March 12, 2024 • 19 mins
Your reading this so that must mean that your alive! Do you realize what a gift that is? The life you are enjoying today is something other people aren't experiencing. They never made it out of yesterday. Their life ended, but yours continued. That isn't just a gift, it's a blessing from God! So, you're alive today but what if you knew you wouldn't be alive tomorrow? What would you do differently today? What would you say, what intentional actions would you take, and where would you go? One thing is true, if all of us knew that today was our last day, we would probably live differently!! Your last day is coming some day. So, why wait?
Join hosts, Travis and Dawn Rosinger, as they highlight recent experiences about dealing with married couples who were facing life and death. They share what a potential "last day" might look like and challenge married couples who are listening to make those kind of changes today, regardless of how many moments or years they might have left. This is a sobering, must listen episode you won't want to miss!!
Travis and Dawn Rosinger are the Loving The Fight Marriage Podcast Hosts and Authors of the books, Verbalosity - 7 Steps to a Verbally Generous and More Fulfilling Marriage and their newest book, Gripping - What Matters Most | A Life and Relationships That Hold on to You
For more information about Travis and Dawn Rosinger go to Loving The Fight
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Dawn Rosinger (00:12):
How cool that this morning, our eyes popped
open, our hearts were beatingand air continued to flow in and
out of our lungs.
What a gift.
If you are listening today, youhave received another day of
life, one of the greatest giftsanyone can be given.
How cool is that?
With that, I want to welcomeyou to the Loving the Fight
Marriage Podcast.
My name is Dawn and I'm sittinghere today, breathing and alive
(00:36):
, with my husband and co-host,travis.
Travis Rosinger (00:38):
Yeah, hey, welcome everyone.
We're so glad that you'retuning in and, dawn, I'm glad
that you're breathing and you'realive.
Dawn Rosinger (00:44):
Yes, and I'm glad that you're alive next to me
too.
Travis Rosinger (00:47):
Well, I don't look alive.
When I first wake up in themorning I kind of look like the
walking dead.
Dawn Rosinger (00:52):
But anyway, yes, I'm alive.
Why, though, you don't havehair?
It's not like your hair'ssticking up Like what I had hair
it used to stand straight upbecause.
Travis Rosinger (00:59):
I'm a violent sleeper, I flop around a lot,
but no, no, you're right, likeI'm alive and I'm awake and I'm
so glad to be here and wow, it'sa wonderful day it is, the sun
is out and we're breathing andwe are alive.
Dawn Rosinger (01:15):
Yeah, we need to celebrate that every day.
Travis Rosinger (01:17):
We definitely do.
This is the day that God hasmade.
We want to celebrate it and beglad in it.
Well, hey, we've had a reallygood week.
Only there's bumps and bruisesand things that don't go so well
sometimes, but, man, some ofthe highlights that we've
enjoyed this.
Last week we talked about thison our podcast, but we ended up
getting $1,600 in gift cards,visa gift cards.
(01:42):
They got mailed to us becausewe allowed ourselves to get
bumped from a flight yeah, from.
Dawn Rosinger (01:46):
Delta.
And they suddenly showed up onour front step yesterday.
Yeah, just a few days later wegot them electronically given to
us.
But we had the option to orderthem real and we wanted the real
ones so we could put them inour wallet and use them.
But they came.
Travis Rosinger (01:58):
They're here Like just a few days later.
Dawn Rosinger (02:00):
It's crazy to look that we have $1,600 in gift
cards.
Oh my gosh, just because we'rewilling to wait a few extra
hours, go on another plane so wecould sit together.
Travis Rosinger (02:08):
Yeah, so fun.
What a blessing from God.
So it was fun to actually seethose like physically.
But also this week we get tocelebrate our daughter's birth.
Talk about celebrating a day orlife man just celebrating her
27 years.
I believe on this earth that'samazing.
Dawn Rosinger (02:27):
And I know one thing that we've done in our
lifetimes.
Not everyone celebratesbirthdays, but we do.
We feel like life is a gift andwe want to make sure that we
are celebrating our kids andeach other.
So every time there's abirthday, we stop and we honor
that person on that day andcelebrate them and love on them.
Travis Rosinger (02:42):
Oh, we have to.
I think it would be a crime ifwe didn't.
It's so important when it comesto you know, when you lose
people, to stop and, you know,have a memorial service or
celebration of life service.
But when people are alive, wealso especially should celebrate
them.
It's so good and we had achance to.
I know, Don.
I got to spend some time withmy parents just hanging out,
(03:03):
talking to them, connecting, andthen we got to go see your mom,
Don.
That was so much fun.
Dawn Rosinger (03:08):
Yeah, but sure was.
She recently moved into anassisted living so we were able
to go over their goal on a shortwalk and get her some treats
and just hang out and have adonut with her and just really
spend some time chatting, whichwas great.
Travis Rosinger (03:19):
And we didn't have coats on it.
Dawn Rosinger (03:21):
It felt like it was 70, 80 degrees that day, and
it's a beautiful day.
Travis Rosinger (03:24):
Big deal for us because it's supposed to be
winter and there's no snow andwe don't wear coats.
We're trying to get used tothis, loving it.
Dawn Rosinger (03:30):
Of not having snow, and it's great.
Travis Rosinger (03:32):
It's a good oddness.
I'll take it every year.
Dawn Rosinger (03:34):
Well, many of you guys know from listening to our
podcast that we are bothpastors and we love what we do.
We are in a great church,surrounded by some incredible
people, and we get tospiritually challenge and
encourage people every singleday.
That's what we get to do withour lives.
It's incredible.
Travis Rosinger (03:51):
It's so much fun.
Dawn Rosinger (03:52):
Being a pastor, though I feel like it's so fun
because of all of the peoplethat we get to interact with,
that we get to meet people ofall demographics male, female,
every culture, rich, poor,educated, uneducated people
maybe who are struggling withsubstance abuse and addictions,
and people who are exploringJesus and faith for the first
time, or some of them for over50 years.
(04:13):
So just a wide range of peoplethat we get to be a part of and
interact with.
Travis Rosinger (04:18):
It's just wild the diversity, the amount of
variety that God created when hebreathed the breath of life
into Adam and Eve became.
You know what was formed.
It's crazy how much of anartist God is, and it's so fun.
I'm actually almost alwayssurprised when I meet someone
new and I literally hear theirwhole life story.
(04:40):
I'm like, wow, I never wouldhave guessed.
It's crazy and it's just ablessing.
Dawn Rosinger (04:45):
Yeah, and honestly, such an honor to be
with people.
Well, not only do we get toknow these people, but we get to
celebrate birth and celebratelives of people who have passed
away as well.
It's amazing that all that weget to be a part of.
Travis Rosinger (04:59):
Yeah, we're so grateful, I think you know, just
to be around these amazingpeople that God has created and
those of you that are listeningright now.
You need to know that you'reunique, you're special and
you're amazing.
You are someone that God lovesso much, and we love you and not
(05:19):
just because you're listeningbut, we literally love you and
are grateful for you.
Dawn Rosinger (05:24):
It's cool to know that God created us all in His
image, right, and so God doesn'tmake mistakes.
None of you are mistakes.
We're not mistakes, and he'screated us all individual and
given us all gifts and talents.
Travis Rosinger (05:34):
So there's a purpose for every single one of
us, yeah, and to think, you know, we're created in God's image.
Like whoa those of you that arelistening you got some pretty
serious awesome DNA.
Yeah, like God loves you somuch and you're so incredible
that you kind of look like animage of God, a reflection of
God.
So we've kind of come throughan interesting season over the
(05:55):
last couple of months.
As pastors, of course, we canfrom time to time be asked to
officiate a funeral, but reallythere's been a fair amount to
that just in the last two monthstwo and a half months down
there, you and I have beenwalking with people either
through some type of a loss orthrough death itself, and they
(06:17):
have been, you know, really anhonor to be a part of, you know,
to be a part of those people'slives and to help, love on them
and encourage them, but be therefor them and listen to them as
they're grieving and dealingwith loss.
Dawn Rosinger (06:33):
I know you have done and officiated a few
funerals at your campus and Iwalked a man through hospice and
his family, which eventuallyled to his funeral as well.
But because of what we do andthe people that we interact with
and just dealing with loss infunerals, we are, honestly,
we're very aware of life anddeath and we're not scared of it
(06:53):
.
We know that we all have a date, that we will someday die, and
we don't need to fear it themore that you're around death
and life, the more that yourealize like the brevity of
death and life right.
Travis Rosinger (07:07):
Yeah, totally Just being able to celebrate
those births but then beingthere with people in their last
moments of breath, yeah no.
Dawn Rosinger (07:15):
And again, such an honor to be a part of those
moments.
But with that in mind, withjust like what we do and just
talking about death andrealizing that we don't need to
be scared of it, we don't needto fear it, we just want to take
a few minutes today and justtalk about the frailty of life,
because we understand that eachday is really a gift, kind of
like I started off this podcastwith in the beginning.
(07:38):
And tomorrow we may not receivethat gift.
When we realize that it makeshow we live today matter, when
we understand that life willcome to an end, the choices that
we make and how we treat eachother today will look different.
Travis Rosinger (07:52):
It will.
It should look different, andit's so important to be thinking
that through the moments ofevery single day.
Dawn Rosinger (08:00):
You know, the Bible totally talks about this
clearly in James 4, 14, where itsays you do not know what will
happen tomorrow.
For what is your life?
It is even a vapor that appearsfor a little time and then
vanishes, a way that Bible talksabout we don't know what's
going to happen tomorrow.
Life is a vapor.
If you ever look at a vapor, ifyou ever spray even a mess, you
(08:21):
know it's just gone.
Travis Rosinger (08:23):
It is gone.
I agree with you, don, and Ijust think it's so important to
think through this verse.
I mean, this verse is so crazy.
It says you don't know what'sgoing to happen tomorrow.
What's your life?
It's like a vapor and, like youjust said, that vapor, that
mess, it disappears in a second,quickly, so quickly.
And so this verse is reallyinferring it's kind of slapping
(08:46):
us in the face actually and justsaying you might not be here
tomorrow.
And so if we could swallow thepill of that, if we could think
it through and allow that toimpact our minds and our hearts
every day, I mean it would beginto reflect our actions and how
we treat others and hopefullyespecially our spouse, because
(09:07):
they're the person that we'reclosest to.
What are we saying, don?
I might not be here tomorrow,you might not be here tomorrow.
The world will be gone tomorrow.
We need to stop and enjoy eachother today.
We need to celebrate each otherand celebrate our moments of
life today, and I think ourlives would look differently
because of our gratitude forthings and people.
(09:28):
I mean, as we think throughthis verse, it would go off the
charts, it would, yes, it'd belike oh, oh, my gosh, I'm like
that messed.
Okay, I better really enjoythis.
Next, you know scoop of icecream.
Right yeah, or you know thisnext conversation with this
friend, you know, or that we'redrinking coffee at a coffee shop
.
Well, here's the thing, here'sthe challenge Be grateful for
(09:50):
each day, for each breath, foreach circumstance that God has
given us and those moments withour spouse that we get to do
this all with.
Like it's all a gift, and so isthat person, that special person
that God has put there with us.
So we happen to think thatproof of having gratefulness, or
(10:13):
that idea that we might not behere tomorrow and that our life
is like a vapor, that the proofand the results are things that
we would see, and they'd bethings like this, where our
words would be more guarded andloving.
Dawn Rosinger (10:25):
Right, yep, if I knew that these were my last
words, man, I'm gonna pick themwisely.
Travis Rosinger (10:30):
Yeah, yeah, and you're probably gonna use words
that are encouraging, loving,right, but also our actions
would be more intentional.
I mean, that's the real worldversion of that verse, or the
effect of that verse that wewouldn't just waste time or just
do this because we want to, orthat We'd think it through and
go, whoa, this could be it, whatshould I do?
(10:52):
You almost wonder.
If you knew you were gonna dietomorrow, how would you live?
Dawn Rosinger (10:56):
differently today .
We would completely livedifferent.
I know we would.
Travis Rosinger (10:59):
Completely and really.
Another way that it would lookor the result or the effect
would be that we would let thepetty things go and not allow
them to bother us so much.
We'd be like, okay, well,that's them not on me, who cares
?
Dawn Rosinger (11:13):
The driving, the toilet seat, the way you drink
and gulp like little things thatare so goofy I wouldn't even
think twice about that.
Travis Rosinger (11:21):
We wouldn't.
Yeah, yeah.
I think Elon Musk once saidlife is too short to hold
long-term grudges.
Dawn Rosinger (11:29):
Oh, that's good.
Travis Rosinger (11:30):
Yeah, and it's like, oh, come on, just let it
go.
Let it go because life is short.
Forgiveness, of course, wouldcome easier if we were living
each moment, knowing it could beour last and our marriage would
be on a mission together, whichis what it should be.
It should be yep.
Dr Martin Luther King Jr oncesaid life's most persistent, an
(11:50):
urgent question is what are youdoing for others?
And that is our question toourselves today, that is our
question to all of you that arelistening what are you doing for
others?
And especially knowing thatyour life could be gone tomorrow
?
Dawn Rosinger (12:05):
Right.
You know, it's crazy is when Iwas sitting with the man in his
living room who decided to go onhospice and he knew that he
only had two to four weeks tolive, I didn't go and visit him
and talk to him about his 401Kor his stocks.
I didn't talk to him aboutpolitics or how bad things in
life were looking and going.
You know what?
(12:25):
We talked about his faith.
We talked about what heavenwould be like, what heaven would
look like.
We talked about the people inhis life his wife, his kids,
siblings, his friends and hischurch.
That's what it all came down to.
He only had just a few weeks tolive and so those were the
things that were just we wantedto chat about and like, really
(12:46):
discuss and lament about andhonestly be like.
This is amazing, what God hasgiven you.
Travis Rosinger (12:53):
Yeah, the most important things.
Dawn Rosinger (12:54):
Yeah, you know.
And when I met with the familyafter he passed he passed away
like 11 days later we plannedout the funeral.
I talked to them about whatthey love the most about their
dad and what they will miss themost about their dad or their
husband or their brothereveryone that was in the room
that day.
We talked intensely about faithand I reshared this man's faith
(13:16):
story with them and how we canknow that he is in heaven
because of his decision tofollow Jesus and make him the
Lord of his life.
Those moments in that familyplanning when we were planning
the funeral, were priceless andwe only talked about the things
in life that really mattered.
Travis Rosinger (13:33):
Yeah, yeah.
And that that happened to metoo, don.
Right after I had officiated inthe funeral of a very young
woman.
Her husband came up to meafterwards and he just said you
know, there would be so manyconversations, there'd be so
many special moments, and wewould just sit there and enjoy
them, but he goes.
It never occurred to me thatthey would suddenly be gone that
(13:55):
those?
conversations, that thosemoments, why?
Because she was so young, andto have him just privately pull
me aside and share that, it wasjust powerful.
It shook me up.
I was glad that he shared whathe was really thinking about or
processing, because it made mecome home and go wow, I need to
be a different person and I'mnot as good as I should be, but
(14:15):
I need to hear that.
I need to hear that someone wholost their young wife is
devastated because thoseconversations and those moments
are gone.
They're gone forever.
What are we trying to say?
Life is a gift.
It's not perfect, it's nevergoing to be perfect, but it's a
gift.
So what do we need to do?
We need to cherish each momentand be intentional, especially
(14:36):
with the words that we speak andour actions.
If you're not telling thepeople around you that you love
them, start, if you're notencouraging them and calling out
the great things, the goodthings attributes about them,
begin to speak those things andyour actions.
Share what's on your heart, butthen put it into action.
(14:58):
Do something with those words.
Dawn Rosinger (15:00):
The gentleman that I was visiting that was on
hospice.
I looked at him and said well,what a gift you actually have
two weeks to a month to be ableto tell and say all the things
that you've even wanted to sayin the past Ask for forgiveness
from anyone, but just reallylove on people.
Some people die in a car crashand they never get those moments
(15:22):
to take words back or to saythose powerful words.
But he had those moments to dothat.
I know that's exactly what hedid.
Travis Rosinger (15:29):
Yes, so priceless, so special moments.
Well, in the Bible, in the bookof Psalms, chapter 39, it says
Lord, remind me how brief mytime on earth will be, remind me
that my days are numbered, howfleeting my life is.
You have made my life no longerthan the width of my hand.
(15:51):
My entire lifetime is just amoment to you At best.
Each of us is but a breath.
We are merely shadows moving,and all of our busy rushing ends
in nothing.
We heap up wealth, not knowingwho will spend it.
And so, lord, where do I put myhope?
(16:12):
My only hope is in you.
Dawn Rosinger (16:16):
I love those verses powerful.
Unbelievably.
It totally just makes usrefocus to what is the most
important thing that our time isbrief.
And where should our hope befound?
It's found in the Lord.
Travis Rosinger (16:32):
It's found in Jesus Totally found in God, and
I think one of the coolestthings that jumps out to me here
is we are merely moving shadowsand all our busy rushing ends
in nothing.
You know what that says.
It's like slow down, slow down,enjoy life.
I don't know.
You know all the things thatyou're building up.
Somebody else is going to spendall that money anyway.
Just slow down, enjoy life.
(16:54):
Don't be lazy, don't just sitaround, but really enjoy things
and put your hope in God.
Dawn Rosinger (17:00):
I think if you are forgetting what our purpose
here on life is, there's justtwo greatest things in life, and
it's found in Matthew 22.
Love the Lord, your God, withall your heart and with all your
soul and with all your mind.
This is the first and greatestcommandment and the second is,
like it, love your neighbor asyourself.
You guys, love God and lovepeople.
(17:21):
Love God and love people and doboth things very well.
Jackie Robinson says this alife is not important except in
the impact it has on other lives.
Again, love God and love people.
Make sure that you are sayingthe words that you want to say,
having those actions to back upthe words that you're saying.
(17:43):
Love people.
Will we make mistakes?
Absolutely.
That's when it's great to goback and say, hey, I'm sorry
that I made you know, ask forforgiveness.
Travis Rosinger (17:50):
Yeah, yeah, be real.
Dawn Rosinger (17:51):
You know, ask for it, but then also extend
forgiveness.
Travis Rosinger (17:54):
So how are you going to cherish your spouse
today?
How are you going to take whatwe've talked about, what you've
listened to at these powerfulverses and these quotes that
we've given you, and just say,okay, now I'm going to put it in
action?
So what are you going to do?
Is it, is it a text?
Is it flowers?
Is it a card?
Is it just stopping and gettingaway for 30 minutes?
(18:16):
But do something and allow thatchange today.
Allow that be a new change forthe rest of your life.
Become a different person andcelebrate this moment, this life
, this marriage that God hasgiven you.
You are alive, and so is yourmarriage.
Live that way.
Dawn Rosinger (18:37):
You know, life is a gift that has been given to
you.
It's in your hands to make thebest out of it.
Like I said in the beginning,when we started off this podcast
, if you woke up this morningand your eyes popped open and
you have air in your lungs andyour heart is beating, it is a
gift.
Make the best of it.
Travis Rosinger (18:55):
It is.
You won the lottery.
You're alive.
Well, hey guys, we want tothank you for listening to this
episode of the Loving the FightMarriage podcast.
Dawn Rosinger (19:02):
Remember, guys, you can do it.
You got this.
Keep loving the fight.
Travis Rosinger (19:14):
It was time you .
How cool that this morning, our eyes popped
open, our hearts were beatingand air continued to flow in and
out of our lungs.
What a gift.
If you are listening today, youhave received another day of
life, one of the greatest giftsanyone can be given.
How cool is that?
With that, I want to welcomeyou to the Loving the Fight
Marriage Podcast.
My name is Dawn and I'm sittinghere today, breathing and alive
(00:36):
, with my husband and co-host,travis.
Travis Rosinger (00:38):
Yeah, hey, welcome everyone.
We're so glad that you'retuning in and, dawn, I'm glad
that you're breathing and you'realive.
Dawn Rosinger (00:44):
Yes, and I'm glad that you're alive next to me
too.
Travis Rosinger (00:47):
Well, I don't look alive.
When I first wake up in themorning I kind of look like the
walking dead.
Dawn Rosinger (00:52):
But anyway, yes, I'm alive.
Why, though, you don't havehair?
It's not like your hair'ssticking up Like what I had hair
it used to stand straight upbecause.
Travis Rosinger (00:59):
I'm a violent sleeper, I flop around a lot,
but no, no, you're right, likeI'm alive and I'm awake and I'm
so glad to be here and wow, it'sa wonderful day it is, the sun
is out and we're breathing andwe are alive.
Dawn Rosinger (01:15):
Yeah, we need to celebrate that every day.
Travis Rosinger (01:17):
We definitely do.
This is the day that God hasmade.
We want to celebrate it and beglad in it.
Well, hey, we've had a reallygood week.
Only there's bumps and bruisesand things that don't go so well
sometimes, but, man, some ofthe highlights that we've
enjoyed this.
Last week we talked about thison our podcast, but we ended up
getting $1,600 in gift cards,visa gift cards.
(01:42):
They got mailed to us becausewe allowed ourselves to get
bumped from a flight yeah, from.
Dawn Rosinger (01:46):
Delta.
And they suddenly showed up onour front step yesterday.
Yeah, just a few days later wegot them electronically given to
us.
But we had the option to orderthem real and we wanted the real
ones so we could put them inour wallet and use them.
But they came.
Travis Rosinger (01:58):
They're here Like just a few days later.
Dawn Rosinger (02:00):
It's crazy to look that we have $1,600 in gift
cards.
Oh my gosh, just because we'rewilling to wait a few extra
hours, go on another plane so wecould sit together.
Travis Rosinger (02:08):
Yeah, so fun.
What a blessing from God.
So it was fun to actually seethose like physically.
But also this week we get tocelebrate our daughter's birth.
Talk about celebrating a day orlife man just celebrating her
27 years.
I believe on this earth that'samazing.
Dawn Rosinger (02:27):
And I know one thing that we've done in our
lifetimes.
Not everyone celebratesbirthdays, but we do.
We feel like life is a gift andwe want to make sure that we
are celebrating our kids andeach other.
So every time there's abirthday, we stop and we honor
that person on that day andcelebrate them and love on them.
Travis Rosinger (02:42):
Oh, we have to.
I think it would be a crime ifwe didn't.
It's so important when it comesto you know, when you lose
people, to stop and, you know,have a memorial service or
celebration of life service.
But when people are alive, wealso especially should celebrate
them.
It's so good and we had achance to.
I know, Don.
I got to spend some time withmy parents just hanging out,
(03:03):
talking to them, connecting, andthen we got to go see your mom,
Don.
That was so much fun.
Dawn Rosinger (03:08):
Yeah, but sure was.
She recently moved into anassisted living so we were able
to go over their goal on a shortwalk and get her some treats
and just hang out and have adonut with her and just really
spend some time chatting, whichwas great.
Travis Rosinger (03:19):
And we didn't have coats on it.
Dawn Rosinger (03:21):
It felt like it was 70, 80 degrees that day, and
it's a beautiful day.
Travis Rosinger (03:24):
Big deal for us because it's supposed to be
winter and there's no snow andwe don't wear coats.
We're trying to get used tothis, loving it.
Dawn Rosinger (03:30):
Of not having snow, and it's great.
Travis Rosinger (03:32):
It's a good oddness.
I'll take it every year.
Dawn Rosinger (03:34):
Well, many of you guys know from listening to our
podcast that we are bothpastors and we love what we do.
We are in a great church,surrounded by some incredible
people, and we get tospiritually challenge and
encourage people every singleday.
That's what we get to do withour lives.
It's incredible.
Travis Rosinger (03:51):
It's so much fun.
Dawn Rosinger (03:52):
Being a pastor, though I feel like it's so fun
because of all of the peoplethat we get to interact with,
that we get to meet people ofall demographics male, female,
every culture, rich, poor,educated, uneducated people
maybe who are struggling withsubstance abuse and addictions,
and people who are exploringJesus and faith for the first
time, or some of them for over50 years.
(04:13):
So just a wide range of peoplethat we get to be a part of and
interact with.
Travis Rosinger (04:18):
It's just wild the diversity, the amount of
variety that God created when hebreathed the breath of life
into Adam and Eve became.
You know what was formed.
It's crazy how much of anartist God is, and it's so fun.
I'm actually almost alwayssurprised when I meet someone
new and I literally hear theirwhole life story.
(04:40):
I'm like, wow, I never wouldhave guessed.
It's crazy and it's just ablessing.
Dawn Rosinger (04:45):
Yeah, and honestly, such an honor to be
with people.
Well, not only do we get toknow these people, but we get to
celebrate birth and celebratelives of people who have passed
away as well.
It's amazing that all that weget to be a part of.
Travis Rosinger (04:59):
Yeah, we're so grateful, I think you know, just
to be around these amazingpeople that God has created and
those of you that are listeningright now.
You need to know that you'reunique, you're special and
you're amazing.
You are someone that God lovesso much, and we love you and not
(05:19):
just because you're listeningbut, we literally love you and
are grateful for you.
Dawn Rosinger (05:24):
It's cool to know that God created us all in His
image, right, and so God doesn'tmake mistakes.
None of you are mistakes.
We're not mistakes, and he'screated us all individual and
given us all gifts and talents.
Travis Rosinger (05:34):
So there's a purpose for every single one of
us, yeah, and to think, you know, we're created in God's image.
Like whoa those of you that arelistening you got some pretty
serious awesome DNA.
Yeah, like God loves you somuch and you're so incredible
that you kind of look like animage of God, a reflection of
God.
So we've kind of come throughan interesting season over the
(05:55):
last couple of months.
As pastors, of course, we canfrom time to time be asked to
officiate a funeral, but reallythere's been a fair amount to
that just in the last two monthstwo and a half months down
there, you and I have beenwalking with people either
through some type of a loss orthrough death itself, and they
(06:17):
have been, you know, really anhonor to be a part of, you know,
to be a part of those people'slives and to help, love on them
and encourage them, but be therefor them and listen to them as
they're grieving and dealingwith loss.
Dawn Rosinger (06:33):
I know you have done and officiated a few
funerals at your campus and Iwalked a man through hospice and
his family, which eventuallyled to his funeral as well.
But because of what we do andthe people that we interact with
and just dealing with loss infunerals, we are, honestly,
we're very aware of life anddeath and we're not scared of it
(06:53):
.
We know that we all have a date, that we will someday die, and
we don't need to fear it themore that you're around death
and life, the more that yourealize like the brevity of
death and life right.
Travis Rosinger (07:07):
Yeah, totally Just being able to celebrate
those births but then beingthere with people in their last
moments of breath, yeah no.
Dawn Rosinger (07:15):
And again, such an honor to be a part of those
moments.
But with that in mind, withjust like what we do and just
talking about death andrealizing that we don't need to
be scared of it, we don't needto fear it, we just want to take
a few minutes today and justtalk about the frailty of life,
because we understand that eachday is really a gift, kind of
like I started off this podcastwith in the beginning.
(07:38):
And tomorrow we may not receivethat gift.
When we realize that it makeshow we live today matter, when
we understand that life willcome to an end, the choices that
we make and how we treat eachother today will look different.
Travis Rosinger (07:52):
It will.
It should look different, andit's so important to be thinking
that through the moments ofevery single day.
Dawn Rosinger (08:00):
You know, the Bible totally talks about this
clearly in James 4, 14, where itsays you do not know what will
happen tomorrow.
For what is your life?
It is even a vapor that appearsfor a little time and then
vanishes, a way that Bible talksabout we don't know what's
going to happen tomorrow.
Life is a vapor.
If you ever look at a vapor, ifyou ever spray even a mess, you
(08:21):
know it's just gone.
Travis Rosinger (08:23):
It is gone.
I agree with you, don, and Ijust think it's so important to
think through this verse.
I mean, this verse is so crazy.
It says you don't know what'sgoing to happen tomorrow.
What's your life?
It's like a vapor and, like youjust said, that vapor, that
mess, it disappears in a second,quickly, so quickly.
And so this verse is reallyinferring it's kind of slapping
(08:46):
us in the face actually and justsaying you might not be here
tomorrow.
And so if we could swallow thepill of that, if we could think
it through and allow that toimpact our minds and our hearts
every day, I mean it would beginto reflect our actions and how
we treat others and hopefullyespecially our spouse, because
(09:07):
they're the person that we'reclosest to.
What are we saying, don?
I might not be here tomorrow,you might not be here tomorrow.
The world will be gone tomorrow.
We need to stop and enjoy eachother today.
We need to celebrate each otherand celebrate our moments of
life today, and I think ourlives would look differently
because of our gratitude forthings and people.
(09:28):
I mean, as we think throughthis verse, it would go off the
charts, it would, yes, it'd belike oh, oh, my gosh, I'm like
that messed.
Okay, I better really enjoythis.
Next, you know scoop of icecream.
Right yeah, or you know thisnext conversation with this
friend, you know, or that we'redrinking coffee at a coffee shop
.
Well, here's the thing, here'sthe challenge Be grateful for
(09:50):
each day, for each breath, foreach circumstance that God has
given us and those moments withour spouse that we get to do
this all with.
Like it's all a gift, and so isthat person, that special person
that God has put there with us.
So we happen to think thatproof of having gratefulness, or
(10:13):
that idea that we might not behere tomorrow and that our life
is like a vapor, that the proofand the results are things that
we would see, and they'd bethings like this, where our
words would be more guarded andloving.
Dawn Rosinger (10:25):
Right, yep, if I knew that these were my last
words, man, I'm gonna pick themwisely.
Travis Rosinger (10:30):
Yeah, yeah, and you're probably gonna use words
that are encouraging, loving,right, but also our actions
would be more intentional.
I mean, that's the real worldversion of that verse, or the
effect of that verse that wewouldn't just waste time or just
do this because we want to, orthat We'd think it through and
go, whoa, this could be it, whatshould I do?
(10:52):
You almost wonder.
If you knew you were gonna dietomorrow, how would you live?
Dawn Rosinger (10:56):
differently today .
We would completely livedifferent.
I know we would.
Travis Rosinger (10:59):
Completely and really.
Another way that it would lookor the result or the effect
would be that we would let thepetty things go and not allow
them to bother us so much.
We'd be like, okay, well,that's them not on me, who cares
?
Dawn Rosinger (11:13):
The driving, the toilet seat, the way you drink
and gulp like little things thatare so goofy I wouldn't even
think twice about that.
Travis Rosinger (11:21):
We wouldn't.
Yeah, yeah.
I think Elon Musk once saidlife is too short to hold
long-term grudges.
Dawn Rosinger (11:29):
Oh, that's good.
Travis Rosinger (11:30):
Yeah, and it's like, oh, come on, just let it
go.
Let it go because life is short.
Forgiveness, of course, wouldcome easier if we were living
each moment, knowing it could beour last and our marriage would
be on a mission together, whichis what it should be.
It should be yep.
Dr Martin Luther King Jr oncesaid life's most persistent, an
(11:50):
urgent question is what are youdoing for others?
And that is our question toourselves today, that is our
question to all of you that arelistening what are you doing for
others?
And especially knowing thatyour life could be gone tomorrow
?
Dawn Rosinger (12:05):
Right.
You know, it's crazy is when Iwas sitting with the man in his
living room who decided to go onhospice and he knew that he
only had two to four weeks tolive, I didn't go and visit him
and talk to him about his 401Kor his stocks.
I didn't talk to him aboutpolitics or how bad things in
life were looking and going.
You know what?
(12:25):
We talked about his faith.
We talked about what heavenwould be like, what heaven would
look like.
We talked about the people inhis life his wife, his kids,
siblings, his friends and hischurch.
That's what it all came down to.
He only had just a few weeks tolive and so those were the
things that were just we wantedto chat about and like, really
(12:46):
discuss and lament about andhonestly be like.
This is amazing, what God hasgiven you.
Travis Rosinger (12:53):
Yeah, the most important things.
Dawn Rosinger (12:54):
Yeah, you know.
And when I met with the familyafter he passed he passed away
like 11 days later we plannedout the funeral.
I talked to them about whatthey love the most about their
dad and what they will miss themost about their dad or their
husband or their brothereveryone that was in the room
that day.
We talked intensely about faithand I reshared this man's faith
(13:16):
story with them and how we canknow that he is in heaven
because of his decision tofollow Jesus and make him the
Lord of his life.
Those moments in that familyplanning when we were planning
the funeral, were priceless andwe only talked about the things
in life that really mattered.
Travis Rosinger (13:33):
Yeah, yeah.
And that that happened to metoo, don.
Right after I had officiated inthe funeral of a very young
woman.
Her husband came up to meafterwards and he just said you
know, there would be so manyconversations, there'd be so
many special moments, and wewould just sit there and enjoy
them, but he goes.
It never occurred to me thatthey would suddenly be gone that
(13:55):
those?
conversations, that thosemoments, why?
Because she was so young, andto have him just privately pull
me aside and share that, it wasjust powerful.
It shook me up.
I was glad that he shared whathe was really thinking about or
processing, because it made mecome home and go wow, I need to
be a different person and I'mnot as good as I should be, but
(14:15):
I need to hear that.
I need to hear that someone wholost their young wife is
devastated because thoseconversations and those moments
are gone.
They're gone forever.
What are we trying to say?
Life is a gift.
It's not perfect, it's nevergoing to be perfect, but it's a
gift.
So what do we need to do?
We need to cherish each momentand be intentional, especially
(14:36):
with the words that we speak andour actions.
If you're not telling thepeople around you that you love
them, start, if you're notencouraging them and calling out
the great things, the goodthings attributes about them,
begin to speak those things andyour actions.
Share what's on your heart, butthen put it into action.
(14:58):
Do something with those words.
Dawn Rosinger (15:00):
The gentleman that I was visiting that was on
hospice.
I looked at him and said well,what a gift you actually have
two weeks to a month to be ableto tell and say all the things
that you've even wanted to sayin the past Ask for forgiveness
from anyone, but just reallylove on people.
Some people die in a car crashand they never get those moments
(15:22):
to take words back or to saythose powerful words.
But he had those moments to dothat.
I know that's exactly what hedid.
Travis Rosinger (15:29):
Yes, so priceless, so special moments.
Well, in the Bible, in the bookof Psalms, chapter 39, it says
Lord, remind me how brief mytime on earth will be, remind me
that my days are numbered, howfleeting my life is.
You have made my life no longerthan the width of my hand.
(15:51):
My entire lifetime is just amoment to you At best.
Each of us is but a breath.
We are merely shadows moving,and all of our busy rushing ends
in nothing.
We heap up wealth, not knowingwho will spend it.
And so, lord, where do I put myhope?
(16:12):
My only hope is in you.
Dawn Rosinger (16:16):
I love those verses powerful.
Unbelievably.
It totally just makes usrefocus to what is the most
important thing that our time isbrief.
And where should our hope befound?
It's found in the Lord.
Travis Rosinger (16:32):
It's found in Jesus Totally found in God, and
I think one of the coolestthings that jumps out to me here
is we are merely moving shadowsand all our busy rushing ends
in nothing.
You know what that says.
It's like slow down, slow down,enjoy life.
I don't know.
You know all the things thatyou're building up.
Somebody else is going to spendall that money anyway.
Just slow down, enjoy life.
(16:54):
Don't be lazy, don't just sitaround, but really enjoy things
and put your hope in God.
Dawn Rosinger (17:00):
I think if you are forgetting what our purpose
here on life is, there's justtwo greatest things in life, and
it's found in Matthew 22.
Love the Lord, your God, withall your heart and with all your
soul and with all your mind.
This is the first and greatestcommandment and the second is,
like it, love your neighbor asyourself.
You guys, love God and lovepeople.
(17:21):
Love God and love people and doboth things very well.
Jackie Robinson says this alife is not important except in
the impact it has on other lives.
Again, love God and love people.
Make sure that you are sayingthe words that you want to say,
having those actions to back upthe words that you're saying.
(17:43):
Love people.
Will we make mistakes?
Absolutely.
That's when it's great to goback and say, hey, I'm sorry
that I made you know, ask forforgiveness.
Travis Rosinger (17:50):
Yeah, yeah, be real.
Dawn Rosinger (17:51):
You know, ask for it, but then also extend
forgiveness.
Travis Rosinger (17:54):
So how are you going to cherish your spouse
today?
How are you going to take whatwe've talked about, what you've
listened to at these powerfulverses and these quotes that
we've given you, and just say,okay, now I'm going to put it in
action?
So what are you going to do?
Is it, is it a text?
Is it flowers?
Is it a card?
Is it just stopping and gettingaway for 30 minutes?
(18:16):
But do something and allow thatchange today.
Allow that be a new change forthe rest of your life.
Become a different person andcelebrate this moment, this life
, this marriage that God hasgiven you.
You are alive, and so is yourmarriage.
Live that way.
Dawn Rosinger (18:37):
You know, life is a gift that has been given to
you.
It's in your hands to make thebest out of it.
Like I said in the beginning,when we started off this podcast
, if you woke up this morningand your eyes popped open and
you have air in your lungs andyour heart is beating, it is a
gift.
Make the best of it.
Travis Rosinger (18:55):
It is.
You won the lottery.
You're alive.
Well, hey guys, we want tothank you for listening to this
episode of the Loving the FightMarriage podcast.
Dawn Rosinger (19:02):
Remember, guys, you can do it.
You got this.
Keep loving the fight.
Travis Rosinger (19:14):
It was time you .
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