Loving People From a Distance!

Loving from a distance is a powerful act of self-preservation that requires emotional strength and genuine self-love. Setting boundaries with those who repeatedly hurt you or drain your energy isn't about being bitter or holding grudges—it's about protecting your peace while still caring about them.

• Not everyone you love needs to have access to your life, heart, or peace
• Distance becomes necessary when you've been hurt repeatedly by the same person
• Some people don't respect your growth and may even resent your changes
• Love without boundaries can become toxic and harmful to your wellbeing
• Boundaries don't mean loving less—they mean loving smarter
• Being clear about why you need distance helps maintain your resolve
• Don't feel guilty about protecting your energy and emotional limits
• Maintain kindness without deep engagement
• Let go of fantasies about who you wish people were
• Emotional stress from difficult relationships manifests as physical health problems
• Peace is the proof that distancing was the right decision

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, hey, hey, loves.
Welcome back to another episodeof Love Our Talks.
I am your host, k-love.
It's where we dive into allthings juicy about love, dating,
entertainment, wellness okay,so we are diving into something
so deep.
Today we're talking aboutsomething that takes maturity,
emotional strength and realself-love yes, real self-love.

(00:29):
We're talking about lovingpeople from a distance, because
the truth is not everyone youlove needs to have access to
your life, your heart or yourpeace, because sometimes the
healthiest thing you can do islove someone without sitting at
their table, answering theircalls or letting them live
rent-free in your mind.
Now you still care, yeah, andyou still wish them well, but

(00:54):
for your own protection, you gotto keep your distance.
So we want to talk about whatit means to really like love
from a distance.
And loving from a distancedoesn't mean that you're bitter.
No, not at all.
It doesn't mean you're holdinga grudge.
It means you've acceptedsomeone for who they are and

(01:15):
what they're not, and you'rechoosing peace over proximity.
It means saying, hey look, Ilove you, but I won't let you
drain me and I care about you,but I can't keep putting myself
in harm's way emotionally, yeah.
So why distance is sometimesnecessary, one thing being

(01:42):
because you've been hurt way toomany times from that friend,
that sibling, that family memberwho keeps crossing the same
line over and over again and atsome point you stop waiting for
them to change and startchanging the level of access
they have to you.
You got to do that.
The second thing is becausepeople, they don't respect your

(02:05):
growth.
No, some people don't grow withyou and, worse, they resent the
fact that you're changing,you're growing.
They don't like that.
You can still love them, butyou don't need to shrink
yourself to stay close.
You don't have to do that.
The third thing is because lovewithout boundaries see that

(02:27):
becomes toxic.
You can love someone deeply andstill say I can't keep letting
this energy into my space.
Boundaries mean you love less.
It don't mean that.
Boundaries don't mean you loveless.
They just mean that you'reloving smarter.

(02:49):
That's all and it's okay.
So I want to tell you a littlebit about a personal story.
I have to give you just alittle tidbit.
But I had someone I love dearly.
Right, we had history, you knowjust deep connections, so much
we shared together.

(03:09):
But every time we interactedit's like I left feeling drained
, small or second guessingmyself and I kept giving you
know, chance after chance,hoping that they change.
But and then one day I realizedthis love was costing me too

(03:31):
much.
So I just, you know, I juststopped arguing, I stopped
trying to explain and I steppedback.
You know I stepped back.
It wasn't in anger, but itstill, you know, it was in love,
love for myself.
And let me tell you, choosingpeace saved me.

(03:55):
Yeah, because all that causesstress.
It causes stress in your wholeentire body, which you don't
need to imbalance your body oversomeone else's stress.
No.
So how to love someone from adistance and still keep your
peace?

(04:15):
Let me tell you, let me giveyou the steps.
One thing is be clear about whyyou need distance, because it's
not for them, it's for you.
Get honest about how theirpresence affects your spirit,
okay.
Second thing is don't feelguilty about protecting your

(04:35):
energy.
You're not a bad person forcreating space.
You're a better person forhonoring your emotional limits.
Third thing is maintainkindness.
Without engagement, you canstill be civil, you can still
smile, you can even say, hey,you know, I love you too, or hey

(04:57):
, I love you, but that doesn'tmean you have to engage like
before.
You know, just be kind but befirm, yeah.
And the fourth thing is let goof that fantasy.
See, we hold on to peoplebecause of you, know, because of
who we wish they were, but whenyou love from a distance, you

(05:24):
accept them for who theyactually are and you move
accordingly.
That's up to you.
Okay, let me just give you alittle quote to hold on to,
right?
So distance doesn't meandisconnection, it actually means
protection.
You can love people withoutletting them sit in the front

(05:48):
row of your life, withoutletting them sit in the front
row of your life.
See, peace is the proof thatyou made the right decision.
Y'all, you made the rightdecision.
So if you have experienced anyof these things with your family
members, friends, close friends, like I said, I have definitely

(06:15):
done it many times with peoplekind of like, mainly women in my
life.
Oddly right, but it's beenmainly women in my life that
I've experienced this way.
And so I had to learn the hardway, okay, and my hard way was
going through stress, ok, and myheart rate was going through
stress and my body was takingthe beating from all of that.

(06:36):
And I think I've told you in mylast episode I'm still getting
back to recovering from a lot ofthat stress emotional stress
but that emotional stress turnsinto physical because now it's
affecting your physical.
So just be mindful of how youinteract with people, because

(07:07):
certain people can be triggersto your emotional state of being
.
So I had to learn that the hardway.
Like I said, and um, if you takeanything from this, please
protect your peace and setboundaries with people.
And um, if you know someonethat's listening right now and
thinking of someone that you hadto like step away from, just

(07:30):
know this.
You are not wrong forprotecting your heart.
Loving from a distance is anact of grace.
It means you're choosing tohonor both your love and your
limits.
Like I said, you may knowsomeone that's going through
something like this or what haveyou?

(07:50):
Share this podcast with them?
Ok, because this could actuallyhelp someone out.
It can help save their life.
You know, literally, becausestress is that silent killer and
emotional stress.
You don't even sometimes reallyrealize that you actually are
internalizing this emotionalstress.

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Protect your peace Again.

(10:06):
Love with boundaries All right,and I'll see you next time.
We love our talks, bye.