October 30, 2023 • 45 mins
Do you know your worth? Ask yourself that question in all honesty. Do you know deep down what you are worth to the world, or are you letting outside sources determine that for you?
- Parents
- A Boss
- A Title
- Money
- Social Media
All of these things can make us feel more or less worthy of being called “great”. But what we need to find is self validation through self respect and not letting others take us for granted.
Heath talks about his recent bouts with not feeling appreciated in all of the work he does, and how he moved past it all by saying F@#$ IT to all of the ungrateful ones out there who just expect kindness and service as a norm out of those who are givers.
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(00:13):
When you change the way you lookat things, the things you look
at change. What exists?
Reality itself is gorgeous. It is the plenum, the fullness
of total joy. The universe isn't celebrating.
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It's a power show. To celebrate that existence is.
Why are we, for those of us seeking a life of meaning and
purpose, capturing fulfillment in every moment of now, seeking
the truth of our reality so we can live this life to its
fullest? This is the Live This Life
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podcast and I'm your host and Cummings.
I'm here to inspire you to ask yourself the question every day.
Are you living part killing time?
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What's going on everybody? This episode is going to be
speaking to the people pleasers out there.
You know, the ones who are are living a service to others kind
of life rather than any service to self kind of modality, you
know, And spiritually that tellsus it is the higher path, you
know, specifically that comes from concepts from material like
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the the Law of 1 material, the raw material.
And if you're not familiar with those things, that's a huge
rabbit hole. I'm not going to dive down in
this episode. We'll definitely dive into that
in the future episode. But you know, it definitely has
sort of a righteousness to it for sure that service to others
rather than a service to self. You have that that great
modality where you're going downthe road of serving people in
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the world rather than being selfish and serving yourself.
But like everything else in the universe, like everything else
in our lives, it needs to be in balance.
And right now. In today's episode, I want to
specifically talk to those people who have too much of A
balance in their service to others versus their service to
self, giving things back to themselves in their lives to
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find their own life enjoyment. You know, and specifically, I
want to talk to the people who are constantly finding their
value in what other people thinkof them and what they get their
worth from. You know, they get their worth
from doing so much for the worldand doing things for other
people and get their worth out of what those people think of
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them and how much of those people appreciate what they're
doing and seeking their praise and approval because it can that
can in itself lead to unhealthy places.
And if you're one of those people, this one's for you.
And if you are one of those people, I want to say this
directly to you right now. I want to say stop.
I want you to stop all of that service right now.
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I want you to stop all of that doing right now until we dig
down a little bit. I want you to uncover what all
of those pitfalls are in that modality of thinking, that
service to others type of life and the things that you'll
inevitably come across when you dedicate yourselves to a service
to others kind of life and that's it.
And you let that service to others tip the scales too far in
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the direction of all of your motivation in life.
The goal in our life should be striving for balance in
everything, you know, we have tohave the balance of polarities
like the yin and Yang, like so much of the Hermetic Principles,
so much of the principles of theLaws of the Universe talk about
all the time. It's all based on polarity, it's
all based on balance, and it's really one of the main themes of
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the Caballion as well. I'm diving deep into that one
myself. I actually have it right here.
We're packing up, leaving for vacation, and I'm bringing that
along with me because I bought it on my last trip and it's an
amazing book and it's really helped me find exactly where I
I'm lacking in certain things and how to get back to those
things. And that's what I want to do.
That's my motivation in this, because that's helped uncover a
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whole pile of stuff that I didn't actually realize I was
going through. But it is an inevitable
circumstance of the type of service to others lifestyle that
we can get, you know? And while both the service to
self and the service to others independently have their place
in this world, sometimes it's very easy to swing too far in
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either direction and it can become a drastic imbalance in
your life and leaning very heavily on the service to others
like I've done recently, I want you to to stop, really.
If you're one of those people, Iwant you to stop and think of
one of the biggest things that you do in your life to serve
others right now. And I want you to ask yourself,
why am I doing that? Why am I doing this service for
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others? What is the reason why I'm doing
it? Who am I doing it for?
What is my why? Why am I doing this for them?
Because even if for those of us who live service to others type
of lifestyle, you need to figureout why you're doing those
things. Because if you're doing it for
all the wrong reasons and you let it drag yourself into a
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drastic imbalance, it's extremely easy to keep on
letting it go in that direction.The motivation will keep on
going that way and it's Jordan going to drag you so far away
from what your life enjoyment isin your life's priorities could
and should be that you're gonna you're very easily going to lose
touch with your own wants and needs, and then you're going to
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sort of start to resent the others that you're doing it for
because you've lost yourself in the process.
You don't, Basically. We lose touch with what our own
goals are as well. We basically let other people
set the goals for us. We let our own selves get eroded
away in that process because we're so focused on the other
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people and the goals that we feel like we have to set for
them that we lose everything about us.
We let that us and that motivation to bring the
happiness into our own lives of the things that genuinely going
to make us happy. We let it get eroded away, you
know, and it surrounds us like like a like a sandstorm really.
We become so preoccupied with what everybody else wants and
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what everybody else needs that we forget what it is that we
want and need. We lose ourselves, We lose our
dreams. We lose our aspirations and the
things that we want for the sakeof other people and the things
that other people couldn't do for us to help us out in the
desires for our life. We aren't even focused on that.
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We don't even reach out to thosepeople because we are so busy
giving that we're never in a state of receiving.
We let those little grains of sand, of that sandstorm of the
world erode away our truest selfand who we are deep down because
we've moved so far away from it.We don't even know who we are
anymore because we're so busy serving others.
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That place where our passions lie, our dreams lie, all those
things that ultimately when we get to those places in
accomplishing our own goals, we never find it.
We can't even dream of it because we're so busy being
somewhere else. We lose basically the true core
of our being. We essentially lose who we are.
We come lost in the priorities of others.
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We we ultimately wrap ourselves up so much in what they might
feel about us if we fail to serve them in a certain way.
And they're what we think is their expectations, what their
expectations might really be that we end up devoid of the
fire and passion of everything that we need to propel us in so
many different directions of ourlife, the things that we truly
desire. And I'm, I'm talking about the
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changes that we actually want aswell in the midst of all this.
That's the thing I guess I had to find out the most of in this
lesson. Of course, you guys know that
things I talk about, things in the podcast that are usually
bubbling up for me. So this is something that I
think has gone really far between the podcast, my
political stuff, doing things for my family, that it's bubbled
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up as a huge priority in my lifebecause I had a bit of
discontent. So you can tell I'm kind of, I'm
a little bit angsty and fired upabout this one, just because
it's something I've moved through during this time period,
this basically the summer of 2023.
I've moved through in that and that's why I'm motivated to get
it to other people. Because I have a lot of people
in my circle who are really in that service to others.
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And a lot of the people who haveconnected with me through the
podcast who seek my advice on certain things, They're very
much wanting to help the world in in find purpose in serving
others. And I'm here to say like, that's
a great and noble concept and it's a great righteous place to
be. But we got to make sure we don't
lose ourselves in the process. We need to stay in touch with
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all the things that are going tobring us genuine happiness and
life satisfaction and well and as well.
And that's the stuff that we want.
That's the stuff that we need. It's so common for us to forget
who we are in this entire process of serving others and
wanting to get out there and do things for the world that I want
to make sure you slow things down and you balance things out
and you make sure that you stay aware of where you are in the
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entire process so you don't go too far out of balance.
You know? And as again, like I said, I'm,
I'm here as someone who has lostthemselves in the process many,
many times. And it's kind of disappointing
sometimes when you go through the same lessons over and over.
But that's the reason why you gothrough those lessons over and
over. You know, you go through a
lesson and then life throws you a test at some point down the
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road to see if you actually learn the lesson, just like you
would in school, college or anything.
And if you don't pass the test, you're going to have to take the
test again, you know, and you may have to take the test many
times over. And here I am doing the same
thing, ending up in the same result.
I didn't. I guess I got a better grade
this time around than I did in the last few times.
But yeah, ultimately we need to go through these tests over and
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over with and try and make sure that if we do have those
backslides, they're a little less than they were the time
for. And I'm here to help you on the
backside of my backslide to let you all know that you need to
know your worth. You need to know exactly what
you're worth and never lose that.
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And that's where we're gonna jump off in today's episode.
But before we do, I wanna read areview that came in actually a
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The the review actually says thefive star review and it says
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Highly recommended. So thank you so much, mentor SC
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So I wanna breakthrough in this episode with one of my favorite
quotes from one of my favorite movies.
It's Rocky Balboa. Or like the 6th Rocky movie I
think it was, but I'll play thisone Let.
Me tell you something you already know?
The world ain't all sunshine andrainbows.
It's a very mean and nasty placeand I don't care how tough you
are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there
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permanently if you let it. You, me or nobody is going to
hit as hard as life, but it ain't about how hard you hit.
It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.
How much you can take and keep moving forward.
That's how weird it is done. Now, if you know what you're
worth, then go out and get what you're worth.
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But you got to be willing to take the hits and not pointing
fingers say you ain't where you want to be because of him or her
or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't
you. You're better than that.
And that's what's bubbled up forme in my life, you know, It's
bubbled up for me in the last few weeks especially because
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I've genuinely poured myself outinto the world in the last few
years, you know, I've poured myself out into my full time
job, making the place that I'm at a better place in any way
that I possibly can for the limited amount of time that I'm
going to be there in the next few years.
You know, I've, I've got some grand plans to move on and on
the bigger ventures. But I know that I was put there
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for a reason. And I need to do everything I
can to make the place as good asI can.
And I'm doing the same thing with my town, to do everything I
can in my my elected position totry and make things better in
any way I possibly can in a genuine way.
And you know I'm trying the bestto enhance my family's life as
well beyond what I feel like I've seen out of most men as a
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husband and a father. I have to say there's there's
been points where I feel genuinely taken advantage of in
in one of those many aspects of my life that I've put a lot of
dedication and effort towards things.
And I feel like it's just kind of been the expectation now.
And I know a lot of people who go into a service to others type
of thing that it's become the expectation when you start
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pouring yourself into the world,they just expect you to
constantly pour into them. And especially for high
achievers, you know, you're not just giving 8090 a 100%, you're
giving 110, you're giving far more than what anybody else is
really expected to do and is probably even capable of doing.
And I feel like sometimes that then becomes the rule.
You know you're the person who gives the 110 all the time and
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now that's the expectation. That's now where the bar is set
and anything less than that people are going to basically be
like what's going on what are you doing?
Like this isn't your this isn't your normal efforts Heath.
You know it's it's it's good it's probably better than most
people maybe that what they would do in your position but
it's not absolutely perfect. It's not the highest level of
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stuff that you're usually used to putting out.
So you know that's what you're known for and why aren't you
there and people start to take advantage of that.
They kind of say like why aren'tyou doing what you normally do.
It's it's usually perfect and you're doing so much stuff and
where have you been? What have you been doing And
I've unplugged lately I've I've not been around for some of my
other ventures. I'm turning my attention more
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towards this podcast and my family.
It's a a couple things that havebeen really neglected over the
last few years. I know you guys have seen that
I've not got episodes out, sometimes 2-3 weeks at a time.
And you know, it was a huge stretch when I was redoing the
the studio and revamping everything this past year.
But things go few and far between, 'cause I take on too
much stuff. And I'm trying to learn from
that lesson to back things off alittle bit.
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And when I haven't been around and I've backed off on some of
those other things, still putting in great amounts of
attention and energy. But then this attitude comes
from people basically, you know,saying, wait, this isn't, this
isn't you. Where have you been?
What are you doing? It's it's become basically, you
know, expectation. And sometimes this can come from
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individuals. It can come collectively from a
place, you know, that makes up the atmosphere.
Everybody all put together kind of can create the same type of
atmosphere. And I feel like it's been from
individuals, it's been from people in certain atmospheres of
places. And I've noticed that those
individuals and some of those people who collectively make up
the atmosphere of a place, they're the takers.
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They're the ones who don't really contribute much to the
world themselves. I feel like the the people who
have that criticism are often the ones who will take and take
and take and not do anything forthe world themselves.
They don't. They don't stand up.
They don't stand out. They wait for other people to do
all the work, but they expect the work in return from all of
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the givers out there like you and me.
And you know, in in talking to other people who are in sort of
the same headspace, the the motivated people out there, the
go getters, the doers. They're the ones who are out
there trying to make the world agenuinely better place.
And I I've found similar sentiments when I've tried to
voice this in some some circles of friends and and people who
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know what I'm talking about. They say, yeah, there are people
out there who would just genuinely just take and take and
take and they will. They will take from your plate.
They will take from anything you're willing to give them.
But they won't give anything back to the world, and they
don't even give back to themselves, which is the crazy
part. You know, they'll take your free
advice. They will do all sorts of stuff
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that they will benefit from other people and not have to
spend a dime themselves. They won't have to put in any
effort. They'll just constantly take.
And then when that shifts, when they don't get out of other
people what they're expecting, they didn't turn into critics.
It's it's kind of a strange phenomenon, you know, It's the
ones who contribute the least who will criticize the most, and
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they criticize the people who will go the extra mile.
They criticize the people who are willing to do the most.
And it's it's. Mind boggling to me, to the
point where it starts to drag you down as well.
But I mean, there's not much that you can do about those
people. You don't have the control over
what other people think and whatother people value, and that
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includes you. You don't have control over how
much they value you. There may be nothing in this
world that you could do to make those people value you more.
You can't in some cases do more than what you're doing.
And it's still not enough. And it's crazy because it's
like, man, I didn't have to do any of it, you know, I didn't
have to do any of the stuff thatI have done over the years to be
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the top in my field, to do XY and Z.
That's a head and head and shoulders above what other
people do. They don't have to fucking do
any of it. And there those people are being
the critic. It just baffles my mind that
it's something that just exists and I'm going to get off my
negative rate in here because I'm.
I'm trying to make a point and and you know, bring everybody up
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to a higher level. But yeah, you can obviously tell
there was some angst and stuff like that over some things that
have happened lately. So you know, I want to make sure
this, this isn't just a venting process but I want to bring the
value of what I've learned throughout this.
But this is also kind of like mycouch.
So you know, let me have this for a minute.
But it it can be discouraging, you know, and and I know that
from experience of going throughthis several times and going
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through this just recently, it'sright on the tip of my tongue.
So it's very relevant for me. But again, a lot of other people
in this headspace. But yeah, a matter of fact, it's
a small minority though I have to make that very clear that
myself and other people have noticed that it's not a huge
majority of people. It is a small minority of people
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who will act that way, that willcriticize, that will keep on
taking. Because a lot of people are out
there and they're looking for help and they're looking for the
people that are going to motivate them.
They're looking for people that are going to help them drag them
out of of lower times. And those people are willing to
learn, Those people are willing to get up.
But some people want to do the work for them, you know, and
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that's the the ones I often findthat are the ones who are the
are the takers and not the go getters and the doers like you
and I. But you know, I guess if you
stepped into that headspace, if you're one of those people who
is out there trying to make change in the world, I can
almost guarantee you're going toencounter these people if you
haven't already. And I guess that's why I'm here.
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If you've already experienced them, then I'm commiserating
with you a little bit on this one and letting you know that
there's there's some strategies,there's some things you can do
to know your worth. There's some things you can do
to, I guess, feel more appreciated because you're not
letting that lie on outside circumstances and outside
things. And I I'm here to to to let you
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know that I know how deflating as hell that can be.
It will deflate the shit out of you if you let it.
You know people will sit there with their hand out, people who
give nothing back and you'll come across some of them and and
their influence can tend to, I guess, sometimes weigh more
heavily on you than the people who who are in the majority who
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aren't like that. You'll you'll come across maybe
out of 100 people you'll have ten of them who sit there with
their hands out and who will criticize and who will, who will
do the things that I'm talking about.
And it's just, it's unfortunate because of the 90 people that
are great, those ten will sort of like weigh heavily on your
shoulders and you'll, if you're like me, sometimes focus on them
a little bit too much. But again, we've talked about on
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this podcast many times that where your attention goes,
energy flows, and if you let your attention lie on just those
people, then it's where it's going to stay.
So you got to make sure you focus and get yourself away from
them. People will often not know
everything you have to contribute to them.
They won't often see what your value is.
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The smaller majority of people, the minority of people.
They may not see Your value until your absence speaks louder
than your presence. And that's a lesson I've learned
lately. I've learned that their there
comes times where sometimes you just need to show them what
you're worth by not being there or withdrawing or letting them
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figure things out completely on their own in a place where
you've been a full supportive type of person.
And that's a real reality. And I I think that's one of the
tools in the toolbox we can actually use.
You know, when we hit those points where we're like, where
the hell do I go from here? What else can I do?
What can I do to possibly benefit these people?
That's one of the things that I've learned is withdraw, fly
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out of the whole situation and let people figure out their own
goddamn way to do it for a little while and see where that
actually lands them and see if maybe that is enough to wake
people up. You know, for some people, that
is what it takes it it takes theabsence of your presence to
realize how amazing your presence truly is.
So what can we do to to get out of this seemingly unavoidable
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place? How can we get away from the
the, I guess, angst and turmoil that this ultimately can lead us
into? How do we continue to be
motivated to serve the world andkeep pushing through in the face
of the naysayers, the ungrateful, the unmotivated, the
the lead anchors of this world? Well, let them sink, baby.
You know, you're like a sailboat.
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You you got to push along. You're going to ride the highs
and lows of of your life. You're going to ride the waves.
And if you let enough of them hook on to you, they will
undoubtedly drag you down and sink you.
So my advice is cut them loose, ultimately.
Let them, let them, let them sink, sail away.
Let them sink or swim. You don't have to sail away far,
you know you can. You can let them prove that they
can sink or swim on their own. And if they can swim and they
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can sail away on their own, thenthey can sail right alongside of
you and enjoy the ride that you're on as well.
And if they can't, well, you know it doesn't mean you have to
let them sink completely. You can stay nearby and you can
swoop in and lend them a hand ifthey have trouble treading
water. But ultimately you need to set
the example you need to help be there so that you can help them
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find what it is that there may be missing and appreciated.
In that sense, you can be there or you cannot be there.
It's all ultimately your choice,but you.
What you can't do is let them determine your worth.
You can't let them give you value.
You cannot let them tell you howmuch you're worth.
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You know that that can lead to such awful things when we let
our value lie in the hands of other people's feedback.
And the reward of for what we dolies in the thank you.
It lies in the appreciation of other people, because sometimes
you just might not get it. And that's one of the lessons
I've learned in the last few years is that I have had to make
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sure that I'm not doing things for the notoriety.
I'm not doing things for the thank you.
I'm not doing things for the appreciation because you might
not get it. And when you don't, then where
does that leave you? It leaves you feeling completely
unfulfilled, like you've wasted your time.
And if you're always letting your life satisfaction lie in
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the hands of the responses from other people, it's going to
basically give your power away to them.
It's going to give your power away to other things.
It's going to give your power away to something that's outside
of your control. So when you do those things, you
don't do them for those reasons.You got to make sure you're
doing it all for the right reasons.
You don't. So often we will make that
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mistake. We do it for the sake of making
people happy when we should be just doing things to make the
world a better place. And I have to admit, in the past
I've had these delusions of grandeur.
You know, I've had these these times where I thought people
would actually be super gratefulfor the job that I was doing.
And my end goal wasn't so much the end goal.
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It was how happy I'd make peoplein the end.
And then when they didn't get there, they just left me in a
place of just holding an empty basket.
Like, what the hell did I spend all this time on?
And that's just a it's a it's a very unfulfilling place to be.
You know, sometimes you're hoping that people will
recognize you, but more times than not, they they, you know,
maybe a small pat on the back and and that's all you'll get.
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And you don't get carried on people's shoulders.
And if that's your expectations,you're going to be let down.
You know what I'm here to say. Get that right out of your head.
Get it out of there for several reasons, #1 it's likely never
going to happen that way. It's really not, you know.
And #2 you need to do it for allthe right reasons.
You know you got to do it for all of the things.
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Whatever the end result is, you need to do it for the end result
and not the praise of what mightcome out of it.
Not the value that someone else might put on what you're doing,
but the value that you're going to put on what you're doing.
You don't have talked about thatearlier this season of doing
things for all the right reasons.
If you're doing it just to genuinely make the world a
better place, you know you're whether it's your home, it's
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your community or the world at large, just do it because you're
trying to make things better. Do it because you just want
things to be at a higher level of what they were.
Don't do it for the recognition because you know, with that
philosophy, you know if you're seeking the approval of others
and you're seeking them for validation, it's just that's
what's always going to lie there.
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It's always going to be in something else, the next thing
and outside circumstance and whatever.
You know, I have to say, the stuff that I've seen in the
world, I feel like it's becomingmore increasingly ungrateful.
The more comfortable our world becomes, the more luxuries we
have, the more instant gratification that we have
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between social media and cell phones and those dopamine hits
that we constantly get. I feel like the world become
more ungrateful and more selfishand more what can we do for me
and no one else? And if the world around you is
going in that direction, you cansee how that's going to set you
up for some failure. It's going to set you up for
hard times. It's really hard.
It's a hard realization to come through.
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And I don't want people to get salty towards their fellow
person. But ultimately you got to
realize that the the world has atrend going in that direction.
How, how can that, how that can slow down.
I don't have that solution for you.
I just know that your reaction to it means everything.
So my efforts in this episode isfor you to know your worth, to
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know your value without having it lie in something on the
outside. But yeah, ultimately, when it's
all said and done, don't rely onothers to tell you what you're
worth. Recognize in yourself right off
the bat. Recognize your talents.
Realize what sort of dedication you have, what sort of dedicated
individual you are towards your goals and your cause.
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And whatever it is you're tryingto do for this world, realize
what you bring to the table as an amazing contributor to the
world. Because that alone should give
you enough feedback that you youneed to be looking for.
If you're in some sort of, I guess, really shitty
circumstance in a in a shitty job that you really hate you.
You can find your worth even in that as well by being the light
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in whatever role that you're in.You know they there's a great
saying that one of my my mentorsthat I haven't had the chance to
talk with him quite a while. Brandon Beecham.
He's a great, great guy, great mentor, great philosopher,
podcast host and everything. Brilliant guy.
And I remember him responding tosomething I had wrote him one
time and he put it on his podcast.
But, you know, where does the Lighthouse go?
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You know, his response to what Ihad said when I was in a dark
place and I wanted to kind of get out of where I was, I was
unfulfilled in my career and everything else.
And his response was, where doesa lighthouse go?
You know, it's it's put where it's needed.
It doesn't go somewhere where it's not needed.
A lighthouse goes in a place where it's, you know, the seas
are rough and it's a dark place and there's dangerous rocks that
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you know the lighthouse needs tolight up the path for other
people to find their way. So you don't really consider
yourself. That's what you're for.
Consider yourself the lighthouse.
That's what you're here to do. You're there to light up the
place that you're in. You're there to be the brightest
light that you possibly can be, and you're there to serve your
purpose the best way you possibly can.
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And the place that you're in, aslong as you're there.
And you know, if you're wondering what your exit
strategy is going to be for thatplace that you're in and that
place that you find yourself in that you might not necessarily
want to be in anymore, well, that's it.
It's to shine your light as bright as you possibly can.
And eventually you're going to shine so bright, you're going to
have so much energy poured into that that ultimately that
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container that you're in is going to have to shed itself.
Like happens in nature animals, like in the ocean, they'll jump
from 1 shell to another when they've outgrown it.
And that's what you'll do in your own life.
The role that you're in, the shell that you're in,
eventually, if you just outgrow it, if you've gotten so big,
you're gonna have to move on. And you know, and that that
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reminds me of the story that I also heard from Brandon Beecham
was the story of Derek Rydell who was somebody I'm hoping we
can connect with really soon. Been circling around each other.
But he was an actor who has somesuccess and found himself out of
work at a certain point. And he was waiting on tables in
LA and he found himself waiting on people that he'd actually
worked with in the show business.
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And he felt humiliated. He, it must have been a really
tough circumstance to beat with because there he was.
He was somebody who was who had a successful acting career, and
there he was waiting tables withpeople that he'd worked side by
side with. And you know, he had a period of
humiliation that he went through, but then ultimately
that didn't get him anywhere. It wasn't changing his
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circumstance to feel the way that he was feeling.
So he basically loved where he was.
He just basically said I got to put everything I've got into
where I currently AM and just bethe best damn waiter that I can
and have as much charisma as I can.
Just serve people in the role that I'm in the best that I
possibly can. And ultimately, he influenced
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people that were there. They they recognized him.
He came across the right path. And I'm probably but it's been a
few years since I've heard this story and that's why I want to
have him on here to tell in his own words.
But ultimately things turned around for him and he outgrew
that container and within a short amount of time he found
himself back in the limelight riding on private jets and
rubbing elbows with the right people.
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Just because he could have approached every single person
he interacted with in that role from a ho hum low energy
standpoint, which they would have been able to see.
But instead he approached it in just a such a high energy place
because he knew his worth, he knew his value and he knew that
maybe he wasn't in the place that he wanted to be, but he
ultimately was going to pour everything that he had into it
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because he knew his worth and itwas beyond where he was at that
point. He knew he was so much more
valuable than where he was at. But at that point, at that time,
he was going to fill up that container and overflow it.
And eventually he did and the container couldn't hold him
anymore and he had to move on. And you know, that's a lot of
the universe. There's no choice but to make
way for something bigger and grander.
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You have to match that energy that that you're putting out
there and it's going to raise you up.
So, you know, I took that on myself at a certain point in my
life about five years ago. You know, I knew my worth and
everything that I was doing. I had done bigger and greater
things. And where I had been at some
ventures that I was trying to get myself into didn't pan out.
And I ended up in a place that Iperceived as lesser than where I
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had been at a certain point. And I was actually further into
law enforcement in a career thatI did not want to be in anymore.
And I found myself more immersedin it than I had ever been
before. It's kind of like quicksand, You
know, You struggle around in it and you find yourself sinking
down in it even more. And you know, no matter how much
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I wanted to leave, no matter howmuch I felt like I wanted to go,
it didn't help my circumstances.I didn't get myself to that
other place. But then I had to realize, like,
you know what? I'm here.
And I heard that story and I putmyself into it.
I knew my value, I knew my worth.
But I wasn't pouring everything I had because my heart just
wasn't there. So what did I do?
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I put my heart in it. I put my heart in it, heart and
soul, 115%. And I went into it and turned
everything around. I approached every single one of
my days in a better mood. I did everything I could to lift
myself up and everybody else around me.
And ultimately I want to say it was maybe about like 5 weeks.
That's all it took. I'm not saying it's going to
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happen that fast for everybody, but I remember pouring myself
heart and soul from the point that I heard that.
I want to say it was like early August when I had it was on
vacation and it was early Augustand I poured myself into my job.
When I came back from vacation. And by I think it was
mid-october, I was already in another job.
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And in that time period I had a bunch of different
opportunities. And within one particular week
where I had to make a decision, I had three different job offers
and three different career pathsthat weren't even related to
what I was doing anymore. Things shifted that quick and it
was just I took myself from. I hate this job.
I'm miserable. I need to leave this career
into. I'm going to be something
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bigger, grander and greater thanwhere I am and what I've been
doing. And if you keep on going down
the road, it's that that old saying of, you know, you keep on
doing the same thing and expecting different results.
And that's the definition of insanity.
So took all those philosophies, everything that I was learning
from every single source that I was listening to, every podcast,
every mentor, everybody that they came across.
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And I realized my value, I realized my worth.
And then everything shifted. Everything changed within a
matter of weeks. And it was insane.
It was insane because it did happen so quick.
That blew my mind. But it was insane because they
were basically like, here's the recipe to bake this bread.
And I bake the bread. You know, I put the stuff
together, I bake the bread. And it was like, wow, this is
it. It worked.
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Like, what did you expect? It's the recipe.
It's the way they say these things work.
And if you apply it the right ways to your life, everything
just shifts and it changes. And that's just one of the many
ways that it can work out. It's one of the many, many
stories that that you can hear on this subject and and the
success stories that can come from this entire thing of
shifting your energy. So bring that kind of energy to
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it, you know, and those shifts will happen.
They can and will happen, you know, and additionally bring
yourself into whatever it is that you want to do with a sense
of confidence as well that you're exactly where you need to
be. You know, I've even said it like
back slides and everything. Maybe that's just where you need
to be. Like you look at the laws of
universe and you know, I always say like the way that we move
through our lives is kind of like the stock market and a
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constant trend. Hopefully you don't have a major
crash, but things always rebound.
That's the thing. Stock markets crash.
They they they go through recessions and then they go
through peaks and everything else.
Our lives are the same way and we're undoubtedly, you know,
it's a lot of the universe. You're going to have to have a
dip at some point, but approach even those points with a sense
of confidence that you're exactly where you need to be.
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I'm going to learn from this experience where I'm at in this
low point that I happen to be inbecause I know that the turn
around is very, very short time away.
I know if I stay in this negative spot, it's probably
going to take longer for that turn around to happen.
But the longer you're in that state, you're going to expect
that state, You change your state, you put yourself in a
different mindset and that's likely when the turn around is
going to start and that could betomorrow.
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So you don't recognize your worth and recognize things and
go into it with a sense of self-confidence and recognize
that you're more than where you're currently at.
You're more than your circumstances and know the worth
that you have. And if you're not bringing that
kind of an attitude to this world right now and it's hard
for you to picture that, it's hard for you to get yourself
into a a a good sense of confidence and a good sense of
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self worth. The way that I can say that you
can get there is sit in silence,sit in contemplation and figure
out how you can get there. That silence is how you're going
to get yourself into a flow state where your true self is
actually relies. It's tough because the outside
world is constantly bombarding us with with so many different
things. We're thinking about money,
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we're thinking about finances and and love and and life
satisfaction. But to get to the places we want
to be, we really have to sit in some silence and unplug from the
world and. Sometimes that's not gonna get
done in 20 minutes and a half anhour.
It's not gonna get done in an hour.
It comes with consistency, just like it does when you go to the
gym. You have to.
You gotta put yourself and put in the work and put yourself in
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the places and circumstances where you're gonna be able to
get to that place of silence anddig deep down and figure out
where is my true self, who is mytrue self and knowing the value
of that true self deep down inside.
And when you do that, it's just basically like an unmatched
energy that that's gonna end up coming out and that's where
you're best and brightest version can show itself to the
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world. And sometimes you can't do that
on your own. I'll admit sometimes you do need
to turn to mentors. As as smart and motivated as as
I seem to think that I am in my own self worth.
I've had to turn toward other people and I've had to change my
flow state and yeah, I've had toto get into a flow state.
I've had to change my state and I haven't been able to do on my
own. There was a time period right
before when I'm talking about that major turn around that I
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had in like 20/17/2018, that major turn around that I had
tried to do it on my own and I needed some help and I went to
some great people who got me to some great places.
And if you're one of those people, I've got a great circle
of of people. So sometimes I might not be able
to help you and maybe the podcast didn't get you all the
way there. It planted the seed.
But you need somebody else to tend to that garden, help you
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water it and, you know, show youhow to harvest that fruit.
Hit me up. I mean, you guys can go to
livethislife.org and there is part of the web page on there
where you can book someone on one time with me.
I've got a little bit more open time in my life.
I've always talked about how I coach people, but I don't have
time for it. I've opened up some more time
because some people have reachedout to me and I've worked with a
few people. And, you know, within a short
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amount of time they're basicallysaying, like, wow, you know,
things are going good for me. And I'm actually, I'm in a place
where I can kind of, you know, Iride behind with my hand on the
bike seat, metaphorically and help them coast along.
And that's the ultimate goal. I think that any coach, anybody
who's reaching out to help otherpeople, you shouldn't want a
perpetual customer. You should want somebody who
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comes to you with a problem. You help them through that
problem and they move on and maybe they come back to you at a
later time. But this ain't the
Pharmaceutical industry folks. I don't want constant customers.
And you know, in my opinion, I can't.
I can't stand mainstream medicine and and a whole bunch
of stuff. The model of what the
Pharmaceutical industry does to create illness and constant
customers for the sake of profit, you don't apply that to
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coaching, at least if you're a good coach, if you're somebody
who's just money hungry and you're there for the money,
maybe that's what you do. You keep people dangling that
that piece of cheese, then at the end of the string and you
keep them strung along and trying to come back for more.
But that's not how I roll. It's not how a lot of my mentors
have rolled. So if you're one of those people
and you're having trouble finding the the motivation and
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digging deep and finding out youknow what your purpose is and
how to find your worth, you can hit me up.
And if I'm not your right coach,I might be able to find the
right person for you. So there's there's some there's
some links on the website that you guys can check that out if
that's something you're interested in.
So, but ultimately, you have to get yourself into a flow state
and know your worth to figure out maybe what the next steps
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are or at least make it through the place that you're in to get
you to the highest possible place possible.
So yeah, getting into that flow state is one of the biggest
things that I think can help turn your life around.
And there's a lot of tools out there that'll help you get to
that flow state. So I might end it there.
That's a that's a great place toend it.
And I'm speaking about flow States and this is my cheesy
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song Tie in for the end of the episode.
But I'm going to leave you with a song from Soul Rising.
It's been a while since I've actually been able to close the
episodes with a song. I've been doing so many
interviews and talks with with Alexis and and everything else.
It's kind of hard to work in oursongs into the end of those
episodes. But I'm going to leave you with
this one with a song from Soul Rising, one of our first artists
that we featured on the show andthis song is a newer 1 from him
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from July of 2023 and it's called Flow State.
Know your worth because you define it.
Don't let someone else define your worth for you.
Don't forget to keep living nexttime.
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Reality itself is gorgeous. It is the plenum, the fullness
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podcast and I'm your host and Cummings.
I'm here to inspire you to ask yourself the question every day.
Are you living part killing time?
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What's going on everybody? This episode is going to be
speaking to the people pleasers out there.
You know, the ones who are are living a service to others kind
of life rather than any service to self kind of modality, you
know, And spiritually that tellsus it is the higher path, you
know, specifically that comes from concepts from material like
(01:42):
the the Law of 1 material, the raw material.
And if you're not familiar with those things, that's a huge
rabbit hole. I'm not going to dive down in
this episode. We'll definitely dive into that
in the future episode. But you know, it definitely has
sort of a righteousness to it for sure that service to others
rather than a service to self. You have that that great
modality where you're going downthe road of serving people in
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the world rather than being selfish and serving yourself.
But like everything else in the universe, like everything else
in our lives, it needs to be in balance.
And right now. In today's episode, I want to
specifically talk to those people who have too much of A
balance in their service to others versus their service to
self, giving things back to themselves in their lives to
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find their own life enjoyment. You know, and specifically, I
want to talk to the people who are constantly finding their
value in what other people thinkof them and what they get their
worth from. You know, they get their worth
from doing so much for the worldand doing things for other
people and get their worth out of what those people think of
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them and how much of those people appreciate what they're
doing and seeking their praise and approval because it can that
can in itself lead to unhealthy places.
And if you're one of those people, this one's for you.
And if you are one of those people, I want to say this
directly to you right now. I want to say stop.
I want you to stop all of that service right now.
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I want you to stop all of that doing right now until we dig
down a little bit. I want you to uncover what all
of those pitfalls are in that modality of thinking, that
service to others type of life and the things that you'll
inevitably come across when you dedicate yourselves to a service
to others kind of life and that's it.
And you let that service to others tip the scales too far in
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the direction of all of your motivation in life.
The goal in our life should be striving for balance in
everything, you know, we have tohave the balance of polarities
like the yin and Yang, like so much of the Hermetic Principles,
so much of the principles of theLaws of the Universe talk about
all the time. It's all based on polarity, it's
all based on balance, and it's really one of the main themes of
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the Caballion as well. I'm diving deep into that one
myself. I actually have it right here.
We're packing up, leaving for vacation, and I'm bringing that
along with me because I bought it on my last trip and it's an
amazing book and it's really helped me find exactly where I
I'm lacking in certain things and how to get back to those
things. And that's what I want to do.
That's my motivation in this, because that's helped uncover a
(04:20):
whole pile of stuff that I didn't actually realize I was
going through. But it is an inevitable
circumstance of the type of service to others lifestyle that
we can get, you know? And while both the service to
self and the service to others independently have their place
in this world, sometimes it's very easy to swing too far in
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either direction and it can become a drastic imbalance in
your life and leaning very heavily on the service to others
like I've done recently, I want you to to stop, really.
If you're one of those people, Iwant you to stop and think of
one of the biggest things that you do in your life to serve
others right now. And I want you to ask yourself,
why am I doing that? Why am I doing this service for
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others? What is the reason why I'm doing
it? Who am I doing it for?
What is my why? Why am I doing this for them?
Because even if for those of us who live service to others type
of lifestyle, you need to figureout why you're doing those
things. Because if you're doing it for
all the wrong reasons and you let it drag yourself into a
(05:26):
drastic imbalance, it's extremely easy to keep on
letting it go in that direction.The motivation will keep on
going that way and it's Jordan going to drag you so far away
from what your life enjoyment isin your life's priorities could
and should be that you're gonna you're very easily going to lose
touch with your own wants and needs, and then you're going to
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sort of start to resent the others that you're doing it for
because you've lost yourself in the process.
You don't, Basically. We lose touch with what our own
goals are as well. We basically let other people
set the goals for us. We let our own selves get eroded
away in that process because we're so focused on the other
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people and the goals that we feel like we have to set for
them that we lose everything about us.
We let that us and that motivation to bring the
happiness into our own lives of the things that genuinely going
to make us happy. We let it get eroded away, you
know, and it surrounds us like like a like a sandstorm really.
We become so preoccupied with what everybody else wants and
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what everybody else needs that we forget what it is that we
want and need. We lose ourselves, We lose our
dreams. We lose our aspirations and the
things that we want for the sakeof other people and the things
that other people couldn't do for us to help us out in the
desires for our life. We aren't even focused on that.
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We don't even reach out to thosepeople because we are so busy
giving that we're never in a state of receiving.
We let those little grains of sand, of that sandstorm of the
world erode away our truest selfand who we are deep down because
we've moved so far away from it.We don't even know who we are
anymore because we're so busy serving others.
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That place where our passions lie, our dreams lie, all those
things that ultimately when we get to those places in
accomplishing our own goals, we never find it.
We can't even dream of it because we're so busy being
somewhere else. We lose basically the true core
of our being. We essentially lose who we are.
We come lost in the priorities of others.
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We we ultimately wrap ourselves up so much in what they might
feel about us if we fail to serve them in a certain way.
And they're what we think is their expectations, what their
expectations might really be that we end up devoid of the
fire and passion of everything that we need to propel us in so
many different directions of ourlife, the things that we truly
desire. And I'm, I'm talking about the
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changes that we actually want aswell in the midst of all this.
That's the thing I guess I had to find out the most of in this
lesson. Of course, you guys know that
things I talk about, things in the podcast that are usually
bubbling up for me. So this is something that I
think has gone really far between the podcast, my
political stuff, doing things for my family, that it's bubbled
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up as a huge priority in my lifebecause I had a bit of
discontent. So you can tell I'm kind of, I'm
a little bit angsty and fired upabout this one, just because
it's something I've moved through during this time period,
this basically the summer of 2023.
I've moved through in that and that's why I'm motivated to get
it to other people. Because I have a lot of people
in my circle who are really in that service to others.
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And a lot of the people who haveconnected with me through the
podcast who seek my advice on certain things, They're very
much wanting to help the world in in find purpose in serving
others. And I'm here to say like, that's
a great and noble concept and it's a great righteous place to
be. But we got to make sure we don't
lose ourselves in the process. We need to stay in touch with
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all the things that are going tobring us genuine happiness and
life satisfaction and well and as well.
And that's the stuff that we want.
That's the stuff that we need. It's so common for us to forget
who we are in this entire process of serving others and
wanting to get out there and do things for the world that I want
to make sure you slow things down and you balance things out
and you make sure that you stay aware of where you are in the
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entire process so you don't go too far out of balance.
You know? And as again, like I said, I'm,
I'm here as someone who has lostthemselves in the process many,
many times. And it's kind of disappointing
sometimes when you go through the same lessons over and over.
But that's the reason why you gothrough those lessons over and
over. You know, you go through a
lesson and then life throws you a test at some point down the
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road to see if you actually learn the lesson, just like you
would in school, college or anything.
And if you don't pass the test, you're going to have to take the
test again, you know, and you may have to take the test many
times over. And here I am doing the same
thing, ending up in the same result.
I didn't. I guess I got a better grade
this time around than I did in the last few times.
But yeah, ultimately we need to go through these tests over and
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over with and try and make sure that if we do have those
backslides, they're a little less than they were the time
for. And I'm here to help you on the
backside of my backslide to let you all know that you need to
know your worth. You need to know exactly what
you're worth and never lose that.
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So I wanna breakthrough in this episode with one of my favorite
quotes from one of my favorite movies.
It's Rocky Balboa. Or like the 6th Rocky movie I
think it was, but I'll play thisone Let.
Me tell you something you already know?
The world ain't all sunshine andrainbows.
It's a very mean and nasty placeand I don't care how tough you
are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there
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permanently if you let it. You, me or nobody is going to
hit as hard as life, but it ain't about how hard you hit.
It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.
How much you can take and keep moving forward.
That's how weird it is done. Now, if you know what you're
worth, then go out and get what you're worth.
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But you got to be willing to take the hits and not pointing
fingers say you ain't where you want to be because of him or her
or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't
you. You're better than that.
And that's what's bubbled up forme in my life, you know, It's
bubbled up for me in the last few weeks especially because
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I've genuinely poured myself outinto the world in the last few
years, you know, I've poured myself out into my full time
job, making the place that I'm at a better place in any way
that I possibly can for the limited amount of time that I'm
going to be there in the next few years.
You know, I've, I've got some grand plans to move on and on
the bigger ventures. But I know that I was put there
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for a reason. And I need to do everything I
can to make the place as good asI can.
And I'm doing the same thing with my town, to do everything I
can in my my elected position totry and make things better in
any way I possibly can in a genuine way.
And you know I'm trying the bestto enhance my family's life as
well beyond what I feel like I've seen out of most men as a
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husband and a father. I have to say there's there's
been points where I feel genuinely taken advantage of in
in one of those many aspects of my life that I've put a lot of
dedication and effort towards things.
And I feel like it's just kind of been the expectation now.
And I know a lot of people who go into a service to others type
of thing that it's become the expectation when you start
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pouring yourself into the world,they just expect you to
constantly pour into them. And especially for high
achievers, you know, you're not just giving 8090 a 100%, you're
giving 110, you're giving far more than what anybody else is
really expected to do and is probably even capable of doing.
And I feel like sometimes that then becomes the rule.
You know you're the person who gives the 110 all the time and
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now that's the expectation. That's now where the bar is set
and anything less than that people are going to basically be
like what's going on what are you doing?
Like this isn't your this isn't your normal efforts Heath.
You know it's it's it's good it's probably better than most
people maybe that what they would do in your position but
it's not absolutely perfect. It's not the highest level of
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stuff that you're usually used to putting out.
So you know that's what you're known for and why aren't you
there and people start to take advantage of that.
They kind of say like why aren'tyou doing what you normally do.
It's it's usually perfect and you're doing so much stuff and
where have you been? What have you been doing And
I've unplugged lately I've I've not been around for some of my
other ventures. I'm turning my attention more
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towards this podcast and my family.
It's a a couple things that havebeen really neglected over the
last few years. I know you guys have seen that
I've not got episodes out, sometimes 2-3 weeks at a time.
And you know, it was a huge stretch when I was redoing the
the studio and revamping everything this past year.
But things go few and far between, 'cause I take on too
much stuff. And I'm trying to learn from
that lesson to back things off alittle bit.
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And when I haven't been around and I've backed off on some of
those other things, still putting in great amounts of
attention and energy. But then this attitude comes
from people basically, you know,saying, wait, this isn't, this
isn't you. Where have you been?
What are you doing? It's it's become basically, you
know, expectation. And sometimes this can come from
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individuals. It can come collectively from a
place, you know, that makes up the atmosphere.
Everybody all put together kind of can create the same type of
atmosphere. And I feel like it's been from
individuals, it's been from people in certain atmospheres of
places. And I've noticed that those
individuals and some of those people who collectively make up
the atmosphere of a place, they're the takers.
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They're the ones who don't really contribute much to the
world themselves. I feel like the the people who
have that criticism are often the ones who will take and take
and take and not do anything forthe world themselves.
They don't. They don't stand up.
They don't stand out. They wait for other people to do
all the work, but they expect the work in return from all of
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the givers out there like you and me.
And you know, in in talking to other people who are in sort of
the same headspace, the the motivated people out there, the
go getters, the doers. They're the ones who are out
there trying to make the world agenuinely better place.
And I I've found similar sentiments when I've tried to
voice this in some some circles of friends and and people who
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know what I'm talking about. They say, yeah, there are people
out there who would just genuinely just take and take and
take and they will. They will take from your plate.
They will take from anything you're willing to give them.
But they won't give anything back to the world, and they
don't even give back to themselves, which is the crazy
part. You know, they'll take your free
advice. They will do all sorts of stuff
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that they will benefit from other people and not have to
spend a dime themselves. They won't have to put in any
effort. They'll just constantly take.
And then when that shifts, when they don't get out of other
people what they're expecting, they didn't turn into critics.
It's it's kind of a strange phenomenon, you know, It's the
ones who contribute the least who will criticize the most, and
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they criticize the people who will go the extra mile.
They criticize the people who are willing to do the most.
And it's it's. Mind boggling to me, to the
point where it starts to drag you down as well.
But I mean, there's not much that you can do about those
people. You don't have the control over
what other people think and whatother people value, and that
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includes you. You don't have control over how
much they value you. There may be nothing in this
world that you could do to make those people value you more.
You can't in some cases do more than what you're doing.
And it's still not enough. And it's crazy because it's
like, man, I didn't have to do any of it, you know, I didn't
have to do any of the stuff thatI have done over the years to be
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the top in my field, to do XY and Z.
That's a head and head and shoulders above what other
people do. They don't have to fucking do
any of it. And there those people are being
the critic. It just baffles my mind that
it's something that just exists and I'm going to get off my
negative rate in here because I'm.
I'm trying to make a point and and you know, bring everybody up
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to a higher level. But yeah, you can obviously tell
there was some angst and stuff like that over some things that
have happened lately. So you know, I want to make sure
this, this isn't just a venting process but I want to bring the
value of what I've learned throughout this.
But this is also kind of like mycouch.
So you know, let me have this for a minute.
But it it can be discouraging, you know, and and I know that
from experience of going throughthis several times and going
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through this just recently, it'sright on the tip of my tongue.
So it's very relevant for me. But again, a lot of other people
in this headspace. But yeah, a matter of fact, it's
a small minority though I have to make that very clear that
myself and other people have noticed that it's not a huge
majority of people. It is a small minority of people
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who will act that way, that willcriticize, that will keep on
taking. Because a lot of people are out
there and they're looking for help and they're looking for the
people that are going to motivate them.
They're looking for people that are going to help them drag them
out of of lower times. And those people are willing to
learn, Those people are willing to get up.
But some people want to do the work for them, you know, and
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that's the the ones I often findthat are the ones who are the
are the takers and not the go getters and the doers like you
and I. But you know, I guess if you
stepped into that headspace, if you're one of those people who
is out there trying to make change in the world, I can
almost guarantee you're going toencounter these people if you
haven't already. And I guess that's why I'm here.
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If you've already experienced them, then I'm commiserating
with you a little bit on this one and letting you know that
there's there's some strategies,there's some things you can do
to know your worth. There's some things you can do
to, I guess, feel more appreciated because you're not
letting that lie on outside circumstances and outside
things. And I I'm here to to to let you
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know that I know how deflating as hell that can be.
It will deflate the shit out of you if you let it.
You know people will sit there with their hand out, people who
give nothing back and you'll come across some of them and and
their influence can tend to, I guess, sometimes weigh more
heavily on you than the people who who are in the majority who
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aren't like that. You'll you'll come across maybe
out of 100 people you'll have ten of them who sit there with
their hands out and who will criticize and who will, who will
do the things that I'm talking about.
And it's just, it's unfortunate because of the 90 people that
are great, those ten will sort of like weigh heavily on your
shoulders and you'll, if you're like me, sometimes focus on them
a little bit too much. But again, we've talked about on
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this podcast many times that where your attention goes,
energy flows, and if you let your attention lie on just those
people, then it's where it's going to stay.
So you got to make sure you focus and get yourself away from
them. People will often not know
everything you have to contribute to them.
They won't often see what your value is.
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The smaller majority of people, the minority of people.
They may not see Your value until your absence speaks louder
than your presence. And that's a lesson I've learned
lately. I've learned that their there
comes times where sometimes you just need to show them what
you're worth by not being there or withdrawing or letting them
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figure things out completely on their own in a place where
you've been a full supportive type of person.
And that's a real reality. And I I think that's one of the
tools in the toolbox we can actually use.
You know, when we hit those points where we're like, where
the hell do I go from here? What else can I do?
What can I do to possibly benefit these people?
That's one of the things that I've learned is withdraw, fly
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out of the whole situation and let people figure out their own
goddamn way to do it for a little while and see where that
actually lands them and see if maybe that is enough to wake
people up. You know, for some people, that
is what it takes it it takes theabsence of your presence to
realize how amazing your presence truly is.
So what can we do to to get out of this seemingly unavoidable
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place? How can we get away from the
the, I guess, angst and turmoil that this ultimately can lead us
into? How do we continue to be
motivated to serve the world andkeep pushing through in the face
of the naysayers, the ungrateful, the unmotivated, the
the lead anchors of this world? Well, let them sink, baby.
You know, you're like a sailboat.
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You you got to push along. You're going to ride the highs
and lows of of your life. You're going to ride the waves.
And if you let enough of them hook on to you, they will
undoubtedly drag you down and sink you.
So my advice is cut them loose, ultimately.
Let them, let them, let them sink, sail away.
Let them sink or swim. You don't have to sail away far,
you know you can. You can let them prove that they
can sink or swim on their own. And if they can swim and they
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can sail away on their own, thenthey can sail right alongside of
you and enjoy the ride that you're on as well.
And if they can't, well, you know it doesn't mean you have to
let them sink completely. You can stay nearby and you can
swoop in and lend them a hand ifthey have trouble treading
water. But ultimately you need to set
the example you need to help be there so that you can help them
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find what it is that there may be missing and appreciated.
In that sense, you can be there or you cannot be there.
It's all ultimately your choice,but you.
What you can't do is let them determine your worth.
You can't let them give you value.
You cannot let them tell you howmuch you're worth.
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You know that that can lead to such awful things when we let
our value lie in the hands of other people's feedback.
And the reward of for what we dolies in the thank you.
It lies in the appreciation of other people, because sometimes
you just might not get it. And that's one of the lessons
I've learned in the last few years is that I have had to make
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sure that I'm not doing things for the notoriety.
I'm not doing things for the thank you.
I'm not doing things for the appreciation because you might
not get it. And when you don't, then where
does that leave you? It leaves you feeling completely
unfulfilled, like you've wasted your time.
And if you're always letting your life satisfaction lie in
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the hands of the responses from other people, it's going to
basically give your power away to them.
It's going to give your power away to other things.
It's going to give your power away to something that's outside
of your control. So when you do those things, you
don't do them for those reasons.You got to make sure you're
doing it all for the right reasons.
You don't. So often we will make that
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mistake. We do it for the sake of making
people happy when we should be just doing things to make the
world a better place. And I have to admit, in the past
I've had these delusions of grandeur.
You know, I've had these these times where I thought people
would actually be super gratefulfor the job that I was doing.
And my end goal wasn't so much the end goal.
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It was how happy I'd make peoplein the end.
And then when they didn't get there, they just left me in a
place of just holding an empty basket.
Like, what the hell did I spend all this time on?
And that's just a it's a it's a very unfulfilling place to be.
You know, sometimes you're hoping that people will
recognize you, but more times than not, they they, you know,
maybe a small pat on the back and and that's all you'll get.
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And you don't get carried on people's shoulders.
And if that's your expectations,you're going to be let down.
You know what I'm here to say. Get that right out of your head.
Get it out of there for several reasons, #1 it's likely never
going to happen that way. It's really not, you know.
And #2 you need to do it for allthe right reasons.
You know you got to do it for all of the things.
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Whatever the end result is, you need to do it for the end result
and not the praise of what mightcome out of it.
Not the value that someone else might put on what you're doing,
but the value that you're going to put on what you're doing.
You don't have talked about thatearlier this season of doing
things for all the right reasons.
If you're doing it just to genuinely make the world a
better place, you know you're whether it's your home, it's
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your community or the world at large, just do it because you're
trying to make things better. Do it because you just want
things to be at a higher level of what they were.
Don't do it for the recognition because you know, with that
philosophy, you know if you're seeking the approval of others
and you're seeking them for validation, it's just that's
what's always going to lie there.
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It's always going to be in something else, the next thing
and outside circumstance and whatever.
You know, I have to say, the stuff that I've seen in the
world, I feel like it's becomingmore increasingly ungrateful.
The more comfortable our world becomes, the more luxuries we
have, the more instant gratification that we have
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between social media and cell phones and those dopamine hits
that we constantly get. I feel like the world become
more ungrateful and more selfishand more what can we do for me
and no one else? And if the world around you is
going in that direction, you cansee how that's going to set you
up for some failure. It's going to set you up for
hard times. It's really hard.
It's a hard realization to come through.
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And I don't want people to get salty towards their fellow
person. But ultimately you got to
realize that the the world has atrend going in that direction.
How, how can that, how that can slow down.
I don't have that solution for you.
I just know that your reaction to it means everything.
So my efforts in this episode isfor you to know your worth, to
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know your value without having it lie in something on the
outside. But yeah, ultimately, when it's
all said and done, don't rely onothers to tell you what you're
worth. Recognize in yourself right off
the bat. Recognize your talents.
Realize what sort of dedication you have, what sort of dedicated
individual you are towards your goals and your cause.
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And whatever it is you're tryingto do for this world, realize
what you bring to the table as an amazing contributor to the
world. Because that alone should give
you enough feedback that you youneed to be looking for.
If you're in some sort of, I guess, really shitty
circumstance in a in a shitty job that you really hate you.
You can find your worth even in that as well by being the light
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in whatever role that you're in.You know they there's a great
saying that one of my my mentorsthat I haven't had the chance to
talk with him quite a while. Brandon Beecham.
He's a great, great guy, great mentor, great philosopher,
podcast host and everything. Brilliant guy.
And I remember him responding tosomething I had wrote him one
time and he put it on his podcast.
But, you know, where does the Lighthouse go?
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You know, his response to what Ihad said when I was in a dark
place and I wanted to kind of get out of where I was, I was
unfulfilled in my career and everything else.
And his response was, where doesa lighthouse go?
You know, it's it's put where it's needed.
It doesn't go somewhere where it's not needed.
A lighthouse goes in a place where it's, you know, the seas
are rough and it's a dark place and there's dangerous rocks that
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you know the lighthouse needs tolight up the path for other
people to find their way. So you don't really consider
yourself. That's what you're for.
Consider yourself the lighthouse.
That's what you're here to do. You're there to light up the
place that you're in. You're there to be the brightest
light that you possibly can be, and you're there to serve your
purpose the best way you possibly can.
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And the place that you're in, aslong as you're there.
And you know, if you're wondering what your exit
strategy is going to be for thatplace that you're in and that
place that you find yourself in that you might not necessarily
want to be in anymore, well, that's it.
It's to shine your light as bright as you possibly can.
And eventually you're going to shine so bright, you're going to
have so much energy poured into that that ultimately that
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container that you're in is going to have to shed itself.
Like happens in nature animals, like in the ocean, they'll jump
from 1 shell to another when they've outgrown it.
And that's what you'll do in your own life.
The role that you're in, the shell that you're in,
eventually, if you just outgrow it, if you've gotten so big,
you're gonna have to move on. And you know, and that that
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reminds me of the story that I also heard from Brandon Beecham
was the story of Derek Rydell who was somebody I'm hoping we
can connect with really soon. Been circling around each other.
But he was an actor who has somesuccess and found himself out of
work at a certain point. And he was waiting on tables in
LA and he found himself waiting on people that he'd actually
worked with in the show business.
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And he felt humiliated. He, it must have been a really
tough circumstance to beat with because there he was.
He was somebody who was who had a successful acting career, and
there he was waiting tables withpeople that he'd worked side by
side with. And you know, he had a period of
humiliation that he went through, but then ultimately
that didn't get him anywhere. It wasn't changing his
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circumstance to feel the way that he was feeling.
So he basically loved where he was.
He just basically said I got to put everything I've got into
where I currently AM and just bethe best damn waiter that I can
and have as much charisma as I can.
Just serve people in the role that I'm in the best that I
possibly can. And ultimately, he influenced
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people that were there. They they recognized him.
He came across the right path. And I'm probably but it's been a
few years since I've heard this story and that's why I want to
have him on here to tell in his own words.
But ultimately things turned around for him and he outgrew
that container and within a short amount of time he found
himself back in the limelight riding on private jets and
rubbing elbows with the right people.
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Just because he could have approached every single person
he interacted with in that role from a ho hum low energy
standpoint, which they would have been able to see.
But instead he approached it in just a such a high energy place
because he knew his worth, he knew his value and he knew that
maybe he wasn't in the place that he wanted to be, but he
ultimately was going to pour everything that he had into it
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because he knew his worth and itwas beyond where he was at that
point. He knew he was so much more
valuable than where he was at. But at that point, at that time,
he was going to fill up that container and overflow it.
And eventually he did and the container couldn't hold him
anymore and he had to move on. And you know, that's a lot of
the universe. There's no choice but to make
way for something bigger and grander.
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You have to match that energy that that you're putting out
there and it's going to raise you up.
So, you know, I took that on myself at a certain point in my
life about five years ago. You know, I knew my worth and
everything that I was doing. I had done bigger and greater
things. And where I had been at some
ventures that I was trying to get myself into didn't pan out.
And I ended up in a place that Iperceived as lesser than where I
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had been at a certain point. And I was actually further into
law enforcement in a career thatI did not want to be in anymore.
And I found myself more immersedin it than I had ever been
before. It's kind of like quicksand, You
know, You struggle around in it and you find yourself sinking
down in it even more. And you know, no matter how much
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I wanted to leave, no matter howmuch I felt like I wanted to go,
it didn't help my circumstances.I didn't get myself to that
other place. But then I had to realize, like,
you know what? I'm here.
And I heard that story and I putmyself into it.
I knew my value, I knew my worth.
But I wasn't pouring everything I had because my heart just
wasn't there. So what did I do?
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I put my heart in it. I put my heart in it, heart and
soul, 115%. And I went into it and turned
everything around. I approached every single one of
my days in a better mood. I did everything I could to lift
myself up and everybody else around me.
And ultimately I want to say it was maybe about like 5 weeks.
That's all it took. I'm not saying it's going to
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happen that fast for everybody, but I remember pouring myself
heart and soul from the point that I heard that.
I want to say it was like early August when I had it was on
vacation and it was early Augustand I poured myself into my job.
When I came back from vacation. And by I think it was
mid-october, I was already in another job.
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And in that time period I had a bunch of different
opportunities. And within one particular week
where I had to make a decision, I had three different job offers
and three different career pathsthat weren't even related to
what I was doing anymore. Things shifted that quick and it
was just I took myself from. I hate this job.
I'm miserable. I need to leave this career
into. I'm going to be something
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bigger, grander and greater thanwhere I am and what I've been
doing. And if you keep on going down
the road, it's that that old saying of, you know, you keep on
doing the same thing and expecting different results.
And that's the definition of insanity.
So took all those philosophies, everything that I was learning
from every single source that I was listening to, every podcast,
every mentor, everybody that they came across.
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And I realized my value, I realized my worth.
And then everything shifted. Everything changed within a
matter of weeks. And it was insane.
It was insane because it did happen so quick.
That blew my mind. But it was insane because they
were basically like, here's the recipe to bake this bread.
And I bake the bread. You know, I put the stuff
together, I bake the bread. And it was like, wow, this is
it. It worked.
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Like, what did you expect? It's the recipe.
It's the way they say these things work.
And if you apply it the right ways to your life, everything
just shifts and it changes. And that's just one of the many
ways that it can work out. It's one of the many, many
stories that that you can hear on this subject and and the
success stories that can come from this entire thing of
shifting your energy. So bring that kind of energy to
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it, you know, and those shifts will happen.
They can and will happen, you know, and additionally bring
yourself into whatever it is that you want to do with a sense
of confidence as well that you're exactly where you need to
be. You know, I've even said it like
back slides and everything. Maybe that's just where you need
to be. Like you look at the laws of
universe and you know, I always say like the way that we move
through our lives is kind of like the stock market and a
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constant trend. Hopefully you don't have a major
crash, but things always rebound.
That's the thing. Stock markets crash.
They they they go through recessions and then they go
through peaks and everything else.
Our lives are the same way and we're undoubtedly, you know,
it's a lot of the universe. You're going to have to have a
dip at some point, but approach even those points with a sense
of confidence that you're exactly where you need to be.
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I'm going to learn from this experience where I'm at in this
low point that I happen to be inbecause I know that the turn
around is very, very short time away.
I know if I stay in this negative spot, it's probably
going to take longer for that turn around to happen.
But the longer you're in that state, you're going to expect
that state, You change your state, you put yourself in a
different mindset and that's likely when the turn around is
going to start and that could betomorrow.
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So you don't recognize your worth and recognize things and
go into it with a sense of self-confidence and recognize
that you're more than where you're currently at.
You're more than your circumstances and know the worth
that you have. And if you're not bringing that
kind of an attitude to this world right now and it's hard
for you to picture that, it's hard for you to get yourself
into a a a good sense of confidence and a good sense of
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self worth. The way that I can say that you
can get there is sit in silence,sit in contemplation and figure
out how you can get there. That silence is how you're going
to get yourself into a flow state where your true self is
actually relies. It's tough because the outside
world is constantly bombarding us with with so many different
things. We're thinking about money,
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we're thinking about finances and and love and and life
satisfaction. But to get to the places we want
to be, we really have to sit in some silence and unplug from the
world and. Sometimes that's not gonna get
done in 20 minutes and a half anhour.
It's not gonna get done in an hour.
It comes with consistency, just like it does when you go to the
gym. You have to.
You gotta put yourself and put in the work and put yourself in
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the places and circumstances where you're gonna be able to
get to that place of silence anddig deep down and figure out
where is my true self, who is mytrue self and knowing the value
of that true self deep down inside.
And when you do that, it's just basically like an unmatched
energy that that's gonna end up coming out and that's where
you're best and brightest version can show itself to the
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world. And sometimes you can't do that
on your own. I'll admit sometimes you do need
to turn to mentors. As as smart and motivated as as
I seem to think that I am in my own self worth.
I've had to turn toward other people and I've had to change my
flow state and yeah, I've had toto get into a flow state.
I've had to change my state and I haven't been able to do on my
own. There was a time period right
before when I'm talking about that major turn around that I
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had in like 20/17/2018, that major turn around that I had
tried to do it on my own and I needed some help and I went to
some great people who got me to some great places.
And if you're one of those people, I've got a great circle
of of people. So sometimes I might not be able
to help you and maybe the podcast didn't get you all the
way there. It planted the seed.
But you need somebody else to tend to that garden, help you
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water it and, you know, show youhow to harvest that fruit.
Hit me up. I mean, you guys can go to
livethislife.org and there is part of the web page on there
where you can book someone on one time with me.
I've got a little bit more open time in my life.
I've always talked about how I coach people, but I don't have
time for it. I've opened up some more time
because some people have reachedout to me and I've worked with a
few people. And, you know, within a short
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amount of time they're basicallysaying, like, wow, you know,
things are going good for me. And I'm actually, I'm in a place
where I can kind of, you know, Iride behind with my hand on the
bike seat, metaphorically and help them coast along.
And that's the ultimate goal. I think that any coach, anybody
who's reaching out to help otherpeople, you shouldn't want a
perpetual customer. You should want somebody who
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comes to you with a problem. You help them through that
problem and they move on and maybe they come back to you at a
later time. But this ain't the
Pharmaceutical industry folks. I don't want constant customers.
And you know, in my opinion, I can't.
I can't stand mainstream medicine and and a whole bunch
of stuff. The model of what the
Pharmaceutical industry does to create illness and constant
customers for the sake of profit, you don't apply that to
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coaching, at least if you're a good coach, if you're somebody
who's just money hungry and you're there for the money,
maybe that's what you do. You keep people dangling that
that piece of cheese, then at the end of the string and you
keep them strung along and trying to come back for more.
But that's not how I roll. It's not how a lot of my mentors
have rolled. So if you're one of those people
and you're having trouble finding the the motivation and
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digging deep and finding out youknow what your purpose is and
how to find your worth, you can hit me up.
And if I'm not your right coach,I might be able to find the
right person for you. So there's there's some there's
some links on the website that you guys can check that out if
that's something you're interested in.
So, but ultimately, you have to get yourself into a flow state
and know your worth to figure out maybe what the next steps
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are or at least make it through the place that you're in to get
you to the highest possible place possible.
So yeah, getting into that flow state is one of the biggest
things that I think can help turn your life around.
And there's a lot of tools out there that'll help you get to
that flow state. So I might end it there.
That's a that's a great place toend it.
And I'm speaking about flow States and this is my cheesy
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song Tie in for the end of the episode.
But I'm going to leave you with a song from Soul Rising.
It's been a while since I've actually been able to close the
episodes with a song. I've been doing so many
interviews and talks with with Alexis and and everything else.
It's kind of hard to work in oursongs into the end of those
episodes. But I'm going to leave you with
this one with a song from Soul Rising, one of our first artists
that we featured on the show andthis song is a newer 1 from him
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from July of 2023 and it's called Flow State.
Know your worth because you define it.
Don't let someone else define your worth for you.
Don't forget to keep living nexttime.
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If you are a conscious thought leader, an expert on
inspiration, or have your own amazing story to tell about how
you've manifested your best life, we want you on the show.
You can connect with us by writing to connect at
livethislife.org. That's CONNE
c.t@livethislife.org. Or you can reach out to us
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This Life. Be sure to check out everything
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