Season 5 Trailer: How To Widow Your Way

The microphone feels different this time! As I struggle with my ongoing battle against cancer, I'm reflecting on this podcast and direction it's taking. I feel the need now more than ever to be more clear with my message and purpose.

So far Widow Your Way has been more of an expression or feeling of empowerment for Widows, but not put into clear words. 

I have never wanted to be someone who gives Widow advice. There are no step-by-step guides here, no one-size-fits-all remedies—just the honest, often messy, chronicles of learning to trust myself on this Widow Journey. 

I love the quote by Brene Brown, "One day you will tell your story of how you've overcome what you're going through now, and it will become part of someone else's survival guide" 

This podcast has always been meant as a guide for you to discover your own unique path to living happily even after. Widow your way is about trusting yourself and making your own rules. 

Your Widow Journey. Your Loss. Your Life. Your Purpose. 

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Episode Transcript

Rebecca (00:00):
Hey friend, I know it's been a while, but hey, cancer
sucks and I feel like I've letit get in the way of my
podcasting for just a bit toolong.
So unfortunately I can't reallypromise you consistency right
now, like a weekly episode, butI can promise you that I'm still

(00:23):
here and I have a lot more tosay.
So after a year of podcasting,I realized that I am just still
holding back from what I want tosay.
Yes, I've talked about sometopics from a different
perspective.
I've also shared some storiesthat you can relate to that make

(00:45):
you feel like you're just notlosing your mind.
I've also talked about widowingyour own way, but I'm not sure
if I've been clear enough.
I feel like it's been more ofan expression or a feeling and I
haven't really put it intoclear, concise words.

(01:09):
I've never wanted to be someonegiving widow advice like no
tips and tricks, because, well,there are none.
I've never wanted to tell youwhat you need to do, because the
same thing doesn't work foreveryone, and this podcast has

(01:29):
always been meant to be a guidefor you to discover your own
unique path to live in happilyeven after.
But now, with an incurablestage four cancer, I feel the
need to make it clear how towidow your own way.

(01:50):
So for season five, I think weneed to start with changing our
mindset about death.
Death should be about livingand not just the end of life.
Now I know as a widow thatyou're not just grieving the
loss of your husband or yourperson, but you're also grieving

(02:12):
the loss of yourself, your life.
It took me a really long timeto realize that, and even though
a part of you dies with yourhusband, there's a new version
of you that's reborn.
This is the widow's journey.
It's your loss, your life, yourpurpose.

(02:36):
Now I also want to take aminute here to remind listeners
that my husband, tom, diedalmost six years ago.
I am not newly widowed, I amnot in the acute stages of grief
, and my perspective on being awidow is not the same as it was

(02:59):
in the beginning.
My needs as a widow now are notthe same as my needs back then,
and neither is my supportsystem.
It's evolved with me.
Stories I share are unique tome, and I've been honest with
you about how I felt and knowthat the person that I am today

(03:21):
can look back at that sad, angry, hurt version of myself with
love and compassion.
If I can go back, I would tellmyself I know you like structure
, but everything is gettingready to fall apart.

(03:42):
There's going to be a lot ofpain involved, mentally and
physically but you're not alone.
Others are grieving with youand for you.
They just can't find the wordsto tell you.
Don't push them away.
You're going to cry a lot.
Don't hold back your tears anddon't wipe them away and never,

(04:09):
ever, apologize for crying.
You're going to feel lost andconfused.
You're going to have to learnto trust yourself, and I'm so
sorry, but there are noinstructions for being a widow.
You're going to have to make upyour own rules.
The journey you're about to goon is going to be long and hard.

(04:34):
For the first time ever, you'regoing to have to put yourself
first and you're going to wantto fight this every step of the
way.
But the more you fight againstgrief, the longer it's going to
take to heal.
Your past will lead you to yourfuture.

(04:55):
The one thing you need to knowis grief is going to be your
constant companion, but it willnot always hurt or bring you
sadness.
Sometimes, grief will bring youmoments of joy, and when it
does, you will realize that loveis not dead, just your husband.