This episode is one of the more powerful messages we have offered to the world: the most impactful thing you can do during challenging times is to shift your consciousness back into the frequency of love - gratitude is the way. The world is breaking open so that the light can come into those cracks; don't identify with, feed, or become the crack. Choose to love consciously and be the light that transforms and transmutes the suffering. Everything is an inside job: everything is an act of love or a cry for love. Be that love friend.
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When we vibrate at a state of gratitude, we are automatically accepting the present moment
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in all of its glory, in all of its messiness, for exactly what it is, meaning it with unconditional
love and returning us to our natural state of love.
Everything is perfectly designed, even the suffering, to bring us back home to love.
There's already enough suffering in it.
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It is our job to find the meaning, to choose the love, and to come back to gratitude.
Because with every loss, there is space.
And in that space, there is something that is looking to be created.
We are being called to rise up, to level up, to choose a higher perspective, to stop feeding
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our own chaos, wherein myself is asking to be healed.
Everything is here to be loved.
Everything is either an act of love or a cry for love.
We are cracking open this world right now, and these systems, and this corruption, and
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all of these things, so that the light can go in.
Do not get lost in the crack and the breaking.
Do not become the breaking.
Be the light that goes into that break and transforms it and transmutes it with love.
We use gratitude to then fuel our passions for making a change.
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We can only make a change when we are living from a place of love.
Welcome home to the Loving Consciously podcast.
My name is Amaris, and my name is Eric.
And if you are like us, nobody taught you how to love.
We are best friends and life partners here to vulnerably and authentically share our
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journey while exploring the sacred realms of love, consciousness, relationships, spirituality,
and all that they encompass.
The intention of this show is to help you consciously relate to yourself, others, and
everything else in this universe.
Together, we can embody a more intentional and fulfilling way of giving and receiving
love.
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Loving Consciously.
Through eight years together, we have had the opportunity to overcome deep patterning
and programming, as well as trauma related to mental health, addiction, pregnancy loss,
infidelity, and immense grief.
After six years of experiencing these challenges with no knowledge on how to heal or love each
other, we separated.
After us both spiritually awakening and recommitting, we formed our conscious partnership and have
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spent the last two years cultivating a divine union founded on unconditional love, devotion,
and commitment to personal growth.
Thank you for joining us and doing the work alongside us as we explore this beautiful
world of love and consciousness to co-create a new world of love.
As you courageously walk this path, remember to have grace with yourself and know that
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you have both the capacity to love consciously and the power to always choose love.
Namaste and welcome back to the Loving Consciously podcast.
This is Episode 40 and today we have a bit of a different and really important message
for you all.
We are going to be saving our personal updates for the end because we really want to get
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to the message and the center point of this episode right away.
Today we're going to be talking about gratitude and I want to start with a little bit of a
disclaimer that this episode is probably going to be a little bit tough.
You know, we are in an unprecedented time right now as a species, as a collective on
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this planet.
We are living through some really challenging times and looking at that and inviting ourselves
to find purpose and meaning in the chaos and to choose a higher perspective is a very difficult
thing to do.
It's something that Eric and I are pretty adept at doing in our lives over the last
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few years that we've been cultivating it and it's still really challenging.
And so I want to save space first and foremost for the humaneness and the messiness and the
chaos that is the world right now.
You know, we are seeing unprecedented natural disasters and war and famine and chaos, corruption,
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so much truth is coming to light, you know, about the fluoride in our water and the poison
in our American food system and other things that I don't want to mention on this show.
And you know, it's just a lot.
It's a lot.
So before we sit here and go into offering this higher perspective and offering this
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message of hope and of love around choosing gratitude, I really want you all to know if
you're listening to this, we are in this with you, we are not perfect, and we are just offering
what we believe and know in our experience to be a way out.
And so please receive this message with the utmost love and know that it comes with good
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intentions and a direct request from the divine to put this message out there and really
encourage people right now to remember gratitude.
You put it so perfectly in the episode title in that gratitude delivers us to love.
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Gratitude is a very palpable human experience that I think that we can all relate to.
We walked a journey through suffering for a long time and I can tell you from my personal
experience that gratitude is the key.
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It is that key that unlocks the door out of the negative emotions and those lower vibrational
states and returns us into truth, into love, because gratitude by its very definition is
being grateful for what is.
When we vibrate at a state of gratitude, we are automatically accepting the present moment
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in all of its glory, in all of its messiness for exactly what it is, meaning with unconditional
love and returning us to our natural state of love and being in awe of the Creator, because
everything is perfectly designed, even the suffering, to bring us back home to love.
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When I think about suffering, I think about resistance.
Suffering to me is just resistance to what is.
And something I really want to vulnerably share before we kind of get deeper into this
is for me, looking at the world right now, I see it on social media, I see it out in
the world, etc., of people seeing the stories of what other people are going through and
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then entering into a state of suffering themselves.
This is so upsetting.
We see the stories about North Carolina or we see the stories about the war and genocide
and all of these things that are going on.
And then people then take on that suffering.
This is so unfair, you know, and enter that vibration with them.
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And that's a natural, that's a natural experience, right?
I'm a human.
I see some of these things and sometimes I need to just sit and cry with them for a
minute.
I need to let the emotion flow through me.
The problem lies in when we attach to that and we make it our experience.
And that seems to be a lot of what I'm seeing these days is a lot of people saying, I'm
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so upset, I'm so depressed, this is so terrible, how could this be happening?
Our government is failing these people, whatever it is, and becoming that experience.
And so if any of that resonates, and I know you have an example to share where this manifested
in your life yesterday, leading to this episode, if that resonates in any way in your experience,
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please remember what someone else is going through.
Sinking it with your own suffering is not helping them.
It's not helping the world and it's not helping you and all of the people around you.
Maybe you have children you care for, a partner, family members.
When we are sinking into those experiences and those vibrations, we are now creating
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it in our experience.
And so we've effectively taken this experience that's happening over here and we are spreading
it kind of like a virus, right?
Creating it like a suffering emotional virus.
Our work as conscious people, as people of this planet, as light beings, beings of love,
whatever you want to call yourself, our work is to remember that that is not our experience,
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it is not our emotion to take on, and that the most important thing that we can do is
do our own work to check our own emotions and projections and biases and unresolved
trauma and choose love, choose gratitude.
Because sending those people love, sending our government officials love, sending both
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sides of a war, love is what gets us out of this.
That's what starts to heal the consciousness problem.
But sending anger and hate and bitterness and resentment and sadness and oppression, that
is feeding the problem.
100%, it's feeding the beast.
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And that is what we are here as conscious people on this planet to do, is to change our mindset
collectively.
And it's natural for us to feel that experience when we see our brothers and sisters in suffering.
It would be unnatural not to, right?
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That's empathy at its finest.
It's seeing someone else's experience and feeling it as our own because we're all connected.
Now we've all been trained that that is the loving thing to do, that if we see somebody
suffering then we also have to suffer along with them.
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Because then we're right there with them, right?
We're holding that frequency with them, we're in support because we're suffering.
But what does that really contribute to this world?
More suffering.
It just begets more suffering.
We can understand and empathize with somebody's experience of suffering and then bring love
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to them.
Instead, that is a higher perspective.
That is supporting somebody else.
I think it's really important as well to invite a more zoomed out perspective of how
much of that suffering is real and how much of that suffering is perceived.
We all have our own paths to walk.
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The things that we've chosen to come down here and experience and learn for our soul's
evolution, for the planet's evolution.
We could never know from our limited human perspective of this one perspective out of
infinite perspectives and possibilities what someone is experiencing or what they chose
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to experience or what they needed to experience.
Maybe to clear karma or to be on the other side of something in another lifetime that
they caused.
It's metaphysically and spiritually speaking, it's a very complex situation.
So if we can just zoom out and bring that higher state of thinking to something, contemplating
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where is their suffering and where am I projecting suffering and just coming back into our own
experience.
So much of my life, most of my life other than the last two to three years, was spent
in suffering.
In thinking I was a victim, suffering through the system, suffering through addiction, suffering
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through abuse, suffering through insert blank, even in this relationship, suffering.
I'm a victim.
I'm a victim of your actions.
I look back on my life now and all of the hardest moments of my life from my miscarriage
to my father passing away to being imprisoned to losses in my life are hands down the best
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things that ever happened to me.
I know exactly why they happened.
I know that they needed to happen.
I needed those experiences.
I needed that suffering to wake me up, to remind me of love because suffering is a choice.
It's a choice.
I was creating those narratives.
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I can look at my miscarriage and say I'm a victim and this is this horrific thing that's
happening to me and why me and be angry and be in all of those emotions, which I did for
quite some time and it did not serve me.
It drove me further into the suffering or I can be where I am now looking at that miscarriage
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and being grateful.
I am so grateful that my daughter came down and fulfilled that soul contract with me so
that I could experience what I needed to grow and wake me up.
I am grateful that that pregnancy didn't go full term because I was riddled with toxins
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in my body, in my mind, and in my heart.
I was not living a conscious and healthy life.
So I'm grateful that I'm able to get pregnant.
I'm grateful for all that I learned from that about what kind of mother I want to be now,
what kind of temple I want to create now.
And had I not gone through that experience, I wouldn't be having the outright mystically
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beautiful preconception phase that I'm having right now, consciously connecting with my womb,
doing womb work, doing intentional things in my mind and my body and my soul and my
home to be prepared for a child.
Rather than just, I love you and I want a baby so let's get pregnant, right?
So we can see how that experience was necessary and how I can be grateful for it now.
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When my father passed away, which if you're not familiar with my story, at the time was
a murder investigation, he was in his 40s, very young, it was really sudden and it was
really tragic at the time.
I'm an only child and I was dealing with his estate and it absolutely destroyed my world.
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It was the catalyst almost four years ago that started my awakening journey.
And look at that, my father's death was not meaningless.
My father's death started my awakening journey.
The most profound thing that my soul is going to experience in this lifetime, his death
started that.
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That was the catalyst for that.
And obviously at the time it was horrific and it took me years, almost two years to
reach a perspective.
But today I'm so grateful for that.
I'm so grateful for the strength that I got from that experience.
I'm so grateful for the healthy relationship I have with grief now because of that experience.
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But more than anything, I'm grateful I had a father and I choose to focus on that.
And the key message I hope that you all take home today and I know you have a lot to share
on this with your example is it's being grateful for what there is to be grateful for.
It's not dismissing or ignoring what hurts.
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Does it hurt that my father passed away?
Of course.
I miss him so much.
And it's still hard all these years later.
I still have times where I think of my miscarriage and the hope that was that pregnancy and feel
a little sad.
That's just the humanness of it.
I'm not saying that's not there.
I'm saying I choose consciously to allow that motion to pass through me for a minute,
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five minutes an hour, whatever it needs, and then choose gratitude.
Okay, I've allowed that emotion real quickly to go through me in whatever way it needed
to, cried out, screamed out, and now I'm back to being grateful.
Thank you, Dad, for all that you taught me.
Thank you for all that you left me.
Thank you for all that you bestowed upon me with your wisdom and your DNA.
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Thank you, daughter, for the three, almost four months I did have with you.
They were magical, and I'm so grateful that I got to experience that with you.
And I know you'll be back, right?
She's coming back.
I'll see my dad again.
Their energy lives on, and it's so much bigger than me.
And so that's the key point I want to drive home here, and I'll pass it off to you, is
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it's not about dismissing what's going on in the world right now, what people may be
experiencing in this war or this disaster or this political situation.
It's about consciously choosing to focus our energy on what there is to be grateful for.
Thank you.
We have to be wary of the bypassing during this time, because yes, there's the whole
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love and light movement of everything is love and everything is light.
Yes, it's true.
And we are here on this planet, and this planet has density to it.
And there are experiences of suffering here.
The issue is, like you said earlier, when we resist the suffering, because suffering
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is not inherently bad.
It is actually our greatest gift.
It is our greatest teacher, because it pushes us out of our comfortability and into the
unknown pushes us to grow.
We are in spiritual war right now.
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And in spiritual war, like any other war, there are casualties.
How we deal with grief matters, because it speaks to how we honor the souls that have
moved on from this plane.
The energy and the frequency that we choose to hold in their memory speaks to what we
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are creating on this planet.
You know, it really sparked this deep contemplation of gratitude for me, was hearing one of these
stories of North Carolina, of deep grief and deep visceral loss that really moved me.
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When I was driving and noticed myself start to go into these lower frequencies, the same
ones that I felt when we went through our grief experiences, of anger, at deep sadness,
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and I paused.
I felt them in my body, and I asked myself, is this serving me and my experience right
now, driving with my partner?
Is me being sad, helping anybody experiencing a natural disaster?
Or is it pulling me away from what I have to offer, which is love, which is the ability
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to bring the experience that we have with grief to you all, so that you can understand
that there is a way forward, and that way forward is love, and the way we get to love
is through gratitude?
You know, something that is kind of dawning on me right now, and we didn't even really
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talk about this before this episode is grief, and collectively the grief that we are navigating
right now.
You know, if you've been around for our story, maybe you haven't, maybe you've heard the
intro of this show.
We say immense grief.
We name off a bunch of things in our experience we've had the blessing to work on overcoming
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together, like trauma, and patterning, and mental health, addiction, etc., infidelity,
but the one thing that we added an extra word to was grief, immense grief.
Between my father, two of your uncles, our pregnancy, a couple of friends, a couple of
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extended family members, we had almost double digit losses in under a year.
Several of them very traumatic and tragic, and that grief is not something that we talk
about much on this show.
You know, we really do try to amplify love and consciousness and things that support
and expand them, and this is the one episode where I feel like we can really just kind
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of be in that, and be in that humaneness, because grief is very real.
We are all connected, and so maybe you find yourself hearing a story or reading a news
story like Eric did yesterday, and immediately just feeling this immense grief and not really
understanding why, because we don't know these people, right?
We are all one, we are all connected.
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We are all one big human family, and so what our brothers and sisters are going through
in North Carolina, or in the Middle East, or anywhere else, it does affect us.
And the most powerful thing that we can do is return that energy with love, with positivity,
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with gratitude.
We honor their experiences and their lives by choosing to live on, by choosing to build
something that is better, by choosing to contribute to a world where these things don't have to
exist anymore, where I promise you they don't exist anymore.
Because there is a way out of this, we do get out of this, the light does win.
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And the grief is very real, and it's two people who have had an extensive history with grief.
My hearts go out to everyone out there that is being impacted by all that's happening.
I wish I could tell you it's going to get easier, it's going to get a little worse before
it gets better.
We are purging, we are squeezing the pus out of the infection, and that is necessary, that
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is necessary to move forward.
We have got to stay out of the low energetics, the anger and the fear and the bitterness
and the bickering on the internet and all of those things sucking into the news, it's
not serving us right now.
And so maybe you're not doing those things, maybe you're just someone that's just like
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us and is just feeling that sadness, consciously work with that, consciously choose to feel
it in a healthy way, release it and then send it love, send it gratitude, you know, send
it service, send it whatever you can to help because love is infinitely more powerful.
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You will find a plethora of scientists and spiritual teachers who will try to quantify
this.
They choose to believe that's not quantifiable and it's infinite.
Love is infinitely more powerful than fear or hate or anger or suffering or grief.
And so one person consciously praying and sending love to the people in North Carolina
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or to the other side of the world or the I've lost count of how many wars are going on because
there is no winning in war, right?
There is no bad guy and no victim.
War is war.
War on suffers.
One person beaming conscious and intentional love to that is more powerful than pick whatever
number fancy is your heart.
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Some people say thousands, hundreds of thousands, more powerful than that.
On the flip side, right?
If we turn that around, if you see these things and you sink into anger, and again, we're
not saying feeling good all that's normal, but sink into it, identify with it, become
it.
Spill it out to someone else, spew it out into the collective, the internet, whatever
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it may be.
That now is so impactful.
And now we need another conscious person beaming love to counteract that additional anger.
There's already enough suffering in it.
It is our job to find the meaning, to choose the love and to come back to gratitude.
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When we come back to gratitude, it will deliver us right back to the love.
That right there.
What does that look like?
What is choosing gratitude look like in this moment?
I can tell you from my experience, had you told me that I would look back at the miscarriage
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of our first pregnancy and all the suffering that was experienced there and say that I
was grateful, I probably would have laughed at you because I almost took my own life during
that timeframe.
I was self-imploding and pushing away my partner and living in addictions and just deep, deep
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suffering and had it not been for the immense suffering of that experience, I wouldn't be
who I am today.
I wouldn't have had that push to break out of the negative cycles that I was in.
And so I am grateful for the sole contract that we had with our daughter and for the
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fulfillment of that regardless of the suffering that was experienced on the way.
That's choosing to find the lesson because in every experience of suffering, there is
a lesson there for us.
Right now with all of the chaos that's going on in the world, whether you are actually
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experiencing a natural disaster or war or the grief of losing somebody, a relationship,
a job, whatever it may be, look deeper into what you are being called to, into what is
trying to be birthed into your experience because with every loss there is space and
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in that space there is something that is looking to be created.
So find that and bring that into your experience because that is honoring the grief.
Something you said was about finding the lesson and I think it can be even more than that.
It's not just a lesson, right?
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Finding the opportunity, finding the gratitude.
There's so many different ways to look at this.
There's no one right way.
You know what works for you in your experience.
You are your guru.
You have all of the answers within you right now, anything you're facing to come out on
the other side of that.
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It's just making a different choice.
It's no longer being in the cycle of suffering and I think in so many ways, you know, I know
we were and in some ways we're still are, right?
We're still navigating it, being addicted to our own suffering because that's comfortable,
right?
Pain is predictable.
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What does it look like when we exit that cycle?
What's on the other side?
It's all we've ever known as a species collectively right now.
I speak generally.
We have been living through chaos, albeit many people have been living with their heads
in the sand escaping, ignoring, right?
Ignorance is bliss, consumerism, running the rat race, so tied up and so exhausted that
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they didn't actually ever have time to stop and realize they're not happy, fulfilled.
Why am I on this planet?
What does my soul want?
Not what does society think me as a soul, what do I want?
Why am I here?
How do I cultivate something of meaning for this planet, for the future generations, right?
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We can't live like that anymore.
That's not working.
It's, it just won't work anymore.
And so we are all, every single one of us, none of us are immune to this experience.
We are all being called to more.
We are being called to rise up, to level up, to choose a higher perspective, to stop feeding
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our own chaos, to stop being addicted to the suffering.
I myself think about these things and think, oh, I'm not addicted to the suffering anymore.
I've cracked that code.
I'm here to tell you the last 48 hours humbled us on our asses real quick because we're being
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shown all of the places in our partnership where we are still addicted to the drama.
Maybe suffering and chaos doesn't work for you.
Maybe try the word drama.
For us, we like the drama, right?
The drama feels good.
It's the pasión that's passion in Spanish.
Where am I creating that in my awareness, in my mind?
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Because everything that I'm creating inside of me is being projected out into the world
and vice versa.
The world is just a reflection of what's going on inside of us.
And so the next time that you want to look out at anything in the world, and I'm talking
about some of the deepest and darkest things like child trafficking, that's coming out
right now.
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I'm here to tell you it's about to get a lot heavier because we're just scratching the
surface of what's going on there.
Can we even look at all of these things and see a higher perspective?
Can we zoom out and ask where in myself is asking to be healed?
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Because everything is here to be loved.
Everything is here to be loved.
No matter how bad or dark or evil, it seems it is simply just an absence of love.
We were in church on Sunday and the title of the sermon was, Everything is an Inside
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Job.
And it was a guest speaker and he shared my father's name and he was talking about how
his father had passed away.
And so obviously this really got my attention because I had prayed that morning, God show
us the lesson and the message we need to hear in this sermon.
And as the title goes, Everything is an Inside Job.
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Everything is a call to ourselves.
If I'm upset at someone, there's more in our work to be done.
If I think something is anything other than God's perfect creation, there's more work
to be done.
It's all a call to inside.
But something that this man said that I've definitely heard before and maybe it's just
from this newer state of consciousness, but it absolutely rocked me to my core.
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I saw the few people in this universe right now that I'm not in active, healthy, loving
relationship with.
For all of its intention and perfectness, this man said, Everything is either an act
of love or a cry for love.
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There's nothing else.
If love is the foundation of everything and love is all that there is and God is love
and everything was created by God, then anything that's out of alignment with that is just
a cry for love.
And so war and all of these things that are going on right now are a cry for love.
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You can be that love.
You can be that love.
You can choose to be that.
You can choose that.
You can choose whatever you want.
You have free will.
Do you want to choose anger and do you want to choose to feed the stories and the narratives
and our government this and the war that and this country that and this leader that and
this presidential candidate that do not sink down into that.
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You are a powerful, infinite quantum computer.
You are a creator.
You are the creator manifest experiencing life from your perspective that only you can
do.
What are you creating right now?
Are you creating love?
Are you creating more love for these situations or are you feeding them?
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Thank you for sharing that.
You know, another really beautiful aspect of that sermon that we experienced was that
during that service, the community of the church had somebody volunteering to hold space.
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They called it the high watch.
Somebody meditating and holding the container of everybody in that service in love.
And that is what we are called to do right now during this time of great chaos and suffering
for the greater collective as they go through their process, as we all go through our own
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processes.
We are called to hold a higher vibrational state and hold that container for us to move
into.
And so even if you can't find the lesson, you don't need to know it to be able to send
gratitude.
It can be as simple as, God, thank you.
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Thank you for providing these catalysts to wake more of us up, to return us back to a
state of love.
God, thank you for bringing this darkness out into the light so it can be loved.
I feel like this is one of the core predicaments of the human experience is our egos, our minds
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like to mislead us that we need to know everything, right?
We need to know X thing exists in order for it to exist.
Just because you can't know the lesson right now or the opportunity or how this is going
to serve your evolution, the planet's evolution, our evolution as a species doesn't mean it
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doesn't exist.
If you can just hold on to that right now, something that I have been saying a lot lately
in my life, and they seem minor, right?
It's all relative to our experience.
Right now, this is our home.
This is everything we have.
We literally have nowhere to stay if this trailer is not in good working order.
We literally are towing everything that we own, our home, our puppies, our things.
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When something happens to that, like breaking down in the middle of New York or getting
in an accident, having someone hit your car, that for us is a really big thing.
The call to remember that suffering is relative.
However, something that I have been really strongly cultivating in my life in these
high stress moments or just difficult moments in this partnership especially.
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We have been really being called to level up and transcend some of our core most inner
soul wounds is saying in my head over and over, out loud if I need to.
I don't care if I look like a crazy person on the side of the street in New York and
the rain.
God, I know you're in this.
I know that you're here.
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Maybe I can't see it yet.
I'm willing to allow the possibility and the reality that you're here in this.
You're with me.
You have a plan.
It's way better than my mind can conceive and my human mind and I say childish not in
an immaturity or like a lowering type of way but in a child of the universe way.
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My child like mind wants everything to be perfect and can't conceive like why these things need
to happen, right?
People always say like why does God let bad things happen or why do children need to get
cancer or why does someone need to be sexually assaulted?
We don't need to know why, right?
That's between their soul and their mission and their lessons and the creator and all
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involved.
All we have to do is just for one moment allow the light of consciousness to come in and remind
us.
God is all powerful, all mighty, all seeing, all knowing, all things in and through all
things and there will be beauty and intentionality and grace and mercy that comes from this.
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Just like our miscarriage, just like my father's passing, just like all of the pain and trauma
and chaos and abuse that we bestowed upon each other in this relationship because it
forced us to heal, it forced us to love because we weren't loving before, right?
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It's so easy to look at this and be like oh they're these innocent victims, right?
They don't deserve that.
We're not victims or innocent.
So much of our suffering was self created in this partnership and I look back on it.
I needed that.
You being unfaithful was necessary for me to learn to love myself, to quit giving my
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identity, my power, my happiness and my wholeness away to you, to really feel like I was broken
so that I could be broken, literally open.
There's a book called this, Broken Open.
And it talks about breaking open so that the light can shine into the cracks.
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We have to break to let the light in.
That's just the nature of the human experience.
I didn't make those rules.
I don't fully understand it.
It's why I'm studying metaphysics but that's a really beautiful way of looking at it.
We are cracking open this world right now and these systems and this corruption and
all of these things so that the light can go in.
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Do not get lost in the crack and the breaking.
Do not become the breaking.
Be the light that goes into that break and transforms it and transmutes it with love.
And the answer?
Well how?
How do I do that?
Gratitude.
I'm grateful this corruption is coming to light.
I'm grateful this child trafficking is coming to light so that children can stop having
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to experience this so that we can start talking about these things that we have been hiding
and ignoring because they're too painful to look at.
When we use these things as fuel to build something different, to change the way we relate with
one another and with the world, this is the magic sauce.
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We use gratitude to then fuel our passions for making a change.
That can't happen if we're stuck in sadness or anger or any of the other lower vibrations
like fear.
We can only make a change when we are living from a place of love.
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And that, if anything, please take from this episode.
We need you holding that frequency of love alongside us and alongside our brothers and
sisters because the way that this planet has been living is not sustainable.
And we have an opportunity to make a different choice.
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So thank you for listening to this.
Thank you for doing this work alongside us.
Thank you for choosing love and for seeking gratitude in the storm because I know it is
not an easy thing to do.
But we can do this.
Yes, we can.
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And I know this is a heavy episode.
It's a heavy thing to talk about.
It's heavy stuff we're moving through.
Thank you for listening and doing this work because it's time.
And I'm excited for that.
I'm grateful that we are finally talking about it and finally acknowledging what's always
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been there so that we can make different choices and we can build a different world for our
children.
The most important thing that you can do right now other than choosing love by being in gratitude
is please share this episode.
Share this episode with someone in your life that you see struggling and you see sitting
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in those emotions and just not able to get out of the suffering.
Share it far and wide, friends, because we can uplift the vibration of this planet.
As we do that collectively, choose more love, choose more gratitude, cultivate more joy,
more peace, etc.
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It will quite literally vibrate out everything that's not in alignment.
We are right here alongside you.
We are rooting for you.
We are rooting for humanity.
We are rooting for Mother Earth.
Stay grounded.
Stay in the love, friends.
Gratitude delivers us to love.
You know, this last couple of weeks have been really intense.
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We've been navigating a lot.
We've got a lot of really potent content that's going to be coming out of this timeframe about
core wounds really getting to the root cause of what the heck is causing all of this in
our world.
Why do we have a world of seemingly perceived broken people running around creating chaos
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and hurting each other, healing those core wounds so that we can transcend this stuff?
We've had a lot of opportunities for faith.
You know, we've seen seven states in the last two weeks fallen in love with a couple of
them.
Virginia was amazing.
Philly was amazing.
Cincinnati really stole our hearts.
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We only have eight more states to go.
This journey is almost over.
And then, well, I don't really know what we're going to do.
We haven't quite figured it out yet, but we're chucking along and through multiple breakdowns
and car accidents and just opportunities for surrender and love and faith and gratitude,
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we're feeling it.
You know, we're feeling pretty tired.
We're feeling pretty worn down.
And this last 48 hours has literally been just two inner children crying together and
wanting to give up saying, I'm so tired.
I'm so tired.
We're at war right now and it feels like it right now.
And every single person that I know that I've talked to in the last week says the almost
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same thing.
Holy hell, it's intense right now.
I'm feeling it.
I'm struggling.
I'm going through it.
Catalyst after catalyst after catalyst.
We are in the spiritual gym right now and we are warriors.
We were born for this.
We got this.
We are super quantum galactic machines that can literally move storms.
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And we did on that second hurricane.
You better believe many of us were up very late praying at and for that storm and look
what happened.
We can do this, y'all.
We are in this together.
Gratitude delivers us to love.
Please, please, please, please come be in the love with us.
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We can save space for and empathize with and hold those experiences.
We don't have to become them.
We don't have to feed them.
We will fight this fire with love.
We will win this war with love.
I love you.
We are rooting for you.
We are praying for you.
And just know wherever you are, whatever you're going through, you're not in this alone.
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We got this.
When we vibrate at a state of gratitude, we are automatically accepting the present moment
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in all of its glory, in all of its messiness, for exactly what it is, meaning it with unconditional
love and returning us to our natural state of love.
Everything is perfectly designed, even the suffering, to bring us back home to love.
There's already enough suffering in it.
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It is our job to find the meaning, to choose the love, and to come back to gratitude.
Because with every loss, there is space.
And in that space, there is something that is looking to be created.
We are being called to rise up, to level up, to choose a higher perspective, to stop feeding
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our own chaos, wherein myself is asking to be healed.
Everything is here to be loved.
Everything is either an act of love or a cry for love.
We are cracking open this world right now, and these systems, and this corruption, and
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all of these things, so that the light can go in.
Do not get lost in the crack and the breaking.
Do not become the breaking.
Be the light that goes into that break and transforms it and transmutes it with love.
We use gratitude to then fuel our passions for making a change.
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We can only make a change when we are living from a place of love.
Welcome home to the Loving Consciously podcast.
My name is Amaris, and my name is Eric.
And if you are like us, nobody taught you how to love.
We are best friends and life partners here to vulnerably and authentically share our
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journey while exploring the sacred realms of love, consciousness, relationships, spirituality,
and all that they encompass.
The intention of this show is to help you consciously relate to yourself, others, and
everything else in this universe.
Together, we can embody a more intentional and fulfilling way of giving and receiving
love.
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Loving Consciously.
Through eight years together, we have had the opportunity to overcome deep patterning
and programming, as well as trauma related to mental health, addiction, pregnancy loss,
infidelity, and immense grief.
After six years of experiencing these challenges with no knowledge on how to heal or love each
other, we separated.
After us both spiritually awakening and recommitting, we formed our conscious partnership and have
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spent the last two years cultivating a divine union founded on unconditional love, devotion,
and commitment to personal growth.
Thank you for joining us and doing the work alongside us as we explore this beautiful
world of love and consciousness to co-create a new world of love.
As you courageously walk this path, remember to have grace with yourself and know that
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you have both the capacity to love consciously and the power to always choose love.
Namaste and welcome back to the Loving Consciously podcast.
This is Episode 40 and today we have a bit of a different and really important message
for you all.
We are going to be saving our personal updates for the end because we really want to get
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to the message and the center point of this episode right away.
Today we're going to be talking about gratitude and I want to start with a little bit of a
disclaimer that this episode is probably going to be a little bit tough.
You know, we are in an unprecedented time right now as a species, as a collective on
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this planet.
We are living through some really challenging times and looking at that and inviting ourselves
to find purpose and meaning in the chaos and to choose a higher perspective is a very difficult
thing to do.
It's something that Eric and I are pretty adept at doing in our lives over the last
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few years that we've been cultivating it and it's still really challenging.
And so I want to save space first and foremost for the humaneness and the messiness and the
chaos that is the world right now.
You know, we are seeing unprecedented natural disasters and war and famine and chaos, corruption,
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so much truth is coming to light, you know, about the fluoride in our water and the poison
in our American food system and other things that I don't want to mention on this show.
And you know, it's just a lot.
It's a lot.
So before we sit here and go into offering this higher perspective and offering this
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message of hope and of love around choosing gratitude, I really want you all to know if
you're listening to this, we are in this with you, we are not perfect, and we are just offering
what we believe and know in our experience to be a way out.
And so please receive this message with the utmost love and know that it comes with good
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intentions and a direct request from the divine to put this message out there and really
encourage people right now to remember gratitude.
You put it so perfectly in the episode title in that gratitude delivers us to love.
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Gratitude is a very palpable human experience that I think that we can all relate to.
We walked a journey through suffering for a long time and I can tell you from my personal
experience that gratitude is the key.
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It is that key that unlocks the door out of the negative emotions and those lower vibrational
states and returns us into truth, into love, because gratitude by its very definition is
being grateful for what is.
When we vibrate at a state of gratitude, we are automatically accepting the present moment
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in all of its glory, in all of its messiness for exactly what it is, meaning with unconditional
love and returning us to our natural state of love and being in awe of the Creator, because
everything is perfectly designed, even the suffering, to bring us back home to love.
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When I think about suffering, I think about resistance.
Suffering to me is just resistance to what is.
And something I really want to vulnerably share before we kind of get deeper into this
is for me, looking at the world right now, I see it on social media, I see it out in
the world, etc., of people seeing the stories of what other people are going through and
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then entering into a state of suffering themselves.
This is so upsetting.
We see the stories about North Carolina or we see the stories about the war and genocide
and all of these things that are going on.
And then people then take on that suffering.
This is so unfair, you know, and enter that vibration with them.
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And that's a natural, that's a natural experience, right?
I'm a human.
I see some of these things and sometimes I need to just sit and cry with them for a
minute.
I need to let the emotion flow through me.
The problem lies in when we attach to that and we make it our experience.
And that seems to be a lot of what I'm seeing these days is a lot of people saying, I'm
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so upset, I'm so depressed, this is so terrible, how could this be happening?
Our government is failing these people, whatever it is, and becoming that experience.
And so if any of that resonates, and I know you have an example to share where this manifested
in your life yesterday, leading to this episode, if that resonates in any way in your experience,
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please remember what someone else is going through.
Sinking it with your own suffering is not helping them.
It's not helping the world and it's not helping you and all of the people around you.
Maybe you have children you care for, a partner, family members.
When we are sinking into those experiences and those vibrations, we are now creating
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it in our experience.
And so we've effectively taken this experience that's happening over here and we are spreading
it kind of like a virus, right?
Creating it like a suffering emotional virus.
Our work as conscious people, as people of this planet, as light beings, beings of love,
whatever you want to call yourself, our work is to remember that that is not our experience,
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it is not our emotion to take on, and that the most important thing that we can do is
do our own work to check our own emotions and projections and biases and unresolved
trauma and choose love, choose gratitude.
Because sending those people love, sending our government officials love, sending both
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sides of a war, love is what gets us out of this.
That's what starts to heal the consciousness problem.
But sending anger and hate and bitterness and resentment and sadness and oppression, that
is feeding the problem.
100%, it's feeding the beast.
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And that is what we are here as conscious people on this planet to do, is to change our mindset
collectively.
And it's natural for us to feel that experience when we see our brothers and sisters in suffering.
It would be unnatural not to, right?
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That's empathy at its finest.
It's seeing someone else's experience and feeling it as our own because we're all connected.
Now we've all been trained that that is the loving thing to do, that if we see somebody
suffering then we also have to suffer along with them.
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Because then we're right there with them, right?
We're holding that frequency with them, we're in support because we're suffering.
But what does that really contribute to this world?
More suffering.
It just begets more suffering.
We can understand and empathize with somebody's experience of suffering and then bring love
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to them.
Instead, that is a higher perspective.
That is supporting somebody else.
I think it's really important as well to invite a more zoomed out perspective of how
much of that suffering is real and how much of that suffering is perceived.
We all have our own paths to walk.
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The things that we've chosen to come down here and experience and learn for our soul's
evolution, for the planet's evolution.
We could never know from our limited human perspective of this one perspective out of
infinite perspectives and possibilities what someone is experiencing or what they chose
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to experience or what they needed to experience.
Maybe to clear karma or to be on the other side of something in another lifetime that
they caused.
It's metaphysically and spiritually speaking, it's a very complex situation.
So if we can just zoom out and bring that higher state of thinking to something, contemplating
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where is their suffering and where am I projecting suffering and just coming back into our own
experience.
So much of my life, most of my life other than the last two to three years, was spent
in suffering.
In thinking I was a victim, suffering through the system, suffering through addiction, suffering
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through abuse, suffering through insert blank, even in this relationship, suffering.
I'm a victim.
I'm a victim of your actions.
I look back on my life now and all of the hardest moments of my life from my miscarriage
to my father passing away to being imprisoned to losses in my life are hands down the best
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things that ever happened to me.
I know exactly why they happened.
I know that they needed to happen.
I needed those experiences.
I needed that suffering to wake me up, to remind me of love because suffering is a choice.
It's a choice.
I was creating those narratives.
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I can look at my miscarriage and say I'm a victim and this is this horrific thing that's
happening to me and why me and be angry and be in all of those emotions, which I did for
quite some time and it did not serve me.
It drove me further into the suffering or I can be where I am now looking at that miscarriage
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and being grateful.
I am so grateful that my daughter came down and fulfilled that soul contract with me so
that I could experience what I needed to grow and wake me up.
I am grateful that that pregnancy didn't go full term because I was riddled with toxins
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in my body, in my mind, and in my heart.
I was not living a conscious and healthy life.
So I'm grateful that I'm able to get pregnant.
I'm grateful for all that I learned from that about what kind of mother I want to be now,
what kind of temple I want to create now.
And had I not gone through that experience, I wouldn't be having the outright mystically
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beautiful preconception phase that I'm having right now, consciously connecting with my womb,
doing womb work, doing intentional things in my mind and my body and my soul and my
home to be prepared for a child.
Rather than just, I love you and I want a baby so let's get pregnant, right?
So we can see how that experience was necessary and how I can be grateful for it now.
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When my father passed away, which if you're not familiar with my story, at the time was
a murder investigation, he was in his 40s, very young, it was really sudden and it was
really tragic at the time.
I'm an only child and I was dealing with his estate and it absolutely destroyed my world.
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It was the catalyst almost four years ago that started my awakening journey.
And look at that, my father's death was not meaningless.
My father's death started my awakening journey.
The most profound thing that my soul is going to experience in this lifetime, his death
started that.
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That was the catalyst for that.
And obviously at the time it was horrific and it took me years, almost two years to
reach a perspective.
But today I'm so grateful for that.
I'm so grateful for the strength that I got from that experience.
I'm so grateful for the healthy relationship I have with grief now because of that experience.
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But more than anything, I'm grateful I had a father and I choose to focus on that.
And the key message I hope that you all take home today and I know you have a lot to share
on this with your example is it's being grateful for what there is to be grateful for.
It's not dismissing or ignoring what hurts.
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Does it hurt that my father passed away?
Of course.
I miss him so much.
And it's still hard all these years later.
I still have times where I think of my miscarriage and the hope that was that pregnancy and feel
a little sad.
That's just the humanness of it.
I'm not saying that's not there.
I'm saying I choose consciously to allow that motion to pass through me for a minute,
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five minutes an hour, whatever it needs, and then choose gratitude.
Okay, I've allowed that emotion real quickly to go through me in whatever way it needed
to, cried out, screamed out, and now I'm back to being grateful.
Thank you, Dad, for all that you taught me.
Thank you for all that you left me.
Thank you for all that you bestowed upon me with your wisdom and your DNA.
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Thank you, daughter, for the three, almost four months I did have with you.
They were magical, and I'm so grateful that I got to experience that with you.
And I know you'll be back, right?
She's coming back.
I'll see my dad again.
Their energy lives on, and it's so much bigger than me.
And so that's the key point I want to drive home here, and I'll pass it off to you, is
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it's not about dismissing what's going on in the world right now, what people may be
experiencing in this war or this disaster or this political situation.
It's about consciously choosing to focus our energy on what there is to be grateful for.
Thank you.
We have to be wary of the bypassing during this time, because yes, there's the whole
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love and light movement of everything is love and everything is light.
Yes, it's true.
And we are here on this planet, and this planet has density to it.
And there are experiences of suffering here.
The issue is, like you said earlier, when we resist the suffering, because suffering
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is not inherently bad.
It is actually our greatest gift.
It is our greatest teacher, because it pushes us out of our comfortability and into the
unknown pushes us to grow.
We are in spiritual war right now.
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And in spiritual war, like any other war, there are casualties.
How we deal with grief matters, because it speaks to how we honor the souls that have
moved on from this plane.
The energy and the frequency that we choose to hold in their memory speaks to what we
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are creating on this planet.
You know, it really sparked this deep contemplation of gratitude for me, was hearing one of these
stories of North Carolina, of deep grief and deep visceral loss that really moved me.
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When I was driving and noticed myself start to go into these lower frequencies, the same
ones that I felt when we went through our grief experiences, of anger, at deep sadness,
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and I paused.
I felt them in my body, and I asked myself, is this serving me and my experience right
now, driving with my partner?
Is me being sad, helping anybody experiencing a natural disaster?
Or is it pulling me away from what I have to offer, which is love, which is the ability
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to bring the experience that we have with grief to you all, so that you can understand
that there is a way forward, and that way forward is love, and the way we get to love
is through gratitude?
You know, something that is kind of dawning on me right now, and we didn't even really
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talk about this before this episode is grief, and collectively the grief that we are navigating
right now.
You know, if you've been around for our story, maybe you haven't, maybe you've heard the
intro of this show.
We say immense grief.
We name off a bunch of things in our experience we've had the blessing to work on overcoming
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together, like trauma, and patterning, and mental health, addiction, etc., infidelity,
but the one thing that we added an extra word to was grief, immense grief.
Between my father, two of your uncles, our pregnancy, a couple of friends, a couple of
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extended family members, we had almost double digit losses in under a year.
Several of them very traumatic and tragic, and that grief is not something that we talk
about much on this show.
You know, we really do try to amplify love and consciousness and things that support
and expand them, and this is the one episode where I feel like we can really just kind
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of be in that, and be in that humaneness, because grief is very real.
We are all connected, and so maybe you find yourself hearing a story or reading a news
story like Eric did yesterday, and immediately just feeling this immense grief and not really
understanding why, because we don't know these people, right?
We are all one, we are all connected.
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We are all one big human family, and so what our brothers and sisters are going through
in North Carolina, or in the Middle East, or anywhere else, it does affect us.
And the most powerful thing that we can do is return that energy with love, with positivity,
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with gratitude.
We honor their experiences and their lives by choosing to live on, by choosing to build
something that is better, by choosing to contribute to a world where these things don't have to
exist anymore, where I promise you they don't exist anymore.
Because there is a way out of this, we do get out of this, the light does win.
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And the grief is very real, and it's two people who have had an extensive history with grief.
My hearts go out to everyone out there that is being impacted by all that's happening.
I wish I could tell you it's going to get easier, it's going to get a little worse before
it gets better.
We are purging, we are squeezing the pus out of the infection, and that is necessary, that
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is necessary to move forward.
We have got to stay out of the low energetics, the anger and the fear and the bitterness
and the bickering on the internet and all of those things sucking into the news, it's
not serving us right now.
And so maybe you're not doing those things, maybe you're just someone that's just like
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us and is just feeling that sadness, consciously work with that, consciously choose to feel
it in a healthy way, release it and then send it love, send it gratitude, you know, send
it service, send it whatever you can to help because love is infinitely more powerful.
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You will find a plethora of scientists and spiritual teachers who will try to quantify
this.
They choose to believe that's not quantifiable and it's infinite.
Love is infinitely more powerful than fear or hate or anger or suffering or grief.
And so one person consciously praying and sending love to the people in North Carolina
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or to the other side of the world or the I've lost count of how many wars are going on because
there is no winning in war, right?
There is no bad guy and no victim.
War is war.
War on suffers.
One person beaming conscious and intentional love to that is more powerful than pick whatever
number fancy is your heart.
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Some people say thousands, hundreds of thousands, more powerful than that.
On the flip side, right?
If we turn that around, if you see these things and you sink into anger, and again, we're
not saying feeling good all that's normal, but sink into it, identify with it, become
it.
Spill it out to someone else, spew it out into the collective, the internet, whatever
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it may be.
That now is so impactful.
And now we need another conscious person beaming love to counteract that additional anger.
There's already enough suffering in it.
It is our job to find the meaning, to choose the love and to come back to gratitude.
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When we come back to gratitude, it will deliver us right back to the love.
That right there.
What does that look like?
What is choosing gratitude look like in this moment?
I can tell you from my experience, had you told me that I would look back at the miscarriage
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of our first pregnancy and all the suffering that was experienced there and say that I
was grateful, I probably would have laughed at you because I almost took my own life during
that timeframe.
I was self-imploding and pushing away my partner and living in addictions and just deep, deep
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suffering and had it not been for the immense suffering of that experience, I wouldn't be
who I am today.
I wouldn't have had that push to break out of the negative cycles that I was in.
And so I am grateful for the sole contract that we had with our daughter and for the
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fulfillment of that regardless of the suffering that was experienced on the way.
That's choosing to find the lesson because in every experience of suffering, there is
a lesson there for us.
Right now with all of the chaos that's going on in the world, whether you are actually
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experiencing a natural disaster or war or the grief of losing somebody, a relationship,
a job, whatever it may be, look deeper into what you are being called to, into what is
trying to be birthed into your experience because with every loss there is space and
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in that space there is something that is looking to be created.
So find that and bring that into your experience because that is honoring the grief.
Something you said was about finding the lesson and I think it can be even more than that.
It's not just a lesson, right?
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Finding the opportunity, finding the gratitude.
There's so many different ways to look at this.
There's no one right way.
You know what works for you in your experience.
You are your guru.
You have all of the answers within you right now, anything you're facing to come out on
the other side of that.
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It's just making a different choice.
It's no longer being in the cycle of suffering and I think in so many ways, you know, I know
we were and in some ways we're still are, right?
We're still navigating it, being addicted to our own suffering because that's comfortable,
right?
Pain is predictable.
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What does it look like when we exit that cycle?
What's on the other side?
It's all we've ever known as a species collectively right now.
I speak generally.
We have been living through chaos, albeit many people have been living with their heads
in the sand escaping, ignoring, right?
Ignorance is bliss, consumerism, running the rat race, so tied up and so exhausted that
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they didn't actually ever have time to stop and realize they're not happy, fulfilled.
Why am I on this planet?
What does my soul want?
Not what does society think me as a soul, what do I want?
Why am I here?
How do I cultivate something of meaning for this planet, for the future generations, right?
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We can't live like that anymore.
That's not working.
It's, it just won't work anymore.
And so we are all, every single one of us, none of us are immune to this experience.
We are all being called to more.
We are being called to rise up, to level up, to choose a higher perspective, to stop feeding
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our own chaos, to stop being addicted to the suffering.
I myself think about these things and think, oh, I'm not addicted to the suffering anymore.
I've cracked that code.
I'm here to tell you the last 48 hours humbled us on our asses real quick because we're being
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shown all of the places in our partnership where we are still addicted to the drama.
Maybe suffering and chaos doesn't work for you.
Maybe try the word drama.
For us, we like the drama, right?
The drama feels good.
It's the pasión that's passion in Spanish.
Where am I creating that in my awareness, in my mind?
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Because everything that I'm creating inside of me is being projected out into the world
and vice versa.
The world is just a reflection of what's going on inside of us.
And so the next time that you want to look out at anything in the world, and I'm talking
about some of the deepest and darkest things like child trafficking, that's coming out
right now.
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I'm here to tell you it's about to get a lot heavier because we're just scratching the
surface of what's going on there.
Can we even look at all of these things and see a higher perspective?
Can we zoom out and ask where in myself is asking to be healed?
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Because everything is here to be loved.
Everything is here to be loved.
No matter how bad or dark or evil, it seems it is simply just an absence of love.
We were in church on Sunday and the title of the sermon was, Everything is an Inside
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Job.
And it was a guest speaker and he shared my father's name and he was talking about how
his father had passed away.
And so obviously this really got my attention because I had prayed that morning, God show
us the lesson and the message we need to hear in this sermon.
And as the title goes, Everything is an Inside Job.
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Everything is a call to ourselves.
If I'm upset at someone, there's more in our work to be done.
If I think something is anything other than God's perfect creation, there's more work
to be done.
It's all a call to inside.
But something that this man said that I've definitely heard before and maybe it's just
from this newer state of consciousness, but it absolutely rocked me to my core.
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I saw the few people in this universe right now that I'm not in active, healthy, loving
relationship with.
For all of its intention and perfectness, this man said, Everything is either an act
of love or a cry for love.
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There's nothing else.
If love is the foundation of everything and love is all that there is and God is love
and everything was created by God, then anything that's out of alignment with that is just
a cry for love.
And so war and all of these things that are going on right now are a cry for love.
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You can be that love.
You can be that love.
You can choose to be that.
You can choose that.
You can choose whatever you want.
You have free will.
Do you want to choose anger and do you want to choose to feed the stories and the narratives
and our government this and the war that and this country that and this leader that and
this presidential candidate that do not sink down into that.
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You are a powerful, infinite quantum computer.
You are a creator.
You are the creator manifest experiencing life from your perspective that only you can
do.
What are you creating right now?
Are you creating love?
Are you creating more love for these situations or are you feeding them?
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Thank you for sharing that.
You know, another really beautiful aspect of that sermon that we experienced was that
during that service, the community of the church had somebody volunteering to hold space.
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They called it the high watch.
Somebody meditating and holding the container of everybody in that service in love.
And that is what we are called to do right now during this time of great chaos and suffering
for the greater collective as they go through their process, as we all go through our own
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processes.
We are called to hold a higher vibrational state and hold that container for us to move
into.
And so even if you can't find the lesson, you don't need to know it to be able to send
gratitude.
It can be as simple as, God, thank you.
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Thank you for providing these catalysts to wake more of us up, to return us back to a
state of love.
God, thank you for bringing this darkness out into the light so it can be loved.
I feel like this is one of the core predicaments of the human experience is our egos, our minds
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like to mislead us that we need to know everything, right?
We need to know X thing exists in order for it to exist.
Just because you can't know the lesson right now or the opportunity or how this is going
to serve your evolution, the planet's evolution, our evolution as a species doesn't mean it
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doesn't exist.
If you can just hold on to that right now, something that I have been saying a lot lately
in my life, and they seem minor, right?
It's all relative to our experience.
Right now, this is our home.
This is everything we have.
We literally have nowhere to stay if this trailer is not in good working order.
We literally are towing everything that we own, our home, our puppies, our things.
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When something happens to that, like breaking down in the middle of New York or getting
in an accident, having someone hit your car, that for us is a really big thing.
The call to remember that suffering is relative.
However, something that I have been really strongly cultivating in my life in these
high stress moments or just difficult moments in this partnership especially.
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We have been really being called to level up and transcend some of our core most inner
soul wounds is saying in my head over and over, out loud if I need to.
I don't care if I look like a crazy person on the side of the street in New York and
the rain.
God, I know you're in this.
I know that you're here.
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Maybe I can't see it yet.
I'm willing to allow the possibility and the reality that you're here in this.
You're with me.
You have a plan.
It's way better than my mind can conceive and my human mind and I say childish not in
an immaturity or like a lowering type of way but in a child of the universe way.
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My child like mind wants everything to be perfect and can't conceive like why these things need
to happen, right?
People always say like why does God let bad things happen or why do children need to get
cancer or why does someone need to be sexually assaulted?
We don't need to know why, right?
That's between their soul and their mission and their lessons and the creator and all
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involved.
All we have to do is just for one moment allow the light of consciousness to come in and remind
us.
God is all powerful, all mighty, all seeing, all knowing, all things in and through all
things and there will be beauty and intentionality and grace and mercy that comes from this.
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Just like our miscarriage, just like my father's passing, just like all of the pain and trauma
and chaos and abuse that we bestowed upon each other in this relationship because it
forced us to heal, it forced us to love because we weren't loving before, right?
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It's so easy to look at this and be like oh they're these innocent victims, right?
They don't deserve that.
We're not victims or innocent.
So much of our suffering was self created in this partnership and I look back on it.
I needed that.
You being unfaithful was necessary for me to learn to love myself, to quit giving my
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identity, my power, my happiness and my wholeness away to you, to really feel like I was broken
so that I could be broken, literally open.
There's a book called this, Broken Open.
And it talks about breaking open so that the light can shine into the cracks.
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We have to break to let the light in.
That's just the nature of the human experience.
I didn't make those rules.
I don't fully understand it.
It's why I'm studying metaphysics but that's a really beautiful way of looking at it.
We are cracking open this world right now and these systems and this corruption and
all of these things so that the light can go in.
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Do not get lost in the crack and the breaking.
Do not become the breaking.
Be the light that goes into that break and transforms it and transmutes it with love.
And the answer?
Well how?
How do I do that?
Gratitude.
I'm grateful this corruption is coming to light.
I'm grateful this child trafficking is coming to light so that children can stop having
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to experience this so that we can start talking about these things that we have been hiding
and ignoring because they're too painful to look at.
When we use these things as fuel to build something different, to change the way we relate with
one another and with the world, this is the magic sauce.
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We use gratitude to then fuel our passions for making a change.
That can't happen if we're stuck in sadness or anger or any of the other lower vibrations
like fear.
We can only make a change when we are living from a place of love.
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And that, if anything, please take from this episode.
We need you holding that frequency of love alongside us and alongside our brothers and
sisters because the way that this planet has been living is not sustainable.
And we have an opportunity to make a different choice.
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So thank you for listening to this.
Thank you for doing this work alongside us.
Thank you for choosing love and for seeking gratitude in the storm because I know it is
not an easy thing to do.
But we can do this.
Yes, we can.
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And I know this is a heavy episode.
It's a heavy thing to talk about.
It's heavy stuff we're moving through.
Thank you for listening and doing this work because it's time.
And I'm excited for that.
I'm grateful that we are finally talking about it and finally acknowledging what's always
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been there so that we can make different choices and we can build a different world for our
children.
The most important thing that you can do right now other than choosing love by being in gratitude
is please share this episode.
Share this episode with someone in your life that you see struggling and you see sitting
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in those emotions and just not able to get out of the suffering.
Share it far and wide, friends, because we can uplift the vibration of this planet.
As we do that collectively, choose more love, choose more gratitude, cultivate more joy,
more peace, etc.
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It will quite literally vibrate out everything that's not in alignment.
We are right here alongside you.
We are rooting for you.
We are rooting for humanity.
We are rooting for Mother Earth.
Stay grounded.
Stay in the love, friends.
Gratitude delivers us to love.
You know, this last couple of weeks have been really intense.
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We've been navigating a lot.
We've got a lot of really potent content that's going to be coming out of this timeframe about
core wounds really getting to the root cause of what the heck is causing all of this in
our world.
Why do we have a world of seemingly perceived broken people running around creating chaos
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and hurting each other, healing those core wounds so that we can transcend this stuff?
We've had a lot of opportunities for faith.
You know, we've seen seven states in the last two weeks fallen in love with a couple of
them.
Virginia was amazing.
Philly was amazing.
Cincinnati really stole our hearts.
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We only have eight more states to go.
This journey is almost over.
And then, well, I don't really know what we're going to do.
We haven't quite figured it out yet, but we're chucking along and through multiple breakdowns
and car accidents and just opportunities for surrender and love and faith and gratitude,
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we're feeling it.
You know, we're feeling pretty tired.
We're feeling pretty worn down.
And this last 48 hours has literally been just two inner children crying together and
wanting to give up saying, I'm so tired.
I'm so tired.
We're at war right now and it feels like it right now.
And every single person that I know that I've talked to in the last week says the almost
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same thing.
Holy hell, it's intense right now.
I'm feeling it.
I'm struggling.
I'm going through it.
Catalyst after catalyst after catalyst.
We are in the spiritual gym right now and we are warriors.
We were born for this.
We got this.
We are super quantum galactic machines that can literally move storms.
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And we did on that second hurricane.
You better believe many of us were up very late praying at and for that storm and look
what happened.
We can do this, y'all.
We are in this together.
Gratitude delivers us to love.
Please, please, please, please come be in the love with us.
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We can save space for and empathize with and hold those experiences.
We don't have to become them.
We don't have to feed them.
We will fight this fire with love.
We will win this war with love.
I love you.
We are rooting for you.
We are praying for you.
And just know wherever you are, whatever you're going through, you're not in this alone.
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We got this.
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