Feeling close but not connected? You talk, you share a couch, you share a life… and yet the room feels cold. This episode of Love Shack Live is for anyone at a relationship crossroads who’s worn down by daily conflict and a widening emotional gap, but still wants a bond that feels genuine and lasting.
This special replay comes straight from the Better Love Club. Tom and I are in Italy scouting a venue for our 2026 couples retreat, and we pulled this teaching so you can practice connection skills today. Student voices are removed. It’s just the lesson.
Here’s the big question we’ll answer: If connection is created, not found, what happens the moment you stop performing and share one true sentence instead?
Inside, you’ll learn:
- Three simple ways to let someone actually find you: a present-moment truth, a short personal story, and a deep value or desire.
- Why pleasing, sameness, and constant agreement quietly stall intimacy.
- A grounding breath practice to slow your nervous system so real conversation can start.
- How to make small moves that change the room without turning it into a debate.
Stay to the end for a simple script you can try tonight. One sentence. Real connection. Let’s practice.
Resources Mentioned:
- Masterclass: "What to Say (and Not Say) During Space" $39: https://stacibartley.com/on-demand-masterclass
- 30-Day Love in Limbo Roadmap: https://stacibartley.com/30-day-roadmap
Timesamps:
02:34 Breathing Exercise for Presence
04:31 Defining Connection vs. Talking
05:35 The Role of Vulnerability
10:07 Practicing Connection: Group Activity
20:26 Sharing Personal Stories
26:15 Final Thoughts and Wrap-Up
28:07 Closing Remarks and Future Events
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