November 18, 2024 • 11 mins
What sacrifices are you willing to make to achieve harmony in your life? Join us on Lifestyle Strength as we explore the delicate dance between wellness and parenthood with Ariel, a seasoned massage therapist, and Lucas, an experienced fitness coach. Ariel opens up about the challenges she faces as a breastfeeding mom trying to return to her workout routine, revealing the tough decisions she's confronted with to maintain her milk supply. Lucas shares his insights on the art of adaptability and the necessity of pivoting when life’s circumstances evolve, shedding light on how adjusting previous routines can help us balance personal wellness goals with family responsibilities.
In a world where we often idolize the relentless dedication of athletes like Patrick Mahomes and Tom Brady, we challenge you to reflect on what truly serves you in your current season of life. Is it realistic—or even desirable—to make such sacrifices? Through our discussion, we emphasize the importance of consciously choosing where to invest your time and energy, ensuring that your actions align with your true priorities. We invite you to consider which "hill you're willing to die on" and how to make those tough choices that lead to a fulfilling life, both personally and professionally. Tune in to gain valuable insights that will help you navigate life's inevitable changes with grace and intention.
Support Ariel by booking a massage:
https://www.competitorsedgemassage.com/
Support Lucas by booking training:
https://www.hydefitnessconsulting.com
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Lifestyle Strength, your guide to
mastering health and well-beingin the real world.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I'm Ariel, a massage therapist with over a decade of
experience in holistic health,and I'm here with Lucas, a
seasoned fitness coach, who'stransformed the lives of
hundreds in Northwest Arkansas.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
We're here to share real stories and expert insights
about embracing a healthylifestyle while balancing the
everyday hustle.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Join us as we explore practical ways to achieve
wellness and thrive amidstlife's challenges.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Let's dive in you going to kick it off.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Yeah well, welcome back everybody.
So I was telling you on the wayhere, I had something occur
that I thought oh my gosh, wegot to talk about this and it's
that saying that you hear allthe time the hill you're willing
to die on, oh yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
If you're willing.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
If you're willing, and not only that, but
potentially what you sacrifice,if you do decide to die on that
hill.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Right the insinuation of that phrase, yes, yes.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
So in my case it was is.
Is it worth it?
Because we talk about health,wellness and fitness all the
time and we talk about the ideaof the, the doing more, or maybe
what we're missing.
Well, what about the people whoare so stuck on this idea that
they're willing to sacrificesomething that is more necessary
, even if it's just for a seasonof life?
Speaker 1 (01:23):
It's like they want something more than they need
something else.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Yes, or just there's sometimes collateral damage of
things that are sacrificed.
So mine happens to be gettingback into working out and it's
awesome, I love it, it's so goodfor my mental health, I need it
, I need that structure, allthose things.
But I'm a breastfeeding mom andany moms out there that
(01:47):
breastfeed they know that whenyou start working out, um, you
can actually, uh, reduce yoursupply and if you reduce your
supply, you can't feed your kid.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Okay, I didn't know that.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
And so it's a big deal.
And so I'm in this place whereyou know, and so I'm in this
place where you know the hill Itypically would die on is work
out, get back to it, do thosethings.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
They're necessary, they're necessary for the
previous form that you'refamiliar with.
Yes, exactly.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
And now I'm like, ooh , what is it supposed to look
like?
And am I willing to make thatsacrifice?
Because normally my head wouldbe like, yes, we're working out,
yes, we're doing this.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Because it's all for you at that point.
Yes, and now there's somebodyelse involved.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Exactly.
And so now I'm like wait, isthis a hill I'm willing to die
on?
No, not at all, because I'm inthe season of life.
He has to be that priority andI have to keep that supply.
So I'm not saying anybody who'swatching this, I am not saying
that you necessarily have tojust cut out that thing that
you've been so adamant about,but what I am saying is being
(02:54):
flexible.
So I'm trying to find what thisnew season of working out is
going to look like, to alsomaintain my supply like I need
to right.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Yeah, I think that that that goes back if we were
like put on a skill of livingthe lifestyle right is the skill
of pivoting, understanding andknowing when to pivot mm-hmm
it's.
You know, you might havetrained one way which I?
I have an idea because I madeyour program for a while.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
So like right, exactly the weight training was
like is.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
It was a thing that like is, you're familiar with.
Yes, you feel comfortable with.
You know how to challengeyourself with yes, and rather
you feel comfortable gettinguncomfortable doing that thing,
absolutely and that's how you'veprogressed up into this point,
and though now it sounds likethat specific thing that once
served you is no longer going toserve the exact same purpose,
(03:44):
because now there's somethingelse that you have to consider
as a result of the choice thatyou made.
And so now, what does the pivotlook like?
What does it look like for youto be able to get what you need
what you actually need, notnecessarily what you want, but
what you need from exercise andwhat that looks like, while
(04:05):
still be able to provide forsomething that you care about?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Honestly, I don't have the full answer for
everybody who's like, oh, ifyou're a mom and you're like,
hey, I'm there too, I don't havethe answer right now for you at
all, or even ever for you,because what might work for me
might not work for you.
But this made me think ofsomething we talk about a lot,
and that's fad diets and it'sthat idea that people get in
(04:31):
their minds right that hill,they'll die on you ever have to
do something, or or it's.
It's like, let's be honest, it'slike mlms uh, let's say
somebody who's all keto or evenme, all plant how often do you
just hear that person?
Well, you, you could do itright by being calorie deficient
, you know, and they, that's thehill they're willing to die on.
(04:54):
And sometimes there's somethings that are collateral
damage, some things that youknow you sacrifice for that.
Um, and so my, my suggestion toeverybody is and we've talked
about it a lot is doing thosethings that are going to benefit
you in the season of life thatyou're in.
Um, but maybe just sit withyourself and kind of think about
(05:15):
like, are there certain thingsin my life and it doesn't have
to even be around diet andexercise, just in life in
general?
You know, sometimes we getideas in our head about how we
feel strongly about somethingand it can create family divide,
friendship divide, whatever itis and just ask yourself, man,
is this the hill I'm willing todie on?
Am I willing to sacrifice, youknow, other parts of my life for
(05:39):
this?
Speaker 1 (05:39):
one thing that I've thought is I've adamantly needed
I it's funny you brought thisup, because I I feel like in an
area of my life, this exactthing's been taking place, where
and I'm not going to go intodetails on it, but like it's,
where, like this one thing hasbeen working for so long, or at
least maybe you thought it'sbeen working for so long in a
(06:02):
certain way.
And then you kind of realize,you know is, you know, maybe you
, you, you play ignorant tocertain things because you're
like, well, this has workedbefore, why can't I continue
doing it?
And then you're like, ah, sweepit under the rug, or like you
may not consciously make thatdecision.
You may just like ignore thesigns, or you ignore the, you
know, not on purpose because,you're like I want this thing to
(06:26):
to serve what it once did.
Yeah, I want it to be that, butinevitably you've changed and
your environment's changed.
Things around you have changedand that means that if you want
to continue the pattern ofgrowth, yeah, as those things
have changed, you also have tochange, and that might mean
trying something new.
So, like in your case, it mightmean like, instead of weight
(06:48):
training, doing Pilates or goingfor a walk, or like trying all
these things and prioritizingthose things and figuring out
how to maybe do some of thosethings and integrate them.
Or also like do more of thosethings or do those things better
or do those things in adifferent way.
So, like that, that that's thesign of okay is it?
(07:10):
Is it something that it hasmattered this much and it still
serves me in this purpose, andthat purpose is more important
than the season that I'm in andI'm willing to sacrifice that.
It's like a professionalathlete, right.
Yes, it's the professionalathlete that gets into college
and it's like, well, I could goparty, I could go do all these
things that you know college hasto offer, or I could be really,
(07:33):
really disciplined and I canmake it to the pros.
And then, when you're in thepros and now you're getting paid
lots of money the collegeathletes get paid anyways.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Like yeah, that's true.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
Are you doing it to just make really good money and
be average and do your thing,and if that's what you want to
do, then awesome.
Or do you have the mentality ofI'm going to hire a private
chef to get my diet perfect, I'mgoing to stay extra at practice
, I'm going to not take a tradeto a different team to get more
(08:04):
money, but I'm going to be onthe team that has the
championship, right?
So you think about those, thosepeople, and why we admire them,
why they're great is you know,patrick Mahomes good example?
Okay, yeah, the hill he'swilling to die on is that he
will not make as much moneyplaying for the Kansas city
chiefs so that he can win moreSuperbowls than Tom Brady.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
That will be the hill he's willing to die on.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
And it's worth it to him, and I think we tend to
idolize things like that, but inmost of our lives I don't think
any of us are willing tosacrifice things to that level.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
That's true.
I know that I'm personally notfor that thing, Not comparing
myself to Patrick Mahomes inthat sense.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
But for the things that I'm personally, not that
you know, for that thing, right,for that thing, yeah, not
comparing myself to PatrickMahomes in that sense.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
But like for the things, that I care about right
Right right.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
I'm not willing to be that great Right and want that
awesomeness and then sacrificesome other things that, like we
have no idea what he'ssacrificed.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Right, right.
Of course we don't see it Onthe surface.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
You see, oh, you got money, you have fame, you have a
family, you see all thesethings, but inevitably they're
sacrifices and he's definitelydying on some hill.
And so it's just to say we allhave those hills.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Well, I hate to make a counter statement of Brady.
You make that comparison, bradyto be in the NFL as long as he
has been.
Is that right yeah?
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Well, he's a commentator now.
He's retired now, right, right.
But what I'm?
Speaker 2 (09:33):
saying to be in as long as he has if anybody has
done any research on him.
He prioritizes recovery andthat's kind of what.
I do right, and so heprioritizes massage therapy,
chiropractic, and that's kind ofwhat I do right, and so he
prioritizes massage therapy,chiropractic.
I mean all these things that heprioritizes, which means, sure,
he's the best, he was in it thelongest, but he also siphoned a
(09:55):
lot of his personal money tocontinue being the best and
being in the field for as longas he had been right.
So there's that counterargument.
So in some ways, there's somehill that he chose to die on too
, which was I mean in his bookhe talked about it the
prioritizing of recovery for hisbody, because he understands
that that's what makes him money.
(10:15):
Just like my hands, right, Ishould uh endorse them, or
endorse them.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
I should, uh, I should get like sponsorships on
your hands liability insuranceis what I meant meant, I think,
just to wrap everything up too.
It's saying that it's not.
There are obviously sacrificesin anything you choose to pursue
but, there's also wonderfuloutcomes that you can connect
(10:40):
the dots on, and so it's justabout determining how to connect
those dots as well as what it'sworth to you, and I think that
was the point of what you weretrying to say.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Yeah, for sure, and that's what I'm trying to figure
out, guys, and if y'all are ina season of life that you're
also trying to figure it out, orthere's some hill you thought
you were going to die on, it'sokay to pivot.
So until next time, peace.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
Thanks for watching.
Welcome to Lifestyle Strength, your guide to
mastering health and well-beingin the real world.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I'm Ariel, a massage therapist with over a decade of
experience in holistic health,and I'm here with Lucas, a
seasoned fitness coach, who'stransformed the lives of
hundreds in Northwest Arkansas.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
We're here to share real stories and expert insights
about embracing a healthylifestyle while balancing the
everyday hustle.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Join us as we explore practical ways to achieve
wellness and thrive amidstlife's challenges.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Let's dive in you going to kick it off.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Yeah well, welcome back everybody.
So I was telling you on the wayhere, I had something occur
that I thought oh my gosh, wegot to talk about this and it's
that saying that you hear allthe time the hill you're willing
to die on, oh yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
If you're willing.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
If you're willing, and not only that, but
potentially what you sacrifice,if you do decide to die on that
hill.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Right the insinuation of that phrase, yes, yes.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
So in my case it was is.
Is it worth it?
Because we talk about health,wellness and fitness all the
time and we talk about the ideaof the, the doing more, or maybe
what we're missing.
Well, what about the people whoare so stuck on this idea that
they're willing to sacrificesomething that is more necessary
, even if it's just for a seasonof life?
Speaker 1 (01:23):
It's like they want something more than they need
something else.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Yes, or just there's sometimes collateral damage of
things that are sacrificed.
So mine happens to be gettingback into working out and it's
awesome, I love it, it's so goodfor my mental health, I need it
, I need that structure, allthose things.
But I'm a breastfeeding mom andany moms out there that
(01:47):
breastfeed they know that whenyou start working out, um, you
can actually, uh, reduce yoursupply and if you reduce your
supply, you can't feed your kid.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Okay, I didn't know that.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
And so it's a big deal.
And so I'm in this place whereyou know, and so I'm in this
place where you know the hill Itypically would die on is work
out, get back to it, do thosethings.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
They're necessary, they're necessary for the
previous form that you'refamiliar with.
Yes, exactly.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
And now I'm like, ooh , what is it supposed to look
like?
And am I willing to make thatsacrifice?
Because normally my head wouldbe like, yes, we're working out,
yes, we're doing this.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Because it's all for you at that point.
Yes, and now there's somebodyelse involved.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Exactly.
And so now I'm like wait, isthis a hill I'm willing to die
on?
No, not at all, because I'm inthe season of life.
He has to be that priority andI have to keep that supply.
So I'm not saying anybody who'swatching this, I am not saying
that you necessarily have tojust cut out that thing that
you've been so adamant about,but what I am saying is being
(02:54):
flexible.
So I'm trying to find what thisnew season of working out is
going to look like, to alsomaintain my supply like I need
to right.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Yeah, I think that that that goes back if we were
like put on a skill of livingthe lifestyle right is the skill
of pivoting, understanding andknowing when to pivot mm-hmm
it's.
You know, you might havetrained one way which I?
I have an idea because I madeyour program for a while.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
So like right, exactly the weight training was
like is.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
It was a thing that like is, you're familiar with.
Yes, you feel comfortable with.
You know how to challengeyourself with yes, and rather
you feel comfortable gettinguncomfortable doing that thing,
absolutely and that's how you'veprogressed up into this point,
and though now it sounds likethat specific thing that once
served you is no longer going toserve the exact same purpose,
(03:44):
because now there's somethingelse that you have to consider
as a result of the choice thatyou made.
And so now, what does the pivotlook like?
What does it look like for youto be able to get what you need
what you actually need, notnecessarily what you want, but
what you need from exercise andwhat that looks like, while
(04:05):
still be able to provide forsomething that you care about?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Honestly, I don't have the full answer for
everybody who's like, oh, ifyou're a mom and you're like,
hey, I'm there too, I don't havethe answer right now for you at
all, or even ever for you,because what might work for me
might not work for you.
But this made me think ofsomething we talk about a lot,
and that's fad diets and it'sthat idea that people get in
(04:31):
their minds right that hill,they'll die on you ever have to
do something, or or it's.
It's like, let's be honest, it'slike mlms uh, let's say
somebody who's all keto or evenme, all plant how often do you
just hear that person?
Well, you, you could do itright by being calorie deficient
, you know, and they, that's thehill they're willing to die on.
(04:54):
And sometimes there's somethings that are collateral
damage, some things that youknow you sacrifice for that.
Um, and so my, my suggestion toeverybody is and we've talked
about it a lot is doing thosethings that are going to benefit
you in the season of life thatyou're in.
Um, but maybe just sit withyourself and kind of think about
(05:15):
like, are there certain thingsin my life and it doesn't have
to even be around diet andexercise, just in life in
general?
You know, sometimes we getideas in our head about how we
feel strongly about somethingand it can create family divide,
friendship divide, whatever itis and just ask yourself, man,
is this the hill I'm willing todie on?
Am I willing to sacrifice, youknow, other parts of my life for
(05:39):
this?
Speaker 1 (05:39):
one thing that I've thought is I've adamantly needed
I it's funny you brought thisup, because I I feel like in an
area of my life, this exactthing's been taking place, where
and I'm not going to go intodetails on it, but like it's,
where, like this one thing hasbeen working for so long, or at
least maybe you thought it'sbeen working for so long in a
(06:02):
certain way.
And then you kind of realize,you know is, you know, maybe you
, you, you play ignorant tocertain things because you're
like, well, this has workedbefore, why can't I continue
doing it?
And then you're like, ah, sweepit under the rug, or like you
may not consciously make thatdecision.
You may just like ignore thesigns, or you ignore the, you
know, not on purpose because,you're like I want this thing to
(06:26):
to serve what it once did.
Yeah, I want it to be that, butinevitably you've changed and
your environment's changed.
Things around you have changedand that means that if you want
to continue the pattern ofgrowth, yeah, as those things
have changed, you also have tochange, and that might mean
trying something new.
So, like in your case, it mightmean like, instead of weight
(06:48):
training, doing Pilates or goingfor a walk, or like trying all
these things and prioritizingthose things and figuring out
how to maybe do some of thosethings and integrate them.
Or also like do more of thosethings or do those things better
or do those things in adifferent way.
So, like that, that that's thesign of okay is it?
(07:10):
Is it something that it hasmattered this much and it still
serves me in this purpose, andthat purpose is more important
than the season that I'm in andI'm willing to sacrifice that.
It's like a professionalathlete, right.
Yes, it's the professionalathlete that gets into college
and it's like, well, I could goparty, I could go do all these
things that you know college hasto offer, or I could be really,
(07:33):
really disciplined and I canmake it to the pros.
And then, when you're in thepros and now you're getting paid
lots of money the collegeathletes get paid anyways.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Like yeah, that's true.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
Are you doing it to just make really good money and
be average and do your thing,and if that's what you want to
do, then awesome.
Or do you have the mentality ofI'm going to hire a private
chef to get my diet perfect, I'mgoing to stay extra at practice
, I'm going to not take a tradeto a different team to get more
(08:04):
money, but I'm going to be onthe team that has the
championship, right?
So you think about those, thosepeople, and why we admire them,
why they're great is you know,patrick Mahomes good example?
Okay, yeah, the hill he'swilling to die on is that he
will not make as much moneyplaying for the Kansas city
chiefs so that he can win moreSuperbowls than Tom Brady.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
That will be the hill he's willing to die on.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
And it's worth it to him, and I think we tend to
idolize things like that, but inmost of our lives I don't think
any of us are willing tosacrifice things to that level.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
That's true.
I know that I'm personally notfor that thing, Not comparing
myself to Patrick Mahomes inthat sense.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
But for the things that I'm personally, not that
you know, for that thing, right,for that thing, yeah, not
comparing myself to PatrickMahomes in that sense.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
But like for the things, that I care about right
Right right.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
I'm not willing to be that great Right and want that
awesomeness and then sacrificesome other things that, like we
have no idea what he'ssacrificed.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Right, right.
Of course we don't see it Onthe surface.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
You see, oh, you got money, you have fame, you have a
family, you see all thesethings, but inevitably they're
sacrifices and he's definitelydying on some hill.
And so it's just to say we allhave those hills.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Well, I hate to make a counter statement of Brady.
You make that comparison, bradyto be in the NFL as long as he
has been.
Is that right yeah?
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Well, he's a commentator now.
He's retired now, right, right.
But what I'm?
Speaker 2 (09:33):
saying to be in as long as he has if anybody has
done any research on him.
He prioritizes recovery andthat's kind of what.
I do right, and so heprioritizes massage therapy,
chiropractic, and that's kind ofwhat I do right, and so he
prioritizes massage therapy,chiropractic.
I mean all these things that heprioritizes, which means, sure,
he's the best, he was in it thelongest, but he also siphoned a
(09:55):
lot of his personal money tocontinue being the best and
being in the field for as longas he had been right.
So there's that counterargument.
So in some ways, there's somehill that he chose to die on too
, which was I mean in his bookhe talked about it the
prioritizing of recovery for hisbody, because he understands
that that's what makes him money.
(10:15):
Just like my hands, right, Ishould uh endorse them, or
endorse them.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
I should, uh, I should get like sponsorships on
your hands liability insuranceis what I meant meant, I think,
just to wrap everything up too.
It's saying that it's not.
There are obviously sacrificesin anything you choose to pursue
but, there's also wonderfuloutcomes that you can connect
(10:40):
the dots on, and so it's justabout determining how to connect
those dots as well as what it'sworth to you, and I think that
was the point of what you weretrying to say.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Yeah, for sure, and that's what I'm trying to figure
out, guys, and if y'all are ina season of life that you're
also trying to figure it out, orthere's some hill you thought
you were going to die on, it'sokay to pivot.
So until next time, peace.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
Thanks for watching.
Popular Podcasts
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Follow now to get the latest episodes of Dateline NBC completely free, or subscribe to Dateline Premium for ad-free listening and exclusive bonus content: DatelinePremium.com
The Herd with Colin Cowherd
The Herd with Colin Cowherd is a thought-provoking, opinionated, and topic-driven journey through the top sports stories of the day.