, we beginlooking in all the wrong places
to find hope and purpose again,which draws us further and
further away from center. And itcompounds the loneliness. We
(05:27):
live in a world where we are themost connected than we have ever
been in human existence. Yet thefeeling of loneliness is more
prevalent than ever. I want togive you a visual, I want you to
think of every 18 to 25 yearold, you know, if you don't know
(05:48):
any, think of your favoritecollege or university. Okay, got
it? Now, keep them in mind. Iwant you to think of every mom
with young kids that you know,do you have them in mind? Can
you see their faces, theirnames, who they are to you. Now
(06:11):
I'm going to give you have astatistic that just might break
you, although don't let it breakyou. But it might just know that
before warned, your heart isgoing to be heavy. A Harvard
study shows that a staggering 61I said six and a one 61% of 18
to 25 year olds, and over half,51% of moms with young kids
(06:41):
feels and I'm going to quote“miserable degrees of
loneliness.” Friends, I didn'tjust say kind of lonely in need
of a taco Tuesday night out. Isaid miserable degrees of
loneliness. These numbers areastronomical and frankly,
(07:01):
terrifying people our people ourhumans that we do life with our
hurting. So what do we do? Inthe face of statistics that kind
of rattle us? How do we fightback? How do we fight against
the loneliness? I'm going to besuper transparent about
(07:25):
something that I normallywouldn't tell because I'm a
recovering type A and I'm also asolid one on the Enneagram which
means I'm a perfectionist. I gotto this point in my show notes.
I read these statistics, I gotpresent to the loneliness that
the people in this world thepeople around me are feeling and
it for lack of a better word,slayed me. I didn't know what to
(07:50):
do. I didn't know how to fix theproblem of loneliness. Like how
do you even begin to fix this? Iuncovered this ugly thing that I
couldn't unsee. But now whatwould I do with it? Like what do
we do with this thing? So I didwhat I do when I don't know the
answer. I went and I sat in mycloset. Now, let me unpack that
(08:15):
for a second. In my closet, Ihave a little prayer corner I
set up a long time ago. It's acozy little bolster and it has
some pillows and there's thiscute bench and you can sit on it
or kneel on it or whatever yoursome days you just sit on it and
cry. That's let's be honesthere. But there's a board there
with the scriptures and prayersand there's sticky notes all
(08:37):
over it and just things that areheavy on my heart that I have to
get off my heart. So I writethem down and I stick them on
that wall and I just go in thatroom and I pray and it's my very
own war room of sorts. It'swhere I go to battle. I went in
there and I close the door and Ibrought loneliness to the foot
of the cross. As I was puttingnotes together for this episode
(09:04):
I came here so excited wantingto talk about slave the present
and live your best life but theLord had different plans for
this episode. The word I keptfeeling like pulling at the God
of my soul was ABIDE and Ididn't I didn't get it so I like
brushed it aside I'm like nothat's not going to work here.
(09:26):
And I would pray like god No youdon't. Clearly you don't get it
I need to teach them to slay thepresent crush the moment like do
it bad go bigger go home rightbut the Lord kept prompting and
when I said slay the spirit keptprompting ABIDE and then I
changed my tune a little bitbecause that's what we do is
human and so I I prayed whatwhat if what if we aren't
(09:48):
slaying to succeed? What ifyou're just we're just gonna you
know slay the loneliness Godcome on help me here like help
me because I'm stuck right andthe Spirit just kept prompting
abideFriends after longer, longer
than I care to admit, it clicked- to truly succeed, we must
abide. John 15:4 Abide in me, asI also abide in you. No branch
(10:18):
can bear fruit by itself. Itmust remain in the vine. Neither
can you bear fruit unless youremain in Me. In this moment,
all I can do is shake my head
because when I turn to John 1 (10:34):
4 and my Bible, can I tell one on
myself here in the safe space?
Friends, it's not evenunderlined. I know his word so
well, I think. And yet thescripture that directly relates
to success with relationship, aholy abiding, the thing that
will combat loneliness abiding.
(11:01):
I've never even underlined it.
Have a deeply personalrelationship with God, and He
will have a deeply personalrelationship with you. No branch
can bear fruit by itself. Wecan't do it alone. We must
remain abiding in him. Not inother people, not in our jobs,
(11:27):
not in the world. But in him. Wecannot bear good fruit apart
from our God. To live reallygreat, unwavering, unshakable
unmessable-with lives I was socertain that it had to do with
powering through the present,really slang those tasks those
(11:50):
to-dos. The only slang thathappened was my heart. When we
abide in Him, He fills ourlonely places. In a world that
promises to fill us at everypass, I promise you it can't.
(12:11):
This. I know because I've tried.
Trust me. I've tried. So toquote my favorite song by
elevation worship. I've searchedthe world, but it couldn't fill
me. Man's empty praise andtreasures that fade are never
enough. And now I get it.
(12:34):
We combat loneliness and beargood fruit when we abide in the
present when we abide in Hispresence.
Friends, I hope this episode wasfruitful. I hope you enjoyed it.
(12:55):
I hope that it broke your heartwide open and showed you
something that you've neverseen. Or maybe affirmed
something that you've alwaysknown. Send me a message. I love
hearing your thoughts. Come backnext time we'll throw more
encouragement around likeconfetti, but be careful if you
(13:16):
get too close. You just mightget some on you. And remember
friends, there is always alwaysalways something to be grateful
for. Ciao.
Thank you for joining me DesireeMelfi Bozzo for this episode of
Life out loud. I would love tohear from you. Leave me a
(13:38):
comment. Tell me what topics youwant to talk about and how you
take your coffee. If you enjoyedwhat you heard, text a friend
the link share it on socialmedia. Or if you're interested
in becoming a supporter, be-bopover to my webpage life out
loud.me and sponsor a cup ofcoffee that keeps this podcast
fueled. Until next time sweetlisteners.
Ciao and welcome to Life out loud. I am
your host Desiree Melfi Bozzo.
we are going to use this spaceto share experiences and help
you find lasting, unshakableunwavering unmessable-with joy
and gratitude. We're going to bethrowing around encouragement, a
little bit like confetti andgiving you support to live your
very best life.
(00:30):
Ciao friends, welcome to episodefour of season two of the life
out loud podcast. I am your hostDesiree Melfi Bozzo. Thank you
once again for joining me inthis space. For those of you who
are first time listeners Helloand welcome. I'm truly glad
you're here. For my returninglisteners. Thank you, thank you
(00:54):
for coming back. Thank you fortrusting, trusting me and
trusting the space. And I hopethat what we do today is
fruitful. We have been layingout a plan this season for
living a really greatunwavering, unshakable
(01:15):
unmessable-with life. We startedoff talking about leadership
preparing to lead and more thanmore than just preparing. But
preparing to lead well. wetalked about healing the past,
we talked about the power ofwords, because they matter.
We've laid the foundation, andmy friends, now it's time to
(01:37):
start the building.
Today we're learning how toabide in the present. Now, I
want to be completely open andcompletely probably too honest
for a moment. When I firstoutlined the season, I actually
called this episode, slay thepresent. It was a powerful
(02:02):
phrase in my head. And if I canbe really honest, it kind of
makes me sound way cooler than Iactually am. As I was doing my
research, it dawned on me that Idon't actually want to slay
anything, like ever. I mean,maybe besides like slay my sin,
and in that case, slay all day.
But if you listen to the lastepisode, I talked about the real
(02:24):
tangible power of our words, andwords have a lasting impact and
the words synonymous with slayare kill, slaughter and
massacre. And I don't know aboutyour proclivities, but I don't
want to do any of those thingsto the present moment. I
actually want to embrace it, andlive it to its fullest and
(02:47):
thrive. Anyone else out therewith me on this? Okay. So, being
intentional about living fullygot me thinking about what
successful and effective humansdo, and then how we achieve
that. For the most enrichedhuman experience, we must stay
present, we must remain in themoment, we must be where our
(03:09):
feet are, in words in thoughtsand actions. Friends, to be
successful and effective livingour very best life, we must in
every moment, abide in thepresent. And it's here that I
want to nerd out on words againfor a minute. To truly get to
the root of the word I usuallyhead back to the Hebrew meaning
(03:31):
because that's one of theoriginal languages in the Bible,
and it's just something I do. Sothe Hebrew word for abide is
yashab. While it's defined thesame as an English to remain to
stay to dwell. Here's where mymind really gets blown, right?
The Hebrew word for abide? Also,are you ready? Includes notions
(03:56):
of interpersonal relationships.
The Hebrew definition of abidingliterally refers to personal
connection. What is this alleven mean? Why am I nerding out
on words? Here's why. To besuccessful, and effective in the
(04:19):
present moment, to live our bestlife with the most enriched
human experience, we must staypresent and in relationship with
people, yashab. When I say it, Ikind of breathe out a little
peace and something in my souljust feels right. For a long
(04:45):
time, those of you who haveknown me way, way, way before
this podcast, I have lived bythe idea that we weren't meant
to do life alone. People needpeople. People so desperately
need peopleLife is hard sometimes, and
going through the hard stuffalone compounds the weight of
(05:05):
it. I know friends, because I'velived it. When we feel alone, we
begin to lose hope and purpose.
And when that happens, we beginlooking in all the wrong places
to find hope and purpose again,which draws us further and
further away from center. And itcompounds the loneliness. We
(05:27):
live in a world where we are themost connected than we have ever
been in human existence. Yet thefeeling of loneliness is more
prevalent than ever. I want togive you a visual, I want you to
think of every 18 to 25 yearold, you know, if you don't know
(05:48):
any, think of your favoritecollege or university. Okay, got
it? Now, keep them in mind. Iwant you to think of every mom
with young kids that you know,do you have them in mind? Can
you see their faces, theirnames, who they are to you. Now
(06:11):
I'm going to give you have astatistic that just might break
you, although don't let it breakyou. But it might just know that
before warned, your heart isgoing to be heavy. A Harvard
study shows that a staggering 61I said six and a one 61% of 18
to 25 year olds, and over half,51% of moms with young kids
(06:41):
feels and I'm going to quote“miserable degrees of
loneliness.” Friends, I didn'tjust say kind of lonely in need
of a taco Tuesday night out. Isaid miserable degrees of
loneliness. These numbers areastronomical and frankly,
(07:01):
terrifying people our people ourhumans that we do life with our
hurting. So what do we do? Inthe face of statistics that kind
of rattle us? How do we fightback? How do we fight against
the loneliness? I'm going to besuper transparent about
(07:25):
something that I normallywouldn't tell because I'm a
recovering type A and I'm also asolid one on the Enneagram which
means I'm a perfectionist. I gotto this point in my show notes.
I read these statistics, I gotpresent to the loneliness that
the people in this world thepeople around me are feeling and
it for lack of a better word,slayed me. I didn't know what to
(07:50):
do. I didn't know how to fix theproblem of loneliness. Like how
do you even begin to fix this? Iuncovered this ugly thing that I
couldn't unsee. But now whatwould I do with it? Like what do
we do with this thing? So I didwhat I do when I don't know the
answer. I went and I sat in mycloset. Now, let me unpack that
(08:15):
for a second. In my closet, Ihave a little prayer corner I
set up a long time ago. It's acozy little bolster and it has
some pillows and there's thiscute bench and you can sit on it
or kneel on it or whatever yoursome days you just sit on it and
cry. That's let's be honesthere. But there's a board there
with the scriptures and prayersand there's sticky notes all
(08:37):
over it and just things that areheavy on my heart that I have to
get off my heart. So I writethem down and I stick them on
that wall and I just go in thatroom and I pray and it's my very
own war room of sorts. It'swhere I go to battle. I went in
there and I close the door and Ibrought loneliness to the foot
of the cross. As I was puttingnotes together for this episode
(09:04):
I came here so excited wantingto talk about slave the present
and live your best life but theLord had different plans for
this episode. The word I keptfeeling like pulling at the God
of my soul was ABIDE and Ididn't I didn't get it so I like
brushed it aside I'm like nothat's not going to work here.
(09:26):
And I would pray like god No youdon't. Clearly you don't get it
I need to teach them to slay thepresent crush the moment like do
it bad go bigger go home rightbut the Lord kept prompting and
when I said slay the spirit keptprompting ABIDE and then I
changed my tune a little bitbecause that's what we do is
human and so I I prayed whatwhat if what if we aren't
(09:48):
slaying to succeed? What ifyou're just we're just gonna you
know slay the loneliness Godcome on help me here like help
me because I'm stuck right andthe Spirit just kept prompting
abideFriends after longer, longer
than I care to admit, it clicked- to truly succeed, we must
abide. John 15:4 Abide in me, asI also abide in you. No branch
(10:18):
can bear fruit by itself. Itmust remain in the vine. Neither
can you bear fruit unless youremain in Me. In this moment,
all I can do is shake my head
because when I turn to John 1 (10:34):
4 and my Bible, can I tell one on
myself here in the safe space?
Friends, it's not evenunderlined. I know his word so
well, I think. And yet thescripture that directly relates
to success with relationship, aholy abiding, the thing that
will combat loneliness abiding.
(11:01):
I've never even underlined it.
Have a deeply personalrelationship with God, and He
will have a deeply personalrelationship with you. No branch
can bear fruit by itself. Wecan't do it alone. We must
remain abiding in him. Not inother people, not in our jobs,
(11:27):
not in the world. But in him. Wecannot bear good fruit apart
from our God. To live reallygreat, unwavering, unshakable
unmessable-with lives I was socertain that it had to do with
powering through the present,really slang those tasks those
(11:50):
to-dos. The only slang thathappened was my heart. When we
abide in Him, He fills ourlonely places. In a world that
promises to fill us at everypass, I promise you it can't.
(12:11):
This. I know because I've tried.
Trust me. I've tried. So toquote my favorite song by
elevation worship. I've searchedthe world, but it couldn't fill
me. Man's empty praise andtreasures that fade are never
enough. And now I get it.
(12:34):
We combat loneliness and beargood fruit when we abide in the
present when we abide in Hispresence.
Friends, I hope this episode wasfruitful. I hope you enjoyed it.
(12:55):
I hope that it broke your heartwide open and showed you
something that you've neverseen. Or maybe affirmed
something that you've alwaysknown. Send me a message. I love
hearing your thoughts. Come backnext time we'll throw more
encouragement around likeconfetti, but be careful if you
(13:16):
get too close. You just mightget some on you. And remember
friends, there is always alwaysalways something to be grateful
for. Ciao.
Thank you for joining me DesireeMelfi Bozzo for this episode of
Life out loud. I would love tohear from you. Leave me a
(13:38):
comment. Tell me what topics youwant to talk about and how you
take your coffee. If you enjoyedwhat you heard, text a friend
the link share it on socialmedia. Or if you're interested
in becoming a supporter, be-bopover to my webpage life out
loud.me and sponsor a cup ofcoffee that keeps this podcast
fueled. Until next time sweetlisteners.
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