#218: Want to Save Your Relationship? Change the Questions You’re Asking (with Topaz Adizes)

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Do you feel like you and your partner are growing apart? Like no matter how much you try, the connection you once had is slipping through your fingers? Maybe conversations feel repetitive, like you’re stuck in the same arguments, or worse, like you’re just roommates, living parallel lives under the same roof.

If you’ve ever wondered:

• Why does my partner seem distant?
• How do I bring back the spark in my relationship?
• What should I do if my partner won’t open up?
• Is emotional intimacy something we can rebuild, or is it too late?

Then this episode is for you.

Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for people at a relationship crossroads, where emotional distance, conflict, and uncertainty don’t have to mean the end, but an opportunity to create something new. I’m Staci Bartley, a relationship mentor who’s spent over a decade helping couples navigate the hardest moments of love, alongside my husband and co-host, Tom, and our daughter, Brooke.

Today, we’re joined by Topaz Adizes, creator of The And, an Emmy Award-winning project that has helped thousands of couples reconnect by asking the right questions, the ones that cut through the tension and lead to real, vulnerable conversations.

Could the secret to saving your relationship lie not in fighting harder for answers, but in learning how to ask better questions?

If you’re desperate to reconnect but don’t know where to start, this episode will show you the simple but powerful way to rebuild trust, intimacy, and emotional closeness, starting today.

🎧 Tune in now and discover how the right questions could change everything.

Timestamps: 

01:19 Meet Topaz Adias: Master of Human Connection

02:59 Discovering a Passion for Intimate Conversations

04:34 The Essence of Teamwork and Connection

07:09 Navigating Relationship Challenges

12:47 The Importance of Emotional Weightlifting

16:37 Identifying and Addressing Toxic Relationships

21:50 Making the Decision to Let Go

24:26 Embracing Completion in Relationships

27:20 Crafting Quality Questions

29:14 The Science of Constructive Questions

39:59 Exploring Anger and Emotional Management

43:43 Resources and Final Thoughts

🌟 Learn more about Topaz and his incredible work:

🔗 Visit The Skin Deep: https://www.theskindeep.com

📖 Get Topaz’s Book: 12 Questions for Love: https://www.theskindeep.com/products/12-questions-for-love-book

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