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April 21, 2025 14 mins

Motherhood isn't a career killer but an invitation to slow down and reimagine work in ways that prioritize what truly matters. I share how becoming a mother transformed my approach to my law career, from planning for minimal interruption to making the bold choice to pause and eventually restructure my business around family priorities.

• The common narrative that motherhood harms careers and what challenging this belief looks like
• My pre-baby plan to take minimal time off and return to work "without skipping a beat"
• The unexpected shift in priorities as my due date approached
• Letting go of my legal assistant and pausing firm growth despite fears about career impact
• The transformative moment of holding my baby and realizing I couldn't return to business as usual
• Practical strategies for planning a career pause including client management and financial preparation
• Understanding how little we actually need when priorities shift to family
• Why I partnered with a colleague to build a part-time practice structured around family
• The ongoing journey of finding balance through different seasons of motherhood

Remember, motherhood isn't the end of your dreams—it's just the beginning of a different kind of adventure that might slow us down for a purpose.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What if babies aren't the career killers we once
thought.
What if their purpose is toslow us down just enough to help
us see what really matters?
What if, instead of ending ourdreams, they're actually making
space for them?
Becoming a mother changeseverything, including how we
view our work time andpriorities.
But too often we hear thenarrative that motherhood is a

(00:21):
setback, that if you want to besuccessful, you have to keep
pushing, keep growing, keepmoving without missing a beat.
And for a long time I believedthat too.
But when I had my first baby,everything changed.
Welcome to Little Hands BigPlans the podcast for moms who
want to reimagine work afterkids and build a life where

(00:43):
family comes first, withoutgiving up your dreams.
I'm Amelia and I know firsthandhow much motherhood shifts our
careers, our priorities and ourpace.
But instead of seeing it as asetback, what if we saw it as an
invitation, an opportunity todesign a life with a little more
freedom, a little more presenceand a little more fulfillment?

(01:03):
Each week, we'll have honestconversations with moms who've
shaped their work and businessaround what truly matters.
Whether you're considering acareer pivot, dreaming of a
slower pace or just wonderingwhat's possible, you're in the
right place.
So grab a little something warm, settle in and let's explore
the possibilities together.

(01:24):
Today, I want to share myjourney about how I went from
growing a law firm and planningfor an uninterrupted career to
making the bold decision topause, embrace the newborn
season and ultimatelyrestructure my business in a way
that allows me to be presentfor my family while still making
an impact and you will behearing my newborn in the

(01:45):
background throughout.
I want to invite you toconsider what if motherhood
isn't the end of your careerdreams but the beginning of
something even better.
Before my first baby was born, Iwas in full career mode.
I was working full-time hours,running my own law firm and my
husband, who was also anentrepreneur.
We were both pouring long daysinto building our businesses.

(02:07):
I had spent over a decadegrowing my career and I didn't
want anything to slow that down.
I had heard all about the babypenalty.
You know how having kids wouldderail my progress, how women
struggled to regain momentum andhow I needed to be strategic
about keeping up.
I even hired a business coachto help me map out my maternity

(02:28):
leave, because I told myself Ijust wanted to have enough time
to recover and then I wanted tobe back without skipping a beat.
But as my due date got closer,something shifted.
I started to feel conflicted,because I realized that I didn't
want to miss the magic of thosefirst few months and moments
with my baby.
I didn't want to be.

(02:49):
You know, we've all heard onetoo many stories about lawyers
answering their emails indelivery rooms, working through
labor, feeling stretched so thinthat they don't get to enjoy
those precious early days, and Iknew that deep down.
I just did not want that formyself, I didn't want that for
my family.
So I made the decision that Inever expected to make and I

(03:11):
chose to pause, and I'm thankfulthat the business coach that I
had worked with reallyencouraged that.
Even though I had a specificgoal and things that I wanted to
achieve, it was okay and it wasgoing to be the career, the
work that was always gonna bethere.
And it wasn't an easy decisionto make.

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I had to let go of a wonderfullegal assistant that we had been
working with for a couple ofyears.
I had to step back from growingthe firm.
It meant slowing everythingdown and even though at the time
I just I wanted to keep goingand I was scared.
I was scared that I was goingto lose progress.
I was scared of disappointingclients, of losing referral

(03:51):
partners that I had worked sohard to build that relationships
with.
I was scared of being vieweddifferently, like now that I'm a
mom, I'm going to be too busy,I'm not going to get clients.
I was scared generally aboutwhat this pause might mean for
my long-term career and in theend I'm so happy that I did it,

(04:11):
because the pause gave mesomething that I wasn't
expecting and that I've now cometo really value, and that is
flexibility.
I knew at the time that takingthe pause meant, if I wanted to
come back and ramp it up, Icould.
If I needed more time, I alsohad options, and that option was
the tough decision that I hadto make to let go of my

(04:34):
wonderful legal assistant, butby the way, she ended up
becoming an entrepreneur herselfand last time I heard she was
doing great.
In general, I was met with muchmore understanding than I
expected.
There was no backlash, therewas no angry clients.
No one except for myself wasquestioning my decision, and
something that I realized wasthat the best part about being

(04:54):
an entrepreneur is the abilityto build a business around
family, and that realization wasreally powerful because it
changed the way after I cameback, of how I structured my
business to now be able toreally support my growing family
.
If you're not a mom, if you'repregnant, I'm going to say that
nothing, nothing, nothing,nothing can prepare you for that

(05:17):
moment when you first hold yourbaby for the first time, and I
clearly remember an even biggershift happening at the time.
I just cannot imagine somethingmore beautiful, something more
like.
Your whole life just changesthe moment that they put them on
your chest.
And at first I had planned totake just four months off, so

(05:41):
that would be just enough timefor my baby to get a daycare
spot.
In the US, you know, many momsare expected to be back at work
at six to eight weeks, and sofour months felt generous, and
four months would give me enoughtime to get into daycares that
I really liked.
But as the months passed and asI grew more and more attached to
my baby and as I started tothink about what kind of life I

(06:06):
wanted my child to have, whattheir childhood to look like, I
started to realize that I wasn'tgoing to be able to go back to
business as usual.
I started to realize that Iwasn't going to be able to go
back to business as usual.
I you know daycares there'ssome really nice ones in our
areas and I toured I'm going tosay at least a dozen, and I
liked some more than others, butI never really felt the right

(06:27):
fit.
I couldn't.
When I thought about it, I justcouldn't picture me going
through the procedures of goingthrough the drop-off line and
dropping my baby off and thisisn't any type of judgment to
anyone that does or anyone whoreally likes their daycare and I
know lots of wonderful momsthat do that.

(06:47):
I also know moms that don'thave a choice but to do that.
But just for us, I did not feellike it was the right fit.
I couldn't see us going throughit.
It really felt like it just wasnot a good match and the long
hours that I had been workingagain, it just didn't align with
the kind of life that I wantedfor my family and it didn't

(07:09):
align with the childhood that Iwanted my baby to have, the
childhood that I wanted my babyto have.
You know, with all the fearsthat I had about finances, about
the impact on career, thebusiness.
I just really shifted into thatslowing down to think about
next steps because it just thecoming back to business as usual
just wasn't going to be anoption and maybe I think all

(07:33):
those insecurities that I hadwere sort of leading up to this
moment to.
You know, maybe deep down mybody knew that it was going to
be a bigger change than I couldhave expected.
I wanted to share a couple ofkey lessons that I learned from
my first maternity leave, and soplanning ahead was really key.
It felt like I was planning inadvance for so long.

(07:54):
I started just when I was pastthe first trimester, but it was
key because I was able to reallyassess each file that I had.
I was able to give clients alot of notice to make the
transition smooth.
So what I tried to do was thatI tried to let clients know what
their deadline was forsubmission, if they wanted to
work with me to submit theirfiles, and then if they didn't,

(08:17):
then I gave them some reallygood options for other lawyers
that could help them and justlet those files go.
And that meant everyone washappy.
And then the other thing is thatI basically after three months
I started to save, save, save asmuch as I could, because I knew
that there was going to be along period of time where I

(08:39):
wasn't going to have a lot ofincome or the income that I was
used to, and so that gave memore option to have more of a
runway to continue.
Because for lawyers and I knowfor many other professions you
still have to pay.
You still have to pay insurance, you still have to pay dues.
For me, being licensed in twojurisdictions, it was about

(09:01):
$10,000 that I had to pay, evenif I wasn't taking any clients.
So it was important to save.
That was another good lessonthat I learned how little I
actually needed, becauseeverything just went for
necessary, expensive.
In my personal life, too, wemade the decision to spend as
little as possible.
My husband and I were bothstarting our businesses.

(09:23):
We didn't take fancy vacations.
We just decided that for now,our priority was going to be
family, and this was moreimportant than a lot of material
things.
I also, with the files that Ihad, was able to submit.
I was still able to keepclients up to speed.
I was able to communicate withgovernment entities, so I still

(09:45):
worked a little bit through mymaternity leave and throughout
the pause in my business and oneor two hours a day was really
manageable, even in the newbornphases, and it gave me a little
bit of routine as well.
The other thing is that, eventhough it was hard, the first
year of a baby's life goes by sofast and I'm starting to

(10:06):
realize childhood too, as I amin my second round right now, as
I recorded this, with my littlenewborn in my arms.
But infancy is still fleetingand I'm so grateful that I
didn't try to multitask and keepgrowing my business through
those moments.
I mean it's I'm amazed whenpeople are able to do that, but

(10:27):
I didn't feel like I could, andI'm glad I didn't try, because I
didn't feel stretched thin.
I really felt like I could bepresent and work is always going
to be there.
New clients are always going tobe there.
You can always rebuild thebusiness, even if it first comes
to us.
You can always get a job, butthose moments your child's
infancy once they're gone,they're gone.

(10:48):
There's no do-overs and they'renot always going to be there.
So where am I now?
I never did go back to full-timework.
I'm a good friend, christinaand I partnered up, and so when
my baby was about nine monthswhich ended up being January of
the next calendar year wepartnered up, we came back
together and we built somethingwe're proud of.

(11:09):
We both work part-time and I'vereally structured my business
and my work around my familythis time, not the other way
around, and while I did thingsdifferently the second time
around, so the second timearound I only took two months
off instead of a year.
I'm still adjusting, I'm stillshifting, I'm still learning
what balance looks like indifferent seasons, and it's been

(11:33):
a whole other adventure, I'mgoing to say, to adjust the
second time around with having atoddler and a baby.
Now, the best part ofeverything is that this journey
has led me to connect with somany other moms that are in the
same path.
They had a different idea ofwhat work might look like before
kids, and then kids come alongand they just have different

(11:56):
plans and it's a whole otherdream.
It doesn't necessarily have tobe the same.
A lot of the time it'sdifferent, and that's what I
want this podcast to be about.
I want to share conversationsabout the many ways that we can
make this work and that moms domake it work.
And so if you're in a season ofwhere you're questioning what
your next step is, wondering ifyou can do both, wondering what

(12:17):
it looks like, wonder how othersdo it I want this podcast to be
there as a resource, because Ireally, really have come to
believe that motherhood isn'tthe end of dreams.
It's just the beginning.
It's just a whole new,different adventure that could
slow us down for a purpose,could slow us down just enough
so that we can realize thatthere's more and that we it

(12:40):
might not look like what you hadpictured, but it doesn't
necessarily have to be a badthing.
It can be the best thing thatever happened to you.
So in future episodes, I'm goingto share a little bit more
about how I structured mybusiness, especially because
this is now the second maternityleave that I've had to navigate
as a business owner, and I'mgoing to be bringing on guests
that have found ways to blendtheir family and work, and I

(13:04):
want to mention that I'm goingto be not just doing people that
are business owners.
I also want people that justfully step back and just decided
to pause, you know, fully for abit, and also people that are
still working on growth, and Iwant this to be a resource where
there's real life examples andreal life strategies that you

(13:24):
can use if you're consideringoptions, if you're not happy
with your current situation, andI can't wait to hear the
stories of so many inspiringmoms that I've met along this
journey.
So make sure you subscribe,share with episode with a fellow
mom who needs thatencouragement, and I'll see you
next time.
That's it for today's episode.

(13:49):
Thank you so much for spendingthis time with me.
I know how precious time is.
I hope you're walking awayfeeling encouraged and inspired
to dream a little bigger aboutwhat's possible for your work
and family life.
If you enjoyed thisconversation, it would mean the
world if you'd share it with afellow mom who needs this
encouragement.

(14:09):
And don't forget to subscribeso you never miss an episode.
I'd love to keep theconversation going.
Connect with me over onLinkedIn.
Emilia Cotto it's spelledE-M-I-L-I-A and let me know what
resonated most with you today.
Until next time.
Remember motherhood isn't theend of your dreams, it's just

(14:32):
the beginning.
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