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In this thought-provoking episode of the Luke Mind Power Podcast, Luke Chlebowicz delves into the power of self-validation and the journey of personal transformation. He discusses how many people are trapped in seeking approval from others and how this dependency hinders growth. Luke emphasizes the importance of recognizing your self-worth, breaking free from toxic relationships, and embracing discomfort to grow. Drawing from his personal experiences, Luke reflects on overcoming childhood trauma, healing from past pain, and learning to take responsibility for one's happiness. He encourages listeners to invest in themselves, do the inner work, and stop living for the approval of others. This episode is a powerful reminder that true happiness and success start from within.


πŸ”‘ Key Takeaways:

βœ… Be Water Adapt and evolve to the changing circumstances in life, just like water.

βœ… Stop Seeking Approval True peace comes from within β€” stop living for the approval of others.

βœ… Heal from Childhood Trauma Identifying past wounds is essential for personal growth and breaking unhealthy patterns.

βœ… Build Healthy Relationships with Yourself Before you can attract healthy relationships, nurture a positive relationship with yourself.

βœ… Embrace Discomfort Growth often comes from embracing discomfort and facing your fears.

βœ… Let Go of Toxic People Surround yourself with people who inspire and uplift you, not those who drain your energy.

βœ… The Power of Self-Validation Learn to validate yourself and stop depending on external sources of approval.

βœ… Invest in Your Personal Development Real change happens when you take responsibility for your growth and invest in yourself.


⏱️ Key Timestamps:|

[00:00:00] – Bruce Lee’s Philosophy: The power of adapting and evolving like water

[00:01:40] – Introduction to Coaching: Helping others transform and achieve purpose

[00:04:08] – Stuck in Our Heads: Recognizing the importance of being present

[00:05:44] – Adapting to Change: Why we resist unfamiliar situations

[00:11:59] – People-Pleasing: Recognizing the drain of seeking validation from others

[00:13:21] – Generational Patterns of Love and Validation: Understanding why our parents may not have known how to love us

[00:17:54] – Choosing Your Path: The moment of decision and embracing change

[00:20:57] – Awakening to Your Greatness: Letting go of past resistance to change

[00:25:15] – Personal Development: The gap in personal growth and why we avoid inner work

[00:26:49] – Living Authentically: The challenge of building a relationship with yourself

[00:28:12] – Toxic Relationships: Letting go of manipulative and draining people

[00:37:44] – Facing Fear: Overcoming the lies of fear and taking action for an extraordinary life



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(00:00):
Bruce Lee says be water, my friend.
Water is formless. It's shapeless.
You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup.
You put water into a kettle, it becomes the kettle.
And that's pretty much what Tom Bill you said.
As a human, we are the ultimate adaptation machine.
Most of us don't adapt. Most of us are stuck in our
comfort zone. We're stuck in the same kind of

(00:21):
way of living, thinking, being, and anything that's unfamiliar,
we're afraid of. Many of us never could get the
attention or it wasn't given to us, not because our parents
didn't want to give it to us, but just because they didn't
know how. And that is what a lot of us are
still living with is the lack oflove that we never got.

(00:42):
So yeah, we're still functioningfrom that pain, disconnection,
lack of attention, lack of validation.
Be yourself, the right people that want to support you,
believe in you, encourage you, inspire you, be there for you.
They'll be there. But don't live for your family's
approval. Validate yourself.
Don't live for other people's approval.
Don't live for the world, live for yourself.

(01:16):
What's up ladies and gentlemen, welcome to another podcast
episode on the Luke Mine Power Podcast.
I'm your host, Luke Mine Power. Hope you do an amazing wherever
you're tuning in from. I'm smiling right now.
If you can only hear my voice, if you're watching, then you see
me. I'm smiling.
It's a blessing to be live. And if you're not singing in the
shower, then what's the purpose of life?

(01:37):
And funny enough, I was having ashower this morning and I was
freaking singing along, you know?
And I was just like, fucking yeah, whatever is going on, who
gives a shit? Yeah, you know what I mean?
Like, whatever, it doesn't matter.
Just fucking hell. But you know, I don't know what

(01:57):
I'm singing about, but this is your reminder that if you're not
singing in the shower, then you better start singing.
And I think that after all the research that I've done, you
know, there's some amazing scientific research that
basically says that if you're not singing in the shower, then

(02:18):
there's some work that you need to do on yourself.
And what, what I'm really tryingto help you understand is that
happiness is not something that is just achieved overnight.
It really is a mindset. But it does take time for you to
create the life that you want tocreate.
And this is the beautiful thing that if you're not living the
best life that you want to be living right now, if you're not
where you want to be right now, then there obviously is some

(02:41):
adjustments that need to be made.
There's some things that you need to have a look at so that
you can, you know, move in better directions and start to,
you know, get all the pieces of the puzzle that are going to
help you to have more peace and happiness and joy being in the
right environment. But one of the things that we do

(03:02):
very, very well is that we're stuck in our head a lot, OK?
We're stuck in our head a lot. And even when we're in the
shower, we're stuck in our head,you know, I mean, a lot of us
are having a shower sometimes and we're not even thinking
about what's going on. You know, you're just doing the
thing, you know, getting the soap, the shampoo, whatever it
is, having a up. For example, I brush my teeth in

(03:22):
the shower, you know, but I'm also singing always.
Like it's a non negotiable. I don't know what I'm singing.
I'm just doing a yeah, who cares, you know, like, let it
out like I'm doing weed shit, you know, like, like, you know,

(03:48):
by the time you're listening to this, in a couple months time,
I'm probably married. So I'll say my wife in the
morning. He's like, you're annoying.
Be quiet. You know, she's telling me I'm
annoying, but you know, I'm justlike, wow.
Yeah. Like, you know, you're the one
that creates your happiness. And if you're not happy right

(04:08):
now, well then maybe there's some things you need to change.
You know, maybe it's something is causing the unhappiness.
And remember that life is not supposed to be happy all the
time. You're not supposed to feel joy
all the time. It's not to be supposed to be
absolutely amazing all the time.You know, it's just about
flowing. It's a river.

(04:29):
You always, I remember doing this training.
It was called Rivers Never run reverse or something like that.
And it's true. The river is always flowing.
You know, it's like what Bruce Lee says, You know, Bruce Lee
says the what's the freak? I come having memory loss be

(04:49):
water, my friend, right? What's he actually mean?
He's like, water is formless. It's shapeless.
You know, you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup.
You know, you put water into a kettle, it becomes the kettle.
So it's formless, it's shapeless, it just adjusts
itself, you know, And that's pretty much what Tom Bill you

(05:10):
said when I first started listening to his inspiration, he
said the same thing that as a human, we are the ultimate
adaptation machine. But many of us we get.
So what does that actually mean?Let me debunk that a little bit.
The ultimate adaptation machine.Yet most of us don't adapt.
Most of us are stuck in our comfort zone.

(05:32):
We're stuck in the same kind of way of living, thinking, being
and anything that's unfamiliar. We're afraid of anything that we
haven't experienced or that we haven't done before, scared of.
And this is the biggest resistance I've learned since,
you know, having coaching programmes and coaching people
and helping kill their childhoodtrauma.
This is the biggest block for most of us.

(05:57):
Is that because we've always been living a specific way,
thinking a specific way, having a specific mindset, you know,
possibly, you know, have you been struggling with self doubt?
Have you been struggling with fear?
Have you been attracting toxic relationships?
Have you ever wondered why am I in an relationship?
Why am I in a relationship wherepeople disrespect me or T people

(06:21):
manipulate me? Why?
Like these are really important questions to ask.
You know, a lot of the times what we do is we point the
finger and we go, they're a bad person.
They're treating me very badly. We're also treating ourselves
very badly by not respecting ourworth, by not respecting

(06:42):
ourselves, and by not making thedecisions that we have to make
to get ourselves out of some sort of dysfunction.
But this is the purpose of life,is to become aware of what is
the dysfunction in my life? What is the toxic shit in my
life? What is the negative stuff in my
life? What is the stuff that doesn't
inspire me or empower me? I mean, it's a simple question.

(07:02):
You can be in a really crappy relationship right now and all
you've got to do is ask yourself, am I inspired?
Do the people that I surround myself, is the person I'm in a
relationship with at the moment inspiring?
Do they inspire me? What does it mean to inspire
someone? Like, when I'm around them, do I

(07:24):
feel uplifted? You know, do I feel like, wow, I
want to be a better version of myself?
Wow, I want to get up today and like, achieve my goals and be
consistent and stick to my routine and achieve my dreams.
Do am I excited about that? Do the people around me give me
some sort of energetic boost? Or do I dread waking up just

(07:50):
making sure the microphone is on?
These are really important questions for us to ask because
otherwise, like how much longer do we want to be pouring from
ourselves, trying to fix other people, trying to help other
people, giving so much of ourselves when we haven't taken

(08:14):
the time to love ourselves and nurture ourselves and reconnect
with our true essence. You know, there's a truth of who
it is that you are when you're born.
And no, your brain hasn't been programmed yet.
Your subconscious mind hasn't mean developed yet.
But what's that that true essence of, of who you are?

(08:37):
You know, that unconditional love, that purity that you are
when you're born that's still there.
You know, just because you've evolved through maybe a family
dynamic that was very dysfunctional, physically
abusive, sexually abusive, financially abusive,
disrespectful, for example. Or maybe you were just never

(09:03):
good enough for your parents. You were never good enough.
You know, they had really high standards.
And no matter how fucking good your marks were at school, no
matter how good you performed, no matter how much you tried to
be the perfect kid, your parentsstill never were able to tell

(09:24):
you that they're proud of you orthey were never able to love
you. They were never able to, you
know, encourage you or accept you how you were showing up.
They never validated you. Everything was never not good
enough. It was always a problem.
There was always something wrong, you know, and you tried.

(09:45):
You tried your best to be the perfect kid, you tried best to
just be yourself, you tried yourbest to excel in areas of your
life. But yet for your parents, it was
still never good enough. So how does that have an impact
on our subconscious mind as we evolve into adulthood?

(10:05):
How does that affect our behaviour?
How does it affect the way we show up in the world?
That we're always trying to prove ourself to people because
that's what we've been programmed to do for so many
years, being a child and growingthrough your teens.
That I'm always going to show upand try to prove to my mom and
my dad in anything that I do. Whether it's making my bed or

(10:28):
whether it's cleaning my room orwhether it's how I'm dressed or
whether it's the mocks that I have at school or whether it's
the friends that I surround myself with.
That they're good friends, but my parents will still find a
reason to complain or to say that, you know, they're not good
people or that you should have better friends, or you should
think differently or always someexcuse of why you're not good

(10:48):
enough. And So what happens when you
leave the home and then you havefriends or you have a partner or
relationship? What happens?
Do you think that you go into a workplace and you're still going
to be functioning from that? Well, what do I need to do to
try to get approval? What do I need to you're

(11:10):
constantly functioning from thisplace of, you know, I need to do
my best. I need to show up.
I need to try to get some sort of validation from others.
So like this is really importantfor you to become aware of
because people pleasing is draining, like trying to help

(11:30):
other people or fix someone else.
Because what, what's going to happen if you try to help other
people? What are they going to do?
Are they going to say thank you?Oh, you're going to get some
validation. Oh, you're going to be feeling
worthy of being yourself becauseyou're giving of yourself to
others. We fall into this valley, you
know, the valley of depletion, the valley of darkness, the

(11:53):
valley of feeling drained, you know, the valley of losing
yourself. I think if you go into this
valley because you've given so much of yourself to the world,
because you're seeking and yearning for validation, you
know, you want like something from someone because that's what
you always wanted from your parents.

(12:14):
You know, you constantly wanted that to be given to you, you
know, and, and why? Because we're young, we're
little. You know, all we want when we're
kids is love, attention. Many of us never could get the
attention or it wasn't given to us, not because our parents
didn't want to give it to us, but just because they didn't
know how. And that may seem very stupid.

(12:37):
Like, how does your parents not even know how to give you love?
Well, imagine that your parents never had any love.
Imagine that your parents grew up in an environment where their
parents were never available forthem.
That means that the programming of your parents is now that they
have a child, which is you and how they were raised.

(12:59):
Also an experience that they went through was my parents were
never available for me and that's normal.
So if that's normal for them, well now they have a child which
is you, and they're not going tobe available for you because
they don't need to be because they were never taught that.
I always say everything is learnt, behaviour you learn as

(13:23):
you live and then you function from that place.
So it's really just identifying,you know, what are our needs?
What are the things that we feelwithin our self that we need?
What didn't we, You know? Inside Module 3 of my 20 weeks
Self Healing transformational programme.
Inside module 3. I help people to heal their

(13:47):
childhood trauma, but to identify what are the things
that you needed as a child that you didn't get that you believe
in. It's not about your parents,
it's about you. This whole process and journey
of you awakening to your greatness, I'm learning all the

(14:07):
bullshit that has caused you to live in fear and doubt and
insecurity and attract fucking bullshit relationships that
haven't been watering you the way that you deserve to be
watered. As you water others, you love,
others, you take care of others hasn't been reciprocated.
That's some sort of dysfunction and some sort of bullshit
childhood trauma that you haven't identified and healed

(14:29):
from. That's the only reason that's
happening. And become aware of that shit.
Understand where the attraction came from or whatever it is that
that that you went through the lack of awareness to understand
what's actually happening in your life, which has stopped you
from making the right decisions in your life.

(14:50):
And it's caused you to allow thebullshit to keep thriving in
your life, which is disturbing your peace and causing you to
get sick, be sick, disease. So you've got the power to heal
yourself. You have the power to learn.

(15:11):
You have the power now to take full responsibility and I think
this is part of my process of what I went through in 2020.
You know, when I started living with my mother and my father and
I was 35 and I was didn't have anywhere else to go.
I helped my sister to heal from her anxiety.
I created a 44 day anxiety checklist and kind of programme

(15:35):
for her to help her to reconnectwith herself.
Because what I learnt as she wasreaching out to me, I was living
in China and she was like, Luke,I need your help.
I've got, I'm going through panic attacks.
I'm, you know, on anti anxiety medication.
Now I'm seeing a psychologist. I don't know why this is
happening to me. And so I came back, I worked

(15:59):
with her for about 2 1/2 months.And then I realised because
she's got 4 kids, I was living at her house and she's married
and you know, healthy marriage and everything seemed aligned.
And so I stayed with her, helpedher to overcome that, you know,
got her to go through my programme.
And then I identified that, wow,the energy is very dense here,

(16:24):
you know, 4 kids, the house is busy.
And I was like, I can't be here anymore.
I need to like move. But I didn't know where, you
know, and like, where do I go? I don't have a house.
I don't have, I had no cash either, man.
I was like, I was on COVID government benefits.
So, you know, five years goes quite quickly.

(16:45):
It's 2025 right now. It's 2020 when I was living with
my sister, came back from China and then COVID was happening
and, you know, and, and then I had to make a decision, what do
I do? So I decided, well, I'm like,
well, where do I go? And this was 2020 when I was 21,
this one, my parents moved to their house that they live in.

(17:06):
And I was like, no, no, no, I'm not moving there.
I don't want to move there, you know, I want to live in Sydney
with my mates and all that kind of stuff.
So it took me 14 years and it's,it's amazing how before you can
awaken to your greatness, beforeyou can step into more peace,
more self appreciation, more greatness, more success.

(17:27):
It's almost like the universe ofGod is like saying, hey, you
know what? Before you level up, before you,
you know, start this new journey, I've got to take you
through a few valleys, a few experiences, a few situations
that I need you to work on firstbefore you get to that next
level. So for me, it became really

(17:49):
evident and it made so much sense that I was like, Oh my
goodness, I have to go back to my parents.
Like I was almost like avoiding that for 14 years.
So it was a calling. You could feel it.
I was just like, Oh my gosh, I have to go back to my parents
place and and I was like, wow, OK, so now this is the next part

(18:09):
of the journey. So I had to live with my parents
for 18 months. It was pretty much from March or
April 2020 all the way through to September, October 2021.
In that time I was triggered numerous times by my parents.

(18:32):
It was very uncomfortable. I had moments where you know, I
felt very depressed. I struggled to want to wake up
in the morning. I got scammed over $100,000
working with a coach that was supposed to help me start my
business. I did eventually start my
coaching business. That's where I started to learn

(18:52):
about healing your inner child and re parenting yourself and
codependency because I became aware that I was codependent
with my mother. And I remember sitting in the
kitchen and you know, I'd been doing this work already for a
couple of years now, this new version of myself, this new

(19:14):
identity. And I remember sitting in the
kitchen with my mom. And it was the time, I think it
was 2020 or 2021, when that songcame out with Dua Lipa and Elton
John. So, and that was where like I
was talking to my mom about my success, about what I do, you
know, and obviously like that was where I kind of distanced

(19:36):
myself from Catholicism, Christianity and like the faith
that I was raised into. And obviously that's not
something that my parents were happy with or my mum was able to
comprehend or understand because, you know, I was all
taught, you know, for me at thatpoint, I was like, really
universe talk, you know, the universe has your back, you know

(20:00):
that. And I'm still that way, you
know, but I do believe in God. But what I realised there was
that, you know, no matter what Isaid to my mum, and that's, this
is the blessing and this is the thing.
If you don't see things differently then.
You'll think that people are against you.
And my parents are never againstme.

(20:22):
They just couldn't comprehend myown way of thinking and how I
had awakened to this new mindset, this new possibility,
this new version of Luke new wayof thinking.
So, you know, we, we want peopleto love us.
We want people to believe in us.We want people to have our back,
but they're not supposed to. And I was realising that, you

(20:44):
know, I was trying to prove to myself, you know, I was trying
to get my mom's approval. You know how I was showing up
was from my inner child that washurt and felt like he wasn't
loved or seen enough. So there I am at 35, like
sharing with my mom, like my successes and who I am, Luke,

(21:05):
mind power and this I'm look at my social media platforms and
how I'm helping people and theseand whatever.
But there was no approval from her.
There was no like understanding of what I was doing.
There was no like, Oh my goodness, Luke, I believe in
you. Like, wow, you're amazing.
I'm so proud of you, my son. And it was in those, those were
the moments. So that that moment in

(21:26):
particular where, where I realised that, wow, I'm actually
codependent, like I'm dependent on my happiness and my joy and
my peace and the definition of myself on base on the basis of
what my mother thinks. If my mother doesn't approve, if
my mother doesn't believe in me,if my mother doesn't support me,
if my mother doesn't agree with me, then I'm still not good

(21:49):
enough, you know, And that's where I was functioning from.
So I had to go of that, I had torelease that.
I had to become aware of that, that I was like, Oh my goodness,
wow. Like I'm still chasing that
approval from her, you know? And I'm like, wow, I'm like,
that's such an aha moment, such an epiphany for me where I was

(22:11):
just like, wow, why am I dependent on someone else's
approval? You know why?
And this is like how you evolve,you know that.
And this is what everyone goes through when they go through my
coaching programme and they workon themselves is becoming this
aha, Oh my goodness. Like, Oh my gosh, this is what

(22:31):
I'm learning. This is what I'm discovering.
This is like what's happening inmy life.
And this is what you become aware of, obviously, when you
start working on yourself. And so that's why I like
learning that changed my life because I was like, oh, OK, how
about I don't live for people's approval, You know, how about I

(22:53):
start approving myself, you know, and that's what inspired
me to make this video where I, I'm sitting, it's in my TikTok,
it's all the way down the bottom.
I'm wearing a blue hoodie. And I'm basically saying,
validate yourself. You know, don't leave for other
people's approval. You know, don't leave for the
world, leave for yourself, Be yourself.

(23:14):
The right people that want to support you, believe in you,
encourage you, inspire you, be there for you.
They will be there, but don't leave for your family's
approval. Don't leave for, you know, if my
dad says that I'm amazing, well,that's what I'm working hard
for. I just want to hear that.
Wow, thank you. Now I feel better, you know, So

(23:34):
as long as I don't get that approval, as long as my parents
don't support me or love me, then I'm not enough, you know,
So that kind of like release of this codependency, being
dependent, being dependent on something outside of myself for

(23:55):
my own happiness and joy and peace.
Like I had to cut that cord, youknow, and say, well, no, I'm not
dependent on anyone. It's my responsibility to love
me, to accept me, to validate me, to approve of me, to have my
own back. And this is what happens when

(24:16):
you do the work, you know, and if you're someone that has never
done any work, like I've had people who have applied to work
with me and my coaching institute and we've got an
application form for anyone who wants to be a coach.
You fill it out. And then there's a question that
says, have you done any work on yourself?
Like have you done any personal development work?

(24:36):
And the amount of people that get on a call with myself and my
team and then they're like, yeah, I've read this book and
I've, you know, I've watched this video or whatever.
Like, and I get it, not everybody has to do coaching
programmes and all that kind of stuff.
But this is the, this is the extraordinary void that I

(25:03):
believe many of us are missing in our life is that we haven't
done the deep inner work. Many of us will just keep living
in our ego and we'll avoid it because many of us don't want to
feel our emotions. We don't want to go deep into
that. So we keep escaping that.
How do we escape? Well, you know, just get

(25:24):
distracted, be distracted. Like use drugs, use alcohol, get
distracted with business, like focus on something other than
your past pain or childhood trauma.
You know, feeling emotions is uncomfortable, so we avoid it.
But this work is the epiphanies and the Ahas of like, oh shit,

(25:46):
wow, look how I'm functioning because of what I didn't get
when I was a, when I was a child, you know, and, and it's
like one of the greatest gifts that we can give ourselves is to
become a little bit more conscious, is to become aware of
our behaviour, of how we're showing up, you know, because we

(26:06):
are not here. You can be if you want to be, to
live your life according to how other people define us, how
other people see us and showing up in a way that's inauthentic,
you know, because we're decidingon the, the, the way that we
feel about ourselves because of the world, not because of how we

(26:27):
truly want to be, you know, but again, as children, you know, we
have this natural part of us that is yearning for love.
It's yearning for connection. It's yearning for, you know,
like, like the dog I have, you know, that I bought for my, for
my wife is, you know, all it wants is to be close to you.

(26:49):
Like it doesn't want to be by itself.
It fucking screams and shit whenyou leave it, it just wants to
be close. It wants to sit next to you,
wants to sleep next to you. It wants to, it wants love.
And that is what a lot of us arestill living with is the lack of
love that we never got. So yeah, we're still functioning

(27:11):
from that pain, disconnection, lack of attention, lack of
validation. And we're still seeking that
from our parents or we get it from a partner temporarily.
And then it turns very sour. And because we're already stuck
in it and we get a little bit ofit.

(27:33):
And that's where the manipulating relationships come
into play. Because they'll give you a bit
of love, then they'll pull away and treat you like shit.
Then they'll apologise, then they'll give you back a little
bit of love, and then they'll treat you like shit and they'll
pull back, you know, And then itjust becomes this manipulative,
toxic, destructive fucking load of shit that you find yourself
in because you got a little bit.And then they pull back, you

(27:55):
know, and it takes real like courage and strength to like
step up and go, this is fucking shit.
What am I doing? What am I doing to myself?
Like, what kind of crap am I around, You know, because many
of us find us in this shit environments, fucking
relationships. Like even your siblings or your

(28:18):
friends can be like talking shitto you, talking down to you and
you're not aware of it because you just like I get a little bit
of attention. I've got people to talk to.
Like, you know, we're still living from that fear.
We're lacking confidence in our self.
We don't have self worth. And if you have self worth,
right when people disrespect you, talk down to you, you'll

(28:41):
tell them to fuck off straight away.
If you have self worth, you know, if you have confidence,
self worth, you can be more direct and you can tell people
what you deserve and how you want to be treated.
And then guess what? Then you discover who actually
respects you and who deserves tobe in your life because people

(29:01):
will actually respond to you in a positive way because they'll
be like, oh, wow, thanks so muchfor setting the boundary or wow,
I didn't know that I hurt your feelings or wow, thanks so much
for sharing that. That's, you know, it creates
conversation or it creates rejection, which is not really
rejection. It's just like you don't need
people in your life that are notgoing to respect and treat you

(29:22):
the way you deserve to be treated.
But you only are treated the wayyou deserve to be treated if you
communicate that, you know, if you don't tell people how you
cross my boundary or hey, this is what I expect, or well,
fucking hell, they're supposed to know, right?
One of the four agreements is don't make assumptions.
Many of us just make assumptions.
Well, maybe they'll figure out later or maybe they'll change or
maybe if we just keep moving forward or they'll, they'll

(29:44):
maybe if you speak up for yourself, maybe if you stand up
for yourself, maybe if you grow a little bit more in terms of
your level of self worth, self confidence and overcome your
fees or your doubts or your trauma or whatever the fuck,
it's causing you to be in a fucking dysfunctional state.
Maybe if you do that, then people fucking level up.
Or maybe they won't, you know, maybe you start doing the work

(30:05):
on yourself and other people seethat as, you know, as something
that they're afraid of or that they can't understand.
And then they'll judge you for it.
They'll judge you for changing, you know, and the truth is you
don't need people in your life that are going to judge you for
changing and doing something foryourself so that you can better
yourself. You know, if people can't

(30:26):
appreciate that you're doing something for yourself because
you believe in yourself, you know, I've had people join my
coaching programme and then their partners or their friends,
like criticise them or tell themthat what they're doing or
investing in is a scam or is stupid.
You know, So I can appreciate, you know, that change or, you

(30:51):
know, personal development or, you know, making different
decisions or choices in your life that you believe.
Because remember, when you're making decisions, it's like fuck
off the outside noise. Like don't getting opinions from
people who are not living the life you want to be living or
getting opinions from people whoare not making the changes in

(31:13):
their life that you want to be making is pointless.
You know, why would you ask people's opinions or get advice
from people who are not about tomake a decision that you want to
make? Oh, I'm thinking about doing
this. What are your thoughts?
Who gives a fuck what your thoughts are?
They're not doing what you're doing.
What are you asking them for? Right?

(31:33):
So again, get detached from that, which is not trying to
achieve what you're achieving, you know, but I get it.
We've got these relationships, connections and stuff like that.
So sometimes we think, you know,people are going to support us
or have our back or maybe think like us.
But, you know, if you're on thisjourney of growth and, and

(31:55):
change and, and moving forward and evolving in your life, well,
just be more conscious of like who you're talking to and the,
the conversations you're having with people because you can pick
up very, very quickly whether someone's on your wavelength or
not, you know, and I remember when I first started doing this
work, you know, I really thoughtthat a lot of people because I

(32:15):
was excited. This is the theme.
And when you start listening to podcasts like this, when you
start going on this health self help, you know, awakening
journey, learning to love yourself and becoming a better
version of yourself, you know, it's exciting.
Like I remember having some of the conversations with friends
that, that, that I used to be close to because I was just
like, wow, I found this new passion.
I was like, shit, man, I'm did this new journey.

(32:37):
I'm like thinking about things and I really like felt very
highly of myself, you know, and all I wanted to do was like pass
on the energy. All I wanted to do was share
with my friends. But slowly, slowly I realised
that not everybody thought like me.
And I realised that a lot of theconversations that I was having,
the energy that I was giving, wasn't being received, and that

(33:03):
not everybody was on the same level of consciousness as I was.
And slowly, slowly, slowly, I just distant myself more and
more and more and more until I had distance myself from
everyone because I just knew that I needed me more than they
needed me. Because I realised that my

(33:24):
energy was sacred. My energy.
And again, from the other point of view, somebody could hear
this. And your energy is sacred.
What do you think? You're better than people.
What do you think? You're too good for people?
No, I just value my time and my energy.
And I knew that I had to spend more time with me.

(33:46):
I knew that I had given enough of me to the world, enough of me
to friends, enough of me to parties, enough of me to events
and always invitations. And it was time for Luke to come
back to himself. It was time for Luke to spend
more time with Luke because is Luke really didn't know who he
was. And how do you expect to figure

(34:08):
out who you are when you're constantly being influenced and
programmed by outside energy, bythings that are outside of you,
rather than you actually being able to think for yourself,
spend more time with yourself and build a better, positive,
more reinforced, confident relationship with yourself?
When you're constantly being infiltrated mentally by parents,

(34:32):
family, culture, media, information outside of yourself.
So you have an amazing future ahead of you.
Wherever you are in your life right now, I'm here to help you.
Of course, you know, it's not very hard to get in touch with
me. You just send me a message on
Instagram, Facebook, and just say, look, listen to your

(34:54):
podcasts. I'm ready to do some winter
work. I'm ready to do some work on
myself. You just reach out, you know,
and we'll have a chat. It's as simple as that.
You don't have to sit there and go, how do I do that?
It's like, man, just come and talk to me.
I'm here for you, you know, and all you're going to do is go
through an extraordinary transformation where you're
going to come out on the other side being someone that you

(35:16):
never thought you could be, living a life you never thought
you could live. Remember that if you want
different results, you got to take some sort of different
step. Many of us are still living in
this vicious cycle of I want change, I want more happiness or
peace, or I want to start fresh and start a new life.

(35:39):
But we're still, six months later, the same.
Nothing's changed, you know? So I pray and hope that this
episode has given some sort of insight, some sort of
inspiration for you. It's planted some positive seeds
in your mind. Wherever you're tuning in from
on YouTube, hit that subscribe button if you haven't.

(36:00):
If you're listening on Rumble orAmazon Music or Spotify, Apple
Podcasts, Audible, iHeartRadio, wherever you're tuning in from,
thank you for being here with meon this podcast.
I endeavour to continue to inspire you guys, motivate you
all scream at you as well to getoff your ass and keep moving

(36:22):
forward. Keep walking.
Johnny Walker That's a pretty good advertisement actually,
Johnny Walker keep walking because that's what life is
about. You know, it's not about laying
in bed and getting stuck in yourhead because if you stay in your
head, you're dead. And this is the blessing of
life, that you have the power ofchoice to get up, to move, to
keep moving, to get overwhelmed,to process, to take action.

(36:45):
It's OK to be overwhelmed. It's part of your life where
you're growing and you're havingto learn new things.
Remember that the unfamiliar right is where most people will
go. Well, I've never done that
before. I've never, I'm feeling a fear,
so I'm not going to take action.It's like, man, face the fear
because fear is a liar and fear is a lot of shit.
It's just in your head. And that fear is just not even

(37:07):
real. It's something you made up, you
know? So don't stop yourself from
creating an extraordinary life because Once Upon a time, I was
not this person. And I decided to make some
changes. And that came with environment,
with the changing of my mind, with building a healthy, a
loving relationship with myself and saying, you know, hey, man,

(37:30):
you want better in your life, become better and you'll attract
better. And so it is.
OK, Doctor Wayne Dyer, I'll leave you with this.
Assume the wish fulfilled. Assume that you have it already.
Assume that you have the peace, you have the success.
Everything is flowing to you, right?
You're already that person that you want to become.

(37:52):
Now change your fucking environment.
Change your mindset, OK? Stop complaining about life.
Take fucking responsibility for yourself.
Take some sort of action, investin your personal development,
invest in yourself, and soon youwill see that your whole life
will change. I'm just here with you to keep
inspiring you and motivating youalong the way.

(38:13):
So thank you again for joining me on this episode.
If this inspired you, make sure that you share this with your
friends. And guess what?
I'll see you on the next episode.
I'm staying consistent. What about you?
Sending you a lot of love, I'll see you soon.
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