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In this episode of the Luke Mind Power Podcast, Luke Chlebowicz opens up about the power of self-love, overcoming past trauma, and the challenges of evolving into a better version of yourself. As he reflects on his personal journey, including his recent marriage and the ups and downs of love, Luke shares inspiring insights on how to attract healthy relationships, set boundaries, and take control of your own destiny. This episode is a call to action to never give up on love, dreams, or personal growth—because your future depends on what you believe is possible.
🔑 Key Takeaways:
✅ The Power of Self-Responsibility: Taking ownership of your actions and mindset is essential for growth. Change starts with you.
✅ The Importance of Self-Worth: You attract what you believe you deserve. Learning to set healthy boundaries and understand your value is crucial.
✅ Overcoming Past Pain: Your past doesn't define you. Embrace the lessons learned from difficult relationships and use them to create a healthier future.
✅ Breaking Free from Negative Conditioning: Be conscious of the labels you carry, and recognize how your thoughts and words shape your reality.
✅ The Power of Consistency and Action: Success comes with consistent effort. Taking action, even when it's difficult, leads to transformation.
✅ Healthy Love Requires Vulnerability: True connection requires openness, communication, and respect. Love isn't just about affection—it's about mutual growth.
✅ Embrace the Journey of Self-Love: Self-love is the foundation for all relationships. Invest in yourself first to attract the right people and opportunities.
⏱️ Key Timestamps:
[00:00] – Introduction: The power of self-responsibility and positive affirmations
[03:20] – Overcoming negative self-talk and using the Four Agreements
[06:40] – The importance of being conscious of your words and thoughts
[10:00] – Changing your story to change your life
[13:20] – The evolution of love: From pain to healthy relationships
[16:40] – Embracing vulnerability in relationships and learning from past experiences
[20:00] – The impact of consistent action on personal growth and success
[23:20] – Overcoming relational sabotage and embracing healthy love
[26:40] – The importance of setting boundaries and recognizing your worth
[30:00] – The significance of communication and growth in relationships
[33:20] – Lessons from personal experiences and making dreams come true
[36:40] – The role of self-love in attracting healthy relationships
[40:00] – The power of vulnerability and overcoming past conditioning
[43:20] – Final thoughts: Never give up on love or your dreams
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(00:00):
You become what you think about.If we can consciously express
some sort of positivity, I am amazing, I am beautiful.
I'm powerful, I'm amazing, I'm intelligent, I'm extraordinary.
I can achieve anything that I put my mind to.
Override the negative thoughts, override the bullshit, override.
You're not going to be able to achieve it.
Yes I am, yes I can, yes I will fucking say that to yourself
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every fucking day. There is a level of self
responsibility that's required for you to actually go on a
journey on yourself and evolve out of where you were for so
many years. It's fucking hard.
It's shit. It was hurtful, painful.
I'm here to remind you that loveis such a powerful.
Force and if we. Allow ourselves to grow out of
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pain and fear, and we give ourselves a chance at being
loved, at attracting healthy love.
Since 2018, I've helped thousands of people heal
childhood trauma, overcome addiction, get off their anxiety
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and depression medication, and finally take control of their
lives. Many have gone on to start their
own business and become speakers, coaches, and leaders
who are now transforming lives every single day.
I've built a global community with over 3.5 million people
spoken on stages all over the world, and now I want to help
you to do the same. If you've ever dreamed of
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becoming a Certified Life Coach,making a difference, and
building a life of purpose and freedom, this is your moment.
The LMP Coaching Institute is where healing meets
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wish to see in the world. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to
another podcast on the Luke MinePower Podcast.
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It's a blessing to be alive. It's a blessing to be here with
you today and wherever you're tuning in from.
If you're tuning in on Instagram, on Facebook, on
TikTok, if you're watching on YouTube, Spotify, Apple podcast,
wherever you listen to the Luke Mine Power podcast, Amazon Music
audio, Audible, rumble, iHeartRadio.
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I want to welcome you to this amazing, amazing time in your
life where a lot of things can shift and change because you
start changing the way you think, you start changing your
story. That's one thing I was talking
about in my coaching today. I was like, if you change your
story, you'll change your life. I had one of my clients who said
that I'm I'm an overeater, right?
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And then there was someone else.I was on a.
Call. With two days ago and she said
I'm I'm in recovery and it's been 13 years.
I was a functional alcoholic. I'm in recovery and I thought
fuck how long do you have to be in recovery for?
Like how long do you have to be connected and?
Attached to that. Label that I'm in recovery.
(03:01):
I mean, that's not very empowering, you know?
It's actually feels a little bitdisempowering.
It's like, fuck, I'm going to bein recovery for the rest of my
life. You know, this kind of
terminology, ladies and gentlemen, I am this or I'm a,
something that you were challenged with in the past,
man. How do you want to change your
life if you keep talking about yourself in a way that is kind
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of challenging or traumatising or reminds you about what you
experienced most of your life, you know, So just learn this
lesson right now because this issomething I was talking to with
my clients inside my coaching programmes is like the way you
speak to yourself. It's actually in our first
module of my 20 week transformational programme and
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we talk about being impeccable with your word and I teach and I
share with everybody that joins us, share the four agreements.
There's the four agreements. I don't know if you've heard of
them, but the four agreements are so powerful.
The first one is. Actually, I don't know the
order, but I'll tell you then the four agreements.
The first one is be impeccable with your word, always do your
best. Then the third one is don't make
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assumptions, right? The don't make assumptions.
And then the 4th 1 is I always forget.
The 4th one it's don't make assumptions, always do your
best, be impeccable with your word and what's.
The freaking 4th one. Someone here was going to tell
me. Someone said I love that book.
Thank you so much for the congratulations, but you guys
can help me. What's the 4th agreement, ladies
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and gentlemen? Give me some give me a moment.
You're probably listening to this.
I already said it. What's the 4th agreement?
Don't take things personally, Alice.
Alice is in the building. Everybody give a shout out to
Alice. Alice.
Alice is one of our, you know, coaches in our institute as well
as in my coaching programme. Christine is in the building.
Don't take things personally yes.
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So. Being impeccable with your Word,
ladies and gentlemen, being impeccable with Your Word.
That is part of and what it saysin the four agreements.
It talks about the Bible. In the beginning there was the
Word, and the Word was with was with God.
So it's just emphasising the power of the spoken tongue,
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right? And so this was definitely
something for me when I started realising that.
Everything that you're speaking is just listen, pay attention to
this, right? If your brain is conditioned and
programmed through experiences and through whatever you're
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exposed to, for example, I can be talking to you right now.
You're learning something, you're picking up on something,
you're listening, you're processing mentally.
OK, so now tomorrow you might think about this.
Podcast and go Oh yeah, Luke mind power was talking about,
you know, to be impeccable with your word.
Be careful how you talk to yourself.
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So what's that proving and showing?
Well, that's proving and showing.
And you might already do this because you've listened to a lot
of my podcasts episode. There's over 400, right?
So you've listened to some and you've gone here.
I remember when Luke was talkingabout that.
What's that proving? It's proving that whatever you
listen to or whatever you're exposed to is something that you
can remember true or not. So now.
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What, what I'm helping you to identify and become aware of is
everything that you speak out ofyour beautiful mouth is
something that your brain is remembering, something that your
brain is absorbing like a sponge, you know?
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Hello. Are you understanding what I'm
saying? So if you're speaking down to
yourself, if you're speaking outaloud in a way.
That be careful with your words and I get it.
Maybe we're just not aware. We're just not as conscious of
like, how is this word or how isthis what I'm saying to myself
affecting the way that my brain thinks as we grow our brain.
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Is suggestible. We teach it according to what is
right, what is wrong, what is good, what is bad.
What is empowering and inspiringversus what is disempowering and
not inspiring? You know so.
If we continue to speak to ourselves in a specific way that
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actually doesn't help us to be free, we'll never be free.
And our mind it it, it just is listening to what you say and
whatever you say is what you think and whatever you think is
what you programme yourself withand whatever you programme
yourself is and what you feel within your body.
So all of a sudden you're there wondering why am I still stuck?
And I'm like, because you're probably speaking to yourself
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like you're fucking 20 years agowho you were when you're not,
you know? So become aware of your story,
of what it is that you keep saying to yourself as to what it
is that you're not anymore. You know, if you're someone who
hasn't had a drop. Of alcohol for 12.
Months and you don't want to touch it for the rest of your
life and you keep saying I'm fucking addicted.
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I'm an I'm an alcoholic fuck, man.
Is there chances of you to relapse higher than you saying I
used to have a problem with alcohol.
Now it's just not part of my life.
I don't focus on it. I focus on just becoming a
better version of myself and living my fucking best life.
And there's no such thing as that in my life, you know.
So again, terminology, the, the way that we speak to ourself,
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you know, very, very, be very careful because you're
programming your mind all the time.
OK. And again, this is something you
have. To you know either believe.
Or not. And if you feel that calling
yourself an alcoholic is helpingyou, cool.
I'm just helping you become aware of the power of words.
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Because if you keep saying that you're something, aren't you
going to become it? What, Earl Nightingale?
He said it. You become what you think about.
You become what you think about.And where do we get the thoughts
from? Do they come out of thin air?
Do they come out of some sort ofinspiration?
Does someone say something and you hear it and you go, oh,
that's a thought, right? Or are we able to consciously
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think them? What are the thoughts?
Where do they come from? Are they coming from the past?
Or they come from the world, or they come from other people's
opinions? You become what you think about.
So if we can consciously like express some sort of positivity,
I am amazing. Amazing.
What does that look like? Feel like?
I am beautiful. I'm powerful, I'm amazing, I'm
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intelligent, I'm extraordinary. I can achieve anything that I
put my mind to. You know, I'm not defined by
other people's opinions. I get to decide how amazing I
am. I get to decide and define my
greatness. I get to go on this journey and
be the creator of my. Destiny.
I get to make the better choicesin my life.
I get to do that me. Hello.
(09:54):
Override the negative thoughts. Override the bullshit.
Override that. Oh, you're.
Not going to be able to achieve it.
Yes I am, yes I can yes I will fucking say that to yourself
every fucking day. Override the Oh my gosh, I'm
just feeling so I'm having so much negative thinking today.
Where? What about the talking?
What about you speaking up for yourself?
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What about you talking back to the bullshit voice from the past
that keeps lingering in your fucking head?
You know, we, we don't have manypeople that we hear that we're
like, Oh yeah, I'm just rattlingwalking around, fucking talking
to myself because my negative thoughts are killing me.
You know, a lot of the times youstay in your head, you're dead.
You stay in your head and you'lleventually be your own worst
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enemy and you won't feel empowered.
You'll continuously be draining yourself because you're living
in the past and you're living inyour thoughts of negativity.
Your thoughts of I'm not enough your.
Thoughts of I can't do this? We don't have.
Many people really that teach you or coach you or say, you
know, hey, man, when you're spiralling or you feel like
there's negative thinking, starttalking to yourself.
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You know, start looking at yourself in the mirror and
saying, hey, you're not your negative thoughts.
You're not your thoughts. You are exactly the observer of
them, But you get to talk to yourself as well.
You get to have your own back. You get to speak positively to
yourself. You get to, you know, affirm to
yourself and override those conversations when they come up
because it's really easy to to lose yourself in your head, you
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know? But anyway, it's a blessing to
be here. Thank you for joining me on
another podcast episode. I hope that whatever I was
talking about just then, which Ididn't really know I was going
to talk about it. I just started talking about it,
you know, and this is just an invitation for you.
If you're thinking about starting a podcast, if you're
thinking about posting some content on social media, if
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you're thinking about sharing something, don't ever think it.
Just fucking do it, OK? Whoever needed to hear this, I
don't know who needed to hear it, but someone needed to hear
it. Stop overthinking it and just
fucking do it, OK? Stop sitting there and going,
how am I going to do it? How am I going to start?
What am I going to do? Blah, blah, blah.
Just press record and fucking doit, OK?
Do it because the time that you waste is just something you
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can't get back, you know, and sometimes we want to be too
perfect. We overthink things.
We, we, we delay things. We're just like, ah, you know,
I'll do it. I didn't do it today.
I'll do it next time. Do it tomorrow.
Do it. And it's just like wasting,
wasting, wasting, you know, and I've learnt that by pressing
record, pressing live and just talking and just starting, you
know, I've gotten to this level of the success.
(12:24):
And my podcast has over 400 episodes.
Maybe it's 300 and 83190, but it's around that, you know, it's
a lot of consistency. Most important, it's about
taking action, believing in yourself and not giving up.
So I've got a ring on my finger.That's interesting.
That's a long time coming. Like what is this ring?
(12:44):
Well, you you would have heard me talk about getting married
and, you know, been wanting to do a podcast episode with my
wife for such a long time. You know, we wanted to talk
about how we met. We wanted to talk about the
story. We wanted to talk about like
relationships and all that kind of stuff.
And I have no doubt that eventually we will, you know,
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but you know, there was a whole story about, you know, why we
chose to have a civil wedding orceremony first.
You know, obviously, a lot of people, some of my family
actually in Poland were disappointed that I didn't
invite them. You know, they took it
personally, you know, and some people just weren't aware or
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they just celebrate, congratulated us and all that
kind of stuff. But it was definitely just
something small, something intimate because initially, and
I know I hope my wife doesn't get angry, but I know I'm just
going to share it with you because, you know, you guys are
my family and I feel very close with all of you that listen,
even though I don't mind baby, Idon't know you personally, but I
feel like you probably like man,I feel like I know Luke
personally because I've been listening to his podcast for so
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long, you know, but and maybe some of you guys can relate, but
I guess it is quite emotional. It's quite challenging to to go
through something like this. And, you know, I don't know,
like I don't want to say it's karma.
Maybe it could be, but you know,I don't know.
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But yeah, it was definitely quite challenging to to know
that, you know, we were pregnantand, you know, we had a baby on
the way. And, you know, we, we knew as
well that we wanted to get married, even though, you know,
we were having a baby, but, and it's like, Oh my God, that's
amazing. I know.
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And then a few months later we were having a miscarriage.
And obviously we're still planning the, the wedding and
all that kind of stuff. And, you know, we said to
ourselves that, you know, we're not getting married because of
the baby, But we also were at that point where we, we were, we
were done with the boyfriend, girlfriend, fiance, that kind of
thing. You know, we wanted to make it
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official, but at the same time, we also wanted to have a proper,
you know, her dad walking her down the aisle, a big wedding,
you know, but that was kind of like a little bit further away
down the track, you know? So I feel like God kind of took
us through this. It's funny.
It's kind of like God's like, no, you're not having a baby
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first, you're getting married 1st and then you're going to, I
don't know, for a lot of people,it's kind of like, you know,
that's a formality. That's just like what they want
you to do and all that kind of stuff.
And it's OK. Whatever your belief system is,
you know, you can, you can hold on to that.
But I really appreciate, I do appreciate somehow some way the
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abstinence, you know, the temptation, you know, it's
almost happened like that where for us, you know, we had to
wait, you know, it's like Nana, get married.
You got to get married first before you go down that road.
I can just listen to my mom is like no sex before marriage.
You can't have children until you're married and all that kind
of stuff, you know. So it's interesting how kind of
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things have evolved for us, you know.
But yeah, you know, so we, we did go through that and, you
know, we got married together ina beautiful civil ceremony in
Poland, which was a dream for me.
Like, I don't even can't even comprehend the amount of stress
that my wife went through to organise everything.
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And I'm so grateful for her because it was a lot.
And I was just like, to be honest with you, like, and I'm
just so aware of my mind, how heavily I have been programmed
for rejection, you know, from all of these relationships that
I was in in the past and not feeling worthy of love and not
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feeling good enough and not feeling lovable, like.
And I hope that you guys can relate to this because my brain
is or was and still I still likekind of have a little bit of
that, like, you know, fear or bit of like past conditioning
from, you know, this is not realor this is not going to happen
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for you, Luke, or you know, you're not worthy of that
because of the trauma of rejection in relationships from
people that I wanted, that I loved, that I gave myself to or
that I wanted to be with. But then I was never able.
It was never reciprocated or they rejected me, for example.
That was heavy. And so that's why I always say
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the heavier that you, the deeperyou love, the deeper the trauma,
the deeper the pain, you know. And so as I evolve now into a
healthy relationship, a healthy love, you know, being with
someone that is able to receive my love, to give me back even
more love, to see me as as I am,to see my worth, my value, you
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know. It's so unfamiliar for me,
right? And even though I know I.
Love the shit out of her. You know, there's still that
least little lingering fear thatcomes up, a bit of anxiety and
it's almost like, what is it? It's like piss off, you know,
But but if I wasn't as aware of like my past conditioning, my
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past experiences, the things that I've been through in the
past, I wouldn't understand it, you know?
And there's something called sabotage or, or relational
sabotage or something to do with, you know, sabotaging
something because it's too good,you know, and it's absolutely
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ridiculous. It's almost like you've got
something that's amazing, it's real, but because it's
unfamiliar to your brain, you start to do things to get rid of
it. Isn't that crazy?
And The thing is, it's almost like you don't even realise what
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you're doing because what your brain is trying to do is to keep
you in the familiar and keep yousafe.
You know, I had someone join my coaching institute today and it
was kind of a similar thing where she was like, you know,
oh, I'm, I'm feeling a little bit, there's a bit of fear or a
bit of doubt, you know? And I was like, that's amazing.
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I'm like, that's exactly how you're supposed to feel.
You know, moving into something unfamiliar, into a new life is
not supposed to be perfect and comfortable and safe.
You know you're making decisionsin your life.
That you've never made before. You're doing something that
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you're not used to doing. And this is probably the most
profound experience that I'm going through myself personally
as I evolve in love, in union with my wife.
You know, because I can see now how easily influenced,
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programmed we can be to not settle, to always think there's
something better out there or to, you know, never be
satisfied, for example. And I got to tell you, ladies
and gentlemen, if there was any picky motherfucker.
That was out there. It was me and Danilo, like the
way that we were picky on girls like this and that and don't
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like this and don't like that and fucking hell, like to the
point where it was annoying, youknow, and like me personally
fucking. Porn.
You know, like, where did the pickiness come from?
Social media, like fucking porn,watching porn like, constantly,
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you know, I mean, it played a big role in my life when I was
not in a relationship, you know?So what does it do to your
brain? It was never an addiction.
It was just something that was like an escape, you know?
And it was just a a temporary. Escape from reality, right?
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Normally while under the influence, you know, but part of
your brain is like programmed tohave this standard of like
exactly what is in the videos, you know, and it's not real.
It's not real, you know, So it'sso easy, not just from that, but
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from social media, from anythingthat's out there that is in
magazines or whatever to have this kind of expectation of like
this is the standard. And this is what you need rather
than like allowing you to actually connect with a human
you know, and to love and fall in love and to appreciate
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someone for who they are and howthey respect you and appreciate
you and care for you and, and all the other amazing
characteristics of our human personality, you know, our human
functionality of who we are. And this is.
Probably one of the most beautiful things for me that I
absolutely love about my wife isthat, yes, not only is she
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absolutely gorgeous, but the wayshe touches me, the way she
cares about me, the way she looks after me, the way she has
my back, the way she like, it just doesn't end.
There's so is so many. Things that I have been able to
connect with. It's not just like at one point
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you're just like you think aboutsex and it's like, oh fuck man,
Relationship is like so much more than that.
Even love, like it's not just love, there has to be respect,
there has to be communication, there has to be forgiveness.
There has to be, you know, vulnerability.
There has to be emotion, you know, and, and what you go
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through, you grow through, you know, like you have to.
Go through shit to grow through things, grow through things.
Grow through shit. As you as you go through shit,
you grow. Together.
Together is the keyword. You know and you water each
other. You know you keep watering each
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other. It's not you go through.
Shit. And then you fucking distance
yourself. You.
Go through shit and then you keep watering each other.
And what is watering each other?Watering each other is
forgiveness, communication, respect, love, appreciation.
You know what is? Communication.
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Communication is being annoyed, being bothered, being triggered,
communicating that, expressing that, being triggered and
communicating that, and then being able to actually hear it
and receive it and understand it.
You know, without you retaliating and going fuck you,
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you know, your triggers don't matter.
Your your feelings don't matter,your emotions don't matter.
Screw you. I don't want to be with you
anymore. It's like man, every time you
get triggered or you get annoyedor you get something comes up in
your relationship and you get totalk to the person that you love
about how they made you feel or how the experience made you
feel. And they are able to somehow,
magically, I don't know how, my wife.
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Does it, but she's. First she's angry, then she's
arguing with me a bit, then she gets really emotional, then she
understands and then she's like,Oh my God.
Like then she gets what I'm trying to say and then she like
holds the space for me. And then we love each other
again, then we forgive each other again.
And then we get, we grow more than we get closer and closer
and closer. It's like.
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That's the whole point of a relationship, you know?
It's like go through shit, but grow even closer, you know, and
I really love this whole conceptof the forever union, you know,
of like that's she's only for me, that's it, you know, and I'm
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not interested in anyone else. I don't have intentions or eyes
for anyone else. Just her, you know, there's some
sort of peace. That provides me, you know, that
I can just focus on her and of course, myself and of course,
things that are my priorities. You know, so in the post that I
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posted on Instagram where there's a video of me and my
wife in the car after we got married and you know, it starts
off by saying, you know, never give up on love.
And I, I actually can I read it to you, you know, do you mind?
I'm going to read it to you because I wrote this.
It was a stink Monday morning and I just thought, OK, I'm
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going to write this because, youknow, I just really want to
write something from me. It's not AI generated, no
ChatGPT, none of that stuff. It's just me.
I was sitting in bed and I wrotethis.
OK, so just listen up. It says never give up on love
because if you do, that beautiful soul who's looking for
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you will never get to meet you and spend forever with you.
So let me elaborate on that. If you've been through a
divorce, if you've been through a toxic relationship, if you've
been through a domestic violencerelationship, if you've been
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through a sexually abusive relationship, maybe one, maybe
2. Even more if you've been through
a financially abusive relationship, if you've been
through some sort of narcissistic or you know, just
destructive relationship, Whatever it is that you've been
through has been really hard, hurtful, painful, so much so
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that it may have and probably has stirred you away from
relationships, period. And you may be in a mindset of.
Screw. That I'm not for relationships.
I don't want one. I've had enough.
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I'm with you man. Like if you've been through some
shit, like why would you be thinking about relationships?
I did the same. Thing.
I went through. Fucking rejection after
rejection after bullshit after bullshit.
And I fucking said fuck off, I want me now.
What was the purpose of it though?
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The purpose of it was for me to evolve out of dysfunction.
For me to evolve out of insecurity.
For me to evolve out of not believing in myself.
For me to evolve out of not understanding my power and my
worth and what I deserved. And what I fucking deserved was
an amazing fucking person that would respect me, that would
love me the way I deserve to be fucking loved.
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But how could I understand that in myself?
How could I stand up for my power and know that when someone
doesn't treat me the right way for me to walk away?
How could I know that if I neverhad it in myself in the 1st
place? So many of us are wondering why
did I go through that fucking shit relationship?
Why did this happen to me? Right.
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And, and, and what I'm trying toinvite you to appreciate is that
there is a level of self responsibility that's required a
level of self attention for you to actually go on a journey on
yourself and evolve out of whereyou were for so many years.
And this is not saying you know.You're the bad.
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Person, it's no, no, you, you, you, you were in this situation
scenario, you went through it. It's fucking hard, it's shit.
It was hurtful, painful. But of course you can say, well,
there's a saying that says you attract what you are, not what
you want. But really, we attract all types
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of people. But guess what?
We also have the have the discernment of the decision, of
the opportunity to make a conscious choice every fucking
day to who we want to be around.We get to say yes and no.
We get to set the boundaries, draw the line on what we fucking
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tolerate and what we allow. Now when you don't know your
fucking worth and when you don'thave a high level of self
respect and self love and know who the fuck you are, you will
let shit in. And when you surround yourself
with shit, you become shit. So.
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The next statement is on the 5thof July 2025.
We decided to make our dream come true and become husband and
wife. It wasn't our big church wedding
that we dream of, but it was something super special, small
and intimate with some of our close family and friends.
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One thing we knew was that we were ready to commit to each
other forever and solidify our union.
God bless our unborn child. That brought us even closer and
taught us what real love is. I know God put us through these
moments to teach us how to love each other on a deeper level
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because it did. You know, like going through
that experience of having a miscarriage and witnessing and
watching, you know, your partnersuffer and be in pain and the
cramping and all that stuff was just like horrific, you know,
these are the moments where you have each other's back.
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These are the moments that you grow together, you know, and
love each other even more and more and more.
You know, So again, I look at these experiences and I'm just
like, well, maybe that's anotherreason why we went through that,
because God was putting us through this experience so that
we could fall deeper in love with each other, you know?
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So we decided. To for now to have a civil
ceremony and become husband and wife.
To be honest, we were over the boyfriend and girlfriend and
fiance labels and we knew we were meant for each other.
Yulita Klebovich, you are my dream come true.
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I always dreamed of marrying a Polish girl in Poland and
marrying someone who could love me the way I love them.
I'm never too much for you and your feminine nature is so
loving, peaceful and caring. You are my safe space.
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Even though you say I'm your safe space.
You let me lead and you trust that I will take care of our
family as a man should, and I love that.
I can't wait to officially be married in the eyes of God next
year. Call Hamche Barador.
And seriously, doesn't my wife look absolutely stunning?
The most beautiful girl in the world.
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I love you, wifey, and I can't wait to give you everything you
want and need. Your husband, Luke Francis
Klubovich. So that was the post that I
posted. And yeah, it's like a dream, to
be honest. Like when I arrived for the
civil ceremony and I saw that them Yulita had got a harp and a
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violinist to like, and this was in like a field, like we call it
a polar in in Poland. And it was just all green and
like just this ceremony in the middle and about 30 people.
And the lady was there from the Government House or whatever
they are. And she had the Polish eagle,
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like a, a framed Polish eagle. It's like a has to, like it's
part of the ceremony that has tobe there, you know, And that
quite made me quite emotional because I, you know, I went to
Polish school when I was in Australia.
My mom sent me there every Saturday.
And, you know, Poli, Polish culture has always been very,
I've been very close to that, you know, my whole life.
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And so seeing that was like, youknow, made me quite emotional.
And then, you know, my sister was behind me, and she's like,
you're not allowed to see her, you know?
And so obviously, you know, you later decided to walk down by
herself, you know, And eventually, when she started
walking, then the music came on and she's like, OK, you can
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look. So that was pretty.
Yeah. It was very emotional.
And even when when I was readingthe whatever the lady was saying
in Polish, I couldn't even speaklike literally that she was
saying this stuff and all these big words, I couldn't even
pronounce them. You know, but I was like,
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really? I was, it's almost like I was
more nervous and like starstruckmaybe because this was reality.
It was like coming true, you know, becoming husband and wife.
So and then we had a beautiful reception at her dad's place
with close family and friends. So it was very special, you
know, but it would have been more special had it had it or it
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would have been more special if everyone that we would love to
be there with us would have beenthere, you know.
So, yeah. So there's a few things that we
want to that that we want to do,you know, and obviously we still
want to have a big church wedding.
And one of the reasons is because, you know, in tradition,
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obviously her dad has to give her to me, you know, her dad has
to walk her down the aisle and and she didn't have a veil and
she didn't have, you know, that sit that, you know, walk down
the church. So that's a big deal, you know,
and I and I want that for us, you know, so, and then if it's
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next year, you know, it's going to give us a lot more time to be
able to organise things and, andto be able to invite the people
that are close to us and that we, you know, want to be there
for, for that special big, big fucking hell, big, big
celebration. Yes.
And you know, because I think about it, you know, and I know
that, you know, and I know that a lot of people are like, oh,
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you know, it's a wedding. Like it's such a waste of money
and all these kind of stuff. But, and I know that some people
probably like, you know, save mymoney, I'd rather get the money
and buy a house and all this kind of shit.
This is how I see it. OK.
And I don't know, everyone probably thinks different, all
that kind of shit. But recently, let me let me just
share something and I hope that this relates to you or somehow
in your life or whatever. But for example, you know, at
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one point I had a mindset. There's a mindset, you know,
mindset was only invite people to your wedding that are close
to you and that you see, what's the point of inviting someone
that you see once every 10 yearsor you used to hang out with
them when you were younger, but you never see them anymore.
Are you, are you supposed to invite them?
Are they supposed to be at your wedding?
Like what do you think? Right.
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So this is what happened, and this is what changed my
perspective. About two or three months ago,
my mom's cousin, her husband died, my mom's cousin, mom's
first cousin, you know, and. Her.
Son's were kind of our second cousins or whatever, you know,
and we hung out with them so much.
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We spent so much time with them in the past growing up together,
lived, stayed at their houses. We hung out so much and guess
what? We lost touch.
We lost a bit of contact. We haven't seen them for a long
time. All of a sudden their father
dies and all of a sudden I'm here in Poland.
I'm on a WhatsApp call with, with them, you know, and I see
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them and I see their mom, you know, which is my, my mom's
first cousin. And I'm immediately, I was just
like, Oh my gosh, like, shit, I haven't seen them for so long,
you know, and I'm like, what brought us together?
Oh, the death of the father, youknow, it's like what?
So literally someone has to die so that we spend time together.
Someone has to. There has to be a big enough
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reason for you to actually go and connect, and you know what I
mean? So this just shows how busy how?
Crazy life is that you lose touch with people.
You got so many other priorities.
You got other things that are more important than spending
time with people you used to hang out with or whatever.
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And I get it. I appreciate it.
We everyone evolves and stuff like that.
So after that experience, I thought to myself, I was like,
man, you know what? Like what is the purpose of
having a wedding? Like a proper big wedding?
What's the point, You know? And I'm like, well, the the
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whole point is to fucking live life.
Like, what are you here for? Fucking to to save money so you
can buy a house. Of course it's great to have
assets, great to invest your money, great to all that shit.
But what about the memories? What about living life?
What about being able to like, look back?
And go fuck, we lived like we we, we did do shit.
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You know we made our dreams cometrue.
We we, you know. We took action.
Whatever. So my vision and, and how I see
things is, no, I'm going to havea fucking huge wedding.
I want to look back at this wedding where I invited people
that I haven't seen for 10 years, but I was always close to
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them. But I just evolved and I haven't
seen them for so long and they're like close family, but I
just don't have the time and they don't live close to me, so
I never see them. But if I invite them to my
wedding, I'll maybe they'll comeand I would love to see them.
You know, we always had so much fun together, right?
I'm not going to sit here and go.
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I don't see them not inviting him.
I don't see them. I'm not inviting him.
I don't see them. I'm not inviting him.
You know, So I am actually like A and like there's so many
people that have been working with me and have been my clients
and have come to my events and that have just been, you know,
so supportive with like the LukeMine power legacy.
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The Luke Mine Power Institute, my, my coaching space.
And you have been, there's so much love in this space that
like, I can't wait to invite people to, to to such an
extraordinary moment in my life,you know, and that's how it's
supposed to feel. It's supposed to feel fucking
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mind blowing. It's supposed to be the most
extraordinary day of your life, apart from, you know, maybe
having a baby, but, you know, solidifying your union with your
partner and going, I am fucking yours forever, man.
Fireworks and fucking explosions, you know what I
mean? It needs to be extraordinary.
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I'm not doing this freaking let's just do a little wedding
kind of business where it's justlike, it's not a big deal.
It's fucking huge. You know what I'm saying?
So that's just my mindset anyway, because, you know, I
want to like I remember going tomy fiance for my wife's cousins,
you know, for the first time about.
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I don't know how long. Five months ago, maybe.
And we're sitting there and theyturned on their wedding video
from 10 years ago or however long it was 10 years ago,
something like that. And we're watching.
I was watching my wife and how young she was, and she was there
and like, looking at her family and all this kind of stuff.
And I was like, yeah, that's thewhole fucking point, you know,
Like, that's the whole idea. Everything's recorded and in
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five years, in 10 years, in 15 years time, like you'll be
hosting. People or something, and you'll
turn it on the TV and then you'll sit there and laugh and
you'll look at it. Oh, I remember that day.
I remember this. I remember that.
That's fucking life, man. Like, come on.
You know what I mean? So you know, the the point of my
message is you know. You only live once.
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Make it the best, you know, go all out, like make your dreams
come true. Do what you love.
Be passionate about life, you know, be excited about the
possibility. You know, I mean, when I wasn't
married and when I hadn't met Yolita yet, I had a lot of fear
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and I had a lot of doubt. And there was a lot in my mind
that was, you know, making me think that maybe this is never
going to happen. Maybe this is a long shot.
Maybe I'm never going to meet her, you know?
But what did you see me keep doing?
You saw me keep going. You saw me keep posting, keep
taking action, keep recording. Podcast, podcast after episode
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after episode after episode after episode.
Because I knew that consistency wins, because I knew that
eventually the law of attractionwould work.
I knew that what I put out, it comes back, you know, and why I
said karma was because I had an abortion back in 2015, I think
it was 2015, with somebody that I was with.
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And that hurt me for a long time, you know?
And so I almost felt like what happened to me this year was
almost like, you know, you did that and now this is what
happened. What happens, you know, but I
don't even want to talk about itlike that.
I don't want to think about it. But but you know what I'm trying
to say, if you understand karma,it's like, well, if you do this
wrong, this is going to happen to you, you know, But you know,
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I'm grateful to be alive. I'm grateful to be here with you
guys. I appreciate this journey, you
know, and being here to help whoever feels the need to reach
out to us. You know, I've always got links
below this video, you know, where you can get in touch with
us if you want to become an online coach and you want to
join our coaching institute. And you want me to teach you
(43:52):
everything that I know about life coaching and about, you
know, creating your online business, growing your social
media platforms. Or maybe it's something about
healing your childhood trauma orbuilding self confidence.
You know, we have coaching programmes for you to do that as
well. And I look forward to continuing
this journey and and building this platform, but also
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continuing to help you leave your dreams, not your fears, to
inspire you to keep persevering no matter what is happening in
your life. That there is OK, that there is
what is there, There is your dream.
And that your dream is real. That whatever it is that you
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want, it wants you to. And I'm just going to go back.
To the top of what I said, I said never give up on love, just
like you should never give up onyour dreams, you know, just like
you could never give up on something you believe in.
Never give up on love. Because if you do, that
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beautiful soul who's looking foryou, because imagine this,
there's someone out there, they're looking for you as well.
You know they're looking for you.
And imagine that. They are your perfect partner,
like you're forever. And because of your
traumatization and your traumatised experiences and your
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hard moments that you've been through in relationships, you
say I'm done, I'm out, I'm done forever.
I'm closed, I'm closed. That's it and more.
And there's truly someone there that is perfect, that will treat
you the way you deserve to be treated, that will love you the
way you deserve to be loved. But because of the pain and
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because of how someone else treated you, you give up on
them. And I'm here to remind you that,
you know, love is such a. Powerful force and if we allow.
Ourselves to grow out of pain and fear.
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And then then we give ourselves a chance, you know, at being
loved, at attracting healthy love.
Because let's change this. To never give up on your dreams
because if you do, your dream will never become real.
And if your dream never becomes real, maybe the people that are
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meant to help you in your dream,maybe the people that you're
meant to serve will never get tomeet you and work with you and
learn from you because you give up on your dream and you never
get to make the impact that you could have made.
You know, the amount of people that I've worked with that I
help, that I inspire because of the work that I do.
Imagine I never said yes to me. Imagine I said, you know, fuck
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you. I don't want to growing self
love, fuck self love. I don't want to fucking be a
motivational speaker. I just want to keep working at
the service NSW and being a driver tester and freaking
driving people around doing tests all day.
You know, they're like stop using cocaine and and and change
my friends. And she like fuck that.
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I want to stay the same. I want to, I want to change, I
want to stay. And then I would never be here
and I would never have this life, you know, and I would
never be inspiring or doing whatI do and helping people to
change their lives. And I kind of like it, you know?
You know, I like. It because I get to fucking
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dance. I get to dance, I get paid for
dancing, you know, like have youever realised what do you do for
work? I go around the world and I
fucking dance. Literally, you know, what do you
do? Just make dancing videos.
You know, like some people, someof you guys just know me.
Oh, that's that dancing guy, youknow, and like, it kind of is
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like, yeah, I, of course I incorporate dancing into
coaching and all that kind of stuff.
You know, it's my content creation strategy.
But like, literally that's what I'm doing.
Like how, you know, I, I kind oflike this, whatever I'm doing,
hey, I'm doing podcast, I'm helping people.
I'm talking from experience of my own relationship experiences.
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That's why I tell you, don't even think that you're not good
enough to be a coach. You know, don't even think that
you don't have wisdom and that you can't help other people.
You know what I mean? It's not too late.
You haven't missed the boat, right?
Like literally within the space of 6 to 12 months, you can have
a fully functioning online coaching business and you can be
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helping people. You can be getting paid for it.
You can be travelling and livingfrom wherever you want, you
know, and making more money thanyou can even imagine.
I had someone tell me today and it's not a bad thing that, you
know, I'm happy making £20,000 ayear.
And I was like, man, I'm like, how about £20,000 a month, you
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know, because that's the norm. You know, and it's like.
We can't fathom that because we've never really thought the
possibilities of how we can actually do that, but we can.
I, I'm doing it like I didn't know that it was possible, but,
you know, I was limiting the waythat I saw myself.
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And plus, I just never knew the way, you know, and that's why I
had to work with some people. I had to invest in myself.
And slowly, slowly, slowly over time, you just keep growing,
getting better and better and better.
Anyway, ladies and gentlemen, thank you so much for being
here. You know, I am, I'm wearing the
Polish jersey as well. I'm feeling very patriotic.
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This is actually from 2014, thisjersey, you know, I used to go
to the Polish Club in Sydney with all my Polish mates and we
would watch the Euro and the World Cup soccer at the Ashfield
Polish Club. Every time there was Poland
playing countries and it was always at 2:00 AM, three AM.
Like it was the worst, you know.But we, we loved it, you know,
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we loved getting up and getting fucking pissed and getting to
the bar and drinking and screaming our heads off at the
Polish soccer national team. And they were always losing.
Every fucking time they play, they're losing, losing, losing,
you know, But we still, when we still supported, you know, we'll
still crazy about it, you know, And I got to say like being here
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in Poland and having access to the European time zone and being
able to watch the soccer at fucking 5:00 PM, at 7:00 PM,
man, that's a dream come true. But the other thing about it as
well is that I forgot what I wasgoing to say about the soccer.
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There's something about the soccer I was going to say.
But yeah, the, the, the time, you know, those moments, those
days, the past, you know, I had to go through all of that, You
know, I had to go through all ofthat to get to this place in my
life, you know, and it's part ofwhatever you want to do in your
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life and making your dreams cometrue, you know?
So I wish you nothing but success as you continue to move
forward today with your life. Don't give up.
Know that I'm always rooting foryou.
I'm always cheering for you. And there's always going to be
another Luke Mind Power episode because every single Tuesday and
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As I continue to share more freetrainings, I'm always creating
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everybody so that you can continue to have access to my
content and learning and growing.
But anyway, I'll keep you postedwith any news.
And yeah, this is like the radiostation of inspiration and
authenticity and vulnerability. And I love to be open with you
guys. I love to share my life with you
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guys. I love to be here So that, you
know, and this is the thing I'llfinish with this guys.
I love being real. You know, I love being myself
and I love being judged. You know, I love people judging
me and people not understanding me and, you know, having people
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having opinions of me because, you know, my confidence in who I
am is rock solid and people willalways have opinions.
But that's why it's important for you to really build a good
foundation, a strong relationship with yourself, to
have a good opinion about yourself so that when you look
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at yourself in the mirror, you know who the fuck you are.
So that whenever someone comes along and tries to, you know,
rock your boat and say some bullshit and say, oh, you dare
say you that or why are you doing this?
And we're doing that. You know, you can, you can just
(53:23):
whatever, bro. Silence is probably the best
answer sometimes. Just don't say anything and just
keep walking. Johnny Walker, it's just keep
walking. Have a Johnnie Walker, you know,
Yeah, but that's it. You know, like other people's
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opinions don't pay your bills. Other people's opinions are not
going to, you know, get you up in the morning to, to stick to
your routine so that you can have a good mental health and a
good routine and a good lifestyle.
Other people's opinions are not going to, you know, get you the
success that you want to achieve, you know?
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So yeah, there's the challenge of letting go of things that are
not healthy, letting go of family members, distancing
yourself, love people from a distance.
You know, you don't have to hateanyone.
It's just like, realise that, wow, it's not my vibe anymore.
I'm not vibing with that. Or just I've got to, I've got to
have my back. I've got to have my back.
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Have your own back, OK? Have your own back.
Don't let other people's opinions bring you down, and if
they have been, and if you're not feeling as empowered as
you'd like to feel and you're missing a lot of self
confidence, that just means thatthere's some work to do on
yourself. It's not the end of the road,
it's not the end of your life. It just means that you've got to
pay attention. You've got to.
Listen to this podcast. You've got to do some personal
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development work, invest in yourself a little bit because
that's all. That's that's all.
That you need, and if you're willing to do some work, and if
it hurts enough, and if it's annoying enough, and if you've
been complaining enough, and if you've been talking shit about
where you don't want to be for long enough and it hurts enough,
it's like cool, very much. Like fucking hell, do something
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about it, you know? Otherwise, stay where you are
and and and nothing will change,you know, But I know that you're
not that dumb. You know, you're not that
stupid, so let's keep going. It's a blessing to spend time
with you. I'll see you in the next
episode. And if you do want to reach out
to us, just there's a few links below.
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Check them out and I'm sure I'llhear from you real soon.
Sending you a lot of love. Ciao, David Danya, let's go.
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I want to welcome you to this amazing, amazing time in your
life where a lot of things can shift and change because you
start changing the way you think, you start changing your
story. That's one thing I was talking
about in my coaching today. I was like, if you change your
story, you'll change your life. I had one of my clients who said
that I'm I'm an overeater, right?
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And then there was someone else.I was on a.
Call. With two days ago and she said
I'm I'm in recovery and it's been 13 years.
I was a functional alcoholic. I'm in recovery and I thought
fuck how long do you have to be in recovery for?
Like how long do you have to be connected and?
Attached to that. Label that I'm in recovery.
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I mean, that's not very empowering, you know?
It's actually feels a little bitdisempowering.
It's like, fuck, I'm going to bein recovery for the rest of my
life. You know, this kind of
terminology, ladies and gentlemen, I am this or I'm a,
something that you were challenged with in the past,
man. How do you want to change your
life if you keep talking about yourself in a way that is kind
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of challenging or traumatising or reminds you about what you
experienced most of your life, you know, So just learn this
lesson right now because this issomething I was talking to with
my clients inside my coaching programmes is like the way you
speak to yourself. It's actually in our first
module of my 20 week transformational programme and
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we talk about being impeccable with your word and I teach and I
share with everybody that joins us, share the four agreements.
There's the four agreements. I don't know if you've heard of
them, but the four agreements are so powerful.
The first one is. Actually, I don't know the
order, but I'll tell you then the four agreements.
The first one is be impeccable with your word, always do your
best. Then the third one is don't make
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assumptions, right? The don't make assumptions.
And then the 4th 1 is I always forget.
The 4th one it's don't make assumptions, always do your
best, be impeccable with your word and what's.
The freaking 4th one. Someone here was going to tell
me. Someone said I love that book.
Thank you so much for the congratulations, but you guys
can help me. What's the 4th agreement, ladies
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and gentlemen? Give me some give me a moment.
You're probably listening to this.
I already said it. What's the 4th agreement?
Don't take things personally, Alice.
Alice is in the building. Everybody give a shout out to
Alice. Alice.
Alice is one of our, you know, coaches in our institute as well
as in my coaching programme. Christine is in the building.
Don't take things personally yes.
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So. Being impeccable with your Word,
ladies and gentlemen, being impeccable with Your Word.
That is part of and what it saysin the four agreements.
It talks about the Bible. In the beginning there was the
Word, and the Word was with was with God.
So it's just emphasising the power of the spoken tongue,
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right? And so this was definitely
something for me when I started realising that.
Everything that you're speaking is just listen, pay attention to
this, right? If your brain is conditioned and
programmed through experiences and through whatever you're
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exposed to, for example, I can be talking to you right now.
You're learning something, you're picking up on something,
you're listening, you're processing mentally.
OK, so now tomorrow you might think about this.
Podcast and go Oh yeah, Luke mind power was talking about,
you know, to be impeccable with your word.
Be careful how you talk to yourself.
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So what's that proving and showing?
Well, that's proving and showing.
And you might already do this because you've listened to a lot
of my podcasts episode. There's over 400, right?
So you've listened to some and you've gone here.
I remember when Luke was talkingabout that.
What's that proving? It's proving that whatever you
listen to or whatever you're exposed to is something that you
can remember true or not. So now.
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What, what I'm helping you to identify and become aware of is
everything that you speak out ofyour beautiful mouth is
something that your brain is remembering, something that your
brain is absorbing like a sponge, you know?
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Hello. Are you understanding what I'm
saying? So if you're speaking down to
yourself, if you're speaking outaloud in a way.
That be careful with your words and I get it.
Maybe we're just not aware. We're just not as conscious of
like, how is this word or how isthis what I'm saying to myself
affecting the way that my brain thinks as we grow our brain.
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Is suggestible. We teach it according to what is
right, what is wrong, what is good, what is bad.
What is empowering and inspiringversus what is disempowering and
not inspiring? You know so.
If we continue to speak to ourselves in a specific way that
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actually doesn't help us to be free, we'll never be free.
And our mind it it, it just is listening to what you say and
whatever you say is what you think and whatever you think is
what you programme yourself withand whatever you programme
yourself is and what you feel within your body.
So all of a sudden you're there wondering why am I still stuck?
And I'm like, because you're probably speaking to yourself
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like you're fucking 20 years agowho you were when you're not,
you know? So become aware of your story,
of what it is that you keep saying to yourself as to what it
is that you're not anymore. You know, if you're someone who
hasn't had a drop. Of alcohol for 12.
Months and you don't want to touch it for the rest of your
life and you keep saying I'm fucking addicted.
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I'm an I'm an alcoholic fuck, man.
Is there chances of you to relapse higher than you saying I
used to have a problem with alcohol.
Now it's just not part of my life.
I don't focus on it. I focus on just becoming a
better version of myself and living my fucking best life.
And there's no such thing as that in my life, you know.
So again, terminology, the, the way that we speak to ourself,
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you know, very, very, be very careful because you're
programming your mind all the time.
OK. And again, this is something you
have. To you know either believe.
Or not. And if you feel that calling
yourself an alcoholic is helpingyou, cool.
I'm just helping you become aware of the power of words.
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Because if you keep saying that you're something, aren't you
going to become it? What, Earl Nightingale?
He said it. You become what you think about.
You become what you think about.And where do we get the thoughts
from? Do they come out of thin air?
Do they come out of some sort ofinspiration?
Does someone say something and you hear it and you go, oh,
that's a thought, right? Or are we able to consciously
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think them? What are the thoughts?
Where do they come from? Are they coming from the past?
Or they come from the world, or they come from other people's
opinions? You become what you think about.
So if we can consciously like express some sort of positivity,
I am amazing. Amazing.
What does that look like? Feel like?
I am beautiful. I'm powerful, I'm amazing, I'm
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intelligent, I'm extraordinary. I can achieve anything that I
put my mind to. You know, I'm not defined by
other people's opinions. I get to decide how amazing I
am. I get to decide and define my
greatness. I get to go on this journey and
be the creator of my. Destiny.
I get to make the better choicesin my life.
I get to do that me. Hello.
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Override the negative thoughts. Override the bullshit.
Override that. Oh, you're.
Not going to be able to achieve it.
Yes I am, yes I can yes I will fucking say that to yourself
every fucking day. Override the Oh my gosh, I'm
just feeling so I'm having so much negative thinking today.
Where? What about the talking?
What about you speaking up for yourself?
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What about you talking back to the bullshit voice from the past
that keeps lingering in your fucking head?
You know, we, we don't have manypeople that we hear that we're
like, Oh yeah, I'm just rattlingwalking around, fucking talking
to myself because my negative thoughts are killing me.
You know, a lot of the times youstay in your head, you're dead.
You stay in your head and you'lleventually be your own worst
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enemy and you won't feel empowered.
You'll continuously be draining yourself because you're living
in the past and you're living inyour thoughts of negativity.
Your thoughts of I'm not enough your.
Thoughts of I can't do this? We don't have.
Many people really that teach you or coach you or say, you
know, hey, man, when you're spiralling or you feel like
there's negative thinking, starttalking to yourself.
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You know, start looking at yourself in the mirror and
saying, hey, you're not your negative thoughts.
You're not your thoughts. You are exactly the observer of
them, But you get to talk to yourself as well.
You get to have your own back. You get to speak positively to
yourself. You get to, you know, affirm to
yourself and override those conversations when they come up
because it's really easy to to lose yourself in your head, you
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know? But anyway, it's a blessing to
be here. Thank you for joining me on
another podcast episode. I hope that whatever I was
talking about just then, which Ididn't really know I was going
to talk about it. I just started talking about it,
you know, and this is just an invitation for you.
If you're thinking about starting a podcast, if you're
thinking about posting some content on social media, if
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you're thinking about sharing something, don't ever think it.
Just fucking do it, OK? Whoever needed to hear this, I
don't know who needed to hear it, but someone needed to hear
it. Stop overthinking it and just
fucking do it, OK? Stop sitting there and going,
how am I going to do it? How am I going to start?
What am I going to do? Blah, blah, blah.
Just press record and fucking doit, OK?
Do it because the time that you waste is just something you
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can't get back, you know, and sometimes we want to be too
perfect. We overthink things.
We, we, we delay things. We're just like, ah, you know,
I'll do it. I didn't do it today.
I'll do it next time. Do it tomorrow.
Do it. And it's just like wasting,
wasting, wasting, you know, and I've learnt that by pressing
record, pressing live and just talking and just starting, you
know, I've gotten to this level of the success.
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And my podcast has over 400 episodes.
Maybe it's 300 and 83190, but it's around that, you know, it's
a lot of consistency. Most important, it's about
taking action, believing in yourself and not giving up.
So I've got a ring on my finger.That's interesting.
That's a long time coming. Like what is this ring?
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Well, you you would have heard me talk about getting married
and, you know, been wanting to do a podcast episode with my
wife for such a long time. You know, we wanted to talk
about how we met. We wanted to talk about the
story. We wanted to talk about like
relationships and all that kind of stuff.
And I have no doubt that eventually we will, you know,
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but you know, there was a whole story about, you know, why we
chose to have a civil wedding orceremony first.
You know, obviously, a lot of people, some of my family
actually in Poland were disappointed that I didn't
invite them. You know, they took it
personally, you know, and some people just weren't aware or
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they just celebrate, congratulated us and all that
kind of stuff. But it was definitely just
something small, something intimate because initially, and
I know I hope my wife doesn't get angry, but I know I'm just
going to share it with you because, you know, you guys are
my family and I feel very close with all of you that listen,
even though I don't mind baby, Idon't know you personally, but I
feel like you probably like man,I feel like I know Luke
personally because I've been listening to his podcast for so
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long, you know, but and maybe some of you guys can relate, but
I guess it is quite emotional. It's quite challenging to to go
through something like this. And, you know, I don't know,
like I don't want to say it's karma.
Maybe it could be, but you know,I don't know.
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But yeah, it was definitely quite challenging to to know
that, you know, we were pregnantand, you know, we had a baby on
the way. And, you know, we, we knew as
well that we wanted to get married, even though, you know,
we were having a baby, but, and it's like, Oh my God, that's
amazing. I know.
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And then a few months later we were having a miscarriage.
And obviously we're still planning the, the wedding and
all that kind of stuff. And, you know, we said to
ourselves that, you know, we're not getting married because of
the baby, But we also were at that point where we, we were, we
were done with the boyfriend, girlfriend, fiance, that kind of
thing. You know, we wanted to make it
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official, but at the same time, we also wanted to have a proper,
you know, her dad walking her down the aisle, a big wedding,
you know, but that was kind of like a little bit further away
down the track, you know? So I feel like God kind of took
us through this. It's funny.
It's kind of like God's like, no, you're not having a baby
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first, you're getting married 1st and then you're going to, I
don't know, for a lot of people,it's kind of like, you know,
that's a formality. That's just like what they want
you to do and all that kind of stuff.
And it's OK. Whatever your belief system is,
you know, you can, you can hold on to that.
But I really appreciate, I do appreciate somehow some way the
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abstinence, you know, the temptation, you know, it's
almost happened like that where for us, you know, we had to
wait, you know, it's like Nana, get married.
You got to get married first before you go down that road.
I can just listen to my mom is like no sex before marriage.
You can't have children until you're married and all that kind
of stuff, you know. So it's interesting how kind of
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things have evolved for us, you know.
But yeah, you know, so we, we did go through that and, you
know, we got married together ina beautiful civil ceremony in
Poland, which was a dream for me.
Like, I don't even can't even comprehend the amount of stress
that my wife went through to organise everything.
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And I'm so grateful for her because it was a lot.
And I was just like, to be honest with you, like, and I'm
just so aware of my mind, how heavily I have been programmed
for rejection, you know, from all of these relationships that
I was in in the past and not feeling worthy of love and not
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feeling good enough and not feeling lovable, like.
And I hope that you guys can relate to this because my brain
is or was and still I still likekind of have a little bit of
that, like, you know, fear or bit of like past conditioning
from, you know, this is not realor this is not going to happen
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for you, Luke, or you know, you're not worthy of that
because of the trauma of rejection in relationships from
people that I wanted, that I loved, that I gave myself to or
that I wanted to be with. But then I was never able.
It was never reciprocated or they rejected me, for example.
That was heavy. And so that's why I always say
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the heavier that you, the deeperyou love, the deeper the trauma,
the deeper the pain, you know. And so as I evolve now into a
healthy relationship, a healthy love, you know, being with
someone that is able to receive my love, to give me back even
more love, to see me as as I am,to see my worth, my value, you
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know. It's so unfamiliar for me,
right? And even though I know I.
Love the shit out of her. You know, there's still that
least little lingering fear thatcomes up, a bit of anxiety and
it's almost like, what is it? It's like piss off, you know,
But but if I wasn't as aware of like my past conditioning, my
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past experiences, the things that I've been through in the
past, I wouldn't understand it, you know?
And there's something called sabotage or, or relational
sabotage or something to do with, you know, sabotaging
something because it's too good,you know, and it's absolutely
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ridiculous. It's almost like you've got
something that's amazing, it's real, but because it's
unfamiliar to your brain, you start to do things to get rid of
it. Isn't that crazy?
And The thing is, it's almost like you don't even realise what
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you're doing because what your brain is trying to do is to keep
you in the familiar and keep yousafe.
You know, I had someone join my coaching institute today and it
was kind of a similar thing where she was like, you know,
oh, I'm, I'm feeling a little bit, there's a bit of fear or a
bit of doubt, you know? And I was like, that's amazing.
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I'm like, that's exactly how you're supposed to feel.
You know, moving into something unfamiliar, into a new life is
not supposed to be perfect and comfortable and safe.
You know you're making decisionsin your life.
That you've never made before. You're doing something that
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you're not used to doing. And this is probably the most
profound experience that I'm going through myself personally
as I evolve in love, in union with my wife.
You know, because I can see now how easily influenced,
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programmed we can be to not settle, to always think there's
something better out there or to, you know, never be
satisfied, for example. And I got to tell you, ladies
and gentlemen, if there was any picky motherfucker.
That was out there. It was me and Danilo, like the
way that we were picky on girls like this and that and don't
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like this and don't like that and fucking hell, like to the
point where it was annoying, youknow, and like me personally
fucking. Porn.
You know, like, where did the pickiness come from?
Social media, like fucking porn,watching porn like, constantly,
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you know, I mean, it played a big role in my life when I was
not in a relationship, you know?So what does it do to your
brain? It was never an addiction.
It was just something that was like an escape, you know?
And it was just a a temporary. Escape from reality, right?
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Normally while under the influence, you know, but part of
your brain is like programmed tohave this standard of like
exactly what is in the videos, you know, and it's not real.
It's not real, you know, So it'sso easy, not just from that, but
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from social media, from anythingthat's out there that is in
magazines or whatever to have this kind of expectation of like
this is the standard. And this is what you need rather
than like allowing you to actually connect with a human
you know, and to love and fall in love and to appreciate
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someone for who they are and howthey respect you and appreciate
you and care for you and, and all the other amazing
characteristics of our human personality, you know, our human
functionality of who we are. And this is.
Probably one of the most beautiful things for me that I
absolutely love about my wife isthat, yes, not only is she
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absolutely gorgeous, but the wayshe touches me, the way she
cares about me, the way she looks after me, the way she has
my back, the way she like, it just doesn't end.
There's so is so many. Things that I have been able to
connect with. It's not just like at one point
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you're just like you think aboutsex and it's like, oh fuck man,
Relationship is like so much more than that.
Even love, like it's not just love, there has to be respect,
there has to be communication, there has to be forgiveness.
There has to be, you know, vulnerability.
There has to be emotion, you know, and, and what you go
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through, you grow through, you know, like you have to.
Go through shit to grow through things, grow through things.
Grow through shit. As you as you go through shit,
you grow. Together.
Together is the keyword. You know and you water each
other. You know you keep watering each
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other. It's not you go through.
Shit. And then you fucking distance
yourself. You.
Go through shit and then you keep watering each other.
And what is watering each other?Watering each other is
forgiveness, communication, respect, love, appreciation.
You know what is? Communication.
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Communication is being annoyed, being bothered, being triggered,
communicating that, expressing that, being triggered and
communicating that, and then being able to actually hear it
and receive it and understand it.
You know, without you retaliating and going fuck you,
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you know, your triggers don't matter.
Your your feelings don't matter,your emotions don't matter.
Screw you. I don't want to be with you
anymore. It's like man, every time you
get triggered or you get annoyedor you get something comes up in
your relationship and you get totalk to the person that you love
about how they made you feel or how the experience made you
feel. And they are able to somehow,
magically, I don't know how, my wife.
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Does it, but she's. First she's angry, then she's
arguing with me a bit, then she gets really emotional, then she
understands and then she's like,Oh my God.
Like then she gets what I'm trying to say and then she like
holds the space for me. And then we love each other
again, then we forgive each other again.
And then we get, we grow more than we get closer and closer
and closer. It's like.
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That's the whole point of a relationship, you know?
It's like go through shit, but grow even closer, you know, and
I really love this whole conceptof the forever union, you know,
of like that's she's only for me, that's it, you know, and I'm
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not interested in anyone else. I don't have intentions or eyes
for anyone else. Just her, you know, there's some
sort of peace. That provides me, you know, that
I can just focus on her and of course, myself and of course,
things that are my priorities. You know, so in the post that I
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posted on Instagram where there's a video of me and my
wife in the car after we got married and you know, it starts
off by saying, you know, never give up on love.
And I, I actually can I read it to you, you know, do you mind?
I'm going to read it to you because I wrote this.
It was a stink Monday morning and I just thought, OK, I'm
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going to write this because, youknow, I just really want to
write something from me. It's not AI generated, no
ChatGPT, none of that stuff. It's just me.
I was sitting in bed and I wrotethis.
OK, so just listen up. It says never give up on love
because if you do, that beautiful soul who's looking for
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you will never get to meet you and spend forever with you.
So let me elaborate on that. If you've been through a
divorce, if you've been through a toxic relationship, if you've
been through a domestic violencerelationship, if you've been
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through a sexually abusive relationship, maybe one, maybe
2. Even more if you've been through
a financially abusive relationship, if you've been
through some sort of narcissistic or you know, just
destructive relationship, Whatever it is that you've been
through has been really hard, hurtful, painful, so much so
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that it may have and probably has stirred you away from
relationships, period. And you may be in a mindset of.
Screw. That I'm not for relationships.
I don't want one. I've had enough.
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I'm with you man. Like if you've been through some
shit, like why would you be thinking about relationships?
I did the same. Thing.
I went through. Fucking rejection after
rejection after bullshit after bullshit.
And I fucking said fuck off, I want me now.
What was the purpose of it though?
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The purpose of it was for me to evolve out of dysfunction.
For me to evolve out of insecurity.
For me to evolve out of not believing in myself.
For me to evolve out of not understanding my power and my
worth and what I deserved. And what I fucking deserved was
an amazing fucking person that would respect me, that would
love me the way I deserve to be fucking loved.
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But how could I understand that in myself?
How could I stand up for my power and know that when someone
doesn't treat me the right way for me to walk away?
How could I know that if I neverhad it in myself in the 1st
place? So many of us are wondering why
did I go through that fucking shit relationship?
Why did this happen to me? Right.
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And, and, and what I'm trying toinvite you to appreciate is that
there is a level of self responsibility that's required a
level of self attention for you to actually go on a journey on
yourself and evolve out of whereyou were for so many years.
And this is not saying you know.You're the bad.
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Person, it's no, no, you, you, you, you were in this situation
scenario, you went through it. It's fucking hard, it's shit.
It was hurtful, painful. But of course you can say, well,
there's a saying that says you attract what you are, not what
you want. But really, we attract all types
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of people. But guess what?
We also have the have the discernment of the decision, of
the opportunity to make a conscious choice every fucking
day to who we want to be around.We get to say yes and no.
We get to set the boundaries, draw the line on what we fucking
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tolerate and what we allow. Now when you don't know your
fucking worth and when you don'thave a high level of self
respect and self love and know who the fuck you are, you will
let shit in. And when you surround yourself
with shit, you become shit. So.
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The next statement is on the 5thof July 2025.
We decided to make our dream come true and become husband and
wife. It wasn't our big church wedding
that we dream of, but it was something super special, small
and intimate with some of our close family and friends.
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One thing we knew was that we were ready to commit to each
other forever and solidify our union.
God bless our unborn child. That brought us even closer and
taught us what real love is. I know God put us through these
moments to teach us how to love each other on a deeper level
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because it did. You know, like going through
that experience of having a miscarriage and witnessing and
watching, you know, your partnersuffer and be in pain and the
cramping and all that stuff was just like horrific, you know,
these are the moments where you have each other's back.
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These are the moments that you grow together, you know, and
love each other even more and more and more.
You know, So again, I look at these experiences and I'm just
like, well, maybe that's anotherreason why we went through that,
because God was putting us through this experience so that
we could fall deeper in love with each other, you know?
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So we decided. To for now to have a civil
ceremony and become husband and wife.
To be honest, we were over the boyfriend and girlfriend and
fiance labels and we knew we were meant for each other.
Yulita Klebovich, you are my dream come true.
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I always dreamed of marrying a Polish girl in Poland and
marrying someone who could love me the way I love them.
I'm never too much for you and your feminine nature is so
loving, peaceful and caring. You are my safe space.
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Even though you say I'm your safe space.
You let me lead and you trust that I will take care of our
family as a man should, and I love that.
I can't wait to officially be married in the eyes of God next
year. Call Hamche Barador.
And seriously, doesn't my wife look absolutely stunning?
The most beautiful girl in the world.
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I love you, wifey, and I can't wait to give you everything you
want and need. Your husband, Luke Francis
Klubovich. So that was the post that I
posted. And yeah, it's like a dream, to
be honest. Like when I arrived for the
civil ceremony and I saw that them Yulita had got a harp and a
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violinist to like, and this was in like a field, like we call it
a polar in in Poland. And it was just all green and
like just this ceremony in the middle and about 30 people.
And the lady was there from the Government House or whatever
they are. And she had the Polish eagle,
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like a, a framed Polish eagle. It's like a has to, like it's
part of the ceremony that has tobe there, you know, And that
quite made me quite emotional because I, you know, I went to
Polish school when I was in Australia.
My mom sent me there every Saturday.
And, you know, Poli, Polish culture has always been very,
I've been very close to that, you know, my whole life.
(33:52):
And so seeing that was like, youknow, made me quite emotional.
And then, you know, my sister was behind me, and she's like,
you're not allowed to see her, you know?
And so obviously, you know, you later decided to walk down by
herself, you know, And eventually, when she started
walking, then the music came on and she's like, OK, you can
(34:14):
look. So that was pretty.
Yeah. It was very emotional.
And even when when I was readingthe whatever the lady was saying
in Polish, I couldn't even speaklike literally that she was
saying this stuff and all these big words, I couldn't even
pronounce them. You know, but I was like,
(34:36):
really? I was, it's almost like I was
more nervous and like starstruckmaybe because this was reality.
It was like coming true, you know, becoming husband and wife.
So and then we had a beautiful reception at her dad's place
with close family and friends. So it was very special, you
know, but it would have been more special had it had it or it
(35:03):
would have been more special if everyone that we would love to
be there with us would have beenthere, you know.
So, yeah. So there's a few things that we
want to that that we want to do,you know, and obviously we still
want to have a big church wedding.
And one of the reasons is because, you know, in tradition,
(35:23):
obviously her dad has to give her to me, you know, her dad has
to walk her down the aisle and and she didn't have a veil and
she didn't have, you know, that sit that, you know, walk down
the church. So that's a big deal, you know,
and I and I want that for us, you know, so, and then if it's
(35:45):
next year, you know, it's going to give us a lot more time to be
able to organise things and, andto be able to invite the people
that are close to us and that we, you know, want to be there
for, for that special big, big fucking hell, big, big
celebration. Yes.
And you know, because I think about it, you know, and I know
that, you know, and I know that a lot of people are like, oh,
(36:07):
you know, it's a wedding. Like it's such a waste of money
and all these kind of stuff. But, and I know that some people
probably like, you know, save mymoney, I'd rather get the money
and buy a house and all this kind of shit.
This is how I see it. OK.
And I don't know, everyone probably thinks different, all
that kind of shit. But recently, let me let me just
share something and I hope that this relates to you or somehow
in your life or whatever. But for example, you know, at
(36:30):
one point I had a mindset. There's a mindset, you know,
mindset was only invite people to your wedding that are close
to you and that you see, what's the point of inviting someone
that you see once every 10 yearsor you used to hang out with
them when you were younger, but you never see them anymore.
Are you, are you supposed to invite them?
Are they supposed to be at your wedding?
Like what do you think? Right.
(36:54):
So this is what happened, and this is what changed my
perspective. About two or three months ago,
my mom's cousin, her husband died, my mom's cousin, mom's
first cousin, you know, and. Her.
Son's were kind of our second cousins or whatever, you know,
and we hung out with them so much.
(37:14):
We spent so much time with them in the past growing up together,
lived, stayed at their houses. We hung out so much and guess
what? We lost touch.
We lost a bit of contact. We haven't seen them for a long
time. All of a sudden their father
dies and all of a sudden I'm here in Poland.
I'm on a WhatsApp call with, with them, you know, and I see
(37:36):
them and I see their mom, you know, which is my, my mom's
first cousin. And I'm immediately, I was just
like, Oh my gosh, like, shit, I haven't seen them for so long,
you know, and I'm like, what brought us together?
Oh, the death of the father, youknow, it's like what?
So literally someone has to die so that we spend time together.
Someone has to. There has to be a big enough
(37:58):
reason for you to actually go and connect, and you know what I
mean? So this just shows how busy how?
Crazy life is that you lose touch with people.
You got so many other priorities.
You got other things that are more important than spending
time with people you used to hang out with or whatever.
(38:20):
And I get it. I appreciate it.
We everyone evolves and stuff like that.
So after that experience, I thought to myself, I was like,
man, you know what? Like what is the purpose of
having a wedding? Like a proper big wedding?
What's the point, You know? And I'm like, well, the the
(38:40):
whole point is to fucking live life.
Like, what are you here for? Fucking to to save money so you
can buy a house. Of course it's great to have
assets, great to invest your money, great to all that shit.
But what about the memories? What about living life?
What about being able to like, look back?
And go fuck, we lived like we we, we did do shit.
(39:03):
You know we made our dreams cometrue.
We we, you know. We took action.
Whatever. So my vision and, and how I see
things is, no, I'm going to havea fucking huge wedding.
I want to look back at this wedding where I invited people
that I haven't seen for 10 years, but I was always close to
(39:24):
them. But I just evolved and I haven't
seen them for so long and they're like close family, but I
just don't have the time and they don't live close to me, so
I never see them. But if I invite them to my
wedding, I'll maybe they'll comeand I would love to see them.
You know, we always had so much fun together, right?
I'm not going to sit here and go.
(39:44):
I don't see them not inviting him.
I don't see them. I'm not inviting him.
I don't see them. I'm not inviting him.
You know, So I am actually like A and like there's so many
people that have been working with me and have been my clients
and have come to my events and that have just been, you know,
so supportive with like the LukeMine power legacy.
(40:06):
The Luke Mine Power Institute, my, my coaching space.
And you have been, there's so much love in this space that
like, I can't wait to invite people to, to to such an
extraordinary moment in my life,you know, and that's how it's
supposed to feel. It's supposed to feel fucking
(40:27):
mind blowing. It's supposed to be the most
extraordinary day of your life, apart from, you know, maybe
having a baby, but, you know, solidifying your union with your
partner and going, I am fucking yours forever, man.
Fireworks and fucking explosions, you know what I
mean? It needs to be extraordinary.
(40:48):
I'm not doing this freaking let's just do a little wedding
kind of business where it's justlike, it's not a big deal.
It's fucking huge. You know what I'm saying?
So that's just my mindset anyway, because, you know, I
want to like I remember going tomy fiance for my wife's cousins,
you know, for the first time about.
(41:10):
I don't know how long. Five months ago, maybe.
And we're sitting there and theyturned on their wedding video
from 10 years ago or however long it was 10 years ago,
something like that. And we're watching.
I was watching my wife and how young she was, and she was there
and like, looking at her family and all this kind of stuff.
And I was like, yeah, that's thewhole fucking point, you know,
Like, that's the whole idea. Everything's recorded and in
(41:34):
five years, in 10 years, in 15 years time, like you'll be
hosting. People or something, and you'll
turn it on the TV and then you'll sit there and laugh and
you'll look at it. Oh, I remember that day.
I remember this. I remember that.
That's fucking life, man. Like, come on.
You know what I mean? So you know, the the point of my
message is you know. You only live once.
(41:57):
Make it the best, you know, go all out, like make your dreams
come true. Do what you love.
Be passionate about life, you know, be excited about the
possibility. You know, I mean, when I wasn't
married and when I hadn't met Yolita yet, I had a lot of fear
(42:19):
and I had a lot of doubt. And there was a lot in my mind
that was, you know, making me think that maybe this is never
going to happen. Maybe this is a long shot.
Maybe I'm never going to meet her, you know?
But what did you see me keep doing?
You saw me keep going. You saw me keep posting, keep
taking action, keep recording. Podcast, podcast after episode
(42:43):
after episode after episode after episode.
Because I knew that consistency wins, because I knew that
eventually the law of attractionwould work.
I knew that what I put out, it comes back, you know, and why I
said karma was because I had an abortion back in 2015, I think
it was 2015, with somebody that I was with.
(43:06):
And that hurt me for a long time, you know?
And so I almost felt like what happened to me this year was
almost like, you know, you did that and now this is what
happened. What happens, you know, but I
don't even want to talk about itlike that.
I don't want to think about it. But but you know what I'm trying
to say, if you understand karma,it's like, well, if you do this
wrong, this is going to happen to you, you know, But you know,
(43:30):
I'm grateful to be alive. I'm grateful to be here with you
guys. I appreciate this journey, you
know, and being here to help whoever feels the need to reach
out to us. You know, I've always got links
below this video, you know, where you can get in touch with
us if you want to become an online coach and you want to
join our coaching institute. And you want me to teach you
(43:52):
everything that I know about life coaching and about, you
know, creating your online business, growing your social
media platforms. Or maybe it's something about
healing your childhood trauma orbuilding self confidence.
You know, we have coaching programmes for you to do that as
well. And I look forward to continuing
this journey and and building this platform, but also
(44:12):
continuing to help you leave your dreams, not your fears, to
inspire you to keep persevering no matter what is happening in
your life. That there is OK, that there is
what is there, There is your dream.
And that your dream is real. That whatever it is that you
(44:34):
want, it wants you to. And I'm just going to go back.
To the top of what I said, I said never give up on love, just
like you should never give up onyour dreams, you know, just like
you could never give up on something you believe in.
Never give up on love. Because if you do, that
(44:56):
beautiful soul who's looking foryou, because imagine this,
there's someone out there, they're looking for you as well.
You know they're looking for you.
And imagine that. They are your perfect partner,
like you're forever. And because of your
traumatization and your traumatised experiences and your
(45:18):
hard moments that you've been through in relationships, you
say I'm done, I'm out, I'm done forever.
I'm closed, I'm closed. That's it and more.
And there's truly someone there that is perfect, that will treat
you the way you deserve to be treated, that will love you the
way you deserve to be loved. But because of the pain and
(45:39):
because of how someone else treated you, you give up on
them. And I'm here to remind you that,
you know, love is such a. Powerful force and if we allow.
Ourselves to grow out of pain and fear.
(46:03):
And then then we give ourselves a chance, you know, at being
loved, at attracting healthy love.
Because let's change this. To never give up on your dreams
because if you do, your dream will never become real.
And if your dream never becomes real, maybe the people that are
(46:26):
meant to help you in your dream,maybe the people that you're
meant to serve will never get tomeet you and work with you and
learn from you because you give up on your dream and you never
get to make the impact that you could have made.
You know, the amount of people that I've worked with that I
help, that I inspire because of the work that I do.
Imagine I never said yes to me. Imagine I said, you know, fuck
(46:48):
you. I don't want to growing self
love, fuck self love. I don't want to fucking be a
motivational speaker. I just want to keep working at
the service NSW and being a driver tester and freaking
driving people around doing tests all day.
You know, they're like stop using cocaine and and and change
my friends. And she like fuck that.
(47:09):
I want to stay the same. I want to, I want to change, I
want to stay. And then I would never be here
and I would never have this life, you know, and I would
never be inspiring or doing whatI do and helping people to
change their lives. And I kind of like it, you know?
You know, I like. It because I get to fucking
(47:29):
dance. I get to dance, I get paid for
dancing, you know, like have youever realised what do you do for
work? I go around the world and I
fucking dance. Literally, you know, what do you
do? Just make dancing videos.
You know, like some people, someof you guys just know me.
Oh, that's that dancing guy, youknow, and like, it kind of is
(47:53):
like, yeah, I, of course I incorporate dancing into
coaching and all that kind of stuff.
You know, it's my content creation strategy.
But like, literally that's what I'm doing.
Like how, you know, I, I kind oflike this, whatever I'm doing,
hey, I'm doing podcast, I'm helping people.
I'm talking from experience of my own relationship experiences.
(48:15):
That's why I tell you, don't even think that you're not good
enough to be a coach. You know, don't even think that
you don't have wisdom and that you can't help other people.
You know what I mean? It's not too late.
You haven't missed the boat, right?
Like literally within the space of 6 to 12 months, you can have
a fully functioning online coaching business and you can be
(48:39):
helping people. You can be getting paid for it.
You can be travelling and livingfrom wherever you want, you
know, and making more money thanyou can even imagine.
I had someone tell me today and it's not a bad thing that, you
know, I'm happy making £20,000 ayear.
And I was like, man, I'm like, how about £20,000 a month, you
(49:03):
know, because that's the norm. You know, and it's like.
We can't fathom that because we've never really thought the
possibilities of how we can actually do that, but we can.
I, I'm doing it like I didn't know that it was possible, but,
you know, I was limiting the waythat I saw myself.
(49:24):
And plus, I just never knew the way, you know, and that's why I
had to work with some people. I had to invest in myself.
And slowly, slowly, slowly over time, you just keep growing,
getting better and better and better.
Anyway, ladies and gentlemen, thank you so much for being
here. You know, I am, I'm wearing the
Polish jersey as well. I'm feeling very patriotic.
(49:45):
This is actually from 2014, thisjersey, you know, I used to go
to the Polish Club in Sydney with all my Polish mates and we
would watch the Euro and the World Cup soccer at the Ashfield
Polish Club. Every time there was Poland
playing countries and it was always at 2:00 AM, three AM.
Like it was the worst, you know.But we, we loved it, you know,
(50:07):
we loved getting up and getting fucking pissed and getting to
the bar and drinking and screaming our heads off at the
Polish soccer national team. And they were always losing.
Every fucking time they play, they're losing, losing, losing,
you know, But we still, when we still supported, you know, we'll
still crazy about it, you know, And I got to say like being here
(50:29):
in Poland and having access to the European time zone and being
able to watch the soccer at fucking 5:00 PM, at 7:00 PM,
man, that's a dream come true. But the other thing about it as
well is that I forgot what I wasgoing to say about the soccer.
(50:50):
There's something about the soccer I was going to say.
But yeah, the, the, the time, you know, those moments, those
days, the past, you know, I had to go through all of that, You
know, I had to go through all ofthat to get to this place in my
life, you know, and it's part ofwhatever you want to do in your
(51:13):
life and making your dreams cometrue, you know?
So I wish you nothing but success as you continue to move
forward today with your life. Don't give up.
Know that I'm always rooting foryou.
I'm always cheering for you. And there's always going to be
another Luke Mind Power episode because every single Tuesday and
(51:37):
Friday, these episodes are released on my YouTube channel.
So if you haven't subscribed to my YouTube Luke Vine Power
podcast, click the red subscribebutton and make sure that you
follow us on all my social mediaplatforms.
As I continue to share more freetrainings, I'm always creating
new free trainings in our communities and sharing it with
(51:59):
everybody so that you can continue to have access to my
content and learning and growing.
But anyway, I'll keep you postedwith any news.
And yeah, this is like the radiostation of inspiration and
authenticity and vulnerability. And I love to be open with you
guys. I love to share my life with you
(52:20):
guys. I love to be here So that, you
know, and this is the thing I'llfinish with this guys.
I love being real. You know, I love being myself
and I love being judged. You know, I love people judging
me and people not understanding me and, you know, having people
(52:41):
having opinions of me because, you know, my confidence in who I
am is rock solid and people willalways have opinions.
But that's why it's important for you to really build a good
foundation, a strong relationship with yourself, to
have a good opinion about yourself so that when you look
(53:03):
at yourself in the mirror, you know who the fuck you are.
So that whenever someone comes along and tries to, you know,
rock your boat and say some bullshit and say, oh, you dare
say you that or why are you doing this?
And we're doing that. You know, you can, you can just
(53:23):
whatever, bro. Silence is probably the best
answer sometimes. Just don't say anything and just
keep walking. Johnny Walker, it's just keep
walking. Have a Johnnie Walker, you know,
Yeah, but that's it. You know, like other people's
(53:45):
opinions don't pay your bills. Other people's opinions are not
going to, you know, get you up in the morning to, to stick to
your routine so that you can have a good mental health and a
good routine and a good lifestyle.
Other people's opinions are not going to, you know, get you the
success that you want to achieve, you know?
(54:07):
So yeah, there's the challenge of letting go of things that are
not healthy, letting go of family members, distancing
yourself, love people from a distance.
You know, you don't have to hateanyone.
It's just like, realise that, wow, it's not my vibe anymore.
I'm not vibing with that. Or just I've got to, I've got to
have my back. I've got to have my back.
(54:27):
Have your own back, OK? Have your own back.
Don't let other people's opinions bring you down, and if
they have been, and if you're not feeling as empowered as
you'd like to feel and you're missing a lot of self
confidence, that just means thatthere's some work to do on
yourself. It's not the end of the road,
it's not the end of your life. It just means that you've got to
pay attention. You've got to.
Listen to this podcast. You've got to do some personal
(54:49):
development work, invest in yourself a little bit because
that's all. That's that's all.
That you need, and if you're willing to do some work, and if
it hurts enough, and if it's annoying enough, and if you've
been complaining enough, and if you've been talking shit about
where you don't want to be for long enough and it hurts enough,
it's like cool, very much. Like fucking hell, do something
(55:09):
about it, you know? Otherwise, stay where you are
and and and nothing will change,you know, But I know that you're
not that dumb. You know, you're not that
stupid, so let's keep going. It's a blessing to spend time
with you. I'll see you in the next
episode. And if you do want to reach out
to us, just there's a few links below.
(55:30):
Check them out and I'm sure I'llhear from you real soon.
Sending you a lot of love. Ciao, David Danya, let's go.
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