What Are Ya Afta?

What Are Ya Afta?: The Single Question That Unlocks Audacious Living & Purpose 🧭

Tired of knowing only what you don't want? The simple Australian question, "What are you after?," is the daily reset that pulls you into deliberate living.

This self-help playbook overcomes vague wishes by teaching emotional granularity (aiming for mastery or novelty, not just joy) for sharper decisions.

You'll discover the secrets to consistent personal development:

• The Aim vs. The Climb: Separate ego-driven wins from pursuits aligned with your deepest desired feeling (confidence, freedom).
• The Universe Ticket: Set your big, audacious plan and trust the universe to "write your ticket."
• Clarity Over Conditions: Clarity guarantees the ability to choose a better lens (kangaroos over powdered eggs), not a perfect life.

Life is about the quality of questions we ask.

Actionable Takeaways for Intentional Living:

• The Power of the Question: Your daily compass to shift from autopilot to intentional choice.
• Avoid the Airport Trap: Declare your big, audacious aim or the universe will send you to the back of the line.
• Emotional Granularity: Get specific with the desired feeling (novelty, wonder) to align effort with outcome.
• Chunk Your Aims: Use micro-aims (e.g., "adventure today") to build momentum.
• Clarity Changes the Lens: Choose your frame to transform inconvenience into texture, not a stop sign (Believe in your circumstances).
• The Universe Ticket: Write out your destination and be ready to board.

Hit play, set today's aim, and board the flight to your next big goal!

• How to shift from autopilot to intentional living. The single question that improves daily focus. How to define what you truly want in life. What is emotional granularity in goal setting. How to ask better questions for personal growth. "What does 'What are you after?' mean as a self-help tool?" "How does a daily question change attention and focus?" "What is the universe ticket metaphor for achieving goals?" "Why is emotional granularity better than generic goals?" "How can I stop focusing on what I don't want?"

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Episode Transcript

Jana Shelfer (00:00):
Are you ready to create a life you crave?
Let's spin that doom loop ofnegativity into an upward
success cycle and startLiving Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer (00:14):
Good morning.

Jana Shelfer (00:15):
I'm Jana.
I'm Jason.
And we are Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer (00:19):
You are too.

Jana Shelfer (00:20):
Live from Walla, Australia.
Good night, mate.
Good night, mate.
Out mate.
Today.
If you listen to our lastpodcast, you heard how we have
really started picking up on thevernacular, the communication,
and how it's kind of put usoutside our daily normal script.

Jason Shelfer (00:42):
Yeah, gotten gotten us out of our
conversational comfort zone.

Jana Shelfer (00:47):
Yeah, or maybe our robotic comfort zone.
Well, I want to just maybepiggyback on that and talk about
the phrase, what do you after?

Jason Shelfer (00:58):
Such a good phrase.

Jana Shelfer (01:00):
Because it feels like whenever we go to
breakfast, we hear, what do youafter?
What do you after?
What are you after thismorning?

Jason Shelfer (01:08):
Whenever we walk into a store, what are you
after?

Jana Shelfer (01:10):
What do you after?
And I I don't think I'm quitegetting the exit, right?

Jason Shelfer (01:13):
But I think you're nailing it.
What do you after?
What are you after?
What are you after?
And your coach Robin Bankssays, What are you after?

Jana Shelfer (01:20):
What are you after?
And when I really sat down andstarted analyzing this, it's
such a good question to askyourself.
What are you what are youafter?
What it's really saying is,what do you want?
Because so many times we don'texpress what we really want.

Jason Shelfer (01:36):
How often do like even when we went around asking
people what their dream is, howmany people said, I don't know.
Well, I haven't thought aboutthat in a while.

Jana Shelfer (01:45):
And to be honest with you, I feel like so many
times we almost get mixedsignals from our soul.
And so we don't really knowexactly what we're after.

Jason Shelfer (01:58):
That's big.
That's so big.
And we can really just kind ofchunk this down.
Like if you just got up everymorning and said, Hey, Jason,
what are you after?
Like if I if I asked myself, ifI got out of bed and said, What
am I after?
Yes, I could literally justsay, I'm after joy today.
You know, it gave it gives youthat that target.

(02:18):
Okay, so I like something to tto aim for for the day.

Jana Shelfer (02:22):
But I I challenge you to even get more specific.
What kind of joy?

Jason Shelfer (02:26):
You know, like adventure, something new.
Like I can, I can aim fornewness or a new connection.
Like there's I get to choose atarget to aim for and start
moving in the direction of.
But it gives me that, it almostcreates a purposeful, um,
purposeful trajectory for myday.

(02:47):
Where a lot of times we justget up and we start going
through that habitual emotion ofour day and do the same old,
same old.

Jana Shelfer (02:56):
Which is kind of what we talked about in the last
podcast in in just our dailyconversation.
Hey, how are you doing thismorning?
I'm good.
Thanks.
How are you?

Jason Shelfer (03:04):
Yeah.

Jana Shelfer (03:04):
Fine.

Jason Shelfer (03:05):
Have a good day.
How often do we find ourselvesin that habitual state of being
where it's just the same old,same old?
And then at the end of theyear, we're going, why is why is
my life so much sameness and somuch ho hum instead of the fun
that I hoped I would get out oflife?

(03:25):
Or the excitement.

Jana Shelfer (03:27):
Even though the we're talking about this
question, I still don't know ifI can answer that.
When I ask myself, Jana, whatare you after?
What are you really after?

Jason Shelfer (03:39):
I don't I th I think we don't have to get big.
We don't have to get massivewith it.

Jana Shelfer (03:43):
You got really big with joy.
I mean, that's almost so big.
Well, I feel like we need tochunk that down into maybe a
hundred more questions of whatare you after?

Jason Shelfer (03:52):
See, I don't really.
But see, for me, see, seethere, and there's a difference
in definition.
So for me, joy doesn't have tobe big.
Like I can I can pick joy justas a very small thing.
And that's like for in the grwhen we do our gratitude
journals, I find little microdoses of joy in that.

Jana Shelfer (04:12):
Yeah.
And uh see, I asked myself,what am I after?
I I don't know if I can I mean,I know that once I answer that
question, my stars will aligneven more.
But I asked myself, you know,why have I been training like a
mad woman for the last year?

Jason Shelfer (04:33):
Hardcore.

Jana Shelfer (04:34):
And putting other things on the back burner.
Like, what is it?
What what is it really that I'mafter?
Is it winning?
Is it knowing that I can?
Is it being the best?
Is it showing up for myself,some sort of discipline?

Jason Shelfer (04:53):
Is it just another mountain in this ridge
of mountains that you like toclimb?
Like it's uh like I feel likeyou you will continually make
these these mountains that youwill figure out a way to climb,
whether it's a a physicalmountain or whether it's a just
a goal-style mountain that youwill say, okay, this is my next

(05:17):
thing that I will conquer, andI'm going to figure out a way to
summit this, and we're gonnafigure it out.

Jana Shelfer (05:26):
But is it am I after a feeling?
Am I after some pathway tomonetization?
Am I after what am I after?

Jason Shelfer (05:38):
There there's the question.
What are you after?

Jana Shelfer (05:41):
I think that's why it's an important question
because it's so much easier tosay we have some eggs.

Jason Shelfer (05:45):
Maybe we don't have to answer the question.
Maybe it's we have to ask thequestion.
And maybe that's somethingwhere we're not asking the
question, we're just getting upand doing.
But if we ask our question, oursubconscious will start to look
for that answer.
Like we talk about this uh kindof loosely throughout several
of these podcasts.
When we've almost done 500podcasts, and throughout the the

(06:09):
series, we've said a lot oftimes that life is about the
quality of questions that weask.
And this is one of thosequality questions.
I mean, it can be a simplequestion.

Jana Shelfer (06:20):
I think in life, so many times it's easy to
answer what I'm not after.

Jason Shelfer (06:25):
Right.
And it's easy to find whatwe're not looking for.

Jana Shelfer (06:29):
And we've talked about this in using the analogy
of going to the airport.
You know, you go up to thecounter and you don't they say,
Where are you flying today?
Well, you don't say, Well, Iknow where I don't want to go.

Jason Shelfer (06:42):
You're like, give me some choices.
And they're like, Well, do youwant to go to Hawaii?
No, I don't want to go there.
Well, do you want to go toTifton, Georgia?
No, I don't want to go there.
Like, like somebody can keepgiving you a list of choices,
and you're like, you you cantell them where you don't want
to go.
Well, you need to know whereyou have to.

Jana Shelfer (06:57):
Everyone's gonna get antsy in line.
Like, hey, you dude, when yougo to the back of the line until
you figure it out, right?

Jason Shelfer (07:05):
And what is the universe telling you that?
Is the universe telling youright now, hey, go to the back
of the line until you know whereyou want to go?
And then you come here, comeback to me with your big ass,
audacious what are you after?
You tell me what you want, andthen let's go there.

Jana Shelfer (07:22):
Oh my god.

Jason Shelfer (07:23):
What if the universe is just waiting on your
big, big ass, audacious planand you write it out, you you
plan it out and say, heyuniverse, take me here.
And then the universe said,Here's your ticket, baby, let's
go.

Jana Shelfer (07:35):
Okay, so I guess my question is how specific do
we need to be?
Because I would challenge youand say that joy, I I think it
needs to be more specific.
I think you I think so.

Jason Shelfer (07:52):
What if it needs to be more specific for you?
Because if for me and I'mgetting the experience that I
I'm I'm looking for, yeah, isthat okay for me?

Jana Shelfer (08:03):
Here we go, having our therapy session on our
podcast.

Jason Shelfer (08:08):
But I will accept your challenge because what if
I just need to get a little bitmore audacious with my what am I
after?
Like what if what if I'mlimiting myself by not seeking
that just amazement that I thatis available for me?

Jana Shelfer (08:23):
Yes.

Jason Shelfer (08:23):
That's I think that's maybe the question that
we're asking, right?

Jana Shelfer (08:26):
Well, I mean, yeah, because I I look at this,
even the ski thing specifically.
I mean, why why are we doingthis?
Yeah, it is fun for us, sothere's your joy, I guess.
Well, if we get to travel,there's your joy.

Jason Shelfer (08:40):
Now, here's the thing it's fun, but also our
we're looking, we're finding thefun in it because if someone
was to walk into our hotel roomright now, you would it would
look like something blew up inhere that there's not really
enough room to move around.
I mean, this is not a penthousesuite.

(09:00):
We're not staying in the mostluxury and there are skis
everywhere because we don't havelike an equipment shed to put
everything in and we're loadingthings in and out, but we're
having a blast.

Jana Shelfer (09:13):
So that's a choice.
So that's a choice becausewe're literally in the middle of
nowhere, right?

Jason Shelfer (09:18):
And we're but we're also choosing the the best
parts of this to see.

Jana Shelfer (09:25):
Like we're choosing to see the fun in it
like when we go instead ofchoosing to see the hardships
when we go to the mess hall tohave our powdered eggs, we're
like, oh wait, there's akangaroo in the distance.

Jason Shelfer (09:36):
What a beautiful breakfast.

Jana Shelfer (09:37):
Listen to those birds.
Yes.

Jason Shelfer (09:40):
The sounds here are incredible.

Jana Shelfer (09:42):
Okay, don't change the subject, Chauffeur.
What are you after?
The question today to askyourself is what are you after?

Jason Shelfer (09:52):
What are you after?
And get big and audacious withit and let the universe write
your ticket.

Jana Shelfer (09:59):
I love that.
I love that.
I have some soul searching todo right now.
What am I really after?
Have a great day.
Thanks for joining us.

Jason Shelfer (10:07):
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Jana Shelfer (10:08):
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