#221: The 3 Communication Patterns That Are Making Space Worse (And What to Do Instead)

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You’re giving them space… but it’s starting to feel like emotional quicksand. You don’t know what to say, so you say nothing. Or maybe you say everything and still feel unheard. You reread old texts. Obsess over their social media. Wonder if reaching out will push them away, or if staying silent makes it seem like you’ve stopped caring.

Sound familiar?

This is Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone standing at a relationship crossroads, where every conversation feels like walking on eggshells, and the dream of closeness feels more out of reach by the day. If you want to stop guessing and start rebuilding something real, you’re in the right place.

In this episode, we’re unpacking the 3 emotional survival patterns that silently wreck communication during space and separation, even when you’re trying to do everything right.

So ask yourself:

Are you a Controller, a Collapser, or a Drifter?

And once you know… what should you do differently?

You’ll learn how these patterns show up in your texts, your silences, your attempts to reconnect, and most importantly, how to shift into conversations that actually heal instead of hurt.

If you’ve been feeling like you’re losing them and losing yourself at the same time, this one’s for you.

🎧 Press play, your clarity starts here.

Timestamps:
01:24 The Three Communication Patterns
03:40 Pattern 1: The Controller
13:31 Pattern 2: The Collapser
20:56 Pattern 3: The Drifter
24:07 Embracing Your Pattern and Moving Forward
29:21 Separation Communication Playbook
31:58 Tantrum Tamer 3000
33:40 Closing Thoughts and Resources

👉 Ready to stop making things worse during space and finally understand what’s actually going on?

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This isn’t just a quiz. It’s your roadmap out of confusion and into clarity, with real scripts and next steps to help you reconnect without pushing them away.

🎯 Don’t wait. Most couples spend years stuck in the same painful loop. Let’s break yours today.

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