82 | Got Resentment? Biblical Encouragement on How to Embrace Peace

Find the full episode here >>> Resentment: The Silent Thief of Your Spiritual Peace

Hidden deep beneath our smiles and daily routines, resentment can silently rob us of joy, peace, and spiritual connection. We often carry these wounds far longer than we realize, allowing them to color our relationships and distance us from God's healing presence.

This powerful episode explores the subtle ways bitterness takes root in our hearts and offers a compassionate roadmap for finding freedom. We dive into biblical wisdom from Hebrews 12:15 about how resentment spreads beyond ourselves and examine Joseph's remarkable journey from betrayal to forgiveness. Rather than suggesting quick fixes or spiritual bypassing, we acknowledge the very real pain of wounds while offering practical, Scripture-based approaches to genuine healing.

What makes this conversation unique is the holistic approach to emotional and spiritual wellness. Beyond prayer and Scripture, we explore how God's natural gifts—including therapeutic-grade essential oils—can support our nervous systems during the challenging work of releasing long-held hurts. The Aroma Freedom Technique offers a bridge between spiritual intention and physiological calm, creating space for the Holy Spirit's gentle healing work.

Whether you're carrying decades of hurt or simply notice resentment creeping into your thoughts, this episode provides compassionate guidance for acknowledging pain, choosing forgiveness, and maintaining freedom through gratitude, empathy, and regular spiritual check-ins. Most importantly, you'll discover that healing from resentment isn't about excusing what happened—it's about releasing your right to hold onto pain while trusting God with the outcome.

Ready to break free from what's been weighing you down? Listen now and take your first step toward living with a lighter heart and deeper spiritual connection. Then book your Aroma of Christ Coaching Hour to create a customized devotional routine that brings consistent peace into your everyday life.

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Episode Transcript

Paula Behrens (00:01):
Have you ever felt the weight of resentment
pulling at your soul so subtleit hides behind your smile but
so loud it echoes in your quietmoments?
What if letting go isn't aboutexcusing the pain but stepping
into freedom?
Today we're going deeper intothe spiritual, emotional and
practical journey of healingresentment, with Christ as our
anchor and peace as our promise.

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But first funny story.
When I first began my seminarywork while serving two church
congregations full-time,everyone assumed I had my daily
devotional time perfectlyorganized.
But truth be told, there weremornings I could barely find
five minutes to catch my breath,let alone dive into deep
reflection.
One day, as I rushed out thedoor with mismatched shoes, I

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realized that even in my chaosthere was a lesson.
Embracing God's grace andself-forgiveness, I realized
that true success in mydevotional life requires
prioritizing my spiritualpractices.
Are you finding it challengingto maintain your spiritual
practices or yearning for a morepeaceful, God-aligned day?
I'm Paula and I've been theretoo.

(01:07):
Balancing spiritual habits witha busy life can be difficult.
I longed for a deeperconnection with God, but
struggled with consistency.
Then I found the perfectapproach.
If you seek simple ways todeepen your connection with God,
this podcast is for you.
Are you curious about whatactually happens in the Aroma of

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Christ Coaching Hour?
Let me walk you through it.
First, we'll talk about yourcurrent routine what's working,
what's not, and where you feelstuck or dry.
Then we'll walk through yourspiritual goals, whether that's
deeper intimacy with God, morepeace or simply knowing how to
stay consistent.
Together, we'll build arealistic devotional routine
that works for your real life,and I'll introduce you to ways

(01:51):
essential oils can help you feelmore grounded and connected
during your time with the Lord.
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steps and a fresh wind in yourspirit.
Everything we do is led by theSpirit and grounded in grace,
not guilt.
So head on over now topaulabehrens.
com/ coaching and book yoursession.

(02:12):
That's Paula BehrensB-E-H-R-E-N-S .
com/ coaching (no spaces).
It's time to bring beauty andbalance back into your quiet
time.
All right, let's get started.
Grab your Bible, dust off yourjournal and cozy up to your
favorite beverage and let's divein.

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Let me ask you something, not tomake you feel guilty or
uncomfortable, but to sparksomething inside.
Have you been carrying a burdenof bitterness longer than
you've carried a blessing ofpeace?
Because, friend, resentmentdoesn't just live in the past,
it seeps into our present, itcan steal our sleep, our joy and
our sense of direction, plus,it builds walls between you and

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your Creator, God.
But here's the good news youdon't have to stay there, not
even for one more day.
In today's episode, we'reexploring how resentment takes
root in our hearts, what theBible says about letting go and
how to walk toward healing andfreedom with confidence, not
denial.
This is not about pretendingyou didn't get hurt.
It's about acknowledging thepain of what happened and

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placing it into the hands of theonly One who can truly redeem
it.
Let's begin where most of usstart somewhere between silence
and anger.
Feelings of resentment oftenstart with something small, a
dismissive word, a brokenpromise, a betrayal.
Maybe someone disrespected yourboundaries, ignored your needs

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or overlooked your well-intendedefforts.
And while you may have moved onexternally, something inside of
you paused.
You didn't even realize howmuch until the day when someone
mentioned that place, their nameor that situation, and it felt
as though the wind had beenknocked right out of you.
This is the subtle, gentle wayresentment can start to grow.

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The Bible calls it a root, andfor good reason.
Resentment is often invisible atthe surface, but gaining
strength underneath, silentlycoloring your emotions, shaping
your thoughts and affecting yourrelationships.
We can learn from Hebrews,chapter 12, verse 15, which says
that we are to see to it thatno one falls short of the grace

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of God and that no bitter rootgrows up to cause trouble and
defile many.
The root of resentment issneaky like that.
It doesn't just affect you, itspreads.
It hardens your tone whenyou're speaking with loved ones,
it steals your ability to trustthose around you and over time
it can even build barriersbetween you and the Holy Spirit.

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So how do we begin to dig outthat root?
The first step is to acknowledgethe pain.
That sounds simple, but it'sthe one step people often avoid.
Why?
Because it forces us toconfront what we wish we could
forget and it makes us feel weak.
But let me gently remind you,what you push down into your

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subconscious, you prolong.
And God is not surprised byyour hurt, he's not asking you
to conceal it, in fact, heinvites you to talk with him
about the situation so he canheal what you've been trying to
manage on your own.
In Psalm, chapter 34, verse 18,we hear: The Lord is close to

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the brokenhearted and savesthose who are crushed in spirit.
God's not close to thosepretending that everything is
okay.
He's close to the brokenhearted.
You don't have to be strong forGod to come near, you just have
to be real.
After recognizing the wound, thenext step is something that

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often seems impossible,forgiveness.
I understand.
Even now, just hearing the wordmight make your stomach churn a
bit, but here's the thing.
Forgiveness doesn't meanpretending something didn't
happen.
It doesn't mean trusting theperson again or even reconciling
with them.
Forgiveness is releasing yourright to hold on to that pain

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while trusting God with theoutcome.
Why is forgiveness so important?
Because resentment andunforgiveness keeps you in
bondage, not the person who hurtyou.
That person may have alreadymoved on, they may not even
understand the depth of yourpain.
But you, you deserve freedomfrom that pain, which comes when

you say (06:33):
God, I give this to you.
I choose peace over bitterness.
I choose healing over holdingon.
And yes, it's a choice you mayhave to make more than once.
Sometimes we forgive with ourmouth before our hearts are
ready.
That's okay, though, so keepsaying it, keep surrendering it,
keep praying through it.

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If you need a biblical reminderthat forgiveness is possible,
look at the life of Joseph.
Betrayed by his brothers, soldinto slavery, falsely accused
and thrown into prison, he hadevery right to be resentful,
every reason to hate.
But when the time came andthose same brothers stood before
him in fear of what he might do, Joseph chose mercy.

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In Genesis, chapter 50, verse20, he says to his brothers: You
intended to harm me, but Godintended it for good, so that I
could accomplish what is nowbeing done.
That's the healing forgivenessbrings.
It shifts our perspective frompain to purpose.
And, of course, our ultimatemodel is Jesus.

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Hanging on the cross, wronglyaccused, beaten, mocked and in
excruciating pain, what does hesay?
Father, forgive them, for theydo not know what they are doing.
If Jesus could forgive from thecross, we can forgive too.
Not in our own strength are weable to forgive, but through

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God's strength.
So what does that look like andhow do we actually begin?
Well, we begin by prayinghonest, open prayers.
We don't filter them, we don'trush them.
We bring all the broken piecesbefore God.
Then we invite the Holy Spiritto begin the healing process.

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One way I personally help otherswalk through this journey is
with the Aroma Freedom Technique, a biblically sound approach
that uses Young Living essentialoils to support the emotional
work of letting go.
God gave us these oils, thesearomatic molecules from the
plants, he gave them to us astools, as gifts, to bring calm
and peace into the nervoussystem so that deeper healing

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can begin.
And when we pair God's naturalaromas with prayer and scripture
, walls come down.
In the coaching space I offer,we won't just talk about
forgiveness, we'll walk throughit together.
We'll apply the oils, we'llbreathe, we'll trust in God's
ability to heal and we willuncover and then release
whatever is blocking yoursuccess mentally, emotionally or

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spiritually.
Together, step by step, we willidentify and release the
barriers that are blocking yourability to let go.
Because here's the truth whenyou let go of resentment, you
make space for God's peace, youstop rehearsing the offense and
start renewing your mind, andyou become more emotionally
available for those who do loveand support you.

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Here's what I want you toremember.
This process is not for theother person, it's for your
freedom, and freedom issomething we maintain, it's
something we do daily.
It's one thing to forgive, it'sanother to keep our hearts
tender when new wounds try tosettle in.
So how do we stay free?

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We embrace gratitude.
It's hard to hold resentmentand gratitude in the same heart.
When you begin to feel anger,shift your focus to something
God has done for you, not todismiss your pain, but to
reclaim your perspective.
Gratitude gently reminds usthat bitterness doesn't have the
final say.
Then cultivate empathy.

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Sometimes the person who hurtyou was acting out of their own
unhealed pain.
That doesn't excuse theirbehavior, but it helps you
detach from the personal sting.
When you say, I don'tunderstand why they did it, but
I trust that God sees allthings, you can take your power
back.
And don't forget to check inwith God on a regular basis.

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Bitterness doesn't usuallyshout, it normally whispers.
So take time every week to sitwith God and ask: Lord, is there
anything in my heart that'sgrowing where it shouldn't be?
He will be faithful to show youand he will be gentle when he
does.
Lastly, serve someone else.
When you start to focus outward, you disarm the self-centered

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pull of resentment.
Helping someone, encouraging afriend or volunteering at your
church, these acts realign yourheart with God's love.
Friend, you don't have to dothis alone.
If this episode has stirredsomething in your spirit, if
you're realizing that unhealedresentment, chronic stress or
spiritual procrastination hasbeen quietly sabotaging your

(11:11):
peace, then I want to invite youinto something truly sacred.
It's called the Aroma of ChristCoaching Hour and it's a
spirit-led session designed tohelp you clear the clutter in
your heart, reconnect with Godin a deeply personal way and
create a daily devotional rhythmthat fits your life, your
season, your energy and yourschedule.
Because here's the truth whenwe don't have a consistent quiet

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time with God, it opens thedoor for things like resentment,
anxiety, procrastination,overwhelm and memories that
trigger that uncomfortableemotional charge deep in your
gut.
All of this because, more thanlikely, the healing process has
been paused, not completed.
But there is hope.
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Through the gentle guidance ofthe Holy Spirit, we will work
together to create a quiet timeroutine that fits into your
actual life.
Not a checklist, not a burden.
A sacred pause that restoresyour peace and helps you release
what's been weighing you down.
You don't have to keep livingon spiritual empty.
You don't have to let stress,procrastination or past wounds

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steal one more day from yourcalling or your peace.
Let's breathe together, let'spray together, let's craft your
devotional rhythm and releasewhat's been holding you back.
To book your Aroma of Christcoaching hour, plus the Peace
RESET Bonus, go to paulabehrens.
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If you don't have these specificoils, don't worry.

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Although chosen by thepsychologist who developed the
technique and trained me foryour optimal healing, there are
other natural aromas you can usetemporarily, like the
invigorating scent of a freshlypeeled grapefruit, the fresh
aroma of crushed rosemary, thewarm spice of cinnamon, the
coolness of mint leaves, theherbaceous fragrance of basil,

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the refreshing scent ofeucalyptus or the soothing aroma
of peppermint tea.
These natural scents can stillsignificantly support the
healing process.
However, for optimal resultsand the full benefits intended
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Come as you are, leaverefreshed, realigned and ready
to walk in God's freedom, onequiet moment at a time.

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Thank you for tuning in todayand remember, just like setting
biblical boundaries, it's okayto say no to things that don't
serve you well, like that thirdpiece of cake at the church
potluck.
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Join us next time as wecontinue to discover how to live
on purpose in Christ.
Until then, keep leaning intoHim and walking in His wisdom.
See you next time.