March 5, 2024 • 26 mins
Cars drive themselves and airplanes have autopilot. The amount of technology it takes to keep a plane in the air and a self driving car on the road boggles the mind! Yet, in the middle of both of those is one of the most low tech pieces of equipment that was orginally developed in the 1800's. It's one of the most important pieces of equipment and that's why it's still used and mandated today. The seatbelt. Simple, yet it will save your life. So, what about your marriage? Does your marriage have seatbelts that keep it safe and keep you and your spouse in the driver's seat?
Join hosts, Travis and Dawn Rosinger, as they share about a recent experience while flying across the country that reminded them about the seatbelts they have in place for their marriage. As they share examples of their marriage seatbelts, you will be challenged to determine and write down your own seatbelts for your marriage. This is an episode you will want to listen to with your spouse and share with your friends!!
Travis and Dawn Rosinger are the Loving The Fight Marriage Podcast Hosts and Authors of the books, Verbalosity - 7 Steps to a Verbally Generous and More Fulfilling Marriage and their newest book, Gripping - What Matters Most | A Life and Relationships That Hold on to You
For more information about Travis and Dawn Rosinger go to Loving The Fight
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Travis Rosinger (00:12):
Alright, here we go.
Welcome to the Loving the FightMarriage Podcast.
My name is Travis and I amsitting here with my wife and my
best friend, Dawn Rosinger.
Dawn Rosinger (00:23):
Hey everyone.
One thing that you missed tosay, travis, is that you missed
to say that I was yourpickleball partner and co-host.
Travis Rosinger (00:30):
And co-host?
Yes, absolutely, I missed bothof those.
Dawn Rosinger (00:32):
I love the co-host part, but yesterday we
got to play pickleball and thatwas a blast and we dominated.
Okay, we did.
No, we won.
Travis Rosinger (00:39):
We did, we did.
We can officially say that wewon.
We won best of three out offive, but maybe we should have
played seven out of ten, right,I don't know?
And it was a windy day and wewon, we won.
It was so much fun, it feltgood.
Dawn Rosinger (00:51):
If you guys haven't tried pickleball, I
would recommend going out andgrabbing two paddles, because
it's something that you can dowith your spouse and you can
either play singles or you canget another couple and you can
play doubles.
And man, it's just a fun sport.
Travis Rosinger (01:00):
And what made yesterday so much fun was this
is a couple that's crushed usbefore a few times, Right yep.
So somehow we were on and webeat them.
Dawn Rosinger (01:09):
Is that gloating to say that we won?
Travis Rosinger (01:12):
Or just excitement.
It's probably not great, let'ssay it anyway.
Dawn Rosinger (01:17):
We did win.
We're not that competitive ohmy no, I'm a little bit more
competitive, but I like to be onthe underdog team, not saying
that you're the underdog.
Travis Rosinger (01:25):
Oh, thanks, you just threw me under the bus.
I can't help it that you grewup in an athletic I can't even
say athletic family that's howunathletic I am, I can't even
say the word.
But I grew up in a musician,actor kind of family.
Dawn Rosinger (01:41):
Yeah, but you have other skills.
You have the creative brain,the brain you know there, but I
don't have that so much.
Travis Rosinger (01:46):
You sounded like you said creative brain,
which is like a pig or something.
Creative brain.
I know our comments are gettingtied, which is weird because we
just came back from vacation,right?
Yeah, we had a great time.
Dawn Rosinger (01:58):
In the wonderful week.
Well, you know what, when wewere on vacation, we actually
had to come home.
So this is a great segue intoour podcast episode today.
Well, we had to come home andwe had to jump on a plane, but
for some reason we were flyingDelta and they had gave a
separate seat, so you were likea row 23B.
You have the middle seat, oh my.
And then I had like 36C.
Travis Rosinger (02:20):
No, I had the like prisoner of war seat.
The small middle section, themiddle seat where you feel like
you can't lean to your left andfall asleep because you'll drool
on your neighbor, and themiddle seat because you can't
even lean to the right becauseyou know if you want to get up
and get to the aisle, you'regoing to wake up the person next
to you.
Dawn Rosinger (02:39):
Yes, I don't like the middle seat and it's just a
prisoner seat, but I wasexcited because I know you had
the middle seat and then I hadseat C, but like in row 36, so
we were like 13 year olds apart.
So you went up to the desk whenwe got to the airport and you
asked them.
You're like hey, is there anyway that you have some seats
open so I can sit next to mywife?
Travis Rosinger (02:59):
So we can swap, yeah, because we wanted to sit
next to each other.
Dawn Rosinger (03:02):
We like each other, and that way, if we crash
, you know, we can at least dietogether.
Travis Rosinger (03:06):
Yeah, that's a good thing.
Dawn Rosinger (03:09):
Well, when you went up there, you actually
heard the person in front of youbefore you asked your question
if they could move seats andthey said no.
They said the plane wasactually full, like overbooked
full, and so it was your turn.
You asked the question.
Travis Rosinger (03:22):
Same question, but I wanted to be sure that I
heard the right thing.
Yeah, why not?
Dawn Rosinger (03:25):
try right, and you knew you would have to come
back to me.
I'm like I don't know.
Like did you at least ask?
But yes.
So you asked and you got thesame reply.
But then you looked at him andyou said what to him?
Travis Rosinger (03:35):
I said well, you don't happen to be looking
for people to bump from thisflight.
Do you like to take anotherflight?
And he just started to lose hismind.
He got this big smile.
His eyeballs got really big,this very stressful man who was
absolutely.
He looked like he was ready tohave a heart attack.
All of a sudden he's at DisneyWorld and he's happy.
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And he's excited that I askedthat question.
Dawn Rosinger (04:00):
I must admit, when we got to the gate, there
was people everywhere.
There were so many people.
I was like how are we all goingto fit on the plane?
So I wasn't shocked when yousaid that it was overbooked, but
it's interesting that you werethere in line at the exact time
and asked him, and all of asudden we became heroes to him,
right.
Travis Rosinger (04:18):
We did Weird.
Dawn Rosinger (04:20):
Well, I want you to explain why we became heroes
to this gentleman and we savedthe day.
Travis Rosinger (04:24):
Yeah, so well.
Anyway, when I asked him, youknow, if he needed to bump
people, and he, right away he'slike why are you interested?
And I said, well, my wife and Idon't work tomorrow.
It's possible we're going tomaybe, you know, get bumped and
take a different flight, maybe amorning flight.
It was, I think, in the evening, about five, six o'clock in the
evening.
And immediately he was like,are you serious?
(04:45):
That's incredible.
And I said, well, what wouldyou give us if we, you know,
jumped off this flight, if weallowed ourselves to be bumped
and took into the next flight?
And he said $800.
Dawn Rosinger (04:59):
And I was like oh my my jaw hit the floor.
Travis Rosinger (05:02):
I almost had a heart attack at that moment it
was like he it went from him andbounced to me.
And then I had this weird idea.
I looked back at him and I saideach and he goes oh yeah,
absolutely.
Wow, it's not my fault, theyoversold the plane.
You're going to get $800 apiece, do you want to do it?
And I was like, are you serious?
Are you kidding me?
(05:23):
Did I just win the lottery?
Like how did this happen to me?
I didn't even hand over $2 andget the scratch off lottery
ticket.
I mean, I'm just winning, ofcourse, winning.
Dawn Rosinger (05:33):
Yep, and I know it's funny when you said, you
came back to me and you said,hey, would you be?
Oh no, you texted me reallyquick.
You're like hey, come up here.
Run up to the gate and not onlydid they offer us $800 each,
for a total of $1,600, they paidfor a nice night in a really
nice hotel.
They shuttled us there and theygave us money for supper and,
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you guys, we had the best supperbecause we had almost an
incredible budget for our supper.
Travis Rosinger (05:58):
Oh, we did, and it was on Delta.
Piles and piles of food.
They paid for it.
Thank you, delta.
Yeah, and you know what's crazy, you guys.
Dawn Rosinger (06:05):
We only paid $160 for our air flight.
Travis Rosinger (06:08):
Should we tell Delta that?
Dawn Rosinger (06:09):
Yeah, and we got $1,600.
We got paid to go on vacation.
Oh my, we got more money cominghome than we did.
I mean the trip costed.
Travis Rosinger (06:19):
And we're not bragging like the pickleball
bragging.
That was bragging, by the way,but this is not bragging.
Dawn Rosinger (06:23):
This is sharing, a blessing, an unexpected
blessing, oh my that we gothonestly, we really literally
did pray.
We're like thank you, jesus,for this massive blessing.
Absolutely Because it wasn'teven vouchers, it was $1,600 in
Visa gift cards.
Travis Rosinger (06:38):
That we could download right away and start
using Immediately.
Dawn Rosinger (06:40):
So we could have honestly jumped on Amazon and
bought a computer or boughtwhatever for $1,600.
It's crazy.
Travis Rosinger (06:47):
Yeah, and the moral of the story is we're
pretty frugal with our travelbecause we want to travel often
and we only paid, like what?
$1,400 for our entire trip to.
Florida.
So we essentially, by sleepingin a nice hotel having a great
meal, we ended up getting paid.
We made money.
We did make money.
Dawn Rosinger (07:05):
We made like $100 , $150.
And then next morning we flewout and they put us right next
to each other, yay.
So the whole moral of the storyis ask, right, ask if you can
sit together.
And it may not be immediate,but eventually you might be
blessed in the process.
Travis Rosinger (07:20):
Oh my, that was super, super fun.
Ask to be bumped yes, supercool.
Well, hey, after we finallyboarded the plane, that next day
was about 6th of the morning,we were only about two hours
into our flight home when I Idon't know why, but my mind was
just kind of wandering and Isuddenly started looking around
the plane.
And then I looked down at mylap and I'm like wait, this is
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so weird.
Like the most outdated piece ofequipment is the.
You know this, this belt, thisseat belt that's holding me to
this chair, this airplane seat,and yet I'm flying at 600 miles
an hour using insane technology,like the plane flies itself.
(08:06):
Right, the plane could probablytake off and land by itself,
but I was just thinking of theirony of it all.
There's this cheap little seatbelt that maybe costs five bucks
to make, right, yeah, and it's.
Dawn Rosinger (08:18):
It's like outdated technology but it's
holding me in place.
It is, and you know what itdoes.
When I buckle my seat belt, Ijust, I feel comfort.
I do, I'm like I'm gonna bucklemy seat belt.
I like I gladly buckle thatseat belt because I don't wanna
fly out of my seat Me too, Ifeel the same way.
Travis Rosinger (08:34):
It's like, oh okay, I'm safe again.
Dawn Rosinger (08:36):
I'm good to go.
Travis Rosinger (08:37):
Yeah, and so seat belts are super important.
And I realized that because,you know, if you have all this
technology in 600 miles an hourand incredible airplane, and you
still have this old, you knowlow tech piece of equipment a
seat belt and they still use it,it must be really important.
Now here's a crazy story aboutseat belts.
I don't know if you guys haveever heard this or not, but this
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actually happened.
Aloha Airlines Flight 243 wasable to land safely even though
it lost a huge portion of itsroof on April 28th 1988.
Oh wow.
By the way, this is according tothe Washington Post.
They said the twin engine 110seat Boeing 737 jet was halfway
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into its 40 minute flight whenit suddenly lost cabin pressure.
And this is the crazy part, don.
This is the part why we say werelax when we sit in our seat
and click our belt.
According to them, they saidthat the ceiling of the Boeing
737 at that moment was torn offand a large section of the
fuselage then followed, exposingpassengers to extreme winds,
(09:43):
and at 24,000 feet over thePacific Ocean.
For those of you that arelistening to this story, you got
to look up the pictures.
Dawn Rosinger (09:51):
Yes, oh, my word On the internet.
That's crazy, it's wild.
I mean, they just had that oneplane where the door flew off.
Travis Rosinger (09:56):
They did.
Dawn Rosinger (09:57):
But this is the whole entire roof of the plane.
Travis Rosinger (09:59):
The roof, really the top half, oh my word.
So when you watch the look atthe pictures, it's like are you
kidding me?
These people are dangling outthe plane practically and it's
the seat belts right that areholding the men.
But they continue.
They say disaster struck whenflight attendant Clarabel
Lansing, who was serving thepassengers, was sucked through
the opening that's horrible shedied.
(10:22):
That's crazy, and the rest ofthe crew and the passengers were
left screaming in horror andwere convinced that the plane
was going to fall apart beforethe pilot could land it.
Why?
Because it didn't look likethere was much left holding it
together after the roof flew off.
Now the last piece of thatstory is, according to the
Federal Aviation Administration,the captain actually took over
the controls from the firstofficer and he began emergency
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descent to Maui, successfullylanding there 13 minutes after
the incident.
Dawn Rosinger (10:51):
That's absolutely crazy.
What an absolute miracle thatthey survived.
Travis Rosinger (10:55):
Incredible Like how, how did they do it?
And thanks to that captain.
I mean, at 24,000 feet you'regoing to freeze to death pretty
quickly too.
So fortunately, he did what heneeded.
He got it landed Again.
Look up the pictures.
But, guys, here's an importantquestion what allowed those in
the plane, when the roof rippedoff, to be able to live once the
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plane landed?
Obviously they're seatbelts.
It's that simple.
Something that is so low-tech,but if you use it it will save
your life.
Dawn Rosinger (11:26):
I mean, not many people fly, or maybe not as
often, so we do wear ourseatbelts when we fly.
But there's also otherseatbelts that we wear every
single day, or should wear everysingle day, every time.
And that's our seatbelts in ourcar.
Now, seatbelts in cars havebeen around for what feels like
forever.
I just always remember jumpingin a car and buckling up, or
even those cars in the pastwhere it kind of was automatic
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and it just kind of strappedover.
I don't even know if they makethose cars anymore, but
seatbelts have been around for awhile.
According to the Governor'sHighway Safety Association,
seatbelts are the oldest form ofoccupant protection, with Volvo
patenting the first seatbelt in1889.
Travis Rosinger (12:05):
That's a long time ago.
That is a long time ago.
That's crazy.
Dawn Rosinger (12:08):
You know, however , it wasn't until 1968 that the
federal government requiredseatbelts to be installed in all
new passenger cars, so that'swhen they became.
I remember you picked me up in1957, chevy, when we first
married 58, chevy, oh sorry, 58.
Travis Rosinger (12:22):
58.
And I don't think they hadseatbelts.
Well, I think they were there,but they were buried.
You're right, I don't thinkthey were there.
Dawn Rosinger (12:28):
I don't remember buckling up.
Yeah, I borrowed my dad's 1958Chevy.
Travis Rosinger (12:32):
I was buying it from him and drove up there.
Dawn Rosinger (12:35):
Well, you know, this article goes on to say US
seatbelt use rates have steadilyincreased over time, and in
1994, the observed nationalseatbelt use rate was 58%.
In 2019, seatbelt use hadreached 91%.
Yet, despite these gains, toomany drivers and passengers are
choosing not to buckle up andare paying for it with their
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lives in 2020.
Of the 23,824 passenger vehicleoccupants killed in 2020,
10,893 of them were unrestrainedat the time of the crash, or
46%.
Travis Rosinger (13:12):
Wow, that's so crazy.
I mean, that's just weird.
I mean, thinking about it, allthey had to do was click yeah,
put their seatbelt down and itfeels like a huge chunk of them
may have lived and not died.
Oh my gosh, it's crazy.
Dawn Rosinger (13:25):
Seatbelts are simple, yet they probably help
keep most of us safe, right, ifwe actually do what they say and
buckle them.
Ultimately, if we're in a carcrash, they're going to keep us
safe In a car.
The passengers in the car aremoving at the same speed, so
when the car experiences asudden stop due to an accident,
the passengers continue to moveat that same speed, and that's
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why seatbelts are so needed.
The seatbelt stops thepassengers from their forward
movement.
I know sometimes, travis, youmess around and you slam on the
brakes.
I do I think just to see ourheads go up, are you?
I usually scream.
Travis Rosinger (13:57):
when I do that, you scream, and then you've got
that to our kids.
Just scare everybody.
Dawn Rosinger (14:00):
Now they know when they drive with you, that
you're going to scream and slamon the brakes.
Travis Rosinger (14:03):
But they still scare them.
Dawn Rosinger (14:04):
Yeah, our bodies just move forward, right, that's
just when you hit the brakes,but the seatbelt keeps us in
place.
They don't need electricity ortechnology to use, which is cool
because you don't have to plugthem in.
I mean, they're alreadyconnected to the car.
Travis Rosinger (14:18):
Yeah, they're just there.
Dawn Rosinger (14:19):
But seatbelts, ultimately they save your life
and they can save the life ofmany others if they just choose
to click that seatbelt.
Travis Rosinger (14:27):
Yeah, crazy Low tech equipment been around
since what?
1880, or whatever you said, don.
But here's the key you have touse them or you don't.
Dawn Rosinger (14:36):
You have to pick up both ends and connect them.
Travis Rosinger (14:39):
Yeah, connect it.
So why are we asking thequestion in this podcast Loving
the Fight Marriage podcast, orthis episode?
Why are we asking the questiondoes your marriage have
seatbelts?
I mean, why would we do that Ina marriage podcast?
Well, it's because yourmarriage needs them.
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Your marriage needs things thatkeep you in your seat and keep
your marriage alive.
So the question does yourmarriage have seatbelts Really
means what holds your marriagein place and keeps it safe.
Dawn Rosinger (15:13):
I remember when we were on the airplane Travis,
I could tell that you werethinking about something and
then you got out your phone andyou opened up your notes and you
started typing away.
And that's exactly what youwere typing in that moment, as
you were thinking in the plane,looking at your seatbelt and
then just thinking aboutmarriage and how we need
marriage seatbelts.
Travis Rosinger (15:28):
Yeah, and part of it was because I, you know,
looking at my seatbelt and then,like you mentioned, that door
flew off that plane not thatlong ago, a couple of weeks or a
month ago, and I thought, man,if we need seatbelts this badly,
what are people doing to keeptheir marriage?
Dawn Rosinger (15:43):
safe Right, yeah.
Travis Rosinger (15:43):
Yeah, so we want to take a few moments and
just share with you some of ourseatbelts that we use to keep
our marriage safe, and these mayor may not work for you guys,
but these are important to us.
So before we do that, though,there's one thing to remember
about seatbelts is that theyactually hold the driver in, not
only when the driver's hittingthe brakes, but also when
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they're hitting the gas pedal.
Dawn Rosinger (16:07):
True, because if you hit the gas pedal, you're
going to go forward as well.
Travis Rosinger (16:10):
You are, or maybe if you're a racecar driver
and you know they haveseatbelts that hold them in
place and when they hit the gaspedal, they would literally fly
out of their driver's seat.
And so it's just the idea.
You know that there aredifferent kinds of seatbelts for
different kinds of things somefor hitting the brakes and some
for hitting the gas.
Well, it's the same formarriage.
There are two types of reasonswhy you need seatbelts for your
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marriage.
So let's take a look at that.
The first one again, we wouldcall them a gas pedal seatbelt.
When you hit the gas and youwant to go forward again, they
hold you in place.
So what does that look like inmarriage?
Well, these seatbelts allow youto grow your marriage and hit
the gas pedal on yourrelationship.
Things like values, other words, you know, knowing what you
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believe in as a couple.
Dawn Rosinger (16:59):
This is something that we go over quite often to
make sure that we are inalignment with our values.
We want to make sure, but wehave values because from our
values comes our mission and ourgoals and how we live life and
our values are seatbelts for ourmarriage, just like our goals.
Travis Rosinger (17:13):
Like you mentioned, don, our goals are
knowing where we're headed.
It's being on the same page inkey areas like finances, health,
education, learning, relationalinvestment into others and
spiritual growth, to give acouple examples.
But those are some of ourseatbelts for our marriage, our
gas pedal seatbelts, like theBible, reading the Bible daily
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and listening to messages fromother churches and pastors.
Don, you got home from worktoday and I told you I was like,
oh my gosh, I listened to apastor today.
He a guy by the name of RobertMedu.
I just like his style ofspeaking, but he gave a message
on being thankful and I was justlike, oh my gosh, this is
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incredible and to be able toshare that with you and say, hey
, this is one you're gonna wannalisten to.
And so those are some gas pedalseatbelts for us.
Dawn Rosinger (18:04):
I think a few gas pedal seatbelts that come to
mind for me are just prayingtogether.
What we do every morning beforework, when we eat, and having
extended times of prayer whenwe're just like, hey, we just
need to sit down and pray aboutsome things more intensely.
Travis Rosinger (18:18):
It's so good.
Dawn Rosinger (18:19):
Or rules for living or lifestyle rhythms,
things like just working out,eating right, holding no grudges
, maybe just treating everyonewith honor and being a positive
person instead of a person whosucks the life out of others.
Again, those are just our gaspedal seatbelts.
Those are the ones that we wantto wear.
And, honestly, how about rulesfor marriage?
Things like being quick toforgive, show in respect, trying
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to always meet the needs ofeach other, having great
communication, which includesbeing a great listener Again,
those are just some of our gaspedal seatbelts that we choose
to put on and we wanna hit thegas pedal.
Travis Rosinger (18:52):
We don't want our marriage to be stuck in one
spot, not moving forward, and sothese are some of the best kind
of seatbelts, and again theywork for us gas pedal seatbelts.
But what about your marriage?
What about your relationship?
Dawn Rosinger (19:07):
There is a marriage seatbelt passage in the
Bible At least that's what wefeel when we read it in Hebrews
13.4.
It says this marriage should behonored by all and the marriage
bed kept pure, for God willjudge the adulterer in all the
sexually Immoral.
So the honoring of the marriageis actually the seat belt for
hitting the gas pedal.
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That's the type of seat beltyou want to wear, but the
keeping the marriage bed here isactually the seat belt for just
hitting the brakes and stopping, making sure that you're
staying in Place yeah, and so,in other words, what we're
saying is, when you hit the gaspedal, it's like, hey, that's
something we want to do that'ssomething we want to practice in
marriage, but hitting the brakekind of seat belt that holds
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you in place is like oh no, no,stop, we don't want to do that.
Travis Rosinger (19:52):
Yeah, and so we want to hit the gas pedal by
honoring each other, but we wantto hit the brakes by keeping
the marriage bed pure.
Dawn Rosinger (19:59):
No, we're not gonna let that into our marriage
, whatever that might be so wetalked about hitting the gas
pedal seat belts, but what doesit look like to put on the seat
belt for hitting the brakes?
What do they hit the brakesseat belts actually look like?
Well, hit the brakes seat beltsis just saying no to
spiritually Compromisingsituations.
It's honestly havingaccountability of your time, of
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your money and your electronics.
It's not having apathy aboutyour relationship, honestly,
just not allowing it.
We want to make sure that youhave the attitude that we fight
for each other and for amarriage is no apathy allowed.
Yeah.
Travis Rosinger (20:32):
I think the important thing here is that we
are talking about.
You know Examples that work forour marriages, that we would
call hit the brake seat beltsthat keep you and I don't in our
Marriage driver's seat.
We're not flying out throughthe window, right yeah?
Instead, we're still able tomove down the road in this
marriage that we've been haulingdown the road of life for what?
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31 years, soon to be 32 in thefall.
Dawn Rosinger (20:56):
I think you should just honestly close your
eyes and get that physicalpicture in your mind of slamming
on the brakes.
And what does your body do?
Travis Rosinger (21:02):
it wants to fly forward through that windshield
, and we want to make sure we'rewearing those seat belts so
we're not flying yeah, and oneway that we hit the brakes is we
just say, hey, no, alone timewith someone that we're
attracted to of the opposite sex.
That's, we're just not going todo that.
We're not going to be alonewith somebody, and maybe even
just not at all, you know,whether we're attracted to them
or not.
No, we're hitting the brakesand those are the kind of seat
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belts we want to hold us inplace, or Selfishness.
This is not going to be amarriage built on selfishness or
bad or negative attitudes, andwe also don't want to use any
kind of addictive Substances orhave addictive behaviors.
We have hit the brakes, seatbelts for that, and we're just
like that's not welcome in ourmarriage and especially
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Independent lives or lifestyles.
We are gonna be the two thatbecame one flesh.
Dawn Rosinger (21:52):
We're married.
Why live independent lives?
Travis Rosinger (21:54):
That's absolutely true.
We want to do this thingtogether.
Well, seat belts here's a keyin a car are so important.
I said this earlier.
You have to use them or youwill die.
Remember what we said earlierOut of in 2020, out of the
23,824 passengers that werekilled in 2020, 10,000 of them
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893 didn't have seat belts on.
Wow, and it makes you wonder ifthat 10,000 would still be
alive right.
Dawn Rosinger (22:23):
46% of those people died and it all they had
to do was honestly, just put ontheir seat belt.
So in the same way, seat beltsfor your marriage will not only
keep you and your spouse in thedriver's seat, but it will also
keep your marriage Alive.
You know, seat belts are kindof like insurance in case
something goes wrong.
Yet seat belts aren't justinsurance to keep you safe, they
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actually work.
In an accident they do over andover again.
We know people who they saidman, they had seat belt.
You know Bruises, but it'ssaved their life.
But when your marriage has seatbelts, it can have a collision,
with bankruptcy, medicalconditions, job loss, family
faults and many other things,but the marriage stays in place
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and strong.
And when I say those thingsHonestly think of the people
around you or maybe your ownmarriage.
You have gone through some ofthose things, but you were able
to stay in place and keep yourmarriage whole.
Travis Rosinger (23:16):
Yeah, I think that's the reality.
We're all headed towards acollision At one time or another
.
We're gonna hit a bump in theroad, we're gonna slam into a
wall, there's gonna be somethingcoming at us, and so, yeah,
having those things in placewill keep our marriage strong.
Dawn Rosinger (23:32):
Well, you know, let's just give you guys a
challenge today.
Maybe sit down and ask yourspouse if you can just write out
your gas pedal seat belts andyou're hit the brake seat belts.
Marriage takes work.
It takes time, but that time,that energy put into it is so
worth it.
I know we have seen coupleafter couple who didn't think
they needed to work on theirmarriage when things were good
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and then when the roof of theirlife just got ripped off, kind
of like in that airplane, theyhad a head-on collision and they
lost their marriage, like theirmarriage did not survive.
Travis Rosinger (24:02):
It's happened again and again and it's like no
, no, no, no, be careful.
You've gotta do the hard work,you gotta take the challenges,
you gotta sit down and write itout.
Dawn Rosinger (24:11):
It's worth it to get on the same page you guys,
we just don't want you to fallinto that trap.
Don't fall into that trap,Don't fall for that trap.
Write out what will keep you ina marriage driver's seat so if
you suddenly hit some toughspots in the road of life which
you will, that's one thing thatwe're promised actually.
Travis Rosinger (24:27):
It's going to happen.
Dawn Rosinger (24:28):
But you won't lose control and ultimately lose
your marriage Again.
Whenever we talk to you guys,when we're on it, we're talking
to ourselves as well.
What seatbelts, travis, do weneed to have in our life to hit
the you know, hit the gas pedalseatbelt and hit the brake
seatbelt?
We need to figure this out.
Travis Rosinger (24:45):
Yeah, and we just went on vacation, and on
our vacation, we wrote out alist, didn't we we?
Did yeah, of some new gas pedalseatbelts for our marriage and
maybe some hit the brakeseatbelts for our marriage, but
it's so important we need it.
Boy, we think you guys need it.
Take the time.
We want to challenge you.
Your marriage is worth it.
Dawn Rosinger (25:04):
Yeah, we want our marriage to survive.
We want your marriage tosurvive.
With that, I want to thank youfor listening to this episode of
the Loving the Fight Marriagepodcast.
Remember, you can do it.
You got this.
Keep loving the fight.
We'll see you next time.
Alright, here we go.
Welcome to the Loving the FightMarriage Podcast.
My name is Travis and I amsitting here with my wife and my
best friend, Dawn Rosinger.
Dawn Rosinger (00:23):
Hey everyone.
One thing that you missed tosay, travis, is that you missed
to say that I was yourpickleball partner and co-host.
Travis Rosinger (00:30):
And co-host?
Yes, absolutely, I missed bothof those.
Dawn Rosinger (00:32):
I love the co-host part, but yesterday we
got to play pickleball and thatwas a blast and we dominated.
Okay, we did.
No, we won.
Travis Rosinger (00:39):
We did, we did.
We can officially say that wewon.
We won best of three out offive, but maybe we should have
played seven out of ten, right,I don't know?
And it was a windy day and wewon, we won.
It was so much fun, it feltgood.
Dawn Rosinger (00:51):
If you guys haven't tried pickleball, I
would recommend going out andgrabbing two paddles, because
it's something that you can dowith your spouse and you can
either play singles or you canget another couple and you can
play doubles.
And man, it's just a fun sport.
Travis Rosinger (01:00):
And what made yesterday so much fun was this
is a couple that's crushed usbefore a few times, Right yep.
So somehow we were on and webeat them.
Dawn Rosinger (01:09):
Is that gloating to say that we won?
Travis Rosinger (01:12):
Or just excitement.
It's probably not great, let'ssay it anyway.
Dawn Rosinger (01:17):
We did win.
We're not that competitive ohmy no, I'm a little bit more
competitive, but I like to be onthe underdog team, not saying
that you're the underdog.
Travis Rosinger (01:25):
Oh, thanks, you just threw me under the bus.
I can't help it that you grewup in an athletic I can't even
say athletic family that's howunathletic I am, I can't even
say the word.
But I grew up in a musician,actor kind of family.
Dawn Rosinger (01:41):
Yeah, but you have other skills.
You have the creative brain,the brain you know there, but I
don't have that so much.
Travis Rosinger (01:46):
You sounded like you said creative brain,
which is like a pig or something.
Creative brain.
I know our comments are gettingtied, which is weird because we
just came back from vacation,right?
Yeah, we had a great time.
Dawn Rosinger (01:58):
In the wonderful week.
Well, you know what, when wewere on vacation, we actually
had to come home.
So this is a great segue intoour podcast episode today.
Well, we had to come home andwe had to jump on a plane, but
for some reason we were flyingDelta and they had gave a
separate seat, so you were likea row 23B.
You have the middle seat, oh my.
And then I had like 36C.
Travis Rosinger (02:20):
No, I had the like prisoner of war seat.
The small middle section, themiddle seat where you feel like
you can't lean to your left andfall asleep because you'll drool
on your neighbor, and themiddle seat because you can't
even lean to the right becauseyou know if you want to get up
and get to the aisle, you'regoing to wake up the person next
to you.
Dawn Rosinger (02:39):
Yes, I don't like the middle seat and it's just a
prisoner seat, but I wasexcited because I know you had
the middle seat and then I hadseat C, but like in row 36, so
we were like 13 year olds apart.
So you went up to the desk whenwe got to the airport and you
asked them.
You're like hey, is there anyway that you have some seats
open so I can sit next to mywife?
Travis Rosinger (02:59):
So we can swap, yeah, because we wanted to sit
next to each other.
Dawn Rosinger (03:02):
We like each other, and that way, if we crash
, you know, we can at least dietogether.
Travis Rosinger (03:06):
Yeah, that's a good thing.
Dawn Rosinger (03:09):
Well, when you went up there, you actually
heard the person in front of youbefore you asked your question
if they could move seats andthey said no.
They said the plane wasactually full, like overbooked
full, and so it was your turn.
You asked the question.
Travis Rosinger (03:22):
Same question, but I wanted to be sure that I
heard the right thing.
Yeah, why not?
Dawn Rosinger (03:25):
try right, and you knew you would have to come
back to me.
I'm like I don't know.
Like did you at least ask?
But yes.
So you asked and you got thesame reply.
But then you looked at him andyou said what to him?
Travis Rosinger (03:35):
I said well, you don't happen to be looking
for people to bump from thisflight.
Do you like to take anotherflight?
And he just started to lose hismind.
He got this big smile.
His eyeballs got really big,this very stressful man who was
absolutely.
He looked like he was ready tohave a heart attack.
All of a sudden he's at DisneyWorld and he's happy.
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And he's excited that I askedthat question.
Dawn Rosinger (04:00):
I must admit, when we got to the gate, there
was people everywhere.
There were so many people.
I was like how are we all goingto fit on the plane?
So I wasn't shocked when yousaid that it was overbooked, but
it's interesting that you werethere in line at the exact time
and asked him, and all of asudden we became heroes to him,
right.
Travis Rosinger (04:18):
We did Weird.
Dawn Rosinger (04:20):
Well, I want you to explain why we became heroes
to this gentleman and we savedthe day.
Travis Rosinger (04:24):
Yeah, so well.
Anyway, when I asked him, youknow, if he needed to bump
people, and he, right away he'slike why are you interested?
And I said, well, my wife and Idon't work tomorrow.
It's possible we're going tomaybe, you know, get bumped and
take a different flight, maybe amorning flight.
It was, I think, in the evening, about five, six o'clock in the
evening.
And immediately he was like,are you serious?
(04:45):
That's incredible.
And I said, well, what wouldyou give us if we, you know,
jumped off this flight, if weallowed ourselves to be bumped
and took into the next flight?
And he said $800.
Dawn Rosinger (04:59):
And I was like oh my my jaw hit the floor.
Travis Rosinger (05:02):
I almost had a heart attack at that moment it
was like he it went from him andbounced to me.
And then I had this weird idea.
I looked back at him and I saideach and he goes oh yeah,
absolutely.
Wow, it's not my fault, theyoversold the plane.
You're going to get $800 apiece, do you want to do it?
And I was like, are you serious?
Are you kidding me?
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Did I just win the lottery?
Like how did this happen to me?
I didn't even hand over $2 andget the scratch off lottery
ticket.
I mean, I'm just winning, ofcourse, winning.
Dawn Rosinger (05:33):
Yep, and I know it's funny when you said, you
came back to me and you said,hey, would you be?
Oh no, you texted me reallyquick.
You're like hey, come up here.
Run up to the gate and not onlydid they offer us $800 each,
for a total of $1,600, they paidfor a nice night in a really
nice hotel.
They shuttled us there and theygave us money for supper and,
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you guys, we had the best supperbecause we had almost an
incredible budget for our supper.
Travis Rosinger (05:58):
Oh, we did, and it was on Delta.
Piles and piles of food.
They paid for it.
Thank you, delta.
Yeah, and you know what's crazy, you guys.
Dawn Rosinger (06:05):
We only paid $160 for our air flight.
Travis Rosinger (06:08):
Should we tell Delta that?
Dawn Rosinger (06:09):
Yeah, and we got $1,600.
We got paid to go on vacation.
Oh my, we got more money cominghome than we did.
I mean the trip costed.
Travis Rosinger (06:19):
And we're not bragging like the pickleball
bragging.
That was bragging, by the way,but this is not bragging.
Dawn Rosinger (06:23):
This is sharing, a blessing, an unexpected
blessing, oh my that we gothonestly, we really literally
did pray.
We're like thank you, jesus,for this massive blessing.
Absolutely Because it wasn'teven vouchers, it was $1,600 in
Visa gift cards.
Travis Rosinger (06:38):
That we could download right away and start
using Immediately.
Dawn Rosinger (06:40):
So we could have honestly jumped on Amazon and
bought a computer or boughtwhatever for $1,600.
It's crazy.
Travis Rosinger (06:47):
Yeah, and the moral of the story is we're
pretty frugal with our travelbecause we want to travel often
and we only paid, like what?
$1,400 for our entire trip to.
Florida.
So we essentially, by sleepingin a nice hotel having a great
meal, we ended up getting paid.
We made money.
We did make money.
Dawn Rosinger (07:05):
We made like $100 , $150.
And then next morning we flewout and they put us right next
to each other, yay.
So the whole moral of the storyis ask, right, ask if you can
sit together.
And it may not be immediate,but eventually you might be
blessed in the process.
Travis Rosinger (07:20):
Oh my, that was super, super fun.
Ask to be bumped yes, supercool.
Well, hey, after we finallyboarded the plane, that next day
was about 6th of the morning,we were only about two hours
into our flight home when I Idon't know why, but my mind was
just kind of wandering and Isuddenly started looking around
the plane.
And then I looked down at mylap and I'm like wait, this is
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so weird.
Like the most outdated piece ofequipment is the.
You know this, this belt, thisseat belt that's holding me to
this chair, this airplane seat,and yet I'm flying at 600 miles
an hour using insane technology,like the plane flies itself.
(08:06):
Right, the plane could probablytake off and land by itself,
but I was just thinking of theirony of it all.
There's this cheap little seatbelt that maybe costs five bucks
to make, right, yeah, and it's.
Dawn Rosinger (08:18):
It's like outdated technology but it's
holding me in place.
It is, and you know what itdoes.
When I buckle my seat belt, Ijust, I feel comfort.
I do, I'm like I'm gonna bucklemy seat belt.
I like I gladly buckle thatseat belt because I don't wanna
fly out of my seat Me too, Ifeel the same way.
Travis Rosinger (08:34):
It's like, oh okay, I'm safe again.
Dawn Rosinger (08:36):
I'm good to go.
Travis Rosinger (08:37):
Yeah, and so seat belts are super important.
And I realized that because,you know, if you have all this
technology in 600 miles an hourand incredible airplane, and you
still have this old, you knowlow tech piece of equipment a
seat belt and they still use it,it must be really important.
Now here's a crazy story aboutseat belts.
I don't know if you guys haveever heard this or not, but this
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actually happened.
Aloha Airlines Flight 243 wasable to land safely even though
it lost a huge portion of itsroof on April 28th 1988.
Oh wow.
By the way, this is according tothe Washington Post.
They said the twin engine 110seat Boeing 737 jet was halfway
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into its 40 minute flight whenit suddenly lost cabin pressure.
And this is the crazy part, don.
This is the part why we say werelax when we sit in our seat
and click our belt.
According to them, they saidthat the ceiling of the Boeing
737 at that moment was torn offand a large section of the
fuselage then followed, exposingpassengers to extreme winds,
(09:43):
and at 24,000 feet over thePacific Ocean.
For those of you that arelistening to this story, you got
to look up the pictures.
Dawn Rosinger (09:51):
Yes, oh, my word On the internet.
That's crazy, it's wild.
I mean, they just had that oneplane where the door flew off.
Travis Rosinger (09:56):
They did.
Dawn Rosinger (09:57):
But this is the whole entire roof of the plane.
Travis Rosinger (09:59):
The roof, really the top half, oh my word.
So when you watch the look atthe pictures, it's like are you
kidding me?
These people are dangling outthe plane practically and it's
the seat belts right that areholding the men.
But they continue.
They say disaster struck whenflight attendant Clarabel
Lansing, who was serving thepassengers, was sucked through
the opening that's horrible shedied.
(10:22):
That's crazy, and the rest ofthe crew and the passengers were
left screaming in horror andwere convinced that the plane
was going to fall apart beforethe pilot could land it.
Why?
Because it didn't look likethere was much left holding it
together after the roof flew off.
Now the last piece of thatstory is, according to the
Federal Aviation Administration,the captain actually took over
the controls from the firstofficer and he began emergency
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descent to Maui, successfullylanding there 13 minutes after
the incident.
Dawn Rosinger (10:51):
That's absolutely crazy.
What an absolute miracle thatthey survived.
Travis Rosinger (10:55):
Incredible Like how, how did they do it?
And thanks to that captain.
I mean, at 24,000 feet you'regoing to freeze to death pretty
quickly too.
So fortunately, he did what heneeded.
He got it landed Again.
Look up the pictures.
But, guys, here's an importantquestion what allowed those in
the plane, when the roof rippedoff, to be able to live once the
(11:15):
plane landed?
Obviously they're seatbelts.
It's that simple.
Something that is so low-tech,but if you use it it will save
your life.
Dawn Rosinger (11:26):
I mean, not many people fly, or maybe not as
often, so we do wear ourseatbelts when we fly.
But there's also otherseatbelts that we wear every
single day, or should wear everysingle day, every time.
And that's our seatbelts in ourcar.
Now, seatbelts in cars havebeen around for what feels like
forever.
I just always remember jumpingin a car and buckling up, or
even those cars in the pastwhere it kind of was automatic
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and it just kind of strappedover.
I don't even know if they makethose cars anymore, but
seatbelts have been around for awhile.
According to the Governor'sHighway Safety Association,
seatbelts are the oldest form ofoccupant protection, with Volvo
patenting the first seatbelt in1889.
Travis Rosinger (12:05):
That's a long time ago.
That is a long time ago.
That's crazy.
Dawn Rosinger (12:08):
You know, however , it wasn't until 1968 that the
federal government requiredseatbelts to be installed in all
new passenger cars, so that'swhen they became.
I remember you picked me up in1957, chevy, when we first
married 58, chevy, oh sorry, 58.
Travis Rosinger (12:22):
58.
And I don't think they hadseatbelts.
Well, I think they were there,but they were buried.
You're right, I don't thinkthey were there.
Dawn Rosinger (12:28):
I don't remember buckling up.
Yeah, I borrowed my dad's 1958Chevy.
Travis Rosinger (12:32):
I was buying it from him and drove up there.
Dawn Rosinger (12:35):
Well, you know, this article goes on to say US
seatbelt use rates have steadilyincreased over time, and in
1994, the observed nationalseatbelt use rate was 58%.
In 2019, seatbelt use hadreached 91%.
Yet, despite these gains, toomany drivers and passengers are
choosing not to buckle up andare paying for it with their
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lives in 2020.
Of the 23,824 passenger vehicleoccupants killed in 2020,
10,893 of them were unrestrainedat the time of the crash, or
46%.
Travis Rosinger (13:12):
Wow, that's so crazy.
I mean, that's just weird.
I mean, thinking about it, allthey had to do was click yeah,
put their seatbelt down and itfeels like a huge chunk of them
may have lived and not died.
Oh my gosh, it's crazy.
Dawn Rosinger (13:25):
Seatbelts are simple, yet they probably help
keep most of us safe, right, ifwe actually do what they say and
buckle them.
Ultimately, if we're in a carcrash, they're going to keep us
safe In a car.
The passengers in the car aremoving at the same speed, so
when the car experiences asudden stop due to an accident,
the passengers continue to moveat that same speed, and that's
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why seatbelts are so needed.
The seatbelt stops thepassengers from their forward
movement.
I know sometimes, travis, youmess around and you slam on the
brakes.
I do I think just to see ourheads go up, are you?
I usually scream.
Travis Rosinger (13:57):
when I do that, you scream, and then you've got
that to our kids.
Just scare everybody.
Dawn Rosinger (14:00):
Now they know when they drive with you, that
you're going to scream and slamon the brakes.
Travis Rosinger (14:03):
But they still scare them.
Dawn Rosinger (14:04):
Yeah, our bodies just move forward, right, that's
just when you hit the brakes,but the seatbelt keeps us in
place.
They don't need electricity ortechnology to use, which is cool
because you don't have to plugthem in.
I mean, they're alreadyconnected to the car.
Travis Rosinger (14:18):
Yeah, they're just there.
Dawn Rosinger (14:19):
But seatbelts, ultimately they save your life
and they can save the life ofmany others if they just choose
to click that seatbelt.
Travis Rosinger (14:27):
Yeah, crazy Low tech equipment been around
since what?
1880, or whatever you said, don.
But here's the key you have touse them or you don't.
Dawn Rosinger (14:36):
You have to pick up both ends and connect them.
Travis Rosinger (14:39):
Yeah, connect it.
So why are we asking thequestion in this podcast Loving
the Fight Marriage podcast, orthis episode?
Why are we asking the questiondoes your marriage have
seatbelts?
I mean, why would we do that Ina marriage podcast?
Well, it's because yourmarriage needs them.
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Your marriage needs things thatkeep you in your seat and keep
your marriage alive.
So the question does yourmarriage have seatbelts Really
means what holds your marriagein place and keeps it safe.
Dawn Rosinger (15:13):
I remember when we were on the airplane Travis,
I could tell that you werethinking about something and
then you got out your phone andyou opened up your notes and you
started typing away.
And that's exactly what youwere typing in that moment, as
you were thinking in the plane,looking at your seatbelt and
then just thinking aboutmarriage and how we need
marriage seatbelts.
Travis Rosinger (15:28):
Yeah, and part of it was because I, you know,
looking at my seatbelt and then,like you mentioned, that door
flew off that plane not thatlong ago, a couple of weeks or a
month ago, and I thought, man,if we need seatbelts this badly,
what are people doing to keeptheir marriage?
Dawn Rosinger (15:43):
safe Right, yeah.
Travis Rosinger (15:43):
Yeah, so we want to take a few moments and
just share with you some of ourseatbelts that we use to keep
our marriage safe, and these mayor may not work for you guys,
but these are important to us.
So before we do that, though,there's one thing to remember
about seatbelts is that theyactually hold the driver in, not
only when the driver's hittingthe brakes, but also when
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they're hitting the gas pedal.
Dawn Rosinger (16:07):
True, because if you hit the gas pedal, you're
going to go forward as well.
Travis Rosinger (16:10):
You are, or maybe if you're a racecar driver
and you know they haveseatbelts that hold them in
place and when they hit the gaspedal, they would literally fly
out of their driver's seat.
And so it's just the idea.
You know that there aredifferent kinds of seatbelts for
different kinds of things somefor hitting the brakes and some
for hitting the gas.
Well, it's the same formarriage.
There are two types of reasonswhy you need seatbelts for your
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marriage.
So let's take a look at that.
The first one again, we wouldcall them a gas pedal seatbelt.
When you hit the gas and youwant to go forward again, they
hold you in place.
So what does that look like inmarriage?
Well, these seatbelts allow youto grow your marriage and hit
the gas pedal on yourrelationship.
Things like values, other words, you know, knowing what you
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believe in as a couple.
Dawn Rosinger (16:59):
This is something that we go over quite often to
make sure that we are inalignment with our values.
We want to make sure, but wehave values because from our
values comes our mission and ourgoals and how we live life and
our values are seatbelts for ourmarriage, just like our goals.
Travis Rosinger (17:13):
Like you mentioned, don, our goals are
knowing where we're headed.
It's being on the same page inkey areas like finances, health,
education, learning, relationalinvestment into others and
spiritual growth, to give acouple examples.
But those are some of ourseatbelts for our marriage, our
gas pedal seatbelts, like theBible, reading the Bible daily
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and listening to messages fromother churches and pastors.
Don, you got home from worktoday and I told you I was like,
oh my gosh, I listened to apastor today.
He a guy by the name of RobertMedu.
I just like his style ofspeaking, but he gave a message
on being thankful and I was justlike, oh my gosh, this is
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incredible and to be able toshare that with you and say, hey
, this is one you're gonna wannalisten to.
And so those are some gas pedalseatbelts for us.
Dawn Rosinger (18:04):
I think a few gas pedal seatbelts that come to
mind for me are just prayingtogether.
What we do every morning beforework, when we eat, and having
extended times of prayer whenwe're just like, hey, we just
need to sit down and pray aboutsome things more intensely.
Travis Rosinger (18:18):
It's so good.
Dawn Rosinger (18:19):
Or rules for living or lifestyle rhythms,
things like just working out,eating right, holding no grudges
, maybe just treating everyonewith honor and being a positive
person instead of a person whosucks the life out of others.
Again, those are just our gaspedal seatbelts.
Those are the ones that we wantto wear.
And, honestly, how about rulesfor marriage?
Things like being quick toforgive, show in respect, trying
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to always meet the needs ofeach other, having great
communication, which includesbeing a great listener Again,
those are just some of our gaspedal seatbelts that we choose
to put on and we wanna hit thegas pedal.
Travis Rosinger (18:52):
We don't want our marriage to be stuck in one
spot, not moving forward, and sothese are some of the best kind
of seatbelts, and again theywork for us gas pedal seatbelts.
But what about your marriage?
What about your relationship?
Dawn Rosinger (19:07):
There is a marriage seatbelt passage in the
Bible At least that's what wefeel when we read it in Hebrews
13.4.
It says this marriage should behonored by all and the marriage
bed kept pure, for God willjudge the adulterer in all the
sexually Immoral.
So the honoring of the marriageis actually the seat belt for
hitting the gas pedal.
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That's the type of seat beltyou want to wear, but the
keeping the marriage bed here isactually the seat belt for just
hitting the brakes and stopping, making sure that you're
staying in Place yeah, and so,in other words, what we're
saying is, when you hit the gaspedal, it's like, hey, that's
something we want to do that'ssomething we want to practice in
marriage, but hitting the brakekind of seat belt that holds
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you in place is like oh no, no,stop, we don't want to do that.
Travis Rosinger (19:52):
Yeah, and so we want to hit the gas pedal by
honoring each other, but we wantto hit the brakes by keeping
the marriage bed pure.
Dawn Rosinger (19:59):
No, we're not gonna let that into our marriage
, whatever that might be so wetalked about hitting the gas
pedal seat belts, but what doesit look like to put on the seat
belt for hitting the brakes?
What do they hit the brakesseat belts actually look like?
Well, hit the brakes seat beltsis just saying no to
spiritually Compromisingsituations.
It's honestly havingaccountability of your time, of
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your money and your electronics.
It's not having apathy aboutyour relationship, honestly,
just not allowing it.
We want to make sure that youhave the attitude that we fight
for each other and for amarriage is no apathy allowed.
Yeah.
Travis Rosinger (20:32):
I think the important thing here is that we
are talking about.
You know Examples that work forour marriages, that we would
call hit the brake seat beltsthat keep you and I don't in our
Marriage driver's seat.
We're not flying out throughthe window, right yeah?
Instead, we're still able tomove down the road in this
marriage that we've been haulingdown the road of life for what?
(20:53):
31 years, soon to be 32 in thefall.
Dawn Rosinger (20:56):
I think you should just honestly close your
eyes and get that physicalpicture in your mind of slamming
on the brakes.
And what does your body do?
Travis Rosinger (21:02):
it wants to fly forward through that windshield
, and we want to make sure we'rewearing those seat belts so
we're not flying yeah, and oneway that we hit the brakes is we
just say, hey, no, alone timewith someone that we're
attracted to of the opposite sex.
That's, we're just not going todo that.
We're not going to be alonewith somebody, and maybe even
just not at all, you know,whether we're attracted to them
or not.
No, we're hitting the brakesand those are the kind of seat
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belts we want to hold us inplace, or Selfishness.
This is not going to be amarriage built on selfishness or
bad or negative attitudes, andwe also don't want to use any
kind of addictive Substances orhave addictive behaviors.
We have hit the brakes, seatbelts for that, and we're just
like that's not welcome in ourmarriage and especially
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Independent lives or lifestyles.
We are gonna be the two thatbecame one flesh.
Dawn Rosinger (21:52):
We're married.
Why live independent lives?
Travis Rosinger (21:54):
That's absolutely true.
We want to do this thingtogether.
Well, seat belts here's a keyin a car are so important.
I said this earlier.
You have to use them or youwill die.
Remember what we said earlierOut of in 2020, out of the
23,824 passengers that werekilled in 2020, 10,000 of them
(22:15):
893 didn't have seat belts on.
Wow, and it makes you wonder ifthat 10,000 would still be
alive right.
Dawn Rosinger (22:23):
46% of those people died and it all they had
to do was honestly, just put ontheir seat belt.
So in the same way, seat beltsfor your marriage will not only
keep you and your spouse in thedriver's seat, but it will also
keep your marriage Alive.
You know, seat belts are kindof like insurance in case
something goes wrong.
Yet seat belts aren't justinsurance to keep you safe, they
(22:45):
actually work.
In an accident they do over andover again.
We know people who they saidman, they had seat belt.
You know Bruises, but it'ssaved their life.
But when your marriage has seatbelts, it can have a collision,
with bankruptcy, medicalconditions, job loss, family
faults and many other things,but the marriage stays in place
(23:05):
and strong.
And when I say those thingsHonestly think of the people
around you or maybe your ownmarriage.
You have gone through some ofthose things, but you were able
to stay in place and keep yourmarriage whole.
Travis Rosinger (23:16):
Yeah, I think that's the reality.
We're all headed towards acollision At one time or another
.
We're gonna hit a bump in theroad, we're gonna slam into a
wall, there's gonna be somethingcoming at us, and so, yeah,
having those things in placewill keep our marriage strong.
Dawn Rosinger (23:32):
Well, you know, let's just give you guys a
challenge today.
Maybe sit down and ask yourspouse if you can just write out
your gas pedal seat belts andyou're hit the brake seat belts.
Marriage takes work.
It takes time, but that time,that energy put into it is so
worth it.
I know we have seen coupleafter couple who didn't think
they needed to work on theirmarriage when things were good
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and then when the roof of theirlife just got ripped off, kind
of like in that airplane, theyhad a head-on collision and they
lost their marriage, like theirmarriage did not survive.
Travis Rosinger (24:02):
It's happened again and again and it's like no
, no, no, no, be careful.
You've gotta do the hard work,you gotta take the challenges,
you gotta sit down and write itout.
Dawn Rosinger (24:11):
It's worth it to get on the same page you guys,
we just don't want you to fallinto that trap.
Don't fall into that trap,Don't fall for that trap.
Write out what will keep you ina marriage driver's seat so if
you suddenly hit some toughspots in the road of life which
you will, that's one thing thatwe're promised actually.
Travis Rosinger (24:27):
It's going to happen.
Dawn Rosinger (24:28):
But you won't lose control and ultimately lose
your marriage Again.
Whenever we talk to you guys,when we're on it, we're talking
to ourselves as well.
What seatbelts, travis, do weneed to have in our life to hit
the you know, hit the gas pedalseatbelt and hit the brake
seatbelt?
We need to figure this out.
Travis Rosinger (24:45):
Yeah, and we just went on vacation, and on
our vacation, we wrote out alist, didn't we we?
Did yeah, of some new gas pedalseatbelts for our marriage and
maybe some hit the brakeseatbelts for our marriage, but
it's so important we need it.
Boy, we think you guys need it.
Take the time.
We want to challenge you.
Your marriage is worth it.
Dawn Rosinger (25:04):
Yeah, we want our marriage to survive.
We want your marriage tosurvive.
With that, I want to thank youfor listening to this episode of
the Loving the Fight Marriagepodcast.
Remember, you can do it.
You got this.
Keep loving the fight.
We'll see you next time.
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