Ep. 7: Honesty: How to become HONEST with yourself TODAY!

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Have you been honest with yourself?

In this episode I share:

• How being honest and vulnerable with myself was one of the most difficult things I have ever done.
• 3 ways you can begin to be HONEST with yourself Today.

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Speaker 1 (00:04):
You are tapped into the listening ears podcast with
your host.

Me (00:09):
Vernae Bezear.
Being honest with yourself, Ithink is the hardest pill to
swallow.

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It takes a level of patience,love and grace, that many of us
don't have f or ourselves, butwe definitely have for others.
We can give someone advice in aheartbeat, let them know w here

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their blind spots are, give thempointers a nd how they should
live, but we can't do the samefor ourselves.
Well, at least I couldn't.
I have to say that this has beenthe most difficult part of my

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entire life.
And if you really know me, thenyou know that there have been
some really difficult times, butfor me, this has been the most
difficult by far being honestand vulnerable at the same time,

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making choices that impacted mylife in such a way and being
happy at the same time, was awhole lot.
In order for me, to be honestwith myself, I had to be honest
about what I wanted, which forme was difficult because I

(02:04):
didn't know.
I just knew that whatever thiswas, wasn't it.
I had to be honest with othersabout boundaries and things that
may have been accepted, but Willno longer be accepted by me.

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Being honest required me, to behonest about my limits, what I'm
struggling with, what I can do,what I can't do, what I need and
who can give that to me, thesequestions are still being asked

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and answered.
People in general aren't honestwith themselves for many
reasons, most of the time it'scentered around feelings of
shame or guilt about whateverthe thing is.
Sometimes it's uncomfortable,Nobody, nobody wants to look

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inside and look inside and feeland sit with emotions and be in
it and in them.
It doesn't feel good at all.
It's super uncomfortable, butit's absolutely necessary for
complete honesty with yourselfand thinking about my journey,

(03:31):
the journey that I'm on rightnow, about my journey with
honesty, or I would say myjourney to happiness.
I think for me, not only was ita hard pill to swallow for
myself, but I think in myrelationships with others as
well, being honest about what Iwanted out of myself and my

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career and just everything was ahard pill to swallow for people
around me.
And it may be that way for you,but it's okay! Here are three
ways, to be honest with yourselftoday, number ONE, live your

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dreams.
Now I know that sounds like.
Really live your dreams, butyeah.
Live your dreams.
What is it that you want to do?
Do it stop waiting for tomorrowor when the kids graduate or I

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don't know, summer vacation,just do it.
You want to write that book,write the book, cook that meal
and record it and be a, a topchef, whatever it is.
Just go out there and, and liveit.

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Number TWO, be hyper hyper awareof your self talk.
This is where I am still a workin progress with, but the way
you speak to yourself and whenyou look at yourself, when you
hear yourself, when you dosomething, it, it all matters,

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right?
It's it's, it's ingrained in, inour heads.
Be aware of it.
Be aware of how you speak toyourself.
Are you showing yourself love?
Being honest, requires patience,love and grace.

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Those are things we have to showourselves.
And that starts with the selftalk.
And number THREE, listen to yourfeelings.
Feelings are, are there for areason.
We talk about fight or flight.

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That's the feeling, right?
That's the feeling we get whenthat adrenaline is kicking in,
what, what happens do we do we,do we run?
Do we pass out?
Do we jump into it?
It's, it's a feeling you can'tPush them down.
You can't stamp them out.

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You can't go around and say, I'mfine.
It's fine.
It probably isn't three ways.
To be honest with yourselftoday, live your dreams.
Be hyper aware of your self talkand listen to your feelings.

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If anything I've said in thisepisode's podcast resonated with
you, or if you want to comment,please send me a message at
[e-mail],or you can hit me up on all

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social media platforms, um,there and yeah, signing off till
next time