42 - Attachment Styles, Audacity Levels & Acts of Self-Destruction

🎙️ Episode 42: Attachment Styles, Audacity Levels & Acts of Self-Destruction

(Healing is real, but so is the backslide.)

📢 Audio Note: Apologies in advance—this episode is audio-only because sometimes technology is a petty little bitch. Bertha Mae (Erika’s laptop) did her best, but she’s one buffering circle away from retirement. Sarah's video came in blurry as hell so, apologies in advance for the crappy reels about to hit your algorithm.

This week on Living Understaffed, we dive into the ever-complicated world of attachment styles—you know, that fun psychological framework that explains why we keep falling for emotionally unavailable men like it’s a competitive sport. 🧠💔

Inspired by Scientific American’s “Love and the Brain: How Attached Are We to Attachment Styles?” (link below) we ask the big questions:

• Can your attachment style actually change over time? (Spoiler: Yes. And it usually involves a man named Graygg or Magic Guy™.)
• Are we just chasing familiar trauma with new faces?
• And is anxious attachment basically just "me, but make it romantic"?

Inside this episode:

• 🎧 Daisy the dog has chosen hot dog buns as her maternal legacy
• 🛠️ Sarah finds emotional catharsis in dry erase cling paper and accidentally sells it like an MLM boss babe
• 💔 We talk about how trauma, life transitions, and really bad dating decisions can shift your attachment style faster than a situationship ghosting you
• 📉 Plus, a whole discussion about self-awareness, setting boundaries, and why being “a lot” isn’t the insult you think it is

Also featuring:

• Roommate demotions
• Emotional growth we didn’t ask for
• And sultry office supply reviews that are weirdly soothing

If you’ve ever spiraled over a situationship and impulse-bought a productivity planner, this one’s for you. 💅💭📦

Shoutout to E.C. Garrett, author of The Dragon Queen series—a dark, adult romantasy full of dragon‑slaying Gauntlets, sapphic bonds, rebellion, and grief you’ll feel deep. Book 2 (The Defiant & The Damned) out now.

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Dragons die. Hearts burn. Expect both.

PODCAST INSPIRATION: https://www.scientificamerican.com/podcast/episode/love-and-the-brain-part-2-how-attached-are-we-to-attachment-styles/

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