Reframing Adversity

Reframing Adversity: The Toolkit for Turning Crisis into Catalyst (Living Lucky® Podcast)

Critical equipment broke days before a major event? That was our week! This self-help episode is a masterclass in reframing adversity. Learn the mindset shifts to stop catastrophic self-talk and launch an upward success cycle.

We share the exact process: sourcing a welder, navigating micro-setbacks, and transforming crisis into momentum and synchronicity.

Discover the difference between resources and resourcefulness, why your tone matters, and how to tell if a setback is a warning or a workout for your resolve and grit.

Actionable Nuggets & Takeaways:

• Adversity is a Gift: Unexpected adversity tests your commitment. The question: "How badly do I want this?" (It's hard to beat someone who doesn't quit).
• Mindset Shift: Catch self-talk. Choose a frame that turns pressure into purpose and fuels belief.
• Resourcefulness > Resources: Breakthroughs come from asking better questions and deploying resourcefulness, not just more stuff.
• The Hero Ask: Use clear tone, not defeatism. Frame your request to allow allies to be the hero, attracting synchronicity.
• Warning vs. Workout: Is the setback a gentle warning (redirection) or a workout for your resolve? Don't quit at the "three feet from gold" stage.
• Strategic Recovery: Adversity can force a protective pause. Strategic rest preserves the bigger goal and builds self-trust.

Steal these strategies to turn your next challenge into a setup!

• How to stop catastrophizing self-talk.
• Resourcefulness vs. resources in problem-solving.
• Is my setback a warning or a workout?
• How to ask for help the right way.
• Strategic recovery for high performers.
• Turning adversity into momentum.
• The role of belief in overcoming obstacles.
• "How does reframing adversity change your outcome?"
• "What is the difference between having resources and being resourceful?"
• "How do you use strategic rest to maintain momentum?"
• "What question should I ask myself when facing a big challenge?"
• "How can I inspire people to help me with my goals?"

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Episode Transcript

Jana Shelfer (00:00):
Are you ready to create a life you crave?
Let's spin that doom loop ofnegativity into an upward
success cycle and startLiving Lucky®.
Good morning.
I'm Jana.
I'm Jason.
And we are Living Lucky®.
You are too.
Even though we've been facingall sorts of challenges this

(00:23):
week.
That's the challenge tune.

Jason Shelfer (00:26):
That's the challenge tune.
What's up next?
What's gonna pop out of thejack in the box?

Jana Shelfer (00:31):
You know, I sometimes say, I love a good
challenge, and then I think I ammanifesting in the wrong
direction.

Jason Shelfer (00:38):
Let's uh let's get away from the just the easy
street.

Jana Shelfer (00:41):
Uh, let's get back onto easy streets.

Jason Shelfer (00:44):
Let's eat some grits and get some grits.

Jana Shelfer (00:46):
All right, just to fill you all in, we have the
ski competition.
We're leaving for Australia inabout three weeks, but we have
training camps, USA trainingcamps for the next two weekends.

Jason Shelfer (00:59):
Yes.
And next one starts in twodays.

Jana Shelfer (01:02):
Yesterday, my ski broke.
My cage snapped.
Snapped like this is analuminum cage, and it literally
broke completely in half.

Jason Shelfer (01:16):
Yeah.
Weird.

Jana Shelfer (01:17):
It was very weird.
And you just ski too hard.
No, I don't.
I don't know a monster outthere.

Jason Shelfer (01:24):
It was just rocking and rolling.

Jana Shelfer (01:25):
I was just trick skiing, which is literally
spinning on top of the water.
It's like a dance out there.

Jason Shelfer (01:31):
Like a little ballerina, a little rough
ballerina.

Jana Shelfer (01:34):
I guess what we want to talk about today is when
challenges arise in your life,how are you perceiving them?
What is the self-talk behindit?
Yeah.

Jason Shelfer (01:47):
This reminds me.

Jana Shelfer (01:48):
Because it will make all the difference in how
you react.

Jason Shelfer (01:52):
Yeah, it's it's I think it's that framing around
it.
It reminds me of when we weregoing to do the jump, the try
jumping for the first time.
Because when we were leavingthe house, we ran into a dead
squirrel or dead rabbit.

Jana Shelfer (02:06):
Like we love the car wouldn't start.
We ran into a dead rabbit.

Jason Shelfer (02:10):
Rabbits are like our like one of our little
spirit animals that we run intoall the time.

Jana Shelfer (02:14):
It is my spirit animal.

Jason Shelfer (02:15):
I carry like that's good luck for us.

Jana Shelfer (02:17):
I carry in my purse a rabbit's foot.
I have for 40 years.

Jason Shelfer (02:21):
Yeah, no offense, rabbits.

Jana Shelfer (02:23):
Well, I love rabbits.

Jason Shelfer (02:25):
And so the car wouldn't start, they'll find
their dead rabbit literally atthe foot of our driveway.

Jana Shelfer (02:30):
Uh-huh.

Jason Shelfer (02:31):
And then we start going, hey, maybe this isn't
the day for jump.
And we've been warned for likethree days that this is very
dangerous.
Like, if you don't do thisright, you could get injured.
All these things are coming up.
So we've got the outsideinfluence telling us, hey, that
this might not be right.

Jana Shelfer (02:48):
Well, I do believe the universe speaks to us in
those ways.
I do believe that thechallenges we face, even if it
is just delaying us from theexperience we're to have, I do
feel, I do personally believethat there are spirit guides
that are helping us out andgetting us in the right mind

(03:11):
frame.
And those challenges are littlegifts.

Jason Shelfer (03:14):
Correct.
And there's a there's a choicebetween is it rejection in a
spirit of redirection, or is itrejection saying, hey, you need
to man up or muscle up and say,no, this is exactly what I want.
This is exactly what I'm calledto.
And I will figure it out andI'll figure out what it is that
I need to learn, what it is Ineed to, who I need to be to

(03:36):
have it.

Jana Shelfer (03:36):
It's almost like the universe is testing your
grit or your resolve.

Jason Shelfer (03:43):
Yes.
Determination, all that, allthose things, your commitment,
perseverance, resilience.
Because it's hard to beatsomeone who doesn't quit.
I mean, that's just that's justa fact.
Like if you're not going togive up, you will you will
learn, you'll get the resources.
Uh there's a saying out therethat says it's not a lack of
resources, it's a lack ofresourcefulness.

Jana Shelfer (04:02):
Yeah.

Jason Shelfer (04:02):
Because like when we think about, and I say this
all the time, and I know peopleget tired of hearing it,
everything that we have todayhas always been here on the
planet.

Jana Shelfer (04:11):
Yes.

Jason Shelfer (04:11):
We just learned a different way to manage the
resources that we have on theplanet to create the things that
we have.

Jana Shelfer (04:17):
Yes.

Jason Shelfer (04:18):
So it's not a lack of resources, it's it's a
new way of being resourceful anda new way of thinking that's
created everything new that wehave.

Jana Shelfer (04:27):
Yes.
And that's that's incredible tothink of.
So back to the cage breaking.
I mean, again, it there wasseveral moments when I thought I
could really go in, go into adefeat, yes, a defeatism
mentality right now.

Jason Shelfer (04:45):
Catastrophizing.
They don't make the cagesanymore.
It's not like we can just go tothe store, go to the sporting
equipment store and buy a newcage.
Right.
Like that's the easy fix.
We're in a throwaway societythat where typically something
breaks, you you just say, okay.

Jana Shelfer (04:59):
Let's get it delivered tomorrow.

Jason Shelfer (05:02):
Next day, air it.

Jana Shelfer (05:03):
And if they they could even do it today for an
extra two dollars.

Jason Shelfer (05:07):
That's two dollars and ninety-nine cents.
We know how to work thatsystem.

Jana Shelfer (05:11):
But this is a little bit different situation.

Jason Shelfer (05:14):
So that's not an option.
So you're on the phone at 6 30at night.
I was finding a welder.

Jana Shelfer (05:21):
I was.

Jason Shelfer (05:22):
And luckily you got the welder.
They're like, I could do thistomorrow morning for you if you
can get it here.
And you got it to them.

Jana Shelfer (05:28):
I did.
And even though you had allsorts of appointments, I was
like, no, I'm gonna figure thisout and I'm gonna get this to
them as soon as possible becauseI want to go to this camp on
Friday.
Yep.

Jason Shelfer (05:41):
So we'll be picking up the ski today.

Jana Shelfer (05:43):
I know.
He was willing to work in theevening.
Yes.
Which I mean, it just almostfelt like a synchronicity.
Everybody was so when you alignwhat you really want in life,
it feels like the right people,the right teachers, the right
opportunities just start fallinginto place.

(06:04):
And it feels like you arelucky.
It feels like you are lucky.

Jason Shelfer (06:10):
And I think you also have to have the the belief
that it will work out.

Jana Shelfer (06:15):
It will.

Jason Shelfer (06:16):
So you could have gone into defeatism, had this
attitude in your in your voiceand in your inflection that you
when you got him on the phonethat he wasn't gonna have the
time, that he wasn't gonna, thathe was gonna be too busy and
all this.
But when you got him on thephone, you said, This is what I
need.
I need it quickly, and it'slike I need to be fit into your

(06:36):
schedule.
And it wasn't like demanding,it was I need your help.
And you're the you're gonna bemy hero because I know that
you're the man for it.
And he's like, I want to beyour hero, and I am the man for
it.
And I'll step up to theopportunity.
I I almost felt him rise up inhis persona to be what the world

(07:00):
needed him to be and what youneeded him to be in that moment.
You know, it's really weird.
So it was that like youtransferred your energy to him
because you believed what waspossible.

Jana Shelfer (07:10):
Now, on my way over there, I literally missed
my exit.
It took me an hour and a halfto drive there.

Jason Shelfer (07:17):
That's what happens when your husband calls
and you're using navigationsystems.
I know.

Jana Shelfer (07:20):
Jason was like, So, is there anything I can do
for you?
I'm like, Oh, I just missed it.

Jason Shelfer (07:24):
Like, you did not call in the middle of my turn.

Jana Shelfer (07:27):
Alexa telling me which way to go.
Oh, and Tater was in the car.
She got thirsty, needed to gopotty, so I had to stop for
that.
Like, there were just so manylittle things.
I started getting reallythirsty.
I was like, I need water.
I don't know why I feel soparched right now.
Why didn't I pack a water to go?
This 30-minute drive is killingme.

(07:47):
In the meantime, we have our myski and the cage in the car, and
uh, Tater didn't have any roomto where she normally sits.
So she was scrunched.

Jason Shelfer (07:57):
All this fit into a little mini cooper.

Jana Shelfer (07:59):
Yes.
And my wheelchair was in there.
Oh my gosh.

Jason Shelfer (08:01):
Oh gosh, I forgot about the wheelchair.

Jana Shelfer (08:03):
Yeah, it was like such a packing for a vacation
and fitting a dog in there.
I feel like I could have easilysaid, I'm done.
This is, you know what?
It's just not meant to be.
However, I feel like it allcomes down to the questions we
ask ourselves.
And in that moment, it felt tome like it was almost the

(08:24):
universe, God, mother nature,whatever you want to call it,
whatever you believe in, waschallenging me to dig a little
deeper.

Jason Shelfer (08:32):
Oh, that's big.

Jana Shelfer (08:34):
And to ask myself, how badly do I want this?

Jason Shelfer (08:36):
Yeah.
Three feet from gold.

Jana Shelfer (08:38):
Right?

Jason Shelfer (08:39):
Yeah.

Jana Shelfer (08:40):
How badly do I want this?
And am I willing to even takeit to the next level?
It's almost a little gift in,hey, let's stay focused here.
And what's really weird is thatI was actually experiencing
some inflammation on my elbow.

Jason Shelfer (08:55):
You got a little tennis elbow.

Jana Shelfer (08:57):
Yeah.
So in some, in some weird way,I am thinking, maybe this
happened to force me to take abreak.
To take a couple days off.

Jason Shelfer (09:05):
You know, it's funny.
I think sometimes life doesthat.
Like it will, it will, yourbody will hit this point and
something will come up thatsays, Hey, you need a break.
You're going, I'm we're gonna,I'm gonna make you take a break.
I remember I would get sicksometimes.
Like, my I was like, I don'tget sick, but when I would
overdo it, my body would say,Hey, you know what?
Break time, buddy.

(09:26):
Like you're down for two days.

Jana Shelfer (09:29):
I truly.

Jason Shelfer (09:29):
And then I would just pop out of it.

Jana Shelfer (09:33):
My whole point today is that a challenge or
adversity, unexpected adversityin your life, it is a gift.
It's a gift.

Jason Shelfer (09:46):
Adversity is a gift.

Jana Shelfer (09:47):
It is a gift.

Jason Shelfer (09:48):
And it's how are you framing your adversity?
And also, where is it in yourlife that you're giving into
adversity and it's getting inthe way of the things that you
really want?

Jana Shelfer (09:58):
It's asking yourself, like my my coach Robin
Banks always says, what do youhave to?
What do you have to, Jana?
What do you have to?
What do you have to?

Jason Shelfer (10:06):
It cracks me up when he says.

Jana Shelfer (10:07):
What do you want?
What do you really want?
Then go for it.

Jason Shelfer (10:10):
Jana, what do you have to?

Jana Shelfer (10:13):
Be unstoppable.
Oh.
Thanks for listening.

Jason Shelfer (10:17):
Keep Living Lucky®.

Jana Shelfer (10:18):
Bye-bye.
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