A Widow's Leap Into Love Part 1

A Valentine's Day Special ✨💖

Today's episode is all about love, laughter, and a little bit of magic – because sometimes, love finds us in the most unexpected of places. Join me as I share a heartwarming love story that holds a special place in my heart.

In a two part series, I'll take you on a journey through my experiences navigating the complexities of dating and relationships as a widow. Though the road may have been bumpy at times, each encounter has taught me invaluable lessons about love, loss, and the resilience of the human heart.

So grab your favorite beverage, cozy up, and prepare to be swept away by a tale of love, laughter, and the beauty of second chances. 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
I was feeling a little pressure to do a
Valentine's Day episode andwasn't really feeling it until a
song had popped in my head.
It was Tina Turner.
What's Love Got to Do With it?
Now, I knew it was a messagefrom Tom and I knew I had
something to share, but I wasn'tsure what.

(00:22):
But first let me tell you afunny story about me and Tom and
why Tina Turner makes me thinkof him.
So Tom was 6'3", he weighedabout 300 pounds and I am half
of his size.
So when we would walk together,one of his steps would be like

(00:44):
two or three of mine and Ialways felt like I was just
running to keep up with him.
And one day we were with hisfamily at a casino and we were
holding hands, walking aroundand his knee said Tom, I swear,
it looks like you're justdragging Rebecca around
everywhere you go.
So we all got a good laugh.

(01:06):
And then he grabs my arm andsays really loud in his deep
voice let's go, anime.
And starts dragging me out ofthe casino.
I could barely keep up andpeople were staring and we were
just dying laughing.
So from that point on it justbecame this ongoing joke and Tom

(01:32):
would just keep calling meanime, especially since I would
talk shit back Probably a littletoo much.
But believe me, tom Johnson wasno-ight Turner and he would
have never raised a hand to me.
So anyway, I knew when I heardthat song I had to do a

(01:56):
Valentine's Day episode.
But I'm not here to give datingadvice.
All I can tell you is what notto do.
This episode is more to answerquestions that I get asked a lot
by widows Are you dating andhave you dated?
Let's start with have you dated?

(02:17):
Because that's the easiest toanswer yes, and I have done so
horribly.
I even signed up for a datingcoach once and I stopped it
because it was too much work.
And here's the thing that Idon't understand about dating
these days.
One you could barely even callit dating.

(02:38):
Most encounters I've had waslet's have dinner and go back to
my place.
Nothing else, no movie, noother activity, nothing fun,
nothing creative, no adventure,nothing but his place in sex.
And I don't understand howeveryone has their own

(03:00):
definition of relationships.
I mean, you literally have toask somebody what their
definition is and I sweareveryone's is different.
I think only marriage now meansan exclusive relationship, like
whatever happened to will yoube my boyfriend, yes or no?

(03:24):
So I've had two relationshipssince Tom died.
The first was a year after Tomdied.
I met someone very unexpectedlyand just so you know how
unexpected it was, it wasactually at my brother-in-law's
house and, I'm not gonna lie, itfelt like one of those love at

(03:48):
first sight moments, and notthis chemistry, bullshit that
everyone seems to want nowadays.
It was exactly when you lookinto someone's eyes and they see
you.
There was really this magneticpull and I just wanted to be in
his space and didn't have totouch him at all.

(04:11):
So when he first showed up atthis cookout, I saw him and I
immediately thought, hey, thisguy is attractive.
But he was with someone andthere was a couple of times that
I thought he was staring at me.
But anyone who knows me youknow I have a prosthetic eye.

(04:35):
So, honestly, I didn't know ifmy body and face was turned
towards him and one eye waslooking at him and then maybe I
was looking at the other way.
I don't know if, maybe I wasgiven mixed signals, but I did
feel like he kept staring at me.

(04:57):
And then later I was goinginside, he was on the porch with
some other people and this girlstarted talking to me and she's
like hey, you're Clark's sister, right?
And I was like, yeah, that's meand she's just chatting with me
.
And she's like so, I want tointroduce you to blah blah, so

(05:20):
I'm not going to say his name.
And I was like, oh, it's greatto meet you.
And then she goes and this ismy husband, and I was like, oh,
it's so nice to meet you.
So then it was weird becauseit's like they're not together,
he's single.
So we just kind of started ourown conversation and everyone

(05:44):
else just walked away.
We just stood there pretty muchfor I don't know an hour or
more just talking about anything, really just random stuff.
And from that night on we spentevery single day together.

(06:06):
We never ran out of things totalk about.
We talked about our entireloves.
He listened to me talk aboutTom.
He asked questions.
He wanted to know more.
I think Tom would have reallyliked them.
And this was also the firstperson that I went on a date

(06:28):
with.
I even told about my cancer orknew that I had a prosthetic eye
.
He even went with me to one ofmy checkups and scan
appointments and asked my doctorquestions.
Everyone loved him, includingTom's family.
This was probably the happiestthat I had been in a really long

(06:53):
time, but in the end it was toogood to be true.
He was only here for the summerand I knew that and in a way I
wasn't ready for that kind oflove because with everything
that had been going on with mycancer, I had really just

(07:14):
started grieving Tom.
But it felt so good.
I was also living in thepresent moment for the first
time ever and we knew it wascoming to an end and we said our
goodbyes.
I know what you're thinking why,why did you say goodbye?

(07:36):
Well, he was here visiting fromanother country, so he had to
go back to his kids no, not awife, just kids His job, his
home, his responsibilities, hisentire life.
So why didn't I go with him?
That is also a prettycomplicated story, but basically

(08:00):
I didn't want that kind ofcommitment or life.
But everything worked out.
He is living a very happy lifeand he's happily married with
more children, and I wouldn'twant that any other way.
People come into your life fora reason and during that time I

(08:26):
needed love and he gave that tome.
I needed to be seen and he sawme, and that's something that I
will never forget.
Now there's more to share, so Iwill be saving that for the
next episode, because it'sValentine's Day and I just

(08:48):
wanted to leave you with thislittle love story that I hold so
dear to my heart, because,after all, love is not dead.
Love is not dead, just myhusband.