Living together but feeling miles apart.
You still share a home. Maybe even a bed. But the real stuff, the fears, the wants, the touch, has gone quiet. You keep telling yourself, “It’s just a phase.” But deep down, you know the distance isn’t shrinking.
This episode is for that moment.
I’m Staci Bartley, here with my partner Tom and our daughter Brooke. Inside Love Shack Live, we help people who are stuck between holding on and letting go. People who are trying to give space without losing themselves and still hoping for a way back to connection.
Today we’re answering real questions from people who took The Surviving Space Self-Assessment. These are the questions that come up when love feels uncertain but not over.
We’ll talk about:
- What a healthy amount of space looks like when you’re still living together
- Why people say they’ll change but almost never follow through
- How to talk about what you want without pushing your partner away
- How to express your feelings without it turning into a fight
- How to keep moving forward when everything feels upside down
- And whether a relationship can really survive after infidelity
The truth
Space isn’t the enemy. Disconnection is.
And you can rebuild connection, even in the middle of the mess, if you learn to speak in ways that feel safe instead of reactive.
Want more support?
Our live 30-Day Roadmap has closed, but the Self-Paced version is open. You’ll get the same daily lessons plus four Monday night Better Love Club calls where you can get live help while you move through the program at your own pace.
You don’t have to do this alone.
Start anytime at stacibartley.com/30-day-roadmap.
Want a starting point first? Take The Surviving Space Self-Assessment to see where you are and what to work on next here: https://space-assessment.scoreapp.com/
Timestamps:
03:35 Navigating In-Home Separation
10:11 The Challenge of Follow-Through
17:31 Personal Struggles and Emotional Safety
26:06 Creating Internal Motivation
27:12 Discussing Desires Without Pushing Away
29:16 Expressing Feelings Positively
31:36 Taking Steps Forward in Tough Times
35:45 Surviving Infidelity
38:15 The Importance of Relationship Skills
47:58 Humor and Creativity in Emotional Regulation
50:53 Conclusion and Resources
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