Ep: 12-How to Listen, Love and Learn from each other TODAY!

Send us a text

In this episode I share:   

• How to listen to yourself and others from a place of nothing.
• How learning to listen without any meaning on it is the most important thing you can do in a relationship.

Follow me on ---> IG  @moderndaymom247

Listen in...and...

If anything in this podcast resonated with you, or if you would like to comment, send me a message on IG  @moderndaymom247   

Be sure to hit the follow button, so you don't miss an episode and leave a rating and review so that other listeners like you can join in!

#listeningearspodcast
#lovelanguage
#listening

Connect with Vernae on these platforms:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moderndaymom247/
Website: https://www.listeningearspodcast.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/Vernae_B

Support the show

Subscribe to Exclusive Content by clicking on the LINK Here

Connect with Vernae:

Website: https://www.listeningearspodcast.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moderndaymom247/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/Vernae_B
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@moderndaymom7

Episode Transcript

Vernae (00:00):
You are tapped into the listening ears podcast with me,
your host Vernae Bezear This isepisode 12 of my podcast, and
I've been really thinking a lot,these last few weeks about

(00:28):
listening and hearing and how welisten or what we listen for.
And I've come to the conclusionthat what has helped me these

(00:55):
last few weeks, that I've beendealing with a lot of
discernment and a lot ofquestions and considerations and
choices and changes and justeverything.
I've been struggling withlistening.

(01:18):
And I've come to realize, like Isaid, these last couple of weeks
that I haven't been listeningproperly and thinking about my

(01:39):
first episode(Episode One ofthis podcast) where I talked
about having, listening ears andsitting up straight and being
ready to receive a message.
I feel like I've said this tostudents.

(02:07):
And I have talked about whatmakes a good listener, but I, I
think that I have not been thebest listener, so I am starting

(02:28):
over.
I am.
I made a promise to my husbandon our anniversary this past
Friday, August 12th, we made 16years married.
And I said to him that I wassorry that I haven't been a good

(02:54):
listener.
And I, came to realize t hatit's because that well it's
because of the fact that Iwasn't listening From Nothing

(03:17):
and I vowed and promised himthat I will begin to listen from
nothing.

(03:26):
I'm just listening.
I'm not listening from my pastor his past, or my fears or my
anxiety, judgment titles.
Just, me listening to him, justlistening without prejudice or,

(03:58):
or any preconceived notions ofwhat I'm hearing or what I
expect to hear-just beingpresent and listening, hearing,
and really taking in what he'ssaying or what somebody else is

(04:23):
saying.
So I made that promise and Iplan, and I vowed to keep it
because it's not only going tohelp us with our relationship.
It would also, it's going toalso help me, myself and my

(04:47):
relationship with otherslistening is difficult.
And because our brains arehardwired for commonalities or,
or things that, that remind usof something else or that make

(05:14):
us think of something else,right?
Our, our brains are justhardwired for that.
We, we look for things that areknown to us.
So if I'm listening to you andlet's say in the past, you have

(05:36):
told me something, well, yeah,right now I'm like, mm-hmm,
right.
I'm listening from thatperspective or that viewpoint

Vernae (05:48):
Instead of being unbiased.
And just listening to what thatperson is saying on this day, at
this time, in this situation,it's, it's so important to, do

(06:10):
that because it really creates asense of the other person feels
listened to and heard, and noteven so much validated, but more
like I hear you.

(06:32):
And I really do hear you.
And I hear where you're comingfrom and understanding that
everybody communicatesdifferently.
And it's up to the person thatis receiving the person that's

(06:58):
being spoken to.
It's I think it's important alsoto know how this person
communicates, you know, thinkabout like, what is their

(07:21):
intention?
And they're coming to you toshare something and not so that
you can think of a relatablestory or not so that you can

(07:43):
solve whatever dilemma they'rehaving, but more from a neutral
place without any noise, withoutany interference or Anything,

(08:04):
Just listening from nothing.
I am talking to you.
I am just me sharing a messagewith you.

(08:26):
And that's it.

(08:32):
I think it also makes me think of people's love language And
How sometimes people say, well,my love language is buying
things, or somebody else may saythat their love language is

(08:53):
being very touchy, feely.
And I say that touchy, feelylike that, because that is not,
that is the opposite of my lovelanguage.
I don't really like to betouched, but when my husband

(09:21):
communicates with me and I'mlistening to him from a place of
, um, nothing, right.
He's talking to me, he maystroke my hand or touch my face

(09:47):
or touch my hair.
That's how he communicates.
So being the receiver of thecommunication and being the
receiver of the message, it'simportant for me to allow him to
communicate that way.

(10:09):
I think for me, I wish we livedin a world where people listen
better And they came from aplace of just listening, but

(10:33):
that wouldn't work right.
That wouldn't work in our worldbecause there always has to be
something that we're at oddswith, right.
There always has to be some typeof balance.
So for the listeners, we havethe non listeners and for the

(10:55):
pessimist, we have the optimistbecause everything needs to be
balanced In the world.
And we know this.
So all I can hope and wish foris that we can be better
listeners.
And that when we do listen andwe do sit down to really take in

(11:22):
what somebody's saying, or ifsomebody has a message for us,
that we could just receive it insuch a way that just makes the
person feel listened to becausethat's all we, that's all we
really want.
All we really want is to belistened to.

(11:46):
If anything I said in thispodcast resonated with you,
please comment, share like, andyeah.
Keep showing me love, keepshowing each other.
Love, keep being positive andI'll see you soon.

(12:08):
Bye.