When Comfort Turns to Chaos: Midlife Dating, Bad Ass Bitches, and the Emasculation of Men

Brittani Ard, host of You Probably Think This Story's About You, joins Jake and Michele on lovelustfridays for a raw and thoughtful conversation about trauma, relationships, and the emotional weight of storytelling. She opens up about her transition from a career in architecture to podcasting, and the lessons she's learned along the way. The discussion dives into the complexities of dating in midlife—particularly for strong, independent women—touching on breakups, emotional boundaries, and the process of unintentionally emasculating men. Brit also reflects on how independence can sometimes hinder connection, and why taking small, intentional steps back into the dating world can be so valuable.

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Brittani Ard  – Links
Website: https://brittaniard.com/
Podcast: “You Probably Think This Story’s About You”
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Instagram https://www.instagram.com/brittani.ard/

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Michele Locke
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Haley Gray | Producer & Researcher
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www.HaleyGrayResearch.com 
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