Love Better & Life Better
Love Better is a safe and loving space where we talk about the real, raw parts of relationships. I’m Shazmeen, and in this podcast, I’ll be sharing my own story and the lessons I’ve learned about attachment styles, relationship healing, and self love. We’ll talk about how attachment styles shape the way we connect, the struggles of addiction your fearful or dismissive avoidant partner may have to pornography or other levels they numb feeling away, what happens when intimacy fades in sexless relationships, and how losing touch with our inner child can impact how we love. You will walk away with lessons and tools to improve your current relationships, walk away from ones that no longer serve you and learn how to build new relationships from a place of secure foundations. We will break down anxious attachment, secure attachment, fearful avoidant attachment and dismissive attachment and the deep role our attachment styles play in the way we intimately relate to others and ourselves. The key will be to grow to be more securely attached. But most importantly, I’ll be here offering support, kindness, and compassion as we explore how to heal these wounds. My hope is that through these conversations, you’ll feel seen, heard, and empowered to rebuild the love and connection you deserve—starting with yourself. I wanted to create a podcast that felt like you are talking and listening to a friend. One that cares deeply for your ability to love better. We will dive deep into how our attachment styles hold a foundation for a lot of the decisions we make. You will gain an insight into your "why's" and learn from a place of no judgement. You will learn how to communicate better, resolve challenges and handle conflict from a new perspective. I hope you enjoy listening to this podcast whilst on a walk, jog, in the tub or taking yourself on a date. Lets get vulnerable together and as we heal remember we can love better. NO more blaming, critiquing and shaming yourself and your partner. Life better is a segment that drops every Thursday and will teach you self mastery, mastering emotions and how to take responsibility of your life. I will give you tools you can use weekly to grow into the version of "self" you are born to be.
Episodes
In this episode, Shazmeen Bank delves into the complex emotions and challenges faced by couples dealing with betrayal and infidelity. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the pain of both the betrayed and the betrayer, and outlines the steps necessary for healing, including atonement, attunement, and rebuilding trust. Shazmeen encourages open communication, emotional support, and the need for both partners t...
In this episode of the Love Better Podcast, Shazmeen Bank addresses the struggles of individuals in toxic and abusive relationships. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's worth, understanding the cycle of abuse, and finding the strength to leave unhealthy situations. Through personal anecdotes and insights, she encourages listeners to embrace their vulnerability and work towards healing and self-love...
In this episode, Shazmeen Bank delves into the complexities of fearful avoidant attachment, exploring its origins, traits, and the emotional struggles faced by individuals with this attachment style. The discussion highlights the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships, the oscillation between anxious and avoidant behaviors, and the importance of understanding and healing from these patterns. Shazm...
In this episode of the Love Better podcast, host Shazmeen Bank addresses various themes surrounding love, healing, and emotional well-being. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's pain, navigating betrayal, and understanding attachment styles. The conversation also delves into the complexities of infidelity, the journey of self-compassion, and the courage needed to leave toxic relationships. Thro...
In this episode of the Love Better podcast, Shazmeen Bank delves into the complexities of anxious attachment, exploring its roots in childhood experiences and its impact on adult relationships. She shares her personal journey of recognizing and healing her anxious attachment style, emphasizing the importance of self-love and understanding in building healthier relationships. The conversation highlights the emotio...
In this soulful Q&A episode, I answer the questions you've been quietly holding inside, the ones that are hard to ask out loud and many times you feel shame for even having. Trust me, we have all been there.
You are not alone.
How do you walk away from a relationship and break up with kindness? What do you do when you're raising children inside a marriage that’s breaking you down? How do you survive life&...
There’s a reason dismissive avoidants shut down when things get too close. It’s not just cold behavior, it’s protection. In this episode, we go deep into the world of dismissive avoidant attachment: where it starts, how it shapes their personality, and why love feels like a threat to their nervous system.
You'll learn how many avoidants grew up in emotionally neglectful environments, taught to be independent befor...
Self Confidence! I thought so hard about this episode and I did not want to just add to the millions of videos and podcasts already teaching the amazing ways to grow your self confidence. I researched this topic long and hard and then I decided to dump all 7 ways to grow your self confidence and take you through a hypnosis. I wanted you to get to know fear and anxiety within you, and get to know the part of you that i...
I SEE YOU.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re giving everything in a relationship and still feeling like it’s not enough… this episode is for you.
Anxious attachment isn’t just about “needing too much.” It’s about core wounds that were formed long before your first heartbreak — and today, we’re going straight to the heart of it.
In this episode, I unpack the emotional and psychological experience of anxious attachment in a...
There comes a moment—quiet, breaking, raw—when pain invites us to become someone new. This episode is for the part of you that’s tired of carrying silent wounds and is ready to do something meaningful with them.
I’m not here to tell you to “get over it.” I’m here to walk with you through it. In today’s conversation, we explore how your heartbreak, your losses, your betrayals... might actually hold the blueprint to your...
Stonewalling doesn’t look like abuse at first. There’s no yelling. No name-calling. Just silence. Withdrawal. Coldness.
But that silence? That’s the thing that breaks you.
In this episode, I’m talking about a dynamic that too many women—and men—go through and never name. One partner wants to talk, reconnect, fix it. The other shuts down. Looks away. Walks out. Days pass. The damage is done in silence, and nobody s...
I have been here myself, and I did not know I was here! I thought over giving and all the traits that came with being an anxiously attached lover was LOVE! I had no idea that not stepping into my strength and voice held me back from really finding myself and setting some really tough boundaries that my relationship needed. I was not being mean. I was choosing me too! I mattered as well.
If you’ve ever found yourself o...
Lets dive in.
You don’t keep choosing the wrong person because you're naive or broken.
You do it because something in you is still trying to finish a story.
To prove you’re lovable.
To make chaos feel like home.
To rewrite the ending.
GET COMFORTABLE WITH REJECTION! I would rather you get rejected, then settle and play small, and lose yourself!
In this episode, I go beneath the surface of dating ...
Is this relationship still right for me — or am I holding on out of fear, hope, or habit?
In this episode, I walk you through one of the hardest questions we face in love: Should I stay… or leave?
It’s never a simple decision — especially when you’re still in love, especially when you’re part of a culture or family where leaving is judged, forbidden, or not financially possible.
Leaving is not something I or anyone...
You’re still hurting. And you’re still healing. Those two things can exist together.
In this episode, I walk with you through the kind of healing that doesn’t happen overnight — the kind that asks you to slow down, feel what’s real, and show up for yourself with compassion.
You can feel so much shame when healing, like you should never have been in this position, or shame for hurting someone. We all deserve to heal and...
At first, all relationships are going to start off with a spark. Thats why we pursue each other. The hope that something ever lasting will be created. The truth is it can be created when we fight against the negative cycles that show up in the power struggle stage, as opposed to fighting each other.
I really want to enlighten people on their attachment and the role it plays in the relationship to give you an "ahh...
It felt so good in the beginning. it was warm, they were PERFECT, they read your mind (or did they😏), and you both saw a future together! Everything flowed so easily:- The chemistry. The effort. The closeness.
(BTW - if you want to know about stage 5 - NEXT WEEKS EPISODE, ties attachment styles, and stage 5 down together).
And then something happen, things shifted, the relationship started to get harder, the effort s...
In this episode, I’m speaking to the part of you that still loves them… but knows something’s changed.
Maybe you’re dating someone who’s emotionally unavailable, and you keep hoping they’ll show up differently.
Or maybe you’re in a long-term relationship or marriage that feels tired, flat, or disconnected — but the love hasn’t fully disappeared.
I talk about why it’s easier to walk away when you're dating — an...
We talk a lot about toxic love—but what does an unhealthy relationship actually look like in real life?
In this episode, I’m diving deep into the signs of unhealthy relationships that often go unnoticed, minimized, or even mistaken for “just relationship struggles.” We’ll explore how unhealthy dynamics show up emotionally, mentally, and physically… and why so many of us stay even when we know something doesn’t feel rig...
When we begin to understand the traits around our attachment styles, the coins really begin to drop and so much begins to make sense on how we love, almost that you will stop feeling like something is wrong with you or judging yourself for wanting more or feeling like you just do not understand why you cant be "normal" the way your partner wants you to be. Why is there this lingering feeling in your heart al...
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