51 | How to Unlock Holy Spirit Verses: Surprising Biblical Boundaries Every Christian Woman Needs to Know

Biblical boundaries often get a bad rap in Christian circles. Many view them as restrictions that limit our freedom in Christ, but what if the opposite is true? What if boundaries are actually God's divine protection system—sacred guardrails designed not to constrain us but to create the space where true spiritual freedom flourishes?

This eye-opening exploration of "Unlocking Holy Spirit Verses" reveals how recognizing and respecting boundaries can transform your spiritual life. Starting with the profound wisdom of Proverbs 4:23—"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it"—we unpack the biblical foundation for setting healthy limits in five critical areas of Christian living.

Discover how relationship boundaries honor both yourself and others, reflecting the Matthew 22:39 principle of loving your neighbor as yourself. Learn from Mary and Martha's story about establishing time boundaries that prioritize Jesus over busyness. Explore how taking thoughts captive (2 Corinthians 10:5) and filtering them through Philippians 4:8 protects your mind from destructive patterns. Understand emotional boundaries that prevent anger from giving "the devil a foothold" (Ephesians 4:26-27). And finally, see how structured spiritual practices create space for deeper connection with God.

As a former pastor who struggled to maintain boundaries while serving congregations full-time, I share personal insights about how embracing limits ultimately enhanced my ministry. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by obligations, struggling with people-pleasing, or simply seeking a more balanced spiritual life, these biblical principles will equip you to live with greater intention and peace. Ready to experience the freedom that comes from God's loving boundaries? Listen now and transform your understanding of spiritual health forever.

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Episode Transcript

Paula Behrens (00:01):
Are you ready to transform your spiritual life by
understanding the power ofbiblical boundaries?
In this episode of UnlockingHoly Spirit Verses, we'll
explore how recognizing andrespecting boundaries can lead
to true freedom and deepen yourrelationship with the Lord.
Join us now to discoverprofound and essential
principles that will help youalign your life with God's

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wisdom and peace.
Hey friend, welcome to Livingon Purpose in Christ.
Do you find it challenging tomaintain regular spiritual
practices or long for aconsistent daily quiet time with
God?
Want to align your emotionsthrough biblical principles and
find peace in your relationships?
Hi, I'm Paula and I've been in aplace where balancing spiritual

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practices with a busy life wasa real struggle.
I wanted to connect with Goddaily on a deeper level.
However, my approach to prayer,journaling and studying
scripture lacked consistency andstructure, making it
challenging to truly deepen myrelationship with God.
When I first began my seminarywork while serving two church
congregations full-time,everyone assumed I had my daily

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devotional time perfectlyorganized, but, truth be told,
there were mornings I couldbarely find five minutes to
catch my breath, let alone diveinto deep reflection.
One day, as I rushed out thedoor with mismatched shoes, I
realized that even in my chaosthere was a lesson.
We're all just doing our bestin this journey of faith, a

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beautiful work in progress.
Embracing God's grace andself-forgiveness I realized that
true success in my devotionallife requires prioritizing my
spiritual practices.
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And let's dive in.
Looking back on my time as abusy pastor, it feels as fresh

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in my memory as if it were justyesterday.
In those fervent years, Idiscovered the importance of
carving out personal time amidstthe whirlwind of sermons,
services and pastoral care.
It wasn't easy at first, but Ibegan to intentionally block off
time for my Sabbath day of resteach week, treating it with the
same reverence I offered to mycongregational duties.

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This commitment not onlynourished my soul and
rejuvenated my spirit, but alsoallowed me to serve God's people
with renewed vitality.
Now, having retired from thepulpit, I still hold on to those
lessons and cherish theimportance of setting aside time
for rest and reflection.
Today we're going to dive rightinto a topic that at first

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glance might surprise some.
It's a journey intounderstanding the biblical
boundaries every Christian needsto know, specifically through
the lens of what I am callingUnlocking Holy Spirit Verses.
Now you may be asking whyboundaries?
Isn't freedom a fundamentalpart of our walk with Christ?

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And yes, absolutely it is.
But here's the key True freedomoften comes from knowing where
our boundaries lie.
Boundaries are not meant torestrict us.
Rather, they are divinelydesigned to protect us and guide
us in our walk with God.
To start this journey, let'stalk about Proverbs, chapter 4,

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verse 23, which says Above allelse, guard your heart, for
everything you do flows from it.
This verse lays thefoundational principle for
boundaries.
Our heart, our spiritual core,is incredibly valuable, not just
to us but to God.

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Protecting w hat is preciousinherently involves setting
boundaries.
The Holy Spirit gives us wisdomto discern what needs to be let
in and what must be kept out.
So how do we apply theseprinciples practically as
Christians?
Well, let's identify some areaswhere understanding and setting

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biblical boundaries cantransform our daily lives.
First, boundaries inrelationships.
Yeah, you knew I was going tostart there, didn't you?
One of the most pertinent areaswhere boundaries are vital is
in our relationships.
The Bible encourages us to loveone another, but it also gives
us insights into managinghealthy relationships.

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In Matthew, chapter 22, verse39, Jesus says love your
neighbor as yourself.
Note the inclusion of asyourself.
This invites us to considerself-love, which fundamentally
requires boundaries.
By setting boundaries, we arenot only respecting ourselves,

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but also modeling what it lookslike to love others in a
Christ-centered way.
This concept isn't aboutselfishness.
Rather, it's aboutacknowledging your worth as a
creation of God and caring foryourself in a way that will
ultimately allow you to serveothers more effectively.

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Boundaries help define where oneperson ends and another begins,
allowing for mutual respect andhealthy interactions.
By setting boundaries, we honorour own needs and limitations,
making sure that we aren'tdepleted or overwhelmed.
This personal integrity ensuresthat when we give to others,

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we're doing so out of abundancerather than out of depletion or
obligation or resentment.
Boundaries can include sayingno to things that drain us,
taking time for rest and renewal, and prioritizing activities
that nurture our physical,emotional and spiritual

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well-being.
Remember Ephesians, chapter 4,verse 3,.
It says be completely humbleand gentle, be patient, bearing
one another in love, make everyeffort to keep the unity of the
spirit through the bond of peace.
Here, boundaries help maintainunity and peace.
They are not about saying no toloving others, but about

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ensuring that there is a mutualand healthy exchange in our
relationships.
Second boundaries with time.
Time is a gift from God, andhow we use it should honor him.
The story of Mary and Martha inLuke, chapter 10, verse 38
through 42, highlights thisperfectly.
Martha was distracted by thepreparations, but Mary chose to

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sit at Jesus' feet, prioritizinghis presence over the busyness.
Setting boundaries with ourtime means prioritizing what
truly is the most important.
Ask yourself what activitiesdraw you closer to God and where
you might be wasting time.

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It may require saying no togood things in favor of the
better or the best things, thosethat deepen your walk with
Christ and fulfill his purposefor your life.
Third boundaries and thoughts.
Second Corinthians, chapter 10,verse 5, tells us to t ake

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captive every thought to make itobedient to Christ.
Our mind is a battlefield, andsetting boundaries with our
thoughts ensures we are aligningwith God's truth and promises.
How do we filter our thoughts?
Well, Philippians, chapter 4,verse 8, gives us a wonderful
checklist.
It says, finally, brothers andsisters, whatever is true,

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whatever is noble, whatever isright, whatever is pure,
whatever is lovely, whatever isadmirable, if anything is
excellent or praiseworthy, thinkabout such things.
Having this as a backdrop helpsus recognize when thoughts need
to be redirected or surrenderedto God.

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Fourth boundaries in emotions.
The Bible encourages us toexperience and express our
emotions, but it also calls usto temper them with the fruit of
the Spirit, includingself-control.
Ephesians, chapter 4, verse 26through 27, wisely guides us.
It says, in your anger, do notsin.

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Do not let the sun go downwhile you are still angry, and
do not give the devil a foothold.
Now, this isn't just aboutanger management.
It's a call to place boundariesaround our emotional responses
so they don't become destructive.
By inviting the Holy Spirit tohelp us manage our reactions, we

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can find peace and clarity evenin emotional storms,
demonstrating our trust in God'ssovereignty over our
circumstances.
Finally, it's crucial to haveboundaries in our spiritual
practices.
Colossians 3, verse 16,encourages us saying, Let the
message of Christ dwell amongyou richly as you teach and

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admonish one another with allwisdom through psalms, hymns and
songs from the Spirit.
Having dedicated time forscripture, prayer and worship is
not just a good habit.
It's a boundary that protectsour spiritual health.
Consider setting regularappointments with God, just as
you would for other commitments.
Structure is not unspiritual.

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Rather, it creates room fordepth, intentional connection
and quality time with our Lord.
As we wrap up today's episode,let's quickly recap the
practical ways we, as Christians, can apply biblical boundaries
in our daily lives.
First, boundaries inrelationships.
We learned that settingboundaries in our relationships

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is a reflection of self-love anda way to model Christ-centered
love.
By respecting ourselves, we canmaintain unity and peace,
aligning with Ephesians, chapter4, verses 2 and 3.
Two boundaries with timeInspired by the story of Mary
and Martha, we are encouraged toprioritize our time, focusing

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on what draws us closer to God.
This might mean saying no togood things to embrace the best,
those activities that deepenour walk with Christ.
Three boundaries in thoughts wediscussed the importance of
taking every thought captive toalign with Christ.
Four boundaries in emotions weexplored how to temper our

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emotions with the fruit of theSpirit, particularly
self-control.
Ephesians 4, verse 26 through27, reminds us to manage our
emotional responses so theydon't become destructive.
Lastly, we emphasize theimportance of setting boundaries
in our spiritual practices.
Colossians 3, verse 16,encourages us to let the message

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of Christ dwell richly in usthrough dedicated time for
scripture, prayer and worship.
Okay, as you go about your week, remember that setting these
boundaries is not only biblicalbut also essential for
fulfilling life as a Christian.
May you find strength and peacein these practices and may they

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draw you ever closer to yourLord.
Thank you for joining me today.
I hope you found this helpful.
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Okay, let us close with aprayer.
Dear Heavenly Father, thank youfor the wisdom of your word and
the guidance of your Holy Spirit.
Help us to establish andmaintain boundaries that will
honor you, protect our heartsand promote love and unity with

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those around us.
Lead us in your truth and guardour path as we seek to live
intentionally and purposefullyin Christ.
It is in his precious and Holyname that we ask these things.
Amen.

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Until then, keep leaning intohim and walking in his wisdom.
See you next time.