Freedom

True Independence: Break Free from Your Mental Prison (Living Lucky® Podcast)

What if true freedom isn't just about fireworks and festivities, but a powerful state of mind accessible every single day? On this Living Lucky® Podcast episode, Jason and Jana Banana reveal the profound realization that hit them in the mountains: liberation isn't external, it's about freeing your mindset!

Many of us walk around with self-imposed 'prison sentences' in our heads – those pervasive limiting beliefs and negative self-talk like "I'm not good enough." We explore how these thoughts activate your Reticular Activating System (RAS), filtering reality to prove your limitations, creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The Fourth of July offers a powerful metaphor for declaring independence from these mental chains. Learn how to dismantle your inner dialogue and shift your focus from what's missing to what's present. This isn't about ignoring circumstances; it's about understanding that "Everyone has circumstances. Not everyone allows circumstances to have them."

Ready to ignite your personal development and experience authentic independence? Tune in for actionable self-helpinsights and positive thinking strategies. Discover how changing your inner world creates unparalleled freedom, no mountains or fireworks required. Break free from your mental prison and start Living Lucky® today!

• How to overcome limiting beliefs?
• How to change negative self-talk?
• What is the Reticular Activating System (RAS) and how does it work?
• Achieving true freedom through mindset.
• Self-help strategies for mental liberation.
• The power of inner dialogue.
• How to stop self-sabotage?
• Finding freedom in everyday life.
• Viktor Frankl's philosophy on freedom.
• Mindset coaching for independence.
• "What is true freedom?"
• "How do limiting beliefs affect my life?"
• "What is negative self-talk?"
• "How does the Reticular Activating System (RAS) relate to beliefs?"
• "Can I be free in any circumstance?"
• "How to change my inner dialogue?"
• "What is a 'mental prison'?"

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Episode Transcript

Jana Shelfer (00:00):
Are you ready to create a life you crave?
Let's spin that doom loop ofnegativity into an upward
success cycle and start LivingLucky®.
Good morning, I'm Jenna, I'mJason and we are Living Lucky®.
You are too.
Happy Independence Day.

(00:23):
Happy New Year.
Fireworks.
Bam Boom Pow, that was my soundeffect for fireworks.

Jason Shelfer (00:28):
My fireworks are better.
Oh, listen to you.
Well, yours sounded like littlecrickets.

Jana Shelfer (00:33):
maybe you can't put down a firework.
I know A firework is beautiful.
It's like a little sparkler,yours was like a little sparkler
.
Even those little snake onesthat you'd put on the sidewalk.

Jason Shelfer (00:42):
They just kind of grow.

Jana Shelfer (00:43):
And then they just it's like a turd that grows
right, You're like why did I paymoney for?
This and then it leaves a spoton the sidewalk.

Jason Shelfer (00:52):
That's so funny.
Yeah, a little yellow, orangespot stain.
I must say Little sidewalk skidmark that when I was younger, I
loved, loved, loved the 4th ofJuly.

Jana Shelfer (01:07):
It was a chance to go get sparklers and twirl in
my yard with my sparklers andseriously, I was getting burnt
on my arms but I didn't wantanybody to know because they
look so cool.

Jason Shelfer (01:14):
Yeah, I can remember all the clothing that
came back with little sparklerholes.

Jana Shelfer (01:20):
Really.

Jason Shelfer (01:21):
And trying to explain that, because I was not
supposed to use any type offireworks outside of parental
supervision.

Jana Shelfer (01:28):
Oh, you had rules.

Jason Shelfer (01:30):
Oh yeah, I had rules, okay, well, yeah, Well,
you're also the one that set theforest on fire.

Jana Shelfer (01:35):
Sorry, nope, pretend you didn't hear that.

Jason Shelfer (01:39):
Let that get out of the bag.

Jana Shelfer (01:43):
That's funny.
All right, so back to 4th ofJuly.
I loved wearing the red, whiteand blue, the stars and stripes.
It was almost a reason to get anew sundress or a new top.

Jason Shelfer (01:54):
Oh, that's fun.
I never got any sundressesgrowing up.

Jana Shelfer (01:57):
It felt like it was a time for community to come
together, eat some hot dogs.

Jason Shelfer (02:02):
Hot dogs.
I love hot dogs.

Jana Shelfer (02:04):
I don't know.

Jason Shelfer (02:10):
I watched the preview of the hot dog eating
contest this morning theNathan's Was there, like
Chestnut.
Is that the guy's name thatwins?

Jana Shelfer (02:13):
Joey Chestnut, joey Chestnut, he wins every
year he can eat 76 hot dogs withthe bun.

Jason Shelfer (02:18):
That makes me ill .

Jana Shelfer (02:19):
In like a really short period of time and he was
talking about his methods.
Like a really short period oftime and he was talking about
his methods.

Jason Shelfer (02:24):
I would like to know what he smells like.
I just feel like if you'regoing to eat 76 hot dogs, you've
got to smell like old hot dogwater.

Jana Shelfer (02:34):
Like it's got to be coming out of your pores.
They like dip it in water andthen, if you watch them eat it,
they're like really stuffing itin their mouth.

Jason Shelfer (02:41):
The first chew is with their fist, like their
hand.

Jana Shelfer (02:44):
I will tell you it was one of the best diets for
me this morning because when Isaw that, I was like I don't
think I'll ever eat a hot dogagain.

Jason Shelfer (02:52):
I don't even think I'm hungry right now.
Oh, that kind of makes mystomach turn.

Jana Shelfer (02:56):
Well, when it all comes down to it, 4th of July is
about freedom.

Jason Shelfer (03:02):
Freedom.

Jana Shelfer (03:03):
And we forget that , I think.

Jason Shelfer (03:05):
Yeah, I feel like we've had a couple of
experiences that have kind ofpushed me towards that feeling
of freedom over the last coupleof weeks when we went to
Tennessee and Georgia, being inthe mountains and I don't know
what it is about the mountainsMade you feel free, made me feel
just very peaceful and free,like there were no tethers.

Jana Shelfer (03:36):
Yeah, you kind of let go of the stresses of
everyday life.
However, when I really thinkabout it, those stressors that
we carry, we are actually justcreating ourselves.

Jason Shelfer (03:42):
Oh, that's so big that is so big.

Jana Shelfer (03:44):
I mean, we really have freedom all around us.
We don't really need to escapeto the mountains in order to
recognize it.
We don't really need to have4th of July just to remember
that we are free.

Jason Shelfer (03:55):
Yeah, that just gave me goosebumps like all the
way up and down my legs and upand down my arms, because I
recognized that everything thatwas there outside of the
mountains is here and it's not.
It wasn't the mountains, it wasjust the awe and the
inspiration and that and thefeeling and I could.
I could have had that justwalking out our back door or
walking through the park,walking around the retention,

(04:17):
pond or meditating, I can gothere in my mind.
Yes, Is it Viktor Frankl orViktor who wrote the book?
He was a prisoner of war inWorld War II.

Jana Shelfer (04:30):
Yeah.

Jason Shelfer (04:30):
And he wrote Man's Search for Meaning or
something like that.
We've read the book and I can'tremember the title of it, but
he was like there's one thingthat people can't take from me.
It's what's in my mind Likethose things, it's what's in my
mind like those things, and wegive that away so regularly just
in our own thoughts and in ourown.
You know what I think?

Jana Shelfer (04:50):
I think we all have a sentence in our mind, and
whether that sentence is I'mnot good enough, I'm not skinny
enough, I'm not pretty enough,things aren't going to work out
for me.
I have to prove myself for thisthese limiting beliefs in our
minds and that sentence that weall have our own little sentence

(05:11):
, but that sentence almostbecomes a prison sentence.
Mine used to be I suck.
Now why would you say such athing?

Jason Shelfer (05:20):
Well, I don't know.
I can remember saying out loudin my car I suck or you suck,
and it was about me.
Yeah, I'll be looking in themirror.
And how defeating is that.
To look in the mirror and tellyourself you suck Right,
horrible, horrible.
And that was building basicallya jail cell around myself

(05:42):
saying, okay, well, you suck,you're not worthy, you're not
good enough.

Jana Shelfer (05:46):
Yeah.

Jason Shelfer (05:47):
You will never be able to get there, yeah.

Jana Shelfer (05:49):
I know that I've talked about this many times,
but I went through a time periodwhere I had the limiting belief
what's wrong with you?
And when you start sayingwhat's wrong with you, what's
wrong with you, then what do youcreate?

Jason Shelfer (06:02):
You start answering that question and
figuring those things out.

Jana Shelfer (06:05):
You will do whatever it takes to prove your
brain right.
And you may be doing itunconsciously and in that you're
creating almost this prisoncell.
There's like this little it's atrap.
It is there.

Jason Shelfer (06:18):
It is there's a subconscious and unconscious
trap, or maybe it's justunconscious trap that you're
creating that you're going tolive in.

Jana Shelfer (06:27):
Yes, there's this cartoon where this guy was
literally holding up prisoncells, and it's just in his
hands.

Jason Shelfer (06:36):
It's him holding up the bars.

Jana Shelfer (06:37):
He holds it up over his face like he's looking
through this prison.
However, he's actually as freeas a bird.

Jason Shelfer (06:45):
Yeah, when you zoom out, he's the only one with
the bars.

Jana Shelfer (06:47):
Yeah, he's got mountains in the background,
just like you had in Georgia.

Jason Shelfer (06:51):
Yeah, and I find that when I changed my inner
dialogue and also when I becamegrateful about things, when I
became, when I started workingwith the things that I had,
because what I was, when I saidI suck, when I said you suck,
and when I was looking in themirror, one of the things that I
was doing was a I had thatshitty dialogue and the other

(07:12):
thing was is I was hyper-focusedon what was going wrong, what I
couldn't do, what I didn't have, a lot of the things that on
the negative side and I was notaware at all of all the things
that were going well and whatwas going right.

Jana Shelfer (07:28):
And I think that's why we need a little 4th of
July reminder.
We need a little 4th of Julyreminder.
It's a reminder when you seethose fireworks going up in the
sky, because nowadays you canliterally just pull your car
over around 9 o'clock and lookaround, just look around the
neighborhoods.
Hey, I'll just watcheverybody's fireworks, but
anyway, I think when we seethose fireworks it's almost like

(07:51):
a reminder hey, let'sconcentrate on what we have.
We live in such a wonderfulcountry.
We have freedom.
Do you know what I'm?

Jason Shelfer (08:02):
saying there's so many different little moments
of insight and having these ahasin our soul that say, oh, wow,
it's like an awe moment thatsays's so amazing and we can
take that in our everyday life,it feels like it's human nature
to get caught up in the what'smissing, what's not working it's

(08:25):
because our reticularactivating system is looking for
that.
Because of that dialogue thatwe're having, because we're
telling ourselves, I suck and if.
Or we're asking myself what'swrong with me.

Jana Shelfer (08:36):
We're putting down our country even.

Jason Shelfer (08:37):
Oh gosh, that gave me goosebumps.

Jana Shelfer (08:39):
Right, I mean, how many times have we watched this
?

Jason Shelfer (08:41):
We're putting down our politics.

Jana Shelfer (08:43):
Right.
We put down our politicians, weput down the news.
We're like, oh, it's easy tocriticize, and yet I criticized,
and yet I mean all week they'vebeen working on this big
beautiful bill and it's easy,whoever you talk to, to either
criticize either big beautifulbill or another way.
However, it's pretty remarkablethat they all got into a room

(09:04):
together and came to a decision.

Jason Shelfer (09:07):
Yeah, well, there's.
There's this thing that says alot of times we'll pick the
negative and we'll declare ourrightness.
Yeah, so it's a like what'swrong with me?
So in my mind, subconsciously,I'm saying there's something
wrong with me and I'm declaringmy rightness.
So, because I've now declaredmy rightness, I'm going to prove

(09:28):
it.
So my reticular activatingsystem now is saying okay, I've
got to prove this to my body,yes, and my conscious mind
what's true.
And so that's all I'm going tosee and we miss all the beauty
and wonder in the world that'saround us, because we filter out
all the good, because it's notimportant.

(09:50):
That doesn't need to be provedanymore, because I have declared
my rightness in this thatdoesn't need to be proved
anymore, because I have declaredmy rightness in this.

Jana Shelfer (09:56):
No, even with fireworks.
On the 4th of July, we get thisemail from the Homeowners
Association about you need tohave your fireworks cleaned up
within two hours.
Right, you need to make surethat all of the cardboard and
things, all the yeah and italmost takes takes the the joy

(10:19):
out of it.
Right, because now I'm looking,I know that when I go walk the
dog tomorrow morning I'm gonnago around who didn't clean up oh
my god, they must have beendrunk let me find the evidence
they did not clean up theirdriveway.

Jason Shelfer (10:30):
Let me seek for the evidence of the wrongdoing.

Jana Shelfer (10:32):
Yes, yes, but here's the thing is, I never
would have even looked for thatif I wouldn't have gotten the
email to point that out or itwould have been a reminder of
the celebration instead of areminder of the violation did
you just make that up?

Jason Shelfer (10:48):
well, it just makes sense.
Because we've been doing thisfor so long, it's okay.
Well, now, what is the meaningthat I'm putting behind sense?
Because we've been doing thisfor so long, it's okay.
Well, now, what is the meaningthat I'm putting behind this?
Because we, like you saidearlier, we are building our own
prisons.

Jana Shelfer (10:59):
Yes.

Jason Shelfer (11:00):
So what story am I telling myself?
And am I being influenced bysomeone out there to the story
that I'm telling myself in here?
Because if it's just a reminderof the celebration, then I can
just help clean up and I get toexperience this all in this
freedom and this wonderment thatjust occurred.

Jana Shelfer (11:20):
Okay, so let's just tie this all up in a nice
little beautiful bow.
Fourth of July is a reminderthat we choose, choice.

Jason Shelfer (11:32):
I'm so glad you just said choice really yes, are
you?

Jana Shelfer (11:35):
100 because we always have choices freedom is
all around us and it's literallyjust tuning into where your
freedom is, because even if youthink, oh, my circumstances are
different, I don't have the sameresources, those are.
That's that inner dialogue thatI'm talking about.
Yes, and I guarantee somewherein your life you are rich and

(11:57):
abundant in everything you'relooking for.

Jason Shelfer (12:01):
Yes, everyone has circumstances.
Not everyone allowscircumstances to have them.

Jana Shelfer (12:07):
Oh my God Boop boop, boop, boop, boop boop,
boop, boop, fireworks.
Boom, boom, pow, pow, pow, powpow pow, pow, pow, pow, pow, pow
.
Yeah, now, now we're at the agewhere we just do them in our
minds.
That's right and we're like oh,that was beautiful.
It's like sex, and then there'sno cleanup, so the hoa is happy
.
Okay, guys, thank you forjoining us your freedom.
Keep Living Lucky® enjoy yourfreedom because it is all around

(12:30):
us and it's just a choice ofthoughts and feelings.
It's up to you.
Bye-bye.

Jason Shelfer (12:35):
See you next time .

Jana Shelfer (12:37):
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