November 4, 2025 • 36 mins
We open season three by naming a quiet truth: couples are tempted to look away... from each other and from God. We map where that drift starts, why it feels good in the moment, and how to turn attention back to covenant, accountability, and hope.
• returning from break and finding a healthy rhythm
• new monthly series focuses on temptation
• defining “the temptation to look” beyond wandering eyes
• women’s escapes through venting, wine, and gossip
• safe counsel that points back to God and marriage
• men’s visual triggers and reflexes explained
• distraction loops: sports, screens, man cave, obsessive hobbies
• the danger of work spouses and misplaced respect
• porn and “spicy media” as intimacy replacements
• practical guardrails: accountability, tech limits, shared rituals
• coping with Christ instead of idols
• prayer for honesty, change, and closeness to God
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
The temptation to look.
SPEAKER_04 (00:01):
Where are women tempted to look?
SPEAKER_00 (00:03):
Why do you guys always look at other women when
they walk past?
Boom, right there on your wife.
Right there on your wife.
Because I see it too.
What would you think would bethe most dangerous looking away
that a man often struggles with?
We're not perfect people.
SPEAKER_02 (00:17):
By any means.
SPEAKER_00 (00:19):
But by trusting in God, we learned what it takes to
build a friendship, arelationship, and marriage that
has stood the test of time.
SPEAKER_02 (00:27):
With a keeping it real style, we're going to talk
to you about everything.
SPEAKER_00 (00:31):
Everything that we've been through, are going
through, and have overcome.
SPEAKER_02 (00:36):
All by learning how to lean on God and each other.
SPEAKER_00 (00:40):
In order to help you learn how to love by faith.
SPEAKER_04 (01:00):
For podcast season three.
SPEAKER_03 (01:02):
Season three.
Wow.
Love by faith energy.
Episode 85.
85.
85 of these.
SPEAKER_04 (01:10):
I know.
That's a lot.
SPEAKER_00 (01:12):
Welcome back.
SPEAKER_04 (01:12):
Hey, I'm glad to be here.
SPEAKER_00 (01:14):
You look good.
SPEAKER_04 (01:15):
Thanks.
I tried.
You know, I put on a littlesomething for the people.
SPEAKER_00 (01:18):
I like it.
I like it.
SPEAKER_04 (01:19):
You look great too.
It's good to see you again.
What'd you do with your timeoff?
SPEAKER_00 (01:24):
Where have you been?
Man, time off?
What is what does that evenmean?
SPEAKER_04 (01:28):
Did you go to like somewhere cool?
Did you get a little vacay?
SPEAKER_00 (01:31):
Okay, so let's recap for the people.
So we we wrapped up in whatAugust?
SPEAKER_04 (01:35):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (01:36):
So August.
So we got kids to school.
All three kids now go to school.
It's been awesome.
September, I got ahead of myselfand I was like, all three kids
in school.
That means I have a hundredhours every day.
And really, I just have likethree.
A hundred hours a day.
You know, I it's it'sinteresting because now I'm I'm
(01:56):
finally getting back to myself.
Like I'm able to go back to thegym.
I'm able to sleep normally.
I'm able to clean the house, youknow.
SPEAKER_04 (02:04):
Get consistent things done.
SPEAKER_00 (02:05):
You know, so now it's just trying to find a
rhythm of and I get to and I getto pour into you guys, right?
Like I get to do more socialstuff, I get to do more video
stuff, more ministry stuff.
So that's been really exciting.
SPEAKER_03 (02:17):
Have you been writing?
SPEAKER_00 (02:19):
Ah it's coming.
SPEAKER_03 (02:21):
Okay, good.
SPEAKER_00 (02:22):
I'm still I'm still trying to figure out I'm still
trying to figure out the rhythmof what goes into a whole day.
Okay.
So that I can balance not justwork with but with you know,
myself and my self-care too.
Because in the past, I wouldjust work, work, work, work,
work.
I wouldn't eat, I wouldn't getup, I wouldn't take, I wouldn't
stretch, I wouldn't walk thedog.
(02:43):
What dog?
There was no dog.
Right.
You know, and then it's youthat's that's not a healthy way
of doing it.
So now that I'm in this newseason, I I want to be healthy,
and being healthy means you gotto take time for things.
And so just trying to figure outthe time space.
But definitely writing has beenon my heart, and it's coming,
it's coming for wives, it'scoming, it's coming.
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How about you?
What did you do on your break?
SPEAKER_04 (03:06):
On my break, I did nothing.
SPEAKER_00 (03:08):
Yes, you did.
SPEAKER_04 (03:11):
No, I kid, I kid.
I cleaned a lot, actually.
I cleaned up the garage, Icleaned up my shed, I cleaned up
my work, like my uh myworkbench, yeah.
And it looks awesome, and I'mtrying to keep it that way.
Yeah, I'm one of those peoplewho like I'll clean it up and
it'll look awesome for likethree months.
Yes, and I'll do a project, andI'm not putting the tool away,
guys.
And you know, you've beenmarried to me, I know you know,
(03:33):
but I've just got to keep itclean.
And so I'm really beingintentional this season to keep
my spaces like tight.
SPEAKER_00 (03:41):
You know, you told me something a long time ago,
and it always stuck with me.
And I don't know if it was likea meme or a vine or a song or
something, but it was like,don't put it there, put it where
it goes.
SPEAKER_04 (03:52):
Don't put it down, put it where it goes.
SPEAKER_00 (03:53):
Don't put it down, put it where it goes.
I always think of that.
SPEAKER_04 (03:57):
It happens to me all the time, and I'm just putting
it down, and I'm like, don't putit down, and I'm just always put
it down, and I'm just like, whydidn't he put it where it goes?
Bro, that is the perfecttransition into this week's
topic.
You think into this new seriesthat we have.
Yeah, it's because it'stemptation.
We're talking about temptation.
I say that it's it's the perfecttransition because it's just
like sin.
Don't do that, do what God says,don't put it down, put it where
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it goes.
SPEAKER_00 (04:19):
Welcome to Love by Faith, guys.
Selena and Kyle Almodova arehere.
SPEAKER_04 (04:24):
Selena, I'm Kyle.
SPEAKER_00 (04:26):
And together we're Catwoman.
No.
We are so happy that you guyshave returned.
If you guys are have beenlisteners, if you've been day
ones, thank you for for comingback for season three.
We appreciate you.
If you're listening for thefirst time, hi, welcome.
We're glad that you're here.
And we're starting a fresh newseason, and every single month
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we like to focus on one topicand and just go through with it.
We have series, and you guys cango back and listen to all the
series that we had, and we havea new series for you guys today,
and we're really excited toshare it.
It's something that um carriedinto from season two.
You know, we we wanted to shareit and we just didn't have the
time and space to do it, and sowe rolled it over into season
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three because we think it's thatimportant.
We think couples struggle withthis a lot, and we really didn't
want to put it down until wewere able to go through it.
SPEAKER_04 (05:15):
So when we planned out this season, we we were
looking at our ideas and had ouridea book, and this was one
where the Holy Spirit was reallylike, This cannot be left out
because it's such a a real topicand such a real uh challenge in
marriages.
Yes, because the the waytemptation falls in can be
different for for guys and forgirls and for every marriage.
SPEAKER_00 (05:36):
Absolutely, absolutely.
And so with today's episode,like you said, it is the
temptation to look, not justwith wandering eyes, right?
As we talked about earlier, it'swith wandering hearts, it's with
wandering spirits, it's withwandering attention, wandering
temptation, wandering words, allof the things I think couples
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constantly are tempted to lookaway from their marriage and
look away from God as thesolution for the marriage.
SPEAKER_04 (06:08):
Right.
Wow.
So when it comes to temptationand temptation, tempted to look,
being tempted to look, yeah,where are women tempted to look?
SPEAKER_00 (06:16):
It's such a loaded question because not all women
are the same, right?
Okay, but I would like to think,you know, generalizing where,
you know, when you look onsocial media and you look at
movies, how women are portrayed,they often look for the escape
of their stress and of theirtroubles.
(06:39):
They look at they look forgossip.
Okay, they look at alcohol, theylook for wine.
A lot of women go to wine astheir like way to unwind and way
to like cope with things.
SPEAKER_01 (06:53):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (06:53):
They look for work husbands, they look for
friendships, you know, they lookfor another man to talk about
their man about.
SPEAKER_01 (07:03):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (07:03):
And they might think that it's harmless because
they're like, I just want to getyour opinion because you're a
guy, but it ultimately turnsinto emotional dumping.
SPEAKER_01 (07:14):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (07:14):
You know, same thing with their girlfriends.
If you're like going to yourgirlfriend to vent, you're
trying you're looking for a wayto emotionally dump.
SPEAKER_01 (07:22):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (07:22):
You know, and the w the places that they go for that
is either with other peopletalking about your situation,
going to everyone except yourhusband, you know, or you're
trying to self-medicate withyour with your wine.
SPEAKER_04 (07:39):
Wow.
And reality TV.
So wine, reality TV, escapism.
So they're tempted to justthey're tempted to just escape.
Instead of tempted to look,they're tempted to ignore.
Is that what that is?
SPEAKER_00 (07:52):
It's not, I don't think it's ignoring.
It's it's impossible to ignoreit.
I think it they just at thispoint they feel kind of almost
helpless.
SPEAKER_04 (08:06):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (08:06):
Because guys can be so stuck in their ways and they
could be so stubborn to change,or they could become so guarded
and defensive where they are notgonna talk and they're not gonna
open up.
And so they feel like I've beenfighting this battle on my own
for so long.
I need to share this energysomewhere.
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I need to transfer this energy.
How can I, who can I transferthis energy to?
And so they vent and so they cryout and they complain and they
they they talk down about theirspouse and they they they
ridicule their spouse and theythey they just disrespect him
behind his back, you know, inthe in a sense of venting and in
a sense of complaining and in asense of lamenting, yeah, you
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know, and it turns into thisreally um dark place.
SPEAKER_04 (08:55):
And you talked about the the attempted to to um well,
yeah, you just said it.
You said it's attempted to dumptheir energy onto other people.
So they're they're tempted tolook outside the marriage to
replace that emotional need.
Absolutely.
That need for emotional support,that's what they're doing.
SPEAKER_00 (09:15):
Absolutely.
Okay, absolutely.
SPEAKER_04 (09:17):
And then you also said that attempted to look
turns into to to gossip.
SPEAKER_00 (09:24):
Oh yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (09:24):
How how so?
SPEAKER_00 (09:25):
Oh yeah, because if I'm talking to my friend and I'm
like, Kyle did it again, Kyleblah blah blah blah blah.
And he did this, and I can'tbelieve he did that and all this
stuff.
And so now you're talking aboutthat guy who's not in the room
to defend himself, who's not inthe room to talk about his own
character.
So now you're talking about yourhusband behind his back, it's
it's gossip at the end of theday.
(09:47):
You know, we're we're gossipingabout this.
And is this necessarily helpingor is it hindering?
You know, and for who knows whothis friend is, yeah, but the
friend could then all of asudden be like, you need to
leave him.
He's not good for you.
Wow, you know, that he's abuster.
Like we always knew that this iswhat was gonna happen.
(10:07):
You're like, who we don't knowwhat side of the of the
friendship this friend is, youknow, or heaven forbid, you
know, you're talking to a man atwork, your your work husband or
your colleague, you're talkingto um an elder at the church, or
you're talking to a person atthe church, and you think you
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can trust these people, but whoknows what their intentions are?
And they could just kind of lureyou and and show you, like,
well, that's not how he'ssupposed to be.
Like, well, that's not a man.
Yeah, you know, that's not how ahusband's supposed to act.
And now all of a sudden yourthoughts are, well, now my
vision has shifted to this is myhusband, my supporter, my
provider, the person I've madevows with, to all of a sudden
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you're the example that I shouldhave been following.
He's nothing, but you areshowing a different light of
what a man should be, right?
Okay, you're showing me what aman should look like, you're
showing me what a man should actlike, you're showing me what a
marriage, you know, what what wehave a good connection.
Yeah.
How come that connection is notover there?
So now you're looking away fromyour husband and looking away
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from how he can fix this problemtogether with you and him.
And now you're like, hmm, maybethe problem is just gonna be
broken.
Maybe I need to look to anothersource for to find the solution.
SPEAKER_04 (11:26):
Man, that is that is such a good thing for husbands
to hear, like to think aboutthat and get into that.
Really?
Well, we'll dig into it when wetalk about the guys.
Okay, but that is really I wantto get back to that.
Pennant.
Okay.
Yeah, that's a really good thingfor the guys to hear.
The other part of that you saidyou started with talking about
gossip.
SPEAKER_01 (11:42):
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (11:42):
And I I remember, I don't know which pastor it was,
but the pastor defined gossip.
And he's like, what is gossip?
Because it's kind of vague, it'skind of subjective.
Yeah.
And it's one of those like, I'llknow it when I see it.
But but you don't.
And he defined gossip as gossipis sharing somebody else's sins
to somebody else.
So if if you're sharing Kyle'ssins to your friend, I don't
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know, make a name, Marie.
SPEAKER_00 (12:08):
Yeah.
More.
SPEAKER_04 (12:09):
You're you're gossiping about Kyle.
Yeah.
So if I'm sharing Selena's sinsto to Pete, yeah, I'm I'm
gossiping about Selena.
SPEAKER_00 (12:17):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (12:17):
And I can't imagine I love you.
I can't imagine gossiping aboutmy wife, right?
SPEAKER_00 (12:22):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (12:22):
Now, is there a line there where has to be a line?
Who am I allowed to to vent toand who am I allowed?
Like, how do you work that out?
SPEAKER_00 (12:31):
I feel like there has to be a line because if
you're only just verballydumping all of these things,
because you have to talk aboutit, like, and sometimes, like,
yes, counseling is great,therapy is great, but sometimes
you just gotta get it out andyou gotta get it out to a person
you can trust, you know, becauseyou gotta be vulnerable and you
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gotta be transparent, you gotta,you gotta let this out.
And so going to the personthat's gonna point you back to
God.
SPEAKER_04 (12:59):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (13:00):
Okay.
If you have this conversationand there's no fixing, there's
no like, I hear you, I hear yourheart, yeah, I hear what's going
on.
How are we getting God back intothis?
You know, if you're just dumpingjust to dump and it's just you
guys are just bashing, right?
If you're just bashing, don'ttalk about it with that person.
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That might not be a good sourceto that's not a good source.
Because now you're you're you'reonly getting pulled down
further.
If you can go to somebody thatyou can confide in and trust,
who you know is gonna keep youaccountable and who's gonna hold
you back to, well, the God'swhat are you doing with your
husband?
How like if they're notredirecting you back to the
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marriage and back to God, thendon't have that conversation
with that person.
SPEAKER_04 (13:48):
Amen.
SPEAKER_00 (13:49):
And I think that's the line.
I think that's the line is ifyou know that that person is
gonna help you and not hinderyou, then be open and
transparent to know that you'regonna you might get corrected.
SPEAKER_01 (14:02):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (14:03):
And to know that you might get challenged in your way
of thinking and in your way offeeling because they might tell
you about yourself.
My best friend tells me aboutmyself all the time.
Right.
And sometimes I'll be like, holdup.
Like, no, she didn't just saythat.
And then after a while, I'mlike, wait, I'm not gonna talk
to her for a minute.
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And then I think about it andI'm like, dang, she was right.
Like, dang, I was about myself.
Like, like she holds meaccountable, and that's why I
love her so much, because youneed those type of people in
your life.
And when you're going through itwith your spouse, sometimes when
you're going through it withyour spouse, all you see is you
and him.
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You don't see the outside world.
So when you're going through itwith that person, that third
party perspective, having anhaving that unbiased perspective
that's gonna point you back toyour spouse.
Yeah, you know, someone who isjust as committed to your vows
as you are, yeah, then it ithelps.
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And sometimes you need that.
SPEAKER_04 (15:05):
That's that encouraging voice that you need
to be searching for instead ofthat.
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (15:10):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (15:10):
Well, I know I know women aren't the only ones who
are tempted to look.
SPEAKER_00 (15:15):
Absolutely.
Right.
SPEAKER_04 (15:16):
So what do what do women want to know about the
guys being tempted to look?
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SPEAKER_04 (16:27):
All right, what do the girls want to know?
SPEAKER_00 (16:29):
Oh my gosh, where do I even begin?
Guys, why do you guys alwayslook at other women when they
walk past and when they're onTV?
SPEAKER_04 (16:38):
I'm gonna put caution you, you use the word
always, use one of those badmarriage words.
No, this is it's really goodbecause it's not always, it's
not all guys, but we are temptedto look away at physical things
because men are mostly visualcreatures.
We are we're visual stimuli, itcomes back to that
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hunter-gatherer time of our longpast, right?
We've only been in thetechnology age for barely over a
hundred years.
Okay, and so for all thosehundreds of years before that,
we were hunter-gatherers and wehad to see the prey, get the
prey, and finish it.
And so that has to be wired outof us.
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And for a lot of us, we'reexposed very young to visual
stimuli.
Okay, that we had no that thatwe're even all of our friends
were like, hey, look at this.
Hey, look at that, look at her.
The whole oh, that's a six, oh,that's an eight.
That whole thing, dang, itstarts very young.
SPEAKER_00 (17:39):
Wow, how young?
How young?
Because we have young boys.
SPEAKER_04 (17:41):
Every case is different, right?
It's not a general always.
SPEAKER_00 (17:43):
What was the generation for you?
SPEAKER_04 (17:45):
Second grade-ish.
SPEAKER_00 (17:46):
Second grade, yeah, man.
SPEAKER_04 (17:48):
My uncles had posters on the in the garage,
bro.
SPEAKER_00 (17:51):
That was when the Playboy and the Bay Watch and
all that stuff was really big.
Pam Anderson era.
SPEAKER_04 (17:56):
Yeah.
And so guys are are tempted tolook just because it's there,
not because they want it, notbecause they not because they
are well gonna chase it, butjust because it's there.
Because it's it's a it's like asquirrel with oh, there's a nut.
Oh, there's a nut.
SPEAKER_00 (18:10):
Oh, there's a nut.
SPEAKER_04 (18:11):
Same kind of thing.
You know what I mean?
SPEAKER_00 (18:13):
Okay, so when times are tough and men so you're
saying that a woman walks bywhen you're on a date, you know,
we see that famous meme wherethe guy is holding the girl and
then he's looking behind herbecause he sees another girl
walking by.
Right, that is just a squirrelmoment.
SPEAKER_04 (18:33):
Yeah.
Well, if you're looking thathard, if you're turning your
whole neck, turn your wholebody, that went beyond a
squirrel moment.
But when it's that quick eyeglance, that's a squirrel
moment.
SPEAKER_00 (18:43):
But if he's turning all the way 180 degrees, and
you're saying that's not tied toan emotional, like I want to
Longing?
SPEAKER_04 (18:51):
No, no, yes, I'm saying it's not tied to an
emotional thing at all, it'spurely a physical reaction, a
reflex.
SPEAKER_00 (18:58):
So when my reflex reflexes your reflex, can that's
real, that's real.
SPEAKER_04 (19:04):
No, as as husbands, I'm getting an application
there.
As husbands, we have to work onthat reflex.
Yeah, control that reflex andhave covenant eyes and have eyes
only for her.
And when we're thinking like,oh, there goes a butt, there
goes a butt.
Boom, right there on your wife.
Right there on your wife.
SPEAKER_00 (19:25):
I see it too, and I'm sorry.
SPEAKER_04 (19:28):
As gentlemen, we're like that.
We try, I try to be better thanthat.
And I think most Christian mentry to be better than that and
not have that that temptation.
We have to fight it every daythough.
SPEAKER_00 (19:38):
Yeah.
Every day.
Yeah.
There's there's a lot of men whowill try to, you know, if
there's problems in the house,they will look away.
So they'll either, you know,watch a lot more sports than
normal, and they would prefer tothey would prefer to um
disassociate by you know,tinkering in their man cave or
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their garage, or you theythey're hanging out with friends
a lot more.
It's like they don't want tocome home or they don't want to
have the hard talks, and sothey're looking towards
distractions, like theirscreens.
Great example, you know, all ofthese things.
And so tell us a little bit moreabout that.
SPEAKER_04 (20:16):
Great examples, right?
Yeah, looking towards towardstheir shed, towards their man
cave, yes, looking towards theirscreens, looking towards their
sports, looking towards theirtheir obsessive hobbies.
SPEAKER_03 (20:26):
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (20:27):
That is not looking outward, that's looking inward,
they're internalizing there.
Oh, and so they're tempted tolook look inside for the
solution, look inside forfiguring it out.
SPEAKER_00 (20:37):
How?
SPEAKER_04 (20:38):
Explain break this down because we're not looking
out to go research how to fixthe problem or looking at what
is making me need to zone out onmy phone for 45 minutes at a
time, or sit on the toilet foran hour and a half.
Right.
We're looking internal, we'relooking inside for that.
We're not looking to what isgoing to fix this problem or
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what is going to satisfy meenough here.
And so all those internalsearches, all those
disassociating things are justlooking inside to fill a void
that they can be they theyshould be searching spiritually
to fill.
SPEAKER_01 (21:17):
Right.
SPEAKER_04 (21:18):
Or searching in their in their marriage to
fulfill.
SPEAKER_01 (21:22):
Yeah.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (21:23):
Now hobbies are great, right?
Time in your man cave is needed.
Time golfing is needed, timefishing is needed for men to
recharge and regroup.
SPEAKER_00 (21:32):
100%.
SPEAKER_04 (21:33):
But there is a line where it's too much.
If and if it's causing frictionin your spouse, if your spouse
is like, you're going golfingagain, you just went for five
hours last Saturday.
SPEAKER_01 (21:43):
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_04 (21:44):
Right?
So you have to balance that.
And that looking that looking toto disassociate, that looking to
look inside is the temptationfor the solution instead of
looking up.
SPEAKER_00 (21:56):
So would that be would that be in comparison to
like women drinking the wine?
Like they're just looking forthat escape out.
SPEAKER_04 (22:02):
Yeah, that's like that's perfect.
SPEAKER_00 (22:05):
So tell me, Kyle, what would in your opinion, what
would you think would be themost dangerous looking away that
a man often struggles with?
SPEAKER_04 (22:15):
So more dangerous than the looking at a butt.
The squirrel.
The more dangerous no, the hardturn.
The hard turn.
SPEAKER_00 (22:22):
The hard turn.
The hard turn.
SPEAKER_04 (22:29):
Yes.
Is the confiding in anotherwoman.
Confiding and having a work wifeis the most dangerous.
SPEAKER_00 (22:38):
Does that happen a lot?
SPEAKER_04 (22:40):
From my experience, thankfully, in thankfully in my
life, I have a lot of guys whoare solid Christian men in my
circle.
But from from experience, thatis the most dangerous looking.
SPEAKER_01 (22:57):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (22:57):
You're looking for that friendship fulfillment.
You're looking for thatacceptance.
You're looking for that thathunger to see you and just to be
kind to you, right?
Because like just think at atwork, it's it's in the um it's
in the love and respect book.
I know I go back to this a lot,but it was a powerful book.
The the wife experienced thehusband at work and saw how how
the his co-workers who werefemales talked to him and
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treated him and just gave himwith the utmost respect because
he was there, he was above themin the in the hierarchy at work.
But seeing that changed herperspective because then he
comes home to her and she'scalled shouldering him and she's
being all these kinds of waydisrespectful, small
disrespectfuls, right?
We micro disrespect.
SPEAKER_00 (23:41):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (23:41):
But seeing the the true respect he gets in the
workplace change thatperspective for her.
SPEAKER_00 (23:46):
That could even happen in church settings, you
know.
If you have a a a leader, aministry leader, and they're
getting that kind of respect,and then they're they're filled
with the Holy Spirit, and thenthese women, oh, you can help me
because you're you're filled,you're spiritually filled, and
so they're getting that kind oftreatment and that kind of
attention in that setting versusat home.
SPEAKER_04 (24:04):
Yeah.
Men have a need to feel desired.
SPEAKER_00 (24:07):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (24:07):
And if if we're not feeling desired or wanted or
craved by our partner, it'sgonna throw us off.
And we're gonna seek we we startby seeking that with our spouse,
right?
Doing the nice things, doing theextra things to get her to be
like, hey, you're great, youknow?
And when that's missing, whenthat's lacking, guys are gonna
search for it.
SPEAKER_00 (24:28):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (24:29):
And that's that's a hard look.
SPEAKER_03 (24:31):
Yeah.
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Amen.
SPEAKER_00 (25:56):
So we talked about the problems of looking away in
women.
We talked about the problems oflooking away among men.
SPEAKER_04 (26:04):
Sorry, I got one more look.
SPEAKER_00 (26:06):
Okay.
SPEAKER_04 (26:06):
To just to go back to because I think we missed it.
SPEAKER_00 (26:10):
Okay.
SPEAKER_04 (26:10):
The looking for the the physical replacement.
SPEAKER_03 (26:14):
Ooh.
SPEAKER_04 (26:15):
Because there's times when women, when in the
marriage, naturally, there'sless intimacy, there's less
physical connection.
SPEAKER_00 (26:22):
Oh, I think I know.
Than can be.
SPEAKER_04 (26:24):
And so the guys look to replace that.
And they might not want tocheat.
They might not want to want touh go find another woman, right?
But they're gonna look to thosethemselves.
Those yes, themselves and pornand raunchy movies, or if
they're a book guy, raunchybooks, right, and replace that
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intimacy, they're gonna look forthat intimacy in other ways.
By themselves.
By themselves.
So they're looking internal, butthey're looking for them.
Same thing with women.
SPEAKER_00 (26:54):
You had the whole fifty shades of gray type.
Yeah, you know, the what do theycall them?
Smut smut novels.
SPEAKER_04 (27:01):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (27:02):
Where they're they're looking to get that
pleasure out.
SPEAKER_04 (27:05):
Yeah.
And so all of these looks, allof these looks are the
temptations that that we face ashusbands and wives.
SPEAKER_00 (27:12):
Yes.
And I'm sure we're gonna, youknow, as the month progresses,
we're gonna talk more about eachindividual temptation, you know,
but just the thought of looking.
Right now, we're only talkingabout you're tempted to look
away.
Right.
You know, if this is you're ifif you've had a couple hits here
and there where you're like, I Idid, I have, you know, as you're
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listening to this, you'restarting to do a reflection of
yourself and you're like, I Ihave looked away.
I haven't done anything, but Ihave looked away.
SPEAKER_04 (27:45):
Oh man, they're speaking to me.
SPEAKER_00 (27:47):
You know, yes, yes.
This is this is why we're here.
So if somebody is there, yeah,what can we say to help them
before it gets too far?
SPEAKER_04 (27:57):
Yeah.
Well, I'm gonna go for the guys.
The for us, it's accountability,it's having someone we trust and
getting close to them to get tothat place where we can share
what we're struggling with, whatour wife is driving us crazy
about, and and grow and speaklife into each other about that.
So that's where I would startwith the guys.
Where would you start with thewith the ladies?
SPEAKER_00 (28:18):
I would say uh they have to be vocal about what is
happening.
And, you know, obviously youtake it first to your spouse and
you try to be vocal with them.
If they're in a position wherethey're not gonna hear you or
they choose not to hear you,they brush you off, they
gaslight you, etc., then youhave to go to someone else and
you have to talk about it withan expectation that there's
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gonna be some form of help or asolution to help you, you know,
get you back.
SPEAKER_04 (28:46):
Constructive feedback.
SPEAKER_00 (28:47):
Constructive feedback, constructive, you
know, criticism, correction,loving correction, yeah, all of
that stuff.
SPEAKER_04 (28:53):
I think secondly, I would think for guys is to guard
your technology because that isa great that is a big place
where we look outside and aretempted to to sin.
SPEAKER_01 (29:07):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (29:08):
So guard your technology, whether it's through
a third-party app that blocksyour phone, whether it's through
deleting apps and deactivatingaccounts, we need to look to
that protection to watch forlooking for sin.
SPEAKER_00 (29:19):
That's very good.
I would also say, you know, a abig part of it is where is
Christ at in your life?
You know, are you are you copingwith Christ?
SPEAKER_01 (29:29):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (29:30):
Are you coping with Christ because at the end of the
day, the phone, the the externalevents, the wine, all of these
at some point can become idols,all of these things can become
tools that you are using to leanon.
And the only thing that weshould be leaning on is God and
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God alone.
And so if you feel like yourversion of God is not strong
enough to lean over.
On to get you through a conflictor to get you through a hard
season, then you have to do somemore inner work to truly build
up the relationship that youhave with the Father.
Right.
SPEAKER_04 (30:13):
That's good.
I think the last application isjust like you said.
Everything when we're tempted tosin, every time we're tempted to
sin, is just tempting us to befurther from God.
SPEAKER_01 (30:24):
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (30:24):
Right.
And so the response, as yousaid, is to do the opposite
thing to get closer to God.
SPEAKER_03 (30:30):
Absolutely.
SPEAKER_04 (30:30):
So if you're tempted to look at a screen, get tempted
to look at a Bible on yourscreen.
Get tempted to look at apreaching or a sermon notes on
your screen.
SPEAKER_03 (30:39):
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (30:40):
And replace that.
SPEAKER_03 (30:41):
Sermon or something.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (30:42):
That that temptation, that temptation to
sin needs to be replaced with atemptation towards Christ,
towards towards your word,towards your connection with the
Holy Spirit.
SPEAKER_00 (30:51):
Absolutely.
Absolutely.
And I'm sure, you know, if yougo to the Bible app, there are
Bible studies that are all abouttemptation.
SPEAKER_04 (31:01):
Avoiding temptation.
SPEAKER_00 (31:02):
Avoiding the temptation.
And not only that, but uh ourcouple's playbook.
We're gonna have a new resourcefor you guys for this series on
temptation.
And it is going to be aboutaccountability questions that
you can ask your spouse and youcan ask your closest friends to
help you stay in check, to helpyou redirect those thoughts and
those looks back to your spouseand back to your father, your
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Lord, your savior, Jesus Christ.
That's right.
So you can go ahead and downloadthat.
There's a link in thedescription if you don't have
that free playbook already.
And that is the most recentresource.
There's already about eight ornine resources already in there
that you can also have.
Yes.
And you guys can enjoy that anddownload it and use it and start
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asking those questions today ifthis is something that you're
struggling with.
SPEAKER_04 (31:51):
We put these things together to help marriages grow,
to help marriages thrive.
And we are just grateful thatyou're here with us.
SPEAKER_01 (31:58):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (31:58):
And right now we're in the middle of a crowdfunding
campaign.
And we really love, if you loveour podcast, if you'd partner
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And so follow the link below todonate and contribute to the
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SPEAKER_00 (32:18):
Yes, we would love and appreciate uh wholeheartedly
if you guys can sow the seed tohelp us create more godly
marriages.
Absolutely.
Um, I think this was a greatfirst episode back.
It feels so good to be back.
SPEAKER_04 (32:31):
I love being out here with our doing this for
helping marriages.
And you know, every time we meetwith a couple and talk through
things and help, it just is it'sone of those moments where I'm
walking in what God has calledme to.
Absolutely.
And I'm grateful for my parentsand the beautiful marriages I've
seen throughout my life so thatI can pour out those lessons
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that I've seen in real life toothers and help young or old or
middle-age people have greatmarriages.
SPEAKER_00 (33:01):
Amen.
Amen.
So we want to continue doingthat with you guys.
And we hope that this episode issomething that edified and
helped bless you guys as amarriage unit or as a
relationship unit, if you're aserious couple, or even if
you're just a single listening,you know, trying to be proactive
and make sure that you arecatching all the blind spots
before you do find that personthat you can get involved with.
(33:22):
So we hope that this was anencouraging episode for you.
And we want to close out in someprayer.
Absolutely.
Help these people who might bestruggling with looking and who
might be struggling withtemptation.
We want to lift you up right nowso that you can take this away
and and and just bring it backto the Father.
SPEAKER_04 (33:39):
Can you can you Absolutely?
All right, you know, Lord,Jesus, our Father in heaven, we
are grateful that you havecalled us by name, that you've
adopted us into your family,Lord, that your Holy Spirit
resides in our hearts, Lord.
I lift up everyone today who islistening to this podcast.
I pray that your Holy Spirit isministering to them, Lord, that
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you are pushing on their heartto avoid temptation, Lord, that
you have opened their eyes tosee maybe hidden temptations
that they're facing, hidden sinthat they're dealing with, Lord.
And I pray that they're able tobe honest with themselves and
that they're able to take stepsto apply and change and move
closer to towards your will,which is all we want each day.
SPEAKER_02 (34:20):
Yes, Lord.
SPEAKER_04 (34:20):
We give you the glory for all of it.
Let none of it be in our ownstrength and our own power,
Lord, but let all of it be inyour power and by your will.
unknown (34:27):
Thank you.
SPEAKER_04 (34:28):
In Jesus' name, amen.
SPEAKER_00 (34:30):
Amen.
Thank you guys so much fortuning in, listening, watching.
If you're watching on YouTube,please be sure to like, share,
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We'll do just fine.
We love you, and we hope youguys will tune in next week as
we continue on this conversationof temptation.
And we hope you guys have agreat rest of your week.
SPEAKER_04 (34:52):
I hope you're tempted to come back.
SPEAKER_00 (34:54):
Yay! Yes, yes, I like that.
Have a good one.
Bye guys.
Hooray.
SPEAKER_04 (35:04):
I thought you forgot about the closing prayer.
No, I was ready.
I was ready.
SPEAKER_00 (35:08):
No, me forget.
Come on.
I have the memory of anelephant.
SPEAKER_04 (35:15):
I mean, yes, you have that memory.
Bremse meaning I thought, like,she didn't remember to close in
prayer.
Uh oh.
I thought you were about to hitthe five-star.
SPEAKER_00 (35:23):
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Prayer before five stars.
Always.
SPEAKER_04 (35:27):
That's right.
SPEAKER_00 (35:28):
Prayer before a like, share, and subscribe.
You know, if you pray for us andthat's all you do, then hey,
that's enough.
I mean, also donate, but alsolike and do the things, but you
know, prayer is definitelyoverpowering all those things.
SPEAKER_03 (35:43):
Great talk today, man.
SPEAKER_00 (35:44):
It was really, it was deep.
I'm glad you brought up thething about the the the porn and
and looking inwardly, becausethat is a thing.
SPEAKER_04 (35:51):
Yeah, absolutely.
SPEAKER_00 (35:52):
And I'm sure we're gonna talk about that in another
episode.
Sure.
Right.
SPEAKER_04 (36:00):
That's and withholding their their body
from their husband is just asyeah.
SPEAKER_00 (36:06):
It's just as clearly we got a lot more to talk about.
SPEAKER_04 (36:08):
Right.
Yeah.
That's fun.
SPEAKER_00 (36:12):
Cool.
Good job.
I gotta go.
SPEAKER_03 (36:13):
All right.
Where are you going?
I gotta I gotta edit this thing.
SPEAKER_00 (36:16):
You gotta work.
SPEAKER_03 (36:16):
I gotta do I gotta work.
All right.
I gotta work.
Have fun at work.
I gotta work.
Goodbye.
Now I get to work.
Yay!
SPEAKER_00 (36:23):
Now I get to work.
SPEAKER_04 (36:24):
I see you.
The kids are at school.
You don't look like someonewho's gotta go.
SPEAKER_00 (36:30):
I know.
SPEAKER_04 (36:30):
Remember when I had to go, I would always get up and
run away.
SPEAKER_00 (36:32):
He was running.
Yeah.
Well, I work upstairs, so youwork miles away.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (36:38):
There's a difference.
Praise the Lord.
The temptation to look.
SPEAKER_04 (00:01):
Where are women tempted to look?
SPEAKER_00 (00:03):
Why do you guys always look at other women when
they walk past?
Boom, right there on your wife.
Right there on your wife.
Because I see it too.
What would you think would bethe most dangerous looking away
that a man often struggles with?
We're not perfect people.
SPEAKER_02 (00:17):
By any means.
SPEAKER_00 (00:19):
But by trusting in God, we learned what it takes to
build a friendship, arelationship, and marriage that
has stood the test of time.
SPEAKER_02 (00:27):
With a keeping it real style, we're going to talk
to you about everything.
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Everything that we've been through, are going
through, and have overcome.
SPEAKER_02 (00:36):
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SPEAKER_00 (00:40):
In order to help you learn how to love by faith.
SPEAKER_04 (01:00):
For podcast season three.
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Season three.
Wow.
Love by faith energy.
Episode 85.
85.
85 of these.
SPEAKER_04 (01:10):
I know.
That's a lot.
SPEAKER_00 (01:12):
Welcome back.
SPEAKER_04 (01:12):
Hey, I'm glad to be here.
SPEAKER_00 (01:14):
You look good.
SPEAKER_04 (01:15):
Thanks.
I tried.
You know, I put on a littlesomething for the people.
SPEAKER_00 (01:18):
I like it.
I like it.
SPEAKER_04 (01:19):
You look great too.
It's good to see you again.
What'd you do with your timeoff?
SPEAKER_00 (01:24):
Where have you been?
Man, time off?
What is what does that evenmean?
SPEAKER_04 (01:28):
Did you go to like somewhere cool?
Did you get a little vacay?
SPEAKER_00 (01:31):
Okay, so let's recap for the people.
So we we wrapped up in whatAugust?
SPEAKER_04 (01:35):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (01:36):
So August.
So we got kids to school.
All three kids now go to school.
It's been awesome.
September, I got ahead of myselfand I was like, all three kids
in school.
That means I have a hundredhours every day.
And really, I just have likethree.
A hundred hours a day.
You know, I it's it'sinteresting because now I'm I'm
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finally getting back to myself.
Like I'm able to go back to thegym.
I'm able to sleep normally.
I'm able to clean the house, youknow.
SPEAKER_04 (02:04):
Get consistent things done.
SPEAKER_00 (02:05):
You know, so now it's just trying to find a
rhythm of and I get to and I getto pour into you guys, right?
Like I get to do more socialstuff, I get to do more video
stuff, more ministry stuff.
So that's been really exciting.
SPEAKER_03 (02:17):
Have you been writing?
SPEAKER_00 (02:19):
Ah it's coming.
SPEAKER_03 (02:21):
Okay, good.
SPEAKER_00 (02:22):
I'm still I'm still trying to figure out I'm still
trying to figure out the rhythmof what goes into a whole day.
Okay.
So that I can balance not justwork with but with you know,
myself and my self-care too.
Because in the past, I wouldjust work, work, work, work,
work.
I wouldn't eat, I wouldn't getup, I wouldn't take, I wouldn't
stretch, I wouldn't walk thedog.
(02:43):
What dog?
There was no dog.
Right.
You know, and then it's youthat's that's not a healthy way
of doing it.
So now that I'm in this newseason, I I want to be healthy,
and being healthy means you gotto take time for things.
And so just trying to figure outthe time space.
But definitely writing has beenon my heart, and it's coming,
it's coming for wives, it'scoming, it's coming.
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How about you?
What did you do on your break?
SPEAKER_04 (03:06):
On my break, I did nothing.
SPEAKER_00 (03:08):
Yes, you did.
SPEAKER_04 (03:11):
No, I kid, I kid.
I cleaned a lot, actually.
I cleaned up the garage, Icleaned up my shed, I cleaned up
my work, like my uh myworkbench, yeah.
And it looks awesome, and I'mtrying to keep it that way.
Yeah, I'm one of those peoplewho like I'll clean it up and
it'll look awesome for likethree months.
Yes, and I'll do a project, andI'm not putting the tool away,
guys.
And you know, you've beenmarried to me, I know you know,
(03:33):
but I've just got to keep itclean.
And so I'm really beingintentional this season to keep
my spaces like tight.
SPEAKER_00 (03:41):
You know, you told me something a long time ago,
and it always stuck with me.
And I don't know if it was likea meme or a vine or a song or
something, but it was like,don't put it there, put it where
it goes.
SPEAKER_04 (03:52):
Don't put it down, put it where it goes.
SPEAKER_00 (03:53):
Don't put it down, put it where it goes.
I always think of that.
SPEAKER_04 (03:57):
It happens to me all the time, and I'm just putting
it down, and I'm like, don't putit down, and I'm just always put
it down, and I'm just like, whydidn't he put it where it goes?
Bro, that is the perfecttransition into this week's
topic.
You think into this new seriesthat we have.
Yeah, it's because it'stemptation.
We're talking about temptation.
I say that it's it's the perfecttransition because it's just
like sin.
Don't do that, do what God says,don't put it down, put it where
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it goes.
SPEAKER_00 (04:19):
Welcome to Love by Faith, guys.
Selena and Kyle Almodova arehere.
SPEAKER_04 (04:24):
Selena, I'm Kyle.
SPEAKER_00 (04:26):
And together we're Catwoman.
No.
We are so happy that you guyshave returned.
If you guys are have beenlisteners, if you've been day
ones, thank you for for comingback for season three.
We appreciate you.
If you're listening for thefirst time, hi, welcome.
We're glad that you're here.
And we're starting a fresh newseason, and every single month
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we like to focus on one topicand and just go through with it.
We have series, and you guys cango back and listen to all the
series that we had, and we havea new series for you guys today,
and we're really excited toshare it.
It's something that um carriedinto from season two.
You know, we we wanted to shareit and we just didn't have the
time and space to do it, and sowe rolled it over into season
(05:08):
three because we think it's thatimportant.
We think couples struggle withthis a lot, and we really didn't
want to put it down until wewere able to go through it.
SPEAKER_04 (05:15):
So when we planned out this season, we we were
looking at our ideas and had ouridea book, and this was one
where the Holy Spirit was reallylike, This cannot be left out
because it's such a a real topicand such a real uh challenge in
marriages.
Yes, because the the waytemptation falls in can be
different for for guys and forgirls and for every marriage.
SPEAKER_00 (05:36):
Absolutely, absolutely.
And so with today's episode,like you said, it is the
temptation to look, not justwith wandering eyes, right?
As we talked about earlier, it'swith wandering hearts, it's with
wandering spirits, it's withwandering attention, wandering
temptation, wandering words, allof the things I think couples
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constantly are tempted to lookaway from their marriage and
look away from God as thesolution for the marriage.
SPEAKER_04 (06:08):
Right.
Wow.
So when it comes to temptationand temptation, tempted to look,
being tempted to look, yeah,where are women tempted to look?
SPEAKER_00 (06:16):
It's such a loaded question because not all women
are the same, right?
Okay, but I would like to think,you know, generalizing where,
you know, when you look onsocial media and you look at
movies, how women are portrayed,they often look for the escape
of their stress and of theirtroubles.
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They look at they look forgossip.
Okay, they look at alcohol, theylook for wine.
A lot of women go to wine astheir like way to unwind and way
to like cope with things.
SPEAKER_01 (06:53):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (06:53):
They look for work husbands, they look for
friendships, you know, they lookfor another man to talk about
their man about.
SPEAKER_01 (07:03):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (07:03):
And they might think that it's harmless because
they're like, I just want to getyour opinion because you're a
guy, but it ultimately turnsinto emotional dumping.
SPEAKER_01 (07:14):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (07:14):
You know, same thing with their girlfriends.
If you're like going to yourgirlfriend to vent, you're
trying you're looking for a wayto emotionally dump.
SPEAKER_01 (07:22):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (07:22):
You know, and the w the places that they go for that
is either with other peopletalking about your situation,
going to everyone except yourhusband, you know, or you're
trying to self-medicate withyour with your wine.
SPEAKER_04 (07:39):
Wow.
And reality TV.
So wine, reality TV, escapism.
So they're tempted to justthey're tempted to just escape.
Instead of tempted to look,they're tempted to ignore.
Is that what that is?
SPEAKER_00 (07:52):
It's not, I don't think it's ignoring.
It's it's impossible to ignoreit.
I think it they just at thispoint they feel kind of almost
helpless.
SPEAKER_04 (08:06):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (08:06):
Because guys can be so stuck in their ways and they
could be so stubborn to change,or they could become so guarded
and defensive where they are notgonna talk and they're not gonna
open up.
And so they feel like I've beenfighting this battle on my own
for so long.
I need to share this energysomewhere.
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I need to transfer this energy.
How can I, who can I transferthis energy to?
And so they vent and so they cryout and they complain and they
they they talk down about theirspouse and they they they
ridicule their spouse and theythey they just disrespect him
behind his back, you know, inthe in a sense of venting and in
a sense of complaining and in asense of lamenting, yeah, you
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know, and it turns into thisreally um dark place.
SPEAKER_04 (08:55):
And you talked about the the attempted to to um well,
yeah, you just said it.
You said it's attempted to dumptheir energy onto other people.
So they're they're tempted tolook outside the marriage to
replace that emotional need.
Absolutely.
That need for emotional support,that's what they're doing.
SPEAKER_00 (09:15):
Absolutely.
Okay, absolutely.
SPEAKER_04 (09:17):
And then you also said that attempted to look
turns into to to gossip.
SPEAKER_00 (09:24):
Oh yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (09:24):
How how so?
SPEAKER_00 (09:25):
Oh yeah, because if I'm talking to my friend and I'm
like, Kyle did it again, Kyleblah blah blah blah blah.
And he did this, and I can'tbelieve he did that and all this
stuff.
And so now you're talking aboutthat guy who's not in the room
to defend himself, who's not inthe room to talk about his own
character.
So now you're talking about yourhusband behind his back, it's
it's gossip at the end of theday.
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You know, we're we're gossipingabout this.
And is this necessarily helpingor is it hindering?
You know, and for who knows whothis friend is, yeah, but the
friend could then all of asudden be like, you need to
leave him.
He's not good for you.
Wow, you know, that he's abuster.
Like we always knew that this iswhat was gonna happen.
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You're like, who we don't knowwhat side of the of the
friendship this friend is, youknow, or heaven forbid, you
know, you're talking to a man atwork, your your work husband or
your colleague, you're talkingto um an elder at the church, or
you're talking to a person atthe church, and you think you
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can trust these people, but whoknows what their intentions are?
And they could just kind of lureyou and and show you, like,
well, that's not how he'ssupposed to be.
Like, well, that's not a man.
Yeah, you know, that's not how ahusband's supposed to act.
And now all of a sudden yourthoughts are, well, now my
vision has shifted to this is myhusband, my supporter, my
provider, the person I've madevows with, to all of a sudden
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you're the example that I shouldhave been following.
He's nothing, but you areshowing a different light of
what a man should be, right?
Okay, you're showing me what aman should look like, you're
showing me what a man should actlike, you're showing me what a
marriage, you know, what what wehave a good connection.
Yeah.
How come that connection is notover there?
So now you're looking away fromyour husband and looking away
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from how he can fix this problemtogether with you and him.
And now you're like, hmm, maybethe problem is just gonna be
broken.
Maybe I need to look to anothersource for to find the solution.
SPEAKER_04 (11:26):
Man, that is that is such a good thing for husbands
to hear, like to think aboutthat and get into that.
Really?
Well, we'll dig into it when wetalk about the guys.
Okay, but that is really I wantto get back to that.
Pennant.
Okay.
Yeah, that's a really good thingfor the guys to hear.
The other part of that you saidyou started with talking about
gossip.
SPEAKER_01 (11:42):
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (11:42):
And I I remember, I don't know which pastor it was,
but the pastor defined gossip.
And he's like, what is gossip?
Because it's kind of vague, it'skind of subjective.
Yeah.
And it's one of those like, I'llknow it when I see it.
But but you don't.
And he defined gossip as gossipis sharing somebody else's sins
to somebody else.
So if if you're sharing Kyle'ssins to your friend, I don't
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know, make a name, Marie.
SPEAKER_00 (12:08):
Yeah.
More.
SPEAKER_04 (12:09):
You're you're gossiping about Kyle.
Yeah.
So if I'm sharing Selena's sinsto to Pete, yeah, I'm I'm
gossiping about Selena.
SPEAKER_00 (12:17):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (12:17):
And I can't imagine I love you.
I can't imagine gossiping aboutmy wife, right?
SPEAKER_00 (12:22):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (12:22):
Now, is there a line there where has to be a line?
Who am I allowed to to vent toand who am I allowed?
Like, how do you work that out?
SPEAKER_00 (12:31):
I feel like there has to be a line because if
you're only just verballydumping all of these things,
because you have to talk aboutit, like, and sometimes, like,
yes, counseling is great,therapy is great, but sometimes
you just gotta get it out andyou gotta get it out to a person
you can trust, you know, becauseyou gotta be vulnerable and you
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gotta be transparent, you gotta,you gotta let this out.
And so going to the personthat's gonna point you back to
God.
SPEAKER_04 (12:59):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (13:00):
Okay.
If you have this conversationand there's no fixing, there's
no like, I hear you, I hear yourheart, yeah, I hear what's going
on.
How are we getting God back intothis?
You know, if you're just dumpingjust to dump and it's just you
guys are just bashing, right?
If you're just bashing, don'ttalk about it with that person.
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That might not be a good sourceto that's not a good source.
Because now you're you're you'reonly getting pulled down
further.
If you can go to somebody thatyou can confide in and trust,
who you know is gonna keep youaccountable and who's gonna hold
you back to, well, the God'swhat are you doing with your
husband?
How like if they're notredirecting you back to the
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marriage and back to God, thendon't have that conversation
with that person.
SPEAKER_04 (13:48):
Amen.
SPEAKER_00 (13:49):
And I think that's the line.
I think that's the line is ifyou know that that person is
gonna help you and not hinderyou, then be open and
transparent to know that you'regonna you might get corrected.
SPEAKER_01 (14:02):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (14:03):
And to know that you might get challenged in your way
of thinking and in your way offeeling because they might tell
you about yourself.
My best friend tells me aboutmyself all the time.
Right.
And sometimes I'll be like, holdup.
Like, no, she didn't just saythat.
And then after a while, I'mlike, wait, I'm not gonna talk
to her for a minute.
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And then I think about it andI'm like, dang, she was right.
Like, dang, I was about myself.
Like, like she holds meaccountable, and that's why I
love her so much, because youneed those type of people in
your life.
And when you're going through itwith your spouse, sometimes when
you're going through it withyour spouse, all you see is you
and him.
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You don't see the outside world.
So when you're going through itwith that person, that third
party perspective, having anhaving that unbiased perspective
that's gonna point you back toyour spouse.
Yeah, you know, someone who isjust as committed to your vows
as you are, yeah, then it ithelps.
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And sometimes you need that.
SPEAKER_04 (15:05):
That's that encouraging voice that you need
to be searching for instead ofthat.
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (15:10):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (15:10):
Well, I know I know women aren't the only ones who
are tempted to look.
SPEAKER_00 (15:15):
Absolutely.
Right.
SPEAKER_04 (15:16):
So what do what do women want to know about the
guys being tempted to look?
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SPEAKER_04 (16:27):
All right, what do the girls want to know?
SPEAKER_00 (16:29):
Oh my gosh, where do I even begin?
Guys, why do you guys alwayslook at other women when they
walk past and when they're onTV?
SPEAKER_04 (16:38):
I'm gonna put caution you, you use the word
always, use one of those badmarriage words.
No, this is it's really goodbecause it's not always, it's
not all guys, but we are temptedto look away at physical things
because men are mostly visualcreatures.
We are we're visual stimuli, itcomes back to that
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hunter-gatherer time of our longpast, right?
We've only been in thetechnology age for barely over a
hundred years.
Okay, and so for all thosehundreds of years before that,
we were hunter-gatherers and wehad to see the prey, get the
prey, and finish it.
And so that has to be wired outof us.
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And for a lot of us, we'reexposed very young to visual
stimuli.
Okay, that we had no that thatwe're even all of our friends
were like, hey, look at this.
Hey, look at that, look at her.
The whole oh, that's a six, oh,that's an eight.
That whole thing, dang, itstarts very young.
SPEAKER_00 (17:39):
Wow, how young?
How young?
Because we have young boys.
SPEAKER_04 (17:41):
Every case is different, right?
It's not a general always.
SPEAKER_00 (17:43):
What was the generation for you?
SPEAKER_04 (17:45):
Second grade-ish.
SPEAKER_00 (17:46):
Second grade, yeah, man.
SPEAKER_04 (17:48):
My uncles had posters on the in the garage,
bro.
SPEAKER_00 (17:51):
That was when the Playboy and the Bay Watch and
all that stuff was really big.
Pam Anderson era.
SPEAKER_04 (17:56):
Yeah.
And so guys are are tempted tolook just because it's there,
not because they want it, notbecause they not because they
are well gonna chase it, butjust because it's there.
Because it's it's a it's like asquirrel with oh, there's a nut.
Oh, there's a nut.
SPEAKER_00 (18:10):
Oh, there's a nut.
SPEAKER_04 (18:11):
Same kind of thing.
You know what I mean?
SPEAKER_00 (18:13):
Okay, so when times are tough and men so you're
saying that a woman walks bywhen you're on a date, you know,
we see that famous meme wherethe guy is holding the girl and
then he's looking behind herbecause he sees another girl
walking by.
Right, that is just a squirrelmoment.
SPEAKER_04 (18:33):
Yeah.
Well, if you're looking thathard, if you're turning your
whole neck, turn your wholebody, that went beyond a
squirrel moment.
But when it's that quick eyeglance, that's a squirrel
moment.
SPEAKER_00 (18:43):
But if he's turning all the way 180 degrees, and
you're saying that's not tied toan emotional, like I want to
Longing?
SPEAKER_04 (18:51):
No, no, yes, I'm saying it's not tied to an
emotional thing at all, it'spurely a physical reaction, a
reflex.
SPEAKER_00 (18:58):
So when my reflex reflexes your reflex, can that's
real, that's real.
SPEAKER_04 (19:04):
No, as as husbands, I'm getting an application
there.
As husbands, we have to work onthat reflex.
Yeah, control that reflex andhave covenant eyes and have eyes
only for her.
And when we're thinking like,oh, there goes a butt, there
goes a butt.
Boom, right there on your wife.
Right there on your wife.
SPEAKER_00 (19:25):
I see it too, and I'm sorry.
SPEAKER_04 (19:28):
As gentlemen, we're like that.
We try, I try to be better thanthat.
And I think most Christian mentry to be better than that and
not have that that temptation.
We have to fight it every daythough.
SPEAKER_00 (19:38):
Yeah.
Every day.
Yeah.
There's there's a lot of men whowill try to, you know, if
there's problems in the house,they will look away.
So they'll either, you know,watch a lot more sports than
normal, and they would prefer tothey would prefer to um
disassociate by you know,tinkering in their man cave or
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their garage, or you theythey're hanging out with friends
a lot more.
It's like they don't want tocome home or they don't want to
have the hard talks, and sothey're looking towards
distractions, like theirscreens.
Great example, you know, all ofthese things.
And so tell us a little bit moreabout that.
SPEAKER_04 (20:16):
Great examples, right?
Yeah, looking towards towardstheir shed, towards their man
cave, yes, looking towards theirscreens, looking towards their
sports, looking towards theirtheir obsessive hobbies.
SPEAKER_03 (20:26):
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (20:27):
That is not looking outward, that's looking inward,
they're internalizing there.
Oh, and so they're tempted tolook look inside for the
solution, look inside forfiguring it out.
SPEAKER_00 (20:37):
How?
SPEAKER_04 (20:38):
Explain break this down because we're not looking
out to go research how to fixthe problem or looking at what
is making me need to zone out onmy phone for 45 minutes at a
time, or sit on the toilet foran hour and a half.
Right.
We're looking internal, we'relooking inside for that.
We're not looking to what isgoing to fix this problem or
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what is going to satisfy meenough here.
And so all those internalsearches, all those
disassociating things are justlooking inside to fill a void
that they can be they theyshould be searching spiritually
to fill.
SPEAKER_01 (21:17):
Right.
SPEAKER_04 (21:18):
Or searching in their in their marriage to
fulfill.
SPEAKER_01 (21:22):
Yeah.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (21:23):
Now hobbies are great, right?
Time in your man cave is needed.
Time golfing is needed, timefishing is needed for men to
recharge and regroup.
SPEAKER_00 (21:32):
100%.
SPEAKER_04 (21:33):
But there is a line where it's too much.
If and if it's causing frictionin your spouse, if your spouse
is like, you're going golfingagain, you just went for five
hours last Saturday.
SPEAKER_01 (21:43):
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_04 (21:44):
Right?
So you have to balance that.
And that looking that looking toto disassociate, that looking to
look inside is the temptationfor the solution instead of
looking up.
SPEAKER_00 (21:56):
So would that be would that be in comparison to
like women drinking the wine?
Like they're just looking forthat escape out.
SPEAKER_04 (22:02):
Yeah, that's like that's perfect.
SPEAKER_00 (22:05):
So tell me, Kyle, what would in your opinion, what
would you think would be themost dangerous looking away that
a man often struggles with?
SPEAKER_04 (22:15):
So more dangerous than the looking at a butt.
The squirrel.
The more dangerous no, the hardturn.
The hard turn.
SPEAKER_00 (22:22):
The hard turn.
The hard turn.
SPEAKER_04 (22:29):
Yes.
Is the confiding in anotherwoman.
Confiding and having a work wifeis the most dangerous.
SPEAKER_00 (22:38):
Does that happen a lot?
SPEAKER_04 (22:40):
From my experience, thankfully, in thankfully in my
life, I have a lot of guys whoare solid Christian men in my
circle.
But from from experience, thatis the most dangerous looking.
SPEAKER_01 (22:57):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (22:57):
You're looking for that friendship fulfillment.
You're looking for thatacceptance.
You're looking for that thathunger to see you and just to be
kind to you, right?
Because like just think at atwork, it's it's in the um it's
in the love and respect book.
I know I go back to this a lot,but it was a powerful book.
The the wife experienced thehusband at work and saw how how
the his co-workers who werefemales talked to him and
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treated him and just gave himwith the utmost respect because
he was there, he was above themin the in the hierarchy at work.
But seeing that changed herperspective because then he
comes home to her and she'scalled shouldering him and she's
being all these kinds of waydisrespectful, small
disrespectfuls, right?
We micro disrespect.
SPEAKER_00 (23:41):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (23:41):
But seeing the the true respect he gets in the
workplace change thatperspective for her.
SPEAKER_00 (23:46):
That could even happen in church settings, you
know.
If you have a a a leader, aministry leader, and they're
getting that kind of respect,and then they're they're filled
with the Holy Spirit, and thenthese women, oh, you can help me
because you're you're filled,you're spiritually filled, and
so they're getting that kind oftreatment and that kind of
attention in that setting versusat home.
SPEAKER_04 (24:04):
Yeah.
Men have a need to feel desired.
SPEAKER_00 (24:07):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (24:07):
And if if we're not feeling desired or wanted or
craved by our partner, it'sgonna throw us off.
And we're gonna seek we we startby seeking that with our spouse,
right?
Doing the nice things, doing theextra things to get her to be
like, hey, you're great, youknow?
And when that's missing, whenthat's lacking, guys are gonna
search for it.
SPEAKER_00 (24:28):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (24:29):
And that's that's a hard look.
SPEAKER_03 (24:31):
Yeah.
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SPEAKER_00 (25:56):
So we talked about the problems of looking away in
women.
We talked about the problems oflooking away among men.
SPEAKER_04 (26:04):
Sorry, I got one more look.
SPEAKER_00 (26:06):
Okay.
SPEAKER_04 (26:06):
To just to go back to because I think we missed it.
SPEAKER_00 (26:10):
Okay.
SPEAKER_04 (26:10):
The looking for the the physical replacement.
SPEAKER_03 (26:14):
Ooh.
SPEAKER_04 (26:15):
Because there's times when women, when in the
marriage, naturally, there'sless intimacy, there's less
physical connection.
SPEAKER_00 (26:22):
Oh, I think I know.
Than can be.
SPEAKER_04 (26:24):
And so the guys look to replace that.
And they might not want tocheat.
They might not want to want touh go find another woman, right?
But they're gonna look to thosethemselves.
Those yes, themselves and pornand raunchy movies, or if
they're a book guy, raunchybooks, right, and replace that
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intimacy, they're gonna look forthat intimacy in other ways.
By themselves.
By themselves.
So they're looking internal, butthey're looking for them.
Same thing with women.
SPEAKER_00 (26:54):
You had the whole fifty shades of gray type.
Yeah, you know, the what do theycall them?
Smut smut novels.
SPEAKER_04 (27:01):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (27:02):
Where they're they're looking to get that
pleasure out.
SPEAKER_04 (27:05):
Yeah.
And so all of these looks, allof these looks are the
temptations that that we face ashusbands and wives.
SPEAKER_00 (27:12):
Yes.
And I'm sure we're gonna, youknow, as the month progresses,
we're gonna talk more about eachindividual temptation, you know,
but just the thought of looking.
Right now, we're only talkingabout you're tempted to look
away.
Right.
You know, if this is you're ifif you've had a couple hits here
and there where you're like, I Idid, I have, you know, as you're
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listening to this, you'restarting to do a reflection of
yourself and you're like, I Ihave looked away.
I haven't done anything, but Ihave looked away.
SPEAKER_04 (27:45):
Oh man, they're speaking to me.
SPEAKER_00 (27:47):
You know, yes, yes.
This is this is why we're here.
So if somebody is there, yeah,what can we say to help them
before it gets too far?
SPEAKER_04 (27:57):
Yeah.
Well, I'm gonna go for the guys.
The for us, it's accountability,it's having someone we trust and
getting close to them to get tothat place where we can share
what we're struggling with, whatour wife is driving us crazy
about, and and grow and speaklife into each other about that.
So that's where I would startwith the guys.
Where would you start with thewith the ladies?
SPEAKER_00 (28:18):
I would say uh they have to be vocal about what is
happening.
And, you know, obviously youtake it first to your spouse and
you try to be vocal with them.
If they're in a position wherethey're not gonna hear you or
they choose not to hear you,they brush you off, they
gaslight you, etc., then youhave to go to someone else and
you have to talk about it withan expectation that there's
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gonna be some form of help or asolution to help you, you know,
get you back.
SPEAKER_04 (28:46):
Constructive feedback.
SPEAKER_00 (28:47):
Constructive feedback, constructive, you
know, criticism, correction,loving correction, yeah, all of
that stuff.
SPEAKER_04 (28:53):
I think secondly, I would think for guys is to guard
your technology because that isa great that is a big place
where we look outside and aretempted to to sin.
SPEAKER_01 (29:07):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (29:08):
So guard your technology, whether it's through
a third-party app that blocksyour phone, whether it's through
deleting apps and deactivatingaccounts, we need to look to
that protection to watch forlooking for sin.
SPEAKER_00 (29:19):
That's very good.
I would also say, you know, a abig part of it is where is
Christ at in your life?
You know, are you are you copingwith Christ?
SPEAKER_01 (29:29):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (29:30):
Are you coping with Christ because at the end of the
day, the phone, the the externalevents, the wine, all of these
at some point can become idols,all of these things can become
tools that you are using to leanon.
And the only thing that weshould be leaning on is God and
(29:52):
God alone.
And so if you feel like yourversion of God is not strong
enough to lean over.
On to get you through a conflictor to get you through a hard
season, then you have to do somemore inner work to truly build
up the relationship that youhave with the Father.
Right.
SPEAKER_04 (30:13):
That's good.
I think the last application isjust like you said.
Everything when we're tempted tosin, every time we're tempted to
sin, is just tempting us to befurther from God.
SPEAKER_01 (30:24):
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (30:24):
Right.
And so the response, as yousaid, is to do the opposite
thing to get closer to God.
SPEAKER_03 (30:30):
Absolutely.
SPEAKER_04 (30:30):
So if you're tempted to look at a screen, get tempted
to look at a Bible on yourscreen.
Get tempted to look at apreaching or a sermon notes on
your screen.
SPEAKER_03 (30:39):
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (30:40):
And replace that.
SPEAKER_03 (30:41):
Sermon or something.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (30:42):
That that temptation, that temptation to
sin needs to be replaced with atemptation towards Christ,
towards towards your word,towards your connection with the
Holy Spirit.
SPEAKER_00 (30:51):
Absolutely.
Absolutely.
And I'm sure, you know, if yougo to the Bible app, there are
Bible studies that are all abouttemptation.
SPEAKER_04 (31:01):
Avoiding temptation.
SPEAKER_00 (31:02):
Avoiding the temptation.
And not only that, but uh ourcouple's playbook.
We're gonna have a new resourcefor you guys for this series on
temptation.
And it is going to be aboutaccountability questions that
you can ask your spouse and youcan ask your closest friends to
help you stay in check, to helpyou redirect those thoughts and
those looks back to your spouseand back to your father, your
(31:27):
Lord, your savior, Jesus Christ.
That's right.
So you can go ahead and downloadthat.
There's a link in thedescription if you don't have
that free playbook already.
And that is the most recentresource.
There's already about eight ornine resources already in there
that you can also have.
Yes.
And you guys can enjoy that anddownload it and use it and start
(31:48):
asking those questions today ifthis is something that you're
struggling with.
SPEAKER_04 (31:51):
We put these things together to help marriages grow,
to help marriages thrive.
And we are just grateful thatyou're here with us.
SPEAKER_01 (31:58):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (31:58):
And right now we're in the middle of a crowdfunding
campaign.
And we really love, if you loveour podcast, if you'd partner
with us and be part of thatcrowdfunding, we're thankful for
every listener we have, and wewant to do more and better for
you guys.
And so follow the link below todonate and contribute to the
crowdfunding campaign that we'redoing this season.
SPEAKER_00 (32:18):
Yes, we would love and appreciate uh wholeheartedly
if you guys can sow the seed tohelp us create more godly
marriages.
Absolutely.
Um, I think this was a greatfirst episode back.
It feels so good to be back.
SPEAKER_04 (32:31):
I love being out here with our doing this for
helping marriages.
And you know, every time we meetwith a couple and talk through
things and help, it just is it'sone of those moments where I'm
walking in what God has calledme to.
Absolutely.
And I'm grateful for my parentsand the beautiful marriages I've
seen throughout my life so thatI can pour out those lessons
(32:52):
that I've seen in real life toothers and help young or old or
middle-age people have greatmarriages.
SPEAKER_00 (33:01):
Amen.
Amen.
So we want to continue doingthat with you guys.
And we hope that this episode issomething that edified and
helped bless you guys as amarriage unit or as a
relationship unit, if you're aserious couple, or even if
you're just a single listening,you know, trying to be proactive
and make sure that you arecatching all the blind spots
before you do find that personthat you can get involved with.
(33:22):
So we hope that this was anencouraging episode for you.
And we want to close out in someprayer.
Absolutely.
Help these people who might bestruggling with looking and who
might be struggling withtemptation.
We want to lift you up right nowso that you can take this away
and and and just bring it backto the Father.
SPEAKER_04 (33:39):
Can you can you Absolutely?
All right, you know, Lord,Jesus, our Father in heaven, we
are grateful that you havecalled us by name, that you've
adopted us into your family,Lord, that your Holy Spirit
resides in our hearts, Lord.
I lift up everyone today who islistening to this podcast.
I pray that your Holy Spirit isministering to them, Lord, that
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you are pushing on their heartto avoid temptation, Lord, that
you have opened their eyes tosee maybe hidden temptations
that they're facing, hidden sinthat they're dealing with, Lord.
And I pray that they're able tobe honest with themselves and
that they're able to take stepsto apply and change and move
closer to towards your will,which is all we want each day.
SPEAKER_02 (34:20):
Yes, Lord.
SPEAKER_04 (34:20):
We give you the glory for all of it.
Let none of it be in our ownstrength and our own power,
Lord, but let all of it be inyour power and by your will.
unknown (34:27):
Thank you.
SPEAKER_04 (34:28):
In Jesus' name, amen.
SPEAKER_00 (34:30):
Amen.
Thank you guys so much fortuning in, listening, watching.
If you're watching on YouTube,please be sure to like, share,
subscribe.
If you guys are listening on anyof the podcast platforms, please
be sure to leave us a greatreview or a five-star tap.
We'll do just fine.
We love you, and we hope youguys will tune in next week as
we continue on this conversationof temptation.
And we hope you guys have agreat rest of your week.
SPEAKER_04 (34:52):
I hope you're tempted to come back.
SPEAKER_00 (34:54):
Yay! Yes, yes, I like that.
Have a good one.
Bye guys.
Hooray.
SPEAKER_04 (35:04):
I thought you forgot about the closing prayer.
No, I was ready.
I was ready.
SPEAKER_00 (35:08):
No, me forget.
Come on.
I have the memory of anelephant.
SPEAKER_04 (35:15):
I mean, yes, you have that memory.
Bremse meaning I thought, like,she didn't remember to close in
prayer.
Uh oh.
I thought you were about to hitthe five-star.
SPEAKER_00 (35:23):
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Prayer before five stars.
Always.
SPEAKER_04 (35:27):
That's right.
SPEAKER_00 (35:28):
Prayer before a like, share, and subscribe.
You know, if you pray for us andthat's all you do, then hey,
that's enough.
I mean, also donate, but alsolike and do the things, but you
know, prayer is definitelyoverpowering all those things.
SPEAKER_03 (35:43):
Great talk today, man.
SPEAKER_00 (35:44):
It was really, it was deep.
I'm glad you brought up thething about the the the porn and
and looking inwardly, becausethat is a thing.
SPEAKER_04 (35:51):
Yeah, absolutely.
SPEAKER_00 (35:52):
And I'm sure we're gonna talk about that in another
episode.
Sure.
Right.
SPEAKER_04 (36:00):
That's and withholding their their body
from their husband is just asyeah.
SPEAKER_00 (36:06):
It's just as clearly we got a lot more to talk about.
SPEAKER_04 (36:08):
Right.
Yeah.
That's fun.
SPEAKER_00 (36:12):
Cool.
Good job.
I gotta go.
SPEAKER_03 (36:13):
All right.
Where are you going?
I gotta I gotta edit this thing.
SPEAKER_00 (36:16):
You gotta work.
SPEAKER_03 (36:16):
I gotta do I gotta work.
All right.
I gotta work.
Have fun at work.
I gotta work.
Goodbye.
Now I get to work.
Yay!
SPEAKER_00 (36:23):
Now I get to work.
SPEAKER_04 (36:24):
I see you.
The kids are at school.
You don't look like someonewho's gotta go.
SPEAKER_00 (36:30):
I know.
SPEAKER_04 (36:30):
Remember when I had to go, I would always get up and
run away.
SPEAKER_00 (36:32):
He was running.
Yeah.
Well, I work upstairs, so youwork miles away.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (36:38):
There's a difference.
Praise the Lord.
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