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Vernae Bezear (00:02):
Hello, beautiful souls, and welcome back to the
Listening Ears podcast.
I'm your host, Vernae Bezear,and this is your gentle space
for reflection, growth andconnection.
Today we're talking aboutsomething many of us quietly
wrestle with but rarely nameopenly, and that is avoidance.
(00:27):
I had a conversation recentlyabout things we leave unsaid,
the unspoken words, we hide awayin the hope of maintaining
peace.
But here's the truth Silenceisn't always peaceful.
(00:47):
In fact, avoidance often breaksmore than conflict ever, ever
could.
It creates invisible wallsbetween us and the people we
love most.
Today, let's gently explore whyfacing difficult conversations
head-on can not only preserveour relationships but deepen
(01:11):
them in ways we never everimagined.
Let's settle in and begin.
Let's start by admittingsomething Most of us dislike
conflict.
We see it as uncomfortable,messy and even dangerous.
But have you ever noticed whathappens when we avoid conflict
(01:37):
completely?
That quiet tension growsheavier, deeper, louder, despite
our silence.
Avoidance isn't just a neutralact.
It doesn't make issues vanish,disappear.
(01:58):
It allows them to quietlydeepen their roots.
Allows them to quietly deepentheir roots.
Over time, those small,unspoken issues become large
resentments, resentments thatquietly separate us from each
(02:22):
other.
Take a moment to reflect.
What are you avoiding right nowin your relationships.
Maybe it's a tough conversationwith your partner, your child,
a friend or maybe even yourself.
Notice how heavy the silencefeels.
(02:45):
It's important to recognize howavoidance, while seeming
protective, might actually beslowly breaking connections that
really matter deeply to you.
Let's shift our perspectiveslightly.
(03:09):
Conflict doesn't alwaysautomatically mean that
something's wrong.
In fact, healthy disagreementscan be powerful opportunities to
deepen intimacy and trust.
Think of conflict as aninvitation, an invitation to
(03:31):
honesty, to vulnerability, togrowth.
Conflict asks us to speak ourtruth and listen deeply to
others.
When we discuss things directly, we communicate respect and
care.
We show the people we love thatI'm willing to risk temporary
(03:58):
discomfort to create lastingconnection.
Music.
What does healthy conflictreally look like?
Well, it involves kindness andclarity coupled with empathy.
(04:21):
It means setting aside allblame and prioritizing
understanding.
Here's something powerful toremember All repair, all healing
(04:42):
, starts with truth.
Relationships are resilient.
They can handle difficult words, uncomfortable honesty and
authentic, truly authenticexpressions of emotion.
What they struggle with issilence, avoidance and the
(05:09):
invisible distance they create.
True peace is built from honestexpression and intentional
connection.
Consider this Honesty is a lovelanguage, is a love language A
(05:38):
language that says I care enoughabout us to share what's real.
This honest sharing, eventhough it's challenging, creates
bridges, not walls.
Let's talk about how to speakthese truths intentionally.
Remember, honesty doesn't haveto be harsh.
(06:01):
It can definitely be gentle,thoughtful and, above all,
respectful.
It involves owning yourfeelings, avoiding blame and
making space for the otherperson's truth as well.
Maybe your truth sounds likeI've noticed some tension
(06:25):
between us and I'd love tounderstand your feelings better,
or I'm finding it really hardto let this go.
I think we need to talk, or Icare about our connection way
more than comfort right now.
(06:45):
This isn't just communicationfor the sake of talking things
out.
It is courageous vulnerabilityand it's exactly what deep
relationships need to grow andthrive.
As we wrap up, I invite you tohold these truths close.
(07:13):
Avoidance isn't peace.
Honesty is Silence doesn't keepthe peace.
Vulnerability does.
Conflict isn't alwaysdestructive, but it can be
deeply connective.
You're not alone in feeling thediscomfort of difficult
(07:41):
conversations, but remember,when you choose courage over
comfort, you choose connectionover separation Over comfort,
you choose connection overseparation.
I encourage you this week togently face one conversation
you've been avoiding.
Approach it with kindness, withvulnerability and trust that
(08:06):
genuine relationships can holdspace for truth, even
uncomfortable ones.
If today's episode resonatedwith you.
I would love to hear yourreflections.
What conversation will you havethis week?
How are you moving fromavoidance to authenticity?
(08:31):
Moving from avoidance toauthenticity?
Dm me share your stories.
I'm here to hold space for eachand every one of you and if you
know someone who needs thisgentle push, please share this
episode.
Let's support each other increating relationships that
(08:55):
thrive.
Thank you so much, dearlisteners, for tuning in to
Listening Ears Podcast.
And remember keep listening,keep loving, keep speaking your
truth Until next time.
I'm Vernae and I'm herelistening.
Hello, beautiful souls, and welcome back to the
Listening Ears podcast.
I'm your host, Vernae Bezear,and this is your gentle space
for reflection, growth andconnection.
Today we're talking aboutsomething many of us quietly
wrestle with but rarely nameopenly, and that is avoidance.
(00:27):
I had a conversation recentlyabout things we leave unsaid,
the unspoken words, we hide awayin the hope of maintaining
peace.
But here's the truth Silenceisn't always peaceful.
(00:47):
In fact, avoidance often breaksmore than conflict ever, ever
could.
It creates invisible wallsbetween us and the people we
love most.
Today, let's gently explore whyfacing difficult conversations
head-on can not only preserveour relationships but deepen
(01:11):
them in ways we never everimagined.
Let's settle in and begin.
Let's start by admittingsomething Most of us dislike
conflict.
We see it as uncomfortable,messy and even dangerous.
But have you ever noticed whathappens when we avoid conflict
(01:37):
completely?
That quiet tension growsheavier, deeper, louder, despite
our silence.
Avoidance isn't just a neutralact.
It doesn't make issues vanish,disappear.
(01:58):
It allows them to quietlydeepen their roots.
Allows them to quietly deepentheir roots.
Over time, those small,unspoken issues become large
resentments, resentments thatquietly separate us from each
(02:22):
other.
Take a moment to reflect.
What are you avoiding right nowin your relationships.
Maybe it's a tough conversationwith your partner, your child,
a friend or maybe even yourself.
Notice how heavy the silencefeels.
(02:45):
It's important to recognize howavoidance, while seeming
protective, might actually beslowly breaking connections that
really matter deeply to you.
Let's shift our perspectiveslightly.
(03:09):
Conflict doesn't alwaysautomatically mean that
something's wrong.
In fact, healthy disagreementscan be powerful opportunities to
deepen intimacy and trust.
Think of conflict as aninvitation, an invitation to
(03:31):
honesty, to vulnerability, togrowth.
Conflict asks us to speak ourtruth and listen deeply to
others.
When we discuss things directly, we communicate respect and
care.
We show the people we love thatI'm willing to risk temporary
(03:58):
discomfort to create lastingconnection.
Music.
What does healthy conflictreally look like?
Well, it involves kindness andclarity coupled with empathy.
(04:21):
It means setting aside allblame and prioritizing
understanding.
Here's something powerful toremember All repair, all healing
(04:42):
, starts with truth.
Relationships are resilient.
They can handle difficult words, uncomfortable honesty and
authentic, truly authenticexpressions of emotion.
What they struggle with issilence, avoidance and the
(05:09):
invisible distance they create.
True peace is built from honestexpression and intentional
connection.
Consider this Honesty is a lovelanguage, is a love language A
(05:38):
language that says I care enoughabout us to share what's real.
This honest sharing, eventhough it's challenging, creates
bridges, not walls.
Let's talk about how to speakthese truths intentionally.
Remember, honesty doesn't haveto be harsh.
(06:01):
It can definitely be gentle,thoughtful and, above all,
respectful.
It involves owning yourfeelings, avoiding blame and
making space for the otherperson's truth as well.
Maybe your truth sounds likeI've noticed some tension
(06:25):
between us and I'd love tounderstand your feelings better,
or I'm finding it really hardto let this go.
I think we need to talk, or Icare about our connection way
more than comfort right now.
(06:45):
This isn't just communicationfor the sake of talking things
out.
It is courageous vulnerabilityand it's exactly what deep
relationships need to grow andthrive.
As we wrap up, I invite you tohold these truths close.
(07:13):
Avoidance isn't peace.
Honesty is Silence doesn't keepthe peace.
Vulnerability does.
Conflict isn't alwaysdestructive, but it can be
deeply connective.
You're not alone in feeling thediscomfort of difficult
(07:41):
conversations, but remember,when you choose courage over
comfort, you choose connectionover separation Over comfort,
you choose connection overseparation.
I encourage you this week togently face one conversation
you've been avoiding.
Approach it with kindness, withvulnerability and trust that
(08:06):
genuine relationships can holdspace for truth, even
uncomfortable ones.
If today's episode resonatedwith you.
I would love to hear yourreflections.
What conversation will you havethis week?
How are you moving fromavoidance to authenticity?
(08:31):
Moving from avoidance toauthenticity?
Dm me share your stories.
I'm here to hold space for eachand every one of you and if you
know someone who needs thisgentle push, please share this
episode.
Let's support each other increating relationships that
(08:55):
thrive.
Thank you so much, dearlisteners, for tuning in to
Listening Ears Podcast.
And remember keep listening,keep loving, keep speaking your
truth Until next time.
I'm Vernae and I'm herelistening.
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