November 25, 2025 • 36 mins
In our final episode of the Temptations series, we talk about how to guard our marriage against temptation. We unpack how temptation seeds itself in thoughts and desires, grows through secrecy and isolation, and fractures trust when left in the dark. We offer practical ways to confess early, involve church community, use Scripture as sword and shield, and remember the real enemy isn’t your spouse.
• guarding mind and heart from early temptation
• moving from look to secret and how it escalates
• revenge, temptation, and the boomerang harm
• shame and pride as engines of secrecy
• confessing early and inviting accountability
• using sword and shield verses to fight back
• church community as protection against isolation
• choosing obedience to Christ over reflexive anger
• reframing covenant marriage and shared purpose
• practical steps to rebuild trust and unity
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Kyle Almodovar (00:00):
How to guard our marriages against temptation.
Selina Almodovar (00:02):
I'm choosing to do it just to get back at
you.
Kyle Almodovar (00:05):
But how do we get past that?
I guess you'd call it a fearthat they're gonna respond in
such a negative way that it'sjust gonna make life worse.
Selina Almodovar (00:11):
The enemy already has a bigger grasp on
your marriage than you think.
We're not perfect people.
By any means.
But by trusting in God, welearned what it takes to build a
friendship, a relationship, andmarriage that has stood the
test of time.
With a keeping it real style,we're gonna talk to you about
everything that we've beenthrough, are going through, and
(00:34):
have overcome all by learninghow to lean on God and each
other in order to help you learnhow to love by faith.
Thanksgiving weekend.
Kyle Almodovar (01:00):
All the turkey all the stuffing, all the mac
and cheese, all the nap time.
None of the football.
It's so hard to be a Brownsfan.
Selina Almodovar (01:15):
I'm sorry.
Kyle Almodovar (01:16):
Change the subject, please.
Selina Almodovar (01:17):
I I I brought up Thanksgiving.
You you brought up your trauma.
Kyle Almodovar (01:23):
I went through all the layers of Thanksgiving
in my head.
Selina Almodovar (01:26):
What about um you didn't talk about desserts
or family or like gratitude,thankfulness?
Kyle Almodovar (01:33):
Oh Lord.
Selina Almodovar (01:34):
All those things.
Cranberry sauce, uh the Macy'sDay parade.
Kyle Almodovar (01:38):
Playing football with my buddy.
Selina Almodovar (01:40):
You do f yeah, you do football.
The church does football everymorning with the guys.
My family.
Kyle Almodovar (01:45):
I remember I miss the days when my parents
were alive and we would do biglike 12, 16 person meals at the
table.
That was cool, kinda.
Selina Almodovar (01:55):
Kinda?
It was cool.
It was shout out to the kind offamily.
Kyle Almodovar (01:59):
It was always hard.
Selina Almodovar (02:00):
Like it's always hard when you have that
many people together.
Like, can you imagine Jesus andhis disciples everywhere he
went?
Like everywhere arguing again.
So we've been over this.
Just pass the turkey.
Kyle Almodovar (02:15):
That's funny, man.
Selena, that's funny.
Welcome to Love by Faith.
Selina Almodovar (02:21):
How are you guys?
Kyle Almodovar (02:22):
We're in November.
We're in the temptation series.
Selina Almodovar (02:24):
This is the last episode of the series.
Kyle Almodovar (02:27):
You ready?
Yeah.
Black Friday sales.
I didn't talk about that.
We're past sorry.
Sorry.
Keep it going, Kyle.
Let's stay focused.
Selina Almodovar (02:34):
For those of you guys who have been tuning in
all month long, thank you forparticipating.
And hopefully you've gottensome good stuff out of our
temptation series.
Make sure you catch our freeresource that is in our couples
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And welcome to the TemptationSeries where we are here talking
to you guys about what couplesare tempted to do, and we are
steering them back towards eachother and to God.
And today is our last episodeof this series.
So, Kyle, what are we talkingabout?
Kyle Almodovar (03:12):
We're talking about how to guard our marriages
against temptation.
Selina Almodovar (03:17):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (03:18):
I was thinking about this episode and thinking
about how do we guard ourmarriages, and then I was
thinking through all of the theprevious three episodes.
Selina Almodovar (03:26):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (03:26):
And how it all plays together.
Selina Almodovar (03:28):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (03:28):
Right?
Selina Almodovar (03:29):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (03:29):
So we have to guard our marriages from
secrets.
Yeah.
Right?
Yeah.
And so where do secrets happen?
Secrets happen mentally.
So it's secrets.
Selina Almodovar (03:39):
Of the heart?
Kyle Almodovar (03:40):
It starts with your mind.
Selina Almodovar (03:42):
It starts with the heart.
Kyle Almodovar (03:44):
Starts with the heart.
Selina Almodovar (03:45):
I think so.
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (03:46):
Now the secrets secrets are in the heart.
Selina Almodovar (03:49):
I think everything flows from the heart
in that Bible.
Kyle Almodovar (03:53):
Out of your mouth, the heart overflows.
That's in the Bible.
Selina Almodovar (03:56):
Yeah, but the the like there's this there's
the part of scripture where he'slike, if you thought about it
in your heart to like you youdon't have to commit murder, but
if you thought about it fromyour heart, you might have
already committed murder.
Kyle Almodovar (04:10):
Okay.
There you go.
It starts in the heart.
Selina Almodovar (04:12):
Did that mess up your whole thing?
Kyle Almodovar (04:14):
No, it's fine.
I mean, I was gonna say toguard your heart eventually.
Selina Almodovar (04:16):
I was gonna say, it's interesting though,
because there are temptationsthat come from the heart for the
longing to be desired and thelonging to be this and that and
whatever.
But then you also, like yousaid, you have thoughts in your
head.
So are they different?
Are they the same?
Do they have the same origin?
I don't know.
It's interesting now that youbring it up.
Kyle Almodovar (04:37):
Yeah.
And and then how do we how dowe attack it?
That's where we have to reallygo.
Because once the sin, becausethe thought of the sin is not
necessarily the sin, but once ittakes root and manifests itself
into your action, that's whenthe sin is out.
That's when the temptation ispast temptation and is into
action.
Selina Almodovar (04:54):
And the sin becomes death, and and that's
why I started with protectingyour mind.
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (04:59):
Because so many times battling temptation, it
starts in the mind.
Selina Almodovar (05:03):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (05:03):
And we have to fight it and fight it, and it's
eventually it takes root andgets into the heart, and where
it's just like, this is shadedor jaded my heart in a way.
Selina Almodovar (05:13):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (05:14):
You know?
How about you?
Selina Almodovar (05:15):
Well, we talked about a lot of different
kinds of temptation.
You know, we we talked aboutthe temptation to look away.
Kyle Almodovar (05:20):
Right.
Selina Almodovar (05:21):
And looking away was kind of the surface
base of temptation.
You know, it starts with thelook, it starts with texting one
person, it starts with lookingat one website, it starts with
scrolling a little too long inthe in the bathroom time.
It's it's you know, it startswith one thought, one feeling,
yeah, and then it continues togrow.
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We talked about the secrets,which was a really deeper, heavy
thing, because now you'reactually taking action and
you're keeping it in the dark,you know, much like shame, much
like sin.
We keep it in that dark so itcould grow and manifest in there
in that space that nobody cansee.
And we also talked aboutskipping church, you know,
isolating yourself so that whatyou're doing is validated, so
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that what you're doing doesn'tget corrected, so that what
you're doing doesn't get stoppedby an accountability that could
be found in a church with achurch group and church friends
and family.
Kyle Almodovar (06:17):
Yeah.
Selina Almodovar (06:18):
And so all of it, like you said, there's
always a seed, there's always aroot to it.
One of the things that we didnot talk about that I was
thinking about was sometimespeople will choose to act on
their temptations, not out of uha longing or a desire, but out
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of anger, like a tit for tat,where it's like you angered me,
so I am gonna act on thistemptation as a way to get back
at you.
Kyle Almodovar (06:48):
Revenge.
Selina Almodovar (06:49):
Yes, like, or you offended me, so I am gonna
do this thing.
Yeah, I am gonna entertain it.
I'm choosing to do it just toget back at you, just so that
the ripples of what my actionsdo can hurt you.
And it's kind of like aboomerang effect because you
think that you're hurting otherpeople, you think that through
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your actions by feeding intotemptations is going to not
affect you, it's gonna affectthe other person.
And in reality, like you get itten times worse because you're
still at the center of thisproblem, and you're still at the
center of this thing that isnow getting fed, and it's be
growing into a bigger monsterwithin you.
Kyle Almodovar (07:34):
I think one of the other faults that we get
into with temptation and givinginto sin and getting past it and
defeating the temptation, whichis really the goal of the
series, is to figure out how todefeat the temptation.
Yes, is that we think we can doit on our own.
Selina Almodovar (07:47):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (07:48):
And not just on our own, like without the church
or without accountabilitypartners, but without our
spouse.
Selina Almodovar (07:52):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (07:53):
Without sharing our struggles with each other,
and especially as men, like Iwant to figure out how to fix it
and then tell you that I fixedit.
Selina Almodovar (08:00):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (08:01):
Before I figure out, like, hey hun, I'm I need
help fixing this.
Selina Almodovar (08:05):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (08:05):
Right?
Like, think about the thinkabout all the times we we run
like organization projects wherewe're like, we're gonna get
this organized, we're gonnaclean up the garage, we're gonna
clean up the basement.
Yeah, all right, I'm gonna getstarted.
Yeah, I'll see you when you'redone with whatever you're doing.
Selina Almodovar (08:19):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (08:19):
And then we get down there, and I'm or I say
down there because I think ofour basement.
That's always a spot that needscleaned up all the time, yes.
As we broadcast from ourbasement studio that's in decent
shape.
We get down there and I startcleaning and I start doing
stuff, and then you come down,or I start doing it without you
before.
Oh yeah, and you're like, Kyle,stop.
Selina Almodovar (08:41):
What is this?
Kyle Almodovar (08:42):
What are you doing?
Selina Almodovar (08:42):
You're making it worse.
Kyle Almodovar (08:44):
And how much better would it have gone?
Would it have been organized?
Would it have been situated hadwe done it together?
Selina Almodovar (08:50):
Yes, right?
Kyle Almodovar (08:51):
Had we sat down, took inventory, yes, figured
out what our trouble areas are,figured out where we're gonna
start, yes, and then knock itout from there.
Selina Almodovar (09:01):
Yes, yes.
And again, you know, you youhave to think about temptation
as this thing that the enemyuses.
It's so crazy to me because I Iam I'm very passionate in
trying to understand thespiritual sense of things, you
know, like there is a a good andevil spiritually at all times
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and all things.
And when people look attemptation and they think that
they could fix it on themselvesand they think that they can get
over it, or they think thatthey can entertain it because
they're strong enough to justget to that line without
crossing over, they think theyhave that.
Like, yeah, to me, I'm lookingat it from a spiritual
perspective like, dude, you'reyou're toying with pride.
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You're toying with pride.
And then when you do crossover, because you're not strong
enough to do it, because Godnever puts you in a situation
that you can handle on your own,or else he would have never
came down so that he could bewith us at all times.
Let's go, right?
So you think you can do it, andthen you cross that border and
you get into that temptation andyou you let the temptation
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overcome you, and then you'renow standing in a pool of shame.
And so shame is that one thingthat keeps the secrets in the
dark.
And there's so many people outthere who are struggling with
shame in their marriage and intheir accountability groups and
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and with pride.
It's like shame and pride aregoing hand in hand because they
are so fearful of the shame.
If it were to come out and beexposed, what people will think
of them, what people whom theylove will think of them, what
people whom they look up to willthink of them.
Yeah, and so they keep itbottled up and they keep it
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behind.
But then, like I said, the moreyou keep that in this darkness,
the darkness continues to getfed and grows.
And you cannot overcome thatwithout a spiritual goodness in
your world, without lettingGod's light expose what's in the
darkness, without that humilityof God's grace, right?
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Saying, I am a broken person.
I did this, like I'm notashamed to let you know that I
fell because I'm human, and theonly person who could not have
been tempted and who could havewalked away from temptation is
Jesus Christ, right?
He was the only one who wentinto the wilderness and got out
of it without sinning, withoutstumbling.
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He was the only one, and so forus as humans, how could we
possibly think that we can do itwithout him?
Kyle Almodovar (11:38):
Right.
The result of sin is death,right?
Yeah, and that death is not aliteral, not always the literal
physical boom, you're dead.
Right?
The the death is could be thedeath of your personality, the
death of your confidence, thedepth, the death of your
connection with your partner, ohyeah, the death of your
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character, of who you want tobe, the death of your
self-image.
Selina Almodovar (12:02):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (12:03):
And so guarding ourselves against these
different deaths is gonna be ahuge step in our spiritual
growth and our spiritualmaturity in our relationship
connection.
Selina Almodovar (12:11):
Yes.
So when it comes torelationships, when it comes to
marriages, for people who arebattling and struggling with
temptation, yeah, it goes backto that.
I am ashamed of the person thatI am becoming through this by
feeding into this temptation.
I don't want to bring my spouseinto it, or I she's the one
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that put me in this situation,or she um offended me, or he
doesn't listen to me, so I don'trespect him.
So therefore I'm gonna do thismy own.
Like all of these things arebrewing and brewing and brewing.
All of it can be, I believe,exposed if we were just honest
and if we were just transparent,not just about the situation,
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but about our own weaknesses.
The Bible tells us that when weare weak, Christ is made strong
through that weakness.
Yes, because that gives him theopportunity to come fully into
that situation and show himselfas God, as supreme, as the power
that can overcome whatever itis that we are battling with,
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even though we've tried 99different ways to not look at
that website or to not spendthat money that we don't have.
God is the one who can give youthe wisdom and the discernment
and the strength to get throughit, right?
Kyle Almodovar (13:34):
Amen.
Selina Almodovar (13:35):
But the only way that you can do that
together is by sharing whatyou're going through with the
safety of ensuring that yourspouse is going to love you no
less.
Kyle Almodovar (13:48):
Amen.
Selina Almodovar (13:49):
But if you have conditions in your love,
that leads to that fear, thatleads to that shame, that leads
to the secrets, at least all thethings.
Kyle Almodovar (13:58):
Man, I want to dig into that.
Selina Almodovar (14:00):
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Kyle Almodovar (15:07):
What I want to dig into is that you said about
the conditional love or theconditional response.
And that is that is huge inyour marriage connection and
sharing these hard temptationsand sharing these hard failures.
Selina Almodovar (15:21):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (15:22):
Is that how you respond?
How I think back to the episodewhere you said when my reflex
reflexes your reflex, well,those reflexes could be very
negative or very harsh or verycritical to make me say, I I
can't share this.
Right.
Because then I'm gonna have togo through this triple hardship.
Selina Almodovar (15:42):
Right.
Kyle Almodovar (15:43):
And so how do we how do we get past that?
How do we get past that notjudgment, but that very human,
very human response to say, holdup, why are you doing this and
what's the matter with you?
And and you know, your sin hascaused me to be angry, your sin
has caused me to withdraw fromyou.
Selina Almodovar (16:00):
Yeah, yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (16:02):
But how do we get past that?
I guess you'd call it a fear,yeah, that they're gonna respond
in such a negative way thatit's just gonna make life worse,
and let's just bury this sin.
Selina Almodovar (16:11):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (16:11):
How do we get past that?
Selina Almodovar (16:12):
So I don't believe I have the exact answers
and the precise answers.
I will say this though, you areright in the fact that even
though we are called to loveunconditionally, we as humans
can never love unconditionally.
Because if I did a if I cheatedon you after 30 years of
marriage, you would probablywalk away.
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You'd, you know, maybe youmight deal with that.
You know what I'm saying?
But like if if something wereto happen that was just like so
detrimental to our marriage, youmight conditionally walk away
because your trust is broken andyour your love is broken, your
belief and your expectations ofwhat you thought your love in
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that marriage would be is brokenbecause that's what humans do.
We break things, we breakthings.
We've been doing it sincechildhood.
We break things, right?
And so I think to answer yourquestion, Kyle, is the only way
that things could not get brokenor the things things will get
broken, but the only way thatthings could get mended, right?
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We have to expect that in abroken world, as broken people
coming together, things aregoing to break.
But the only way that we canmend them is by drawing back to
Jesus and by going back toChrist and having the Holy
Spirit within both of usminister to us on how to mend it
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until he comes back.
You know, all we can do is haveglue until it's we're made
whole again.
And so we have to constantlyseek the glue to keep our
relationship together.
We have to find the glue that'sgonna help us forgive, bite our
tongue and forgive.
There have been moments in ourmarriage where I had to wrestle
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with my anger and with myjudgment and with my injustice
because I was righteously angrythat things were not fair and
this is the way that it went,and I had to swallow my pride
and myself to be like, God wantsme to get over myself and
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forgive.
And my response was like, heckno.
And the Lord was like, Do youlove me?
Okay, it has to go like pleasehear me when I say this.
You have to not think aboutyour spouse, you have to not
think about yourself in thesesituations when temptation is
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high, when sin is done, whenbrokenness is had, you cannot
think about you or your spousein this situation.
You have to think about Christ.
Do you love him enough tofollow him?
Right.
Do you love Christ enough to beobedient to Christ?
Christ is calling you toforgive.
Christ is calling you to love.
Christ is love, is calling youto be humble.
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Christ is calling you to serveyour spouse.
Kyle Almodovar (19:08):
Right.
Selina Almodovar (19:09):
Christ is calling you to sacrifice the way
that he sacrificed for thechurch if you're a husband.
Kyle Almodovar (19:14):
Yes.
Selina Almodovar (19:14):
Christ is calling you to submit to Christ
the way as a wife, the way hehad to submit to the father.
Okay?
Do you love him more thananything else that is happening
in the messy life that you havecreated through that temptation?
And if the answer is yes, thenI believe you will find the glue
that will help you.
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You will find the wisdom, youwill find the help, you will
find the aid, you will find theopportunities to help you get
through whatever it is that thattemptation has brought you
into.
Kyle Almodovar (19:46):
Amen.
Wow.
Wow, that's a good, great takeon that.
I would say for for husbandswise to defeat the temptation
and to defeat the the singetting deeper is to start when
the sin is small.
Selina Almodovar (20:00):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (20:00):
Before the sin takes root.
When it gets to that thought,go to the go to to confess then.
Selina Almodovar (20:05):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (20:05):
Like, hey, you know, I was feeling tempted to
this little step.
Yes.
Right.
As opposed to having to comeback and confess that you
crossed a huge line later,right?
So before it takes root or getstoo deep.
Like I love to shop.
I love this just to just getstuff.
He loves to shop.
I like he is the shopper.
I like getting out there andenjoying some retail therapy.
Selina Almodovar (20:25):
I don't shop.
Kyle Almodovar (20:26):
And one of my challenges is that I'll have all
these online carts just kind ofoverflowing with stuff.
Selina Almodovar (20:32):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (20:32):
That I I can't afford in the moment or that I
can't buy right now.
Selina Almodovar (20:35):
Right.
Kyle Almodovar (20:36):
And it it's a dream to save up and buy these
things eventually.
Selina Almodovar (20:40):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (20:40):
But at the same time, you know, I've confessed
and talked to you many timesabout it being unhealthy, about
it being covetous and being likejust getting too much into like
things.
Things.
Yeah.
And not enough into thespiritual side and not and just
distracting me from getting intothe word or getting into a time
of prayer.
Because instead of using thosetimes for growth, I use them for
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scrolling and different kind ofdoom scrolling, but like a
shopping doom scrolling.
Yeah.
Per se.
And it's it's just one of thosethings that I always come to
you.
I'm like, hey, I gotta emptythis cart out.
Like, here I'm I'm gonna dothis and show you that.
Or it'll be, you know, I gottastop looking at this.
I remember you yelling at me.
We had we had just bought ourhouse.
Selina Almodovar (21:21):
Okay.
Kyle Almodovar (21:21):
Like this one, yeah, our house.
And we were in there and wewere happy.
Love it.
And I was still looking athouses on on Realtor.com app.
And I'm like, and she's like,why are you doing this?
Selina Almodovar (21:32):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (21:32):
Love the house that God gave you.
Selina Almodovar (21:34):
Come on.
Kyle Almodovar (21:34):
Love the house that you are are working
towards.
Selina Almodovar (21:37):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (21:37):
And it is such a good, such a good vision of how
to defeat the sin is to share.
Or if you're if you catch yourpartner, like do it in love.
Like encourage them.
Take it back to God.
Like you said, take it back toGod that hey, love what God has
given you right now.
Love where God has you rightnow.
Defeat that temptation.
I want to go another routehere.
Selina Almodovar (21:58):
Okay.
Kyle Almodovar (21:58):
In that the best advice I ever received on
defeating temptation came fromthe book Every Man's Battle.
Selina Almodovar (22:04):
Okay.
Kyle Almodovar (22:04):
And in Every Man's Battle, one of their big
takeaways is to have your swordverse and your shield verse.
Selina Almodovar (22:09):
Okay.
Kyle Almodovar (22:10):
And it's a verse you memorize to help you defeat
the temptation.
Selina Almodovar (22:12):
That's good.
Kyle Almodovar (22:13):
In different areas.
So in every man's battle, theyhave the sword verse and the
shield verse, right?
And for each kind of sin youthink of that you're dealing
with, you have your sword verseand your shield verse.
The sword verse is one whereyou're going to attack the sin
and use that verse to stop andknock down the attack of the
enemy, right?
With with offensively.
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And talking about the promisethat God has given you.
And talk about the way that theLord has set you free from
this.
And the shield verse is onewhere you're going to defend.
And the the Lord is myshepherd, I shall not want.
And stop that.
And put the put the wall upagainst it.
Selina Almodovar (22:48):
Yeah.
You shall not pass.
Kyle Almodovar (22:50):
Right.
And and those that sword andshield verse for different sins
will help you, A, memorizescripture, and B, know how to
win the battle.
Selina Almodovar (22:58):
Amen.
Kyle Almodovar (22:59):
Right?
And with your accountabilitypartner, who's hopefully your
spouse in some sort of way.
With your accountabilitypartner, who is hopefully in
some capacity your partner.
Selina Almodovar (23:08):
Hopefully, yes.
Kyle Almodovar (23:09):
You can overcome together and stand in battle
together.
Selina Almodovar (23:12):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (23:13):
And she can know how to pray for you, and he can
know how to pray for you.
Selina Almodovar (23:15):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (23:16):
And that's how you overcome temptation in your
marriage.
Selina Almodovar (23:19):
What's up, love by faith family?
We want to say thank you somuch for your support in
watching and engaging in everysingle episode that we have put
out thus far.
We could not have made it thisfar without you.
Kyle Almodovar (23:30):
That's right.
And we want to grow more.
We want to create newresources.
We want to increase our reachand we want to provide more for
you guys.
But the only way to make thathappen is for you to come
alongside and partner with us tosow a seed into this ministry
to help it grow.
Selina Almodovar (23:45):
Because at the end of the day, it's not about
getting new equipment or puttingout new resources.
It's about expanding thekingdom.
It's about creating godlymarriages.
And we can do that if youpartner alongside us with your
financial support.
There's a link below that youcan click on.
You can contribute one time oryou can partner with us on a
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continue to grow and reach themasses.
Kyle Almodovar (24:12):
If you want to see this ministry grow, follow
the link below and thank you.
We thank you for giving and forbeing just part of this journey
with us.
Selina Almodovar (24:21):
So that together we can love by faith.
Kyle Almodovar (24:24):
Love by faith, y'all.
That's not a joke.
Love by faith, y'all is not ajoke.
Selina Almodovar (24:33):
That's not our tagline.
Kyle Almodovar (24:34):
It's a catchphrase.
Selina Almodovar (24:36):
Can you please just use the link and click
below and we would be grateful.
In Jesus' name.
Amen.
So there's this scene in theHunger Games.
Um, for anybody who's watchedit, I think it's the uh second
one, catching fire.
I think that's the name of themovie, the second part.
And this is the um the part ofthe movie where they start to
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form allies and they keep herout of the dark, but they're
secretly plotting to likeovertake the capital.
And their biggest phrase tohelp them stay focused on the
mission was remember who thereal enemy is.
Kyle Almodovar (25:15):
Okay.
Selina Almodovar (25:15):
Okay.
And it got to the point whereKatniss, the main character, she
started to question, you know,who can she trust?
Because they're all actingfunny and weird.
And her biggest, like at theend of the movie, she just
thought, like, my partner Pitais the only one I can trust at
this point.
And now they took him away, soI don't trust nobody.
But then they threw it in herface, like, remember who the
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real enemy is, right?
And it it brought her back toher senses of like, I'm gonna
take my emotions out of this,I'm gonna take what I was
tempted to do because I wastempted to to who whoop a can of
butt cracking on you.
You know, but I instead I justremembered it's not you I'm
fighting, it's the capital.
And so she she gets on boardwith the with the plan and and
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things happen.
And it just reminds me of, youknow, when you go into a
marriage, remember who the realenemy is.
Right, it's not your spouse.
No, you made a vow.
I don't know why people thinkthat making vows and making
covenants is something that youcould just willy-nilly do.
Like you are doing, you aremaking a covenant and a vow, not
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just with a person that youlove at the time, right?
Who looks good in the moment,right?
You're making a covenant and avow with the God, Most High, the
King of Kings, the Lord of theLord.
You are making a covenant withhim that you are vowing to
become one with this person toopen opportunities of new
callings and new gifts and newministries and new legacies and
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new things with this person.
You are making a vow to be usedby God for God's glory with
this person because you aremaking a covenant of marriage.
Kyle Almodovar (26:50):
Yeah, right.
Selina Almodovar (26:50):
And so with it's three-sided, it's a
triangle.
It's it's a triangle, it's across because of the the the
vertical covenant and thelateral covenant.
Oh, there you go.
Like that one.
And so, with that, we have toremember who the real enemy is.
And when temptation comes inand your partner is struggling
with that, you have to go backto who the real enemy is.
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The enemy is not your partner.
Yeah, you guys can't turnagainst each other.
Yeah, you guys can't go back towhat the world is telling you
not to trust them or not torespect them or not to honor
them or not to be one-sided withthem, and it's not you versus
him.
It's how are we going toovercome this?
Kyle Almodovar (27:31):
Yes.
Selina Almodovar (27:31):
And if you're not gonna be honest and
transparent and open with yourpartner, and you feel like you
can't do that, then the enemyalready has a bigger grasp on
your marriage than you think,and you're in deep waters.
It doesn't mean that you'regonna sink and it doesn't mean
that your marriage has to fail.
It just reminds you refocus onwho the real enemy is and call
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on the bigger source to help youbring it back out of those deep
waters.
Kyle Almodovar (28:00):
Yeah.
Selina Almodovar (28:00):
And if your husband or if your wife is
struggling with that temptation,then you have to really get
into your prayer closet and youreally have to call on God to
help you with this.
You have to call on youraccountability people and help
you with this.
You have to bring people in,and more than anything, you have
to approach your partner withlove, the same love that you vow
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to love him with and vow tolove her with.
And you have to have faith.
A lot of people are playing Godreal small in their marriage.
Oh, a lot of people are playingGod real small.
They're they're really lookingat God like He's just a deli
marketer, and He just you grab aticket and you you make your
order and you get your delipackage.
Kyle Almodovar (28:41):
You get your half pound of turkey and keep it
moving.
Selina Almodovar (28:44):
And you think that that's all that God is.
And God is so much bigger,guys, in your life, and he
should be bigger in your if youbel if you're listening to this
podcast because you believe inGod, because you call yourself a
Christian and you believe thatGod should be at the center of
your marriage, then please donot undermine his power, do not
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undermine his love, and do notundermine what he can do in your
marriage to you as individualsand to each other as a unit.
Okay, so when there istemptation and it is creeping
and it's knocking, pleaseredirect your sights and your
beliefs.
Remember who the real enemy isand remember who already
defeated that person.
Kyle Almodovar (29:23):
Let's go, let's go.
Selina Almodovar (29:24):
Okay, yeah.
Because we are gonna struggle.
We are all going to be tempted.
Jesus was tempted.
What makes us think that we'renot?
Kyle Almodovar (29:33):
That's right.
We're there's nothing that'sgonna stop us from being tempted
except for us using our faithto defeat it.
Except for us using our faithto defeat it.
The last thought I wanted toshare on this is we had our
episode where we talked abouttempted to skip church.
Selina Almodovar (29:46):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (29:46):
And and you know, I think a lot of we put a
lot of thought into how wewanted to roll out this
temptation series.
Selina Almodovar (29:53):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (29:53):
And we made sure to keep tempted to skip church
in.
Yes, because it is such a hugepart in overcoming temptation.
Is being part of the churchbecause of that connection with
people, that village.
Selina Almodovar (30:04):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (30:04):
It takes a village to raise a child, right?
Well, it takes a village toraise raise a child forever.
Yes.
We are learning from people inour church.
We are learning from olderpeople in our church, from
younger people in our church.
We are connected with men andwomen in our church who are
helping us defeat temptationevery day, who are working with
us, who are standing arm in arm,who are praying for us.
And so don't underestimate thepower that the church has in
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working together and leaning oneach other and praying and being
able to defeat temptation.
Selina Almodovar (30:32):
If you guys have any other stories,
questions, concerns, mattersthat you would like to share
regarding temptation, be sure tosend us a note or email us info
at lovebyfaith ministries.com.
You can go to our website.
If you guys don't have thatcommunity where you can go to
and you need to talk tosomebody, we are more than
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willing to talk to you guysone-on-one with as a couple and
see how we can overcome thistemptation, how we can guide you
back to God, and how we canfind the glue to help your
marriage and your specific need.
We offer these services to you,donation base, and we are more
than willing to stand alongsideyou guys and get through that.
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So if you don't have anyone, weoffer ourselves to you.
And we hope that you guys gotsomething out of this series.
Absolutely.
This was definitely a hardseries.
It was a very serious series,but we felt like it needed to
happen because if it does notget talked about, then it
continues to remain in theshadows.
And we are all about beingnaked and unashamed, the way God
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intended and designed marriagesto be.
Kyle Almodovar (31:41):
Amen.
We appreciate you being here.
Um, let's close in prayer.
Selina Almodovar (31:45):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (31:45):
All right.
Why don't you pray this time?
Selina Almodovar (31:47):
Thank you.
I will.
Heavenly Father, we thank youso much for being who you are,
just full of love, mercy, power.
We thank you that you sent yourson Jesus to come down so that
he can feel all of thetemptations that we feel in
today's time.
He knows what it's like, heknows what it goes on in our
hearts and in our minds.
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He faced temptation himself andyet he walked away without sin.
And Lord, we thank you forgiving us this example, for
giving us the Holy Spirit as ourhelper to help us get out of
temptation.
As your word tells us, there'salways a way out that we can
seek, Lord.
We pray for the eyes to beopened, for the ears to be
opened, for the hearts to beopened, so that for those
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couples who are struggling withtemptation will see your way
out.
They would find the way toexpress themselves to one
another, that the shame would bedismissed in their life, that
the pride would be melted downto nothing, Lord, and that they
can come together to not onlysee who the real enemy is, but
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that they can know who the trueovercomer of temptation is as
well.
And when they invite you intotheir marriages, we pray over
all the listeners, over all thewatchers, Lord, that they would
be blessed and that they wouldcome together to know you better
and to know each other better.
In Jesus' name, amen.
Amen.
Kyle Almodovar (33:07):
Amen.
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Thank you for loving by faithwith us.
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If the Lord has blessed youtoday and you feel led to give
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We'd be glad to connect withyou and just say thank you from
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Selina Almodovar (33:26):
Absolutely.
Kyle Almodovar (33:26):
Um remember that if you're online, like, share,
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We're thankful for you beinghere, thankful for you listening
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Selina Almodovar (33:38):
If you're living in the States, then happy
Thanksgiving.
And we will come in next weekwith a new month and a new
series.
So tune in then.
Kyle Almodovar (33:46):
That's right.
Selina Almodovar (33:46):
Love by faith, y'all.
Kyle Almodovar (33:47):
Love by faith, yeah.
Selina Almodovar (33:48):
Bye.
Kyle Almodovar (33:52):
Good job.
Selina Almodovar (33:53):
You good job.
Kyle Almodovar (33:55):
So uh sweet potato casserole.
Selina Almodovar (33:58):
Oh.
Kyle Almodovar (33:59):
Or would you rather have the stuffing?
Selina Almodovar (34:01):
Oh, I like that.
Kyle Almodovar (34:01):
You'd only pick one.
Selina Almodovar (34:02):
No.
Kyle Almodovar (34:02):
Just pick one.
Selina Almodovar (34:04):
No.
Come on.
I can't.
This or that?
It's it's too hard for me.
I love them both.
Kyle Almodovar (34:09):
Play along.
Selina Almodovar (34:09):
It's like children.
I love them both.
I have them favorite.
Kyle Almodovar (34:12):
Sweet potato casserole or stuffing.
Selina Almodovar (34:14):
Yeah, because one is sweet and one is savory.
It's not it's not equallybalanced.
You'd have to do like mashedpotatoes and and and macaroni
and cheese.
Kyle Almodovar (34:23):
You don't like either of those things.
Selina Almodovar (34:24):
Or like sweet potatoes and pumpkin pie.
Kyle Almodovar (34:26):
Alright, let me start easier.
Selina Almodovar (34:28):
Okay.
Kyle Almodovar (34:29):
Regular rolls or Hawaiian rolls?
Selina Almodovar (34:31):
Oh, none of them.
Too many carbs.
I'd go for the stuffing.
Kyle Almodovar (34:34):
I'm done.
I'm done.
Goodbye.
Selina Almodovar (34:36):
I'd go for the stuffing because that's all the
carbs I need.
I love it all.
You want to know my dreamThanksgiving plate?
Like.
No, you ruined my this or thatgame.
I'm sorry.
I had a fun this or that.
I like them all.
Kyle Almodovar (34:51):
See what I deal with?
Selina Almodovar (34:53):
Dang, don't.
Kyle Almodovar (34:54):
See what she deals with?
Selina Almodovar (34:55):
Listen, I need turkey.
I need cranberry sauce.
I need stuffing.
I need sweet potatoes, somekind of carrot, some kind of
green, whether that's a salad ora green bean.
And then I feel like I'mhealthy enough because I didn't
need any of the mashed potatoesor the mac and cheese.
The only carb I had wasstuffing.
And so I can stuff my face thenwith all of the desserts that
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are there.
Whether that's a cheesecake, apumpkin cake, a sweet potato
pie, all the desserts.
I would have no rolls, and Iwould drink a sparkling juice at
the end.
With gravy, all the gravy.
Kyle Almodovar (35:32):
So in a tournament style, this or that.
Who's your winner of thetournament?
Who's the most important at theThanksgiving table?
Selina Almodovar (35:40):
The most important at the Thanksgiving
would have to be the turkey, ofcourse.
Kyle Almodovar (35:43):
Would it?
Selina Almodovar (35:44):
I think so.
Or stuffing, because I nevereat stuffing any other time of
the year.
Or dressing, or depending onwhere you live.
Kyle Almodovar (35:54):
Hey.
Alright.
That's what I was getting at.
I was gonna do like atournament style, this or that.
I didn't know.
I didn't know.
You didn't tell me.
You didn't say that.
I tried.
I tried.
Selina Almodovar (36:03):
I'm sorry.
Happy Thanksgiving, everyone.
How to guard our marriages against temptation.
Selina Almodovar (00:02):
I'm choosing to do it just to get back at
you.
Kyle Almodovar (00:05):
But how do we get past that?
I guess you'd call it a fearthat they're gonna respond in
such a negative way that it'sjust gonna make life worse.
Selina Almodovar (00:11):
The enemy already has a bigger grasp on
your marriage than you think.
We're not perfect people.
By any means.
But by trusting in God, welearned what it takes to build a
friendship, a relationship, andmarriage that has stood the
test of time.
With a keeping it real style,we're gonna talk to you about
everything that we've beenthrough, are going through, and
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have overcome all by learninghow to lean on God and each
other in order to help you learnhow to love by faith.
Thanksgiving weekend.
Kyle Almodovar (01:00):
All the turkey all the stuffing, all the mac
and cheese, all the nap time.
None of the football.
It's so hard to be a Brownsfan.
Selina Almodovar (01:15):
I'm sorry.
Kyle Almodovar (01:16):
Change the subject, please.
Selina Almodovar (01:17):
I I I brought up Thanksgiving.
You you brought up your trauma.
Kyle Almodovar (01:23):
I went through all the layers of Thanksgiving
in my head.
Selina Almodovar (01:26):
What about um you didn't talk about desserts
or family or like gratitude,thankfulness?
Kyle Almodovar (01:33):
Oh Lord.
Selina Almodovar (01:34):
All those things.
Cranberry sauce, uh the Macy'sDay parade.
Kyle Almodovar (01:38):
Playing football with my buddy.
Selina Almodovar (01:40):
You do f yeah, you do football.
The church does football everymorning with the guys.
My family.
Kyle Almodovar (01:45):
I remember I miss the days when my parents
were alive and we would do biglike 12, 16 person meals at the
table.
That was cool, kinda.
Selina Almodovar (01:55):
Kinda?
It was cool.
It was shout out to the kind offamily.
Kyle Almodovar (01:59):
It was always hard.
Selina Almodovar (02:00):
Like it's always hard when you have that
many people together.
Like, can you imagine Jesus andhis disciples everywhere he
went?
Like everywhere arguing again.
So we've been over this.
Just pass the turkey.
Kyle Almodovar (02:15):
That's funny, man.
Selena, that's funny.
Welcome to Love by Faith.
Selina Almodovar (02:21):
How are you guys?
Kyle Almodovar (02:22):
We're in November.
We're in the temptation series.
Selina Almodovar (02:24):
This is the last episode of the series.
Kyle Almodovar (02:27):
You ready?
Yeah.
Black Friday sales.
I didn't talk about that.
We're past sorry.
Sorry.
Keep it going, Kyle.
Let's stay focused.
Selina Almodovar (02:34):
For those of you guys who have been tuning in
all month long, thank you forparticipating.
And hopefully you've gottensome good stuff out of our
temptation series.
Make sure you catch our freeresource that is in our couples
playbook regarding this series.
It's called Faithful Eyes,Faithful Hearts, a Couple's
Guide for Overcoming Temptation.
If you're new here, hey, yougot a free gift?
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And welcome to the TemptationSeries where we are here talking
to you guys about what couplesare tempted to do, and we are
steering them back towards eachother and to God.
And today is our last episodeof this series.
So, Kyle, what are we talkingabout?
Kyle Almodovar (03:12):
We're talking about how to guard our marriages
against temptation.
Selina Almodovar (03:17):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (03:18):
I was thinking about this episode and thinking
about how do we guard ourmarriages, and then I was
thinking through all of the theprevious three episodes.
Selina Almodovar (03:26):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (03:26):
And how it all plays together.
Selina Almodovar (03:28):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (03:28):
Right?
Selina Almodovar (03:29):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (03:29):
So we have to guard our marriages from
secrets.
Yeah.
Right?
Yeah.
And so where do secrets happen?
Secrets happen mentally.
So it's secrets.
Selina Almodovar (03:39):
Of the heart?
Kyle Almodovar (03:40):
It starts with your mind.
Selina Almodovar (03:42):
It starts with the heart.
Kyle Almodovar (03:44):
Starts with the heart.
Selina Almodovar (03:45):
I think so.
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (03:46):
Now the secrets secrets are in the heart.
Selina Almodovar (03:49):
I think everything flows from the heart
in that Bible.
Kyle Almodovar (03:53):
Out of your mouth, the heart overflows.
That's in the Bible.
Selina Almodovar (03:56):
Yeah, but the the like there's this there's
the part of scripture where he'slike, if you thought about it
in your heart to like you youdon't have to commit murder, but
if you thought about it fromyour heart, you might have
already committed murder.
Kyle Almodovar (04:10):
Okay.
There you go.
It starts in the heart.
Selina Almodovar (04:12):
Did that mess up your whole thing?
Kyle Almodovar (04:14):
No, it's fine.
I mean, I was gonna say toguard your heart eventually.
Selina Almodovar (04:16):
I was gonna say, it's interesting though,
because there are temptationsthat come from the heart for the
longing to be desired and thelonging to be this and that and
whatever.
But then you also, like yousaid, you have thoughts in your
head.
So are they different?
Are they the same?
Do they have the same origin?
I don't know.
It's interesting now that youbring it up.
Kyle Almodovar (04:37):
Yeah.
And and then how do we how dowe attack it?
That's where we have to reallygo.
Because once the sin, becausethe thought of the sin is not
necessarily the sin, but once ittakes root and manifests itself
into your action, that's whenthe sin is out.
That's when the temptation ispast temptation and is into
action.
Selina Almodovar (04:54):
And the sin becomes death, and and that's
why I started with protectingyour mind.
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (04:59):
Because so many times battling temptation, it
starts in the mind.
Selina Almodovar (05:03):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (05:03):
And we have to fight it and fight it, and it's
eventually it takes root andgets into the heart, and where
it's just like, this is shadedor jaded my heart in a way.
Selina Almodovar (05:13):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (05:14):
You know?
How about you?
Selina Almodovar (05:15):
Well, we talked about a lot of different
kinds of temptation.
You know, we we talked aboutthe temptation to look away.
Kyle Almodovar (05:20):
Right.
Selina Almodovar (05:21):
And looking away was kind of the surface
base of temptation.
You know, it starts with thelook, it starts with texting one
person, it starts with lookingat one website, it starts with
scrolling a little too long inthe in the bathroom time.
It's it's you know, it startswith one thought, one feeling,
yeah, and then it continues togrow.
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We talked about the secrets,which was a really deeper, heavy
thing, because now you'reactually taking action and
you're keeping it in the dark,you know, much like shame, much
like sin.
We keep it in that dark so itcould grow and manifest in there
in that space that nobody cansee.
And we also talked aboutskipping church, you know,
isolating yourself so that whatyou're doing is validated, so
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that what you're doing doesn'tget corrected, so that what
you're doing doesn't get stoppedby an accountability that could
be found in a church with achurch group and church friends
and family.
Kyle Almodovar (06:17):
Yeah.
Selina Almodovar (06:18):
And so all of it, like you said, there's
always a seed, there's always aroot to it.
One of the things that we didnot talk about that I was
thinking about was sometimespeople will choose to act on
their temptations, not out of uha longing or a desire, but out
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of anger, like a tit for tat,where it's like you angered me,
so I am gonna act on thistemptation as a way to get back
at you.
Kyle Almodovar (06:48):
Revenge.
Selina Almodovar (06:49):
Yes, like, or you offended me, so I am gonna
do this thing.
Yeah, I am gonna entertain it.
I'm choosing to do it just toget back at you, just so that
the ripples of what my actionsdo can hurt you.
And it's kind of like aboomerang effect because you
think that you're hurting otherpeople, you think that through
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your actions by feeding intotemptations is going to not
affect you, it's gonna affectthe other person.
And in reality, like you get itten times worse because you're
still at the center of thisproblem, and you're still at the
center of this thing that isnow getting fed, and it's be
growing into a bigger monsterwithin you.
Kyle Almodovar (07:34):
I think one of the other faults that we get
into with temptation and givinginto sin and getting past it and
defeating the temptation, whichis really the goal of the
series, is to figure out how todefeat the temptation.
Yes, is that we think we can doit on our own.
Selina Almodovar (07:47):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (07:48):
And not just on our own, like without the church
or without accountabilitypartners, but without our
spouse.
Selina Almodovar (07:52):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (07:53):
Without sharing our struggles with each other,
and especially as men, like Iwant to figure out how to fix it
and then tell you that I fixedit.
Selina Almodovar (08:00):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (08:01):
Before I figure out, like, hey hun, I'm I need
help fixing this.
Selina Almodovar (08:05):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (08:05):
Right?
Like, think about the thinkabout all the times we we run
like organization projects wherewe're like, we're gonna get
this organized, we're gonnaclean up the garage, we're gonna
clean up the basement.
Yeah, all right, I'm gonna getstarted.
Yeah, I'll see you when you'redone with whatever you're doing.
Selina Almodovar (08:19):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (08:19):
And then we get down there, and I'm or I say
down there because I think ofour basement.
That's always a spot that needscleaned up all the time, yes.
As we broadcast from ourbasement studio that's in decent
shape.
We get down there and I startcleaning and I start doing
stuff, and then you come down,or I start doing it without you
before.
Oh yeah, and you're like, Kyle,stop.
Selina Almodovar (08:41):
What is this?
Kyle Almodovar (08:42):
What are you doing?
Selina Almodovar (08:42):
You're making it worse.
Kyle Almodovar (08:44):
And how much better would it have gone?
Would it have been organized?
Would it have been situated hadwe done it together?
Selina Almodovar (08:50):
Yes, right?
Kyle Almodovar (08:51):
Had we sat down, took inventory, yes, figured
out what our trouble areas are,figured out where we're gonna
start, yes, and then knock itout from there.
Selina Almodovar (09:01):
Yes, yes.
And again, you know, you youhave to think about temptation
as this thing that the enemyuses.
It's so crazy to me because I Iam I'm very passionate in
trying to understand thespiritual sense of things, you
know, like there is a a good andevil spiritually at all times
(09:22):
and all things.
And when people look attemptation and they think that
they could fix it on themselvesand they think that they can get
over it, or they think thatthey can entertain it because
they're strong enough to justget to that line without
crossing over, they think theyhave that.
Like, yeah, to me, I'm lookingat it from a spiritual
perspective like, dude, you'reyou're toying with pride.
(09:44):
You're toying with pride.
And then when you do crossover, because you're not strong
enough to do it, because Godnever puts you in a situation
that you can handle on your own,or else he would have never
came down so that he could bewith us at all times.
Let's go, right?
So you think you can do it, andthen you cross that border and
you get into that temptation andyou you let the temptation
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overcome you, and then you'renow standing in a pool of shame.
And so shame is that one thingthat keeps the secrets in the
dark.
And there's so many people outthere who are struggling with
shame in their marriage and intheir accountability groups and
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and with pride.
It's like shame and pride aregoing hand in hand because they
are so fearful of the shame.
If it were to come out and beexposed, what people will think
of them, what people whom theylove will think of them, what
people whom they look up to willthink of them.
Yeah, and so they keep itbottled up and they keep it
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behind.
But then, like I said, the moreyou keep that in this darkness,
the darkness continues to getfed and grows.
And you cannot overcome thatwithout a spiritual goodness in
your world, without lettingGod's light expose what's in the
darkness, without that humilityof God's grace, right?
(11:09):
Saying, I am a broken person.
I did this, like I'm notashamed to let you know that I
fell because I'm human, and theonly person who could not have
been tempted and who could havewalked away from temptation is
Jesus Christ, right?
He was the only one who wentinto the wilderness and got out
of it without sinning, withoutstumbling.
(11:31):
He was the only one, and so forus as humans, how could we
possibly think that we can do itwithout him?
Kyle Almodovar (11:38):
Right.
The result of sin is death,right?
Yeah, and that death is not aliteral, not always the literal
physical boom, you're dead.
Right?
The the death is could be thedeath of your personality, the
death of your confidence, thedepth, the death of your
connection with your partner, ohyeah, the death of your
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character, of who you want tobe, the death of your
self-image.
Selina Almodovar (12:02):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (12:03):
And so guarding ourselves against these
different deaths is gonna be ahuge step in our spiritual
growth and our spiritualmaturity in our relationship
connection.
Selina Almodovar (12:11):
Yes.
So when it comes torelationships, when it comes to
marriages, for people who arebattling and struggling with
temptation, yeah, it goes backto that.
I am ashamed of the person thatI am becoming through this by
feeding into this temptation.
I don't want to bring my spouseinto it, or I she's the one
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that put me in this situation,or she um offended me, or he
doesn't listen to me, so I don'trespect him.
So therefore I'm gonna do thismy own.
Like all of these things arebrewing and brewing and brewing.
All of it can be, I believe,exposed if we were just honest
and if we were just transparent,not just about the situation,
(12:59):
but about our own weaknesses.
The Bible tells us that when weare weak, Christ is made strong
through that weakness.
Yes, because that gives him theopportunity to come fully into
that situation and show himselfas God, as supreme, as the power
that can overcome whatever itis that we are battling with,
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even though we've tried 99different ways to not look at
that website or to not spendthat money that we don't have.
God is the one who can give youthe wisdom and the discernment
and the strength to get throughit, right?
Kyle Almodovar (13:34):
Amen.
Selina Almodovar (13:35):
But the only way that you can do that
together is by sharing whatyou're going through with the
safety of ensuring that yourspouse is going to love you no
less.
Kyle Almodovar (13:48):
Amen.
Selina Almodovar (13:49):
But if you have conditions in your love,
that leads to that fear, thatleads to that shame, that leads
to the secrets, at least all thethings.
Kyle Almodovar (13:58):
Man, I want to dig into that.
Selina Almodovar (14:00):
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Kyle Almodovar (15:07):
What I want to dig into is that you said about
the conditional love or theconditional response.
And that is that is huge inyour marriage connection and
sharing these hard temptationsand sharing these hard failures.
Selina Almodovar (15:21):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (15:22):
Is that how you respond?
How I think back to the episodewhere you said when my reflex
reflexes your reflex, well,those reflexes could be very
negative or very harsh or verycritical to make me say, I I
can't share this.
Right.
Because then I'm gonna have togo through this triple hardship.
Selina Almodovar (15:42):
Right.
Kyle Almodovar (15:43):
And so how do we how do we get past that?
How do we get past that notjudgment, but that very human,
very human response to say, holdup, why are you doing this and
what's the matter with you?
And and you know, your sin hascaused me to be angry, your sin
has caused me to withdraw fromyou.
Selina Almodovar (16:00):
Yeah, yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (16:02):
But how do we get past that?
I guess you'd call it a fear,yeah, that they're gonna respond
in such a negative way thatit's just gonna make life worse,
and let's just bury this sin.
Selina Almodovar (16:11):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (16:11):
How do we get past that?
Selina Almodovar (16:12):
So I don't believe I have the exact answers
and the precise answers.
I will say this though, you areright in the fact that even
though we are called to loveunconditionally, we as humans
can never love unconditionally.
Because if I did a if I cheatedon you after 30 years of
marriage, you would probablywalk away.
(16:33):
You'd, you know, maybe youmight deal with that.
You know what I'm saying?
But like if if something wereto happen that was just like so
detrimental to our marriage, youmight conditionally walk away
because your trust is broken andyour your love is broken, your
belief and your expectations ofwhat you thought your love in
(16:55):
that marriage would be is brokenbecause that's what humans do.
We break things, we breakthings.
We've been doing it sincechildhood.
We break things, right?
And so I think to answer yourquestion, Kyle, is the only way
that things could not get brokenor the things things will get
broken, but the only way thatthings could get mended, right?
(17:16):
We have to expect that in abroken world, as broken people
coming together, things aregoing to break.
But the only way that we canmend them is by drawing back to
Jesus and by going back toChrist and having the Holy
Spirit within both of usminister to us on how to mend it
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until he comes back.
You know, all we can do is haveglue until it's we're made
whole again.
And so we have to constantlyseek the glue to keep our
relationship together.
We have to find the glue that'sgonna help us forgive, bite our
tongue and forgive.
There have been moments in ourmarriage where I had to wrestle
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with my anger and with myjudgment and with my injustice
because I was righteously angrythat things were not fair and
this is the way that it went,and I had to swallow my pride
and myself to be like, God wantsme to get over myself and
(18:22):
forgive.
And my response was like, heckno.
And the Lord was like, Do youlove me?
Okay, it has to go like pleasehear me when I say this.
You have to not think aboutyour spouse, you have to not
think about yourself in thesesituations when temptation is
(18:42):
high, when sin is done, whenbrokenness is had, you cannot
think about you or your spousein this situation.
You have to think about Christ.
Do you love him enough tofollow him?
Right.
Do you love Christ enough to beobedient to Christ?
Christ is calling you toforgive.
Christ is calling you to love.
Christ is love, is calling youto be humble.
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Christ is calling you to serveyour spouse.
Kyle Almodovar (19:08):
Right.
Selina Almodovar (19:09):
Christ is calling you to sacrifice the way
that he sacrificed for thechurch if you're a husband.
Kyle Almodovar (19:14):
Yes.
Selina Almodovar (19:14):
Christ is calling you to submit to Christ
the way as a wife, the way hehad to submit to the father.
Okay?
Do you love him more thananything else that is happening
in the messy life that you havecreated through that temptation?
And if the answer is yes, thenI believe you will find the glue
that will help you.
(19:35):
You will find the wisdom, youwill find the help, you will
find the aid, you will find theopportunities to help you get
through whatever it is that thattemptation has brought you
into.
Kyle Almodovar (19:46):
Amen.
Wow.
Wow, that's a good, great takeon that.
I would say for for husbandswise to defeat the temptation
and to defeat the the singetting deeper is to start when
the sin is small.
Selina Almodovar (20:00):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (20:00):
Before the sin takes root.
When it gets to that thought,go to the go to to confess then.
Selina Almodovar (20:05):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (20:05):
Like, hey, you know, I was feeling tempted to
this little step.
Yes.
Right.
As opposed to having to comeback and confess that you
crossed a huge line later,right?
So before it takes root or getstoo deep.
Like I love to shop.
I love this just to just getstuff.
He loves to shop.
I like he is the shopper.
I like getting out there andenjoying some retail therapy.
Selina Almodovar (20:25):
I don't shop.
Kyle Almodovar (20:26):
And one of my challenges is that I'll have all
these online carts just kind ofoverflowing with stuff.
Selina Almodovar (20:32):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (20:32):
That I I can't afford in the moment or that I
can't buy right now.
Selina Almodovar (20:35):
Right.
Kyle Almodovar (20:36):
And it it's a dream to save up and buy these
things eventually.
Selina Almodovar (20:40):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (20:40):
But at the same time, you know, I've confessed
and talked to you many timesabout it being unhealthy, about
it being covetous and being likejust getting too much into like
things.
Things.
Yeah.
And not enough into thespiritual side and not and just
distracting me from getting intothe word or getting into a time
of prayer.
Because instead of using thosetimes for growth, I use them for
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scrolling and different kind ofdoom scrolling, but like a
shopping doom scrolling.
Yeah.
Per se.
And it's it's just one of thosethings that I always come to
you.
I'm like, hey, I gotta emptythis cart out.
Like, here I'm I'm gonna dothis and show you that.
Or it'll be, you know, I gottastop looking at this.
I remember you yelling at me.
We had we had just bought ourhouse.
Selina Almodovar (21:21):
Okay.
Kyle Almodovar (21:21):
Like this one, yeah, our house.
And we were in there and wewere happy.
Love it.
And I was still looking athouses on on Realtor.com app.
And I'm like, and she's like,why are you doing this?
Selina Almodovar (21:32):
Yeah.
Kyle Almodovar (21:32):
Love the house that God gave you.
Selina Almodovar (21:34):
Come on.
Kyle Almodovar (21:34):
Love the house that you are are working
towards.
Selina Almodovar (21:37):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (21:37):
And it is such a good, such a good vision of how
to defeat the sin is to share.
Or if you're if you catch yourpartner, like do it in love.
Like encourage them.
Take it back to God.
Like you said, take it back toGod that hey, love what God has
given you right now.
Love where God has you rightnow.
Defeat that temptation.
I want to go another routehere.
Selina Almodovar (21:58):
Okay.
Kyle Almodovar (21:58):
In that the best advice I ever received on
defeating temptation came fromthe book Every Man's Battle.
Selina Almodovar (22:04):
Okay.
Kyle Almodovar (22:04):
And in Every Man's Battle, one of their big
takeaways is to have your swordverse and your shield verse.
Selina Almodovar (22:09):
Okay.
Kyle Almodovar (22:10):
And it's a verse you memorize to help you defeat
the temptation.
Selina Almodovar (22:12):
That's good.
Kyle Almodovar (22:13):
In different areas.
So in every man's battle, theyhave the sword verse and the
shield verse, right?
And for each kind of sin youthink of that you're dealing
with, you have your sword verseand your shield verse.
The sword verse is one whereyou're going to attack the sin
and use that verse to stop andknock down the attack of the
enemy, right?
With with offensively.
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And talking about the promisethat God has given you.
And talk about the way that theLord has set you free from
this.
And the shield verse is onewhere you're going to defend.
And the the Lord is myshepherd, I shall not want.
And stop that.
And put the put the wall upagainst it.
Selina Almodovar (22:48):
Yeah.
You shall not pass.
Kyle Almodovar (22:50):
Right.
And and those that sword andshield verse for different sins
will help you, A, memorizescripture, and B, know how to
win the battle.
Selina Almodovar (22:58):
Amen.
Kyle Almodovar (22:59):
Right?
And with your accountabilitypartner, who's hopefully your
spouse in some sort of way.
With your accountabilitypartner, who is hopefully in
some capacity your partner.
Selina Almodovar (23:08):
Hopefully, yes.
Kyle Almodovar (23:09):
You can overcome together and stand in battle
together.
Selina Almodovar (23:12):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (23:13):
And she can know how to pray for you, and he can
know how to pray for you.
Selina Almodovar (23:15):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (23:16):
And that's how you overcome temptation in your
marriage.
Selina Almodovar (23:19):
What's up, love by faith family?
We want to say thank you somuch for your support in
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We could not have made it thisfar without you.
Kyle Almodovar (23:30):
That's right.
And we want to grow more.
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We want to increase our reachand we want to provide more for
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But the only way to make thathappen is for you to come
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Selina Almodovar (23:45):
Because at the end of the day, it's not about
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Kyle Almodovar (24:12):
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Selina Almodovar (24:21):
So that together we can love by faith.
Kyle Almodovar (24:24):
Love by faith, y'all.
That's not a joke.
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Selina Almodovar (24:33):
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Kyle Almodovar (24:34):
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Selina Almodovar (24:36):
Can you please just use the link and click
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In Jesus' name.
Amen.
So there's this scene in theHunger Games.
Um, for anybody who's watchedit, I think it's the uh second
one, catching fire.
I think that's the name of themovie, the second part.
And this is the um the part ofthe movie where they start to
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form allies and they keep herout of the dark, but they're
secretly plotting to likeovertake the capital.
And their biggest phrase tohelp them stay focused on the
mission was remember who thereal enemy is.
Kyle Almodovar (25:15):
Okay.
Selina Almodovar (25:15):
Okay.
And it got to the point whereKatniss, the main character, she
started to question, you know,who can she trust?
Because they're all actingfunny and weird.
And her biggest, like at theend of the movie, she just
thought, like, my partner Pitais the only one I can trust at
this point.
And now they took him away, soI don't trust nobody.
But then they threw it in herface, like, remember who the
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real enemy is, right?
And it it brought her back toher senses of like, I'm gonna
take my emotions out of this,I'm gonna take what I was
tempted to do because I wastempted to to who whoop a can of
butt cracking on you.
You know, but I instead I justremembered it's not you I'm
fighting, it's the capital.
And so she she gets on boardwith the with the plan and and
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things happen.
And it just reminds me of, youknow, when you go into a
marriage, remember who the realenemy is.
Right, it's not your spouse.
No, you made a vow.
I don't know why people thinkthat making vows and making
covenants is something that youcould just willy-nilly do.
Like you are doing, you aremaking a covenant and a vow, not
(26:20):
just with a person that youlove at the time, right?
Who looks good in the moment,right?
You're making a covenant and avow with the God, Most High, the
King of Kings, the Lord of theLord.
You are making a covenant withhim that you are vowing to
become one with this person toopen opportunities of new
callings and new gifts and newministries and new legacies and
(26:41):
new things with this person.
You are making a vow to be usedby God for God's glory with
this person because you aremaking a covenant of marriage.
Kyle Almodovar (26:50):
Yeah, right.
Selina Almodovar (26:50):
And so with it's three-sided, it's a
triangle.
It's it's a triangle, it's across because of the the the
vertical covenant and thelateral covenant.
Oh, there you go.
Like that one.
And so, with that, we have toremember who the real enemy is.
And when temptation comes inand your partner is struggling
with that, you have to go backto who the real enemy is.
(27:13):
The enemy is not your partner.
Yeah, you guys can't turnagainst each other.
Yeah, you guys can't go back towhat the world is telling you
not to trust them or not torespect them or not to honor
them or not to be one-sided withthem, and it's not you versus
him.
It's how are we going toovercome this?
Kyle Almodovar (27:31):
Yes.
Selina Almodovar (27:31):
And if you're not gonna be honest and
transparent and open with yourpartner, and you feel like you
can't do that, then the enemyalready has a bigger grasp on
your marriage than you think,and you're in deep waters.
It doesn't mean that you'regonna sink and it doesn't mean
that your marriage has to fail.
It just reminds you refocus onwho the real enemy is and call
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on the bigger source to help youbring it back out of those deep
waters.
Kyle Almodovar (28:00):
Yeah.
Selina Almodovar (28:00):
And if your husband or if your wife is
struggling with that temptation,then you have to really get
into your prayer closet and youreally have to call on God to
help you with this.
You have to call on youraccountability people and help
you with this.
You have to bring people in,and more than anything, you have
to approach your partner withlove, the same love that you vow
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to love him with and vow tolove her with.
And you have to have faith.
A lot of people are playing Godreal small in their marriage.
Oh, a lot of people are playingGod real small.
They're they're really lookingat God like He's just a deli
marketer, and He just you grab aticket and you you make your
order and you get your delipackage.
Kyle Almodovar (28:41):
You get your half pound of turkey and keep it
moving.
Selina Almodovar (28:44):
And you think that that's all that God is.
And God is so much bigger,guys, in your life, and he
should be bigger in your if youbel if you're listening to this
podcast because you believe inGod, because you call yourself a
Christian and you believe thatGod should be at the center of
your marriage, then please donot undermine his power, do not
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undermine his love, and do notundermine what he can do in your
marriage to you as individualsand to each other as a unit.
Okay, so when there istemptation and it is creeping
and it's knocking, pleaseredirect your sights and your
beliefs.
Remember who the real enemy isand remember who already
defeated that person.
Kyle Almodovar (29:23):
Let's go, let's go.
Selina Almodovar (29:24):
Okay, yeah.
Because we are gonna struggle.
We are all going to be tempted.
Jesus was tempted.
What makes us think that we'renot?
Kyle Almodovar (29:33):
That's right.
We're there's nothing that'sgonna stop us from being tempted
except for us using our faithto defeat it.
Except for us using our faithto defeat it.
The last thought I wanted toshare on this is we had our
episode where we talked abouttempted to skip church.
Selina Almodovar (29:46):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (29:46):
And and you know, I think a lot of we put a
lot of thought into how wewanted to roll out this
temptation series.
Selina Almodovar (29:53):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (29:53):
And we made sure to keep tempted to skip church
in.
Yes, because it is such a hugepart in overcoming temptation.
Is being part of the churchbecause of that connection with
people, that village.
Selina Almodovar (30:04):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (30:04):
It takes a village to raise a child, right?
Well, it takes a village toraise raise a child forever.
Yes.
We are learning from people inour church.
We are learning from olderpeople in our church, from
younger people in our church.
We are connected with men andwomen in our church who are
helping us defeat temptationevery day, who are working with
us, who are standing arm in arm,who are praying for us.
And so don't underestimate thepower that the church has in
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working together and leaning oneach other and praying and being
able to defeat temptation.
Selina Almodovar (30:32):
If you guys have any other stories,
questions, concerns, mattersthat you would like to share
regarding temptation, be sure tosend us a note or email us info
at lovebyfaith ministries.com.
You can go to our website.
If you guys don't have thatcommunity where you can go to
and you need to talk tosomebody, we are more than
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willing to talk to you guysone-on-one with as a couple and
see how we can overcome thistemptation, how we can guide you
back to God, and how we canfind the glue to help your
marriage and your specific need.
We offer these services to you,donation base, and we are more
than willing to stand alongsideyou guys and get through that.
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So if you don't have anyone, weoffer ourselves to you.
And we hope that you guys gotsomething out of this series.
Absolutely.
This was definitely a hardseries.
It was a very serious series,but we felt like it needed to
happen because if it does notget talked about, then it
continues to remain in theshadows.
And we are all about beingnaked and unashamed, the way God
(31:38):
intended and designed marriagesto be.
Kyle Almodovar (31:41):
Amen.
We appreciate you being here.
Um, let's close in prayer.
Selina Almodovar (31:45):
Yes.
Kyle Almodovar (31:45):
All right.
Why don't you pray this time?
Selina Almodovar (31:47):
Thank you.
I will.
Heavenly Father, we thank youso much for being who you are,
just full of love, mercy, power.
We thank you that you sent yourson Jesus to come down so that
he can feel all of thetemptations that we feel in
today's time.
He knows what it's like, heknows what it goes on in our
hearts and in our minds.
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He faced temptation himself andyet he walked away without sin.
And Lord, we thank you forgiving us this example, for
giving us the Holy Spirit as ourhelper to help us get out of
temptation.
As your word tells us, there'salways a way out that we can
seek, Lord.
We pray for the eyes to beopened, for the ears to be
opened, for the hearts to beopened, so that for those
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couples who are struggling withtemptation will see your way
out.
They would find the way toexpress themselves to one
another, that the shame would bedismissed in their life, that
the pride would be melted downto nothing, Lord, and that they
can come together to not onlysee who the real enemy is, but
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that they can know who the trueovercomer of temptation is as
well.
And when they invite you intotheir marriages, we pray over
all the listeners, over all thewatchers, Lord, that they would
be blessed and that they wouldcome together to know you better
and to know each other better.
In Jesus' name, amen.
Amen.
Kyle Almodovar (33:07):
Amen.
We appreciate you being here.
Thank you for loving by faithwith us.
We're a donation-basedministry.
If the Lord has blessed youtoday and you feel led to give
back to the ministry, we'dappreciate that from the bottom
of our hearts.
Follow the links in thedescription or the links in the
bio.
We'd be glad to connect withyou and just say thank you from
the bottom of our hearts.
Selina Almodovar (33:26):
Absolutely.
Kyle Almodovar (33:26):
Um remember that if you're online, like, share,
subscribe, leave a review, fivestars on all the podcast
platforms.
We're thankful for you beinghere, thankful for you listening
to us, and uh, we'll see younext time on Love by Faith.
Selina Almodovar (33:38):
If you're living in the States, then happy
Thanksgiving.
And we will come in next weekwith a new month and a new
series.
So tune in then.
Kyle Almodovar (33:46):
That's right.
Selina Almodovar (33:46):
Love by faith, y'all.
Kyle Almodovar (33:47):
Love by faith, yeah.
Selina Almodovar (33:48):
Bye.
Kyle Almodovar (33:52):
Good job.
Selina Almodovar (33:53):
You good job.
Kyle Almodovar (33:55):
So uh sweet potato casserole.
Selina Almodovar (33:58):
Oh.
Kyle Almodovar (33:59):
Or would you rather have the stuffing?
Selina Almodovar (34:01):
Oh, I like that.
Kyle Almodovar (34:01):
You'd only pick one.
Selina Almodovar (34:02):
No.
Kyle Almodovar (34:02):
Just pick one.
Selina Almodovar (34:04):
No.
Come on.
I can't.
This or that?
It's it's too hard for me.
I love them both.
Kyle Almodovar (34:09):
Play along.
Selina Almodovar (34:09):
It's like children.
I love them both.
I have them favorite.
Kyle Almodovar (34:12):
Sweet potato casserole or stuffing.
Selina Almodovar (34:14):
Yeah, because one is sweet and one is savory.
It's not it's not equallybalanced.
You'd have to do like mashedpotatoes and and and macaroni
and cheese.
Kyle Almodovar (34:23):
You don't like either of those things.
Selina Almodovar (34:24):
Or like sweet potatoes and pumpkin pie.
Kyle Almodovar (34:26):
Alright, let me start easier.
Selina Almodovar (34:28):
Okay.
Kyle Almodovar (34:29):
Regular rolls or Hawaiian rolls?
Selina Almodovar (34:31):
Oh, none of them.
Too many carbs.
I'd go for the stuffing.
Kyle Almodovar (34:34):
I'm done.
I'm done.
Goodbye.
Selina Almodovar (34:36):
I'd go for the stuffing because that's all the
carbs I need.
I love it all.
You want to know my dreamThanksgiving plate?
Like.
No, you ruined my this or thatgame.
I'm sorry.
I had a fun this or that.
I like them all.
Kyle Almodovar (34:51):
See what I deal with?
Selina Almodovar (34:53):
Dang, don't.
Kyle Almodovar (34:54):
See what she deals with?
Selina Almodovar (34:55):
Listen, I need turkey.
I need cranberry sauce.
I need stuffing.
I need sweet potatoes, somekind of carrot, some kind of
green, whether that's a salad ora green bean.
And then I feel like I'mhealthy enough because I didn't
need any of the mashed potatoesor the mac and cheese.
The only carb I had wasstuffing.
And so I can stuff my face thenwith all of the desserts that
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are there.
Whether that's a cheesecake, apumpkin cake, a sweet potato
pie, all the desserts.
I would have no rolls, and Iwould drink a sparkling juice at
the end.
With gravy, all the gravy.
Kyle Almodovar (35:32):
So in a tournament style, this or that.
Who's your winner of thetournament?
Who's the most important at theThanksgiving table?
Selina Almodovar (35:40):
The most important at the Thanksgiving
would have to be the turkey, ofcourse.
Kyle Almodovar (35:43):
Would it?
Selina Almodovar (35:44):
I think so.
Or stuffing, because I nevereat stuffing any other time of
the year.
Or dressing, or depending onwhere you live.
Kyle Almodovar (35:54):
Hey.
Alright.
That's what I was getting at.
I was gonna do like atournament style, this or that.
I didn't know.
I didn't know.
You didn't tell me.
You didn't say that.
I tried.
I tried.
Selina Almodovar (36:03):
I'm sorry.
Happy Thanksgiving, everyone.
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