Let Him Lead or Let Him Go: why we're done chasing, proving, and doing the most in dating

Sofia and Adri crack open the raw realities of modern dating and what it really means to let a man lead - or lovingly let him go. Adri shares her latest Facebook Dating adventures (yes, it’s giving plot twists 😅), and the duo dives deep into the patterns that keep women stuck in “pick me” energy.

Together, they explore how learning to receive love, regulate your emotions, and set actual standards (not just hopeful expectations) can completely transform your love life. From childhood wounds to inner child healing, from shadow work to self-soothing, this episode is your permission slip to stop over-functioning, reclaim your feminine essence, and embody your worth like the goddess you are 💖

VIBE: Standards high. Journals open. Hearts healing.

TAKEAWAYS:

👉 Men should lead - and if they’re not, it’s your cue to gracefully exit

👉 “Pick me” energy is rooted in a lack of self-worth and a hunger for external validation

👉 Sitting in discomfort is sacred  it’s where your growth and boundaries are born

👉 Detachment isn’t cold - it’s clarity. Let it guide you

👉 Shadow work and inner child healing = the keys to calling in aligned love

JOURNAL PROMPTS:

• What is the type of love I deserve? What does that look like in someone else’s behavior? How does receiving that type of love feel in my body?

• When am I allowing myself to engage in relationships that are out of alignment with how I deserve to be loved?

• Where in my life did I learn I needed to do the most in order to be loved? 

• How can I soothe that version of me to receive love just for being me?

• What are 3 ways a secure, emotionally available man would naturally pursue me?

• What do I fear will happen if I stop leading, texting, or initiating?

• How does trying to "make it work" actually block me from seeing if it is working?

• Where in my dating life do I feel like I’m over-functioning? What would it feel like to soften?

• What does it feel like in my body when someone is actually showing up for me? Do I trust it?

• How can I soothe myself without needing to control the outcome of a connection?

• What would I say or do differently if I trusted that the right love can’t be lost?

  
  

✨ “Just because you can do it all, doesn’t mean you should” ✨

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Keywords: dating, relationships, self-worth, pick me energy, emotional regulation, feminine energy, healing, standards, Facebook Dating, shadow work, journaling, self-love