January 2, 2024 • 26 mins
Does every marriage, every couple have a superpower lying just below the surface of their relationship?? YES! Every couple has an ability to band together in a common cause to make others feel like royalty and in the process their own marriage is strengthened and unified. What is that power and why is it beneficial to the couple's marriage to use it?
Join hosts Travis and Dawn Rosinger as they discuss a fairly overlooked attitude and action that most relationships can use to gain "wins" for their marriage. They delve into a concept that mixes loving strangers well and opening your own home to reflect the love of Jesus. This is an episode that will inspire and challenge you to think more clearly about how well you are caring for others with your spouse through simple but powerful hospitality. You won't want to miss it!
Travis and Dawn Rosinger are the Loving The Fight Marriage Podcast Hosts and Authors of the books, Verbalosity - 7 Steps to a Verbally Generous and More Fulfilling Marriage and their newest book, Gripping - What Matters Most | A Life and Relationships That Hold on to You
For more information about Travis and Dawn Rosinger go to Loving The Fight
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Travis Rosinger (00:12):
Well, if you've had a really hard week and it
seemed to drag on, maybe feelinglike you're walking through a
desert without water, or maybeit's been the best week of your
life, regardless, we're gladthat you're tuning in.
We want to be that oasis ofwater, that encouragement for
your soul, for your life, butespecially for your
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relationships and your marriage.
Well, hey, my name is Travisand I am here with my wife, dawn
, and we want to welcome you tothe Loving the Fight Marriage
Podcast.
Dawn Rosinger (00:42):
Hey everyone, it's so great to be with you
here today and honestly, I justhave to echo what Travis said.
Yeah, we would love to be thatoasis for you or feel like, hey,
you just need that fresh drinkof water, and hopefully we can
provide that for you today.
Along the way, we're doing thesame thing that you guys are.
We're married and we're justloving the fight and just
hanging in there and just tryingto enjoy the journey.
Travis Rosinger (01:04):
Yeah, and life is all about keeping one foot in
front of the other, but fillingyour bucket as you need it, and
so that's something I think youkind of alluded to, that, dawn.
We're always trying to fill ourown buckets.
We're always trying to keepputting that one foot in front
of the other, and so today we'vegot a really great episode, one
that we're excited aboutbecause it's near and dear to my
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heart.
But we've had a really fun lastcouple of weeks.
We're coming out of the holidays, yeah we are so we've been
partying hard, not with alcohol,but with our friends and Jesus,
and just having a great time.
But, man, we are glad that youguys are listening.
Dawn Rosinger (01:41):
And I'm sure many of you guys have done the same.
The last couple of months wehave had lots of different
people over from Thanksgiving on, where we've probably hosted
about eight to 10 times, andeither large groups, which we
love to have large groups.
We also love to just connectwith people, maybe another
couple and just on a deeperlevel, but we love inviting
people into our home for achance for them to get to know
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us, see our home, not because wehave an amazing home, but
honestly we just want them toknow who we are and just really
connect with them on a deeperlevel.
Travis Rosinger (02:10):
Yeah, that's a powerful thing, Isn't it Dawn?
Yeah, we can know everybody inour lives, you know.
Know them at work, know them atchurch, know them in the
marketplace, you know, or at thegrocery store.
But when people come into yourhome, there's like magic, right.
There's something specialchemistry that takes place.
Dawn Rosinger (02:27):
You're kind of opening your soul to other
people and you're like heyyou're doing laundry and you're
dust and everything else thatcomes with the house.
Travis Rosinger (02:35):
If you don't clean before they show up,
you're like hey, this is who Iam, you know, take me or leave
me, and so there's somethingreally really special about that
and we're kind of addicted toit.
Dawn Rosinger (02:46):
We are We've been a part of our marriage since
the beginning.
We've always wanted to havepeople in our home.
Um, it kind of you know we wedo it because we just love
people, but then also it's justa way to really connect quickly
with people.
It feels like it just catapultsthe relationship when you
invite them over to your home.
Well, we've done this so muchso in our life that honestly, I
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think our kids kind of grew upin an environment where man, mom
and dad are having people overagain and lots of people and
lots of kids.
So it kind of became a part ofwho they are as well and I love
hearing when they have you know,when they host and how they
host.
But we were at our sons justthis last weekend and they had
an epic New Year's Eve party.
Travis Rosinger (03:27):
It was amazing, it was huge.
Dawn Rosinger (03:30):
They're just in a stage two where they have three
little kids and all of theirfriends have little kids.
So I think there was maybe 10adults and like 20 kids, like
all six and under.
Travis Rosinger (03:40):
Little bodies flying everywhere having fun.
You know, eating it's funny.
All the desserts weredisappearing from the the food
tables and moms and dads arelike oh they haven't had
anything yet and we're watchingthem take like 40 cookies.
Dawn Rosinger (03:54):
We were watching from a grandparents perspective.
We were.
It was funny.
You can see the chocolate ontheir face and they're like, oh,
they just took that.
And their parents said, no,cause they're talking, and it
was, I just was.
It was so excited, you know, tosee my kids entertain and you
know practice hospitality inthis way, because the minute
people walked in their door, youknow they asked what they
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needed.
They showed them whereeverything was.
They were just making sure thattheir needs were met,
communicating with them andmaking sure that everyone felt
like they belong and that theywere seen.
And it's just, I was so proudof them.
That's something that I feellike we've wanted to be a part
of our marriage, and to see nowour kids carrying on this same
thing that we feel like isimportant.
So today we actually just wantto take some time and just talk
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about this thing calledhospitality.
Travis Rosinger (04:37):
Yeah, and hospitality is something we're
passionate about, something thatour kids do so so well.
They care deeply about othersbut, honestly, hospitality is a
marriage superpower.
It is.
I've been thinking, I think youalluded to why because you know
we'll dig way more into it in alittle bit, but it's literally
like getting into a time machinewith the people that you love
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and you care about, and it timewarps like you kind of alluded
to that relationship forward bya year or two years.
There's something powerfulabout it.
Dawn Rosinger (05:09):
Well, hospitality is just an important in so many
ways individually, but it'sreally important in your
marriage because, honestly, as acouple, you get to do this
together and you get to have alasting impact on people all
around you.
If you maybe have an attitudeof hospitality that will be a
part of your marriage, you willactually have this same attitude
towards each other and wantingto meet the needs of each other
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as well.
So it's just again, it's just avital part of marriage that I
feel like it's fun as well.
Travis Rosinger (05:36):
Yeah, and it's a vital part of marriage, what
we would call a marriagesuperpower, something that a
couple can do together.
That's unifying, but it's oftenoverlooked.
I mean, it's often overlooked.
Or maybe people are just like,well, we'll meet online or we'll
meet at a coffee shop, and thenthey mess out on this
incredible thing.
So why would we suggest thatyou cultivate a desire and a
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skill for hospitality?
Well, because it's somethingyou can do to breathe life into
your marriage and into your home.
It is, yeah, it's so good.
Now you might be on the fenceand you might be thinking, oh, I
don't know about that, I don'tlove opening my home.
I got to clean it top to bottom, all of that.
Dawn Rosinger (06:14):
Yeah, we make it way too hard.
It doesn't have to be that hard, yeah.
Travis Rosinger (06:17):
I think we do.
I think what's important is,sure, get your house clean, but
don't kill yourself.
No, just know that you can havepeople over and it's OK for
them to see things not exactlyperfect, not everybody's
baseboards are free of dust ortheir vents, or their fan blades
or stuff that microwave fanslittle areas that sometimes we
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focus on way too much.
Dawn Rosinger (06:40):
Everybody has problems with those areas.
Travis Rosinger (06:43):
Oh, man and we don't want to let a little speck
of dust or dust bunnies get inthe way of us being able to
connect and be a team and host,and so we want to encourage you
to just keep listening to thisepisode.
We're going to dig in a littlebit more to that question about
why cultivated desire and askill for hospitality.
Well before we can reallyanswer that, we got to go down
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and kind of drill down furtherand just get simple what on
earth is hospitality?
Dawn Rosinger (07:11):
Yeah, let's just talk about that.
What is hospitality?
What is?
Travis Rosinger (07:14):
it.
Well, according todictionarycom, here's their
definition it's the friendlyreception and treatment of
guests or strangers.
Dawn Rosinger (07:24):
I like the word friendly.
Travis Rosinger (07:26):
Yes, Like a jump down a knee too.
Dawn Rosinger (07:27):
And then also strangers Like I like that
definition Like not only peopleyou know, but strangers.
Friendly you know mean friendlyto strangers.
Travis Rosinger (07:35):
That actually surprised me.
It seemed weird at first andthen I was like oh, but I really
like that, like hospitality topeople that we don't really know
very well, and Jesus even saidthat.
He said, look, if you're justkind of the people that you know
, you're related to or that arenice to you back then what have
you gained?
And Jesus is like no, no, noshow, hospitality, show love to
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strangers.
So that's really cool.
Well, wikipedia puts it thisway they say hospitality is the
relationship of a host towards aguest, wherein the host
receives the guest with someamount of goodwill and welcome,
and this, of course, includesthe reception and entertainment
of guests, visitors or strangers.
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There's that word again,strangers.
But this is kind of a cooldefinition as well, because it
talks about goodwill.
Dawn Rosinger (08:24):
Right, yeah, I think the reason I like the
definition there in Wikipedia isbecause I like what it talked
about.
It's the relationship of a hosttowards a guest, because that's
two totally separate roles andso, honestly, hospitality is
more about the host and whatthey're portraying, what they're
giving.
Travis Rosinger (08:43):
Yeah, there's a relationship and there's a goal
that the host has, a goal ofyou know and growing that
relationship, of making surethat that person really enjoys
themselves.
Well, I think one of thecoolest things about this
marriage superpower.
This thing Don you and I can dotogether.
Other couples can do together.
We can succeed.
We can have relational winsside by side as we serve people
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and welcome them into our home.
One of the other cool thingsabout it is hospitality is in
the Bible.
Dawn Rosinger (09:11):
It is, it's quite a few places.
Travis Rosinger (09:12):
All over in the Bible, if you think about it.
I mean certainly there areverses that literally just say,
hey, be hospitable or showhospitality.
But then there are I mean justexample after example of
incredible hospitality that areshown to other people and we
need, we need to be people thatlearn from those examples.
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I mean I even think of theparable of the good Samaritan.
And what did the good Samaritan?
The Samaritan was considered arejected person in their society
, but this rejected person, thisperson that people thought was
an outcast, was the one thatshowed hospitality to the man
that had been beat up and leftfor dead on the road.
I mean, he showed incrediblehospitality.
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But here's the cool thing too,is that this word hospitality in
the Greek it comes from theword philonexia, and philonexia
means love for strangers.
Dawn Rosinger (10:07):
Is that right?
There's a stranger?
Yep, I think the Bible hasimpacted a lot of dictionaries.
Travis Rosinger (10:12):
Yeah, I think so too, and a lot of different
research places, but it meanswarmth shown to strangers.
It remains the readiness toshare hospitality by
entertaining one's home, andthis type of entertaining I
think what it's alluding to isis kind of like what you talked
about, about really making theguest feel welcome and feel
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loved.
I think that's really important.
Now again, the Greek word,phyllo-nexia.
Here's what's fascinating aboutthis Greek word straight out of
the Bible.
If you think about it, it'sreally two words that are put
together Phylos, which is thefirst part of that word, means
friend, and Xenos, or the secondpart of that word, means a
stranger.
And so that's how, according toHelps Word studies like that's
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how we get you know the wordhospitality, right yep.
It's literally from the Bible.
It means warmth, you know.
It means love, or kind of shownyou know to a stranger, right
yep.
Dawn Rosinger (11:13):
I think it's really good to understand what
does hospitality actually meanin the definition.
But we're gonna go actuallydive a little bit deeper into
what hospitality actually is andbut we're gonna start off on
the opposite.
We're gonna talk about reallyquick what it is not, cause I
think sometimes we confuse this.
But hospitality is notentertaining, or you know,
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honestly, we'll turn that aroundEntertainment is not
hospitality.
According to Lifewaycom,entertaining is an elaborate,
host-centered spectacle wherevisitors are invited to admire
the host's fine things andaccomplish skills.
Hospitality, on the other hand,has nothing to do with
potpourri or appetizers andeverything to do with putting
others first.
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Hospitality focuses on serving,encouraging and giving value to
others.
I love how they point out thathospitality is not entertaining.
We're like, hey, we're gonnaentertain.
We've been to people's housesbefore that or honestly had
mansions.
Just we walk in, or like thisis amazing.
We walked up to a doorway andit was like 20 feet tall and we
had to knock on this and wewalked in and they were
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entertaining us at night.
Cause we left and wenecessarily didn't want to come
back, cause we got to see theirbeautiful things and their
beautiful home, have great food.
But the whole time we werethere we didn't feel like we
belonged, we didn't feel like wewere seen.
It was just an awkward time andwe left, or like no, they were
entertaining us, they weren'tshowing us hospitality.
Travis Rosinger (12:36):
Yeah, it was almost like we were on a tour
for a parade of homes and wewere there to just experience
their things or experience theirability to be hospitable in
opulence, but then we'd bendother people's homes who have
mansions, and they just hug you.
And they make you feel likeroyalty and they make you feel
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seen and really it reallydoesn't matter.
It's just some people have aheart to wanna project that
warmth to, even if you're astranger.
That friendliness, that warmth,and it's such a good thing.
Dawn Rosinger (13:11):
I think it's just key to remember that, honestly,
entertaining is not hospitality.
So just because you havesomeone over for dinner doesn't
mean that you're showing themhospitality cause hospitality?
We're gonna go on now and justexplain a little bit what
hospitality is.
Travis Rosinger (13:24):
Yeah well, hospitality, just to be clear,
is an action.
It is love in action.
And so where do we get thatGreek word that we just talked
about a little bit ago?
Well, it comes right out ofRomans 12, and we'll just read
it.
Verse nine is where it beginsand you can feel that love in
action.
Here's what it says.
Love must be sincere.
Hate what is evil, cling towhat is good.
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Be devoted to one another inlove.
Honor one another aboveyourselves.
I feel that hospitalitybubbling up already.
Here's what it says never belacking in zeal, but keep your
spiritual fervor serving theLord.
Be joyful in hope, patient inaffliction, faithful in prayer.
And then it ends with thisshare with the Lord's people who
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are in need practicehospitality.
Dawn Rosinger (14:10):
And there you go.
That's right there.
Tells us to practicehospitality.
Travis Rosinger (14:14):
Practice hospitality.
That's that Philonisia word ofwhere it's combining friend with
that love towards a stranger,so being able to practice it.
But I think there's some thingsthere that are important honor
one another above yourselves,and so when we've experienced
great hospitality or our guestshave experienced that, we walk
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away feeling honored.
Right, absolutely.
Do your guests walk away fromyou as a husband and wife, as
you've had people in your homeor you've experienced them
somewhere else and you hostedthem?
Did they feel?
Dawn Rosinger (14:47):
honored, did they walk away going.
Travis Rosinger (14:49):
oh my gosh, I've felt seen, I'm important.
I want to come back.
Dawn Rosinger (14:54):
Yep, it's a whole start from the time that they
ring the doorbell to the timethat they leave.
It's everything in betweenmaking them feel welcome,
meeting their needs, making surethat your guests are the
highest priority and that youare just making sure that all of
their needs are met.
I love the concept ofhospitality.
When you are in an environmentwhere someone is truly being
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hospitable, you can feel itBecause, honestly, hospitality
is an action.
Well, hospitality is also it'san attitude.
I know yesterday, when we weredriving home, I looked at you
and I'm like, wait, ishospitality a personality trait?
Like, is it?
I know, yeah, I was justquestioning it.
So what did I do?
I Googled it.
I'm like, hey, let me Google it.
And I couldn't find it anywherethat hospitality was a
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personality trait.
But what I did find a few timesis that hospitality is just
it's an attitude.
According to the gift ofhospitalitycom, hospitality, at
its core, it's an attitude.
It's an attitude of generosity.
It says you are a welcome here,it anticipates the needs of
guests or strangers.
It makes someone want to stay alittle longer, it makes someone
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want to come back again.
It has a power to this armedpeople as they let their guard
down and settle in it letssomeone know that you care Like.
You cannot get a betterdefinition of what hospitality
is, when it comes to an attitude, than that.
That's what hospitality is.
Travis Rosinger (16:16):
Honestly, it's completely opposite of
narcissism selfishness, justhaving your eyes fully focused
on yourself.
I believe that'd be egocentrism.
I mean, it's like no, my liferight now, as you are in my home
or I'm hosting you somewhereelse, my life is all about you.
It's all about you.
Dawn Rosinger (16:35):
I know when I have left in the past like we
left a church and I've saidgoodbye.
I remember one year we left andI was saying goodbye to my
coworkers who I just loved and Iremember writing in their car a
quote that I heard from a movie, but it's something I want to
really live by and the quote isthis they may forget what you
said, but they will never forgethow you made them feel.
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That's when I think ofhospitality in a whole, I think
of man.
How are you making people feelEverything in my life, like with
my coworkers?
The reason I put that in theircart is I want them always to
remember how I made them feel,that I make them feel special
and loved and seen and known.
That's just the heart ofhospitality.
What is hospitality?
Hospitality is also it'sinclusive.
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Another difference betweenhospitality and entertaining is
actually who's going to beinvited to the party right,
who's invited?
Hospitality honestly extendsinvitations to everybody.
It doesn't matter their age,their economic status, their
gender.
Hospitality is just inclusive.
Travis Rosinger (17:37):
Yeah, and that's so important because I
mean, if you think about Jesus,did Jesus have favorites?
No, not at all.
Did Jesus like people becausethey had money or didn't have
money?
I mean, did he like peoplebecause they were popular and
powerful or because they wereunknown, weak and forgotten,
Right?
No, he included everybody.
Dawn Rosinger (17:56):
Yeah, he was actually often criticized for
including everybody.
The Pharisees did not like himbecause he always included
everybody.
Travis Rosinger (18:03):
He was the ultimate included and if you
have that gift man, use thatgift.
I know, don, you and I, when wetake our strength finder tests
or whatever they come back, thatwe're both includeers.
We don't want anybody sittingby themselves or being outcasts
in life, and so we enjoyincluding people and honoring
them and loving them and servingthem.
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But if it's something that youdon't have, that you need to
work at, certainly we need todevelop that within us.
But it's also like we talkedabout it's a choice.
It's something that we canchoose to do and it gets easier,
it gets better.
Dawn Rosinger (18:37):
I know I have a hard time often walking into a
room or being in a room, if I'mtalking with someone and then I
notice someone over the cornerof my eye, that they're just all
by themselves.
It's like I cannot focus on theperson I'm talking to anymore.
I'm like I got to go.
I got to go to them.
I got to, you know, make surethat they feel like they belong,
that they're being seen, andoftentimes I'll, you know, I'll
walk over there, I'll pull themover, I'll introduce two people,
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so then one person's not alonein them.
But it's just ingrained in me.
I cannot stand it when peopleare all alone.
I just want them to feel likethey belong, cause that's the
worst feeling is to walk insomewhere and, like man, I just
don't feel like I should be here, yeah, and and it's funny you
say that, cause that's exactlythe way I feel.
Travis Rosinger (19:17):
I can't relax or enjoy myself if I feel like
somebody's all by themselves.
I can't either at all.
It's just the worst, it's liketorture in my brain.
And so I know recently we werehanging out with some people.
I'm like I just love talking tothis person hanging out with
them, but I also realized theyweren't connecting with anybody
else and they would come up tome and talk to me and so, man, I
wanted to go out of my way toengage them and make them feel
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comfortable and try to get themconnected and other
conversations with other peopleso they felt included, right.
Dawn Rosinger (19:45):
Well, we know that hospitality is an action,
it's an attitude, it isinclusive, but it is also one
thing that we often, alwaysremember is that hospitality can
be shown everywhere you go.
Oh, my yes, you don't have tojust invite them over to your
house to practice hospitality.
No, everywhere you go, you canpractice hospitality.
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wherever you're not the newperson, you can show hospitality
to someone who is new, orwhenever you see a need, you can
be the one to meet that need,and you can.
You know, I don't know, you canjust practice it everywhere.
I feel like people limitthemselves, like, okay, now
you're in my home, I'm notthat's the only time I'm gonna
practice hospitality.
No, how about at church or inschool, family gatherings or at
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work?
Like, practice hospitalityeverywhere you go.
I know one thing, travis, thatyou do.
I've wanted to mention thisbefore.
Oh man trouble, no you're alwaysso concerned if people have
something to drink Like, so muchso that you ask constantly, hey
, can I get you a drink, or ifyou're drinking something, if
you're drinking something, evenif we're out somewhere, you know
like not at home, you're like,hey, can I get you a drink or do
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you want a drink?
You know you're just alwaysconcerned of making sure that
people are well hydrated.
I do that with food too.
You do.
Travis Rosinger (20:57):
Yes, every now and then I'll empty our cupboard
or our fridge.
When we have people over, I'mlike, hey, would you like some
food?
And then I give them 40 options, which is horrible.
Dawn Rosinger (21:05):
But I just think it's so important that people
realize that you can practicehospitality, because it's an
attitude.
And that attitude and thataction should be carried with
you everywhere.
It should be a part of our DNA,just ingrained in us.
Because, why?
Because, honestly, it's in theBible.
The passage you just read saidpractice hospitality.
Travis Rosinger (21:22):
Yeah, show love for all those other people.
Well, hey, why practicehospitality?
What are the benefits?
We want to give you a couple ofthings really quickly, as we
kind of wind this episode downand talking about this marriage
superpower we think it is.
We think it's helpful tomarriage to bond you as a team
in your home or out in whereveryou're at out and about.
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But here's a couple of reallyquick ideas that are huge
benefits.
When you practice hospitality,man, it's fulfilling what God
wants, god again all over in Hisword.
The Bible says to be hospitable.
It even says to showhospitality to strangers because
you might be entertainingangels.
Like angels sent from heaven.
Dawn Rosinger (22:05):
So it's all over in the Bible, which would be so
cool.
Wouldn't that be amazing?
It would be amazing, it wouldbe great.
I hope I would pass the test.
Travis Rosinger (22:11):
I know, I hope so too, but here's the thing too
.
It's like we see these examples, but it also another benefit
that makes us closer to Jesus.
I mean, jesus was not only theultimate included, but the
greatest person when it comes tohospitality.
Greatest example, Hugehospitality, like his first
miracle, was at a wedding wherehe turned water into wine, and
that wasn't his job, but he waswilling to do it and he fed
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about the 5,000 and the 4,000.
Dawn Rosinger (22:35):
Like he fed a lot of people, like that was
hospitality.
Travis Rosinger (22:37):
So you're blaming me for giving to people
too much to drink and too muchto eat.
But you guys get the idea.
It also is a benefit becauseyou experience rich and deep
community.
What does it do?
It removes loneliness.
Dawn Rosinger (22:49):
That's the best.
That means that no one's gonnabe standing in a room all alone
by themselves.
Travis Rosinger (22:53):
Including yourself, when you open your
home and you invite all thosepeople over.
It's so powerful, it changesyour soul.
It also increases gratitude.
When you serve others, it'slike, wow, I appreciate being
served, I appreciate the feelingof being honored and loved, and
so when you do that for others,then you start to realize the
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value of what it's like toreceive that.
And lastly, iron sharpens iron.
So when you are around otherswith faith and similar values,
you all become stronger together, and that is such a powerful
super power.
I think so, too.
A couple in their marriage.
Dawn Rosinger (23:31):
I just wanna throw in something really quick.
I think I wanna just take offthe pressure that people may
feel of, hey, my house isn'tclean enough or big enough or
whatever.
Like, honestly, that's a lie.
Like when I go into a person'shouse, it doesn't matter to me
what it looks like or how cleanit is.
Honestly, it's more how theymake me feel I could go into the
messiest house and a personcould love me and I would just
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think that I was in like amansion in heaven.
Like it all comes down to howthey make me feel and so I just
wanna take off the pressure.
Like don't feel like you haveto have your fine china Paper
plates work great.
Travis Rosinger (24:03):
You can have paper plates.
Dawn Rosinger (24:04):
You can have, honestly, just some butcher
paper and throw some chips andsalsa and like, just eat from
there.
It doesn't matter what it was.
You can have generic pop if youwant or generic cheese.
It doesn't have to be the bestof everything, cause sometimes
entertaining you know,entertaining can get expensive.
A hospitality is just honestlythat feeling that can be.
Travis Rosinger (24:23):
Oh, it's serving a loving people.
Yeah, I know there countriesboth of us and Ben and Holmes
where they're just dirt floorsand people gave us their best
and they honored us and we werelike, oh, I'd come back here a
thousand times.
I love that you said that, Don.
Dawn Rosinger (24:37):
You know what.
I just wanna end with this.
So I wanna ask you all how areyou doing at this?
Have you thought about what youcould be missing out on by not
showing hospitality in your homeor out in public or at work?
Are you maybe you taking thesteps to make everyone feel
comfortable and welcomed andtaking the part as a host, or
are you always continuallytaking the part as a guest and
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having others serve you?
So where?
What is your role?
Are you the host or are you theguest?
And honestly, as couples, asmarried couples, are you host or
are you guest?
Are you practicing hospitalityon a regular basis?
This is a key ingredient, Ithink, to a healthy marriage.
Travis Rosinger (25:16):
Yeah, and maybe this is a little extreme.
But let me throw in anotherquestion who do you most want to
be aligned with Jesus andserving others, or yourself in
selfishness?
That's a little extreme, alittle bit hard, but it's a
challenging question I have toask myself.
Start with me and you Don.
Dawn Rosinger (25:32):
And on the bright side, hospitality is a blast.
You will get to know so manycool people.
It's just incredible.
Travis Rosinger (25:38):
And have great experiences.
Well, hey, with that guys, wewanna thank you for listening to
this episode of the Loving theFight Marriage Podcast.
Dawn Rosinger (25:46):
Remember, guys, you can do it.
You got this.
Keep loving the fight.
We'll see you next time, Thankyou.
Well, if you've had a really hard week and it
seemed to drag on, maybe feelinglike you're walking through a
desert without water, or maybeit's been the best week of your
life, regardless, we're gladthat you're tuning in.
We want to be that oasis ofwater, that encouragement for
your soul, for your life, butespecially for your
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relationships and your marriage.
Well, hey, my name is Travisand I am here with my wife, dawn
, and we want to welcome you tothe Loving the Fight Marriage
Podcast.
Dawn Rosinger (00:42):
Hey everyone, it's so great to be with you
here today and honestly, I justhave to echo what Travis said.
Yeah, we would love to be thatoasis for you or feel like, hey,
you just need that fresh drinkof water, and hopefully we can
provide that for you today.
Along the way, we're doing thesame thing that you guys are.
We're married and we're justloving the fight and just
hanging in there and just tryingto enjoy the journey.
Travis Rosinger (01:04):
Yeah, and life is all about keeping one foot in
front of the other, but fillingyour bucket as you need it, and
so that's something I think youkind of alluded to, that, dawn.
We're always trying to fill ourown buckets.
We're always trying to keepputting that one foot in front
of the other, and so today we'vegot a really great episode, one
that we're excited aboutbecause it's near and dear to my
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heart.
But we've had a really fun lastcouple of weeks.
We're coming out of the holidays, yeah we are so we've been
partying hard, not with alcohol,but with our friends and Jesus,
and just having a great time.
But, man, we are glad that youguys are listening.
Dawn Rosinger (01:41):
And I'm sure many of you guys have done the same.
The last couple of months wehave had lots of different
people over from Thanksgiving on, where we've probably hosted
about eight to 10 times, andeither large groups, which we
love to have large groups.
We also love to just connectwith people, maybe another
couple and just on a deeperlevel, but we love inviting
people into our home for achance for them to get to know
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us, see our home, not because wehave an amazing home, but
honestly we just want them toknow who we are and just really
connect with them on a deeperlevel.
Travis Rosinger (02:10):
Yeah, that's a powerful thing, Isn't it Dawn?
Yeah, we can know everybody inour lives, you know.
Know them at work, know them atchurch, know them in the
marketplace, you know, or at thegrocery store.
But when people come into yourhome, there's like magic, right.
There's something specialchemistry that takes place.
Dawn Rosinger (02:27):
You're kind of opening your soul to other
people and you're like heyyou're doing laundry and you're
dust and everything else thatcomes with the house.
Travis Rosinger (02:35):
If you don't clean before they show up,
you're like hey, this is who Iam, you know, take me or leave
me, and so there's somethingreally really special about that
and we're kind of addicted toit.
Dawn Rosinger (02:46):
We are We've been a part of our marriage since
the beginning.
We've always wanted to havepeople in our home.
Um, it kind of you know we wedo it because we just love
people, but then also it's justa way to really connect quickly
with people.
It feels like it just catapultsthe relationship when you
invite them over to your home.
Well, we've done this so muchso in our life that honestly, I
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think our kids kind of grew upin an environment where man, mom
and dad are having people overagain and lots of people and
lots of kids.
So it kind of became a part ofwho they are as well and I love
hearing when they have you know,when they host and how they
host.
But we were at our sons justthis last weekend and they had
an epic New Year's Eve party.
Travis Rosinger (03:27):
It was amazing, it was huge.
Dawn Rosinger (03:30):
They're just in a stage two where they have three
little kids and all of theirfriends have little kids.
So I think there was maybe 10adults and like 20 kids, like
all six and under.
Travis Rosinger (03:40):
Little bodies flying everywhere having fun.
You know, eating it's funny.
All the desserts weredisappearing from the the food
tables and moms and dads arelike oh they haven't had
anything yet and we're watchingthem take like 40 cookies.
Dawn Rosinger (03:54):
We were watching from a grandparents perspective.
We were.
It was funny.
You can see the chocolate ontheir face and they're like, oh,
they just took that.
And their parents said, no,cause they're talking, and it
was, I just was.
It was so excited, you know, tosee my kids entertain and you
know practice hospitality inthis way, because the minute
people walked in their door, youknow they asked what they
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needed.
They showed them whereeverything was.
They were just making sure thattheir needs were met,
communicating with them andmaking sure that everyone felt
like they belong and that theywere seen.
And it's just, I was so proudof them.
That's something that I feellike we've wanted to be a part
of our marriage, and to see nowour kids carrying on this same
thing that we feel like isimportant.
So today we actually just wantto take some time and just talk
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about this thing calledhospitality.
Travis Rosinger (04:37):
Yeah, and hospitality is something we're
passionate about, something thatour kids do so so well.
They care deeply about othersbut, honestly, hospitality is a
marriage superpower.
It is.
I've been thinking, I think youalluded to why because you know
we'll dig way more into it in alittle bit, but it's literally
like getting into a time machinewith the people that you love
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and you care about, and it timewarps like you kind of alluded
to that relationship forward bya year or two years.
There's something powerfulabout it.
Dawn Rosinger (05:09):
Well, hospitality is just an important in so many
ways individually, but it'sreally important in your
marriage because, honestly, as acouple, you get to do this
together and you get to have alasting impact on people all
around you.
If you maybe have an attitudeof hospitality that will be a
part of your marriage, you willactually have this same attitude
towards each other and wantingto meet the needs of each other
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as well.
So it's just again, it's just avital part of marriage that I
feel like it's fun as well.
Travis Rosinger (05:36):
Yeah, and it's a vital part of marriage, what
we would call a marriagesuperpower, something that a
couple can do together.
That's unifying, but it's oftenoverlooked.
I mean, it's often overlooked.
Or maybe people are just like,well, we'll meet online or we'll
meet at a coffee shop, and thenthey mess out on this
incredible thing.
So why would we suggest thatyou cultivate a desire and a
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skill for hospitality?
Well, because it's somethingyou can do to breathe life into
your marriage and into your home.
It is, yeah, it's so good.
Now you might be on the fenceand you might be thinking, oh, I
don't know about that, I don'tlove opening my home.
I got to clean it top to bottom, all of that.
Dawn Rosinger (06:14):
Yeah, we make it way too hard.
It doesn't have to be that hard, yeah.
Travis Rosinger (06:17):
I think we do.
I think what's important is,sure, get your house clean, but
don't kill yourself.
No, just know that you can havepeople over and it's OK for
them to see things not exactlyperfect, not everybody's
baseboards are free of dust ortheir vents, or their fan blades
or stuff that microwave fanslittle areas that sometimes we
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focus on way too much.
Dawn Rosinger (06:40):
Everybody has problems with those areas.
Travis Rosinger (06:43):
Oh, man and we don't want to let a little speck
of dust or dust bunnies get inthe way of us being able to
connect and be a team and host,and so we want to encourage you
to just keep listening to thisepisode.
We're going to dig in a littlebit more to that question about
why cultivated desire and askill for hospitality.
Well before we can reallyanswer that, we got to go down
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and kind of drill down furtherand just get simple what on
earth is hospitality?
Dawn Rosinger (07:11):
Yeah, let's just talk about that.
What is hospitality?
What is?
Travis Rosinger (07:14):
it.
Well, according todictionarycom, here's their
definition it's the friendlyreception and treatment of
guests or strangers.
Dawn Rosinger (07:24):
I like the word friendly.
Travis Rosinger (07:26):
Yes, Like a jump down a knee too.
Dawn Rosinger (07:27):
And then also strangers Like I like that
definition Like not only peopleyou know, but strangers.
Friendly you know mean friendlyto strangers.
Travis Rosinger (07:35):
That actually surprised me.
It seemed weird at first andthen I was like oh, but I really
like that, like hospitality topeople that we don't really know
very well, and Jesus even saidthat.
He said, look, if you're justkind of the people that you know
, you're related to or that arenice to you back then what have
you gained?
And Jesus is like no, no, noshow, hospitality, show love to
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strangers.
So that's really cool.
Well, wikipedia puts it thisway they say hospitality is the
relationship of a host towards aguest, wherein the host
receives the guest with someamount of goodwill and welcome,
and this, of course, includesthe reception and entertainment
of guests, visitors or strangers.
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There's that word again,strangers.
But this is kind of a cooldefinition as well, because it
talks about goodwill.
Dawn Rosinger (08:24):
Right, yeah, I think the reason I like the
definition there in Wikipedia isbecause I like what it talked
about.
It's the relationship of a hosttowards a guest, because that's
two totally separate roles andso, honestly, hospitality is
more about the host and whatthey're portraying, what they're
giving.
Travis Rosinger (08:43):
Yeah, there's a relationship and there's a goal
that the host has, a goal ofyou know and growing that
relationship, of making surethat that person really enjoys
themselves.
Well, I think one of thecoolest things about this
marriage superpower.
This thing Don you and I can dotogether.
Other couples can do together.
We can succeed.
We can have relational winsside by side as we serve people
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and welcome them into our home.
One of the other cool thingsabout it is hospitality is in
the Bible.
Dawn Rosinger (09:11):
It is, it's quite a few places.
Travis Rosinger (09:12):
All over in the Bible, if you think about it.
I mean certainly there areverses that literally just say,
hey, be hospitable or showhospitality.
But then there are I mean justexample after example of
incredible hospitality that areshown to other people and we
need, we need to be people thatlearn from those examples.
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I mean I even think of theparable of the good Samaritan.
And what did the good Samaritan?
The Samaritan was considered arejected person in their society
, but this rejected person, thisperson that people thought was
an outcast, was the one thatshowed hospitality to the man
that had been beat up and leftfor dead on the road.
I mean, he showed incrediblehospitality.
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But here's the cool thing too,is that this word hospitality in
the Greek it comes from theword philonexia, and philonexia
means love for strangers.
Dawn Rosinger (10:07):
Is that right?
There's a stranger?
Yep, I think the Bible hasimpacted a lot of dictionaries.
Travis Rosinger (10:12):
Yeah, I think so too, and a lot of different
research places, but it meanswarmth shown to strangers.
It remains the readiness toshare hospitality by
entertaining one's home, andthis type of entertaining I
think what it's alluding to isis kind of like what you talked
about, about really making theguest feel welcome and feel
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loved.
I think that's really important.
Now again, the Greek word,phyllo-nexia.
Here's what's fascinating aboutthis Greek word straight out of
the Bible.
If you think about it, it'sreally two words that are put
together Phylos, which is thefirst part of that word, means
friend, and Xenos, or the secondpart of that word, means a
stranger.
And so that's how, according toHelps Word studies like that's
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how we get you know the wordhospitality, right yep.
It's literally from the Bible.
It means warmth, you know.
It means love, or kind of shownyou know to a stranger, right
yep.
Dawn Rosinger (11:13):
I think it's really good to understand what
does hospitality actually meanin the definition.
But we're gonna go actuallydive a little bit deeper into
what hospitality actually is andbut we're gonna start off on
the opposite.
We're gonna talk about reallyquick what it is not, cause I
think sometimes we confuse this.
But hospitality is notentertaining, or you know,
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honestly, we'll turn that aroundEntertainment is not
hospitality.
According to Lifewaycom,entertaining is an elaborate,
host-centered spectacle wherevisitors are invited to admire
the host's fine things andaccomplish skills.
Hospitality, on the other hand,has nothing to do with
potpourri or appetizers andeverything to do with putting
others first.
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Hospitality focuses on serving,encouraging and giving value to
others.
I love how they point out thathospitality is not entertaining.
We're like, hey, we're gonnaentertain.
We've been to people's housesbefore that or honestly had
mansions.
Just we walk in, or like thisis amazing.
We walked up to a doorway andit was like 20 feet tall and we
had to knock on this and wewalked in and they were
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entertaining us at night.
Cause we left and wenecessarily didn't want to come
back, cause we got to see theirbeautiful things and their
beautiful home, have great food.
But the whole time we werethere we didn't feel like we
belonged, we didn't feel like wewere seen.
It was just an awkward time andwe left, or like no, they were
entertaining us, they weren'tshowing us hospitality.
Travis Rosinger (12:36):
Yeah, it was almost like we were on a tour
for a parade of homes and wewere there to just experience
their things or experience theirability to be hospitable in
opulence, but then we'd bendother people's homes who have
mansions, and they just hug you.
And they make you feel likeroyalty and they make you feel
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seen and really it reallydoesn't matter.
It's just some people have aheart to wanna project that
warmth to, even if you're astranger.
That friendliness, that warmth,and it's such a good thing.
Dawn Rosinger (13:11):
I think it's just key to remember that, honestly,
entertaining is not hospitality.
So just because you havesomeone over for dinner doesn't
mean that you're showing themhospitality cause hospitality?
We're gonna go on now and justexplain a little bit what
hospitality is.
Travis Rosinger (13:24):
Yeah well, hospitality, just to be clear,
is an action.
It is love in action.
And so where do we get thatGreek word that we just talked
about a little bit ago?
Well, it comes right out ofRomans 12, and we'll just read
it.
Verse nine is where it beginsand you can feel that love in
action.
Here's what it says.
Love must be sincere.
Hate what is evil, cling towhat is good.
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Be devoted to one another inlove.
Honor one another aboveyourselves.
I feel that hospitalitybubbling up already.
Here's what it says never belacking in zeal, but keep your
spiritual fervor serving theLord.
Be joyful in hope, patient inaffliction, faithful in prayer.
And then it ends with thisshare with the Lord's people who
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are in need practicehospitality.
Dawn Rosinger (14:10):
And there you go.
That's right there.
Tells us to practicehospitality.
Travis Rosinger (14:14):
Practice hospitality.
That's that Philonisia word ofwhere it's combining friend with
that love towards a stranger,so being able to practice it.
But I think there's some thingsthere that are important honor
one another above yourselves,and so when we've experienced
great hospitality or our guestshave experienced that, we walk
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away feeling honored.
Right, absolutely.
Do your guests walk away fromyou as a husband and wife, as
you've had people in your homeor you've experienced them
somewhere else and you hostedthem?
Did they feel?
Dawn Rosinger (14:47):
honored, did they walk away going.
Travis Rosinger (14:49):
oh my gosh, I've felt seen, I'm important.
I want to come back.
Dawn Rosinger (14:54):
Yep, it's a whole start from the time that they
ring the doorbell to the timethat they leave.
It's everything in betweenmaking them feel welcome,
meeting their needs, making surethat your guests are the
highest priority and that youare just making sure that all of
their needs are met.
I love the concept ofhospitality.
When you are in an environmentwhere someone is truly being
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hospitable, you can feel itBecause, honestly, hospitality
is an action.
Well, hospitality is also it'san attitude.
I know yesterday, when we weredriving home, I looked at you
and I'm like, wait, ishospitality a personality trait?
Like, is it?
I know, yeah, I was justquestioning it.
So what did I do?
I Googled it.
I'm like, hey, let me Google it.
And I couldn't find it anywherethat hospitality was a
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personality trait.
But what I did find a few timesis that hospitality is just
it's an attitude.
According to the gift ofhospitalitycom, hospitality, at
its core, it's an attitude.
It's an attitude of generosity.
It says you are a welcome here,it anticipates the needs of
guests or strangers.
It makes someone want to stay alittle longer, it makes someone
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want to come back again.
It has a power to this armedpeople as they let their guard
down and settle in it letssomeone know that you care Like.
You cannot get a betterdefinition of what hospitality
is, when it comes to an attitude, than that.
That's what hospitality is.
Travis Rosinger (16:16):
Honestly, it's completely opposite of
narcissism selfishness, justhaving your eyes fully focused
on yourself.
I believe that'd be egocentrism.
I mean, it's like no, my liferight now, as you are in my home
or I'm hosting you somewhereelse, my life is all about you.
It's all about you.
Dawn Rosinger (16:35):
I know when I have left in the past like we
left a church and I've saidgoodbye.
I remember one year we left andI was saying goodbye to my
coworkers who I just loved and Iremember writing in their car a
quote that I heard from a movie, but it's something I want to
really live by and the quote isthis they may forget what you
said, but they will never forgethow you made them feel.
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That's when I think ofhospitality in a whole, I think
of man.
How are you making people feelEverything in my life, like with
my coworkers?
The reason I put that in theircart is I want them always to
remember how I made them feel,that I make them feel special
and loved and seen and known.
That's just the heart ofhospitality.
What is hospitality?
Hospitality is also it'sinclusive.
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Another difference betweenhospitality and entertaining is
actually who's going to beinvited to the party right,
who's invited?
Hospitality honestly extendsinvitations to everybody.
It doesn't matter their age,their economic status, their
gender.
Hospitality is just inclusive.
Travis Rosinger (17:37):
Yeah, and that's so important because I
mean, if you think about Jesus,did Jesus have favorites?
No, not at all.
Did Jesus like people becausethey had money or didn't have
money?
I mean, did he like peoplebecause they were popular and
powerful or because they wereunknown, weak and forgotten,
Right?
No, he included everybody.
Dawn Rosinger (17:56):
Yeah, he was actually often criticized for
including everybody.
The Pharisees did not like himbecause he always included
everybody.
Travis Rosinger (18:03):
He was the ultimate included and if you
have that gift man, use thatgift.
I know, don, you and I, when wetake our strength finder tests
or whatever they come back, thatwe're both includeers.
We don't want anybody sittingby themselves or being outcasts
in life, and so we enjoyincluding people and honoring
them and loving them and servingthem.
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But if it's something that youdon't have, that you need to
work at, certainly we need todevelop that within us.
But it's also like we talkedabout it's a choice.
It's something that we canchoose to do and it gets easier,
it gets better.
Dawn Rosinger (18:37):
I know I have a hard time often walking into a
room or being in a room, if I'mtalking with someone and then I
notice someone over the cornerof my eye, that they're just all
by themselves.
It's like I cannot focus on theperson I'm talking to anymore.
I'm like I got to go.
I got to go to them.
I got to, you know, make surethat they feel like they belong,
that they're being seen, andoftentimes I'll, you know, I'll
walk over there, I'll pull themover, I'll introduce two people,
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so then one person's not alonein them.
But it's just ingrained in me.
I cannot stand it when peopleare all alone.
I just want them to feel likethey belong, cause that's the
worst feeling is to walk insomewhere and, like man, I just
don't feel like I should be here, yeah, and and it's funny you
say that, cause that's exactlythe way I feel.
Travis Rosinger (19:17):
I can't relax or enjoy myself if I feel like
somebody's all by themselves.
I can't either at all.
It's just the worst, it's liketorture in my brain.
And so I know recently we werehanging out with some people.
I'm like I just love talking tothis person hanging out with
them, but I also realized theyweren't connecting with anybody
else and they would come up tome and talk to me and so, man, I
wanted to go out of my way toengage them and make them feel
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comfortable and try to get themconnected and other
conversations with other peopleso they felt included, right.
Dawn Rosinger (19:45):
Well, we know that hospitality is an action,
it's an attitude, it isinclusive, but it is also one
thing that we often, alwaysremember is that hospitality can
be shown everywhere you go.
Oh, my yes, you don't have tojust invite them over to your
house to practice hospitality.
No, everywhere you go, you canpractice hospitality.
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wherever you're not the newperson, you can show hospitality
to someone who is new, orwhenever you see a need, you can
be the one to meet that need,and you can.
You know, I don't know, you canjust practice it everywhere.
I feel like people limitthemselves, like, okay, now
you're in my home, I'm notthat's the only time I'm gonna
practice hospitality.
No, how about at church or inschool, family gatherings or at
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work?
Like, practice hospitalityeverywhere you go.
I know one thing, travis, thatyou do.
I've wanted to mention thisbefore.
Oh man trouble, no you're alwaysso concerned if people have
something to drink Like, so muchso that you ask constantly, hey
, can I get you a drink, or ifyou're drinking something, if
you're drinking something, evenif we're out somewhere, you know
like not at home, you're like,hey, can I get you a drink or do
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you want a drink?
You know you're just alwaysconcerned of making sure that
people are well hydrated.
I do that with food too.
You do.
Travis Rosinger (20:57):
Yes, every now and then I'll empty our cupboard
or our fridge.
When we have people over, I'mlike, hey, would you like some
food?
And then I give them 40 options, which is horrible.
Dawn Rosinger (21:05):
But I just think it's so important that people
realize that you can practicehospitality, because it's an
attitude.
And that attitude and thataction should be carried with
you everywhere.
It should be a part of our DNA,just ingrained in us.
Because, why?
Because, honestly, it's in theBible.
The passage you just read saidpractice hospitality.
Travis Rosinger (21:22):
Yeah, show love for all those other people.
Well, hey, why practicehospitality?
What are the benefits?
We want to give you a couple ofthings really quickly, as we
kind of wind this episode downand talking about this marriage
superpower we think it is.
We think it's helpful tomarriage to bond you as a team
in your home or out in whereveryou're at out and about.
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But here's a couple of reallyquick ideas that are huge
benefits.
When you practice hospitality,man, it's fulfilling what God
wants, god again all over in Hisword.
The Bible says to be hospitable.
It even says to showhospitality to strangers because
you might be entertainingangels.
Like angels sent from heaven.
Dawn Rosinger (22:05):
So it's all over in the Bible, which would be so
cool.
Wouldn't that be amazing?
It would be amazing, it wouldbe great.
I hope I would pass the test.
Travis Rosinger (22:11):
I know, I hope so too, but here's the thing too
.
It's like we see these examples, but it also another benefit
that makes us closer to Jesus.
I mean, jesus was not only theultimate included, but the
greatest person when it comes tohospitality.
Greatest example, Hugehospitality, like his first
miracle, was at a wedding wherehe turned water into wine, and
that wasn't his job, but he waswilling to do it and he fed
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about the 5,000 and the 4,000.
Dawn Rosinger (22:35):
Like he fed a lot of people, like that was
hospitality.
Travis Rosinger (22:37):
So you're blaming me for giving to people
too much to drink and too muchto eat.
But you guys get the idea.
It also is a benefit becauseyou experience rich and deep
community.
What does it do?
It removes loneliness.
Dawn Rosinger (22:49):
That's the best.
That means that no one's gonnabe standing in a room all alone
by themselves.
Travis Rosinger (22:53):
Including yourself, when you open your
home and you invite all thosepeople over.
It's so powerful, it changesyour soul.
It also increases gratitude.
When you serve others, it'slike, wow, I appreciate being
served, I appreciate the feelingof being honored and loved, and
so when you do that for others,then you start to realize the
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value of what it's like toreceive that.
And lastly, iron sharpens iron.
So when you are around otherswith faith and similar values,
you all become stronger together, and that is such a powerful
super power.
I think so, too.
A couple in their marriage.
Dawn Rosinger (23:31):
I just wanna throw in something really quick.
I think I wanna just take offthe pressure that people may
feel of, hey, my house isn'tclean enough or big enough or
whatever.
Like, honestly, that's a lie.
Like when I go into a person'shouse, it doesn't matter to me
what it looks like or how cleanit is.
Honestly, it's more how theymake me feel I could go into the
messiest house and a personcould love me and I would just
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think that I was in like amansion in heaven.
Like it all comes down to howthey make me feel and so I just
wanna take off the pressure.
Like don't feel like you haveto have your fine china Paper
plates work great.
Travis Rosinger (24:03):
You can have paper plates.
Dawn Rosinger (24:04):
You can have, honestly, just some butcher
paper and throw some chips andsalsa and like, just eat from
there.
It doesn't matter what it was.
You can have generic pop if youwant or generic cheese.
It doesn't have to be the bestof everything, cause sometimes
entertaining you know,entertaining can get expensive.
A hospitality is just honestlythat feeling that can be.
Travis Rosinger (24:23):
Oh, it's serving a loving people.
Yeah, I know there countriesboth of us and Ben and Holmes
where they're just dirt floorsand people gave us their best
and they honored us and we werelike, oh, I'd come back here a
thousand times.
I love that you said that, Don.
Dawn Rosinger (24:37):
You know what.
I just wanna end with this.
So I wanna ask you all how areyou doing at this?
Have you thought about what youcould be missing out on by not
showing hospitality in your homeor out in public or at work?
Are you maybe you taking thesteps to make everyone feel
comfortable and welcomed andtaking the part as a host, or
are you always continuallytaking the part as a guest and
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having others serve you?
So where?
What is your role?
Are you the host or are you theguest?
And honestly, as couples, asmarried couples, are you host or
are you guest?
Are you practicing hospitalityon a regular basis?
This is a key ingredient, Ithink, to a healthy marriage.
Travis Rosinger (25:16):
Yeah, and maybe this is a little extreme.
But let me throw in anotherquestion who do you most want to
be aligned with Jesus andserving others, or yourself in
selfishness?
That's a little extreme, alittle bit hard, but it's a
challenging question I have toask myself.
Start with me and you Don.
Dawn Rosinger (25:32):
And on the bright side, hospitality is a blast.
You will get to know so manycool people.
It's just incredible.
Travis Rosinger (25:38):
And have great experiences.
Well, hey, with that guys, wewanna thank you for listening to
this episode of the Loving theFight Marriage Podcast.
Dawn Rosinger (25:46):
Remember, guys, you can do it.
You got this.
Keep loving the fight.
We'll see you next time, Thankyou.
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