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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Well, hello there.
This is Living your Success24-7 with Michael Caine.
I am back Boy.
Life has been good, but it is aroller coaster, isn't it?
I've been doing less podcaststhe last month because my
attention has been busy businessstuff, but I tell you,
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sometimes you have to shift, youhave to shift and only one
person can be me, and that's me.
That person is already taken.
Michael Caine is already taken.
This is Michael Caine.
Anyway, thank you for stillbeing loyal and downloading the
podcast.
It's there for listeners, newand already attached here.
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So please subscribe and letyour family and friends know.
Hey, there's this podcast aboutsuccess, and I'm like a success
coach.
I'm not like that's what I am,but I like it.
And so to help people findtheir purpose, people define
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what makes them tick, and to bea source of encouragement I see
encouragement lacking in so manypeople's lives.
I know I had a spell where youknow just wow, you know be glad
to hear something positive,right and helpful too.
You want to be helpful, and sothat's what my goal is is to
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help people.
And so I do self-serving here,encourage you to get my book.
The e-book version is fasterand the most inexpensive, so I
encourage you that if you havean electronic device you can
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read books on.
I encourage you to get Slayingyour Dragons Living the Life you
Always Wanted by Michael Kane,k-a-n-e.
And Slaying your Dragons, andthen subtitle Living the Life
you Always Wanted by MichaelCaine, k-a-n-e and Slaying your
Dragons, and then subtitleLiving the Life you Always
Wanted.
So I'd appreciate that.
Make a good gift too.
But they're paperback andhardcover bound as well, but
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e-book if you want to get in andout the lowest price point, I
recommend that.
So enough plugging myself.
How are you doing?
Ask yourself that, how are youdoing so many times we rely on
work, direct our attention toother people.
We forget us.
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We forget what makes us tick,what makes us thrive, what makes
us survive and prosper.
We forget ourselves.
Have you heard it before?
When you're in the airplane andthey do the emergency
procedures, what do they tellyou to do?
Put your own oxygen mask onfirst, right, because if you're
unconscious, you're not puttingit on your child or your friend
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or the person sitting next toyou.
All of you are knocked out ifthere's no air.
And you put your mask on first.
And it's not being selfish,it's being common sense and
doing what you need to do.
Get enough rest, get enoughexercise.
Watch what you eat, all thosethings, watch what you think.
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Stinkin' thinkin' Pastor afriend of mine, told me that
years ago Stinkin' thinkin'That'll hurt you, make you more
sick, make it worse.
Whatever's worse, it can getworse, yes, it can.
So you got to change andreframe.
You heard about that reframingyour mind.
What are you thinking?
You have to be honest withyourself.
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Obviously, if your toe hurts,it hurts.
Just saying it won't stop itfrom hurting.
You got to do what?
Take decisive, effective action.
This particular episode is aboutyou to put yourself in a
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position where you can roll withit.
Roll with the punches.
We had an earthquake and thebuilding is on like rollers, so
it kind of rolls with going thisway, rolls with instead of
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being in conflict, andessentially snaps in half.
It just rolls.
It's like rollers.
I had a house like that twoyears ago and the owner the
previous owner, he was a guru ofconstruction and so he built
that house where it wouldtighten up and it would roll,
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and so we have to do that aspeople.
When there's adversity, you know, let's say you're having a bad
day, challenging, overwhelmed,and whatever you got to roll,
say it, say it.
Come on, say it with me.
Roll, say it again.
Roll to the left, roll to theright, roll up, Roll back, roll
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up, roll down.
And instead of getting overlyfrustrated and pissed off,
overly frustrated and pissed off, now acknowledge what it is.
I'm not saying to be a fool andturn your back on a real life
problem.
And just because you put yourhead in the sand when you bring
it back up, that problem isstill going to be here.
In fact it'll be multipliedbecause you didn't take care of
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it.
So please, you address it.
But all I'm saying is watch theemotions and the psychology
behind that.
So you're well, you want toprotect your mental, emotional,
psychological well-being.
That's all my point from yoursuccess coach here.
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So your life coach, successcoach, whatever the names are,
helpful person, that's good.
So think back to the situationwhere you lost it good or bad,
just kind of juggling high andyou ask yourself well, how could
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I have responded differently,better, to that adversity, to
that problem, to that cancerthat is trying to infiltrate?
What could I have said, donebetter?
Again, I'm not suggesting yoube phony, phony, baloney, phony,
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but to be real, to be authentic, to accept the situation that
it exists as is.
And okay, after you do that,what can I change?
Certain things, you can'tchange anything.
It's out of your control.
A lot of times we waste ourtime yes, you and I On things we
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cannot control, on things wecan't do anything about except
respond and give an opinion, andcertain things you can control.
And what can you do If it's anargument between you, say, you
argue with one of your coworkersor a family member, whoever it
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is the other person, and youfeel sad, sorry that you said
certain unkind things.
Well, you can't take it back andsay it.
Well, what can you do?
Can what?
I know?
Some of you don't want to do it.
I'm not apologizing.
They started it first.
Well, that could be an egothing that we have where the
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other person starts it.
But are you suggesting Iapologize first for my role in
it?
Well, if there's something toapologize, yes, maybe you need
to do that.
It depends on how important thatrelationship is.
Are you willing to let it goover?
Something a little stupid, tinyand stupid?
Now, if it's not tiny, you mayneed to let that relationship go
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.
See, I'm being real authentic.
Sometimes you got to let it go.
What is that, elsa and Frozen?
Let it go.
Let it go.
Let it go.
Sometimes you got to cut it offthe umbilical cord.
Let it go.
What did I say?
Let it go.
Sometimes you got to.
You got to understand what areyou dealing with when you're
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coming upon relationships,whether it's personal or
work-related relationship.
One thing I do know, and I tryyou can't change anybody.
You could persuade people bygiving a convincing argument and
then they say, hey, you knowwhat you're right, but you can't
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control people.
That's emotional intelligence.
It's hard to control yourself,let alone trying to control
other people, and you say, well,I'm the boss.
Well, you may be a boss of oneor be an effective boss.
If you think being a jackass isgoing to help.
Oh, I said it.
Some people think yelling andscreaming is okay.
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It's never okay.
I don't care what period oflife, existence in 1920, 40, 60,
80, 2010, 2020, 2025, 2026coming up where it's okay to be
disrespectful and unnecessarilyargumentative, unnecessarily
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foolish, mean evil.
Can I stop now?
I'm running out of adjectives.
So you got to own up to yourpart of.
If there's any problem, issuesor conflicts, you take the high
road.
I tell people but Mike, I can'ttake the high road, I can't
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stand it.
You can't stoop down to someoneelse's level.
You just can't.
You can't Now you can, but willthat improve the situation or
amplify it?
Now you just first you're usinglittle pea shooters, a .22 or
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whatever.
Now you're just taking it to anuclear reactor level and I ask
you, how did that work out?
Did you burn a bridge thatyou're going to need that bridge
later?
Then that's foolish, isn't itShould have controlled yourself.
Oh, there's that word're goingto need that bridge later?
Then that's foolish, isn't itShould have controlled yourself.
Oh, there's that word control.
How can I controlmyself?
Well, we have to all takeresponsibility for our actions
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and our comments, statementsthat come out of our head, our
brain.
Take responsibility and again,sometimes you may need to be the
first mover on apologizing tokeep the relationship alive and
to keep.
You know you can.
Maybe you're in business,entrepreneurship, you're losing
clients and you know they hadenough of, maybe an attitude
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that you may have or whatever.
Not saying it's you, but youhave to.
Again, you have to evaluate andmeditate.
Probably pray, yeah, pray.
Some say, oh, I can't pray,there's nothing to pray to.
Well, how'd that work out foryou?
Nothing to meditate on, nothingto think about?
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Well, that's your choice, it'sall your choice.
That's your choice, it's allyour
choice.
But regardless of your beliefsystem, developing sound and
relationships effective I wassearching for that effective
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word it could be in your bestinterest.
Nine out of ten it is.
What's the opposite?
Ineffective.
That's not going to helpanybody.
Even if we're not talkingbusiness or professional, we're
talking personal.
Do you really want to throw alot of grenades out and burn a
lot of blow up a lot of bridgesunnecessarily?
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Sometimes, someday in thefuture, you may need one of
those bridges you blew up and,like I said, sometimes some of
them need to go, but naturally,not artificially.
Everything has a season andjust make sure you know is this
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the season or not to moveforward, to repair, to work on,
to enhancing, improving thatparticular relationship?
Again, it's all up to you.
But if you want to besuccessful the name of the show
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is Living your Success you haveto have effective professional
work and relationships, and Iwould say having personal,
effective relationships willhelp your professional
side.
You know it's hard to be aJekyll and then a Hyde at the
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same time with different groupsof people.
It can be done, but it's chaos.
You really don't want a life aworld of chaos, do you?
I don't think so.
Most normal people say no.
I don't want a life a world ofchaos, do you?
I don't think so.
Most normal people say no, Idon't want any chaos in my life.
Sometimes we create our ownchaos, let alone other
people.
Think about it.
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What did I do today that itcould have been avoided?
That would have helped my lifeto be that much better.
Well, I could have shut up andnot said this to so-and-so, or
maybe I should have taken thisaction and thought about it
fully before saying this toso-and-so.
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You know?
So you think on what?
What's the end game?
Not to borrow from MarvelCinematic Universe what's the
end game?
The Avengers?
You got to think about thatBefore you start playing the
game.
You should know the end of thatgame before you even start.
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Well, yeah, you can dothat.
When I approach someone, I say,okay, what are the
possibilities?
What do I want out of this?
What am I trying to persuadethe person, or apologize, or
meet them or negotiate, or whatam I trying to do?
I'm trying to get money.
I'm trying to get someone, orjust someone's, attention for a
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payday later.
Okay, am I trying to get awin-win or am I just trying to
dominate?
You got to be honest withyourself.
What is your game plan?
Life is a game, make no mistake.
You're playing it.
You're on it.
In fact, if you want to stay on, what is that a goal?
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If this is a monopoly, you'restill in the game.
You're just not effective,efficient, not going nowhere,
but you're still on therebecause things operate with or
withoutus.
Most organizations can prosperand survive without any
particular person.
Most people are expendable.
Don't start crying on me now.
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Don't say it ain't so, mr K,say it ain't so, I'm expendable.
That means they can do withoutme.
Most generally, the answer isyes, even if you are a
specialist in something.
Do you think you're the onlyspecialist?
You may be the best one, butmaybe they'll pick number two,
number one flamed out on them.
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What are they supposed to do?
So, anyway, I just want to sowthe seeds right there for you.
Sow the seeds so you can thinkabout your relationships, and
you may want to do an inventory.
On the personal side mother,father, siblings, uncle, grandma
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, grandpa Then you have friends,a whole bunch of work friends,
this friend, the bowling friend,the smoking friend, the
drinking friend, this friend, orjust friend, and then you have
your personal relationships,could be romantic relationships,
and then you have yourprofessional, business,
entrepreneur relationships.
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So start off with one and whenyou conquer that one, go to
another and say, and you may, itmay not be any repair work need
to be done, but just enhancingor reassuring, right, just
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confirming.
So just think about some of thethings I said today and that's
all part ofsuccess.
It's not just about making theBenjamins, which is making just
the money.
Moving on life is more thanjust money.
It's about relationships.
People want to hire you on abusiness level or partner with
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you, invest in your vision.
People, they invest in people,not just real estate, not just
manufacturing companies,software services or whatever it
is.
We attach ourselves to reallife, human beings, at least for
now, before AI, rightApocalypse.
That's another podcast, butanyway, thank you for listening
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to me.
I appreciate you, even though Idon't know your names, and I
thank you and please keeplistening and pass it along this
podcast for others.
So I want to give you some.
Keep giving you nuggets andnuggets and nuggets of
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information, of knowledge, andmy experience as well.
So that's it, my friends.
It's been a pleasure.
We'll talk.
You will hear me soon.
This is Michael Caine, livingyour success 24-7.
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Until next time, my friends,until next time, adios.