August 29, 2025 • 14 mins
The Accidental Guide: How Sharing Your Dreams Changes Everything (Living Lucky® Podcast)
What if sharing your dreams could turn a skeptical stranger into your greatest ally? ✨ In this deeply personal Living Lucky® Podcast episode, Jason and Jana Banana share a powerful story of revisiting a childhood lake house after 30 years and learning a profound lesson in human connection.
This episode is a true lesson in personal development and self-help, packed with "nuggets of wisdom" to help you:
- Turn Skeptics into Guides: Discover how articulating your genuine intention can instantly transform a potential conflict into a moment of connection and support.
- The "Guide" in the Hero's Journey: Learn how real life mirrors a classic narrative structure. Just like in epic stories, help often appears precisely when you are ready to give up.
- Overcome Obstacles with Intention: Understand that people inherently want to help because it makes them feel valuable and purposeful. By sharing your goals, you give them a chance to contribute to your success.
- The Power of Vulnerability: Hear how sharing personal, nostalgic memories with a stranger broke down their wall of skepticism and led to an unexpected invitation and new friendships.
- Live Your Dreams Out Loud: This story proves that articulating your dreams doesn't just clarify your own path—it invites others to join you on the journey, transforming potential obstacles into unexpected opportunities.
Ready to invite a little bit of magic into your life? This conversation will shift your mindset and inspire you to share your dreams openly, paving the way for the unexpected guides and allies you need to Live Lucky®.
How to get help from others. The power of sharing your goals. Finding purpose by helping others. Overcoming obstacles with human connection. The 'guide' in the hero's journey. How to turn a skeptic into a guide. The importance of vulnerability in relationships. Getting allies for your goals. Turning a tense situation into a positive one. How to find motivation to keep going. Why is it important to share your dreams with others? What is the 'guide' in the hero's journey? How can I get people to help me with my goals? How does sharing intentions affect others? How can I turn a tense situation into a positive interaction? Why do people want to help others?
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Jana Shelfer (00:00):
Are you ready to create a life you crave?
Let's spin that doom loop ofnegativity into an upward
success cycle and start LivingLucky®.
Good morning.
I'm Jana, I'm Jason and we areLiving Lucky®.
You are too.
Yesterday we had such a littletreat.
(00:23):
We are in Tallahassee and Jasonsaid to me let's go drive over
to my childhood lake house.
Jason Shelfer (00:32):
Yeah, let's go visit the town I grew up in, the
little village I grew up in.
Jana Shelfer (00:36):
And, believe it or not, I've been married to you
for 20 years.
We've gone to Quincy the town,but you've never taken me to the
lake house, which I've heard somany stories about.
Jason Shelfer (00:48):
Yeah, well, it left our family pretty much
shortly after I went to college,okay, and I haven't been back
to that area in 30 years, so Ididn't.
I wasn't sure exactly whichhouse it was, what it looked
like, all all the things.
There were a lot of memoriesthere, but I was like, okay, is
it worth the drive but there wasalso some curiosity.
Jana Shelfer (01:12):
And is this what I remember, because I have such
fond memories?
I remember it a certain way andthen sometimes, when we get
older, when we see it, we'relike that.
Jason Shelfer (01:21):
I remember it.
Yeah, we build a lot ofnostalgia around something and
we only remember the best parts.
Jana Shelfer (01:28):
Now, on the way over, I actually heard you
telling stories to me that I'venever heard before Now, when you
spend as much time with someoneas Jason and I do-.
Jason Shelfer (01:41):
And we tell as many stories as you and I tell.
Jana Shelfer (01:44):
We overshare.
We overshare everything, to thepoint where we're like hey, you
got to come see what just cameout, my ass.
Jason Shelfer (01:51):
Oh gosh.
Jana Shelfer (01:53):
I'm like, oh no, honey, you can keep that one to
yourself.
Jason Shelfer (01:56):
Let's keep the curtain of privacy up a little
bit.
Jana Shelfer (01:58):
Yeah, but my point is we share everything On the
way over to the lake house.
Is we share everything On theway over to the lake house?
You started telling me storiesthat I have never heard before,
which I always find so fun tolike unveil a new layer of your
partner.
Jason Shelfer (02:15):
Right, yeah, that's really fun.
For me it's kind of fascinating.
It's fun to just remember them.
Jana Shelfer (02:20):
So then we get there and we're driving down
this little street and he's like, yep, this is the street, this
is it.
And then, as we're down thislittle street and he's like, yep
, this is the street, this is it.
And then, as we're going downthe street, he's like, oh,
that's where Drew and Claycaught a rabbit.
And that's where blah, blah,blah and, like you, had these
little tiny moments, almostmicro memories.
Jason Shelfer (02:41):
And one of the interesting parts about this is
we're 20 miles out of the town.
Jana Shelfer (02:46):
Yes.
Jason Shelfer (02:47):
And we're about.
So.
The last three miles are down aone-way street that ends at the
lake.
So you end at this point thatyou can't go anywhere, but it
dead ends into the lake.
Jana Shelfer (02:58):
There's nowhere else to drive in the lake or
turn around.
Jason Shelfer (03:01):
Yes, so you don't go down here unless you know
where you're going, and when wegot to where I remembered the
house being, I couldn't find it.
Jana Shelfer (03:13):
You were like it was a white house and it was big
.
And I'm like in my head, I'mthinking how can you not
remember?
Jason Shelfer (03:21):
your childhood house Four bedrooms, two and a
half baths, huge dock all thesethings Now granted, it was just
a vacation weekend house.
Yeah, it was brick house like acinder block house.
It wasn't like super fancy oranything.
Jana Shelfer (03:37):
It was a weekend getaway but it was on the water
and it was in your family, andso all of your cousins.
Jason Shelfer (03:43):
That was where you would meet, and the reason
that was the house that my dadbought was because when he was
growing up, his family andanother family owned it, and so
that was part of his childhood,which was really crazy the way
it kind of left his family cameback into our family 15, 20
years later and then I got toexperience for a time, and then
(04:07):
30 years later, we're going backto visit, but now I can't find
the house.
Jana Shelfer (04:11):
Okay.
So to make a long story alittle longer, as we're driving,
jason starts taking photos.
First of all, he pulls intothis yard because there's no
driveways in these houses.
So he pulls into this yard juston the edge and he starts
taking a photo.
And then he texts his mom anddad and he says is this the
house?
Jason Shelfer (04:31):
Is this our old house?
Because it's not how Iremembered it.
Jana Shelfer (04:35):
And your parents immediately came back and said
nope.
Jason Shelfer (04:39):
Nope, that's not it, and I'm like Jason.
Jana Shelfer (04:41):
Ok, so then we go two houses down and he says this
is the house, and he's tellingme about the big dock in the
back and-.
Jason Shelfer (04:49):
The yard, how it slopes down.
We'd have to drive into theyard and one time we
accidentally had a party there.
Jana Shelfer (04:55):
Accidentally.
Jason Shelfer (04:56):
Well, just people started showing up, and then
word got out, and so the yardwas completely full of cars.
Jana Shelfer (05:02):
And I'm thinking, okay.
So then he takes a picture ofthe house he's telling me about
and he texts his parents and hesays is this the house?
Because you would start tellingme these stories.
And then you would say wait aminute, something isn't quite
fitting here, like not all thedots are lining up.
And I'm thinking, I think hejust dreamt this whole.
Jason Shelfer (05:24):
He's making shit up.
Jana Shelfer (05:26):
Yes, because sometimes that's how you get
when you start making things upRight.
So then we Notice that a man isout there and he's taking our
photo.
Jason Shelfer (05:39):
He's walking down the street behind us taking
pictures of our tag the car.
Just suspicions building.
Jana Shelfer (05:47):
He's very suspicious.
Jason Shelfer (05:48):
Why is someone down here pulling into driveways
?
Because these houses aren'tfull-time houses for everyone.
Jana Shelfer (05:55):
Yes, so they keep an eye out for each other.
Jason Shelfer (05:57):
Yes, full-time houses for everyone.
Yes, so they keep an eye outfor each other.
Jana Shelfer (05:56):
Yes, and then, all of a sudden, I noticed Jason
rolls down his window and thisman is literally at the driver's
window.
Jason Shelfer (06:09):
Yes.
Jana Shelfer (06:10):
And you start a conversation and you can tell
this guy is about to call thepolice on us.
Oh, I'm sure.
Jason Shelfer (06:17):
I'm sure.
Jana Shelfer (06:18):
He's thinking they're scoping out the joint.
That's what they're doing.
Jason Shelfer (06:23):
And it was funny because his name was Ron.
So I got his name and Iexplained to him that I haven't
been here in 30 years andeverything looks very different.
And he knows it looks differentbecause he's in the process of
completely redoing a house thathe bought 10 years ago.
Jana Shelfer (06:41):
He's renovating and it was weird because you
could tell when you rolled thewindow down.
Jason Shelfer (06:48):
And he was still skeptical after probably two
minutes of conversation.
Jana Shelfer (06:52):
And that's what I was about to say is you could
tell there was definite, therewas a wall of skepticism, like
should I trust you?
I don't know.
But then, when you said I wasjust a young boy and I have very
fond memories and you startednaming some of the neighbors
that you remember, when the dockwas that is no longer there.
Jason Shelfer (07:16):
Like it was a boathouse.
At the point where severalneighbors shared a boathouse.
At the point where severalneighbors shared a boathouse,
like there were four stalls init and I remember that because
it was the fish were there.
Like that's where, that's whereyou would go with your little
cane pole and you would catchthe fish.
Jana Shelfer (07:30):
And you'd come home and be like hey, I caught
the biggest bram.
Jason Shelfer (07:34):
Yeah, it was so fun and we would camp on the
peninsula that was across theinlet.
So he recognized that this wasa basket full of childhood
memories and he said I think Iknow the house that you're
talking about.
It was bought several years agoand it was torn down to the
(07:55):
chimney and rebuilt and it'sjust next to the house that you
had first pulled into.
Jana Shelfer (08:02):
And that's when you could start seeing him
unveil the kindness that was inhis heart.
Jason Shelfer (08:10):
He started telling us about the neighbors,
about the history of what hadhappened in the last 10, 15
years.
Jana Shelfer (08:16):
To the point where he said here I'm going to walk
you down to the house I thinkthat you grew up in, and next
thing you know we're going downthis driveway and Jason's
getting out of the car, knockingon the door, and then Bonnie
and Jack come out.
Jason Shelfer (08:30):
And I got to go in and Jack walked me through.
Jack gave you the whole tour,the whole tour and brought out
the photo album of what thehouse looked like when they
bought it and I was like that'sit, that's the house, that's our
yard.
Jana Shelfer (08:43):
And Jason, you're sharing memories.
They're sharing how they haverebuilt it.
They're so proud of the housethat they have now and you can
see the joy and the love thatthey have for this place and
they kept little pieces of it.
Jason Shelfer (08:57):
They took a lot of the they actually had
pictures the tongue and groove,ceiling and wall and made a
whole office down below.
All out of that, because theyloved the architecture and the
feel of it.
Jana Shelfer (09:09):
Yeah.
And then Bonnie was like yeah,there's this big stain on the
deck and we've always wonderedwhat happened there.
What happened there?
Was it a murder?
Was there a fire and Jason waslike, oh, that was my cousins
and I.
We were trying to cook a turkey.
Jason Shelfer (09:23):
Trying to fry a turkey and we didn't know how
much grease to put in.
The pot Overflowed on the dock.
Jana Shelfer (09:29):
So I mean, there were just all sorts of little
nuggets like this that just mademy heart smile really.
But as we drove away, what Ifound to be the most impactful
of this whole experience was thefact that Ron, a total
bystander, was seriously aboutto call the police on us and
(09:54):
then, all of a sudden, when youactually told him who you are
and what your intention, andwhat my goal was.
Jason Shelfer (10:01):
yeah, For being there, was he became the way to
success in that journey.
Jana Shelfer (10:06):
He became our guide.
Yes, and almost he became theconnector and he became the
historian and started telling us.
And so I just want to reallyreiterate this whole story, and
what I came away with it, orwhat I came away from it with,
(10:27):
is that sometimes you know,people are skeptical of us or
you think, oh, they're notfriendly.
But if you tell them yourdreams, you tell them your goals
, you tell them articulate sothat they understand what it is
(10:51):
you're trying to do.
Jason Shelfer (10:52):
It takes away their skepticism and it lends to
them their willingness to help.
Jana Shelfer (10:54):
And not only willingness.
Jason Shelfer (10:55):
I think people inherently want to help Because
they want to matter, we all wantto matter.
It makes them feel valuable.
Jana Shelfer (11:03):
It makes them feel like they are contributing.
And when we left, not only wereBonnie and Jack, the owners of
the house, now beaming and, likeyou said, tickled that we even
showed up, but Ron left with asense of I think that I had my
(11:25):
purpose today.
Jason Shelfer (11:26):
I created this connection.
I was able to facilitate this,and Jack and Bonnie both said we
hope y'all come back anytimeyou want.
Jana Shelfer (11:35):
No, they were inviting us out on the boat.
Both of them Not only Bonnieand Jack, but Ron was like, hey,
come up here any day of theweek, I'll take you out on the
boat.
I'm like, okay, that sounds fun.
Jason Shelfer (11:49):
Yeah, and Jack said you didn't even know if we
were serial killers or not.
I was like, well, what are thechance of two serial killers
being in it?
Just kidding, I tried to makethat a joke, but it's-.
Jana Shelfer (11:57):
They probably got a kick out of that yeah.
Jason Shelfer (12:00):
I was trying to pull in this old joke.
Yeah, you know.
Jana Shelfer (12:02):
Bonnie.
You can never trust a Bonnie.
That's right Bonnie and Clyde.
Jason Shelfer (12:08):
Bonnie Never trusted Bonnie.
That's right, bonnie and Clyde,bonnie and Jack Doing crazy
things in Quincy Florida.
Jana Shelfer (12:11):
So I guess the nugget of wisdom that I just
want to share with everybodythat I feel we experienced
yesterday is tell people yourdreams.
Jason Shelfer (12:23):
Yeah, and let someone be your guide.
Tell people your goals.
Jana Shelfer (12:26):
Tell people your wishes, because when you do,
they will actually get on boardand help you.
Jason Shelfer (12:33):
Yeah, especially if they're clear about what you
want and let them know yourintentions so they can be
intentional about helping you.
Jana Shelfer (12:42):
I have studied the hero's journey.
The hero's journey and ifyou're not familiar, it's a
philosophy of how every epicstory in the world works.
There's a formula and Hollywoodknows this because that's why
they have such great movies,especially Disney.
Disney and Pixar have reallynailed in on the hero's journey
(13:04):
philosophy.
In the hero's journey there'salways a guide that comes to
help.
Yes, and it's usually at thepoint when you're ready to give
up, you're ready to just throwin the towel which we were.
Jason Shelfer (13:19):
We were.
I was turning around.
I was literally turning around,ready to head out, like I don't
know where it is.
I don't know how to get there.
Jana Shelfer (13:25):
Your parents had texted and said you know what?
You can't even see the housefrom the road anymore.
Jason Shelfer (13:28):
Can't see it from the road.
You're not going to be able tofind it All this.
Jana Shelfer (13:31):
Yes, and right at that point was when Ron showed
up at our window.
And it's just so funny becausethat whole interaction could
have gone a couple differentways.
Yeah, it could have ended verybadly Like, hey, this is private
property you need to get out.
Jason Shelfer (13:51):
Yeah, I could have gotten out.
Oh, I could have been like aKaren and been like why are you
taking pictures of our car?
We're just looking around.
Jana Shelfer (13:58):
Yeah, we're on a public road here, so I mean this
could have gone in a coupledifferent ways, but this is how
it ended up.
Jason Shelfer (14:05):
We create our own reality and we all created a
solution in there.
Jana Shelfer (14:09):
I love it, so I hope that our little adventure
yesterday can help someone who'slistening today.
Thanks for joining us.
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Good morning.
I'm Jana, I'm Jason and we areLiving Lucky®.
You are too.
Yesterday we had such a littletreat.
(00:23):
We are in Tallahassee and Jasonsaid to me let's go drive over
to my childhood lake house.
Jason Shelfer (00:32):
Yeah, let's go visit the town I grew up in, the
little village I grew up in.
Jana Shelfer (00:36):
And, believe it or not, I've been married to you
for 20 years.
We've gone to Quincy the town,but you've never taken me to the
lake house, which I've heard somany stories about.
Jason Shelfer (00:48):
Yeah, well, it left our family pretty much
shortly after I went to college,okay, and I haven't been back
to that area in 30 years, so Ididn't.
I wasn't sure exactly whichhouse it was, what it looked
like, all all the things.
There were a lot of memoriesthere, but I was like, okay, is
it worth the drive but there wasalso some curiosity.
Jana Shelfer (01:12):
And is this what I remember, because I have such
fond memories?
I remember it a certain way andthen sometimes, when we get
older, when we see it, we'relike that.
Jason Shelfer (01:21):
I remember it.
Yeah, we build a lot ofnostalgia around something and
we only remember the best parts.
Jana Shelfer (01:28):
Now, on the way over, I actually heard you
telling stories to me that I'venever heard before Now, when you
spend as much time with someoneas Jason and I do-.
Jason Shelfer (01:41):
And we tell as many stories as you and I tell.
Jana Shelfer (01:44):
We overshare.
We overshare everything, to thepoint where we're like hey, you
got to come see what just cameout, my ass.
Jason Shelfer (01:51):
Oh gosh.
Jana Shelfer (01:53):
I'm like, oh no, honey, you can keep that one to
yourself.
Jason Shelfer (01:56):
Let's keep the curtain of privacy up a little
bit.
Jana Shelfer (01:58):
Yeah, but my point is we share everything On the
way over to the lake house.
Is we share everything On theway over to the lake house?
You started telling me storiesthat I have never heard before,
which I always find so fun tolike unveil a new layer of your
partner.
Jason Shelfer (02:15):
Right, yeah, that's really fun.
For me it's kind of fascinating.
It's fun to just remember them.
Jana Shelfer (02:20):
So then we get there and we're driving down
this little street and he's like, yep, this is the street, this
is it.
And then, as we're down thislittle street and he's like, yep
, this is the street, this is it.
And then, as we're going downthe street, he's like, oh,
that's where Drew and Claycaught a rabbit.
And that's where blah, blah,blah and, like you, had these
little tiny moments, almostmicro memories.
Jason Shelfer (02:41):
And one of the interesting parts about this is
we're 20 miles out of the town.
Jana Shelfer (02:46):
Yes.
Jason Shelfer (02:47):
And we're about.
So.
The last three miles are down aone-way street that ends at the
lake.
So you end at this point thatyou can't go anywhere, but it
dead ends into the lake.
Jana Shelfer (02:58):
There's nowhere else to drive in the lake or
turn around.
Jason Shelfer (03:01):
Yes, so you don't go down here unless you know
where you're going, and when wegot to where I remembered the
house being, I couldn't find it.
Jana Shelfer (03:13):
You were like it was a white house and it was big
.
And I'm like in my head, I'mthinking how can you not
remember?
Jason Shelfer (03:21):
your childhood house Four bedrooms, two and a
half baths, huge dock all thesethings Now granted, it was just
a vacation weekend house.
Yeah, it was brick house like acinder block house.
It wasn't like super fancy oranything.
Jana Shelfer (03:37):
It was a weekend getaway but it was on the water
and it was in your family, andso all of your cousins.
Jason Shelfer (03:43):
That was where you would meet, and the reason
that was the house that my dadbought was because when he was
growing up, his family andanother family owned it, and so
that was part of his childhood,which was really crazy the way
it kind of left his family cameback into our family 15, 20
years later and then I got toexperience for a time, and then
(04:07):
30 years later, we're going backto visit, but now I can't find
the house.
Jana Shelfer (04:11):
Okay.
So to make a long story alittle longer, as we're driving,
jason starts taking photos.
First of all, he pulls intothis yard because there's no
driveways in these houses.
So he pulls into this yard juston the edge and he starts
taking a photo.
And then he texts his mom anddad and he says is this the
house?
Jason Shelfer (04:31):
Is this our old house?
Because it's not how Iremembered it.
Jana Shelfer (04:35):
And your parents immediately came back and said
nope.
Jason Shelfer (04:39):
Nope, that's not it, and I'm like Jason.
Jana Shelfer (04:41):
Ok, so then we go two houses down and he says this
is the house, and he's tellingme about the big dock in the
back and-.
Jason Shelfer (04:49):
The yard, how it slopes down.
We'd have to drive into theyard and one time we
accidentally had a party there.
Jana Shelfer (04:55):
Accidentally.
Jason Shelfer (04:56):
Well, just people started showing up, and then
word got out, and so the yardwas completely full of cars.
Jana Shelfer (05:02):
And I'm thinking, okay.
So then he takes a picture ofthe house he's telling me about
and he texts his parents and hesays is this the house?
Because you would start tellingme these stories.
And then you would say wait aminute, something isn't quite
fitting here, like not all thedots are lining up.
And I'm thinking, I think hejust dreamt this whole.
Jason Shelfer (05:24):
He's making shit up.
Jana Shelfer (05:26):
Yes, because sometimes that's how you get
when you start making things upRight.
So then we Notice that a man isout there and he's taking our
photo.
Jason Shelfer (05:39):
He's walking down the street behind us taking
pictures of our tag the car.
Just suspicions building.
Jana Shelfer (05:47):
He's very suspicious.
Jason Shelfer (05:48):
Why is someone down here pulling into driveways
?
Because these houses aren'tfull-time houses for everyone.
Jana Shelfer (05:55):
Yes, so they keep an eye out for each other.
Jason Shelfer (05:57):
Yes, full-time houses for everyone.
Yes, so they keep an eye outfor each other.
Jana Shelfer (05:56):
Yes, and then, all of a sudden, I noticed Jason
rolls down his window and thisman is literally at the driver's
window.
Jason Shelfer (06:09):
Yes.
Jana Shelfer (06:10):
And you start a conversation and you can tell
this guy is about to call thepolice on us.
Oh, I'm sure.
Jason Shelfer (06:17):
I'm sure.
Jana Shelfer (06:18):
He's thinking they're scoping out the joint.
That's what they're doing.
Jason Shelfer (06:23):
And it was funny because his name was Ron.
So I got his name and Iexplained to him that I haven't
been here in 30 years andeverything looks very different.
And he knows it looks differentbecause he's in the process of
completely redoing a house thathe bought 10 years ago.
Jana Shelfer (06:41):
He's renovating and it was weird because you
could tell when you rolled thewindow down.
Jason Shelfer (06:48):
And he was still skeptical after probably two
minutes of conversation.
Jana Shelfer (06:52):
And that's what I was about to say is you could
tell there was definite, therewas a wall of skepticism, like
should I trust you?
I don't know.
But then, when you said I wasjust a young boy and I have very
fond memories and you startednaming some of the neighbors
that you remember, when the dockwas that is no longer there.
Jason Shelfer (07:16):
Like it was a boathouse.
At the point where severalneighbors shared a boathouse.
At the point where severalneighbors shared a boathouse,
like there were four stalls init and I remember that because
it was the fish were there.
Like that's where, that's whereyou would go with your little
cane pole and you would catchthe fish.
Jana Shelfer (07:30):
And you'd come home and be like hey, I caught
the biggest bram.
Jason Shelfer (07:34):
Yeah, it was so fun and we would camp on the
peninsula that was across theinlet.
So he recognized that this wasa basket full of childhood
memories and he said I think Iknow the house that you're
talking about.
It was bought several years agoand it was torn down to the
(07:55):
chimney and rebuilt and it'sjust next to the house that you
had first pulled into.
Jana Shelfer (08:02):
And that's when you could start seeing him
unveil the kindness that was inhis heart.
Jason Shelfer (08:10):
He started telling us about the neighbors,
about the history of what hadhappened in the last 10, 15
years.
Jana Shelfer (08:16):
To the point where he said here I'm going to walk
you down to the house I thinkthat you grew up in, and next
thing you know we're going downthis driveway and Jason's
getting out of the car, knockingon the door, and then Bonnie
and Jack come out.
Jason Shelfer (08:30):
And I got to go in and Jack walked me through.
Jack gave you the whole tour,the whole tour and brought out
the photo album of what thehouse looked like when they
bought it and I was like that'sit, that's the house, that's our
yard.
Jana Shelfer (08:43):
And Jason, you're sharing memories.
They're sharing how they haverebuilt it.
They're so proud of the housethat they have now and you can
see the joy and the love thatthey have for this place and
they kept little pieces of it.
Jason Shelfer (08:57):
They took a lot of the they actually had
pictures the tongue and groove,ceiling and wall and made a
whole office down below.
All out of that, because theyloved the architecture and the
feel of it.
Jana Shelfer (09:09):
Yeah.
And then Bonnie was like yeah,there's this big stain on the
deck and we've always wonderedwhat happened there.
What happened there?
Was it a murder?
Was there a fire and Jason waslike, oh, that was my cousins
and I.
We were trying to cook a turkey.
Jason Shelfer (09:23):
Trying to fry a turkey and we didn't know how
much grease to put in.
The pot Overflowed on the dock.
Jana Shelfer (09:29):
So I mean, there were just all sorts of little
nuggets like this that just mademy heart smile really.
But as we drove away, what Ifound to be the most impactful
of this whole experience was thefact that Ron, a total
bystander, was seriously aboutto call the police on us and
(09:54):
then, all of a sudden, when youactually told him who you are
and what your intention, andwhat my goal was.
Jason Shelfer (10:01):
yeah, For being there, was he became the way to
success in that journey.
Jana Shelfer (10:06):
He became our guide.
Yes, and almost he became theconnector and he became the
historian and started telling us.
And so I just want to reallyreiterate this whole story, and
what I came away with it, orwhat I came away from it with,
(10:27):
is that sometimes you know,people are skeptical of us or
you think, oh, they're notfriendly.
But if you tell them yourdreams, you tell them your goals
, you tell them articulate sothat they understand what it is
(10:51):
you're trying to do.
Jason Shelfer (10:52):
It takes away their skepticism and it lends to
them their willingness to help.
Jana Shelfer (10:54):
And not only willingness.
Jason Shelfer (10:55):
I think people inherently want to help Because
they want to matter, we all wantto matter.
It makes them feel valuable.
Jana Shelfer (11:03):
It makes them feel like they are contributing.
And when we left, not only wereBonnie and Jack, the owners of
the house, now beaming and, likeyou said, tickled that we even
showed up, but Ron left with asense of I think that I had my
(11:25):
purpose today.
Jason Shelfer (11:26):
I created this connection.
I was able to facilitate this,and Jack and Bonnie both said we
hope y'all come back anytimeyou want.
Jana Shelfer (11:35):
No, they were inviting us out on the boat.
Both of them Not only Bonnieand Jack, but Ron was like, hey,
come up here any day of theweek, I'll take you out on the
boat.
I'm like, okay, that sounds fun.
Jason Shelfer (11:49):
Yeah, and Jack said you didn't even know if we
were serial killers or not.
I was like, well, what are thechance of two serial killers
being in it?
Just kidding, I tried to makethat a joke, but it's-.
Jana Shelfer (11:57):
They probably got a kick out of that yeah.
Jason Shelfer (12:00):
I was trying to pull in this old joke.
Yeah, you know.
Jana Shelfer (12:02):
Bonnie.
You can never trust a Bonnie.
That's right Bonnie and Clyde.
Jason Shelfer (12:08):
Bonnie Never trusted Bonnie.
That's right, bonnie and Clyde,bonnie and Jack Doing crazy
things in Quincy Florida.
Jana Shelfer (12:11):
So I guess the nugget of wisdom that I just
want to share with everybodythat I feel we experienced
yesterday is tell people yourdreams.
Jason Shelfer (12:23):
Yeah, and let someone be your guide.
Tell people your goals.
Jana Shelfer (12:26):
Tell people your wishes, because when you do,
they will actually get on boardand help you.
Jason Shelfer (12:33):
Yeah, especially if they're clear about what you
want and let them know yourintentions so they can be
intentional about helping you.
Jana Shelfer (12:42):
I have studied the hero's journey.
The hero's journey and ifyou're not familiar, it's a
philosophy of how every epicstory in the world works.
There's a formula and Hollywoodknows this because that's why
they have such great movies,especially Disney.
Disney and Pixar have reallynailed in on the hero's journey
(13:04):
philosophy.
In the hero's journey there'salways a guide that comes to
help.
Yes, and it's usually at thepoint when you're ready to give
up, you're ready to just throwin the towel which we were.
Jason Shelfer (13:19):
We were.
I was turning around.
I was literally turning around,ready to head out, like I don't
know where it is.
I don't know how to get there.
Jana Shelfer (13:25):
Your parents had texted and said you know what?
You can't even see the housefrom the road anymore.
Jason Shelfer (13:28):
Can't see it from the road.
You're not going to be able tofind it All this.
Jana Shelfer (13:31):
Yes, and right at that point was when Ron showed
up at our window.
And it's just so funny becausethat whole interaction could
have gone a couple differentways.
Yeah, it could have ended verybadly Like, hey, this is private
property you need to get out.
Jason Shelfer (13:51):
Yeah, I could have gotten out.
Oh, I could have been like aKaren and been like why are you
taking pictures of our car?
We're just looking around.
Jana Shelfer (13:58):
Yeah, we're on a public road here, so I mean this
could have gone in a coupledifferent ways, but this is how
it ended up.
Jason Shelfer (14:05):
We create our own reality and we all created a
solution in there.
Jana Shelfer (14:09):
I love it, so I hope that our little adventure
yesterday can help someone who'slistening today.
Thanks for joining us.
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