July 10, 2024 • 28 mins
Welcome to the first Solo-cast of the Love Is Our Nature Podcast! In this episode I veer away from the usual interview format to share with you a vulnerable open-hearted reflection. I also share a valuable and inspiring message from my past self, as I explore the challenges and fears that often hold us back from pursuing our dreams.
Some Key Takeaways:
- Facing Fear: The central theme revolves around fear and how it can paralyze us, preventing us from pursuing our most cherished dreams and goals. I candidly share my own struggles with fear and the excuses I made.
- Inspiring Message from 2018: I read an article I wrote back in 2018 titled "Why We Don’t Do the Things that Will Bring Us the Greatest Joy," which delves into the reasons we avoid pursuing our deepest desires.
- Call to Action: I encourage you, my listeners, to confront your fears and take action towards your dreams, emphasizing that even failure is a valuable teacher and a necessary step in the journey to success.
Personal Insights:
- Vulnerability and Authenticity: I open up about my personal life, including my experiences as a new father and the challenges of balancing family, career, and personal dreams.
- Overcoming Excuses: I reflect on how I have been hiding behind excuses and how recognizing this has empowered me to take action and share my journey more openly.
In this episode, I invite you to join me in this journey of confronting fears and pursuing your dreams. I emphasize the importance of self-reflection and taking the first step, no matter how daunting it may seem.
Connect with Me:
- Website: Love Is Our Nature
- Cesar's Instagram: @journeywithcesar
- L.I.O.N. Instagram: @loveisournature
- Facebook: Love Is Our Nature
Final Thoughts:
Thank you for joining me in this intimate and heartfelt solo episode. I hope that my reflections and the message from 2018 will inspire you to face your fears and pursue your dreams with renewed vigor and determination. Tune in next time for more stories, insights, and inspiring conversations on the Love Is Our Nature Podcast.
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Cesar (00:01):
Hey, cesar, here coming to you this time, just me Me by
myself.
It's a little bit differentthan how I usually run the
podcast.
This is actually my very firstsolo cast and I'm excited to
just be in this intimate spacewith you.
(00:23):
So thank you for being here,and what I want to share with
you is well, before I go intowhat I want to share with you, I
have a question for you.
Do you ever read something likean old note from your past self
or a journal entry or somethingfrom years ago and you thank
(00:48):
yourself?
You thank your past selfbecause you actually really
needed to hear that.
Well, I just had a moment likethat and it resonated big time
and I was so inspired that Ifigured you know what.
I'm going to come here to thepodcast and share with all of
(01:09):
you this beautiful message fromCaesar of 2018.
I sure as heck needed to hearit.
The truth is, I've been hidingFear, won and I lost.
I've been hiding Fear, won andI lost, but the good thing is it
might have won the battle, butit hasn't won the war.
(01:38):
I am still breathing, and soare you, which is good if you're
listening to this.
So I want to share this articlewith you that was written in
April 26 of 2018.
In April 26th of 2018.
I'm going to just read it toyou and I'll share a few
thoughts afterwards.
So this article is inloveisournaturecom and it is
titled why we Don't Do theThings that Will Bring Us the
(02:00):
Greatest Joy.
You know the one thing that ifyou accomplished or acquired,
your entire life would befulfilled.
Yes, that one.
Maybe you already accomplishedit.
If that's you, greatCongratulations.
Maybe you're well on your wayand if that's you, fantastic,
(02:23):
keep going.
But if you're like that, thevast majority of people,
according to a slew ofstatistics on the internet,
chances are you haven'taccomplished your thing in
quotes, whatever that thingmight be.
Or maybe you don't have a thinglike that.
Maybe you did have a thing likethat, but it's been so long
(02:44):
since you thought about it thatyou can't even recall what it
was.
Maybe you're completelyresigned about it and gave up on
it many years ago.
And there you are making thebest of things, hoping your kids
have a better chance at makingit in life than you did.
Maybe you don't even thinkabout that thing anymore because
(03:06):
it seems so far out of reachthat you gave up on it.
Maybe it makes you sad to eventhink about it.
Maybe it makes you feel alittle bitter about yourself for
never going for it.
Maybe you know exactly what yourthing is.
Maybe you think about it everyday, but you have no idea how to
(03:26):
get the ball rolling and startmoving towards its fruition.
Maybe you don't think you haveenough knowledge yet.
Maybe you don't have enoughmoney for it.
Maybe you don't haveconnections with the right
people.
Maybe you're in too much debt.
Maybe you don't have the righttools.
Maybe you don't have the rightskills.
Maybe you just don't have theright tools.
(03:46):
Maybe you don't have the rightskills.
Maybe you just don't have thetime.
Maybe it's none of those things.
Maybe you don't really know whyyou haven't gone for that thing
because you have all theresources you need, or at least
know where to go acquire them.
Maybe you've already had toendure too much disappointment,
(04:09):
heartbreak and failure in thepast.
This is where I get to assertwhat is really going on.
The main reason you haven'tgone for it for the thing your
thing is that once you do go forit, you will have nowhere to
hide.
You see, this isn't just someordinary thing that you would be
(04:35):
undertaking.
It is the thing, and there areno guarantees of success.
There's a chance it could fail,and it would be okay if you
failed at some other thing, likea job or something you dabbled
in or your firstborn, but notthe thing.
I hope you know what the thingis for you by now.
(04:59):
Otherwise, keep looking.
It's not okay if you fail atthe thing.
Is it Because?
Then what?
Where do you go after you failat the thing?
What are you supposed to tellpeople in your life when they
ask you how the thing is going?
I'll give you another take onit.
I can't say it much better thanthe great Paulo Coelho.
(05:22):
We who fight for our dreamssuffer far more when it doesn't
work out because we cannot fallback on the old excuse.
Oh well, I didn't really wantit anyway.
We do want it and know that wehave staked everything on it and
the the path of the personalcalling is no easier than any
(05:44):
other path, except that ourwhole heart is in this journey.
I'll read that quote again wewho fight for our dreams suffer
far more when it doesn't workout because we cannot fall back
on the old excuse.
Oh well, I didn't really wantthat.
Anyway, we do want it and knowthat we have staked everything
(06:05):
on it and that the path of thepersonal calling is no easier
than any other path, except thatour whole heart is in this
journey.
End quote.
For some of us, if we fail atour thing, it seems like death
(06:26):
or worse.
Even so, here's the thing, thetakeaway from the article thing
For as long as you resist theidea of its failure, not going
for it will always seem like abetter idea.
Did you get that?
It's the whole point here, so Iwill reiterate it for emphasis
(06:53):
For as long as you resist thechance of failure, not going for
it will always seem like abetter choice, justifiably so.
After all, what kind of saneperson would put themselves
through that kind of risk?
And it's that very fear offailure before even starting
that is stopping you.
(07:16):
Not just any failure, yourthings failure.
You have to accept that thereis a chance of failure and then
go for it and then win.
I'll say that again you have toaccept that there is a chance
of failure, then go for it andthen win.
Here's the good news it willnever be the same after you go
for it.
Even if you fail.
You might find that yourfailures are your greatest
(07:40):
teachers.
You might find that yourfailure was a necessary step in
order to equip yourself with thelessons that will take you to
the accomplishment of your thing.
You might find that you can gofor it time and time again.
You might find that there is aneven greater game to play, a
(08:00):
greater expression of your thing.
You will experience tremendous,rapid growth in who you are.
You will discover that you area lot more capable and competent
than you ever imagined.
Regardless of how it goes, youwill be better off for having
gone for it and you just mightvery well, with this new freedom
(08:25):
to act in the face of thechance of failure, accomplish
your thing, go for it, put itall on the line, go for love, go
for joy, go for fulfillment, gofor adventure, go for abundance
.
Go for it all.
It's worth it.
(08:46):
Thank you, caesar, from 2018.
Yes, like I said at thebeginning, I definitely needed
to hear those words.
Yes, like I said at thebeginning, I definitely needed
(09:09):
to hear those words.
So here's where I just share,very openly, vulnerably, what is
present for me.
Having read that, and Irealized that a lot of what we
listen to out there a lot ofpodcasts, a lot of influencers.
There's people talking abouthow they made it and, yeah, I'm
(09:30):
not exactly where I want to beand I can see how.
That's actually one of thethings that stopped me from just
continuing to put myself outthere, put my message out there,
because I'm not quite there yet, but that's what inspired me
today is, well, what if I got toshare with my community the
(10:02):
people that I care about, peoplethat I love, the people that
take their time to listen to me,talk here what it's like to
actually be in it not a well puttogether, cleaned up version of
having done it, but actuallybeing in the trenches.
So that's where this is comingfrom, and it's vulnerable and
it's okay.
(10:22):
I don't mind if this messageserves you.
That's all I can ask for.
What I see is that I have beenhiding.
I have been just waiting forsome magical magical what do you
(10:44):
call it?
A wave of a magic wand to havecircumstances be perfect for me
to get started.
I've been being a victim.
I became a father, which hasbeen the greatest blessing of my
life, and two years ago almostOctober 2022, and ever since
(11:13):
it's been like, oh, I don't havetime.
I have a beautiful partner,alana.
My son Luca and I got to havebalance and spend time with them
.
I have my marketing agency thatI've had for 12 years.
That keeps me quite busy, andAlana and I have also been
(11:40):
getting to know each other more.
Those who have heard otherepisodes of the podcast know
that we got pregnant threemonths into our long-distance
relationship.
I wouldn't recommend that topeople.
Yet at this point I wouldn'tchange anything about our
journey.
It's been the biggest blessingin both our lives, but it sure
(12:04):
as heck presented a lot ofchallenges for us both, and it's
time consuming to to build thefoundation of a relationship,
especially when you're trying todo it quickly.
Um and yeah.
Behind all those things and yeah, behind all those things, I
(12:26):
realized I started hiding.
I was too preoccupied with themotions of life, of fatherhood,
of entrepreneurship, ofpartnership to notice like, hey,
uh, what about my calling, whatabout my message, what about my
purpose in the world?
(12:46):
And I sold out and I'm doneselling out.
But I guess there is somethinghere to identify, something here
for me to really get and for meto share, because I know I'm
not the only one that has takena back seat on their dream
(13:12):
because life has been sodemanding.
So if you feel that that is you, I invite you to just be here
with me in this process andlet's together choose to believe
that a new reality is possible,that our dream is possible.
(13:39):
One of the parts about my dreamis telling stories without
realizing.
When I first started the blogand then when I started the
podcast as well, I realized Ireally enjoyed telling stories
(14:00):
and I noticed in December of2020, when I had a huge
transformational experience withAkashic Record Reading on the
18th of December and anotherayahuasca journey the following
(14:23):
day on the 19th there was a bigcalling for me.
I think that's the day Iidentified my calling.
I identified how much I neededto dive deeply into my heart to
heal the pain that I had beencarrying, without even realizing
(14:44):
it, if I ever wanted to be trueto myself, if I ever wanted to
have a heart-to-heart connectionand relationship with another
woman.
Yeah, there's lots I could sayabout that, and those of you
that have followed me for anyamount of time know that I dove
(15:06):
deeply into that journey andwhen I dove into that journey, I
realized you know what thistime is going to be for me.
I quit coaching.
I've been involved withLandmark for six years, leading
different types of programs andcoaching people, so I quit
coaching people together to justfocus on me, and it was a
(15:30):
beautiful, effective process.
I gotta say I am definitelyblessed in that way to to be
able to look back and realize,okay, that that happened.
I wanted to connect with myheart, heal my heart and and
that happened.
By the end of that year I waswith 2021.
(15:52):
I was in love with myself andit was no coincidence alana
showed up as an outermanifestation of my inner world.
But part of what got planted inmy heart in December of 2020 in
that ceremony was, if I figurethis out, I'm going to share
(16:17):
with people, because I just knew, especially from having coached
a lot of people, that there aremany people that need this
process, that need to connect tothe depths of their heart, that
need to release hard-boiledpain, that need to heal their
(16:38):
traumas and that really want to.
So, if I figure this out I madea promise in that moment I'm
going to share it.
So I started sharing my ownjourney through Love is Our
Nature the podcast.
(16:59):
But since becoming a father, Ican see I sold out.
And there's something else thatI see.
I wanted to put together anoffering to begin guiding men.
Once I felt that I was at aplace where I had some idea as
to what this journey looked like.
But that is not so simple,especially if I am committed
(17:23):
that what I offer has integrity,that what I offer isn't some
fluff or just like step one, butknow how to take somebody from
where they are to just fullconnection with their heart,
with their essence, with thetruth, with the wisdom within
their heart, so that they can bewho they really are out in the
(17:44):
world and with others inconnection.
So as I started to birth theseofferings, I can see that I
stepped back on my storytellingbecause I was like, okay, well,
(18:04):
I got to have these offeringsready.
If I'm going to tell peoplemore about this process, tell
more stories, like I should beable to hand them something, a
tool, have something to offer oreven something to sell, right
that they can acquire that tooland go for it.
And that's also where I soldout.
(18:27):
You know how I sold out Becausewhen I tune into my soul, when
I tune into my heart, I realizeI'm a storyteller before I'm a
coach, and that's where I soldout.
I stopped sharing, I stoppedtelling stories because I didn't
(18:51):
have a cleaned up product tosell yet, and that's so
inauthentic.
And I'm happy to have caughtmyself there, because whether or
not I got a perfect somethingto offer people doesn't mean I
can't keep on telling stories.
(19:11):
And, sure enough, there aremany stories that wanted to get
told from my heart that didn'tget told, so that's why I'm here
.
That didn't get told, so that'swhy I'm here.
This is story number one fromthis new chapter, this story of
(19:37):
my hiding.
So that article definitelyresonated for me today when I
read it, and a few things thatcame up for me today when I read
it and a few things that cameup for me when listening to it,
is that one of the things thatstopped me is I've been
resenting myself for not tellingthose stories.
There's so many articles Ididn't write, not just since
(20:02):
2021, even before that, since Ifirst sat with Ayahuasca, and
also from diving deeply intotransformational coaching, from
embracing Kriya Yoga.
There's many stories thatdidn't get told and the more I
didn't tell those stories, themore I resented myself and it
(20:27):
became this downward spiral.
It's like this snowball effect,and so that's one of the things
I realized that resentingmyself for not taking action,
for not telling those stories.
It only created a downwardspiral of self-resentment and
self-blame.
And maybe you find yourself in asimilar place.
Maybe there's been so muchaction you didn't take, so many
(20:50):
things that you knew you shouldhave done that.
You didn't do that.
You tell yourself, well, what'sthe point of starting now?
There's so much you didn't dothat.
You tell yourself, well, what'sthe point of starting now?
There's so much I didn't do, sothat's, that's just a um, a
(21:12):
limiting belief.
Nobody's perfect.
That's one of the main messagesfrom this podcast today is it's
okay to not be perfect, it'sokay to have fear and not take
action?
Identifying why I got stoppedand overcoming it is the lesson,
that's the goal that will haveme continuing moving forward.
Not to look back and say, oh,wow, I got stopped so much.
(21:33):
What's the point now?
I guess I just should give up.
No, but to identify why did Iget stopped?
And sure, there are actions Ididn't take, but how about I
pick up where I left off?
How about I make today day oneonce again, and this time
continue and not stop.
(21:54):
It takes something I I gottatell you, I feel it in my heart
even now, like is this gonna beany different?
Here I am telling a story.
Will there be another storyafter this?
I don't know.
There are, there are noguarantees.
But what I do know now is thatI feel reconnected to my purpose
(22:21):
, feel reconnected to my why.
I feel like I have identified alot of the self-judgment,
self-criticism, self-resentment,self-blame that I've been
piling on myself that has keptme from taking action again, and
I definitely have identifiedall the excuses that I make
about how there's just no timefor this.
(22:43):
There's no time to sit here andturn on the mic and speak to
you all.
There's no time to put aninspiring message out there.
There's no time to share myheart and that's bullshit.
No time to share my heart, andthat's bullshit.
I've been perpetuating thatparadigm of there is no time so
that I can hide, and it happenssubconsciously.
(23:04):
I mean, I am a dad, I have achild.
I also have a super woman, mom,by my side, who's actually
supporting me with absolutelyeverything, every intention that
I plant.
She plants it with me.
So she's happy to support me,just as I'm happy to support her
(23:30):
in making her dreams come trueand pursuing her calling.
Making her dreams come true andpursuing her calling.
And, yes, I do have a marketingbusiness with a team that need
my attention, that are countingon me, and that's just part of
it.
I know I'm not the only personto have a full-time occupation
(23:53):
out there that started somethingon the side that was their
passion.
That's probably how mostpeople's stories go Working
full-time on something whilethey build their dream on the
side.
I know I'm not the only man tohave a child and pursue his
passion, pursue his dream.
(24:15):
So I'm done with the excuses.
I'm done with that.
So I will share on a regularbasis I'll figure out the rhythm
in a moment, perhaps as soon asI'm done recording here or
something like once every coupleweeks at the max, I'm sorry at
(24:36):
a minimum along those lines, andcontinue sharing with you all.
That's the second piece of it,right, the accountability.
One thing is seeing okay, Ihaven't been doing it, I'm going
to go for it.
The second part is thestructure.
Okay, well, what are thoseactions going to look like?
What am I going to hold myselfaccountable to?
(24:57):
What am I going to allow othersto hold me accountable to.
That's the fire, the fire ofaccountability, the fire of
dharma right, your joy and yourduty.
So here I am, stepping intothat fire.
Thank you for listening to mesharing from my heart today.
(25:19):
I know this is a little bitdifferent, but it feels nice to
connect with you.
I hope that you got somethingout of listening today.
The main thing that I got fromhaving this conversation with
you today is to stop hiding, togo for it.
Any excuses that I have arejust a facade, just a way to
(25:44):
hide, and I fool myself intothinking they're true.
So I invite you to take theleap.
As Caesar from 2018 said,whatever that thing is, go for
it.
I know it's there in your heart.
If you sit with yourself foreven 15 minutes, with your eyes
closed, in a meditation, askingyourself what's really here?
(26:05):
What does my soul want toexpress?
What does my heart want toexpress to the world?
What do I want to leave behindbefore I die?
I promise you you'll findsomething.
So, whatever that is, go for it.
Thank you for listening.
I love you.
(26:25):
Bye-bye, until next time.
Hey, cesar, here coming to you this time, just me Me by
myself.
It's a little bit differentthan how I usually run the
podcast.
This is actually my very firstsolo cast and I'm excited to
just be in this intimate spacewith you.
(00:23):
So thank you for being here,and what I want to share with
you is well, before I go intowhat I want to share with you, I
have a question for you.
Do you ever read something likean old note from your past self
or a journal entry or somethingfrom years ago and you thank
(00:48):
yourself?
You thank your past selfbecause you actually really
needed to hear that.
Well, I just had a moment likethat and it resonated big time
and I was so inspired that Ifigured you know what.
I'm going to come here to thepodcast and share with all of
(01:09):
you this beautiful message fromCaesar of 2018.
I sure as heck needed to hearit.
The truth is, I've been hidingFear, won and I lost.
I've been hiding Fear, won andI lost, but the good thing is it
might have won the battle, butit hasn't won the war.
(01:38):
I am still breathing, and soare you, which is good if you're
listening to this.
So I want to share this articlewith you that was written in
April 26 of 2018.
In April 26th of 2018.
I'm going to just read it toyou and I'll share a few
thoughts afterwards.
So this article is inloveisournaturecom and it is
titled why we Don't Do theThings that Will Bring Us the
(02:00):
Greatest Joy.
You know the one thing that ifyou accomplished or acquired,
your entire life would befulfilled.
Yes, that one.
Maybe you already accomplishedit.
If that's you, greatCongratulations.
Maybe you're well on your wayand if that's you, fantastic,
(02:23):
keep going.
But if you're like that, thevast majority of people,
according to a slew ofstatistics on the internet,
chances are you haven'taccomplished your thing in
quotes, whatever that thingmight be.
Or maybe you don't have a thinglike that.
Maybe you did have a thing likethat, but it's been so long
(02:44):
since you thought about it thatyou can't even recall what it
was.
Maybe you're completelyresigned about it and gave up on
it many years ago.
And there you are making thebest of things, hoping your kids
have a better chance at makingit in life than you did.
Maybe you don't even thinkabout that thing anymore because
(03:06):
it seems so far out of reachthat you gave up on it.
Maybe it makes you sad to eventhink about it.
Maybe it makes you feel alittle bitter about yourself for
never going for it.
Maybe you know exactly what yourthing is.
Maybe you think about it everyday, but you have no idea how to
(03:26):
get the ball rolling and startmoving towards its fruition.
Maybe you don't think you haveenough knowledge yet.
Maybe you don't have enoughmoney for it.
Maybe you don't haveconnections with the right
people.
Maybe you're in too much debt.
Maybe you don't have the righttools.
Maybe you don't have the rightskills.
Maybe you just don't have theright tools.
(03:46):
Maybe you don't have the rightskills.
Maybe you just don't have thetime.
Maybe it's none of those things.
Maybe you don't really know whyyou haven't gone for that thing
because you have all theresources you need, or at least
know where to go acquire them.
Maybe you've already had toendure too much disappointment,
(04:09):
heartbreak and failure in thepast.
This is where I get to assertwhat is really going on.
The main reason you haven'tgone for it for the thing your
thing is that once you do go forit, you will have nowhere to
hide.
You see, this isn't just someordinary thing that you would be
(04:35):
undertaking.
It is the thing, and there areno guarantees of success.
There's a chance it could fail,and it would be okay if you
failed at some other thing, likea job or something you dabbled
in or your firstborn, but notthe thing.
I hope you know what the thingis for you by now.
(04:59):
Otherwise, keep looking.
It's not okay if you fail atthe thing.
Is it Because?
Then what?
Where do you go after you failat the thing?
What are you supposed to tellpeople in your life when they
ask you how the thing is going?
I'll give you another take onit.
I can't say it much better thanthe great Paulo Coelho.
(05:22):
We who fight for our dreamssuffer far more when it doesn't
work out because we cannot fallback on the old excuse.
Oh well, I didn't really wantit anyway.
We do want it and know that wehave staked everything on it and
the the path of the personalcalling is no easier than any
(05:44):
other path, except that ourwhole heart is in this journey.
I'll read that quote again wewho fight for our dreams suffer
far more when it doesn't workout because we cannot fall back
on the old excuse.
Oh well, I didn't really wantthat.
Anyway, we do want it and knowthat we have staked everything
(06:05):
on it and that the path of thepersonal calling is no easier
than any other path, except thatour whole heart is in this
journey.
End quote.
For some of us, if we fail atour thing, it seems like death
(06:26):
or worse.
Even so, here's the thing, thetakeaway from the article thing
For as long as you resist theidea of its failure, not going
for it will always seem like abetter idea.
Did you get that?
It's the whole point here, so Iwill reiterate it for emphasis
(06:53):
For as long as you resist thechance of failure, not going for
it will always seem like abetter choice, justifiably so.
After all, what kind of saneperson would put themselves
through that kind of risk?
And it's that very fear offailure before even starting
that is stopping you.
(07:16):
Not just any failure, yourthings failure.
You have to accept that thereis a chance of failure and then
go for it and then win.
I'll say that again you have toaccept that there is a chance
of failure, then go for it andthen win.
Here's the good news it willnever be the same after you go
for it.
Even if you fail.
You might find that yourfailures are your greatest
(07:40):
teachers.
You might find that yourfailure was a necessary step in
order to equip yourself with thelessons that will take you to
the accomplishment of your thing.
You might find that you can gofor it time and time again.
You might find that there is aneven greater game to play, a
(08:00):
greater expression of your thing.
You will experience tremendous,rapid growth in who you are.
You will discover that you area lot more capable and competent
than you ever imagined.
Regardless of how it goes, youwill be better off for having
gone for it and you just mightvery well, with this new freedom
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to act in the face of thechance of failure, accomplish
your thing, go for it, put itall on the line, go for love, go
for joy, go for fulfillment, gofor adventure, go for abundance
.
Go for it all.
It's worth it.
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Thank you, caesar, from 2018.
Yes, like I said at thebeginning, I definitely needed
to hear those words.
Yes, like I said at thebeginning, I definitely needed
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to hear those words.
So here's where I just share,very openly, vulnerably, what is
present for me.
Having read that, and Irealized that a lot of what we
listen to out there a lot ofpodcasts, a lot of influencers.
There's people talking abouthow they made it and, yeah, I'm
(09:30):
not exactly where I want to beand I can see how.
That's actually one of thethings that stopped me from just
continuing to put myself outthere, put my message out there,
because I'm not quite there yet, but that's what inspired me
today is, well, what if I got toshare with my community the
(10:02):
people that I care about, peoplethat I love, the people that
take their time to listen to me,talk here what it's like to
actually be in it not a well puttogether, cleaned up version of
having done it, but actuallybeing in the trenches.
So that's where this is comingfrom, and it's vulnerable and
it's okay.
(10:22):
I don't mind if this messageserves you.
That's all I can ask for.
What I see is that I have beenhiding.
I have been just waiting forsome magical magical what do you
(10:44):
call it?
A wave of a magic wand to havecircumstances be perfect for me
to get started.
I've been being a victim.
I became a father, which hasbeen the greatest blessing of my
life, and two years ago almostOctober 2022, and ever since
(11:13):
it's been like, oh, I don't havetime.
I have a beautiful partner,alana.
My son Luca and I got to havebalance and spend time with them
.
I have my marketing agency thatI've had for 12 years.
That keeps me quite busy, andAlana and I have also been
(11:40):
getting to know each other more.
Those who have heard otherepisodes of the podcast know
that we got pregnant threemonths into our long-distance
relationship.
I wouldn't recommend that topeople.
Yet at this point I wouldn'tchange anything about our
journey.
It's been the biggest blessingin both our lives, but it sure
(12:04):
as heck presented a lot ofchallenges for us both, and it's
time consuming to to build thefoundation of a relationship,
especially when you're trying todo it quickly.
Um and yeah.
Behind all those things and yeah, behind all those things, I
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realized I started hiding.
I was too preoccupied with themotions of life, of fatherhood,
of entrepreneurship, ofpartnership to notice like, hey,
uh, what about my calling, whatabout my message, what about my
purpose in the world?
(12:46):
And I sold out and I'm doneselling out.
But I guess there is somethinghere to identify, something here
for me to really get and for meto share, because I know I'm
not the only one that has takena back seat on their dream
(13:12):
because life has been sodemanding.
So if you feel that that is you, I invite you to just be here
with me in this process andlet's together choose to believe
that a new reality is possible,that our dream is possible.
(13:39):
One of the parts about my dreamis telling stories without
realizing.
When I first started the blogand then when I started the
podcast as well, I realized Ireally enjoyed telling stories
(14:00):
and I noticed in December of2020, when I had a huge
transformational experience withAkashic Record Reading on the
18th of December and anotherayahuasca journey the following
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day on the 19th there was a bigcalling for me.
I think that's the day Iidentified my calling.
I identified how much I neededto dive deeply into my heart to
heal the pain that I had beencarrying, without even realizing
(14:44):
it, if I ever wanted to be trueto myself, if I ever wanted to
have a heart-to-heart connectionand relationship with another
woman.
Yeah, there's lots I could sayabout that, and those of you
that have followed me for anyamount of time know that I dove
(15:06):
deeply into that journey andwhen I dove into that journey, I
realized you know what thistime is going to be for me.
I quit coaching.
I've been involved withLandmark for six years, leading
different types of programs andcoaching people, so I quit
coaching people together to justfocus on me, and it was a
(15:30):
beautiful, effective process.
I gotta say I am definitelyblessed in that way to to be
able to look back and realize,okay, that that happened.
I wanted to connect with myheart, heal my heart and and
that happened.
By the end of that year I waswith 2021.
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I was in love with myself andit was no coincidence alana
showed up as an outermanifestation of my inner world.
But part of what got planted inmy heart in December of 2020 in
that ceremony was, if I figurethis out, I'm going to share
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with people, because I just knew, especially from having coached
a lot of people, that there aremany people that need this
process, that need to connect tothe depths of their heart, that
need to release hard-boiledpain, that need to heal their
(16:38):
traumas and that really want to.
So, if I figure this out I madea promise in that moment I'm
going to share it.
So I started sharing my ownjourney through Love is Our
Nature the podcast.
(16:59):
But since becoming a father, Ican see I sold out.
And there's something else thatI see.
I wanted to put together anoffering to begin guiding men.
Once I felt that I was at aplace where I had some idea as
to what this journey looked like.
But that is not so simple,especially if I am committed
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that what I offer has integrity,that what I offer isn't some
fluff or just like step one, butknow how to take somebody from
where they are to just fullconnection with their heart,
with their essence, with thetruth, with the wisdom within
their heart, so that they can bewho they really are out in the
(17:44):
world and with others inconnection.
So as I started to birth theseofferings, I can see that I
stepped back on my storytellingbecause I was like, okay, well,
(18:04):
I got to have these offeringsready.
If I'm going to tell peoplemore about this process, tell
more stories, like I should beable to hand them something, a
tool, have something to offer oreven something to sell, right
that they can acquire that tooland go for it.
And that's also where I soldout.
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You know how I sold out Becausewhen I tune into my soul, when
I tune into my heart, I realizeI'm a storyteller before I'm a
coach, and that's where I soldout.
I stopped sharing, I stoppedtelling stories because I didn't
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have a cleaned up product tosell yet, and that's so
inauthentic.
And I'm happy to have caughtmyself there, because whether or
not I got a perfect somethingto offer people doesn't mean I
can't keep on telling stories.
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And, sure enough, there aremany stories that wanted to get
told from my heart that didn'tget told, so that's why I'm here
.
That didn't get told, so that'swhy I'm here.
This is story number one fromthis new chapter, this story of
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my hiding.
So that article definitelyresonated for me today when I
read it, and a few things thatcame up for me today when I read
it and a few things that cameup for me when listening to it,
is that one of the things thatstopped me is I've been
resenting myself for not tellingthose stories.
There's so many articles Ididn't write, not just since
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2021, even before that, since Ifirst sat with Ayahuasca, and
also from diving deeply intotransformational coaching, from
embracing Kriya Yoga.
There's many stories thatdidn't get told and the more I
didn't tell those stories, themore I resented myself and it
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became this downward spiral.
It's like this snowball effect,and so that's one of the things
I realized that resentingmyself for not taking action,
for not telling those stories.
It only created a downwardspiral of self-resentment and
self-blame.
And maybe you find yourself in asimilar place.
Maybe there's been so muchaction you didn't take, so many
(20:50):
things that you knew you shouldhave done that.
You didn't do that.
You tell yourself, well, what'sthe point of starting now?
There's so much you didn't dothat.
You tell yourself, well, what'sthe point of starting now?
There's so much I didn't do, sothat's, that's just a um, a
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limiting belief.
Nobody's perfect.
That's one of the main messagesfrom this podcast today is it's
okay to not be perfect, it'sokay to have fear and not take
action?
Identifying why I got stoppedand overcoming it is the lesson,
that's the goal that will haveme continuing moving forward.
Not to look back and say, oh,wow, I got stopped so much.
(21:33):
What's the point now?
I guess I just should give up.
No, but to identify why did Iget stopped?
And sure, there are actions Ididn't take, but how about I
pick up where I left off?
How about I make today day oneonce again, and this time
continue and not stop.
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It takes something I I gottatell you, I feel it in my heart
even now, like is this gonna beany different?
Here I am telling a story.
Will there be another storyafter this?
I don't know.
There are, there are noguarantees.
But what I do know now is thatI feel reconnected to my purpose
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, feel reconnected to my why.
I feel like I have identified alot of the self-judgment,
self-criticism, self-resentment,self-blame that I've been
piling on myself that has keptme from taking action again, and
I definitely have identifiedall the excuses that I make
about how there's just no timefor this.
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There's no time to sit here andturn on the mic and speak to
you all.
There's no time to put aninspiring message out there.
There's no time to share myheart and that's bullshit.
No time to share my heart, andthat's bullshit.
I've been perpetuating thatparadigm of there is no time so
that I can hide, and it happenssubconsciously.
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I mean, I am a dad, I have achild.
I also have a super woman, mom,by my side, who's actually
supporting me with absolutelyeverything, every intention that
I plant.
She plants it with me.
So she's happy to support me,just as I'm happy to support her
(23:30):
in making her dreams come trueand pursuing her calling.
Making her dreams come true andpursuing her calling.
And, yes, I do have a marketingbusiness with a team that need
my attention, that are countingon me, and that's just part of
it.
I know I'm not the only personto have a full-time occupation
(23:53):
out there that started somethingon the side that was their
passion.
That's probably how mostpeople's stories go Working
full-time on something whilethey build their dream on the
side.
I know I'm not the only man tohave a child and pursue his
passion, pursue his dream.
(24:15):
So I'm done with the excuses.
I'm done with that.
So I will share on a regularbasis I'll figure out the rhythm
in a moment, perhaps as soon asI'm done recording here or
something like once every coupleweeks at the max, I'm sorry at
(24:36):
a minimum along those lines, andcontinue sharing with you all.
That's the second piece of it,right, the accountability.
One thing is seeing okay, Ihaven't been doing it, I'm going
to go for it.
The second part is thestructure.
Okay, well, what are thoseactions going to look like?
What am I going to hold myselfaccountable to?
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What am I going to allow othersto hold me accountable to.
That's the fire, the fire ofaccountability, the fire of
dharma right, your joy and yourduty.
So here I am, stepping intothat fire.
Thank you for listening to mesharing from my heart today.
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I know this is a little bitdifferent, but it feels nice to
connect with you.
I hope that you got somethingout of listening today.
The main thing that I got fromhaving this conversation with
you today is to stop hiding, togo for it.
Any excuses that I have arejust a facade, just a way to
(25:44):
hide, and I fool myself intothinking they're true.
So I invite you to take theleap.
As Caesar from 2018 said,whatever that thing is, go for
it.
I know it's there in your heart.
If you sit with yourself foreven 15 minutes, with your eyes
closed, in a meditation, askingyourself what's really here?
(26:05):
What does my soul want toexpress?
What does my heart want toexpress to the world?
What do I want to leave behindbefore I die?
I promise you you'll findsomething.
So, whatever that is, go for it.
Thank you for listening.
I love you.
(26:25):
Bye-bye, until next time.
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