In this episode, we discuss how couples are missing the blessings in front of us.
Kyle and Selina explore how couples often overlook common blessings because they fixate on what they lack in their relationship.
• Tendency to forget we once prayed for a spouse while now feeling desperate for the next best thing
• Recognition that blessings exist throughout all seasons, whether high or low
• How looking too much at the big picture makes us miss the small blessings for today
• Marriage as clay that God shapes throughout our journey together
• Importance of measuring smaller blessings to build momentum toward bigger ones
• Practical ways to embrace current blessings rather than waiting for perfect circumstances
• Connection between contentment with current blessings and our relationship with God
• Need to trust God's sovereignty and perfect timing in our lives
Take inventory of your blessings, pray for contentment and good vision to see what's around you, and trust that what God has given you in this season is enough until He blesses you with more.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Seeing blessings but not feeling blessed.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
You fall in love, you get married, and then things
beyond your control start to setin.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
I want to get this done.
I want to get to this point.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It starts to tarnish the pretty little picture that
you had, and that's when thingsstart to get challenging.
We're not perfect people.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
By any means.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
But by trusting in God we learn what it takes to
build a friendship arelationship and marriage that
has stood the test of time.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
With a keeping it real style.
We're going to talk to youabout everything everything that
we've been through, are goingthrough and have overcome all by
learning how to lean on God andeach other in order to help you
learn how to love by faith.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Morning, Selena Morning.
Oh, you got your big thermostoday.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I went big today.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Wow, what made you?
Are you tired?
Speaker 1 (01:08):
No, I feel strong.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
How many ounces is that?
I think it's 24.
24 ounces of espresso it'sthree shots of espresso.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
It is three, it's a latte, it's a big latte.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
It's a big latte.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
It's a big latte.
It's a latte coffee.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
It's probably closer to a flat white than a latte.
Okay, because I don't use anysteam, it's just more milk.
So it's probably closer to that.
It's great Delicious.
I love it.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
I bet how long does it take you to drink that whole
thing?
Speaker 1 (01:42):
I sip on it so I sip slow, so this will last me until
1 or 2 o'clock.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
I feel like it is giving movie theater size.
You know, like when you ask fora small popcorn or a small
drink, the length of the cup islike from my hand to my elbow.
It's giving movie theater latte.
I love my coffee and I drink itfive days a week and it's
wonderful.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
It's giving movie theater latte.
I love my coffee and I drink itfive days a week and it's
wonderful.
It's wonderful.
It makes my day A day withoutit.
One time I forgot it on my wayto work One time and it was just
like and I drank it.
I was just like no, this ishorrible.
I could not sleep that night.
Yeah, let's get to what we'retalking about today.
We're in spring cleaning series.
(02:26):
yes, this week we're springcleaning out the topic.
Uh, it was in our notebookseeing blessings but not feeling
blessed.
Blessings but not feelingblessed you want to open up.
Tell us what you're thinking inthat topic.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
I think the reason why this particular topic landed
in our journal is because, ascouples, we often overlook the
common blessings that God hasgiven us, because our eyes are
so fixated on the things that welack in the relationship.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
You know like we're so quick to forget that when we
were single, we were fasting andpraying for a spouse, you know.
But now we're sitting with ourspouse in a season as though we
are empty and we're justdesperate for the next best
thing.
And I think this is a topicthat we could really talk about
(03:25):
and help couples with, becauseif you guys have been following
us for some time, you guys knowthat Kyle and I have had a
couple hard seasons.
A few.
And we've had a couple of reallygood seasons and in the midst
of all of that hindsight 2020, Ithink it's really important to
remember there are blessingsthroughout all of those seasons,
whether they're high or low.
There are blessings throughoutall of those, all of those
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seasons, whether they're high orlow.
There's blessings throughoutall of it.
And even now, you know we'reconstantly looking forward to.
You know the the bigger house,or you know the the updated
appliances, or you know whatever, whatever, and we are just so
quick to forget.
Like we're healthy, our kidsare healthy, we're safe, we're
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in a safe place and we have thefreedom to talk about Christ in
our ministry to the world.
Like that is a blessing.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Absolutely.
You know it's funny the way yousaid it when I'm thinking about
this topic and.
I'm planning and I'm like wheredoes this feeling come from?
And I'm feeling like what isgoing on?
I know we're blessed, but whyaren't I seeing the blessings?
I catch myself and I'm lookingtoo much at the big picture,
looking too much at the longgame, like you were saying, and
(04:38):
I'm missing the small blessings,the blessings for today.
And I remember my mom alwaystelling me like Kyle, just stay
in the moment, stay here.
Like, stay here.
We're not going to think aboutnext year, next month, two years
Like just stay here, enjoy this.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
And I catch myself having to tell myself that, like
, just stay here, there'sblessings right here.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Just check it.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
And talking about physical blessings, I also want
to kind of spend this in arelationship blessing because I
want to say, um, if, like I said, if you guys have heard us for
some time, you guys have startedto notice after 70 episodes,
you're starting to notice thatKyle and I are not the perfect
couple.
I am very imperfect, kyle isvery imperfect.
(05:22):
There might've been some thingsthat we have said in the podcast
where it was just toovulnerable for you guys and it
made you uncomfortable and itmade you feel like, whoa, I
don't know if I see them in thesame way anymore.
I don't know if you know Idon't.
I don't think I can trust whatthey're saying anymore because
of that one thing that I heard,that didn't I disagreed with you
, know.
And so we're imperfect, right,never tried to be perfect in the
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first place, but there are alot of things that I may have
said about Kyle.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
It's right in the opening.
We're not perfect people.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Right, right, right right.
It's in our very first sentenceof introduction.
But there are a lot of thingsthat I may have said about Kyle,
about things that you couldwork on, or about things that I
am frustrated with or the thingsthat you have brought me closer
to God because of, but at thesame time, kyle is a blessing in
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my life.
There is no other man that Icould see being with, being with
, and when I take the step backand when I look at the moment
and think of all the things thatmy husband does, that is worth
my submission, that is worth my,my kindness, that is worth my,
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my love.
You know, I it, it just reallyblows me away, and I tell you
this all the time.
Just randomly, in the middle ofour day, I'll just pop it off
and I'm just like thank you,thank you for putting up with me
, and you're like where is thiscoming from?
And it's because I'm so deep inmy mind of like Kyle is such a
good guy, he's such a good guyto me, he loves me so much.
(06:59):
I can't believe he is puttingup with all this crap that I'm
putting out there.
I need to do better, because Iam seeing the blessing in the
present time versus all of thenitpicking that we sometimes
just fixate on.
That really stops us fromrealizing the blessing is here
and we're blessed to have thesepeople in our lives.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
I love when you catch me off guard with the
gratefulness it does.
It fills my cup, man, and I donotice it when I'm feeling like
blessing, right, I look aroundand I see beautiful children,
see a beautiful house, I seewhat is developing.
I see the seed sprouting ofwhat we planted in previous
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seasons, right, and I say, wow,that's it.
Then I look around and I stillsee this is messed up, this is
dirty, this is not right.
This ain't how I want to be asa husband, this ain't how I want
to be as a father.
I go through these.
I think it's the fickleness ofour feelings, how feelings can
(08:05):
just mislead us.
We can't just lean into ourfeelings.
We have to really take noticeof what's real right, Because
feelings are.
You know, I feel like shedoesn't love me.
I feel like this house ishorrible.
I feel like you know I deservea better car.
Yeah, yeah, and those feelingsare fake.
Those feelings are wrong.
(08:25):
Right, I deserve a better car,yeah, yeah.
And those?
Those feelings are fake.
Those feelings are wrong rightI have a reliable car.
I have a car that doesn't evenmake a goofy sound.
I have a car that's not evenrattling right like the
blessings are there.
I have a car that has heatedseats.
I have a car that is.
You know what I mean.
I have a very deep thought.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Okay, this is a very deep thought.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Well, let's hear it first before you label it very
deep.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Okay, fine, okay, what if the reason why we are
like this is because Adam andEve came from a place of
perfection Okay, and they wereaccustomed to seeing things
perfect in every way, andbecause of sin that has entered
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our lives, we have, since then,chasing back to the level of
perfection that we know we hadat one point and that we should
have had had it not been for thefall of sin.
And what if the reason why weare so dissatisfied with our
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present season and our upcomingseasons, and ourselves and other
people, is because we areconstantly chasing the need to
have perfection back into ourlives?
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Yeah, I could totally vibe with that.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Is that deep enough for you, Kyle?
Speaker 1 (09:48):
I think.
So, okay, I think, and it is so.
The point you're making is thatit's our sinful nature.
Yes, it's our fallen nature.
Yes, To want more than we have.
Yes, To see our garden and belike man.
I got to pull all these weedsout.
Yes, all these weeds out?
Yeah, all these weeds in ourrelationship of us bickering.
Yeah, all these weeds in ourrelationship of us not being on
the same page parenting yeah usand the being on the not being
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on the same page financially yesall these are little weeds in
our relationship yes and godsaid we're gonna toil in the
garden right all day from thesweat of our brow.
All those little things are thesweat of our brow moments come
on that.
Yeah, it's absolutely rightwith what you're saying.
Where it's, we're so.
We so want this garden to justbe the perfect garden of eden,
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this relationship to be just theperfect garden of eden
relationship.
And it's not.
It's never gonna be.
We're both screwed up, we'reboth sinful right we both have
issues that we're workingthrough every day, and we both
have new issues this season thatare not last season's issues
you know, what's so funny to meis cancel culture okay it's so
(10:52):
funny to me, because we shouldall be canceled.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Who are you?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
what do you?
Speaker 2 (10:57):
mean, like, who are you to cancel someone for what
they're doing?
Yeah, if that doesn't you know,for for what they said or what
they did, however long ago orhowever recent.
It was when you yourself shouldbe canceled, for what you say
and what you do, because we areall sinners jesus with the woman
caught in adultery.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
All these people are shouting saying she did this,
she did that, she did this, shedid that.
We should stone her.
And jesus isn't even paying himany mind.
That's.
My favorite part is that he'sjust minding his own business.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
I wonder what he wrote.
I can't wait to ask him.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
I want to see his face cringing at all these
people.
I picture him just cringing atall these haters around her Just
like you guys don't even know.
You guys have just such malicein your heart.
He's just so sick of it andthen he's like he just drops the
bombest line Like whoever's,without sin throw the first
stone.
That's it.
Yeah, oh man, it's one of myfavorite things to read in
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commentaries.
See what they say about what hewrote and what it means.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Oh, yeah, I love getting deep in the word like
that.
Yes, so we're all chasing thatperfection and we're all trying
to seek the ultimate blessing,which I think the ultimate
blessing would be a place wherethere's no hunger or thirst,
where every tear is wiped, wherethere is no sadness or pain or
cancer or anything like this.
Like that is.
Our ultimate goal is to be inthe perfect place with the
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perfect King.
And because we are striving forthat, there's a lot of guilt in
all of us where we feel likewe're just not going to measure
enough and so we try to controlthings, like we talked about in
the last week's episode, and wetry to force the hand and we try
to you know, bend things and wetry to you try to just get
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those blessings.
And then we feel bad.
Say, for example, you're tryingto find a house and you just
can't find a house.
It's not because you don't havethe money, it's not because
you're not willing to move, it'sbecause the market is not where
it needs to be for you to findthe house that is meant for you.
It's totally something out ofyour control and I feel like a
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lot of times we do this witheverything in our relationship,
in ourselves, you know, withyour health, with your job, with
how you feel about yourself,with your community, with your
church.
You know there's a lot ofplaces where we are trying to
force the ultimate blessing uponus in order for us to feel good
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about things, but we're notcapable of reaching it.
It's out of our reach.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
So it's people who are thinking they're going to be
the CEO when they haven't evenapplied for the job yet that
kind of thing Sure.
Like that level, like they'rereaching for the blessing of the
CEO, but they're not willing toput the work to just become an
employee.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Yes, and so like okay , let's take this back to
relationships, let's take thisback to marriage, and so you
want your marriage to look acertain way.
When you said in your heart,I'm ready to settle down, I'm
ready to start looking, you hada thought, you had a mindset of
what that settling down lookedlike.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
A vision.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
You had this vision of it's going to feel like this
yeah, it's going to look likethis, it's going to make me feel
like this I'm going to be thistype of husband, I'm going to be
this type of wife.
And then what ends up happening?
You find your person, you fallin love, you get married, and
then things beyond your control.
(14:25):
You fall in love, you getmarried, and then things beyond
your control start to set in andit starts to tarnish the pretty
little picture that you had,and that's when things start to
get challenging.
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back into this episode, becausewe have this perfect picture in
our heads and in our hearts ofhow it's going to look.
It doesn't matter how much youprepare to have this painting
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perfect in your singleness.
It doesn't matter how much youprepare in your engagement
season, because, I mean, if youwant to, if you want to reflect
it like that, kyle and I, we areyour poster children of
preparing for marriage and doingall the things that we could
have done to make this a quote,unquote perfect union, and we
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still got hit with life.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
None of us are going to be perfect.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
We still got hit with imperfections and we still got
hit with things that came upfrom our past and things that
came up from childhood traumasand things that came up from
from current traumas, and therewas still things that hit us and
sin still tried to knock usdown and shake us up and get in
the way.
It doesn't matter how much youare doing, it's still going to
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try to get in there and try todestroy.
The enemy is trying to destroyyou at every chance that he can.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
Yeah, earlier in the episode I was talking about, you
have the vision and you're sohungry to reach that final
vision.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
That big blessing yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Where this is.
Oh, this is the moment.
Yeah, but you missed the stepson the way.
The Bible talks about us beingclay and God being the potter.
Right, but our relationship isalso clay.
Our relationship as a couple isone lump of clay that God is
shaping throughout the whole way.
And when I was a kid, we wentto church.
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We went to church, we went toCatholic church and I think it
was during I want to say it wasduring the season of Advent.
It did this visual and itstarted with a lump of clay on
the altar, okay, and each weekthat lump of clay changed.
Oh, each week that lump of clay, like one week it came in and
then it was four lumps of clay.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
And then it was shaped a little bit and shaped a
little bit, and each week untilthe end.
This started as one lump ofclay was now a family, and it
all tied in with the message.
That's beautiful.
It was awesome, If you'rejudging the lump of clay in that
first step or if you're soimpatient.
I think, impatience plays a bigpart in this.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Especially as a man, I am so like, I want to get this
done, I want to get to thispoint, and so, as men get
impatient and so, men, if you'refeeling impatient, that's one
of those things that you got toslow down, take inventory of the
big picture and get reset,recalibrate yourself.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
I don't even think it's a man-woman issue.
I think it's a human issue ofpatience.
I mean, think about, we live ina world where short form
content is king.
We're constantly scrollingthrough 30 second videos.
We're constantly lookingthrough all these commercials
and ads.
We're constantly fixated on aquick fix thing.
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Help me lose weight in 30 days.
Help me reach a goal in 30 days.
We're constantly timingourselves to reach a big goal in
a certain amount of time with alot of impact in between.
That doesn't often worklong-term and we're using that
and it's starting to kind ofblend into how we handle our
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faith.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
That quick fix, that quick need, that quick hit of
dopamine to get ourselves ontrack, to keep our faith feeling
good.
We can take advantage of thatin a positive way.
Let those quick hits be thefeeling.
Let those quick hits feed thatblessing, that feeling because
we're talking about beingblessed but not feeling or
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seeing the blessings.
We'll take those daily wins andcount them yeah, this is a great
place to measure this is agreat your your relationship is
not feeling the blessings, oryou're feeling blessed but not
seeing it.
It's a great place forjournaling.
Yes, it's a great place forkeeping a log.
A prayer journal with answerprayers right in the day to when
those prayers are answered.
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A goals journal.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
It sounds like something that we could add to
our couple's playbook To theplaybook Hello.
It sounds like something thatwe could add to the couple's
playbook of just some kind oflog.
Yeah, because it's veryimportant.
The Bible teaches us to remindourselves of God's goodness.
Remember what the Lord has done.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
Let's go.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Even when you had Stephen, the first martyr in the
book of Acts.
He began his talk to the courtand to the people with remember
what God did.
God brought the Israelites outof Egypt.
God brought Abraham to a placeand said your stars are the
number.
The number of stars you see arethe number of the descendants.
He brought it all the way backto Moses and to all of the
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things to say remember what theLord did.
Remember when they were atJericho.
Remember what God did.
Remember David.
Remember what the Lord did.
And so he were at Jericho.
Remember what God did.
Remember David.
Remember what the Lord did.
And so for God to mention therecollection of His goodness in
our lives that many times in theBible, I don't think is a
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coincidence, it is aninstruction, it's good.
And so for us, as people intoday's day, in today's season,
you're absolutely right In orderfor us to reach the bigger
blessings, we have to measurethe smaller blessings in between
, to build the momentum and tobuild our strength and to
continue our faith, so that wecan run the good race and not
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grow weary.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Finish the race.
It's Bible facts.
That is great.
No, that's real, and keepingtrack of those blessings will
help you to not lose sight thatGod is really working in your
life.
God is really doing somethingin your relationship.
God has brought you fromsomewhere, even if it's only two
houses down or two stepsforward, he brought you from
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somewhere and he's brought youto something.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
And he's going to keep working.
And it's beautiful when you getin your journal and you get to
that last one and the prayersare answered.
There's new prayers.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
There's new seasons and there's new blessings coming
.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
I always think about it as, when you're pregnant,
okay, okay.
When you're pregnant, um, wehave three beautiful children,
we had four pregnancies.
But when you're pregnant, whenyou first realize I'm going to
have a child, so many questionshow is this going to happen?
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Finances can we even affordthis?
Speaker 1 (22:22):
space environment?
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Can we even afford this space environment?
Where's all the things going tofit?
Where am I Like?
You have so many unknown thingsthat take place.
But by the time you reach monthnine going into month 10,
because you know your baby couldbe later, whatever, but it's
how you reach that season youare so ready to meet this baby,
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you are so ready for the next,ready for the baby to come out,
you are so ready to be theparent, you're so ready to
invite this baby into your homethat all of those unknown
questions kind of figurethemselves out.
And if they didn't figurethemselves out, then oh well,
we're just going to handle it aswe go.
Your whole perception changednine months later, and so we
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have to kind of think about itlike that Eventually it's all
going to work itself out, oryou're going to figure it out as
you go.
But the confidence that you'vegained over the progression of
those seasons has changed sosignificantly that you are now
able to just be like it is whatit is and it's going to be what
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it's going to be.
And here I am and let's just doit.
And so for us to look at eachother in marriage and we see
problems or we see issues, or wesee insecurities within
ourselves or unbeliefs withinourselves.
You see these things and you'rejust like.
I just don't see my marriagegoing in the direction that I
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thought it would be, or I justdon't see this relationship
getting any better.
We have to, like you said,count the blessings that are
there, measure them, see whereGod is taking you, see what God
has taken you from and hasbrought you to, and then you
have to kind of go into it witha level of this pregnant
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confidence of like, as wecontinue to grow this thing and
as it matures, it will eitherwork itself out or God will show
up in a way to change it, or Iwill be ready to handle it when
it when I need, when it needs tobe handled.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
We will be ready to overcome it when it's time to be
overcome.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
As you're, as you're pregnant, the baby's growing,
thinking, right, you don't seethis baby for the first five or
six months, right, right Godwilling your baby for the first
five or six months, right, right, god willing.
Speaker 2 (24:46):
Your baby is healthy and growing.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
Yes, but you're doing all these things on your side,
outside of the the body, outsideof the baby, growing.
You're taking the vitamins,you're taking the special
supplements.
You're doing the extra walkingto keep your, your muscles how
you need them, so that you'redoing the extra work.
You're doing the extrapreparation.
You're getting that nurseryready.
You're buying them so thatyou're doing the extra work.
You're doing the extrapreparation.
You're getting that nurseryready.
You're buying the stuff thatyou need to take care of your
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baby At some point.
You got some diapers in thehouse.
You got the bottles ready.
All these things are in place.
You're doing all the things youcan do so that when that child
comes, when that blessing isthere, you're able to walk into
that season.
So I think that's another hugetakeaway.
You're getting ready for thisblessing, you're feeling the
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blessings, you're seeing theblessings but you're not feeling
blessed is to do the things toembrace the blessings that are
there.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Right, okay, so you can't tear down that wall and
put up.
You know, expand your kitchen.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
You can't put an extension on your house An open
floor plan.
Yeah, so you can't get newcarpet.
Right.
So you can't afford thesethings.
Speaker 1 (25:54):
You can go to the grocery store and rent the $50
shampooer and shampoo the carpet.
You have Come on.
You can go and scrub thebaseboard you have.
Come on, you know what I mean.
You can do the things toembrace the blessings you do
have in your season so that youdon't miss that big picture of,
hey, I am really blessed, that'sright.
And so if you're missing it, ifyou know that you're blessed
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but not feeling the blessings,go and take care of those
blessings that you have.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
Oh, I never went on a real honeymoon.
I never went.
But now we can't afford it.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
I guess we're never going to go.
You better find an Airbnb anhour away and have yourself a
getaway.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Go, enjoy it Absolutely.
You better make the most ofwhat you can with God has given
you, because if you're notfaithful with what he has given
you, how can we ever expect toget more?
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Absolutely.
Go borrow a tent and go on acamping honeymoon.
I promise it'll be just fine.
If they're into camping, ifthat's your thing.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
If that's your thing.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
That's the whole point of this.
Is that God's got blessings foryou.
Yes, you are blessed.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (26:59):
And if you're not feeling it, do these things to
take inventory of it and to takeaction on it and to embrace
what is there.
Yes things, to take inventoryof it and to take action on it
and to embrace what is there.
Yes, pray for contentment, prayfor patience, pray for peace,
pray for that joy to overflow.
Yeah, pray for good vision tosee what's around you.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Yes, take it and love it and live it.
And not only that.
I think by choosing not toacknowledge the blessings in
your current life, in yourcurrent season, should be a very
big indication of where you arewith your relationship with God
.
If you are not satisfied withwhat God is giving you, then
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there's something of adisconnect between where you are
and how you feel about God, andthat might need to be addressed
.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
So you might need to retune your main relationship.
Speaker 2 (27:56):
Absolutely, absolutely, because think about
it If we are fully okay with ourrelationship with God, if we
are fully okay with ourrelationship with God, if we're
fully content and we surrenderall the things and we love our
God and we're putting him firstin front of our children, in
front of our job, in front ofour money, in front of our
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husband or wife?
if we're putting them first,then wouldn't he reveal to us
all of the blessings he's givenus in this season?
And shouldn't that be enough?
Should it?
We should trust him in thinking.
You know, sometimes you justgot to remind yourself to do I
trust God with what he's givingme right now?
Do I trust where he has me inthis situation?
Do I trust that where he has meand the things he has given me
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and the prayers that he has sofar answered in this particular
season?
Is this enough?
And if it is yes, then weshould be okay.
You had a heart check.
We're good.
But if it's no, then you have arelationship problem with the
father because you're nottrusting that what he is giving
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you is enough hello say it againyou're not trusting that what
he has given you is enough,which means you're not trusting
him because remember he'sperfect taking a sip here he's
made everything perfect.
He's made everything perfect inits time.
Speaker 1 (29:24):
Let's go.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
And so we have to be mindful of the time and the
perfect placement of the thingsin our life, and we have to
trust that that is God'ssovereignty.
We have to trust that.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
That's perfect, selena.
That is the most perfect bowyou can put on this episode.
All right, take that y'all.
If you don't listen to any ofit, even if you fast forward to
these last three minutes, takethat because that's the message,
right there.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
That's the message.
So, even though we are prayingfor bigger blessings, we know
that God has blessed you withthe manna of today.
He's blessed you with blessingsalready in your life, within
your relationship, within yourmarriage, within yourself,
within your surroundings, andthat is worth being joyous for.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
Being joyous for.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
Joyous.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Yeah, okay, just make sure that's what you said.
Yeah, is that a word?
I think?
Speaker 2 (30:19):
so, okay, it's worth being grateful for it's worth
being thankful for and it'sworth being content in until God
blesses you with more.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
Amen, and we are so grateful that you're here with
us.
We are so grateful to be inthis season of spring cleaning
and this episode is for you.
If you're seeing blessings butyou're not feeling blessed, this
episode's for you.
Amen, we're grateful.
Let's pray.
Speaker 2 (30:44):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
Lord, we thank you for this time.
We thank you for this place.
Lord, we thank you for theopportunity and the ability to
take your word to the world, togo and share what you've called
us to share.
We thank you for this ministry.
We pray to be your peoplespeaking on your behalf, lord.
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We pray that the couples thathear this would be able to take
away from it and use this andutilize it to connect with you
better.
Lord, we give you the glory forall of it, in Jesus's name Amen
.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Amen.
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us and learn how to love byfaith.
We hope to see you guys againnext week as we finish off our
spring cleaning series, and wehope you enjoy the rest of your
week today.
Bye.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
See ya, dude, that episode really hit.
I was really pleased with that.
That was really good.
I caught myself getting likeshe's talking too much, but then
you say stuff and it's justlike that is a great point.
I can't shut her getting likeshe's talking too much.
She talked, but then you saystuff and they're just like that
is a great point.
I can't shut her up and she'ssaying that that is a good point
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.
I can't shut her up and she'ssaying that thanks for not
shutting me up, kyle I can'tstep on her toes when she's
saying that woman quiet you.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
Hey, you lady stop talking, yeah man I was saying
um, we talked a lot about likepregnancy and baby and kind of
leading into perfect talk fornext week yeah, it's kind of
leading into that next, thatlast episode what are we going
to talk about next week?
(32:39):
Quiet man.
I can't do your batman voice.
That was my batman voice.
That was your batman quiet man,but I can't do your Batman
voice.
That was my Batman voice.
Speaker 1 (32:46):
That was your Batman voice.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Quiet man, I can't get the raspy.
Who do you work for?
I sound like Marge Simpson.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
I sound like your sister, the old smoking ladies.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
The Patty and Thelma yeah.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
Jubilee always does my voice and she sounds like
that.
Mom's there by.
Hey, it's Dan.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
Hey, it's Dan that.
Hey, it's Dan, that's how shetells you.
I got to go.
I got things to do.
Where are you going today?
I got to go to get breakfast.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Awesome, we'll see you next time.
Seeing blessings but not feeling blessed.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
You fall in love, you get married, and then things
beyond your control start to setin.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
I want to get this done.
I want to get to this point.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It starts to tarnish the pretty little picture that
you had, and that's when thingsstart to get challenging.
We're not perfect people.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
By any means.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
But by trusting in God we learn what it takes to
build a friendship arelationship and marriage that
has stood the test of time.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
With a keeping it real style.
We're going to talk to youabout everything everything that
we've been through, are goingthrough and have overcome all by
learning how to lean on God andeach other in order to help you
learn how to love by faith.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Morning, Selena Morning.
Oh, you got your big thermostoday.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I went big today.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Wow, what made you?
Are you tired?
Speaker 1 (01:08):
No, I feel strong.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
How many ounces is that?
I think it's 24.
24 ounces of espresso it'sthree shots of espresso.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
It is three, it's a latte, it's a big latte.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
It's a big latte.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
It's a big latte.
It's a latte coffee.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
It's probably closer to a flat white than a latte.
Okay, because I don't use anysteam, it's just more milk.
So it's probably closer to that.
It's great Delicious.
I love it.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
I bet how long does it take you to drink that whole
thing?
Speaker 1 (01:42):
I sip on it so I sip slow, so this will last me until
1 or 2 o'clock.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
I feel like it is giving movie theater size.
You know, like when you ask fora small popcorn or a small
drink, the length of the cup islike from my hand to my elbow.
It's giving movie theater latte.
I love my coffee and I drink itfive days a week and it's
wonderful.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
It's giving movie theater latte.
I love my coffee and I drink itfive days a week and it's
wonderful.
It's wonderful.
It makes my day A day withoutit.
One time I forgot it on my wayto work One time and it was just
like and I drank it.
I was just like no, this ishorrible.
I could not sleep that night.
Yeah, let's get to what we'retalking about today.
We're in spring cleaning series.
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yes, this week we're springcleaning out the topic.
Uh, it was in our notebookseeing blessings but not feeling
blessed.
Blessings but not feelingblessed you want to open up.
Tell us what you're thinking inthat topic.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
I think the reason why this particular topic landed
in our journal is because, ascouples, we often overlook the
common blessings that God hasgiven us, because our eyes are
so fixated on the things that welack in the relationship.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
You know like we're so quick to forget that when we
were single, we were fasting andpraying for a spouse, you know.
But now we're sitting with ourspouse in a season as though we
are empty and we're justdesperate for the next best
thing.
And I think this is a topicthat we could really talk about
(03:25):
and help couples with, becauseif you guys have been following
us for some time, you guys knowthat Kyle and I have had a
couple hard seasons.
A few.
And we've had a couple of reallygood seasons and in the midst
of all of that hindsight 2020, Ithink it's really important to
remember there are blessingsthroughout all of those seasons,
whether they're high or low.
There are blessings throughoutall of those, all of those
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seasons, whether they're high orlow.
There's blessings throughoutall of it.
And even now, you know we'reconstantly looking forward to.
You know the the bigger house,or you know the the updated
appliances, or you know whatever, whatever, and we are just so
quick to forget.
Like we're healthy, our kidsare healthy, we're safe, we're
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in a safe place and we have thefreedom to talk about Christ in
our ministry to the world.
Like that is a blessing.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Absolutely.
You know it's funny the way yousaid it when I'm thinking about
this topic and.
I'm planning and I'm like wheredoes this feeling come from?
And I'm feeling like what isgoing on?
I know we're blessed, but whyaren't I seeing the blessings?
I catch myself and I'm lookingtoo much at the big picture,
looking too much at the longgame, like you were saying, and
(04:38):
I'm missing the small blessings,the blessings for today.
And I remember my mom alwaystelling me like Kyle, just stay
in the moment, stay here.
Like, stay here.
We're not going to think aboutnext year, next month, two years
Like just stay here, enjoy this.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
And I catch myself having to tell myself that, like
, just stay here, there'sblessings right here.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Just check it.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
And talking about physical blessings, I also want
to kind of spend this in arelationship blessing because I
want to say, um, if, like I said, if you guys have heard us for
some time, you guys have startedto notice after 70 episodes,
you're starting to notice thatKyle and I are not the perfect
couple.
I am very imperfect, kyle isvery imperfect.
(05:22):
There might've been some thingsthat we have said in the podcast
where it was just toovulnerable for you guys and it
made you uncomfortable and itmade you feel like, whoa, I
don't know if I see them in thesame way anymore.
I don't know if you know Idon't.
I don't think I can trust whatthey're saying anymore because
of that one thing that I heard,that didn't I disagreed with you
, know.
And so we're imperfect, right,never tried to be perfect in the
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first place, but there are alot of things that I may have
said about Kyle.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
It's right in the opening.
We're not perfect people.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Right, right, right right.
It's in our very first sentenceof introduction.
But there are a lot of thingsthat I may have said about Kyle,
about things that you couldwork on, or about things that I
am frustrated with or the thingsthat you have brought me closer
to God because of, but at thesame time, kyle is a blessing in
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my life.
There is no other man that Icould see being with, being with
, and when I take the step backand when I look at the moment
and think of all the things thatmy husband does, that is worth
my submission, that is worth my,my kindness, that is worth my,
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my love.
You know, I it, it just reallyblows me away, and I tell you
this all the time.
Just randomly, in the middle ofour day, I'll just pop it off
and I'm just like thank you,thank you for putting up with me
, and you're like where is thiscoming from?
And it's because I'm so deep inmy mind of like Kyle is such a
good guy, he's such a good guyto me, he loves me so much.
(06:59):
I can't believe he is puttingup with all this crap that I'm
putting out there.
I need to do better, because Iam seeing the blessing in the
present time versus all of thenitpicking that we sometimes
just fixate on.
That really stops us fromrealizing the blessing is here
and we're blessed to have thesepeople in our lives.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
I love when you catch me off guard with the
gratefulness it does.
It fills my cup, man, and I donotice it when I'm feeling like
blessing, right, I look aroundand I see beautiful children,
see a beautiful house, I seewhat is developing.
I see the seed sprouting ofwhat we planted in previous
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seasons, right, and I say, wow,that's it.
Then I look around and I stillsee this is messed up, this is
dirty, this is not right.
This ain't how I want to be asa husband, this ain't how I want
to be as a father.
I go through these.
I think it's the fickleness ofour feelings, how feelings can
(08:05):
just mislead us.
We can't just lean into ourfeelings.
We have to really take noticeof what's real right, Because
feelings are.
You know, I feel like shedoesn't love me.
I feel like this house ishorrible.
I feel like you know I deservea better car.
Yeah, yeah, and those feelingsare fake.
Those feelings are wrong.
(08:25):
Right, I deserve a better car,yeah, yeah.
And those?
Those feelings are fake.
Those feelings are wrong rightI have a reliable car.
I have a car that doesn't evenmake a goofy sound.
I have a car that's not evenrattling right like the
blessings are there.
I have a car that has heatedseats.
I have a car that is.
You know what I mean.
I have a very deep thought.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Okay, this is a very deep thought.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Well, let's hear it first before you label it very
deep.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Okay, fine, okay, what if the reason why we are
like this is because Adam andEve came from a place of
perfection Okay, and they wereaccustomed to seeing things
perfect in every way, andbecause of sin that has entered
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our lives, we have, since then,chasing back to the level of
perfection that we know we hadat one point and that we should
have had had it not been for thefall of sin.
And what if the reason why weare so dissatisfied with our
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present season and our upcomingseasons, and ourselves and other
people, is because we areconstantly chasing the need to
have perfection back into ourlives?
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Yeah, I could totally vibe with that.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Is that deep enough for you, Kyle?
Speaker 1 (09:48):
I think.
So, okay, I think, and it is so.
The point you're making is thatit's our sinful nature.
Yes, it's our fallen nature.
Yes, To want more than we have.
Yes, To see our garden and belike man.
I got to pull all these weedsout.
Yes, all these weeds out?
Yeah, all these weeds in ourrelationship of us bickering.
Yeah, all these weeds in ourrelationship of us not being on
the same page parenting yeah usand the being on the not being
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on the same page financially yesall these are little weeds in
our relationship yes and godsaid we're gonna toil in the
garden right all day from thesweat of our brow.
All those little things are thesweat of our brow moments come
on that.
Yeah, it's absolutely rightwith what you're saying.
Where it's, we're so.
We so want this garden to justbe the perfect garden of eden,
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this relationship to be just theperfect garden of eden
relationship.
And it's not.
It's never gonna be.
We're both screwed up, we'reboth sinful right we both have
issues that we're workingthrough every day, and we both
have new issues this season thatare not last season's issues
you know, what's so funny to meis cancel culture okay it's so
(10:52):
funny to me, because we shouldall be canceled.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Who are you?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
what do you?
Speaker 2 (10:57):
mean, like, who are you to cancel someone for what
they're doing?
Yeah, if that doesn't you know,for for what they said or what
they did, however long ago orhowever recent.
It was when you yourself shouldbe canceled, for what you say
and what you do, because we areall sinners jesus with the woman
caught in adultery.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
All these people are shouting saying she did this,
she did that, she did this, shedid that.
We should stone her.
And jesus isn't even paying himany mind.
That's.
My favorite part is that he'sjust minding his own business.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
I wonder what he wrote.
I can't wait to ask him.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
I want to see his face cringing at all these
people.
I picture him just cringing atall these haters around her Just
like you guys don't even know.
You guys have just such malicein your heart.
He's just so sick of it andthen he's like he just drops the
bombest line Like whoever's,without sin throw the first
stone.
That's it.
Yeah, oh man, it's one of myfavorite things to read in
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commentaries.
See what they say about what hewrote and what it means.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Oh, yeah, I love getting deep in the word like
that.
Yes, so we're all chasing thatperfection and we're all trying
to seek the ultimate blessing,which I think the ultimate
blessing would be a place wherethere's no hunger or thirst,
where every tear is wiped, wherethere is no sadness or pain or
cancer or anything like this.
Like that is.
Our ultimate goal is to be inthe perfect place with the
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perfect King.
And because we are striving forthat, there's a lot of guilt in
all of us where we feel likewe're just not going to measure
enough and so we try to controlthings, like we talked about in
the last week's episode, and wetry to force the hand and we try
to you know, bend things and wetry to you try to just get
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those blessings.
And then we feel bad.
Say, for example, you're tryingto find a house and you just
can't find a house.
It's not because you don't havethe money, it's not because
you're not willing to move, it'sbecause the market is not where
it needs to be for you to findthe house that is meant for you.
It's totally something out ofyour control and I feel like a
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lot of times we do this witheverything in our relationship,
in ourselves, you know, withyour health, with your job, with
how you feel about yourself,with your community, with your
church.
You know there's a lot ofplaces where we are trying to
force the ultimate blessing uponus in order for us to feel good
(13:21):
about things, but we're notcapable of reaching it.
It's out of our reach.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
So it's people who are thinking they're going to be
the CEO when they haven't evenapplied for the job yet that
kind of thing Sure.
Like that level, like they'rereaching for the blessing of the
CEO, but they're not willing toput the work to just become an
employee.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Yes, and so like okay , let's take this back to
relationships, let's take thisback to marriage, and so you
want your marriage to look acertain way.
When you said in your heart,I'm ready to settle down, I'm
ready to start looking, you hada thought, you had a mindset of
what that settling down lookedlike.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
A vision.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
You had this vision of it's going to feel like this
yeah, it's going to look likethis, it's going to make me feel
like this I'm going to be thistype of husband, I'm going to be
this type of wife.
And then what ends up happening?
You find your person, you fallin love, you get married, and
then things beyond your control.
(14:25):
You fall in love, you getmarried, and then things beyond
your control start to set in andit starts to tarnish the pretty
little picture that you had,and that's when things start to
get challenging.
Hey, everyone, we hope thatyou're enjoying this episode,
and right now we want to justtake a small minute to introduce
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(14:46):
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Speaker 2 (15:11):
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back into this episode, becausewe have this perfect picture in
our heads and in our hearts ofhow it's going to look.
It doesn't matter how much youprepare to have this painting
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perfect in your singleness.
It doesn't matter how much youprepare in your engagement
season, because, I mean, if youwant to, if you want to reflect
it like that, kyle and I, we areyour poster children of
preparing for marriage and doingall the things that we could
have done to make this a quote,unquote perfect union, and we
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still got hit with life.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
None of us are going to be perfect.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
We still got hit with imperfections and we still got
hit with things that came upfrom our past and things that
came up from childhood traumasand things that came up from
from current traumas, and therewas still things that hit us and
sin still tried to knock usdown and shake us up and get in
the way.
It doesn't matter how much youare doing, it's still going to
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try to get in there and try todestroy.
The enemy is trying to destroyyou at every chance that he can.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
Yeah, earlier in the episode I was talking about, you
have the vision and you're sohungry to reach that final
vision.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
That big blessing yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Where this is.
Oh, this is the moment.
Yeah, but you missed the stepson the way.
The Bible talks about us beingclay and God being the potter.
Right, but our relationship isalso clay.
Our relationship as a couple isone lump of clay that God is
shaping throughout the whole way.
And when I was a kid, we wentto church.
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We went to church, we went toCatholic church and I think it
was during I want to say it wasduring the season of Advent.
It did this visual and itstarted with a lump of clay on
the altar, okay, and each weekthat lump of clay changed.
Oh, each week that lump of clay, like one week it came in and
then it was four lumps of clay.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
And then it was shaped a little bit and shaped a
little bit, and each week untilthe end.
This started as one lump ofclay was now a family, and it
all tied in with the message.
That's beautiful.
It was awesome, If you'rejudging the lump of clay in that
first step or if you're soimpatient.
I think, impatience plays a bigpart in this.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Especially as a man, I am so like, I want to get this
done, I want to get to thispoint, and so, as men get
impatient and so, men, if you'refeeling impatient, that's one
of those things that you got toslow down, take inventory of the
big picture and get reset,recalibrate yourself.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
I don't even think it's a man-woman issue.
I think it's a human issue ofpatience.
I mean, think about, we live ina world where short form
content is king.
We're constantly scrollingthrough 30 second videos.
We're constantly lookingthrough all these commercials
and ads.
We're constantly fixated on aquick fix thing.
(18:41):
Help me lose weight in 30 days.
Help me reach a goal in 30 days.
We're constantly timingourselves to reach a big goal in
a certain amount of time with alot of impact in between.
That doesn't often worklong-term and we're using that
and it's starting to kind ofblend into how we handle our
(19:04):
faith.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
That quick fix, that quick need, that quick hit of
dopamine to get ourselves ontrack, to keep our faith feeling
good.
We can take advantage of thatin a positive way.
Let those quick hits be thefeeling.
Let those quick hits feed thatblessing, that feeling because
we're talking about beingblessed but not feeling or
(19:28):
seeing the blessings.
We'll take those daily wins andcount them yeah, this is a great
place to measure this is agreat your your relationship is
not feeling the blessings, oryou're feeling blessed but not
seeing it.
It's a great place forjournaling.
Yes, it's a great place forkeeping a log.
A prayer journal with answerprayers right in the day to when
those prayers are answered.
(19:48):
A goals journal.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
It sounds like something that we could add to
our couple's playbook To theplaybook Hello.
It sounds like something thatwe could add to the couple's
playbook of just some kind oflog.
Yeah, because it's veryimportant.
The Bible teaches us to remindourselves of God's goodness.
Remember what the Lord has done.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
Let's go.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Even when you had Stephen, the first martyr in the
book of Acts.
He began his talk to the courtand to the people with remember
what God did.
God brought the Israelites outof Egypt.
God brought Abraham to a placeand said your stars are the
number.
The number of stars you see arethe number of the descendants.
He brought it all the way backto Moses and to all of the
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things to say remember what theLord did.
Remember when they were atJericho.
Remember what God did.
Remember David.
Remember what the Lord did.
And so he were at Jericho.
Remember what God did.
Remember David.
Remember what the Lord did.
And so for God to mention therecollection of His goodness in
our lives that many times in theBible, I don't think is a
(20:57):
coincidence, it is aninstruction, it's good.
And so for us, as people intoday's day, in today's season,
you're absolutely right In orderfor us to reach the bigger
blessings, we have to measurethe smaller blessings in between
, to build the momentum and tobuild our strength and to
continue our faith, so that wecan run the good race and not
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grow weary.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Finish the race.
It's Bible facts.
That is great.
No, that's real, and keepingtrack of those blessings will
help you to not lose sight thatGod is really working in your
life.
God is really doing somethingin your relationship.
God has brought you fromsomewhere, even if it's only two
houses down or two stepsforward, he brought you from
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somewhere and he's brought youto something.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
And he's going to keep working.
And it's beautiful when you getin your journal and you get to
that last one and the prayersare answered.
There's new prayers.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
There's new seasons and there's new blessings coming
.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
I always think about it as, when you're pregnant,
okay, okay.
When you're pregnant, um, wehave three beautiful children,
we had four pregnancies.
But when you're pregnant, whenyou first realize I'm going to
have a child, so many questionshow is this going to happen?
(22:20):
Finances can we even affordthis?
Speaker 1 (22:22):
space environment?
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Can we even afford this space environment?
Where's all the things going tofit?
Where am I Like?
You have so many unknown thingsthat take place.
But by the time you reach monthnine going into month 10,
because you know your baby couldbe later, whatever, but it's
how you reach that season youare so ready to meet this baby,
(22:45):
you are so ready for the next,ready for the baby to come out,
you are so ready to be theparent, you're so ready to
invite this baby into your homethat all of those unknown
questions kind of figurethemselves out.
And if they didn't figurethemselves out, then oh well,
we're just going to handle it aswe go.
Your whole perception changednine months later, and so we
(23:09):
have to kind of think about itlike that Eventually it's all
going to work itself out, oryou're going to figure it out as
you go.
But the confidence that you'vegained over the progression of
those seasons has changed sosignificantly that you are now
able to just be like it is whatit is and it's going to be what
(23:30):
it's going to be.
And here I am and let's just doit.
And so for us to look at eachother in marriage and we see
problems or we see issues, or wesee insecurities within
ourselves or unbeliefs withinourselves.
You see these things and you'rejust like.
I just don't see my marriagegoing in the direction that I
(23:52):
thought it would be, or I justdon't see this relationship
getting any better.
We have to, like you said,count the blessings that are
there, measure them, see whereGod is taking you, see what God
has taken you from and hasbrought you to, and then you
have to kind of go into it witha level of this pregnant
(24:16):
confidence of like, as wecontinue to grow this thing and
as it matures, it will eitherwork itself out or God will show
up in a way to change it, or Iwill be ready to handle it when
it when I need, when it needs tobe handled.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
We will be ready to overcome it when it's time to be
overcome.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
As you're, as you're pregnant, the baby's growing,
thinking, right, you don't seethis baby for the first five or
six months, right, right Godwilling your baby for the first
five or six months, right, right, god willing.
Speaker 2 (24:46):
Your baby is healthy and growing.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
Yes, but you're doing all these things on your side,
outside of the the body, outsideof the baby, growing.
You're taking the vitamins,you're taking the special
supplements.
You're doing the extra walkingto keep your, your muscles how
you need them, so that you'redoing the extra work.
You're doing the extrapreparation.
You're getting that nurseryready.
You're buying them so thatyou're doing the extra work.
You're doing the extrapreparation.
You're getting that nurseryready.
You're buying the stuff thatyou need to take care of your
(25:11):
baby At some point.
You got some diapers in thehouse.
You got the bottles ready.
All these things are in place.
You're doing all the things youcan do so that when that child
comes, when that blessing isthere, you're able to walk into
that season.
So I think that's another hugetakeaway.
You're getting ready for thisblessing, you're feeling the
(25:34):
blessings, you're seeing theblessings but you're not feeling
blessed is to do the things toembrace the blessings that are
there.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Right, okay, so you can't tear down that wall and
put up.
You know, expand your kitchen.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
You can't put an extension on your house An open
floor plan.
Yeah, so you can't get newcarpet.
Right.
So you can't afford thesethings.
Speaker 1 (25:54):
You can go to the grocery store and rent the $50
shampooer and shampoo the carpet.
You have Come on.
You can go and scrub thebaseboard you have.
Come on, you know what I mean.
You can do the things toembrace the blessings you do
have in your season so that youdon't miss that big picture of,
hey, I am really blessed, that'sright.
And so if you're missing it, ifyou know that you're blessed
(26:18):
but not feeling the blessings,go and take care of those
blessings that you have.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
Oh, I never went on a real honeymoon.
I never went.
But now we can't afford it.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
I guess we're never going to go.
You better find an Airbnb anhour away and have yourself a
getaway.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Go, enjoy it Absolutely.
You better make the most ofwhat you can with God has given
you, because if you're notfaithful with what he has given
you, how can we ever expect toget more?
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Absolutely.
Go borrow a tent and go on acamping honeymoon.
I promise it'll be just fine.
If they're into camping, ifthat's your thing.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
If that's your thing.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
That's the whole point of this.
Is that God's got blessings foryou.
Yes, you are blessed.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (26:59):
And if you're not feeling it, do these things to
take inventory of it and to takeaction on it and to embrace
what is there.
Yes things, to take inventoryof it and to take action on it
and to embrace what is there.
Yes, pray for contentment, prayfor patience, pray for peace,
pray for that joy to overflow.
Yeah, pray for good vision tosee what's around you.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Yes, take it and love it and live it.
And not only that.
I think by choosing not toacknowledge the blessings in
your current life, in yourcurrent season, should be a very
big indication of where you arewith your relationship with God
.
If you are not satisfied withwhat God is giving you, then
(27:43):
there's something of adisconnect between where you are
and how you feel about God, andthat might need to be addressed
.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
So you might need to retune your main relationship.
Speaker 2 (27:56):
Absolutely, absolutely, because think about
it If we are fully okay with ourrelationship with God, if we
are fully okay with ourrelationship with God, if we're
fully content and we surrenderall the things and we love our
God and we're putting him firstin front of our children, in
front of our job, in front ofour money, in front of our
(28:17):
husband or wife?
if we're putting them first,then wouldn't he reveal to us
all of the blessings he's givenus in this season?
And shouldn't that be enough?
Should it?
We should trust him in thinking.
You know, sometimes you justgot to remind yourself to do I
trust God with what he's givingme right now?
Do I trust where he has me inthis situation?
Do I trust that where he has meand the things he has given me
(28:43):
and the prayers that he has sofar answered in this particular
season?
Is this enough?
And if it is yes, then weshould be okay.
You had a heart check.
We're good.
But if it's no, then you have arelationship problem with the
father because you're nottrusting that what he is giving
(29:06):
you is enough hello say it againyou're not trusting that what
he has given you is enough,which means you're not trusting
him because remember he'sperfect taking a sip here he's
made everything perfect.
He's made everything perfect inits time.
Speaker 1 (29:24):
Let's go.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
And so we have to be mindful of the time and the
perfect placement of the thingsin our life, and we have to
trust that that is God'ssovereignty.
We have to trust that.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
That's perfect, selena.
That is the most perfect bowyou can put on this episode.
All right, take that y'all.
If you don't listen to any ofit, even if you fast forward to
these last three minutes, takethat because that's the message,
right there.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
That's the message.
So, even though we are prayingfor bigger blessings, we know
that God has blessed you withthe manna of today.
He's blessed you with blessingsalready in your life, within
your relationship, within yourmarriage, within yourself,
within your surroundings, andthat is worth being joyous for.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
Being joyous for.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
Joyous.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Yeah, okay, just make sure that's what you said.
Yeah, is that a word?
I think?
Speaker 2 (30:19):
so, okay, it's worth being grateful for it's worth
being thankful for and it'sworth being content in until God
blesses you with more.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
Amen, and we are so grateful that you're here with
us.
We are so grateful to be inthis season of spring cleaning
and this episode is for you.
If you're seeing blessings butyou're not feeling blessed, this
episode's for you.
Amen, we're grateful.
Let's pray.
Speaker 2 (30:44):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
Lord, we thank you for this time.
We thank you for this place.
Lord, we thank you for theopportunity and the ability to
take your word to the world, togo and share what you've called
us to share.
We thank you for this ministry.
We pray to be your peoplespeaking on your behalf, lord.
(31:05):
We pray that the couples thathear this would be able to take
away from it and use this andutilize it to connect with you
better.
Lord, we give you the glory forall of it, in Jesus's name Amen
.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Amen.
Thank you guys so much forwatching.
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Thank you for your support.
We'd love to see what you haveto say in a review or just by
(31:38):
tapping the five stars, so thatother people like you can find
us and learn how to love byfaith.
We hope to see you guys againnext week as we finish off our
spring cleaning series, and wehope you enjoy the rest of your
week today.
Bye.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
See ya, dude, that episode really hit.
I was really pleased with that.
That was really good.
I caught myself getting likeshe's talking too much, but then
you say stuff and it's justlike that is a great point.
I can't shut her getting likeshe's talking too much.
She talked, but then you saystuff and they're just like that
is a great point.
I can't shut her up and she'ssaying that that is a good point
(32:12):
.
I can't shut her up and she'ssaying that thanks for not
shutting me up, kyle I can'tstep on her toes when she's
saying that woman quiet you.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
Hey, you lady stop talking, yeah man I was saying
um, we talked a lot about likepregnancy and baby and kind of
leading into perfect talk fornext week yeah, it's kind of
leading into that next, thatlast episode what are we going
to talk about next week?
(32:39):
Quiet man.
I can't do your batman voice.
That was my batman voice.
That was your batman quiet man,but I can't do your Batman
voice.
That was my Batman voice.
Speaker 1 (32:46):
That was your Batman voice.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Quiet man, I can't get the raspy.
Who do you work for?
I sound like Marge Simpson.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
I sound like your sister, the old smoking ladies.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
The Patty and Thelma yeah.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
Jubilee always does my voice and she sounds like
that.
Mom's there by.
Hey, it's Dan.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
Hey, it's Dan that.
Hey, it's Dan, that's how shetells you.
I got to go.
I got things to do.
Where are you going today?
I got to go to get breakfast.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Awesome, we'll see you next time.
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