January 14, 2025 • 22 mins
In this episode of Live Life Unapologetically, Shannon challenges the traditional beliefs about wealth and introduces a powerful shift in perspective: the manifestation universe isn’t a boss measuring your effort; it’s a jackpot overflowing with abundance.
We’ll explore:
- How societal programming shapes your approach to manifesting wealth
- Why treating manifestation like a job limits your potential
- The freedom that comes from aligning with limitless possibilities
You’ll learn:
- How to break free from beliefs that wealth must be earned through hard work
- Practical steps to shift into an abundance mindset
- A visualization exercise to anchor yourself in the energy of overflow
If you’re ready to stop shrinking your desires and start manifesting wealth without guilt, this episode is for you. Plus, don’t forget to subscribe to the Manifest SHE magazine for even more empowering insights and manifesting strategies.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to another episode of the Live Life
Unapologetically podcast.
I am Shannon, and I am so gladyou're here with me today,
because this episode is onethat's going to completely shift
the way you approachmanifesting wealth.
We're talking about why themanifestation universe isn't
your boss, it's your jackpot.
So often we bring societalprogramming into our manifesting
(00:23):
practices, especially when itcomes to money.
We function based on what weknow, our personal experiences
or what we've witnessed inothers.
But the problem is what we knowis often rooted in societal
norms, not limitlesspossibilities.
Manifesting is about being theexception to the rule.
(00:45):
It's about creating your ownreality, free from the rules
that say wealth must be earned,limited or justified.
When you manifest on purpose,you're stepping into a universe
where there are no restrictionson how much wealth you can
attract, how it can come to youor what you can do with it.
(01:06):
Unfortunately, many of us carrybeliefs into the manifesting
process that actually hold usback.
Today, we're going to unpackthose beliefs, confront them
head-on and move away from theordinary to step into the
extraordinary.
So grab your favorite drink,cozy up and let's get started.
(01:26):
I want to first dive into one ofthe biggest ways that societal
programming sneaks into ourmanifesting practices, and
that's that we treat themanifestation universe like it's
our boss.
Think about how jobs work.
You do something and in returnyou're rewarded, usually with a
paycheck.
(01:47):
If you go above and beyond, youmight even get a pat on the
back, a new title or even abonus, but even then the reward
often doesn't match the effort.
This mindset is ingrained in us, and, especially as women.
We've been taught that we haveto earn our wealth through hard
(02:07):
work, like we have to workharder than men to just get the
same recognition or pay.
We have to do above and beyond,beyond beyond to generate that
wealth.
We're also taught that yourvalue comes from what you do for
others.
The more selfless you are andthe more you go out for others,
(02:28):
the more you'll be rewarded inthis life.
So when we approach manifestingas women, we bring this same
energy.
We think if I do this, then theuniverse is going to reward me.
We see the manifestationuniverse as another job, another
system of earning wealth,instead of the infinite source
of abundance that it truly is.
(02:48):
For women, this programmingruns even deeper with societal
expectations, because there'smore put on us than just having
to work more than a man andprove that we're just as good or
better than a man.
We have to do so much more forthat recognition, for that
wealth.
But then there's other thingsthat are placed on our shoulders
as women, like demureness andbeing good.
(03:11):
Oh my God, when the trend wentaround like I'm so demure, I'm
so mindful, it graded my nerves.
I get the trend, but it wasreally triggering because I
definitely was taught to bedemure and mindful of everything
around me.
We're taught to be polite, toput others first, to not ask for
too much, and this spills overinto manifesting, where we feel
(03:34):
guilty for asking for wealth orabundance just for ourselves.
So we have this fear of beingseen as greedy and we shrink our
desires to avoid being labeledas selfish or greedy, a gold
digger, because I want more inthis life.
I'm a gold digger, as if Ican't get that for myself.
Instead of manifesting bigdreams, we ask for small things
(03:58):
that feel acceptable, whetherthat is wealth in just our lives
that we generate, or we ask forthings small, even when it
comes to relationships, becausewe feel we need to compromise.
Oh, you're asking for too much.
No, you're not.
No, you are not.
But that's what we're taught.
We're also taught that weshould ask for what benefits
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others, that we should gothrough this life and the things
that we desire as women shouldactually be benefiting other
people and not ourselves.
We should be prioritizing ourfamilies, our partners and our
community rather thanprioritizing ourself.
And while there's nothing wrongwith generosity y'all know I'm
a giver, I love giving.
It makes me incredibly happythe mindset can sometimes mask a
(04:44):
deeper belief that our owndesires aren't important.
I'm going to give you an example.
I'm a very solitude type person.
I like being alone, but I lovemy family.
I love my spouse, I love mychildren.
I love my grandchildren.
They bring me so much joyspending time with friends.
But I know me and I want to bealone, sometimes four days at a
(05:07):
time.
I would never own that desireof mine because I thought that
made me selfish.
And there's so much rhetoricaround.
Do you really love your kids?
Do you really even want to be aparent?
Oh, women who want to havealone time.
They didn't really want to be amom, or they're not a good mom
or they're putting themselvesbefore their children.
(05:28):
But I just wanted time aloneand I thought well, when my kids
are all grown up, I can go awayand not feel guilty.
Then I became a part of aproject that I helped to do, an
international project, and partof that project was me traveling
without my family and going toanother city, which I love, and
I did and it was phenomenal bymyself.
(05:48):
My kids were still small and itwas for four days a year and it
didn't make or break anything.
It was so hard for me to go thefirst time.
The second time I went it waseven harder because it was over
Mother's Day weekend.
But you know what?
I enjoyed myself.
I loved it.
I found one of my new favoriteplaces to visit.
Oh, the food.
Oh, my gosh.
(06:08):
I would go just for the food,the seafood.
It was so good, so fresh, soyummy.
I love seafood, but we'retaught that that makes us
selfish or that it's too modern.
What's wrong with modern womenthat they want to get away from
their kids and have alone time,or get away from their spouse
and have alone time?
We're really put into theseboxes and women are put into so
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many boxes and we take thoseboxes with us when we go to
manifest.
And that brings me just to oneof the other things, these
mindsets of like, noblesacrifices, like, as women,
we're praised for being selfless, so we believe that when we're
manifesting for others, it'smore noble than manifesting for
our own joy and fulfillment.
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Oh, I want to manifest thismoney so I can give it away to
my children.
I want to manifest this moneyfor my family.
Sure you benefit, but you do itfor them.
I remember going through lifelike in the beginning of my
marriage when my husband waslike what do you want for your
birthday?
What do you want for Christmas?
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And I would always say thingslike oh, we could really use a
new table, we could really usenew pots and pans sets.
And I would name off thingsthat didn't.
They weren't for me, theyweren't gifts for me, they were
gifts that would benefit thewhole family.
How noble of me to ask forsomething that was beneficial
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for everybody and not justmyself.
How selfless, especially backthen in the beginning, when we
really struggled with money andwe were living like paycheck to
paycheck and sometimes belowpaycheck to paycheck.
How noble of it was it of me toask for something that was
practical and useful and that weneeded as a whole, as a family,
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because it never occurred to meback then to receive just for
me.
I recently started to receivejust for me I don't know if you
guys follow me on TikTok Ireally hope it stays around but
I went through a receivingjourney I'm guessing, about a
year ago, because I realizedanytime I received something, I
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felt like I had to share it orgive it away, because that's
what we're taught Noblesacrifices.
How many times have you gottensomething and shared it?
Or how many times have yougotten something and felt weird
about just using it for you Likea gift card or something?
I know I'm not the only one.
I had to go on a receivingjourney and be like I could just
take it, it could be mine, andso now when I make Christmas
lists and things that I want inbirthday lists, I put down what
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do I want?
Last year we rented an Airbnbbecause we don't have a pool in
our backyard.
No-transcript, we really planto get together and like it's a
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whole thing.
I was like she's going to comeover and we're going to be in
the pool and then we're going toeat and we're going to hang out
and do all the things.
So I said, no, you can't comeover, you can't come over my
grown children.
I have one child left at homeand he came later that night to
stay because he's like mom, Idon't want you to stay alone.
My husband just stayed at thehouse because he had work and
you know, all his stuff to getready for work is at the house,
(09:45):
is at the house.
Why are you going to, like, go10 minutes down the street?
Fine by me, that kind of stuffdoesn't bother me.
I had my girls night and I waslike no, I just want my time.
Like I had to tell my adultchildren some who have kids and
some who don't like y'all goingto have to wait your turn.
This is for me, this is my giftto me and I don't want to spend
it.
Love you, but I don't want tospend it running after my
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grandkids or just with a wholebunch of noise, because I do
like quiet.
I'm a quiet person, so I lovewhen things are still and quiet.
That's like my favorite type ofthing.
Right, I'm not a let's turn themusic on and have fun at this
barbecue.
Like no, that's not me.
Like my family does that,that's fine.
That's just not me.
And I wanted some moments ofjust me that were quiet, that
were still, that were justbasking in nature and the sun
and the heat and the water.
But it took me a while to getthere.
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I had to go on a receivingjourney of just being able to
receive gifts.
So first you just need to beable to receive when people give
to you and not feel like youhave to nobly sacrifice and
share.
But you also have to get to aplace where it's okay for me to
just want something for me andit doesn't make you selfish.
But that's what we're taught,that's what's programmed into us
.
So not only are we taught thatwealth has to be earned, I have
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to do something to get something.
Then pile on top of that forwomen being demure, being scared
of seeing as being greedy,asking for things that truly
just benefit others orparticipating in noble
sacrifices, because that's whata good, wonderful woman does.
Fuck that.
It's time to step out of that.
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We talk about living lifeunapologetically.
It means I am not going toapologize for not staying in the
boxes you put me in, you boxedme into this, but I'm not going
to stay there.
I am going to break out and I'mnot going to say I'm sorry that
I fucked up the box on my way.
That is living your lifeunapologetically.
It is okay to once again give,it is okay to participate
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communally, but it's okay to askfor things for yourself.
You don't have to justify thatUnapologetic.
Unapologetic Just say I'm justgoing to do this and I'm not
going to say I'm sorry.
It doesn't mean that you'rebeing an asshole about it.
You're just not saying sorry.
You're not putting conditionson yourself to keep you stuck in
the ordinary.
How far has ordinary got youanyway?
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How much farther could you goif you let go of those things?
The truth is that wealth is notearned.
It's aligned.
The belief that money has tocome from hard work is rooted in
the societal norm that effortequals reward.
But when you look around, thereare countless examples of
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wealth that isn't earned in thetraditional sense, and there's
also countless efforts thatsometimes you can work hard as
shit and it still doesn't payoff to wealth.
Let's look at some examples ofwhere wealth isn't traditionally
earned in the sense of work.
So inheritance is one of them.
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There are people who were borninto wealth.
They did not earn it, theysimply aligned with the
circumstances of receiving it.
They didn't go to their parentsand be like, oh, don't put me
in the will, unless I do this,let me earn it from you.
They didn't do that and theyhave wealth.
And I'm going to piggyback offof this, because what we
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currently see is a lot of menwho have wealth who are abusing
their wealth, who got theirwealth through doing nothing.
They bought a whole bunch ofstuff that they didn't create,
they didn't make, they didn'twork for that shit and they just
expanded their wealth.
And you might say, well, Iwasn't born into an inheritance,
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so I'm behind the ball.
What I'm telling you is that'sjust one example that I want you
to see.
I used to think that.
I used to think, well, I didn'tcome into money or connections,
so it's going to be so muchharder for me Fuck that it can
come from anywhere.
But what I'm trying to show youis you don't have to earn your
wealth.
Elon Musk didn't earn hiswealth.
Donald Trump didn't earn hiswealth.
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Who else is there out there?
These are just big ones thatare all over the news right now.
They didn't earn their wealthand work for it, but they wield
it.
You can have money that youdidn't earn and, as a woman, you
can yield it.
I believe in leaving the world abetter place than I found it.
That is my belief.
Wealth doesn't have to be ugly.
A lot of times we see bigemassed wealth, from Bezos to
Musk to Trump, to all theseother people that do not use
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their wealth responsibly or theyuse it for their own gain while
hurting others in the process,and I think that's where the
idea of a lot of wealth makes meselfish.
It makes me greedy, it makes mea bad person.
But I want you to think ofother people where that's not
the case.
Think about Dolly Parton.
I'm not a huge Dolly Parton fan, but I follow the things that
she does, and the woman iswealthy and does good things.
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You get to choose how you useyour wealth, so you can't think
of wealth and tie it to thisidea that it has to be ugly.
The only way to keep it is tooppress, suppress or do bad
things just because these men doit.
You're a woman anyway.
You're different.
You're built different.
Why would you use your wealthto make the world a better place
, but to also feel good and havethe things that you want?
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I have things I want, I dothings I want and I also give
and do things that make a worldbetter place, because that is
just what I want to do.
Maybe it's the old Girl Scoutin me that says you always leave
a place better than when youfound it, meaning you know, you
pick up the litter and do allthat.
That really stuck with me.
It resonated with me that weshould leave the world a better
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place than what we found it, abetter place than what we found
it.
I do believe that we shouldhonor Mother Nature and the
earth and love on her and leaveher better than when we found it
and not use and abuse her.
And we can use wealth to do it.
Another way that we don't earnwealth is investments, you know,
passive income from stocks andreal estate and businesses that
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aren't tied to a nine to fivegrind.
I see so many women going intotrying to make their own
businesses and they're bringingthat nine to five grind idea.
I want to manifest a beautiful,wonderful business, but I think
I have to do it the way theworkforce does it, even though I
left the workforce because Ihate the way they do it.
But I'm going to bring thatsame energy and try to manifest
a business.
Do you see how we like bring inthese ideas into our
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manifestation process?
Then there's unexpected gifts.
That's another way, that's nota traditional way of like
earning money.
Like, how many times have youheard of someone receiving an
unexpected windfall, the lottery, a financial gift, something
they just didn't know was coming?
And these are just examples,because I told you last week I
didn't want to tell you where myfive figures a month comes from
because I don't want to thengive you something else to latch
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on to.
That's going to limit you.
Like wealth can come frominheritance or investments or
unexpected gifts.
It can come from work.
These are just things that weknow, but the universe is
unlimited.
It can come from so many things.
I told you the example how Igot this weird check in the mail
from a business that I had donebusiness with and they owed me
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money.
Like just one example.
Money can come from anywhere,but when we go to manifest, we
act like it has to come fromhard work.
Oh, I am going to go start abusiness once again and manifest
.
I work with so many women whoown businesses and they are
working from the time they wakeup to the time they go to bed
because society has given you afear of missing out program that
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you have to grind so hard justto get a little bit ahead.
And once you finally get to acertain place, then you can back
up and be fine and work, youknow, for a couple hours a day,
four days a week.
But in the very beginning youhave to exhaust yourself.
First of all, exhaustion is thedeath of creativity.
You cannot create a beautifulbusiness in exhaustion.
Manifesting money has to bepivoted in a different way.
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I always say how you start yourbusiness and build it is how
you have to maintain it,whatever mindset you take with
that business and the work youput in.
However you do it, you have totake that with you the whole
time, because if you try toadjust later, you're going to go
down before you go back up.
So just start it how you wantit.
Don't box yourself in.
Wealth is not earned.
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There are examples of peopleout there who are so wealthy who
did not earn it.
I want you to open your mindthat it doesn't just have to be
an inheritance.
You can have investment, youcan have unexpected gifts.
I want you to open your mindthat it doesn't just have to be
an inheritance.
You can have investment.
You can have unexpected gifts.
I like the unexpected giftspart the most.
What do you have for me?
Universe?
Because the universe truly isyour jackpot.
It is overflowing with anendless supply of wealth.
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There isn't a limited amount ofwealth and you have to hurry
and get it before someone elsedoes or it's going to run out.
It's endless, it is there.
We remove blocks and we stepinto it and we just go and take
what the hell we want.
As a grandparent, I have aspecial place in my pantry full
of snacks that I get for mygrandbabies and it's always
there for them.
They can just go take whateverthey want.
I put all of their favoritethings in there.
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When it gets low, I don't say,well, you ran it out.
I go restock it because it'sendless and limitless to them.
That is the universe.
To you it is a jackpot.
Manifestation.
Universe is not your job,measuring your output.
When you treat it like a job,you are limiting yourself to
what you can have earn manifestin your life.
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But when you see it as ajackpot, you open yourself up to
receiving wealth in limitlessand unexpected ways.
So if you're ready to starttreating the universe like your
jackpot instead of your boss.
Here's how you're going to shiftto that mindset.
You're going to ask yourself doI believe I have to earn my
wealth or do I feel guilty forasking for money for myself?
Write down any of the beliefsthat come up.
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Then you're going to replacethem with empowering beliefs.
Wealth flows to me effortlesslyand consistently.
The universe supports me in allthe ways I desire.
I am worthy of abundance simplybecause I exist, and you're
going to detach from the how.
Stop trying to control whereyour wealth comes from.
Trust that the universe has aninfinite way to deliver
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abundance to you Instead offocusing on effort, focus on
alignment, and you're going tovisualize your jackpot.
I want you to close your eyesand imagine an endless stream of
wealth flowing to you.
Feel the excitement, joy andease that comes with it.
Repeat this visualization dailyto anchor yourself in the
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energy of abundance.
For me, my visualization lookslike money just swirling around
me like a money tornado, and I'mstanding right in the middle of
it and it's all just rightthere for me, falling at my feet
.
What does that look like to you?
Give yourself permission todream big.
Stop shrinking your desires.
Allow yourself to ask for morewithout guilt or justification,
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and I want you to remember thatthe universe is limitless and
your desires don't take awayfrom anyone else.
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It is packed with practicaltips, empowering insight,
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(20:52):
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This is a free monthly magazinedelivered straight to your
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The link to the magazine isgoing to be in the show
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vision and create a life ofcontinual abundance.
I want you to remember, as weclose out today, that the
manifestation universe isn't aboss evaluating your worth.
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It's a jackpot, an endlesssource of abundance that's
always available to you.
So stop shrinking your desires.
Dream big, align with joy andlet the wealth flow.
I know you've got this and Iwill chat with you next week.
Welcome back to another episode of the Live Life
Unapologetically podcast.
I am Shannon, and I am so gladyou're here with me today,
because this episode is onethat's going to completely shift
the way you approachmanifesting wealth.
We're talking about why themanifestation universe isn't
your boss, it's your jackpot.
So often we bring societalprogramming into our manifesting
(00:23):
practices, especially when itcomes to money.
We function based on what weknow, our personal experiences
or what we've witnessed inothers.
But the problem is what we knowis often rooted in societal
norms, not limitlesspossibilities.
Manifesting is about being theexception to the rule.
(00:45):
It's about creating your ownreality, free from the rules
that say wealth must be earned,limited or justified.
When you manifest on purpose,you're stepping into a universe
where there are no restrictionson how much wealth you can
attract, how it can come to youor what you can do with it.
(01:06):
Unfortunately, many of us carrybeliefs into the manifesting
process that actually hold usback.
Today, we're going to unpackthose beliefs, confront them
head-on and move away from theordinary to step into the
extraordinary.
So grab your favorite drink,cozy up and let's get started.
(01:26):
I want to first dive into one ofthe biggest ways that societal
programming sneaks into ourmanifesting practices, and
that's that we treat themanifestation universe like it's
our boss.
Think about how jobs work.
You do something and in returnyou're rewarded, usually with a
paycheck.
(01:47):
If you go above and beyond, youmight even get a pat on the
back, a new title or even abonus, but even then the reward
often doesn't match the effort.
This mindset is ingrained in us, and, especially as women.
We've been taught that we haveto earn our wealth through hard
(02:07):
work, like we have to workharder than men to just get the
same recognition or pay.
We have to do above and beyond,beyond beyond to generate that
wealth.
We're also taught that yourvalue comes from what you do for
others.
The more selfless you are andthe more you go out for others,
(02:28):
the more you'll be rewarded inthis life.
So when we approach manifestingas women, we bring this same
energy.
We think if I do this, then theuniverse is going to reward me.
We see the manifestationuniverse as another job, another
system of earning wealth,instead of the infinite source
of abundance that it truly is.
(02:48):
For women, this programmingruns even deeper with societal
expectations, because there'smore put on us than just having
to work more than a man andprove that we're just as good or
better than a man.
We have to do so much more forthat recognition, for that
wealth.
But then there's other thingsthat are placed on our shoulders
as women, like demureness andbeing good.
(03:11):
Oh my God, when the trend wentaround like I'm so demure, I'm
so mindful, it graded my nerves.
I get the trend, but it wasreally triggering because I
definitely was taught to bedemure and mindful of everything
around me.
We're taught to be polite, toput others first, to not ask for
too much, and this spills overinto manifesting, where we feel
(03:34):
guilty for asking for wealth orabundance just for ourselves.
So we have this fear of beingseen as greedy and we shrink our
desires to avoid being labeledas selfish or greedy, a gold
digger, because I want more inthis life.
I'm a gold digger, as if Ican't get that for myself.
Instead of manifesting bigdreams, we ask for small things
(03:58):
that feel acceptable, whetherthat is wealth in just our lives
that we generate, or we ask forthings small, even when it
comes to relationships, becausewe feel we need to compromise.
Oh, you're asking for too much.
No, you're not.
No, you are not.
But that's what we're taught.
We're also taught that weshould ask for what benefits
(04:19):
others, that we should gothrough this life and the things
that we desire as women shouldactually be benefiting other
people and not ourselves.
We should be prioritizing ourfamilies, our partners and our
community rather thanprioritizing ourself.
And while there's nothing wrongwith generosity y'all know I'm
a giver, I love giving.
It makes me incredibly happythe mindset can sometimes mask a
(04:44):
deeper belief that our owndesires aren't important.
I'm going to give you an example.
I'm a very solitude type person.
I like being alone, but I lovemy family.
I love my spouse, I love mychildren.
I love my grandchildren.
They bring me so much joyspending time with friends.
But I know me and I want to bealone, sometimes four days at a
(05:07):
time.
I would never own that desireof mine because I thought that
made me selfish.
And there's so much rhetoricaround.
Do you really love your kids?
Do you really even want to be aparent?
Oh, women who want to havealone time.
They didn't really want to be amom, or they're not a good mom
or they're putting themselvesbefore their children.
(05:28):
But I just wanted time aloneand I thought well, when my kids
are all grown up, I can go awayand not feel guilty.
Then I became a part of aproject that I helped to do, an
international project, and partof that project was me traveling
without my family and going toanother city, which I love, and
I did and it was phenomenal bymyself.
(05:48):
My kids were still small and itwas for four days a year and it
didn't make or break anything.
It was so hard for me to go thefirst time.
The second time I went it waseven harder because it was over
Mother's Day weekend.
But you know what?
I enjoyed myself.
I loved it.
I found one of my new favoriteplaces to visit.
Oh, the food.
Oh, my gosh.
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I would go just for the food,the seafood.
It was so good, so fresh, soyummy.
I love seafood, but we'retaught that that makes us
selfish or that it's too modern.
What's wrong with modern womenthat they want to get away from
their kids and have alone time,or get away from their spouse
and have alone time?
We're really put into theseboxes and women are put into so
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many boxes and we take thoseboxes with us when we go to
manifest.
And that brings me just to oneof the other things, these
mindsets of like, noblesacrifices, like, as women,
we're praised for being selfless, so we believe that when we're
manifesting for others, it'smore noble than manifesting for
our own joy and fulfillment.
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Oh, I want to manifest thismoney so I can give it away to
my children.
I want to manifest this moneyfor my family.
Sure you benefit, but you do itfor them.
I remember going through lifelike in the beginning of my
marriage when my husband waslike what do you want for your
birthday?
What do you want for Christmas?
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And I would always say thingslike oh, we could really use a
new table, we could really usenew pots and pans sets.
And I would name off thingsthat didn't.
They weren't for me, theyweren't gifts for me, they were
gifts that would benefit thewhole family.
How noble of me to ask forsomething that was beneficial
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for everybody and not justmyself.
How selfless, especially backthen in the beginning, when we
really struggled with money andwe were living like paycheck to
paycheck and sometimes belowpaycheck to paycheck.
How noble of it was it of me toask for something that was
practical and useful and that weneeded as a whole, as a family,
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because it never occurred to meback then to receive just for
me.
I recently started to receivejust for me I don't know if you
guys follow me on TikTok Ireally hope it stays around but
I went through a receivingjourney I'm guessing, about a
year ago, because I realizedanytime I received something, I
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felt like I had to share it orgive it away, because that's
what we're taught Noblesacrifices.
How many times have you gottensomething and shared it?
Or how many times have yougotten something and felt weird
about just using it for you Likea gift card or something?
I know I'm not the only one.
I had to go on a receivingjourney and be like I could just
take it, it could be mine, andso now when I make Christmas
lists and things that I want inbirthday lists, I put down what
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do I want?
Last year we rented an Airbnbbecause we don't have a pool in
our backyard.
No-transcript, we really planto get together and like it's a
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whole thing.
I was like she's going to comeover and we're going to be in
the pool and then we're going toeat and we're going to hang out
and do all the things.
So I said, no, you can't comeover, you can't come over my
grown children.
I have one child left at homeand he came later that night to
stay because he's like mom, Idon't want you to stay alone.
My husband just stayed at thehouse because he had work and
you know, all his stuff to getready for work is at the house,
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is at the house.
Why are you going to, like, go10 minutes down the street?
Fine by me, that kind of stuffdoesn't bother me.
I had my girls night and I waslike no, I just want my time.
Like I had to tell my adultchildren some who have kids and
some who don't like y'all goingto have to wait your turn.
This is for me, this is my giftto me and I don't want to spend
it.
Love you, but I don't want tospend it running after my
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grandkids or just with a wholebunch of noise, because I do
like quiet.
I'm a quiet person, so I lovewhen things are still and quiet.
That's like my favorite type ofthing.
Right, I'm not a let's turn themusic on and have fun at this
barbecue.
Like no, that's not me.
Like my family does that,that's fine.
That's just not me.
And I wanted some moments ofjust me that were quiet, that
were still, that were justbasking in nature and the sun
and the heat and the water.
But it took me a while to getthere.
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I had to go on a receivingjourney of just being able to
receive gifts.
So first you just need to beable to receive when people give
to you and not feel like youhave to nobly sacrifice and
share.
But you also have to get to aplace where it's okay for me to
just want something for me andit doesn't make you selfish.
But that's what we're taught,that's what's programmed into us
.
So not only are we taught thatwealth has to be earned, I have
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to do something to get something.
Then pile on top of that forwomen being demure, being scared
of seeing as being greedy,asking for things that truly
just benefit others orparticipating in noble
sacrifices, because that's whata good, wonderful woman does.
Fuck that.
It's time to step out of that.
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We talk about living lifeunapologetically.
It means I am not going toapologize for not staying in the
boxes you put me in, you boxedme into this, but I'm not going
to stay there.
I am going to break out and I'mnot going to say I'm sorry that
I fucked up the box on my way.
That is living your lifeunapologetically.
It is okay to once again give,it is okay to participate
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communally, but it's okay to askfor things for yourself.
You don't have to justify thatUnapologetic.
Unapologetic Just say I'm justgoing to do this and I'm not
going to say I'm sorry.
It doesn't mean that you'rebeing an asshole about it.
You're just not saying sorry.
You're not putting conditionson yourself to keep you stuck in
the ordinary.
How far has ordinary got youanyway?
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How much farther could you goif you let go of those things?
The truth is that wealth is notearned.
It's aligned.
The belief that money has tocome from hard work is rooted in
the societal norm that effortequals reward.
But when you look around, thereare countless examples of
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wealth that isn't earned in thetraditional sense, and there's
also countless efforts thatsometimes you can work hard as
shit and it still doesn't payoff to wealth.
Let's look at some examples ofwhere wealth isn't traditionally
earned in the sense of work.
So inheritance is one of them.
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There are people who were borninto wealth.
They did not earn it, theysimply aligned with the
circumstances of receiving it.
They didn't go to their parentsand be like, oh, don't put me
in the will, unless I do this,let me earn it from you.
They didn't do that and theyhave wealth.
And I'm going to piggyback offof this, because what we
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currently see is a lot of menwho have wealth who are abusing
their wealth, who got theirwealth through doing nothing.
They bought a whole bunch ofstuff that they didn't create,
they didn't make, they didn'twork for that shit and they just
expanded their wealth.
And you might say, well, Iwasn't born into an inheritance,
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so I'm behind the ball.
What I'm telling you is that'sjust one example that I want you
to see.
I used to think that.
I used to think, well, I didn'tcome into money or connections,
so it's going to be so muchharder for me Fuck that it can
come from anywhere.
But what I'm trying to show youis you don't have to earn your
wealth.
Elon Musk didn't earn hiswealth.
Donald Trump didn't earn hiswealth.
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Who else is there out there?
These are just big ones thatare all over the news right now.
They didn't earn their wealthand work for it, but they wield
it.
You can have money that youdidn't earn and, as a woman, you
can yield it.
I believe in leaving the world abetter place than I found it.
That is my belief.
Wealth doesn't have to be ugly.
A lot of times we see bigemassed wealth, from Bezos to
Musk to Trump, to all theseother people that do not use
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their wealth responsibly or theyuse it for their own gain while
hurting others in the process,and I think that's where the
idea of a lot of wealth makes meselfish.
It makes me greedy, it makes mea bad person.
But I want you to think ofother people where that's not
the case.
Think about Dolly Parton.
I'm not a huge Dolly Parton fan, but I follow the things that
she does, and the woman iswealthy and does good things.
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You get to choose how you useyour wealth, so you can't think
of wealth and tie it to thisidea that it has to be ugly.
The only way to keep it is tooppress, suppress or do bad
things just because these men doit.
You're a woman anyway.
You're different.
You're built different.
Why would you use your wealthto make the world a better place
, but to also feel good and havethe things that you want?
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I have things I want, I dothings I want and I also give
and do things that make a worldbetter place, because that is
just what I want to do.
Maybe it's the old Girl Scoutin me that says you always leave
a place better than when youfound it, meaning you know, you
pick up the litter and do allthat.
That really stuck with me.
It resonated with me that weshould leave the world a better
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place than what we found it, abetter place than what we found
it.
I do believe that we shouldhonor Mother Nature and the
earth and love on her and leaveher better than when we found it
and not use and abuse her.
And we can use wealth to do it.
Another way that we don't earnwealth is investments, you know,
passive income from stocks andreal estate and businesses that
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aren't tied to a nine to fivegrind.
I see so many women going intotrying to make their own
businesses and they're bringingthat nine to five grind idea.
I want to manifest a beautiful,wonderful business, but I think
I have to do it the way theworkforce does it, even though I
left the workforce because Ihate the way they do it.
But I'm going to bring thatsame energy and try to manifest
a business.
Do you see how we like bring inthese ideas into our
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manifestation process?
Then there's unexpected gifts.
That's another way, that's nota traditional way of like
earning money.
Like, how many times have youheard of someone receiving an
unexpected windfall, the lottery, a financial gift, something
they just didn't know was coming?
And these are just examples,because I told you last week I
didn't want to tell you where myfive figures a month comes from
because I don't want to thengive you something else to latch
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on to.
That's going to limit you.
Like wealth can come frominheritance or investments or
unexpected gifts.
It can come from work.
These are just things that weknow, but the universe is
unlimited.
It can come from so many things.
I told you the example how Igot this weird check in the mail
from a business that I had donebusiness with and they owed me
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money.
Like just one example.
Money can come from anywhere,but when we go to manifest, we
act like it has to come fromhard work.
Oh, I am going to go start abusiness once again and manifest
.
I work with so many women whoown businesses and they are
working from the time they wakeup to the time they go to bed
because society has given you afear of missing out program that
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you have to grind so hard justto get a little bit ahead.
And once you finally get to acertain place, then you can back
up and be fine and work, youknow, for a couple hours a day,
four days a week.
But in the very beginning youhave to exhaust yourself.
First of all, exhaustion is thedeath of creativity.
You cannot create a beautifulbusiness in exhaustion.
Manifesting money has to bepivoted in a different way.
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I always say how you start yourbusiness and build it is how
you have to maintain it,whatever mindset you take with
that business and the work youput in.
However you do it, you have totake that with you the whole
time, because if you try toadjust later, you're going to go
down before you go back up.
So just start it how you wantit.
Don't box yourself in.
Wealth is not earned.
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There are examples of peopleout there who are so wealthy who
did not earn it.
I want you to open your mindthat it doesn't just have to be
an inheritance.
You can have investment, youcan have unexpected gifts.
I want you to open your mindthat it doesn't just have to be
an inheritance.
You can have investment.
You can have unexpected gifts.
I like the unexpected giftspart the most.
What do you have for me?
Universe?
Because the universe truly isyour jackpot.
It is overflowing with anendless supply of wealth.
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There isn't a limited amount ofwealth and you have to hurry
and get it before someone elsedoes or it's going to run out.
It's endless, it is there.
We remove blocks and we stepinto it and we just go and take
what the hell we want.
As a grandparent, I have aspecial place in my pantry full
of snacks that I get for mygrandbabies and it's always
there for them.
They can just go take whateverthey want.
I put all of their favoritethings in there.
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When it gets low, I don't say,well, you ran it out.
I go restock it because it'sendless and limitless to them.
That is the universe.
To you it is a jackpot.
Manifestation.
Universe is not your job,measuring your output.
When you treat it like a job,you are limiting yourself to
what you can have earn manifestin your life.
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But when you see it as ajackpot, you open yourself up to
receiving wealth in limitlessand unexpected ways.
So if you're ready to starttreating the universe like your
jackpot instead of your boss.
Here's how you're going to shiftto that mindset.
You're going to ask yourself doI believe I have to earn my
wealth or do I feel guilty forasking for money for myself?
Write down any of the beliefsthat come up.
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Then you're going to replacethem with empowering beliefs.
Wealth flows to me effortlesslyand consistently.
The universe supports me in allthe ways I desire.
I am worthy of abundance simplybecause I exist, and you're
going to detach from the how.
Stop trying to control whereyour wealth comes from.
Trust that the universe has aninfinite way to deliver
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abundance to you Instead offocusing on effort, focus on
alignment, and you're going tovisualize your jackpot.
I want you to close your eyesand imagine an endless stream of
wealth flowing to you.
Feel the excitement, joy andease that comes with it.
Repeat this visualization dailyto anchor yourself in the
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energy of abundance.
For me, my visualization lookslike money just swirling around
me like a money tornado, and I'mstanding right in the middle of
it and it's all just rightthere for me, falling at my feet
.
What does that look like to you?
Give yourself permission todream big.
Stop shrinking your desires.
Allow yourself to ask for morewithout guilt or justification,
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and I want you to remember thatthe universe is limitless and
your desires don't take awayfrom anyone else.
If you're looking for even moreguidance and inspiration, make
sure you are subscribed to theManifest she magazine.
It is packed with practicaltips, empowering insight,
manifesting strategies to helpyou unlock your limitless
potential.
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This is a free monthly magazinedelivered straight to your
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The link to the magazine isgoing to be in the show
description, so that you canalign your energy, expand your
vision and create a life ofcontinual abundance.
I want you to remember, as weclose out today, that the
manifestation universe isn't aboss evaluating your worth.
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It's a jackpot, an endlesssource of abundance that's
always available to you.
So stop shrinking your desires.
Dream big, align with joy andlet the wealth flow.
I know you've got this and Iwill chat with you next week.
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